Dealing with friends who don't include you in plans and then brag about the fun they had
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- Do you have friends who say, "Oh, you won't like it..don't go." Or don't even include you, period. Then they call you up the next day and tell you how much fun they had. These people are doing this on purpose. So, how should you respond? Quietly make plans with other people and don't include them! Don't make it some kind of a game by calling them up and telling them how great the event was. No, you don't want to stoop to that level. But if they happen to hear about it, all the better. And ultimately, you really don't want anything to do with these types. They do not have your back, and you can't trust them.
Marie Dubuque is a life coach who loves to give advice on everything from dating dilemmas and drama-filled friendships to tricky social situations and rocky relationships!
So called friends: omg, you’re my friend!
*constantly ditches me and, makes plans with a group of people right in front of me*
Mystic Brush I know I’m late but mood
Mystic Brush just don’t be friends with them
So not nice.😥❤
Yes. My own brother and his wife did this. Disgusting.
What I’ve been dealing with for a month and a half now
I had "friends" do this to me too, it's pretty annoying and hurtful, its best to just distance yourself from them :'P
I am crying while watching this I feel so left out..like No one loves me
Ralica M hi..
Ralica M don’t say that! Everyone loves you!
i can be ur friend
Jesus Christ loves you!
Ralica M i love you
That is not a friend, rather an individual who is trying to inflict pain, avoid them. It is not your fault, they are simply revealing that they are a malicious hateful miserable person
You are right. Birds of a feature, flock together.❤
Break away from these type of people, they aren't proper friends.
But what if there the only “friends” you have?
@@gastly123 Much better to be alone than to have fake 'friends' IMO
@@TheHumbuckerboy how do you deal with being alone
@@iambatman786 I am not alone. I was referring to a situation where I believe that it is better to get away from fake 'friends' . I had known a time when I was involved with a family who were seeking to undermine me and to control me but it was something of a relief and freedom when I distanced myself from them and from their attempts at manipulation .
I have a friend who does this! She will call me and tell me how she went out with a group of friend (I was not invited). In the back of mind, I am thinking "Is she really naive and does not realize that this is rude or is she really trying to hurt me?" I think people who do this are very insecure and like to get attention and feel important. The fact that she has time to hang out with this group of so-called "friends" and not me, just speaks in volumes about her character. FAKE!!
Can you try to look at it in a more positive way. Your friend may not be trying to hurt you or be selfish. You don't have to have all of the same friends that your friends have. Just tell your friend you are happy that she had a great time.😊
Huh? She is not obligated to invite you everywhere. Cherish the friendship you have with her not compare it to her friendship with others, she can have other friends
I love hanging out with people one on one. I actually kinda hate groups now lol. I agree about not dealing with the politics of groups when you hangout with just one person. I feel like I get to know someone better on a personal level when it’s one on one.
yeah me too. group settings are different. people change personalities. best is one on one
I came here to watch this video today because my friends always make plans without me. They never tell me what’s going on, I don’t get treated fairly, especially from who I thought was my best friend/ brother. But I can tell now that there all just toxic friends who don’t care. It especially sucks too when you’ve been nothing but a great friend to the other person or people.
go to the gym and level up your financial status. that will be enough to make them jealous;))
Disappear on a holiday- but don’t tell them- take time to answer- like 48 hours.
Me to me: if you have toxic friends just find a new friend group
Also me: * doesn't even have a friend group to start with *
Do take the initiative and invite someone somewhere. There are kind, thoughtful people out there. I hope everything works out for you. Lots of love.❤
@@vernaharris4700 Thank you for that very sweet comment! :) this gives me motivation 😊❤️
my "friends" went out and hung out twice and didnt even invite me. I didnt know what to do and i felt like there was something wrong with me or like i'd done something. We were like a family and then one day they just completely shut me out. That was a month ago and they havent talked to me since. I didn't know why because it was so out of the blue. I would message them and try to start a conversation and they just wouldn't respond. This video helped me realize what I needed to do. thanks
Kaitlyn Shanti my so called friends also done the same....they planned a trip together and posted photos on Instagram...and after that they one of the friend also said we missed you...means you made plan without me and you miss me... and whenever I watch that photos they all are smiling and very happy... it was like that they don't need me.. though I am absent their it doesn't really matter to them...
I had this done to me for years with the ladies (other wives and girlfriends) of my husbands football team friends. After almost 20 years one of the ladies came to apologize to me and told me they were so jealous of me and wanted to be me. I was shocked! They hurt me so much that I just stopped going out to dinners with the group and would send my husband off alone with them. Looking back now. My husband is now an ex husband and he was SUCH A COWARD for not standing up for me. :(
My situation is different. Me and my childhood friend just grew apart since first had his first girlfriend in high school and started making new friends. He always has other plans to spend more time with his wife when I ask him if he wants to go hang out somewhere. I also don’t like inviting him to eat at anymore restaurants when I’m with my dad. My dad is too talkative and he won’t even let me say anything to my childhood friend.
Those fake friends are trash!! They don’t have the balls to say anything to you. Just drop you like a bad habit and gaslight you to make you feel crazy like you did something wrong to them! Horrible people 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️. Karma is a B and it will come back around to bite them in the ass! You don’t do good people wrong. It just is what it is!
@@virajharimkar7783 same.
I have had people do this to me my whole life. And I simply don't care anymore. And that's why I don't let people in anymore.
I keep people as aquaintences, and nothing more. Somebody wants to get know me, I always ask why? Cuz most people who ask about your personal life, how things are going, they're not doing it because they care, they're just doing it because they're hoping to get information, so it gives them something to gossip about.
That's why I don't let nobody in, cuz nearly everyone has a big mouth, and even if they don't they may just say something in passing and not even think about it, and accidently betray you.
I stumbled upon this on a forum for people with Aspergers Syndrome or ASD. I had the same thing happen to me in the 11th grade by others students who I was in special education with. Though they claimed to be my friend, they did all of the above. Anyway, I had learned about two terms for passive types of aggressive bullying.
A. Bullying by implication - These "Friends" not inviting you to do things with them and them boasting about with you it afterwards or making plans with other people in front of you, or even posting pictures on social media.
B. Bullying by omission, is where gossip and slander for the purpose of trying to destroy your reputation so they you don't have any friends.
Yes its hard to realize because we have to learn these things . its very sad
And when they find out you found a new scene, they will suddenly invite themselves along, hijack it, destroy it, then move on and u be back to square 1 lol :)
Oh lord I wouldn’t even tell them about it.
Yeah. Had this happen to me this year. So unfair.
and then ur other friends are annoyed with u that they even came
That’s when hands get thrown.
CherryCupcakeGirl, I would stick with your three nice friends. They are the ones who have your back...not the ones who ditched you. Let them go. You don't need them.
All the friends I ever had ditched me and is so hurtful to me I can't deal it
Hi
Thank you!! OMFG my friends went out and posted it on their snapchat! I don't know whether I'm jealous or not but I've been replaced with another person and I'm so upset 😰😭
Cassandra, it is OK! Don't let them know you are even bothered by this. They could have posted this new person deliberately. Sure, you can keep this friends, but distance yourself a little while you meet new people and cultivate new friendships. You can do it! You don't want to rely on one group of people anyway.
hi Cassandra, this has happened to me too. I have been replaced by someone else and they go down our local pub, do you know what, yes it is hurtful, but you can move on from these horrid friends. I came off Facebook, as i saw photos and statuses that were boasting boasting. The main ring leader is a drama queen, you don't need to be involved with these types of friends, they are no good! Honestly you are better off without them, you just do stuff that make you happy. keep busy, live your life and make new friends if you can. A lot of friends are selfish, let them get on with it, you don't need them in your life. if I can move on, you can too, good luck! :)
I am sure you can make new friends. I think they are jealous of you.
Jammy Jay they are jealous of you, because you are maturing enough to know what is good from bad.. !!! so honestly thats how is goes !! I would say fuck them and move on from the situation.
M:Lys Music I totally understand that what I am saying to her...
Had this happen to me twice. Usually they were seeking connections. Once they knew people I introduced them to, they forgot about me or talk to me less. I gotta be careful going forward. What helps me is I have different groups of friends so I don't have to feel ignored. If you're in the same situation, I suggest having different groups of friends as well - if they don't all know one another that's even better.
My friends (me and my two friends) they always make plans with each other and always tell me how fun it was but the never make plans with me. The last time I hung out with them was like 1 year ago and just today we were on Skype and they made sleepover plans in front of me and were talking on how fun it will be and they always reject my request to do stuff with them but they never invite me to do fun stuff. They are my only friends and they always ask to Skype with me but then I call and they are like " Oh sorry I'm with "friend #1" I cant talk. It bothers me so much! I just want to cry because they never include me I feel like they just want me out of the group but I'm way nicer then them and sometimes they just call me and are like together and then they are like partying and I just wish that I would have fun with them and then they are always like "I wish you were there" but they never invite/ask me to.
They are just trying to make you jealous next time they do that tell them off it worked with my friends and they actually admitted to doing it
Find better friends and then they come back to u believe me:/
It’s okay, I feel the same way. If they are purposely making you jealous and sad then they might not be your true friends.
I know I'm late for the party but dump those people they're not your friends don't Skype with them anymore they're doing that shit in front of you to hurt you why else would they make plans in front of you & not invite you?
@@laurenmichailidou1222 Those kind of friends are called frienemies and believe me, you do not want them coming back. Their toxic behavior may change for a little while but eventually they will just go back to trying to get their narcissistic fix.
Her: make plans with other people Me: I don’t have any other people 💀
U have me and I create art
Im in exactly the same position
Yeah. I find out I hang out by myself with my pets and I love it!!
I feel you brother
Man, I have friends like that. They said they’re one of my best friends but they don’t treat me like it. They constantly make plans and go out together without me, and then when I ask why I wasn’t invited, one of them, ( Not saying names), will say, “Oh, it was just for us three.” In fact, at this time, Jan. 3rd, 6:06 PM, they’re having a sleepover right now. They didn’t bother to tell me, and they lied about having it. They knew they were having it, so they lied to me. They also never hang out with me or talk to me. If I want to have a conversation with them, I have to go to them, they never talk to me. When I ask to be partners with them for a group project, they say, “It’s just the three of us, sorry. Maybe next time.” Next time has never came. The time I finally tell them how I’m feeling, they accuse me of making them feel “guilty”. So, Autumn, Christine, And Bella: thanks. Thanks for being *amazing* friends, and for *always* including me and *always* being there for me. :/
Sorry that sounded like I was venting, I’ve kept this bottled up for a long time.
Marie you do the kind of videos I need right now.
your so awesome Marie! It's like you know what I'm going through :]
Thank you Demetre, so glad I could help!
Very true. Good friends are ALWAYS good friends.
This reminds me of the situation I'm dealing with now with my brother .
He decided to cut me out of his life over a communication misunderstanding .During a family group text he purposely ignored me .I noticed recently how happy and cheerful he was with others during another group text that I decided not to participate in.Its as if he was trying to rub it in my face.
I flagged the group chat as spam so I wouldn't have to read anymore from him
My friend (not really anymore) just went to my other friends graduation party. They never invited me at all. I just saw all the fun they had without me. But this shouldn’t make me sad. I know now that I need new friends that care about me
I know it hurts now, but someday you will look back and realize this was the push you needed to make new friends. You can do it!
They are jealous of you because you are beautiful and get most of the attention . They won’t even get notice .
I have a best friend for 30 yrs, she went to dinner with all the girls but left me out more than once. This hurt me greatly because she’s the only friend I had and she knew it. I was the family scapegoat and went no contact so I just lost my whole family she knew that also.
My heart goes out to you. I have a similar situation. I decided to start raising my standards and love myself more so I choose alone over crap like that. I have had enough heart break!
This happened to me twice. When I make plans, I always invited them and No one will be left out then One day, I saw them planning on something, but they never even mentioned me on their plans, and I got upset and I talked to them. They said they thought I was busy but, on my mind, "why they don't try it?" like say something like "hey, are your goanna join us or are you busy at this day?". I gave them another chance and another day; I saw them again making plans without me. They even brag how fan their hangouts. I talked to them that I got irritated when I am with them, and I have to cut ties. Sometimes you have to let go a friend like this to have better one because if you continue being friends with them you will never find a real friend that will never forget you and you are hurting yourself when being them when they just 'need' you. Remember, someone like you deserves a real friend no need to feel bad for them. It's their choice not yours.
True dat! I honestly gave em three chances and they ended excluding me , replacing me and stuff and I like an idiot am still friendly to em
This does not only happen in same gender friendships. I have had male platonic friends act fake towards me and ditch me - as adults!
You just keep moving on. People like that don't matter...truth will set you free.
Sadly, I live with these folks and I am a shut in! However, I am getting better and able to walk more now! I will take your advice!
I don't hang out with people who "invite me to the party so I can see them ignoring me." LOL This is sort of the reverse of the same idea, "making sure someone hears that they have been left out." I don't call someone a friend who loves hurting me. I learned just recently there is a new saying; "frenemies", it sort of fits with our modern culture of rude people. I don't understand people who remain friends with someone who acts more like an enemy, makes no sense. I don't need a group, one or two friends is just fine with me. I am open to anyone and everyone except those who are in cliques.
Never listen to people's words. Always watch their actions. There is a reason for everything. They didn't tell you for a reason, they didn't invite you for a reason, and they are throwing it in your face for a reason. When they do this, they don't see you as a friend and they don't have the courage to tell you that they no longer see you as a friend. What does that say about their character? Just think about it.
I agree - i now can be a part of a group if and only if people can agree to disagree. I also still find one-on-one relationships to be more important and enjoyable. MY family is a great group and I enjoy my roommates and partner's roommate's/friends, but in the end I only need those who support me too.
People like that make villains and then the world brags about the villains ignoring the real villain
I just felt like I got the best advice from someone else's mother. ❤️
what to do when its your FAMILY? Neice invited EVERYONE to her wedding, shower- great aunts, 2nd cousins, immediate family- everyone but me. Then has the stones to throw said parties on the land where my garden is, so I couldnt even relieve the pain with distraction. Almost a year later and my mom especially likes to talk about how much fun it was, complete with a blown up pic of her dancing with the neice. Good to know they were so concerned about MY feelings. Im 62. This has been a lifelong thing.
And no, I did NOTHING to my neice EVER. She hasnt spoken a word to me since she was a teenager. My brother/ her father has never done one thing about his spoiled brat. The RUDENESS is off the hook
I have a friend who does this. I invited her to everything, even my birthday plans before covid happened. Her birthday she had drinks and told me about her plans on the day but didn't invite me. I think they do it for two reasons.... 1) to come across as popular and leaving you out makes you feel less popular than them or 2) They do it to gossip about you behind your back to others who know you.
I am facing this in my workplace.I feel like my two female colleagues are mistreating me and excluding me. Makes me go behind them for any help . Now they started to make plans with one of my newly joined colleague. I don't really say anything, I just sit and see what they do.makes me get hurt always.
I had a lifelong friend like that. The last time he tried that crap I didn't answer the phone. After numerous tries to get a hold of me he left a message saying to never call him again. Total narcissist that loves to get under people's skin and he had a total narcissistic breakdown because he could not engage me in this activity any longer. I was very glad to finally have him out of my life. I have been trying to get rid of this jackass for 30 years. It actually started a trend for me and I removed everyone in my life that was toxic or provided no value. Best thing I ever did. I do not have many friends now which proves how many toxic pieces of garbage walk this earth but the ones that I do have are top-shelf. Quality over quantity.
Happens to me all the time. This is why I want nothing to do with other people and totally hate and dispise people. I'm good enough when they want something off of me, however if I need anything, they aren't around. Even my family members have shut me out of their lives going around saying cruel and hurtful things sbout me, so I just go up into my room, close and lock my door and stay in my room away from them completely. What else and whare else can you go then.
My friends are worst than these people they discuss all the plans with me and get ready leave without me. Sometimes they don't tell where they are going but ask me how they are looking etc etc then sometimes they tell they are going out with a few of them but never ask me would you come. I have told them twice now that all these behaviour makes me feel left out and alone yet still they do it now I just cut them off I am alone with such type of friends anyway
As much as I respect what your saying, no one is worth that much thought.
*I have two friends (friend A and B) and the three of us are all supposed to be friends. Friend A contacted Friend B to go out and neither of them asked me along. I tried my best to casually insert myself since I know we are all friends so I didn't think it would be an issue. I spoke to Friend B about it and she basically told me in a very obnoxious way that because Friend A was the one who initiated the plan, it "wasn't her call". Of course, this is bs because she was 1/2 of the people involved and if she wanted to have me come along she could have made it happen. People just care about themselves sometimes*
you're tips are really elaborate and everything, but the problem is my school is very small. my genuine friends are also friends with my toxic friends, so i can never avoid them. i'm friends with everyone but the creeps and losers, and they hate me, so i can never go to them. i regret my decisions now and its mostly my fault i can never get out of my toxic friendships
I had so-called friends in high school who did that to me . They did it to me all the time . Realised they were jealous and I got deleted because I surpassed them in my career and life . They got mad at me for playing guitar better than them and deleted after I got accepted into a finals for a singing competition and got a fiancé . I don’t get it . They. Thought I was beneath them. And hated being proven otherwise .
Thank you so much for your help!
My friends excluded me from an occasion that we were going to go to altogether :(
If I don't feed their ego they totally ignore me.
Whole point is not to be their doormat. So if they ignore you, that meant this is your chance to have peace in your life. You don't need them. If you feel the need to do anything to get them to like you, they are taking advantage of you.
Back in high school, I was (still am) a very good soccer player (goalkeeper) and I was one of the best in the region. I had just moved and I didn't know that many people, so I went to the local football club and joined. People were pretty impressed and I made "friends" with the teammates, whenever there was a game or training I was the first person to be called. But then, they'd make plans to go to the pub, play pool and party right in front of me and not invite me but they'd ask point blank if I could make it next game. So, I got really mad at this and during gameday I turned off my phone and left the team. I had 43 missed calls ahahaha
They were obviously jealous of you
I was the friend who didn't include someone once... I realized I was much happier when she isn't around because she was kind of a self centered asshole and I had to play babysitter every time she was anywhere. Learning to push shitty people away saved my sanity during my adult years
Thanks Marie .you have helped me...your a pretty neat person.
Another great video. I just love & appreciate these videos so much! I hope you have a very happy new year, Marie!
There are many words I would use to describe these people…friends is not one of them!
It's simple. If they are doing these things, then they are not you're friends.
Love this channel & you Marie! You are brill and your advice is top notch. Thank you :)
Thank you, Boxy's, you made my day!
You're my fav life coach on yt! 😊
My friends never ever treat me this way... MY FAMILY DOES THIS... FOR 4 DECADES and counting
What’s hard is trying to make plans with other people, trying to make friends with other guys is hard and weird at times and ngl I struggle at getting women…. I’m very lonely nowadays
1 other people is often enough for me!😉
Awesome advice!💜
Give The Gift Of Your Absence to those Who do not Appreciate your Presence👍
But that does not work. They already want your absence which is why they leave you out.
@@cliffkelley6550 That's why it's a gift to them. Your gift to yourself is different friends.
That’s when you know they are not your friends
The people surrounding me all do this to me... I don’t want to drop my only friends though
What if everyone is like that like literally all the girls at my school do that
The problem is that my parents don’t really let me hang out with my friends from school, but they let me hang out with my best friends that aren’t from my school. I honestly don’t let it bother me, because the friends from my school have been told no from me soo many times that they stopped asking to make plans. Honestly i feel uncomfortable hanging out with my “group of friends” from school because we just aren’t that close. But i rather hang out with my best friends because its like I don’t even need to plan anything, I can just be myself around them.
What do I do about the type of person who one week wants everything too do with me and the next day acts like they don't even know me
My childhood bff didn't invite me to her birthday party last summer ! I was disappointed ! my mom and my sister was disappointed too.. the worst thing about it is that I helped her to painted the walls for her party but she didn't invite me ! It's was so disappointed how she asked me to help her but she didn't asked me to be there !
I’m dealing with that it feels like they saying haha about it like they are saying haha you missed out so they delayed me one time unless they are jealous of me I’m dealing with a group that puts me down like they don’t care about how I feel I was left out one night just because they stay away I feel turned against
Thank you! Just the tonic I needed.
My friends all got together and didn’t invite me :( I don’t know why and one of them even said “You feel left out?” In a laughing way
:( they’re my only friends I have.. I feel so lonely
Make new friends...you can do it! Their loss. You can do much better.
I been Mad at my class for a whole year 😭 They are talking behind my back.
J : -Whisper- Why don't you sit somewhere else. (I wanted to cry so much)
A group : Shh! she back. I was the only one in the hall, and walking in the class.
Help me! 😭
A close friend was invited to a birthday party.. not being invited or included, at first, hurt my feelings - the event was planned or was discussed months in advance. The party’s honoree was best friends with my late sister... being omitted or excluded isn’t the end of the world.. we are all past middle age now. There are three people who know me, and my close friend will be driving 600 miles to attend the party.. I will be in the same town and we also planned a beach vacation after the party( the honoree isn’t going with us to the beach)... this entire situation hurt the most when the birthday women or honoree told me that her two adult children had set up and planned the party... this woman emailed me “ we had to cut back on the number of invitations ... but IF someone cancels , I’ll pencil you in”... this was extremely rude and hurtful ... I assured her that I had alternate plans for that evening. My close friend did stand up for me, though. All of us, ironically, have known each other for years. Topping this off, my father in law, in the same town , died , and his memorial service is very soon... and all three plan to attend his service, which is the weekend before her birthday party! It’s good to know that I’m not the only person... and that this type of thing has happened to others. And I’m not in a “ clique “. Being omitted never feels good. Btw, the party lady is turning 80. The party ends at 9 pm in a public venue in virginia. My late sister went to college with this lady... which is why it was so hurtful. Se la vi.
That is horrible! I can totally understand how you feel hurt and betrayed. And the worst part is when she said, "I will pencil you in if someone cancels." What??!! Like this is some kind of dental appointment...Unbelievable. And she has a history with your late sister. This is what I would do. Since the awful birthday woman isn't going to the beach with you and your friends, go on the trip anyway! Have fun despite what she did. No way should this woman ruin your plans with your friends. So, while your friends are at the party, go to the spa. There should be one at the hotel. Then you will be all ready for the beach when they return. Whatever you do, do not allow this tactless woman to ruin your plans! And remember, this woman has a problem. Possibly she is jealous of you or intimidated by you...whatever, it is her issue, not yours. And it sounds like your other friends are ones to hold on to.
It’s very hurtful which is the point. I say that’s great you had a great time 👍leave it at that
2 of my friends did this and everyone would go to things without me without even realising I wasn’t there :( 1 of my friends said she wouldn’t go if I didn’t and she went anyway. She cancels plans with me all the time. Everyone does. I hate confrontation :( but I just want to cry because I feel like none of them like me anymore, it’s really upsetting cause we were all so close before :((
Hi, I feel like I don't have any friends, but I do. It's kinda like since my best friend left the country, all of my friends became fakes. It's like he connected us and now that he is gone, it's as if I had no friends left, and I'm falling into depression
Your best to not be involved emotionally too much with friends- there’s plenty more people around- if they aren’t nice people- I run a mile. Stuff them- life’s too short for dramas.
That's why I don't hang out with people like that.
Thankyou so much for your advise. I had one of those days with my close friend who excluded me from her plans. Now i know what to do.
Thank you for this!!
Whenever I'm at practice guys always comment to me if I say something wrong or 'stupid' when really I'm nervous when I talk to them. How can I relax and stop caring so much about what other think of me and finally be myself?
My bestfriend had a party and invited literally every single person I know and that entire school day nobody sat with me and everyone kept it a secret and I’m just like what kind of bitch friends do I have.
Ok, so I was invited along with another friend to go to a certain bar by somebody. I had recently been turned down by the other friend and they said because of me expressing my feelings for them they weren't sure if they would be comfortable hanging out with me unless it were in a group situation for a while due to their own issues with anxiety they admitted. I checked with them to see if it would be ok we met with our friend who had asked us out. They said sure that be fun! Tonight I saw on their status that they had gone to that bar with that friend WITHOUT ME!! And neither of them had double checked with me if I still wanted to go........ I'm really confused and hurt and just plain insulted. I feel this is definitely intentional exclusion on that other person's part. I can't believe I even fancied them in the first place. I just am so shocked by the lengths they would go through to appear like they still were friends with me only to go socialise with our friend and brag about it on social media. It just seems really weird and it just makes me really despise them. Rn I feel I must take this as a solid sign I must not reach out to them ever again. What hurts is I had hung out separately with our friend too but somewhere totally different and I had asked them if they wanted to tag along but they declined coz they were going to a concert that day. They must either be absolutely clueless and naive to think going to the bar we were both originally invited to without me was fair and acceptable... or they are genuinely messing with my head and playing mind games with me.
you are brilliant, thanks Marie
They post their fun online which hurts.
I've been going to this bible study group for friends for a while. So far its had. I can only go out if they say something in group chat as an open invitation. Really never get texts or calls. I go out of my way to do favors and they never reciprocat 🙁
Thanks for the great advice!
Not a good feeling at all but at least I can say that I am not the only one who lives on this planet that this happens to all of the time. Having Autism Spectrum Disorder makes it worse and makes it more easier for me to be a target for anyone or loner. I used to feel like that I was worth nothing or my presence on this planet at all meant nothing to anyone everytime something like this happened to me. That I would never forgive anyone who did me like that for.
I was suppose to go to a festival with my friend, we even planed it ages ago and the day before the festival she told she was taking her other friend, I did text her days before that asking again if it was all cool with her parents and she’s told me she will see if she had any other plans....
What happens if there are only one or two people in the group who are "bad" but the rest are good and i dont want to move away from them, what can i do?
Heremon Lee Gravitate toward the good ones, of course. And that really isn't all that hard. Sure, the bad ones will be around, but you can avoid them like the plague. And if you can, get together with the group when those two aren't around. Pretty soon everyone else will see their true colors.
Thank you! :)
Please help... I have a friend of mine who was my best friend since 3rd grade till now (11th grade).. I no longer feel comfortable in his company and don't feel like we share the same interests anymore.. it's really hard for me to decide what to do.. we live close to each other and we basically go to school together, in fact, we sit on the same desk in class, and also.. we go to the gym together.. aaand also we are in a group of 4 friends.. I have no idea how to distance myself and avoid him in such situation.
I definitely had that feeling last night they went to somewhere different made fun of me they treated me as#1 at first then it sounded like they took it away like timeout and they put me down as much I feel like second banana
I started a job and they order out food and never even asked if I wanted anything I had money I felt left out
I have a close friend who is my neighbor and when we make plans, 75% of the time she cancells last minute. Or when I ask her to hang out with me 9 times out of 10 she makes a lame excuse of why she can't go. How do I deal with this without losing her friendship?
lindsey, you have to ask yourself why you want to hold on to this friendship. It's not like you have to let it go completely. But put her on the back burner like she did to you. And slowly get to know other people better. You can do it.
I didn't know people do this on purpose. It's so weird. Or they say: you have to come the next time and then never invite you ir not respond to your text. .. WHY
Thank you❤😊
This was the only people i had in my life and i was isolated and they was all i had . now i stay away from people and i dont need friends i dont need people like that. I can be alone and they have no life that they want to do that but i thino these type of people are sick and just think its enjoyable to hurt someone that is their entertainment their cheap entertainment. If you never had any other people in your life its very sad especially if you have any mental disabilities and they pick of the mental one or autistic person. Yep avoid them if u dont they will ruin u eventually ull become a hateful awful person these people dont even enjoy their own company and physiologically it makes them feel special when they leave someone out. Eventually ull get strong tho and become a true healthy bad ass once u leave these people who hurt u and yeah it hurts it hurts more than anything especially when one is a lover or they having sex with u while doing it to u and laughing at u with their friends its sick just get away and try to .
My besties bday I was yesterday and I was not invited . It’s like a thousand eight has just been placed on my shoulders . I’m so sad
My ex BFF always hangs out with toxic friends I do still want to be her friend but that one toxic friend is always getting in the way that toxic friend hurts others and sometimes her I want to yell and say hey stop but I don't want to get involved in drama I just want that toxic friend to get out of the way so she doesn't hurt her what should I do?
I just had this experience and I feel so bad. I'm a chat away but even if they know I can't come didn't even bother telling me. This did not only happen once but many times. I let it pass because I consider them friends. Since I'm petty, I come post something about how fake their friendship was and I'm on destructive mode to spill tea about how they talk trash about each other. 😂
I have friends that will hangout with me but then there’s some friends who I’m acting like I’m there friend but ik they leave me out with stuff
I know that this video is what to do when your friends leave you out. But what do I do if my three best friends leave me out, then I confront them and ask them why they don't invit me and then they apologize and say I promise that we will include you. Then they do it again and it gose in a cycle! What do I do?
At least I am not the only one who faces such problems in life.