Financial Infidelity Post Divorce Update | Episode 95
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Episode 95
With Sam, Yvonne, Brandon and Madi
0:00 Falala We Won't Stop
3:06 Co-Parenting
3:29 AITA For Canceling a Trip Bc My Fiance's Ex and Her Baby Are Coming
5:20 Response
8:06 Brandon's 21st Bday and Madi's Club XP
13:10 Top Comment and Response
15:49 The Blachelor
18:13 Update
20:48 Kyle Slander
21:27 Response
28:53 MISSING ARM
29:20 Financial Infidelity
30:10 Post Divorce Update: Financial Infidelity Accusation/Cheating Husband
35:39 Response
44:10 Sam's TOO Open
44:49 AITA For Telling My Husband that He Has To Let My Dad Witness His Colonoscopy
46:53 Response
51:56 Act Out
1:00:06 Serving Family
1:00:39 AITA For Expressing to My In-laws that I Don't Want to Be There Server for Their Family's Christmas Dinner
1:01:57 Response
1:03:00 Edit
1:03:41 Response
1:04:12 Top Comment
1:05:23 Response
1:10:48 Race
1:33:55 Florida Man Headlines
1:35:55 Family Vacay
1:37:26 AITA For Asking My Fiance to Skip This Year's Christmas Family Vacation Because Our Baby is Due
1:39:23 Response
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On the last story she added a few more updates she ended up giving birth December 20th and he missed the birth because he came back the 22nd. Her mom and aunt were there with her as they came back town once they found out he had no plans on not going. She broke off the engagement and moved into her parents house. She didn’t let him meet baby until Christmas Day. His family still think he did nothing wrong and are bad talking OP. He’s obviously apologizing and trying to be there at her parents home. Her mom lets him come during the day and makes him leave at night. His family said they want to meet baby as soon as they return so she’ll probably have more updates when they return cause she’s expecting it to be a shit show.
wowwwww
Oh my fucking god that's fucking awful. I'm proud of her for leaving. What an awful awful family-in-law (or, ex, now)
Wow first red flag was him leaving and she’s almost due!!! Who does that, so glad she left him
I knew she was gonna have the baby while he was gone! I’m just glad that she had someone there with her!
Yah have to wonder what lies Joe, the ex, might have been telling his parents if they are bad mouthing OP and don't think he did anything wrong. His parents might just be delulu but...ehhh think there are lies upon lies. I'm glad it worked out in that way. I was concerned that the ex might try to forge documents or somehow use the information OP sent to Amy.
I came here for the financial infidelity update, and they did not disappoint.
FR, like what a twist
Also I have been waiting 😂
Can't wait to hear what it is!!
Do you know what vid had the og part?
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As someone who co-parents, I would never think about attending a birthday party for my ex’s fiancé or even his parents. We were together for 6 years and I would never dream of going on vacation with them. That’s their time together with our son and I would want the same consideration when I take our son on vacation.
I really think that he is the dad of baby 2 of the ex wife and that's why he paid the b-day. And just make that all his behaviors towards the ex, makes sense. Bc he doesn't see anything wrong on going on vacation with both baby's and ex. 🙃 Just a theory
@@bellaruloxcoachbut she is making a distinction between the kids. She says her baby and doesn't mention viits, while the other kid is fully integrated in their life, he even has his room. Also she wouldn't have said he paid for her baby, she would have said for his son
The guy who left his pregnant fiancée really got to me. So many things could have happened,
I fell while pregnant and hit the fireplace and I was scared and crying. My husband rushed home from work even though I told him I thought I was over reacting and worried, he didn't care he wanted to be home to make sure I didn't need to be rushed to the hospital ( I was around 32-24 weeks). I was completely fine just in shock but he still worked from home the next day just to make sure I was okay. I couldn't imagine him leaving me for 2 weeks pregnant with the due date looming.
Hope she understands that unless he stands up to his parents and lets them know how serious this situation is, they will continue to downplay her feelings and disregard her while treating her as their baby machine.
Story 1:
NTA. WEIRDO EX!!! Both hubby AND ex-wife = inconsiderate. SO rude and weird?!?! leave them on their own girl!!
After Update:
I am sooo proud of OP. And not at all surprised at the "if you don't do ___ then I'm leaving you." I'm always a little confused whenever one of you guys are like "Woah!" when something like that is said, because.. why wouldn't she? What she said after is totally right. If Ex-wife Elena is coming to every holiday, birthday party, is having everything hosted at OP's place for her own stuff, etc. etc. NOW, with NO promises of a different future, in their CURRENT relationship.. what's there to say it won't continue alllll the way into the delivery room for OP?!!?
I think the guy is fucking crazy for the whole "FIIINE FIIINE i'll tell elena you just dont like her and can't stand her. okay?" stuff. but it's also good he said that. because it really shows what type of person he is. It shows that he hasn't listened or cared one bit whenever OP complained or tried to set her boundaries. It shows he doesn't think any of what she said was important. All he hears is "whaa whaa I don't like your ex" when she's ACTUALLY saying, "your ex is everywhere. where are our boundaries. how come you're spending more time on her than you are on OUR relationship." Top Comment from earlier is right. Elena wants him back. and so does OP's now-ex boyfriend. Hope OP is doing great!
Story 3:
I'm sorry that is soooo weird. NTA. That family of in-law's are a bullet you should be glad to dodge because wtf?
After Update:
yeah. makes sense. honestly when I was first listening I was like "this sounds like weiiird servant stuff." and then hearing she's biracial, working class.. omfg. get away!!!
She is definitely being gaslit. Turning down a free, home-cooked christmas dinner. Choosing to go to a restaurant. Choosing to go to OP's restaurant. Choosing to go to OP's Restaurant on a day she's working and therefore can't join. Choosing to go to OP's restaurant, on a day she's working and therefore can't join, and requesting and EXPECTING her to SERVE the WHOOLE family dinner that she's been specifically excluded from. CHOOSING TO GO TO OP'S RESTAURANT, ON A DAY WHERE SHE'S WORKING AND THEREFORE CAN'T JOIN, AND REQUESTING AND EXPECTING HER TO SERVE THE WHOLE FAMILY DINNER THAT SHE'S BEEN EXCLUDED FROM... AND THEN YOUR PLAN TO SAY "Merry christmas! We tipped you as our waiter!"
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WHAT. LEAVE THAT MAN. LEAVE THAT FAMILY. RUN.
Story 4:
NTA. Fuck that guy. What is going on. so many shitty husbands. my faith in true love dwindles and dies with every story.
On the last story, how can the husband have FOMO over one christmas holiday with his parents when he had several and will most defenitely get several more, and not FOMO over potentially missing his first child being born, because that is a once in a lifetime thing!!!
"You never met your dad" completely took me out. Woke up my baby sleeping on me, worth it. 😂😂😂
The family dinner server one is wild to me. I have a family member who used to be a waitress, my family would go to her restaurant and request her as our server, so we could see her and say hi, and so my dad could leave a big tip to help her out since she would never accept hand outs. But we would still NEVER do this. Making her a servant for a holiday dinner? Not celebrating with her? Considering her tip the Christmas present? That is absolutely wild. They're going out of their way to make things harder for her which is just awful.
Seems more like a power play... like saying that they don't really approve of her and this is their way of saying without saying that they don't see her as equal to them ... and they will see her as beneath them.
And turning down a home cooked meal? Probably turned down because she was cooking and she’s brown👀
Re story #2, financial infidelity updates: she’s truly a compassionate person for going way out of her way to convince this girl. I would’ve gotten a restraining order on Joe and the girl he’s conning. If the restraining order doesn’t show that girl she’s got more scruples than the lies he’s feeding her, then good luck to her and her baby.
The girl is sadly gullible and unfortunately made a baby with this pathetic excuse for a man.
I’m a birth worker and I’ve literally caught a dad by the front of his shirt as he started to pass out because he decided to take a peak at the baby coming out knowing he doesn’t do well with blood
Uploaded 34 sec ago? WHAT DID I DO TO GET THIS BEAUTIFUL GIFT first thing opening TH-cam😭
The financial infidelity story is one of the first episodes I ever watched!
Me too.
giving birth on your own on CHRISTMAS, the holiday CENTRED AROUND FAMILY LOVE AND TOGETHERNESS, because your husband is childish is sooo heartbreaking. that's soo sad. plus, pregnancies can go so wrong. so many things can happen. if things go wrong and she has to go through a c-section? on her own? no friends, no family, no partner? c-sections are so traumatising and awful. they're so so scary and dangerous. and he's gambling it all. because he has "massive FOMO" right. well, good luck explaining that to your kid one day.
Omg. Assuming the baby isn’t late, i wouldn’t even call to tell my partner i was giving birth, and either way he’d be coming home to an empty home, because that speaks a LOT to how little he gives a 💩
Fomo about missing out? Try missing out on ur first child's birth
innit? imagine that first child going to ask "Dad, where were you when i was born?" "oh, i was busy celebrating christmas with your grandparents." "but you left mommy to celebrate on her own and when i was born you weren't there?" "oh well, you see, I get FOMO!" wtf???????????
I appreciate your guys conversation regarding discussion on race, and I really do understand!!!! It is such a pressure being a poc in my country and try to "perform" to give out a good example for the sake of our people lol. Code switching on a daily basis can be exhausting at times. While some may suggest that you should simply be yourself, it's important to acknowledge that this can be a luxury that is not always readily available.
Server story: Her Christmas “present” is a tip she has to work for and food she would normally get without paying (or with a heavy discount). 😳
Re: story #1. It’s not the children that’s the issue since she seemed to have sincerely enjoyed spending time and providing for Greyson, a child that’s not hers. OP is nta here and props for recognizing and taking the out before signing the marriage certificate with him. Her issue is that she was with a man who can’t establish healthy boundaries and not gaslight her for wanting boundaries. She evaluated the situation and recognized the ex and her children are apart of him life, therefore apart of hers, but there can be boundaries established where they can still be a family without her feeling unimportant in the relationship.
I’m not that type of commenter but I ought to give credit where credit is due… somehow you guys always manage to post at the perfect time for me. Like today I had to unfortunately go to A&E and I wasn’t sure what to watch during the wait time, enter TH-cam and you guys just posted. I’ve taken my time watching it too, was there for four hours but you guys made it almost enjoyable with this extra long episode, thank you so much. Happy new year in advance to you guys and everyone who happens to read this.
"You want to cut a rug?"
"What does that mean? Am I old??"
Oh honey, that means you're young.❤
Regarding the family vacation...his other siblings will be there this year...meaning they are not there every year...meaning they don't always prioritize their parents but have lives of their own...OP's husband should learn from them. Your pregnant wife is your absolute priority!!!!
I think the ex / baby mama definitely was the one to breakup with OP’s fiancé, and I think he still wanted her, and now I think she wants him back too. Why else would she be spending _that much time_ with her ex’s family? She has seemingly made her ex’s family her whole life. To the point that she hears about a vacation in passing, then asked enough questions (about the vacation details) that she was able to immediately go home and plan / book the whole trip for herself to join them. That’s just so bizarre, and is way more than just a normal co-parenting relationship. I guarantee you that she and OP’s ex will get back together almost immediately.
I don't go to clubs or dance parties often but when I do my go to move is to just make eye contact and smile and if they smile back I'll ask their name and "do you wanna dance with me?" It's rarely been awkward but idk I'm kinda neurodivergent so consent and clarity mean a lot to me. Even straight girls often say yes to dancing 🤷
This episode WAS DEEP!!! Loved every moment
My son, my only child, was born 2 weeks early. She easily could go into labor early. NTA but her fiance is...
I live in Houston. We were named the most diverse city in the US at one point. I love how diverse our city is and I was very fortunate to go to a very diverse middle school and high school.
The co parenting style is crazy… he’s wanted his wife back the whole time.. that’s why he allowed her to do water she wanted.
Inviting your ex to your new partners birthday is CRAZY.! That right there shows which woman was more important & most thought about.
In a lot of cultures in the world. Your cousin's cousin is also your cousin.
So basically you went to your cousin's wedding too
I filled out the Google form lol I would soooo spray that kid are you kidding me 😂😂😂 especially if I had already talked to his parents (after the second time he got on my lawn I would have already chatted with the parents.) “oh he walked in front of my hose he was on my lawn and I thought he was grass 🤷♀️”
First, the lack of diversity I experienced in Catholic school from 3-18 is what pushed me to attend two HBCU's. It really allowed me to be myself without the model black girl label because we were 99.9% black.
Second, as a 4th generation Floridian, I must defend Florida. It's the crazy people who move here that make those Florida man stories. Visit, spend money at Disney, but go home. We're full.
Well also the laws in Florida, crimes are more public
Thank you. I literally tell people that it is the people who move to Florida who are crazy. Not to say we aren’t eccentric; it’s how we survive all the crazies. And I’m also 4th generational Floridian too!
First here to say I found you guys on TikTok (of course) and found a liking to you guys. Quickly realized you were located in Omaha in Nebraska (which i ironically moved here almost 3 years ago). Great conversation you guys had talking about race. Being from Florida I was very shocked by the amount of white people and lack of culture in this area. The “Nebraska nice” is very true and the segregation in this city is something I’ve never seen before. More people here need to take the time to listen to what you’re saying and educate themselves. Thank you for taking the time and speaking so mindfully about a subject. P.S. Florida is a different breed but such a beautiful place. You guys should visit sometime! (Destin, FL specifically)
Sam talking ab how when his mom was looking for a house and they said she’d be more comfortable in a certain area is so illegal, it’s steering in real estate and it’s been an illegal practice since 1968 through the Fair Housing Act
Haha the acting it out part, so good 😂😂😂 loving the improv!
The red lining around realty and race is still very much a thing in St. Louis, MO.
I listen to you guys while I’m cleaning. But I had to stop and take a break to watch the reenactment. 😂
The reenactment was HILARIOUS 😂😂😂
Yall silly AF
I literally watched the financial infidelity video yesterday. Im so happy 😊
I would love to see some parents featured in an episode as guests
So excited I didn't think this would update!
That last story was wild what is this guy smoking he’s planning to come back 2 days before the due date? That’s insane like he knows the baby will be full term before he even leaves and could come at anytime the due date is the perfect 40 weeks mark but 2/3 weeks before or after is labour can start any second time
If Amy’s friends ask her “what has he NOT lied about to you?”
Amy “he wasn’t lying about loving me!”
Be sweetly, he lied about that too. Your value was being deflowered. He does not love you.
For a “prodigy” she sure is stoopid with two Os.
I would genuinely listen to an album of the impromptu songs you guys make 😂 👀
I can't believe y'all are from Nebraska! I'm a UNL student and I listen to you guys everyday
I love this show, thanks for so many great episodes!
She definitely doesn’t need to be at his parents parties the only party they should both be at is the sons everything else is extra
Discussing a colonoscopy should NEVER be an off-limits topic, especially amongst friends. The fact that this is a "taboo" subject is the reason why so many people die from colon cancer.
Having said that.... No one wants to observe that lol
My Florida man story! 😂
Florida man and police officer accused of throwing cheeseburger at wife and punching her head on August 11
Merry Christmas guys!! And happy new year 🎉
Appreciate this video, man!
Not me in Florida watching this.. lol
Wait a minute, I've been watching you guys forever and am just now realizing youre in Nebraska?! I live right by Omaha lol crazy :)
The algorithm did its thing! WE GOT AN UPDATE BOYS!
Merry christmas and happy new year yall!!
Omg I googled my birthday for florida and the top story was about a drunk man driving his truck into the ocean and he got arrested and said" it's not my fault trucks aren't aloud to surf" lmao
1:36:08 waaaaif omg alabama too.!! i hate this state but this part i can brag about!! i absolutely LOVE the beaches here!! orange beach and gulf shores and all the cities surrounding are so beachy and chill. soooo.. basically COMPLETELY different than anywhere else in AL.😂 it's also right next to pensacola FL, the vibes are pretty much the same.
I’ve lived in the Dallas/Fort Worth area my whole life and I can say after 35 years it’s more diverse NOW. It was still pretty segregated growing up though.
lol I’m from the Dallas Fort Worth area, technically about an hour away out of my country, but it definitely is busy as hell all the time anytime of the day even at night I just find it kind of interesting that you all have been there before
1:26:40 wow definitely know the feeling. I was in a graduating class of 1000+ in the PNW, and maybe 20-25 students were Black at most. Most were White or Asian. People still asked if we were related or if one of my friends and I were sisters.
Story 1: uhhhh girl if you don’t leave that man FAST . I’m in the situation you are where my fiancé has an ex wife who gave him a kid , and due to her starting bs about me I cannot stand her . He knows for safety and comfort we cannot be near each other ever . They are amicable for my stepson but if she pulled that ish he’d shut it down real quick . Also the fact he gave her so much detail to where she could book at the same place and dates ?! Like dates no duh cause they have to coordinate but the place ?! My man would never . All she needs to know is we’re going to Mexico and that’s it .
Edit: I didn’t wait till the update lol good for you girl , glad you left 😅💕
Why did guest feel the need to point out that one of the Muses was thick. Good for Sam being like, "Yeah.. and they were all fire."
The financial thing, he wasn't spending it on golf, guys, he was spending it on Amy!! That's why he was pissed, he was spending it on his affair.
San Antonio’s the best! feel free to visit and don’t move here, we’re full 👍🏽
As a black person and a young black professional, you have no obligation to prove that you're smart or easy to work with to anyone. Most of my life has been spent on the east coast but the time I spent working in the Midwest was eye-opening....Y'all have it hard. But be yourself, you don't have to like them or gain their approval. I would suggest, find a black mentor in you company or in your industry that can help you navigate work-life and your career.
I think that no one should have to have the obligation to prove themselves. Im a firm believer that everyone deserves the exact same opportunities no matter your skin colour.
Yeah, shouting out San Antonio 🎉
Looked up my birthday and florida man....why did this man rob a store dressed as spiderman lmaoo
I love this Christmas gift
First story coparent here. We co parent by allowing other parent to have as much time as possible and communication as adults. If it's sports, awards or graduation/promotion stuff we all sit together but no joint parties.
Lmao Oscar from Shark Tale 😂😂
Yvonne is SO pretty 😭
Here for the update, financial infertility update🎉 grrr
My birthday is November 21 and it says “Florida man arrested for having sex with a miniature horse on multiple occasions”…. oh no
I'm so used to having and being around a diverse groups of people that I remember going to a concert with a friend and everyone was very white and blonde and it was a very weird and strange and slightly uneasy feeling.... And I'm half white. I was texting my family about being surrounded by the most white people I've ever been around in my life.
I understand this 1st situation way too much. I’m currently in a similar situation. Difference being my guy always gets the other kid too. The additional kid even calls him dad & the ex wife & my guy even plan things for the kid (that’s not his son) future. I have really been thinking of exiting too. This story makes me feel like I’m not wrong for my feelings.
My grandmas chihuahua is named Kyle 😂
He is going on 11 years this coming April.
The Christmas dinner story is some crazy shit you'd see on Arrested Development.
I know one kyle and he is a short happy dude who does ballet and when we were kids he used to do double backflips off the top of the playground. Hope he doin good man.
Why did i think yall lived in GA??? Nebraska was crazy out of left feild for some reason
Yeah I thought it was ATL
Aw,y'all said Nebraska Nice 😊
lol so i'm binge watching every episode lol 😂
as for the birth story .. i had my aunty in the room lol 😂 i have had all 4 babies with out ny husband i refused him to see me like that plus he's bad at blood lol
6:49 go on the trip and change the hotel! I’m glad that they are able to co parent their son in such a way that nobody misses out on birthdays and anniversary and holidays and stuff like that but she doesn’t need to go to op birthday or on family vacation. They can set up family vacations where the ex wile goes to with them and also where they go without her as well.
Bro. That last story makes me so mad. Do these partners remember that mother/baby mortality may be lower than in decades/ages past but it's not ZERO?!?!?!
On the original financial infidelity post I said Amy is a pinecone. I stick by that opinion after this update.
There’s NO WAY Sam and I have the same birthday 😭🥹😭 I was looking mine up when he said the same headlines and I had to rewatch 😭😭😭😭😫😫😫😫😫
Story 1: I have an interesting perspective on this one. My ex (m27) and I (f24) were together for a little over 5yrs. We broke up on good terms (we fell out of love and outgrew eachother, it started as a teenage relationship.) We’ve remained close, we are pretty much each others best friends. I am now in a new relationship of 3 years with a wonderful man and we have a 2 month old baby. My ex and I still regularly hang out and I come to all family events. My ex has had a few gfs since we broke up, none longer than maybe 6 months. They know heading into it we are close and co parent our dog (we had her since the start of our relationship.) I would NOT however expect to be at his gfs birthdays, or go on family vacations with them. There’s a way to be friends with your ex without stepping on each others new relationships.
My FL man "Florida Man Finds a WWII Grenade, Places It in His Truck, Drives to Taco Bell" 😅
Oh my god, my parents and i would kill my brother if he tried to leave his pregnant wife alone for weeks for a vacation. Heck, we'd probably cancel our trip so we could be there to help them both with chores and errands leading up to and after the birth. It's family, you help each other when you're vulnerable, and if she's having their grandbaby, then the BABY is definitely family whether they think she is or not
Wait, Sam is your bday June 5th?! I just looked up mine with y’all and right after I closed Google you read the headlines I had
1:27:05 I would absolutely love for you guys to get with Sunn M'Cheaux!!!
It is unsafe for a woman to travel past a certain point because there is a risk of her going into labour in the air
I wound up in tears trying to prevent myself from reacting to a white woman being disgusting to me at work because I didn’t want to come off as an angry black woman. 1:19:58
How did the rolepley get so much off track?😂
surprised Sam didn’t mention Judy hopps in the ranking
In the comments it says "17k is the max one can give as a gift in 2023 without being taxed" Joe told Amy OP was staying there until she got her life together, so Amy tried to gift as much as she could without owning taxes on it.
She accurately named him 'Joe' !
S1: I’d put money down that he’s the father of the ex wife’s youngest kid. lol
Maybe I’m conditioned too but I love Texas. Specifically Austin. ❤
Dude that first story reeks of death on the Nile
My best friend is an exfwb. He has a girlfriend that is actually so much cooler than he is. I like her a lot and I love him absolutely to pieces but in a platonic way. When they first got together she told me that she was legit worried about it and I promised her she would never have to worry about me. That means waiting for him to text me. It means not assuming that I'll see him at birthdays and holidays because he's not my boyfriend and frankly never was. It means when I tell him I love him without thinking about it the same way I would any other friend he always replies that he loves me too but he always calls me homie when he does it. I think it's wonderful when exes stay friends but there are boundaries that must be respected
my boyf is named kyle 😳 yall scaring me...
The Florida man thing is fun, but a big part of the reason is the sunshine laws which give crime records out to the public near immediately
The blachelor lol!!! I want to be on the show. I want a virtual date with Sam.