I started crying when I heard the first question as I am not alone it's really hard to stop thinking bad thought. ...keep over thinking and it scares me to the point I wanna hide away incase I hurt myself and others
There are several ideas for how to make a guy fall in love with you take your time Use less words and choose them carefully Communicate with behaviour as well as words (I discovered about these and more from Maras magic words site )
Wow, just can't get over how great it must feel to help sooo many people. Having so much understanding and compassion for such a variety of difficult problems - you are like my superhero.
What has helped me deal with overthinking was listening to Alan Watts' lectures. “The person who thinks all the time has nothing to think about but thoughts, and lives in a world of illusions”
This is me spot on. When rumination strikes me during work I go to the bathroom and go nuts trying to shake the "trance". Never works. Ruins my day. I've tried praying, hitting myself, taking deep breaths I just can't shake the beast. It shows on my face and makes me look like someone completely diff. It definitely feels like a demon entering your head.
You have given these thoughts ultimate power. The key is to know that these thoughts will constantly be circulating in your head, whether you like it or not. Most thoughts you have ever formed are floating in your head be it conscious or subconscious but most of them are silent waiting for a trigger or association to be brought to the conscious mind. The most powerful thoughts are the ones that you feed, and give your focus to. Rest assured these thoughts constantly roaming in your head will weaken if you let them pass through your head without giving them much attention, let them slip through as often as they like, knowing that you are not going to focus on them, by practicing non-thinking (some call it being present, mindful, or in the moment), and focusing your energy on uplifting thoughts. Becoming conscious of this shift will you lighten the weight of the bad thoughts and over time weaken and silence them.
May work for some and would be amazing if it could really work. It would put most mental health people in the poor house and looking for another and completely different job.
Meditation can be a good tool for overthinking and anxiety. It can take a long time to get the practice rolling. It can feel awkward to sit there and listen to your thoughts as you attempt to gently move them aside. But it really helps me!
That was my first thought. Do meditation. And not guided meditation. Something like TM. It helps you separate your thoughts from yourself, if that makes sense. I stopped doing it but really need to get back to it. Sending hugs to all.
Ashley ASHLEYM That can be because of a number of reasons. Meditation will never make your anxiety worse. Only you can do that. You could be fighting your thoughts and feelings under the misconception that meditation is about not thinking. Doing that gave me anxiety until I realized the goal is not to have no thoughts-but to observe your thoughts as a separate string of events from you. It’s a very gentle process. Another mistake people make is meditating as a verb. That means to meditate like you’re supposed to be doing something and achieving a goal (reducing anxiety, stopping your thoughts). Those still create a state of resistance to what is. I have definitely meditated to make a panic attack go away and it made me feel worse. That’s because I was still in resistance. Meditation isn’t about *doing* anything. It’s about simply sitting there in observance and acceptance of everything that comes, even the fear you may feel. Doing that over a course of time is proven to change the structure of your brain and increase happiness, concentration and relaxation and reduce the production of stress hormones like cortisol that cause anxiety.
There are two key things to know about overthinking, #1 thoughts are like bubbles in your mind. They float inside your mind all the time, they are everywhere and are constantly being created whether negative or positive. This is something you have to come to terms with and accept. The good news is. #2 We have control over which thoughts we choose to pay attention to, and strengthen. For many years I have believed that thoughts were uncontrollable, that they are there to haunt me. But After realizing this truth that they are there, and there is nothing I can do about them. Is when I felt I stopped pointing a finger at myself and calling myself insane. Then to find out it is up to me whether I choose to focus on these thoughts is when internal power really began. The more you choose to just let go of the negative thoughts, let them pass without the need to pluck them out and focus energy on them, the smaller and quieter they get. Then begin to focus attention on all the happy and joyful thoughts, and constantly become conscious of this shift. Feed these thoughts and strengthen them. When you reach a point where these thoughts are not easily switched off is when you will receive eternal bliss. I hope this helps. God bless.
for me even happy positive thoughts make me go crazy i can never live in the present moment its not about bad or good thoughts its about ruminating on stupid useless thoughts non stop
Thank you! I've thought nearly the exact same thing before, and to see someone else saying it works for them further validates the method. :) Im so glad we are all in this together!
Controversialist well that nice and evruthing but you have almost no controle over your Tougths if you hage OCD! It literly takes me a hour to process a simple tougth 😔
Hmm? All of us have control over our thoughts. Sounds like a bit of an overestimation of what you think works. Find someone who has OCD or find lots of people with OCD. They will tell you about having control over their thoughts. You need to hear what they say before you make such blanket statements. Please do not bomb me for what I just said because first, it is my opinion, and second, I am not wrong. Not even a little bit. There is no wiggle room here.
Just read your statement after I wrote the below remark. Hope he takes it seriously. Bubbles floating around in our heads? We have nightmares floating around in our heads that other people cannot even imagine. Controversialist needs to research OCD...alot. Plus, he/she should join an OCD group, give out the bubble analogy to people suffering. He will need a solid day or two to read what they say about his bubble advice.
I have these ruminating thoughts as well.. my therapist tried to give me tips like "try to replace your bad thoughts with nice memories" and nothing helped me. When I started imagining how I take these thoughts out of my head with my hand and throw them on the ground so they break into pieces , I started forgetting about these things at least for a while. This was the only thing that could help me. another helpful but simple thing is to just talk about stuff with people and completely focus on the topic. this helps me destroy that circuitry of bad thoughts because sometimes I can't escape it.
I think overthinking and expectations have ruined my recent relationship and that fucked me up. :/ I'm getting through it.. eventually but ya.. it sucks. :/
WHY did I have to find your channel as I was going to bed!? This makes me think MORE but I don't want to stop watching! lol Thank you for posting these videos. I have a problem with this. I never thought of ruminating in that sense. I have this quote in my head, "Smells like puke from a mule been ruminating on asparagus for two weeks!" But I've struggled with depression and anxiety for the past twelve years and have finally decided to try talking to a therapist again. It's really hard to talk to people for me (friends or strangers, I could probably count on one hand the people I can even make eye contact with!) I feel like this was a great time for me to find your channel. You can thank Hannah Hart!
I had extreme anxiety all throughout my high school years and I ended up turning to weed to help calm the thoughts. However, I started going on to other drugs so I knew I had to stop. Today I practice mindfulness meditation everyday and it has completely changed my life. Life is so good now and some days I don't even analyze at all which is a huge thing for me because before, I couldn't sleep until I analyzed each and every single thing I did on that particular day!
Weed to calm your thought?? I found weed actually gave me anxiety unless I drank alcohol while I was smoking weed. If I need to calm down I drink alcohol, weed is a hell no if I'm already anxious because that'll make the problem a million times worse.
Davinia Faapoi did ya have enough free time after your high school years to live your life , spend your free time well, and Do great and extraordinary things past your anxiety during high school?
This may sound strange but I find that when my blood sugar dips too much I get ruminating thoughts. Also, I had allergies to some foods like dairy and gluten and they caused me OCD too.
...wow...I found Kati through Chris Ballinger's Magic Monday awhile ago and um...I wasn't expecting the content to be this deep and amazing! I'm currently doing my nightly youtube runs and it's midnight...huge day at work tomorrow (and I'm always overthinking about that, go figure)...I guess I don't know where I'm going with this. Kati, I will be watching loads more of your videos in the near future! You seem like a very helpful, caring person...with a pretty voice and beautiful face as well. You win! :D
The last time I was experiencing intrusive amounts of ruminating thoughts I decided to muffle it out with impactful audios. For me, that was personal developement that would help me grow the skills that I felt the most limited in. A book that really helped me was Emotional Agility. Later on, I found that drawing out my emotions helped me to not contain them in my mind, physical activities have helped me to use the built up energy, and go forward in projects that I'm passionate about has helped me to feel like I'm being heard by myself.
my psychiatrist taught me your dendrits which are like the arms of your brain cells die when you're exposed to high anxiety, so over-thinking and getting anxiously constantly kills those. Taking meds help build them back so helps with therapy (: takes months to work but meds do help.
They do work but typically if youre rather suggestable and in that case hypnosis and other Eastern medicines are just as likely to work AND theyre far less dangerous!
Watching this in 2021 and I forgot who Bruce was… I literally was like "I didn’t know Caitlyn had a child named Bruce…." Somehow, I forgot about the transition.
Self talk is so important. I read something I really liked. It says replace bad thoughts with good memories. Especially with people type thoughts. Also I talk to myself like a bossy loving mom. Like “ No Kendra. Not today honey. Move on and do something. Stay busy.” Lol
Kate! I came across your channel today after noticing (once again) my very loud inner critic. I just want to thank you for taking the time out to put this wisdom out to those of us who need it. You are a kind and beautiful person. Thank you!
Kati you are wonderful thank you for all the recommendations. Most of us know what we have to do, but tend to avoid it completely. I used to take an antidepressant to help with my GAD, but instead I developed horrible intrusive thoughts of harm and suicide. Ever since, I've learned how to handle the intrusive thoughts for the most part, but they still come back occasionally and make me feel so numb, without hope. It's still a struggle, but it's become much better. It's one of the reasons why I'm so scared of looking for help, but it might just be necessary to keep trying. Blessings to you~
Hey , Kati! I'm glad I found you on the media! You've helped me a lot with learning things about mental illnesses and etc. I'm struggling with overthinking, jealous and I think I have a narcissistic personality disorder, because I act like a narcissistic person. I went to school psychologist in the past , but it didn't help me . What do I do ? I live in Russia , and it seems that I will not be able to afford this kind of thing . I want to help myself firstly .there's no one to help me . What do I do ?
Also , I'm afraid of my bad behavior . I think I'm a despotic person , and it hurts me a lot . I know this is stupid and it's not a kind of thing that can heal , but can I change my character ?can I change the way I am ? I don't want to be bad .
Елена Свиридова have you thought of moving out of Russia and come here to the United States? You can apply for health benefits right away at the State Welfare office. Lots of benefits for people with a low income here in the USA.
The second question i could have written myself! It's exactly how i feel right now. I'm doing a lot better but I feel like I am holding myself back in recovery because of this. Thank you for the tips, I'll talk to my therapist and possibly journal as well :)
You exude the vibe of someone who has found their calling in life, works their ass off, and manages to wake up loving what they do everyday. It's inspiring
If you're having ruminating thoughts especially with OCD; CBT will only go so far to help you cope. Exposure Response Prevention is the way to go. It is what really helps you in the moment was well as safeguard you in the future. I will be speaking about this more at the OCD conference in Boston in July.
NateTechGuy Agreed! I vlog about ERP on my channel a lot. Also, I want to go to that conference so bad, but I don't know if I'll be able to. :( I hope your speaking goes well!
If you want to, you should try it! Being in the TH-cam mental health community is so fun and to me it feels great to help people, since I'm not a professional, but I have experience with the topic!
When I was in therapy for my OCD, I did ERP. It was the best method to treat my fear of giving other people dangerous germs. My doctor told me to back cookies or something else, bring them into work and hand them out to everyone. I did and it felt wonderful to me. I was able to beat that Gremlin who was residing in my mind and was stealing my happiness. By the end, I was eating the chocolate cookies myself because they were so good. Not because of the OCD. Cannot recommend ERP enough. The initial horrible fear you have cannot coexist with doing exactly what your OCD mind is telling you not to do and you do it anyway. I remember those happy days as I was getter better and better. Really, they were some of the happiest days of my life. No more OCD 35 years later!
#katiFAQ .Hi Kati . This is a journal topic "What if I fall? Oh , but my darling what if you fly" I'm having a very important exam this week . I had given this very exam last year and failed. I AM better prepared now, but I still feel I need to do much better but I couldn't do my very best due to my struggles with self harm this year. Now im panicking and feeling suicidal but I hear God ( im religious)tell me " Don't take the easy way out. The glory is in the fight not the result. Just think, what if this time you are good enough but you throw it away because you're too scared to even try?"
I know this is an old vid but I’m just gonna throw this out there; I feel like Katie suggests meds a little to quickly and often for this one reason; I tried meds a couple of times last year and found the negative side effects SO BAD that Im now trying to recover from THAT on top of all my original issues. I had never in my life felt like it would be better to not be here until I tried meds, having those thoughts scared me so much that they made me incredibly depressed and numb and ever since I haven’t been able to go more than a few days without crying or feeling sad and overwhelmed. So I think there needs to be far more caution when suggesting and prescribing meds, patients NEED to be sure that they can handle what may come from trying them and have an amazing support team in place.
I highly recommend people do there research. A great place to start is with Irving Kirsch. He is the Associate Director of the Program in Placebo Studies and a lecturer in medicine at Harvard Medical School. For me I looked into his anti anxiety/ depression research. Turns out medications for anxiety/ depression generally have only been proven to be an average of only 3% more effective than the placebo effect. On top of that these drugs actually increase the likelyhood of suicidal thoughts and come with a host of other possible side effects.
100% agree, all the research if you actually look at it, shows that pills are typically as good as placebos and they have a lot of negative side effects that placebos just don't have. I think Benzodiazepines are the only pill that actually has been proven to be better than placebo but that's a very dangerous pill as it's very addictive.
I struggle with multiple anxiety disorders, when I find myself ruminating to the point of an anxiety attack, I force myself to stop for a second, ask myself rational questions of what I'm ruminating about, like what is the likelihood that event will actually happen, what is the likelihood that those people will really think poorly of me, am I really as worthless as I feel and think I am, what is making me feel worthless etc, I find it helps most the time when I try it.
Thank you for this video. I haven't been officially diagnosed but i have a mental health worker at school for more generalised and social anxiety. However, I don't really like her and I'm not sure what to do because she's the only mental health worker at my school. I am leaving for college soon but now I am unsure of whether to have student support there or not. I kind of feel like anxiety is just a part of me.. Like kind of what you said, I don't know what it's like not to have it and I don't really know what to do because I don't feel like the therapy at school really helps, it's just making me more nervous. I don't know if that makes any sense but I wondered if you had any advice. I also struggle on and off with self harm and have experienced suicidal thoughts but those were more around Christmas but my therapist doesn't really pay attention to it, like it's not important, but it's something I have really struggled with so its all a bit confusing because I don't know what she thinks and now I'm over thinking so I'll stop now haha!
+Lisa Fletcher I hope you're doing well! We're in the same boat in a sense. I've struggled with that for twelve years but I've finally decided to get help. And I feel like it is a part of me, too! I have friends who would always joke about how I was the one who worried that everything we did was a bad idea, I'm not the fun friend, etc. etc... I feel like once I start getting help, how on earth would I act?! I'm always the panicker in ALL my relationships! lol I'm finally going to a therapist in December (the holidays were BOOKED...) because I've always tried to mask my problems in a way. And it's like... I feel like I tried to "fix myself" on my own in my good times that when my bad times came, I really didn't have anything to work with because I can't help myself! I think if you really want to continue doing therapy that you should. Because once you move (Or, well... I guess you already did... lol) You won't have that woman to deal with anymore and you can have someone else that might work so much better with you! :D
hi kati, I wake up with the bad feeling from a bad situation. when I wake up my brain automatically goes to that feeling/ thought. and thru out the day it pops in and out.. is this ruminating or something else ?
Kati I'm young and it's very scary for me to have these thoughts/feelings and or dreams, it ruins my life; I always feel like it's never going to get better, in my school the year leader setup a councillor but he hasn't called me in to see her in for ever, I think it won't go away in school I always feel like I need to get back at my friends or anyone else; say if someone pushes past me or accidentally shouts down me ear, I need to shout down theirs etc... I also look at this video and this helps me to know that I'm not alone and to all the people reading you are not alone I have these intrusive thoughts and feelings and stuff like that. Do not think for 1 second there is something wrong with you, but anyway back to me I normally watch animal programmes and when I see their butt or whatever I always feel bad about it (even though I didn't feel sexual towards it) it's just frustrating please reply from a young viewer
Katie, I just got out of an adult opp and you are amazing. Rumination is terrible and before I knew what it was I thought I was getting sick or was going to be stuck that way. My program was good but people like you make them great. I appreciate all that you do and can't thank you enough. The mental health system is really broken on top of our regular health system. Making it hard to find good people to help explain what is going on and tools to try. You have a special place up in heaven and I will be definitely be using your videos to remind me that self care is important and awareness helps bring healing. Thank you.
Hello, I was wondering what i could do when i am being bullied because of my OCD. People at school have been teasing me, it's making me more panicked which really doesn't' help anything.
#KatiFAQ What do you as a therapist think of alternative treatments? I use something called Access Bars which really helps me with overthinking, anxiety, negative thoughts. It's like the switch off button/vent on the brain. Would you ever try it and perhaps talk about your experience? Search for #accessbars for more info
Buy yourself a flower with a purpose behind it. Each flower means something, like beauty or forgiveness. Think ok what you want in your home and buy a flower that reminds you, so you have that visual.
I have obsessive thoughts of the "hurting others" kind, that are really extreme, and disgusting, and stressful. Of the very same line, there are thoughts of becoming a psychopath or a sociopath or a sadist, that scare the shit out of me because they feel so real. The imagery, and the sensations that come with them are so vivid. It doesn't help the fact that I read chapters of the Marques of Safe books, thing that I regret till today (the imagery and the atrocities and the words that the people there used to justify them keep coming to my head). Thoughts that I won't be able to experience love, or that it is pointless. I've cried about this so much, I am constantly fighting with my own my mind avoiding things that may trigger the feeling that I am going to actually hurt someone, among other stuff. I just want them to stop. I don't wanna be like this. And I feel so hopeless. When the thoughts are there I've even considered suicide to "prevent" me from "going mad/bad" and hurting the people I love. I feel like a bad and horrible person, and like I won't be able to control myself and will "blow up" at any time. My only relief is that I am starting therapy in January, and I hope this can go away someday and I can live happily again.
I have ruminating thoughts about being gay, I have always been straight but It feels like I'm ruminating so much my thoughts are becoming me... It's making me question myself so much. I'm waiting for a therapist but it seems to be taking forever.
I was starting to really get into your content, but going to have to unsubscribe because I refuse to be called a Kinion. Definition of minion - “a follower or underling of a powerful person, especially a servile or unimportant one.” That’s a horrible name for your followers, and I think you owe all of them an apology. 😔
My overthinking had become much worse lately and it had started with something from last year around the month of May. However, the rumination thoughts from it happen all of the time and it is in a constant continuous loop. I've grown irritated, annoyed, anxious, etc. I dunno how to tell my boyfriend about it either...
I have realized that the point where I have thought through a problem and can then act just does not exist. Maybe there are some rare cases but 99% of the times I will never reach a point where I say "Oh, now I have really gotten to the bottom of this, now I can act." As a matter of fact I know what is to be done. I don't really need to think about it all that much. I am just afraid. I am not 100% sure what the function of the overthinking is. Perhaps its function is even to avoid starting to take action. So maybe realizing the futility of all this thinking can be a first step. I have made the experience that it is possible to just let go of these thoughts. To tell myself, okay, I don't need this, this is futile, and to then just let these thoughts go. But I am also less afraid than I used to be. So maybe that goes hand in hand.
Hi kati I’ve been having loads of ruminating thoughts about loads of stuff and I want to get back to health so please help me with cbt therapy you recommended.
I love it how she always recommends therapy but never gives a good recommendation for a good free therapist or a website. I am a 17-year-old with no job and practically no money. Is there like no hope for me to get help. I got my school I know, but the counselor there isn't helpful as she isn't a trained professional. I can't ask my parents as they don't believe in therapy as they think it is too expensive which I do think is really true. As even something like better help which is something that is suppose to be a cheap resource is £50. I don't blame Katie. I don't think there are good free resources out there for anyone as no one cares about mental illness
I know this is just me but you speak so loud and fast that it's hard to hear what you are saying. What a shame as you have great topics. You gotta slow down though.
+cameleon Girl It's not just you :D I've watched about six videos now and I keep thinking, "You know, no one says your video has to be this long or this short. You can take as long as you need!"
Jezah Lie yeah, it's just that when someone is talkig fast and almost forced it's hard to take in all that the person is saying. The loud fast talk makes me nervous ahahahaha. I live in NYC lord help me lmao
My wife and I have gone to therapy and we were in a heated discussion about cheating. Therapist said that we should apologize to one another and ask for forgiveness. Wife started to cry and when I said I forgave her, she said really? So here’s the thing, she still states that she never cheated on me. So I find myself ruminating on whether she did or didn’t, when, with whom. I’ve accused her so many times that now she wants a separation. She’s giving us 30 days and in that time we’re going to couples therapy and individual therapy. Now I’m thinking, why do you have to make or set the parameters? When I brought this to her attention she started crying. I need help to stop ruminating so I can be at peace.
What if you don't want to be okay because it's a comfort? Or you like having a therapist? I don't see my therapist now but I don't want to be okay more for the comfort of my depression, if you get me
Hello my thoughts make me so sick sometimes I wish they would go away Thank you I am going to try what you say in your video because I want to get better so bad💙🙏 and by the time I am able to send you this comment I have read it over 10 times and once I send this I will still be sick because Im afraid I said something wrong Im sorry
This is what I say when I feel Shame,sad or bad when thinking about the past. I say fuck it if I'm wrong or if I'm right it dosnt matter . It's in the past. Know it's ok not to be perfect all the time.
I lessened my overthinking by not worrying about anybody else. I do whatever I want whenever I want and it feels better than trying to please the world and worry about being a "good person".
Liz zy I was just at a training today that talked about GAD and OCD- OCD is actually an anxiety disorder in itself. I didn’t realize that for a long time. Sending you lots of positive thoughts ♥️♥️♥️
Goddybag4Lee well it could be part of any mental illnes like Anxiety Disorder but its mostly afected on people whit OCD has one becomes very obsessed whit a tough whether it be good or bad to the point wher it leads you to cumpultions and wierd stupid rituals that not only is stresful but timewasting haswel it can also give you a realy hard time to process a simple tougth sometimes it takes me a hour to process something and it can overwhelmed you especially the negetive toughts this could cause you to not whana do things like cleaning going to school or work geting out of bed cook or do simple chouirs because just the tougth of it can overwhelmed you
The thing is even in my friends who don't have any mental illnesses like I do they tend to overthink as well I think it might just be a human being thing. But I try not to think that way because I like to think there is hope.
I can't stand hearing this sentence anymore ! You think I can just switch it off ?! I live with a condition that has my brain running twice as fast you'll ever go ! So I need half the time you take to think about things. ADHD! If I just could do it ! I EFFING would !!
@@ashleyashleym2969 Yes I'm an adult who was told as a child that it would go away anyway when I would grow up so my mother just didn't help me in any way to learn any coping mechanisms.. I'm 28 today.
#KatiFAQ Hey Kati, I have a question for you. There is a friend of mine, let's call her Kim. Kim has a friend of herself, lets call her Jane. Jane is anorexic, but doesn't want to talk about it. Kim recently found out about it, but when she asked Jane, Jane denied being anorexic. Today, Kim is very upset because she says Jane lied to her. I tried to explain her that anorexia is also something in your mind, and that it's hard for Jane, but Kim doesn't understand and she keeps telling Jane to eat. Can you help me explaining her how to deal with someone who's anorexic?
#KatiFAQ When beginning to start the process of eating solid foods (instead of supplement drinks, fortisip/ensure) how can you tell wether the pain/discomfort in the stomach is physical because the body isn't used to digestion or wether it's psychological due to the fear of food being inside you?
..........-----------------===============READ==================----------------.................I have stupid rumination but it started with my pure O, my pure O is this best ever because it comes in waves, but dosent stay, isnt that awesome?? like, im 12, and this has only stayed around for a month, yeah, a trashy month, but at least i dont have to deal with it a christmas, or throught my whole life, only in big waves, and i now know how to deal with it, right now its difficult, but just KNOWING that its going to get better is all i really need, even if my OCD talks back and says, "YOU WANNA COMMIT FOOL" im like "no i dont...." its just a battle in my brain, but i know nothing is real, its 100% fluff just messing with me, and Alot of other unlucky people, but know, it could be worse, and if a 12 Year old can do it. You can to.
This happens to me a lot and I really don't like it 😭😓😔😯☹🙁😩😦😨and whenever I hear something on the internet or sicknesses going around I freeze and just get so scared I'm not really sure what to do it's horrible but your helping me a lot and I really appreciate it 🙂I'm starting to feel a bit better about it thank you Kati☺🌹🌷⚘🌿🌼I'm also always shaking because of anxiety. 😔
OMG, that 2nd question! That's ME! I never realized it until you talked about it! I've been stuck in depression for YEARS, and that's basically become my identity. The "loser one in the family that can't get her shit together." I LITERALLY overheard my own, not so nice grandma talking to a friend saying "I don't know why she can't get her shit together!" WHO SAYS THAT about their grandchild that you live with??!?? Then she's nice to my face! Oh it pisses me off! Then I feel guilty for being mad at her! Eeeks, well that was a rant! Lol. But this is how I feel! Thanks Kati and to whomever asked that question!! I think I now know what to work on! 💖
Hey all... I've been really learning a lot from Acceptance and Commitment therapy. It starts from the assumption that we CANNOT control our thoughts, so if we learn to approach our mind/thoughts with acceptance and make space for them... we won't struggle so much. Pain does not equal struggle. Keep trucking ya'll :D
Hi Kati... First and foremost I repeat scenarios over and over in my head and it is affecting ability to cope. Im aware of it but cant stop. I have to turn the tv on to sleep for a distraction. At best I sleep 3 hours at a time. Second... I can not keep a train of thought.. Im to the point that I cant interact with my wife, children or grandchildren.. 3. I cant work because I dont know what to do next. I have no health insurance.
Great advice, but most of it has missed the mark for me. CBT did not help a single bit. I thought it was me at first, but I realized now that it was the CBT. I don't think CBT is helpful. It is the new thing along with DBT. I realized I had to drop my therapist through the folowing process I experienced. He went sooooooo slow with the CBT, I could have slept through our sessions. Then, I knew it was curtains for him when I asked him this question after six months of therapy and at $200 a pop per session. When are we going to do CBT? He said, "We are doing it". Really? I had no clue. I had told him on many, many, many occasions that there was nothing anyone could tell me, do for me or say to me that would help. He seemed to ignore this. I think saying that to him was like dropping a 300 lb weight on his lap. Maybe he thought he could help me, so he ignored that statement. So glad I told him that we were not a good fit and left.
Hey Ya ! ...... The two best things that I've found for relief of overthinking and ruminating is 1 ......Tapping ,........ to relieve your anxiety about what you're overthinking about . I know it looks kind of goofy while you are doing it but for me it works soooo amazingly well to make me calm down and feel safe ........ Annnnd , #2 is instead of fighting the thoughts , just realize that the thoughts are not you , Or that You are not your thoughts and you have no control over them ...... Just Let them come and let them go ........ Watch them pass by ..... Let them amuse you . Just don't try to fight them as you will loose as you're giving them all the power ...... Just observe them and let them pass by ....
i love how she always says "we" like we're not alone in the things we go through. much love!!
Robin Perkins I totally agree ♥️♥️♥️
when she ends her sentence with ''okay" super calming
mikeoct27 YES it oddly fills a need
I started crying when I heard the first question as I am not alone it's really hard to stop thinking bad thought. ...keep over thinking and it scares me to the point I wanna hide away incase I hurt myself and others
take care
You are not alone! wish for best for all of us
Same here
It's hard not to overthink, though!
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Wow, just can't get over how great it must feel to help sooo many people. Having so much understanding and compassion for such a variety of difficult problems - you are like my superhero.
What has helped me deal with overthinking was listening to Alan Watts' lectures.
“The person who thinks all the time has nothing to think about but thoughts, and lives in a world of illusions”
This is me spot on.
When rumination strikes me during work I go to the bathroom and go nuts trying to shake the "trance".
Never works.
Ruins my day. I've tried praying, hitting myself, taking deep breaths I just can't shake the beast.
It shows on my face and makes me look like someone completely diff.
It definitely feels like a demon entering your head.
You have given these thoughts ultimate power. The key is to know that these thoughts will constantly be circulating in your head, whether you like it or not. Most thoughts you have ever formed are floating in your head be it conscious or subconscious but most of them are silent waiting for a trigger or association to be brought to the conscious mind. The most powerful thoughts are the ones that you feed, and give your focus to. Rest assured these thoughts constantly roaming in your head will weaken if you let them pass through your head without giving them much attention, let them slip through as often as they like, knowing that you are not going to focus on them, by practicing non-thinking (some call it being present, mindful, or in the moment), and focusing your energy on uplifting thoughts. Becoming conscious of this shift will you lighten the weight of the bad thoughts and over time weaken and silence them.
try focusing on the now.observe the shape of objects focus on sounds or smells i am trying to ruminating ruined my life
Myles Bishop you’re not alone brother it happened to me and I wanted to run far away
May work for some and would be amazing if it could really work. It would put most mental health people in the poor house and looking for another and completely different job.
You can Myles Bishop i truly Believe.
Meditation can be a good tool for overthinking and anxiety. It can take a long time to get the practice rolling. It can feel awkward to sit there and listen to your thoughts as you attempt to gently move them aside. But it really helps me!
Melody Luna it's a skill I often overlook. I need to try it more
That was my first thought. Do meditation. And not guided meditation. Something like TM. It helps you separate your thoughts from yourself, if that makes sense. I stopped doing it but really need to get back to it. Sending hugs to all.
I actually found meditation actually made anxiety worse.
Ashley ASHLEYM That can be because of a number of reasons. Meditation will never make your anxiety worse. Only you can do that. You could be fighting your thoughts and feelings under the misconception that meditation is about not thinking. Doing that gave me anxiety until I realized the goal is not to have no thoughts-but to observe your thoughts as a separate string of events from you. It’s a very gentle process. Another mistake people make is meditating as a verb. That means to meditate like you’re supposed to be doing something and achieving a goal (reducing anxiety, stopping your thoughts). Those still create a state of resistance to what is. I have definitely meditated to make a panic attack go away and it made me feel worse. That’s because I was still in resistance. Meditation isn’t about *doing* anything. It’s about simply sitting there in observance and acceptance of everything that comes, even the fear you may feel. Doing that over a course of time is proven to change the structure of your brain and increase happiness, concentration and relaxation and reduce the production of stress hormones like cortisol that cause anxiety.
Melody Luna how long until it started working?
There are two key things to know about overthinking, #1 thoughts are like bubbles in your mind. They float inside your mind all the time, they are everywhere and are constantly being created whether negative or positive. This is something you have to come to terms with and accept. The good news is. #2 We have control over which thoughts we choose to pay attention to, and strengthen. For many years I have believed that thoughts were uncontrollable, that they are there to haunt me. But After realizing this truth that they are there, and there is nothing I can do about them. Is when I felt I stopped pointing a finger at myself and calling myself insane. Then to find out it is up to me whether I choose to focus on these thoughts is when internal power really began. The more you choose to just let go of the negative thoughts, let them pass without the need to pluck them out and focus energy on them, the smaller and quieter they get. Then begin to focus attention on all the happy and joyful thoughts, and constantly become conscious of this shift. Feed these thoughts and strengthen them. When you reach a point where these thoughts are not easily switched off is when you will receive eternal bliss. I hope this helps. God bless.
for me even happy positive thoughts make me go crazy i can never live in the present moment its not about bad or good thoughts its about ruminating on stupid useless thoughts non stop
Thank you! I've thought nearly the exact same thing before, and to see someone else saying it works for them further validates the method. :) Im so glad we are all in this together!
Controversialist well that nice and evruthing but you have almost no controle over your Tougths if you hage OCD! It literly takes me a hour to process a simple tougth 😔
Hmm? All of us have control over our thoughts. Sounds like a bit of an overestimation of what you think works. Find someone who has OCD or find lots of people with OCD. They will tell you about having control over their thoughts. You need to hear what they say before you make such blanket statements. Please do not bomb me for what I just said because first, it is my opinion, and second, I am not wrong. Not even a little bit. There is no wiggle room here.
Just read your statement after I wrote the below remark. Hope he takes it seriously. Bubbles floating around in our heads? We have nightmares floating around in our heads that other people cannot even imagine. Controversialist needs to research OCD...alot. Plus, he/she should join an OCD group, give out the bubble analogy to people suffering. He will need a solid day or two to read what they say about his bubble advice.
I over think a lot. I hate it.
I have these ruminating thoughts as well.. my therapist tried to give me tips like "try to replace your bad thoughts with nice memories" and nothing helped me. When I started imagining how I take these thoughts out of my head with my hand and throw them on the ground so they break into pieces , I started forgetting about these things at least for a while. This was the only thing that could help me.
another helpful but simple thing is to just talk about stuff with people and completely focus on the topic. this helps me destroy that circuitry of bad thoughts because sometimes I can't escape it.
I think overthinking and expectations have ruined my recent relationship and that fucked me up. :/ I'm getting through it.. eventually but ya.. it sucks. :/
I can relate. Happened to me too
WHY did I have to find your channel as I was going to bed!? This makes me think MORE but I don't want to stop watching! lol Thank you for posting these videos. I have a problem with this. I never thought of ruminating in that sense. I have this quote in my head, "Smells like puke from a mule been ruminating on asparagus for two weeks!" But I've struggled with depression and anxiety for the past twelve years and have finally decided to try talking to a therapist again. It's really hard to talk to people for me (friends or strangers, I could probably count on one hand the people I can even make eye contact with!) I feel like this was a great time for me to find your channel. You can thank Hannah Hart!
I had extreme anxiety all throughout my high school years and I ended up turning to weed to help calm the thoughts. However, I started going on to other drugs so I knew I had to stop. Today I practice mindfulness meditation everyday and it has completely changed my life. Life is so good now and some days I don't even analyze at all which is a huge thing for me because before, I couldn't sleep until I analyzed each and every single thing I did on that particular day!
Davinia Faapoi thanks for sharing. I need to learn more about it
Weed to calm your thought?? I found weed actually gave me anxiety unless I drank alcohol while I was smoking weed. If I need to calm down I drink alcohol, weed is a hell no if I'm already anxious because that'll make the problem a million times worse.
Davinia Faapoi did ya have enough free time after your high school years to live your life , spend your free time well, and Do great and extraordinary things past your anxiety during high school?
I accidentally found your channel and it's really fascinating to watch your videos.. lots of love from INDIA ❤️❤️
I overthink when i feel someone has misunderstood what i was saying and i overthink it that much it drives me crazy.
Hey your comment is relatable to me. Can we talk?
Same I need to talk as well
This may sound strange but I find that when my blood sugar dips too much I get ruminating thoughts. Also, I had allergies to some foods like dairy and gluten and they caused me OCD too.
OMG I HATE WHEN THIS HAPPENS I FEEL SICK
...wow...I found Kati through Chris Ballinger's Magic Monday awhile ago and um...I wasn't expecting the content to be this deep and amazing! I'm currently doing my nightly youtube runs and it's midnight...huge day at work tomorrow (and I'm always overthinking about that, go figure)...I guess I don't know where I'm going with this. Kati, I will be watching loads more of your videos in the near future! You seem like a very helpful, caring person...with a pretty voice and beautiful face as well. You win! :D
The last time I was experiencing intrusive amounts of ruminating thoughts I decided to muffle it out with impactful audios.
For me, that was personal developement that would help me grow the skills that I felt the most limited in. A book that really helped me was Emotional Agility.
Later on, I found that drawing out my emotions helped me to not contain them in my mind, physical activities have helped me to use the built up energy, and go forward in projects that I'm passionate about has helped me to feel like I'm being heard by myself.
I refuse to take any kind of medication. I've actually had potentially fatal reactions from some of the many I was forced to take during my childhood.
my psychiatrist taught me your dendrits which are like the arms of your brain cells die when you're exposed to high anxiety, so over-thinking and getting anxiously constantly kills those. Taking meds help build them back so helps with therapy (: takes months to work but meds do help.
They do work but typically if youre rather suggestable and in that case hypnosis and other Eastern medicines are just as likely to work AND theyre far less dangerous!
That's an old hymn. Count Your Blessings.
I am a huge fan of your channel, I am just about to get my Masters, and your channel is just great,,,keep up the good work
Watching this in 2021 and I forgot who Bruce was… I literally was like "I didn’t know Caitlyn had a child named Bruce…." Somehow, I forgot about the transition.
Self talk is so important. I read something I really liked. It says replace bad thoughts with good memories. Especially with people type thoughts. Also I talk to myself like a bossy loving mom. Like “ No Kendra. Not today honey. Move on and do something. Stay busy.” Lol
Kate! I came across your channel today after noticing (once again) my very loud inner critic. I just want to thank you for taking the time out to put this wisdom out to those of us who need it. You are a kind and beautiful person. Thank you!
Thank you for answering my question *****!!! I really appreciate your help, support, and advice.
Kati you are wonderful thank you for all the recommendations. Most of us know what we have to do, but tend to avoid it completely. I used to take an antidepressant to help with my GAD, but instead I developed horrible intrusive thoughts of harm and suicide. Ever since, I've learned how to handle the intrusive thoughts for the most part, but they still come back occasionally and make me feel so numb, without hope. It's still a struggle, but it's become much better. It's one of the reasons why I'm so scared of looking for help, but it might just be necessary to keep trying. Blessings to you~
I keep looking for the chat section or any of the worksheets or resources on your website and I can't find much. Am I going to the right website?
Hey , Kati! I'm glad I found you on the media! You've helped me a lot with learning things about mental illnesses and etc. I'm struggling with overthinking, jealous and I think I have a narcissistic personality disorder, because I act like a narcissistic person. I went to school psychologist in the past , but it didn't help me . What do I do ? I live in Russia , and it seems that I will not be able to afford this kind of thing . I want to help myself firstly .there's no one to help me . What do I do ?
Also , I'm afraid of my bad behavior . I think I'm a despotic person , and it hurts me a lot . I know this is stupid and it's not a kind of thing that can heal , but can I change my character ?can I change the way I am ? I don't want to be bad .
Елена Свиридова have you thought of moving out of Russia and come here to the United States? You can apply for health benefits right away at the State Welfare office. Lots of benefits for people with a low income here in the USA.
@@cherryblossom5162 yes you can change it, you just have to find the right tools for you. Keep looking, never give up ♥️💞
The second question i could have written myself! It's exactly how i feel right now. I'm doing a lot better but I feel like I am holding myself back in recovery because of this. Thank you for the tips, I'll talk to my therapist and possibly journal as well :)
I think this what I’m going through at the moment ,overthinking things .So finding this video is at the right time for me so this should be helpful.
You exude the vibe of someone who has found their calling in life, works their ass off, and manages to wake up loving what they do everyday. It's inspiring
I really hope you know the amount of lives you're potentially saving Kati! I can only hope to be half the person you are :)
Do you recommend seeing a therapist first before an appointment with a psychiatric for medication?
If you're having ruminating thoughts especially with OCD; CBT will only go so far to help you cope. Exposure Response Prevention is the way to go. It is what really helps you in the moment was well as safeguard you in the future. I will be speaking about this more at the OCD conference in Boston in July.
K.
NateTechGuy Agreed! I vlog about ERP on my channel a lot.
Also, I want to go to that conference so bad, but I don't know if I'll be able to. :( I hope your speaking goes well!
ShalomAlechim Awesome! I'm glad you vlog about it. I've debated starting a channel similar to Kati's.
If you want to, you should try it! Being in the TH-cam mental health community is so fun and to me it feels great to help people, since I'm not a professional, but I have experience with the topic!
When I was in therapy for my OCD, I did ERP. It was the best method to treat my fear of giving other people dangerous germs. My doctor told me to back cookies or something else, bring them into work and hand them out to everyone. I did and it felt wonderful to me. I was able to beat that Gremlin who was residing in my mind and was stealing my happiness. By the end, I was eating the chocolate cookies myself because they were so good. Not because of the OCD. Cannot recommend ERP enough. The initial horrible fear you have cannot coexist with doing exactly what your OCD mind is telling you not to do and you do it anyway. I remember those happy days as I was getter better and better. Really, they were some of the happiest days of my life. No more OCD 35 years later!
Where can i find those self help over thinking worksheets you mentioned
You're amazing!
Thank you this was very helpful and informative 👍👍
Can someone link me those worksheets? i can't seem to find these anywhere.
Playing sports helps since you have no time to think.
#katiFAQ .Hi Kati . This is a journal topic
"What if I fall?
Oh , but my darling what if you fly"
I'm having a very important exam this week . I had given this very exam last year and failed. I AM better prepared now, but I still feel I need to do much better but I couldn't do my very best due to my struggles with self harm this year. Now im panicking and feeling suicidal but I hear God ( im religious)tell me " Don't take the easy way out. The glory is in the fight not the result. Just think, what if this time you are good enough but you throw it away because you're too scared to even try?"
I know this is an old vid but I’m just gonna throw this out there; I feel like Katie suggests meds a little to quickly and often for this one reason;
I tried meds a couple of times last year and found the negative side effects SO BAD that Im now trying to recover from THAT on top of all my original issues. I had never in my life felt like it would be better to not be here until I tried meds, having those thoughts scared me so much that they made me incredibly depressed and numb and ever since I haven’t been able to go more than a few days without crying or feeling sad and overwhelmed.
So I think there needs to be far more caution when suggesting and prescribing meds, patients NEED to be sure that they can handle what may come from trying them and have an amazing support team in place.
I highly recommend people do there research. A great place to start is with Irving Kirsch. He is the Associate Director of the Program in Placebo Studies and a lecturer in medicine at Harvard Medical School. For me I looked into his anti anxiety/ depression research. Turns out medications for anxiety/ depression generally have only been proven to be an average of only 3% more effective than the placebo effect. On top of that these drugs actually increase the likelyhood of suicidal thoughts and come with a host of other possible side effects.
100% agree, all the research if you actually look at it, shows that pills are typically as good as placebos and they have a lot of negative side effects that placebos just don't have. I think Benzodiazepines are the only pill that actually has been proven to be better than placebo but that's a very dangerous pill as it's very addictive.
by watching this video you've already over thought over thinking
Rumination... The perfect word. Danke! Reminds me of last year (2017), when I used to have ongoing anxious memories.
I struggle with multiple anxiety disorders, when I find myself ruminating to the point of an anxiety attack, I force myself to stop for a second, ask myself rational questions of what I'm ruminating about, like what is the likelihood that event will actually happen, what is the likelihood that those people will really think poorly of me, am I really as worthless as I feel and think I am, what is making me feel worthless etc, I find it helps most the time when I try it.
Thank you for this video. I haven't been officially diagnosed but i have a mental health worker at school for more generalised and social anxiety. However, I don't really like her and I'm not sure what to do because she's the only mental health worker at my school. I am leaving for college soon but now I am unsure of whether to have student support there or not. I kind of feel like anxiety is just a part of me.. Like kind of what you said, I don't know what it's like not to have it and I don't really know what to do because I don't feel like the therapy at school really helps, it's just making me more nervous. I don't know if that makes any sense but I wondered if you had any advice. I also struggle on and off with self harm and have experienced suicidal thoughts but those were more around Christmas but my therapist doesn't really pay attention to it, like it's not important, but it's something I have really struggled with so its all a bit confusing because I don't know what she thinks and now I'm over thinking so I'll stop now haha!
+Lisa Fletcher I hope you're doing well! We're in the same boat in a sense. I've struggled with that for twelve years but I've finally decided to get help. And I feel like it is a part of me, too! I have friends who would always joke about how I was the one who worried that everything we did was a bad idea, I'm not the fun friend, etc. etc... I feel like once I start getting help, how on earth would I act?! I'm always the panicker in ALL my relationships! lol I'm finally going to a therapist in December (the holidays were BOOKED...) because I've always tried to mask my problems in a way. And it's like... I feel like I tried to "fix myself" on my own in my good times that when my bad times came, I really didn't have anything to work with because I can't help myself! I think if you really want to continue doing therapy that you should. Because once you move (Or, well... I guess you already did... lol) You won't have that woman to deal with anymore and you can have someone else that might work so much better with you! :D
hi kati, I wake up with the bad feeling from a bad situation. when I wake up my brain automatically goes to that feeling/ thought. and thru out the day it pops in and out.. is this ruminating or something else ?
Kati I'm young and it's very scary for me to have these thoughts/feelings and or dreams, it ruins my life; I always feel like it's never going to get better, in my school the year leader setup a councillor but he hasn't called me in to see her in for ever, I think it won't go away in school I always feel like I need to get back at my friends or anyone else; say if someone pushes past me or accidentally shouts down me ear, I need to shout down theirs etc... I also look at this video and this helps me to know that I'm not alone and to all the people reading you are not alone I have these intrusive thoughts and feelings and stuff like that. Do not think for 1 second there is something wrong with you, but anyway back to me I normally watch animal programmes and when I see their butt or whatever I always feel bad about it (even though I didn't feel sexual towards it) it's just frustrating please reply
from a young viewer
Whats your website?
Katie,
I just got out of an adult opp and you are amazing. Rumination is terrible and before I knew what it was I thought I was getting sick or was going to be stuck that way. My program was good but people like you make them great. I appreciate all that you do and can't thank you enough.
The mental health system is really broken on top of our regular health system. Making it hard to find good people to help explain what is going on and tools to try.
You have a special place up in heaven and I will be definitely be using your videos to remind me that self care is important and awareness helps bring healing.
Thank you.
Hello, I was wondering what i could do when i am being bullied because of my OCD. People at school have been teasing me, it's making me more panicked which really doesn't' help anything.
Autumn Rain Did things improve for you?
thanks a looooot dear for this useful video 😍👍👏⚘
#KatiFAQ What do you as a therapist think of alternative treatments? I use something called Access Bars which really helps me with overthinking, anxiety, negative thoughts. It's like the switch off button/vent on the brain. Would you ever try it and perhaps talk about your experience? Search for #accessbars for more info
Buy yourself a flower with a purpose behind it. Each flower means something, like beauty or forgiveness. Think ok what you want in your home and buy a flower that reminds you, so you have that visual.
I have obsessive thoughts of the "hurting others" kind, that are really extreme, and disgusting, and stressful. Of the very same line, there are thoughts of becoming a psychopath or a sociopath or a sadist, that scare the shit out of me because they feel so real. The imagery, and the sensations that come with them are so vivid. It doesn't help the fact that I read chapters of the Marques of Safe books, thing that I regret till today (the imagery and the atrocities and the words that the people there used to justify them keep coming to my head). Thoughts that I won't be able to experience love, or that it is pointless. I've cried about this so much, I am constantly fighting with my own my mind avoiding things that may trigger the feeling that I am going to actually hurt someone, among other stuff. I just want them to stop. I don't wanna be like this. And I feel so hopeless. When the thoughts are there I've even considered suicide to "prevent" me from "going mad/bad" and hurting the people I love. I feel like a bad and horrible person, and like I won't be able to control myself and will "blow up" at any time. My only relief is that I am starting therapy in January, and I hope this can go away someday and I can live happily again.
How do you gather the courage to ask for professional help?
I have ruminating thoughts about being gay, I have always been straight but It feels like I'm ruminating so much my thoughts are becoming me... It's making me question myself so much. I'm waiting for a therapist but it seems to be taking forever.
I was starting to really get into your content, but going to have to unsubscribe because I refuse to be called a Kinion. Definition of minion - “a follower or underling of a powerful person, especially a servile or unimportant one.” That’s a horrible name for your followers, and I think you owe all of them an apology. 😔
My overthinking had become much worse lately and it had started with something from last year around the month of May. However, the rumination thoughts from it happen all of the time and it is in a constant continuous loop. I've grown irritated, annoyed, anxious, etc. I dunno how to tell my boyfriend about it either...
I have realized that the point where I have thought through a problem and can then act just does not exist. Maybe there are some rare cases but 99% of the times I will never reach a point where I say "Oh, now I have really gotten to the bottom of this, now I can act." As a matter of fact I know what is to be done. I don't really need to think about it all that much. I am just afraid. I am not 100% sure what the function of the overthinking is. Perhaps its function is even to avoid starting to take action. So maybe realizing the futility of all this thinking can be a first step. I have made the experience that it is possible to just let go of these thoughts. To tell myself, okay, I don't need this, this is futile, and to then just let these thoughts go. But I am also less afraid than I used to be. So maybe that goes hand in hand.
Hi kati I’ve been having loads of ruminating thoughts about loads of stuff and I want to get back to health so please help me with cbt therapy you recommended.
I love it how she always recommends therapy but never gives a good recommendation for a good free therapist or a website. I am a 17-year-old with no job and practically no money. Is there like no hope for me to get help. I got my school I know, but the counselor there isn't helpful as she isn't a trained professional. I can't ask my parents as they don't believe in therapy as they think it is too expensive which I do think is really true. As even something like better help which is something that is suppose to be a cheap resource is £50. I don't blame Katie. I don't think there are good free resources out there for anyone as no one cares about mental illness
I know this is just me but you speak so loud and fast that it's hard to hear what you are saying. What a shame as you have great topics. You gotta slow down though.
+cameleon Girl It's not just you :D I've watched about six videos now and I keep thinking, "You know, no one says your video has to be this long or this short. You can take as long as you need!"
Jezah Lie yeah, it's just that when someone is talkig fast and almost forced it's hard to take in all that the person is saying. The loud fast talk makes me nervous ahahahaha. I live in NYC lord help me lmao
My wife and I have gone to therapy and we were in a heated discussion about cheating. Therapist said that we should apologize to one another and ask for forgiveness. Wife started to cry and when I said I forgave her, she said really? So here’s the thing, she still states that she never cheated on me. So I find myself ruminating on whether she did or didn’t, when, with whom. I’ve accused her so many times that now she wants a separation. She’s giving us 30 days and in that time we’re going to couples therapy and individual therapy. Now I’m thinking, why do you have to make or set the parameters? When I brought this to her attention she started crying. I need help to stop ruminating so I can be at peace.
What if you don't want to be okay because it's a comfort? Or you like having a therapist? I don't see my therapist now but I don't want to be okay more for the comfort of my depression, if you get me
Hello my thoughts make me so sick
sometimes I wish they would go away
Thank you I am going to try what you say in your video
because I want to get better so bad💙🙏
and by the time I am able to send you this
comment I have read it over 10 times and
once I send this I will still be sick because Im afraid I said something wrong Im sorry
I am not finding anything on the website that says "free resources" Can you help me find them?
This is what I say when I feel Shame,sad or bad when thinking about the past. I say fuck it if I'm wrong or if I'm right it dosnt matter . It's in the past. Know it's ok not to be perfect all the time.
arguing back with ocd thoughts is a compulsion and keeps you trapped in the cycle of ocd. the only way to get over ocd is through erp.
I lessened my overthinking by not worrying about anybody else. I do whatever I want whenever I want and it feels better than trying to please the world and worry about being a "good person".
Thank you Katie. Listening to you always gives me relief
Can u tell me Medicine to stop overthinking
I will be a huge success then
Plz😥
Man.....that second question.......wish I’d found this channel long ago.
When you have OCD, GAD/SA and an ED... I ruminate 24/7
Liz zy I was just at a training today that talked about GAD and OCD- OCD is actually an anxiety disorder in itself. I didn’t realize that for a long time. Sending you lots of positive thoughts ♥️♥️♥️
Wait, it's uncommon to not be able to do anything because of anxiety?
Isn't over thinking part of ADHD and Asperger?
Goddybag4Lee I think (lol) overthinking is a part of almost EveryFreakingDisorderEver
Goddybag4Lee well it could be part of any mental illnes like Anxiety Disorder but its mostly afected on people whit OCD has one becomes very obsessed whit a tough whether it be good or bad to the point wher it leads you to cumpultions and wierd stupid rituals that not only is stresful but timewasting haswel it can also give you a realy hard time to process a simple tougth sometimes it takes me a hour to process something and it can overwhelmed you especially the negetive toughts this could cause you to not whana do things like cleaning going to school or work geting out of bed cook or do simple chouirs because just the tougth of it can overwhelmed you
The thing is even in my friends who don't have any mental illnesses like I do they tend to overthink as well I think it might just be a human being thing. But I try not to think that way because I like to think there is hope.
I can't stand hearing this sentence anymore ! You think I can just switch it off ?! I live with a condition that has my brain running twice as fast you'll ever go ! So I need half the time you take to think about things. ADHD! If I just could do it ! I EFFING would !!
In kids, it's been shown that meditation helps, I wonder if that would help with you as well even though I think you're an adult.
@@ashleyashleym2969 Yes I'm an adult who was told as a child that it would go away anyway when I would grow up so my mother just didn't help me in any way to learn any coping mechanisms.. I'm 28 today.
I'm overthinking about breaking up with my toxic boyfriend
B CG Jesus loves ya, break up with him💕✨ also hope you find true hope and peace in Jesus
same disorder kati but any other new option to stop over thinking please suggestion as soon as possible
Therapy and medication are not an option for me. I have no money
what if you dont have money for medication? :(
#KatiFAQ Hey Kati, I have a question for you. There is a friend of mine, let's call her Kim. Kim has a friend of herself, lets call her Jane. Jane is anorexic, but doesn't want to talk about it. Kim recently found out about it, but when she asked Jane, Jane denied being anorexic. Today, Kim is very upset because she says Jane lied to her. I tried to explain her that anorexia is also something in your mind, and that it's hard for Jane, but Kim doesn't understand and she keeps telling Jane to eat. Can you help me explaining her how to deal with someone who's anorexic?
Yeah. How? I'm confused now.
#KatiFAQ When beginning to start the process of eating solid foods (instead of supplement drinks, fortisip/ensure) how can you tell wether the pain/discomfort in the stomach is physical because the body isn't used to digestion or wether it's psychological due to the fear of food being inside you?
To distract my attention from the negative thoughts I repeat the Lord's Supper...over and over until I forget . works great.
When does an ED start?
I really wish I had money to see a therapist again again. ugh.
LAIDBACKMANNER try betterhelp.com. It was specifically designed to help give those who don't have a lot of money access to competent counselors.
You are like Jesus
..........-----------------===============READ==================----------------.................I have stupid rumination but it started with my pure O, my pure O is this best ever because it comes in waves, but dosent stay, isnt that awesome?? like, im 12, and this has only stayed around for a month, yeah, a trashy month, but at least i dont have to deal with it a christmas, or throught my whole life, only in big waves, and i now know how to deal with it, right now its difficult, but just KNOWING that its going to get better is all i really need, even if my OCD talks back and says, "YOU WANNA COMMIT FOOL" im like "no i dont...." its just a battle in my brain, but i know nothing is real, its 100% fluff just messing with me, and Alot of other unlucky people, but know, it could be worse, and if a 12 Year old can do it. You can to.
This is still amazing, thank you
This happens to me a lot and I really don't like it 😭😓😔😯☹🙁😩😦😨and whenever I hear something on the internet or sicknesses going around I freeze and just get so scared I'm not really sure what to do it's horrible but your helping me a lot and I really appreciate it 🙂I'm starting to feel a bit better about it thank you Kati☺🌹🌷⚘🌿🌼I'm also always shaking because of anxiety. 😔
This! This is my own personal BIGGEST problem-(and mainly surrounding my children)-thanks for this Katie! I’ll keep working on it.
OMG, that 2nd question! That's ME! I never realized it until you talked about it! I've been stuck in depression for YEARS, and that's basically become my identity. The "loser one in the family that can't get her shit together." I LITERALLY overheard my own, not so nice grandma talking to a friend saying "I don't know why she can't get her shit together!" WHO SAYS THAT about their grandchild that you live with??!?? Then she's nice to my face! Oh it pisses me off! Then I feel guilty for being mad at her! Eeeks, well that was a rant! Lol. But this is how I feel! Thanks Kati and to whomever asked that question!! I think I now know what to work on! 💖
cant find the worksheets??
Hey all... I've been really learning a lot from Acceptance and Commitment therapy. It starts from the assumption that we CANNOT control our thoughts, so if we learn to approach our mind/thoughts with acceptance and make space for them... we won't struggle so much. Pain does not equal struggle. Keep trucking ya'll :D
Gurl what is ur fitness regime
Hi Kati... First and foremost I repeat scenarios over and over in my head and it is affecting ability to cope. Im aware of it but cant stop. I have to turn the tv on to sleep for a distraction. At best I sleep 3 hours at a time. Second... I can not keep a train of thought.. Im to the point that I cant interact with my wife, children or grandchildren..
3. I cant work because I dont know what to do next. I have no health insurance.
Great advice, but most of it has missed the mark for me. CBT did not help a single bit. I thought it was me at first, but I realized now that it was the CBT. I don't think CBT is helpful. It is the new thing along with DBT. I realized I had to drop my therapist through the folowing process I experienced. He went sooooooo slow with the CBT, I could have slept through our sessions. Then, I knew it was curtains for him when I asked him this question after six months of therapy and at $200 a pop per session. When are we going to do CBT? He said, "We are doing it". Really? I had no clue. I had told him on many, many, many occasions that there was nothing anyone could tell me, do for me or say to me that would help. He seemed to ignore this. I think saying that to him was like dropping a 300 lb weight on his lap. Maybe he thought he could help me, so he ignored that statement. So glad I told him that we were not a good fit and left.
Hey Ya ! ...... The two best things that I've found for relief of overthinking and ruminating is 1 ......Tapping ,........ to relieve your anxiety about what you're overthinking about . I know it looks kind of goofy while you are doing it but for me it works soooo amazingly well to make me calm down and feel safe ........ Annnnd , #2 is instead of fighting the thoughts , just realize that the thoughts are not you , Or that You are not your thoughts and you have no control over them ...... Just Let them come and let them go ........ Watch them pass by ..... Let them amuse you . Just don't try to fight them as you will loose as you're giving them all the power ...... Just observe them and let them pass by ....