My husband who passed away three months ago wasn't a rich man but we lived a good and happy life together. I am so proud of him for being the coolest man I've ever known. He always make me laugh. He was a great singer and entertainer.
Money doesn’t make for a better life, usually it means you crave more money and you have less time to appreciate the little things that do not require money
i just quit my job a few months ago, i was having more 30% of pay that im getting rn, i work the (12-14h) entire day and by the time i was at home i couldnt do shit besides sitting in the couch completly destroyed im 28 and have 2 amazing boys, i would never go back to that life.. i literally have the same life with less work, before i was getting more but my head know this so i did spend more in nonsense, im waaaay better now without a doubt@@benhartart9487
I was miserable when I was making $72k annually.. after I became debt free, including my mortgage, I cut back my hours in half making $30k a year. I am way more happier now than when I was making more money..
I worked 2year in full swing huge package and closed my mortgage..I am doing more studies now..and spendingmore time with my dependents skills and entertainment.for next 5 year and do work after that ...I believe invest in oneself than anything else
Get this. I made $98,000 my last year at my job. I was on a 12 hour shift, and it rotated from nights to days. Two days on night shift, two days off. Came back for three days on day shift, then one day off. Came back on nights again for two nights, then off for seven. It was horrible, always tired. I retired at 62 two years later. I can live on $29,000 a year now, with $450,000 in my 401k to back me up if need be.
I work day and night for 11 hours a day, 6 days a week, for a company that's not even mine, fearing the pressure I have to face from clients, bosses and colleagues. In the span of only a few years, many have commented that I look very much older than my age. I am constantly tired, fatigued and forgot how being happy feels like. Yesterday, I had the chance to go to my daughter's graduation ceremony and realized that I totally missed seeing her grow up. Due to me always working and not spending time with her. 😢 I decided to quit this mf job now and take it easy. Living my life is more important.
I also missed being around my daughters while they were growing up because of work. I stayed with the job until I could take early retirement. Now that I'm retired I have the time, but the girls have left home and are living their own lives. It's lonely around here.
Yeah. I'm hitting 60 in a couple of years and my daughter is now 21. Time flies. Still working a lot at all hours. Although I don't have a ton of money saved up to retire right now, I sometimes feel like retiring early & maybe getting out of tech, maybe work less and out in nature part time, and spend more time with my family (and fix up the darn house too!).
I am 78 and been through colon cancer, more then 10 surgeries related to that, 3 joint replacements, spinal stenosis, and seizures--among other things. Every morning I read over a quote from Voltaire that says, "The most important decision you make every day is to be in a good mood." That and not worrying about things that are not in your control will take you a long way toward happiness. I had a pretty stressful life and am happier now than I ever was before. Having said that, I don't mind dying at all. I just regret that my wife and my son will feel badly about it.
@richardkeeling8643 I am soon 77. I read what you wrote and I listened to what Jean said. I would like to respond to both of you but there are no words for it.
Live every day as if it’s your last…..I walked away from my career at 57. Now rolling up on 67 I realize it was the best decision I ever made…blessed 🙏
Retired from law enforcement at 57. I planned to go to about 60, but my wife’s company offered her the opportunity to work from home post COVID, so we took them up on the offer. We moved to the SW, and are extremely pleased with that decision. I enjoyed being a LEO (hardest job to get, but easiest job to lose), but the de-criminalization and vilification of law enforcement destroyed great people and a great profession. Law enforcement was a calling for me, and I truly miss many of my fellow officers, but believe this is the change God intended for me. I saw enough death, despair, retaliation, abuse, neglect and violence to last several lifetimes, and that’s putting it mildly. The average person has no concept of how dangerous our works has become. I had friends who died too young, and others who died shortly after retirement. I graduated college and worked in the business world for a couple decades before transistioning the law enforcement. I’ve finally taken the time to have a couple surgeries, and to deal with some PTSD issues from the Army. God is GOOD! Two sayings that I took to heart many years ago: 1. Tomorrow is not promised. 2. We aren’t told in advance that tomorrow’s not coming.
@@runnn3107 "Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about it's own things. Sufficient is the day for it's own trouble. " Matthew 6:24 ~ 🦋
@gordonmculloch4904. That is not true Gordon. I know a guy who has made millions and continues to work hard in his eighties. A friend said to him once . “ you have made so much money, why don’t you retire and enjoy spending some of it, your kids are just going to spend it” His reply was. “ I’ll be happy if the kids have as much fun spending it, as I had making it”
That is because these are people that worked hard and built a stable life. If you interview ass broke people who cant even afford the hospital bed they are dying in next to 5 other poor fucks, you will get totally different answers.
#5 I wish I had let myself be happy #4 Wish I had kept in touch with my friends. #3 Wish I had the courage to express my feelings. #2 Wish I hadn't worked so hard. #1 Wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself (not what others wanted)
My father just passed away last month and think he lived a decent life but I think he probably regretted not letting himself be happy and keeping in touch with friends. I was able to get some friends and family to visit him in the hospital and he was very happy to see that but it would have been much better quality time had we done it one year before so he had time to experience all the good times with them. It also taught me that being as optimal healthy as you can such as eat nutrient dense foods, stay physically active, and have a good tribe of family and friends make a huge difference on quality of life. My father in his last month of life couldn't walk by himself and I saw how much he hated to rely on others for help, he never wanted to be a burden to anyone.
Both parents died alone during Covid. Dog of 14yrs going to sleep next week. That’s it, I’m retiring in 17 days - already started to plan the bucket list sign-off. Thailand in January for 30 days of Muay Thai despite being……61.😊 and then travel the world. 👍
Please don't put down your dog let your dog leave and enjoy your time with your dog life, life end weather we like it or not, if you do you do put down your dog life you gonna regret it. Just take time while your dog alive. But it's up to you the choice is your but for me I rather cherish the time while still my dog alive pain is gain. What if Dog has soul and in the other life he/she knows you let go at the end instead spending time the remaining time of dogs life. Anyway, I'm sorry I don't put down any life of our Dog they just passed away sleeping and I have no regrets because they just died naturally. Whatever decision you make it come back to you. Just be strong and have faith to the maker. 🕊️ 🙏
That regret list doesn't apply to me. I have no desire to keep in touch with old friends. They have their own lives to live. I've always tried not to overwork and keep some free self time. I enjoy my unhappiness, it keeps my sword sharp.
@@sagas0014 hi there Ms Sagas - greatly appreciate your comments, but my dog knew his day had arrived- you could see it in his eyes - the strength and defiance had gone and just a realisation that his time was up. You can’t transfer human feelings to pet animals as that is not how nature intended. The pet cat seemed to understand and spent an unusually close time with him during the last days. All so sad, but life goes on 😐
Hello.. I am a palliative medicine doctor, and see difficult cases everyday which is always emotionally challenging. It has changed me as a person. Life is unpredictable. Be kind to yourself and others. Thanks for sharing this important message, we often forget it.
I always stay a step ahead of illnesses. I don’t change my diet because of sickness. I changed my diet because of health. I educate myself on the benefits of natural foods and applied these knowledge in my diet. For example, I’d drink lemon juice with warm water and apple cider vinegar first thing in the morning. I’d drink ginger water throughout the day. I’d drink turmeric milk at night. Apart from that, I am a vegetarian. Besides a borderline cholestrol level, all of my other organs are functioning well. Blood sugar very good. I could swim 20-26 lap in the pool. Do 130 leg raises at one go and cycle for an hour. I used to run alot, now I have to listen to my body. I am 59. Take care of your body if you want you body to take care of you when you grow old. Take care of your health while you still can. Don’t change your diet only when doctor tells you to do so, it’s already too late. Change your diet now. Always be a few steps ahead of illnesses such as cancer and what not. And never take your good health for granted. You'll never know what’s wrong with your current diet unless you bother to educate yourself now.
i am suffering now with left back pain i hope is small kidney stone. i knew i should have been drinking water but kept putting it off until later . then i took a fall two days ago. and also developed eczema for some reason at 60
@@deborahp-q3w I suggest you take lemon juice with warm water early in the monring on empty stomach. It’s very good to dissolve keidney stones. Also take ginger water, it’s very good for your liver. Never take your health for granted. Early detection is prudent. Go do a blood test.
I’m 76 years old and I have no regrets that I worked very hard to support my family. To get the job done at one time I had three jobs. My kids know how much I sacrificed for them. I will breath my last breath knowing how much respect they have for me. Now that they’re older they can appreciate that life is hard.
If you want to be happy NEVER regret anything of your past...just learn and do BETTER in the future..because you cannot change the past but act in the PRÉSENT..😊🙏
My husband was frugal about money and he passed away from cancer at the age of 59. We had so much plan for a retirement to travel to every sports arena and now I'm all alone. I'm trying to live my life to the fullest. For this, i am retiring early. Time is something you could never take back 😢
It is so true, like you I am facing unknown, we had so many plans, and now my husband is going through chemo, it is pancreatic cancer, so challenging and now when you think about life…sorry I am getting emotional here, better go, unbelievable grief is in my heart. So yes better move to another country if you cannot afford present location and live than work all your life until what and when….
@@joyblevins8712 many thanks and I hope with time your sorrow and grief will lessen, the feelings of grief will come in waves I know that as I have lost loved ones too, but most importantly make your time count now, enjoy it, doesn’t have to be anything sophisticated or expensive, but going for walks, leisurely cooking, reading, self educating yourself is already so rewarding….
My Grandfather lived from 1897 to 1997, with little health problems. My father lived from 1930 to one week ago. He traveled, played, and enjoyed life fully. All I could think when he died was. “ Well done, Dad!” As Walt Whitman wrote to one dying, “ I don’t come to commiserate, I come to congratulate! “
#2 is a tough one. As a thirty-something I was happy that I didn’t work that hard. As a forty-something I now have shifted to a different mindset. Being a provider is incredibly fulfilling and I don’t regret working hard. I do however do regret wasting time. Working hard doesn’t have to be a regret if it helps a family or community change their trajectory. It’s better than simply “enjoying life”.
This hits hard. 45. Work a lot. Stress a lot. In tech. Health been on a slow decline. Easier said than done to work less or switch to lower pay / lower stress career given the life you built and the requirements needed to hit retirement savings goal. Shortfall of money when old is way worse than when younger. No one can live without money, especially when it keeps inflating. Most cant dump life for a chill archery gig, or bike shop gig, or health store gig, or layout-on-the-beach gig, and liquidate everything for a minimalist tiny studio apt.
#5 is the only thing i need to work on. Ive never worked a 40 hour week for someone else past the age of 23. I accomplished all my goals, and stood up for myself. Im 40 now and i feel extremely proud that i fought for the life of my choice.
The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, he said: “Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”
Almost every old person Ive met (100s since I was a teen) regretted either not having children or not having more children. Its funny people talk about cherishing love and relationships but you cant have those if people do not procreate. There is no other thing in life more important. What is sad about the saying above is that it completely lacks perspective. Humans throughout history have needed to work every hour they were awake to find food but modern life has allowed us to slow down and think about these types of things.
"Very few of us cherish our health until we no longer have it." So insightful. Having worked in nursing homes and with the disabled for years, as well as having my wife die at 43 after a long term illness. I have seen the consequences of failing health. Good health is everything. Without it everything else becomes so difficult. I was fortunate enough to retire early and I try to make the most out of the healthy years I have left. Also feel that it is important to prioritize your health and do your own part as well. Thanks for the reminder
I worked in an industry where people ripped each other apart to get ahead. People burn themselves out to brag how busy they are and which brands they’ve worked on. Though I did work hard, when my children were born, I didn’t fear going home on time to be with them. Now at 48, ageism has kicked me out of the industry, I’ve decided to free myself from the clutches of these big soulless corporations so that I can do the same work on my own, so that I may have the flexibility and control to take my kids on a school field trip, to walk them to school without the pressures of being at a desk exactly at the same time everyday, and live guilt free to pick them up from school early if they feel sick. Life is too short working our butts off to make someone else rich at the expense of our loved ones.
Your story is almost identical to mine. I worked flat out from 17 to 47. 100 hours weeks etc. On my 47th birthday I decided to make huge changes and dedicate the next 30 years to my wife and kids and the other things that are important for me. We are fortunate to have enough money, what they needed was more of me and now they have it. I haven’t regretted it for a single second.
@@shanghaiffgg Congratulations! Yes, very identical. Minus the money on my side ;) I won’t be able to retire anytime soon living in NYC. But I’m lucky because I love the work I do. Just never for someone else again.
@@therealcybertronwarriors I came to realise that all the things I value these days don’t involve money; like time, choosing how you spend that time, peace and quiet to read and think, doing day to day things with my family. Actually there are no material things i really crave or even want really. It’s like craving icons of success was a by product of the corporate race. My wife and I set up our own company to stay busy and we wanted to do something together but it’s online and we can’t do from anywhere and put in as many or as few hours as we like. People might read this and think “well it’s easy to say if you have money”. My point is that if you make certain changes in your life you may come to realise that you need a lot less than you thought when you were in the fire.
@@chris25979 My illness has opened my inner eyes. When one is down, he/she can really see who is really their family or friend. I am looking forward towards my end. I just pray is painless and peaceful.
"30 And brought them out, and said, Sirs, what must I do to be saved? 31 And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house. "......Book of Acts 16:30-31, The Bible.
54 years of hard work because that is what I was taught to do. One day while having a discussion with my daughter she snapped at me "you were never around" it hurt me to my core. Work related health issues now pIague me and it is hard to do the things I thought I would do once I did retire. Friends, please, as the oId saying goes "Stop and SmeII the Roses" for it aII goes by much too fast.
"it is hard to do the things i thought i would do once i did retire." - thanks for your honesty and i've seen this far too often. i vowed in my 30s i wouldn't wait to do things... tomorrow isn't guaranteed. my bucket list now is very short.
It is at least as easy to judge a god provider for not being around as it is to judge some who "is around" for not being a good provider. As a man, you really can't win on this one.
You like all of us are brainwashed from a young age to be worker bees. To earn lots of money to buy shit we don't need. To go into debt for 30 years to pay 500k for a plywood box to live in.
It's all about balance. There's nothing wrong with working hard and making money but you have to balance that with friends and family. It's just as heartbreaking to see someone in their 60s, 70s, and 80s who didn't prepare for the golden years because they didn't work and save enough.
So many live their lives for their retirement and yet, never reach that age, unfortunately. That was the case of my dad who died at 51. I definitely agree with your outlook on life.
Silly way to throw away you life. Where do you think your taxes go? To service, never repay, the national debt which was printed out of thin air. The US can't pay its welfare bill. Stop working. Stop paying taxes Wake-up, ffs.
@@celestialblissfulness So sorry for your loss. I have a feeling I know why that happened. So many people in the past two years did something so they wouldn't lose their jobs. There are other jobs in the Universe. You can create your own job if need be. Your life is priceless. People get very triggered by the thought of losing their paycheck. But we have to transcend that because changes are happening.
It feels a lot better knowing that there are people who are eager to continue to improve while keeping in mind that being perfect isn’t the goal. Creating my TH-cam channel about self development was not easy to start. It took me years for contemplating before I finally did it and I’m glad I did.
Thank you for saying so beautifully the conclusions that I have come to in my own life!!! I am 69 years old and wish that I had this wisdom at 20. Fortunately I began to figure these things out in my 50"s and it makes life so much better!!! I try and tell these things to everyone I talk to. especially young people.
@JeanVoronkova At 20 you have nothing to lose. Work your b*tt off if you have like $0 and living at home. Time is on your side. The life expectancy is not 20 years old. I’m 22 now can confirm people live longer than just 20.
I have had the precious privilege to care for the elderly in a nursing home & journeyed with 2 incredible women in their final days at home ~ this beautiful message aligns with what I heard & learned from these experiences. Thank you for sharing ❤.
Regrets: 1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself 2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard 3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings 4. I wish I'd stayed in touch with my friends 5. I wish I'd let myself be happier Suggestions: 1. Let your loved ones know you love them 2. Open your Eyes to how you are loved 3. Take some risk 4. Stop killing yourself over "what should have been" 5. Be yourself 6. Participate not just observe 7. Be Kind 8. Take everything little less seriously.
I am a Japanese living in Tokyo. Last year, at the age of 50, I made up my mind that I would never be employed again. I have no idea what I am going to do but what I am 100% sure is that I will never regret my decision. I don't want to follow the crowd and just want to stay true to myself. All I want to do is accomplish my freedom because life is shorter than you may think it is.
Don’t live for a societal contract and/or societal construct. Don’t try and control every single thing in your life. After I realized this, I truly started living and doing the things that made me whole. You’ll find that it’s ok to pause in your pursuit of happiness and just be happy!
Married 38 years and now a widow as my beloved husband died from an operation almost 6 months ago. We were both blessed. He had no regrets and I don't either.
Agreed. I have never heard a dying person wish they had worked harder,played less. " I wish we had more time together"...the last words from a brother.😢😊
I fought in many wars many tours. I am now a Parkinson's and cancer patient and for what? Soo many regets so little time. I wish for a loving wife, and a little girl so much that I need to share
My grandfather enjoyed working and worked to almost the last day of his life - raised seven children and all became professionals with 32 grandchildren. He started out as a child coalminer near the PA - WV State line. I wish and hope that all people can find more happiness and fulfillment from life. I'm just saying it comes in different forms to different people.
Always give yourself grace and not be so hard on yourself. Think of your mistakes as lessons. Don’t live in the past and hold grudges. They are more harmful to you and your mental health. Remember the good times but don’t live in the past. Live in the present and look forward to the future. There are things I wish I could have done but having lived with an autoimmune disease for 43 years I’ve accepted the fact that I have had limitations. There is no point dwelling over things you have no power over. These are just some of the things I have learned in my 60 years.
Thank u so, so much. "Live in the present and look forward to the future. " "... no point dwelling over things you have no power over." I have made note of what u said.
This is very much needed to be said today in today’s fast paced world. No hateful message no argument no contempt. We all experienced loss of loved ones this year, and moving forward it’s not lost on me that we only have a small time with the ones we care about. Money shouldn’t be the only driver in the choices of everyday decisions. A more perfect union and balance. Seems natural. My grandmother lived to the age of 97. Her advice to me was “ Do what makes you happy The rest will work itself out” I worked hard labor jobs since I was 16 years old. Now as I reflect the money I made wasn’t worth the pain I experience now. The only thing that I can hold onto is that my kids were raised being loved and protected. Reflecting now on that period brings happiness and satisfaction. The last half of my life I plan on personal awareness and health
I couldn’t picture what I’d be after 35 when I was young, worked hard all my life accomplishing everything I wanted to do, retired at 53 to do things I’ve never done and am presently doing just that. I cleaned up my diet, stayed fit all throughout life and can do most of the athletic things I wanna do. I’ve gotta say it’s all the relationships I’ve never had that are my glaring short fall, having said that that has not stopped from living.
Wow... This is so true I have been a caregiver for hospice for 15 years. I just lost my dad last week. He never truly knew love in this lifetime. He lived in a horrific relationship with my mother for so many years and my siblings and I could never understand why. Im happy that he will be in peace and receive the love he never had. Blessings on your journey dad. 🙏💖🕊
So true. Of all my family and friends that I was with in their final days, the one thing they all had in common was... They regretted the things they didn't do... Those paths not walked or even tried. It was never something they did, it was always something they had not done. I keep those kernels of wisdom alive in my being every day and make sure I die with little to no regrets.
That's not really the answer, though. There's no outer "thing" that gives us happiness, which is really just peace of mind and acceptance. Those people who regret what they didn't do? They could easily be A-Types that were overly ambitious to begin with. So those types never have peace of mind anyway. They're always striving because the ego is insatiable.
I recently changed to day shift schedule despite being a naturally nocturnal person because I was sleeping on my days off, tired most of the time and struggling to be present in my loved ones lives let alone my own life. The best change I’ve made. You’ll never be ready for change, but change is usually necessary to fully live.
Work is a reward in itself. People who work because of the money will not be happy. I love my job. I love being able to contribute as much to society as I possible could in my lifetime. People who want to work a lot and work hard are winners. I don't understand why people say they wish they didn't work hard. Work is fun and you contribute to society through your work. It's nobel, it's your identity because when people describe who they are they often reference what they do for work. Work is good.
I think you literally missed the whole point of this video! Work is NEVER meant to be your identity! If that's how you really feel, then great but the majority of people do not feel that way. Yes it can be fun, enjoyable for some even but mostly it's a means to an end, especially these days. You're in the minority I'm afraid.
Trading your time for money is not the wisest thing to do.Suppose you diagnosed with a life threatening illness,and only few days to live,you still go to work or trying to do most important things in life
Losing my dad during the lockdown was a real eye opener. It made me realize that life is short and triggered something in me that resulted in a drowning depression. It took a long time to understand that life is short and to do the best we can do while living it. It made me face my own morality which after losing my dad, opened up another reality for me. I now try to live my life as if it is the last. Thank you for this video and putting everything in perspective for me and everyone.
@@marcolorenzo5369thank you for your kind words. Dad would have wanted us to live a great life. I promised him that I would watch over my mom and grandma. I don’t think I can ever get over losing him. I am sorry for your loss and wish you the best. Bless you and your family. Take care!
Your videos are always so thoughtful. I had an experience when I was 25 sitting with a father whose 27 year old son (I was a chaplain intern) had a cranial aneurysm and died within 45 minutes. He was healthy, worked in the gym/health-food industry and no one knew his life was going to be so short. Humans lived thousands of years without money, banks, insurance and hospitals. Balance is key for all aspects of life. Prepare for tomorrow but live today. We will all die one day, as you live prepare for that also. Love, learn something new, engage life everyday.
I'm 65 and Still Alive! I came close to death more than once. My last hospital visit, Hospice came to wheel me away. I have an extremely powerful voice. The whole hospital heard how I felt about that. My only regret was working so hard that it made me ill and others rich. I'm as poor as can be now but content with inner peace. I choose to worship God over money. I'm still walking the earth 🌎!!! Nice video. Thanks for sharing. ✌️❤️ ~ 🦋
I am 70 years old. I’ve been diagnosed with Parkinson’s Disease. I am smart and sensitive. I learned an enormous amount since the diagnosis - I figured $hit out. I am at peace. Since my most profound learning occurred at age 68, I’m hard-pressed to take advice from a 38 year old - even a rich, beautiful, worldly 38 year old. Rare is the young person who REALLY understands that their days are numbered. I stumbled upon one of your videos yesterday and have been reeled in, like a prizewinning Marlin. The main thing I can learn from you is about acquiring wealth and the trade offs. I don’t intend to learn “values” from you - which is impossible anyways.
I agree with you I came to that realization fortunately about 15 years ago when I went in for surgery I was working 10 hour days eight days a week and after that, I stopped doing it. I didn’t need the money anyway and you’re absolutely right I open the last communication as wide as I could. I have always lived in a very transient world. All my friends come and go. Some of my friends died in Vietnam. I’m now outliving my doctors, and some of the other people that have always worked with me. They’re always amazed that I remember their name that’s what makes it hard, we still gotta pay the bills and people move around
Working hard to make money for no reason other than to make more than you need is something to regret, working hard in order to help others is the most rewarding thing a person can do. No selfish person actually likes what themselves and is never happy with what they have. As a person who has worked and produced more than most people do in a lifetime, I have now spent the last few years doing for others while being content with nothing more than what I actually need.
It’s usually so you don’t have to work so hard later on, like so you can live without working later. Usually having a big bank account relieves the stress of worrying about money if you get fired or laid off. I always save money so when I’m not working I’m not freaking out. As well at some point people have to stop working and live exclusively off saving, i.e., retirement, so yeah in life we all sacrifice some living today so we can do more living in the future, and some of the living we do now is because we sacrificed some living in the past, like when we go on vacay or take time off work.
Your video truly touches my heart ❤I remember a saying of Mahatma Gandhi "Learn as if you were to live forever, live as if you were to die tomorrow". I always keep learning something new everyday and try to live life to its fullest.
We are a 6 figure income couple and had very little saved and not much cash lying around the preverbal". '...don't have $500 for an emergency" that was us. The big thing was debt all kinds of it, cars mortgage (although our home isn't a high price one), student loans for our kids, and of course credit cards. One day we just got sick of being broke and went total scorched earth and became frugal overnight. Paid it all off, it took almost 5 years but now we have no debt and this year our savings rate is 50% on basically the same income that had us perpetually broke. So for us it is mainly staying out of debt and watching our spending, at first it was a real effort to save in our HISA and 401Ks but now it's actually fun watching our money grow. No car or vacation or neighborhood is worth being broke or financially unstable.
Taking your medicine can be tough. But in the end, if you are committed, you will end up in a very satisfactory position. It's all about what you're willing to do.
Your financial journey is truly inspiring, and I'm currently striving to achieve the goals you've reached. Could you please share some tips to help others learn and navigate their own paths to financial success? Your insights would be invaluable.
I believe everyone could benefit from having a personal financial advisor. They can assist you in reaching your customized financial objectives at any point, ensuring you remain profitable.
Very Nice. Keep doing that great work. Reminds me of a lesson I learnt many moons ago. “No one on their death bed wish they spent more time at work.” The story is yours and you need to start writing it and living it now. Start by Imagining yourself at your 50th,60th, 75th or 90th birthday party, now listen to all the speeches people are giving about you. What you have achieved, how you have helped them, what you’ve meant to them…. If you write your life’s plan down, it is proven you will be more successful to achieve what you truly want. Otherwise you’ll wake up one morning with regrets. I have gone back to my plan, I wrote long ago ( a few times) I have never rewritten it, and it always touches me to know I’m still on track, because the principles are strong and true.
It's all about balance in life, a constantly changing, evolving, dynamic question. So many aspects of it at play, we learn & work on it throughout our lives.
One of the best ways of finding out what makes you feel the most fulfilled. Is to ask yourself if I only had one day left to live how would I spend it. And do more of that. I'm guessing for most of us that would be spending time with family and loved ones, being in nature / by water, flying... Something that makes you feel connected and present.
We sold everything we owned 4 years ago and now live in an rv and travel all over the USA and canada, we did it at 55 because we didnt know if we would make it to our 60s when we had originally planned to do it. Larry
When I hit 39 years old this year,I realised getting old is real and I will die one day too. When we are in our 20s, we seem eternal. Looking back, I wasted so much time in my 20s chasing ....nothing. The mindset of a 20 + person is really innocent . I now know that Life needs to have a purpose that is our own calling. Chase that purpose , and hopefully when we are on our death beds , we are not going to regret too much . ❤
Good for you. But it gets worse. In your 40s your body gets tired. In your 50s your body gets more tired and starts to break, along with that you realize your time is limited and this ride will end.
@@TheRealSnakePlisken yeah actually at 39 I do feel my body wearing off. I get aches and stiffness and even knee joint pain which is crazy. Never thought I'd get affected.
I have to say I agree with everything u say, and I have always lived the way u described. Retired at 45 moved to another country for a better way of life.
Thank you for this. Regrets are intrinsic to my life and been struggling with them for awhile. My wife sacrificed everything to maintain the monetary sense of security, literally working herself into an early grave. It's been hard freeing myself of that belief, as well. Which is also compounded by the sense of survivor's guilt - do I truly deserve to feel happy? Been taking small steps toward achieving some sense of peace. But definitely a long journey.
Excellent video. Every young person needs to watch this. When you’re young, you always think you have more time. When you’re older, you realize what a foolish assumption that was.
😥😢 Ive never heard anyone dying say, "i wish i could work harder!". I always said, "if i worker harder, i get paid LESS!" Why fall into the trap that's put there by the 1% for you to work harder for them and their children to enjoy their lives on a yacht. You really don't need much to be free and happy!
Thank you for your words of experience. I find all of them so true and have all them them when reflecting on my life. The dreams i had were never really fulfilled due to not standing up to what i had wanted. Just to keep peace with the people around me. Im in the winter of my life and full of regrets of what i could have been.❤️
Well, along this lines I can’t let this opportunity pass me by without saying - You are a gorgeous woman ☺️ I don’t have very many regrets, I’ve lived a pretty adventurous life and I’ve got the scars to prove it.
Beautiful advice. Watching the sunrise and set is one I enjoy a lot. It keeps me in tune with the solar cycle of life and costs nothing. Lovely woman too!
As an investing enthusiast, I often wonder how top level investors are able to become millionaires off investing. . I’ve been sitting on over $545K equity from a home sale and I’m not sure where to go from here, is it a good time to buy into stocks or do I wait for another opportunity?
Yes, a good number of folks are raking in huge 6 figure gains in this downtrend, but such strategies are mostly successfully executed by folks with in depth market knowledge
How can I participate in this? I sincerely aspire to establish a secure financlal future and am eager to participate. Who is the driving force behind your success?
I just googled her and I'm really impressed with her credentials; I reached out to her since I need all the assistance I can get. I just scheduled a caII.
I have always been a hard worker im 43 now and I have fibromyalgia I worked until exhaustion physically, mentally, emotionally. I worked full time demanding job in healthcare for over 20+years I have one child and I raised my daughter alone her father was murdered while I was pregnant with her so I also experienced a lot of trauma so eventually it took a toll on me.
@@girlygirl1890 thank you appreciate your kind words it gives me strength because sometimes I feel alone because of my circumstances, but I know that I have a whole tribe of people out there in the world that I never met that wish me well. God bless you 🙏💓
@@taneshabeverly6516 absolutely you DO have a tribe of people who are rooting for you and know that there is someone out there who cares. So, nope...you are not alone. Hey, I've never had Fibromyalgia but I can tell you that you can absolutely beat that. I KNOW you can. It takes a whoooole lot of discipline though and a whoooole lot of eating natural things that come out of the ground. (green leafy things. Spinach, Kale, Collards) You can also add in natural herbs to sprinkle on your veggies, which will help as well. There is so much information out there that you can do, you just have to be consistent with it and FORCE yourself to take in way more of the "good" in your body, than the bad. Look it up and please don't think you HAVE to have it, you do not. Remember...you are in control of your own health and don't let any Doctor tell you otherwise. You can beat it. People have done it and the Doctors will never tell you to go natural to overcome it. Good luck to you. God Bless you too.
Thanks Jean for sharing the points from a book. I enjoyed reading the comments shared from viewers. May I add that comments had an ethical aspect to adhere to. Please be grateful and most of all respect the influencer regardless. Thanks.
hi Richard thanks for the kind note 🌻 glad you enjoyed the general discussions. It's always interesting to see the different opinions expressed - the internet lets me meet a full gamut of people from all over... whereas in my real life in Singapore etc actually the kind of people i've met is quite a narrow range and of generally nice range lol. It's always eye opening.
I always have this concept of being completely financially independent since I started working, and still, but saw that many times I overworked with no need. Now, I am blocking my 12 days off I have, and working only 4 days a week. If I don't block, they schedule me to work 6 days a week. Crazy! That makes me realising as well, I was spending a lot on unnecessary things.
*A lot of people are taught that working defines them. Lining some self-important money-hoarder's pockets does not define you. 40 years of my life are permanently gone. I watch my kids and wife get old. I watch my friends and relatives pass away. Spending my life, slaving away, so that I can respect myself more is self-defeating. Instead, I work for a year, then take 3 months off. Sometimes I work 6 months and take off 6 months. Fo your homework and find a way. There are many.*
35 years later and I still in touch with childhood friends, own my own business and see my parents everyday. I’ve always kept true to myself and I never wanted to followed anyone’s rules or built their dreams. I’m lucky I got to build my own. I thank the lord for that everyday.
My husband who passed away three months ago wasn't a rich man but we lived a good and happy life together. I am so proud of him for being the coolest man I've ever known. He always make me laugh. He was a great singer and entertainer.
Good for you, being there by his side and being proud of him!
Money doesn’t make for a better life, usually it means you crave more money and you have less time to appreciate the little things that do not require money
I am sure he still feels the same exact way about you 🕊
@benhartart9487 money can make for a better life, it gives u choices, and that one of the best things money can do.
i just quit my job a few months ago, i was having more 30% of pay that im getting rn, i work the (12-14h) entire day and by the time i was at home i couldnt do shit besides sitting in the couch completly destroyed
im 28 and have 2 amazing boys, i would never go back to that life.. i literally have the same life with less work, before i was getting more but my head know this so i did spend more in nonsense, im waaaay better now without a doubt@@benhartart9487
I was miserable when I was making $72k annually.. after I became debt free, including my mortgage, I cut back my hours in half making $30k a year. I am way more happier now than when I was making more money..
Being debt free helps alot. No mortgage is also a huge freedom. Good for you!
I worked 2year in full swing huge package and closed my mortgage..I am doing more studies now..and spendingmore time with my dependents skills and entertainment.for next 5 year and do work after that ...I believe invest in oneself than anything else
Get this. I made $98,000 my last year at my job. I was on a 12 hour shift, and it rotated from nights to days. Two days on night shift, two days off. Came back for three days on day shift, then one day off. Came back on nights again for two nights, then off for seven. It was horrible, always tired. I retired at 62 two years later. I can live on $29,000 a year now, with $450,000 in my 401k to back me up if need be.
I work day and night for 11 hours a day, 6 days a week, for a company that's not even mine, fearing the pressure I have to face from clients, bosses and colleagues. In the span of only a few years, many have commented that I look very much older than my age. I am constantly tired, fatigued and forgot how being happy feels like.
Yesterday, I had the chance to go to my daughter's graduation ceremony and realized that I totally missed seeing her grow up. Due to me always working and not spending time with her. 😢 I decided to quit this mf job now and take it easy. Living my life is more important.
Happy for you buddy!
I also missed being around my daughters while they were growing up because of work. I stayed with the job until I could take early retirement. Now that I'm retired I have the time, but the girls have left home and are living their own lives. It's lonely around here.
Yeah. I'm hitting 60 in a couple of years and my daughter is now 21. Time flies. Still working a lot at all hours. Although I don't have a ton of money saved up to retire right now, I sometimes feel like retiring early & maybe getting out of tech, maybe work less and out in nature part time, and spend more time with my family (and fix up the darn house too!).
@kch3019 If I may ask, how old are you?
Were you selling cars for a living? What job had you working so much at your age?
I am 78 and been through colon cancer, more then 10 surgeries related to that, 3 joint replacements, spinal stenosis, and seizures--among other things. Every morning I read over a quote from Voltaire that says, "The most important decision you make every day is to be in a good mood." That and not worrying about things that are not in your control will take you a long way toward happiness. I had a pretty stressful life and am happier now than I ever was before. Having said that, I don't mind dying at all. I just regret that my wife and my son will feel badly about it.
Thanks, and same to you. @GxCrEaTiioNz
Make sure you have peace with God thru Christ. You are a sinner, you need a savior or you will go to hell after death.
@@davidwojciechowski6856you are already there, chained by your dogma. Give it a rest.
@richardkeeling8643 I am soon 77. I read what you wrote and I listened to what Jean said. I would like to respond to both of you but there are no words for it.
@davidwojciechowski6856 You are a terrible person.
Live every day as if it’s your last…..I walked away from my career at 57. Now rolling up on 67 I realize it was the best decision I ever made…blessed 🙏
Me too. Best decision same age as you.
Me too, 57, 60 now and loving retirement.
Me Three! 🤣 57, now 65 and Still Alive! ✌️❤️
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Retired from law enforcement at 57. I planned to go to about 60, but my wife’s company offered her the opportunity to work from home post COVID, so we took them up on the offer. We moved to the SW, and are extremely pleased with that decision. I enjoyed being a LEO (hardest job to get, but easiest job to lose), but the de-criminalization and vilification of law enforcement destroyed great people and a great profession. Law enforcement was a calling for me, and I truly miss many of my fellow officers, but believe this is the change God intended for me.
I saw enough death, despair, retaliation, abuse, neglect and violence to last several lifetimes, and that’s putting it mildly. The average person has no concept of how dangerous our works has become. I had friends who died too young, and others who died shortly after retirement. I graduated college and worked in the business world for a couple decades before transistioning the law enforcement. I’ve finally taken the time to have a couple surgeries, and to deal with some PTSD issues from the Army. God is GOOD!
Two sayings that I took to heart many years ago:
1. Tomorrow is not promised.
2. We aren’t told in advance that tomorrow’s not coming.
@@runnn3107 "Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about it's own things.
Sufficient is the day for it's own trouble. "
Matthew 6:24
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You will never hear anyone lying on their deathbed say: ‘I wish I had spent more time at work’.
@gordonmculloch4904. That is not true Gordon. I know a guy who has made millions and continues to work hard in his eighties.
A friend said to him once . “ you have made so much money, why don’t you retire and enjoy spending some of it, your kids are just going to spend it”
His reply was. “ I’ll be happy if the kids have as much fun spending it, as I had making it”
That is because these are people that worked hard and built a stable life. If you interview ass broke people who cant even afford the hospital bed they are dying in next to 5 other poor fucks, you will get totally different answers.
I think also you will never hear someone say "I wish I didnt have so many kids."
I don’t regret working, not now or on my deathbed.
#5 I wish I had let myself be happy
#4 Wish I had kept in touch with my friends.
#3 Wish I had the courage to express my feelings.
#2 Wish I hadn't worked so hard.
#1 Wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself (not what others wanted)
Thanks!:-)
i wish i could meet u traveler
Thanks!
My father just passed away last month and think he lived a decent life but I think he probably regretted not letting himself be happy and keeping in touch with friends. I was able to get some friends and family to visit him in the hospital and he was very happy to see that but it would have been much better quality time had we done it one year before so he had time to experience all the good times with them.
It also taught me that being as optimal healthy as you can such as eat nutrient dense foods, stay physically active, and have a good tribe of family and friends make a huge difference on quality of life. My father in his last month of life couldn't walk by himself and I saw how much he hated to rely on others for help, he never wanted to be a burden to anyone.
So this tells me most people are fake to please others.
Both parents died alone during Covid. Dog of 14yrs going to sleep next week. That’s it, I’m retiring in 17 days - already started to plan the bucket list sign-off. Thailand in January for 30 days of Muay Thai despite being……61.😊 and then travel the world. 👍
Congratulations and happy retirement
I did the Muay Thai month at age 59. Definitely worth it.
Please don't put down your dog let your dog leave and enjoy your time with your dog life, life end weather we like it or not, if you do you do put down your dog life you gonna regret it. Just take time while your dog alive. But it's up to you the choice is your but for me I rather cherish the time while still my dog alive pain is gain. What if Dog has soul and in the other life he/she knows you let go at the end instead spending time the remaining time of dogs life. Anyway, I'm sorry I don't put down any life of our Dog they just passed away sleeping and I have no regrets because they just died naturally. Whatever decision you make it come back to you. Just be strong and have faith to the maker. 🕊️ 🙏
That regret list doesn't apply to me. I have no desire to keep in touch with old friends. They have their own lives to live. I've always tried not to overwork and keep some free self time. I enjoy my unhappiness, it keeps my sword sharp.
@@sagas0014 hi there Ms Sagas - greatly appreciate your comments, but my dog knew his day had arrived- you could see it in his eyes - the strength and defiance had gone and just a realisation that his time was up. You can’t transfer human feelings to pet animals as that is not how nature intended. The pet cat seemed to understand and spent an unusually close time with him during the last days. All so sad, but life goes on 😐
“Health bestows upon us a freedom that very few of us cherish.”
That was well said.
Hello.. I am a palliative medicine doctor, and see difficult cases everyday which is always emotionally challenging. It has changed me as a person. Life is unpredictable. Be kind to yourself and others. Thanks for sharing this important message, we often forget it.
thank you for your service to the ailing... i'm very grateful to all medical personnel.... it's truly a noble profession
When my mother was on death bed! I realized i wanted to be a palliative care worker
great advice..thanku
"Health bestows upon us a freedom very few us of cherish until we no longer have it." What a beautiful nugget of wisdom.
I always stay a step ahead of illnesses. I don’t change my diet because of sickness. I changed my diet because of health. I educate myself on the benefits of natural foods and applied these knowledge in my diet. For example, I’d drink lemon juice with warm water and apple cider vinegar first thing in the morning. I’d drink ginger water throughout the day. I’d drink turmeric milk at night. Apart from that, I am a vegetarian. Besides a borderline cholestrol level, all of my other organs are functioning well. Blood sugar very good. I could swim 20-26 lap in the pool. Do 130 leg raises at one go and cycle for an hour. I used to run alot, now I have to listen to my body. I am 59.
Take care of your body if you want you body to take care of you when you grow old. Take care of your health while you still can. Don’t change your diet only when doctor tells you to do so, it’s already too late. Change your diet now. Always be a few steps ahead of illnesses such as cancer and what not. And never take your good health for granted. You'll never know what’s wrong with your current diet unless you bother to educate yourself now.
i am suffering now with left back pain i hope is small kidney stone. i knew i should have been drinking water but kept putting it off until later . then i took a fall two days ago. and also developed eczema for some reason at 60
@@deborahp-q3w I suggest you take lemon juice with warm water early in the monring on empty stomach. It’s very good to dissolve keidney stones. Also take ginger water, it’s very good for your liver.
Never take your health for granted. Early detection is prudent. Go do a blood test.
I’m 76 years old and I have no regrets that I worked very hard to support my family. To get the job done at one time I had three jobs. My kids know how much I sacrificed for them. I will breath my last breath knowing how much respect they have for me. Now that they’re older they can appreciate that life is hard.
He who plants a tree for the shade for the next generation understands life.
If you want to be happy NEVER regret anything of your past...just learn and do BETTER in the future..because you cannot change the past but act in the PRÉSENT..😊🙏
My husband was frugal about money and he passed away from cancer at the age of 59. We had so much plan for a retirement to travel to every sports arena and now I'm all alone. I'm trying to live my life to the fullest. For this, i am retiring early. Time is something you could never take back 😢
It is so true, like you I am facing unknown, we had so many plans, and now my husband is going through chemo, it is pancreatic cancer, so challenging and now when you think about life…sorry I am getting emotional here, better go, unbelievable grief is in my heart. So yes better move to another country if you cannot afford present location and live than work all your life until what and when….
@@kristinecelestin1487 I wish you all the best....prayers for your husband too 🙏🙏
Sorry for your loss. He sounds like a fun guy, and that’s something I would plan as well. Enjoy your retirement.
@@joyblevins8712 many thanks and I hope with time your sorrow and grief will lessen, the feelings of grief will come in waves I know that as I have lost loved ones too, but most importantly make your time count now, enjoy it, doesn’t have to be anything sophisticated or expensive, but going for walks, leisurely cooking, reading, self educating yourself is already so rewarding….
Hope ur going well
My Grandfather lived from 1897 to 1997, with little health problems. My father lived from 1930 to one week ago. He traveled, played, and enjoyed life fully. All I could think when he died was. “ Well done, Dad!” As Walt Whitman wrote to one dying, “ I don’t come to commiserate, I come to congratulate! “
#2 is a tough one. As a thirty-something I was happy that I didn’t work that hard. As a forty-something I now have shifted to a different mindset. Being a provider is incredibly fulfilling and I don’t regret working hard. I do however do regret wasting time. Working hard doesn’t have to be a regret if it helps a family or community change their trajectory. It’s better than simply “enjoying life”.
This hits hard. 45. Work a lot. Stress a lot. In tech. Health been on a slow decline. Easier said than done to work less or switch to lower pay / lower stress career given the life you built and the requirements needed to hit retirement savings goal. Shortfall of money when old is way worse than when younger. No one can live without money, especially when it keeps inflating. Most cant dump life for a chill archery gig, or bike shop gig, or health store gig, or layout-on-the-beach gig, and liquidate everything for a minimalist tiny studio apt.
You are so correct - it's a little thing called "reality" and the cards of life you are dealt.
#5 is the only thing i need to work on. Ive never worked a 40 hour week for someone else past the age of 23. I accomplished all my goals, and stood up for myself. Im 40 now and i feel extremely proud that i fought for the life of my choice.
yep same here, and it was awesome wasnt it all those years of not putting 40 hrs a week in with some worthless douche bag
The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, he said:
“Man.
Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money.
Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health.
And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present;
the result being that he does not live in the present or the future;
he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”
Very true.Especially in the USA.😢
Get back to basics but understand that growing your own food and using technology wisely to grow unpolluted food as much as possible.
Almost every old person Ive met (100s since I was a teen) regretted either not having children or not having more children. Its funny people talk about cherishing love and relationships but you cant have those if people do not procreate. There is no other thing in life more important. What is sad about the saying above is that it completely lacks perspective. Humans throughout history have needed to work every hour they were awake to find food but modern life has allowed us to slow down and think about these types of things.
because I LOVE HEAVEN AND HELL FVCK GOD
@@thearmy88ify I don't regret not having children. 🤣
"Very few of us cherish our health until we no longer have it." So insightful. Having worked in nursing homes and with the disabled for years, as well as having my wife die at 43 after a long term illness. I have seen the consequences of failing health. Good health is everything. Without it everything else becomes so difficult. I was fortunate enough to retire early and I try to make the most out of the healthy years I have left. Also feel that it is important to prioritize your health and do your own part as well.
Thanks for the reminder
I worked in an industry where people ripped each other apart to get ahead. People burn themselves out to brag how busy they are and which brands they’ve worked on. Though I did work hard, when my children were born, I didn’t fear going home on time to be with them. Now at 48, ageism has kicked me out of the industry, I’ve decided to free myself from the clutches of these big soulless corporations so that I can do the same work on my own, so that I may have the flexibility and control to take my kids on a school field trip, to walk them to school without the pressures of being at a desk exactly at the same time everyday, and live guilt free to pick them up from school early if they feel sick. Life is too short working our butts off to make someone else rich at the expense of our loved ones.
Your story is almost identical to mine. I worked flat out from 17 to 47. 100 hours weeks etc. On my 47th birthday I decided to make huge changes and dedicate the next 30 years to my wife and kids and the other things that are important for me. We are fortunate to have enough money, what they needed was more of me and now they have it. I haven’t regretted it for a single second.
@@shanghaiffgg Congratulations! Yes, very identical. Minus the money on my side ;) I won’t be able to retire anytime soon living in NYC. But I’m lucky because I love the work I do. Just never for someone else again.
@@therealcybertronwarriors I came to realise that all the things I value these days don’t involve money; like time, choosing how you spend that time, peace and quiet to read and think, doing day to day things with my family. Actually there are no material things i really crave or even want really. It’s like craving icons of success was a by product of the corporate race.
My wife and I set up our own company to stay busy and we wanted to do something together but it’s online and we can’t do from anywhere and put in as many or as few hours as we like.
People might read this and think “well it’s easy to say if you have money”. My point is that if you make certain changes in your life you may come to realise that you need a lot less than you thought when you were in the fire.
“Let yourself be happy…Be true to yourself…Be kind” ❤
My end is near. I suffer from cancer. 100% truth in this video.
Sun on your face today
The end is just a new beginning. We all shine on.
It will come to all,Do you feel peace within?
@@chris25979 My illness has opened my inner eyes. When one is down, he/she can really see who is really their family or friend. I am looking forward towards my end. I just pray is painless and peaceful.
"30 And brought them out, and said, Sirs, what must I do to be saved?
31 And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house. "......Book of Acts 16:30-31, The Bible.
54 years of hard work because that is what I was taught to do. One day while having a discussion with my daughter she snapped at me "you were never around" it hurt me to my core. Work related health issues now pIague me and it is hard to do the things I thought I would do once I did retire. Friends, please, as the oId saying goes "Stop and SmeII the Roses" for it aII goes by much too fast.
"it is hard to do the things i thought i would do once i did retire." - thanks for your honesty and i've seen this far too often. i vowed in my 30s i wouldn't wait to do things... tomorrow isn't guaranteed. my bucket list now is very short.
It is at least as easy to judge a god provider for not being around as it is to judge some who "is around" for not being a good provider. As a man, you really can't win on this one.
You like all of us are brainwashed from a young age to be worker bees. To earn lots of money to buy shit we don't need. To go into debt for 30 years to pay 500k for a plywood box to live in.
I'm a hospice RN, this life advice is wonderful. Thank you Jean.
It's all about balance. There's nothing wrong with working hard and making money but you have to balance that with friends and family. It's just as heartbreaking to see someone in their 60s, 70s, and 80s who didn't prepare for the golden years because they didn't work and save enough.
I prepared and saved.
Medical bills are going to my Dr's Golden Years.
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@@ukulelebutterfly ❤️ Our health is such a precious thing. Best wishes to you with your health issues.
At age 80, how much money does one need to live in USA and get health care?
So many live their lives for their retirement and yet, never reach that age, unfortunately. That was the case of my dad who died at 51. I definitely agree with your outlook on life.
i'm so sorry to hear about your dad :(
This is me, exactly now. I need to be happier now, I have a lot to be happy for and less grumpy. I needed to see this, thank you :)
Same for my dad that died at 52 last year 😭
Silly way to throw away you life.
Where do you think your taxes go?
To service, never repay, the national debt which was printed out of thin air.
The US can't pay its welfare bill.
Stop working.
Stop paying taxes
Wake-up, ffs.
@@celestialblissfulness So sorry for your loss. I have a feeling I know why that happened. So many people in the past two years did something so they wouldn't lose their jobs. There are other jobs in the Universe. You can create your own job if need be. Your life is priceless. People get very triggered by the thought of losing their paycheck. But we have to transcend that because changes are happening.
It feels a lot better knowing that there are people who are eager to continue to improve while keeping in mind that being perfect isn’t the goal. Creating my TH-cam channel about self development was not easy to start. It took me years for contemplating before I finally did it and I’m glad I did.
Thank you for saying so beautifully the conclusions that I have come to in my own life!!! I am 69 years old and wish that I had this wisdom at 20. Fortunately I began to figure these things out in my 50"s and it makes life so much better!!! I try and tell these things to everyone I talk to. especially young people.
i think very select few youngsters realise these things at 20! but the good thing is it's never too late lol :)
@JeanVoronkova
At 20 you have nothing to lose. Work your b*tt off if you have like $0 and living at home. Time is on your side. The life expectancy is not 20 years old. I’m 22 now can confirm people live longer than just 20.
@@linzhao2235 but time goes by fast. Realise that also. You'll fell older later on
I have had the precious privilege to care for the elderly in a nursing home & journeyed with 2 incredible women in their final days at home ~ this beautiful message aligns with what I heard & learned from these experiences. Thank you for sharing ❤.
Regrets:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself
2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings
4. I wish I'd stayed in touch with my friends
5. I wish I'd let myself be happier
Suggestions:
1. Let your loved ones know you love them
2. Open your Eyes to how you are loved
3. Take some risk
4. Stop killing yourself over "what should have been"
5. Be yourself
6. Participate not just observe
7. Be Kind
8. Take everything little less seriously.
I like #8
I am a Japanese living in Tokyo. Last year, at the age of 50, I made up my mind that I would never be employed again. I have no idea what I am going to do but what I am 100% sure is that I will never regret my decision. I don't want to follow the crowd and just want to stay true to myself. All I want to do is accomplish my freedom because life is shorter than you may think it is.
Don’t live for a societal contract and/or societal construct. Don’t try and control every single thing in your life. After I realized this, I truly started living and doing the things that made me whole. You’ll find that it’s ok to pause in your pursuit of happiness and just be happy!
very wise, thanks for sharing!
Married 38 years and now a widow as my beloved husband died from an operation almost 6 months ago. We were both blessed. He had no regrets and I don't either.
Agreed. I have never heard a dying person wish they had worked harder,played less. " I wish we had more time together"...the last words from a brother.😢😊
I fought in many wars many tours. I am now a Parkinson's and cancer patient and for what? Soo many regets so little time. I wish for a loving wife, and a little girl so much that I need to share
Thank you sir for your service ! Truly hope you get peace.can’t thank you enough with out you we would all be at danger ❤️
Brilliant Fantastic
My grandfather enjoyed working and worked to almost the last day of his life - raised seven children and all became professionals with 32 grandchildren. He started out as a child coalminer near the PA - WV State line.
I wish and hope that all people can find more happiness and fulfillment from life. I'm just saying it comes in different forms to different people.
Always give yourself grace and not be so hard on yourself. Think of your mistakes as lessons. Don’t live in the past and hold grudges. They are more harmful to you and your mental health. Remember the good times but don’t live in the past. Live in the present and look forward to the future. There are things I wish I could have done but having lived with an autoimmune disease for 43 years I’ve accepted the fact that I have had limitations. There is no point dwelling over things you have no power over. These are just some of the things I have learned in my 60 years.
Thank u so, so much. "Live in the present and look forward to the future. " "... no point dwelling over things you have no power over." I have made note of what u said.
Well said.
This is very much needed to be said today in today’s fast paced world. No hateful message no argument no contempt. We all experienced loss of loved ones this year, and moving forward it’s not lost on me that we only have a small time with the ones we care about. Money shouldn’t be the only driver in the choices of everyday decisions. A more perfect union and balance. Seems natural. My grandmother lived to the age of 97. Her advice to me was “ Do what makes you happy The rest will work itself out”
I worked hard labor jobs since I was 16 years old. Now as I reflect the money I made wasn’t worth the pain I experience now. The only thing that I can hold onto is that my kids were raised being loved and protected. Reflecting now on that period brings happiness and satisfaction. The last half of my life I plan on personal awareness and health
Excellent share. So glad I've done all these.
I couldn’t picture what I’d be after 35 when I was young, worked hard all my life accomplishing everything I wanted to do, retired at 53 to do things I’ve never done and am presently doing just that. I cleaned up my diet, stayed fit all throughout life and can do most of the athletic things I wanna do. I’ve gotta say it’s all the relationships I’ve never had that are my glaring short fall, having said that that has not stopped from living.
sounds like a good life - happy for you!
Wow...
This is so true
I have been a caregiver for hospice for 15 years.
I just lost my dad last week. He never truly knew love in this lifetime. He lived in a horrific relationship with my mother for so many years and my siblings and I could never understand why. Im happy that he will be in peace and receive the love he never had.
Blessings on your journey dad. 🙏💖🕊
hi Deanna, thanks for sharing something so personal to you and i'm so sorry about your dad..... i'm sure he's in a happy place now
“The past is but a memory and the future just a dream; only the present is real.”
― Frank Karkota
So true. Of all my family and friends that I was with in their final days, the one thing they all had in common was... They regretted the things they didn't do... Those paths not walked or even tried. It was never something they did, it was always something they had not done. I keep those kernels of wisdom alive in my being every day and make sure I die with little to no regrets.
That's not really the answer, though. There's no outer "thing" that gives us happiness, which is really just peace of mind and acceptance. Those people who regret what they didn't do? They could easily be A-Types that were overly ambitious to begin with. So those types never have peace of mind anyway. They're always striving because the ego is insatiable.
I recently changed to day shift schedule despite being a naturally nocturnal person because I was sleeping on my days off, tired most of the time and struggling to be present in my loved ones lives let alone my own life. The best change I’ve made. You’ll never be ready for change, but change is usually necessary to fully live.
You have a sweet and clear voice to which I like listening very much . Thanks Jean❤️❤️❤️
Work is a reward in itself. People who work because of the money will not be happy. I love my job. I love being able to contribute as much to society as I possible could in my lifetime. People who want to work a lot and work hard are winners. I don't understand why people say they wish they didn't work hard. Work is fun and you contribute to society through your work. It's nobel, it's your identity because when people describe who they are they often reference what they do for work. Work is good.
I think you literally missed the whole point of this video! Work is NEVER meant to be your identity! If that's how you really feel, then great but the majority of people do not feel that way. Yes it can be fun, enjoyable for some even but mostly it's a means to an end, especially these days. You're in the minority I'm afraid.
Trading your time for money is not the wisest thing to do.Suppose you diagnosed with a life threatening illness,and only few days to live,you still go to work or trying to do most important things in life
Thanks for making me cry.. spot on
Losing my dad during the lockdown was a real eye opener. It made me realize that life is short and triggered something in me that resulted in a drowning depression. It took a long time to understand that life is short and to do the best we can do while living it. It made me face my own morality which after losing my dad, opened up another reality for me. I now try to live my life as if it is the last. Thank you for this video and putting everything in perspective for me and everyone.
Good luck buddy and sorry for your loss. Lost my dad recently and everything you said is exactly how I feel. God bless.
@@marcolorenzo5369thank you for your kind words. Dad would have wanted us to live a great life. I promised him that I would watch over my mom and grandma. I don’t think I can ever get over losing him. I am sorry for your loss and wish you the best. Bless you and your family. Take care!
God bless you for sharing this video. It’s very powerful & impactful. I’m very appreciative 😊
Your videos are always so thoughtful. I had an experience when I was 25 sitting with a father whose 27 year old son (I was a chaplain intern) had a cranial aneurysm and died within 45 minutes. He was healthy, worked in the gym/health-food industry and no one knew his life was going to be so short. Humans lived thousands of years without money, banks, insurance and hospitals. Balance is key for all aspects of life. Prepare for tomorrow but live today. We will all die one day, as you live prepare for that also. Love, learn something new, engage life everyday.
This is one of those videos which every person should watch no matter what age, (especially when they are young adults). Thank you
I'm 65 and Still Alive!
I came close to death more than once. My last hospital visit, Hospice came to wheel me away.
I have an extremely powerful voice. The whole hospital heard how I felt about that.
My only regret was working so hard that it made me ill and others rich. I'm as poor as can be now but content with inner peace. I choose to worship God over money.
I'm still walking the earth 🌎!!!
Nice video. Thanks for sharing. ✌️❤️
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Amen to that!
To worship God over money.... best decision ever !!
Just like Jesus said “for what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his own soul”
I am 70 years old. I’ve been diagnosed with Parkinson’s Disease.
I am smart and sensitive.
I learned an enormous amount since the diagnosis - I figured $hit out. I am at peace.
Since my most profound learning occurred at age 68, I’m hard-pressed to take advice from a 38 year old - even a rich, beautiful, worldly 38 year old.
Rare is the young person who REALLY understands that their days are numbered.
I stumbled upon one of your videos yesterday and have been reeled in, like a prizewinning Marlin.
The main thing I can learn from you is about acquiring wealth and the trade offs. I don’t intend to learn “values” from you - which is impossible anyways.
I agree with you I came to that realization fortunately about 15 years ago when I went in for surgery I was working 10 hour days eight days a week and after that, I stopped doing it. I didn’t need the money anyway and you’re absolutely right I open the last communication as wide as I could. I have always lived in a very transient world. All my friends come and go. Some of my friends died in Vietnam. I’m now outliving my doctors, and some of the other people that have always worked with me. They’re always amazed that I remember their name that’s what makes it hard, we still gotta pay the bills and people move around
A week has 7 days 😊
Outlived drs ?? Arrogancev but you aint outliving death knucklehead !!
So Beautiful !🌷
Working hard to make money for no reason other than to make more than you need is something to regret, working hard in order to help others is the most rewarding thing a person can do. No selfish person actually likes what themselves and is never happy with what they have. As a person who has worked and produced more than most people do in a lifetime, I have now spent the last few years doing for others while being content with nothing more than what I actually need.
It’s usually so you don’t have to work so hard later on, like so you can live without working later. Usually having a big bank account relieves the stress of worrying about money if you get fired or laid off. I always save money so when I’m not working I’m not freaking out. As well at some point people have to stop working and live exclusively off saving, i.e., retirement, so yeah in life we all sacrifice some living today so we can do more living in the future, and some of the living we do now is because we sacrificed some living in the past, like when we go on vacay or take time off work.
Good video and good lessons. You've touched up on some very important points that people need to realize.
Your video truly touches my heart ❤I remember a saying of Mahatma Gandhi "Learn as if you were to live forever, live as if you were to die tomorrow". I always keep learning something new everyday and try to live life to its fullest.
We are a 6 figure income couple and had very little saved and not much cash lying around the preverbal".
'...don't have $500 for an
emergency" that was us. The big thing was debt all kinds of it, cars mortgage (although our home isn't a high price one), student loans for our kids, and of course credit cards.
One day we just got sick of being broke and went total scorched earth and became frugal overnight. Paid it all off, it took almost 5 years but now we have no debt and this year our savings rate is 50% on basically the same income that had us perpetually broke. So for us it is mainly staying out of debt and watching our spending, at first it was a real effort to save in our HISA and 401Ks but now it's actually fun watching our money grow. No car or vacation or neighborhood is worth being broke or financially unstable.
Congratulations on taking the steps necessary to get yourself out of the financial bind you were in.
Taking your medicine can be tough. But in the end, if you are committed, you will end up in a very satisfactory position.
It's all about what you're willing to do.
Your financial journey is truly inspiring, and I'm currently striving to achieve the goals you've reached. Could you please share some tips to help others learn and navigate their own paths to financial success? Your insights would be invaluable.
Samuel Peter Descovich that's whom I work with
I believe everyone could benefit from having a personal financial advisor. They can assist you in reaching your customized financial objectives at any point, ensuring you remain profitable.
VERY WELL DONE JEAN. I am speechless.
Very Nice. Keep doing that great work.
Reminds me of a lesson I learnt many moons ago. “No one on their death bed wish they spent more time at work.” The story is yours and you need to start writing it and living it now. Start by Imagining yourself at your 50th,60th, 75th or 90th birthday party, now listen to all the speeches people are giving about you. What you have achieved, how you have helped them, what you’ve meant to them…. If you write your life’s plan down, it is proven you will be more successful to achieve what you truly want. Otherwise you’ll wake up one morning with regrets. I have gone back to my plan, I wrote long ago ( a few times) I have never rewritten it, and it always touches me to know I’m still on track, because the principles are strong and true.
Thank you for these profound reminders of what’s important in life. I’m so grateful for receiving such wisdom 🙏❤️
It's all about balance in life, a constantly changing, evolving, dynamic question. So many aspects of it at play, we learn & work on it throughout our lives.
very wise
Well said.
Excellent thoughts and number my #9. It's not a coincidence that i found your video today. We are all here for a reason.
One of the best ways of finding out what makes you feel the most fulfilled. Is to ask yourself if I only had one day left to live how would I spend it. And do more of that. I'm guessing for most of us that would be spending time with family and loved ones, being in nature / by water, flying... Something that makes you feel connected and present.
Good advice. I see too many people say do this then enjoy and never appreciate the moment.
thank you for this. Things we should already know but we don't live as if we do ! Thank you for bringing this whether as a reminder or a revelation.
it's never too late :)
Thank you for your thoughts. Your loved one is blessed to have you ln their life. Peace.
We sold everything we owned 4 years ago and now live in an rv and travel all over the USA and canada, we did it at 55 because we didnt know if we would make it to our 60s when we had originally planned to do it. Larry
Thanks Jean for taking the time to share the video. All those points spoke to me. That was beautiful🙂
When I hit 39 years old this year,I realised getting old is real and I will die one day too. When we are in our 20s, we seem eternal. Looking back, I wasted so much time in my 20s chasing ....nothing. The mindset of a 20 + person is really innocent . I now know that Life needs to have a purpose that is our own calling. Chase that purpose , and hopefully when we are on our death beds , we are not going to regret too much . ❤
Good for you. But it gets worse. In your 40s your body gets tired. In your 50s your body gets more tired and starts to break, along with that you realize your time is limited and this ride will end.
I'm 58. Heck, at 41 I was still invincible. I've learned that must chase your own purpose after this though. Nobody cares except to use you.
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@@TheRealSnakePlisken yeah actually at 39 I do feel my body wearing off. I get aches and stiffness and even knee joint pain which is crazy. Never thought I'd get affected.
Thankyou for reminding us of these most important things to be aware of today.
I have to say I agree with everything u say, and I have always lived the way u described. Retired at 45 moved to another country for a better way of life.
I really needed to hear this today; thank you very much for making this video 🙏
Thank you for this. Regrets are intrinsic to my life and been struggling with them for awhile. My wife sacrificed everything to maintain the monetary sense of security, literally working herself into an early grave. It's been hard freeing myself of that belief, as well. Which is also compounded by the sense of survivor's guilt - do I truly deserve to feel happy? Been taking small steps toward achieving some sense of peace. But definitely a long journey.
Thank you for the wise advice. I feel I’m happy and at peace with my life and friends but its always good to be reminded of whats important.
Don’t be sad she’s gone, be proud that she lived, life only has the meaning we give it, we are very much the same as nature, we come and go, ❤
Thank you for sharing! Your Genuine honest, thoughts are as expressive as the fabric of time itself.
When it happens, let it go. Forgiving others is the secret to a happy life.
Excellent video. Every young person needs to watch this. When you’re young, you always think you have more time. When you’re older, you realize what a foolish assumption that was.
That old sayings that you can't take it with you is absolutely true!! Time isn't money,--- it's your LIFE!!!
so true. Have you read the book Die with Zero? the premise makes so much sense lol
Right. Your life's memories will stay with you.
Very well said. Thank you for your heartfelt message.
😥😢 Ive never heard anyone dying say, "i wish i could work harder!". I always said, "if i worker harder, i get paid LESS!" Why fall into the trap that's put there by the 1% for you to work harder for them and their children to enjoy their lives on a yacht. You really don't need much to be free and happy!
Thank you for saying this. Too many people are too focused on success and money instead of having fun and living a carefree life.
“I wish I have the courage to express my feelings” - this is my struggle.
Acknowledgment of the issue is already the first step towards resolving it :) hang in there!
Thank you for your words of experience. I find all of them so true and have all them them when reflecting on my life. The dreams i had were never really fulfilled due to not standing up to what i had wanted. Just to keep peace with the people around me. Im in the winter of my life and full of regrets of what i could have been.❤️
Well, along this lines I can’t let this opportunity pass me by without saying - You are a gorgeous woman ☺️
I don’t have very many regrets, I’ve lived a pretty adventurous life and I’ve got the scars to prove it.
Beautiful advice. Watching the sunrise and set is one I enjoy a lot. It keeps me in tune with the solar cycle of life and costs nothing.
Lovely woman too!
As an investing enthusiast, I often wonder how top level investors are able to become millionaires off investing. . I’ve been sitting on over $545K equity from a home sale and I’m not sure where to go from here, is it a good time to buy into stocks or do I wait for another opportunity?
Yes, a good number of folks are raking in huge 6 figure gains in this downtrend, but such strategies are mostly successfully executed by folks with in depth market knowledge
How can I participate in this? I sincerely aspire to establish a secure financlal future and am eager to participate. Who is the driving force behind your success?
I just googled her and I'm really impressed with her credentials; I reached out to her since I need all the assistance I can get. I just scheduled a caII.
What you end up doing, you can't take a single penny with you when you leave this Earth. I have a feeling this video was completely lost on you...🤦♀️
Great sharing Jean, it reminded us to reflect on life instead of trapping always in the treadmill of work routine
I have always been a hard worker im 43 now and I have fibromyalgia I worked until exhaustion physically, mentally, emotionally. I worked full time demanding job in healthcare for over 20+years I have one child and I raised my daughter alone her father was murdered while I was pregnant with her so I also experienced a lot of trauma so eventually it took a toll on me.
@tanesha I am so sorry for what you've gone through. You are a strong woman. Hang in there. God will continue to give you the strength.
wow
@@girlygirl1890 thank you appreciate your kind words it gives me strength because sometimes I feel alone because of my circumstances, but I know that I have a whole tribe of people out there in the world that I never met that wish me well. God bless you 🙏💓
@@taneshabeverly6516 absolutely you DO have a tribe of people who are rooting for you and know that there is someone out there who cares. So, nope...you are not alone. Hey, I've never had Fibromyalgia but I can tell you that you can absolutely beat that. I KNOW you can. It takes a whoooole lot of discipline though and a whoooole lot of eating natural things that come out of the ground. (green leafy things. Spinach, Kale, Collards) You can also add in natural herbs to sprinkle on your veggies, which will help as well. There is so much information out there that you can do, you just have to be consistent with it and FORCE yourself to take in way more of the "good" in your body, than the bad. Look it up and please don't think you HAVE to have it, you do not. Remember...you are in control of your own health and don't let any Doctor tell you otherwise. You can beat it. People have done it and the Doctors will never tell you to go natural to overcome it. Good luck to you. God Bless you too.
Thanks Jean for sharing the points from a book. I enjoyed reading the comments shared from viewers. May I add that comments had an ethical aspect to adhere to. Please be grateful and most of all respect the influencer regardless. Thanks.
hi Richard thanks for the kind note 🌻 glad you enjoyed the general discussions. It's always interesting to see the different opinions expressed - the internet lets me meet a full gamut of people from all over... whereas in my real life in Singapore etc actually the kind of people i've met is quite a narrow range and of generally nice range lol. It's always eye opening.
I always have this concept of being completely financially independent since I started working, and still, but saw that many times I overworked with no need. Now, I am blocking my 12 days off I have, and working only 4 days a week. If I don't block, they schedule me to work 6 days a week. Crazy! That makes me realising as well, I was spending a lot on unnecessary things.
sounds like you're well on the right track :)
Thank you for this video. Something everyone should watch.
*A lot of people are taught that working defines them. Lining some self-important money-hoarder's pockets does not define you. 40 years of my life are permanently gone. I watch my kids and wife get old. I watch my friends and relatives pass away. Spending my life, slaving away, so that I can respect myself more is self-defeating. Instead, I work for a year, then take 3 months off. Sometimes I work 6 months and take off 6 months. Fo your homework and find a way. There are many.*
A beautiful message. Thank you for sharing.❤
35 years later and I still in touch with childhood friends, own my own business and see my parents everyday. I’ve always kept true to myself and I never wanted to followed anyone’s rules or built their dreams. I’m lucky I got to build my own. I thank the lord for that everyday.
Needed to read this
Love this video. It reminds me of how I need to get my life together before I really regret it.