Personally, i think the key to overthinking less and less is to engage in meaningful conversations and having a consistent demeanor within yourself and others; thus, there is a time and place for certain things, and being able to identify with yourself in the most basic ways is essential to mental clarity and prioritizing what is most important in the moment and in the time to come.
I have been struggling with obsessive overthinking since my separation in December. Thank you for this video and the Mindfulness Resource you created. ❤
1) Point out what is causing overthinking. For me, it's perfectionism over what I create. 2) Use anchor thoughts. Some I use are: - I am not perfect, and I don't need to be. - good enough is good enough. - my "perfection" will not matter over the long run. - people connect with authenticity, not perfection. 3) Responsible/realistic thinking on the spectrum. I tend to think about the worst case scenario or expecting things to be excellent. However, managing my expectations and being good to myself reminds me that no matter what outcome I get, I will be okay.
When going through a mental struggle with thoughts and feelings, pausing to tell yourself 'I am ok.' That's a great anchor thought! I would actually add to that 'I am ok...and I still love you.' To remind myself that I can still love myself in the midst of these struggles and in spite of them.
Such practical and helpful counsel! I’m an over thinker, and really appreciate the very do-able steps that help alleviate unhelpful ways of doing life. THANK YOU for the help.
Thanks for these amazing videos! You're a precious Jewel. Blessings in abundance. "I'm ok." writing it down, practicing mindfulness and prayer are my prominent tools.
Excellent advice. Wrote it all down and will practice it. I am a huge overthinker towards the negative. I get anxious of the what if’s. I am learning to let go and rely on God’s plan.
I love you Julia, you are an amazing therapist I just found today actually. I watched one of your videos about handling criticism and i already think your awesome when I just discovered you today. You are absolutely right in everything you say, keep up the great work!
Marek -Shifter. Thank you Julia! Great video here. I do overthinking at times, maybe even often. With the work in the Shift Society Im generally becoming more peaceful with whats going on around me.
Another great video!! In over think and your guidance of this topic is going to help me through my over thinking next time. The brain dump 🙌 my daughter told me about this, and I thought it was such a strange idea, but it is extremely helpful. You are a blessing, Julia kristina 🌸
My anchor thought is to remember that whatever I’m going through people have gone through before and have made it out on the other side both in positive and negative ways so there’s no determining what is going to happen before it happens
I just found your content today. You are darn good at breaking things down, addressing both possible sides of experiences, and giving practical tools. Thank you.
wow, ❤ this is great I listen alot of vidoes about anxiety and I learned alot. specially the words I heard right now. ( I'm ok or I'm safe ) that's what I say to my self. yay I'm doing great. thanks Julia as always ❤❤❤
Dear Julia - Can you do one on why I feel like I am going to get bum-rushed, overtaken and ransacked every time something goes good for me, like getting a bonus at work, please?
Can I just make up the best case scenario as long as I don't fall for my own untruth or should I just hope that the truth is not as bad as the hideous truths of others? ;) On a serious note, though, if the norm has been more on the negative despite outlook etc. then reaching a balance is definitely not going to be easy because of the toll that years of negative results can take. That is to say that many times when I manage to not think about some negative result that either has occurred or might there is usually somebody during the day or week (never seems to last beyond that) that brings up that very thing whether about you or about them having the same experience--like how AA meetings that remind people that they are still an alcoholic even if they didn't drink much before and haven't had anything in 20 years. ;) Anchor points are always too close to identical or highly similar arenas of patterned thoughts and behaviors. Everything you said makes sense but the implementation (by me--not speaking for others) is going to be tough for me to put it mildly. ;)
I have been working for Goodwill for some 5 years they give me part time work always feeling if I don't work fast enough will I be fired at 55 what else can I do
@@denisenoles3159 I live in Klamath Falls Oregon it's a nice small town place where deer hang out in the front yard and over thinking what if I am at 55 what else can I do
Personally, i think the key to overthinking less and less is to engage in meaningful conversations and having a consistent demeanor within yourself and others; thus, there is a time and place for certain things, and being able to identify with yourself in the most basic ways is essential to mental clarity and prioritizing what is most important in the moment and in the time to come.
Great reminder that it's not the best or worst case scenario that is most likely, but something in between.
God bless you 🎉🎉
I have been struggling with obsessive overthinking since my separation in December. Thank you for this video and the Mindfulness Resource you created. ❤
1) Point out what is causing overthinking.
For me, it's perfectionism over what I create.
2) Use anchor thoughts.
Some I use are:
- I am not perfect, and I don't need to be.
- good enough is good enough.
- my "perfection" will not matter over the long run.
- people connect with authenticity, not perfection.
3) Responsible/realistic thinking on the spectrum.
I tend to think about the worst case scenario or expecting things to be excellent. However, managing my expectations and being good to myself reminds me that no matter what outcome I get, I will be okay.
When going through a mental struggle with thoughts and feelings, pausing to tell yourself 'I am ok.' That's a great anchor thought! I would actually add to that 'I am ok...and I still love you.' To remind myself that I can still love myself in the midst of these struggles and in spite of them.
Write it down! Seeing my thought on a piece of paper makes it easier for me to weight it out. Garbage? Or keeper.
Yes! I hate that idea of Garbage or keeper
That’s what I do.
Such practical and helpful counsel! I’m an over thinker, and really appreciate the very do-able steps that help alleviate unhelpful ways of doing life. THANK YOU for the help.
Useless thoughts are a real pain.
You're so welcome Melanie. Really glad you found it helpful.
Thanks for these amazing videos! You're a precious
Jewel. Blessings in abundance. "I'm ok." writing it down, practicing mindfulness and prayer are my prominent tools.
Excellent advice. Wrote it all down and will practice it. I am a huge overthinker towards the negative. I get anxious of the what if’s. I am learning to let go and rely on God’s plan.
Beautiful, Barbara. I see you doing the work.
I love you Julia, you are an amazing therapist I just found today actually. I watched one of your videos about handling criticism and i already think your awesome when I just discovered you today. You are absolutely right in everything you say, keep up the great work!
Welcome here Laurie - glad we found eachother.
thanky ou so much your content is very very valuable
You're welcome - I'm so glad you find it helpful. Thanks for being here.
Great video. Please keep on posting this sooooo very helpful content!!!
Glad you're here - and yes, I will!
Helloo Julia!! Always good to see you!!!
Hello hello! Really glad you're here.
Marek -Shifter. Thank you Julia! Great video here. I do overthinking at times, maybe even often. With the work in the Shift Society Im generally becoming more peaceful with whats going on around me.
I see you doing the work Marek.
Julia, Thank you for this and for doing what you do. It really does make all the difference.
Thank you this talk was very helpful.
Could you please have a talk about morning anxiety/overwhelm/worry/depression attacks 🙏
Another great video!! In over think and your guidance of this topic is going to help me through my over thinking next time. The brain dump 🙌 my daughter told me about this, and I thought it was such a strange idea, but it is extremely helpful. You are a blessing, Julia kristina 🌸
Excelent advice.
Thanks so much - that means a lot.
I remember a line from the movie "Pushing Tin" :
"Thought is your enemy."
If left unmanaged, they definitely can be.
I like listening to your videos. They are very helpful in understanding the anxiety and overthinking issues. Thanks
Thank youy for your videos, there was very helpful to me especially this one and the corner thoughts you mentioned in this video.❤ From Iran.
I like having the pwer to remind myself im resourceful in down times. Ill be able to pick myself up with this , thank you Julia
Good one love 💕💕
Arnold Schwarzenegger once said: "Use your brain, but DON'T THINK".
Useless thoughts will take you away from your present moment.
My anchor thought is to remember that whatever I’m going through people have gone through before and have made it out on the other side both in positive and negative ways so there’s no determining what is going to happen before it happens
Thanks for advice.
The second one has helped me a lot.thx
Wonderful! Really glad to hear it.
All of them..these are good..
Really glad you found them helpful. Thanks for being here.
Your videos make me feel so much better. Watched one the other day & u helped me through a bad anxiety attack. Thank u fot making these still
I am OK ✨❤️
I just found your content today. You are darn good at breaking things down, addressing both possible sides of experiences, and giving practical tools. Thank you.
I don't know the answer yet is a good one for me. Trying to instantly problem solve anything is draining 😊
I’m back!! Your lesson are great for me. Thank you
My grounding phrase..."I'm doing everything I can and now I let it all go."
How do I get the mindfulness download
Thank you. I found this helpful.
Thank you Julia!
I'm still in the process. I will figure this out.
wow, ❤ this is great I listen alot of vidoes about anxiety and I learned alot. specially the words I heard right now. ( I'm ok or I'm safe ) that's what I say to my self. yay I'm doing great. thanks Julia as always ❤❤❤
Dear Julia - Can you do one on why I feel like I am going to get bum-rushed, overtaken and ransacked every time something goes good for me, like getting a bonus at work, please?
i say trust the process all the time
Just curious what's the meaning of black and white?
I don't know what her purpose is but I like it. And it makes me focus more on her message.
@@MichiySqueaks yes, I think so too, and many other positive reasons
Can I just make up the best case scenario as long as I don't fall for my own untruth or should I just hope that the truth is not as bad as the hideous truths of others? ;) On a serious note, though, if the norm has been more on the negative despite outlook etc. then reaching a balance is definitely not going to be easy because of the toll that years of negative results can take. That is to say that many times when I manage to not think about some negative result that either has occurred or might there is usually somebody during the day or week (never seems to last beyond that) that brings up that very thing whether about you or about them having the same experience--like how AA meetings that remind people that they are still an alcoholic even if they didn't drink much before and haven't had anything in 20 years. ;) Anchor points are always too close to identical or highly similar arenas of patterned thoughts and behaviors. Everything you said makes sense but the implementation (by me--not speaking for others) is going to be tough for me to put it mildly. ;)
Can you give me some step to overcome fear
Japanese green tea ;;)))
Have a hard time shouting my mind when I am done for the day our it's my days off sometimes it keeps me awake at night
I have been working for Goodwill for some 5 years they give me part time work always feeling if I don't work fast enough will I be fired at 55 what else can I do
Have you tried looking for another job?
@@denisenoles3159 I live in Klamath Falls Oregon it's a nice small town place where deer hang out in the front yard and over thinking what if I am at 55 what else can I do
I have two: don't go into that black hole, and: don't serve them tea....
Hi. I'm William
✋
I brushed my teeth 😂
I DON'T THINK ANYONE OF YOUR GENERATION OVER THINKS ANYTHING!!😆😆😆😆😆😆😆
Thank you, your videos have instilled a sense if calm in me today. 🩷