I need someone to talk too with the problems im having im not sure exactly why the guy i was seeing for the past few years did what he did after 3 years he just basically ghosted me back in March once covid got more serious and i haven't heard from him since last thing he told me was call me tomorrow when you have time if i miss your call ill call you back never heard back from him not once i know people that know him and that have seen him and said he was fine because i honestly didn't know if something had happen till those people told me I've been stuck after all this time i still can't understand why this happen and why he went completely silent after some text calls and voicemails and not hearing from him i backed off im starting to wonder if this is something he was wanting me to do call and call while pretty much ignoring me im confused most definitely..
In my early to mid 20s I was entangled with someone I really liked n wanted to date. He told me he doesn't want a relationship the 1st time i suggested us dating. Few months later n he more or less said he wouldn't in his right mind date me. I wasn't even that crush he didn't wanna date me but to say you'd never in your right mond date me really hurt. Few months after that i noticed he had some chick numbed saved as wifey. When i saw that i just blocked his ass on everything, moved away for a while for school n wrk. Two months after that I met my now bf and we been together 3 years and I am so grateful I have him in my life because he's everything I THOUGHT thought this ole ass person was.
Gave him my phone number 3 days after we met. He asked if he could phone me at 9PM that night. He phoned me at exactly 9PM. We talked for an hour. We got into a sweet relationship that lasted for almost three years. He was so loving and attentive to me. I was 5years older than him and I was in a wheelchair. He taught me how a man can love a woman and I learned to love him. He is gone to be with the Lord. He left me with the feeling of love in my heart.🕊💋❤ Pure and true.
When he drains you emotionally to the point where your feelings are up and down everyday because you don’t know if y’all are going to talk or not it’s time to go! Often times the anxiety we experience is because of the partners we choose. Thank you so much for your guidance Kevin. I’m forever grateful. I’m getting stronger everyday because of coaches like you!
Girl this man chased me for 2 years. Then finally got me. I asked now you got me what you gonna do with me. He responded idk. I said waste my time if you don't know. Buh bye
Ladies if you feel unsure and anxious from a guys behavior after being with him for a while, take it from me - get out ASAP. Believe me you’ll save a lot of heartache and the longer you stay the worse it will get for you. And, he won’t care either way which says a lot...
Yes, he is! A lot of women get mad at him, because they aren’t ready to hear the truth! He just described my last boyfriend...it was shot after six months, because of these very issues! And, it took him a little while to reveal all, because we have a long history and he knew he would have to put on a show for a while! Kev is correct in saying it can take a while and as soon as I started seeing the signs, it was basically over...went downhill fast! He works at the same company as me and after I called it quits, he chose to walk by me and act like he didn’t know me...lol. But, he looks at my LinkedIn profile at least twice a week! I want to message him and tell him he doesn’t deserve to look at my freakin picture...lol
@@nattywho My Ex went silent cause he got his ass exposed. And I was happy to let him go! But, You betta work!!! Gurl, Im snapping my fingers in the air over here for your strength and bravery! Sis you got it gurl, you got it gurl 🎶🎵🎶🎵🎶
@@WeareCustomerService lol...I’m too old for games and I don’t have a lot of patience, by nature! Games are not in my forte! I cut men off quick now! I know after a first date, if I want to be bothered! And, I like to actually talk on the phone for a couple of weeks, before a date...not texting, but talking! If a guy is trying to have text convo, he is to the curb! If he tries to come to my house real quick, to the curb! Disrespectful in any way, early on, he’s to the curb! We as women have a tendency to ignore what is in front of us, because we think some shit is gonna change...it’s not! A man tells you exactly who he is and what he wants, we just have to have our eyes and ears open and stop trying to fix these fools!
Why does it feel like all us caring women have this type of guy flying to us from across the room, and all the good men are talking the same about there not being good women? Why can’t the good meet up with the good and the bad just get stuck with each other? 😒
Well idk. Some people are just talk though, so idk. I Always been a good man...and most of the women I've dated were good women too...because my and their standards were pretty high...so we naturally attracted to each other. We weeded out the F boys and F girls...and naturally automatically attracted to each other. But just because they were good women, it didn't necessarily equate to us being fully compatible and stuff like that. So it is what it is.
I’m trying to find the man who wants to give more....the problem is #5: the fake effort they give at the beginning and then it dwindles quickly. That is what is so frustrating to good women.
A so called Emotionally Unavailable Man is really just a man that does not really care about YOU period. All the mannerisms that Kev describes are behaviors to look out for to recognize you are just not important to the man you are messing with.
Had an ex come back into my life (I still love him) and we reconnected I thought “omg are we gonna get back together” he tells me “let’s not be strangers and don’t do anything to push me away” but when I last texted him he left me on read. That shit hurt. But I’m moving on
That statement he made to you was an automatic red flag! You will be okay. Let these guys cancel themselves out so you make room for the right guy to appear. Just don't let this fboy mess up your attitude for the future
OMG! he basically warned you to stay in your place and do as he says. NEXT! A guy who feels for you will ask what you need and earn his way in, not give you a warning about being pushy before he lift a finger. Yep. Cuz his finger wasn’t what he wanted lifted 🤨
Whoa girl... This literally happened to me.. we met up and had lunch. He said let's get to know each other and. Not rush into anything. Then I messaged him the next day and he ghosted me. I sent him a blunt message and block and deleted him lol.... Im perfectly happy!
@@trackstar6466 it took me a long time to realize how different men are from women. They’re looking for instant gratification. They don’t think in terms of love and relationship. They’re okay with with keeping women on rotation. That’s why they can call and text out of the blue. To see if they can put you in rotation
1. You're watching this video 2. Avoids solving disagreements/ having difficult conversations 3. Hot(sexually)cold (emotionally) 4. Taker (when you need X) 5. Listen to his actions
I cried through this video. I just ended a year of roller coaster ride with a man who exhibited every attribute of this video. I couldn't understand what was going on. Now , I understand (ouch). I can finally close the book on that relationship and accept it for what it was. But it was a hard/painful lesson to learn.
Honey, I went through the same thing. After I left, as time went on, I started having a feeling of RELIEF!! I realized more and more that by leaving, I saved myself from a lot of misery, and made it possible to find a good man!! ♥️😀♥️
Not gonna lie, I am FURIOUS!! But at least I didn't give him my bwody👅👁️ He has time for his friends but can't even stop by to say Hi for 3 minutes. SMH
Thank you for this excellent advice. So many girls grow up without a father actively giving them the confidence and self worth that they need to not be needy. Your words are the wisdom that so many fathers neglected to pass down to their daughters.
This WHOLE VIDEO is the reason why someone is on the sidelines now, while I'm playing the field with other men putting in the effort. You really helped me through this chapter of my dating life.
Excellent Video!!! Many of these signs I’ve seen and overlooked in past relationships that ended horribly. I was stuck in a toxic loop because I doubted my intuition and was being sold dreams by toxic men. I’ve taken the entire year off from dating to fortify myself. Best choice ever!! I’m so grateful for my growth and replenished wisdom that will prevent me from making the same mistakes. Ladies, men are not going extinct any time soon!! NEVER be afraid to take a clean break from dating/relationships to reconcile with your past, heal and grow.
Thank you for this! The guy I was talking to a while back was everything you mentioned in this video! Then it got to the point where he started being disrespectful so I blocked and deleted him! I’m hurt but I’m glad I loved myself enough to let him go!
Ouch. Yesterday I broke up with him having a relationship of more than An year. I’m watching this video now and can relate to every single point you made. I really fell in love with an emotionally unavailable guy now I feel dumb and hurt since he did exactly all things you mentioned. 😞
I watch a lot of these videos. I just know change is inevitable in my situation. I cut off all video access & I start back therapy tomorrow to help handle the soul-tie aspect of things. Wish me luck 🙏🏾🤦🏾♀️ I want 2021 to be a year of peace & clarity. ❤
I tell the guy im talking to that he needs to show me he is serious. I get tired of the stories. I have trust issues. Anyway. Thank you for making this video.
Thats so aweful hope it works out for you. I'm tell you, I said that same thing"show me you serious!" And needless to say he didnt after months of the same behavior. I broke up with him when Part One came out 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Dont asks a man to show u how u should be treated he knows its a matter of are u the one he wants to treat well and most importantly u set the bar for how others treat u by having standards and boundaries if u possess those traits it will become evident to men and they will know automatically that they have to come correct or not at all. if u dont place yourself as a high value woman u will attract low level type of men so stop informing him of how u want to be treated bcuz he might do it but only to please u for the moment instead work on yourself so u can be at the level where u dont have to asks for the most basic requirement once u value yourself others will see that and will be drawn to u
I'm absolutely impressed with the knowledge and willingness to tell it straight up , I wish every one man / woman had the guts to tell it straight... no games no bullshit no confusion just honesty evidently that's just too much to ask for, but thats what I'll wait for bc I'm worth it ❤ thanks again Kev . May God bless you 🙏
Follow his Patterns not just what he says or what he does over a good period of time. And just know that you were never the problem when you know you've done right on your part. Your the prize position, make him work for it. Bless 🤗
I love your honesty. Ain’t no sugar coating. Women need the hard cold truth. Period. You only confirmed what I already knew deep down inside. LISTEN to your intuition Ladies...our intuition never fails.
OMG, this how my husband acts. My husband switch up on me and I was like what the ____! I been married to him going on 5 years. I realize his bullshit about 1 year and half ago of. I gave him more than he ever gave to me. No support, he does not think about me, unless he knows I’m upset and might leave or needs something. He never prioritize me. I let him know I feel and what I need from him but he lies and make promises and never act on it. I realized it is time for me to divorce. I told him I am unhappy in our relationship and he said it’s not my job to make you happy. I tell him we need quality time together because he focus on job and everybody else, he says go find your own friend. I ask him does he love me or want to be married, he gets mad at me and stonewall me. When I bring up issues, he walks out on me in the middle of the conversation. He puts no effort, and if he try’s it for his convenience but he is never consistent. Sad part about we have twin boys but what the hell if I’m not happy, than the whole damn family ain’t be happy.
Dont let him back into your life. If you were digging for gold and you found it would you leave it to dig somewhere else to ”maybe” find more? No. Because you know gold is valuable and leaving it means risking someone else finding it. You are gold darling.
You’re such a real and wise young man. You are enlightening a lot a females that tune into your channel. Keep on dropping those golden nuggets of knowledge 🤗
Wow, the new man in my life is the opposite of all of this. I still like watching these videos though. I have been hurt over the years by men, so to finally have a man who seems to be consistent and open is a great feeling. It's still early though, so my eyes and ears are open. Hopefully he doesn't switch up on me later.
This entire video described my ex and our relationship and how he treated me! Thank you for articulating how emotionally unavailable behave, it has given me so much clarity! Its helping me hurt a little less! ❤️
1:09 Mannn...so true. Mixed signals is what gets them. Gets them thinking about you more, wanting you more...their attraction increases when they do that. I've learned that. Problem is...most of the time when guys are giving you mixed signals...they really don't want you or even like you like that. I remember I told a close woman friend that a couple years ago. And I thought I was giving her great advice...cause we Always been very real and honest with each other. So I took everything she told me, and came to that conclusion...cause I know men of course. I thought she would take it and appreciate it. But she snapped on me...talking bout you jealous and hating and all that...and I'm like Damn, WTF?? Lol. That was crazy. But yeah, she found out later on that I was right...unfortunately after she had his baby...and he was about to hurt her and possibly his baby too. SMH! But anyway...
I find that some guys won’t mind working through conflict as a manipulative strategy to keep you close enough and make you feel like you somewhat matter but still not do right by you
Omg thank you so much! I just left this guy that I’ve been dating for 7 months and he never even took me out once. He’s a 40 yr old dusty who’s emotionally unavailable. All of these things are true. Ladies listen closely and know your worth!
Sooooo good! Merry Christmas to you, your BEAUTIFUL WIFE and that sweet boy!!! I probably thank you at least once every couple of weeks! 😆🙌🏼 Your intelligence and coaching is a gift! 🤗
Does anyone ever get to the point where they just wonder 💭 what if the Bible really is just right? I mean, God did say He wanted everyone to just wait for marriage to have sex. Maybe He was protecting women because He knew the nature of men, especially men who aren’t rooted in Christ. Idk. The more I live life, the more certain biblical teachings make sense.
All theses you'll mentioned about is all the red flags I ignored almost two years in my toxic relationship. I'm glad that I gotten rid of him because it gave me a lot of unnecessary hurt, stress, financial issues and anxiety! Your videos are therapeutic and healing to me.
Yikes I watched the other video and now this one and I think I am behaving the same as an emotionally unavailable guy... it’s as if I enjoy the game of flipping the script on men.. but i am self aware and working on changing this behaviour to the best of my ability ... wish me luck 🙏♥️
Too busy to consistently communicate over the phone, no matter being childhood sweethearts, reunited now we’re 33 2 years ago. He lives 15 mins away, says he’s serious & wants to rekindle the love. lol I’ve made him wait 2 years & not met him. Made it clear no matter how perfect everything else is, I ain’t seeing you when I know it will end up intimate & he can wait if he really wants me. I won’t wait forever though
OMG! it's pure gold. sometimes we think those guys try to sugar coating is the worst while those who do not care and said they don't want a relationship, women tend to fall for those types of guys, it's a new kind of dangerous type in this generation. As they don't care, women think they can change them and those types of guys always get the kind-hearted good women. Girls should be more aware of them and stop putting themselves in this situation, if no girl sleep with them, those type of guys will understand, they have to work to get sex and have to put effort to make a relationship.
8:04 it lasted exactly 2 weeks for me 😢 (sweet words, pet names, promises, blah blah blah). Love bombing, future faking, projecting himself in a couple relationship. And then he started to pull away... I am still traumatized by how fast he revealed his true self.
The first part was this guy I went on a date with. This video was more my ex 🥺 we were together for four years. He was so.... Ugh. I'm happy I broke up with him. A year single now 👊🏾💪🏾
A few years back, one of the guys that would hang out in our general friend group, him and I ended up hanging out one night. This was after the bar, so I don’t really remember how the conversation got there, but I remember him saying, “When a guy says he only wants to hook up or just be fwb or doesn’t want an actual relationship, they’re lying.” And I responded that when a guy says he doesn’t want anything serious, that’s the only thing he says that I’ll believe (because in general, I do not believe any words coming out of a guy’s mouth as long as he thinks having sex is on the table). He was like, “No really, though. It’s true. We want all the actual good stuff like falling in love and connecting and building a future with someone. That’s the dream. That’s the best case scenario. Who doesn’t want to be in love?” The only reason I remember the conversation is because it was so weird. Regardless, the only time I’ll believe what a guy’s telling me is if he’s saying he doesn’t want anything serious. For everything else they say, they get a slight benefit of the doubt, but only time will tell before I actually believe it. My skepticism was hard won lol
AMEN! Time and a man’s consistency tells you what he’s all about with you. I allowed myself to believe someone coming in red hot but emotionally available- he was not! Kev keep on teaching the truth. God Bless you.
I literally just came here to help my confidence and everything you discussed in this video was EXACTLY what I needed to hear. You hit on every point of concern I had. Thank you. You helped me out
So true! This guy I was dating told me he loved me when he first saw me. I felt he was just giving mush talk. He ended up getting married to someone else a month later 😂😂Thank goodness I never slept with him!!
Kev. I want to thank you for your honesty that share. You relationship advice has helped me remember with confidence that I can keep my standards and don't have lower them for any man because that is not real love. Thank you
I ran across this video on accident but I'm glad to see how far I've come. 2 years ago I was in a situation like this. One of the best things I did was to find my self-esteem and self-love get out! There's happiness and healing on the other side! Just get out of it !
Thank you... just plainly thanks you. His behavior has been so confusing for me and you hit the nail on the head all the way. He didn't start with this behavior but the switch went off the walls went up and yup, I'm in this zone... Again thank you for helping me understand. Eyes wide open thank God!
You did not have to come for my neck like that with the calling thing!🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭 It's true,though. You and Love Your Natural are out here getting everybody right.
You speak nothing but the truth!! Even though I knew it, I kept trying to wedge myself into more important areas of his life. Being emotionally confused (we even got to "I love you" he said it first but it was just so I would say it back), and he never gave anything more. You described everything about him in this video 😢😪😪. I just now got to the point I'm done.
I love how you keep it so real with us. Much appreciated. I have gathered so much strength from your advice and I have found a great guy. It felt weird at first because I've been hurt. And I have run into man with these exact traits and I was that woman! No more. Thanks Kevin
Love this advice !!!! I had an emotionally unavailable man pursuit me and tried sleeping with me. Was super attracted to him but didn’t let him even if I knew i might lose him cuz I know if I lose him cuz of that he wasn’t worth giving it go to begin with 💯
Praise the Lord thank you so much kev!!! I love ur videos. The truth hurts but I rather know the truth and be hurt then to be really hurt not knowing the truth at. I stop playing that game!!!
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I need someone to talk too with the problems im having im not sure exactly why the guy i was seeing for the past few years did what he did after 3 years he just basically ghosted me back in March once covid got more serious and i haven't heard from him since last thing he told me was call me tomorrow when you have time if i miss your call ill call you back never heard back from him not once i know people that know him and that have seen him and said he was fine because i honestly didn't know if something had happen till those people told me I've been stuck after all this time i still can't understand why this happen and why he went completely silent after some text calls and voicemails and not hearing from him i backed off im starting to wonder if this is something he was wanting me to do call and call while pretty much ignoring me im confused most definitely..
In my early to mid 20s I was entangled with someone I really liked n wanted to date. He told me he doesn't want a relationship the 1st time i suggested us dating. Few months later n he more or less said he wouldn't in his right mind date me.
I wasn't even that crush he didn't wanna date me but to say you'd never in your right mond date me really hurt. Few months after that i noticed he had some chick numbed saved as wifey.
When i saw that i just blocked his ass on everything, moved away for a while for school n wrk.
Two months after that I met my now bf and we been together 3 years and I am so grateful I have him in my life because he's everything I THOUGHT thought this ole ass person was.
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"Never trust whatever a guy says withinin the first month you've known him"
- Kev Hicks
Boy, ain’t that the truth! 🙄
Learned this the hard way
@@SincerelyLexy we all have Sis
Dating again makes me nervous 😬
so true!!! everything happens overtime. But sometimes guys dont take that time. They rush into things
Me being single asf watching your videos so I won’t get played 😭😂
Same 😂
The feeling is mutual
Me too😂😂😂😂😂
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Same here!
That man said "the sex is hot but he's emotionally cold" let that sizzle in ya spirit and I'm a man...you heard me
That part!! 💯💯
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Ohhh my. Say that out loud again.
Hahaha
Wow!!
Gave him my phone number 3 days after we met. He asked if he could phone me at 9PM that night. He phoned me at exactly 9PM. We talked for an hour. We got into a sweet relationship that lasted for almost three years. He was so loving and attentive to me. I was 5years older than him and I was in a wheelchair. He taught me how a man can love a woman and I learned to love him. He is gone to be with the Lord. He left me with the feeling of love in my heart.🕊💋❤ Pure and true.
Awww ❤️
Oh God. I pray you find true love again
That's what love will do. Thanks for sharing.
This is so beautiful. God bless his soul and brings you more love
Some of us may never experience this type of love😢😢
"The fear of loss makes a woman start to accept things from a guy that she would otherwise not accept"
- Kev Hicks
That is hell true
Happened with me ..lol I was naive back then
@@msflames1855 we've all done it Sis... myself included.
I aint scared to lose nothing but sleep.
'1st sign he's not into you: YOU'RE WATCHING THIS VIDEO.'
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"When a man wants a woman, he makes it clear to her that she is welcome to intrude on his life...that is a fact"
- Kev Hicks
Facts
So strongly true fact
You are amazing! Finally answering exactly what I’m so confused about. You’ve hit every nail on the head!
So true Kev
People will always make time for the people and things that matter to them.
Will answer you late tonight or early morning 😁
@@KevHick Yaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyy!! Thank you, I appreciate you so much. 💜
True
that's right but it really hurts when you realize that you're not someone who matters to a person.
I always say, ' People have time for, what they want to have time for, when they want to have time for it"
When he drains you emotionally to the point where your feelings are up and down everyday because you don’t know if y’all are going to talk or not it’s time to go! Often times the anxiety we experience is because of the partners we choose. Thank you so much for your guidance Kevin. I’m forever grateful. I’m getting stronger everyday because of coaches like you!
Girl this man chased me for 2 years. Then finally got me. I asked now you got me what you gonna do with me. He responded idk. I said waste my time if you don't know. Buh bye
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN, SISTER 💯 🙏 🙌
I’m no longer responding to him. I deserve the best
Happy for you!
Yes baby girl! We all do ❤️
The same!
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Yep today is day 1 for me.. IM COOL💯
Avoiding communication usually means you have something to hide.
hmmm 💯
That part
No it means your not interested in talking
Ladies if you feel unsure and anxious from a guys behavior after being with him for a while, take it from me - get out ASAP. Believe me you’ll save a lot of heartache and the longer you stay the worse it will get for you. And, he won’t care either way which says a lot...
You are so RIGHT!
Yes! Had to do the same thing! Glad to hear this Sis!
Agreed! Been there done that
lol yup !!!
@@nataliellorente6619AMEN AMEN, SISTER. ME 2🙏🙏🙏🙏
Broke up with my Ex Boy Friend after watching Pt. 1. I am telling you Hicks is the truth!
Yes, he is! A lot of women get mad at him, because they aren’t ready to hear the truth! He just described my last boyfriend...it was shot after six months, because of these very issues! And, it took him a little while to reveal all, because we have a long history and he knew he would have to put on a show for a while! Kev is correct in saying it can take a while and as soon as I started seeing the signs, it was basically over...went downhill fast! He works at the same company as me and after I called it quits, he chose to walk by me and act like he didn’t know me...lol. But, he looks at my LinkedIn profile at least twice a week! I want to message him and tell him he doesn’t deserve to look at my freakin picture...lol
@@nattywho My Ex went silent cause he got his ass exposed. And I was happy to let him go! But, You betta work!!! Gurl, Im snapping my fingers in the air over here for your strength and bravery! Sis you got it gurl, you got it gurl 🎶🎵🎶🎵🎶
Salute! Bless!!! 🙏
@@WeareCustomerService lol...I’m too old for games and I don’t have a lot of patience, by nature! Games are not in my forte! I cut men off quick now! I know after a first date, if I want to be bothered! And, I like to actually talk on the phone for a couple of weeks, before a date...not texting, but talking! If a guy is trying to have text convo, he is to the curb! If he tries to come to my house real quick, to the curb! Disrespectful in any way, early on, he’s to the curb! We as women have a tendency to ignore what is in front of us, because we think some shit is gonna change...it’s not! A man tells you exactly who he is and what he wants, we just have to have our eyes and ears open and stop trying to fix these fools!
@@nattywho Yaaaaasssss! Speak to my life!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Why does it feel like all us caring women have this type of guy flying to us from across the room, and all the good men are talking the same about there not being good women? Why can’t the good meet up with the good and the bad just get stuck with each other? 😒
I agree!
If only it were That easy🤦🏿♀️🤦🏿♀️🤦🏿♀️
Well idk. Some people are just talk though, so idk. I Always been a good man...and most of the women I've dated were good women too...because my and their standards were pretty high...so we naturally attracted to each other. We weeded out the F boys and F girls...and naturally automatically attracted to each other. But just because they were good women, it didn't necessarily equate to us being fully compatible and stuff like that. So it is what it is.
You took the words right out of mouth.
I feel the same!
Sign #1 is tricky because I've been single for a long time and I binge watch these videos for fun and to be smart about future situations.
Same!
Sameeee lol
Me too.👏🏽
I definitely agree. I do it for educational purposes 😏 Love reading the comments, not on this topic only but various topics.
same😁
I’m trying to find the man who wants to give more....the problem is #5: the fake effort they give at the beginning and then it dwindles quickly. That is what is so frustrating to good women.
Omg this tho ‼️ sick of it 💯
A so called Emotionally Unavailable Man is really just a man that does not really care about YOU period. All the mannerisms that Kev describes are behaviors to look out for to recognize you are just not important to the man you are messing with.
All the languages you could've chosen to speak and you chose straight facts
“Don’t be taken by a man’s mush” Love that term. Consistency is the key. Thanks Kev.
Had an ex come back into my life (I still love him) and we reconnected I thought “omg are we gonna get back together” he tells me “let’s not be strangers and don’t do anything to push me away” but when I last texted him he left me on read. That shit hurt. But I’m moving on
That statement he made to you was an automatic red flag! You will be okay. Let these guys cancel themselves out so you make room for the right guy to appear. Just don't let this fboy mess up your attitude for the future
OMG! he basically warned you to stay in your place and do as he says. NEXT! A guy who feels for you will ask what you need and earn his way in, not give you a warning about being pushy before he lift a finger. Yep. Cuz his finger wasn’t what he wanted lifted 🤨
I don’t understand why guys do stuff like that..makes absolutely no sense
Whoa girl... This literally happened to me.. we met up and had lunch. He said let's get to know each other and. Not rush into anything. Then I messaged him the next day and he ghosted me. I sent him a blunt message and block and deleted him lol.... Im perfectly happy!
@@trackstar6466 it took me a long time to realize how different men are from women. They’re looking for instant gratification. They don’t think in terms of love and relationship. They’re okay with with keeping women on rotation. That’s why they can call and text out of the blue. To see if they can put you in rotation
1. You're watching this video
2. Avoids solving disagreements/ having difficult conversations
3. Hot(sexually)cold (emotionally)
4. Taker (when you need X)
5. Listen to his actions
Never make a man dinner until he's earned that shit. Too many women playing mommy at the get-go. Bad idea.
I cried through this video. I just ended a year of roller coaster ride with a man who exhibited every attribute of this video. I couldn't understand what was going on. Now , I understand (ouch). I can finally close the book on that relationship and accept it for what it was. But it was a hard/painful lesson to learn.
You have guts!!!
Honey, I went through the same thing. After I left, as time went on, I started having a feeling of RELIEF!! I realized more and more that by leaving, I saved myself from a lot of misery, and made it possible to find a good man!! ♥️😀♥️
All facts. Didn’t call me on my bday so I made sure not to call him on his and he’s now blocked go play with your kids
Hahaha! Awwwsome!!!
Same thing happened to me. He didn't call me on my birthday, he sent some plain boring was message and i broke up with him same night.
@@QuickSA307 Happened to me too. Sigh...
This video was 100% facts!! I’m just done with dating at this point!! 🤦🏾♀️
Not gonna lie, I am FURIOUS!! But at least I didn't give him my bwody👅👁️ He has time for his friends but can't even stop by to say Hi for 3 minutes. SMH
I'll never understand that!
9 times out of 10 this person is in a relationship and is looking for a side chick.
This is the truth...prove you are sincere and worthy..
No doubt sis
Yes sis
Thank you for this excellent advice. So many girls grow up without a father actively giving them the confidence and self worth that they need to not be needy. Your words are the wisdom that so many fathers neglected to pass down to their daughters.
Come on Kev! Been through all of this 🤬 with my ex's. I thank God they broke my heart. Greater is coming!
You’re absolutely correct!! I can truly relate!
Amen! I touch & agree with ALL of this 🙌🏾
This WHOLE VIDEO is the reason why someone is on the sidelines now, while I'm playing the field with other men putting in the effort. You really helped me through this chapter of my dating life.
Excellent Video!!! Many of these signs I’ve seen and overlooked in past relationships that ended horribly. I was stuck in a toxic loop because I doubted my intuition and was being sold dreams by toxic men. I’ve taken the entire year off from dating to fortify myself. Best choice ever!! I’m so grateful for my growth and replenished wisdom that will prevent me from making the same mistakes. Ladies, men are not going extinct any time soon!! NEVER be afraid to take a clean break from dating/relationships to reconcile with your past, heal and grow.
Thank you for this! The guy I was talking to a while back was everything you mentioned in this video! Then it got to the point where he started being disrespectful so I blocked and deleted him! I’m hurt but I’m glad I loved myself enough to let him go!
Thank you for the eye opening truth it's crazy how we as women even the strongest can allow ourselves to be so weak without knowing.
Ouch. Yesterday I broke up with him having a relationship of more than An year. I’m watching this video now and can relate to every single point you made. I really fell in love with an emotionally unavailable guy now I feel dumb and hurt since he did exactly all things you mentioned. 😞
Kev is a romance jedi. No time for the bull.
I watch a lot of these videos. I just know change is inevitable in my situation. I cut off all video access & I start back therapy tomorrow to help handle the soul-tie aspect of things. Wish me luck 🙏🏾🤦🏾♀️ I want 2021 to be a year of peace & clarity. ❤
I agree 100% when I'm dealing with guys that all I watch for is their actions & patterns following their words and nothing else.
Exactly, we don't need shit tests. We just watch them.
"Getting played by men for another 10 years will cost you more than..." Kev Hick's program. Kev, you are direct and on-point! Thank you.
Yeah as sad as I am right now🥺 I NEEDED this💯
This guy is good!!. I am 54 years old and learning a lot from him. Wish I knew this about 4 years ago.
I tell the guy im talking to that he needs to show me he is serious. I get tired of the stories. I have trust issues. Anyway. Thank you for making this video.
Thats so aweful hope it works out for you. I'm tell you, I said that same thing"show me you serious!" And needless to say he didnt after months of the same behavior. I broke up with him when Part One came out 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Dont asks a man to show u how u should be treated he knows its a matter of are u the one he wants to treat well and most importantly u set the bar for how others treat u by having standards and boundaries if u possess those traits it will become evident to men and they will know automatically that they have to come correct or not at all. if u dont place yourself as a high value woman u will attract low level type of men so stop informing him of how u want to be treated bcuz he might do it but only to please u for the moment instead work on yourself so u can be at the level where u dont have to asks for the most basic requirement once u value yourself others will see that and will be drawn to u
I'm absolutely impressed with the knowledge and willingness to tell it straight up , I wish every one man / woman had the guts to tell it straight... no games no bullshit no confusion just honesty evidently that's just too much to ask for, but thats what I'll wait for bc I'm worth it ❤ thanks again Kev . May God bless you 🙏
This part 2 made my heart sink. 😞
Same girl same, 🤧😪
Same sis same Im so over it.
Follow his Patterns not just what he says or what he does over a good period of time. And just know that you were never the problem when you know you've done right on your part. Your the prize position, make him work for it. Bless 🤗
I love your honesty. Ain’t no sugar coating. Women need the hard cold truth. Period. You only confirmed what I already knew deep down inside. LISTEN to your intuition Ladies...our intuition never fails.
OMG, this how my husband acts. My husband switch up on me and I was like what the ____! I been married to him going on 5 years. I realize his bullshit about 1 year and half ago of. I gave him more than he ever gave to me. No support, he does not think about me, unless he knows I’m upset and might leave or needs something. He never prioritize me. I let him know I feel and what I need from him but he lies and make promises and never act on it. I realized it is time for me to divorce. I told him I am unhappy in our relationship and he said it’s not my job to make you happy. I tell him we need quality time together because he focus on job and everybody else, he says go find your own friend. I ask him does he love me or want to be married, he gets mad at me and stonewall me. When I bring up issues, he walks out on me in the middle of the conversation. He puts no effort, and if he try’s it for his convenience but he is never consistent. Sad part about we have twin boys but what the hell if I’m not happy, than the whole damn family ain’t be happy.
So sorry to hear that..you gotta bite the bullet and pull the plug sooner rather than later as he's never gonna change
“Prove it’” will be the words I’ll say to him if he wants to comes back. Thank you for this.
Dont let him back into your life. If you were digging for gold and you found it would you leave it to dig somewhere else to ”maybe” find more? No. Because you know gold is valuable and leaving it means risking someone else finding it. You are gold darling.
He Will prove it!!! For the he time takes to win you over then KABOOM back to the same old crap !!!
You’re such a real and wise young man. You are enlightening a lot a females that tune into your channel. Keep on dropping those golden nuggets of knowledge 🤗
knew I wasn’t buggin.
Wow, the new man in my life is the opposite of all of this. I still like watching these videos though. I have been hurt over the years by men, so to finally have a man who seems to be consistent and open is a great feeling. It's still early though, so my eyes and ears are open. Hopefully he doesn't switch up on me later.
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This entire video described my ex and our relationship and how he treated me! Thank you for articulating how emotionally unavailable behave, it has given me so much clarity! Its helping me hurt a little less! ❤️
This is the raw, hard, uncut truth!✔ 💯💯 Thank you Kev!!🙌
Damn!!! I wish you had schooled me growing up as your little sister or best friend! Your wisdom is a God send!
1:09 Mannn...so true. Mixed signals is what gets them. Gets them thinking about you more, wanting you more...their attraction increases when they do that. I've learned that. Problem is...most of the time when guys are giving you mixed signals...they really don't want you or even like you like that. I remember I told a close woman friend that a couple years ago. And I thought I was giving her great advice...cause we Always been very real and honest with each other. So I took everything she told me, and came to that conclusion...cause I know men of course. I thought she would take it and appreciate it. But she snapped on me...talking bout you jealous and hating and all that...and I'm like Damn, WTF?? Lol. That was crazy.
But yeah, she found out later on that I was right...unfortunately after she had his baby...and he was about to hurt her and possibly his baby too. SMH! But anyway...
I find that some guys won’t mind working through conflict as a manipulative strategy to keep you close enough and make you feel like you somewhat matter but still not do right by you
This resonated with me!! I’ve learned a whole bunch from you. Thank you for telling it like it is.
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Omg thank you so much! I just left this guy that I’ve been dating for 7 months and he never even took me out once. He’s a 40 yr old dusty who’s emotionally unavailable. All of these things are true. Ladies listen closely and know your worth!
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Sooooo good! Merry Christmas to you, your BEAUTIFUL WIFE and that sweet boy!!! I probably thank you at least once every couple of weeks! 😆🙌🏼 Your intelligence and coaching is a gift! 🤗
I needed to hear this! I heard loud and clear. Thank you for this video!
Does anyone ever get to the point where they just wonder 💭 what if the Bible really is just right? I mean, God did say He wanted everyone to just wait for marriage to have sex. Maybe He was protecting women because He knew the nature of men, especially men who aren’t rooted in Christ. Idk. The more I live life, the more certain biblical teachings make sense.
Yes ma’am he wanted to protect us
It really is that way though
My sis, you're absolutely & positively correct, that is why He tells us that. It goes for both men & women. 💜🙏
This the one sis! Wait on God, men will fail us every time especially when we lean on our own understanding.
Yes they do..if only some would take the time to read it? Amen
*Shouts from rooftop* AMENNNNNN!! I love you brother!! Lol you're on a roll with these consistent uploads man. Right on time!
They hate questions when they up to no good
All theses you'll mentioned about is all the red flags I ignored almost two years in my toxic relationship. I'm glad that I gotten rid of him because it gave me a lot of unnecessary hurt, stress, financial issues and anxiety! Your videos are therapeutic and healing to me.
Yikes I watched the other video and now this one and I think I am behaving the same as an emotionally unavailable guy... it’s as if I enjoy the game of flipping the script on men.. but i am self aware and working on changing this behaviour to the best of my ability ... wish me luck 🙏♥️
Too busy to consistently communicate over the phone, no matter being childhood sweethearts, reunited now we’re 33 2 years ago. He lives 15 mins away, says he’s serious & wants to rekindle the love. lol I’ve made him wait 2 years & not met him. Made it clear no matter how perfect everything else is, I ain’t seeing you when I know it will end up intimate & he can wait if he really wants me. I won’t wait forever though
OMG! it's pure gold. sometimes we think those guys try to sugar coating is the worst while those who do not care and said they don't want a relationship, women tend to fall for those types of guys, it's a new kind of dangerous type in this generation. As they don't care, women think they can change them and those types of guys always get the kind-hearted good women. Girls should be more aware of them and stop putting themselves in this situation, if no girl sleep with them, those type of guys will understand, they have to work to get sex and have to put effort to make a relationship.
8:04 it lasted exactly 2 weeks for me 😢 (sweet words, pet names, promises, blah blah blah). Love bombing, future faking, projecting himself in a couple relationship. And then he started to pull away... I am still traumatized by how fast he revealed his true self.
Thanks Kev...All facts.
The first part was this guy I went on a date with. This video was more my ex 🥺 we were together for four years. He was so.... Ugh. I'm happy I broke up with him. A year single now 👊🏾💪🏾
I'm single but I find your videos interesting and you speak a lot of facts
The « are you comfortable to call » question is a hard hitter
A few years back, one of the guys that would hang out in our general friend group, him and I ended up hanging out one night. This was after the bar, so I don’t really remember how the conversation got there, but I remember him saying, “When a guy says he only wants to hook up or just be fwb or doesn’t want an actual relationship, they’re lying.”
And I responded that when a guy says he doesn’t want anything serious, that’s the only thing he says that I’ll believe (because in general, I do not believe any words coming out of a guy’s mouth as long as he thinks having sex is on the table).
He was like, “No really, though. It’s true. We want all the actual good stuff like falling in love and connecting and building a future with someone. That’s the dream. That’s the best case scenario. Who doesn’t want to be in love?”
The only reason I remember the conversation is because it was so weird. Regardless, the only time I’ll believe what a guy’s telling me is if he’s saying he doesn’t want anything serious. For everything else they say, they get a slight benefit of the doubt, but only time will tell before I actually believe it.
My skepticism was hard won lol
Consistency 😂 did you hear that? Sound of a rock falling from up high and you're wilie coyote
Hahaha!😂🤣
AMEN! Time and a man’s consistency tells you what he’s all about with you. I allowed myself to believe someone coming in red hot but emotionally available- he was not! Kev keep on teaching the truth. God Bless you.
I literally just came here to help my confidence and everything you discussed in this video was EXACTLY what I needed to hear. You hit on every point of concern I had. Thank you. You helped me out
Where were you two months ago? 😆 Now I feel like a dummy.
They Gon Learn Today Kevin!💯
Kevin’s videos keep my brain in a healthy state and bring me sanity again. Thank you for your hard work ❤️
So true! This guy I was dating told me he loved me when he first saw me. I felt he was just giving mush talk. He ended up getting married to someone else a month later 😂😂Thank goodness I never slept with him!!
I appreciate you keepin this shit on the real...one hundred percent on point, again! Listen up, ladies!
Kev. I want to thank you for your honesty that share. You relationship advice has helped me remember with confidence that I can keep my standards and don't have lower them for any man because that is not real love. Thank you
Leniency follows anxiety...damn, that's deep!
I ran across this video on accident but I'm glad to see how far I've come. 2 years ago I was in a situation like this. One of the best things I did was to find my self-esteem and self-love get out! There's happiness and healing on the other side! Just get out of it !
I totally learned these things the hard way!! God Bless Everyone watching this!! ❤
Glad I left no time for the craps. He was never wrong about anything never opened up oh and didn’t want a serious relationship but wanted benefits
You are so right. Im going on 60yrs. I wasted a lot of time but I know better now. Thank you for your videos.
Thank you... just plainly thanks you. His behavior has been so confusing for me and you hit the nail on the head all the way. He didn't start with this behavior but the switch went off the walls went up and yup, I'm in this zone... Again thank you for helping me understand. Eyes wide open thank God!
I love how blunt and straightforward you are in your videos I needed this
I love this ep my bf acted exactly all these sign. But he still refuse that he didn't have anyone else and blame it on me instead.
You did not have to come for my neck like that with the calling thing!🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭 It's true,though. You and Love Your Natural are out here getting everybody right.
I am the one🙈🤷♀️who is emotionally unavailable to men, yet they seem to want to win me over🤷♀️..All the time..
Spot on. In every way. Don’t get it twisted ladies!
You speak nothing but the truth!! Even though I knew it, I kept trying to wedge myself into more important areas of his life. Being emotionally confused (we even got to "I love you" he said it first but it was just so I would say it back), and he never gave anything more. You described everything about him in this video 😢😪😪. I just now got to the point I'm done.
I love how you keep it so real with us. Much appreciated. I have gathered so much strength from your advice and I have found a great guy. It felt weird at first because I've been hurt. And I have run into man with these exact traits and I was that woman! No more. Thanks Kevin
Love this advice !!!! I had an emotionally unavailable man pursuit me and tried sleeping with me. Was super attracted to him but didn’t let him even if I knew i might lose him cuz I know if I lose him cuz of that he wasn’t worth giving it go to begin with 💯
He's consistently inconsistent
Praise the Lord thank you so much kev!!! I love ur videos. The truth hurts but I rather know the truth and be hurt then to be really hurt not knowing the truth at. I stop playing that game!!!
Great video, perfect timing. Part 1 helped me free myself of dead weight last night😛