Depression from missing your kids will hold you down
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 9 พ.ย. 2016
- Hello thank you for watching my videos. I am a father 1st above all things and i miss my daughter so dearly. I turned to youtube to talk about what i am going through to meet others that may be going through the same thing. Hopefully my journey can help someone.
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Kids go through this too. My mom cheated on my dad and got a divorce. I never had a close relationship with my dad but as soon as he left something inside me broke. I miss my dad so much. I even miss him nagging at me. I cry when i need him and he's not home . sometimes I feel so lonely without my dad.I'm even crying while writing this. The good thing that came out of all this is that the relationship between me and my dad changed for the better. I feel much closer with him. I love hanging out with him
Your message is so touching thank you. It means so much to hear from the children of divorced parents. Sometimes you guys don't have a voice. This video is older and my relationship with my daughter is better but I miss her every day I'm not with her. You truly lift my spirits knowing that you have a better relationship with your dad. I wish you the best of health happiness and success. 🫂🙏 keep in touch
I wish you good recovering and Healing process. Thank you for sharing that to us Gloria. God Bless You.
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Oh dear i can relate to this.
Thank you for watching and commenting. Sadly yes many men do relate. Wishing you peace.
the worst pain I've ever experienced. this really spoke to me 😢
Thank you for watching i will be updating soon
Its the worst feeling in the world. I hate every day.
Havoc864 nunya hang in there brother I know it's painful I'm so sorry you're going through this I have been there and I still go through it keep your head up your a great father and a great man
I know what this feels like. Every day is f*cking pointless...
You should look up Wim Hof. It helps me a lot. Helps me control my emotions.
Stay strong...I know the feeling. It will get better
@@asiakym uff
I miss my daughters 15 & 7. The pain of separation from them is crippling. It’s been almost 4 years and it’s still a fresh wound that won’t heal. I feel your pain. 🇺🇸🗽🦅
I'm a dead man walking miss my kid no contact
How are y'all doing now?
@Chuck Driver
My wife divorced me this January 2017 for some dude 32 year old I'm 42. She took my 3 kids 4 hours away to her new place to be around him and she pregnant by him. It hurts that she destroyed us all. I tear up every time I talk to my kids I feel everything so much pain
Waterloo K hang in there brother u are not alone
Please hang in there. I am so sorry that has happened. Believe things will get better and they will. Talk positive thoughts. Pray positive prayers. I believe it will get better very soon.
fight for custody
How are y'all doing now?
@Waterloo
I'm so sorry to read this, I hope everything worked out for you. She sounds like a nasty piece of work, my mum was a weirdo too my dad isn't perfect but he's the only parent I can be myself around. You sound like the only one who is thinking about the kids. They WILL notice that. I really hope you're okay
I've completely shut down and don't have any family or friends to talk to. I don't really eat much, and can't sleep more then four hours at a time. When can I go to talk to people about this pain? It's destroying me. I throw up from the stress, I just can't function anymore. Thank you for this video and bless your soul. Please keep up the strength and the videos. People like me heal from it. You may save a life in the process. Bless your heart.
Cosmic Atom you can talk to me. How are you doing? How are you feeling? Checking in on you. I'm here for you brother.
Cosmic Atom I really feel lost and empty. Where’s the joy? What’s the purpose? I’m not suicidal but just find little joy, and happiness.
I can relate to this,have things got any better
Hi there i hope your better ?
I hope all is well!! I feel like this too.
I have not seen my children for 7 years, it destroys your life. In those 7 years I have become 50 years older
Dolf Hakru ooh man I'm sorry. I can only imagine what you feel. I pray you can see again. I hope she will grow and try to find you no matter what you are always her dad and I pray you will reunite with her again. Stay strong good man.
There is a lady she decided to pledge a donation of $30 a month to CBN's 700 Club and few months later her husband that had been gone for 10 years finally came back. So I tried giving to 700 Club and every time I did my husband would be much more respectful to me even though he didn't believe in giving to it nor donating at all. So I decided to pledge $30 a month to 700 Club and when I did my family that had been moved away for 9 or 10 years decided to move back and said it will take time. But if I didn't keep up with my monthly pledge giving they would say they can't move back and didn't need to. This made me so sad so I kept up my monthly pledge giving and about 4 months later they finished packing and were on their way back to live in MN where I lived. CBN's 700 Club is a Christian ministry that helps the poor and hurting all over the world. I believe helping the world through this ministry has healed my family so much. I hope you believe this so much. God bless. The website is www.CBN.com
@@liveforchrist1474 donating money to the 700 club will bring our kids back??? Gtfoh trash
I haven’t seen my daughter in a while, she’s been poisoned by my ex and they live in a different country, it’s soul destroying…
please reply to me
Its a pain so deep. Every other weekend, the drop off, is always the worst. Especially when he's crying to stay with me (dad) I make that 2 hour drive and cry the whole way home. But you have to stay strong and push harder for your kids sake. Much love to you guys going through this
Praying for you thank you brother. God is with you and strengthens you.
Thank you all for sharing.
The pain of missing my 3 year old daughter is crushing my soul.
God help all our children.
Father's rights do need to change!
I never knew i was capable of so much love til my daughter was born.
I can't even call her right now and say i love you, what did you do today?
Keep breathing everyone.
The day will come when our children all know how deeply we love them.
You are not alone.
I miss my daughter so much I cry every morning and night 😥 I currently lost my job because I got so depressed and I had to move in to a small cabin at my parents where my daughter can't stay and I struggle with everyday life. I feel so lonely and don't know who to talk to. I've tried so hard to reassure my daughter life will get better but it's not and I don't know how long I can carry on in life my heart is broken
use that power to level up man, i'm in a similar boat. I can either be away from my daughter and waste my time or I can be away from my daughter and use my time like a madman trying to achieve my goals. let's make our daughters proud.
Going thru the same thing , been over a yr 2 boys 10 and 5 , mother ran off with another and im a strong guy at mind but this weakend me to my core, i also sit there and become a prisoner of my own mind , screwing up with work and no one understands because most men hold things in ,
but when mothers most taunt and keep kids away from Dads on grounds of entitlement and you have to pay it rips any trust and puts most good Fathers at the most bottom of the barrel ,its not natural ,its a form of rape and Divorce is hard enough , all kids should be split equal times between both parents .
Laws for fathers rights needs to change
John Ibbetson ooh man John I'm so sorry brother. I know your pain man you don't have to go through it alone. I be happy to keep in touch you are always welcome to talk to ne about it.
John Ibbetson sorry I replied with my other channel link this is the correct link sorry
Sounds like she is in a mid life crisis. Not to be a donnie downer, she is most likely denigrating you to the kids. Search Dr. Craig Childress for more information. Laws for Fathers rights do need to change. Where do we start?
John Ibbetson i feel that bro ssme here
John Ibbetson I know what you mean brother, I feel exactly the same as you do and that has drowned me for the last 2 years. It’s hard to the point where I feel like giving up on life..
Now I see why God hates divorce.
Man I'll pray for you and the others.
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It's like having a panic attack over and over while my soul cries out for them as I continue to lose my mind.
No friends, no family, nobody to talk to about it. My quality of life has been effected completely.
Anyone dealing with the same, you're in my heart.
I can resonate with this. Just know there are people like you that know the pain and want to help
Same....Soul crushing...Others cannot possibly understand...But, we will be survivors and grow somehow from it!
I needed to hear this... I'm going through a very nasty separation, and I cry every morning bc I miss my daughters so much. Thank you for sharing this.
Sorry I am also there it's hard we should open like a group
This is me right now. Thanks for making me feel less alone brother.
Stay strong brother. Wishing you peace
I use to wake up angry and cry every single morning when I lost my sun. It hurts now and I'm sorry all of you who are good parents having your child taken away 💔 Your all in my prayers. I promise!
Thank you for your kind words. Thank you for understanding and I hope your doing better today and you are able to see your son.
It’s been seven years since I last saw my son Ben,I’m going to miss his 18th birthday this year,everyday the pain never goes away,sometimes I feel like just leaving this world,but I know I have live for my son😪
No the pain never leaves ...my heart goes out to you I understand how this feels ...missed both my eldest 16th 18th and 21st
My youngest 10th and 16th 😢...they completely cut me out and somehow you manage to find the strength to live ..I'm glade you have that ...stay strong and let's your emotions pass by like the storm clouds they are at times 😊
They’re adults at 18, can you contact them directly? That’s my long game plan.
You do have to live, and One-day he will hopefully want to see you and seek you out, I'm going through similar stuff with 2 Boys, If it wasn't for my belief in Jesus Christ, I'd be dead already
I cried watching this because I'm going thru it, my ex ran off with my daughter 6 months ago, I can't even imagine it being years😭😭😭😭
I went through the same thing and still am.. but it’s not as bad as it was….lost a lot of weight.. went through extreme depression… but I prayed to God… and get closer to God than I ever ever had…I believe in God and learned about God even today my learning increases because I pray to learn more and get closer to God every day it was so bad in the beginning I thought that I had failed my daughter by bringing her into this cruel world… I did think about committing The unthinkable….. but God does not allow it! I use my humor my relationship with God and the desire to live!
If I am not here… I cannot plant seeds to bear fruit. I was made by God and he put me on here on this world to do work good work bearing good fruits.
I thought about putting everything I owned in my car… going to the quarry and driving off the cliff… but jumping out of my car before it went over the cliff!
I realized then that all I had to do was just let go…. I was holding on to my thoughts my opinions.
I realized them that I had to let go of what I did not have control of.
I reassessed my situation…And understood I can only do what I can do when the opportunity presents itself to be a father to my daughter. I realize bending is better than breaking…!
So I pushed myself to work out and meditate….I would bring my jump rope and I would stretch and I would ride my bike on the lakefront at home I would meditate and jump rope and stretch outside and inside whenever I could.
Sure… I think about my daughter always at times I am sad and I think with my daughter is doing is she going to the same thing I am and I prayed to God I pray to God to bless her abundantly protected from harm of any kind I asked God to make her like him give my daughter his thoughts on his Waze and to let my daughter know that I love her more than anything in the world which is what I would tell my daughter all the time and she was with me I would say daddy loves you more than anything in the world and she developed a humor and she was with me we had a lot of fun and it took a lot of pictures and videos of us wherever we went.
I have seen what God can do in my life and I know that God has her in his hands I believe what I asked for I’m going to receive it and my daughter is going to receive the prayers for blessings from God!
So I released all of it all the pain all the suffering all the thoughts… completely I use an analogy of some kind but putting all these things in the car and driving them off the cliff of the quarry without me being in it I have to release in order to survive it becomes about survival to keep a healthy mind and a sense of humor…. keep busy.. we all are farmers in this life planning seeds bearing fruit one must bear good seed and not bad seed good seed always bear good fruit bad seed always bear bad fruit!
I read the story of Daniel in the Bible what happened to him and his relationship with God with others make for bad God make for good and sometimes what we seem as bad God make for good!
“Keep your head up your powder dry and the world will turn”!
I have edited as much as I can I hope I did a good job.
Awesome video. I feel the same way about missing my kids. Thanks for posting this my brother.
Darren Geffre thank you for watching Darren I hope things are getting better for you wishing you peace brother
Thank you for this video I'm in same situation and It's now causing problems with my girlfriend I'm so down. Your video made me burst into tears. All the best to you
I can relate to this. Not waking up in the same house as my children (8) and (5) is emotionally wrecking me. I can’t focus, I smile and put on a front, go to the gym to take my mind off life but truth be told, I’m struggling and I’m scared.
I'm so sorry ❤ do you have anyone you can talk to about this
To see this comments and know that there are people out there who unfortunately understand. Im just reading everyone's story and its inspiring. Its been 2 years since i seem my little girl the pain never goes i just get better at hiding it. I have hope I'll see her one day. Just have to carry on for my 2 little boys aswell they help a lot. My love to everyone honestly we've got this ❤
Thank you commenting and watching. We walk with you on this journey. Praying you can be with your babies again soon. Stay strong. Wishing you peace and strength.
I don’t think this pain is ever going to leave!!! I miss my kids every moment of the day!!
Praying for you dear God bless him and connect the beautiful bond in love with his kids. I declare in Jesus name deliver all the power and strength, financially, spiritually, emotionally to hold his children again. In Jesus name 🙏 Amen.
My relationship with my child didn’t get better my daughters mother vilified me in my child’s mind I just gave it to God and I let go release myself from it … I just gave it to God and I released myself from the whole thing. Sure I think about her every day and pray for her every day my daughter… but I know God has answered my prayers he will never give us more than we can handle.
I am just her earthly father… but God is her real father….God is all our father!
This definitely sucks I been depressed from not having my kids around me every day, I see them every other weekend but just like you I wake up and think of them every morning how was there day do they think of me. Stay strong bro.
siKC One The Great thank you for your kind words I hope everything is getting better over time. I have been dealing with so much I will be posting today.
siKC One The Great just checking in on you hope your doing well
Stay strong that pain is real
Rocky and Ella thank you appreciate it
Marquese Mason it is
It's been almost 2 years since I last seen my beautiful daughters Giselle and Gabrielle. There is not a day that goes by that I don't break down crying wondering why I don't just jump off a bridge. This pain is too much to bear at times.
That's exactly what I was going to do. I love you brother. You will have your beautiful daughters in your arms one day and they will want and need to feel your strength and love. That very moment will have a lifetime effect on them. Prepare your mind and body for that beautiful moment. I pray it's coming 🙏.
I can feel your pain brother, I'm getting through the same pain now, is really hard to deal with this pain
One day at a time......It’s been 10 year’s for me. I still feel the pain! If I knew how painful I probably would have stayed. I just pray that my boys never go thru this!!!
Just seen this but it's true way too common. I respect you for being a man and talking about your love for your daughter. I have two daughters and feel the same pain. I pray for you that God would encourage you and guide you. What a blessing that you would share this to all. Much respect
I miss my children so much, no words or tears can express the pain, without them. I’m trying to stay strong, when I’m alone it really hits me. I never let them see me sad, I fight through. I try to stay positive and focused. I write, paint, draw and it’s helping me. My children love to read, receive my writings and my artwork, it’s great seeing them smile. 😞😥
Im sorry you're going through this stay strong. I will be updating soon
Thank you for the ideas. Helps to understand more. I hope you can be reunited soon and often. Prayers
Thank you for your replies. I have good news update 😊 I won in UK High Court on appeal and my children were returned to my care in February 2019. My ex who was abusive and whom I have an indefinite restraining and had no direct rect contact with since July 2017 following his assaulting me whilst pregnant and my eldest son attempted to contact me in December 2019, watching my children and I and again broke the orders which I reported to police and he was charged and convicted in 2020. My children and I were moved in the early hours of the night with very little time to pack or think, following nearly another year before we were rehoused. Safer now as he doesn't know where we are. 4 years this July escaped his abuse. Children all doing well and me too. Never give up, fight for your children, learn the laws and do what you have to legally to get your families back together. Bless you all 🙏🏽😊
@@lifeafterdeath1 I'm sure I cannot endure this any longer.. I think the same things. Does it ever get any better? I'm nauseated thinking that my 6yr old daughter may not be safe.. Or who's going to give her "daddy hugs and kisses" Her mother is very abusive and I stayed in the relationship with her bc I couldn't bear to be without my daughter and her face when I left(didn't have a choice) I wonder who's there to keep her safe. Who's there to make her smile. Does she think she did something wrong and that I don't care about her anymore?
It soooo painful and I need to know if it gets better or even different bc I'm not functional the way I am when I am near her?
@@Stebon6480 I'm so very sorry you are experiencing this. Please brother I know you are hurting 🫂 take deep breath, calm the thoughts in your mind. Do not spiral down in the pain of your thoughts. I asked and went through the exact same thing. Your heart is glued to your beautiful daughter and they took her away and you have every right to hurt. You have every right to cry. But this pain shall not become who you are and will be for the rest of your life. Stand up against the hurt this legal system and your wife gave you. Do not be a victim of their abusive ways. Try to reach out to your beautiful princess. Are you able to see her?. I hope so.
And when she comes back looking for you and she definitely will. Your beautiful little princess is going to want a strong healthy happy protective father. Rebuild your mind Rebuild the life around you and prepare to be the best version of you because that's what your beautiful princess wants for her daddy. The best. Love you brother 🫂🙌 I'm here for you. My contact information is in the description.
Thanks for sharing this
Haven't seen or talked to my 2 boys for like, 3 yrs now
Every day is a struggle
But each sunrise hides surprises, do continue to fight & hope
Stay strong everybody
Paul thank you so much for commenting. I'm wishing you peace and strength as well. Keep in touch. I truly hope you and many of my subscribers can one day see our children. I pray you will see them soon. 🙌🫂
Same with me
Behind every sun sunrise hides surprises that awesome! It’s true I lost my boy early met him again after 33 years. He’s doing great but we have 0 connection. I’m sure he had a lifetime of his mother trashing me. What can you do ? Carry on be you best be healthy eat high carb low fat don’t drink and have hobbies. Life is good after the storm
Haven't seen or talked to my twin daughters in 3 years ... The pain is unreal 😔😭...... Then the numbness kicks in .... And that feels even worse. Fathers we have to hold on to hope. God can and will restore the time. God is a Father and He knows the love of a real Father. Hold on to hope, focus on getting closer to your heavenly Father. He will give you comfort and a plan. Our children are a gift from God... Go to the one who gave you that gift. Become a better you in the process. So when God restores what was taken... You will have a new appreciation for what you had loss. Keep the faith, and yes.... Your daughter is better with you here. I thought of ending it... But I couldn't imagine putting that burden on them. Endure the pain... You're in it for the long haul. Love conquers all. Don't lose the love. Hang in there.
I love you brother. Thank you for this message. Thank you for watching. God bless you 🙏
@@lifeafterdeath1 there is indeed life after death...and that life is eternal. Love you to bro... Your best days are ahead of you.
I miss my kids too it’s so hard all I want to do is sleep I lost my job got a new one trying to keep on the right path , I just feel like a lost soul that has no where or nothing and don’t know what to do where to turn , I don’t speak about this with anyone I hide my emotions I don’t have the energy most the time to do anything but I know one thing for sure I can not leave my babies alone in this world as much as it seems like the easy way out I will be here for you no matter what when the day comes 😭😭 💔
Sometimes showing or exposing too much emotions to the ex increases their their spite or "revenge" which makes them think I'm winning, its working and its breaking him down. Be strong and talk to your loved ones and family. Also i know its difficult but moving on in life with relationship and building families help and distracts from depressing thoughts
Saif Sharif Muhammad thank you for your comment you are right. Wishing you all the best.
It is now 5 years since I had relationships with my two beautiful children. It is the most difficult thing I have ever endured. One thing that drives me crazy is all the people that assume that they will change their mind automatically when they get older. It keeps you stuck in the hope/loss cycle. I am deeply depressed and struggling to change my life so I can be happy again one day
Any update
I'm here, now, 1.5 years after separation. Extremely hard. I do have my son in my life, but heavily reduced, and it's the hardest to know you're little one isnt with you. My son is my everything
Very painful the holidays are hard. But we will survive and strengthen through. 💪🙌
I am just now watching your video, 7 years later. I am sure you miss her just as much. I send you a big hug. I cannot imagine the loss of a child. I lost my Mom over 3 years ago and it still hurts bad, but I know she's with me in spirit. I hope you know that your little girl will be with you in spirit when you think of her. I am sure she sends you signs as my mother does for me. Anyways, God Bless you and may you have not as heavy of a heart ❤
Thank you so much 🙌
Thanks bro. My body shakes, mornings are a battle. I’m trying my best to stay put together. Trust GOD, pray, if you need silence go to the temple and pray, it helps to heal. Mornings are very difficult for me also. I’m trying to stay strong and humble. GOD bless you bro, May we all find comfort during this moments. 🙏🙂☀️
I walk with you brother. Thank you for watching and commenting. Wishing you peace and strength 💪
I really have nothing to say but just let tears roll down. It hurts not seeing your kid for months😢😢
Same miss my son very much his voice his smiles our bond broken by his mother
I'm so sorry brother. I pray you have your child back in your arms again 🙏
Thank you for sharing. I was feeling alone. It's hard to do anything right now. I feel like I can't breathe without my daughter.
Breath brother. I love you Ralf. I have a daughter and know your pain. It hits different when it's a precious princess 👸 ❤🫂 I'm with you on this journey. Healing begins in the mind. The door opens when you take a deep breath. Take it from me and the thousands of men and women on my channel. You will be ok and you will have your beautiful princess in your arms again. When you embrace her make sure she feels the embrace of a strong loving father that built himself up to be a great man. Solid confidence strong and in peace. These traits will be a representation of who she becomes. She is you. You are her. She will represent what you present to the world. Keep in touch brother. Wishing you peace and strength.
I miss my daughter badly ;( I have been doing breathing therapy, taking walks, drawing and reading. I cry every morning and to calm myself down I do a breathing treatment. IF YOU END UP READING THIS PLEASE PLEASE LOOK UP WIM HOF. YOU WILL NOT REGRET IT!
I want to walk and such but just everything seems without purpose without them. I honestly never went anywhere without then except work. All my free time was with them and I was happy to be that way. I didnt want to go out and party. I didnt miss anything. I'm trying to find hobbies but my body feels drained of energy all the time so it's hard to find the strength.
Chances are very good that when the kids grow up and move out, they will realize the truth and then reach out to contact you. Tough now, yes. However, these "Exes" have not yet met karma.
YOU ARE A REAL MAN! BLESS YOU!
Bless you. 🙌 thank you
Men we are abused our children have the same feelings like we do and are abused too when the courts gonna change they say they acting in the best intrest for children ? Thank You that you are so strong and that you went true all this for your daughter you are Amazing !!!! Nothing gonna change if we not stand up and fight all together for us and our children lets make a protest lets not wait any day longer stand up against this mental ABUSE of our children and us bc only when we cry will nothimg never change never !!!!!! Who is with me ?!!!
Brother i feel every little bit of your pain .. . my ex has done said and acted in horrible ways to keep me and my angle apart on account of what she is doing ....it kills me everyday
Im so sorry stay strong brother
My ex has destroyed my relationship with our two daughters
@@katrinamenzies9398 SAME..I fought 2 yrs for jt custody but she ignored it and brainwashed them to hate me;;;;
Stay strong Wishing you to have time in the near future with them. We walk together in this journey. Stay tuned how we and or you can help a father or mother in need.
I get emotional about my daughter too.Its really rough being without your kids especially when doctors said you would never have kids.My heart goes out to the men and women going through missing their kids!!!
Thank you for your message. I'm sorry for seeing this late. I hope you're able to see your princess today. Wishing you peace and strength
I wish my daughter’s father feels that way about her like you do. My daughter is only 6 months old and her father put us out recently. I cry watching this because I wish my own dad cared about me this way, and I wish my daughter’s father did too..
It's the toughest thing I have ever faced, been about two and a half years now, constantly thinking about my daughter made me feel worthless .. it's only now that I'm beginning to accept it and loosen up around it, focusing on having a relationship with my daughter instead of regretting the times I'll never have. Focusing on everything but the time you spend with your child is heartbreaking. All the best
Thank you brother. Stay strong God walks with you and strengthens your connection with your daughter. He will bond you to together forever. May he deliver you financial freedom, emotional freedom. Strengthen the bond between you and your daughter I claim it in Jesus name 🙏 🙌 Amen.
I used to raise my little daughter, we were always together. Till the day me and her father split. She was 4. I had to live with my parents and things just got worse day after day. I should never gone to their house. They aren't loving, they created a very hostile environment, bullying and fighting, insulting and screaming every single day. I thought about suicide many times. It was just the living hell. Till the day I decided to accept a job in a different country. My purpose was to bring my daughter later, but I am alone here, and having an established life so I can raise her here alone is being so difficult!! Months go by without seeing her, touching, cooking her food and reading her bedtime story. My baby, it shouldn't be like this. It's so difficult. She's my life and heart. Ii want my little girl with me God please help me. She misses me, she's like a Ray of light when she sees me she does everything to please me. Everyday I remind myself not to forget the people who put us in this situation. Everyday I remind myself that this, this I can't forgive. The lost time with her, I won't forgive. I miss my little girl, I wish I could hug her now.... Jade
Nothing hurts worse... Been 3 year's without my son...
Wishing you peace and strength brother. I know it hurts. Use this time to continue building your life. Strengthen your body and mind. When your child comes back to you and they will come to you. Show them the greatest version of yourself. You are a King. Keep in touch brother 🙌🫂💪
Feel you brother. In limbo currently awaiting to reconnect with a child. I offer you all love n’ inner peace. You stay strong.
I love you brother. Thank you for your strength. We walk together on this journey. Keep your peace good man. 👍
Man. I understand you. I’m at the very beginning of this. Don’t want it. It’s kills me. I can’t imagine. Hope you’re doing better. Family’s shouldn’t break up. Unless it’s 100% unable to be worked out. My situation, my wife moved on before I knew what was going on. Boom. Gone. While I was hoping and asking for her help. For US. Instead she just moved on. Seeing a guy. Totally blinded me. The feeling was mental and physical. I understand you. It’s brutal. Toughest thing ever. Wouldn’t wish it on anyone ever.
I remember being blind sided by my ex. Hang in there brother 🙏. Stay mentally and physically hard. You will survive 💪
My son is going to uni and my daughter has chosen to live with her dad at age 16. I am so gutted but love her enough to let her go as I know she is in good hands. I do feel like I have failed as a mum for my child to choose to leave.I feel so alone and I honestly don't think my kids or anyone would miss me if I was no longer around.Depression makes the minutes and hours go on for ever and I can't even sleep away the time as I cannot sleep. I just sit on the sofa all day and night with no incentive to do anything.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Men and women go through this sadly. You have to keep going. Keep getting up. Fight that depression out of you through exercise.
The best part is that all the mothers of these children (including the mother of mine ) emjoy this. This is more then half the reason they do this, so they can break us . This is literally the end goal
Your absolutely right. It's sad. Because they are damaging the children and using the children as a tool to hurt us. Thank you for commenting. I hope your doing well. Stay strong and keep in touch. 🙏🙌
@@lifeafterdeath1 i really needed to come across this video, have not seen my daughter of 4 years old in a year . Its absolutely a pain i can't even describe and just to see other men going through this really makes me feel less alone . Thank you so much and I am going to subscribe
Thank you for that man, I needed it.
I miss my kids everytime they go back on Sunday, sometimes I cry myself to sleep.
I understand why our brothers take their lives.
Keep fighting brothers, don't give up, our kids need us.
Sending you love and strength brother. Praying the Lord bonds you and connects you with your beautiful children 🙏 Amen
This has ripped my heart out...I miss my family...
10 years on , now my daughter is sixteen, she contacted on Facebook and said hello and I wished her happy birthday it was amazing feeling .I asked her to look after her little brother and she said she will .then I said my good bye.again❤
Aww that's awesome. I hope you are able to keep in contact with them. Praying for you brother 🙏
Men we are abused our children have the same feelings like we do and are abused too when the courts gonna change they say they acting in the best intrest for children ? Thank You that you are so strong and that you went true all this for your daughter you are Amazing !!!!
Yes sir, I'm going through right now today 2023 I cry every 7 minutes bc I haven't seen or spoke to my adult son and I think he's ADHD but he's missing I don't have any I'm not even from my family I caught many places to see if he's there hospitals, jail, but my son don't have no criminal record he's an awesome young man and I am so afraid because today was going on in the world it is very dangerous out there the last time I spoke to him he was not speaking as himself it was as though somebody was telling him what to say and telling him what to do and one of those things for him not to do is to come around me or go home he was making up so many excuses at one time that he's never coming home but I know that wasn't from him because we have a great relationship and something is going on if you know what I'm thinking what my son is going through it will tear you up this get me more closer to God though I really hoping and praying that all is well with him I'm trying my best to stay strong but I cry cry cry I cannot even sleep at night and especially when it rains I wonder if he's so it's safe HELP!!!
My heart hurts for you. I love you and pray your son will come back to you. 🙏
I can see the pain in your eyes. I’ve been there myself. What you said about releasing that serotonin is essential. I’m a Skype dad. Since my son was 3 he’s been gone and I get to raise him for only a few months every summer. But other than that trying to raise a boy through Skype (once a week) is hard. Additionally, when I do finally see him, he’s a complete different person because another year has gone by. I had to take down all of our pictures in the house because seeing him breaks me down. Even our summers together feel like a nightmare because with everyday that passes, I think about it being a day closer to him leaving. It’s crazy I always envisioned myself with 4 or 5 kids running around my house. Instead I only have 1 who I see 60 days out of 365. But I try and think of how blessed I am that at least he’s healthy smart and knows I love and miss him. It’s my only saving grace 🤷🏽♂️
same pain i had..i really LOVE MY DAUGHTER SO MUCH..if it talks about her it makes me so small...i miss you SHILOH MAURELLE..
GOD Knows how much i LOVE you..
I went to Tennessee after Hurricane Irma damaged my house. I had no help or a place to go. I kept my Wife and kids in Tennessee until I can regroup. After a couple of months I finally got situated and wanted them back so I don’t lose my 23 year career. She didn’t want to come back because she cheated on me. She’s kept me from my four children for 6 years. If I was a jerk I would of divorced her and filed for custody but I haven’t. I’m alone now in Miami working always missing my kids. I know how u deal.
Thank you for sharing this, I'm 2 weeks into a break up and have 3 kids all young and have spent over 11 years nurturing and being there every day,now I'm I'm reduced to not seeing them and I cry every day, I pray that I can just hold them and tell them I love them again and that's the hardest part not being able to say that or see their little faces.. my heart aches and feel lost but reassuring to know there is hope
I feel your pain friend. It’s been one month for me now. I have a boy and girl. 6 and 8. I am crushed. My wife and are separated in the home. She’s completely unphased and is the one wanting to leave. No longer in love with me. My kids are my world. I don’t drink, or go out with the boys. Just work and come home to play and hang out with them. Help with school and do chores. They are my world. I feel so helpless and alone. The pain is too much. I cry out of nowhere. I hope it gets easier for us. We live paycheck to paycheck. I’ve sold all my prized items to pay for a lawyer now. I have a decent job, but don’t know how I will afford anything after this. How can women not see how this effects men like us. I wanted to end my life a week ago, but thought about my kids never getting to know me better. We can only control ourselves and take it a day at a time. I hope you get through these pains as best as possible.
@@paulkersey8626 the system is the problem sadly I'm very sorry to hear you your pain and very similar to mine in terms of quality as a dad. I'm not working currently due to coronavirus act ruining my industry, furlough ended with my job. So I'm back with my dad had to take on more debt to access my children which can only be described as being difficult, all based on allegations with no previous or even a criminal record,I've put in a complaint about the bully police as the way they forced into my home and abused me in front of my children was a disgrace. Worst still I'm still paying all the bills and internet and have no say and have to pay more money to try and speak about this basic topic, something's wrong in society where men can have their lives ruined. If you need to talk about this anymore ping me a message and we can chat over email or phone if your based in UK. We need to stick together us men and help as it seems we are the forgotten ones in this day and age. Stay strong brother
@@paulkersey8626 I HOPE YOU ARE STILL HANGING ON!~ It's been 10 years of HELL for me and I just tolusd my girls that I am moving away....Their faces got so sad(((. Its all bc my ex keeps me from seeing them (even though I have jt custody)....I have had many a night fantasizing about ending it all......I made a deal and a promise to myself..As long as they are alive and still in contact with me, I MUST hang on (its sooo tough)....My life is so dark (I lost literally everything) .... My angels are my only motivation...At least the hope and prospect of us reuniting one day....... otherwise, I AM SO OUTTA HERE
Going through it too brother.... and I'm tanking! Thank you very much for sharing!
Thank you! I know you're right! I went from being a "go-getter" as well and worked out quite a bit. Now I have to fight myself to get out if bed. Its so hard. I love numbing out in bed, but I know its only amplifying the depression. I am glad to hear you are making progress. That is inspiring.
Love you brother' stay strong. I am 4 years in and the hole never fills .
thanks for sharing. I’m currently a considering moving back to my home country to build a life and future for myself and daughter since living abroad is taking too much of a toll on my mental health. I know i’ll miss her, but living this way is becoming unsustainable for me. Not quite sure of my decision yet, but your input has gave me a lot to think about.
Wishing you peace and strength brother. Stay strong in your mind and body. The only person that matters in the world is YOU 💪 and your beautiful children will look to you one day and want to see how you treated yourself is going to be a reflection of their lives. Represent to them the best version of you. Wishing you peace and strength 💪
Thank You Brother
It’s been 2 1/2-3years and I still miss my Son
It has had a huge impact on me also up and down
Much love and respect Brother ❤️🙏
I agree . You have no ideal. I am destroying my life . The touch the sound the laughs. . I miss my babies
I feel you pain. I been divorced now for about 6 months. I had to fight all summer long in court to see my son. I feel you though. The pain of waking up not having that little face to make you happy. Not hearing I love you daddy everyday has been the most painful part. I put my son to bed every night and now it's nothing. Only every other weekend do I get him and it's not enough. I see this is an old video so I hope as 1 father to another I pray your doing much better because for me it's like nothing ness until my child comes over. Be well bud
I deal with this. Its actually very traumatic. I got a divorce because my ex husband was not loving and it was killing me I felt unwanted I remarried someone who truly loves me but I am being robbed of being happy because I am everyday grieving my kids. Though they are older now my daughter took it hard she suffers. I remain very close to my kids i see them alot and pamper them Im super close to my kids but every day I wake up I cry for them and I cry even more because I know my daughter cries still for the divorce she's told me. I shared with her I cry too. I dont miss my ex husband but I miss my kids so much. I gave them a chance to live with me they chose to stay with their dad I think because they feel sorry for him being alone. I feel sorry for him too sometimes and other times I feel angry at him he could of prevented this if he was more loving and kind. I felt they marriage could of been saved but he's a cold personality. I feel like a nowhere girl. I cant be happy in my new marriage without my kids yet I cant be happy if I went back to their dad knowing he's not my soulmate. Whats a girl to do? 😭 What makes it worse is my mom left my dad and it literally killed my childhood Makes me cry till this day what happened to my parents...the last thing I ever wanted was for this same thing to happen to my kids. My heart is broken literally. I cry for my kids. I cant ever be happy without them even though I'm still close to them. Memmories of them being kids and my ex husband and me together with them when we used to be all happy together once haunt me. It breaks me apart. I cry so much. I wish So much it could of been saved. I ache for my kids and their feelings not mine. I will do anything for my kids. They are all my life forever. How do I solve this? I feel guilty on both ends ...guilty because its not fair to my kids I got the divorce but guilty also toward my new husband whos loving towards me and treats me better because he's sad I cant be happy with him though he loves my children and feels apathy toward them as well. My depression is getting worse and I wish there was a way my kids could be happy and I could be at peace and happy for my new marriage too. I must say sincerely though my kids are my 1# Forever and nothing or no one will ever come before them so my heart is never happy until they are.
Fill your heart and mind with peace. Start by emptying your mind. The energy of peace will reflect on your family and it will become them. The kids are stressed because you are stressed. You are the heart you are the mother. Lead them to peace. You can do it. You have the power to change everything.
Thank you for this
Man this is painful man this deep man. I feel this folk all the way.
Thank you
I miss my children being little. They are off living their lives and i am all alone
Stay strong brother 💪 you're not alone. Keep in touch and email me your contact info. My door is always open to anyone.
i tried hard to hold back my tears while watching your video and comments and stories below but i couldn't any more. I am 27 years old now, and i broke up with my daughter's mom when she's 1 year old. They live in Poland and I live in China. It's been three years since we broke up and not seeing my beloved daughter and I went through serious depression living with the fact that I can't see her for years. On the last day when I had to leave them to my country, I put up my biggest smile to my 1 year old daughter and played peekaboo with her, because I just wanted to give her the best memory I could, not a sad face or tears. Had so many nights that I woke up with tears and dreams that I could hug her and she calling me daddy. I'm so scared that she won't recognize me any more. Now her mom has found a new man, my daughter seems to have a new dad. I feel so weird about it but this is actually the best thing I could do - giving them peace. It's never easy.
Thanks man , im in a situation where i tell myself that is better for me not-to-be awake and sleep instead, just not to be stuck in these thoughts... The worst part is , that when i sleep , it keeps hauting me.. the nightmares show up related to what happend and what is happening .
I hope one day i will find some sort of peace.
My story is different...Thank you for sharing Sir. I have 3 i miss very much, I will get yp and move. God bless
Wishing you all the best Elbert thank you for watching and commenting. I pray 🙏 everything works out best for you.
I miss my baby girl so much. I haven't seen her in years. because of my drug addiction in the past. I hate my life. the lack of seeing my daughter is unbearable. I can't stand it.
I'm sorry you're going through this Tim. Do not get down. The wrong decisions of the past will not reflect the outcome of who you are. Believe and dream and invision a better version of you. A better outcome for you. I love you brother 🙌🫂 Do not give up.
I hope everyone who has 2 miss their kids can hold on and someday find happiness again. I hope you can breathe and smile one day. Please dont do anything stupid from the pain your kids will miss you. Even if you cant be around when you want they need to know they will always have you. Stay strong breathe and keep pushing
Thanks for this man. Keep this going. Fathers need this.
This is me I tried my best but can’t help . Miss him more and more everyday 😢
I'm sorry brother. I know you are going through a difficult time. The pain never goes away but you grow through it and becoming stronger than the pain. Believe your child will be in your arms again. 🫂💪🙏
I feel the same way! Just hearing and seeing that someone else 100% emotional when our children are brought up.
Thanks for putting this content out there. I lost my 4 daughters and really struggling with it right now. I try to eat up my free time as much as possible. I go to school full time have a full time job. I go to meetings meet with a counselor. I have a mentor but everyday I just struggle with that sadness and dont know what to do.
Jeffrey you're amazing. You are way ahead of the pain. You are fighting it like a champion. Going to school working and counseling. Wow 👏 great job. The sadness is a living poison and you have to be strong enough to fight that poison. Stay positive every day and the energy will come back to you.
I lost my kids 3 years ago for shit I did when I was a kid this feeling will never go away it will never go away I have 4 kids I don’t really talk to them but I have to stay strong from them and have god by my side who ever reads this just know god has a plan for you and your kids one day they will come back I LOVE YOU KIDS AND IM SORRY 😢
I miss my daughter so much
It shatters you if you can't meet the baby girl ... But thinking only that god have better plan for my daughter, i am coming out of depression, its been 3 months now .. i came out of the house just for the medical treatment.. don't want to go anywhere and do nothing just praying that soon i will be with her
Wishing you peace and strength brother. Keep getting up. Keep loving and living for yourself. You will build the strength and structure for the love and future life you have with your beautiful baby. 🫂🙌💪🙏
I'm good kids are aswell. Just been busy with work and overtime so I did replace missing my kids with work. I've been in 2 relationships since the divorce. I see my kids like twice a year reason trying not to disturb they new family life. We good
Blessings to you 🙏 my friend 🫂💪
Just started the process of separation/divorce, I’m military in Japan and my kids are in Ohio. Breaks my heart… only been 3 1/2 weeks. Trying to stay positive.
I completely understand. These are fresh wounds you are experiencing right now. The quicker you can overcome the pain in the mind and channel your mental muscle into powerful beautiful thoughts for your life and a future with your children is the best outcome for the greatest version of you. I'm praying for you brother 🙏 stay strong 💪 you will overcome 🫂
@@lifeafterdeath1 thank you brother! A day at a time…
I gave custody of my 2 oldest kids about a yr ago. Although one is a pre-teen and the other a teen I miss them and feel this suffering of seperation as if they had left just yesterday. More so for the younger 12 yr old. As i know he got cought up in the middle of this family drama and it was not his choice. I cry EVERY SINGLE DAY.
I miss my 3 little boys for the last 4 years. Since that 4 years Im all the time in the bed 24/7 . Cant live without them. I want close my eyes and never woke up. No body can help me .I miss them so much💔🩸🩸🩸
I love you brother. Stay strong 💪 in your mind and body. Never give up on loving you. Let go of the pain and accept the strength of love for you.
I feel you brother.my baby mama and I been broken up for almost a year and she won’t let me see my son and it’s not court ordered but I’m saving money for me to establish my right but my son is always on my mind every second of the day
Sending you strength and peace brother. I still go through it. It never gets easier. The only thing we can do is create the best version of ourselves. Become stronger, wiser, wealthy and healthier. So that wonderful day when your beautiful son turns to you and looks to you, he sees greatness! And the greatest version of him will multiple through you 🫂 love you brother stay strong 💪
Thank you so much for opening up like that brother. Makes me feel Iike I should too but I look crazy when I do cuz I am in futile disposition.
I'm going through the same situation with my boy and 3 daughters. It's the worst pain ever! Awesome video. Gives me motivation
Man I was like that for 6 years. It must be the worst pain out there. way worse than phisical pain...
I'm at work right now and i'm missing my kids and it's been almost 2 years since my ex moved away to the other side of the country pregnant with my son. Luckily i get to see them every 2 weeks in the weekend. But it still hurts when im not with them. Thank you for making this video. Im subscribing so i can watch your channel again because i have to get back to work.
I feel the same way. She was my life. Now my life is to love for me. It's an odd feeling.
I'm so sorry you're going through that. Thank you for watching and commenting. We walk together on this journey. Stay strong and yes love you and appreciate you. Many forget to do that and lose themselves along this journey. God bless 🙌 🙏 🫂
I miss my son everyday. I’m still trying to deal with the separation.
It's difficult I know. To much clouding your mind and it's hard to focus. Remain strong 💪 King. Use this time to prepare your life to present the greatest version of you to your beautiful children when they see you again. And they will see you again. They are your seed. It's the nature of them to come back to you. Keep in touch brother 🙏 💪 🙌
WoW I thought I was the only one. I can definitely relate man. Blessup!