how to get princess treatment + servant mindset
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In this episode, Elle shares her insights and strategies on how to get princess treatment. From treating yourself like a princess to drawing boundaries and dropping everyone who does not give you princess treatment, Elle shows you how to cultivate value in yourself and attract the people who will treat you like the royalty you are.
Elle covers a range of topics including how to be mysterious, how to be sensitive to the ick, and how to check people when they need to be checked. She also dives into the importance of having an abundance mindset and creating accessible value.
But it's not just about being a princess for the sake of it. Elle emphasizes the importance of making people feel positive feelings when they are with you, whether it's a man who wants to feel the ego boost of being seen with an attractive woman or a woman who wants to feel that she is in the company of equally high social/cultural capital women.
So if you're ready to get the princess treatment you deserve, listen to this episode now! Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more content like this.
Chapters:
01:36 have a sensitive ick meter
03:10 replace the people around you
04:36 give yourself the princess treatment
07:30 pretty privilege
09:00 marketing and positioning
11:29 quit the negative self talk
13:24 be your own bestie
13:58 be delulu: create gatekeepers
16:17 check people when they need to be checked
17:29 abundance mindset
18:08 create accessible value
20:04 get princess treatment by making people feel royal
21:33 be in servant mindset - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
"You're not a rat. You are a princess" LORD I NEEDED THAT
Rats backwards is STAR ⭐️ LOL
“ stop getting mad and start getting paid” love it sis 😂. I literally watch your videos before going on a date just to remind myself of the truth .
yesss👏🏽👏🏽 get that bag, bestie
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Okay period 😂
@@therealmanifestelle💲💸💸💰💰💳😂😂
I really needed that video. I first got a really cheap treatment, only after I asked myself why I even do this, bye. It really helped me, thank u❤
1. Fitness - do exercise. Capatilise it. Looking good gives you princess treatment.
How you dress, how you talk, how you treat others. All about the vibe. Go to places where are good vibes. People are good.
Treat yourself like a princess. Have a ick meter. Don't go with people who don't give you princess treatment.
No more negative self talk. Be kind to yourself.
You are your own bestie. Talk to yourself kindly and as you are a princess. Be your own cheer leader
Gatekeepers - you are always protected. Be delulu. Pretend you are having a assistant.
I am raised this way.
Be firm on your boundaries.
Abundance mindset.
Be so delulu that uou know that there is Abundance of everything.
2. Don't get mad, get paid.
3. Pour into yourself. Invest in yourself.
4. People give you princess treatment on the basis of how you made them feel.
To get princess treatment you should make other people feel royal.
For friendships - Servant mindset- pour heavily on your people.
I was told that there was something wrong with me for wanting how to be treated well because they see me as too sensitive. For a lot of times, I believed it! Your video is just a confirmation that my sensitive ick meter is a gift, not a bad thing. I'm just surrounded by the wrong crowd.
I LOVE how you phrased "my sensitive ick meter is a gift". Yes so true!!
Amen sis
In my past relationships, I was often get cheated upon. Even if i tried to forget about it my past trauma would haunt me again, i just couldnt understand why I am treated this way when all i gave is my utmost effort and dedication. Now my boyfriend suddenly ghosted me on the past saturday while i thought we were on good terms, i wish i could knew the reason why he acted that way out of nowhere. When I asked him he said he needed some space but it hurts me alot as it remind of my past trauma. I just want to be chosen and that my weird love language is understood. My bf wouldnt treat me right and he doesnt understand my weird love language, he wouldnt even give me such a princess treatment but since I was always hurted in the past I just want him to stay. I am such a people pleaser and sensitive person that I felt things too much and I really hate being left out. Its not like I have male validation but for once I want someone who wouldnt leave me, understood my trauma and my sensitive side.
@@Nananana09174if you haven't already, I suggest you watch her video "a private life is a better life" I totally get where you are coming from... especially the last part of your comment. And because I truly understand, because I felt this way, too!! But, I can promise you, you only THINK you need/want that. You don't. In fact, you are suffering because you believe this. It is tough to realize, but not only will this desire continue to ache from within, it will hurt from outside, too (the ppl this energy attracts is no good) Everything that has happened in the past only helps when you learn from it and let it make you stronger, like a boot camp would. Trauma is an initiation to being stronger than you ever knew possible. Not a place to wallow forever about. Only positivity intended ✨ Bright Blessings
Edit: it's helpful to explore why you are a people pleaser. Having been one, I can say from experience, it's not serving anyone's highest good (especially yours!!❤) NOW that I've recovered from being a people pleaser (a result of childhood trauma) I finally understand why so many people have left me. Healthy people run from people pleasers, because on a subconscious energetic level there is a clingy, needy, strings attached vibe. The only people it attracts are people who want to exploit this coping mechanism (people pleasing is unhealthy, for everyone. It's related to codependency. Sorry to say.)
@@Nananana09174I would recommend going to therapy seriously. It sounds like you’ve got some serious abandonment issues especially if your willing to put up with shitty behavior just so you won’t be left. It’s a terribly difficult cycle and hard life your living right now that really could be so much better. We instinctually attract what we think we deserve and I promise babe you deserve so much more 💗 don’t ever forget rejection is just redirection and everything in life is hard but we can chose our hard.. you either do something easy now to pay the consequences later or you do something difficult now to enjoy the fruition later, but either way there will be a struggle
The best way to get princess treatment is exactly to remove people who don’t give you princess treatment
Included getting rid of my parents to an extent unfortunately
@@Myatheroses so true!, I'm not about to literally disappear from their lives, but gotta stop letting my emotional state depend on how they treat me (getting the ick on a daily basis, multiple times). We're individuals and we deserve way more
❤ yeah interesting 😊 thank you
"Because if they are my people, they will pour heavily into me."
- I need to remind myself of this because I pour so much into other people, but don't get it back. So I need to stop that. It needs to come back for me to continue. ❤
If you do that, you will pour until you are empty and have nothing left to give 😢 been there. Never going back.
Being valuable is a magnet and attracts everything you love to you.
i love listening to u as i work. im a cleaner and work 12 hours a day and it just gives me so much hope that this isnt gonna be my life forever.
I wish u get everything u want😊
📣 YOU GOT THIS!!! 📣
good luck and you will get everything you want
You are on your way to the life you want! ✨️ you deserve everything you desire.
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It’s giving sprinkle, sprinkle. Shera always says don’t get mad, figure out how to get money. Love this awakenings❤
This is having a royal mindset. Thank you for the energetic straightening of my crown, soul sis. Only true princesses feel happy helping other princesses thrive.👑💕✨️
Yessss, 💯❤
100% surround yourself only with those who bring out the best in you, not those that hold you stagnate.
It works! If you give yourself princess treatment, people automatically start to ick you when they treat you anything less than that
damn, the idea of pretty privilege symbolising determination, dedication and discipline is so mind blowing!! on my healing journey rn and I absolutely love your content
I feel guilty for taking so long to realize that my parents neglected me emotionally and bec of that Im behind in certain aspects of life but also ur right I didnt do anything unethical so Im okay ❤❤❤
Girl me too. We will overcome it😩
@@Rosierose902 😭😭😭 I hope ur slowly getting better each day bec it can be traumatic 😭
@@bronzedflames are you of age? +18? +21? If yes you overgrew the age you can still blame your parents for something
Real life ain’ t a therapist delusional chat. In real life our parents are human beings with flaws and they did what they could. We are grown ups and are responsible for ourselves.
You can’t blame your parents
And you have to know the concept of “trauma” was not even invented 100 years ago and it’s only a theory.
It’ s not proven scientifically that you you undergo X event in your life you will become Y or Z
Cause there are people that underwent X event too and they did W instead of X or Z
So the whole concept of trauma is not even real.
Wake up and taste the taste of responsibility
Go look up Lukashenko childhood and “””trauma””” and then look up what amazing manly man he become!
@@ZharaJameelah Thank you for your advice 💗💗💗
"Whenever you find out that something is working for the benefit of others, and that something is attainable by you... what are you doing? ATTAIN IT."
"Nuance Nellie" I love your sense of humour😅 in all seriousness... last year I started doing the things I wanted to do no matter if ppl didn't want to join, from small things like getting coffee alone and learning to go to the gym alone to big things like language classes and a two month solo trip. I could not agree more that giving yourself princess treatment is key, I think this was the turning point in my relationships and my self-esteem. Ultimately, my friends wanted to join cause I was enjoying myself and I was leaning into my interests and meeting new ppl (that were on my level and shared my values/passions).
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I wanna be at that level and I am going to access that level for myself.
Instead of "servant mindset", I will say find people who are givers just like you. People who give to each others will create a balanced relationship. If you are a giver and the person in front of you is a taker, this is an imbalance. Give, find givers, set boundaries.
Dating standards should be applied to ALL humans around you - their aesthetics, characters, personalities, mindsets, or even physical appearances. The only exception would be sexual attraction.
"we did not evolve to be couch potatoes" dyinggg bestie why did that make me laugh so much
What you’re describing is being co-dependent. A great book on the subject is “Co-dependent No More”. The last part of your video reminds me of a fave quote from a book I read years ago, “The Diva Principle”, she’s says: “Go where you’re celebrated”.
I found this book in a second hand shop and bought it spontaneously months ago. Maybe I should pluck it from my bookshelf.
The people who haggle your boundaries are the ones your boundaries are there for..
*snap snap snap* 💯
I think I give myself princess treatment often, instinctively. My threshold for suffering physically is solid. Any little thing leads to blocking. I just need to work on sorting out my threshold when it comes to emotional neglect. I grew up in an emotionally distant home so I can easily cope with emotionally unavailable people, but I'm going to weed that out. Areas for improvement are having higher expectations for people and getting rid of this covid weight. I love the idea of seeing going to the gym as princess treatment. Internal work vs superficial princess treatment.
Took me a long time to learn how well the princess treatment and service mindset work together but once I saw the light 🤩 yeah, never going back to anything else lol. Have a great day!
yesss seems counterintuitive but it works🫶🏽🫶🏽
You don’t know how hard it is to be at a school filled with toxic girls and guys. Your videos bring me a sense of peace and calm. Thank you
This channel is a miracle in my life. Just discovered it last night 44.4K subs and straight up, it's a blessing-- to the entire world. Bc who CAN'T the world do without?
Women... women like us.
17:31 I disagree with this. Sometimes family is so toxic you need to replace them or just cut them off and be ok alone for your mental health. I love your videos btw.
Or they do it for you. My cousin disowned me and complained about me to everyone when I didn’t agree with communist/Marxist beliefs. I was civil, but that’s just bad behavior. My cousin is a trans-man. Whatever you do you but he got mad when I ran for office bc he didn’t like my libertarian political affiliation. Ok good riddance! This cousin has literally done NOTHING nice for ANYONE in the family. They are a black hole. And my aunt knew that too bc she ignored her child and attended my wedding and we’re on good terms. It’s just this cousin. Sometimes you just piss em off by standing your ground and don’t gotta do anything else 🤷🏼♀️ saying no has that effect on crazy people
Agreed
I was late to a date and this guy told me I have to pay the dinner because of my tardiness. That was the last date. He kept asking me for another date. I just ghosted him
‘A selectively timed social butterfly’ lol me too.
I'm SO glad I found your channel. I was at a point where I stopped believing that people like you even exist anymore.
But that abundance mindset that you explained is really a life changer for me. And I'm very thankful for that.
Thank you Elle ❤❤❤
This is just great. It made me realize I was so familiar with the servant mindset - which is so rare here! - I didn't see it as 'love bombing' when it was.
And yes, it happens when you've been conditioned to ignore your ick-meter. If anyone can relate - we can fix this, and it's not our fault. Others have vilified and duped us out of natural self-protection. For their gain, usually from very early on.
I love what Elle does - not just repeating we should see our own worth, but also how we constantly have those coming at us trying to deceive us out of it, and she reminds us to not fall for it.
Wow, the assistant tip was genius! Truly, if I were my assistant I would have removed a lot of people and things from my life by now.
Wow I was passing a message to an older lady customer at work and spoke about women being oppressed by society and told her us women we need to encourage each other and be supportive with each other and bestie you popped up. ❤ realness❤
i just got out an emotionally abusive realtionship and your videos have helped build me up i know this video isnt about this but thank you .
Elle , your videos are so different . You make things easy to understand and you’re so relatable. I feel like I’m listening to a friend 💕 love your channel bestie !
thank you bestie 😭 i appreciate you so much 🫶🏽🫶🏽 i love our spoiled girlie support group ✨
This gives me hope when I'm currently in a very bad economic situation, a dysfunctional family, loneliness and a lot of ideas pass through my mind on how to make this better.
I love love love this attitude toward friendship!!! I grew up with my overworked underpaid single mom modeling snippets of it when she could and encouraging me to be generous and thoughtful to friends. As I’ve gotten older I take it more and more seriously. Friendships like the ones you’re talking about make life worth living.
I found your videos a few days ago and am obsessed with your channel! One thing I’d suggest to other viewers in the comment section is before you start cutting some people out of your life (I’m specifically talking about friends you’ve either had for a long time or are just very close to you) to remind yourself that some of your friends might be unaware of what your needs and expectations are in the relationship, so it’s essential to set boundaries with them and communicate what your needs are. Drop them if they fail to respect you enough to follow your boundaries/expectations! Again, I love your content! 🤍🤍
Just discovered your videos and WOW! I’m completely smitten. I’m devouring your videos and learning so much. Thank you, thank you for your words. Some of your words bring tears to my eyes as I think about my past. It so true with the saying, “ when the student is ready, the teacher will come.”
You have no idea how much my self-confidence improoved since I started watching you back in February. Thank you so much!
Thank you for the video! This helps a lot! Especially about friendships. I feel so often being used by my friends, and that they are not repaying me with the same amount. Even they are repaying me by doing something, that I perceive as mean. Like, I wouldnt do the same thing to them, but they do it to me. I just need to keep my boundaries better, and be friends with people who ”deserve” my friendship.
They are not friends they are abusers. Get rid of them
Hi, I just found this channel and I feel I manifested/ attracted this particular video with something I was thinking all day (after a horrible date yesterday!) and I wanted to share it with somebody who would understand! So I feel I should share it here, as it is exactly on the topic. I apologize if the comment is too long, but I really must share it - it is not a coincidence I run into your content. 🙂
So, here it is: Imagine a prince/ a king goes from his kingdom to another kingdom, he enters the castle and he has an intention to look for a wife. Who is he looking for? Will he go to the kitchen to see the ladies who cook? Is he going to look for the cleaning ladies or the servants in the castle? No...he will be looking for the princesses (who are with the mindset to potentially be queens), correct? Now, imagine who will be looking for the cleaning ladies, the cook or the other servants as a potential wife material - will he be a prince or a king? Please think about this energetically, not literally.
Now, remember Cinderella? What did she do to get the prince? Did she kept slaving for everybody else, keeping her head down? No, she broke the rules, dressed up and went to the castle, despite being forbidden to do so! She consequently got herself into a princess vibration - that's how she attracted the prince. 😉
There’s a reason why Cinderella is perhaps the quintessential and best Disney film out there and saved Disney company early on. Cinderella is a determined, compassionate lady who knows what she wants and navigates the toxic people in her life with grace to herself. The prince is not even a character in the film - it is a female centered story. He doesn’t even speak, he just beelines toward her because he feels/knows she’s his princess. Everything she worked for pays off bc she put herself first even through adversity of crazy pick me step sisters and stepmom dumping on her and treating her like a servant. A dream is a wish your heart makes when you’re fast asleep. Cinderella is living her dream from the start of the film even when the mice are confused af about the importance of shifting to your future Princess dream girl self. Cinderella knew 💖
Thank you so much for explaining this so well, I was also raised with the servant mindset but I'd get in a state where it'd be a waste of time 90% of the time, but then the remaining percents I find golden people, so I was confused about what to do with myself, listening to you talk about it had a lightbulb effect, the missing piece was to pour into others but also watch their behaviors and figure out if you're to continue pouring or say i'm out 💁♀
EXACTLY 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 you get it
I am happy that I found your channel! A confirmation that my life is changing!
glad to have you here bestie ✨
I love the way you give advice directly! Yes, we need to be working out and moving. Hard core agree with you.
It is times like these I am grateful to the algorithm. Thankful to be connected to such a conscious creative.
There's so much value from this video!❤ Yes, i can totally relate to the point where you said to not go places where the vibe or people are negative.❤
So true. "Friends" Cancelling and rescheduling over and over. And then I was like nope. We're not doing this.
Servant mindset is so sooo true. It really shows you who’s going to show up for you in the ways you show up for them. I love all of your videos and I’m grateful for this community 💓
I listen to your videos repeatedly on Spotify and TH-cam like they are songs. Thank you for these ,like seriously ❤hearing someone living like this with this philosophy is so encouraging and inspiring.
Wow I love that you're basically talking about reciprocal relationships!
I’ve only watched two videos and I already have a new bestie and feel fabulous
"Did CrossFit once and I died, never going back": same bestie same 🤣
Love your content (I'm binging it), it resonates so much and I am finally awake now. Not gonna sleep on my standard ever again, but still need my 8 hours beauty sleep like the princess I am. Please keep spreading wisdom and nuance. Cheers from France ~
That 11:11 hits me deep. My boyfriend who now ghosted me and said needed some space would not treated my like a princess nor even give me a right treatment- some days he didn' t replied to my texts even if he gets online and so I asked him, begged him to atleast replied me early. But everytime I begged him to treat me right he would get mad at me and said that he did not know how to act when he have a girlfriend as he rarely had. I understand that but atleast I want to see his effort but some days it felt like I did not exist to him. Now all of a sudden he was tired of my complains and argument that he didnt want to speak with me. I do miss him and it remind me of my past trauma alot. I was always cheated in my past and for once I want to be be reassured, trust my guts and be chosen. He might thought i am a B but I AM NOT, ALL I WANT IS TO BE TREATED BETTER. 😢
Do not tolerate that disrespect my friend, pray to God for the qualities you expect from a man: kind, respectful, responsible, financially stable, loving, caring, honest, loyal, family oriented… do not fall into distress, pray with all your heart and give all your worries to God for him to bear, once all your worries and stress are no longer with you, once you are at peace with yourself and you stopped looking for that man, God will bring him into your life, ask God specifically for what you want and he will answer with what you NEED, this has been the case for me and for my aunt so I know it works, I was blessed with a man with all the qualities I previously named to you because I prayed for him to show up into my life and I stopped worrying. Focus on yourself, focus into being the woman you want to be and that person will show up, do not beg for basic respect because you don’t need to, you are already worthy of love and respect, God bless you sister.
Stop expecting to be respected and treated right by the wrong people. Been there, done that.
Dump him and learn to love yourself ❤
This video
I love that you don’t talk only about romantic life but also about job, family and friends!
The timing of this is perfect
This is my fav video of yours so far. So valuable and packed with useful info. Thank you!
Thank you for your discussion on checking people who you feel are crossing your boundaries.
i’m so happy i found this video, i used to be like this all the time and then i let people beat it out of me and use me and i lost myself. i’m so happy im finally getting back to this!
I really love your channel and podcast! Your content and mentality are a gift - promoting self-love always but balanced with the firmness to motivate us to get off our butts and be strategic instead of wallowing. The perfect middle ground between sprinkle sprinkle and "soft life" content
I love this channel I really needed this content and hearing this kind of words. Thanks 🙏
Always listen to your intuition.
The checking people thing was so on point
I am here for the delulu mindset💚❤ and definitely the value
I cannot stop watching your videos. I'm learning so much. I feel like I've missed on so much because I didn't know how powerful I am. Thank you!
I like you, girl. Thanks to you I am now hopeful that there are people, women, with common sense, good vibes, friendly, positive, feminine, kind and willing to give their time and energy generously to the right people. Greetings from Geneva, Switzerland meanwhile I'm still praying to meet my besties
I don't know if anyone has brought this up, but I really appreciate that you have captions or subtitles. I have sensory processing issues so it's helpful to be able to read and listen. Thank you, Elle. You're awesome.
You're so amazing, Elle ❤ feeling so blessed to have found your channel 🙏🏽🙂
You inspire me Elle ! Im off to the gym and calling my friends in serving mode❣️Thank you😘
I love the advice for how you talk to yourself making such a difference for your self-esteem. I've also realized that I need to stop sarcastically saying things like "this makes me want to die" because even though I don't actually mean that literally, I do have depression and words truly are powerful. If I exaggerate everything to being "horrible" or "the worst" when I'm only annoyed or slightly dysregulated, then that lowers my vibrations even more. So I've been training myself to shed off the edgy teenage behaviors I have and honestly am looking to my Grandma as just the best example of how to behave like an adult with class. Making an effort to change my mindset and language is really helping with lowering the frequency of depressive episodes and I feel like this is really helping my healing.
Every time I attend one of your classes I just know I will be heard, validated, supported, understood. I am so so glad you make this supportive videos for other women. Big big thank you bestie ❤
This is life changing. Thank you!
I’m listening to this lesson as I clean the bathroom: and this is so helpful for me to reconcile these 2 things. I sometimes don’t think I am a princess cuz I’m a mom, ‘a dame’, I commute everywhere by bike, etc. But hearing this lesson while cleaning made me realize that treating yourself like a princess does not mean we don’t do hard things, clean the bathroom, etc. It is the treatment u expect/accept from others; and how I treat and speak to myself. I loved what u said about who boundaries r for. Yes!!
no wonder my friends say I’m so lucky I always meet people who r good to me, just found out, I do all of this stuff hhh, it’s so nice to hear someone explaining it.
I love your channel. Aside from the workout tip which I do almost every day, I needed to hear the rest of the advice ❤ thanks bestie
omg, I love this. my new favorite creator!! I love this concept of ¨servant mindset¨
you are so wise
you are a genius bestie 💘 thank you for your work
LOVE every single topic you upload ♥️ thanks bestie
“attain it” changed my life
I’m the same way when it comes to not going to locations with bad vibes! Usually those places have high turnover, so eventually i can go back to those locations anyway.
Really love the way you break these topics down
thank you 🥹🥹
I'm neurodivergent and have always studied people and society but had a hard time really understanding how to deal with and ineract with people and the world in a positive way that isn't at my own expense. Your videos have been a guiding light through learning ro navigate life while also learning to unmask and be more myself. ❤❤❤ Thank you, bestie.
i love, love this video! it/s how I first discovered your channel and watched every single one of your videos ever since. thank you, bestie!
I love your videos so much! It definitely hits different when someone is telling you this, for your benefit.
Girl im so glad i found u ❤❤
There's so much useful advice in the same video that I can't even process it at the same time! I though he was the problem, but I realised that if I don't value my social skills and I feeI like I want to be better in that term, I should focus on that instead of meeting him. He deserves better (but not in the people pleaser mindset) BECAUSE I do.
Omg I'm so happy you uploaded! I subscribed yesterday and i already can't get enough of your videos ❤️ keep up the good work 🥰👑
thank you bestie 🫶🏽🫶🏽
You are such a breath of fresh air
You have the courage of a warrior bestie!💛
This is what I concluded, too! You’re a sovereign, a Queen of your realm. 👑 ✨
Love your content! I'm putting into practice all your teachings. Princess treatment or nothing bestie.
I just came across one of your videos today and oh my! I love it. I so needed it right now. Thank you 😊
thank you bestie 🫶🏽🫶🏽
Elle, yet again, you knock it out of the park!! Love you!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
i appreciate u bestie 🫶🏽🫶🏽
Don't get mad, get paid 😂😂😂 omg that so true
I’m loving this pep talk ❤❤
Girl you are inspirational thank you so much❤
I appreciate your videos a lot. Today I really feel like I need support and your videos always provide it.
Oh my goodness I love & deeply appreciate your content 😍I’m so grateful!!!!!!!
I can just tell by what you know and what you teach, you took a lot of time to heal and invest in yourself. Especially the family part, how they like to break time boundaries or emotional boundaries. I am still setting boundaries to this day.