The mom hella sucks . But my mom did something comparable to this, when i was like 9 or 10 i got a collective amount of $60 and one of my cousins found it from my hiding nook in my closet and stole it. And instead of them getting in trouble... I got my ass beat for not hiding it better💀
i feel like it's 100% justified to not want someone who stole a large amount of valuables from you to be in your home, even if it was a long time ago. Refusing to apologize to me is disrespectful and I wouldn't want someone who doesn't respect me to be in my home. I don't see that as a grudge.
That guy who wants 5 kids or else is incredibly insane. He thinks she owes him her youth, her body and her life. Sis, run! Run far, far away from that clown! "If you don't have my 5 kids many other women will." I hope she gets a divorce omg
People who demand kids from others are insane, but especially when they want a silly number like 5??? Like does he realise how many kids 5 really is?? Or how much work it is???? She needs to run and never look back.
It’s parents like in the first story that drive me crazy. I understand infertility and miscarriages are hard, but you have to parent your child! I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy and then my son was born at 24+4 weeks. He is my little miracle, but I do parent him. He’s 2.5 years old now and he’s not out there getting away with “murder” just because I view him a miracle.
This! My SIL had a miscarriage before she had my nephew and he’s not a spoiled brat hes viewed as a miracle. Also I think people need to realize just how common miscarriages are because it’s quite shocking
If someone FORCES you to lose weight in order to marry them, that's someone you don't want to marry. He's sick. He wanted her to embarrass herself so he could feel better? like wth? Who cares how much someone weighs in comparison to who they are as a human being? She gained weight, she didn't become a whole new person. He needs a reality check. Girl really dodged a bullet, he clearly has personal issues.
1:17:04 I have a theory that this guy agreed to let her be a stay at home mom to dogs just to trap her. I bet he thought “Oh great, I’ll agree for her to quit her job and stay home. I’ll let her be dependent on me. Once she’s nice and comfortable, I’ll spring this idea on her that we’re going to have a baby.” My first thought was, that’s insane, there’s no way anybody would agree to let their partner stay home and take care of the dogs, but in retrospect, I understand the manipulative tactic.
And i feel the only reason she's starting to catch on (by asking if she's the asshole) is because shes getting older, trying to learn to adult and starting to realize this is the rest of her life if she stays with this man. I think people in that womans position wanna be told they are the problem or they are being crazy, because if they're the problem they can fix it... Among other reasons.
That last story is body checking and is abusive and controlling af. The fact that she had to be so specific about all of the different weights and times in the story she put on the internet is SO TELLING! He was obviously paying wayyy too much attention. Wanting to see her remove her clothes and weigh herself again is insidious af.
@@beepboop8374 I might be or it might be very much above average and unhealthy or very much under average and unhealthy. Short and 70kgs could classify you as obese, average height and 70kgs would classify you as average and tall and 70kgs could classify you as underweight. Without knowing the height, the weight alone doesn't tell you much.
I genuinely don't get how these mean were raised and function in society thinking that they can humiliate and treat the women they claim to love the way that they do in these stories. I'd hope my wife would smack me if I ever talked crazy like that to her.
I wouldn't ever cross that line with any of my SO's. And unfortunately, it's possible that his parents raised him right, but he still turned into a major creep. You never know what can happen with your kids.
My view is plain and simple... Teaching your child will NOT KILL THEM... I really don't care how long it takes you to have your child or how many came before it... You shouldn't be a horrible parent or have a horrible child that you blame everyone else for but that stance only holds when it's a choice... Teach him better and treat him better
51:36 As someone with Asperger /Autism Type 1, I agree. I had a cousin steal from me (less monetary value) in 2019 and I don't let him into my house because after that I just feel unsafe with him in my space. His mother even told him to apologize and talk about stealing from me in therapy + he wouldn't stay in my or "my mother's" house (my and my sibilings property, my mother just lives there) until I allow it. He never did, and I won't budge in because it just justifies how I feel regarding him.
Omg I hella agree with Sam. I remember after the shooting during the Batman movie I was so anxious. Going to see it had my heart racing, thinking about what had happened. It’s wild out here.. not feeling safe in daily situations is mind blowing
I relate to Sam, im constantly looking at my surroundings in public. I dont even like going to the movies bc im always checking the emergency exit and thinking about how im going to hide if a shooter opens the door
14:21 NTA! That teacher definitely needed to be taught a lesson. You don't take things without asking, and then have the audacity not to put them back. If anything, that teacher stole from you. And you've been to the principal about this.
as someone with adhd and autism the taylor swift story gave me a lot of conflicting feelings because the way she lets taylor consume her life feels a lot like how i can be when im hyperfixated or have a new special interest--i get what it feels like to be that obsessed with something, my brain literally cant help it, and it really sucks when somebody is negative about it (rolling eyes, calling it a cult, etc), but i also get the husband not wanting her to spend that kind of money on taylor if it is their shared funds and he is by no means required to like taylor just because she does. i think the only fix to that would be for them to have separate savings for fun activities/hobbies and for her to bring it up less, but she should also be able to mention things she likes from time to time without him being visibly annoyed by it. speaking from experience, i do think it can be a bit sad to not be able to share the joy of your interests with someone, but at the end of the day you and your partner wont always align on stuff like that and it shouldnt be a deal breaker.
@@infjandcoping4614 well thats why i said he by no means has to like it and she should probably mention it less. she's probably been "inflicting" her obsession of taylor on him purely out of love--when most people love something, they want to share it with people they love, but if he wants no part in it then that's fine. they both have some fixing to do imo. she should probably join some fandom communities dedicated to taylor so she has a more private outlet filled with other people who love her just as much and her husband should stop rolling eyes and being verbally negative about something she really cares about. i do think her obsession does sound like something that could be grating, especially considering i myself do not like taylor swift in the slightest, but as somebody who has dealt with fixations like this, where im constantly playing the music, rewatching the same clips and videos, etc., it can be incredibly hurtful when people make fun of the things you like or make you feel like you're stupid for liking it (calling it a cult/saying youre brainwashed) instead of just being straight forward and saying "i dont like this thing and id rather not talk about it as much, is there anyone else you know who likes this thing/could you find a community to talk about this with besides me?" i understand the husbands frustrations but i also understand why the wife feels upset that he is being so negative about something she clearly loves so much. if they cant find a middle ground then it might just be best to end things honestly.
It's fair to be into something and I absolutely understand hyperfixation (trust me, I've been in the TRENCHES) but the people in your life are allowed to be a little upset when it is the only thing you talk about and the only way we're interacting with them. If she was truly only mentioning her interest every once in a while he wouldn't have been upset enough to write a reddit post. I think it is genuinely the only thing she talks about with him and I'd also be incredibly irritated if I found myself in this situation too. Something I've specifically noticed about Taylor Swift fans is that a lot of them cannot stand the concept of someone not being a fan of her and will therefore argue with you until they're blue in the face (not every fan, but a lot of them). It's exhausting and I wouldn't be surprised if that's what she's doing. She literally called it a LIFESTYLE, it probably consumes every waking hour and every interaction she has. He doesn't have to tolerate that level of obsession, especially because it's clearly impacting their relationship.
Her trying to forcefully share her interests is definitely because she loves him and cares what he thinks. Clearly her fixation is something else and she should probably be in therapy just to make sure it's a healthy one but it's not something bad. Hopefully he can come to realize and appreciate her feelings even if he's not into the music. However she has to be willing to share his interests too. If that is happening then it shouldn't be so hard to bare.
Last story, only person I'm weighing myself in front of is a nurse at my physical. The fact that it was his deal breaker for getting married wtf. Would have been a deal breaker for me as soon as he said that
56:05 this is from coming to America, the joke told in the barber shop when Eddie’s character arrives. I use it often. Totally understand thinking it’s the nutty prof, since it’s another movie eddie stars in
I'm a Swiftie (Only happened earlier this year around my 30th birthday) and I have a lot of Swiftie stuff, but omg I can't even imagine making it everything I do every single second of the day. Being a Swiftie is fun and cool, but do not make it your whole life!
I've been checking out your videos lately and just feel so, so...COMFORTABLE watching you all, and I've been trying to put my finger on what it is. I had to laugh when you all started talking about Nebraska and it clicked that at least some of you are either in or are previously from Nebraska. Maybe that's why I like your vibe so much, I'm from NE (back in the day). Now I live abroad, but I'm feeling some very comfy realness from you all that I keep coming back for more of.
Truth of the matter, most babies look like naked mole rats straight out the womb. The parents see Rufus (from Kim Possible) while the rest of us see beady eyes wrinkled Saran Wrap with a terrifying banshee scream. But then they grow a little and take their little baby portraits and it’s all good. We all just hope they get cuter as they get older and they usually do. Loved hearing y’all’s conversation at the start. And as an Illinois native, your friends had a true Chicago experience. Glad they weren’t too spooked. Chicago is lovely once you learn to mind your business (or get desensitized). A lesson I had to learn myself 😂❤ Keep doing y’all. Your podcast is such a good time to listen to.
Before I watched this I had literally had a whole conversation about how newborns are usually ugly purple raisins 🤣😭 Sorry little ones, but it's true! I know I was one.
re: Refusing to weigh in front of partner - my ex husband did something similar; he threatened to break up with me if I weighed over 150lbs. He was emotionally abusive in other ways which I'm wondering if the partner is as well. I agree with you all - RUN - you will have dodged a major bullet and lots of therapy to reverse the abuse endured from staying.
On the last story - 5kg, 11lbs in five weeks is an insane amount of weight to lose in that short of time. In the most healthy manner, she probably should’ve at least doubled that time to lose that same amount of weight (1lb/week). She was putting in the work, the hours, and probably the mental/physical torment for this. Because of this pressure. Also - I’m the same weight, 165lbs and am 5’7”. I wear a size small, maybe medium in uncommon cases, in everything - shirts, pants, dresses, etc. I have no idea the drugs this man is on.
You're 5'7 but we don't know her height. I'm short and that would be borderline obese for me. For my even shorter friends it would definitely land them in the obese category.
As a former teacher, I got to say the petty revenge that the gym teacher did is 10 times nicer than what that teacher was doing. Taking a necessary item to be used in an observation is such a big and absolutely unacceptable. Also, she broke a lot of his stuff and he immediately boxed it and also gave her access to it prior to students coming. Also, losing a chair during teaching is really not nearly as big a deal as a lot of other supplies (when you're teaching you're not always sitting down and most of the tasks you need to do don't actually require you to sit and usually teacher chairs are actually school property and not teacher's personal property whereas, unfortunately, often those very needed supplies that gym teachers are paid for by the teacher themselves, sometimes).
Y'all talking about how petty it is to be mad about the games stolen 10 years ago and I'm sitting here damn near 20 years later mad about my brother stealing and pawning my Game Boy Advance SP. I had it for like 6 months!
I'm going to be honest, I really dont see how watching concerts in person and the videos of it are any different to rewatching movies or tv series 🤷🏼♀️
The sound quality is usually something incredible compared to any kind of speakers we can buy (headphone or otherwise) so that's usually something really nice to experience. And its just something different. Its an activity where you go out with people you like generally, you have a nice meal out beforehand and talk about how excited you are and what parts of the music/band/etc. you like. And then you're there, watching live entertainment, and often feeling like you're being literally bathed in sound you can feel vibrating through your bones (depending on how loud it is and what the music type is). Its an experience and something memorable. Not for everyone (I know some people who would say that sounds like an utter nightmare), but it can be something really nice. The videos are fun to listen to if you can't go. More specifically sometimes I'll put up the official recordings of the concerts in the background for music sometimes.
Ohhh when they were talking about going to the movies and worried about when someone gets up!! We recently went to the movies after a mass shooting. I was smiling at every dang person in that lobby, had my seats picked out!!! It's crazy nowadays! I've had one child on lockdown for a threat and another because a kid brought a gun to school! I don't play these days! I really feel for our future generations.
Look, I’ve been a Swiftie since her very first album back in 2006, but I would never spend thousands of dollars on a ticket. I’ve been to 2 of her concerts , and have a bit of her merch, but I know that Taylor Swift wouldn’t care who I am other than I’m a fan.
Ooof first story, I’m gonna say AH but only because of how OP said it, not what she was saying. If she had taken her sister aside and asked her to handle her son better for the party and then ~later~ have a private conversation with sister about how she’s allowing her son to get away with a lot of negative behavior because of her difficulties conceiving, I feel like it probably would have been heard a lot more clearly by the sister. Chances are the sister is even frustrated by her son’s behavior and often just doesn’t know how to deal with it, and maybe even hopes most people don’t notice it as much as they do. If it had been a calm private conversation, approached from a place of understanding rather than anger (although I do understand the anger in that moment!) it definitely would have come across better. That many miscarriages is so hard.. but she does need to hear a loving conversation about how her parenting now can affect his future in school, work, relationships, etc..
The weight thing is so bad down the line too bc my dad was the same with my mom and she was the same with me and my sister and now we all have eating disorders, my sister being the most severe (she was 90lbs at 21 and she is 5’6). That type of abuse causes sooo much trauma. And yes it IS abuse.
You kids are cool. I love your grounded approach and sharing with the world how you feel about your values as you’re going into adulthood. It’s been a lonely year for me and watching these episodes really lifts my spirits. Keep up the great work!
As a Swifty, I can see where the husband’s coming from. I also spent quite a bit of money on my ticket, listen to the albums, took videos that I watch occasionally, I watch the live streams when I can (for surprise songs), and I watched the movie. However, I’m not doing that 24 seven. If she truly is just nonstop, then I totally get where he’s coming from. You can only listen to something so many times before it gets repetitive and annoying. It’s insane to watch your videos and then the live stream. Like girl come on. I’m curious of how much she is projecting the videos onto the TV, that’s crazy to me. Listening to only her music is crazy too, there are so many artist/bands out there she would love that have the same vibe as Taylor’s (especially with the different genera’s she has crossed). I use the Spotify feature to discover similar songs to expand my catalog. I can totally see how the husbands hurts by her saying their wedding day isn’t the best day of her life. The ticket cost would be crazy as well, but if she is like me and never been to one concert getting like 4 in one night is justified. Plus going off the crews comments of production/outfit changes/etc., it’s just like Bey’s, Taylor’s is amazing. But if she’s just putting out a bids and he rolls his eyes because he’s not interested, then I can see why she’s annoyed. Like if it’s just a couple comments here and there, or when something happens, he’s being a dick by saying “wElL iTs AlL tHe TiMe”. These are the stories always want someone else’s opinion, just to cooperate the partners story.
The RAGE I feel during the last story!!!! I am sooooooooooooo glad that they broke up. I mean I hate for a relationship to end but that’s absolutely not right. He literally just wants to humiliate her. I feel like he wanted to check to see EXACTLY where she lost the weight and if it was “to his liking”. Forget the fact that she actually lost more than he asked her to, he wants to have total control over how she looks. Also, did he say his weight? Why did he get on the scale and weigh himself and THEN ask her to weigh again? Is he basing her weight in relation to his? Whew chile…….the ghetto.
that isn't even being a swiftie anymore, ops wife is definitely using parasocialism to fill some kind of hole in her life, or maybe she just never learned to find happiness and stimulation outside of the internet. she needs therapy and a hobby.
The best representation of Americans anxiety is stories of people traveling outside the US and getting startled by loud sounds (cars backfiring or pyrotechnics at concerts/festivals), realizing they’re safe and then the looks of pity from the friends they’re visiting.
As someone who wasn’t a big fan on rae shremurd before I saw them at a festival, they are my top 5 live artist to this day! The tickets are affordable and it’s always such a good vibe at their concerts.
Infertility challenges didn’t win and the child is here now, so no one is obligated to allow your child’s bad behavior. The best way to show you understand the magnitude of the miracle child you were finally able to have is to be a good steward of his upbringing and raise him well…
33:00 I don't know if I should answer this, because I have a bias. I am NOT a Taylor Swift fan... But judging from the title alone, I'm going to go out on a limb and say NTA ETA: And I was right! This obsession of hers is not healthy! And husband is right, this is borderline cultish.
the soup joke is from coming to america, I think arsenio hall dressed as one of the old men from the barber shop tells the joke at the end? as a post credit scene?
51:36 based on that title alone, the short answer is hell no! NTA! The hell makes you think I would ever trust you again, when you've stolen that much from me? I don't give a fxxx if it was 10, 20, 50 years ago! I don't trust you! Say it with me, people: ACTIONS HAVE CONSEQUENCES!
Also, hearing sam saying he would just roll the chair out all i heard was, " they see me rolling, they hating, patrolling they trying to catch me riding dirty!" 😅
55:24 the mom basically thinks her child is stupid because they're autistic??? (Asperger's is an outdated term, it just falls under autism spectrum disorder now). Autistic people are often some of the most brilliant people. Op, clearly wasn't clueless. That mom was gross. Ten years over something from when their kids is too much though.
I personally don’t understand the Taylor Swift phenomenon but I’m happy for all the people that like her music. I think for this particular story, it would be nice for Op to maybe not make disparaging comments about her interest, but their partner needs to understand that they are not obligated to be into or even like the same artist, like there should be some boundaries and understandings. Like I don’t think I should be expected to care that much about this celebrity, and I’m sure it’s the same for some of his interests. I say they just let each other enjoy their own things in peace.
I didn’t see anyone else mention it but the Brendan Urie thing is less problematic things he's said and more the sleeping (allegedly) and being inappropriate with underage fans
The Taylor one: I actually disagree a little. It sounds like the wife could afford it, so it’s not like gambling them out of house and home or something. Take Taylor out of it, and I think the emotional support was just…stop being mean. Respect your partner enough to be neutral instead of dropping little mean comments. It’s really easy to just be excited for your partner about something even if you have no interest in it. I know all the lore behind games like Elden Ring, Skyrim, Baldurs Gate, etc bc my boyfriend likes them and likes to tell me about them. I would never be mean or rude to him when his eyes light up to tell me some new ability he unlocked. He has spent thousands on gaming and literally games for hours every day. I’d never be mean to him about something that simply brings him JOY. like that’s so weird to me! Why don’t you want your partner to be happy? I think OP is an a hole for being rude about something that is clearly important to her. I think in couples like this, whoever is annoyed needs to take a step back and analyze why they’re annoyed, but also ASK your partner WHY they love something so much. Be their safe space to be themselves fully. Bc her saying he isn’t supportive has nothing to do with money or him like cheering her on or him listening to Taylor too. She doesn’t feel safe to enjoy her interests around him and is asking him to just be kind to him.
Guess I'm commenting three times lmao. Anyway, my brother is dead to me because him and his girlfriend stole everything out of my bedroom when they moved out. Furniture, jewelry, antiques, etc. The bitch even tore the pages from my diaries and stole the notebooks. I'm definitely holding a grudge, sorry!
22:27 I just want to say as a mom I am indeed sniffing my son’s hands. Kids are gross and I don’t want him in my kitchen touching everything with outside germs. 😅
Telling your sister her child isn’t special- The child themselves isn’t even aware of the mother’s miscarriages, the experience and trauma is the mothers only and it shouldn’t impact the way she’s raising the child she has. What was the point of suffering the multiple miscarriages if you was just aiming to raise an ahole?
I was just hospitalized for depression and suicidality. When I checked into the hospital, I weighed 74.2kg. I'm 5'5". For my entire hospital stay and follow-up care, people consistently commented on how thin and petite I was and made choices about how much medication to give me on that basis. Furthermore, I suffered from horrible nausea as a side effect of one of my medications, and a few days before I was discharged I weighed in at 70kg even. They were VERY concerned about my weight loss and it is one of the reasons they kept me as long as they did. Obviously some of that is because of the speed at which I was losing weight (most healthcare professionals recommend losing 1-2 pounds a week max, while I lost about 10 in a total of 8 days), but some of it was also because I was at a completely healthy weight before and they wanted to keep me at that weight. I say all of this to say that this man's demands about her weight loss when she is the same size as me is INSANE, and the timescale is even more insane. That is a monumental amount of weight to lose in such a short window. I am so glad she got out of that relationship.
ITS NOT FROM NUTTY PROFESSOR! It from Coming to America! Both Eddie Murphy though! And he’s dressed up as an older Jewish white man when he tells the spoon joke!
On the TS "emotional support"... You have to remember there are two sides to every story he may be saying that she expects emotional support from him and he may see that as he needs to like the songs... Her reality may be just asking him not to insult or mock her interests... And while her concert ticket may have been really expensive as a single expenditure.... That doesn't mean that he doesn't have hobbies that slowly add up to that kind of money in multiple transactions... He may also see that money being spent on an experienced versus tangible items as completely different... $2000 on a concert might have been ridiculous to him, but $2,000 in golf clubs may seem perfectly reasonable... It's just perspective
Marc Rebillet is INSANE. As a musician, I feel qualified to say he’s one of the best on the planet when it comes to composition. His ability to make songs off the cuff is so admirable
I know this is 3mo old but I’m just coming here to say that when my baby was born and I held him for the first time I said “is he always going to look like that?” 💀💀 I think most people know.. they just don’t say it 😂😂
If my partner gave me an ultimatum to lose weight I think I’d just walk away right then… and 160 lbs is too much for him??? That’s a perfectly healthy weight
My dad used to raise pigeons when he was a teen. Had some expensive show bird type breeds and roller breeds. Someone broke into his coop and stole them one night. Dad eventually found them, and he knew they were his birds because he spent hours with them every day for years, so he knew their patterning. But, by then, the dude had cut all the bands off of them, so he had no way to prove they were his and the cops wouldnt do anything. He couldnt just steal them back because at that point the cops knew that he thinks they're his, so if the guy made a report, they were gonna go right to him and he would get in trouble. It broke his heart and he's never owned another pigeon since then
Ugh that first story irked me lol. When I was 16 I was told there was something wrong with my uterus and even if I were to get pregnant my body would most likely not be able to carry to term, resulting in miscarriage or still born. I had only one miscarriage before my first son was born 15 years ago, but struggled the entire pregnancy and almost lost him during the delivery. 10 years later I got pregnant with my second son, I had 17 miscarriages between my first born and my second (who’s now 4) but I always thought my first born was going to be my only child because clearly my body was not holding onto any pregnancy after him. I was shocked when I was able to hit the second trimester with my second since outside of my first born, all my pregnancies ended before 10 weeks. They are both literal miracle babies but I would never NEVER allow my children to act like that! Our jobs as parents is to prepare them for the real world when we’re no longer here and her kid is going to have a hard ass life growing up believing he’s “special” enough to be an entitled spoiled brat.
Its okay we all know it took Taylor a while to get the dance rhythm down... Defiantly give the music a chance though, and not the mainstream songs. There is a reason she is that famous.
When I was 17, I was with a 21-year-old and looking back on that now at 21 I could never be with a 17-year-old 🤢 I’m 26 and even the thought of being with a 20-year-old bothers me
completely unrelated but i saw lil baby in concert more than and it was definitely worth it . i think some men artists dont necessarily have all the theatrics of say a Beyoncé concert but if you like the music and have good vibes it makes it worth seeing in person
Teacher situation also sounds like the classroom teacher doesn’t respect the PE teacher’s job as an equal.
Stealing at 16 isn’t a young age to not know right or wrong. They wouldn’t be allowed in my house. 😂
The mom hella sucks . But my mom did something comparable to this, when i was like 9 or 10 i got a collective amount of $60 and one of my cousins found it from my hiding nook in my closet and stole it. And instead of them getting in trouble... I got my ass beat for not hiding it better💀
$2,000 worth of video games at the age of 16?? And you can’t even simply apologize…?? And the fam knew too???? Yeah noooo stay the hell away from me
And some were no longer made! 😢 there is no getting them back at all.
i feel like it's 100% justified to not want someone who stole a large amount of valuables from you to be in your home, even if it was a long time ago. Refusing to apologize to me is disrespectful and I wouldn't want someone who doesn't respect me to be in my home. I don't see that as a grudge.
That guy who wants 5 kids or else is incredibly insane. He thinks she owes him her youth, her body and her life. Sis, run! Run far, far away from that clown! "If you don't have my 5 kids many other women will." I hope she gets a divorce omg
People who demand kids from others are insane, but especially when they want a silly number like 5??? Like does he realise how many kids 5 really is?? Or how much work it is???? She needs to run and never look back.
@@DeviBuster literally so insane. Childbirth is not easy and takes a huge toll on the body
It’s parents like in the first story that drive me crazy. I understand infertility and miscarriages are hard, but you have to parent your child! I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy and then my son was born at 24+4 weeks. He is my little miracle, but I do parent him. He’s 2.5 years old now and he’s not out there getting away with “murder” just because I view him a miracle.
This! My SIL had a miscarriage before she had my nephew and he’s not a spoiled brat hes viewed as a miracle. Also I think people need to realize just how common miscarriages are because it’s quite shocking
I think the biggest problem is how we as a society don’t talk enough about miscarriages
If someone FORCES you to lose weight in order to marry them, that's someone you don't want to marry. He's sick. He wanted her to embarrass herself so he could feel better? like wth? Who cares how much someone weighs in comparison to who they are as a human being? She gained weight, she didn't become a whole new person. He needs a reality check. Girl really dodged a bullet, he clearly has personal issues.
1:17:04 I have a theory that this guy agreed to let her be a stay at home mom to dogs just to trap her. I bet he thought “Oh great, I’ll agree for her to quit her job and stay home. I’ll let her be dependent on me. Once she’s nice and comfortable, I’ll spring this idea on her that we’re going to have a baby.”
My first thought was, that’s insane, there’s no way anybody would agree to let their partner stay home and take care of the dogs, but in retrospect, I understand the manipulative tactic.
And i feel the only reason she's starting to catch on (by asking if she's the asshole) is because shes getting older, trying to learn to adult and starting to realize this is the rest of her life if she stays with this man.
I think people in that womans position wanna be told they are the problem or they are being crazy, because if they're the problem they can fix it... Among other reasons.
That’s exactly what I thought. He agreed to let her quit so she would be dependent on him and make it harder for her to leave.
That last story is body checking and is abusive and controlling af. The fact that she had to be so specific about all of the different weights and times in the story she put on the internet is SO TELLING! He was obviously paying wayyy too much attention. Wanting to see her remove her clothes and weigh herself again is insidious af.
Also 160 lb is average…
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@@beepboop8374 I might be or it might be very much above average and unhealthy or very much under average and unhealthy. Short and 70kgs could classify you as obese, average height and 70kgs would classify you as average and tall and 70kgs could classify you as underweight. Without knowing the height, the weight alone doesn't tell you much.
I genuinely don't get how these mean were raised and function in society thinking that they can humiliate and treat the women they claim to love the way that they do in these stories. I'd hope my wife would smack me if I ever talked crazy like that to her.
I wouldn't ever cross that line with any of my SO's. And unfortunately, it's possible that his parents raised him right, but he still turned into a major creep. You never know what can happen with your kids.
My view is plain and simple... Teaching your child will NOT KILL THEM... I really don't care how long it takes you to have your child or how many came before it... You shouldn't be a horrible parent or have a horrible child that you blame everyone else for but that stance only holds when it's a choice... Teach him better and treat him better
51:36 As someone with Asperger /Autism Type 1, I agree. I had a cousin steal from me (less monetary value) in 2019 and I don't let him into my house because after that I just feel unsafe with him in my space. His mother even told him to apologize and talk about stealing from me in therapy + he wouldn't stay in my or "my mother's" house (my and my sibilings property, my mother just lives there) until I allow it. He never did, and I won't budge in because it just justifies how I feel regarding him.
Omg I hella agree with Sam. I remember after the shooting during the Batman movie I was so anxious. Going to see it had my heart racing, thinking about what had happened. It’s wild out here.. not feeling safe in daily situations is mind blowing
I relate to Sam, im constantly looking at my surroundings in public. I dont even like going to the movies bc im always checking the emergency exit and thinking about how im going to hide if a shooter opens the door
14:21 NTA! That teacher definitely needed to be taught a lesson. You don't take things without asking, and then have the audacity not to put them back. If anything, that teacher stole from you. And you've been to the principal about this.
as someone with adhd and autism the taylor swift story gave me a lot of conflicting feelings because the way she lets taylor consume her life feels a lot like how i can be when im hyperfixated or have a new special interest--i get what it feels like to be that obsessed with something, my brain literally cant help it, and it really sucks when somebody is negative about it (rolling eyes, calling it a cult, etc), but i also get the husband not wanting her to spend that kind of money on taylor if it is their shared funds and he is by no means required to like taylor just because she does. i think the only fix to that would be for them to have separate savings for fun activities/hobbies and for her to bring it up less, but she should also be able to mention things she likes from time to time without him being visibly annoyed by it. speaking from experience, i do think it can be a bit sad to not be able to share the joy of your interests with someone, but at the end of the day you and your partner wont always align on stuff like that and it shouldnt be a deal breaker.
Taylor swift is a plague
@@infjandcoping4614 well thats why i said he by no means has to like it and she should probably mention it less. she's probably been "inflicting" her obsession of taylor on him purely out of love--when most people love something, they want to share it with people they love, but if he wants no part in it then that's fine. they both have some fixing to do imo. she should probably join some fandom communities dedicated to taylor so she has a more private outlet filled with other people who love her just as much and her husband should stop rolling eyes and being verbally negative about something she really cares about. i do think her obsession does sound like something that could be grating, especially considering i myself do not like taylor swift in the slightest, but as somebody who has dealt with fixations like this, where im constantly playing the music, rewatching the same clips and videos, etc., it can be incredibly hurtful when people make fun of the things you like or make you feel like you're stupid for liking it (calling it a cult/saying youre brainwashed) instead of just being straight forward and saying "i dont like this thing and id rather not talk about it as much, is there anyone else you know who likes this thing/could you find a community to talk about this with besides me?" i understand the husbands frustrations but i also understand why the wife feels upset that he is being so negative about something she clearly loves so much. if they cant find a middle ground then it might just be best to end things honestly.
It's fair to be into something and I absolutely understand hyperfixation (trust me, I've been in the TRENCHES) but the people in your life are allowed to be a little upset when it is the only thing you talk about and the only way we're interacting with them. If she was truly only mentioning her interest every once in a while he wouldn't have been upset enough to write a reddit post. I think it is genuinely the only thing she talks about with him and I'd also be incredibly irritated if I found myself in this situation too. Something I've specifically noticed about Taylor Swift fans is that a lot of them cannot stand the concept of someone not being a fan of her and will therefore argue with you until they're blue in the face (not every fan, but a lot of them). It's exhausting and I wouldn't be surprised if that's what she's doing. She literally called it a LIFESTYLE, it probably consumes every waking hour and every interaction she has. He doesn't have to tolerate that level of obsession, especially because it's clearly impacting their relationship.
For over a year, babes? Bffr. That man should not have to be subjected to that that often.
Her trying to forcefully share her interests is definitely because she loves him and cares what he thinks. Clearly her fixation is something else and she should probably be in therapy just to make sure it's a healthy one but it's not something bad. Hopefully he can come to realize and appreciate her feelings even if he's not into the music. However she has to be willing to share his interests too. If that is happening then it shouldn't be so hard to bare.
Last story, only person I'm weighing myself in front of is a nurse at my physical. The fact that it was his deal breaker for getting married wtf. Would have been a deal breaker for me as soon as he said that
56:05 this is from coming to America, the joke told in the barber shop when Eddie’s character arrives. I use it often. Totally understand thinking it’s the nutty prof, since it’s another movie eddie stars in
I'm a Swiftie (Only happened earlier this year around my 30th birthday) and I have a lot of Swiftie stuff, but omg I can't even imagine making it everything I do every single second of the day. Being a Swiftie is fun and cool, but do not make it your whole life!
I've been checking out your videos lately and just feel so, so...COMFORTABLE watching you all, and I've been trying to put my finger on what it is. I had to laugh when you all started talking about Nebraska and it clicked that at least some of you are either in or are previously from Nebraska. Maybe that's why I like your vibe so much, I'm from NE (back in the day). Now I live abroad, but I'm feeling some very comfy realness from you all that I keep coming back for more of.
Truth of the matter, most babies look like naked mole rats straight out the womb. The parents see Rufus (from Kim Possible) while the rest of us see beady eyes wrinkled Saran Wrap with a terrifying banshee scream. But then they grow a little and take their little baby portraits and it’s all good. We all just hope they get cuter as they get older and they usually do.
Loved hearing y’all’s conversation at the start.
And as an Illinois native, your friends had a true Chicago experience. Glad they weren’t too spooked. Chicago is lovely once you learn to mind your business (or get desensitized). A lesson I had to learn myself 😂❤
Keep doing y’all. Your podcast is such a good time to listen to.
Before I watched this I had literally had a whole conversation about how newborns are usually ugly purple raisins 🤣😭 Sorry little ones, but it's true! I know I was one.
re: Refusing to weigh in front of partner - my ex husband did something similar; he threatened to break up with me if I weighed over 150lbs. He was emotionally abusive in other ways which I'm wondering if the partner is as well. I agree with you all - RUN - you will have dodged a major bullet and lots of therapy to reverse the abuse endured from staying.
On the last story - 5kg, 11lbs in five weeks is an insane amount of weight to lose in that short of time. In the most healthy manner, she probably should’ve at least doubled that time to lose that same amount of weight (1lb/week). She was putting in the work, the hours, and probably the mental/physical torment for this. Because of this pressure.
Also - I’m the same weight, 165lbs and am 5’7”. I wear a size small, maybe medium in uncommon cases, in everything - shirts, pants, dresses, etc. I have no idea the drugs this man is on.
You're 5'7 but we don't know her height. I'm short and that would be borderline obese for me. For my even shorter friends it would definitely land them in the obese category.
I live in Canada and I always get tense in theatres. I always think of my escape plan as soon as I get there just incase
y’all made me cackle this episode and i am LIVING for the longer lengths
As a former teacher, I got to say the petty revenge that the gym teacher did is 10 times nicer than what that teacher was doing. Taking a necessary item to be used in an observation is such a big and absolutely unacceptable. Also, she broke a lot of his stuff and he immediately boxed it and also gave her access to it prior to students coming.
Also, losing a chair during teaching is really not nearly as big a deal as a lot of other supplies (when you're teaching you're not always sitting down and most of the tasks you need to do don't actually require you to sit and usually teacher chairs are actually school property and not teacher's personal property whereas, unfortunately, often those very needed supplies that gym teachers are paid for by the teacher themselves, sometimes).
Y'all talking about how petty it is to be mad about the games stolen 10 years ago and I'm sitting here damn near 20 years later mad about my brother stealing and pawning my Game Boy Advance SP. I had it for like 6 months!
Petition to make these podcasts longer 😭
Thank you for posting! Y'all seriously help me get through my work days.
I'm going to be honest, I really dont see how watching concerts in person and the videos of it are any different to rewatching movies or tv series 🤷🏼♀️
@@infjandcoping4614 Maybe not, but there are people who watch TV series or movies for comfort, I really just don't find it odd personally
The sound quality is usually something incredible compared to any kind of speakers we can buy (headphone or otherwise) so that's usually something really nice to experience. And its just something different.
Its an activity where you go out with people you like generally, you have a nice meal out beforehand and talk about how excited you are and what parts of the music/band/etc. you like. And then you're there, watching live entertainment, and often feeling like you're being literally bathed in sound you can feel vibrating through your bones (depending on how loud it is and what the music type is).
Its an experience and something memorable.
Not for everyone (I know some people who would say that sounds like an utter nightmare), but it can be something really nice.
The videos are fun to listen to if you can't go. More specifically sometimes I'll put up the official recordings of the concerts in the background for music sometimes.
I’m not a Swifty, but she put 1.7 billion $ into to US economy from her ERAS tour. People LOVE her
For real! Just say you don’t listen to her and move on.
Yeah but that lady was crazy.
@@Miss_Kisa94 absofuckinlutley 🤣
at what point do people say: reddit is not equipped for this?
Ohhh when they were talking about going to the movies and worried about when someone gets up!! We recently went to the movies after a mass shooting. I was smiling at every dang person in that lobby, had my seats picked out!!! It's crazy nowadays! I've had one child on lockdown for a threat and another because a kid brought a gun to school! I don't play these days! I really feel for our future generations.
Always look forward for this podcast 🎉 sammmmm is backkkkk
Look, I’ve been a Swiftie since her very first album back in 2006, but I would never spend thousands of dollars on a ticket. I’ve been to 2 of her concerts , and have a bit of her merch, but I know that Taylor Swift wouldn’t care who I am other than I’m a fan.
The loosing weight thing - if that was how he said it, the wedding should have been off with the first conversation!
Ooof first story, I’m gonna say AH but only because of how OP said it, not what she was saying. If she had taken her sister aside and asked her to handle her son better for the party and then ~later~ have a private conversation with sister about how she’s allowing her son to get away with a lot of negative behavior because of her difficulties conceiving, I feel like it probably would have been heard a lot more clearly by the sister. Chances are the sister is even frustrated by her son’s behavior and often just doesn’t know how to deal with it, and maybe even hopes most people don’t notice it as much as they do. If it had been a calm private conversation, approached from a place of understanding rather than anger (although I do understand the anger in that moment!) it definitely would have come across better. That many miscarriages is so hard.. but she does need to hear a loving conversation about how her parenting now can affect his future in school, work, relationships, etc..
The weight thing is so bad down the line too bc my dad was the same with my mom and she was the same with me and my sister and now we all have eating disorders, my sister being the most severe (she was 90lbs at 21 and she is 5’6). That type of abuse causes sooo much trauma. And yes it IS abuse.
You kids are cool. I love your grounded approach and sharing with the world how you feel about your values as you’re going into adulthood. It’s been a lonely year for me and watching these episodes really lifts my spirits. Keep up the great work!
I had a miscarriage before i had my son that doesn't mean he can act however he wants with no rules!
Ooooh so early!!
I hope Sam is not too controversial this episode 😅
The dudes in the last 2 stories are just straight up abusive 😬
Yeah fr, like call a spade a spade. The dude in the last story is soooo controlling. She dodged a bullet!
As a Swifty, I can see where the husband’s coming from. I also spent quite a bit of money on my ticket, listen to the albums, took videos that I watch occasionally, I watch the live streams when I can (for surprise songs), and I watched the movie. However, I’m not doing that 24 seven. If she truly is just nonstop, then I totally get where he’s coming from. You can only listen to something so many times before it gets repetitive and annoying. It’s insane to watch your videos and then the live stream. Like girl come on. I’m curious of how much she is projecting the videos onto the TV, that’s crazy to me. Listening to only her music is crazy too, there are so many artist/bands out there she would love that have the same vibe as Taylor’s (especially with the different genera’s she has crossed). I use the Spotify feature to discover similar songs to expand my catalog. I can totally see how the husbands hurts by her saying their wedding day isn’t the best day of her life. The ticket cost would be crazy as well, but if she is like me and never been to one concert getting like 4 in one night is justified. Plus going off the crews comments of production/outfit changes/etc., it’s just like Bey’s, Taylor’s is amazing. But if she’s just putting out a bids and he rolls his eyes because he’s not interested, then I can see why she’s annoyed. Like if it’s just a couple comments here and there, or when something happens, he’s being a dick by saying “wElL iTs AlL tHe TiMe”. These are the stories always want someone else’s opinion, just to cooperate the partners story.
The taste the soup was from "coming to America"
the conversions were crazy!! had me on google looking it up as she was calculating
The RAGE I feel during the last story!!!! I am sooooooooooooo glad that they broke up. I mean I hate for a relationship to end but that’s absolutely not right. He literally just wants to humiliate her. I feel like he wanted to check to see EXACTLY where she lost the weight and if it was “to his liking”. Forget the fact that she actually lost more than he asked her to, he wants to have total control over how she looks. Also, did he say his weight? Why did he get on the scale and weigh himself and THEN ask her to weigh again? Is he basing her weight in relation to his? Whew chile…….the ghetto.
that isn't even being a swiftie anymore, ops wife is definitely using parasocialism to fill some kind of hole in her life, or maybe she just never learned to find happiness and stimulation outside of the internet. she needs therapy and a hobby.
That quote Brandon said is from nutty professor is actually from coming to America but that’s a fair mixup since they’re both Eddie Murphy
The best representation of Americans anxiety is stories of people traveling outside the US and getting startled by loud sounds (cars backfiring or pyrotechnics at concerts/festivals), realizing they’re safe and then the looks of pity from the friends they’re visiting.
As someone who wasn’t a big fan on rae shremurd before I saw them at a festival, they are my top 5 live artist to this day! The tickets are affordable and it’s always such a good vibe at their concerts.
Infertility challenges didn’t win and the child is here now, so no one is obligated to allow your child’s bad behavior. The best way to show you understand the magnitude of the miracle child you were finally able to have is to be a good steward of his upbringing and raise him well…
love the 1hr+ videos 🙌
Love listening on Spotify while driving but the TH-cam is a must cause you guys crack me.
You 4 together 🔥
i love being out in the wild and finding BB fans! I didnt even notice you wearing a winners circle shirt!!! AHHHH!!!!
IT WAS COMING TO AMAERICA! It was at the end of the movie! The "where's the spoon joke"
33:00 I don't know if I should answer this, because I have a bias. I am NOT a Taylor Swift fan... But judging from the title alone, I'm going to go out on a limb and say NTA
ETA: And I was right! This obsession of hers is not healthy! And husband is right, this is borderline cultish.
the soup joke is from coming to america, I think arsenio hall dressed as one of the old men from the barber shop tells the joke at the end? as a post credit scene?
51:36 based on that title alone, the short answer is hell no! NTA! The hell makes you think I would ever trust you again, when you've stolen that much from me? I don't give a fxxx if it was 10, 20, 50 years ago! I don't trust you!
Say it with me, people:
ACTIONS
HAVE
CONSEQUENCES!
56:44 its actually from “Coming to America” 😂
dehydrated sausage took me OUT lmaooooo
The Swifties and Disney Adults have a strong ven diagram.
Also, hearing sam saying he would just roll the chair out all i heard was, " they see me rolling, they hating, patrolling they trying to catch me riding dirty!" 😅
YAYYY NEW COMFORT LEVEL UPLOAD
The spoon joke was at the end of coming to America FYI. Lol
In Japan, I believe it’s considered rude to be loud on the train cause it’s an enclosed space. Even music shouldnt blare.
55:24 the mom basically thinks her child is stupid because they're autistic??? (Asperger's is an outdated term, it just falls under autism spectrum disorder now). Autistic people are often some of the most brilliant people. Op, clearly wasn't clueless. That mom was gross. Ten years over something from when their kids is too much though.
I personally don’t understand the Taylor Swift phenomenon but I’m happy for all the people that like her music. I think for this particular story, it would be nice for Op to maybe not make disparaging comments about her interest, but their partner needs to understand that they are not obligated to be into or even like the same artist, like there should be some boundaries and understandings. Like I don’t think I should be expected to care that much about this celebrity, and I’m sure it’s the same for some of his interests. I say they just let each other enjoy their own things in peace.
Nahhhh, I would not let anyone in my home. F the diagnosis or not. That’s wrong
I didn’t see anyone else mention it but the Brendan Urie thing is less problematic things he's said and more the sleeping (allegedly) and being inappropriate with underage fans
My best concert was probably deadmau5 and kaskade. Absolutely insaneeee!! Flames, fireworks, drones, the power literally went out lol
This podcast is amazing. Brandon is always the goat 🐐 🐐🐐🐐
My mom did the let me smell your hands. Still does it to my siblings. 22:52
The Taylor one: I actually disagree a little. It sounds like the wife could afford it, so it’s not like gambling them out of house and home or something. Take Taylor out of it, and I think the emotional support was just…stop being mean. Respect your partner enough to be neutral instead of dropping little mean comments. It’s really easy to just be excited for your partner about something even if you have no interest in it. I know all the lore behind games like Elden Ring, Skyrim, Baldurs Gate, etc bc my boyfriend likes them and likes to tell me about them. I would never be mean or rude to him when his eyes light up to tell me some new ability he unlocked. He has spent thousands on gaming and literally games for hours every day. I’d never be mean to him about something that simply brings him JOY. like that’s so weird to me! Why don’t you want your partner to be happy? I think OP is an a hole for being rude about something that is clearly important to her. I think in couples like this, whoever is annoyed needs to take a step back and analyze why they’re annoyed, but also ASK your partner WHY they love something so much. Be their safe space to be themselves fully. Bc her saying he isn’t supportive has nothing to do with money or him like cheering her on or him listening to Taylor too. She doesn’t feel safe to enjoy her interests around him and is asking him to just be kind to him.
The soup comedy bit is from Coming To America (the original).
Guess I'm commenting three times lmao. Anyway, my brother is dead to me because him and his girlfriend stole everything out of my bedroom when they moved out. Furniture, jewelry, antiques, etc. The bitch even tore the pages from my diaries and stole the notebooks. I'm definitely holding a grudge, sorry!
22:25 my parents would straight tell my siblings and i to get back in the shower if they thought we didn't take long enough 😭
22:27 I just want to say as a mom I am indeed sniffing my son’s hands. Kids are gross and I don’t want him in my kitchen touching everything with outside germs. 😅
Telling your sister her child isn’t special- The child themselves isn’t even aware of the mother’s miscarriages, the experience and trauma is the mothers only and it shouldn’t impact the way she’s raising the child she has. What was the point of suffering the multiple miscarriages if you was just aiming to raise an ahole?
I’m getting ready for a movie date , thanks Sam 🤣🤣
I was just hospitalized for depression and suicidality. When I checked into the hospital, I weighed 74.2kg. I'm 5'5". For my entire hospital stay and follow-up care, people consistently commented on how thin and petite I was and made choices about how much medication to give me on that basis. Furthermore, I suffered from horrible nausea as a side effect of one of my medications, and a few days before I was discharged I weighed in at 70kg even. They were VERY concerned about my weight loss and it is one of the reasons they kept me as long as they did. Obviously some of that is because of the speed at which I was losing weight (most healthcare professionals recommend losing 1-2 pounds a week max, while I lost about 10 in a total of 8 days), but some of it was also because I was at a completely healthy weight before and they wanted to keep me at that weight. I say all of this to say that this man's demands about her weight loss when she is the same size as me is INSANE, and the timescale is even more insane. That is a monumental amount of weight to lose in such a short window. I am so glad she got out of that relationship.
8:59 i remember this damn story. NTA
Dude Memphis be nosey AF!! We will all slow down to look at a wreck and everybody got to go know everybody’s business
The old man soup joke was from COMING TO AMERICA!! it was at the very end credit scene!!
ITS NOT FROM NUTTY PROFESSOR! It from Coming to America! Both Eddie Murphy though! And he’s dressed up as an older Jewish white man when he tells the spoon joke!
On the TS "emotional support"... You have to remember there are two sides to every story he may be saying that she expects emotional support from him and he may see that as he needs to like the songs... Her reality may be just asking him not to insult or mock her interests... And while her concert ticket may have been really expensive as a single expenditure.... That doesn't mean that he doesn't have hobbies that slowly add up to that kind of money in multiple transactions... He may also see that money being spent on an experienced versus tangible items as completely different... $2000 on a concert might have been ridiculous to him, but $2,000 in golf clubs may seem perfectly reasonable... It's just perspective
Marc Rebillet is INSANE. As a musician, I feel qualified to say he’s one of the best on the planet when it comes to composition. His ability to make songs off the cuff is so admirable
I know this is 3mo old but I’m just coming here to say that when my baby was born and I held him for the first time I said “is he always going to look like that?” 💀💀 I think most people know.. they just don’t say it 😂😂
If my partner gave me an ultimatum to lose weight I think I’d just walk away right then… and 160 lbs is too much for him??? That’s a perfectly healthy weight
Cuz is back 🫶🏽‼️
The soup story was from Coming To America starring Eddie Murphy
My dad used to raise pigeons when he was a teen. Had some expensive show bird type breeds and roller breeds. Someone broke into his coop and stole them one night. Dad eventually found them, and he knew they were his birds because he spent hours with them every day for years, so he knew their patterning. But, by then, the dude had cut all the bands off of them, so he had no way to prove they were his and the cops wouldnt do anything. He couldnt just steal them back because at that point the cops knew that he thinks they're his, so if the guy made a report, they were gonna go right to him and he would get in trouble. It broke his heart and he's never owned another pigeon since then
Ugh that first story irked me lol. When I was 16 I was told there was something wrong with my uterus and even if I were to get pregnant my body would most likely not be able to carry to term, resulting in miscarriage or still born. I had only one miscarriage before my first son was born 15 years ago, but struggled the entire pregnancy and almost lost him during the delivery. 10 years later I got pregnant with my second son, I had 17 miscarriages between my first born and my second (who’s now 4) but I always thought my first born was going to be my only child because clearly my body was not holding onto any pregnancy after him. I was shocked when I was able to hit the second trimester with my second since outside of my first born, all my pregnancies ended before 10 weeks. They are both literal miracle babies but I would never NEVER allow my children to act like that! Our jobs as parents is to prepare them for the real world when we’re no longer here and her kid is going to have a hard ass life growing up believing he’s “special” enough to be an entitled spoiled brat.
The soup thing is from Coming to America
This child is 5...he's about to start school...he's going to get himself HURT
As a non American the usa is fucking terrifying
Its okay we all know it took Taylor a while to get the dance rhythm down... Defiantly give the music a chance though, and not the mainstream songs. There is a reason she is that famous.
Chicago is not representative of the Midwest.
Yessssss more Sahdia!!!!
When I was 17, I was with a 21-year-old and looking back on that now at 21 I could never be with a 17-year-old 🤢 I’m 26 and even the thought of being with a 20-year-old bothers me
completely unrelated but i saw lil baby in concert more than and it was definitely worth it . i think some men artists dont necessarily have all the theatrics of say a Beyoncé concert but if you like the music and have good vibes it makes it worth seeing in person
155 lbs?!?! That's a below average weight for a full grown woman