What To Do When Someone Stops Talking To You | I've Been Ghosted!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ต.ค. 2024
- It sucks to be ghosted, and it’s happened to all of us. It feels worse if you’ve known the person for a long time and have developed a stronger bond with them. But even when you get ghosted after a text, it can trigger insecurity or confusion. You may wonder what you’ve done wrong, why they don’t like you anymore. Here’s the secret: It’s not about you! I’ll share some insights and some ways to move through the confusion and pain in this video.
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Have you ever been ghosted? What did you do about it?
I didn't do anything. I let them go!!! It was a choice. I respected peoples decision.
Got happy because they're a*******And.
And did you a favor
Yes, l was ghosted and l am very proud of myself because l didn't know anything about ghosting but l 've Been acting as you described: l noticed that it was their reaction/decision to go. As l started to fall in love, l noticed that l've Also chosen to be with him and as l love him, l respect his decisions , even it means that l am not choosen . This was so emotionally deep and taugh to live with it but it was healing. And really, with this ghosting situation l noticed how much l have selfrespect. I healed much earlier than before when l was asking myself "what did l do wrong?" .
And dear, thank you for this video: it is kind reminder of selflove❤
That’s 100% true
@@tacy-annbrown2652 Awesome! Well done.
Sometimes ghosting is the result of just feeling too depressed to talk. It just depends on the person. Don't take it personally. Easier said than done. I've been there, too.
What a beautiful way to say this. Thank you so much for that input.💚
Would they eventually come around
Imagine being depressed yourself and having to not take it “personally” because your friend can’t effectively communicate what they are going through
@@Snailmail1 I would hope so. Depression is a beast.
@@Thecharmedonee yes. It's hard. I understand.
If somebody drops with no explanation, they were never you friend to begin with
That is often true. Sometimes they can't hold boundaries well and ghosting someone is the only way they feel they can do that.
Very true
I was probably dealing with someone jealous of me. Her father was right when he had that private talk with me & said she was the worst daughter he has. The most mean. And now I believe him
Super hard to deal with . Hard to find the answers by yourself . But here I am taking one day at a time .
You got this!
When someone ghosts you they teach you to live without them
:)
True.... it's actually a blessing in disguise!!
I just focused on myself when that happened to me! I really don't understand that ghosting behaviour but I also think that it says so much about the person who does that..
It's true. Many think it's the easy way out, and now it's become "normal" to do. uugh.
And truly just means that they’re just not meant to be in your life. But God always takes certain people out of your life for a reason.
No matter what happen , I will be happy.It's about them.Move on. Thank you so much for your video!
No problem! I hope you enjoyed it
The silent treatment from those in our close circle is even worse. It's ghosting by a loved one that should know better. BUT you're right, it's still about immaturity and an unwillingness to address difficult issues. SO frustrating tho.
They do say that being ghosted by a friend (or a friendship break) is harder than an intimate relationship- because there's more capacity to maintain and reorganize the way you interact without completely leaving the situation.
Ghost me, then I’ll respect the dead and leave you in peace…
YES! Because you deserve respect
Yup I've been there and I did not handle it well back then LOL...But it came from someone who was very close to me and completely out of nowhere
It's such a heartbreak when it's from someone close. I have had the same thing.
If they’re a toxic, lying narcissist… Celebrate!
LOL. Yes
What's it mean?
About them!!! the person that Ghosts you is a coward and has no character. They should at least tell you that they're going back to an x or they have feelings for an x. That's usually the answer. There's an x in the background. And ex-boyfriend and ex-girlfriend bottom line been there, done that. I have 2T shirts. They still have feelings for the other person. You're just a rebound. It could last 2 weeks to a year and they'll still go back to their ex. Beware of rebound relationships... And yes, it sucks the hurt the pain. They shouldn't even date anybody to their healed.
I agree that people should be "over their ex" before they start dating. that also means ready and powerful within their own being. You sound upset.. as if there's a past ghosting experience that could be let go of? Curious...
Good advice. Been recovering from a ghosting but I'm still having some trouble getting my heart and my head on the same page. I know in my head that I shouldn't contact her and move on. My heart wants to give her the benefit of the doubt and reach out to her again and hope to get some answers and closure.
If she wanted to be with you, she would be putting some effort into you. Its over. Walk away. Keep yourself busy and do the things you enjoy. Go No Contact.
I'm sorry. I hope you find comfort. I've been there. Easier said than done. Again. I get it. And I'm sorry.
And how are you doing now that there's been some time between?
@@YourUnifiedMind Hello Dawn. Thank you for asking. I'm doing much better now, no question. But the hurt and the sadness is still within me. It's like having a scar. The wound has healed but the scar is still there emotionally and sometimes something will remind me of what happened. I'll feel sad for a while, and I get pass it. I'm going on with my life. I know I'm not quite the same person I was before the ghosting. I'm much more guarded and more wary of people now. I thought I had met someone who was very much like me. Someone I could trust and open up to so getting ghosted really shook me up internally. I keep myself busy with hobbies, work and family. Not much else I can do.
so much positive energy! thanks for the talk! :)
My pleasure!!
I ignore and let them go.
Good!
Thank you for this video. I really needed to listen to this. I even wrote some of what you said (word for word) down in my journal. A friend of mine completely has left me in the dark. Im hurt and confused.
Ghosting just leaves a big question mark. You dont know what happened. Its cruel and immature to do that to someone. Im trying to believe its not about me.
@angelinavasquez4964 I'm so glad you found this valuable. Being ghosted is hard, and does not reflect on your value as a person or in the way you interacted in the connection. It's about the other person's unwillingness to step up and speak whatever truth they could have. (anything from "I'm not feeling this" to "I need to change these things in our connection"). May you find healing soon and embrace your power and beauty in the process.
Very hard of letting go so. È people. Some friends, some exes, some people that ghosted me. Really felt a bit betrayed from friends that all of a sudden gang out with others and you feel left out, not chosen, not needed. Us painful asoevially when nothing terrible happened or just because you live far away and they don't lice chat or phone calls. When friends ignoring messages when you have dove nothing bad to them, that really hurts. I still can't move on completely and many times my head goes back there or I try to send a text. Is just annoying, sad, upsetting. I need to learn to let go more
I hear you and feel that pain. I'm curious, would you like to learn a technique to help calm that emotion on your own? Search the EFT tapping stuff on my channel and it can help a lot. You deserve to have friends that honor and respect you. 💚
makes me feel garbage, messes with my head
How about telling yourself instead that you got lucky by avoiding someone who is going to treat you like crap anyway and now you get to go find someone better? Mindset shift....
Not always easy, but play with it!
this is exactly the video i was looking for thank you!!!!
Glad I could help!
Me and my friend always talk like almost everyday, 2 months friendship is going well and we also playing games together. However, now she rarely reply my message, i know she is a shy person and thinking what to reply taking 1 hour. Last one they said "busy, my cousin open the account for minute only". But i am started to have trust issue with her explanation "busy" all the time. Is there any way to cope with this because i am not a type of person that cut relationship just like that.
I am curious... sometimes it is because they are depressed or sad and don't want to admit it. Or they start feeling like they aren't worthy. Maybe it's worth "forcing" her into a face to face conversation so you can see what is happening? Also, is she in a relationship or position where something else is stealing her time?
@@YourUnifiedMind hello, thank you for your response. Yeah i am trying to talk to her, but it end up she ignore my message again. Honestly, this is hopeless for me and her TT
Thank you ❤ The ghosting was very painful to deal with initially, but as time went on I went through my healing PROCESS which takes time, as it should. My ex hurt me but I'm better than okay now... I'm stronger and wiser. I'm still without answers as to the reasons he cut off contact. I tried to reach out to him, but I did not chase him. I'm done. He never replied. I wish him peace.
Congratulations. I am glad to hear you are healing AND that you did not chase him. Sending peace your way.
Marriage caused me to lose several friends as my partner didn't like certain people, so in due course they were given a wide berth. Then difficult to pick up these friendships in the future because the damage is done and time has passed. I guess its just a sad reality of life.
Relationships of all kinds change. Are you interested in attempting to reengage with the lost friends? To apologize and ask them to start reconnecting? (It may be a slow process as trust will need to be rebuilt)
Some people are Toxic and deserve to be ghosted… sorry
Maybe the ghoster is jealous of her big boobs. I found out my employee hated me because I had long thick hair and she had thin hair that refused to grow!! How petty!!
Yes, some people, even when you say you are done, refuse to take no as an answer. Boundaries are important for sure, and it's also appropriate to set a boundary in writing/verbally when the communication has reached an end point, don't you think?
It seems petty; you could also notice that she is insecure and have some compassion.
Some good people get also ghosted, so that's not always the case.
Oh yeah? Not man enough to end it words? Lol ok
Very useful. Thanks.
You're welcome!
This what I'm facing right now ..really hurts,and I feel bad and lots of mixed emotions, questions in my mind ... the best thing to do is move on . In god purposea person or people who is doing that kind of stupidity is coward and immature...they don't know how to talk and confront u..they don't know how to deal with .. they just stab at your back,..well what we can do is love our self and keep going .let them go and forget those people.....😊🙏
Yes! love yourself and move forward. That is a great way to handle. it.
My ex ghosted me. The biggest puttymouth i have ever seen in my life. He humiliated me, my friends, my ppl, it was always abt him. This one time he crossed a red line with a stranger, a woman, and i dint support him. He froze me out saying i dont deserve him. He used to blast ppl nobody could stand him except me. People used to walk out on him because he never used to let them talk. They walked out humiliated or seeing his bs behaviour through. After giving my all, he ghosted me. I dont knw how to feel like myself again.
I'm sorry to hear that happened. And, this is going to sound harsh, but it sounds like he did you a favor by leaving. You deserve to be treated well and to be with someone who honors and cherishes you.
It can be hard to feel like yourself after being broken down and standing up for someone for so long. And, I know you have it in you. I know you have the strength and the courage to find boundaries around how you get to be treated. And to demand that from someone else. How can we support you in doing that? Where can you find support from your friends and family, and see your true value and worth in the world?
@@YourUnifiedMind im numb. I poured my heart and soul. I somehow understood him so well (even though he didnt understand me) i could tell seconds before what he would think or do. I truely cared. Was that not enough? I defended him, gave him time, space…i must be stupid for him to freeze me out in 3 seconds.
“No need, thanks” these are his final words after our relationship. I couldn’t even say anything or get any closure. Just tell me 1 thing, did he ever care?? Will he ever remember the good things i did for him?
Edit: im crying while im reading your kind words. Thank you.
Appreciate for sharing your wisdom !
You are welcome!
My best friend blocked and ghosted me on purpose and was not a NATURAl transition and no reason for it. she is immature, stole my work and is now hiding .
Sounds like she is doing the right thing^^
Ooh, That's tough. I should have framed in the video I was talking about dating life. So sorry to hear for you.
Its all about coward mindgames
Fear is rampant in so many people, as well as insecurity.
Sometimes people ghosted you out of guilt. They did something wrong to you and they have remorse. They don't know how to tell you that.
Ghosting is a protection from God. Don't beat yourself up when ghosted.
Love it.
I love this response.
When someone ghosts you there is SERIOUS chance they have a Dismissive Avoidant attachment type. This can be CRUCIAL to understand, I don't see that mentioned, and in most cases is the reason, and also the reason you need to RUN from anyone with DA attachment.
I didn't want to get too complex in this particular video, as DA is only one of many reasons. For example, the Thriving Center of Psychology says 65% of Gen Z/millennials have ghosted someone else. That's not all DA attachment.
Wow. This helps me think in a brand new way
This was so important!! Thank you for talking about it
My pleasure.
thanks for this video , it will help me understand myself
Glad to hear that. Remember, many people ghost others out of their own insecurity and lack of ability to communicate. Or, sometimes even from honest mistakes.
My girlfriend does this to me every time she has a bad day. I feel so unwanted by her and this is really a form of punishment. I have not seen her now for over a month and to be honest ( I don’t even care ). Her family is so codependant that it’s pathetic.
I wonder if she is open to learning a different way to process her bad day rather than doing this to you? Have you asked her?
@@YourUnifiedMind I did ask her and she says that when she gets angry she shuts down.
Ye I have, but got over it
Good! You deserve happiness and healing.
This happened to me right now some girl I planned a date with for tomorrow I tried talking to her before then and haven’t heard from her in 7 days then confirmed the date and no response I consider myself ghosted it sucks and makes no sense communication needs to be better I feel like messaging isn’t the key to communication I unmatched with her and called her a ghoster so the date never existed immature behavior never knew what actually happened you never get closure with it which sucks anyways great video we’re not alone
It can definitely be challenging when that happens! I had a whole weekend vacation planned with someone who ghosted me just before.
I like your energy. And...thanks :)
Oh thank you! I love helping where I can.
Very helpful ❤. Thanks 🙏
You can also tell how that person is too when they do this I was never even Finn’s go in the date with her anyways it showed me lack of trust
And how great that you learned early. Even though it sucks.
My own mother ghosted me! I had to let her go.
Good for you. It can be so much harder when it's family or long-term friends. I honor your process!
Bravo ❤
NO ONE ON EARTH IS PERFECT……..
True!
Yep im.over it I'm 47 and tired of these women acting very immature ecp coworkers yep I left they stop talk8ng to me goes to show how they r lame .
Many people could use more emotional maturity!
I personally feel that anybody who Ghosts is a Narcissist.That happens to be#14 on my deal breaker list lol... And btw... You are one of the most Beautiful Women I have ever seen(Inside and out) Thank you for your message.
Thank you for the compliment. It doesn't make them a narcissist necessarily. Definitely inconsiderate; yet they could be struggling in some other way such as through depression or social anxiety or self doubt.
@@YourUnifiedMind Trust me? She's a Raging Narc! She checks all the boxes,and then some.
Pls stop. I have not ghosted u. I am very busy. U know this,so stop or i will ghost u.
lol. i hear that too! I have a friend who accidentally ghosted someone she liked. Opened the message, thought she replied, then was bummed when she thought he ghosted her.
Been there, it is the ultimate cowards’ way out without saying the truth, whatever that is. After 40 years,%it is not interesting,I understand, but you have wasted my precious time. You have deep pockets, thus many options,are open to you.
Time is so valuable. It really can't be replaced.
I really appreciate it and I hope you can help me out I Really like playing with my self
I love you 😍 I love her but she was married I always wanted a woman like u
😂
Yes baby
Jealous is what it is ww always did ok for ourself these people stop talking to us my husband did ok finically we lived in a decent home .
Oh, jealousy is big for others. And, you are better off without that energy!
I wish u ghost me
:)
Mmmm😮yesbaby
Just move on don’t give a shit
By not give a shit do you mean let go? Or shut down and block emotions?
@@YourUnifiedMind letting go and focusing on self love
Thank you very much! I really needed to hear this after some pretty tough heart break in the last few weeks. This came at exactly the right time ❤🩹🙏
You are so welcome. I'm glad you are finding comfort for yourself!