Don’t Feel Harmed, And You Haven’t Been | The Philosophy of Marcus Aurelius

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    Marcus Aurelius pointed out that regardless of the severity of circumstances, there’s always a choice in how we judge them. “Choose not to be harmed-and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed-and you haven’t been,” he stated. Marcus’ instruction sounds easy, but it’s difficult to apply if we don’t understand what causes us to feel harmed and when we don’t have the wisdom to make a change. Luckily, the ancient Stoics provide this wisdom.
    The work Meditations by Marcus Aurelius contains several ideas that shed another light on the experiences we usually consider harmful. His writings allow us to see our lives differently and change the way we think about the hardships we face, so we can be, as he wrote it, “like the rock that the waves keep crashing over.” This video expands upon several passages from the Meditations that could help us feel less harmed. Don’t feel harmed, and you haven’t been - The Philosophy of Marcus Aurelius
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    00:00 - Intro
    02:45 - The pain of judgment
    06:33 - Are we asking the impossible?
    09:56 - Seeing the beauty in adversity
    12:57 - Focusing on ourselves
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  • @princessrojas3252
    @princessrojas3252 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2096

    Your channel is one of the reasons why I'm still alive. Thank you.

    • @jepsen1977
      @jepsen1977 3 ปีที่แล้ว +232

      Give yourself a little more credit than that, please.

    • @boritico25
      @boritico25 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

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    • @boritico25
      @boritico25 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Princess Rojas, hang in there sister, One Love ❤

    • @spork4924
      @spork4924 3 ปีที่แล้ว +109

      You are the reason why you're still alive. You're doing great :)

    • @monicawerner5762
      @monicawerner5762 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      I know what you mean.

  • @Dacademeca
    @Dacademeca 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1829

    *"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts."*
    - Marcus Aurelius

    • @licandres01
      @licandres01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That's a misquotation actually

    • @alfaalfa9488
      @alfaalfa9488 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@licandres01 would you honor us by pointing out your view ?

    • @pippipster6767
      @pippipster6767 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      And the quality of your thoughts depends upon how your life is going.

    • @snape539
      @snape539 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @a moron op?

    • @lgr6709
      @lgr6709 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ABSOLUTELY CORRECT MARCUS AURELIUS.(in my humble opinion).
      I'll do a RETURNISHAN (PUN):
      *"The quality or satisfaction of your life depends essentially on the quality of your thoughts" *

  • @Zed324
    @Zed324 2 ปีที่แล้ว +287

    "It's not our problem when people hate or despise us. It's their problem". - Marcus Aurelius

    • @bennyheadofthechairmen8808
      @bennyheadofthechairmen8808 ปีที่แล้ว

      Do you like Bulgaria?

    • @kerry1551
      @kerry1551 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes!!!

    • @bentobarreirinhas5702
      @bentobarreirinhas5702 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      depends on what they are willing to do to us

    • @TKUA11
      @TKUA11 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes and no

    • @Dowlphin
      @Dowlphin 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Was it not a quote by Adolf Hitler?

  • @damondominique
    @damondominique 2 ปีที่แล้ว +626

    Where has this therapist been my entire life

    • @pits7035
      @pits7035 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      There is a channel called daily stoic.
      May u find ua Peace

    • @amirsajadi5694
      @amirsajadi5694 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Mood sis

    • @Drvm614
      @Drvm614 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      youtube

    • @LierinES
      @LierinES 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      My exact thoughts when I saw this in my recommended.

    • @anmolgandhi9835
      @anmolgandhi9835 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Did not expect to find my favourite TH-cam in the comments section here - hmu if you’re in Vienna anytime soon :D

  • @Dacademeca
    @Dacademeca 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1846

    *"Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one."*
    - Marcus Aurelius

    • @markofsaltburn
      @markofsaltburn 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      “Quote” - Some Guy

    • @tanojiro
      @tanojiro 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ?

    • @ishzsbxux
      @ishzsbxux 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      That's a good one

    • @pohfattpatrickchang4448
      @pohfattpatrickchang4448 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@markofsaltburn 00qÀàa,Àà

    • @newuser689
      @newuser689 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      - the guy who spent much of the meditations writing what characteristics make a good man

  • @sirlagsalot101
    @sirlagsalot101 2 ปีที่แล้ว +233

    Stoicism has done more for my mental health than any drug or doctor ever could

    • @nativeamericancowboy5028
      @nativeamericancowboy5028 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Agreed

    • @undrwatropium3724
      @undrwatropium3724 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You haven't tried mushrooms 🍄

    • @spitfire3311
      @spitfire3311 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@undrwatropium3724 I’ve done both. No reason they can’t both be equally helpful, or one might be more helpful for you. I think they work well together though.

    • @Dowlphin
      @Dowlphin 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What I don't like about stoicism is the slight smell of nihilism and selfishness.
      Stoicism seems like a prime candidate for tedtalkificated corruption. (If it would be corruption at all.)

  • @nurulkarim6525
    @nurulkarim6525 3 ปีที่แล้ว +948

    Loss is nothing but change, and change is nature's delight. - Marcus Aurelius.

    • @juddotto3660
      @juddotto3660 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      “I’m living everyday like a hustle, another drug to juggle. Another day, another struggle.” - Biggie Smalls

    • @stardestroyer6272
      @stardestroyer6272 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you, needed this.

    • @montacap
      @montacap 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Ok ok . I was raped as a child by my brother he refuses to even say he is sorry . what change should i feel the world had in mind for me ?I am working at fixing his mess he left for me at now 43 .

    • @randalbuhler9042
      @randalbuhler9042 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Truth

    • @nurulkarim6525
      @nurulkarim6525 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@montacap sorry to hear that

  • @ufoufo9182
    @ufoufo9182 3 ปีที่แล้ว +383

    "Dishonest, jealous and shameless people are part of this world... Is a world without shameless people possible?" I have to embrace this instead of being appalled or offended by it.

    • @meditationmusicvlogs7445
      @meditationmusicvlogs7445 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      so true .

    • @True38
      @True38 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@meditationmusicvlogs7445 so me indeed.

    • @True38
      @True38 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Lying and jealousy is definitely something I've always despised throughout my whole life but I don't think being shameless is bad. People who want you to feel ashamed are only using it as a power tool. When you let go of any shame that you have, your life will actually be much better and productive. It does not make you a bad person at all, yet everybody out there is trying to make you feel ashamed for everything like eating meat or whatnot. Fuck that shit! Live your life and do as you please. Feeling ashamed is good for noone.

    • @cellardoor199991
      @cellardoor199991 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It's the Yin/Yang of Life. Embrace the Dark. Trust me, I know. Gonna get a Yin/Yang for my next tattoo.

    • @genkiferal7178
      @genkiferal7178 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@True38 shame is usually used against others to control them. being shameless might just make you a bad ass. Depends on what you are doing, though. Directly harming others doesn't make you a bad ass - just bad and an ass.

  • @robertcronin6603
    @robertcronin6603 3 ปีที่แล้ว +282

    "For the mind that expects too much, life is continually at fault" ... excellent 👌

    • @sterix_gg
      @sterix_gg 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      So what classifies as too much then I think is the question? Obviously everyone would define that differently but how? How do we weigh an expectation to conclude whether it's too much or not? Somewhere I once heard that expectation equals desire+belief in the same place. If that is the case, then 90% of our expectations are actually just desires. Just us asking for things but not believing in the possibility of having them, hence the eventual disappointment. So I suppose the statement holds truth, sure - don't expect more than what you're able to believe in and you won't be disappointed. But how if not through aiming for more can we get more? How would one grow their faith if not by asking for more, although... we've already done plenty of asking... so I suppose it's time we focused on bolstering our faith, our ability to believe in the possibility of having what we want, whatever that may be. Because desire without belief is a contradicting state, one which feels anything but good.

    • @Dzanarika1
      @Dzanarika1 ปีที่แล้ว

      Entitlement comes to mind.

    • @beadnix
      @beadnix 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      💥

    • @Dowlphin
      @Dowlphin 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The mind that expects very little might be the cause for the cynicism we observe.

  • @Dacademeca
    @Dacademeca 3 ปีที่แล้ว +507

    "The universe is change; our life is what our thoughts make it."
    - Marcus Aurelius

    • @montacap
      @montacap 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Really so my thoughts at 8 years old made my brother rape me now my thoughts told me if you want to keep alive shut down all memories . then at 20 i got married and found a man that did not want to hurt me . That woke up the beast called flashbacks which came with rage blinding pain and decades of hate . But yes thoughts are what makes life happen . He was 17 I was 8 . When the flashbacks came I called him and told him he called me a liar mom told me she still loved her son . So I cut them all out . My rapist " brother " has found god and told him sorry but still has not told me sorry . My oldest brother is trying to get us together for a "family" reunion . Really ?

    • @georgebell9634
      @georgebell9634 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂😂😂

    • @JZGreengo
      @JZGreengo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @montacap I have a similar case of ptsd but we really did shape our memory loss by our thoughts and emotions by repressing them so we don’t hurt as much, there’s no drug out there can fix this kind of trauma, it’s time and better thoughts, the longer we spend hell bent on the event that caused us suffering the longer we continue to suffer, I’ve learned now to move on but I have little memory of life because I chose to let go of the past, at least I’m here to live and to improve and I live in the moment now, something I struggled with before

    • @sterix_gg
      @sterix_gg 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@JZGreengo Actually there is something like a drug, it's called Ayahuasca. It's considered the most powerful psychedelic known to man. Personally I'll be on my way to having that experience in a few months cuz no matter what I do and how much I improve, some way somehow I always revert back to the shitty thoughts that make me wanna kms... And sure, it's about thoughts and shit but one can't deny there are things buried inside so deep we may not even remember them and yet these things still control us and hence our lives.

    • @JZGreengo
      @JZGreengo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sterix_gg I get it but from my own experience, drugs do nothing, they just provide temporary relief

  • @PsychedelicActualization
    @PsychedelicActualization 3 ปีที่แล้ว +223

    Anticipation of pleasure is, in itself, a very considerable pleasure. And anticipation of pain is, in itself, a very considerable suffering. 👀

    • @100ghillie
      @100ghillie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I understand this deeply, looking forward to the bowl at the end of the day is better than the actual bowl at the end of the day.

    • @silentrotation6541
      @silentrotation6541 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Anticipation of pleasure leads to addiction because it sets in motion the expectation that the thing anticipated will automatically provide pleasure. Then we get the habit of thinking that pleasure absolutely depends on that external something.. and we give away our power to generate happiness by relaxing into the mind itself.

    • @100ghillie
      @100ghillie 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@silentrotation6541 yep I also understand intimately.

  • @saistrology
    @saistrology 2 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    When the harm started in your childhood, the journey to stop perceiving/feeling harm is long and arduous.

    • @dougwhiley4028
      @dougwhiley4028 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      As an adult I looked forward to leaving that pain behind. But I ran into new pain.

  • @she_wizzdom4410
    @she_wizzdom4410 2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Philosophy keeps me alive. It gives me perspective. It allows me to enjoy the worst days of my life. Philosophy is the food for spirit.

  • @dogsleddinginiowa
    @dogsleddinginiowa ปีที่แล้ว +91

    “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” - Marcus Aurelius

    • @favouritemusic8959
      @favouritemusic8959 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I really wish. Unfortunately words do hurt us.
      But thanks for reminding us of these aspirational words.

    • @Dowlphin
      @Dowlphin 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@favouritemusic8959
      _Sticks and stones are hard on bones._
      _Aimed with angry art,_
      _Words can sting like anything._
      _But silence breaks the heart._
      - Phyllis McGinley

  • @cmcn1434
    @cmcn1434 3 ปีที่แล้ว +195

    When I was younger I accepted any treatment I received from anyone. The moment I believed I deserved to be treated better endless amounts of suffering entered my life. You can try to avoid some misfortune by surrounding yourself with people that will likely respect you but that isn’t a guarantee that they will and the general population will still treat you as they see fit. Now that I accept that how people treat me is their right and just a reflection of who they are not who I am I do feel more at ease.

    • @PersephoneRising333
      @PersephoneRising333 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      🙏

    • @lindaschultz7900
      @lindaschultz7900 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      But if we are attacked by someone, they still have to pay the price by going to jail. I guess the tutorial is just about how to accept the pain of what happened and not dwell on it.

    • @ruthshere9468
      @ruthshere9468 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      this is very interesting.
      if you look for your happiness from things ouside of you, you will not find it.
      my hope for you is you learn to build your world as you see fit.

    • @paige172
      @paige172 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      thanks, gonna apply this to my life. :)

    • @pikabiga
      @pikabiga 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      🙌🙌 going through this now, and came to the same conclusion. I deserve to be happy, and if anyone else has a problem with it, that’s their issue, not mine. No matter who they are to me, if they cannot respect my wishes, it is not my problem

  • @beatleme2
    @beatleme2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    Pain is a moment - suffering is a story

    • @Dowlphin
      @Dowlphin 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You are applying different standards. Pain can span time as stories can. Pain over time is already a story.
      *Suffering is pain resisted.* - It doesn't need a time function. The moment you are experiencing pain, you can suffer through resistance in that moment.

  • @va_esiahvi
    @va_esiahvi ปีที่แล้ว +45

    I am diagnosed with PTSD years ago, and I've stopped getting treatment because I don't feel any better and instead I tried walking and spending more time on nature. I stayed at a countryside in the Philippines for almost 6months, slowly and slowly I found my peace and I realized that the person inside this skull is different from the person outside of it; so slowly I tried controlling my thoughts by meditating and taking a long walks to the hill, and picking woods on my wayback, (I didn't just find peace I also have a wood to cook my meals and keep me warm 😂) that's how and what I did to get sane, to take control over my thoughts and mind.

    • @bennyheadofthechairmen8808
      @bennyheadofthechairmen8808 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Sounds tranquil

    • @dougwhiley4028
      @dougwhiley4028 ปีที่แล้ว

      I problem with therapy is that you are encouraged to re live trauma. That keeps the trauma fresh.

    • @urbanwolfep7195
      @urbanwolfep7195 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Nature walks help me as well.

  • @FutureMindset
    @FutureMindset 3 ปีที่แล้ว +465

    The most insightful technique marcus aurelius taught is negative visualization. It's in your ability to imagine the worst possible scenario and accept it that we'll then be able to live as true stoics.

    • @southernsoul152
      @southernsoul152 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      🙏🏽 I needed to read this just now. Thank you for sharing 🌻

    • @fujimuto4277
      @fujimuto4277 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Would this be a kind of shadow work?
      I am just starting to really learn how to use spirituality not just for discovering the transcendent dimension within me but also use this capacity to help my poisonous or cancerous tendencies to evolve.
      So it seems like the concept of shadow work is that practical part that I was searching for in all the awakening teachings. I would really appreciate it if some of you guys could talk about this and their experience of embodying awakening and evolving.

    • @daniel-zh9nj6yn6y
      @daniel-zh9nj6yn6y 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Samurais did that too.

    • @tempesnyder6243
      @tempesnyder6243 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It sounds fascinating! I am going to look that up and learn how it is done! I am good at blaming and judging, perhaps this will help me get those things under control.

    • @FutureMindset
      @FutureMindset 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@fujimuto4277 To be honest, I don't really think it's a spiritual thing. It's just a matter of imagining the worst possible fate so that you're prepared for it and aren't caught off guard.

  • @ReynaSingh
    @ReynaSingh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +304

    Relinquish expectations is necessary to avoid pain and suffering. We’ve become too attached to comfort anyhow

    • @jesse6029
      @jesse6029 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Good point , my Punjabi sister

    • @Felipe-zl1rj
      @Felipe-zl1rj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      True, but so so so hard

    • @yahona3
      @yahona3 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      How is that not "losing hope"?

    • @pohfattpatrickchang4448
      @pohfattpatrickchang4448 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jesse6029 qq

    • @mateor7302
      @mateor7302 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      So true!

  • @halaenahurisse7799
    @halaenahurisse7799 3 ปีที่แล้ว +108

    "Stoicism is a great practice because it helps us to accept everything that is happening around us and have an abundance mindset"

    • @yamum6498
      @yamum6498 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      it really isn't, it's self destructive as a growth philosophy. ( good idea, bad in practice in all aspects of daily life)

    • @Bobin10101
      @Bobin10101 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@yamum6498 ok “Ya Mum” I’ll take your philosophical advice. What would you offer as an alternative?

    • @yamum6498
      @yamum6498 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Bobin10101 Do drugs

    • @husseinmoussa2947
      @husseinmoussa2947 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@yamum6498 And why did it help marcus an emperor? And what alternative do you have?

    • @yamum6498
      @yamum6498 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@husseinmoussa2947 Alternative: make up your own mind.

  • @PsychedelicActualization
    @PsychedelicActualization 3 ปีที่แล้ว +140

    "Fear is pain arising from the anticipation of evil." ~ Aristotle 🙏🏽♥️

    • @naturesfinest2408
      @naturesfinest2408 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @Auhuhhuu being attacked or killed by a grizzly bear is an "evil". Your not giving the quote its fair due.

    • @kharatoh7638
      @kharatoh7638 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Auhuhhuu Would you call yourself getting mauled by a bear a good then? If not, then point proven. The act of the bear attacking you is evil/bad for you, the bear itself is not.

    • @thawnesrevenge5249
      @thawnesrevenge5249 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Auhuhhuu in can be in relation to man. Aristotle was most likely smart enough to differentiate nature from the capability of evil. Your own example is keeping you from other perspectives of the words

  • @vicentecarneiro4985
    @vicentecarneiro4985 2 ปีที่แล้ว +170

    #1 Your content is A+
    #2 Your breakdowns are superb
    #3 The background music is a perfrct fit
    #4 Last but not the least,
    Your voice and the way you speak in these videos, bro it's like everything is right and blended just perfectly.

    •  2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Thank you very much for your compliment!

    • @indiraghai7972
      @indiraghai7972 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      True

    • @creativelady7
      @creativelady7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Yes, you are so right. I hear it all the same way! I hope he keeps it going like this.

    • @kylelevasseur5789
      @kylelevasseur5789 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well said

    • @Dowlphin
      @Dowlphin 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @ Why are you getting so invested over a compliment? 😉 Shouldn't you be equally excited about hatred coming your way? 😉

  • @Diana-gt1rv
    @Diana-gt1rv 3 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    “Choose not to be harmed, and you won’t feel harmed.” I really like this stoic prospective.

  • @elsquibbs
    @elsquibbs 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    It took me forever to realize that regardless of how I wanted individual situations to work out, my wishes were irrelevant. Things happen as they should. It also took me forever to realize that all of those outcomes lead me to exactly where I am now, so I'm glad things happened as they did instead of how I wanted at the time.

  • @spiritualanarchist8162
    @spiritualanarchist8162 3 ปีที่แล้ว +145

    And let's not forget this in't about toothache or a mild depression. This was written by a soldier, in an age without modern medicine. Pain, sickness and loss were a daily part of life those days.

    • @georgebell9634
      @georgebell9634 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You can experience he did today with modern medicine

    • @paige172
      @paige172 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      you forgot to mention brutal forms of torture.

    • @spiritualanarchist8162
      @spiritualanarchist8162 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@paige172 torture rape and death. Those good old times hey 😅

    • @yamum6498
      @yamum6498 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      it wasn't written at all, just a past presentation of an afterthought of a man just as special as you or i.

    • @spiritualanarchist8162
      @spiritualanarchist8162 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@yamum6498 yep, a Roman emperor, with total power over everyone and everything, yet being able not letting that power corrupt him , but living the life of a stoic instead ..Just like you or i . Nothing special hey ?

  • @jenna2431
    @jenna2431 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    This is exactly what I've been saying for over a year especially: Stop believing everything dang thing you think.

  • @rebelpoxy
    @rebelpoxy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    "Keep your expectations low and you'll never be disappointed" -Kratos

    • @lgr6709
      @lgr6709 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      * "You have to have high aspirations, moderate expectations and small needs" * -William Howard Stein.

  • @snorunge591
    @snorunge591 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Bro i started watching ur "self hate" video to help my girlfriend and now i listen to you 24/7... even in class, lunch, on the bus.... ur voice is just so calm and it makes me calm

  • @shaonic
    @shaonic 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    You have made me realize the error of my ways... I tried to change the world and in turn let it change me....

  • @KlaxontheImpailr
    @KlaxontheImpailr 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Watching this, it felt like there was a giant wrench in my brain turning a rusty bolt and releasing some great tension in me. I actually feel at peace.

    • @she_wizzdom4410
      @she_wizzdom4410 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ah that was a deeply satisfying analogy

    • @aw7331
      @aw7331 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Beautiful Eric

    • @KlaxontheImpailr
      @KlaxontheImpailr ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@aw7331 thank you! 🥹❤️👍🏻
      It’s always difficult for me to describe what’s going on in my head, especially since I’m on the spectrum. So whenever I do manage to express myself correctly it feels miraculous.

  • @normalman8447
    @normalman8447 3 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    I'm reading Stoicism for inner peace. It's a freaking masterpiece, man, congratulations 😋

  • @1jotun136
    @1jotun136 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Finally fully embracing Buddhist non attachment has freed me from so much.

    • @MsGechi77
      @MsGechi77 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same.

    • @Mugairyuiai
      @Mugairyuiai 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      So now you are attached to non- attachment😬

    • @1jotun136
      @1jotun136 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Mugairyuiai not really. I know that even at my age, I can still waver and give too much attention to things outside of my control.

  • @benmcreynolds8581
    @benmcreynolds8581 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    This is the art form I am trying to practice the most. To be in a chaotic room, filled with people, but internally being at peace. Contentment is true happiness 🤘 heaven isn't something someone else can give, it's all inside of you

  • @gareget
    @gareget 3 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    "The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane." - Marcus Aurelius

    • @Esmeralda-gt6uf
      @Esmeralda-gt6uf 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      If governments were sincere in wanting to save money, they would build asylums for the sane rather than for the demented.

    • @she_wizzdom4410
      @she_wizzdom4410 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Esmeralda-gt6uf everyone is demented. Most demented are those who appear the most ‘normal’.

    • @pits7035
      @pits7035 ปีที่แล้ว

      That's for sure

  • @ShogunOrta
    @ShogunOrta 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    It is not that you are harmed and feel nothing, that would be psychotic. Its the level to which you let that harm dictate things upon receiving it. Rememeber, you are still capable of so much, no matter what happens. Imagination is alwats what frees us.

  • @robyndawn
    @robyndawn 3 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    You can feel that way and tell yourself that but if the trauma is serious it may build into a breakdown and become worse later than it originally would have been. In my experience processing it healthier than choosing to not be harmed.

    • @jepsen1977
      @jepsen1977 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's the paradox isn't it?

    • @robyndawn
      @robyndawn 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@jepsen1977 hmm, I'm not sure. That's just my experience in "choosing to not be harmed".

    • @incanthatus8182
      @incanthatus8182 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yeah, it's a kinda fine line between acceptance and victim blaming.
      If people who went through certain circumstances experience the same kind of problems afterwards, is it really a problem of those people's minds?
      I think it's good to work on both, getting more resilient, but also changing the circumstances when possible

    • @robyndawn
      @robyndawn 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@incanthatus8182 good point. I use to feel really ashamed from victim blaming from Christianity and even new ageism or secular people with no experience of what I deal with that its just mind over matter. This would have had the same affect but I'm numb to it now and keep those people at a distance. I just accept health issues and being an hsp isn't always a choice. Perhaps that's the best I can do not to be harmed. Interesting topic.

    • @dockcom
      @dockcom 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sometimes to got ta scream and shout let it all out

  • @annabellacrewe8858
    @annabellacrewe8858 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Accepting the unacceptable is a very difficult task, because we are human beeings ! Thank You Marcus and Einzelg - as gold to ones soul !

  • @ronprice1819
    @ronprice1819 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    In some degree this goes for aging, sickness, diet, lifestyles... If you worry about something it will grow. Of you forget or give no attention to something it will usually shrink. I have been thinking of this in terms of how some people can live as drug addicted , homeless, thieves. Yet seem to live such a destructive life for years without much visible effect. I have come to feel that atleast a good portion of these people exist in this way because they do not have shame of it. And in alot of ways actually enjoy what they do. But the addicts who hate themselves and feel ashamed, alot of this type will deteriorate quickly.

  • @froggo7215
    @froggo7215 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Exactly at one of the toughest days in my life this channel was recommended to me and saved my life. You are a blessing to the world for making these videos

  • @ICEcoldJT
    @ICEcoldJT 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    “Can’t Hurt Me” - David Goggins

  • @neo6657
    @neo6657 3 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Can't tell you how good the timing of this video was.
    You are doing an amazing work, sir.
    Keep this up!

  • @Dan_Ben_Michael
    @Dan_Ben_Michael 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I try to be a stoic and it does help me in times of crisis. I come from a family of perennial worriers and that would also explain the predisposition towards heart disease and suicide which also runs in my family. Reading philosophy and meditation has helped me get through things which would’ve broken me before. I guess you just have to learn to let go and be as least resistant to things and go with the flow.

  • @marshaalison1569
    @marshaalison1569 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I need to watch this every day! I can accept some things that I can’t control, but my mind is still bothered when people close to me, like family, intentionally cause harm. If a stranger insults me, it’s easy to shrug it off. But when a family member rips me off financially, for example, it gets to me. I have to accept that some people are shameless, and sometimes those people will be family members.

  • @rob4631
    @rob4631 2 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    "Can't touch this" - MC Hammer

  • @pyamju7419
    @pyamju7419 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Just a little share: I feel like I've been summoned to watch this SKKSKS I was abt to sleep, exhausted from crying, feeling very much unarmed of knowledge and skills which made me felt I could be harmed and intimidated anytime. I thank you very much for this! Such a big help! 😭❤️❤️

    • @anthonyhoward4743
      @anthonyhoward4743 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      stay strong.

    • @pyamju7419
      @pyamju7419 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@anthonyhoward4743 thank u so much ლ !!

    • @pyamju7419
      @pyamju7419 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Ali It's Nishiki from Donten ni Warau series! :)

    • @anthonyhoward4743
      @anthonyhoward4743 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@pyamju7419 and never forget you are not alone. last year I was at the end of my rope and I got talking to someone online She really helped me and I think I helped Her when Her partner was away. If you ever need someone to talk with, at etc just get in touch.

    • @arongardner4689
      @arongardner4689 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I feel exactly the same way. Tonigh I learned I am not alone. Thanks to everyone here for sharing your feelings.

  • @Donecece
    @Donecece ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your videos helps me move forward after a heartbreak, almost a breakdown

  • @newuser689
    @newuser689 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Writing an essay on Marcus Aurelius meditations, this came out at the perfect time!

  • @OYOKO
    @OYOKO 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Love the phrase “the mind is the ruler of the soul” and how suffering is optional. I guess the question is, how we can control our minds instead of the other way round. I enjoy watching your videos!

    • @Esmeralda-gt6uf
      @Esmeralda-gt6uf 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We may do this by thinking and by thinking about our thoughts.

  • @violet156
    @violet156 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Your best video yet! Listened to it on repeat 6-7x! so much here, don’t expect the impossible, it’s not possible to only have good fortune. You are doing a great service by making these videos!

  • @crashmer
    @crashmer 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    No one chooses suffering it's a reaction of a complex set of circumstances. You do the best you can to understand it, the learning is the freedom.

    • @yetidodger6650
      @yetidodger6650 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Subconsciously people choose to suffer.

  • @michaeldetroit.8125
    @michaeldetroit.8125 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    “Resisting adversity and pain, but it’s part of the game of life” yes, indeed. How dare I expect no significant pain, anguish and adversity. It hurts man, real bad. Enduring and moving on, with inner strength and conviction, let us endure.
    As John Lennon sang, play the game of existence to the end…

  • @MichaelTMoore
    @MichaelTMoore 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    "Meditations" of Marcus Aurelius is one of few books that I'd feel lost in my life without..

  • @metamorphosis_77
    @metamorphosis_77 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Individuals can act in any way they find plausible, and this allows them to accrue benefits or suffer costs, depending on the circumstances.
    The responsibility that our actions necessitate is the only true weapon we can exploit in order to antagonize the nefariousness of the world around us.
    Marcus Aurelius realized the power of that weapon and that helped him become an exemplary emperor despite adversity and despite his weaknesses. That is what makes him a respectful example for all of us.

  • @dgexpressllc7450
    @dgexpressllc7450 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My life experience with "good" and "bad" pain is especially true for pregnancy. I noticed that women who treat their pregnancy as an illness have the hardest pregnancy while those women who understand that pregnancy is a natural process that comes with discomfort and extreme pain in labor but for the best outcome (beautiful blessing baby), have the best pregnancy.

  • @magicalsimmy
    @magicalsimmy 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    There are times in my life where I have consciously made myself upset about something that I felt, for a brief moment, that I could have chosen to not be upset about. There are times I have been genuinely upset (lack of sleep, an already bag day and other factors play roles), but I can remember a few occasions where being upset was a choice, or being upset later upon ruminating about it became a choice.
    It’s easy now, in the late hours of night when I am relaxed, to tell myself I can choose differently in the future, and sometimes on good days, I do, and it does get easier the more I do it.
    I cherish the days I am able to choose not to be upset over injustices, unfairness and entitled people trying to take advantage of me, and with practice, I look forward to being able to say “No” and eventually not be bothered when someone starts yelling at me because they refuse to hear my “No” and to just calmly repeat myself until they either give up trying to manipulate me or I choose to walk away from the conflict without trying to explain myself or people please. I eventually want to be able to say “no” to someone without leaving things open to negotiation or explaining myself, and if they get mad about that, to see it as their problem, not mine.

  • @malcolmajayi2073
    @malcolmajayi2073 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    "Can't hurt me " said David Goggins 😂

    • @MindVersusMisery
      @MindVersusMisery 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I don't know if Goggins have read stoic philosophy. But if he hasn't - and he has come to the same conclusion as people like Marcus Aurelius through introspection - that makes stoic philosophy ever more solid; like a more universal Truth. When a perspective survives over time and over cultural space, then - to me - it seems much more legit.

    • @nomorediets
      @nomorediets 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Exactly. 👍💪

    • @moenibus
      @moenibus 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      a con man, a fraud. don't bring him here.

  • @MathewsNunes
    @MathewsNunes ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Very good video. It has a long time that I don't feel so unanxious and relaxed as I'm now, after watching this video... Releasing my back from the load of "feeling harmed by other people's insult" really made me feel at ease.

  • @bluecaster
    @bluecaster 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Einzelganger, thank you TH-cam. This came at the right time.

  • @maddmaxxx37
    @maddmaxxx37 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Easier said than done. Most people have emotions and heart. It doesn't go away because of an idea. You can try to be "stoic" all you want but eventually you will snap.

    • @Dzanarika1
      @Dzanarika1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I think, it helps if we are aware of this concept. However, we have to choose our battles, daily. We cannot let everything bothers us as it is not good for our own sanity and well-being.

  • @matthewsanchez4047
    @matthewsanchez4047 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    🎶 Ain't never gonna break my stride, Ain't ever gonna
    Hold
    Me
    Down
    Oh No🎶
    I gotta keep on grooving🤟🏼

  • @bhoomikachaudhari1784
    @bhoomikachaudhari1784 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    So thankful for this channel! Always publishes time-worthy and knowledgeable content 💯🌟

  • @teonunez4734
    @teonunez4734 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I truly love how this channel explains these topics. I am so grateful for your work. Thanks for sharing the wisdom!

  • @zacharyfindlay-maddox171
    @zacharyfindlay-maddox171 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I had a mentally rough work week, and I stumbled across this, thank you.

  • @GamerSix66
    @GamerSix66 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Once again man, knocking it out of the park with these videos. You truly deserve recognition my friend

  • @rodka2334
    @rodka2334 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This change my life's perspective as a whole. I'm still wondering why you still haven't got 1 million subs, cause you're so really really good at doing these kinds of stuff and it's inspiring at the same time life changing. Much loveee.

  • @charbam9506
    @charbam9506 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much...your video is helping me get through a crime that would otherwise drive me crazy with anger and grief. You have loaded this with the best and most incisive teachings of Stoicism that can make a difference in shaping how one thinks about and then as a result, feels about difficult circumstances. I was seeking a reminder of these teachings and you gave it to me.

  • @dropremix635
    @dropremix635 ปีที่แล้ว

    I need to listen to this every morning. Thank you 🙌

  • @damianwong7503
    @damianwong7503 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thanks for your work. Your content is life-changing and brings much needed comfort and perspective into people’s lives.

  • @kraemo8473
    @kraemo8473 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Einzelgänger gives such great insight in his videos on life. It's stuff like this that inspires me to create videos on self growth as well. I wanted to say you are appreciated!

  • @jenniferlarson100
    @jenniferlarson100 ปีที่แล้ว

    This channel - and specifically this video - has changed my life for the better.

  • @yolanankaine6063
    @yolanankaine6063 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I will never stop seeking stoic wisdom.

  • @PraiseAra
    @PraiseAra ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Your content is changing my outlook on life for the better. Thank you

  • @shirokazama
    @shirokazama 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Following your channel for a long time. In the lockdown period I gained inspiration and rational insights. The studies you have done and the way you lay the different philosophies out, makes them easily understood and absorbed by the individual. I appreciate what you do, and I’m sure I am not the only one with this opinion. Just ordered your book mentioned here. Thanks! Cheers!

  • @myouounoanjii
    @myouounoanjii 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you, Einzel. Always appreciated.

  • @elodieleaf
    @elodieleaf ปีที่แล้ว

    Thankyou for your amazing channel🙏🏼💗it has helped me a lot. I am a wheelchair user due to illness. It took me a long time to surrender and accept. Now I am happier then ever and see the world and life in a whole new light, which I would not have had if I was healthy and able bodied❤️

  • @MrGreen-oi5ey
    @MrGreen-oi5ey 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    "The less baggage you carry, the more you realize this present moment has everything you need. So if living in the past brings you comfort then you are surely in the way of the Living."
    -My Understanding

    • @CT--jv2ur
      @CT--jv2ur 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Good words, good words.

    • @Esmeralda-gt6uf
      @Esmeralda-gt6uf 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      *Here and now is all there is.*

  • @cheesepuffs180love4
    @cheesepuffs180love4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hey. I just wanted to thank you so much for creating the things you do! Marcus Arelius Meditations is the best I’m going to buy a copy right now. Thank you❤️

  • @josemaridelrosario1183
    @josemaridelrosario1183 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are helping a lot of people, myself included. Thank you.

  • @genesisa.espina
    @genesisa.espina ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Einzelganger! This is total reconfiguration of my lens of view in the world 🙂

  • @Fair-to-Middling
    @Fair-to-Middling 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    2:10 Unfortunately, crashing waves eventually wear away the rock.

    • @yusufmurat150
      @yusufmurat150 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Take it as it is haha

    • @100ghillie
      @100ghillie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      And the rock goes from a roughness, void of uniformity and beauty (meaning),, to a smooth ideal only through the beating of waves (life)

    • @orionlleyessa1306
      @orionlleyessa1306 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      But the rock doesnt get upset about it.

  • @musicbeyondwithboushra
    @musicbeyondwithboushra 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    "The only real power we have is choosing our response. We can't choose what happens to us" _(Leila Janah)

  • @FancyRavenmoon
    @FancyRavenmoon 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you...that helped m so much today!!!!! Saving me from internal warfare!!!

  • @xXSKAVENXx
    @xXSKAVENXx 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    WISDOM LEVEL UPGRADED! THANKS!

  • @princesscrybaby9992
    @princesscrybaby9992 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Damn!!! I love your videos!! So inspiring and motivating. So much you can learn.

  • @loaddkz819
    @loaddkz819 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    It's good to see this channel grow, almost reaching a well-deserved million. Your vids really helped in my self-improvement journey so thank you 4 that

  • @SenseiTeachingOfficial
    @SenseiTeachingOfficial 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your videos are a light in the darkness of caothic human existent. Thank you so much for your work.

  • @MelGAbs953
    @MelGAbs953 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I've been listening to you for about 3yrs now, I guess. Thank you!

  • @abdiabdi1990
    @abdiabdi1990 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    How I’ve been thinking lately is I don’t deserve to feel hurt so I just choose not to be.

  • @BigAnt123456
    @BigAnt123456 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Amazing! Just finished your book Stoicism for Inner Peace.... such a great read! Thank you

    •  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you, and that’s great to hear.

    • @ajithsidhu7183
      @ajithsidhu7183 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @ please do one on how we can be like colour sergeant bourne in zulu please

    • @ajithsidhu7183
      @ajithsidhu7183 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @ please on how to build his traits ,character and stoicism

  • @moses4437
    @moses4437 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just what i needed. Definitely saving this. Thank you.

  • @juliavanrun-kilic1744
    @juliavanrun-kilic1744 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love your work! Thank you. Adversity has made me come out my comfort zone and I feel I have always come out stronger. But when you’re going through the motions, it is difficult and all sorts of emotions come up. This is part of being human. I have been called stoic in the past. I have found that I bottled up my emotions. It is a learning curve back to feeling. And then discovering that by feeling what I feel, I can let the emotion flow through me. And that allows me to let it go afterwards.... I had the epiphany two weeks ago, that whatever happens is in reality neutral. It is my interpretation of it that makes it into what I perceive it to be. I felt terrible about something, and my colleague told me she would love to experience what I was experiencing (working half days because of health issues). So that quite resonates with what you bring forward here. I couldn’t help noticing that Marcus Aurelius visibly already knew about cancer🤔.....which made me wonder....nevertheless the message is very interesting. Resistance =suffering. I am and have been experiencing that. Learning though...😌🥴.

  • @PsychedelicActualization
    @PsychedelicActualization 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    We live in the present. We only remember the past, and anticipate the future. 🙏🏽💕

  • @berbudy
    @berbudy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    That part about seeing beauty in the jaw of beast, maybe living on earth is just to learn the undeniable role of "evil" without being evil ourselves, like yin need yang to teach each others role. Doesn't mean we can't imagine a better world for human to minimize unnecessary suffering though.

  • @kerry1551
    @kerry1551 ปีที่แล้ว

    "End Quote" is just fantastic 👌 when you say.

  • @nehainthebay
    @nehainthebay 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Beautifully articulated as usual.
    Thank you for sharing the wisdom.

  • @tonijohnson09
    @tonijohnson09 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You have presented this idea in more ways than one and from different philosopher's perspective.
    It's not that I don't understand it or agree with it but when people rub me wrong I can't help but want to 🤬🤬🤬

  • @practisingthelawofnature2705
    @practisingthelawofnature2705 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship. -Buddha
    (morningfame)

  • @nancyhanscom1374
    @nancyhanscom1374 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    2023...so blessed these are being brought 🙏 to us again. They never get old.

  • @PressureTvReviews
    @PressureTvReviews 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love it when it's just the right time I see one of your videos. Very inspiring. I needed this.

  • @adamswierczynski
    @adamswierczynski 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Dissociation will create more disease. If Marcus Aurelius wants us to be like a rock the water crashes on, we are left broken down into sand over a lifetime. The Tao teaches us it is best to "be like water."
    Taking on the shape of the circumstances we are within allows proper reaction and response to those circumstances. If the container becomes hot, so does the water. If the container becomes cold, so dies the water. Water takes the path of least resistance and adapts instantly. Only when we fail to adapt to the current circumstance are we suffering. Life may call us to anger or sadness in one moment, and this is to our benefit. Anger can provide the energy to overcome adversity. Sadness can allow us to accept closure.
    When someone remains stuck in a holding pattern of a circumstance which is no longer relevant, this is the same exact suffering as failing to adapt to the current circumstance.
    Feel everything, for there is wisdom to be found in every experience.

    • @boadicea5856
      @boadicea5856 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻❣️