I am currently going through a divorce. It is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to endure. The thing that hurts the most is not seeing my son everyday. Thank you so much for posting this video. It is good to know I am not alone.
I walk with you brother. You are not alone. I pray you can see your beautiful son and continue a loving relationship with him all your life. Never give up. Live your life with honor and purpose to be a reflection of the life you wish your son to have. Become stronger mentally and physically. Laugh with him every day. Smile for your soul every day. Eat healthy and exercise every day. Wishing you peace and strength brother 🙏
Ha Donny I'm so sorry you're going through this. You came to the right place. There are so many guys and some women that are a huge support in my comments section. My contact information is in my most recent videos. And I'm here for you if you need to talk or message. My Facebook page is Rocky Ella. The feeling are painful and no one understands unless they have gone through it. Keep peace in your heart. Stsy focused on every step is a closer journey towards being with your amazing son. 🙌🫂 breathe in strength and move towards your future. It will happen brother. You will be stronger wiser and look back and be able to tell him your story and it will strengthen and protect him. ☝
I catch myself crying over my ex wife and missing my daughters. They are close to their mother and won't talk to me. I feel like I am stuck at a funeral everyday. I miss my ex wife we was like best friends.Never thought she would divorce me because Christians shouldn't get a divorce I felt.
@@youngsavagefury7138 Maybe its because your break up is fresh. But you sound like you are thinking too much of your ex. Put your thoughts on yourself and kids despite what you think that she turns them against you. They see what they see if your a good father they will see the true you not what she thinks of you.
@@lifeafterdeath1 guys,,...WE ARE KINGS!!! your kids will always be part of you!! I know its hard but make the BEST out of yourself.. this can either make or break you! GET BUSY!! if u must cry it out..THINGS WILL GET BETTER!!! YOU ARE A KING!! Let your baby boy or daughters see what u got! MAKE THAT BYTCH of a mom see what she lost..the worse thing she wants to see is a HAPPY EX HUSBAND BOYFRIEND!!! get a good lawyer at least to talk to her or him everyday on iphone or facetime or whatvere! but YOU GOT TO KEEP ON MOVING!! things will be bad...here and there but KEEP ON GOING!
Watching this video, i silently crying thingking of my two kids, l realize that im nor the only one who experience this kind of life missing my kids everyday . Thanks for this video...
Women shouldnt get away with this. I was a everyday dad for 6yrs. Now my kid is gone. Order of protection with false accuzations. Women need to be stopped. The x wives will pay through there life. It’s sad cus we don’t want that. But here we are getting abused. Our kids are getting abused by mothers. But the kids usually go to the parent they missed out on the most. I’ve seen it tons. It will be in our favor. Our kids are young. Time will tell. We will grow strong and the XS will only hide behnd regret better. Love and strength. Stand up men. We got this
@ agreed. I’m sick of ignorant comments like this directed at one gender or another whether it’s males or females. Stop it. This doesn’t target one gender, it’s an issue for women just as much as it is for men. We are all sharing that pain, instead of dividing us and labeling one gender against another we have to start being supportive.
I'm here and the shit is so hard and took such a massive toll and I still going through it, it hasn't even really started. thought about all that I lost and the threat of child support, etc. all of the terrors. All of a sudden, tonight. I said, " Fuck it, I don't give a fuck anymore!" I miss my kids more than words can say, I lost one of my jobs, might lose another one. I have the house, living paycheck to paycheck, low energy and I'm an athlete. 12 years and two kids and I was with a damaged woman, had nothing to do with me. Going to rebuild myself, say fuck the world and fuck fake friends, Going to workout, get money, get organized, create new relationships and live the rest of my fucking life the way I want it. Fuck the world don't ask me for shit.
I’m going through a divorce right now. Been married 13 years and we have two beautiful little boys. I’ve noticed that this whole thing has really taken the life out of me. I have felt so dead inside. I really appreciated your video. Thank you.
Just finished the divorce last month.....was married 14 years and I still feel gut shot. I miss my kids, I miss my home and the life that I had. I never expected this to happen.
Sorry late response. Thank you for watching. I'm sorry you're experiencing this. I hope things are better or at least settled and calm. Wishing you peace brother.
@@AfroMedic in retrospect, I think that getting married was a mistake. I love my children and I loved being married, but I simply don't want to go through something like that again.
same with me ..i hv for kids gangeng up on me..i dont receive any money from wasiat or faraid... i dont need that money..i just one my son..they are not even blood related
Thank you so much man. I needed this. I haven’t seen my son in 3 years and his birthday is Sunday. He’s not my biological son, his mother had IVF with donors. But I named him, cut his cord, and was his daddy for 4 years. She just cut me off from him so suddenly and viciously for no reason. I still can’t make sense of it. 3 years later and the pain is still crushing. I’m doing better in my life but still walk through it just broken. The Lord Jesus gives me strength and I take hope in Him and what He will accomplish in me. It just hurts. So thank you for your encouragement. I can see I’m not alone.
3 yrs is hard. I guess any time is hard. Michael I'm so sorry you're going through that. Thank you for commenting and watching. Wishing you peace and strength brother.
I feel ya, brother. I've been saying I'll have a heart attack for a while now. The stress of living in her abuse was killing me. Tried to survive it for the kids but had to bounce. My heart is broken n I'm the bad guy now, but I wont die, this time!!! I relapsed the last time I ran from her abuse, and died 2x in one weekend. Now I've left 14m clean n almost 9m sober. No win in active addiction. Now I have to add loss of family into my recovery. You're coaching is helping, GREATLY!!!! Much love. Thank you
Wife and I split 14 days ago..she left. 10 years married. 5 year old daughter. The end of the day is the hardest. Its AGONIZING! Ive never experienced anything like this. I saw my family EVERY morning and at the end of the day. I was the coffee maker. I cant eat, lost 14 pounds so far. Feels like suffocation, LITERALLY
To all the single dads out there. Your sons and/or daughters will never forget you. I have had depressive moods being away from my son, being that he stays with his Mother in the south and I stay in Washington because of the military. But, whenever I drive from Washington State to the South to see my son, he lights up. He hugs me, He follows me, He listens, He tries to talk (2 years old), We play and bond. It's almost like I never skipped a beat. He knows! I Just make sure when I am not around I leave him with something to remind him of me, I leave him with good memories, love, guidance, and when I am home away from him I make sure to FaceTime him daily, send clothes, toys, books, dvds, pampers, wipes, shoes, etc. as well as paying child support. YOUR EFFORT IS WHAT REALLY MATTERS FELLAS. This also applies to Women. Stay strong. Write down goals and let's get better
Bless you brother 🙏 thank you for sharing your thoughts. That's strength. I'm grateful to you. Wishing you all the best of health happiness and success 🙌
I saw your videos many years ago. Just want to appreciate and thank you for your videos. I’ve learn to accept and appreciate the little i have. Despite the pain I regain my child. The healing came and been happier since. Thanks brother
Thank you so much brother. Wishing you peace love and strength 💪. Keep your head high believe it is possible to have a better situation. Feel it in your heart. 🙌 you are the greatest and your child will experience your greatness
I thank you from the depths of my heart for making this video. I am sure it will help all dads who had loved their daughters and are now separated from them because of divorce. I faced all of what you had described in your life and the wound is still fresh. It takes a lot to believe that there is meaning to life beyond this point, but as you said, our children need us when they grow and we need to be strong when they need us. That aspect is the primary driving force to live a good life. Thanks for planting that seed into the minds of those who feel that they don't see meaning in their life. Love and respect!
Oh wow Roshan thank you so much. I'm sorry for your experience. Yes your right we need to tell these are en to stand up again believe in the future and all good things to come. There children will return and be looking for a strong healthy balanced father. It is possible. God bless you my man. I 🙏☝️💪 wishing you peace and strength.
Bro I m going thru hell.. 3 weeks cut off from my two kids..heart bleeds.. Confused.. Before going she done enough manipulation to spoil my relation with brother and mother.. Finding hard time to manage old father alone and office household.. The only one I had.. Every where in my home signs of my kids painting on walls clothes toys makes me weep... Fighting hard not to start smoking which I left for 2yrs..I'm thinking of doing something for orphanage.. Allah give me the strength to feed and teach at least ten orphan.. Hope their smiles will stop my heart bleeding.. At least there will be something meaningful in life.. Thank bro for the vdo
Bro you’re loved and you’re not alone. I remember sobbing in my car when I couldn’t get to see my kid for 5 days. Now she lives in Guam with her new family and I haven’t seen her in 8 months. The system is bullshit and brutal. I hope things got better for you. Be strong
I'm so sorry 🫂 keep in touch. My comment section is filled with amazing men that support eachother. This channel is dedicated to all men or women that have had there children taken from them. Stay strong 💪
Thank you so much for this! This is almost my exact story. I stayed home and basically raise my kids until my wife could follow the career of her dreams. And when she got there I was no longer needed or wanted. Thank you for your transparency and honesty. This is very fresh and new for me and I am trying to navigate with a daughter that adored me just six months ago but Now today hangs up the phone when I call or screams I hate you daddy when she sees me. I am praying and I am trying to stay strong.
Been almost 5 months for me after 24yr relationship and our 3 sons. I'm a mess most days and the nights are a nightmare. Good to know I'm going through a natural process. Ty for sharing your story brother
I'm so sorry you're going through this. 24yrs and 3 beautiful kids that definitely is hard. This is the time to accept the change but do 2 things. These 2 things will take you into the direction of greatness into a better you. First focus on creating a better version of you. Healthy lifestyle, fitness, spiritually. Sleep, diet, maybe even a side hobby you always wanted to try. Second your kids. Lean towards them. Our children love us and they also want what's best for us. Include them in your life's choices. Ask them if you are not sure "should daddy do this or that" surprisingly they will always choose the best direction for us. Stay strong brother. You will prevail you will 💪🙏
I have never been this depressed in the entire 27 years I've been on this planet. I want a divorce, but am scared my kids will forget about me and be brought into an entire new family. Like I'm disappearing slowly. But I also want to be happy. I choose my kids happiness over mine by keeping them with me, but deep down I know this isn't the right thing to do. I've cried every day for the last year..
I just dropped my daughter off with her mom back in Florida I had to move to South Dakota cuz of my military assignment I had my daughter the entire summer and coming back to a house that I only ever knew with my daughter was so hard all the memories and fun times of the summer I have been having a tough time rn I miss my daughter so much my ex wife has already moved on to a new man and she introduced her to him I’ve only ever been separated from my daughter one time when she was too young to remember for a deployment she’s now 3 years old it hurts a lot but seeing this gives me a little hope to push my self out of my depression
Your not alone. I'm sorry your experiencing this. Is there any current possibility you can see them? I'm curious of everyone's current situation. Thanks for any feedback.
Thank you for doing this and for sharing your strength with us. It's terrible what you've been through and this is a great example to those of us going through something similar
Man, thank you! It’s 1 am and I can’t sleep, sitting here crying missing my kids. Trying to be up beat but so tough. My 9 yr old and I were glued together, and everything hurts and I can only imagine how she feels. God give me the strength 🙏🏻
I'm right there with you brother. My princess and I were glued together. Like best friends. Keep building your mind and body stronger and stronger every day. Building positive thoughts of seeing her and loving moments together again. One thing is for sure they always come back into our lives.
I hear you, I'm losing my 2 Boys who I love more than life it pisses me off that this has to happen to us guys,it's like, what goes through a woman's mind to think, hey I'm done with this marriage, I'm just gonna tell the hubby to leave and no seeing kids again
it’s a tragedy, the system knows it and doesn’t hold them accountable for their decisions which destroy other people’s lives. This happens and life, then you hear the opposite sex (both ways) say there is no good people, just devastation for all. Deep breaths, a day-at-a-time and with karma & a higher power we have to hope for better days. Just know there are many like us, one day our struggles will be heard for improved laws.
Currently I'm going through a divorce, my daughter is only 9 months old and I haven't seen her in 2 months, I used to spend so much time with her and even Dada was her first word. Just that amount of time away from her is crushing for me, thank you so much for posting this, it's up lifting to know that I and many other like me are not alone
I'm military and divorced. I will be very far from my son and it is killing. I think I'm becoming border line alcoholic just going through and I totally understand the stress factor and depression you spoke about. Ty for the video.
Hey bro. I’m here bc I’m going through the same. Thought another woman would make it better..... wrong. It hurts and I came here bc I’m lost in this wilderness of manhood. Please trust in God and self. Shoot at me anytime brother!!! This life is short
Thank you. I'm a single mom and when ì had full custody my mom called cps against Me to try to make me lose my kids. I still have custody. I started to experience sharp chest pain. Going no contact with her has improved my health so much. Take care.
Hey buddy. I am right at the 2 year mark into the divorce of who was my wife, lover, and best friend for 15 years. She cheated, felt "remorseful" but I just could not fathom living my life with a cheater. So I pulled the rip cord on my family (3 kids). Luckily, for me, I was granted primary sole physical custody of all 3 children. What a shock. She messed up. Bad. Well... She basicaly just quit coming around the kids herself. Drugs are nost likely to blame here. Which is bizzare after 12 years of abstinence.. Anyways, the last few weeks... they have been rough. I miss her... again... all of the sudden. Tho I despise what she did to me and my children, she just reminds me of what my life used to be. And its hard to move forward even tho we do.. we have too. I hope your life is looking up these days. Thanks for the vent outlet. I have not told anyone these feelings. Not even my girlfriend.
Thank you for sharing Darby. What a blessing you were able to have your kids. And I'm not surprised because in most states the cheating spouse would lose the kids because they broke the legal bond of marriage and that is in some states breaking the family structure and not in the best interest of the kids. Good for you brother 🙌🫂. I'm here for you if you ever want to vent. My contact info is in the description under the video
Thank you for watching and commenting. You're a great man. Your presence is a gift. Your important and needed. Keep striving and may all great things come to you. Wishing you the best of health happiness and success 🫂💪👊
I'm going through this now. Like you I was a full time dad. I miss my girls, it's hard and I find myself in a daze all day not being able to focus on anything. I can only think of it a bereavement.
Lesson,dont marry or co-habit if you own a property.Forget about having kids. Some will say negative but i wish i had listened. And you dont have to be a monk.Too many independent women with own houses who you can visit(and vice versa) and have a loving woman in your life.
3 1/2 years ago my wife of 17 years walked out on our family and left me with the kids for 3 months. . I never cheated or anything like that and I worked all the time. We just lost our way. 2 days ago my teenage kids, because I took a stand against them bringing drugs into my home, told me they're not coming back to live with me. . I have been devastated. Especially since I've been there for them. . I want to thank you for this video. It helped me to understand that I need to put life back note to myself and that they'll still need me.
Thank you for making this video and I'm so glad I found you bro. I am separated from my wife for almost a year and my 19yr daughter is living with her right now. I am going though hell and have been crying every night missing my girl. Everyday after work coming back home is so painful and scary because it feels so different to be taking dinner all alone now without a family.
Stay strong Wilfred. I feel your pain and remember your pain is temporary. Keep getting up everyday. Keep rising towards a better version of yourself. Keep your head up stay strong, mind, body and spirit. Nothing will stop you from getting back to your beautiful princess. She will need you one day and when she does give her the strongest loving version of you. I believe in you brother. I love you. Keep in touch.
@@lifeafterdeath1 Thank you so much for your words of comfort and guidance. I am going through life better each day as I find some things meaningful to do everyday. Thanks for helping so many people out there of not feeling alone. God bless you my brother!
We share custody. One week with me and one week with their dad. I miss them when they’re with him but also I look forward to the end of the week when they’re with me. I worry they feel guilty around me for liking it at daddy’s but I want them to. I just miss them is all.
It’s been 6 years after my divorce and my 2 sons were and are everything to me but because of the depression it’s not easy to even put a step in front of me. I can’t comment in detail right now but I wanted to comment to let u know I’m here listening
Then why do men break up with the women, in directly breaking up with their kids. So you say you are done with the women, but not the kids. That's soo unfair.
I'm so happy this helps even for a little. How are you doing today? Is there any current possibility you can see them? I'm curious of everyone's current situation. Thanks for any feedback.
Divorced and never looked back. It's been 8 years and I haven't said a single word to the ex. I just pay child support throught the courts. Had to choose between going bankrupt fighting in court, ending up in jail and becoming a nobody vs letting it all go and hoping to see my daughter when she's all grown up. I still have her Christmas presents from when I was asked to leave the house in 2012. I remarried 2 years ago and have a beautiful son. Stay strong out there fellas
Divorce sucks!! Never put a time limit on grieving. I have three healthy children that teach me something new everyday. I have 50/50 custody of my children but find my self slipping into sadness and mild depression when I don’t have them. Keep focused on your goals and love all those around you. At times it’s by no means easy. I was with my wife for 15 years. That was over half my life and filling that void is complicated. Stay strong everyone, find those whole love and give that same love back. Create moments with your children and be great full your alive it does get better...
I just ran into your video 3 years after you have posted this. I hope you are doing well. I’m going through divorce and it’s been 1 year into this. I just want to feel OK and it is so difficult. Thanks for posting this.
I got you brother. Stay strong. Keep in touch. You're going to be ok. Things will be better. Your mind will shake the cloudiness of the pain. You will become wiser. You will take control of this pain that can mess with your mind. Eat healthy, workout, sleep very good! Prepare your world for the moment when your children need you again. They will come back.
We continue to live but it will never leave you. I hope and pray you can see her soon. But you must pick yourself up ever day, show up every day. Do something to train your mind everyday that you are getting stronger and wiser through the pain.
Woke today with a phone call from my daughter's! Next went to you tube. Under suggestions this video was there. Unexplainable the loss and emptiness. I miss them so much. Thanx for your possitive vid.
@@sleepingbearffg5008 we may not have it the same anymore but we can become stronger and wiser through the struggle. Our kids will come back to us one day and they will need a stronger wiser you. Get up you got this.
Man im going through some tough times and im trying to look up videos on how to handle my feelings and emotions with my split but its so crazy. Im more weak than I ever thought. Im never good enough for anything. Nobody likes me and I have friends that never pick up the phone when I need someone to talk to. Its been 59 days and it hurts like day 1. I miss the time with my 2 boys. I cant think of anything else but them and my ex wife. She made me think while we were taking a break that we were working on things. We even started getting along so much more and I thought everything was going great. Then one day she tells me she was messing with 2 other guys. The stress and depression that I feel has buried me already. I'm nothing but a waste of space. Thanks for sharing your experience and im truly happy for you bro that you have found some type of peace but its too late for me man. I just dont want to keep living like this every single day. Like you said im barely eating once every 2 or 3 days. I've started smoking almost 2 packs of cigarettes a day and I didnt even like cigarettes before this. Everything going downhill so fast like an avalanche. I love my children and thats the single reason I'm holding on. I dont have anything else in this life worth living for. God bless you man.
Go out and meet new people... hang out with others... don't dwell too much.. have fun.. hit the gym.. focus on growing and making money... she will have regrets
Im seeing ppl have it alot worse than me so i cant complain...i see her 3 weekends a month but it still feels not enough. I dont even feel like a part time dad. She is gonna be 5 years old in Jan 2020. I dont want to start a new family n new kids bcuz i dont want her to feel like she not number 1 in my life.
Hang on man, there are many of us with similar stories like yours, for me, time is no healer, I love my daughter each day more and more. You are right, the stress and sadness take life out of you. Thank you for your advice, it is hard, I have gotten into a habit of being sad and cry often, but the sadness is so strong, feels like I am vomitting my soul while crying. I will never surrender to be the bast dad to my most precious. Thank you man, sicirely, stay good, peace brother
Just stumbled upon 2 of your videos regarding depression from missing your daughter. I am sorry you had to go through that painful situation. (I am also divorced and mom of 2 boys)The videos were from 3 years ago do I was wondering how you are doing today. I hope you are on the other side of it doing much much better with your biz and everything else. I command you for the hard work you did to pull yourself out of the dark hole of depression and encourage others to do the same at the same time! Hope and pray all is well with you and your daughter.
Thank you for commenting Rosy I have healed from the emotional trauma but I can't financially get myself out of debt. I worked 3 jobs and currently 2 it's extremely difficult. I decided to go homeless for Hopefully 1 year maybe 2. Currently living in my car so I can prepare to provide more for my daughter for her future.
Thank you for the video. I think your advise is wise and true. I have my good days and bad days.....and they get really bad,as we all know. They say time heals all wounds, but I have a feeling whoever said it first........ doesn't know this darkness.
Thank you so much. I’m going to share this. It has been 3 yrs. and this week he brightened up some. His 2nd son was 6 weeks old when she told him on their anniversary.
I miss my 4 baby girls there all under age of 5 and my job is what I believe ruined my marriage. Working 100 hours a week every week for 10 months and now everything i worked hard for 6 years is gone and i regret everything..
Because a lot of men don't want to take full time responsibility to care for the child. If men want to care for child then they should have equal time as a woman. So, usually men don't really want kids fulltime. But if they want they should have at least equal time as a woman.
I’m going through this right now. I never thought I ever would be. My ex began to keep my son from me and I’ve taken the issue to court they have a child psychologist and gal saying he no longer wants to see me and fears me. I’ve never done a thing to my child. He was with me a lot the first 10 years of his life. The last 9 months I’ve missed holidays and his 11th birthday. He used to post videos to my channel, pictures and videos is all I have of him now. I’m going to court again April 29th please keep me in your thoughts and prayers. I want to see my son again so badly.
I want you to see your son 🫂🙏 i know you will. Stay mentally strong and keep your peace. I feel the same way as you because I was a full-time dad for the first 4 years of my daughter's life and they took her from me and tried to brain wash her to keep her from me. It was only after my heart attack and my mom dying when my daughter's mom had some remorse and allowed me to see her. Weather the storm and you will see and be with your beautiful son again. 💪🙌🫂
@@lewisdcall better this time, the ex accuses me of being an alcoholic so without any proof they take her word over mine but I’m court ordered to be in this program for 60 days called soberlink and they are making me get this breathalyzer and blow in it several times a day. It’s supposed to only be for sixty days and then after that I’ll be able to see him but my exes attorney is already post poning this saying he’s booked up until September. So that’s the soonest I can get a date. So I’m on the right track man just don’t know how much longer I’ll be involved with court
Jesus man that's crap sorry to hear that hang in tight and sad to say even though you aren't an alcoholic, don't touch a drop eh. Maybe your lawyer can make moves to pull the date closer but all my love youre in my prayers
I feel like the female counterpart to you. My ex is narcissistic and psychologically and emotionally abused me then took my children from me during divorce. I’m a year into fighting through an appeal just to try to level the playing field. To others, it’s not always the wife who takes the kids and money and runs. Sometimes the husband is that person. It’s a personality that does it not a gender.
@@taniachara77 I’m truly sorry to hear that for you. Stay true to who you are. My legal issues settled a year and half ago. I made decisions that were best for my kids without being personally vindictive. I stayed consistent and didn’t let him emotionally destroy me. Four years into therapy - including EMDR - and I’m a whole new woman. My kids are thriving. I’m getting married at the end of this month to a man who is everything I never thought existed. There is hope.
guys,,...WE ARE KINGS!!! your kids will always be part of you!! I know its hard but make the BEST out of yourself.. this can either make or break you! GET BUSY!! if u must cry it out..THINGS WILL GET BETTER!!! YOU ARE A KING!! Let your baby boy or daughters see what u got! MAKE THAT BYTCH of a mom see what she lost..the worse thing she wants to see is a HAPPY EX HUSBAND BOYFRIEND!!! get a good lawyer at least to talk to her or him everyday on iphone or facetime or whatvere! but YOU GOT TO KEEP ON MOVING!! things will be bad...here and there but KEEP ON GOING!
My friend i feel you deeply, I lost my wife and kids six years ago and it destroyed me. Married with Japanese and here in Japan mother has all advantages can’t see my kids since 4 years ago
Not seeing the kids and have to pay child support....seems like a double hit...the PTSD from this emotional abuse will result in most likely a heart attack..she will blame you for her lowered income and will always be more depressed for letting the kids down...no way to be a mother....they will privately apologize and yet will run you down to the kids and that is childish..never run her down..do not drink...exercise...get hobbies....stress wi kill you..when kids are older they will come to you ..and find another occupation to get you back in the game and keep your existing career as well..go create generational wealth so you can have them all back and together happy again and normal life for them and you
i too miss my daughter every single day ... i have been separated since 5 years ... i really understand the pain u must have gone through....... i have been waiting to meet my child at a starbucks cafe nearby my house ... every saturday 6 to 8 pm i wait for my ex to arrive with my daughter.... hoping one fine day she will come .. still waiting
It's true. Sadly there are millions more. Men are afraid to be looked down upon by society so we keep quiet about it. We don't speak up about it because of the shame from family and friends. I want men to know that there is nothing or no one that will help us but ourselves and eachother. We have to lift eachother up. Talk eachother up not down. Stay strong keep in touch.
Divorced 4 yrs, maybe i made some mistakes, but the aftermath was a horrible one, it broke me and reinvents me. I can relate to your whole story. Thank for your truth. Im still going through it. And its only because my kids are involved.
Yes absolutely I understand. Its been around 4 years and I am still struggling because taking a child from us is taking the life out of us. Stay strong
Me too buddy I'm going through it right now my daughter's just turned 21 years old I bought her a mini bike with a 3 horsepower motor on it back in 2005 when she was 8 years old I still got it in the basement it's been 13 years I hate her being grown up and gone it sucks I miss her I miss everything about it Miss all the times we run around together and just everything I know how you feel it sucks real bad somebody's got to build us a time machine LOL
I’m going through divorce as well. I also owned a small business that allowed me to be close to my daughters all the time. This is killing me. I’m trying to make it to the other side. Trying to rebuild so my daughters can have a father they can be proud of, but it’s killing me.
This is exactly the thoughts and similar situation I went through. Brother 🫂 you are going to do just fine. The strength in your mind will carry you through. I'm going live today and contact me directly send me your # rockyella84@gmail.com in the Bay Area
Wow, I wonder why an individual such as myself feels like I’m the ONLY one going thru this when their are so many other men and women that relate with you. It’s even tougher when you’ve grown up with your good parents and now you have to be a part time parent to your own children. But this is true test of character. You either drown or swim. Our kids are growing, and they will need us fathers. No matter if you live down the road from him/her or across the map. That assurance that you are their is needed. God bless you all with strength and love in your hearts. You still must respect your children’s mother
Thank you. Well said. I'm sorry your experiencing this. No one should have to experience this pain. Yes it's not only one parents fault it's every person involved and the system as a whole. But we can only focus on ourselves. Thank you kindly. I wish you peace and positivity outcome.
How do you change your mindset from looking at their pictures and making you sad, and change it to motivation? Right now when I see my daughters pictures I only cry…
This is exactly the thing I wanted to talk to you all about next. I have this question a lot. It starts with excepting the pain. Once it is fully accepted is when we can detach from it as a separate entity because of the human desire for survival will take over. I will explain more details soon. I love you brother stay strong. Breathe and fill your body with strength. Turn the anger into a productive tool and smile as you work towards the future goal of holding your beautiful princess in your strong arms 💪 🫂
2 yrs after a 23 yr marriage. I'm 58 and I'm lost I gave her everything so I'm broke. Day to day I still have no idea what I'm doing where I'm going. It just seems to be long blur. I'm not living life I'm just surviving
I love you brother 🫂 I'm so sorry you had to experience this in life with such loss. I'm feeling your pain. I walk with you brother. No matter your time keep your head up, be proud of yourself and how far you have come. Know that you are loved and you are needed in this world. Smile everyday. Get up every day and find something that you do for yourself that makes you happy. Sending you love and strength mu brother. Please keep in touch. Are you in the US? Are you exercising regularly? Do you have people or someone you can see talk to? Are you able to see the kids?
I don’t wish this on anybody ! Everyone heals differently. Unfortunately it’s a permanent scare in my soul. Sorry to say this but I can’t wait to die myself. It feels like I have no purpose here. My kids don’t want to talk to me. I can’t commit suicide so I’m waiting for god to take my life somehow. I’m sorry for those of you who are going through this as well. I used to have a family. Wife cheated after 15 years together.
You have had such a tough time. I’ve only just discovered your channel and this is just the second video of yours that I’ve watched. I think what we’re all doing is grieving. When you lose someone you don’t get over it, you have to learn how to live with it. It’s not easy, is it?
Thank you for watching and commenting. Thank you for understanding. I hope you are doing well and pray you are able to continue a loving relationship with your beautiful children. Yes living with the pain is difficult but we must continue forward
Its been 3 years without my kids my boy will turn 15 this year, my ex told them lies, last time I saw my (11 years old) girl she hug me and told me she loved me so much and never came back, I begged them to come back I had a huge apartment for them with all their stuff, i waited 3 years but nothing. I felt so bad looking al their rooms so I decided to move to a smaller place, I went back to university, and Im trying to keep myself busy. A friend of mine told me that I cant leave, that one day they will come back with questions, hope that happens soon cause I cant handle it anymore.
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I am currently going through a divorce. It is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to endure. The thing that hurts the most is not seeing my son everyday. Thank you so much for posting this video. It is good to know I am not alone.
I walk with you brother. You are not alone. I pray you can see your beautiful son and continue a loving relationship with him all your life. Never give up. Live your life with honor and purpose to be a reflection of the life you wish your son to have. Become stronger mentally and physically. Laugh with him every day. Smile for your soul every day. Eat healthy and exercise every day. Wishing you peace and strength brother 🙏
Does it get easier?
I feel the same. It’s been 2 years and it’s still hurts like yesterday
Thank you for this. I'm a single Dad, missing my son right now, and it's eating me up pretty good. Nice to know I'm not alone.
Ha Donny I'm so sorry you're going through this. You came to the right place. There are so many guys and some women that are a huge support in my comments section. My contact information is in my most recent videos. And I'm here for you if you need to talk or message. My Facebook page is Rocky Ella. The feeling are painful and no one understands unless they have gone through it. Keep peace in your heart. Stsy focused on every step is a closer journey towards being with your amazing son. 🙌🫂 breathe in strength and move towards your future. It will happen brother. You will be stronger wiser and look back and be able to tell him your story and it will strengthen and protect him. ☝
Chur Donny how you doing now?
Go for full custody!!!!!! Fathers are the most important
My heart goes out to anyone that goes through this. I learned to keep busy and blank my memories .but every now and then i have a good cry.
Is there any current possibility you can see them? I'm curious of everyone's current situation. Thanks for any feedback.
I smoke weed everyday it helps.i smoke till i cant think i been doing this for 5 years
I catch myself crying over my ex wife and missing my daughters. They are close to their mother and won't talk to me. I feel like I am stuck at a funeral everyday. I miss my ex wife we was like best friends.Never thought she would divorce me because Christians shouldn't get a divorce I felt.
@@youngsavagefury7138 Maybe its because your break up is fresh. But you sound like you are thinking too much of your ex. Put your thoughts on yourself and kids despite what you think that she turns them against you. They see what they see if your a good father they will see the true you not what she thinks of you.
@@lifeafterdeath1 guys,,...WE ARE KINGS!!! your kids will always be part of you!! I know its hard but make the BEST out of yourself.. this can either make or break you! GET BUSY!! if u must cry it out..THINGS WILL GET BETTER!!! YOU ARE A KING!! Let your baby boy or daughters see what u got! MAKE THAT BYTCH of a mom see what she lost..the worse thing she wants to see is a HAPPY EX HUSBAND BOYFRIEND!!! get a good lawyer at least to talk to her or him everyday on iphone or facetime or whatvere! but YOU GOT TO KEEP ON MOVING!! things will be bad...here and there but KEEP ON GOING!
Watching this video, i silently crying thingking of my two kids, l realize that im nor the only one who experience this kind of life missing my kids everyday . Thanks for this video...
Wishing you peace and strength. Your children love you. They know who you are. They will never stop loving you. Keep in touch. 🙌🫂💪
Women shouldnt get away with this. I was a everyday dad for 6yrs. Now my kid is gone. Order of protection with false accuzations. Women need to be stopped. The x wives will pay through there life. It’s sad cus we don’t want that. But here we are getting abused. Our kids are getting abused by mothers. But the kids usually go to the parent they missed out on the most. I’ve seen it tons. It will be in our favor. Our kids are young. Time will tell. We will grow strong and the XS will only hide behnd regret better. Love and strength. Stand up men. We got this
I try to think like that bro but that time when your kids run to you out of love will be gone it’ll be a different type of bond
Great motivation thank you. Is there any current possibility you can see them? I'm curious of everyone's current situation. Thanks for any feedback.
With you🙏
@ agreed. I’m sick of ignorant comments like this directed at one gender or another whether it’s males or females. Stop it. This doesn’t target one gender, it’s an issue for women just as much as it is for men. We are all sharing that pain, instead of dividing us and labeling one gender against another we have to start being supportive.
Big facts
I'm here and the shit is so hard and took such a massive toll and I still going through it, it hasn't even really started. thought about all that I lost and the threat of child support, etc. all of the terrors. All of a sudden, tonight. I said, " Fuck it, I don't give a fuck anymore!" I miss my kids more than words can say, I lost one of my jobs, might lose another one. I have the house, living paycheck to paycheck, low energy and I'm an athlete. 12 years and two kids and I was with a damaged woman, had nothing to do with me. Going to rebuild myself, say fuck the world and fuck fake friends, Going to workout, get money, get organized, create new relationships and live the rest of my fucking life the way I want it. Fuck the world don't ask me for shit.
can you give us an update of your life and how you are with your kids now? thanks
I’m going through a divorce right now. Been married 13 years and we have two beautiful little boys. I’ve noticed that this whole thing has really taken the life out of me. I have felt so dead inside. I really appreciated your video. Thank you.
Just finished the divorce last month.....was married 14 years and I still feel gut shot. I miss my kids, I miss my home and the life that I had. I never expected this to happen.
Going through same sort of thing, I’ve got two boys and Ive been cut off, I’m doing stupid stuff like going shop at 3 am
Sorry late response. Thank you for watching. I'm sorry you're experiencing this. I hope things are better or at least settled and calm. Wishing you peace brother.
@@waitery what did you learn . Do you think it's worth it?
@@AfroMedic in retrospect, I think that getting married was a mistake. I love my children and I loved being married, but I simply don't want to go through something like that again.
I miss my kids... I feel like they forgetting me they got they own little family without me.. I feel so alone and abandoned. Like if we drifting away
I feel the same way. It makes me feel insignificant and unneeded.
same with me ..i hv for kids gangeng up on me..i dont receive any money from wasiat or faraid... i dont need that money..i just one my son..they are not even blood related
Keep going..you are not alone..keep close the relation ship with them..
@@scottwasson keep going..i am sorry for you..
Same here
Thank you so much man. I needed this. I haven’t seen my son in 3 years and his birthday is Sunday. He’s not my biological son, his mother had IVF with donors. But I named him, cut his cord, and was his daddy for 4 years. She just cut me off from him so suddenly and viciously for no reason. I still can’t make sense of it. 3 years later and the pain is still crushing. I’m doing better in my life but still walk through it just broken. The Lord Jesus gives me strength and I take hope in Him and what He will accomplish in me. It just hurts. So thank you for your encouragement. I can see I’m not alone.
3 yrs is hard. I guess any time is hard. Michael I'm so sorry you're going through that. Thank you for commenting and watching. Wishing you peace and strength brother.
I’m going through this as well and it’s tuff especially when your living alone.
Yes you are right. Nobody knows loneliness like a divorced father. Stay strong brother 💪 🙏
I feel ya, brother. I've been saying I'll have a heart attack for a while now. The stress of living in her abuse was killing me. Tried to survive it for the kids but had to bounce. My heart is broken n I'm the bad guy now, but I wont die, this time!!! I relapsed the last time I ran from her abuse, and died 2x in one weekend. Now I've left 14m clean n almost 9m sober. No win in active addiction. Now I have to add loss of family into my recovery. You're coaching is helping, GREATLY!!!! Much love. Thank you
My son.... I still had/have so much to share with him and teach him...
Wife and I split 14 days ago..she left. 10 years married. 5 year old daughter. The end of the day is the hardest. Its AGONIZING! Ive never experienced anything like this. I saw my family EVERY morning and at the end of the day. I was the coffee maker. I cant eat, lost 14 pounds so far. Feels like suffocation, LITERALLY
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Josh!! I’m w you. Stay alive and well for that baby.
To all the single dads out there. Your sons and/or daughters will never forget you. I have had depressive moods being away from my son, being that he stays with his Mother in the south and I stay in Washington because of the military. But, whenever I drive from Washington State to the South to see my son, he lights up. He hugs me, He follows me, He listens, He tries to talk (2 years old), We play and bond. It's almost like I never skipped a beat. He knows! I Just make sure when I am not around I leave him with something to remind him of me, I leave him with good memories, love, guidance, and when I am home away from him I make sure to FaceTime him daily, send clothes, toys, books, dvds, pampers, wipes, shoes, etc. as well as paying child support. YOUR EFFORT IS WHAT REALLY MATTERS FELLAS. This also applies to Women. Stay strong. Write down goals and let's get better
Bless you brother 🙏 thank you for sharing your thoughts. That's strength. I'm grateful to you. Wishing you all the best of health happiness and success 🙌
I saw your videos many years ago. Just want to appreciate and thank you for your videos. I’ve learn to accept and appreciate the little i have. Despite the pain I regain my child. The healing came and been happier since. Thanks brother
Thank you so much brother. Wishing you peace love and strength 💪. Keep your head high believe it is possible to have a better situation. Feel it in your heart. 🙌 you are the greatest and your child will experience your greatness
I'm dying inside. I miss my children terribly and astonishingly their mother. Thank you. I feel so alone. Angry.
Hurts like crazy every moment of the day, and the nights are even longer!! Thank you for sharing.
Yes, I am a mother without her children
My wife is leaving me with our 2 year old son, I love them both so much and it hurts me that we will never be a family again
I know how you feel brother, tho u can't see me, I'm there with you
I thank you from the depths of my heart for making this video. I am sure it will help all dads who had loved their daughters and are now separated from them because of divorce. I faced all of what you had described in your life and the wound is still fresh. It takes a lot to believe that there is meaning to life beyond this point, but as you said, our children need us when they grow and we need to be strong when they need us. That aspect is the primary driving force to live a good life. Thanks for planting that seed into the minds of those who feel that they don't see meaning in their life. Love and respect!
Oh wow Roshan thank you so much. I'm sorry for your experience. Yes your right we need to tell these are en to stand up again believe in the future and all good things to come. There children will return and be looking for a strong healthy balanced father. It is possible. God bless you my man. I 🙏☝️💪 wishing you peace and strength.
Bro I m going thru hell.. 3 weeks cut off from my two kids..heart bleeds.. Confused.. Before going she done enough manipulation to spoil my relation with brother and mother.. Finding hard time to manage old father alone and office household.. The only one I had.. Every where in my home signs of my kids painting on walls clothes toys makes me weep... Fighting hard not to start smoking which I left for 2yrs..I'm thinking of doing something for orphanage.. Allah give me the strength to feed and teach at least ten orphan.. Hope their smiles will stop my heart bleeding.. At least there will be something meaningful in life.. Thank bro for the vdo
Bro you’re loved and you’re not alone. I remember sobbing in my car when I couldn’t get to see my kid for 5 days. Now she lives in Guam with her new family and I haven’t seen her in 8 months. The system is bullshit and brutal. I hope things got better for you. Be strong
Inshallah
Painting😂😂😂😂.
But i feel you my brother. Same here. I am about to be demolished😭🙏 god bless us all
Beautiful to think of orphans
Wow. You're a good man
To me the worst is the sadness and stress on my 4 year old. To see him cry of pure sadness and try to consol him...I dnt wish that on any one.
I'm so sorry 🫂 keep in touch. My comment section is filled with amazing men that support eachother. This channel is dedicated to all men or women that have had there children taken from them. Stay strong 💪
Thank you so much for this! This is almost my exact story. I stayed home and basically raise my kids until my wife could follow the career of her dreams. And when she got there I was no longer needed or wanted. Thank you for your transparency and honesty. This is very fresh and new for me and I am trying to navigate with a daughter that adored me just six months ago but Now today hangs up the phone when I call or screams I hate you daddy when she sees me. I am praying and I am trying to stay strong.
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Been almost 5 months for me after 24yr relationship and our 3 sons. I'm a mess most days and the nights are a nightmare. Good to know I'm going through a natural process. Ty for sharing your story brother
I'm so sorry you're going through this. 24yrs and 3 beautiful kids that definitely is hard. This is the time to accept the change but do 2 things. These 2 things will take you into the direction of greatness into a better you. First focus on creating a better version of you. Healthy lifestyle, fitness, spiritually. Sleep, diet, maybe even a side hobby you always wanted to try. Second your kids. Lean towards them. Our children love us and they also want what's best for us. Include them in your life's choices. Ask them if you are not sure "should daddy do this or that" surprisingly they will always choose the best direction for us. Stay strong brother. You will prevail you will 💪🙏
@@lifeafterdeath1 God Bless you my fellow Father
I have never been this depressed in the entire 27 years I've been on this planet. I want a divorce, but am scared my kids will forget about me and be brought into an entire new family. Like I'm disappearing slowly. But I also want to be happy. I choose my kids happiness over mine by keeping them with me, but deep down I know this isn't the right thing to do. I've cried every day for the last year..
I just dropped my daughter off with her mom back in Florida I had to move to South Dakota cuz of my military assignment I had my daughter the entire summer and coming back to a house that I only ever knew with my daughter was so hard all the memories and fun times of the summer I have been having a tough time rn I miss my daughter so much my ex wife has already moved on to a new man and she introduced her to him I’ve only ever been separated from my daughter one time when she was too young to remember for a deployment she’s now 3 years old it hurts a lot but seeing this gives me a little hope to push my self out of my depression
I love you brother. 🫂💪 stay strong brother. You are not alone. We stand with you. Keep in touch and thank you for watching and commenting.
She won’t let me see them. And I have spent every day with my type 1 diabetic 6 year old son. I’m dying inside
I know how bad it hurts. I’m sorry bro.
Just now going through the same missing my three daughters....thank you for sharing and God Bless ... I know I’m not alone....
Your not alone. I'm sorry your experiencing this. Is there any current possibility you can see them? I'm curious of everyone's current situation. Thanks for any feedback.
Thank you for doing this and for sharing your strength with us. It's terrible what you've been through and this is a great example to those of us going through something similar
Thank you so much ❤i miss my daughter every single minute!
I hope you are able to see her soon. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Wishing you peace and strength 🫂
Man, thank you! It’s 1 am and I can’t sleep, sitting here crying missing my kids. Trying to be up beat but so tough. My 9 yr old and I were glued together, and everything hurts and I can only imagine how she feels. God give me the strength 🙏🏻
I'm right there with you brother. My princess and I were glued together. Like best friends. Keep building your mind and body stronger and stronger every day. Building positive thoughts of seeing her and loving moments together again. One thing is for sure they always come back into our lives.
@@lifeafterdeath1 🙏🏻
@br0k3ndad I'm with you brother, I'm losing my 2 Boys, Fuck this life man, why do women have the power to do this
I hear you, I'm losing my 2 Boys who I love more than life it pisses me off that this has to happen to us guys,it's like, what goes through a woman's mind to think, hey I'm done with this marriage, I'm just gonna tell the hubby to leave and no seeing kids again
it’s a tragedy, the system knows it and doesn’t hold them accountable for their decisions which destroy other people’s lives. This happens and life, then you hear the opposite sex (both ways) say there is no good people, just devastation for all. Deep breaths, a day-at-a-time and with karma & a higher power we have to hope for better days.
Just know there are many like us, one day our struggles will be heard for improved laws.
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Thank you for watching and commenting. Hopefully one day 🙏 it's a far more important message than my experience.
Currently I'm going through a divorce, my daughter is only 9 months old and I haven't seen her in 2 months, I used to spend so much time with her and even Dada was her first word. Just that amount of time away from her is crushing for me, thank you so much for posting this, it's up lifting to know that I and many other like me are not alone
I love you brother 🫂 I'm so sorry you're going through this. Stay focused on doing everything correct to see your daughter.
I'm military and divorced. I will be very far from my son and it is killing. I think I'm becoming border line alcoholic just going through and I totally understand the stress factor and depression you spoke about. Ty for the video.
Hey bro. I’m here bc I’m going through the same. Thought another woman would make it better..... wrong. It hurts and I came here bc I’m lost in this wilderness of manhood. Please trust in God and self. Shoot at me anytime brother!!! This life is short
Respect brother. You are good man!
Thank you brother 🙏. Hope you're having a great holiday season. Wishing you all the best.
Thank you brotha for sharing your pain…I understand 100% where you coming from…may god bless you and your kids…stay strong brotha…
Thank you so much. Wishing you peace and strength brother 🙏
Thank you. I'm a single mom and when ì had full custody my mom called cps against Me to try to make me lose my kids. I still have custody. I started to experience sharp chest pain. Going no contact with her has improved my health so much. Take care.
Wishing you peace and strength. I'm glad you're doing better now.
Hey buddy.
I am right at the 2 year mark into the divorce of who was my wife, lover, and best friend for 15 years. She cheated, felt "remorseful" but I just could not fathom living my life with a cheater. So I pulled the rip cord on my family (3 kids). Luckily, for me, I was granted primary sole physical custody of all 3 children. What a shock. She messed up. Bad. Well... She basicaly just quit coming around the kids herself. Drugs are nost likely to blame here. Which is bizzare after 12 years of abstinence..
Anyways, the last few weeks... they have been rough. I miss her... again... all of the sudden. Tho I despise what she did to me and my children, she just reminds me of what my life used to be. And its hard to move forward even tho we do.. we have too.
I hope your life is looking up these days. Thanks for the vent outlet. I have not told anyone these feelings. Not even my girlfriend.
Thank you for sharing Darby. What a blessing you were able to have your kids. And I'm not surprised because in most states the cheating spouse would lose the kids because they broke the legal bond of marriage and that is in some states breaking the family structure and not in the best interest of the kids. Good for you brother 🙌🫂. I'm here for you if you ever want to vent. My contact info is in the description under the video
Thank you brother love the message idk how I stumbled on your video but I'm glad I did...
Thank you for watching and commenting. You're a great man. Your presence is a gift. Your important and needed. Keep striving and may all great things come to you. Wishing you the best of health happiness and success 🫂💪👊
I'm going through this now. Like you I was a full time dad. I miss my girls, it's hard and I find myself in a daze all day not being able to focus on anything. I can only think of it a bereavement.
Lesson,dont marry or co-habit if you own a property.Forget about having kids.
Some will say negative but i wish i had listened.
And you dont have to be a monk.Too many independent women with own houses who you can visit(and vice versa) and have a loving woman in your life.
Agree your right
3 1/2 years ago my wife of 17 years walked out on our family and left me with the kids for 3 months. . I never cheated or anything like that and I worked all the time. We just lost our way. 2 days ago my teenage kids, because I took a stand against them bringing drugs into my home, told me they're not coming back to live with me. . I have been devastated. Especially since I've been there for them. . I want to thank you for this video. It helped me to understand that I need to put life back note to myself and that they'll still need me.
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I am so sorry to hear about your phase ! You are a fighter and god give you courage to overcome this phase and thanks for sharing 🙏🏼
God bless you thank you so much. Thank you for commenting it means so much to me 🙏💪
Thank you for posting this video. Really made me think. Going through a terribly acrimonious divorce and Miss being w kids God Bless
Get back up again. Become healthier and stronger body and mind. Your kids will come back to you and will need your strength and wisdom.
Hang in there brother. Don't do anything stupid and know that our kids love us more than anything.
Thank you for sharing your strength and courage it is so inspiring!!
Thank you for watching Chris. Wishing you all the best of health happiness and success.
Thank you for making this video and I'm so glad I found you bro. I am separated from my wife for almost a year and my 19yr daughter is living with her right now. I am going though hell and have been crying every night missing my girl. Everyday after work coming back home is so painful and scary because it feels so different to be taking dinner all alone now without a family.
Stay strong Wilfred. I feel your pain and remember your pain is temporary. Keep getting up everyday. Keep rising towards a better version of yourself. Keep your head up stay strong, mind, body and spirit. Nothing will stop you from getting back to your beautiful princess. She will need you one day and when she does give her the strongest loving version of you. I believe in you brother. I love you. Keep in touch.
@@lifeafterdeath1 Thank you so much for your words of comfort and guidance. I am going through life better each day as I find some things meaningful to do everyday. Thanks for helping so many people out there of not feeling alone. God bless you my brother!
We share custody. One week with me and one week with their dad. I miss them when they’re with him but also I look forward to the end of the week when they’re with me. I worry they feel guilty around me for liking it at daddy’s but I want them to. I just miss them is all.
It’s been 6 years after my divorce and my 2 sons were and are everything to me but because of the depression it’s not easy to even put a step in front of me. I can’t comment in detail right now but I wanted to comment to let u know I’m here listening
Why do women have to breakup strong father child bond? Why? Why Why?
Then why do men break up with the women, in directly breaking up with their kids. So you say you are done with the women, but not the kids. That's soo unfair.
This was really helpful and I am taking your advice to heart. Thank you.
I'm so happy this helps even for a little. How are you doing today? Is there any current possibility you can see them? I'm curious of everyone's current situation. Thanks for any feedback.
Divorced and never looked back. It's been 8 years and I haven't said a single word to the ex. I just pay child support throught the courts.
Had to choose between going bankrupt fighting in court, ending up in jail and becoming a nobody vs letting it all go and hoping to see my daughter when she's all grown up. I still have her Christmas presents from when I was asked to leave the house in 2012.
I remarried 2 years ago and have a beautiful son.
Stay strong out there fellas
You did well and your daughter will be back in your life when she’s old enough.
You are quite strong brother🙏 quit strong.
Respect🙏
Divorce sucks!! Never put a time limit on grieving. I have three healthy children that teach me something new everyday. I have 50/50 custody of my children but find my self slipping into sadness and mild depression when I don’t have them. Keep focused on your goals and love all those around you. At times it’s by no means easy. I was with my wife for 15 years. That was over half my life and filling that void is complicated. Stay strong everyone, find those whole love and give that same love back. Create moments with your children and be great full your alive it does get better...
I just ran into your video 3 years after you have posted this. I hope you are doing well. I’m going through divorce and it’s been 1 year into this. I just want to feel OK and it is so difficult. Thanks for posting this.
I got you brother. Stay strong. Keep in touch. You're going to be ok. Things will be better. Your mind will shake the cloudiness of the pain. You will become wiser. You will take control of this pain that can mess with your mind. Eat healthy, workout, sleep very good! Prepare your world for the moment when your children need you again. They will come back.
This is happening to me now, just one week into it, missing my son. Seeing him twice a week instead of everyday.
I’m sorry bro. I haven’t seen my daughter in 8 months and it’s been brutal. I know how horrible this is, and most dont understand. Be strong!
How did you handle it? I haven’t seen my daughters in a long time. It’s killing me. I’ve never been this lost in my life.
We continue to live but it will never leave you. I hope and pray you can see her soon. But you must pick yourself up ever day, show up every day. Do something to train your mind everyday that you are getting stronger and wiser through the pain.
Woke today with a phone call from my daughter's! Next went to you tube. Under suggestions this video was there. Unexplainable the loss and emptiness. I miss them so much. Thanx for your possitive vid.
Bro I can't take it...how does anyone deal with..
Just realized I'm not ever going to get back anything close to what I had.
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Thank you for watching stay with me. We are turning the corner to a more positive point of view.
@@sleepingbearffg5008 we may not have it the same anymore but we can become stronger and wiser through the struggle. Our kids will come back to us one day and they will need a stronger wiser you. Get up you got this.
Man im going through some tough times and im trying to look up videos on how to handle my feelings and emotions with my split but its so crazy. Im more weak than I ever thought. Im never good enough for anything. Nobody likes me and I have friends that never pick up the phone when I need someone to talk to. Its been 59 days and it hurts like day 1. I miss the time with my 2 boys. I cant think of anything else but them and my ex wife. She made me think while we were taking a break that we were working on things. We even started getting along so much more and I thought everything was going great. Then one day she tells me she was messing with 2 other guys. The stress and depression that I feel has buried me already. I'm nothing but a waste of space. Thanks for sharing your experience and im truly happy for you bro that you have found some type of peace but its too late for me man. I just dont want to keep living like this every single day. Like you said im barely eating once every 2 or 3 days. I've started smoking almost 2 packs of cigarettes a day and I didnt even like cigarettes before this. Everything going downhill so fast like an avalanche. I love my children and thats the single reason I'm holding on. I dont have anything else in this life worth living for. God bless you man.
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Go out and meet new people... hang out with others... don't dwell too much.. have fun.. hit the gym.. focus on growing and making money... she will have regrets
Im seeing ppl have it alot worse than me so i cant complain...i see her 3 weekends a month but it still feels not enough. I dont even feel like a part time dad. She is gonna be 5 years old in Jan 2020. I dont want to start a new family n new kids bcuz i dont want her to feel like she not number 1 in my life.
Thank you brother! This helped me so much today!
Hang on man, there are many of us with similar stories like yours, for me, time is no healer, I love my daughter each day more and more. You are right, the stress and sadness take life out of you. Thank you for your advice, it is hard, I have gotten into a habit of being sad and cry often, but the sadness is so strong, feels like I am vomitting my soul while crying. I will never surrender to be the bast dad to my most precious. Thank you man, sicirely, stay good, peace brother
Just stumbled upon 2 of your videos regarding depression from missing your daughter. I am sorry you had to go through that painful situation. (I am also divorced and mom of 2 boys)The videos were from 3 years ago do I was wondering how you are doing today. I hope you are on the other side of it doing much much better with your biz and everything else. I command you for the hard work you did to pull yourself out of the dark hole of depression and encourage others to do the same at the same time! Hope and pray all is well with you and your daughter.
Thank you for commenting Rosy I have healed from the emotional trauma but I can't financially get myself out of debt. I worked 3 jobs and currently 2 it's extremely difficult. I decided to go homeless for Hopefully 1 year maybe 2. Currently living in my car so I can prepare to provide more for my daughter for her future.
Thank you for the video. I think your advise is wise and true. I have my good days and bad days.....and they get really bad,as we all know.
They say time heals all wounds, but I have a feeling whoever said it first........ doesn't know this darkness.
hey man lots of love for you brother i hope things got better for you god is with you
Thank you so much 🙌 brother. I appreciate you and wishing you peace and strength 💪
Thank you so much. I’m going to share this. It has been 3 yrs. and this week he brightened up some. His 2nd son was 6 weeks old when she told him on their anniversary.
Thank you for watching and sharing
Keep going and think positive one day you will win..try to have just good time with your children when you have opportunity...take care of you
I miss my 4 baby girls there all under age of 5 and my job is what I believe ruined my marriage. Working 100 hours a week every week for 10 months and now everything i worked hard for 6 years is gone and i regret everything..
Why is it always the mother gets the kids, the only reason I can't go through with a divorce right now is I'll be missing my daughter...
Because a lot of men don't want to take full time responsibility to care for the child. If men want to care for child then they should have equal time as a woman. So, usually men don't really want kids fulltime. But if they want they should have at least equal time as a woman.
Still hurts like day one,
Sorry to hear that brother. God's speed
Stay strong
You are demotivating me brother😭
I’m going through this right now. I never thought I ever would be. My ex began to keep my son from me and I’ve taken the issue to court they have a child psychologist and gal saying he no longer wants to see me and fears me. I’ve never done a thing to my child. He was with me a lot the first 10 years of his life. The last 9 months I’ve missed holidays and his 11th birthday. He used to post videos to my channel, pictures and videos is all I have of him now. I’m going to court again April 29th please keep me in your thoughts and prayers. I want to see my son again so badly.
I want you to see your son 🫂🙏 i know you will. Stay mentally strong and keep your peace. I feel the same way as you because I was a full-time dad for the first 4 years of my daughter's life and they took her from me and tried to brain wash her to keep her from me. It was only after my heart attack and my mom dying when my daughter's mom had some remorse and allowed me to see her. Weather the storm and you will see and be with your beautiful son again. 💪🙌🫂
how did it go man I hope you're alright. all the best
@@lewisdcall better this time, the ex accuses me of being an alcoholic so without any proof they take her word over mine but I’m court ordered to be in this program for 60 days called soberlink and they are making me get this breathalyzer and blow in it several times a day. It’s supposed to only be for sixty days and then after that I’ll be able to see him but my exes attorney is already post poning this saying he’s booked up until September. So that’s the soonest I can get a date. So I’m on the right track man just don’t know how much longer I’ll be involved with court
Jesus man that's crap sorry to hear that hang in tight and sad to say even though you aren't an alcoholic, don't touch a drop eh. Maybe your lawyer can make moves to pull the date closer but all my love youre in my prayers
God bless you sir and hope you success in your life
Thank you so much 🙌 I am trying. Never give up.
I feel like the female counterpart to you. My ex is narcissistic and psychologically and emotionally abused me then took my children from me during divorce. I’m a year into fighting through an appeal just to try to level the playing field. To others, it’s not always the wife who takes the kids and money and runs. Sometimes the husband is that person. It’s a personality that does it not a gender.
Narc abuse is so horrifying. Sorry to hear
In the same situation as you as a woman.
@@taniachara77 I’m truly sorry to hear that for you. Stay true to who you are. My legal issues settled a year and half ago. I made decisions that were best for my kids without being personally vindictive. I stayed consistent and didn’t let him emotionally destroy me. Four years into therapy - including EMDR - and I’m a whole new woman. My kids are thriving. I’m getting married at the end of this month to a man who is everything I never thought existed. There is hope.
God bless you. I share your pain.
Thank you. God bless you brother. Stay strong and keep in touch. We walk together 🙌💪
guys,,...WE ARE KINGS!!! your kids will always be part of you!! I know its hard but make the BEST out of yourself.. this can either make or break you! GET BUSY!! if u must cry it out..THINGS WILL GET BETTER!!! YOU ARE A KING!! Let your baby boy or daughters see what u got! MAKE THAT BYTCH of a mom see what she lost..the worse thing she wants to see is a HAPPY EX HUSBAND BOYFRIEND!!! get a good lawyer at least to talk to her or him everyday on iphone or facetime or whatvere! but YOU GOT TO KEEP ON MOVING!! things will be bad...here and there but KEEP ON GOING!
My friend i feel you deeply, I lost my wife and kids six years ago and it destroyed me. Married with Japanese and here in Japan mother has all advantages can’t see my kids since 4 years ago
Glad you survived. Thanks for the video
Going through similar with a narc and losing my 2girls and her son. It’s a norm know it seems that most men don’t talk about . Thank u all
Thanks for the video.You inspire me sir.Bless you sir!
Thank you for watching. Is there any current possibility you can see them? I'm curious of everyone's current situation. Thanks for any feedback.
Thanks for posting this. Just found your vids.
Feel your pain brother, appreciate the message.
Not seeing the kids and have to pay child support....seems like a double hit...the PTSD from this emotional abuse will result in most likely a heart attack..she will blame you for her lowered income and will always be more depressed for letting the kids down...no way to be a mother....they will privately apologize and yet will run you down to the kids and that is childish..never run her down..do not drink...exercise...get hobbies....stress wi kill you..when kids are older they will come to you ..and find another occupation to get you back in the game and keep your existing career as well..go create generational wealth so you can have them all back and together happy again and normal life for them and you
May God help you recover, provide sustainence, bring in a new women in your life or what ever you need :)
Thank you so much Ali your prayers mean the world to me thank you and God bless you with the greatest of life's successes.
i too miss my daughter every single day ... i have been separated since 5 years ... i really understand the pain u must have gone through....... i have been waiting to meet my child at a starbucks cafe nearby my house ... every saturday 6 to 8 pm i wait for my ex to arrive with my daughter.... hoping one fine day she will come .. still waiting
Thank you Rocky... Your words really help me. God bless
You are such an inspiration to me now,thank you brother
Damn it's a lot of out there. They us the kids as a way to get back at us.
It's true. Sadly there are millions more. Men are afraid to be looked down upon by society so we keep quiet about it. We don't speak up about it because of the shame from family and friends. I want men to know that there is nothing or no one that will help us but ourselves and eachother. We have to lift eachother up. Talk eachother up not down. Stay strong keep in touch.
Thankyou for your words. I will endure this and stay strong!
Really good words man. Glad you've survived.
Divorced 4 yrs, maybe i made some mistakes, but the aftermath was a horrible one, it broke me and reinvents me. I can relate to your whole story. Thank for your truth. Im still going through it. And its only because my kids are involved.
Yes absolutely I understand. Its been around 4 years and I am still struggling because taking a child from us is taking the life out of us. Stay strong
You’re a good guy!
Me too buddy I'm going through it right now my daughter's just turned 21 years old I bought her a mini bike with a 3 horsepower motor on it back in 2005 when she was 8 years old I still got it in the basement it's been 13 years I hate her being grown up and gone it sucks I miss her I miss everything about it Miss all the times we run around together and just everything I know how you feel it sucks real bad somebody's got to build us a time machine LOL
My thoughts go out to you my brother, just know you have brothers out here who are here for you💯
I’m going through divorce as well. I also owned a small business that allowed me to be close to my daughters all the time. This is killing me. I’m trying to make it to the other side. Trying to rebuild so my daughters can have a father they can be proud of, but it’s killing me.
This is exactly the thoughts and similar situation I went through. Brother 🫂 you are going to do just fine. The strength in your mind will carry you through. I'm going live today and contact me directly send me your # rockyella84@gmail.com in the Bay Area
Wow, I wonder why an individual such as myself feels like I’m the ONLY one going thru this when their are so many other men and women that relate with you. It’s even tougher when you’ve grown up with your good parents and now you have to be a part time parent to your own children. But this is true test of character. You either drown or swim. Our kids are growing, and they will need us fathers. No matter if you live down the road from him/her or across the map. That assurance that you are their is needed. God bless you all with strength and love in your hearts. You still must respect your children’s mother
Thank you. Well said. I'm sorry your experiencing this. No one should have to experience this pain. Yes it's not only one parents fault it's every person involved and the system as a whole. But we can only focus on ourselves. Thank you kindly. I wish you peace and positivity outcome.
How do you change your mindset from looking at their pictures and making you sad, and change it to motivation? Right now when I see my daughters pictures I only cry…
This is exactly the thing I wanted to talk to you all about next. I have this question a lot. It starts with excepting the pain. Once it is fully accepted is when we can detach from it as a separate entity because of the human desire for survival will take over. I will explain more details soon. I love you brother stay strong. Breathe and fill your body with strength. Turn the anger into a productive tool and smile as you work towards the future goal of holding your beautiful princess in your strong arms 💪 🫂
2 yrs after a 23 yr marriage. I'm 58 and I'm lost I gave her everything so I'm broke. Day to day I still have no idea what I'm doing where I'm going. It just seems to be long blur. I'm not living life I'm just surviving
I love you brother 🫂 I'm so sorry you had to experience this in life with such loss. I'm feeling your pain. I walk with you brother. No matter your time keep your head up, be proud of yourself and how far you have come. Know that you are loved and you are needed in this world. Smile everyday. Get up every day and find something that you do for yourself that makes you happy. Sending you love and strength mu brother. Please keep in touch. Are you in the US? Are you exercising regularly? Do you have people or someone you can see talk to? Are you able to see the kids?
I don’t wish this on anybody ! Everyone heals differently. Unfortunately it’s a permanent scare in my soul. Sorry to say this but I can’t wait to die myself. It feels like I have no purpose here. My kids don’t want to talk to me. I can’t commit suicide so I’m waiting for god to take my life somehow. I’m sorry for those of you who are going through this as well. I used to have a family. Wife cheated after 15 years together.
Sorry about that my friend. Please hang in there with your life.I wish you the best. Take care please.
I feel the same as you bro. Love from the UK x
Jose Lopez
With difficulty comes ease. May Allah ease your pains and help you
I thought about writing something,then i read what you wrote.what you wrote is how i feel,no purpose in life.missing kids 24/7.
Very sorry tp hear that.
Before you die make sure your ex regrets everything.....
Thank you
You have had such a tough time. I’ve only just discovered your channel and this is just the second video of yours that I’ve watched. I think what we’re all doing is grieving. When you lose someone you don’t get over it, you have to learn how to live with it. It’s not easy, is it?
Thank you for watching and commenting. Thank you for understanding. I hope you are doing well and pray you are able to continue a loving relationship with your beautiful children. Yes living with the pain is difficult but we must continue forward
How are you doing now? I really hope you are doing better and overcome the tough situation. Thanks for making this video.
I've been mostly in bed for 2 months. I'm going to try to move on now.
Same here
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Its been 3 years without my kids my boy will turn 15 this year, my ex told them lies, last time I saw my (11 years old) girl she hug me and told me she loved me so much and never came back, I begged them to come back I had a huge apartment for them with all their stuff, i waited 3 years but nothing. I felt so bad looking al their rooms so I decided to move to a smaller place, I went back to university, and Im trying to keep myself busy. A friend of mine told me that I cant leave, that one day they will come back with questions, hope that happens soon cause I cant handle it anymore.
Yes they always come back. I pray for peace and strength for you. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Thank you for watching and commenting.