What to do if you think someone is avoiding you
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ก.ย. 2024
- You should never keep approaching this person and barrage them with texts or emails, because then it makes you look desperate. Instead, ask him/her what it is that you said or did. And if she comes out and tells you, that is a good sign. That means she thinks the relationship is worth saving. At that point, you need to admit if you did something wrong and apologize. But if she denies there is anything wrong, it could be that the friendship/relationship is over in her mind. And that could have nothing to do with you. It could mean her life has changed and she wants to change her friends. You don't know. Just take a step back and distance yourself a little. Be friendly and polite, but that's it. The ball is in her court. Maybe three, six months down the road send an email, just to see how she is doing. And to keep the lines of communication open. Down the road, things could change, and she could look back at the situation objectively. But don't try too hard. It makes you look anxious and desperate. If the relationship is meant to be, it will be.
Marie Dubuque is a life coach who loves to give advice on everything from dating dilemmas and tricky social situations to drama-filled friendships and romantic relationships gone south!
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One thing I've noticed with everyone is that if you speak the Truth on ANY SUBJECT, they will shun and avoid you if they are fake. I say let em go. I refuse to compromise my Truth in favor of their phony existence.
Yup I noticed that, people are fickle, many people have a low self esteem and can’t handle the truth or feel that they are lesser than you. I can’t be everyone’s psychologist and dumb myself down to make others feel better about them selves.
@@rakhil1830 it sounds a bit like myself, I feel I have low self-esteem and I reckon people don’t wanna hurt my feelings, but sometimes I want people-to do it..
Sometimes l feel l do act phony to be honest, because I don’t want to hurt people.. or say what’s on my mind
Yes it happend to me yesterday
I met someone and it was so jolly
I told a little about my family and bf
And I can't even seem to see that person
This is what happend in little truth
I guess that person deserves to go
@@lukehart7225 I'm the same way and I've been guilty of that
I agree. It is best to lay low. I really believe people 'know' when they are avoiding you and are doing it for a reason. There is nothing you can do about it. You can't force someone to like and want to be around you. It hurts when you see the person you like show affection to others but are cold to you. That is even more proof to let it go because the cold-shoulder treatment will just get worst. Save yourself from further pain by cutting your losses and moving on.
I honeslty believe satan uses these people to insert daggers into your heart. I see no other reason for their evil behavior. The Bible says in the last days the "love of many will grow cold." Looks like we are here, folks. I can't even get my teenage daughter to show me respect.
teeahtate ouch
Ignoring me for months? Playing mind games while I'm trying to have an adult conversation? Understandable, have a nice life
MissGhost same
My brother has been doing this. He won't return my calls or texts, and walks away from me when I try to talk to him when we meet up in a store. If he doesn't want to talk like an adult about what I possibly could have done or said that pissed him off (actually I haven't seen him to even say anything), it is his problem, not mine. Im not going to keep playing these childish games.
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I wouldn't revisit the friendship. If they come back, I show them my middle finger, and walk away. You walk out on me, you're not allowed back in!
My godfather taught me people who want to come back in and out your life are untruct worthy. O dont give my trust to no one until the earned it.
I agree with you for the most part just not the part about the middle finger. Unless that person started something with you first, you had a very bad falling out that person, or that person did something so extremely bad to you there's no need for the middle finger it's very unnecessary and very uncalled for and it's also very immature especially if ghosting you is all that person did than there's really no need for the middle finger you might even maybe wanna give that person a chance to explain cuz you really don't know what they were going through at the time. Just try to act normal when you see that person like you don't know him/her cuz A STRANGER is really what him/her is to you now so treat them like one you wouldn't flip off a random stranger right? So if that person comes up to you and try to talk to you first talk to him/her like any random stranger no need to be rude no need to be friendly no need to be nice just be normal and just act accordingly and go with the flow but whatever you do DON'T TALK TO THEM FIRST! That person DOES NOT deserve your acknowledgement or sympathy even if you two happen to meet face to face ONLY TALK TO THAT PERSON IF THEY TALK TO YOU FIRST! Don't start a conversation with them or even ask them any questions like how are they doing or about their lives ONLY WAIT FOR THAT PERSON TO COME UP TO YOU AND TALK TO YOU FIRST AND YOU ANSWER ALL THAT PERSON'S QUESTIONS WITH ONLY 1-3 WORD ANSWERS THATS IT! After a while they'll get the hint so try to talk to them as least as possible then walk away(they'll know what's up) other than that just ignore that person and treat them like any random stranger on the street that you don't know even if that person offer you a hug or handshake(unless it's one of those fake f**k y** handshakes while you're look them straight in their eyes) DON'T ACCEPT IT! It doesn't matter who's there if there are other people around go talk to them just move on. Unless it was a really bad falling out you had with that person or something there is absolutely no need for the middle finger that's kinda strong and immature for someone that ghosted you. I know it really sucks cuz I've experienced it many times but unless you really have a good reason to produce the middle finger to that person you really don't know what that person was thinking or going through at that time.
"Once you feel you are avoided by someone never disturb them again" - Buddha
She is so selfish... I was there when she needed.. Now she's avoiding me..
i feel you bro
So... I'm not being paranoid, and insecure
Marilyn Bradley same
That's how.much education
Has dumbed us down
Give people the same energy they give you
So true- if they say “no Im not avoiding, deny deny deny” then I must not be that important.
Burn The Bridge And Rebuild Another .... With Someone Else.!!
Dragana, don't let this one person prevent you from being around your friends. They can choose their own friends...He doesn't need to do it for them. So, even when he is around, continue to talk to your pals and simply acknowledge his presence, nothing more. Say hi, be polite and continue talking to the people you like.
Thanks for the advice... I'm going through a really tough time with bullies
Marie Dubuque
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+Iftekhar Khan well were not earth to please men just ourselves and god . so deal.with it.
Marie Dubuque
O MY GOD , my brother 's wife is really avoiding me for no reason
She is just being like really mean to me .she is really hating on me
And I don't know what to do
Thanks for the advice. Great video and well said.
The person in my life who is purposely avoiding me has played this game before and I just don't care if I ever here from them again
It is good when childish and immature people avoid you. The only reason people invest and care is because of their own insecurity and fragile egos. Have self respect and standards for yourself. Don't let someone string you along.
Some people are avoiding you because they start to feel like they are in a better place in their life than you simple. Basically you don't have to do or say anything for them to avoid you.
i wouldn't recommend this strategy. you dont want them to start screaming in the work place like "LEAVE ME ALONE" and make you look like a stalker....especially if you are a guy. Just walk away guys.....no Major L
I agree 100%... There are just some situations that aren't worth trying and sometimes it's better just to walk away from some situations because you never know what kind of trouble it may lead you to.. The only difference is I'm a girl not a guy and I was hanging out with another girl but she was underage and still a preteen, I had no bad intentions, I just wanted to be friends but her dad was already skeptical in the beginning about me being around their daughter because I was alot older than her and her parents are very overprotective... The dad didn't seem to trust me very much but her mom didn't really have an issue with me until me and her daughter had an argument ... So, me and the girl I was friends with had an argument one day and after the argument, she was upset and her mom saw her upset and I was upset too.. The next day, I tried to apologize and she was acting really shady and avoiding me and made excuses and cancelled plans, and her mom was acting alittle bit shady too and they blocked my phone number... In situations like this, it's best to just walk away because you don't want them to accuse you of being a stalker or a kidnapper or something... Her dad already didn't seem to trust me in the first place and I should have listened to my gut and see the red flags but it's already too late.. I don't want to give that family anymore reasons for them not to trust me, so it's better that I just accept I may not get our friendship back again and move on, they clearly don't want anything to do with me so it's better just to walk away from situations like that
How to know if someone's hanging out with you out of pity?
Veledia its not pity its gor gossip
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keep your friends Close and your enemies Closer
Yes- you may not feel like it’s fair, and often it isnt, but you cant go wrong taking the high road. Great advice!
I wish my old crush could tell me how he feels about me so I can get closure. When he avoided me I thought he was shy but, as time goes by and looking at a lot of love lessons I realized that instead of waiting for an answer, I need to find it myself. Which gave me the conclusion that he might've ghosted me... 😞
Get another guy
I had this one online friend. We were close. But they have ghosted me off and on. They told me why and I forgave them for it. But they stopped talking to me all the sudden. It's been almost a year since we've spoken. I sent them a message a few months ago saying that I missed the friendship but respected if they didn't want to speak to me then promised that they won't hear from me again. It still hurts though. I wish it wouldn't. Making friends isn't easy for me but even with new friends who actually care about me, I can't shake off the pain. Why is this? My online friend wasn't the only person to do this either but a few other people so it piles up.
Because you are paying attention to them
You are paying for the debt you don't owe
Are the thinking about you
No
Then why should you think about them
Don't waste your energy and time on them
Give people the same energy they give you 💯
My friend is avoiding me right know
same
My best friend started doing this to me, but I know she hides facts that she hates anyone and I’ve had this feeling for ages that she hates me and last year I asked her if she hated me and she avoided the question. We go to the same school so I can truely tell she’s ignoring me. Especially when I’m crying and she just walks straight past me. And I know there’s no friendship at all but it’s so hard to let go and every time she ignores me it hurts like all hell and I don’t know what I did or why she just dropped me off and I only have 3 other friends that only really one spends time with me. Lately everything’s been hard especially with everything I’m fighting all at once.
Sorry for the dumb vent
Go mgtow bro
i know exactly what you are talking about and it has happened to me. I guess ive tried handling it by trying to ask them what it is but usually my family are pulling me back telling me to leave it and let it go because if you are going up to them and asking whats wrong it gives them more amunition to ignore you, hurt you and you are coming across as desperate and they have you right where they want you because you are also showing them your reaction too.
Say for example i do get this person on my own and i ask them generally and this is in my past they refuse to talk about it and im like if you have a problem its better to hash it out and get everything on the table but they dont wanna do that always because they want to keep it going. Do you grovel?? Do you challenge head on or turn the other cheek and act like it doesnt bother you??
It probably is because they are jealous of you and your natural ability to make everyone like you and they want to bring you down because they are so insecure about theirselves and if and wjen you react it shifts the attention of from themselves onto you
@Stevo I think I know why based on your message. It's a bit warped the reasoning but by the sounds of it it's like she chooses to say hi to you on her terms ( some people are like that) but the minute you go up to her do something differently she's probably thinking I don't like this, I approach people. I bet you any money if you walk by her again and you do not say anything to her she will try talking to you. She won't like being ignored. If this happens, please tell me if it does, but this is tactic called the push pull technique, some days she'll push you away from her other days she'll try and pull you back and slip into her own routine. I bet you she likes persuing alot more than she likes people approaching her.. she shouldn't do, not in a customer based job though!!!
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i think my friend is avoiding me:( I dont know what I did wrong
mine too ((
Nizam Novruzov Mines too haven't spoken to we haven't talked to each other since the new year's came in it hurts like fuck!!!
I notice people only like you if they see you have money.
So true !!! "They're not really interested in you, they're just interested in what you can do for them." ...from 'You Can You Will' by Joel Osteen - this audio book really says it like it is. I highly recommend it.
Not all
I also notice people only love you if you look like a super model
Family and friends ignore me and make excuses that they are busy ill or to tired to come round even ignore me in the street
I'm like so scared to tell them why they avoiding me
Same
That’s me since this comment was two years ago
well if i ask why theyre avoiding me they just avoid the question and get away from me ;(
You don't have to tell them anything, is not good to care too much sometimes specially when they don't care about you
Once I knew I purposely annoyed them to death
My sister was avoiding me for a few years until we became estranged. When I first saw her pulling away I was devastated. After that, I accepted it. Now it's been years since then and I have moved on with my life. If she tried to reach out for me, I wouldn't want to make amends with her. Once someone shows me that they don't like or value me, I lose my feelings for them and just move on with my life. Not everybody is going to like you.
So I was hanging out with a girl who was alittle younger than me and Her parents are overprotective of this girl I became friends with and her dad was already skeptical about me because I'm alittle bit older than his daughter... The girl and I are both females, I had no bad intentions to hurt her or anything, all I was looking for was a friendship and she was the only friend I had... We were friends for alittle while... But then all of a sudden, me and the girl had an argument, it was both of our faults but I will admit I did say some things I shouldn't have said... But after the argument, she started avoiding me.... And she was acting really secretive and shady with me... I tried apologizing to her, she used to text me long paragraphs but after I apologized, she now only gives me short responses like "ok" or "fine" and I remember I tried coming to her house one day to apologize in person and she immediately told me over the phone and lied to me and told me she was not at home, she was in school... Even though i saw her parents car outside and she told me she goes to school at 9am.. it was around 7am when I knocked on the door.. and I thought she was not allowed to have phones at school and after I knocked on her door, she immediately called me from her phone and told me she was at school... And everytime I asked her if we could hang out, she would cancel plans with me... We used to hang out all the time but ever since the argument, she would barely text me and cancel plans and about a month ago, she blocked my number just out of the blue ..
At this point, I'm not going to beg anymore or try to put in the effort in our friendship anymore because it's only going to make me look desperate and they can easily accuse me of harrassment... Especially because I'm older than this girl and her parents are overprotective of her... I'm not even going to try anymore and I don't think her dad really liked me that much to begin with, so I give up... I guess there are some people who just aren't worth holding onto maybe me and this girl are not meant to be friends...
Guess its time to move on... Tq for your advices❤️
Marie thank you so much for all your advice, you help me alot in life in past 8months
Life is good :) hugs for you
The way I see it... don’t contact them... it’s their loss....... but they will always come back when they need you and you can smile.. be polite ... but don’t go back
Someone that’s my “friend” is avoiding me but she expect when her friend is away or something she comes me me and my friend and Hangs out with me... it doesn’t make sense....
What If They Respond With An Insult Like "I'm Avoiding You Because You're Broke & I Don't Like Broke People." ?
I did Already I even apologized and they're still being cold towards me it hurts me so much
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Marie... I love your videos! There very educational! My question is... What is the female that's been avoiding and ignoring me tells me the reason is her and not me? She says she's trying to figure things out in life and trying to make a better life for herself. Also she said she's trying to figure out how to have a healthy friendship with me, but she's been avoiding and ignoring me for about 2 months on and off. The weird the is she contacted me out of the blue about 2 months ago to tell me she broke up with her boyfriend the day after it happened. I just told her I feel like she did the right thing and that they just weren't meant to be. I was trying my best to comfort her, but not hit on her in anyway. I only want to be friends with her. We've been friends for many years. Anyways... The day after she contacted me and told me she broke up with her boyfriend she suddenly began to avoid and ignore me again. That's the reason we weren't speaking months before she contacted me. Because she randomly does this to me and always says is just her. I just don't know what to believe anymore or what to do anymore. Because she's playing with my mind and my heart and it's just too much.
Glad I had the right idea about this. Thanks for confirming and adding some bits of advice.
Question 🙋. I had a friendship over the last few years. I have gone to parties she's hosted, Bible studies, and when she had surgery I stayed with her one afternoon. However, I would not consider that I did too much for her. I started noticing that she treated me slightly different from other friends. She seemed uninterested in my new hobbies, and she was unable to help with two of my requests. I do not have many. So, I changed her priority and distanced myself slightly. After some time I invited her to tea at my home. I scheduled weeks on advance and made homemade rolls, which she had once done for me. The day before I had not heard from her so I sent a text. She replied back that the rolls sounded awesome but shed had been helpibg with the school book fare all day and they were desperate for help tomorrow and wanted me to reschedule for the next week no apologies. I felt this rude. I waited to respond and she texted again wanting to know if rescheduling was okay because she just had to let the school know. I responded no that day is out. She say okay just let me know when and I just dropped it there. I wasn't going to waste my time. It's been months and I have seen her around. I say hi and leave it there. Now, she is avoiding me. Is this going to remain awkward? What is the next step?
I would not waste another second on that worthless, self centered narcissist. They are unworthy of your time or effort.
I feel u.. If u have let her know & she doesn't care, forgive her & move on..
Forgive her for your own sake and piece of mind and open up your life to new friends. No one is perfect and none of us are mind readers so if something isn't working best to be gentle and try to resolve it and if it doesn't work move on. Be happy. Do more things that give you calm. Happiness and peace during this process :)
When some people you know avoid eye contact, it is crystal clear they ignore you, you don't value you. Best thing to do is avoid them as much as possible, too. If they appreciate you, they look at you and talk. Otherwise they will keep this nasty behavior and it hurts you.
Hi Marie, this happened to me in November 2015 at an event at my school. She used to be my friend, nice, and sweet. Then, she acted like I wasn't there.
Joseph Jacobshagen
because she is beautiful
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Stupid answer of you again Iftekhar Khan!! Stop trolling ppl with stupid answers. Every answer you give to ppl here is just ridiculous.
Let them go. Don't let them back in. There are too many people out here to worry about one person who wants to avoid you. Buh-bye 😊
He avoids me for no reason, we are not even close to each other and I never made an obvious move about my feelings. I just treated him as others but he seems like avoiding me.
sarah Song
He is avoiding you because you don't wear Clinique Make up
@@SuperPoshposh
What kind of stupid answer is that Iftekhar Khan...????
Dear , you are so relatable. I’m starting to talk to someone I hadn’t had a conversation with since 7th grade. ( I’m in 10 th now )
Its happening a lot, but tkyu for the advice... i'll know better now.
I love this channel she gives great advice ❤️
What about when your with someone 7 years and they avoid you constantly? You even live together they avoid you constantly.
They stay gone constantly. You pay their bills but they won’t help themselves. Your one paying all the bills , your the one putting gas in the car their taking off staying gone 8-12 hours at so called friends or families house . You complain they say then come . Then next time you ask to go they make excuses?
@@williamgriffith3997
You must stop paying their bills.
I don't know if u speak of a relation or of a friendship or what it is. You need to ask experts.
(Sometimes psychics.. tarotreaders... Mediums etc can give answers)
Anyway it's not a healthy situation. My spontanious answer would be: You should move or they should move if it's your appartement/home. But I'm not an expert on this. Just an opinion.
@@williamgriffith3997
This has happened to me too. With my exhusband. He did exactly that. But I stayed with him "only" 3 years. Well he was nice too... And very charming etc. But did not want to do anything. Not work or anything. Just go to discos and partys...(alone)
If someone ingores me i also ignore the person
thanks marie whit out you i don't know what will i do
What if they avoiding you on Facebook answering everyone comments except me ignoring mine
there was someone... we were best friend for about 10 years. now he avoids me. i know i haven't done anything wrong but it sucks, you know...
It is a excellent video. I wait for this video in long time.
My best female friend has suddenly ghosted me. Inexplicably. I have no idea why. I asked her if we were okay, and I was mystified to receive an angry message saying that she wasn't talking to anyone and that it had nothing to do with me and that she was annoyed that I would even think it had something to with me. I messaged handful of times after that just to make chit-chat, but her tone was not as friendly, and the last two messages she didn't reply at all. Right before she changed she had been messaging me everyday, sometimes a hundreds of messages in a day. Her last friendly message she was saying she wanted me to meet her mother and how much she was sure her mother would like me. I could even say that our friendship had reached an all time high and then fell off a cliff. It is so strange to me.
My friend is a fun person, but she has some issues. She is prone to anxiety and depression. So it might have something to do with that. But she is still talking to our mutual friends.
I am going to give her space. But while I feel confused and hurt by this, I would forgive her instantly if she wanted to be friends again
I guess time to wave goodbye brother...... We had our moments bitter sweet memories... From age of 12 to 20........tsk even though we had same goals... Well I guess every good things comes to end.... Sayonara
In quarintine I only have my family. I tried texting one of my friends but they eventually abandoned me. I then started texting a friend of 7 years. He was nice at first but then he made an excuse to not see me: "I need to sort out my sleep schedule" is what he texted me. I have never felt so useless in my life. The boy before (joe) made excuses up everyday to the point that he never texted me. The last thing I have ever needed was this. Especially since I helped both of these boys out of very sad times. I guess they don't want to do the same...
@@eveljnaa I have a dog too😊 we don't deserve such loving creatures😇🙏
I get this all the time, when I go out, neighbour avoid me,they make rude comments, because someone,has spread lies.everyday ,bus train,go to shops in the area I live in.don't no what to do.thinking of move away,
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I know that feeling...
Exactly what happened to me at my last place I lived at. It was horrible....
I don't know what to do. I think maybe consult a psychic, medium, healer or tarot reader could help. A good one. Sometimes they see things. (Just a suggestion)
hi..my problem these days is little similar..my only friend in office is acting wierd..normal with everyone els n when it comes to me I felt the bond that we share had gone.Things have changed.N seriously I had apologized without even knowing my fault n I know there is nothing I did wrong to him.I have tried everything that I can to get things normal like before but it doesn't work.So now I try to act normal but every time something happens I felt hurt n think why he is doing this to me without any reason.I had tried to stop thinking about all this mess again n again but every time I look at him I felt upset n hurt somewhere.n moreover I am a person who is emotional n gets hurts easily n don't frget things easily.Everything is just stick to my mind n even distracting n disturbing me all the time.
Plz say something how to deal with it bcz its really difficult to fake that I m okay with it.
Isnam Hussain
Date other men
Isnam Hussain
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Marie, I need some advice. I mostly hang out with this group of people in school. Mostly, there's 3 of them and we're great friends and we have lots of fun, but then one person comes in and kinda excludes me from that group. I personally have nothing against him (except for this one thing) but it seems that he doesn't like me and the fact that I'm becoming really close to those 3 people. What should I do? Should I stop hanging out with those people because of him (because I know that he means more to them than I do)?
Like the way she looks when she finishes talking on the video ,,
its family for me tbh
I like all your videos.
Marie, do you have video that talks about people who do/say wrong things, they don't apologize for it, and NEVER DO. And it is hard for them to admit that they are wrong when they KNOW their in the wrong.? How should I deal with someone like this? I love watching your videos, so thank you!
Hi, is this even applicable if you are living in the same place? Cause it is hard not to notice that he/they are avoiding you. I’ve already confronted one of them and he said i did nothing wrong. What can I do? He was like my best friend before, now, he won’t even talk to me and when I ask something he just answers with 1 or 2 words. Can you please help cause it is getting harder to breathe and my chest feels really tight.
VERY GOOD ADVICE!!!
Thank you for your advise.
A person in my class annoys everyone the most it annoys me the most and will never be friends again with him he laughed at me when I died.
thank you am really thankful for your help.
hi i just wanted to ask that i have this partner and she is a freind of mine and things are good, and now she is my partner for this big project. so all I said is please have your part done and I will have my part done and she was saying something that wasn't correct for the project and I simply said that no its this, and now today shes just avoiding me, i asked her if we are good and she said yeah yeah sure but in a way like no its not, and she is avoiding me and just not talking. I said sorry to her already like im sorry im being so pushy about this project it's just this is huge and she is leaving soon to another country too so I said I'm just stressed and she didn't respond either, I don't know what to do. She is generally a rude person but she was never to me and now that we have this project i want things to go back to normal so we can finsih it but she's just avoiding me. what should I do?
So true. ♡
I do feel one of my friends is avoiding me. We use to talk regular and now it seems I call and text her once in a while. She will respond way later and say she has a lot going on. Which is probably true but so do I. I feel if I've done something she should tell me so we can talk it out. But if it's petty she probably thinks it will chase me off which it may. But too me even if I did something not talking to me about it and avoiding me and just telling me your busy...it's her not being a good friend. I don't need friends like that. I will forgive her but our friendship won't be the same for me.
My cousin and are supposed to be really close. But in the past few months she has not tried to make any plans whatsoever to spend some time with me,and every time I try to spend time with her she says she has plans with her friends! But yet when I have plans she suddenly free to hang out with me. And this makes me very frustrated. But I am afraid to confront her about this situation. I am afraid she will get mad at me and accuse me of being jealous what should I do.
Do you mean I should at least try to clear things up with this person before moving on?
Howl, yes, if you are dealing with a rational person. That is not always the case. And sometimes you just need to move on.
This guy in my class avoids me he thinks that I like him when in fact I like his friend. What can I do?
Thank you, thank you.. & THANK YOU
Marie Dubuque I'm in a situation where my aunt is giving me the silent treatment because I don't want to work for her and she said that my mom wont support me at all so don't bother calling her for money. my aunt literary hates me she gossips horrible stuff about me and calls me names. she doesn't support me at all or talk to me at home unless she wants something from me or she needs something from me she tries very hard to make me feel like if I'm 5 years old she makes me feel really depressed and angry. I feel like I want to cry and the type of silence she is giving me is the deadly one I have to keep being aware or always on guard because I don't know what is her plan or what she is up to. just because I don't want to do something for her she is not talking to me. and I'm a very sensitive person so its hard for me to get over the feelings I have right now. she knows that it will make me feel this way so she thinks its a good way to punish me. just because I don't want to work for her. And the reason why I don't want to work for her is because she treats me like shit all the time she doesn't even pay me and I work harder than everyone else. she made everyone turn against me in the house and she made everyone think I'm a horrible person.
Your "aunt" is a Malignant Narcissist. You need to go NO CONTACT with her and everyone she has contaminated with her demonic lies. See begood4000 and The Narcissistic Resistance, also Kim Wilson channels on this subject. These people are demonized and they inject every person they are around with their venom in order to destroy a target.
this hits home!
But why is that this is happening to me, I mean there is no reason for that, what did I just do?
I have similar situation, but the problem is we are in the middle of some projects. She, as a leader of our group. She kinda silent if i approach her, but not to the other. I also ask what am I doing to make her avoid me, and she just wave it of like it's not a problem and still ignore me. At one hand, if I'm ignore her i would left off from the group, but it's also painful if I act like it never happened, how can i fix this problem? I'm a man by the way
Hi Marie,
Sorry for the long comment but this is the best i could do and keep all the details.
I'm really shy/nervous and very rarely start conversations.
I like this girl from work and i'm wondering if she is flirting with me or just being nice. On our last shift together, she was asking me to throw something out for her and accidentally threw it at me and laughed for about 1 minute straight. (Some more information- I was behind the counter and when she was laughing she lent on the counter towards me, almost laying on the counter). While she was laughing, i replied "Or you could just throw it at me" and she laughed even harder. After that, she walked away because she needed to return to what she was doing. When she returned to the other part of the store i heard her say "I just accidentally threw some thing at *my name*" to another employee. About 5-10 minutes later when the store was empty again, she walked back to the counter where i work and said "I'm in a weird mood" while looking outside, then she turned to me and said "Do you miss working with me?". (This is not the first time she has asked me this and at the end of shifts when we work together she often asks me when are we working together next) I was unsure what to say because i didn't want to seem weird, so i kinda acted like i didn't hear it.(I look back now and think about how rude it was but i just didn't want to say yes and creep her out or something) She stood there for about 30 seconds - 1 minute looking outside waiting for an answer then walked away.
We only see each other at work but recently i saw here while i was out shopping with my mum, she was with her dad. When we walked past each other/ got closer to each other. She would either walk past me really fast/looked at her phone.
She has also bought me lunch/dinner 2-3 times and refuses to let me pay her back?
What does this mean? What should i say?
Please help
Thanks
Oh man oh man, the "ignoring her question while she stared outside" part was cooold :p
But still good that you realized it was kinda rude. Though I totally get the explanation, cause I used to avoid this one girl out of fear that she would find out I liked her :/. So, I know it's immensely hard, but now try to use your realization to your advantage. Find a way to tell her that you realize it kinda came off as rude, and thAt cannot be left unappreciated. But since I suspect talking is not an option :p then smile! , just collect all the courage and make eye contact and smile while passing by her.
She definitely seems like one of those interested in the quiet ones. Her approaching is the certain sign. But do you like her just because she gives you attention from time to time?
Or you genuinely see something in her that fits your needs. If you just like the attention, don't do anything about it, because if you do get close - just remeber those moments of her trying to converse with you => she won't have a problem with doing that with any other guy, cause she's the talkative one, so she'll easily switch to another guy, leaving you feeling just like that garbage bag she accidentally threw at you. All used up, for one and only purpose - piece of meat for when her private parts itch.
I don't know both of your age and all the details, so there's a strong chance I might be wrong - but that part where she ignores you outside the workplace -
seems like she has someone in the "outside" world, and doesn't want to be seen with you, so the reality might be that you're probably just her little secret workplace toy.
So keep an eye on that.
If however she is a genuinely sweet girl, and doesn't seem overly confident while talking to you, then forget what I said up there and smile at her :D
Johnny, she likes you! Talk to her. You have nothing to lose!
She looks great. And some house cats avoid me why me? Also, some people's shoes might hurt their feet.
The person who is avoiding me is a senior in high school and I'm a first year community college student. We both went to the same High School and I know where it is so I keep thinking of confronting her there and asking about the issue. But I don't go there anymore and I feel weird about going there just to ask here why she is avoiding me. Should I do this ?
Hi im having trouble with a friend and she avoids me she wont answer her phone and i don't know if I've done some think wrong. Always say hi to her and stood me up for a movie night. Im out of options
Hi Ms.
Marie Dubuque there's this girl I'm interested in when we look at each other I can see the fire in our eyes so I began to notice she was flirting with me trying to get my attention and I was avoiding her playing hard to get now that she has my undivided attention I decided to ask her for her number I had admitted to her I was nervous but she gave me her number anyway now I can't stop thinking about her everyday so today I came in to where she was when I walked in she got up didn't look at me at all and walked out and left I don't know if I did something wrong my guess is she was avoiding me and I text her 3days ago but no answer help I'm confused?
Montrell Williams she might have only given you her number to be polite. You don't know what is going on in her life. She could be getting back together with an ex, you don't know. So I would move on. And I know that is hard, but I know you will find someone better for you, and you will wonder what you ever saw in her.
Thank you much it's so hard but I can try maybe she was just playing with my head.
Hey Marie! I have a question. There's this girl that I'm interested in. She has told me that she has only wanted to be friends with me and I've already told her how I feel. This was during last school year. Near the end of summer, we had gone to a music camp together and then a school camp, and now it's school again. During that time i was picking up on certain cues that might indicate differently. So how can I tell if someone has changed their mind?
Hi Marie :) I also have a friend. We were so close last year but then this june, she started avoiding me. We are in the same group at school and I'm the only one she's avoiding and she doesn't even talk to me up until now. I wanted to ask her personally but her bestfriend doesn't want her talking to me. So I think they both don't like me anymore or something like that. So I just cry at night. I would really love to get our friendship back.
Mae, you don't need her. You can make new friends, and honestly, once you do, she will probably come crawling back. But at that point, you will have a whole new group of people to hang out with. Really hone your acquaintances. Get involved at school. Sports and clubs are a great way to meet new people.
Thank you for the wonderful advice marie :) Truly appreciated it :) Well I just hope we could be friends again.
Thank you for the wonderful advice marie :) Truly appreciated it :) Well I just hope we could be friends again.
Thank youuu so much! :) You're right.
From the first week, I just say hai and she never hai back. Usually she hai back to me but now she didn't until now.....
I don't know what mistake is..
She mean everything to me...
What should I do?😥😟😖
What do I do if my friend is mad at me 😔. I texted her but my texts aren’t delivering cause she probably blocked me. I really need help so please help 😭
Sashy Playz I'm sort of dealing with this situation as well.
Thank You!!!
Marie I feel like my crush is avoiding me he used to stare at me the longest time and I was too shy to look back and i would look other ways now I regret it! Im sooo sad now he wont even look at me! He would look down and talk to people and im very shy around my crushes and its impossible to talk to him. I used to talk to him all last year and i miss those days sooo much summer ruins everything I just want his attention what should I do? :'((((
I tried 3 times to talk with that person who avoids me, but he didn't reply...
He runs away, when I'm around him....
what to do now?
Hafiz Muhammad Arslan Bhatti gotta move on, you’ve probably already have since this was 5 months ago 😂
Marie can u tell me problems that your going to face during highschool if things will still be the same can u tell me also what not to do and what I should know.
I would like to have your email address or something like that as I need your advice
i have this one online friend on eq2 i met him on in a raid we become really great friends but then he started to avoid me all of sudden i dont know why he broke my hb when i was online when he was looking for a grp and we got a grp got up he joined then left then logged out i dont know what to do we promised to do 2.0 together but it seems like he doesnt wanna do it anymore
i dont know what to do what do i do? i felt like i did something wrong
Hi Marie I really like this guy I've only said a couple of words to, I can see him staring at me out of the corner of my eye sometimes and he also told a guy to back off one night when we were leaving from a club, was he just protecting a girl he thought was vulnerable? and do you think he's noticed me?
Sophia, he likes you! But just saying a few words is not going to cut it! He is clearly shy. I would talk to him a little more, and I bet if you do that, it will give him the confidence to approach you more.
Or you can be around them on purpose just to anoy them.
😂😂
U should write a book
I can’t say what I said that’s not good...💔
Iam moving on but idk what I did wrong
Same!!! So weird and sad
Hi :) I would really REALLY appreciate if you made a video about how to get into "the popular group" in school, and how to make friends with all the girls in the group. This is what has basically happend... So I have a friend at school that we shall call Tilly for reasons, and she has a group with about 6-7 members. I'm really good friends with "Tilly" but I don't really think that the other girls like me. I really want to be with them but I don't want to make it seem as desperate as it is.. The two other main girls of the group DEFIANTLY do not like me, but I really want to be friends with all of them.. Thanks! :)
What Marie would always say is be friends with one who is nice , bother about the ones who hate you the last
Hello Marie, My friend is not approaching me and he has a problem spending times with other friends but it's alright for him do spend time with his friends! Should I let him go?
Cameron, you could keep him on the back burner. Meaning he is still a friend while you meet other people and hone your acquaintances. He could realize that you have his back more than they do.
Thank you Marie! I will keep that in mind!