Dressing for confidence and joy | Stasia Savasuk | TEDxPortsmouth
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- If you think style is superficial, then Stasia's personal story of how she redefined style might just change your mind... and your wardrobe! In this moving and highly personal talk, Stasia shares how she tried to protect her 5-year-old daughter - who had physical differences - from the pain of not fitting in by dressing her in "the cutest little bootcut jeans and capped sleeves you've ever seen." But it was her daughter, and her request for a button down shirt and bowtie, that transformed Stasia's understanding of how crucial style is to our sense of self.
Stasia is a Style Coach and Body-Positivity Advocate who ushers women from feelings of insignificance, body shame and a perpetual state of “why-bother” into radically embracing who they are and who they want to be, and encouraging them to fully show up in the world. She is the founder and creator of Stasia’s Style School.
www.stasiasavasuk.com/
Stasia Savasuk is a body-positivity advocate who teaches about Inside-Out Congruency--who we are on the outside can--and should-- reflect who we are on the inside, a concept that has changed the lives of thousands of girls and women. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
This is why kids are literally the best thing ever. you never know who you're raising and how they'll change you and the world
"I can run faster and jump higher". I don't think I will ever look at cloths the same way. This message is so powerful as it touches self-esteem at it's deepest levels. Really a great talk and example for all of us. Thank you and your daughter xx
Same for me. I love you took this saying from her speech. So good.
Super
It seems like her daughter taught her more about life, than she have tried to teach her daughter. And thank gods for that, if the daughter did not have her own mind about things, mother would unknowingly hurt her. Please trust your daughters from time to time. They might be little, but they are never small.
kids are sometimes like Angels..they send us signs and a beautiful wisdom.
Totally agree!!!
I cried like a baby when your beautiful daughter stood up at the end. Amazing TED talk, Stasia!
I imagine many of us did
Me toooo!!! ♡
Girl, same!
so beautifull, yr daughter can be proud of you as you are proud of her. Yr daughter is so vibrant and authentic and beautifull. You rock
Oh my goodness I got me crying ur daughter is an inspiration
This was so inspiring. I was clothes shopping with my boyfriend and had a passing thought while looking in the men’s department: “these clothes are so cool, I wish I was a man so I could wear them.”
This talk made me realise that there is no reason for me NOT to wear them.
Thank you for bringing this to light
Hey, it is been some 4 months since I watched this Talk. Since then, I have developed a closer relation with myself than ever before. I used to be shy, and actually did not have the guts to dress up the way I felt like. Now days I can express myself so much more by dressing up the way I really want to and feel so relaxed also. Although it might not be 'socially accepted' to wear some of the clothes I do, whatever, if I feel like putting something on I will. Also my wardrobe is filled with only the clothes that I really love. It feels so good to have only clothes that you really love.. This talk had a big impact on my life in a positive way, and gave me the foundations to really get into touch with the inner me by dressing up the way I feel good to and not to feel shame about it. Such a great person and talk, thanks
I am so proud of you
That's really awesome:)))
Your reaction is beautiful! Way to go! ❤️
(3 years later, but …) I wanted to tell you that I appreciate your comment so much.
I hope you are well these days. ✊♥️
I just turned 30 ... my favourite pair of jeans I found this year are hot pink. I put them on and they make me feel happy! I just dyed my hair purple. I'm an accountant and I'm tired of being put into a style box and I want to be colourful. I want to be bright. When I am I'm happier.
Turning 30 tomorrow!
Way to go!!!!!!!!
I can relate. Sometimes my hair is salt and pepper. sometimes it is shades of pink..sometimes it is blue! Sometimes it is shades of blues...no matter what it fits me!
Hope it is harmonized)
So cute, live your best life!
Self-expression is so important. We need to look, talk and act according to our true nature. So sad how many parents try to destroy exactly that in their own kids.
One of the best TEDx Talks I've ever seen. So inspirational and moving and a much needed message in today's society where people are judged by how they look on the outside - paradigm shift to being congruent with what is on the inside! Love it!
Absolutely. xx
Yes!!
I'm a vegan, tree hugging, holistic health coach, artist, surfer and self proclaimed "refined hippie" who's always loved fashion. I don't dress how people think or expect me to dress. This was such an inspirational and wonderful talk!
I had tears in my eyes all the way through your incredible talk. Get ready to be a celebrity, Stasia, because it’s coming for you! The world needs your message. God speed, sweetie!
The lovely lady sitting beside her daughter is so genuinely happy and supportive. Very touching and wise talk.
Thank you so much! I'm 50 and I was still in search for my style. Recently I received dresses. I normally don't wear dresses. I put them on and I never felt better. I felt pretty, flirty, and alive. As she was talking, I flashed back as a child spinning in a flowy dress, free and whimsical. Here I sit in jeans and a flannel, not that there anything wrong with that, but it's not me. Wow. Powerful talk.
This talk made me bawl my eyes out, turn around and laugh hysterically, and then pull the clothes out of my closet! Thank you!
I love your daughter, her smile is so pure and makes me cry. Thank you for this great talk, it's definitely a gift.
i didn't thought that i would cry in a speech about dressing. The way she linked the feeling of dressing up with inner identity was awesome. we dress up and ask others for opinion , do we dress for others? this video made me realize that i shud dress up to be in congruence with the inner self , not to please others.thanx a lot .and i feel so proud for u for making ur daughter so confident and beautiful .xoxo
I severed myself from the idea of style in a similar way, and am only now coming around to embrace clothing as a reflection of who and how I am - of course this "just so happens" to be aligning with my realization and understanding of who I am. Great speech. I am inspired! I'm digging back into my closet with a renewed intention and energy!
She is such an amazing mom and speaker! I hope she has great success with her Style School.
She is so lucky to have a mother like you.
Love love loved this talk!
I made myself some floral skirts and wore them every day during the summer. I’ve always had my own style yet like the speaker I hid out for a couple decades. Since listening to Joe Dispenza I’ve learned I can create myself to be anyone I want and I’ve discovered I want to be the best me possible. I started Miracle Morning again, started Keto again and am developing my inside out congruency as Ms Savasuk spoke of. I love how life brings all these magical nuggets of beauty and truth together! ❤️🌸❤️🌸❤️
@10:50 "I learned... that in order to see and celebrate your beauty you have to know who you are on the inside. You have to truly see yourself. I learned that style - how you show up in the world - isn't petty, trite or superficial. It's complex. It's dynamic. And it has to be congruent from the inside [to the outside]."
@16:25 "Style isn't really about the clothes. It's about who you are on the inside and how you choose to show up in the world."
(- the power of inside-outside congruence)
Awesome.
Thank you for sharing what you've learned.
Hat's off to this lady!!!!!This is the first TED talk that made me cry and that much emotional.
I watched this TED Talk over a year ago. I just watched it again and found myself tearing up, with a lump in my throat, filled with admiration for Stasia and Raisa. So inspirational!
What an inspiring message! I cried the whole way through. You and Raissa are two wise women that have come to open our eyes and hearts to what is true for all of us: we each are who we are and only we know what feels right to us. Thank you, Stasia for showing up as the brave bold sparkle that you are. Your brilliance has set us all on fire!
Thank you for giving me permission to be myself and not feel that I have to dress down for others. More than that its the little part of me that feels that im not worthy. Life is too short to care what others think. Ill try to be present and mindful of my outer self now too. ❤️
I’ve been doing the same! Dressing down to school, everyday, to work and I think it stems from the same feeling of not being worthy when I like to put on my pretty clothes..!!
This is one of the best talks I've watched lately; I'm sharing it with all my family and friends who struggle, like I do, to feel good in the body they are in. Thank you for this.
One of the best TED talks I’ve ever seen! Thank you xx
I appreciate that you were introspective enough to see your real child...a rather remarkable child. I m so glad you are able to enjoy the unique ride you have been given.
Tears at the end.... what a wonderful mother for advocating for her daughter to be her best self!!!!! I love this!!!! Best ted talk ever
Yes ,there is stuff in your saying.i am 64 and on my own I realized this recently, and soon I am going to implement this,thanks ,you confirmed my realization is true !!
XThis leaves me breathless and in tears. This is SO powerful!
So powerful! Thank you for sharing your message with the world! ❤❤❤
I sensed this intense energy among these family members, you guys are blessed with uniqueness and livelihood. Thank you Stasia & daughter, husband and granny.
I just love this! Thanks for sharing your knowledge and light!
Amazing, Stasia! Thank you for being you in the world and being so inspiring.
may this world find more people like u who can celebrate thier uniqueness
I'm an academic & feel the pressure to dress very casually to be taken seriously. But what I want to wear is that precise pink dress!!! So much joy! :-D
My eyes are burning from holding back tears . Amazing talk
don't hold them back : ) we release toxins and flow with our emotions when we cry.
Stasia, you convey so much confidence and joy! Thank you for your encouragement!
Not the usual type of talk I would be attracted to watch, but so glad I did. Stasia's words were profound, and touched me deeply. What an awesome child, truly beautiful.
AMAZING! That's the only word I can use to describe this talk. Thanks Stasia for sharing your story! Much love to you and your brave daughter! ♥️
im crying in a packed starbucks with happy tears for this mama
I’ve watched this couple of times, it’s the most beautiful and inspiring message I’ve heard in a long time! The title doesn’t really convey how strong the message is. It’s about compassion and self love! Thanks you for sharing it!
Simply amazing!!!! One of the most inspiring TEDs I’ve ever seen!!! Congratulations and thank you!
I am a Ted Talk Fanatic and This, By Far, IS* one of the the most POWERFUL Conveys of SELF-ACCEPTANCE...{IMPACTFULLY} I've Ever Watched!!! I'll NEVER Forget It!
I quite agree, I've watched a few talks but this gets to the basis of things - it's not really about the outer looks but the real you showing through. Love it.
Not what I was expecting but that's just the point isn't it. A beautiful, real life, in practise reminder, to know our values and live them. You've given your daughter the head start in knowing and living her purpose. ~Thank you Stasia and your beautiful daughter Raissa.
OMG. I am just bawling...What a brilliant TED Talk - probably the best I've ever seen. Raissa is a very special & very beautiful young lady. Mama and Daddy deserve major kudos for seeing their daughter for who she was and is. A lot of parents miss it. You are so beautiful, Raissa!
Perfect way to know ones inside to show outside...
Breaking boundaries .at best
Stasia, you are an inspiration! Thank you for your beautiful spirit, family, and above all, your VERY IMPORTANT message! Thank you, thank you, thank you, and bless you for the work you do.
Bless this lady her work her family
This message is so deep and her talk emotional. That was really great!
Her daughter is an example we all should follow.
One of the best speeches and mothers I've ever heard. Loved it.
THIS IS THE BEST TED TALK I HAVE EVER LISTENED TO. WOW.
My tears went down when her girl stand up what a cheerleader mom so much love and lessons thank u
such a beautiful TEDx talk!! im in tears.
So much perspective! As a teacher, I find this incredibly inspirational and a great tool in how to support our students.
Wow, I was not expecting this! So glad I clicked and kept watching! Yes, one of the best TED talks, no doubt.
This is brilliant. Great woman with great daughter :)
oh i am speechless and i cant stop my tears through my smile! easily one of my mostest favorite TEDx Talks!! Stasia, you've changed lives with this share x god bless you and your gorgeous daughter xxx much love xxxx
Wow!! This one was breathtaking. It’s s must watch for everyone out there. Thank you for showing me who I truly am. Don’t have enough words to appreciate. Loved it. Thank you.
love this talk - congruency of ourselves is what we are - getting there & staying there - our appearance is important - showing up in our own lives is what life is. Show up!
what a beautiful story, made me so emotional!
I couldn't agree more to this! You should always do the things that makes you happy like dressing up the way that match your personality. I'm also the one who practice this and it's really effective because it helps me cope my depression.
If you asked me before I watched this, I would tell you there is a zero percent chance of me tearing up multiple times during a TED talk about style. But here we are. What a beautifully delivered, passionate talk about who we are and how we show up in the world.
Thank you Stasia. One of the best Talks ever. Moving, wise and inspiring.
Crying, crying, crying!!!! So good, Stasia. Excellent delivery!!!💥
Incredible how you can see your own flaws while trying your momma-job the best way you can. it is refreshing to see a mother that can own up on these things. your dauther seems to be such a smart kid!
Her speech touch my heart and feed my soul. So proud of your beautiful daughter and you.
WOW!! THIS WAS AMAZING!!! Her and her kid are SO cute! Thanks for the talk!
She's spot on with the message of dressing to suit your inner self, not what society says you should wear. I've been home from work for about 2 months (due to business shutdown during pandemic) & majority of this time I've dressed up at home & even to run small errands. I find that I feel more confident, motivated & optimistic than I do just walking around in lounge wear. So yes, ladies put on some clothes, a little lipstick/eyeliner/mascara & whatever else makes you feel great that day.
Oh you made me cry and smile ... I'm so glad I originally found you on instagram! BRAVO! Also, I agree with Sarah ... one of THE best Tedx Talks I've seen, and I have seen many.
What an awesome mom and speaker!
Wow! Powerful message. Inspirational. Thank you for sharing.
This is one of the most powerful Ted talks. I’m sure I’m going to come here again and again, sharing it with as many people as I can. :)
Thank you very much for this. Very powerful message.
So Amazing!!! I found this so moving and powerful. Thank you so much for sharing this!
..& it's important to realize the importance of doing productive, positive & more usefull things..to others & ourselves..& remind ourselves we are one with
THE CREATOR OF THIS STORY🙏
Dressing for confidence and joy,
by
Stasia Savasuk !
Absolutely stunning, logical and convincing!
Thundering goes the claps in excitement from the thrilling audiences!
God Almighty Bless!
Deeply insightful, powerful, and inspiring. You are trifecta of hope for all of us quizzically looking in the mirror and wondering how to transcend the noisy static of fashion and the disservice of its messages. Thank you.
Hi Maya! So well said. I so remember you rocking the graphic tees and belts in Style School!
I wish i could rewind the time and feel this TED talk once again for the first time. Because i really cried alot after this TED ended 😭😭😭😭 ❤️❤️❤️❤️ thank you for saving so many lives TED
both you and your daughter look gorgeous. Beautiful speech, thank you for sharing your take on this.
So beautiful. Authentic. Thank you for this Stasia... The best TED talk
OMG Stasia you rock!! Your family would be soooo proud of you watching that ... it is amazing! love you philosophy of life .... I think Raisa was given to you as a gift to share this amazing truth xoxox love Sally Jayne from Australia
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So inspiring! I love this talk! Thank you, Stasia!
This is an incredible talk! Thank you so much for this encouragement and inspiration!
Thank you for touching my soul!You are an inspiration! Sending blessings your way!
I'm a vegan, hippie, alternative healing, stay at home mama who wears full 50s fashion down to hair, makeup and heels 😊 makes me happy
I watched this and thought I'm a vegan, hippie, stay at home mum and runner but secretly dream of wearing a pretty summer dress, makeup and heels.
@@lass1198 do it ❤️😊
@@lass1198 "dance as if no one is watching" or better yet, dance as if you didn't care about if anyone is watching.
Love this!
Sounds fun!
You are an inspiration!!! Style School changed my life and YOU were made to change lives!
THIS! Thank you for sharing your daughter's powerful wisdom to know ~ and willfulness to express ~ Who. She. Is. Very powerful and moving. 🙏🏽
Pulled on the ol' heart-strings! So inspiring, and reinforcing as well for me. Thank you :)
Stasia & Raisa: you are such an inspiration! I love how you're spreading your message and unraveling the old paradigm of what we're 'meant to' wear. It IS important. You're leading a revolution! Big love X
You are so precious! Thank you!
Great! What a beautiful person inside and outside, what a Wunderful Mum to her cool daughter! Thanks for this speach!
I'm in tears! What a beautiful and powerful message. Thank you for sharing ❤️ I feel both challenged and motivated. 🤗
Such a beautiful Mother-Daughter relationship. i'm not a mother yet, and you teach me a great lesson. Thak you
Brilliant video!!! Very powerful message! Thank you!!! Your daughter is amazing! You and your husband are amazing!
I did it! I could notice the difference in my life when I changed my dressing style and the way I really wanted to show myself to the others. I do feel more confident.
This is the one of the best ted talks i have ever seen
Just absolutely loved it❤
So grateful for this insight. Love Love Love it!
incredible speaker! her drive and authentic passion and belief in what she says was so inspiring. Thank you
Her daughter is so cute!!! ❤️❤️❤️