Thanks Melanie I can't begin to say how grateful I am to have come across this information,I have been in a 21 year relationship with my partner which has taken me to some of the darkest days of my life,I am recovery from alcohol,drug and love addiction but something else always seemed to be missing until I came across this information about narcissistic abuse,but the reason I that has triggered me to write this is because of your new place,everything in our house is his and when I put something out of mine he goes into attack mode as if he feels threatened that I'm taking over,I'm in the process of bringing this relationship to an end(a lot of financial issues)and I dream of having my own space and surrounded by things that express me.
Thank you so much once again Melanie, for hitting another nail on the head and sharing it so freely with us all!! I never understood those with "nervous energy" that caused them to keep moving and they could never just sit and be. But I was also suffering in the opposite way, sitting and looking very calm, but inside I was frozen stiff in the posture of hanging on for dear life. I couldn't go out, couldn't kick up my heels and have fun ever because I may lose my grip on something important that I had to hang onto or die. Lord only knows what that was all about. (Ok, it's parents and siblings stuff from early childhood.) Having the ex-N husband for 30 years helped to keep me in check also. He frowned and scowled if he ever caught me relaxed and enjoying myself (only happened twice or so). I am so thankful for that big discard and for finding NARP, it has saved my life. I am slowly stretching out my wings, I stretch and smile all day long now, I may even take up dancing, who knows? Thank you, there are no words to thank you enough. --Alice
+Alice Jackson You are so welcome. I am so thrilled NARP has helped you so profoundly. How gorgeous Alice, you post made me smile soon much!!! Thank you for sharing you! xoxox
Upon waking every morning, my first thought was "what will I do wrong today?" What will I be accused of by the narc? I dreaded hearing her footsteps. I worked 12 hours night shifts just to avoid being around her. I didn't like being in my own home. Every day whenever I had free time, my thoughts went to fantasizing of driving off to some far away location and never being heard from again. I didn't do it, because we had children and I was doing my best at damage control. Looking back on it, I should have left anyway.
With this video you articulate exactly what I went through many years ago. In my case it came from people not having my back and living with narc parents. Lucky for me I used that very hypervigilance on a job wherein I went from a guy they mocked and sabotaged to the trainer and writer of training manuals. The job was very intricate and people were constantly forgetting things that, through my hypervigilance, I did not forget. They started to rely more and more on my memory at work; I channeled the hypervigilance to become their go-to guy. My boss literally asked me once a week for 5 months not to retire. Taking a long term view paid off.
Melanie you are So amazing. You are just a beautiful human inside and out. You have already helped me so much. I consider you a friend! Much love from Seattle WA. US
Thank you I listen your videos three or four times, I must cry because I understand now the structure and my problems. Nobody tell me these things. It helps me to stop my mindmaschine. I can here only say thank you, thanks.
Mel, just wanna feedback that i'm about 30% into your program (so much stuff to shift and deal with!!) But am finally starting to see the ligh. Thank you for that! A few small yet BIG wins already. Crisis conciousness is real. Just starting to realize how much I have kept surpressed: ticks, nervous reactions, anxiety, OCD, etc. Been called "miss inner turmoil by an acquaintance a few years back". Well, soon to be no more! Your program is God sent and so are you♥️
Your place is luscious! Thank you for letting us look around - so heartwarming. Your talk is revolutionary! It was you or Bruce Lipton to watch on the Tube today, you won because you are so down to earth, mention the brain chemicals and with good practical advice and humour.
You're place is gorgeous, shows how much you can do with a smaller space. And also, thank you for all the. knowledge you are sharing, it is truly appreciated.
Hi Melanie:) Its so wonderful to see your gorgeous abode...enjoy enjoy enjoy:) Crisis Consciousness is exactly what I am focusing on at the moment..your timing is exceptional:):)Its good to know what the next layers of resistance are for me to shift...always a work in progress....thank you :):)
This resonates with me at the exact right time! I can see myself moving out of this the more that I shift. I took time introspectively to ask myself why I keep ASKING myself, "What next? Now what do I do? Then after that?" It was far more intense before, but every day I'm letting go, trusting in my co-creation with life. Thank you, Mel! PS: Yes, people are blowing me away every day with their kindness and generosity!
Melanie, I found your videos today and you are brilliant at what you do, feel grateful to receive the information you provide here... Your new home is lovely, I live in London and never see a flat here so open like yours. Wish you have a great time in your new home. Gonna sign up recovery programme soon:)
+Xinyi Wang Thank you so much! I am so pleased my information is helping you and that are going to join in with the incredible NARP Community! It is unique design - and I love it - so spacious. I can't imagine living any other way now (who needs walls!) xox
Thank you for sharing your space, it's beautiful! Also, from my own experiences, you're right on track with your message, I got into meditation to deal with that problem - it's a struggle still!
+Marjo Potec Landlady, and NLP Practitioner, Hypnotist, Life Coach Thank you :) Truly when you use super-tools to go deeper you won't need to "merely keep managing" with meditation. Come into one of my Webinar Groups so that you can learn how to heal it - once and for all! www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar xx
Love this video and your recent blog. Well done you, get them told when they aren't treating you right. Bless you in your new house, looking fab. Love your work, keep it up xXx
What a great topic: crisis consciousness , and what a surprising coincidence, synchronisation. Just few minutes before I started listening to this so critical topic I struggling with exactly this specific issue,trying to challenge my constant struggle with it.I am undoubtedly sure that this “panicky” reaction has direct connection for my constant involvement with Narcissists I my life. Their obsession with control and manipulation.l always give priority in conversation and email to the other person. Quick to response and always give the chance to be the one who ends up the conversation.
The message was so right on as always! Thank you. You are blessed Mel and thank you for this video. I needed to hear this and I never would have thought to up level these feelings. Enjoy your beautiful space.!
Hi Mel. So nice to see you. Your studio apartment is so lovely and so warm and it is completely you. It is funny, but I was never OCD in any form. I would, instead completely shut down and become numb up, because I never felt that I would ever get any control over my situation. This was not by the way, me chilling out. But yes, I would 2 glasses of wine to at least relax in some measure. My goodness I was a complete mess. Thank God that is over. Loved the bathrobe routine! Lots of love, Helen xx
+H Bruce Thank you for you lovely compliment - oh yes I SO get that "being numb" is NOT chilling out! (More like complete terror than zen!) Lots of love to you too Helen, and its so wonderful you are up and out the other side! xoxo
Wishing you oodles of love, light, peace and joy in your gorgeous new apartment. You did such a lovely job on the renovations as everything is absolutely breathtaking. It flows so beautifully and I love all of the natural elements, the big windows, everything really....congratulations and enjoy!
So grateful to find out about your videos! Your place is great! But that heart of yours is awesome! Thank you for all your videos, very helpful! U rock!
Mel, loving catching up on your videos - your new place is great! Really well done! thanks for the tour :) shifting your mod 11 to professional goals - still work in progress and having fun and challenges with that. Also using some of this to recover from car crash. And, I can say - life is awesome :)
Happy for your new home dear thank you for sharing. But it bothers me to see surprising content in a video that it's titled something else. You could try to add it in the end.
I love these videos, and I love the messenger theory of narcissists are reflecting parts of our fragmented unconscious back, and if recognized one is able to own there projections, I am wondering, do you feel the narcissist can awaken and be able tolerate there wounding, and intense feelings of guilt and anxiety , thank you for your work
Mel, absolutely amazing video. I recently purchased NARP (thank you for this) and wanted to ask when you first started the modules how did you get into your body? For someone who has always done things outside in..how do you recommend going within? this is the absolutely perfect time, Im newly divorced, live alone, no tv distractions, no social media..its just me and I recently realized I have been working insane to self avoid...looking forward to your feedback. thank you for what you do.
+Shenequika Perry So glad you enjoyed the vid! Getting in your body truly is about taking your attention INSIDE ... simply following the instructions in NARP. I promise you that after a time it becomes really organic and natural. All I would highly suggest coming into the next Webinar group - www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar That will help you a lot too! xoxo
Melanie! Thank you for the tour! Beautiful home! Another mind-blowing episode. Amazing insights keep coming as I replay the episodes. Thank you! NARP has saved my life!
Thanks Melanie I can't begin to say how grateful I am to have come across this information,I have been in a 21 year relationship with my partner which has taken me to some of the darkest days of my life,I am recovery from alcohol,drug and love addiction but something else always seemed to be missing until I came across this information about narcissistic abuse,but the reason I that has triggered me to write this is because of your new place,everything in our house is his and when I put something out of mine he goes into attack mode as if he feels threatened that I'm taking over,I'm in the process of bringing this relationship to an end(a lot of financial issues)and I dream of having my own space and surrounded by things that express me.
+paul f My pleasure, hugs and wishing you all the best in getting free and breaking through xox
Thank you so much once again Melanie, for hitting another nail on the head and sharing it so freely with us all!! I never understood those with "nervous energy" that caused them to keep moving and they could never just sit and be. But I was also suffering in the opposite way, sitting and looking very calm, but inside I was frozen stiff in the posture of hanging on for dear life. I couldn't go out, couldn't kick up my heels and have fun ever because I may lose my grip on something important that I had to hang onto or die. Lord only knows what that was all about. (Ok, it's parents and siblings stuff from early childhood.)
Having the ex-N husband for 30 years helped to keep me in check also. He frowned and scowled if he ever caught me relaxed and enjoying myself (only happened twice or so). I am so thankful for that big discard and for finding NARP, it has saved my life. I am slowly stretching out my wings, I stretch and smile all day long now, I may even take up dancing, who knows? Thank you, there are no words to thank you enough. --Alice
+Alice Jackson You are so welcome. I am so thrilled NARP has helped you so profoundly. How gorgeous Alice, you post made me smile soon much!!! Thank you for sharing you! xoxox
Upon waking every morning, my first thought was "what will I do wrong today?" What will I be accused of by the narc? I dreaded hearing her footsteps. I worked 12 hours night shifts just to avoid being around her. I didn't like being in my own home. Every day whenever I had free time, my thoughts went to fantasizing of driving off to some far away location and never being heard from again. I didn't do it, because we had children and I was doing my best at damage control. Looking back on it, I should have left anyway.
With this video you articulate exactly what I went through many years ago. In my case it came from people not having my back and living with narc parents. Lucky for me I used that very hypervigilance on a job wherein I went from a guy they mocked and sabotaged to the trainer and writer of training manuals. The job was very intricate and people were constantly forgetting things that, through my hypervigilance, I did not forget. They started to rely more and more on my memory at work; I channeled the hypervigilance to become their go-to guy. My boss literally asked me once a week for 5 months not to retire. Taking a long term view paid off.
Another gem. I'm amazed at your level of knowledge. It is incredibly hard to get by this sort of information. Totally made sense! TY! ♥
Melanie you are So amazing. You are just a beautiful human inside and out. You have already helped me so much. I consider you a friend! Much love from Seattle WA. US
Thank you I listen your videos three or four times, I must cry because I understand now the structure and my problems. Nobody tell me these things. It helps me to stop my mindmaschine. I can here only say thank you, thanks.
Mel, just wanna feedback that i'm about 30% into your program (so much stuff to shift and deal with!!) But am finally starting to see the ligh. Thank you for that! A few small yet BIG wins already.
Crisis conciousness is real. Just starting to realize how much I have kept surpressed: ticks, nervous reactions, anxiety, OCD, etc. Been called "miss inner turmoil by an acquaintance a few years back". Well, soon to be no more! Your program is God sent and so are you♥️
Power to you Svetlana! That's so gorgeous that you're breaking through and healing with NARP! Love and blessings xoxox
thank you. thank you for making these paths to understanding and healing 💘
What a relief! Clarity and I'm not running out of day hours. Love your new home!
your beautiful person and your "space" reflects it.
so happy for you.
+Josephine Elizabeth Romeo Thank you!! Bless xoxox
Your place is luscious! Thank you for letting us look around - so heartwarming. Your talk is revolutionary! It was you or Bruce Lipton to watch on the Tube today, you won because you are so down to earth, mention the brain chemicals and with good practical advice and humour.
You're place is gorgeous, shows how much you can do with a smaller space. And also, thank you for all the. knowledge you are sharing, it is truly appreciated.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful sanctuary place it's awesome your sacred space. Once again another great video thank you. Many blessings to you
I say "Just Say No!" to drama! But I love your little home! Wanna reno one for me next? I like your style. -Meg
What a beautiful and cozy home! 💕
love your bathroom!!
lovely place .. lovely presentation
+Daphne Bradshaw TY! Bless
Thank you for these videos! They are so helpful. THANK YOU VERY MUCH. Your place is beautiful btw.
Thank you for helping save my life when I was struggling. I am very happy to let you know that I have recovered and am thriving.
Your new place is gorgeous!! Excellent video, thank you, Melanie xx
Thank you for the video, Melanie! I've learned a lot about myself from this! :)
Beautiful place, Melanie, great job and brilliant subject too.
+Artzee 18 Thank you! xoxo
Hi Melanie:) Its so wonderful to see your gorgeous abode...enjoy enjoy enjoy:) Crisis Consciousness is exactly what I am focusing on at the moment..your timing is exceptional:):)Its good to know what the next layers of resistance are for me to shift...always a work in progress....thank you :):)
+jane part Thank you darling lady! That is great this vid was timely for you, you are so welcome - and it's lovely to hear from you! xoxo
Can truly relate to what you are talking about. Thanks for the episode
This resonates with me at the exact right time! I can see myself moving out of this the more that I shift. I took time introspectively to ask myself why I keep ASKING myself, "What next? Now what do I do? Then after that?" It was far more intense before, but every day I'm letting go, trusting in my co-creation with life. Thank you, Mel! PS: Yes, people are blowing me away every day with their kindness and generosity!
"Our beliefs put us into crisis consciousness."
Good reminder.
Melanie, I found your videos today and you are brilliant at what you do, feel grateful to receive the information you provide here... Your new home is lovely, I live in London and never see a flat here so open like yours. Wish you have a great time in your new home. Gonna sign up recovery programme soon:)
+Xinyi Wang Thank you so much! I am so pleased my information is helping you and that are going to join in with the incredible NARP Community! It is unique design - and I love it - so spacious. I can't imagine living any other way now (who needs walls!) xox
lovely home Mel...congratulations...
Thanks for the tour, love your space and your message.
+Freyja Perth Bless and my pleasure :) xx
Thank you for sharing your space, it's beautiful! Also, from my own experiences, you're right on track with your message, I got into meditation to deal with that problem - it's a struggle still!
+Marjo Potec Landlady, and NLP Practitioner, Hypnotist, Life Coach Thank you :) Truly when you use super-tools to go deeper you won't need to "merely keep managing" with meditation. Come into one of my Webinar Groups so that you can learn how to heal it - once and for all! www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar xx
love your new open space , thx for the tour !
+Marie Sprowl My pleasure and thank you! xoxo
Love this video and your recent blog. Well done you, get them told when they aren't treating you right. Bless you in your new house, looking fab. Love your work, keep it up xXx
Sooo true on so many levels. Thank You. Luvs
+Freida Widner You are so welcome xoxo
What a great topic: crisis consciousness , and what a surprising coincidence, synchronisation. Just few minutes before I started listening to this so critical topic I struggling with exactly this specific issue,trying to challenge my constant struggle with it.I am undoubtedly sure that this “panicky” reaction has direct connection for my constant involvement with Narcissists I my life. Their obsession with control and manipulation.l always give priority in conversation and email to the other person. Quick to response and always give the chance to be the one who ends up the conversation.
Thank you Melanie!
+Millimiaou My pleasure xox
Wow perfect.. Thanku..!!)
You are so welcome Vania xoxox
Wowee, got yourself a gorgeous place there. Great taste! It doesn't have to be big to be good :).
The message was so right on as always! Thank you. You are blessed Mel and thank you for this video. I needed to hear this and I never would have thought to up level these feelings. Enjoy your beautiful space.!
+Teri Oster so pleased the video resonated with you! Thank you, and I sooo am!! xoxo
You nailed it
Hi Mel. So nice to see you. Your studio apartment is so lovely and so warm and it is completely you. It is funny, but I was never OCD in any form. I would, instead completely shut down and become numb up, because I never felt that I would ever get any control over my situation. This was not by the way, me chilling out. But yes, I would 2 glasses of wine to at least relax in some measure. My goodness I was a complete mess. Thank God that is over. Loved the bathrobe routine! Lots of love, Helen xx
+H Bruce Thank you for you lovely compliment - oh yes I SO get that "being numb" is NOT chilling out! (More like complete terror than zen!) Lots of love to you too Helen, and its so wonderful you are up and out the other side! xoxo
your home is awesome, congratulations
+Stop Narcissist Thank you!! xox
Wishing you oodles of love, light, peace and joy in your gorgeous new apartment. You did such a lovely job on the renovations as everything is absolutely breathtaking. It flows so beautifully and I love all of the natural elements, the big windows, everything really....congratulations and enjoy!
+Theresa Rose Awww what a beautiful comment - thank you!! Oodles of love back to you! xoxo
So grateful to find out about your videos! Your place is great! But that heart of yours is awesome! Thank you for all your videos, very helpful! U rock!
Mel, loving catching up on your videos - your new place is great! Really well done! thanks for the tour :)
shifting your mod 11 to professional goals - still work in progress and having fun and challenges with that. Also using some of this to recover from car crash. And, I can say - life is awesome :)
Love the place!!!! Gorgeous!!!
I know it's late. But super cute!
Love your place! :)
+The Beauty Nutritionist TY!!! xoxox
Wow! Absolutely stunning place! It would be my "perfect". I love small. More time for me.
Lovely place ❤️
Thanks for the awesome video!
Sent a comment before but it disappeared!
Video starts at 5:30 as its titled
WOW!!! love your place
+Angele Roy Thank you! xoxo
I'm in California , what's a dressing gown? Love ur messages
Mel I love your little place of many moons 🌙 ago.
It gives me hope 🙏 and inspiration of owning my own home 🏡 once I uplevel for good.
😘😇
You are so lovely,Melanie
Happy for your new home dear thank you for sharing. But it bothers me to see surprising content in a video that it's titled something else. You could try to add it in the end.
.Melanie, do enjoy your lovely new home in the best of health
+ANHPAM Thank you! Bless :) xoxo
I love these videos, and I love the messenger theory of narcissists are reflecting parts of our fragmented unconscious back, and if recognized one is able to own there projections, I am wondering, do you feel the narcissist can awaken and be able tolerate there wounding, and intense feelings of guilt and anxiety , thank you for your work
So useful as always! The Bruce Lipton DVD mentioned isn't available from Amazon in the UK.... does anyone know how I can get hold of a copy? x
+Christine Dunn Google him and you will find a ton of resources on his work! xx
Mel, absolutely amazing video. I recently purchased NARP (thank you for this) and wanted to ask when you first started the modules how did you get into your body? For someone who has always done things outside in..how do you recommend going within? this is the absolutely perfect time, Im newly divorced, live alone, no tv distractions, no social media..its just me and I recently realized I have been working insane to self avoid...looking forward to your feedback.
thank you for what you do.
+Shenequika Perry So glad you enjoyed the vid! Getting in your body truly is about taking your attention INSIDE ... simply following the instructions in NARP. I promise you that after a time it becomes really organic and natural. All I would highly suggest coming into the next Webinar group - www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar That will help you a lot too! xoxo
+Melanie Tonia Evans. thank you Mel. I sure will!
btw, Mel your place is gorgeous
+Shenequika Perry Thank you! Bless xoxo
Oh what a relief, its not life threatening, LOL
So Mumsy! For those of us who suffer from dodgy Mums!!!
U look pretty
Your place is so cute. How many square feet is it?
Please move the pet food away from the litter box! One must never eat where they poop!
Melanie! Thank you for the tour! Beautiful home! Another mind-blowing episode. Amazing insights keep coming as I replay the episodes. Thank you! NARP has saved my life!