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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 11 เม.ย. 2017
- We all go through challenges -- some you can see, most you can't, says Michele L. Sullivan. In a talk about perspective, Sullivan shares stories full of wit and wisdom and reminds us that we're all part of each other's support systems. "The only shoes you can walk in are your own," she says. "With compassion, courage and understanding, we can walk together, side by side."
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I went to grade school with Michele. She was the coolest then and still is!
You are a cool human being man, I just want you to know that
2:45 "As a child, you can't understand another child's curiosity or an adult's ignorance." Brilliant insight into the mind of young people.
2:39
I am a perfectly healthy male but even i struggle to ask for help, i feel like i am troubling someone, i am not STRONG enough to ask for help. Asking for help definitely needs you to be Strong.
LotusEater you can always ask someone to help you, if you keep it all inside it troubles you more and more. You are not a burden, talk to someone you trust and who will listen to you. I did the same thing a couple of months ago. I felt I was too old to feel the way I was feeling, I felt like people would call me "a toddler" for being scared of what I was scared of. I let myself get to the point where I was so upset that I blew up. People then realized that I was struggling very badly. Don't let yourself get to that point. I believe you're strong enough to ask for help, you need to believe that too. Stay strong :)
LotusEater. This is my struggle too. I am having extreme financial difficulty and I am afraid to ask my friends for support; I think it's a combination of fear (of rejection), shame and ego.
As a man, asking for help is seen as a sign of weakness. At least it is for Black men like me. You're suppose to already have everything figured out. I had mental illness problems and I was told to man up. Asking for help only opened me up to humiliation. So, ever since then, i dont tell anyone my personal issues.
@@dr.rickbooty You can tell me, bud 👍🙂🤠🥸
@@dr.rickbooty just ignore them buddy . Being a man does not mean that you would not have issues okay . everyone can have issues irrespective of gender and skin color/race . Try visiting a therapist . Take care
I can never know what it is like to walk in your shoe but I can be supportive of you... just wow
Sandcastle • kek
+Sandcastle You don't make yourself feel big by making others feel small.
You are an inspiration, Michelle.
Thank you for having the courage to share your story with the world.
I can only imagine how many lives this talk will impact.
Derek Stark I would be happy if you could friend md, Michele, for any help we could share. the way I see it, loneliness and isolation are the enemy, asking for help is a tactic
Count mine in
What a delight! She opened my perspectives in way I never would have imagined. Thank you for sharing.
That was by far one of the best talks that Ted has shown.
There is always more than what you can see.. no judgements.. that's all is needed. Thank you mam for conveying this message to so many in the gracious manner, I just loved the way you presented the whole idea..👏😊
Thank you Michele. You have spoken for every human that feels vulnerable, upset, scared in this technologically developing world. I now know, that I am not alone in the battle that is adolescence. Thank you
Rhianna Saglani
Wow. That was moving. I really needed to hear this today. Thank you, Michele, for sharing your story and wisdom!
What an extraordinary person she is! I am moved to tears. Why doesn't this have a million views?
She's wonderful! I feel like giving her a hug :)
Awesome..shine on ✨
Such an inspiration. Thank you for the wonderful insight. You are a gem 💎 incredible woman.
Much love,care n blessings 💛🙏✨✨✨
The way we see the problem is the problem ! Thank your for this inspiring talk
Thank you Michele, that was a beautiful speech!
One of the best talks. Thank you, Michele.
I enjoyed every second of the video! Thank you Michelle for the inspiring words!
Thank you for creating this video! This is such an important aspect of self-care, that many forget about. I’ve added it to the extensive self-care playlists I curate on my channel 💕
Beautiful message
She's a real inspiration. Thing is not every disabled person like herself are as well educated, informed, and have this good personality or opportunity. Many people like herself can't make a decent living and cannot get around on their own and if they find themselves out on the street like this trying to buy groceries or something some thug may come up and try to rob them - that's the truth. My heart goes out to her but she seems to have her life under control so all the power to her. And people who can't seem to bring themselves to ask for help are sad and I've got a friend like this - I think she perceives asking for help as a weakness and this is sad and isolating.
"Life is far too important to be taken seriously" - Oscar Wilde.
General Patton Haha meaning?
It's okay to need help. I took a long time to understand that. Thank you Michelle.
Thank you Michele, I needed this.
Michele L. Sullivan is so cool.
Really good talk and humor in light of the topic 👍
I like this topic
Michele is such a wonderful speaker and a human. We are really lucky to have her at Caterpillar.
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. Never be afraid to ASK FOR HELP! Thanks, Michele!
Well said. Accepting the fact that you need help from others requires humility and self-awareness, and having people around you who are willing to help requires social skills.
People who disagree probably didn't watch the whole video or haven't met any real difficulty that is beyond their own capabilities.
This was for me. I'm unable to ask for help..I've learnt tosay, asking for help is a strength, not a weakness..Thank you for inspiring me..
that was a magnificent words from a brave woman.
What an amazing woman 🙏❤️
Powerful speech 😭❤️🙏
We shouldn't fear to improve, you don't loose ideas by sharing them :)
وحدة من اجمل الخطب على الاطلاق - ما كان ممكن اوصل للي وصلت له لولا مساعدة الناس لي كل يوم في حياتي!
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The only shoes you can walk in are your own.
So true
What role can we play in another person's success? Such an important question and an amazing Ted Talk overall.
This is GREAT!!!
From Egypt I would like to say we love you and your insistence.
Go on with my flying greetings for you and happiness you gave to me. 🌹
You're a shining star! 🌟♥️🤗💞
This woman is a Saint!
This woman... is amazing
Asking for help is a strength, not a weakness ....ABSOLUTELY.
I am with you Ms.
Hello I am giving it a try on all sort of means and landed here. If somebody can spent me sometime? Check this out be the help somebody in needs of.
gogetfunding.com/asking-for-help-isnt-easy-but-yes-i-conquer-it-please-help-me-kick-start-to-med-school/ Please if u may help me too spread this as another way of helping.
i used to watch these in school and be soooo bored. now i sit here and watch them for entertainment at my own home
Watch them to learn :)
I love learning! I hate studying.
Polaris Fur these what
She is very inspiring
Just be who you is, don't be who you isn't, if you is who you isn't, you isn't who you is. That is a quote from my Grandfather, who got it from an uncle. It is nonsense, but it is so true, so just enjoy being who you is :)
Isaiah Hansen Ah that's great! just wrote it down in my notebook 😊
Thank you!
Michele is such a compelling speaker
So awesome this Ted Talk is...
goose bumps...
Love this video!
I want some of that gift of gab. Her attitude in navigating life is so admirable, I want to learn some of her wisdom from her.
I always wish to have one of these encounters where someone would help me financially with school that would be such a blessing even though I need the help if I'm able to pull through when I start working and I'm in a place to help someone I definitely will
GOD BLESS to Michele!!!
Thank you!💕👍
Fantastic video.
Great message
i wanna know the thoughts of those people who disliked this video. like, seriously, why would someone dislike something so inspirational?
I am an orphan, lost parents at age 11. My mom passed on Xmas day, 1972, i was 10. Xmas is still hard for me but i do it.
I'm facing the hardest time of my life right now and I need help (monetary help unfortunately). I don't know how to use social media or any technological stuff. I don't have any of them but this video helps me to understand that asking for help it's not a weakness so this is me saying at loud voice: please help me because I don't know how to Do it.
Same. The few times i have, it had gone very bad. So... Best to you n me and all struggling with asking for help. 🕊️🙏💛✨✨
Michelle, if you are reading this comment, you please know that to me, and many other people, you are not short.
You might be short in term of height, sizes or whatever, but your appearance and your sense of inspiration are not. You may be short, but everyone, every audience has to look up to see, to hear, and to learn from you.
We love you.! :)
Amazing ❤️
I cried. Bless this woman
Great talk
Thank *you*!
Challenge your limits instead of limiting your challenges.
deep.
everyone is dependable... !
"When you want to be successful as bad you want to breathe, then you will be successful". - Eric Thompson.
Sandcastle • If you're not being successful right now, then you don't want it bad enough.
+Sandcastle
Instead of being a thin skinned, windbag would you like to demonstrate how it is that I am wrong for believing in upward mobility? How is yearning for success bullshit?
Also I saw how you commented about feminism, stating that not all feminism is bad in which I must respond by saying the first 2 waves of feminism actually accomplished in achieving equality among the sexes. However, todays 3rd wave is nothing but a bunch of therapeutic, sociocentric, Marxists who live in a quixotically wet dream.
I never use the term: "Feminazi"... Because the Nazis actually got stuff done.
"Tolerance and apathy are the last virtues of a dying society." -Aristotle
Yearning for success is good, I don't think that was his point, but wanting something won't guarantee success lol. Trying is not always enough, doing your best is not always enough. Reality is not some kind of cow you can milk and get milk every time, it's not a predictable fairy tale. Sometimes, you try your best but you can't succeed, that's life.
It should go like this :
"When you want to be successful as bad as you want to breathe, then you will try much harder therefore you will have more chances to succeed"
But yea it's a cute quote and it's motivational for what it's worth, not bad.
Firo Well, when you want something to happen bad enough, you'll do everything in your power to make it happen.
Sandcastle • It is. You just have to work at it. My mom wanted to become a nurse, but, her parents couldn't afford to pay her tuition, so, she worked hard and paid all of it herself, all the way through graduate school. This goes to show that you can do anything you put your mind to.
Beautiful
Awesome
This was published on my b-day
Asking for help is fine when your difficulty is clearly visible like hers... nobody will deny help to someone who is clearly physically incapable of doing something. If not for kindness, they'll do it to not look bad, since others can also clearly see what's going on.
But when you have a less visible physical problem (like chronic pain) or a mental issue, people will just sneer at you and judge you more if you even consider asking for help. To them, you're a liar and just fishing for attention and pity.
Rahvi sadly, that's true
Thank you for sharing a brandly new perspective
That's true. that's really true
Martin Zhang brandly?? That’s not a word
There are still some honest people in the world and there are still some kind people in the world- don't get trapped in a 'self- fulfilling prophecy'.
Excepcional
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Your a beautiful women. I’m blessed you have came across you.I prayer for the support and help you spoke of.Please pray for me .amen
It's hard for me to ask for help
Michele is a natural comedian 😂👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
This provides some interesting perspectives, definitely worth a watch. Everything about this video might not be perfect, but the world would probably be a better place if everyone listened through a few videos like this. On a completely unrelated topic, in case anyone feels like learning a thing or two about the most ridiculously massive objects in our universe I just now released a video about the Titans of Our Universe. Feel free to check it out if you're interested :)
Usually when I ask for professional help it's always having to pay, unless is a simple favor and a friend will do the favor with nothing in return. It's hard when u need professional help and u don't have money all the time, sucks.
Lmao I loved her! Ha ha!
To feel that asking for help is a weakness is to be ruled by the construct of your ego. To achieve on your own is wonderful but there's also nothing wrong with asking for help. I believe there is a confusion here between getting help and having someone do something for you entirely, as well as the difference between the physical abilities of someone who is disabled and someone who isn't. Take your pride and ego out of this topic for a second and use your perspective capability and empathy to hear what this woman is saying.
I came for the comments
Asking for help is necessary but how many people is willing to help is another story. I went through a divorce where my ex kicked me out of his house, I moved to USA only for a year. No friends no relatives. I reached out to his friends to help me out because I thought they were my friends and no one was helping me. I was the only one who was helping me out.
Ohh sorry to hear that! Now where are you Emma?
am so sorry for what happened to you . Are you fine now????
I hate asking for help..... She's a stronger person than me though... It's depressing
nice vid
The problem is not everyone are thinking like that.
Can you to add subtitles please for deaf peoples ? Thanks !
"words are like bullets"
Where's the Arabic translation ?
Very enlightening.😂😂
Are you gonna remember as much as I am? haha
I feel like asking for help is especially difficult for men :/ like do you really think thats a weakness and somehow challenges your so called manliness??? A real man would suck it up and ask for help because he is secure with himself or masculinity >.> funny story with my dad, he thought sunscreen was feminine and got his face sunburnt, it was red af for days and his skin started peeling
Haha, the sun is not sexist.
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she is funny haha :D
I have a huge weakness here...
surprise-surprise, when somebody is being supportive of a worthy mentality/ethics as opposed to wanting people to support their own views while disregarding others', the rating is good, regardless of gender, ethnicity or other background
altough Ted, how many people you got going on constantly checking to censor/maintain the safespace? i guess you really became personal/business-minded with the selective of what 'worth' is in 'ideas worth spreading'
#اصحاب ثنيان
Damn! I feel dumbest when I see this strong People talking about yourselfs
Videos supporting asking for help are rare these days. Most are DIY.
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