This is really what I needed to hear this morning. I’ve gone no contact with my entire family for a few months now but I still think about them often. Like you said, I need to limit the amount of time they occupy my thoughts. I appreciate the advice!
Yes, even though when I told my mother she hurt me, she martyred up and gave me the silent treatment and trashed me to the rest of the family I feel guilt giving up. Before I gave up I tried for two years to get her to communicate with me and listen to me for a couple of minutes but she completely shut me down and made out that I was abusive trying to make a point, trying to make her HEAR me. So now, I realise, she is absolutely unreachable. But i still feel bad for giving up.
I went no contact last Friday after asking for space and getting told i was nasty and messed up in the head and that i was a liar and something was wrong with me
Thank you so much Dr Shaler. Unfortunately its the person i live with, my landlady. We share a kitchen basically but i dont talk to her anymore unless its necessary. I say..dont feel bad for her cuz no matter what id say...she has to win, be better informed, educate me or sometimes mother me. I was miserable before it finally came to a head. Now the house is mostly closed doors and ive enjoyed my so far a month break. ahhhh. Its awkward but liveable.
This is really what I needed to hear this morning. I’ve gone no contact with my entire family for a few months now but I still think about them often. Like you said, I need to limit the amount of time they occupy my thoughts. I appreciate the advice!
Yes, even though when I told my mother she hurt me, she martyred up and gave me the silent treatment and trashed me to the rest of the family I feel guilt giving up. Before I gave up I tried for two years to get her to communicate with me and listen to me for a couple of minutes but she completely shut me down and made out that I was abusive trying to make a point, trying to make her HEAR me. So now, I realise, she is absolutely unreachable. But i still feel bad for giving up.
Thank you for all that you do! You have given me so much clarity and help me "to save my sanity”! ❤
This is perfect timing. I just went no contact yesterday!
How do you prepare for the pittfalls?
So percent !!!! This entire video is perfect and correct
I went no contact last Friday after asking for space and getting told i was nasty and messed up in the head and that i was a liar and something was wrong with me
Thank you so much Dr Shaler. Unfortunately its the person i live with, my landlady. We share a kitchen basically but i dont talk to her anymore unless its necessary. I say..dont feel bad for her cuz no matter what id say...she has to win, be better informed, educate me or sometimes mother me. I was miserable before it finally came to a head. Now the house is mostly closed doors and ive enjoyed my so far a month break. ahhhh. Its awkward but liveable.
Thank you Dr Schaler.
I’ve enjoyed the video.
I’m about to go no contact altogether x