The more you fight back against it mentally, the more it'll suck you under. Accept it, welcome it, become friends with it, EXPECT it, and slowly but surely you'll see it start to fade. Combine this advice with proper diet, exercise, sleep habits, and make yourself uncomfortable at least a couple of times per week. You're in the "why me" stage, which is normal at your age. Move forward to the "thank you for this burden" stage which awaits you and will allow you to become stronger. If you fight back against this advice you're not ready yet and need more time to sit in it, it'll come, trust in the process.
You are right, fighting it doesn't help. We must go with the flow and not disregard what our bodies are saying to us all while continuing to regularly challenge ourselves.
@@JakeDavis-yp1pd I wish someone had told me this at his age, so just paying it forward. Now whether or not I would've listened, that's a different story!
Yes. don’t fight how you feel! You’re allowed to feel how you do. In fact, cry, get angry, release the emotions (without hurting yourself or others) but also have a routine that includes caring for your body and mind.. all good advice!
lol as soon as he said he had it and lost it. i thought about adhd and my own struggles with it. unfortunately for me, i was completely oblivious to it till i was 30.... im 32 now and barely beginning to understand it all. ill tell you one thing. take care of your body and your mind , and the rest will come with it. my biggest regret is not taking care of myself and trying to push through things. its what got me to where i am which is not a great place. so i have to start from the beginning
totally agree I need to start taking much better care of Myself.. ADHD is hard to get a handle on after You are an adult for sure but not impossible!! I wish You good luck on Your journey with it as well.
I feel for you big time. This world just keeps beating me down, and not allowing me to do much. Powerlessness is just about the worst thing anyone can feel.
@@InfinitusYT Thanks bruv. I know I'm a beast deep down, who chooses to be a gentleman. Lack of proper sleep out in this heat is wearing on me, and I have court on the 18th, thanks to my own mother. I have no clue whats going to happen. With charges pending, there aren't a lot of jobs to even apply to. Slowly going broke. These things are out of my control, so all I can do is be at peace with that and trust in the Most High
You are so humble and a good person, don't be so hard on yourself..youre doing the best you can everyday even if it sees minimal..existing is exhausting even...be extra kind too yourself the human experience is rough❤❤❤
i know how you feel, i live in bulgaria. talking about this on a video is actually better than any therapy. its the first step to come up with some solutions
I hear a cry for help. I hear someone stuck in a self-made prison of the mind (not discounting past events that I don't know abou). But I know. I've been there 30 years ago and allow me to share a brief version. It seemed that I had it all. I had done everything as society told me to do and reach for. The place, the car, the job, the sports, the girlfriend, the friends, the vacations, good times all around. And yet, something was missing. It felt like a deep and dark hole right in the middle of all that and pulling me in. I couldn't sleep and when I did, I woke up with a nose bleed (and never even did any kind of drugs). Was told to get on some meds and I would be back to normal. I took a different path. One were I had to face the darkest days in my life. One were the mental pain induced real and physical pain. I saw no discernable way out of this cycle. Until I decided to make a drastic change. Some called my courageous, but most thought I had gone crazy. Today, more than 30 years have gone by since then. Tis morning, I'm sitting here with my cup of coffee, watching your video, with cows and chickens in the background, my wife and kids are still sleeping, and I'm at complete peace with life and myself. Never took any meds. I don't know what path you need to follow to turn around. All I can provide you is an example of what's possible. It's only one single pebble from the thousands in the river. One where the mind cannot possibly comprehend nor paint of what can be. But the key is that YOU need to make a change. YOU need to take control over your path, regardless of the things you say you cannot control. That is simply an escape or excuse you can use to not face that change. It is scary. The outcome is not guaranteed. But something needs to change for you, and you only are the key to unlock it.
I am glad You overcame Your problems, may I ask more detail about the the drastic changes You made? I appreciate Your honesty and wisdom, I know I am the only one who can make such changes for Myself.
I understand completely what you are going through, I'm going through what you are right now and it's very difficult. People don't understand because sometimes you like your OK, we are able to hide it sometimes, but it catches up with you. You are really not alone, and please hang on ok.
I appreciate the understanding, I am seeing how not alone I really am through all the feedback and stuff so thank You very much! I am hanging in there.
@InfinitusYT I know sometimes that doesn't help at all because there's not alot people can do if the problem is the human condition, but there are certain souls out there who do understand and are In the same boat as you. I truly believe that one day we will understand why we are like we are, so don't feel that everything is for nothing, there are reason's behind the madness .
Everything can be seen positively or negatively. The way you frame it will determine how you feel about it. A problem can be seen as a challenge or opportunity. Just ask how it benefits you, as everything in this world can be used for our benefit, and sometimes life keeps giving the same lessons until we get what it was trying to teach us.
To add, 20 years ago at age 35 I went to Thailand and met a Thai woman. I ended up marrying her. At the time, I made minimum wage. I had to support my new wife, step daughter and father in law. I couldn’t sleep for months figuring out how I would survive. By the way, my family hated that I married someone in SE Asia. It forced me to figure things out. I’m now very successful and proud of what I accomplished.
Fixing my sleep helped a lot. I'm also lonely but it feels so much easier when you rest. Not saying ti is your case but often we project physical problems and feelings onto situations. Having a purpose or faith also helps some people cope and move on, even when they are still depressed.
you know something else that is weird that i struggle with is that the people that want to hang with me, i don’t want to hang with them. it’s like my standards are too high for friendship, but i wonder if i don’t subconsciously do it on purpose. the emotional conversation topic where you said you’re trying to feel fulfilled and heard but never actually feeling that way while trying to talk to people is pretty much the story of my life. i am convinced everyone is basically like “oh he’s being pitiful and pathetic again” and even the kindest people have a limit and i notice they distance themselves because it’s so draining on them the only way i’ve found to escape is to exercise and eat right and work on my body and stuff that a lot of hustle bros talk about. i hate the lifestyle but it actually gave me some kind of pride and it also just elevated my mood in a way where i honestly didn’t even feel like myself because i’ve always had low grade depression. i am resistant to going back to the lifestyle bc it’s hard to sustain but it is nice that i had the experience for about 9 months so i know it’s an option
You’re such a handsome man, I’m sorry you’re having a hard time doing the things you want to do. I wish you the best in being yourself and to follow your heart. ❤️
Hi! :) I can relate to what you are going through right now. It's sad to see someone else struggling with similar things cause I know how hard it is. I recently came across a TH-cam video that I found very comforting to watch, it won't solve your problems but maybe you can also find some comfort in it. The video is titled If You're Lost...It's Actually GOOD! by Scott Ste Marie. (Don't judge a book by its cover.) If you are not feeling it maybe you can save it for later if you like. I hope you find your way and I also hope to see you doing better in the future. I'm rooting for you!! ^^
I know how you feel I was put in special ed for ADHD from 1st grade and am 24 now, it sucks. The ADHD makes you bad at school and then you just automatically ingrain "giving up" from an early age due to lack of interest in all the subjects in school.
It's definitely been difficult, sorry to hear they put you in special ed classes that seems a bit extreme unless maybe You are on the spectrum as well. I know that they co-occur pretty regularly. no idea if I am though I've only been diagnosed online for ADHD. its hard when You find out after you are an adult though gotta reconsider how You live Your whole life it seems like but it helps to understand what caused the difficulties and plenty of ways to manage it if You practice hard.
@@InfinitusYT aside from practical thinking ( feed yourself go to work ) those are practical thoughts things that help you move forward thru life.. thoughts create emotions and emotions are of the devil. so by default all thoughts are all lies all the time because you cant be with god if you are in thought God exists in the present in the Now.
40 yr old virgin here. always thought I'd kms, but I've given up on that. the problem? I let ppl push me around. Shoulda left AZ at any time. was just so angry at society, that I didn't even want get in a situation that might "deflower me". was sick of working at age 26, and the internet was enough for me. conclusion: you might just be living somewhere that sucks. if you want to find romance, put yourself into a romantic scenario. you have to work for it preemptively.
I am glad You stopped considering taking Your own life that is never the answer. there are plenty of other things rather than sex to love and enjoy about life, people make it seem way more important than it is and most will just end up having kids before they are ready if they ever actually are and then screw a lot of things up when raising them.
A running theme I’ve noticed is that a significant amount of people don’t feel like they have friends. I’m not trying to invalidate you at all, because I’m hearing what you’re saying, and I am very sorry that you’re feeling this way. But, you’re not alone in this, there are a lot of people that feel like they have no one. I am sorry, though and I know that it’s pity that you don’t want. You are clearly in need of having someone to listen to you, as you say. I hope you can find something or someone, or even an amount of peace to be able to push through, without all of that pain. The physical pain as well. I can’t imagine. Take care.
No invalidation perceived sir, I am seeing how truly not alone I am from the reactions and comments and everything. I know I can get to a better place I just have to be patient and keep pushing. thanks for Your comment!
Life is a game of balance. (tl;dr - see above...) Being depressed feels awful. (Ask me how I know, lol.) And the worst part is, we 'know' that we're going to feel awful tomorrow too, next week, next month. (Actually, we don't know, but that's a different story.) One thing that has helped me in the past is to accept this, to accept the fact that I am currently feeling awful. This then allowed me to take my mind just a little bit off the constant thought that I am feeling awful, and how awful it is that I am feeling awful. I wake up, I'm still feeling as bad as yesterday, but in a sense that's okay, I expected as much, everything is alright with the world, the universe still functions the way I think it does. Now let me get up, take a shower, and get dressed, even in this state. And then I'll see what I can do to do something nice for myself today, even if that means I'll allow myself a day where I am taking it easy. So: Be dissatisfied with being depressed, use it as angry energy for change, and at the same time accept that you are depressed, it's only natural given the whole situation. That is a balanced approach. Along similar lines, we can end up compulsively ruminating over things that happened to us, circumstances outside of our control that led to where we are today. I think a healthy thing to do is to absolutely acknowledge these outside forces that have pushed us down or are keeping us down today, and at the same time actively look around and seek out the things that we ARE able to control. That is a balanced approach. Mistakes happen. To all of us. It is completely expected that our minds keep a strong focus on past mistakes and endlessly analyse the situations that led to them. We can use the understanding gained from this for our decisions in the here-and-now, and also incorporate new knowledge about life and ourselves to further refine our analysis of the past. And yet, at the same time, we should not overemphasise past mistakes - they happened, it feels bad that they happened, and we'd do things differently today. That is a balanced approach. Also, not every mistake needs to be remedied. Sometimes there is no remedy, and sometimes the best thing to do is simply acknowledge to ourselves and to the people that got hurt because of us that we made a mistake and that we are sorry that it happened. So let's absolutely look for ways in which we can make up for past things, all the while keeping in mind that maybe it's not going to be possible to fully get to that point. That is a balanced approach. Absolutely nobody deserves to be depressed! And at the same time, an important thing to realise about life is that we don't actually DESERVE to feel good either, we all have to put in at least a little bit of work for it. (And I know, in the depths of depression the natural reaction to this is: "Gee, thanks! I know THAT! Would you also tell me what I CAN do to feel better? After all, I'd do it if I knew.") So absolutely let us feel bad about how things have gone and that we are currently feeling bad, and at the same time acknowledge that there's (likely) no entity somewhere that keeps score and will intervene when things don't turn out fair. Life can turn out sh_tty, even through no fault of our own. That absolutely sxcks, but it's simply the way it is. Let us all support each other through this. That is a balanced approach. The fact that you are continuing to put out these videos is huge! I hope it helps to know that we are also still here, hearing what you have to say. ❤
I really appreciate Your well written comment, You seem incredibly wise and understanding of situations such as these. You are right that a balanced approach is the best in all aspects of life and I would do well to stop rehashing past mistakes and accept that life is not supposed to be good or bad and that often it is just a mixture of both constantly countering each other in an eternal juxtaposition. all of the engagement the last few days has been incredible and helped Me out of that dark place I was in when I recorded this. so I can't thank You all enough for everything it means so much that I have encountered so many kind-hearted and wise people on this platform already. sorry if i didn't respond to every aspect of Your comment as it was pretty lengthy but I did read it all and I am glad You understand where I am coming from.
@@InfinitusYT No need to apologise, you have no duty to respond to comments anyway, but I am very happy to have gotten your reply and to hear that these thoughts connected with yours. Btw, if you're wondering, why would I spend time writing a whole essay like this? Well, guess what, this helps me as much as it may the next person! 💛
Do you think maybe like we over analyze everything? And we are always trying to find a reason for everything or try to make it make sense? And we maybe can try to just let things happen or just live in the present.
Try and find a way to help others. Volunteer at a soup kitchen for example. This will help you feel better. Then start to look at what you do have. You are mobile, you are smart, you have a warm bed to sleep in. You are already luckier than a million people on this planet. Remember that. You have repeatedly said things that are not my fault. Ok, but you can control your gratitude. I promise it helps. Exercise, diet. Carnivore lifted that fog for me. I have hope, possibilities. I'm not living my full life yet, I know it's coming. It's really helped me. I'm not telling you do anything just research it.
Consider the philosophy of stoicism...bearing up under life's problems. Read up on it. I, too, am depressed but stoicism helps me bear up. There are lots of TH-cam vids on stoicism.
(1)Comparison is the thief of Joy unfortunately... (2) Your mind will always fluctuate between your ideal self vs actual self. (3) Your ideal friends\family vs actual friends\family. (4) Sometimes life really sucks (5) Sometimes you have to appreciate the small things. (6) Being able to walk/breath/think and write down thoughts. (7) Having maybe a nice cup of coffee.... (8) Sometime previous levels of dopamine make the current levels feel bad. (9) If you had it really good...then average can feel bad (10) If your life was average then low can feel terrible. (11) One day you will wake up old (12) All the things afforded to you now will be a distance memory (13) Try to appreciate what little you have...🤔🙄👍
Start expressing grratitude for what you do have rather than focusing on what you dont have. Let God show you his will for you. Get out of your owm way and put Godd in the drivers seat . A shift. Is possible😊
Comparison is the thief of joy. Enjoy what you were meant to, discard the idea of pleasures you may never experience. Find happiness now in your life, as it is. You have it easier than you think.
ahh u suffer from a mind funk called depression, depression affects most human beings, it can be removed with structure, like go to work daily, exercise daily, do chores daily, etc, if u are an able person it is expected of that person to pay their own way and if they dont its considered a burden on others, as for getting a job it can take hundreds of applications and many interviews before being hired and it might also take one to have to call to talk to the hiring personel to find out the status, also start thinking differently like tell urself heres what i can do and heres what i have to do instead of saying i cant do this or i cant do that because then u wont do anything and just be stuck in ur negative thoughts, hope this helps u bud, u can do it, ull get to a much better situation but u have to work towards it on a daily basis
Do you have Medicaid. ? I injured my back and was in so much pain. I needed surgery to fix the damage. I’ve been good since. I think get on Medicaid. Get an mri and find a dr. Get your health back first Take it from there. Without health it’s hard. Start on your physical health. Hang in there. What will be will be. What is just is. Same for all of it. Don’t fear it.
I do, I was initially going to try talking to doctors but I ran into some hiccups and am worried for how much longer I will be recieving food stamps so I will probably try to get to work first.
You’re talking about cptsd. There’s nothing wrong with you. You developed survival skills because of how you were raised that no longer serve you as an adult. You already understand that. There’s nothing- nothing wrong with needing help and being depressed is a normal reaction to what you’ve had to go through. I’m 48 and was just diagnosed with ADHD. I struggled at your age too with little help but you can get through this. The way you’ve been treated, without care, support and validation is sad but a reality of how our culture so operates, especially wrt men and their mental. Also, this is a very difficult time to connect with people, straight out of the pandemic. Manny people are lonely and depressed, struggling financially, etc. you are way too hard on yourself and yoir mind is now your worst enemy. Things are not hopeless, they only seem so because of your mind. You’re trapped there right now and you need to begin to start practicing acceptance for your shitty start in life, and begin to learn to love yourself and have a daily routine that includes journaling, exercise (walking, swimming or yoga are good for injuries), feeding your body healthy food, seeing a (good) therapist, reading good material on cptsd and healing, possibly beginning medication. That’s the start and as you begin to feel stronger, this may take a long time, you add things in, maybe you get a job. You don’t need one that requires lifting. Maybe it’s only pt at first.. maybe you look into going back to school.. but you need a strong foundation that is all about taking care of yourself, loving and getting to know yourself. From there, your mind will have healed enough to begin again. I’m sorry for your pain. I’ve been there. Even though im financially stable, home owning, I also struggle with finding friends and lost a relationship last year that has had me grieving. You’ve had a lot of bad things happen to you recently. It won’t be this way forever but please start to try and get out of that worrying head and force yourself to begin self care now. I care.. I really do. ❤
I appreciate Your comment, I will do My best to be more positive in the future. I know You care, You would not have typed all of that if You didn't so thank You it means a lot!! I know things will get better eventually if I keep pushing towards it.
@@InfinitusYT don’t worry about how you feel right now or how you come off.. positive or negative sweetie. Your feelings are your feeling and they are always valid. Start working on how your thoughts are driving lies that feed your feelings of worthlessness, etc. have you seen any videos by Heidi Priebe? I would suggest watching some of her videos, which are incredibly insightful about cptsd.
The bad news is, nobody cares, The good news is nobody cares. and, nothing is permanent. By the way, just a thought, You're young, you're white, you're American, and you're not bad looking. Maybe gratitude should in the equation. Just saying.
Don't worry I am very grateful for what I still have, I don't really express it much in this video but I have in plenty of others and have to My Mom especially. things are better since I made this video set and I am grateful for that and for all of You who are watching and commenting helping Me feel less alone!
@@InfinitusYT Right on man! l know there are always circumstances that people aren't aware of, but you have a good start in the things l mentioned. Thanks for the quick response and get out there and kick some ass bro!!! All the best!!!
I dont have much resolution for your problem. My problems dont look like your problrm and vice versa. One thing i know and can share though. Time moves on no matter how we feel. Time dont care
Dont get on meds. That will be a hell all its own. The only thing you cantrol are your thoughts. The outside world wont give you that. Just set a small goal each dat. You are overwhelmed by how much you think you need to do to get where you think you want to be. Put your faith in God ask him to show you each step to take. [Nly God can see you through this hole your in. People cant fix you but God can. Speak to him daily please❤❤❤
Unless you’re a qualified psychiatrist you should not give advice about medication 💊 to someone with a mental illness. Would you tell a diabetic not to take insulin and that god will “fix” your diabetes? Or heart disease, or a broken limb, or a burst appendix? Please don’t trivialise mental illness, which by the way occurs in the only organ we CANNOT survive without = our 🧠!
Just try praying. Tell God you need Him. You can tell him you’re struggling to believe in Him. It’s okay. He is seeking you. You just don’t know it. He will change your life. Hang in there. This too shall pass, but you need Jesus and God the Father. ❤
I love you my brother , I can chat or message you any time , life is ups and downs , and being a man is hard , keep trying keep grinding things will get better , it just takes hard work
I am Trans gave undergone excruciatingly painful surgeries have very few friends and have developed extreme social anxiety life is never fair but we need to overcome our shortcomings regrets and what ifs all we have is today forcing yourself out of your comfort zone is what we all need to do! insecurities are always fighting us but we need to just ignored them!! go out to social events and just talk to people you will soon find out you are not alone! Cheers from Utah!
Your mom did not create you. God created you. And me. And no, you don't need a religion to figure that out. What is your purpose? To ask questions. You ask good questions. Keep going. God is Omnipotent. God is Omniscient. God is here. God created your mom. And your step-dad. Why? Ask God. Not me. You are unique. There will never be anyone like you ever. It's true. The same can be said of everyone you meet. Remember that. God knows that I am typing these words. God knows you are reading them. You are a young man. Sometimes the slowest starters are the highest flyers. I see big things in your future. Very big things. In fact, the entire country is in for a wild ride. The youth are waking up. Dawn is coming. Jesus Christ never really died. That is a lie. He "appeared" to die. No one dies. So don't go do something stupid. You can check out any time... You can never leave. Love your enemies. It confuses them. And wake up. Your mom may be in for a shock herself. I am just a messenger looking for misfits. Ignore the messenger. Listen to the message. God loves you. You and everyone else. Spread the Good News. vaya con Dios.
The more you fight back against it mentally, the more it'll suck you under. Accept it, welcome it, become friends with it, EXPECT it, and slowly but surely you'll see it start to fade. Combine this advice with proper diet, exercise, sleep habits, and make yourself uncomfortable at least a couple of times per week. You're in the "why me" stage, which is normal at your age. Move forward to the "thank you for this burden" stage which awaits you and will allow you to become stronger. If you fight back against this advice you're not ready yet and need more time to sit in it, it'll come, trust in the process.
You are right, fighting it doesn't help. We must go with the flow and not disregard what our bodies are saying to us all while continuing to regularly challenge ourselves.
I really appreciate the way you worded this
@@JakeDavis-yp1pd I wish someone had told me this at his age, so just paying it forward. Now whether or not I would've listened, that's a different story!
Yes. don’t fight how you feel! You’re allowed to feel how you do. In fact, cry, get angry, release the emotions (without hurting yourself or others) but also have a routine that includes caring for your body and mind.. all good advice!
This is the best advice for this situation.
I went through this . Do somwthing small each day to make yourself happy. You need courage
hope you feel better bro, try to enjoy the little things, and the people that love you
Thank You, I do feel much better now. and I will!
lol as soon as he said he had it and lost it. i thought about adhd and my own struggles with it. unfortunately for me, i was completely oblivious to it till i was 30.... im 32 now and barely beginning to understand it all.
ill tell you one thing. take care of your body and your mind , and the rest will come with it. my biggest regret is not taking care of myself and trying to push through things. its what got me to where i am which is not a great place. so i have to start from the beginning
totally agree I need to start taking much better care of Myself.. ADHD is hard to get a handle on after You are an adult for sure but not impossible!! I wish You good luck on Your journey with it as well.
@@InfinitusYT very difficult , you too , ive subscribed and looking forward to hearing about whats to come
I feel for you big time. This world just keeps beating me down, and not allowing me to do much. Powerlessness is just about the worst thing anyone can feel.
It's good to hear from You, don't let the world win!! You are never totally powerless that's just what they want You to believe!
@@InfinitusYT Thanks bruv. I know I'm a beast deep down, who chooses to be a gentleman. Lack of proper sleep out in this heat is wearing on me, and I have court on the 18th, thanks to my own mother. I have no clue whats going to happen. With charges pending, there aren't a lot of jobs to even apply to. Slowly going broke. These things are out of my control, so all I can do is be at peace with that and trust in the Most High
You are so humble and a good person, don't be so hard on yourself..youre doing the best you can everyday even if it sees minimal..existing is exhausting even...be extra kind too yourself the human experience is rough❤❤❤
Thank You Emma, I will try to be kinder to Myself going forwards.
Can relate a lot to what you're saying. Keep your head up man, we'll make it through 👍🏼
Together!
i know how you feel, i live in bulgaria. talking about this on a video is actually better than any therapy. its the first step to come up with some solutions
greetings , I agree it can be better than therapy in some ways.
@@InfinitusYT it is 100% better than therapy and i will tell you why exactly
I hear a cry for help. I hear someone stuck in a self-made prison of the mind (not discounting past events that I don't know abou). But I know. I've been there 30 years ago and allow me to share a brief version. It seemed that I had it all. I had done everything as society told me to do and reach for. The place, the car, the job, the sports, the girlfriend, the friends, the vacations, good times all around. And yet, something was missing. It felt like a deep and dark hole right in the middle of all that and pulling me in. I couldn't sleep and when I did, I woke up with a nose bleed (and never even did any kind of drugs). Was told to get on some meds and I would be back to normal. I took a different path. One were I had to face the darkest days in my life. One were the mental pain induced real and physical pain. I saw no discernable way out of this cycle. Until I decided to make a drastic change. Some called my courageous, but most thought I had gone crazy. Today, more than 30 years have gone by since then. Tis morning, I'm sitting here with my cup of coffee, watching your video, with cows and chickens in the background, my wife and kids are still sleeping, and I'm at complete peace with life and myself. Never took any meds. I don't know what path you need to follow to turn around. All I can provide you is an example of what's possible. It's only one single pebble from the thousands in the river. One where the mind cannot possibly comprehend nor paint of what can be. But the key is that YOU need to make a change. YOU need to take control over your path, regardless of the things you say you cannot control. That is simply an escape or excuse you can use to not face that change. It is scary. The outcome is not guaranteed. But something needs to change for you, and you only are the key to unlock it.
Good Lord are people like you are detached and arrogant, kicking a guy who is down while trying to posture yourself as being helpful to him.
I am glad You overcame Your problems, may I ask more detail about the the drastic changes You made? I appreciate Your honesty and wisdom, I know I am the only one who can make such changes for Myself.
I understand completely what you are going through, I'm going through what you are right now and it's very difficult. People don't understand because sometimes you like your OK, we are able to hide it sometimes, but it catches up with you. You are really not alone, and please hang on ok.
I appreciate the understanding, I am seeing how not alone I really am through all the feedback and stuff so thank You very much! I am hanging in there.
@InfinitusYT I know sometimes that doesn't help at all because there's not alot people can do if the problem is the human condition, but there are certain souls out there who do understand and are In the same boat as you. I truly believe that one day we will understand why we are like we are, so don't feel that everything is for nothing, there are reason's behind the madness .
Everything can be seen positively or negatively. The way you frame it will determine how you feel about it. A problem can be seen as a challenge or opportunity. Just ask how it benefits you, as everything in this world can be used for our benefit, and sometimes life keeps giving the same lessons until we get what it was trying to teach us.
You are very right.
Take it step by step. I have OCD and anxiety but learned to cope. Life is hard but you have to keep fighting.
To add, 20 years ago at age 35 I went to Thailand and met a Thai woman. I ended up marrying her. At the time, I made minimum wage. I had to support my new wife, step daughter and father in law. I couldn’t sleep for months figuring out how I would survive. By the way, my family hated that I married someone in SE Asia. It forced me to figure things out. I’m now very successful and proud of what I accomplished.
I can so relate to this
You are a good guy just let the past stay in the past .You have a good heart and soul you can make it guy
Thank You!! I will.
your not alone in this fight my brother. All we can do is struggle, endure, and contend.
Nobody can control anything!It is how it is!
True, people are deluded to think they have any control over anything.
Surround yourself with positivity. Music, books, Movies. Get outside as much as possible. Keep your room clean and organized. Laugh.
"laugh",that is the hardest one
😂😂@@lonelsa
As if it was that easy :)
Fixing my sleep helped a lot. I'm also lonely but it feels so much easier when you rest. Not saying ti is your case but often we project physical problems and feelings onto situations. Having a purpose or faith also helps some people cope and move on, even when they are still depressed.
I sleep badly, how did you fix your sleep?
you know something else that is weird that i struggle with is that the people that want to hang with me, i don’t want to hang with them.
it’s like my standards are too high for friendship, but i wonder if i don’t subconsciously do it on purpose.
the emotional conversation topic where you said you’re trying to feel fulfilled and heard but never actually feeling that way while trying to talk to people is pretty much the story of my life. i am convinced everyone is basically like “oh he’s being pitiful and pathetic again” and even the kindest people have a limit and i notice they distance themselves because it’s so draining on them
the only way i’ve found to escape is to exercise and eat right and work on my body and stuff that a lot of hustle bros talk about. i hate the lifestyle but it actually gave me some kind of pride and it also just elevated my mood in a way where i honestly didn’t even feel like myself because i’ve always had low grade depression. i am resistant to going back to the lifestyle bc it’s hard to sustain but it is nice that i had the experience for about 9 months so i know it’s an option
Hey brother same here we r in the same boat
sorry to hear, maybe We can help each other overcome it.
Stay strong big man
You’re such a handsome man, I’m sorry you’re having a hard time doing the things you want to do. I wish you the best in being yourself and to follow your heart. ❤️
Thank You!!
Hi! :)
I can relate to what you are going through right now. It's sad to see someone else struggling with similar things cause I know how hard it is. I recently came across a TH-cam video that I found very comforting to watch, it won't solve your problems but maybe you can also find some comfort in it. The video is titled If You're Lost...It's Actually GOOD! by Scott Ste Marie. (Don't judge a book by its cover.) If you are not feeling it maybe you can save it for later if you like.
I hope you find your way and I also hope to see you doing better in the future.
I'm rooting for you!! ^^
I know how you feel I was put in special ed for ADHD from 1st grade and am 24 now, it sucks. The ADHD makes you bad at school and then you just automatically ingrain "giving up" from an early age due to lack of interest in all the subjects in school.
It's definitely been difficult, sorry to hear they put you in special ed classes that seems a bit extreme unless maybe You are on the spectrum as well. I know that they co-occur pretty regularly. no idea if I am though I've only been diagnosed online for ADHD. its hard when You find out after you are an adult though gotta reconsider how You live Your whole life it seems like but it helps to understand what caused the difficulties and plenty of ways to manage it if You practice hard.
Powerful video cool channel
Thank You!!
all thoughts are all lies ALL THE TIME.
what?
May be some truth in that.
@@InfinitusYT aside from practical thinking ( feed yourself go to work ) those are practical thoughts things that help you move forward thru life.. thoughts create emotions and emotions are of the devil. so by default all thoughts are all lies all the time because you cant be with god if you are in thought God exists in the present in the Now.
sounds interesting, but its not true
40 yr old virgin here.
always thought I'd kms, but I've given up on that.
the problem? I let ppl push me around. Shoulda left AZ at any time.
was just so angry at society, that I didn't even want get in a situation that might "deflower me". was sick of working at age 26, and the internet was enough for me.
conclusion: you might just be living somewhere that sucks. if you want to find romance, put yourself into a romantic scenario. you have to work for it preemptively.
I am glad You stopped considering taking Your own life that is never the answer. there are plenty of other things rather than sex to love and enjoy about life, people make it seem way more important than it is and most will just end up having kids before they are ready if they ever actually are and then screw a lot of things up when raising them.
A running theme I’ve noticed is that a significant amount of people don’t feel like they have friends. I’m not trying to invalidate you at all, because I’m hearing what you’re saying, and I am very sorry that you’re feeling this way. But, you’re not alone in this, there are a lot of people that feel like they have no one.
I am sorry, though and I know that it’s pity that you don’t want. You are clearly in need of having someone to listen to you, as you say.
I hope you can find something or someone, or even an amount of peace to be able to push through, without all of that pain. The physical pain as well. I can’t imagine.
Take care.
No invalidation perceived sir, I am seeing how truly not alone I am from the reactions and comments and everything. I know I can get to a better place I just have to be patient and keep pushing. thanks for Your comment!
Brother needs Christ he’ll fix you up man. Jesus loves you
Life is a game of balance.
(tl;dr - see above...)
Being depressed feels awful. (Ask me how I know, lol.) And the worst part is, we 'know' that we're going to feel awful tomorrow too, next week, next month. (Actually, we don't know, but that's a different story.) One thing that has helped me in the past is to accept this, to accept the fact that I am currently feeling awful. This then allowed me to take my mind just a little bit off the constant thought that I am feeling awful, and how awful it is that I am feeling awful. I wake up, I'm still feeling as bad as yesterday, but in a sense that's okay, I expected as much, everything is alright with the world, the universe still functions the way I think it does. Now let me get up, take a shower, and get dressed, even in this state. And then I'll see what I can do to do something nice for myself today, even if that means I'll allow myself a day where I am taking it easy. So: Be dissatisfied with being depressed, use it as angry energy for change, and at the same time accept that you are depressed, it's only natural given the whole situation. That is a balanced approach.
Along similar lines, we can end up compulsively ruminating over things that happened to us, circumstances outside of our control that led to where we are today. I think a healthy thing to do is to absolutely acknowledge these outside forces that have pushed us down or are keeping us down today, and at the same time actively look around and seek out the things that we ARE able to control. That is a balanced approach.
Mistakes happen. To all of us. It is completely expected that our minds keep a strong focus on past mistakes and endlessly analyse the situations that led to them. We can use the understanding gained from this for our decisions in the here-and-now, and also incorporate new knowledge about life and ourselves to further refine our analysis of the past. And yet, at the same time, we should not overemphasise past mistakes - they happened, it feels bad that they happened, and we'd do things differently today. That is a balanced approach.
Also, not every mistake needs to be remedied. Sometimes there is no remedy, and sometimes the best thing to do is simply acknowledge to ourselves and to the people that got hurt because of us that we made a mistake and that we are sorry that it happened. So let's absolutely look for ways in which we can make up for past things, all the while keeping in mind that maybe it's not going to be possible to fully get to that point. That is a balanced approach.
Absolutely nobody deserves to be depressed! And at the same time, an important thing to realise about life is that we don't actually DESERVE to feel good either, we all have to put in at least a little bit of work for it. (And I know, in the depths of depression the natural reaction to this is: "Gee, thanks! I know THAT! Would you also tell me what I CAN do to feel better? After all, I'd do it if I knew.") So absolutely let us feel bad about how things have gone and that we are currently feeling bad, and at the same time acknowledge that there's (likely) no entity somewhere that keeps score and will intervene when things don't turn out fair. Life can turn out sh_tty, even through no fault of our own. That absolutely sxcks, but it's simply the way it is. Let us all support each other through this. That is a balanced approach.
The fact that you are continuing to put out these videos is huge! I hope it helps to know that we are also still here, hearing what you have to say. ❤
I really appreciate Your well written comment, You seem incredibly wise and understanding of situations such as these. You are right that a balanced approach is the best in all aspects of life and I would do well to stop rehashing past mistakes and accept that life is not supposed to be good or bad and that often it is just a mixture of both constantly countering each other in an eternal juxtaposition. all of the engagement the last few days has been incredible and helped Me out of that dark place I was in when I recorded this. so I can't thank You all enough for everything it means so much that I have encountered so many kind-hearted and wise people on this platform already. sorry if i didn't respond to every aspect of Your comment as it was pretty lengthy but I did read it all and I am glad You understand where I am coming from.
@@InfinitusYT No need to apologise, you have no duty to respond to comments anyway, but I am very happy to have gotten your reply and to hear that these thoughts connected with yours. Btw, if you're wondering, why would I spend time writing a whole essay like this? Well, guess what, this helps me as much as it may the next person! 💛
Do you think maybe like we over analyze everything? And we are always trying to find a reason for everything or try to make it make sense? And we maybe can try to just let things happen or just live in the present.
I need to do better at focusing on the present moment and not let past and future bog Me down You are right.
@@InfinitusYT me too me too. It’s sometimes easier said then done but we can try 🙂
You wait till you’re old, that’s worse.
Haha, not looking forward to it. I feel a lot older than I am already, cant imagine what it will be like at 50
Try and find a way to help others. Volunteer at a soup kitchen for example. This will help you feel better. Then start to look at what you do have. You are mobile, you are smart, you have a warm bed to sleep in. You are already luckier than a million people on this planet. Remember that. You have repeatedly said things that are not my fault. Ok, but you can control your gratitude. I promise it helps. Exercise, diet. Carnivore lifted that fog for me. I have hope, possibilities. I'm not living my full life yet, I know it's coming. It's really helped me. I'm not telling you do anything just research it.
Consider the philosophy of stoicism...bearing up under life's problems. Read up on it. I, too, am depressed but stoicism helps me bear up. There are lots of TH-cam vids on stoicism.
(1)Comparison is the thief of Joy unfortunately...
(2) Your mind will always fluctuate between your ideal self vs actual self.
(3) Your ideal friends\family vs actual friends\family.
(4) Sometimes life really sucks
(5) Sometimes you have to appreciate the small things.
(6) Being able to walk/breath/think and write down thoughts.
(7) Having maybe a nice cup of coffee....
(8) Sometime previous levels of dopamine make the current levels feel bad.
(9) If you had it really good...then average can feel bad
(10) If your life was average then low can feel terrible.
(11) One day you will wake up old
(12) All the things afforded to you now will be a distance memory
(13) Try to appreciate what little you have...🤔🙄👍
Start expressing grratitude for what you do have rather than focusing on what you dont have. Let God show you his will for you. Get out of your owm way and put Godd in the drivers seat . A shift. Is possible😊
They said the sequel could not be done….
Make sure you check the link in the donate I sent! It is very important to the future!
so that was You, thank You for the donation but I am not too sure what I should be looking at I'm sorry.
Comparison is the thief of joy. Enjoy what you were meant to, discard the idea of pleasures you may never experience. Find happiness now in your life, as it is. You have it easier than you think.
True, things could always be much worse and I am well aware of that. thanks for being here!
ahh u suffer from a mind funk called depression, depression affects most human beings, it can be removed with structure, like go to work daily, exercise daily, do chores daily, etc, if u are an able person it is expected of that person to pay their own way and if they dont its considered a burden on others, as for getting a job it can take hundreds of applications and many interviews before being hired and it might also take one to have to call to talk to the hiring personel to find out the status, also start thinking differently like tell urself heres what i can do and heres what i have to do instead of saying i cant do this or i cant do that because then u wont do anything and just be stuck in ur negative thoughts, hope this helps u bud, u can do it, ull get to a much better situation but u have to work towards it on a daily basis
Do you have Medicaid. ? I injured my back and was in so much pain. I needed surgery to fix the damage. I’ve been good since. I think get on Medicaid. Get an mri and find a dr. Get your health back first Take it from there. Without health it’s hard. Start on your physical health. Hang in there. What will be will be. What is just is. Same for all of it. Don’t fear it.
I do, I was initially going to try talking to doctors but I ran into some hiccups and am worried for how much longer I will be recieving food stamps so I will probably try to get to work first.
Get a MTB and get out on the trail...a trail dog helps too...just get going and ride with the Lord.
You’re talking about cptsd. There’s nothing wrong with you. You developed survival skills because of how you were raised that no longer serve you as an adult. You already understand that. There’s nothing- nothing wrong with needing help and being depressed is a normal reaction to what you’ve had to go through. I’m 48 and was just diagnosed with ADHD. I struggled at your age too with little help but you can get through this. The way you’ve been treated, without care, support and validation is sad but a reality of how our culture so operates, especially wrt men and their mental. Also, this is a very difficult time to connect with people, straight out of the pandemic. Manny people are lonely and depressed, struggling financially, etc. you are way too hard on yourself and yoir mind is now your worst enemy. Things are not hopeless, they only seem so because of your mind. You’re trapped there right now and you need to begin to start practicing acceptance for your shitty start in life, and begin to learn to love yourself and have a daily routine that includes journaling, exercise (walking, swimming or yoga are good for injuries), feeding your body healthy food, seeing a (good) therapist, reading good material on cptsd and healing, possibly beginning medication. That’s the start and as you begin to feel stronger, this may take a long time, you add things in, maybe you get a job. You don’t need one that requires lifting. Maybe it’s only pt at first.. maybe you look into going back to school.. but you need a strong foundation that is all about taking care of yourself, loving and getting to know yourself. From there, your mind will have healed enough to begin again. I’m sorry for your pain. I’ve been there. Even though im financially stable, home owning, I also struggle with finding friends and lost a relationship last year that has had me grieving. You’ve had a lot of bad things happen to you recently. It won’t be this way forever but please start to try and get out of that worrying head and force yourself to begin self care now. I care.. I really do. ❤
I appreciate Your comment, I will do My best to be more positive in the future. I know You care, You would not have typed all of that if You didn't so thank You it means a lot!! I know things will get better eventually if I keep pushing towards it.
@@InfinitusYT don’t worry about how you feel right now or how you come off.. positive or negative sweetie. Your feelings are your feeling and they are always valid. Start working on how your thoughts are driving lies that feed your feelings of worthlessness, etc. have you seen any videos by Heidi Priebe? I would suggest watching some of her videos, which are incredibly insightful about cptsd.
hi sweet....I was just wondering, are your grandparents still around? Love you..Eileen...
My grandma from Mom's side and My grandpa from Dad's side are still with us. much love
Depression is introverted energy.
what?
The bad news is, nobody cares, The good news is nobody cares. and, nothing is permanent. By the way, just a thought, You're young, you're white, you're American, and you're not bad looking. Maybe gratitude should in the equation. Just saying.
Don't worry I am very grateful for what I still have, I don't really express it much in this video but I have in plenty of others and have to My Mom especially. things are better since I made this video set and I am grateful for that and for all of You who are watching and commenting helping Me feel less alone!
@@InfinitusYT Right on man! l know there are always circumstances that people aren't aware of, but you have a good start in the things l mentioned. Thanks for the quick response and get out there and kick some ass bro!!! All the best!!!
I dont have much resolution for your problem. My problems dont look like your problrm and vice versa. One thing i know and can share though. Time moves on no matter how we feel. Time dont care
Look up DR de-personalization
Get out of yourself.digging a deep hole😢😮
Carnivore diet
Dont get on meds. That will be a hell all its own. The only thing you cantrol are your thoughts. The outside world wont give you that. Just set a small goal each dat. You are overwhelmed by how much you think you need to do to get where you think you want to be. Put your faith in God ask him to show you each step to take. [Nly God can see you through this hole your in. People cant fix you but God can. Speak to him daily please❤❤❤
Unless you’re a qualified psychiatrist you should not give advice about medication 💊 to someone with a mental illness. Would you tell a diabetic not to take insulin and that god will “fix” your diabetes? Or heart disease, or a broken limb, or a burst appendix?
Please don’t trivialise mental illness, which by the way occurs in the only organ we CANNOT survive without = our 🧠!
Just try praying. Tell God you need Him. You can tell him you’re struggling to believe in Him. It’s okay. He is seeking you. You just don’t know it. He will change your life. Hang in there. This too shall pass, but you need Jesus and God the Father. ❤
What a bunch horseshit
I love you my brother , I can chat or message you any time , life is ups and downs , and being a man is hard , keep trying keep grinding things will get better , it just takes hard work
I appreciate You!! Thank You so much, You are very right I will keep pushing for what I want and need in life!
@@InfinitusYT no problem any time you feel alone just reach out , we are all here to listen , nobody is ever alone it just feels that way sometimes ,
Jesus Christ try to seek him
Are you lying? Lol
why would he lie?
Unfortunately not.
YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME!
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I am Trans gave undergone excruciatingly painful surgeries have very few friends and have developed extreme social anxiety life is never fair but we need to overcome our shortcomings regrets and what ifs all we have is today forcing yourself out of your comfort zone is what we all need to do! insecurities are always fighting us but we need to just ignored them!! go out to social events and just talk to people you will soon find out you are not alone! Cheers from Utah!
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@@inker1972 WTF are you?
Blessings to you, my fellow earth citizen and child of God...love...Eileen from Missouri.
Your mom did not create you.
God created you. And me.
And no, you don't need a religion to figure that out.
What is your purpose? To ask questions. You ask good questions.
Keep going. God is Omnipotent. God is Omniscient. God is here.
God created your mom. And your step-dad. Why? Ask God. Not me.
You are unique. There will never be anyone like you ever. It's true.
The same can be said of everyone you meet. Remember that.
God knows that I am typing these words. God knows you are reading them.
You are a young man. Sometimes the slowest starters are the highest flyers.
I see big things in your future. Very big things.
In fact, the entire country is in for a wild ride.
The youth are waking up. Dawn is coming.
Jesus Christ never really died. That is a lie.
He "appeared" to die. No one dies.
So don't go do something stupid.
You can check out any time...
You can never leave.
Love your enemies.
It confuses them.
And wake up.
Your mom may be in for a shock herself.
I am just a messenger looking for misfits.
Ignore the messenger.
Listen to the message.
God loves you.
You and everyone else.
Spread the Good News.
vaya con Dios.
Mercades ltr gtr