Such an excellent and heart felt story. You are a really authentic person. I usually don't like coming out stories but yours was really honest and authentic. I grw up long before the internet and I think having the internet helps. I've had students tell me they were gay and so excited about finally being true to themselves. Best of luck to you.
Just watched your Coming Out story. I am SO proud of you. So happy. So immensely proud and happy that I am in tears. I also left my church bc I felt like I wasn't a big believer in the religion anymore. I'm so glad that we have platforms like TikTok, TH-cam, etc for genuine human beings like you who are able to express themselves and come out and tell their stories. It's a very important but powerful and personal thing to do. But you got this! You're amazing in all the ways possible and I am so glad I get to know you ❤️
Wow! That text at the end about not being able to come out to your father hit me really hard. My most sincere condolences to you for losing you dad so earlier in life. I am sure he is so proud of you and full of love for you. May the love that you and your siblings bring to the world be his legacy. Thank you for sharing this heartfelt story. The way you share it with pregnant pauses is very thoughtful and sincere. I appreciate your videos. Thank you, Matt!
For me, the process of realizing who I was started quite early. One of my first childhood memories was noticing a young guy who was older than me and lived next door to me. I told my parents that he was very handsome and I remember that my words caused quite a bit of consternation among the adults. Looking back, I can say that I was very lucky to grow up in the family and times that I did. We actually never talked about my orientation directly, but there were plenty of conversations where between the lines they made me understand that they accepted me for who I was and that my happiness was the most important thing to them. I know that many young people today are not so lucky, so I would like to give all young people words of support and encouragement: you are wonderful and unique! I wish you courage, self-confidence and love :) Greeting from Poland!
As someone who's family never accepted him, never had a boyfriend and a lot of bullies I was forced to call friends, I am really happy that your family and friends have accepted you Matthew. God bless.
I came out at 44. After doing so I found out they all knew. My sister in-law told me they were waiting until I was comfortable with coming out. But they all welcomed my boyfriend into the family.
If you came to terms with yourself at 14 years old, then that was not "a very long process." I didn't come to terms with myself until I was in my 20s! And my experience is not uncommon.
Similar experience here. Both of my parents took it well, despite their previous beliefs along the lines of "We don't agree with gay people but we are called as Christians to love them." My youngest brother and twin sister had homophobic reactions, although mostly because they were uneducated on the issue. My other 3 siblings took it well, albeit it was awkward. The extended family is a split between conservative and liberal, so I haven't really bothered telling them directly. I might just show up to family functions with a boyfriend. It was church and my private conservative Christian high school where I had issues with homophobic people really. I was really just done pretending to be someone I'm not, and just said fuck it. I'm not religious anymore either, so I could care less what others think.
I think your brothers already had an inkling you were gay, hence the reactions you got. I'm happy for you that it went over so well with your family. Also, I'm very sorry you lost your dad at such a young age.
You are very welcomed to the gay community man! You can be happy being yourself and know that when someone tries to convert you, just know they want you to do things that will make you feel really bad, so please avoid homophobes and religious people that make you feel bad, and just know that people will question your homosexuality and try to put you back into the closet, so do your best to avoid these thoughts, they are just a consequence of the society we live in today and fear of being treated differently. I wish you a happy life, man. Take care of yourself and do everything in your power to be happy 😊
I was raised Catholic. I knew I was gay was when I was young. I had a friend who I began feeling a little crush on him. Let’s just say he’s not gay. This same friend, I had my 1st gay kiss with. Going through my h.s time, I didn’t see many guys that attractive so I didn’t know if my gay phrase was that a phrase. After I graduated and that entering college, only had Grindr as a joke. But when I got to work, I started exploring the gay scene. Kinda bringing me today, wanting my 1st relationship, but finding him is a task. Running into many duhs and dead end guys.
Before Grindr, guys would go meet up at the bars. There used to be a saying, "at a bar, you won't find Mr Right, but you will find Mr Right Now". I recommend finding some social activity, volunteering at a community theatre, a charitable organization, something like that, because then, you get to meed guys out and interested in the world, and helping others. That's a much better group to find Mr Right. You'll find him, I promise. It may take a little while, but they're out there. Most long term relationships start out as friends.
Back in the 50's, my older brother, rest his soul, was gay, he had close male friends, didn't hide his affections or emotions from anybody, the whole family knew, but it was never considered a topic, there was no need for discussion, we all loved, cared, respected and supported him unconditionally just as any other family member or person. He moved to California late 70's with his partner where he was happy, thrived and both did well for themselves with owning apartment complexes, condo's and there own gated community homes in two states and one condo in ours that he won with a 1$ E-bay bid lol. His partner still keeps in touch with us at 90+, as a member of our family. I've even had friends and family members come out to me, having no clue they were gay. I just thought it was so cool, a good feeling that they all knew they could talk to me about it, that I was easy going, trust worthy and approachable, exact opposite of what some landlords, lawyers and divorce lawyers would have people believe. lol.
I'm thrilled that everyone accepted you. The snarky brother's reaction says to me that he pretty much knew already. Kind of a "no shit" reaction. As much as we like to think no one can see that we're gay because we haven't told them, most of us have some outward characteristics and behaviors that can give us away. Regarding pot, with that many bad experiences, I'd just stop using it. It tends not to improve with time.
That meow at 4:55 literally put me in flight mode. I'm alone midnight at home with no cats around. Literally thought it was a burglar trespassing my common area.
Hi. I’m not sure if you’ll see this comment but I’ll just send it anyway. I’m a gay teen living in an environment which… let’s just say is not the most accepting. I haven’t dated anyone nor have I been able to just meet other people like me. I also haven’t been able to talk to that many people about who I am. I’ve only just stumbled across your channel and honestly, though they may seem short and simple, videos like yours give me a good sense of hope and optimism and just an overall feeling that I’m not alone. Thank you and keep doing what you’re doing.
@@samab1234-f7r Hey! Thank you for sharing. I really hope things improve for you and you can live your life to the fullest as your authentic self. I’m sorry your environment isn’t the most accepting at the moment. I really appreciate what you said about my videos and glad they give you hope! ❤️
Loved the filming in the closet lol. You could do a series "From the Closet - With Love" ... or something better 😅 Glad for you that your family had a positive reaction. I inadvertently came out to my father at 16 because he caught me online in a chat room (this was like 20 years ago, btw)... he was furious and took it out on me and my mother physically (because obviously it her fault)... shortly thereafter, he stole my mother's wedding jewelry, sold it, and left the country... my mother being super religious, just kind of suppressed my news and, to this day, pretends to know nothing about it. Their reactions made me learn to put up walls that I've never successfully broken through... I've never come out to my friends (I'm quite certain they all suspect and know they wouldn't react poorly) but the thought of it just makes me panic irrationally... this is as close as I've ever managed to "coming out"
There are very select few who I share my similar story as yours to. 95% of others who I am not close to or care enough about I simply tell them that my private life is none of their business. You’re brave to share your story. I graduated in the late nineties and it was still very taboo then. Adults have a difficult time coming to terms with their sexuality so I can’t really imagine how teens or children deal with this.
Congratulations on coming out! Glad it came out pretty well. The personal stuff is the toughest-I grew up in a small-ish town in the south. I recall lusting after cute guys in middle & high school but didn’t admit to myself I was actually gay until I was like 19, but that was back in about 1980. Eventually you develop a sense of humor about that really serious struggle…well some of it anyway.
I also never came out to my dad. He past away from a heart attack just after my 14th birthday. I'm 84 now so this was decades before being gay was even remotely openly discussed. But as far back as I can remember I always knew I liked boys. Would be about 9 or 10 and saw reference to homosexuality and looked it up in the dictionary and immediately recognised that was me. The games we played trying to find a mate was awkward and filled with dread as you never knew if you were going to be caught. I've always said my best friends were friends with benefits. My high school boyfriend was the Baptist ministers son. We shared an interest in running which justified our being together. I was outed at 21 by a lover and will never know why. I believe it was to deflect the thoughts he was gay. This is when I told my mother who never really accepted it but knew there was nothing she could do to change me. My brother had known since I was a teen but never told anyone. I always remember the day we were talking about it and he was complaining I could bring my partners home for a sleep over and share a bed with them, yet he could not even take a girl into his bedroom. Actually I guess that was probably one of the advantage of the 50's. Being gay was never discussed or considered you could have a gay child.
Thanks for sharing your coming out story you are one of the lucky ones, not everyone's coming out stories are happy ones. Good luck for 2025 perhaps you'll find that special friend you've been looking for, you see you never, never know. ❤😂🎉
MATTHEWS i saw your video with all the attention reired for a dialogue on an an episode of your adolescence;i would like to congratulate you on your conduct and your frankness you must deserve the happineness hich is specific to averyone have a good day matt;;;;;;
Great video bro 😎! You are smart and articulate! Very proud of you for sharing your experience with everyone so that those wanting to come out have tools! Keep up the great work! Those edibles n vape pens have influenced me to do similar things! 😀 goofy😂😅
I watched your “Why I’ve Never Had A Boyfriend” video, and I can relate with everything you said. Among the reasons I relate are; I am 30, have never had bf, and am neurodivergent. I feel I need to express an issue I have though. You talk about the desire to be in a relationship with someone, yet you put your communication behind a paywall on Onlyfans. You also posted about asking people to tell you which influencer would be a good match for you. Both these things make it seem like your online content is just gaybaiting. It gives off the vibe of pretending to be lonely, and trying to be relatable just for clicks. It comes off like you don’t truly care about others struggles. I’m not saying any of these things are true. In fact, I truly believe your struggles are real, and I understand how much it sucks. I’m just saying this is how your actions are coming off, at least in my eyes. I have reached out multiple times on a couple platforms, and have never heard back from you. In the end, I wish the best for you, and do hope you find what you’re looking for! I also hope you’d be willing to reach out to me, and we could talk. Sorry for the long post, but I hope you read it. Sending hugs!
Putting OnlyFans behind a paywall is a valid option (he’s not the only gay influencer to do so), so why should he have to sell his spicy content for free? That doesn’t mean he doesn’t care or hasn’t suffered. There are more ways to connect to an influencer than just onlyfans too. Additionally think of how many people must message him daily, it’d be unfair to only message like a handful of people without addressing everyone else. I understand you’re frustrated but it’s not fair for you to put that blame on him. Because in the end it’s not really his fault, think about it.
Hi, I am not able to respond to every message (as much as I'd love to respond to everyone honestly). My struggles are very real, I have never been in a relationship despite trying for years. I have felt very lonely in the past and have even cried about it because of feeling so hopeless. My content is intended to help people, and I understand your point about the influencer video on Instagram/TikTok (yes it was kind of bait for views, but also why not try to find someone?) It's easier to get an idea of who someone is if they actually post content. I do care about other people's struggles and my content is intended to help others who have gone through similar things. I understand your concern and I am sorry if my content across as disingenuous because I really do want to help people.
@@matthewscorner2000this was honestly the best response I've ever seen you give someone. Thank you Matthew for clearing everything up. I'm glad that you have some amazing supporters!
He can't respond to everyone so he probably won't see your message. I understand you're trying to reach out to him but he does have a life outside of social media, please understand that. Trust me, I'm exactly the same way. I have a crush on Matthew too. I feel like we can all relate to him in different ways. We just need to let things flow naturally and let him figure out who exactly he is meant to be with and what he wants in a guy :)
For me, i found my own attraction towards guys around the age of 12, also confused by this i got into a denial stage, thinking oh maybe i'm just bi curious wich evolved into being bi, wich then evolved into a preference for guys untill i was 16 and settled in being gay. Then from 16 to 22 years old i remained in that mindset, came out to my close friends and family. Around 22 i got a boyfriend for a year, and that relationship basicly showed me i was in fact not gay at all but androsexual, wich is attraction to masculinity and my boyfriend at the time was extremely feminine so that didn't work out in the end. Been single pretty much ever since but i'm very happy being androsexual. Yes androsexual is very similar to being gay, but it's also kind of like being bisexual
All that being said, if i need to come out to new people i do still often refer to myself as gay, but that's mostly because androsexual and gynesexual aren't the most wellknown concepts out there and it's easier for people to understand being gay then it is the other stuff
Matthew, your sexuality is just one facet of who you are. You’re clearly intelligent, kind hearted, honest, thoughtful and strong. Furthermore, you’re extremely good looking with a killer smile. The right guy is out there waiting for you and whoever he is, he’ll be incredibly lucky to find you and win your heart. Stay positive and I wish you all the happiness and success for 2025 ❤️
Watched some of your videos. Including never having a bf. Well I'm gay, neurodivergent and at 28 turned 29 I had my first official boyfriend. Your very cute, you come across as kind and self reflective, I'm sure you will find a man one day and they would be lucky to have someone like you.
i always think my friends, my family and if i say that they are gonna ashame from me. even i feel ashamed. i try to not think being guy and tried to be hetero but i cant doing that anymore. sometimes i feel hetero when i hug to a girl or stand with a girl but after going home im feeling more homo. i hate this status. I cant even explain that . idk what to do. i want to have children in the future and i dont want to remember these things while looking their eyes.
Your message is very heavy. Thank you for sharing it. To counteract the shame, be aware of your own feelings and give yourself compassion, kindness and grace everyday. You deserve love and will receive love. If you wish to raise children, be honest with yourself and loving and forgiving of yourself. What children need most spiritually from parents is love. When you are ready to give love unconditionally, you are ready to be a father. May your life be filled with love and happiness.
I’m 17 and I can identify a lot with your story, I mean I’m still in the closet because I’m in a Catholic school too and in a really conservative environment. I have came out to some friends but I still feel that some of them are uncomfortable when I talk to them about my crush, some times they treat me as If I were straight. I’m planning to come out when I finish high school this summer but Im scared cause in my friend group are people that aren’t really close to me and are really homophobic and I know that they talk about me cause they already think I’m gay (they aren’t wrong but it non of their business) How did you cope with that? I’ve been bullied at school and I’m really scared to go back to that phase of my life by coming out but I really want to come out and be my true self.
Well Mathew, it sounds to me like your mother and brothers were not so surprised by your coming out cuz they already knew. I know how you feel about your father. I never told my father before he died. I think he would have been ok with it though (i think he always knew). I do regret that. My mother is another story. She "found out" when I was in my early 20s and hated me until the day she died. (95!). We never spoke again after she told me she wished she'd never had me. (a knife in my heart would hurt less). Keep this in mind if you would, everybody doesn't need to know everything about us all at once. They can figure it out for themselves. If they're your true friends all is good, if not, no real loss, right? Happy New Year cutie!😜 I hope all the best for you in your life!
Nice video, thanks for making. I'm not in any position to judge of advice, but please please stay away from any stimulating stuff like wheat of other drugs, please 🙏. You are a very handsome and nice guy, stay yourself, don't use anything to avoid or suppress how you are feeling, drugs, alcohol, what ever. And if you do, do it with somebody who promises to stay sober. In case of a bad trip he of she can support you and help you. Please take care of yourself and keep up the good work you do by making these videos! Lots of people will recognize themselves in these videos.
Feel like watching my another self on other side of world. My mother had an neutral reaction when I came out to her, did not tell my father about my sexuality, because he would probably offended.
What an unfortunate term to use, “coming out of the closet”. It’s actually an act of incredible bravery in an age of growing intolerance. It’s a flowering of integrity and the declaration of one’s self-identity. We need a better term than what society gives us to hang around our necks at this most critical of life moments for a young gay man. What about “Claiming our Courage” or anything, anything that doesn’t diminish the bravery and the sacrifice it sometimes takes. But Matthew, congratulations and thank you for your witness
Sounds like you can thank weed for easing the process, so that's a plus. My timeline was similar to yours but with the ages pushed back by 3 years, though my obsession with Jeremy Sumpter soon after the 2003 live action Peter Pan movie came out was probably an early sign of how "fabulous" I was. I actually came out to my brother first, and he was very chill about it. He makes low-effort gay jokes to this day. My poor mom didn't take it well because I'm pretty masculine and so gave her no hints and because she'd witnessed some of the fallout of the AIDS epidemic as a nurse. Even so, she's cool with it now. My dad doesn't really talk much about it, just kinda went with it and would steer conversations away from it back when my mom and I used to fight about it. I've been comfortable basically since college with letting anyone know who wanted to know, and now there are very few people left who don't know.
nice job boy i can relate i was 14 as well and started to think about and consider the opposite sex and yet still considering girls Im still not sure how that works out i had hidden it for a long time with the exception of those i was involved with thank you so much for this vedeo looking forward to much more good job
Wait you went to Catholic school and nobody was on the Down Low. Lol - not that we'd heard that term yet. Seriously though I'm from a much older generation but I completely related to your line about how you have to come out to yourself first. Your videos are very good. Good luck to you. Oh and you Will find a boyfriend just when you don't expect it.
So I’ve been drawn into shirtless guys in a magazine (as a kid) or male models in adult mature content (as a teen) as I had to hide myself and being closed off from various people in HS, and that I kept myself hidden until I was ready to come out
Soon after (but mostly around during HS late night) I have been watching some men having intimacy as I was admiring their work as it defines me as what male beauty is as I was an artist who got inspired to feel something towards them
As time goes, I tried some numerous dating apps and it was a terrible experience as I had to shunned myself from facing various guys who only cared about $ than myself as I decided to get away from them
I accepted myself as gay implicitly. I also have conservative parents and family in general, Trumpers in general, but for the most part, I have never thought there was anything wrong with being gay, I just knew it was something that my family didn't accept. I had a period in my mid teens where I was bamboozled into being a fundamentalist Christian by a friend of my father. During that time, I still knew I was gay, and tried to be straight a bit? But my awareness of my orientation was so powerful that it was never something I could ignore. I eventually got away from Christianity and was left pretty wounded in general, but I was glad I could be myself again. Oh, and I also realized I was into guys when I was the same age you were, interestingly enough.
Hi I hope you're doing well. I've been following your posts for a while, and I must say, I'm really impressed by your personality and interests. I'd love to get to know you better and perhaps meet up sometime if you're open to it. Looking forward to hearing from you!
God knows that people do not seek Him when they are happy, so He somehow makes them unhappy and makes them seek Him. Jehovah is not a good god, but an evil god.
Boa noite. Desejo a você um feliz ano novo. Aqui ainda estou no 2024. Mas daqui 4:45hs já será 2025. Estaremos juntos no próximo ano. Continuo assistindo aos seus vídeos.ok,???? Abraços garoto. ❤❤
Your comment is heavy. Thank you for sharing it. I came out because it allowed me to have closer relationships to my parents and straight friends. I was able to be more honest with them and with myself. I didn’t have to lie to them to maintain the presumption of heterosexuality. Afterwords, my parents could meet more of my friends and my boyfriends and accept my husband into their family. When my marriage failed it allowed me to talk about it with my mom and she could understand what I was going through. Not coming out can also be an important decision because those benefits come with risks. When out, one always risks discrimination, harassment and violence. One also needs to come out constantly, but it’s much easier to do so when saying things like “my boyfriend” or “my husband” etc. Those relationships define you in front of other people, whom you get to know. It really comes down to how authentically you want to appear before others. If you don’t mind others presuming what they want about you, then you never have to come out. They will assume things and probably never ask, and you’ll never let them know whether their presumptions are correct or not. Whatever you decide, I hope your life is filled with love and happiness. You deserve it.
@karlmiller5009 yea I'm more of a "I'm open to talking about it if you ask and such but I'm not gonna make a big show about it, either you like it or you dont" lol yea I'm that easy going with this stuff
There is nothing to doubt. He is affirmatively declaring that he is gay. He is likable and very cool. But what I believe you mean is “I don’t think that I’m a gay and that’s ok” and I agree with you. That is ok. Whatever your sexuality is, you have my support. May your life be filled with love and happiness.
This is honestly kind of rediculous. Why is this guys channel blowing up. He’s only posted a few shitty videos. There are thousands of similar videos on TH-cam, unedited, unscripted, no microphone used, etc, videos of people talking about whatever and they hardly gets any views. But he blows? Why??? I put so much work into making high quality videos that take hours to script and edit, but this guy can half ass it and blows up? The TH-cam algorithm is fucking JOKE! I honestly think we all need to band together and file a class action lawsuit against TH-cam and petition the court to order them to create an equal opportunity algorithm.
To francescogorbechov4192 - Wow! Somebody had a bad day or maybe year? Maybe if you spent more time cheering others on and not being so negative your own creative endeavors would shine on their merits and you wouldn't have the time to try and tear others down, Are this guy's videos the best, probably not, he's new and feeling his way along and just trying to be himself. You do you and let him do him!
@@torrenpelissero2237 I have other channels where I post. I keep this one empty to allow me to express my thoughts genuinely without risking my viewers seeing
hi matt.. thank u so much for sharing your story🫂 i can totally relate with parts of it. i really think we could be good friends, like i get u 🥹 XO 🫶🫂 ps: so i heard a meow👂what’s the cat’s name? 😄 is it yours? are u a animal person? love to know more 😃
@@matthewscorner2000 aaaa hi jack 😻 and lily! 👋 awesome! by his meowing he sounds sweet and exigent hahahaha ❤️ i love animals too 🥹 hope to meet u all someday soon🤗 even if it’s virtual 🫶 happy new year matt 💖 wish u all the best for this 2025 ✨ cris 🫶🤓🤪💖❤️
Such an excellent and heart felt story. You are a really authentic person. I usually don't like coming out stories but yours was really honest and authentic. I grw up long before the internet and I think having the internet helps. I've had students tell me they were gay and so excited about finally being true to themselves. Best of luck to you.
Just watched your Coming Out story. I am SO proud of you. So happy. So immensely proud and happy that I am in tears. I also left my church bc I felt like I wasn't a big believer in the religion anymore. I'm so glad that we have platforms like TikTok, TH-cam, etc for genuine human beings like you who are able to express themselves and come out and tell their stories. It's a very important but powerful and personal thing to do. But you got this! You're amazing in all the ways possible and I am so glad I get to know you ❤️
Wow! That text at the end about not being able to come out to your father hit me really hard. My most sincere condolences to you for losing you dad so earlier in life. I am sure he is so proud of you and full of love for you. May the love that you and your siblings bring to the world be his legacy. Thank you for sharing this heartfelt story. The way you share it with pregnant pauses is very thoughtful and sincere. I appreciate your videos. Thank you, Matt!
For me, the process of realizing who I was started quite early. One of my first childhood memories was noticing a young guy who was older than me and lived next door to me. I told my parents that he was very handsome and I remember that my words caused quite a bit of consternation among the adults. Looking back, I can say that I was very lucky to grow up in the family and times that I did. We actually never talked about my orientation directly, but there were plenty of conversations where between the lines they made me understand that they accepted me for who I was and that my happiness was the most important thing to them. I know that many young people today are not so lucky, so I would like to give all young people words of support and encouragement: you are wonderful and unique! I wish you courage, self-confidence and love :) Greeting from Poland!
I love how supportive your family was also the TH-cam family here feel the same. ❤😊
As someone who's family never accepted him, never had a boyfriend and a lot of bullies I was forced to call friends, I am really happy that your family and friends have accepted you Matthew. God bless.
"Coming out" story filmed in an actual closet is the best background ever. I'm gonna marry you someday. 🤣🤣🤣
Thx for telling us your coming out story! Important step in life of gays. I'm happy being gay & hope u 2.♥️🙂🐻
I came out at 44. After doing so I found out they all knew. My sister in-law told me they were waiting until I was comfortable with coming out. But they all welcomed my boyfriend into the family.
If you came to terms with yourself at 14 years old, then that was not "a very long process." I didn't come to terms with myself until I was in my 20s! And my experience is not uncommon.
Similar experience here. Both of my parents took it well, despite their previous beliefs along the lines of "We don't agree with gay people but we are called as Christians to love them." My youngest brother and twin sister had homophobic reactions, although mostly because they were uneducated on the issue. My other 3 siblings took it well, albeit it was awkward.
The extended family is a split between conservative and liberal, so I haven't really bothered telling them directly. I might just show up to family functions with a boyfriend. It was church and my private conservative Christian high school where I had issues with homophobic people really.
I was really just done pretending to be someone I'm not, and just said fuck it. I'm not religious anymore either, so I could care less what others think.
I think your brothers already had an inkling you were gay, hence the reactions you got. I'm happy for you that it went over so well with your family. Also, I'm very sorry you lost your dad at such a young age.
You are very welcomed to the gay community man! You can be happy being yourself and know that when someone tries to convert you, just know they want you to do things that will make you feel really bad, so please avoid homophobes and religious people that make you feel bad, and just know that people will question your homosexuality and try to put you back into the closet, so do your best to avoid these thoughts, they are just a consequence of the society we live in today and fear of being treated differently. I wish you a happy life, man. Take care of yourself and do everything in your power to be happy 😊
I was raised Catholic. I knew I was gay was when I was young. I had a friend who I began feeling a little crush on him. Let’s just say he’s not gay. This same friend, I had my 1st gay kiss with. Going through my h.s time, I didn’t see many guys that attractive so I didn’t know if my gay phrase was that a phrase. After I graduated and that entering college, only had Grindr as a joke. But when I got to work, I started exploring the gay scene. Kinda bringing me today, wanting my 1st relationship, but finding him is a task. Running into many duhs and dead end guys.
Before Grindr, guys would go meet up at the bars. There used to be a saying, "at a bar, you won't find Mr Right, but you will find Mr Right Now". I recommend finding some social activity, volunteering at a community theatre, a charitable organization, something like that, because then, you get to meed guys out and interested in the world, and helping others. That's a much better group to find Mr Right. You'll find him, I promise. It may take a little while, but they're out there. Most long term relationships start out as friends.
Back in the 50's, my older brother, rest his soul, was gay, he had close male friends, didn't hide his affections or emotions from anybody, the whole family knew, but it was never considered a topic, there was no need for discussion, we all loved, cared, respected and supported him unconditionally just as any other family member or person. He moved to California late 70's with his partner where he was happy, thrived and both did well for themselves with owning apartment complexes, condo's and there own gated community homes in two states and one condo in ours that he won with a 1$ E-bay bid lol. His partner still keeps in touch with us at 90+, as a member of our family. I've even had friends and family members come out to me, having no clue they were gay. I just thought it was so cool, a good feeling that they all knew they could talk to me about it, that I was easy going, trust worthy and approachable, exact opposite of what some landlords, lawyers and divorce lawyers would have people believe. lol.
I'm thrilled that everyone accepted you. The snarky brother's reaction says to me that he pretty much knew already. Kind of a "no shit" reaction. As much as we like to think no one can see that we're gay because we haven't told them, most of us have some outward characteristics and behaviors that can give us away. Regarding pot, with that many bad experiences, I'd just stop using it. It tends not to improve with time.
I come out 10 years ago and best decision i ever made. 🏳️🌈🌈🙌😍😘👬
That meow at 4:55 literally put me in flight mode. I'm alone midnight at home with no cats around. Literally thought it was a burglar trespassing my common area.
I thought there was a cat that came into the building I'm in! 😂 Hahaha
A cat burglar! 🥁😂
Thanks, Matt! Mine was a totally different experince.
I came to terms of being gay when I was 12, didn’t come out till I was 30.
Hi. I’m not sure if you’ll see this comment but I’ll just send it anyway. I’m a gay teen living in an environment which… let’s just say is not the most accepting. I haven’t dated anyone nor have I been able to just meet other people like me. I also haven’t been able to talk to that many people about who I am.
I’ve only just stumbled across your channel and honestly, though they may seem short and simple, videos like yours give me a good sense of hope and optimism and just an overall feeling that I’m not alone. Thank you and keep doing what you’re doing.
@@samab1234-f7r Hey! Thank you for sharing. I really hope things improve for you and you can live your life to the fullest as your authentic self. I’m sorry your environment isn’t the most accepting at the moment. I really appreciate what you said about my videos and glad they give you hope! ❤️
Wow I could totally relate to your story. Thank you for sharing this with us.
Loved the filming in the closet lol. You could do a series "From the Closet - With Love" ... or something better 😅
Glad for you that your family had a positive reaction. I inadvertently came out to my father at 16 because he caught me online in a chat room (this was like 20 years ago, btw)... he was furious and took it out on me and my mother physically (because obviously it her fault)... shortly thereafter, he stole my mother's wedding jewelry, sold it, and left the country... my mother being super religious, just kind of suppressed my news and, to this day, pretends to know nothing about it. Their reactions made me learn to put up walls that I've never successfully broken through... I've never come out to my friends (I'm quite certain they all suspect and know they wouldn't react poorly) but the thought of it just makes me panic irrationally... this is as close as I've ever managed to "coming out"
There are very select few who I share my similar story as yours to. 95% of others who I am not close to or care enough about I simply tell them that my private life is none of their business. You’re brave to share your story. I graduated in the late nineties and it was still very taboo then. Adults have a difficult time coming to terms with their sexuality so I can’t really imagine how teens or children deal with this.
Congratulations on coming out! Glad it came out pretty well. The personal stuff is the toughest-I grew up in a small-ish town in the south. I recall lusting after cute guys in middle & high school but didn’t admit to myself I was actually gay until I was like 19, but that was back in about 1980. Eventually you develop a sense of humor about that really serious struggle…well some of it anyway.
I also never came out to my dad. He past away from a heart attack just after my 14th birthday.
I'm 84 now so this was decades before being gay was even remotely openly discussed. But as far back as I can remember I always knew I liked boys. Would be about 9 or 10 and saw reference to homosexuality and looked it up in the dictionary and immediately recognised that was me. The games we played trying to find a mate was awkward and filled with dread as you never knew if you were going to be caught. I've always said my best friends were friends with benefits. My high school boyfriend was the Baptist ministers son. We shared an interest in running which justified our being together.
I was outed at 21 by a lover and will never know why. I believe it was to deflect the thoughts he was gay. This is when I told my mother who never really accepted it but knew there was nothing she could do to change me. My brother had known since I was a teen but never told anyone. I always remember the day we were talking about it and he was complaining I could bring my partners home for a sleep over and share a bed with them, yet he could not even take a girl into his bedroom.
Actually I guess that was probably one of the advantage of the 50's. Being gay was never discussed or considered you could have a gay child.
Thanks for sharing your coming out story you are one of the lucky ones, not everyone's coming out stories are happy ones.
Good luck for 2025 perhaps you'll find that special friend you've been looking for, you see you never, never know.
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MATTHEWS i saw your video with all the attention reired for a dialogue on an an episode of your adolescence;i would like to congratulate you on your conduct and your frankness you must deserve the happineness hich is specific to averyone have a good day matt;;;;;;
Being in a closet while telling this store had me cackling lol 🤣
Great video bro 😎! You are smart and articulate! Very proud of you for sharing your experience with everyone so that those wanting to come out have tools!
Keep up the great work!
Those edibles n vape pens have influenced me to do similar things! 😀 goofy😂😅
SSA is the story of my life. Be brave you are awesome. ❤❤❤
Just subscribed ❤ thank you Matt for sharing your story. The text at the end really touched me sorry about your dad Happy new Year Happy holidays.
I watched your “Why I’ve Never Had A Boyfriend” video, and I can relate with everything you said. Among the reasons I relate are; I am 30, have never had bf, and am neurodivergent. I feel I need to express an issue I have though. You talk about the desire to be in a relationship with someone, yet you put your communication behind a paywall on Onlyfans. You also posted about asking people to tell you which influencer would be a good match for you. Both these things make it seem like your online content is just gaybaiting. It gives off the vibe of pretending to be lonely, and trying to be relatable just for clicks. It comes off like you don’t truly care about others struggles. I’m not saying any of these things are true. In fact, I truly believe your struggles are real, and I understand how much it sucks. I’m just saying this is how your actions are coming off, at least in my eyes. I have reached out multiple times on a couple platforms, and have never heard back from you. In the end, I wish the best for you, and do hope you find what you’re looking for! I also hope you’d be willing to reach out to me, and we could talk. Sorry for the long post, but I hope you read it. Sending hugs!
Putting OnlyFans behind a paywall is a valid option (he’s not the only gay influencer to do so), so why should he have to sell his spicy content for free? That doesn’t mean he doesn’t care or hasn’t suffered. There are more ways to connect to an influencer than just onlyfans too. Additionally think of how many people must message him daily, it’d be unfair to only message like a handful of people without addressing everyone else. I understand you’re frustrated but it’s not fair for you to put that blame on him. Because in the end it’s not really his fault, think about it.
he has an of?? what
Hi, I am not able to respond to every message (as much as I'd love to respond to everyone honestly). My struggles are very real, I have never been in a relationship despite trying for years. I have felt very lonely in the past and have even cried about it because of feeling so hopeless. My content is intended to help people, and I understand your point about the influencer video on Instagram/TikTok (yes it was kind of bait for views, but also why not try to find someone?) It's easier to get an idea of who someone is if they actually post content. I do care about other people's struggles and my content is intended to help others who have gone through similar things. I understand your concern and I am sorry if my content across as disingenuous because I really do want to help people.
@@matthewscorner2000this was honestly the best response I've ever seen you give someone. Thank you Matthew for clearing everything up. I'm glad that you have some amazing supporters!
He can't respond to everyone so he probably won't see your message.
I understand you're trying to reach out to him but he does have a life outside of social media, please understand that. Trust me, I'm exactly the same way. I have a crush on Matthew too. I feel like we can all relate to him in different ways. We just need to let things flow naturally and let him figure out who exactly he is meant to be with and what he wants in a guy :)
For me, i found my own attraction towards guys around the age of 12, also confused by this i got into a denial stage, thinking oh maybe i'm just bi curious wich evolved into being bi, wich then evolved into a preference for guys untill i was 16 and settled in being gay.
Then from 16 to 22 years old i remained in that mindset, came out to my close friends and family. Around 22 i got a boyfriend for a year, and that relationship basicly showed me i was in fact not gay at all but androsexual, wich is attraction to masculinity and my boyfriend at the time was extremely feminine so that didn't work out in the end. Been single pretty much ever since but i'm very happy being androsexual. Yes androsexual is very similar to being gay, but it's also kind of like being bisexual
All that being said, if i need to come out to new people i do still often refer to myself as gay, but that's mostly because androsexual and gynesexual aren't the most wellknown concepts out there and it's easier for people to understand being gay then it is the other stuff
I've had this same reaction to that euphoria almost paranoid of being outed or afraid of everyone knowing I like guys a lot.💙💙
Thanks for sharing. It feels really good to "know" you.
what matters is that you're happy Matthew.
Matthew, you are so cute!
Matthew, your sexuality is just one facet of who you are. You’re clearly intelligent, kind hearted, honest, thoughtful and strong. Furthermore, you’re extremely good looking with a killer smile. The right guy is out there waiting for you and whoever he is, he’ll be incredibly lucky to find you and win your heart. Stay positive and I wish you all the happiness and success for 2025 ❤️
Watched some of your videos. Including never having a bf. Well I'm gay, neurodivergent and at 28 turned 29 I had my first official boyfriend. Your very cute, you come across as kind and self reflective, I'm sure you will find a man one day and they would be lucky to have someone like you.
4:56 CAT!
was looking for the commentttt
Had the same experience. Mom said it is okay. My bro didn't like it. Question is now: Is being gay a choice... Be proud to be out. 🙂🏳️🌈
I like your channel. Subbed!
Love your videos ❤❤
I love watching your videos. I wish i met you when i was younger. I never came out because i was so scared of hurting my parents and my friends.
i always think my friends, my family and if i say that they are gonna ashame from me. even i feel ashamed. i try to not think being guy and tried to be hetero but i cant doing that anymore. sometimes i feel hetero when i hug to a girl or stand with a girl but after going home im feeling more homo. i hate this status. I cant even explain that . idk what to do. i want to have children in the future and i dont want to remember these things while looking their eyes.
Your message is very heavy. Thank you for sharing it. To counteract the shame, be aware of your own feelings and give yourself compassion, kindness and grace everyday. You deserve love and will receive love. If you wish to raise children, be honest with yourself and loving and forgiving of yourself. What children need most spiritually from parents is love. When you are ready to give love unconditionally, you are ready to be a father. May your life be filled with love and happiness.
@@karlmiller5009 thanks for the answer. imma try your suggestions
I didn't come out to myself until my 30's.
I’m 17 and I can identify a lot with your story, I mean I’m still in the closet because I’m in a Catholic school too and in a really conservative environment. I have came out to some friends but I still feel that some of them are uncomfortable when I talk to them about my crush, some times they treat me as If I were straight. I’m planning to come out when I finish high school this summer but Im scared cause in my friend group are people that aren’t really close to me and are really homophobic and I know that they talk about me cause they already think I’m gay (they aren’t wrong but it non of their business) How did you cope with that? I’ve been bullied at school and I’m really scared to go back to that phase of my life by coming out but I really want to come out and be my true self.
If they are true friends they will accept you as you are
I appreciate and respect your generation. I hope some of us older gays paved the way in our strife.
Here for u in support
guys just look better
Very good.takes alot of courage.a bet you feel alone freer now.enjoy your posts.
Well Mathew, it sounds to me like your mother and brothers were not so surprised by your coming out cuz they already knew. I know how you feel about your father. I never told my father before he died. I think he would have been ok with it though (i think he always knew). I do regret that. My mother is another story. She "found out" when I was in my early 20s and hated me until the day she died. (95!). We never spoke again after she told me she wished she'd never had me. (a knife in my heart would hurt less).
Keep this in mind if you would, everybody doesn't need to know everything about us all at once. They can figure it out for themselves. If they're your true friends all is good, if not, no real loss, right?
Happy New Year cutie!😜 I hope all the best for you in your life!
Nice video, thanks for making. I'm not in any position to judge of advice, but please please stay away from any stimulating stuff like wheat of other drugs, please 🙏. You are a very handsome and nice guy, stay yourself, don't use anything to avoid or suppress how you are feeling, drugs, alcohol, what ever. And if you do, do it with somebody who promises to stay sober. In case of a bad trip he of she can support you and help you. Please take care of yourself and keep up the good work you do by making these videos! Lots of people will recognize themselves in these videos.
Although your brothers reactions were extremely positive, at least you didn’t have any bad reactions from your family. Thanks for sharing.
Good for you to be accepted by your family members which is how it should be for everyone like with mine 👍
Well done, thanks for sharing your personal story. ❤ Yeah, maybe don't do weed anymore.
Feel like watching my another self on other side of world. My mother had an neutral reaction when I came out to her, did not tell my father about my sexuality, because he would probably offended.
Universal lesson: Know your supplier and the strength of what you are ingesting. And it is best to not trip by yourself. More fun with friends anyway.
A very cute boi
We, the Gay People have different backwards, but at the end it's ALL about Feel Safe, Free and Loved ❤
What an unfortunate term to use, “coming out of the closet”. It’s actually an act of incredible bravery in an age of growing intolerance. It’s a flowering of integrity and the declaration of one’s self-identity. We need a better term than what society gives us to hang around our necks at this most critical of life moments for a young gay man. What about “Claiming our Courage” or anything, anything that doesn’t diminish the bravery and the sacrifice it sometimes takes. But Matthew, congratulations and thank you for your witness
Sounds like you can thank weed for easing the process, so that's a plus. My timeline was similar to yours but with the ages pushed back by 3 years, though my obsession with Jeremy Sumpter soon after the 2003 live action Peter Pan movie came out was probably an early sign of how "fabulous" I was.
I actually came out to my brother first, and he was very chill about it. He makes low-effort gay jokes to this day. My poor mom didn't take it well because I'm pretty masculine and so gave her no hints and because she'd witnessed some of the fallout of the AIDS epidemic as a nurse. Even so, she's cool with it now. My dad doesn't really talk much about it, just kinda went with it and would steer conversations away from it back when my mom and I used to fight about it.
I've been comfortable basically since college with letting anyone know who wanted to know, and now there are very few people left who don't know.
nice job boy i can relate i was 14 as well and started to think about and consider the opposite sex and yet still considering girls Im still not sure how that works out i had hidden it for a long time with the exception of those i was involved with thank you so much for this vedeo looking forward to much more good job
Sorry I’m late, but your story is inspiring. I came out like 3yr7mo as I was like 28yo after I quit Community College & working as DoorDasher
A friend of mine came out to his Jewish father in person, and his dad had a heart attack. I can't imagine that.
matthew, do you mind if I ask, what would you say are your red flags?
Haha!! No worries Matt! I was in a closet too at the time I was watching this video.
Wait you went to Catholic school and nobody was on the Down Low. Lol - not that we'd heard that term yet. Seriously though I'm from a much older generation but I completely related to your line about how you have to come out to yourself first. Your videos are very good. Good luck to you. Oh and you Will find a boyfriend just when you don't expect it.
TLDR ; WEED = GOOD 😂
you are doing good I had a bad coming out story
Coming out is like a second birth. There are no stories that are not interesting. 😁
Anyways, I have a struggling life in the past as I had a crush on 2 girls (elementary & middle school) but I haven’t really felt a spark from them
So I’ve been drawn into shirtless guys in a magazine (as a kid) or male models in adult mature content (as a teen) as I had to hide myself and being closed off from various people in HS, and that I kept myself hidden until I was ready to come out
Soon after (but mostly around during HS late night) I have been watching some men having intimacy as I was admiring their work as it defines me as what male beauty is as I was an artist who got inspired to feel something towards them
As time goes, I tried some numerous dating apps and it was a terrible experience as I had to shunned myself from facing various guys who only cared about $ than myself as I decided to get away from them
Until, I have found someone who have the same interest as myself like video gaming, movies, tv, anime, and music
We still keep in touch for the past 3yrs and I ❤ him as he loves me the same and I gifted him various clothing to match as a 🌈 couple
Boa noite. Garoto. ❤❤
Acabei de assistir o vídeo e já deixei aquele joinha.❤❤
Abraço. Beijos no seu coração. ❤❤
you're hilarious and sweet! i want you to start a discord so bad! would be fun talking to you so much
I accepted myself as gay implicitly. I also have conservative parents and family in general, Trumpers in general, but for the most part, I have never thought there was anything wrong with being gay, I just knew it was something that my family didn't accept. I had a period in my mid teens where I was bamboozled into being a fundamentalist Christian by a friend of my father. During that time, I still knew I was gay, and tried to be straight a bit? But my awareness of my orientation was so powerful that it was never something I could ignore. I eventually got away from Christianity and was left pretty wounded in general, but I was glad I could be myself again.
Oh, and I also realized I was into guys when I was the same age you were, interestingly enough.
Hi I hope you're doing well. I've been following your posts for a while, and I must say, I'm really impressed by your personality and interests. I'd love to get to know you better and perhaps meet up sometime if you're open to it.
Looking forward to hearing from you!
4:56 🐈?
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Now you need to share your best & worst hookup. 😲😲
Are your brothers older or younger than you?
Both younger, same with sister
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God knows that people do not seek Him when they are happy, so He somehow makes them unhappy and makes them seek Him. Jehovah is not a good god, but an evil god.
One of the morals of this story could be ... stay away from weed? lol
Boa noite.
Desejo a você um feliz ano novo.
Aqui ainda estou no 2024. Mas daqui 4:45hs já será 2025.
Estaremos juntos no próximo ano.
Continuo assistindo aos seus vídeos.ok,????
Abraços garoto. ❤❤
Your siblings probably already knew.
What is your age
24
Hahaha the cat noises on your video are tripping me out! I keep thinking it’s my cat but she’s sound asleep.
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Omg you have a cat!?
progesterone aka gayz oo maze hormone
You ever thought of dating an older man? Just curious
Your cute
Actually i never came out to anyone lol mainly because its no ones business and two i never really seen the point in coming out
Your comment is heavy. Thank you for sharing it. I came out because it allowed me to have closer relationships to my parents and straight friends. I was able to be more honest with them and with myself. I didn’t have to lie to them to maintain the presumption of heterosexuality. Afterwords, my parents could meet more of my friends and my boyfriends and accept my husband into their family. When my marriage failed it allowed me to talk about it with my mom and she could understand what I was going through.
Not coming out can also be an important decision because those benefits come with risks. When out, one always risks discrimination, harassment and violence. One also needs to come out constantly, but it’s much easier to do so when saying things like “my boyfriend” or “my husband” etc. Those relationships define you in front of other people, whom you get to know.
It really comes down to how authentically you want to appear before others. If you don’t mind others presuming what they want about you, then you never have to come out. They will assume things and probably never ask, and you’ll never let them know whether their presumptions are correct or not. Whatever you decide, I hope your life is filled with love and happiness. You deserve it.
@karlmiller5009 yea I'm more of a "I'm open to talking about it if you ask and such but I'm not gonna make a big show about it, either you like it or you dont" lol yea I'm that easy going with this stuff
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Hi, i like u...
Wut, u gay😂😂😂😂
I don't think that you are a gay but it's ok. I like you. You are such a cool guy.
Wdym you don't think he's gay?? That's a very weird thing to say
You’re one of those people where it’s better if your mouth is shut.
There is nothing to doubt. He is affirmatively declaring that he is gay. He is likable and very cool.
But what I believe you mean is “I don’t think that I’m a gay and that’s ok” and I agree with you. That is ok. Whatever your sexuality is, you have my support. May your life be filled with love and happiness.
I hope you are still conservative though. There are tons of gays for trump..
This is honestly kind of rediculous. Why is this guys channel blowing up. He’s only posted a few shitty videos. There are thousands of similar videos on TH-cam, unedited, unscripted, no microphone used, etc, videos of people talking about whatever and they hardly gets any views. But he blows? Why??? I put so much work into making high quality videos that take hours to script and edit, but this guy can half ass it and blows up? The TH-cam algorithm is fucking JOKE! I honestly think we all need to band together and file a class action lawsuit against TH-cam and petition the court to order them to create an equal opportunity algorithm.
To francescogorbechov4192 - Wow! Somebody had a bad day or maybe year? Maybe if you spent more time cheering others on and not being so negative your own creative endeavors would shine on their merits and you wouldn't have the time to try and tear others down, Are this guy's videos the best, probably not, he's new and feeling his way along and just trying to be himself. You do you and let him do him!
Sounds like jealousy to me dawg. Not seeing any videos on your channel.
Leave him alone!! Matthew is the nicest, most humble, genuine, kind person I know. If you don't like his videos. Don't watch. Period.
I hope you find the peace you seek. May your heart grow kinder and more compassionate.
@@torrenpelissero2237 I have other channels where I post. I keep this one empty to allow me to express my thoughts genuinely without risking my viewers seeing
hi matt.. thank u so much for sharing your story🫂 i can totally relate with parts of it. i really think we could be good friends, like i get u 🥹 XO 🫶🫂
ps: so i heard a meow👂what’s the cat’s name? 😄 is it yours? are u a animal person? love to know more 😃
Yess I love animals! I’m a huge cat person. His name is Jack, and his mom is named Lily. :)
@@matthewscorner2000 aaaa hi jack 😻 and lily! 👋 awesome! by his meowing he sounds sweet and exigent hahahaha ❤️ i love animals too 🥹 hope to meet u all someday soon🤗 even if it’s virtual 🫶
happy new year matt 💖 wish u all the best for this 2025 ✨
cris 🫶🤓🤪💖❤️
@@crisperezYou’re so sweet thank you! :) Happy New Years to you as well!!
@matthewscorner2000 no, u are! 🫂 thank u so much matt ✨ really 🥹🤗
@@crisperez ❤️