Wow, just can't get over how great it must feel to help sooo many people. Having so much understanding and compassion for such a variety of difficult problems - you are like my superhero.
What has helped me deal with overthinking was listening to Alan Watts' lectures. “The person who thinks all the time has nothing to think about but thoughts, and lives in a world of illusions”
I started crying when I heard the first question as I am not alone it's really hard to stop thinking bad thought. ...keep over thinking and it scares me to the point I wanna hide away incase I hurt myself and others
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This is me spot on. When rumination strikes me during work I go to the bathroom and go nuts trying to shake the "trance". Never works. Ruins my day. I've tried praying, hitting myself, taking deep breaths I just can't shake the beast. It shows on my face and makes me look like someone completely diff. It definitely feels like a demon entering your head.
You have given these thoughts ultimate power. The key is to know that these thoughts will constantly be circulating in your head, whether you like it or not. Most thoughts you have ever formed are floating in your head be it conscious or subconscious but most of them are silent waiting for a trigger or association to be brought to the conscious mind. The most powerful thoughts are the ones that you feed, and give your focus to. Rest assured these thoughts constantly roaming in your head will weaken if you let them pass through your head without giving them much attention, let them slip through as often as they like, knowing that you are not going to focus on them, by practicing non-thinking (some call it being present, mindful, or in the moment), and focusing your energy on uplifting thoughts. Becoming conscious of this shift will you lighten the weight of the bad thoughts and over time weaken and silence them.
May work for some and would be amazing if it could really work. It would put most mental health people in the poor house and looking for another and completely different job.
You exude the vibe of someone who has found their calling in life, works their ass off, and manages to wake up loving what they do everyday. It's inspiring
Meditation can be a good tool for overthinking and anxiety. It can take a long time to get the practice rolling. It can feel awkward to sit there and listen to your thoughts as you attempt to gently move them aside. But it really helps me!
That was my first thought. Do meditation. And not guided meditation. Something like TM. It helps you separate your thoughts from yourself, if that makes sense. I stopped doing it but really need to get back to it. Sending hugs to all.
Ashley ASHLEYM That can be because of a number of reasons. Meditation will never make your anxiety worse. Only you can do that. You could be fighting your thoughts and feelings under the misconception that meditation is about not thinking. Doing that gave me anxiety until I realized the goal is not to have no thoughts-but to observe your thoughts as a separate string of events from you. It’s a very gentle process. Another mistake people make is meditating as a verb. That means to meditate like you’re supposed to be doing something and achieving a goal (reducing anxiety, stopping your thoughts). Those still create a state of resistance to what is. I have definitely meditated to make a panic attack go away and it made me feel worse. That’s because I was still in resistance. Meditation isn’t about *doing* anything. It’s about simply sitting there in observance and acceptance of everything that comes, even the fear you may feel. Doing that over a course of time is proven to change the structure of your brain and increase happiness, concentration and relaxation and reduce the production of stress hormones like cortisol that cause anxiety.
Self talk is so important. I read something I really liked. It says replace bad thoughts with good memories. Especially with people type thoughts. Also I talk to myself like a bossy loving mom. Like “ No Kendra. Not today honey. Move on and do something. Stay busy.” Lol
There are two key things to know about overthinking, #1 thoughts are like bubbles in your mind. They float inside your mind all the time, they are everywhere and are constantly being created whether negative or positive. This is something you have to come to terms with and accept. The good news is. #2 We have control over which thoughts we choose to pay attention to, and strengthen. For many years I have believed that thoughts were uncontrollable, that they are there to haunt me. But After realizing this truth that they are there, and there is nothing I can do about them. Is when I felt I stopped pointing a finger at myself and calling myself insane. Then to find out it is up to me whether I choose to focus on these thoughts is when internal power really began. The more you choose to just let go of the negative thoughts, let them pass without the need to pluck them out and focus energy on them, the smaller and quieter they get. Then begin to focus attention on all the happy and joyful thoughts, and constantly become conscious of this shift. Feed these thoughts and strengthen them. When you reach a point where these thoughts are not easily switched off is when you will receive eternal bliss. I hope this helps. God bless.
for me even happy positive thoughts make me go crazy i can never live in the present moment its not about bad or good thoughts its about ruminating on stupid useless thoughts non stop
Thank you! I've thought nearly the exact same thing before, and to see someone else saying it works for them further validates the method. :) Im so glad we are all in this together!
Controversialist well that nice and evruthing but you have almost no controle over your Tougths if you hage OCD! It literly takes me a hour to process a simple tougth 😔
Hmm? All of us have control over our thoughts. Sounds like a bit of an overestimation of what you think works. Find someone who has OCD or find lots of people with OCD. They will tell you about having control over their thoughts. You need to hear what they say before you make such blanket statements. Please do not bomb me for what I just said because first, it is my opinion, and second, I am not wrong. Not even a little bit. There is no wiggle room here.
Just read your statement after I wrote the below remark. Hope he takes it seriously. Bubbles floating around in our heads? We have nightmares floating around in our heads that other people cannot even imagine. Controversialist needs to research OCD...alot. Plus, he/she should join an OCD group, give out the bubble analogy to people suffering. He will need a solid day or two to read what they say about his bubble advice.
Kate! I came across your channel today after noticing (once again) my very loud inner critic. I just want to thank you for taking the time out to put this wisdom out to those of us who need it. You are a kind and beautiful person. Thank you!
Katie, I just got out of an adult opp and you are amazing. Rumination is terrible and before I knew what it was I thought I was getting sick or was going to be stuck that way. My program was good but people like you make them great. I appreciate all that you do and can't thank you enough. The mental health system is really broken on top of our regular health system. Making it hard to find good people to help explain what is going on and tools to try. You have a special place up in heaven and I will be definitely be using your videos to remind me that self care is important and awareness helps bring healing. Thank you.
I have these ruminating thoughts as well.. my therapist tried to give me tips like "try to replace your bad thoughts with nice memories" and nothing helped me. When I started imagining how I take these thoughts out of my head with my hand and throw them on the ground so they break into pieces , I started forgetting about these things at least for a while. This was the only thing that could help me. another helpful but simple thing is to just talk about stuff with people and completely focus on the topic. this helps me destroy that circuitry of bad thoughts because sometimes I can't escape it.
"Maybe we don't know anything and we are starting from scratch, but is't that awsome? We are learning about ourselves, we're going to start from scratch, we're going to figure it out." This is so encouraging. Thank you, Katie!
I had extreme anxiety all throughout my high school years and I ended up turning to weed to help calm the thoughts. However, I started going on to other drugs so I knew I had to stop. Today I practice mindfulness meditation everyday and it has completely changed my life. Life is so good now and some days I don't even analyze at all which is a huge thing for me because before, I couldn't sleep until I analyzed each and every single thing I did on that particular day!
Weed to calm your thought?? I found weed actually gave me anxiety unless I drank alcohol while I was smoking weed. If I need to calm down I drink alcohol, weed is a hell no if I'm already anxious because that'll make the problem a million times worse.
Davinia Faapoi did ya have enough free time after your high school years to live your life , spend your free time well, and Do great and extraordinary things past your anxiety during high school?
The last time I was experiencing intrusive amounts of ruminating thoughts I decided to muffle it out with impactful audios. For me, that was personal developement that would help me grow the skills that I felt the most limited in. A book that really helped me was Emotional Agility. Later on, I found that drawing out my emotions helped me to not contain them in my mind, physical activities have helped me to use the built up energy, and go forward in projects that I'm passionate about has helped me to feel like I'm being heard by myself.
WHY did I have to find your channel as I was going to bed!? This makes me think MORE but I don't want to stop watching! lol Thank you for posting these videos. I have a problem with this. I never thought of ruminating in that sense. I have this quote in my head, "Smells like puke from a mule been ruminating on asparagus for two weeks!" But I've struggled with depression and anxiety for the past twelve years and have finally decided to try talking to a therapist again. It's really hard to talk to people for me (friends or strangers, I could probably count on one hand the people I can even make eye contact with!) I feel like this was a great time for me to find your channel. You can thank Hannah Hart!
I lessened my overthinking by not worrying about anybody else. I do whatever I want whenever I want and it feels better than trying to please the world and worry about being a "good person".
I've watched your videos for the past year Kati. They've helped a lot with my anger and anxiety. Thank you a lot. Only after ive improved have I seen how anxious and angry everyone else actually is and I can detach now rather than just bicker and react.
Kati you are wonderful thank you for all the recommendations. Most of us know what we have to do, but tend to avoid it completely. I used to take an antidepressant to help with my GAD, but instead I developed horrible intrusive thoughts of harm and suicide. Ever since, I've learned how to handle the intrusive thoughts for the most part, but they still come back occasionally and make me feel so numb, without hope. It's still a struggle, but it's become much better. It's one of the reasons why I'm so scared of looking for help, but it might just be necessary to keep trying. Blessings to you~
second question; it hit me to the core! it's not like it's so much of not knowing who we are, how to be normal, etc. It's REALLY more like letting my guard down. My life, although there are SO many great things, since the age of three, I have been hit left and right over and over AND over again, with adversities. so ultimately, I think not truly freeing oneself in this circumstance is a protection mechanism to not FULLY get caught off guard, and completely breaking down when that sense of self control has once again been shaken to the core. It sucks so bad to have that ingrained but, it does help knowing I have a sense of being somewhat prepared. I envey the people who can just be at calm and still handle. I just don't know how to do that...
my psychiatrist taught me your dendrits which are like the arms of your brain cells die when you're exposed to high anxiety, so over-thinking and getting anxiously constantly kills those. Taking meds help build them back so helps with therapy (: takes months to work but meds do help.
They do work but typically if youre rather suggestable and in that case hypnosis and other Eastern medicines are just as likely to work AND theyre far less dangerous!
The second question i could have written myself! It's exactly how i feel right now. I'm doing a lot better but I feel like I am holding myself back in recovery because of this. Thank you for the tips, I'll talk to my therapist and possibly journal as well :)
I have this amazing strategy I use that I got from my love of English class. There’s something called AEC (assertion, evidence, and commentary)..so basically I have the thought that keeps coming into my head..let’s go with the example of “I think my friend is talking behind my back.” There’s our assertion. After that we have to get at LEAST 3 pieces of evidence to back up the assertion (this is the most important step so don’t skip it!!) and those evidences will prove your thought is correct, then if you can’t find evidence for that thought then it’s false and you can relax. Last step is commentary, where you would confront there person or whatever the thought is about if necessary. Thanks for reading all this and I hope it helps a lot of people!
I struggle with multiple anxiety disorders, when I find myself ruminating to the point of an anxiety attack, I force myself to stop for a second, ask myself rational questions of what I'm ruminating about, like what is the likelihood that event will actually happen, what is the likelihood that those people will really think poorly of me, am I really as worthless as I feel and think I am, what is making me feel worthless etc, I find it helps most the time when I try it.
I’ve become so obsessed and so comfortable in my mental illnesses and I know it’s not healthy, but I’m just so convinced that if I don’t have these experiences and I’m no good for this world.
This was such an informative video. One detail that I picked up on from watching this video is that actions such as rumination are experienced by others and that I am not alone; so, it raised my awareness on this topic. I found your channel yesterday and am preparing for a series of therapy session after graduating from college; these ideas may help facilitate conversations with my therapist so that they can better understands my needs. I'll continue to go through any videos that I have not yet seen on your channel and see what I can get from of them.
Around the middle of you video, question 2 "Is it normal to not want to get better..." resonated with me. For the past year I have been seeing a therapist as part of my transition. My gender dysphoria was not crippling but I did, and still do, deal with bouts of depression, genralized anxiety disorder, and Pure-O OCD (ruminative type). As my therapy has progressed I have found myself to be better able to deal with my mental health issues but as I go along I find myself resisting any feeling of happiness and joy. I have no expectations about anything or anyone because I have been burned and disappointed numerous times, so I don't allow myself the "luxury" of hopeful expectations that 1.) my life will get better than it is now; 2.) that friends and family will do as they say and be there for me if I need them; and finally 3.) that my co-workers are being genuine in their expressions of concern about my questioning why do we need to be happy... about anything. I find myself ruminating on this last point quite often "Why do I need to be happy?" Don't get me wrong the people I work with are fantastic and the culture where I work is to celebrate everything no matter how small. When asked about my birthday I just gave a vague answer that it was coming up and I specifically stated that if they were find out when it was I did not want any celebration around my birthday whatsoever. By and large they have mostly complied with that request. I have told my boss if he feels the absolute need to praise me for something I have done at work that it be done privately and not in front of other people because I feel extremely uncomfortable at best and at worst I build up internalized anger over it. My boss sometimes forgets, like he did recently, I politely said thank you but inside I felt numb and angry at this gesture which then causes me to overthink everything I have done up to that point in an effort to figure out how to avoid it happening again. This causes me to make more mistakes in my work than I would have otherwise made. Is it wrong for me to not want people to want to nice things for me, as I believe that my happiness it is not their responsibility. This will be a topic of discussion with my therapist, as I brought this up, at my next appointment.
Kati, finding your videos this weekend have helped me cope & understand my intrusive thoughts so much and realize I’m not a bad person. Much love & keep it up!
...wow...I found Kati through Chris Ballinger's Magic Monday awhile ago and um...I wasn't expecting the content to be this deep and amazing! I'm currently doing my nightly youtube runs and it's midnight...huge day at work tomorrow (and I'm always overthinking about that, go figure)...I guess I don't know where I'm going with this. Kati, I will be watching loads more of your videos in the near future! You seem like a very helpful, caring person...with a pretty voice and beautiful face as well. You win! :D
OMG, that 2nd question! That's ME! I never realized it until you talked about it! I've been stuck in depression for YEARS, and that's basically become my identity. The "loser one in the family that can't get her shit together." I LITERALLY overheard my own, not so nice grandma talking to a friend saying "I don't know why she can't get her shit together!" WHO SAYS THAT about their grandchild that you live with??!?? Then she's nice to my face! Oh it pisses me off! Then I feel guilty for being mad at her! Eeeks, well that was a rant! Lol. But this is how I feel! Thanks Kati and to whomever asked that question!! I think I now know what to work on! 💖
I have asked that second question SOOOO many times. The reason why I feel like I don't want to recover is because I still feel like my eating disorder specifically is a part of me. So who am I if I'm missing that piece. Then it's also a coping mechanism that is so habitual that I struggle to stay away.
This helped me so much...I know I need to see someone but I looked up videos to try and ease my mind because i am just sitting at home and feel like i am living in someone elses body and just thinking every little thing I feel is a life or death situation constantly day in and day out and its exhausting....I put my mother through this and she just cries because she has no idea how to help her child and everytime I go to my doctor's they just tell me its anxiety and I felt so hopeless like this would go on forever because no one seemed to care enough to get me the help i needed...I am going to find someone to talk to instead of just relying on others feedback from now on. This might not make a lot of sense to a lot of people but it makes me so much better by expressing it! :)
Nick Blue Hey Nick! Have you ever had anxiety attacks? One symptom of anxiety attacks is to not feel like yourself or like you aren’t in your body. ♥️♥️
I've been struggling so much with cycling thoughts which cause me a lot of stress for..well I don't really know when it started but it's been very stressful in the past few months. I've searched for so long about what it could be, that's what brought me to your channel. I over think everything from test answers to really anything that has to do with anything so the title spiked my interest. I almost clicked off when you started talking about OCD and rumination because I know what I was going through wasn't similar. But I've never hear of rumination before. The way you described it made so much sense. Anyway, this video just clarified a lot of things for me and I really appreciate what you're doing
Yeah I recently noticed I overthink a lot. What I try and do is that when I catch myself overthinking I tell myself "im not being present" because I think overthinking is just not being present and if you can somehow return to the present it can help me snap out of overthinking/anxious thoughts
Great questions Kati :) I've been having ruminating thoughts the past couple of days myself after being told I'm 'too at risk' and 'not stable enough' for help. All these thoughts have started going round in my head about how it doesn't make any sense and that I obviously don't deserve help or that I'm not well enough or not sick enough for help. I don't know. I guess I just have to get better on my own. Kati and this community keep me going though and I'm so grateful for that.
Kati, I've been going to my first therapy session, and you know what, it's one of the best decision I've ever made. It's weird how it works fast to me, I don't even know what depression feel like now. It's gone. But I'll wait for a little bit, I've been known to be unstable in my optimism. This feeling is different, tho. It's like I'm in control and not being overwhelmed.
This may sound strange but I find that when my blood sugar dips too much I get ruminating thoughts. Also, I had allergies to some foods like dairy and gluten and they caused me OCD too.
The main thing I try to do is block the thoughts by staying busy- going to the gym, spending time with family, finding a work project. I have told my friends and family about my over thinking and holding onto one thought and they usually help to snap me out of it when they can see I'm not with them but living in my head instead! If you don't have anybody around you then find some quotes online to help you through the day. I usually Google self acceptance quotes and learning to love myself no matter What regardless of mistakes that I have made. I am also reading a book called 'the subtle art of not giving a f***' which is really helpful too. Another tip is tell yourself you don't know what the future holds, live in the present. If everything is ok right now and you are blessed then carry on smiling and go with the flow of life. Some things will not be in your control and that's ok (this is coming from a control freak!!) But you have to realise that we cannot control everything- just let it go and things will eventually fall into place. Hope this helps x
I hade my last meeting with my school concullor this week (because i'm going to start a new school after the summer). WE talked about how far I've come and so on. In the end she said ¨My advice for you in the future is just to stop thinking so much, just do and just be, don't think.¨. And I know that is my biggest problem: to stop overthinking. but it's so hard...
Hey , Kati! I'm glad I found you on the media! You've helped me a lot with learning things about mental illnesses and etc. I'm struggling with overthinking, jealous and I think I have a narcissistic personality disorder, because I act like a narcissistic person. I went to school psychologist in the past , but it didn't help me . What do I do ? I live in Russia , and it seems that I will not be able to afford this kind of thing . I want to help myself firstly .there's no one to help me . What do I do ?
Also , I'm afraid of my bad behavior . I think I'm a despotic person , and it hurts me a lot . I know this is stupid and it's not a kind of thing that can heal , but can I change my character ?can I change the way I am ? I don't want to be bad .
Елена Свиридова have you thought of moving out of Russia and come here to the United States? You can apply for health benefits right away at the State Welfare office. Lots of benefits for people with a low income here in the USA.
I constantly ruminate that I will hurt people I love, I know it's pointless and has no valid truth, I developed anxiety this year on top of my 16yr. struggle with OCD and it sucks!! I feel like there's no hope but nothing could be further from the truth.. all of us struggling will get better as hard as it is stay positive.
If you're having ruminating thoughts especially with OCD; CBT will only go so far to help you cope. Exposure Response Prevention is the way to go. It is what really helps you in the moment was well as safeguard you in the future. I will be speaking about this more at the OCD conference in Boston in July.
NateTechGuy Agreed! I vlog about ERP on my channel a lot. Also, I want to go to that conference so bad, but I don't know if I'll be able to. :( I hope your speaking goes well!
If you want to, you should try it! Being in the TH-cam mental health community is so fun and to me it feels great to help people, since I'm not a professional, but I have experience with the topic!
When I was in therapy for my OCD, I did ERP. It was the best method to treat my fear of giving other people dangerous germs. My doctor told me to back cookies or something else, bring them into work and hand them out to everyone. I did and it felt wonderful to me. I was able to beat that Gremlin who was residing in my mind and was stealing my happiness. By the end, I was eating the chocolate cookies myself because they were so good. Not because of the OCD. Cannot recommend ERP enough. The initial horrible fear you have cannot coexist with doing exactly what your OCD mind is telling you not to do and you do it anyway. I remember those happy days as I was getter better and better. Really, they were some of the happiest days of my life. No more OCD 35 years later!
Omg that was really insightful. I keep talking to people about my mental issues, I hardly talk about anything else. I guess I was playing the victim to get attention. If I recover, what will I talk about? I actually don't know who I really want to be, or who I can be.
Hey Ya ! ...... The two best things that I've found for relief of overthinking and ruminating is 1 ......Tapping ,........ to relieve your anxiety about what you're overthinking about . I know it looks kind of goofy while you are doing it but for me it works soooo amazingly well to make me calm down and feel safe ........ Annnnd , #2 is instead of fighting the thoughts , just realize that the thoughts are not you , Or that You are not your thoughts and you have no control over them ...... Just Let them come and let them go ........ Watch them pass by ..... Let them amuse you . Just don't try to fight them as you will loose as you're giving them all the power ...... Just observe them and let them pass by ....
I struggle with ruminating thoughts and I guess I just assumed there wasn't really anything to help me with that but I guess hearing Kati say it I should see a therapist but something that helps me that's a bit more immediate that therapy so it helps but you most definitely should NOT rely on is smoking cannabis. It has helped me with my anxiety and all those ruminating thoughts so much and I still need to see a therapist to deal with the issues, smoking can help relieve the stress and all that
I think overthinking and expectations have ruined my recent relationship and that fucked me up. :/ I'm getting through it.. eventually but ya.. it sucks. :/
Buy yourself a flower with a purpose behind it. Each flower means something, like beauty or forgiveness. Think ok what you want in your home and buy a flower that reminds you, so you have that visual.
HEY KATI! i was wondering if you could do a video on a topic my psychologist and myself were talking about. what is the difference between the mental state of someone physically ill from terminal diseases and are fighting their hardest to stay alive but when it comes to mental health issues and people who are suicidal give up and decide to take their life why is it different? it would be very interesting your thoughts on this love all your videos :)
Meditation would be a good #3. Using the ‘noting’ technique daily for about ten minutes a day for a month and you can reduce self-talk and being more in the moment.
#katiFAQ .Hi Kati . This is a journal topic "What if I fall? Oh , but my darling what if you fly" I'm having a very important exam this week . I had given this very exam last year and failed. I AM better prepared now, but I still feel I need to do much better but I couldn't do my very best due to my struggles with self harm this year. Now im panicking and feeling suicidal but I hear God ( im religious)tell me " Don't take the easy way out. The glory is in the fight not the result. Just think, what if this time you are good enough but you throw it away because you're too scared to even try?"
Overthinking still can be a real problem for me. I usually do mindfulness "in the moment" or try to "complete" the thought as quickly as possible. As far as long-term work, I'm working on meditation.
I know this is an old vid but I’m just gonna throw this out there; I feel like Katie suggests meds a little to quickly and often for this one reason; I tried meds a couple of times last year and found the negative side effects SO BAD that Im now trying to recover from THAT on top of all my original issues. I had never in my life felt like it would be better to not be here until I tried meds, having those thoughts scared me so much that they made me incredibly depressed and numb and ever since I haven’t been able to go more than a few days without crying or feeling sad and overwhelmed. So I think there needs to be far more caution when suggesting and prescribing meds, patients NEED to be sure that they can handle what may come from trying them and have an amazing support team in place.
I highly recommend people do there research. A great place to start is with Irving Kirsch. He is the Associate Director of the Program in Placebo Studies and a lecturer in medicine at Harvard Medical School. For me I looked into his anti anxiety/ depression research. Turns out medications for anxiety/ depression generally have only been proven to be an average of only 3% more effective than the placebo effect. On top of that these drugs actually increase the likelyhood of suicidal thoughts and come with a host of other possible side effects.
100% agree, all the research if you actually look at it, shows that pills are typically as good as placebos and they have a lot of negative side effects that placebos just don't have. I think Benzodiazepines are the only pill that actually has been proven to be better than placebo but that's a very dangerous pill as it's very addictive.
This happens to me a lot and I really don't like it 😭😓😔😯☹🙁😩😦😨and whenever I hear something on the internet or sicknesses going around I freeze and just get so scared I'm not really sure what to do it's horrible but your helping me a lot and I really appreciate it 🙂I'm starting to feel a bit better about it thank you Kati☺🌹🌷⚘🌿🌼I'm also always shaking because of anxiety. 😔
when she ends her sentence with ''okay" super calming
mikeoct27 YES it oddly fills a need
i love how she always says "we" like we're not alone in the things we go through. much love!!
Robin Perkins I totally agree ♥️♥️♥️
Wow, just can't get over how great it must feel to help sooo many people. Having so much understanding and compassion for such a variety of difficult problems - you are like my superhero.
What has helped me deal with overthinking was listening to Alan Watts' lectures.
“The person who thinks all the time has nothing to think about but thoughts, and lives in a world of illusions”
I started crying when I heard the first question as I am not alone it's really hard to stop thinking bad thought. ...keep over thinking and it scares me to the point I wanna hide away incase I hurt myself and others
You are not alone! wish for best for all of us
Same here
It's hard not to overthink, though!
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Worst thing about it is that if I chew on it some more I might get The Answer. False promise, I know, but...
I think this what I’m going through at the moment ,overthinking things .So finding this video is at the right time for me so this should be helpful.
I accidentally found your channel and it's really fascinating to watch your videos.. lots of love from INDIA ❤️❤️
This is me spot on.
When rumination strikes me during work I go to the bathroom and go nuts trying to shake the "trance".
Never works.
Ruins my day. I've tried praying, hitting myself, taking deep breaths I just can't shake the beast.
It shows on my face and makes me look like someone completely diff.
It definitely feels like a demon entering your head.
You have given these thoughts ultimate power. The key is to know that these thoughts will constantly be circulating in your head, whether you like it or not. Most thoughts you have ever formed are floating in your head be it conscious or subconscious but most of them are silent waiting for a trigger or association to be brought to the conscious mind. The most powerful thoughts are the ones that you feed, and give your focus to. Rest assured these thoughts constantly roaming in your head will weaken if you let them pass through your head without giving them much attention, let them slip through as often as they like, knowing that you are not going to focus on them, by practicing non-thinking (some call it being present, mindful, or in the moment), and focusing your energy on uplifting thoughts. Becoming conscious of this shift will you lighten the weight of the bad thoughts and over time weaken and silence them.
try focusing on the now.observe the shape of objects focus on sounds or smells i am trying to ruminating ruined my life
Myles Bishop you’re not alone brother it happened to me and I wanted to run far away
May work for some and would be amazing if it could really work. It would put most mental health people in the poor house and looking for another and completely different job.
You can Myles Bishop i truly Believe.
You exude the vibe of someone who has found their calling in life, works their ass off, and manages to wake up loving what they do everyday. It's inspiring
Meditation can be a good tool for overthinking and anxiety. It can take a long time to get the practice rolling. It can feel awkward to sit there and listen to your thoughts as you attempt to gently move them aside. But it really helps me!
Melody Luna it's a skill I often overlook. I need to try it more
That was my first thought. Do meditation. And not guided meditation. Something like TM. It helps you separate your thoughts from yourself, if that makes sense. I stopped doing it but really need to get back to it. Sending hugs to all.
I actually found meditation actually made anxiety worse.
Ashley ASHLEYM That can be because of a number of reasons. Meditation will never make your anxiety worse. Only you can do that. You could be fighting your thoughts and feelings under the misconception that meditation is about not thinking. Doing that gave me anxiety until I realized the goal is not to have no thoughts-but to observe your thoughts as a separate string of events from you. It’s a very gentle process. Another mistake people make is meditating as a verb. That means to meditate like you’re supposed to be doing something and achieving a goal (reducing anxiety, stopping your thoughts). Those still create a state of resistance to what is. I have definitely meditated to make a panic attack go away and it made me feel worse. That’s because I was still in resistance. Meditation isn’t about *doing* anything. It’s about simply sitting there in observance and acceptance of everything that comes, even the fear you may feel. Doing that over a course of time is proven to change the structure of your brain and increase happiness, concentration and relaxation and reduce the production of stress hormones like cortisol that cause anxiety.
Melody Luna how long until it started working?
Self talk is so important. I read something I really liked. It says replace bad thoughts with good memories. Especially with people type thoughts. Also I talk to myself like a bossy loving mom. Like “ No Kendra. Not today honey. Move on and do something. Stay busy.” Lol
There are two key things to know about overthinking, #1 thoughts are like bubbles in your mind. They float inside your mind all the time, they are everywhere and are constantly being created whether negative or positive. This is something you have to come to terms with and accept. The good news is. #2 We have control over which thoughts we choose to pay attention to, and strengthen. For many years I have believed that thoughts were uncontrollable, that they are there to haunt me. But After realizing this truth that they are there, and there is nothing I can do about them. Is when I felt I stopped pointing a finger at myself and calling myself insane. Then to find out it is up to me whether I choose to focus on these thoughts is when internal power really began. The more you choose to just let go of the negative thoughts, let them pass without the need to pluck them out and focus energy on them, the smaller and quieter they get. Then begin to focus attention on all the happy and joyful thoughts, and constantly become conscious of this shift. Feed these thoughts and strengthen them. When you reach a point where these thoughts are not easily switched off is when you will receive eternal bliss. I hope this helps. God bless.
for me even happy positive thoughts make me go crazy i can never live in the present moment its not about bad or good thoughts its about ruminating on stupid useless thoughts non stop
Thank you! I've thought nearly the exact same thing before, and to see someone else saying it works for them further validates the method. :) Im so glad we are all in this together!
Controversialist well that nice and evruthing but you have almost no controle over your Tougths if you hage OCD! It literly takes me a hour to process a simple tougth 😔
Hmm? All of us have control over our thoughts. Sounds like a bit of an overestimation of what you think works. Find someone who has OCD or find lots of people with OCD. They will tell you about having control over their thoughts. You need to hear what they say before you make such blanket statements. Please do not bomb me for what I just said because first, it is my opinion, and second, I am not wrong. Not even a little bit. There is no wiggle room here.
Just read your statement after I wrote the below remark. Hope he takes it seriously. Bubbles floating around in our heads? We have nightmares floating around in our heads that other people cannot even imagine. Controversialist needs to research OCD...alot. Plus, he/she should join an OCD group, give out the bubble analogy to people suffering. He will need a solid day or two to read what they say about his bubble advice.
Kate! I came across your channel today after noticing (once again) my very loud inner critic. I just want to thank you for taking the time out to put this wisdom out to those of us who need it. You are a kind and beautiful person. Thank you!
Katie,
I just got out of an adult opp and you are amazing. Rumination is terrible and before I knew what it was I thought I was getting sick or was going to be stuck that way. My program was good but people like you make them great. I appreciate all that you do and can't thank you enough.
The mental health system is really broken on top of our regular health system. Making it hard to find good people to help explain what is going on and tools to try.
You have a special place up in heaven and I will be definitely be using your videos to remind me that self care is important and awareness helps bring healing.
Thank you.
I have these ruminating thoughts as well.. my therapist tried to give me tips like "try to replace your bad thoughts with nice memories" and nothing helped me. When I started imagining how I take these thoughts out of my head with my hand and throw them on the ground so they break into pieces , I started forgetting about these things at least for a while. This was the only thing that could help me.
another helpful but simple thing is to just talk about stuff with people and completely focus on the topic. this helps me destroy that circuitry of bad thoughts because sometimes I can't escape it.
"Maybe we don't know anything and we are starting from scratch, but is't that awsome? We are learning about ourselves, we're going to start from scratch, we're going to figure it out." This is so encouraging. Thank you, Katie!
I had extreme anxiety all throughout my high school years and I ended up turning to weed to help calm the thoughts. However, I started going on to other drugs so I knew I had to stop. Today I practice mindfulness meditation everyday and it has completely changed my life. Life is so good now and some days I don't even analyze at all which is a huge thing for me because before, I couldn't sleep until I analyzed each and every single thing I did on that particular day!
Weed to calm your thought?? I found weed actually gave me anxiety unless I drank alcohol while I was smoking weed. If I need to calm down I drink alcohol, weed is a hell no if I'm already anxious because that'll make the problem a million times worse.
Davinia Faapoi did ya have enough free time after your high school years to live your life , spend your free time well, and Do great and extraordinary things past your anxiety during high school?
The last time I was experiencing intrusive amounts of ruminating thoughts I decided to muffle it out with impactful audios.
For me, that was personal developement that would help me grow the skills that I felt the most limited in. A book that really helped me was Emotional Agility.
Later on, I found that drawing out my emotions helped me to not contain them in my mind, physical activities have helped me to use the built up energy, and go forward in projects that I'm passionate about has helped me to feel like I'm being heard by myself.
WHY did I have to find your channel as I was going to bed!? This makes me think MORE but I don't want to stop watching! lol Thank you for posting these videos. I have a problem with this. I never thought of ruminating in that sense. I have this quote in my head, "Smells like puke from a mule been ruminating on asparagus for two weeks!" But I've struggled with depression and anxiety for the past twelve years and have finally decided to try talking to a therapist again. It's really hard to talk to people for me (friends or strangers, I could probably count on one hand the people I can even make eye contact with!) I feel like this was a great time for me to find your channel. You can thank Hannah Hart!
I lessened my overthinking by not worrying about anybody else. I do whatever I want whenever I want and it feels better than trying to please the world and worry about being a "good person".
I've watched your videos for the past year Kati. They've helped a lot with my anger and anxiety. Thank you a lot. Only after ive improved have I seen how anxious and angry everyone else actually is and I can detach now rather than just bicker and react.
Kati you are wonderful thank you for all the recommendations. Most of us know what we have to do, but tend to avoid it completely. I used to take an antidepressant to help with my GAD, but instead I developed horrible intrusive thoughts of harm and suicide. Ever since, I've learned how to handle the intrusive thoughts for the most part, but they still come back occasionally and make me feel so numb, without hope. It's still a struggle, but it's become much better. It's one of the reasons why I'm so scared of looking for help, but it might just be necessary to keep trying. Blessings to you~
Rumination... The perfect word. Danke! Reminds me of last year (2017), when I used to have ongoing anxious memories.
second question; it hit me to the core! it's not like it's so much of not knowing who we are, how to be normal, etc. It's REALLY more like letting my guard down. My life, although there are SO many great things, since the age of three, I have been hit left and right over and over AND over again, with adversities. so ultimately, I think not truly freeing oneself in this circumstance is a protection mechanism to not FULLY get caught off guard, and completely breaking down when that sense of self control has once again been shaken to the core. It sucks so bad to have that ingrained but, it does help knowing I have a sense of being somewhat prepared. I envey the people who can just be at calm and still handle. I just don't know how to do that...
my psychiatrist taught me your dendrits which are like the arms of your brain cells die when you're exposed to high anxiety, so over-thinking and getting anxiously constantly kills those. Taking meds help build them back so helps with therapy (: takes months to work but meds do help.
They do work but typically if youre rather suggestable and in that case hypnosis and other Eastern medicines are just as likely to work AND theyre far less dangerous!
Kati is my idea of a great therapist. A fun person who explains the most serious things in an engaing manner.
Thank you for answering my question *****!!! I really appreciate your help, support, and advice.
This! This is my own personal BIGGEST problem-(and mainly surrounding my children)-thanks for this Katie! I’ll keep working on it.
You are genuinely a wonderful person and thank you for the reassurance throughout your advice 💜
Thank you this was very helpful and informative 👍👍
The second question i could have written myself! It's exactly how i feel right now. I'm doing a lot better but I feel like I am holding myself back in recovery because of this. Thank you for the tips, I'll talk to my therapist and possibly journal as well :)
I have this amazing strategy I use that I got from my love of English class. There’s something called AEC (assertion, evidence, and commentary)..so basically I have the thought that keeps coming into my head..let’s go with the example of “I think my friend is talking behind my back.” There’s our assertion. After that we have to get at LEAST 3 pieces of evidence to back up the assertion (this is the most important step so don’t skip it!!) and those evidences will prove your thought is correct, then if you can’t find evidence for that thought then it’s false and you can relax. Last step is commentary, where you would confront there person or whatever the thought is about if necessary. Thanks for reading all this and I hope it helps a lot of people!
I struggle with multiple anxiety disorders, when I find myself ruminating to the point of an anxiety attack, I force myself to stop for a second, ask myself rational questions of what I'm ruminating about, like what is the likelihood that event will actually happen, what is the likelihood that those people will really think poorly of me, am I really as worthless as I feel and think I am, what is making me feel worthless etc, I find it helps most the time when I try it.
I am a huge fan of your channel, I am just about to get my Masters, and your channel is just great,,,keep up the good work
Omg that question about not wanting to get better was a gut punch. Nail on head for me.
Thank you Katie. Listening to you always gives me relief
I’ve become so obsessed and so comfortable in my mental illnesses and I know it’s not healthy, but I’m just so convinced that if I don’t have these experiences and I’m no good for this world.
Kati, I recommended your videos to my therapist! Their newish to their career, but I hope they like it and find your channel super resourceful!
you are a beautiful soul. Its really sweet of you to make all these videos. You're helping out so many
When ever you have a problem always seek help. Thank you kati
Your vids randomly pop up in my front page & it's usually helpful & validating.
This was such an informative video. One detail that I picked up on from watching this video is that actions such as rumination are experienced by others and that I am not alone; so, it raised my awareness on this topic.
I found your channel yesterday and am preparing for a series of therapy session after graduating from college; these ideas may help facilitate conversations with my therapist so that they can better understands my needs. I'll continue to go through any videos that I have not yet seen on your channel and see what I can get from of them.
I over think a lot. I hate it.
Around the middle of you video, question 2 "Is it normal to not want to get better..." resonated with me. For the past year I have been seeing a therapist as part of my transition. My gender dysphoria was not crippling but I did, and still do, deal with bouts of depression, genralized anxiety disorder, and Pure-O OCD (ruminative type). As my therapy has progressed I have found myself to be better able to deal with my mental health issues but as I go along I find myself resisting any feeling of happiness and joy. I have no expectations about anything or anyone because I have been burned and disappointed numerous times, so I don't allow myself the "luxury" of hopeful expectations that 1.) my life will get better than it is now; 2.) that friends and family will do as they say and be there for me if I need them; and finally 3.) that my co-workers are being genuine in their expressions of concern about my questioning why do we need to be happy... about anything. I find myself ruminating on this last point quite often "Why do I need to be happy?" Don't get me wrong the people I work with are fantastic and the culture where I work is to celebrate everything no matter how small. When asked about my birthday I just gave a vague answer that it was coming up and I specifically stated that if they were find out when it was I did not want any celebration around my birthday whatsoever. By and large they have mostly complied with that request. I have told my boss if he feels the absolute need to praise me for something I have done at work that it be done privately and not in front of other people because I feel extremely uncomfortable at best and at worst I build up internalized anger over it. My boss sometimes forgets, like he did recently, I politely said thank you but inside I felt numb and angry at this gesture which then causes me to overthink everything I have done up to that point in an effort to figure out how to avoid it happening again. This causes me to make more mistakes in my work than I would have otherwise made. Is it wrong for me to not want people to want to nice things for me, as I believe that my happiness it is not their responsibility. This will be a topic of discussion with my therapist, as I brought this up, at my next appointment.
Kati, finding your videos this weekend have helped me cope & understand my intrusive thoughts so much and realize I’m not a bad person. Much love & keep it up!
...wow...I found Kati through Chris Ballinger's Magic Monday awhile ago and um...I wasn't expecting the content to be this deep and amazing! I'm currently doing my nightly youtube runs and it's midnight...huge day at work tomorrow (and I'm always overthinking about that, go figure)...I guess I don't know where I'm going with this. Kati, I will be watching loads more of your videos in the near future! You seem like a very helpful, caring person...with a pretty voice and beautiful face as well. You win! :D
OMG, that 2nd question! That's ME! I never realized it until you talked about it! I've been stuck in depression for YEARS, and that's basically become my identity. The "loser one in the family that can't get her shit together." I LITERALLY overheard my own, not so nice grandma talking to a friend saying "I don't know why she can't get her shit together!" WHO SAYS THAT about their grandchild that you live with??!?? Then she's nice to my face! Oh it pisses me off! Then I feel guilty for being mad at her! Eeeks, well that was a rant! Lol. But this is how I feel! Thanks Kati and to whomever asked that question!! I think I now know what to work on! 💖
CBT, Journaling and EFT have been so so so helpful.
I have asked that second question SOOOO many times. The reason why I feel like I don't want to recover is because I still feel like my eating disorder specifically is a part of me. So who am I if I'm missing that piece. Then it's also a coping mechanism that is so habitual that I struggle to stay away.
This helped me so much...I know I need to see someone but I looked up videos to try and ease my mind because i am just sitting at home and feel like i am living in someone elses body and just thinking every little thing I feel is a life or death situation constantly day in and day out and its exhausting....I put my mother through this and she just cries because she has no idea how to help her child and everytime I go to my doctor's they just tell me its anxiety and I felt so hopeless like this would go on forever because no one seemed to care enough to get me the help i needed...I am going to find someone to talk to instead of just relying on others feedback from now on. This might not make a lot of sense to a lot of people but it makes me so much better by expressing it! :)
Nick Blue Hey Nick! Have you ever had anxiety attacks? One symptom of anxiety attacks is to not feel like yourself or like you aren’t in your body. ♥️♥️
I've been struggling so much with cycling thoughts which cause me a lot of stress for..well I don't really know when it started but it's been very stressful in the past few months. I've searched for so long about what it could be, that's what brought me to your channel. I over think everything from test answers to really anything that has to do with anything so the title spiked my interest. I almost clicked off when you started talking about OCD and rumination because I know what I was going through wasn't similar. But I've never hear of rumination before. The way you described it made so much sense. Anyway, this video just clarified a lot of things for me and I really appreciate what you're doing
Kati Morton i love you and i love listening to you your advice is fantastic thank you so much for your help !!! 🤗
Thank you so much Kati! Your videos have a soothing effect on my turbulent mind space
Yeah I recently noticed I overthink a lot. What I try and do is that when I catch myself overthinking I tell myself "im not being present" because I think overthinking is just not being present and if you can somehow return to the present it can help me snap out of overthinking/anxious thoughts
Great questions Kati :) I've been having ruminating thoughts the past couple of days myself after being told I'm 'too at risk' and 'not stable enough' for help. All these thoughts have started going round in my head about how it doesn't make any sense and that I obviously don't deserve help or that I'm not well enough or not sick enough for help. I don't know. I guess I just have to get better on my own. Kati and this community keep me going though and I'm so grateful for that.
I know right? I still can't understand it myself. Thank you so much for your kind words and support. I really appreciate it xxx
Kati, I've been going to my first therapy session, and you know what, it's one of the best decision I've ever made. It's weird how it works fast to me, I don't even know what depression feel like now. It's gone. But I'll wait for a little bit, I've been known to be unstable in my optimism. This feeling is different, tho. It's like I'm in control and not being overwhelmed.
LOOVVEE Kati’s videos!
I really hope you know the amount of lives you're potentially saving Kati! I can only hope to be half the person you are :)
This may sound strange but I find that when my blood sugar dips too much I get ruminating thoughts. Also, I had allergies to some foods like dairy and gluten and they caused me OCD too.
The main thing I try to do is block the thoughts by staying busy- going to the gym, spending time with family, finding a work project. I have told my friends and family about my over thinking and holding onto one thought and they usually help to snap me out of it when they can see I'm not with them but living in my head instead! If you don't have anybody around you then find some quotes online to help you through the day. I usually Google self acceptance quotes and learning to love myself no matter What regardless of mistakes that I have made. I am also reading a book called 'the subtle art of not giving a f***' which is really helpful too. Another tip is tell yourself you don't know what the future holds, live in the present. If everything is ok right now and you are blessed then carry on smiling and go with the flow of life. Some things will not be in your control and that's ok (this is coming from a control freak!!) But you have to realise that we cannot control everything- just let it go and things will eventually fall into place. Hope this helps x
Do you recommend seeing a therapist first before an appointment with a psychiatric for medication?
I hade my last meeting with my school concullor this week (because i'm going to start a new school after the summer). WE talked about how far I've come and so on. In the end she said ¨My advice for you in the future is just to stop thinking so much, just do and just be, don't think.¨. And I know that is my biggest problem: to stop overthinking. but it's so hard...
I stumbled across your videos and I thoroughly enjoy them. Have you done a segment on letting go?
Hey , Kati! I'm glad I found you on the media! You've helped me a lot with learning things about mental illnesses and etc. I'm struggling with overthinking, jealous and I think I have a narcissistic personality disorder, because I act like a narcissistic person. I went to school psychologist in the past , but it didn't help me . What do I do ? I live in Russia , and it seems that I will not be able to afford this kind of thing . I want to help myself firstly .there's no one to help me . What do I do ?
Also , I'm afraid of my bad behavior . I think I'm a despotic person , and it hurts me a lot . I know this is stupid and it's not a kind of thing that can heal , but can I change my character ?can I change the way I am ? I don't want to be bad .
Елена Свиридова have you thought of moving out of Russia and come here to the United States? You can apply for health benefits right away at the State Welfare office. Lots of benefits for people with a low income here in the USA.
@@cherryblossom5162 yes you can change it, you just have to find the right tools for you. Keep looking, never give up ♥️💞
You're amazing!
I feel really connected when I watch her videos Its so calming uwu
I constantly ruminate that I will hurt people I love, I know it's pointless and has no valid truth, I developed anxiety this year on top of my 16yr. struggle with OCD and it sucks!! I feel like there's no hope but nothing could be further from the truth.. all of us struggling will get better as hard as it is stay positive.
Thank you so much this video was super helpful.
This is still amazing, thank you
Can someone link me those worksheets? i can't seem to find these anywhere.
I keep looking for the chat section or any of the worksheets or resources on your website and I can't find much. Am I going to the right website?
If you're having ruminating thoughts especially with OCD; CBT will only go so far to help you cope. Exposure Response Prevention is the way to go. It is what really helps you in the moment was well as safeguard you in the future. I will be speaking about this more at the OCD conference in Boston in July.
K.
NateTechGuy Agreed! I vlog about ERP on my channel a lot.
Also, I want to go to that conference so bad, but I don't know if I'll be able to. :( I hope your speaking goes well!
ShalomAlechim Awesome! I'm glad you vlog about it. I've debated starting a channel similar to Kati's.
If you want to, you should try it! Being in the TH-cam mental health community is so fun and to me it feels great to help people, since I'm not a professional, but I have experience with the topic!
When I was in therapy for my OCD, I did ERP. It was the best method to treat my fear of giving other people dangerous germs. My doctor told me to back cookies or something else, bring them into work and hand them out to everyone. I did and it felt wonderful to me. I was able to beat that Gremlin who was residing in my mind and was stealing my happiness. By the end, I was eating the chocolate cookies myself because they were so good. Not because of the OCD. Cannot recommend ERP enough. The initial horrible fear you have cannot coexist with doing exactly what your OCD mind is telling you not to do and you do it anyway. I remember those happy days as I was getter better and better. Really, they were some of the happiest days of my life. No more OCD 35 years later!
OMG I HATE WHEN THIS HAPPENS I FEEL SICK
Positive affirmations help me ALOT! (But it gets annoying always have to affirm for Avery negative thought) some times .
Where can i find those self help over thinking worksheets you mentioned
Omg that was really insightful. I keep talking to people about my mental issues, I hardly talk about anything else. I guess I was playing the victim to get attention.
If I recover, what will I talk about?
I actually don't know who I really want to be, or who I can be.
I wish you were my therapist!! Your awesome.
Thank you, all of you and take care
Thank you 😢
Hey Ya ! ...... The two best things that I've found for relief of overthinking and ruminating is 1 ......Tapping ,........ to relieve your anxiety about what you're overthinking about . I know it looks kind of goofy while you are doing it but for me it works soooo amazingly well to make me calm down and feel safe ........ Annnnd , #2 is instead of fighting the thoughts , just realize that the thoughts are not you , Or that You are not your thoughts and you have no control over them ...... Just Let them come and let them go ........ Watch them pass by ..... Let them amuse you . Just don't try to fight them as you will loose as you're giving them all the power ...... Just observe them and let them pass by ....
I struggle with ruminating thoughts and I guess I just assumed there wasn't really anything to help me with that but I guess hearing Kati say it I should see a therapist but something that helps me that's a bit more immediate that therapy so it helps but you most definitely should NOT rely on is smoking cannabis. It has helped me with my anxiety and all those ruminating thoughts so much and I still need to see a therapist to deal with the issues, smoking can help relieve the stress and all that
I think overthinking and expectations have ruined my recent relationship and that fucked me up. :/ I'm getting through it.. eventually but ya.. it sucks. :/
I can relate. Happened to me too
My gosh you're amazing at this
Buy yourself a flower with a purpose behind it. Each flower means something, like beauty or forgiveness. Think ok what you want in your home and buy a flower that reminds you, so you have that visual.
very informative. thanks for the help.
That's an old hymn. Count Your Blessings.
HEY KATI!
i was wondering if you could do a video on a topic my psychologist and myself were talking about.
what is the difference between the mental state of someone physically ill from terminal diseases and are fighting their hardest to stay alive but when it comes to mental health issues and people who are suicidal give up and decide to take their life why is it different?
it would be very interesting your thoughts on this
love all your videos :)
Meditation would be a good #3. Using the ‘noting’ technique daily for about ten minutes a day for a month and you can reduce self-talk and being more in the moment.
I overthink when i feel someone has misunderstood what i was saying and i overthink it that much it drives me crazy.
Hey your comment is relatable to me. Can we talk?
Same I need to talk as well
#katiFAQ .Hi Kati . This is a journal topic
"What if I fall?
Oh , but my darling what if you fly"
I'm having a very important exam this week . I had given this very exam last year and failed. I AM better prepared now, but I still feel I need to do much better but I couldn't do my very best due to my struggles with self harm this year. Now im panicking and feeling suicidal but I hear God ( im religious)tell me " Don't take the easy way out. The glory is in the fight not the result. Just think, what if this time you are good enough but you throw it away because you're too scared to even try?"
Overthinking still can be a real problem for me. I usually do mindfulness "in the moment" or try to "complete" the thought as quickly as possible. As far as long-term work, I'm working on meditation.
I know this is an old vid but I’m just gonna throw this out there; I feel like Katie suggests meds a little to quickly and often for this one reason;
I tried meds a couple of times last year and found the negative side effects SO BAD that Im now trying to recover from THAT on top of all my original issues. I had never in my life felt like it would be better to not be here until I tried meds, having those thoughts scared me so much that they made me incredibly depressed and numb and ever since I haven’t been able to go more than a few days without crying or feeling sad and overwhelmed.
So I think there needs to be far more caution when suggesting and prescribing meds, patients NEED to be sure that they can handle what may come from trying them and have an amazing support team in place.
I highly recommend people do there research. A great place to start is with Irving Kirsch. He is the Associate Director of the Program in Placebo Studies and a lecturer in medicine at Harvard Medical School. For me I looked into his anti anxiety/ depression research. Turns out medications for anxiety/ depression generally have only been proven to be an average of only 3% more effective than the placebo effect. On top of that these drugs actually increase the likelyhood of suicidal thoughts and come with a host of other possible side effects.
100% agree, all the research if you actually look at it, shows that pills are typically as good as placebos and they have a lot of negative side effects that placebos just don't have. I think Benzodiazepines are the only pill that actually has been proven to be better than placebo but that's a very dangerous pill as it's very addictive.
LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!!!
This happens to me a lot and I really don't like it 😭😓😔😯☹🙁😩😦😨and whenever I hear something on the internet or sicknesses going around I freeze and just get so scared I'm not really sure what to do it's horrible but your helping me a lot and I really appreciate it 🙂I'm starting to feel a bit better about it thank you Kati☺🌹🌷⚘🌿🌼I'm also always shaking because of anxiety. 😔
Thank you for this wow
Whats your website?
YOU ARE AMAZING
I refuse to take any kind of medication. I've actually had potentially fatal reactions from some of the many I was forced to take during my childhood.
Please can you do a video about how to not feel down about your self. I’m always saying bad things about myself. Please do this I would your help.
You look so pretty with hair back!