I'm so glad you've finally talked about this! It's a grim reminder that most men don't really categorize us distinctly as "friends" and "romantic interests", like we do; instead we're all just various types of p*ssy in their eyes... Which is why we should not feel bad at all for exploiting what they can do for us and then giving them nothing in return. ❤
This topic! I don't have male friends.. I've tried to be open to having them but they always prove the point why i don't have them...once they see they aren't going to hit or can't get with you romantically then you'll see their true nature.
Gurlll, If that was all. I recently Had the horrible realisation that all them Male Friends I felt so Happy around, cause they never gave me the eyes, Just gladly exported all their emotional labour onto me. The First heavy conflict and interpersonal disagreement within the group: Turns Out they never copyied, internalised, practiced, or even realised that i was offering all These Tools of Support in conversations, when confronted they either gagged or were activily harmful in their conversational contributions😱💧 ignorance+entitlement+fragility: weaponized incompetence at its finest. The poudingggg when Being confronted! Endless Loop of conversation, best Outcome: 'as a man i never learned''my avoidance got the best of me'. Gurlll please- i examplefied for years, they we're Just too comfy, never expecting to ever having to Return the favour of Being of emotional Support or Being confronted with Being mysogenoir/istic and Not Always 'one of the good ones'. Turns Out that sensitive men often believe they are the end all be all to Feminist ideas and that Being capable of barely naming a Feeling Makes them our untouchable Whiteknightheros of Feminist liberation that never shall be questioned. and by that they are getting to reimpose themselves as the Main subject in the Center of the story of feminism- reintroducing patriachy through the Back door of the mind. I think their subconscious inner Monolog must Sound Like this: 'How Dare you questioning my Personal Agenda via the actions I Display and want to hold me personally accountable to my great words about feminism- im a-sensing- men, I-- feel -----attacked- after all how could a Woman get to Tell me whats Feminist and whats sexist, where would that terrible idea get me, foolish foe, me sad now,...so fix it.:'( Uhhhh, im resentful and disgusted, how Being the emotional mule was a narrative i for so long unknowingly got to adopt and conditioned to romantisise to survive in patriarchy and to try to get my emotional needs met with amab, or cis Male identifying/raised people 😔. Ufff the lessons, to all my Younger Femmes: expect More, More, More. Check how they move. Dare to question them personally, situational, Not about their great ideological scheme. Look what Happens when you say 'no' and 'i Challenge you to do more' 'i want more' as a conversational casualty- No Matter of platonic or romantic or whatever.-Patriachy Likes to make us believe WE are overstepping and selfish and greedy- when having a Word in Our Body autonomy and Basic humanity. Shiish
i LOOOOVE that message mentioning how even FATHERS benefit from being around their beautiful daughters. negligent fathers don't deserve their daughters pouring into them if they didn't do and aren't doing their share.
Still blows my mind that so many misogynistic people gaslight women into thinking they are crazy for having standards and rules of engagement that require fair play. Which means EQUITY. So affirming as always - i feel so much less alone and crazy as a beautiful woman who now expects waaaay more from men than ever (yayyy) Everything that you say Chidera is straight up 📠 but sometimes l’m like woah. How was all this never not obvious?! You know? Current me is so different to past me because of you!! 💖 so wild. Thank goddess for you 💞 up n up 🧚🏼femdom4ever
I find it hard to understand why a guy would waste time playing the friends game. All I can think is that he's enjoying the challenge maybe or the other way round is that he is socially awkward and just can't find any. I have never had to play these silly games of patience and the advice I would give to those stuck in the friend zone is stop being a simp. While the simp is busy being her unpaid uber driver and putting her shelves up, someone else is getting it.
Had a female friends for years and even ended up friends with one of her boyfriends and still am, even though they are not together anymore. There is no physical attraction to her though. The only problem has been jealousy from girlfriends who basically believe she is hoping for more, which after 12 years has not been the case.
I have had "I am not looking for a relationship, just a good time" said to me many times off female friends but once you give them a good time, that is when the jealousy and drama can start. They come for a good time and then they start to feel used if I don't text back right away. That is when the Eggerue syndrome can start. Most women either don't know what they really want, or think they do until they get it.
Some of my dearest friends are men. They are kind, compassionate, empathetic and supportive and want me to win. There is no sexual aspect to it. Just mutual love and respect. Everyone has their own journey but that’s my lived experience.
Only difference between a sex worker and the average woman is the sex worker is honest about why they’re there and not to mention that the price is upfront rather than ambiguous but potentially half of your assets. You are not paying for the sex you are paying for her to go away. In other words the sex worker has a more trustworthy character than the average woman that wants to become a wife.
Thank you for talking about this topic, I’ve had to cut a lot of male friends off due to their false intentions. As soon as I broke up with my now ex they showed their true colours. In regards to SA it’s really upsetting how common it is for your close friends to be your abuser 💔
The volume on your videos is always too low. I have my macbook and YT volume at max, and your sound is still lower than average YT video. Just some feedback on sound production. Love your videos and insights.
Fortunately for me I have quite a few friends with benefits. They do not charge (no way I would ever pay) and I also have my quick getaway. Some are quite regular and others are every so often.
i practice with my guy friends to ask for what i want materialistically, they know they can't hang out with me without asking me what i need and want. I've conditioned them like that.
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I cut off a male friend because of his views on consent and he called me petty. Yes very petty. The police should investigate you sir
I'm so glad you've finally talked about this! It's a grim reminder that most men don't really categorize us distinctly as "friends" and "romantic interests", like we do; instead we're all just various types of p*ssy in their eyes... Which is why we should not feel bad at all for exploiting what they can do for us and then giving them nothing in return. ❤
This topic! I don't have male friends.. I've tried to be open to having them but they always prove the point why i don't have them...once they see they aren't going to hit or can't get with you romantically then you'll see their true nature.
Gurlll, If that was all.
I recently Had the horrible realisation that all them Male Friends I felt so Happy around, cause they never gave me the eyes, Just gladly exported all their emotional labour onto me. The First heavy conflict and interpersonal disagreement within the group: Turns Out they never copyied, internalised, practiced, or even realised that i was offering all These Tools of Support in conversations, when confronted they either gagged or were activily harmful in their conversational contributions😱💧 ignorance+entitlement+fragility: weaponized incompetence at its finest. The poudingggg when Being confronted!
Endless Loop of conversation, best Outcome:
'as a man i never learned''my avoidance got the best of me'.
Gurlll please- i examplefied for years, they we're Just too comfy, never expecting to ever having to Return the favour of Being of emotional Support or Being confronted with Being mysogenoir/istic and Not Always 'one of the good ones'.
Turns Out that sensitive men often believe they are the end all be all to Feminist ideas and that Being capable of barely naming a Feeling Makes them our untouchable Whiteknightheros of Feminist liberation that never shall be questioned. and by that they are getting to reimpose themselves as the Main subject in the Center of the story of feminism- reintroducing patriachy through the Back door of the mind. I think their subconscious inner Monolog must Sound Like this: 'How Dare you questioning my Personal Agenda via the actions I Display and want to hold me personally accountable to my great words about feminism- im a-sensing- men, I-- feel -----attacked- after all how could a Woman get to Tell me whats Feminist and whats sexist, where would that terrible idea get me, foolish foe, me sad now,...so fix it.:'(
Uhhhh, im resentful and disgusted, how Being the emotional mule was a narrative i for so long unknowingly got to adopt and conditioned to romantisise to survive in patriarchy and to try to get my emotional needs met with amab, or cis Male identifying/raised people 😔.
Ufff the lessons, to all my Younger Femmes: expect More, More, More.
Check how they move. Dare to question them personally, situational, Not about their great ideological scheme. Look what Happens when you say 'no' and 'i Challenge you to do more' 'i want more' as a conversational casualty- No Matter of platonic or romantic or whatever.-Patriachy Likes to make us believe WE are overstepping and selfish and greedy- when having a Word in Our Body autonomy and Basic humanity.
Shiish
My only male friends left are queer. I had to cut off all of my other male friends they weren’t authentic! They were only around to have sx one day
None of them are to be trusted, no matter what. I do hope, you've found guy friends that truly care about you.
i LOOOOVE that message mentioning how even FATHERS benefit from being around their beautiful daughters. negligent fathers don't deserve their daughters pouring into them if they didn't do and aren't doing their share.
I love when I just randomly look upon my newsfeed and see you just posted.
I love it😂 ..her humour and laughter is the icing on the tits.
Girl I was already tuned into all your old videos when I saw this post, happy Friday Chi! Have a great day 💗
Still blows my mind that so many misogynistic people gaslight women into thinking they are crazy for having standards and rules of engagement that require fair play. Which means EQUITY. So affirming as always - i feel so much less alone and crazy as a beautiful woman who now expects waaaay more from men than ever (yayyy) Everything that you say Chidera is straight up 📠 but sometimes l’m like woah. How was all this never not obvious?! You know? Current me is so different to past me because of you!! 💖 so wild. Thank goddess for you 💞 up n up 🧚🏼femdom4ever
You definitely clocked my tea this episode. I am committed to being more careful in future. I refuse to go through this again.
I find it hard to understand why a guy would waste time playing the friends game. All I can think is that he's enjoying the challenge maybe or the other way round is that he is socially awkward and just can't find any. I have never had to play these silly games of patience and the advice I would give to those stuck in the friend zone is stop being a simp. While the simp is busy being her unpaid uber driver and putting her shelves up, someone else is getting it.
Had a female friends for years and even ended up friends with one of her boyfriends and still am, even though they are not together anymore. There is no physical attraction to her though. The only problem has been jealousy from girlfriends who basically believe she is hoping for more, which after 12 years has not been the case.
I have had "I am not looking for a relationship, just a good time" said to me many times off female friends but once you give them a good time, that is when the jealousy and drama can start. They come for a good time and then they start to feel used if I don't text back right away. That is when the Eggerue syndrome can start. Most women either don't know what they really want, or think they do until they get it.
Thanks for my daily dose of reality 🙏🏻
Some of my dearest friends are men. They are kind, compassionate, empathetic and supportive and want me to win. There is no sexual aspect to it. Just mutual love and respect. Everyone has their own journey but that’s my lived experience.
This has blessed me so good ❤😂😂
Only difference between a sex worker and the average woman is the sex worker is honest about why they’re there and not to mention that the price is upfront rather than ambiguous but potentially half of your assets. You are not paying for the sex you are paying for her to go away. In other words the sex worker has a more trustworthy character than the average woman that wants to become a wife.
He's not attracted to you sis. He doesn't have a burning desire to sleep with you.. it's not a dis. It's him being mature.
Single Straight Men don't hang around women they find unattractive. He's just waiting & they will wait YEARS!..trust.
Men who hang around a woman always (!!) have a reason for it. It's never out of the kindness of their hearts.
you got guy friends and you know you should have boundaries set in place...they like hanging out w women im telling u
I’ve been waiting for this.
Thank you for talking about this topic, I’ve had to cut a lot of male friends off due to their false intentions. As soon as I broke up with my now ex they showed their true colours. In regards to SA it’s really upsetting how common it is for your close friends to be your abuser 💔
So timely, thank you
If anyone wants more insight on this topic, I recommend manifestelle's video titled "I don't have male friends and you shouldn't either".
28:45 screams, the way this has happened to me 😂
As a gay woman, I can confirm this applies to women with toxic masculinity
we all sighed with you😂😂
I love you so much thank you for your vulnerability
The volume on your videos is always too low. I have my macbook and YT volume at max, and your sound is still lower than average YT video. Just some feedback on sound production. Love your videos and insights.
@@globalinsight7938 out of curiosity, what ethnic group do you fall under? I'm just trying to see something.
Fortunately for me I have quite a few friends with benefits. They do not charge (no way I would ever pay) and I also have my quick getaway. Some are quite regular and others are every so often.
Okay, let's all clap hands for Mr Danny 👏🏽
You said so much and yet nothing at all
Goddess Gina how much does it cost I am asking for a wealthy friend
It’s never too late for that glass bottle💥
Thanks, I like the part about being unforgiving & stern.
Fiyah bun
indeed 😅
I’m soooo grateful for you girl !!!!!!!
Ginal
i practice with my guy friends to ask for what i want materialistically, they know they can't hang out with me without asking me what i need and want. I've conditioned them like that.
Surely there’s a different word for that other than “friend”
Self righteous drivel !!!
NEVER HEARD SO MUCH BULL CRAP.
One thing about you, you are always tussling in her comments chile
@@baepygirl they are obsessed😂, they have their notifications turned on for when she drops a post.
😅@@ChiddyAnn
@@baepy 😂 isn't it so cute