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Other basic manners everyone should apply in their daily habit, please put your phone away when talking or in the presence of other people it’s quite disrespectful and also learn to be a good listener everyone wants to be heard but they don’t want to take time to listen. Thank you Jamila for sharing this video.
And do not talk on the phone when you are at the register/cashier paying for something. It’s extremely rude. Go to self check out if you want to talk on your phone.
I saw this tart sitting down on a bus seat after I did a long days work, I told her to get up so I could rest she refused do I slung her bag and phone out of the bludey window, she has no manners
1:55 Hold the door 3:30 Knowing the rules of walking 5:08 Address a person with their full name 6:54 Let people exit before you enter a room 8:00 Use of pleasantries/courteous words 10:14 Appropriate dress code 11:36 Maintaining adequate physical space 13:50 Table etiquettes 15:54 Show patience in a queue 17:02 Speak less, listen more/Think before you speak
This video really goes in line with "debunking elegance myths" one. A great lesson is that etiquette, manners and politeness is for everyone, not only a certain "elite", but also for everywhere, not only in high end restaurants. I love that you are making etiquette accessible and relevant to our everyday life!
Some of these manners are common sense. So many people have forgotten them due to not being in public as often. It's nice to be reminded of these manners. Thank you Jamila!
I wish people would follow this old etiquette rule: if someone declines an invitation please don’t ask them why they can’t come. Just say you’re sorry they won’t be able to attend and/or suggest another time. Demanding an explanation may force someone to lie. One friend did this so much, I stopped being her friend.
When I was younger, there was lots of DV in my house, of course it was hard for me to go out with friends. I would decline sometimes and they would ask for a justification, it made me self so bad. And an explanation sometimes wasn't enough, they would get angry with me if I wasn't able to go out, so yeah, being a victim of DV wasn't enough, I also needed the punishment from my so call "friends". (I'm so sorry for the trauma dumping, I really got flashbacks lol)
I'm sorry this happened to you , I personally used to ask my friends for explanation but it's just bcz I used to love spending time with them and it brought me much joy , nonetheless this behavior is still not elegant and people's declines should be respected
Thank you for mentioning this. I don't have any family, and friends would often invite me to their families holiday celebrations "so I wouldn't be alone" on the holiday. The thing was, I LOVE being by myself, especially on holidays. I had a high demand, high stress job and celebrating alone, doing what I wanted, not having to keep up my end of a conversation with strangers, is WONDERFUL. Some people enjoy going to other people's families and celebrating, and it is nice to ask someone if they would like to come over, but PLEASE, if the person declines, don't interrogate them and ask why they declined, where they are going, what are they doing, ect. I had to lie about what my plans were because people would not accept my decline and would judge me for my choices.
People starting to eat without everyone seating at the table especially the hostess who cooked for them gets me everytime. I have lived in the UK for 30 years and most people don't hold the door. I really don't uderstand how they are labelled as very polite. The great thing about your list is that these are very easy tweacks to make so achievable for anyone who wants to "upgrade". Thank you for the reminder ♥
Jamila, I have watched your videos for years, and every time I go out to eat when it comes time to sit down & place my bag I always remember your teachings: NEVER place your bag on the table. Even when I eat at a fast food restaurant I don’t put my bag on the table 😂☺️ thank you for another insightful video.
Since my childhood mostly I have been the only one doing all these good acts.My whole life people normally just want to grab first, reach first, leave first, leave everything because they think why should they bother about others...endless cruelty. Finally after watching this video I am very glad to know I was not a naive or someone who can be easily stepped over but I am actually a person with naturally many etiquettes.😊
As a New Yorker, I’ve seen a lot of these basic rules broken and it’s very irksome when it happens. I can’t tell you the amount of times someone stands on the left side of an escalator, or enters an elevator or train before exiting passengers can get off. Sometimes individuals also struggle with waiting in line when boarding a bus or doesn’t hold the door open for someone close behind them. Thank you for this latest recap on the most basic of manners, Jamila.
Especially in big cities people overlook these basic manners. I hope we can get etiquette back to fashion and respect will be the guiding feeling amongst humankind.
It’s outrageous that I saw a woman curse someone out who asked to pass when her and another were blocking the path to get up the escalator 😢 I heard her say she was tired from working on her feet but that didn’t give her the right to be rude.
Your content is getting more and more interesting every time you upload videos and I love the way you share your learnings/insights with us. Thank you so much for your kindness, Jamila. ❤️
Some actions seem to be instinctive, but it is reassuring to know for sure that they are actually correct. Good manners make others feel respected, important, and comfortable...kindness matters. Thank you for your helpful and enoyable videos.
I loved this! So informative, I work in retail and recently I've noticed people do seem a lot more rushed and distracted, sometimes not even saying a simple "hello" when they come to the cash desk.. Thank you for sharing this ❤️
Fun fact about elevator manner in Japanese. When riding escalators, in the Kanto region, people typically stand on the left side and leave the right side open for those who want to walk. In Kansai region, it's often the opposite, with people standing on the right side. This is a common etiquette practice in Japan. Something good to know if any of you are visiting Japan :) hope this was helpful 😊
Thank you, Ms. Musayeva! I was beginning to think I'm paranoid when I feel like people are too close for comfort. I do believe that manners are a mix of common decency and consideration!
I’m pleased to realise that I follow all of these basic rules! My table manners aren’t excellent, but I do have the basics down and I hope I can improve on them. Thank you for the video Madame!
Thank you for this amazing video!❤ I am a college student, i can very proudly say that i follow most of these, except the elevator one and classroom ones. Me and my friends usually walk on the escalator but i didnt know that there were particular sides for that and there is just no energy left after all the classes and extracurriculars in college but i do hope one day i will be able to follow them too!!! It really is annoying how some people dont treat vendors and other service providers nicely, like it doesn't take much from you but might make them feel well, so why not just say ! By the way, the flowers are really pretty and your top kind of match with them❤
I'm not sure if you made a video of basic manners when in a workplace setting (especially in a multicultural company and when there are different generations of employees). Would be nice to have one.
Do Not Be On Your Phone When Hanging Out With Friends! - I can’t believe how many people check their messages, or emails, or even reply WHILE being at a dinner table, or grabbing a coffee with a friend. Simply sad. 😢 I am usually setting up an alarm for 10 minutes before I have to leave. That way, I never worry about the time going by too fast, while having 10 minutes to say good bye.
Thank you for this wonderful video! i really like it! I just hope that everyone from my community watches this, Im so tired of seeing people lack of mannerism everywhere, its very depressing honestly.
I live in Toronto and rarely do people hold the door, let others exit before entering, have good table manners, know the rules of walking (often people won't even pull their dogs to one side of a sidewalk to let others pass!) or show patience in a queue. I would like to add giving up a seat on public transit for the elderly, pregnant women, people with visible disabilities or parents with babies.
Thank you so much for sharing these basic manners! I especially agree with the last one, thinking before you speak. It's not just people the public who will find these comments later, but your family, friends, work colleagues and significant other. I would be so horrified if a close friend of mine made nasty comments to people all the time. These days I buy flowers almost every week and I have purple tulips and pink roses. ♥
The touching/personal space is my nemesis. I'm quite reserved in that regard, I have to know a person really well and have a close relationship with them to feel comfortable with more than a handshake. So whenever I'm at a social event with aquaintances, I have to fight with myself to accept hugs or kisses upon greeting. It's even worse when someone tries to come too close on our first meeting. I offended a friend's boyfriend once: we were just introduced and he came in for a hug or a kiss, and I reared back like a spooked horse. It was an incredibly awkward situation.
I understand. I have had people cross my personal space to touch my jewelry. They like the pendant and have no regard to touch something on my chest. It’s so strange to me. I had an incident where a guy my friend was dating came in for a hug. I extended my hand for a handshake. I feel women are more accommodating in allowing men to cross our boundaries to be the “good girl”. Shouldn’t they be considered the rude boy for pressuring a lady to go against her comfort zone?
Amazing tips, Jamila. Thank you for continuing to share your wisdom with us! I have a question. I live in America in the South where people are often “touchy,” so to speak. Oftentimes when meeting someone new, they’ll come straight for you, even going so far as to say, “I’m a hugger!” As if to excuse what is likely not the best etiquette when meeting someone for the first time. What would you suggest as an appropriate reaction if someone is opening their arms to you, expecting an embrace?
That beautiful vase of pink tulips and your shirt just look too perfect and aesthetic, I could not keep my eyes of it. On another note, people in Australia stand on the left side if they are not climbing the escalator. :)
Everytime I'm feeling a bit down you inspire me to live a better, organized, elegant and happier life. Indeed you are a true influencer, may you keep growing 💎. Love from MX 💖
I find this video very very relatable to my day to day experience and so I was so entertained and smiling throughout the video. Am so so happy to see so many comments on the video and know that there are people out there like me who struggle with lack of etiquettes of others in public settings. Thanks for posting this video Jamila.
I strongly agree to the last rule because I frequently encounter it , especially in social media platforms like Instagram , people are being extremely ignorant and insensitive.
Thank you so much dear Jamila, your etiquette advices are very useful to me, l learn a lot from you🙏🏻❣️ I hope many people will use this manners, the world would be better🌞
thank you for doing helpful and valuable content like this. i personally need reminders like these because it really is a challenge to navigate social life with different kinds of people of different cultures and perceptions. as an introvert who is so comfortable with solitude, ensuring that good manners are observed when i’m outside is crucial for me- especially i’m seen as academically educated. we also love people who respects each’s privacy without being misinterpreted as snobbish. introverts need to decompress once in a while. I love people but for a limited time only every day.😅
Thank you so much for making these videos. I have just found you. I have been fortunate to have been raised with manners. I appreciate these so i do not forget what i have to teach my grand children. I cant imagine what the world would be like if everyone had manners. Seems more and more i see so many rude people out there.
Jamila, you are one of the very few TH-camrs that I click the bell notification for. Your videos are very informative and educational. I appreciate all the effort you place into your videos. Thank you! Sincerely, A Longtime Subscriber.
A problem I had with transit elevator when I was pregnant and could not see my feet, was that I use my left hand to hold the rails. This meant standing on the side used by those who want to walk up/down the stairs. Despite my discomfort and ill ease, I moved to the right so as not impede others. Now, I use the left rail but I walk up/down the stairs.
Great video. Well said. I totally agree with everything you said. I witness a lot of this behavior. There are many people lacking this basic etiquette. Keep sharing your knowledge.
Thank you so much Jamila for your content! I always get so excited when you post something new, it feels like I’m getting big sister advice!! I was wondering if you could make a video about how to find/meet and foster relationships with girls who enjoy etiquette, culture, art…etc 😊
One thing I struggle with is how to tell people that they should fix something on themselves. For instance if they have food on their face, lipstick on their teeth, or if their zipper is down. It's a quick fix, and if it were me I would want to know, but I never know how to bring it up without embarrassing them, especially if we are in a group setting.
I would appreciate you have something on your face. I had my zip open at the office and after walking around and no one told me and when a colleague told me I actually went back to the other side of the office and told them how nasty of them not to tell me that my zip was open😊. I asked them if tables were turned would they appreciate it if I did the same and the answer was no so I told them that at least it would have been one or two people n not more. We laughed about it and now everyone knows to approach me if something is not appropriate with me.😂😂
One thing that I observe quite often is when people stop and stay in front of an entrance or in front of stairs/ escalators. It’s sooo annoying and sometimes even dangerous when a big crowd is coming behind you.
I love your videos!! I love the reminder about the elevator and letting people leave the elevator first and I love the reminder about the escalator make sure you keep one side clear. I have an etiquette question on a teacup. If you’re sitting and having coffee or tea and you have a saucer, do you bring the saucer up with the teacup or can you leave the saucer on the table and bring the teacup to take a sip?
Thank you for the informative video, Jamila. Would you consider doing a video on cell phone etiquette in the context of social gatherings, formal events, dining, etc?
Oh I can't thank you enough for speaking about standing too close to another person. Long before covid I've never been a proponent for that behavior. Same in laundrymats. Whole place free yet ppl come " snuggling " right up in your immediate area!!!!! It makes me steam...😬😬😬😬
Your videos are just awesome. I really like the way you present the video❤!! Can you please do a video regarding the dressing etiquette( in a party, church etc.....) We want more etiquette videos💟
And also please address people who walk around in their glad rags and open the door to unexpected callers. I find it in poor taste to see folks in their night clothes late into the morning or coming to the mall dressed for the back yard. Literally glad rags
Isnt amazing how these are basic but we dont do them? Thanks for sharing. Im going to save this video to apply in my life as Im recently paying attention to these things and want to improve and be considerate with others...
I’m not what you would call typically elegant, I’m covered in tattoos and I don’t wear brands, but all of these manners I do. We lived abroad for a few years when I was younger and that broadened my life experience and awareness but my parents brought us up to have all of these manners you speak about which I’m quite proud of..
Can we add to move your buggy to the side in the supermarket when you stop to browse. Almost everybody leaves their buggy in the center of the aisle making it impossible to pass. The same goes for standing in the middle of the aisle or doorway to look on your phone or chat with someone. Be mindful and step to the side.
For everyone out there who wants to improve your etiquette habits and keep living correctly, I would recommend reading book called Manners Matter by Amanita Thomas. She is talking behind industry and knowledge.
Always be polite. You never know what someone's going through or what they'll do when you disrespect them I've seen first hand people getting beaten, hands, fingers cut off just because they didn't say "sorry" or "excuse me" If they come after you for being rude and disrespectful, oh, well There are people in the world who'll go after your family then come for you. Learn boys and girls, learn
I would add: Not texting in someone’s face when you hang out with them (unless it’s an emergency and you have excused yourself), being mindful of the volume of your voice in public spaces, not talking with your mouth full, when you take photos/videos in public places, try to avoid having strangers in them as much as possible (I know sometimes it can’t be helped)
As a student of fashion, I'm highly impressed by the color synchronization of this video, pink shirt paired with blue jeans along with pink lipstick and pink blush and beautiful pink tulips set besides....I just can't praise it enough 🤌🏻🤌🏻🎀💗
First of all thank you for the well thought out video. What you shared is very helpful. I especially enjoy your content to help keep myself in check. 💝
In my language (German) there is a politeness form (Sie, Ihnen, Ihr…). Young people tend to override this and use the colloquial form even form perfect strangers. I don‘t like that. The politeness form may sound a bitt stiff, but it gives a respectful distance between you and the other person. Conversely, when you get to know a person better and you change to the coloquial form, it creates a heartwarming feeling of familiarity and friendship.
Thank you Jamila for these very useful tips! I was not sure, about the escalator, but now I know! Please would you tell me, when people yawn, should yhey put their hand to conceal the yawning? I notice a lot of people don' t...
It is important to be mindful of others time, so when performing actions that require lines make sure you are pointed with the task and not wasting the time of others.
would love a video about hats/caps/beret ettiquette and when/how to remove them. I understand you are to remove them when eating/entering a place? And what if you are on a terrace dining? only wear them outside? Is it indifferent whether you dine indoors or outdoors? Does it make a difference the type of hat (like a beret)? if you take if off, where do you lay it? should you caress your hair to make sure it is neat? What about wearing a hat to church? What about inside a church wedding? I would love to know what would be the correct etiquette. What about hat/cap and gloves also? Umbrella? Thanks so much. I believe it is important to know how to properly behave with all the 'extras'.
Could you also make a video on teenagers and how they can handle disrespectful comments from their peers and how to handle difficult and uncomfortable situations elegantly? thank you so much
This makes me smile because I worked from the smallest firm to the very top notch firms but must say I never had to bite my teeth with ill mannered behaviour in work places. I guess we owe that to highly qualified HR team.
thank u so so so much for all your wisdom. I have a question if u may, how to ask others to keep boundaries without looking impolite person or very touchy. stay class and yet strong. THANK YOU VERY VERY MUCH
I’ve held the door open behind me for another couple to walk through and sometimes they walk through it. Don’t look at me. Don’t thank me and leave me holding the door. 😂😂
It happens with people who lack basic manners to say thank you. But you know, we do these not to ask that in return but to do our part. We cannot be responsible for what others do.
Exactly my experience every time I hold the door open. Once a big group of 5-6 walked through while I was there holding the door. Since then I make sure not to be taken for granted like that still following the etiquette though.
@@bhavyasehgal4851 what’s even more annoying than them not taking the door off me is they don’t even make eye contact or say thank you. Maybe they think I’m the door man 🤣. Oh well we just have to think they don’t know any better.
My husband is a gentleman and will always hold the door for ladies, I’m guilty of saying “Thank you” very loudly if they do not. I see it mostly with the younger generation not thanking.
Please Jamila, could you quickly address water drinking etiquette? I.e., the correct way to hold a tumbler, fill it up with water and drink from it when dining? I tend to struggle a bit with that but it's an often overlooked area 😅
Thank you Jamila for mentioning the lineup on the left side of escalators. I wonder how it is not considered a natural thing to do if one respects others and their mere existence, it reflects a complete absence of mindfulness regarding the presence of anyone else but one own's little self and expanded bubble. Most annoying of all (please bring it up!) are backpacks in the metro occupying double the space, in cafes where one's coffee is spilled as a backpack drives through like a subway train (yes, as if on autopilot without any "excuse-me" heard after the accident), in buses where people make their way through the corridor, hitting all shoulders with their back luggage, or in front of supermarket shelves where a backpack held by another quidam blocks other's way in corridors, preventing them from comfortably doing their chores ... etc, etc. Backpacks have turned into a danger to civilization and courtesy. I am not exaggerating! Keep on the elegant awareness rising.
Hello, Jamila. Could you please make a video on how to behave/respond in situations where a toxic ex or a friend who betrayed us and didn't treat us well in the past tries to come back in our life? how to deal with negative people/comments in general?
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Other basic manners everyone should apply in their daily habit, please put your phone away when talking or in the presence of other people it’s quite disrespectful and also learn to be a good listener everyone wants to be heard but they don’t want to take time to listen. Thank you Jamila for sharing this video.
Well pointed out!
I completely agree about the phone…I hate when I’m spending time witj people and they’re on the phone instead of trying to talk to me
And do not talk on the phone when you are at the register/cashier paying for something. It’s extremely rude. Go to self check out if you want to talk on your phone.
I agree, I see people at the cash register completely ignoring the cashier and carrying on with their phone conversation.
I saw this tart sitting down on a bus seat after I did a long days work, I told her to get up so I could rest she refused do I slung her bag and phone out of the bludey window, she has no manners
1:55 Hold the door
3:30 Knowing the rules of walking
5:08 Address a person with their full name
6:54 Let people exit before you enter a room
8:00 Use of pleasantries/courteous words
10:14 Appropriate dress code
11:36 Maintaining adequate physical space
13:50 Table etiquettes
15:54 Show patience in a queue
17:02 Speak less, listen more/Think before you speak
Thank you !
Oh no not the last one ny yapper self can't help 😭
Thank you! They are what I learn here in Tokyo. Quite grateful!
Thank you.
Thanks. Was interesting but took sooo long
This video really goes in line with "debunking elegance myths" one. A great lesson is that etiquette, manners and politeness is for everyone, not only a certain "elite", but also for everywhere, not only in high end restaurants. I love that you are making etiquette accessible and relevant to our everyday life!
Thank you
Some of these manners are common sense. So many people have forgotten them due to not being in public as often. It's nice to be reminded of these manners. Thank you Jamila!
Welcome ☺️
Common sense has been lost. Unfortunately.
I wish people would follow this old etiquette rule: if someone declines an invitation please don’t ask them why they can’t come. Just say you’re sorry they won’t be able to attend and/or suggest another time. Demanding an explanation may force someone to lie. One friend did this so much, I stopped being her friend.
When I was younger, there was lots of DV in my house, of course it was hard for me to go out with friends. I would decline sometimes and they would ask for a justification, it made me self so bad. And an explanation sometimes wasn't enough, they would get angry with me if I wasn't able to go out, so yeah, being a victim of DV wasn't enough, I also needed the punishment from my so call "friends". (I'm so sorry for the trauma dumping, I really got flashbacks lol)
I'm sorry this happened to you , I personally used to ask my friends for explanation but it's just bcz I used to love spending time with them and it brought me much joy , nonetheless this behavior is still not elegant and people's declines should be respected
Thank you for mentioning this. I don't have any family, and friends would often invite me to their families holiday celebrations "so I wouldn't be alone" on the holiday. The thing was, I LOVE being by myself, especially on holidays. I had a high demand, high stress job and celebrating alone, doing what I wanted, not having to keep up my end of a conversation with strangers, is WONDERFUL.
Some people enjoy going to other people's families and celebrating, and it is nice to ask someone if they would like to come over, but PLEASE, if the person declines, don't interrogate them and ask why they declined, where they are going, what are they doing, ect. I had to lie about what my plans were because people would not accept my decline and would judge me for my choices.
People starting to eat without everyone seating at the table especially the hostess who cooked for them gets me everytime. I have lived in the UK for 30 years and most people don't hold the door. I really don't uderstand how they are labelled as very polite. The great thing about your list is that these are very easy tweacks to make so achievable for anyone who wants to "upgrade". Thank you for the reminder ♥
Jamila, I have watched your videos for years, and every time I go out to eat when it comes time to sit down & place my bag I always remember your teachings: NEVER place your bag on the table. Even when I eat at a fast food restaurant I don’t put my bag on the table 😂☺️ thank you for another insightful video.
Thanks for sharing!!
Since my childhood mostly I have been the only one doing all these good acts.My whole life people normally just want to grab first, reach first, leave first, leave everything because they think why should they bother about others...endless cruelty. Finally after watching this video I am very glad to know I was not a naive or someone who can be easily stepped over but I am actually a person with naturally many etiquettes.😊
common behavior, but often forgotten, nice reminder for everyone💜
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I really love how she matches flowers with her outfit. Eye-catching!💗
Thank you ☺️
Yes, I agree, but the tulips are too crowded. They could be arranged.
As a New Yorker, I’ve seen a lot of these basic rules broken and it’s very irksome when it happens. I can’t tell you the amount of times someone stands on the left side of an escalator, or enters an elevator or train before exiting passengers can get off. Sometimes individuals also struggle with waiting in line when boarding a bus or doesn’t hold the door open for someone close behind them. Thank you for this latest recap on the most basic of manners, Jamila.
Especially in big cities people overlook these basic manners. I hope we can get etiquette back to fashion and respect will be the guiding feeling amongst humankind.
It’s outrageous that I saw a woman curse someone out who asked to pass when her and another were blocking the path to get up the escalator 😢 I heard her say she was tired from working on her feet but that didn’t give her the right to be rude.
Never thought I need these etiquettes but when I watch your videos, I feel like I need to learn more to improve myself.
Glad you like them!
Your content is getting more and more interesting every time you upload videos and I love the way you share your learnings/insights with us. Thank you so much for your kindness, Jamila. ❤️
Happy to hear that!
Yeah I love how fresh her insights on etiquette are because they’re very inclusive to all types of humans
Totally agree with this!
Some actions seem to be instinctive, but it is reassuring to know for sure that they are actually correct. Good manners make others feel respected, important, and comfortable...kindness matters. Thank you for your helpful and enoyable videos.
I loved this! So informative, I work in retail and recently I've noticed people do seem a lot more rushed and distracted, sometimes not even saying a simple "hello" when they come to the cash desk.. Thank you for sharing this ❤️
So true!
Fun fact about elevator manner in Japanese. When riding escalators, in the Kanto region, people typically stand on the left side and leave the right side open for those who want to walk. In Kansai region, it's often the opposite, with people standing on the right side. This is a common etiquette practice in Japan. Something good to know if any of you are visiting Japan :) hope this was helpful 😊
Thank you for sharing this! Japan is my dream!
Thank you, Ms. Musayeva! I was beginning to think I'm paranoid when I feel like people are too close for comfort. I do believe that manners are a mix of common decency and consideration!
I’m pleased to realise that I follow all of these basic rules! My table manners aren’t excellent, but I do have the basics down and I hope I can improve on them. Thank you for the video Madame!
Wonderful!
Thank you for this amazing video!❤
I am a college student, i can very proudly say that i follow most of these, except the elevator one and classroom ones. Me and my friends usually walk on the escalator but i didnt know that there were particular sides for that and there is just no energy left after all the classes and extracurriculars in college but i do hope one day i will be able to follow them too!!!
It really is annoying how some people dont treat vendors and other service providers nicely, like it doesn't take much from you but might make them feel well, so why not just say !
By the way, the flowers are really pretty and your top kind of match with them❤
Saying, “thank you” to he person the opened the door for you, it’s very nice!
All the good manners you explain, I share them in schools, because, yes, it is useful for the children to have them. ( door, escalator et, …)
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Thank you!
I'm not sure if you made a video of basic manners when in a workplace setting (especially in a multicultural company and when there are different generations of employees). Would be nice to have one.
I will note it down ☺️
Great idea!
That'd be a wonderful idea! :)
Do Not Be On Your Phone When Hanging Out With Friends! - I can’t believe how many people check their messages, or emails, or even reply WHILE being at a dinner table, or grabbing a coffee with a friend. Simply sad. 😢
I am usually setting up an alarm for 10 minutes before I have to leave. That way, I never worry about the time going by too fast, while having 10 minutes to say good bye.
Absolutely love all your points from this video ❤!
Thank you for this wonderful video! i really like it!
I just hope that everyone from my community watches this, Im so tired of seeing people lack of mannerism everywhere, its very depressing honestly.
Thank you ☺️
I live in Toronto and rarely do people hold the door, let others exit before entering, have good table manners, know the rules of walking (often people won't even pull their dogs to one side of a sidewalk to let others pass!) or show patience in a queue. I would like to add giving up a seat on public transit for the elderly, pregnant women, people with visible disabilities or parents with babies.
Thank you so much for sharing these basic manners! I especially agree with the last one, thinking before you speak. It's not just people the public who will find these comments later, but your family, friends, work colleagues and significant other. I would be so horrified if a close friend of mine made nasty comments to people all the time.
These days I buy flowers almost every week and I have purple tulips and pink roses. ♥
The touching/personal space is my nemesis. I'm quite reserved in that regard, I have to know a person really well and have a close relationship with them to feel comfortable with more than a handshake. So whenever I'm at a social event with aquaintances, I have to fight with myself to accept hugs or kisses upon greeting. It's even worse when someone tries to come too close on our first meeting. I offended a friend's boyfriend once: we were just introduced and he came in for a hug or a kiss, and I reared back like a spooked horse. It was an incredibly awkward situation.
I understand. I have had people cross my personal space to touch my jewelry. They like the pendant and have no regard to touch something on my chest. It’s so strange to me.
I had an incident where a guy my friend was dating came in for a hug. I extended my hand for a handshake.
I feel women are more accommodating in allowing men to cross our boundaries to be the “good girl”.
Shouldn’t they be considered the rude boy for pressuring a lady to go against her comfort zone?
Thank you for this. I love and respect manners. Manners make life so much better for everyone!
We are blessed and lucky to have you, Jamila. Thank you Jesus.
Amazing tips, Jamila. Thank you for continuing to share your wisdom with us! I have a question. I live in America in the South where people are often “touchy,” so to speak. Oftentimes when meeting someone new, they’ll come straight for you, even going so far as to say, “I’m a hugger!” As if to excuse what is likely not the best etiquette when meeting someone for the first time. What would you suggest as an appropriate reaction if someone is opening their arms to you, expecting an embrace?
That beautiful vase of pink tulips and your shirt just look too perfect and aesthetic, I could not keep my eyes of it. On another note, people in Australia stand on the left side if they are not climbing the escalator. :)
Everytime I'm feeling a bit down you inspire me to live a better, organized, elegant and happier life. Indeed you are a true influencer, may you keep growing 💎. Love from MX 💖
I find this video very very relatable to my day to day experience and so I was so entertained and smiling throughout the video. Am so so happy to see so many comments on the video and know that there are people out there like me who struggle with lack of etiquettes of others in public settings. Thanks for posting this video Jamila.
I strongly agree to the last rule because I frequently encounter it , especially in social media platforms like Instagram , people are being extremely ignorant and insensitive.
Great advice-in this world, manners make a difference.
Thank you so much dear Jamila, your etiquette advices are very useful to me, l learn a lot from you🙏🏻❣️ I hope many people will use this manners, the world would be better🌞
You’re welcome 😊
thank you for doing helpful and valuable content like this. i personally need reminders like these because it really is a challenge to navigate social life with different kinds of people of different cultures and perceptions. as an introvert who is so comfortable with solitude, ensuring that good manners are observed when i’m outside is crucial for me- especially i’m seen as academically educated. we also love people who respects each’s privacy without being misinterpreted as snobbish. introverts need to decompress once in a while. I love people but for a limited time only every day.😅
Thank you so much for making these videos. I have just found you. I have been fortunate to have been raised with manners. I appreciate these so i do not forget what i have to teach my grand children. I cant imagine what the world would be like if everyone had manners. Seems more and more i see so many rude people out there.
Thank you and welcome to my channel ❤️
Jamila, you are one of the very few TH-camrs that I click the bell notification for. Your videos are very informative and educational. I appreciate all the effort you place into your videos. Thank you!
Sincerely,
A Longtime Subscriber.
I needed this _ forgetting to be cultured. Thank you for reminding us, those that care
I really appreciate the refresh of these common courtesies. 😃
A problem I had with transit elevator when I was pregnant and could not see my feet, was that I use my left hand to hold the rails. This meant standing on the side used by those who want to walk up/down the stairs. Despite my discomfort and ill ease, I moved to the right so as not impede others. Now, I use the left rail but I walk up/down the stairs.
Great video. Well said. I totally agree with everything you said. I witness a lot of this behavior. There are many people lacking this basic etiquette. Keep sharing your knowledge.
Thank you so much! I’m so glad you found it helpful. 😊
Thank you so much Jamila for your content! I always get so excited when you post something new, it feels like I’m getting big sister advice!! I was wondering if you could make a video about how to find/meet and foster relationships with girls who enjoy etiquette, culture, art…etc 😊
Jamila I appreciate you! Thank you for this beautiful content and your beautiful presence! 👏🏼🌷💕🌸💗🙏
Thank you so much!
thank you..I hope that people take these basic rules seriously as it makes life in perfect harmony!!
One thing I struggle with is how to tell people that they should fix something on themselves. For instance if they have food on their face, lipstick on their teeth, or if their zipper is down. It's a quick fix, and if it were me I would want to know, but I never know how to bring it up without embarrassing them, especially if we are in a group setting.
I would appreciate you have something on your face. I had my zip open at the office and after walking around and no one told me and when a colleague told me I actually went back to the other side of the office and told them how nasty of them not to tell me that my zip was open😊. I asked them if tables were turned would they appreciate it if I did the same and the answer was no so I told them that at least it would have been one or two people n not more. We laughed about it and now everyone knows to approach me if something is not appropriate with me.😂😂
thank you for this video, Jamila! u never disappoint! ur elegance is beautifully comforting ❤️
Thank you!
One thing that I observe quite often is when people stop and stay in front of an entrance or in front of stairs/ escalators. It’s sooo annoying and sometimes even dangerous when a big crowd is coming behind you.
YASsss!
I love your videos!! I love the reminder about the elevator and letting people leave the elevator first and I love the reminder about the escalator make sure you keep one side clear.
I have an etiquette question on a teacup. If you’re sitting and having coffee or tea and you have a saucer, do you bring the saucer up with the teacup or can you leave the saucer on the table and bring the teacup to take a sip?
Thank you for the informative video, Jamila. Would you consider doing a video on cell phone etiquette in the context of social gatherings, formal events, dining, etc?
She has spoken about this, you put them away. Excuse yourself if you need to take a phone call or message someone 😊
Great suggestion!
Even though good manners sometimes should be a given, it still helps to show your appreciation and acknowledge them when you are on the receiving end.
Oh I can't thank you enough for speaking about standing too close to another person. Long before covid I've never been a proponent for that behavior. Same in laundrymats. Whole place free yet ppl come " snuggling " right up in your immediate area!!!!! It makes me steam...😬😬😬😬
I'm obsessed with your videos
Like they always say, chivalry is dead!
Huge fan, thank you for your videos! Love from CT (USA)
Your videos are just awesome. I really like the way you present the video❤!!
Can you please do a video regarding the dressing etiquette( in a party, church etc.....)
We want more etiquette videos💟
I think she’s done something like this 😊
Noted ☺️
And also please address people who walk around in their glad rags and open the door to unexpected callers. I find it in poor taste to see folks in their night clothes late into the morning or coming to the mall dressed for the back yard. Literally glad rags
Thank you I really appreciate all these reminders.
You are welcome
Please, make pt 3 about "Basic Manners" and so on.
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word's cannot explain the vibe you give Mam... Always learning from you my idol. 🥰😍
at 3:30 , it’s also stand on the left in Australia and walk on the right!
Isnt amazing how these are basic but we dont do them? Thanks for sharing. Im going to save this video to apply in my life as Im recently paying attention to these things and want to improve and be considerate with others...
Glad it was helpful!
I’m not what you would call typically elegant, I’m covered in tattoos and I don’t wear brands, but all of these manners I do. We lived abroad for a few years when I was younger and that broadened my life experience and awareness but my parents brought us up to have all of these manners you speak about which I’m quite proud of..
Even I have forgotten so many of these manners
Thank you for reminding 🙏
Happy to do so ☺️
Can we add to move your buggy to the side in the supermarket when you stop to browse. Almost everybody leaves their buggy in the center of the aisle making it impossible to pass. The same goes for standing in the middle of the aisle or doorway to look on your phone or chat with someone. Be mindful and step to the side.
For everyone out there who wants to improve your etiquette habits and keep living correctly, I would recommend reading book called Manners Matter by Amanita Thomas. She is talking behind industry and knowledge.
Always be polite.
You never know what someone's going through or what they'll do when you disrespect them
I've seen first hand people getting beaten, hands, fingers cut off just because they didn't say "sorry" or "excuse me"
If they come after you for being rude and disrespectful, oh, well
There are people in the world who'll go after your family then come for you.
Learn boys and girls, learn
Our genius instructor
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Can you please make a video on laughing etiquettes, such as properly laughing, when to laugh, how to laugh 😊
Also sneezing, yawning and touching your nose. Please! Thank you
This is so helpful, thank you so much!💕
I would add: Not texting in someone’s face when you hang out with them (unless it’s an emergency and you have excused yourself), being mindful of the volume of your voice in public spaces, not talking with your mouth full, when you take photos/videos in public places, try to avoid having strangers in them as much as possible (I know sometimes it can’t be helped)
I’ve been watching u from 100k and now it’s nearly 1M!!🎉
Aw thank you!
As a student of fashion, I'm highly impressed by the color synchronization of this video, pink shirt paired with blue jeans along with pink lipstick and pink blush and beautiful pink tulips set besides....I just can't praise it enough 🤌🏻🤌🏻🎀💗
Wow, thank you!
Thank you so much Queen for this wonderful information
First of all thank you for the well thought out video. What you shared is very helpful. I especially enjoy your content to help keep myself in check. 💝
A video suggestion: 7 basic bags that you may need in life. ( Building a basic bag collection and wondering which bags you recommend)
Glad it was helpful!
Thanks for your effort, Jamila, and I hope I can read your books in Arabic translation soon. 🙏
Love you from Egypt💙
I hope so too!
In my language (German) there is a politeness form (Sie, Ihnen, Ihr…).
Young people tend to override this and use the colloquial form even form perfect strangers. I don‘t like that. The politeness form may sound a bitt stiff, but it gives a respectful distance between you and the other person. Conversely, when you get to know a person better and you change to the coloquial form, it creates a heartwarming feeling of familiarity and friendship.
Thank you Jamila for these very useful tips! I was not sure, about the escalator, but now I know! Please would you tell me, when people yawn, should yhey put their hand to conceal the yawning? I notice a lot of people don' t...
It is important to be mindful of others time, so when performing actions that require lines make sure you are pointed with the task and not wasting the time of others.
Blessings! Thank you for all of these great tips. 🙏
Welcome 🤍
Excellent video once again ❤
Thanks again!
Thank you, Kelly ❤
Amazing episode 👏🏻
Thank you so much 🌸
You're welcome 😊
Thank you so much 👍🏻.This is a very important topic ❤.
My pleasure 😊
thank you miss jamila i can use it in my meeting soon
Jamila, could you please make a video on the use of emuji , which , when and to who
would love a video about hats/caps/beret ettiquette and when/how to remove them. I understand you are to remove them when eating/entering a place? And what if you are on a terrace dining? only wear them outside? Is it indifferent whether you dine indoors or outdoors? Does it make a difference the type of hat (like a beret)? if you take if off, where do you lay it? should you caress your hair to make sure it is neat? What about wearing a hat to church? What about inside a church wedding? I would love to know what would be the correct etiquette. What about hat/cap and gloves also? Umbrella? Thanks so much. I believe it is important to know how to properly behave with all the 'extras'.
I have done a video on how to hold accessories such as umbrella, coat and gloves. I will note down your suggestion too.
I was amazed how many things on this list should be common sense but aren't. I practiced all of these before I came here.
Could you also make a video on teenagers and how they can handle disrespectful comments from their peers and how to handle difficult and uncomfortable situations elegantly? thank you so much
I have done a few videos on handling criticism elegantly. Check out my playlists ☺️
Next topic video :- Office manners & etiquette
This makes me smile because I worked from the smallest firm to the very top notch firms but must say I never had to bite my teeth with ill mannered behaviour in work places. I guess we owe that to highly qualified HR team.
thank u so so so much for all your wisdom. I have a question if u may, how to ask others to keep boundaries without looking impolite person or very touchy. stay class and yet strong. THANK YOU VERY VERY MUCH
I’ve held the door open behind me for another couple to walk through and sometimes they walk through it. Don’t look at me. Don’t thank me and leave me holding the door. 😂😂
It happens with people who lack basic manners to say thank you. But you know, we do these not to ask that in return but to do our part. We cannot be responsible for what others do.
Exactly my experience every time I hold the door open. Once a big group of 5-6 walked through while I was there holding the door. Since then I make sure not to be taken for granted like that still following the etiquette though.
@@bhavyasehgal4851 what’s even more annoying than them not taking the door off me is they don’t even make eye contact or say thank you. Maybe they think I’m the door man 🤣. Oh well we just have to think they don’t know any better.
My husband is a gentleman and will always hold the door for ladies, I’m guilty of saying “Thank you” very loudly if they do not.
I see it mostly with the younger generation not thanking.
@@hildib2689 that’s a good idea 👍
Please Jamila, could you quickly address water drinking etiquette? I.e., the correct way to hold a tumbler, fill it up with water and drink from it when dining? I tend to struggle a bit with that but it's an often overlooked area 😅
These are great stuff❤.From Colombo, Sri Lanka .
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I’m Latina and even when people here are very loving and kind; I really don’t like physical contact and much less from a stranger.
Dear Jamila, thank you for his video, might you consider making a video on the topic of mobile phones and etiquette
Thank you Jamila for mentioning the lineup on the left side of escalators. I wonder how it is not considered a natural thing to do if one respects others and their mere existence, it reflects a complete absence of mindfulness regarding the presence of anyone else but one own's little self and expanded bubble. Most annoying of all (please bring it up!) are backpacks in the metro occupying double the space, in cafes where one's coffee is spilled as a backpack drives through like a subway train (yes, as if on autopilot without any "excuse-me" heard after the accident), in buses where people make their way through the corridor, hitting all shoulders with their back luggage, or in front of supermarket shelves where a backpack held by another quidam blocks other's way in corridors, preventing them from comfortably doing their chores ... etc, etc. Backpacks have turned into a danger to civilization and courtesy. I am not exaggerating! Keep on the elegant awareness rising.
Thank you 🙏🏻
Great advice as usual Thank you
Glad it was helpful!
Hello, Jamila. Could you please make a video on how to behave/respond in situations where a toxic ex or a friend who betrayed us and didn't treat us well in the past tries to come back in our life? how to deal with negative people/comments in general?