Missing your kids after divorce seek help. The divorced dad.
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- Hi guys I hope you all do wonderful please don't forget to give this video a thumbs up and subscribe if this helps you at all in this video I will explain some key points on why you should get help seek some professional help through a counselor or therapist I myself did not believe in them but it does help and we really have no choice but to get a little bit of help after divorce because we're missing our children so much and the pain can be too much for us to handle. I'm thinking of you guys I hope you all are doing wonderful ladies and gentlemen I wish you peace things are difficult for me right now but it is getting better and that is something I'm grateful for I hope that things will get better for you and they most definitely will I am a true Testament to it. Sorry for the errors in this message.
The divorced dad. Life after divorce.
Thank you for sharing -I’m the mom in this situation . And just yesterday thanksgiving my kids 15 year old , son 12 decided they weren’t going to see me , nor did they call me . I understand the pain you’re speaking of . My ex husbands family have alienated me from my kids since 2016 . My ex took custody of them when they were 6 & 9 years old . I have anxiety and depression already , but they used my depression against me and took custody. I’m a good , kind , person and the pain feels like it was yesterday .
I pray every day - god bless you all
🫂❤ God bless you Suzanne I'm so sorry for you going through this. Thank you for commenting and watching. Especially for women it's difficult to face society under these conditions. I completely understand how you feel wronged about them using your depression. My ex used my depression against me but I only claimed depression because I missed my daughter and they still use it against us. 😔🙏
@suzanne francis. It’s hard I know it feels. I drown myself in the Bible it eases my pain.
Bless you. I have some issues too and I can relate to you. My 9 years old daughter told me to not try and see her again and I'd rather be dead lol she was abducted by my ex to a different country when she was 1 and has been poisoned..
How did ypy lose custoy of your kids.
Two years and still miss my kids like the first time but i thank God there still here but is not easy and i needed therapy to overcome. Im still in the process and thank you for this videos
Hey bro , hope you doing better now , kids are a true blessing ,Notting will ever replace them ,they bring so much joy and happiness . My advice is to keep the connection with them how ever you can cos no therapy or medicine will help you from missing them
11 years. No words. No peace. Just pain.
I have not seen them.
Oh my gosh that is a long time. I'm very sorry. I'm so sorry for your pain. I pray to God one day you can hold and have a loving relationship with your kids. Wishing you peace 🙏💪
@@ci8158 I'm so sorry for you. May you find peace in your heart.
Yes it does it hurts so bad 😢 Glory to God helping me get through but at times it feels like I can’t breathe. I miss him dearly I’m fighting tears everyday and his siblings are missing him terribly too.
I feel your pain. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I pray for peace in your mind and body. Never stop loving your child but release yourself from the pain attached to your love through the memories of your child. The pain is not you. It does not shape you nor define you. Only the strength of love within you. You will survive this. God is on your side.
8 years now not seen my kids , I've realised we move on but the heart remains sad
Stay strong!
I’m sorry bro. I haven’t seen my kid in 10 months and that has been hard. I can’t even imagine what you’re going through.
@@jamesreber8068 Sorry, 3 years for me. Just remember, this is nothing personal. The only reason this happens is because the x is vindictive. The courts only make conflict by creating a custodial/non-custodial situation that can not be resolved. Co-parenting professionals are gynocentric and are only interested in billable hours. The attorneys make money and the kids and fathers loose. Just facts.
I've raised my son from birth. We've developed a pretty strong relationship. He is 15 now and just getting to know his mom.
I am in the situation I'm in now, living on my own in a shitty room in a house. Because of job loss my son had to move in with his mom because before I got this shitty little room I was almost completely homeless for a CPL days. I thought he'd be right back home and we'd continue well..... I had two big heart attacks this past summer and almost died. I miss him so much. It's always been me n him. I love him Soo much. Have obviously invested too much to be able to now stand on my own.
He's coming to spend this upcoming weekend with me and I couldn't be looking forward to it more! He's truly a very good boy. Sensitive, quiet, artistic, and just wants to be accepted.
Such a painful life some days. I'm very lonely lately. Feeling so jaded I swear I will never give another woman a chance to take advantage of me again. Married my highschool girl and we spent a little over 22years together, from the time we were 16years old.
Hurt is a understatement, I'm a man and I have never been this broken ever and I do not even wish Divorce and more to the point the separation from the kids on my enemies. Two girls and 1 boy.
Tbh I feel this. I pushed my ex away so much that I know it's both of us but I accepted what can and can't happen. I'll always love her and would give my all to have another chance. But man, not being with my 2 step kids and our son that will be 5 in the second. Really really has made me realize that I can't live this way because I need to need and they need me, the pain of being BROKEN is what I feel, all the while we have to do better. I created another email and literally started over. Get out of your comfort zone and put IN THE WORK!
Shine brothers and sisters, just shine. Happiness is just around the corner. All of you missing your children, it WILL get better & better. And it will happen faster and sooner than you think. Humbleness from your previous partner is as close to him/her as your happiness is. I went through hell the past 6-7 month. But compared to worst times during that period I'm in heaven now, seeing the kids basically every other day. Just reach for that inner voice within you guiding you to do the right thing, trust your gut and believe in your love. Thank you so much for these inspiring videos bro! Sending all the love I have from Scandinavia. Peace!
How ur able to meet everyday .
Love you brother for your strength and kind words.
I miss my daughter every secound . The worst pain I've ever felt so far
Stay strong brother. Yes it's painful I know. I lived it and the pain took my life. Use this time to rebuild your body and mind. Strengthen from the inside out. Show your beautiful children the best version of you. They will come back to you one day and you have to show them what a loving strong king is. Keep in touch brother 🙌 🫂 💪
@@lifeafterdeath1 thanks man, I appreciate you
Stay strong keep in touch my email is in the description.
I posted my comment 11 months ago. I am now at peace and happy. I can empathise with you 100%. We know the pain, it never really goes away, we just have to push through. There is no time frame. Nothing anyone says, or any videos you watch really changes anything. We need the pain to regrow and let go of what we thought was going to be. You will get there, you will. Lots of love to you brother
@lukecreed you are a powerful example of the healing process we all need. Thank you for watching and commenting. May I share your comment with the channel? God bless you 🙏
Soul being ripped out nailed it, I wasn't a career daddy although I tried to work to improve future but things never panned out, I was a father who spent every day through good and bad and the thing I'm struggling with the most is not holding,seeing or hearing their voices...so happy I've found your videos as I've considered the ultimate end to wash away the pain
Need help 3 days to much pain
Me too...I understand.
Sometimes I wonder if it’s worth it to keep going on, feels like the walls are
closing in and I just wished everything would stop.
I hope things are better for you now
banglajobs Unfortunately it hasn’t. It’s been 100 days and counting since I last saw my child. Shocked and surprised I made it this far.
Dick Assman hope you hang on there. she doesn’t let you see the kids ?
@@fatgirlboy9341 She's got my daughter convinced that it is too dangerous to step outdoors. It's been almost 4 months since I last saw her
Dick Assman damn they you do something scared them before ?
This is soooo hard , I really don't know what to do anymore. The pain is horrible
It's hard yes but you will survive. Find your inner strength in the waves of pain. When you find it, it will elevate you to a new destination. Keep the site on your children but start a new path towards your destination. I love you stay strong Keep in touch. You will be ok 💪🫂
To hard for me feeling just started 3 days ago
@@christianyu8632 i love you guys. Keep getting up Keep being your best Keep showing up.
My ex had done many things.
In the end, she took my kids, and she didn't leave an address.
She has had a boyfriend for about a year or more.
After she was granted her US citizenship, she went to the local victim assistance office and filed a domestic violence offense against me. So I couldn't go to my house or see my kids. It was ok for her because she had her new relationship.
I suffered so much, and I believe my daughter did it too.
This last July 22nd, I have a hearing and the judge dismissed all my estranged wife allegations.
Now, she ran away with my kids and she didn't leave an address.
I never thought she would be capable of doing this to my children.
I was working very hard for them.
I have separation anxiety away from my kids its horrible
I'm sorry to hear that. I believe I have similar issues. It's not easy but at least we understand it and can work on better ourselves.
Same, it's sole destroying.
Pain, we know what it is. Mothers do not.
Help me
Sorry late response brother. How are you doing today? How have you been. Keep in touch. 🫂🙌
Toughen up and pick it up…
Great advice for a man, don’t you get tired of being the toughen one and strong one all the time ? I do
Yes we all do. Wishing you peace and strength 💪 🙏
Dealing with this now. Devastating.
I love you brother. Stay strong 💪. You are a King. Keep walking Keep striving.
I’m dying inside … I’m lost I don’t know what to do … the pain has crippled me … I can’t function everyday life …
Wow I know how you feel Torri I'm so sorry 🫂 I want you to breathe and know those beautiful kids are coming back in your arms. Build your mind and heart stronger. Use this time to build yourself. Give your beautiful children the best of you. Not a hurt you. I know you're hurting. I'm sorry. Fight through the pain the light is at the end of this journey.
Therapy definitely helps even if it's just cathartic. I'm on my 4th session and feeling much more motivated.
I feel like my heart and soul leave each time my daughters mother picks her up , I get her everything other weekend , and the 2 weeks inbetween are crushing
I wrote this before you got around to saying g the same thing. it does feel like losing an appendage, something that's you aren't supposed to be separated from...
Be thankful for what you got, make the best out of it with your children. Life goes on. My wife won't even let me stay with my kids with me because she wants it her way. I'm seeking legal advice to exercise my right.
@@vicko7476 I'm so sorry bother, I feel for you. I hope you are able to seek out adequate legal council and resolve the matter to finally have your children again... I will include you in my prayers. If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to reach out to me on xbox, my GT is : xXxSCHLOGINxXx. I'm always up for a game of Halo as well
I recommend the great dr, irrua who helped me get my ex back immediately after many years of separation.
Hey All, I got divorced more than 3 years ago and since ex was filing protective orders after every visit i ended up not seeing the kids since then. She is asking court for private nanny, private schools which become stressful. After that when i came to see my parents internationally and found that ex has filed a case here too and now i cannot go back to states. I do not have a job, not seeing kids hurt. I got married again and life is going on
Wishing you peace brother. I hope you see my other message.
@@lifeafterdeath1 Will do, i am going through alot. I am still fighting with child enforcement agency to settle the case(gain my whole retirement money to settle in the case). I hope it is resolved and i can start my career again
Reclaim your right as a father. Forget judges, courts, lawyers, mediation etc etc...a complete waste of time. Find your children and be as close to them as possible. NOTHING and NO ONE can stand in your way. Don't look to others for answers. Look within yourself and look to GOD, always. Sharpen your focus and always be determined.
Thank you for your strength brother. 🫂💪☝
Word 💯💪🏾
Going through weird time where I’m going bed 34 am . Missing my sons. I’ve sent a letter to hopefully get access as I dont want court process but next week I might have to, I’m calling Samaritans not good lately
Hang in there man. What I mean by that is don't lose your cool. Stay positive in your words and be patient. They will want to see you beg and cry. It makes them happy to see you in pain. Don't show your pain. Talk to her like its part of the process to when you see your kids. Don't give her the choice. If she denies you the Choice then request to do mediation very quickly. Schedule the times with the kids make sure you receive a text or something showing she has agreed to the times you will see them, then if she cancels later you can use that as evidence to prove she can't be trusted with the kids for too. I am really wishing you peace brother through this whole process. Keep me informed and I will post about this topic today.
Kids bring us so many happy feelings and good energy ,keep fighting for them , they will love you regardless .they will make life more enjoyable and give you the push to better yourself .
@@lifeafterdeath1 Thank you for your reply. It means a lot that others understand. with two days to go before court there was mediation. I see my sons but on her terms. I am happy to see my sons but now I feel like that is the situation I have to live with.
@@8019THEDUDE It is not. You are a father and you have rights. When necessary file a Request for Custody Order and have the parenting agreement modified. Do your best to show the court why this is in the best interest of your children.
I developed schizophrenia during my second pregnancy my husband called the police had me locked away from my newborns and my 3 year old for 6 months and separated from me
He got custody of the kids
It’s been 2 years I’ve recovered and I want the kids back so much
I’ve missed them so much
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I've been divorced since Covid and 1 year ago, my ex denied me from seeing my own son. I missed him so badly.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm going through the same situation. Still struggling to have mom agree to share time with me.
@@lifeafterdeath1 it can be tough mentally, but sometimes I just tell myself, it is what it is. There's nothing much I can do, just make sure I live better, happier, healthier, stronger.... Some day I will see my son again. Oh ya, save up more money, you never know when we will need it someday, esp for the kid(s).
Just think like this theyvgonna leave sooner or later when they get older sad but it happened sooner
I know I'd rather it be later in life.
The problem is your daughter was missing you the same way who helpt her !!!!! This was not only abuse on you its also childabuse. Im happy to see you sitting strong.
I recommend the great dr, irrua who helped me get my ex back immediately after many years of separation.
My wife for 21yrs kicked me out for a guy in prison. I have 3 kids with her. So I guess he is moving in our house when he gets out. So I miss my boys so much not to mention I'm homeless right now she told me to take my dog with me. I feel so alone heartbroken sad. She doesn't want me by the house I sleep in my car with no heat and it's so cold at night. I don't know what to do with my life right now. I wish I had some one to talk to but I don't have friends my life sucks
Let's talk today brother I'm going live and I'll notify when I do
its gonna be almost one year after divorce and im missing my kids soooo much...i can't sleep even i can't cry now :(
Struggling so much only my faith and love are keeping me going right now 💔😔
I recommend the great dr, irrua who helped me get my ex back immediately after many years of separation.
I don't know how to go on without my children, they haven't spoken to me after me my wife separated nothing seems to help even therapy doesn't to help. Struggling everyday. Seems pointless
Hopefully the pain will go away. I have a daughter and we are now planning on separating. Just thinking about to being there for her and kiss her good night beaks my heart, 😢
Stay strong and strengthen your love for yourself and your children stay stoic.
Same here but I’m a year divorced. I have them 3 days a week and it’s not enough. My ex has threatened to try for full custody because my daughter only wants to be with me and she’s thinking I’m manipulating her. I’m not. The idea of loosing her would literally kill me
Going to church . . Looking for Jesus is the best help u can get .. He’s always waiting wit open arms .
Thank you brother from the bottom of my hearth ! I’m actually trying to push my self now since a month I got the envelope and final results from the DNA 🧬 I made with my kids and I actually have the envelope her beside of me and truly pushing my self, at the same time I see my kids thirty years back when the where young boys that’s cuts inside my hearth and truly scares me to see a hearth Brocken results. I fell we went all most the same with the past ex person, and I can see kn you, I can see inside you how you fell and it’s so painful that it makes one scream of sorrow and heart break because I know people can see on me to😢 try what ever you can, just so you can take small steps forward ! Thank you for you’re help very much and Good luck with health and happiness. 🙏🙏🙏
I love you brother. Hold your head high. God will never let you down.
Your so right..been 6 months already...I breakdown everyday..when does it get better?
I recommend the great dr, irrua who helped me get my ex back immediately after many years of separation.
It's the hardest when she leaves out of state with the kids so you don't get to see them but once or twice a year.
Yes True. I am living this right now. As I continued with this channel I realized so many men and women go through this also. It's painful. Stay strong my friend. We are in this together. We will overcome.
Good luck brother were in the same situation
I have not been a good partner and a good dad.
You can not change the past. Let it go and create the amazing person you are today by accepting you. You are needed and perfectly created.
Do you know I have to say she’s been verbally abusive with me I haven’t hit her up we argue a lot, but I have two kids and lots crossed my mind. Thank you so much.
It's not you. It's her reflection of herself. She's feeling lack of self worth because subconsciously she knows what she is doing is wrong. She is hurting you too satisfy her the insecurities of feeling worthless. This usually stems from childhood trauma or some type of abuse. Stay strong brother 💪 🙏
It's called the sound of silence
Not a good place when u go dark .
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I just want to die without them
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Thank you
Thank you for watching and commenting. You will be ok. Will survive this pain. Stay strong. 🫂🙌
Just found you and it did, thank you.
All the best mate
God helps me to cope with my separation from my daughter. He promised me I’ll get her back this year :) I pray daily, fundraise and do my hobbies which keep my mind off a bit. It hurts so much when I miss her so much it feels like physical pain. I try to keep my hopes up that I’ll get her back meanwhile I’m keeping myself busy. God has been very helpful :) What’s really bad is she is living with people that abused her so I’m worried they will abuse her more. Sadly police and social workers etc are not taking the abuse seriously. God told me there will be justice eventually I just have to keep waiting and according to Him I’ll get her back this year. (He showed me this in Holy Bible when I asked Him).
🫂🙏 yes brother 🙌 God is good and he through him we will have our children back.
@@lifeafterdeath1 I’m a woman 👩
@@lifeafterdeath1 I find it so annoying that you assume that I’m a man just because I’m not allowed to live with my daughter
@@lifeafterdeath1 can’t you read that my name is Anna Franc? I’m clearly a woman
can you give us an update of y our situation with your daughter now?
I Help You i'm Here
Thank you so much I'm grateful for you. Any help is greatly appreciated 🙏 Wishing you peace and strength
Take the Red Pill. Push though the rage. Happiness is within reach.
it hurts a lot 😢
I'm sorry Dave. I know brother I'm so sorry 🫂 Do you have 1 or 2 children? How old are they? When was your separation? Remember to calm your mind and breathe. Stay in loving thoughts and imagine being with your kids. Don't give up. But also don't give up on your peace. Keep in touch Dave. I hope your doing well. Wishing you peace and strength 💪
You’re amazing
I feel like giving up.
No brother. Don't give up. Everyone wants you to give up but you know who does NOT want you to give up. Your beautiful children. I don't want you to give up. I know how you feel. It's deep pain that cripples the core of men. This is your opportunity to prove to yourself. You were down but your journey back to your children is not over. You feel defeated but you still have more to offer. I love you brother stay strong in the storm. I know you got this. Keep in touch. 🫂💪
How do you guys end up losing custody after a divorce? Is it the laws of the state? I’m going through the same but I’m at the beginning stages.. really seeking some answers
It's the laws of every state already in the women's favor. You are needing to prove your need to be present in the child's life. They want proof and evidence that you are needed and wanted. Your love alone does not give them a reason to have you in the child's life. I'm hurting writing this to you but I'm so sorry brother It's true. 50% of the time it's women lying and 50% it's lawyers manipulating the woman in fear that she will lose the child that she desperately does anything to hurt your chances. I love you brother. Present to them a healthy happy loving good man with evidence to prove it, social media etc.... and as much involvement in the child's life.
@@lifeafterdeath1 thank you so much for responding and I will fight and do everything I can to be with my baby .. so sorry and it hurts to watch you be hurt.. it’s hard but I’m being as strong as I can be.. Good Luck with everything thank you Sir
Please some of you guys going through this connect with me. I none of my therapists, friends or even my current partner can understand my pain. I just want to speak with someone who has been through traume of seperation with child to tell its going to be ok.
hey brother... sorry to hear your pain. Its been almost 6 months since my Ex took my 2 kids and left. Been fighting in court ever since. I even have a court order stating the kids are to live with me full time and she can have visits and she has disobeyed that! She basically put my kids against me over the past 2 to 3 years and now they dont even want to see me.... it is heartbreaking for sure!
I feel your pain. I look to my God and pray. It helps but it still hurts. I know it will get better and that it takes time. Stay busy. Talk to others. Your not alone brother.
I love you brother Brent 🙌 🫂 thank you for watching and sharing. Too many men are going through this. It has to stop. I'm crying reading this because this sounds exactly like my story. And probably everyone else
What help? There is no support for domestic violence. What help? All there is , is fake help and support.
Are you available to chat? Or can I reach out over other social media platforms?
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How old r u..i can help u . Dont feel bad son. Am a mom too and miss my son
This is definitely something I struggle with every time my daughter is not with me I was the one that had her all day everyday since day one and mom wanted nothing to do with her and still doesn't just has her at times as a weapon to hurt me... when my daughter is not with me can easily tell how not myself I am... thank you for your videos
Pray for me lads.
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