Excellent video, James! Nowadays it is very easy to base our personalities on a character or influencer, and this ends up distancing us from what it really means to be a gentleman. Congratulations on taking a stand on this matter.
James, one of the old timers here (60) who has been admiring your work on this channel. You create great, helpful content for your generation, but this video is hand down the best you've ever done, and it comes at a critical time. Way too many young men are utterly confused by all the toxic messaging spewed at them by "social media." Thank you for doing this.
Great vid J. At one point in my life, I realized that Robert B. Parker, Stephen Hunter,and others,had lied to me about what masculinity looks like. A more authentic masculinity is based on being capable and competent,while possessing character and compassion.
It's interesting that you mention novelists as sources for your ideals of masculinity. I don't hear that often. Were they more influential to you than movies or TV shows?
@Gent.Z Yes. They were far more influential. Possibly because with movies and TV shows,you may identify with the character,but you're outside of them, at a remove. With novels,you're inside of their head, sharing their thoughts,emotions,and experiences.
Made the mistake today of dining inside a McDonalds, first time in over 20 years doing so. The next table over were two men of senior years, and the foul language and loutish behavior, of someone who should have been raised in a time where you were taught to behave better than that in public. Needless to say I quickly moved tables and gave them there space. My father taught me from a young age what makes a man a gentleman, unfortunately I don't see much of the gentleman in the American male today. I'm so glad there are young men like yourself and others trying to educate young men today in how to be a gentlemen. Keep up the good work.
Thank you for speaking about not requiring religion to be a gentleman. Despite my name, I'm an atheist. However, I refuse to judge others for their religious views (or lack thereof), so long as they don't push those views on others and/or use them as an excuse to be jerks towards marginalized communities. Happy belated Thanksgiving, James. I'm thankful for you and your informative videos.
How about being comfortable with yourself. Having the ability to laugh at oneself. Don't take yourself too seriously and have the ability make improvements when necessary.
You're alright with me. The bible was recommended to me by an atheist; gave me the best recommendation for that book I have ever heard. Many years ago. 🍻🍻
James... this is an EXCELLENT video. I would add that interesting, intelligent desirable gals of style and taste definitely know the difference between a poser male and a real man...a gentleman.
Alcohol,and smoking are awful habits,and an unhealthy habit. When I was a young girl in the seventies,most men smoked,luckily I never,ever even tried to smoke. What put me of,about todays young,and older men,girls,and women , is that you rarely see somebody without tattoos, there is no such thing as a tasteful tattoo,they are all taboo. Most young girls ,the one's with all the tattoos, will regret it in the future. A man full of tattoos can never look like a gentleman.
I have to respectfully disagree with you on tattoos. I do not have any and find women without them, generally, more attractive. However, even Sean Connery had a tattoo, so I don't think it's impossible to look like a gentleman with a tattoo. There are also plenty of older people who like their tattoos and have no regrets.
Again thank you for posting this kind of content. I don’t drink because I have two alcoholic parents and I found out very young I had an issue. I am in my 40s and I am learning new things from you every day
In my opinion I think I real gentleman is man of honour & who lives by a code Man who provides and protects ones he loves & is always there for you no matter what As my grandfather said to me Real gentleman doesn’t ned to tell you he is good but if he is good people will talk about his reputation on his behalf
I just wanted to say thank you for making your this video. To see a self-improvement influencer dispel unhealthy stereotypes and care about their audiences’ wellbeing is extremely refreshing. As a young man trying to figure out alcohol, especially in social situations, your video removed a good bit of pressure from me. Additionally, dispelling the stereotypes perpetuated by those like the Tate brothers about having to be arrogant and stoic is so great to see. Finally, even as a religious man myself, I have come to dislike how religion has been linked to self-improvement. To see influencers constantly change religions simply as an attempt to stay relevant is sickening to me. Thank you for your commentary on all these myths again, it is great to see an influencer who is aware and cares of the imagery they use and message they send.
This is far and away the best video you've made, and shows you are a true individual, rather than a follower. I see many comments from men my age or older saying the same thing. My finding your channel was kind of a happy accident. At 54 years old, I obviously don't follow your channel for advice. In fact, much of the advice you impart to young viewers of your channel seems glaringly obvious to most men my age. But it probably wasn't until around age 27 that it fully sunk in. I would imagine it will be the same for Gen Z. A fellow viewer gave a one word answer to what he thought a gentleman was. That word was "Capable". As I stated in the comments below, I think "Respect" is more apt. Starting with Self-Respect. The other word I would use is Responsibility. Men in the United States are constantly screaming about their "freedom". But without respect and responsibility, true freedom is not possible.
Thank you, Joseph. With my channel, I don't claim to hold any secrets or the gospel truth. I think most of what I say is common sense. But for my generation, common sense and self-respect can go a long way.
@@Gent.Z Agreed. I think there are truths to be found in all religions. I respect other people's beliefs, and their personal search for truth, and do not think belittling the truths they have found is productive or respectful. But there is an addendum to that point. No respectful gentlemen should presume he knows what is better for others. It is fine to share the truths you have found, and it may even lead to great discussions, but when you must forcefully push those ideas on others, it means your argument probably wasn't a good one to begin with.
Some "drinks" have beautiful taste when used in some cooking or baked goods. Natural real rum used to make rum balls, or rum cake, or a small amount of brandy in the thin layer of cherries at the base of a fancy torte/cake makes it magnificent. Its not a North American style cake, so maybe people reading this don't know it. Also a small amount of fine quality red wine with a spot of cheese, or a small amount of Mosel Riesling white with an occasional Sunday dinner can be luxurious option to choose occasionally, not a dependency, and far from getting drunk.
Getting sloppy isn’t a good look on anybody. Dependance isn’t healthy, and can be hurtful for a man’s loved ones. That being said, many men can decompress after work with some drinks before dinner and not have it be a thing that becomes a problem. It’s best not to push one’s morals or onto others. But if you have a close friend with a drinking problem, you might want to consider how real friends look out for one-another. A considerate & compassionate talk might be in order.
@@miahconnell23 Right on. I used to be absolute avoider of 'drinks' for many years and that extreme wasn't good, I was a mess. I realized that pure & complete and permanent avoidance can actually be a Neurotic-Defence-Mechanism (NDM) to prevent loss of control of thoughts & feelings and even circumstances. Its good to take a break occasionally, as I mentioned, an *occasional* Sunday dinner for example (NOT every weekend). IF _ya FEEL like ya NEED a drink,_ THEN do _NOT_ have ONE. On rare occasions, allow yourself to flip a coin on having one, Never depend on it for any purpose, and keep moderation in both directions, YOU be the boss, not your needs or desires. And I mentioned, it can be a nice taste touch in some fine baked items, way below inebriation levels of course.
I'm a total music nerd and about 99,9% of artists I listen to are male. I swear if they were all suppressing their emotions, we wouldn't have all the awesome music we do
Ian Fleming tried,and failed,at several careers before finding success. Perhaps,because of this, the literary James Bond,has a much more realistic,relateable,and achievable masculinity,than his Superman-like cinematic counterpart. The best lesson from literary Bond, is to be resilient. Life is hard. Life is unfair. But a man learns how to bounce back. How to keep moving forwards. And the rewards will come.
Yes, the literary Bond is a much more warts-and-all figure than the superhero you see on screen. I encourage most young men to read those books. Fleming was a great novelist.
@Gent.Z I agree James. His Bond-blueprint of competitive academics,competitive sports, military service,and civil service, are a good foundation for a young man. Especially the crucial 18 to 24 period. When you're still figuring things out.
Older gentleman here. Quit the booze sooner rather than later. It gives you nothing. Once you get used to enjoying yourself without it you will never miss it. Hit the gym. Read books. Have coffee with good friends. Applies to marijuana as well.
While it's not ok to force vices like smoke or drink on to others, those who choose it will find a lot of social aspects to those habitats. A gentleman or anyone in general must see them as Hobbys instead of a Vice.There is a great deal of discipline to learn to enjoy those things properly, drinking until you're "wasted" or chain smoking are examples of bad discipline. I don't really drink but I've been a pipe smoker for 10 years now, and it's been a very difficult hobby to master because there are many steps that have to be executed correctly for the best experience. I am very happy I took the journey, and I've met many wonderful people along the way even though it's considered a "dying art"
5:44 "It is much more of a masculine trait to lend a hand to those on their way up rather than kick them back down the ladder". Am gonna post this quote.
There is so much content out there that has first perpetuated the myths you describe, before posting a rebuttal some months later. This has always seemed to me to be the TH-camr equivalent of the person who burned your house down giving you fire safety tips.
Great video,enjoyed it,I dont drink,smoke,do tattoos or take drugs.I enjoy finer things in life,books,non alcoholic wine, conversation,travel,martial arts,gym,walks with my family etc.My late dad was a gentleman in the clasdic sense although he drank and smoked.
Made the mistake of dining in a high end restaurant today. Young couple insisted on dining there with two young children who ran around, made noise all the while the couple pretended not to notice or hear. THEY should have sucked it and took their brats to McDonalds. I’ll take older men talking like sailors at McDonalds than having to endure other people’s brats at a high end restaurant.
Smoking and drinking are just like crack and heroin... addictive crutches for the weak willed who cannot deal with life as it is. As someone who was raised by an alcoholic father, Jeckyl and Hyde is a very real analogy.
2:05 drinking and masculinity isn't the same. I am almost 22 and have never taken the single sip of alcohol in my life and am not planning to do any drinking in my life. And yeah i don't have 20-30 friends but I'm sure I have valuable connections and bonds with people (Pardon my english, it isn't my first language)
Sho Idk if I rlly can like talk as a girl but like As a Christian, if ur a gentleman it doesn't mean your religious, and if your religious doesn't mean your a gentleman
I think Mr.Craig played a character as 007 .role of what a true man should be Although I do love Christian Tate sharp dressing. However I think cigar makes him less elegant
There are several modern problems: 1) Malignization of masculinity by modern society. 2) Modern women turned into narcissists because of social media overvalidation. 3) Red Pill reactionary philosphy that was born to the first two and is sadly mostly represented by the very men you critique. 4) Modern young men just losing hope, dire times weren't so dire in the past because God is the source of Hope, Love and Faith.
If you have to "act" a certain way.... if you have to try to be "something" you think makes you a person you imagine.... you are just ACTING! Playing make believe. Never "go along". Be YOU! Also...in the last few years it seams being a rude, obnoxious asshole is being equated with "manliness" . No! You're just being rude! Again, be you. If you don't like to drink, don't. If you're with a group of friends who question that or look at you as "lesser" because you don't, THAT is red flag! Find new friends because those aren't. This is where the whole "having confidence" James talks about in videos he posts. Having the confidence to be who you are, all the time, everywhere you are. It is very easy to do when you grow up.
Does anybody have any tips or knowledge on becoming better at communicating emotions or thoughts to others? It's one of my lacking points and it negatively affects my relationships with other people sometimes.
I can see it acutely increasing testosterone but can also see it increasing your cortisol levels, on a long enough time frame they would probably cancel each other out. Im not knocking smoking, the occasional smoke is very relaxing, each man can decide what/how he wants to consume.
Another masculinity myth you should talk about is the way Andrew-Tatists view women & promote their narrow mindedness as peak masculinity. Objectifying women, gloating over your sexual conquests & constantly complaining about almost every thing related to women is a very ungentlemanly behaviour. The harder Tate tries to be an alpha the more he comes out as an incel. Infact he is an antithesis of a gentleman.
Whether you are religious or not, the bible provides the best framework for masculinity. Jesus was able to perform miracles but humble, kind but not naive, understanding yet firm. I prefer "alpha bros" to simps but Jesus is the best role model and is the most balanced.
I would say the teachings of Jesus over "The Bible". There are a lot of bad examples of morality in the Bible. Including slavery, incest, and death by stoning to name of few. Then there's that wacky time in Revelations where the Arch-Angel Gabrielle descends from the heavens riding a dragon. To a modern man, many of the morality lessons the Bible teaches are unfortunately bad ones. While that doesn't mean you just chuck it out the window--all orthodox religions contain some fundamental truths -- the Bible was written 2000 years ago by men who didn't understand the nature of the Universe. But they did their best to explain it. Oftentimes failing miserably.
You can certainly learn from religious teachings and religious figures like Jesus even if you don't fully align yourself with that particular religion.
It's usually reserved for certain archetypes like tradesmen or other manly blue collar jobs like truckers, guys who ride chopper bikes, etc. If you dont fit in either of those categories it looks tacky.
It's a bad take, but as a man of god it doesn't make me want to be an atheist. But I respect atheists as gentlemen just the same as I do religious people as gentlemen
As an atheist I certainly agree that one does not need to be religious to be a gentleman. There are many people who purport to be religious and act completely vile. The worst offenders are those who use their religion as an excuse to be cruel to others.
James - let me know if you are interested in visiting the “Basic School, at Camp Barrett, Marine Corps Base Quantico, Virginia. You will meet hundreds of gentlemen. Officers and Gentlemen; as well as female Marine Corps Officers who are ladies. Tough, yet gentle. Hard, yet compassionate. Young 2nd Lieutenants learning how to lead infantry platoons, while learning proper etiquette, to include how to eat with a knife and fork, and how to host a proper party +++ Signed, Lieutenant Colonel, USMC (Retired) now a lowly marketing executive
Re. booze. For some it is in for a penny, in for a pound. For others, they can easily stop at, say, two beers and do so as easily as stopping at two glasses of water after coming in from mowing the lawn on a hot day. So, know your weaknesses and then do your daily utmost to kick the devil to the curb.
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I am a 78-year-old woman who has not met a gentleman in many years. Your videos give me hope for the coming generations. Excellent work.
great words ❤
Thanks very much for your kind words
maybe travel and go to other countries. you may see more gentle men overseas
@@lukmanalghdamsi3189 obviously because most countries in the world are religious and so there are real men there
Masculinity in one word: Capable
Providing, protecting, nurturing, problem solving, communicating and so much more.
I agree
I see that Donald Trump has all that
I would have gone with: Respect
Bro quit glazing 😂
@@hktan-ll3vv since when?
Excellent video, James! Nowadays it is very easy to base our personalities on a character or influencer, and this ends up distancing us from what it really means to be a gentleman. Congratulations on taking a stand on this matter.
James, one of the old timers here (60) who has been admiring your work on this channel. You create great, helpful content for your generation, but this video is hand down the best you've ever done, and it comes at a critical time. Way too many young men are utterly confused by all the toxic messaging spewed at them by "social media." Thank you for doing this.
Thank you very much, Scott. I greatly appreciate it.
This is my favorite video of yours. The best one yet.
Thank you
Great commentary in this one. Love it! One of my favorites so far.
It’s good to see a non-religious man be so polite about religion and makes it more enjoyable that you aren’t bias 👌
Great vid J.
At one point in my life,
I realized that Robert B. Parker,
Stephen Hunter,and others,had lied to me about what masculinity looks like.
A more authentic masculinity is based on being capable and competent,while possessing character and compassion.
It's interesting that you mention novelists as sources for your ideals of masculinity. I don't hear that often. Were they more influential to you than movies or TV shows?
@Gent.Z
Yes. They were far more influential.
Possibly because with movies and TV shows,you may identify with the character,but you're outside of them,
at a remove.
With novels,you're inside of their head,
sharing their thoughts,emotions,and experiences.
Made the mistake today of dining inside a McDonalds, first time in over 20 years doing so. The next table over were two men of senior years, and the foul language and loutish behavior, of someone who should have been raised in a time where you were taught to behave better than that in public. Needless to say I quickly moved tables and gave them there space. My father taught me from a young age what makes a man a gentleman, unfortunately I don't see much of the gentleman in the American male today. I'm so glad there are young men like yourself and others trying to educate young men today in how to be a gentlemen. Keep up the good work.
😮
Thank you for speaking about not requiring religion to be a gentleman. Despite my name, I'm an atheist. However, I refuse to judge others for their religious views (or lack thereof), so long as they don't push those views on others and/or use them as an excuse to be jerks towards marginalized communities. Happy belated Thanksgiving, James. I'm thankful for you and your informative videos.
How about being comfortable with yourself. Having the ability to laugh at oneself. Don't take yourself too seriously and have the ability make improvements when necessary.
@@JanBoomgaarden-xl8xs I try to embody this principle as well.
You're alright with me. The bible was recommended to me by an atheist; gave me the best recommendation for that book I have ever heard. Many years ago. 🍻🍻
Thank you, Christian. I also refuse to judge others for their religious views, only their conduct. I hope you're having a great Thanksgiving weekend.
@Gent.Z You're most welcome. I'm having a fantastic Thanksgiving weekend. I hope you're having one as well!
James... this is an EXCELLENT video.
I would add that interesting, intelligent desirable gals of style and taste definitely know the difference between a poser male and a real man...a gentleman.
We do know the difference. 😉
Thank you very much. I agree. That's why the very name Tate is repellent to 99.9% of women.
Tate is definitely dis - tateful! I used to smoke three cigars a day and never disrespected women or children.
Thanks mate, Loved the video. I find it hard to find videos/content where they teach about true masculinity and being a gentleman.
Excellent presentation.Very interesting indeed.
Thank you, Rose
Alcohol,and smoking are awful habits,and an unhealthy habit. When I was a young girl in the seventies,most men smoked,luckily I never,ever even tried to smoke.
What put me of,about todays young,and older men,girls,and women , is that you rarely see somebody without tattoos, there is no such thing as a tasteful tattoo,they are all taboo. Most young girls ,the one's with all the tattoos, will regret it in the future. A man full of tattoos can never look like a gentleman.
I have to respectfully disagree with you on tattoos. I do not have any and find women without them, generally, more attractive. However, even Sean Connery had a tattoo, so I don't think it's impossible to look like a gentleman with a tattoo. There are also plenty of older people who like their tattoos and have no regrets.
Tattoos are so classless and look awful on anyone.
Again thank you for posting this kind of content. I don’t drink because I have two alcoholic parents and I found out very young I had an issue. I am in my 40s and I am learning new things from you every day
Kudos. You always do a great job with thorough explainable of your points. I consider myself a classic gentleman and appreciate your content.
Thank you very much, Curtis. Good to have you here.
In my opinion I think I real gentleman is man of honour & who lives by a code
Man who provides and protects ones he loves & is always there for you no matter what
As my grandfather said to me
Real gentleman doesn’t ned to tell you he is good but if he is good people will talk about his reputation on his behalf
Thanks for sharing your grandfather's words with us, Martin.
I just wanted to say thank you for making your this video. To see a self-improvement influencer dispel unhealthy stereotypes and care about their audiences’ wellbeing is extremely refreshing.
As a young man trying to figure out alcohol, especially in social situations, your video removed a good bit of pressure from me.
Additionally, dispelling the stereotypes perpetuated by those like the Tate brothers about having to be arrogant and stoic is so great to see.
Finally, even as a religious man myself, I have come to dislike how religion has been linked to self-improvement. To see influencers constantly change religions simply as an attempt to stay relevant is sickening to me.
Thank you for your commentary on all these myths again, it is great to see an influencer who is aware and cares of the imagery they use and message they send.
Thanks very much, Jack. Good luck with figuring out drinking and finding your path.
This is far and away the best video you've made, and shows you are a true individual, rather than a follower.
I see many comments from men my age or older saying the same thing. My finding your channel was kind of a happy accident. At 54 years old, I obviously don't follow your channel for advice. In fact, much of the advice you impart to young viewers of your channel seems glaringly obvious to most men my age. But it probably wasn't until around age 27 that it fully sunk in. I would imagine it will be the same for Gen Z.
A fellow viewer gave a one word answer to what he thought a gentleman was. That word was "Capable".
As I stated in the comments below, I think "Respect" is more apt. Starting with Self-Respect. The other word I would use is Responsibility. Men in the United States are constantly screaming about their "freedom". But without respect and responsibility, true freedom is not possible.
Thank you, Joseph. With my channel, I don't claim to hold any secrets or the gospel truth. I think most of what I say is common sense. But for my generation, common sense and self-respect can go a long way.
@@Gent.Z Agreed. I think there are truths to be found in all religions. I respect other people's beliefs, and their personal search for truth, and do not think belittling the truths they have found is productive or respectful. But there is an addendum to that point. No respectful gentlemen should presume he knows what is better for others. It is fine to share the truths you have found, and it may even lead to great discussions, but when you must forcefully push those ideas on others, it means your argument probably wasn't a good one to begin with.
Very insightful. Good work, James!
Thank you, glad you enjoyed it
Some "drinks" have beautiful taste when used in some cooking or baked goods. Natural real rum used to make rum balls, or rum cake, or a small amount of brandy in the thin layer of cherries at the base of a fancy torte/cake makes it magnificent. Its not a North American style cake, so maybe people reading this don't know it. Also a small amount of fine quality red wine with a spot of cheese, or a small amount of Mosel Riesling white with an occasional Sunday dinner can be luxurious option to choose occasionally, not a dependency, and far from getting drunk.
Getting sloppy isn’t a good look on anybody. Dependance isn’t healthy, and can be hurtful for a man’s loved ones. That being said, many men can decompress after work with some drinks before dinner and not have it be a thing that becomes a problem. It’s best not to push one’s morals or onto others. But if you have a close friend with a drinking problem, you might want to consider how real friends look out for one-another. A considerate & compassionate talk might be in order.
@@miahconnell23 Right on. I used to be absolute avoider of 'drinks' for many years and that extreme wasn't good, I was a mess. I realized that pure & complete and permanent avoidance can actually be a Neurotic-Defence-Mechanism (NDM) to prevent loss of control of thoughts & feelings and even circumstances. Its good to take a break occasionally, as I mentioned, an *occasional* Sunday dinner for example (NOT every weekend). IF _ya FEEL like ya NEED a drink,_ THEN do _NOT_ have ONE. On rare occasions, allow yourself to flip a coin on having one, Never depend on it for any purpose, and keep moderation in both directions, YOU be the boss, not your needs or desires. And I mentioned, it can be a nice taste touch in some fine baked items, way below inebriation levels of course.
I'm a total music nerd and about 99,9% of artists I listen to are male. I swear if they were all suppressing their emotions, we wouldn't have all the awesome music we do
Exactly.
Ian Fleming tried,and failed,at several careers before finding success. Perhaps,because of this,
the literary James Bond,has a much more realistic,relateable,and achievable masculinity,than his Superman-like cinematic counterpart.
The best lesson from literary Bond,
is to be resilient. Life is hard. Life is unfair. But a man learns how to bounce back. How to keep moving forwards. And the rewards will come.
Ian Fleming was a British secret service agent why he found fitting civilian life after war hard until he decided to pen to paper
Yes, the literary Bond is a much more warts-and-all figure than the superhero you see on screen. I encourage most young men to read those books. Fleming was a great novelist.
@Gent.Z
I agree James.
His Bond-blueprint of competitive academics,competitive sports,
military service,and civil service,
are a good foundation for a young man.
Especially the crucial 18 to 24 period.
When you're still figuring things out.
I particularly enjoyed this video. Thank you.
Glad to hear it, thank you Dennis
Your videos give so much info and knowledge that is just next level. Keep growing brother.
The greatest expression of masculinity is being a good farther.
All very solid points. Thanks James
Glad you enjoyed it, Dylan
Older gentleman here. Quit the booze sooner rather than later. It gives you nothing. Once you get used to enjoying yourself without it you will never miss it. Hit the gym. Read books. Have coffee with good friends. Applies to marijuana as well.
Have marijuana with good friends as well?
The Tate brothers and Joe Rogan should be the last men that Gent Z should look up to
Whats wrong with rogan?
While it's not ok to force vices like smoke or drink on to others, those who choose it will find a lot of social aspects to those habitats. A gentleman or anyone in general must see them as Hobbys instead of a Vice.There is a great deal of discipline to learn to enjoy those things properly, drinking until you're "wasted" or chain smoking are examples of bad discipline.
I don't really drink but I've been a pipe smoker for 10 years now, and it's been a very difficult hobby to master because there are many steps that have to be executed correctly for the best experience. I am very happy I took the journey, and I've met many wonderful people along the way even though it's considered a "dying art"
I was a pipe smoker for many years and loved it!
5:44 "It is much more of a masculine trait to lend a hand to those on their way up rather than kick them back down the ladder". Am gonna post this quote.
There is so much content out there that has first perpetuated the myths you describe, before posting a rebuttal some months later. This has always seemed to me to be the TH-camr equivalent of the person who burned your house down giving you fire safety tips.
Great video,enjoyed it,I dont drink,smoke,do tattoos or take drugs.I enjoy finer things in life,books,non alcoholic wine, conversation,travel,martial arts,gym,walks with my family etc.My late dad was a gentleman in the clasdic sense although he drank and smoked.
Cheers 🥂
Top notch content 👍🏽💯
Very great video!
Thank you!
One of your best video's to date. 👍
Started drinking Guinness 0 without alcohol. Just as enjoyable without the mind altering effects.
That hasn't made its way to the bars near me yet, but I've heard very good things.
A traditional man can be found in the book “the man of steel and velvet”
Made the mistake of dining in a high end restaurant today. Young couple insisted on dining there with two young children who ran around, made noise all the while the couple pretended not to notice or hear. THEY should have sucked it and took their brats to McDonalds.
I’ll take older men talking like sailors at McDonalds than having to endure other people’s brats at a high end restaurant.
Amazing video
Thanks very much
I love the 5th point.
So real and true!
Smoking and drinking are just like crack and heroin... addictive crutches for the weak willed who cannot deal with life as it is.
As someone who was raised by an alcoholic father, Jeckyl and Hyde is a very real analogy.
2:05 drinking and masculinity isn't the same. I am almost 22 and have never taken the single sip of alcohol in my life and am not planning to do any drinking in my life. And yeah i don't have 20-30 friends but I'm sure I have valuable connections and bonds with people (Pardon my english, it isn't my first language)
Sho Idk if I rlly can like talk as a girl but like
As a Christian, if ur a gentleman it doesn't mean your religious, and if your religious doesn't mean your a gentleman
I agree with you. Thanks for sharing your perspective as a Christian lady.
@Gent.Z awwwww never been called a lady before ♥️
Can't agree more. I'm curious if there is a channel like Gent X... ;-)
I think Mr.Craig played a character as 007 .role of what a true man should be
Although I do love Christian Tate sharp dressing. However I think cigar makes him less elegant
I am a Christian, but I agree you don’t need to be a Christian to follow common sense and rules of being a gentleman.
Thanks for your comment. Being open-minded is an important quality for a gentleman, in my opinion.
@ I’ll listen. I may not agree, but I’ll listen. Thank you.
There are several modern problems:
1) Malignization of masculinity by modern society.
2) Modern women turned into narcissists because of social media overvalidation.
3) Red Pill reactionary philosphy that was born to the first two and is sadly mostly represented by the very men you critique.
4) Modern young men just losing hope, dire times weren't so dire in the past because God is the source of Hope, Love and Faith.
If you have to "act" a certain way.... if you have to try to be "something" you think makes you a person you imagine.... you are just ACTING! Playing make believe. Never "go along". Be YOU! Also...in the last few years it seams being a rude, obnoxious asshole is being equated with "manliness" . No! You're just being rude! Again, be you. If you don't like to drink, don't. If you're with a group of friends who question that or look at you as "lesser" because you don't, THAT is red flag! Find new friends because those aren't. This is where the whole "having confidence" James talks about in videos he posts. Having the confidence to be who you are, all the time, everywhere you are. It is very easy to do when you grow up.
Indeed. And there is little value in blending in with the crowd. It's our eccentricities and contradictions that make us uniquely valuable.
@@Gent.Z Plus, most people can see right through the act.
Whats that pinky ring?
Talk about body language of gentlemen
Your definitions of "gentleman" and "masculine" may differ from the popular ones. That doesn't make the popular ones myths.
Does anybody have any tips or knowledge on becoming better at communicating emotions or thoughts to others? It's one of my lacking points and it negatively affects my relationships with other people sometimes.
So if a woman has inner strength is that still masculine?
Alcohol decreases testosterone, smoking tobacco increases it
I can see it acutely increasing testosterone but can also see it increasing your cortisol levels, on a long enough time frame they would probably cancel each other out.
Im not knocking smoking, the occasional smoke is very relaxing, each man can decide what/how he wants to consume.
Kenyan GenZs say they drink excessively in order to finish all alcohol for future generations so that they will have alcohol free lives.😅
Another masculinity myth you should talk about is the way Andrew-Tatists view women & promote their narrow mindedness as peak masculinity. Objectifying women, gloating over your sexual conquests & constantly complaining about almost every thing related to women is a very ungentlemanly behaviour. The harder Tate tries to be an alpha the more he comes out as an incel. Infact he is an antithesis of a gentleman.
Whether you are religious or not, the bible provides the best framework for masculinity. Jesus was able to perform miracles but humble, kind but not naive, understanding yet firm.
I prefer "alpha bros" to simps but Jesus is the best role model and is the most balanced.
I would say the teachings of Jesus over "The Bible". There are a lot of bad examples of morality in the Bible. Including slavery, incest, and death by stoning to name of few. Then there's that wacky time in Revelations where the Arch-Angel Gabrielle descends from the heavens riding a dragon.
To a modern man, many of the morality lessons the Bible teaches are unfortunately bad ones. While that doesn't mean you just chuck it out the window--all orthodox religions contain some fundamental truths -- the Bible was written 2000 years ago by men who didn't understand the nature of the Universe. But they did their best to explain it. Oftentimes failing miserably.
You can certainly learn from religious teachings and religious figures like Jesus even if you don't fully align yourself with that particular religion.
Is a goatee beard gentlemanly?
It's usually reserved for certain archetypes like tradesmen or other manly blue collar jobs like truckers, guys who ride chopper bikes, etc. If you dont fit in either of those categories it looks tacky.
I follow no religion. I follow Jesus, *not* Christianity.
This is such a great post the Andrew taits of the world is so toxic.
Idk how he does it, but JDM finds a way to make it into every video😂
Have you ever, under the influence of alcohol, questioned the teachings of the Mormon Church?
Yes, I think i probably have.
_under the influence of alcohol_ ????
God is superior and mightier the so called gods. Therefore I have to disagree with you😢
"You can only be a gentleman if you are a man of god"
Another reason to be an atheist.
what?
agree. The "only" is what makes people ridiculous.
It's a bad take, but as a man of god it doesn't make me want to be an atheist. But I respect atheists as gentlemen just the same as I do religious people as gentlemen
This is one of the myths he debunks. As he says, you can be a gentleman coming from any walk of life.
As an atheist I certainly agree that one does not need to be religious to be a gentleman. There are many people who purport to be religious and act completely vile. The worst offenders are those who use their religion as an excuse to be cruel to others.
James - let me know if you are interested in visiting the “Basic School, at Camp Barrett, Marine Corps Base Quantico, Virginia. You will meet hundreds of gentlemen. Officers and Gentlemen; as well as female Marine Corps Officers who are ladies. Tough, yet gentle. Hard, yet compassionate. Young 2nd Lieutenants learning how to lead infantry platoons, while learning proper etiquette, to include how to eat with a knife and fork, and how to host a proper party +++ Signed, Lieutenant Colonel, USMC (Retired) now a lowly marketing executive
Captain, I'd be honored. Can you give me an email so we can discuss? gent.z.style@gmail.com
Re. booze. For some it is in for a penny, in for a pound.
For others, they can easily stop at, say, two beers and do so as easily as stopping at two glasses of water after coming in from mowing the lawn on a hot day.
So, know your weaknesses and then do your daily utmost to kick the devil to the curb.