Ladies, your intuition will be your life’s GPS in every way imaginable. I would have saved myself so much heartache had I listened to it. Learn to have a strong relationship with your intuition. You likely have all the answers within.
Fr I was talking to this guy I went to high school with and he’s my age 23 and he was in the process of getting a divorce but I feel like he was still with his wife so I broke it off. And today I saw him post a status on fb about her saying he will always be their for their daughter and that they may go their ups and downs and yah duh yah duh ya duh
Also we have to understand that in so many of the cases of rejection from toxic ppl...you weren’t rejected, you were instead repelled. It’s a blessing in disguise.
Make them wait! Their crazy side and true intentions will be revealed. They can't keep up the charade for so long. I don't know why it is so hard just to have good/honorable intentions towards the person you are dating. And DON'T IGNORE RED FLAGS!!!
@@Justbrowsing2023 see what l mean 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾with technology it's alot more easier to play games and get away with it. Like I said before married men are slick at playing the single bachelor. So it's not the side chicks fault, because she alot times is the victim too for not knowing he was married too IJS. The more complicated is to date the more l don't want it.... SMDH
Men will sit back and rest on you like lazy boy chairs if you let them. Protect your heart before you give it away. Yes, God is Good and he will protect you.
Girls, I married one of these charmer, great words, compliments, flattery. Brother of a family I knew well. Well, the words with minimal actions continued into marriage. You give and give but you "can't work your way into a good relationship." Bottom line, the more you give, the more they'll take. It's barely reciprocated. They'll turn on the charm and make promises they never intend to keep. Then you'll be discarded...me, 7 years into marriage. Two years of dating which had more than enough signs and red flags. Do not ignore. It doesn't change! It may hide for awhile but it always comes back. Love yourself and your dignity more than any man. Pay attention, observe. Don't get swept up.
Wow I’m so sorry you went through this! I’m currently going through a divorce after being married for 8years. My husband told me that he never loved me and he never wanted to have kids so that’s why the sex eventually stopped. He said he never was the married type. I was so heartbroken but I stopped feeling pity for myself and said why would I care for someone who wasted my time? He didn’t love me so why should I give him any remorse. You can’t force anyone to be with you. And when people show you who they truly are believe them!
@@alwaysalanna329 you go girl!💪🏾💪🏾 I don’t know you and I’m freakin proud of you! The fact that he went on to do something he never wanted like Barry and have kids is HIS fault. I’m glad you piled yourself out of feeling horrible and the sooner he’s out-the sooner you actually can actually find real love or even spend time by yourself heck, it’s the ultimate freedom. Blessings to you and the kids sis y’all gone be alright period!
I was dating this guy for a week.., I spotted red flags early and dipped! First I noticed I had to push him to take me on dates... seems like he only wanted to stay in the house.. second kept touching me inappropriately and pushing sex.., 3rd he seemed passive aggressive.., always ignoring my text when I didn’t give him the responses he liked.. after a week or two..I cut him off. I hate dating these days. It seems like no one ( men) wants true love. Just sex and options. I think I’ll stay single forever...
I literally just went through this at first I questioned myself because I enjoyed spending time with him and it was cool ass company but I started thinking okay why isn't he making much effort he made me feel like it was because of covid and everything limited it we did go on one date and then it just stopped he got comfortable with simply coming to my home watching TV chilling and of course the thought of sex I cut the sex off and when I did he started saying maybe I'm not feeling him and we don't have a connection but I cut the sex off because I told him we need to go out more when he didn't want to do that he simply said maybe he's not ready for a relationship and he left
A complete simple conversation … not to be underestimated. This … in a supportive, human world… would be required listening for all. Thank you. Wash, rinse, repeat.
WOW "When a person´s words matches our fantasies, we are more likely to believe everything without cause" this is a very true statement and an important lesson ladies ! Love it
Agh no sis, then it's the man that is a problem. If he wants a relationship but not with me, he must go wherever he deems worthy and leave me in peace.
#2 was scary true for me, hit too close to home..” I’d rather you sit in the dark and cry for a month or two then go where these guys will drag you.. straight to hell.” Chile... the truth!! He saved me by rejecting and blocking me😔
*MEET IN PUBLIC! DO NOT TELL HIM WHERE YOU LIVE! MEET IN PUBLIC! DO NOT TELL HIM WHERE YOU LIVE! MEET IN PUBLIC! DO NOT TELL HIM WHERE YOU LIVE!* Also, as some ladies have said, MAKE HIM WAIT! It's a shame it has to be this way, but there are real predators out there just looking to take advantage of women. :/
In relationships especially, actions are more powerful than words because they show effort. The effort you put into any relationship through the consistent actions you take will be heard by the other person as a message of “I love and care about you”. You can say: “I love you” to another person but what is more important is follow through. If I say “I love you” but my actions don’t correlate - I don’t consistently show my love through actions of love (which can look many different ways) - the message “I love you” won’t necessarily translate. It’s important to both verbally express and physically express how you feel about others through consistent actions. Loving actions get translated as love. For instance, if I bake my son chocolate chip cookies he feels cared for and loved. If I ask my husband how his day was he feels love. These actions are important for lasting satisfaction in all relationships.
So true. I was dating a guy and he would only text me during work hours. Nothing after work or on weekends. First red flag, he only wanted to text. Never a call. I asked him why wasn't he available on the weekends &he got defensive and stated we were just friends. Smh
Dont beleive a mans actions either. Some bastards will tell u that they dont want a relationship but will treat u like his girlfriend jus to squeeze the juice outta u as long as he can.
@@piak78 well if they tell you, they don’t wanna relationship that’s when you leave them. The problem is maybe you should have listened to what he tells you instead of trying to give people advice when you have missed the mark.
After a relationship of 14 years with a narcist i left him and when healed dated 1 guy for 2 months found out he did all you said in this video and i broke it off while i was still madly in love with him. Due to your and tonys videos i got so much wiser so again thanks for learning me how to not get my heart broken again 💚
@@nonyabidness5454 I've known him for a year before we dated for 2 months. I'm totally fine mind ya own. Sounds like you dating strangers might look in to that girl,that ain't healthy or safe
Even actions can unfortunately mean nothing depending on who it is! I was just dating a man who put in all the necessary actions (he wasn't much of a sweet talker at all) but he still ghosted me even though we were perfectly fine the day before. He put in all the effort and consistency you'd dream of. I learned from this that it is important to wait for a few months before feeling confident that it's going somewhere. A person's true colors come out after sometime.
@@toscadonna I am so sorry, that is awful!! I'm learning how important it is to constantly improve myself so I'll always be happy having myself no matter what
Kev you’re speaking in such an intelligent respectful way here. I am impressed with your mastery of words and the absence of obscenities. This adds credibility to the content and shows that you respect your listeners. Thank you.
I wish I had known this two months ago! I met a man that claimed to be God-fearing and was looking for a wife. We did Bible study together, I met his family, and all he talked about was us getting married. We both agreed to be celibate and never had sex thankfully. I felt closer to him than I had with anyone before.Then he started treating me coldly and out of the blue says that he just wanted to enjoy the dating phase. He goes ghost on me and then says that he just wants to date. That he doesn’t have a timeline for getting married. That was pretty much the end of us because I couldn’t believe he would lie to me like that. Especially in the name of God SMH
This guy I met said it was love at first sight and had named our future kids already only to find out he had a fiancé.Since then I don't believe what a man says.Thank God I am Celibate.
Had 2 guys recently try to say they wanted a relationship but their actions didn't align. I didn't give them anything (no sex; no money; and very little of my time) dueces
Guilty of all of this a year ago. I knew he was bread crumbing me but I didn’t trust my intuition to walk away sooner. Felt like you were talking to me personally in this video. I feel so used and embarrassed. Thank you for telling it straight up and no sugar coating. I learned many lessons from you. Next player ( hopefully not) won’t stand a chance!! ❤️
Kev, your videos give me so much mental and emotional support - I don’t think I’d be able to get through dating in this day and age without them. 🙏🏽 thank you.
Thank you Kev, this is absolutely spot on. I experienced this myself. Some men really do say everything they know you want to hear, just to try and manipulate you and get something from you! It’s a shame some people go to this level. Sadly not everyone has genuine intentions…
He said that. I took me a long time. To realize it was a blessing when he left. I thought if I kept changing myself to make him happy. It could work. I didn't want to give up on us. Thank you Kev for explaining this simply.
Kev that was spot on❤️. I’m 50, a widow for almost 4 years. After a year of grieving, I dated a man. I am a wife, but this wonderful man has somehow been able to string me along for ...coming up on three years. He showers me with love and attention 7 days a week. But... it kinda feels like a part time job to me. I love your perspective and this video hit home. Like hard. Why in the duck do we as women watch these videos instead of following our gut? The powers of seduction and empty promises is powerful, however, at some point that “Small, still voice” will Drive you mad. It’s time to let go and trust God.
@@BluDrop5 you're absolutely right! I was about to consider letting him in and he sent a picture of him with no message attached, no good morning, just a picture of him hahaha I left him on read again, definitely a narcissist.
@@eaiboba6852 Lol sending you his picture like that he's a narcissist they're always grandiose about their appearance you should def be RUNNING from that
This is me...and thank you.. I was too forgiving my it cost me my mental health up to this point .... Can't get out because we share a child together.... Saddens my heart but she's my blessings in every way...
Manuela Sherry, what everyone wants, honest and true love, not to be faked out, lied to, and then when you start falling, to be completely ghosted out of the blue.
@Manuela Sherry, thank you but I’m not in a relationship for about 9 months now, I’m just actively dating. I recently was ghosted by a man I was dating for two months who did all the things to me in this video and I fell for it. He basically love bombed me and the ghosted me. Told me all the things I wanted to hear, planned future things with me, called and texted me everyday, saw each other many times, then bam out of the blue stopped talking to me and blew our plans off and I haven’t heard from him since. Looking back I definitely see there were many red flags I ignored. But I’m okay now, back out there dating new men and I’m just a little bit more cautious and knowledgeable of what to look for this next time around. Thank you though!
Thanks Kev. I allowed this to resonate in my spirit because as a woman, you are ready to give your all to a man, that you don't know can even be trusted or if he wants you for you and not what you can offer. Thanks again for your help and encouragement.
Kev.. you are so awesome... God has surely blessed you with all his love and guidance. I appreciate all you do...listening to this video brought tears to my eyes, I can honestly say that love makes the most intelligent ppl turn into fools but I know better and I am doing better. I came out stronger than I imagined. Thank you for coaching my broken heart back to life. Sending you blessings.
I started date this guy off a date web sites and he told me he love me from the first time we meet. And he would take care of me and he did just that . we were together for five years u tell he die this Year i was so hurt when. He was a bless in my life. Too say this God can bring good. Man in to your life
What you said about trust was a wake up call. I ignored a lot of signs for guys to stay in my life. I let things happen, I didn’t trust my own intuition. Man, looking back I’m so upset at myself. Lesson learned, never again!
If you feel a Guy's inner emptiness and understand this is why he's all insecure and sucking all goodness he can talk him to get from you, please run. BPD-like behaviors mostly make your heart, rationality and life strength go downhill 🤦♀️😬😢 Protect your self from such negativistic neurotic-dysphoric people with "splitting" tendencies. Protect yourself as well from Intimacy-fearful "backpeddling" guys stepping back from Intimacy that they actually want but are too paralyzed to stick to it and succeed with you. Or the blame-shifting projections, infatuation-searching idealizing-prone guys who can only be all about love drug and only about their emotional security first and their subconsciousness roller coaster anomality. Take care. Dont dare to take any irrational condemning of you too Personality. Not before you truly see any foundation of your mistake or your lesson about some social psychology you didnt know and you learned this way.
Wow you were right on time with this video. You definitely drop some knowledge on me today. Whew this message was definitely for me because I am currently going through this situation as I type this comment. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and wisdom❤
Kev Hick, I SOOOOOO wish I'd had your guidance 40 years ago! Could've saved myself much heart ache and heart break from the insane dysfunctional dance you so eloquently call out, illustrate and expose through your videos. I'm so grateful for your pointed honesty and "no bullshit" bottom line. Feeling awakened and empowered. Thank you! 🙏
I started dating this guy and only met him in person 2 times before COVID happened and he got stuck in his home country for 8 months. We talked everyday and kept a long distance relationship. I saw small things I didn’t like, but overall he seemed like a good person. Also, we were never intimate up until this point. He sent me flowers every 2 weeks with sweet notes. He was so sweet to me on the phone and through text. Once he came back and we spent the weekend together, he did a complete 180. He seemed cold and condescending. I knew he was a little cocky, but I hadn’t seen it this intense from him before. We got into an argument & the whole time he just gas lighted me. For ex I told him while he’s working all day on the computer I’d love for him to come give me a kiss or grab my hand walking by. He said I was completely selfish asking for a kiss knowing how busy he is. He broke it off with me the same weekend we reunited. He said I was too sensitive even though I’ve told him many times about my childhood and my anxiety. He would tell me we can get through it and he wants to be with me. He told me he loved me. I thought 8 months was enough to know him; It wasn’t. I will never do long distance with a stranger again. I feel like I never knew him and I felt used. It hurt really badly because I never saw it coming. We both counted down the days until we would be able to see each other. And in one weekend our relationship fell apart. I think he just liked the chase. But who the hell chases for 8 months who’s not serious about you?! I guess it’s easy to wait from another continent, there’s no choice. But I know I will move on. Learn the lesson and keep going.
Just know he has a girl/wife in his home country. That's what it is. I don't know his nationality but most African men are usually married or engaged prior to relocating. Most are also short tempered and not romantic. The kiss thing may have offended him.
Wow very scary i am in an ldr with somone i barely know he too is all kinds of prfect and sometimes it scares me that things will change when we finally see...i have this thing in my heart which tells me i should not trust him but so far he keeps convincing me that he only wants me etc that i should not be bothered ....i must try to not fall in love too deeply before my heart gets broken
Im really grateful for your videos and words of encouragement! I’m currently going through a divorce after being married for 8years. My husband told me that he never loved me and he never wanted to have kids so that’s why the sex eventually stopped. He said he never was the married type. I was so heartbroken but I stopped feeling pity for myself and said why would I care for someone who wasted my time? He didn’t love me so why should I give him any remorse. You can’t force anyone to be with you. And when people show you who they truly are believe them!
Got called cold many times for letting go completely because I know exactly what I want, because I read only actions. I feel so much better after watching this.
This video gave me chills. Being able to walk away from a fantasy whether it be of a romantic relationship or a friendship WILL save your soul. Listen to Kev...
Wow.. M so lucky to hear this from you brother.. Thank you for those words.. I see myself in some of the things you just said.. Iv just learnt to let go... Thank you👍🇿🇦
God bless you 🙏🏽✨you really opened my eyes today Thankyou and remember to my fellow ladies you are so special don’t let anyone wether it be a friendship/ relationship or even your own family make you feel less than the Queen you are !
It’s true though my kids dad still loves me till this day we’re not together but very good friends I will always have a place in my heart for him together or not vice versa. so basically the other day he told me he met a woman (I’m also not a jealous baby mum either 😂) I was actually very happy for him he deserves love again he really does, but he said to me he liked the girl but not in that way I asked him what way he meant? he said to me “not in the way I liked you when I layed eyes on you”he said she was a nice girl and pretty in the face but something just wasn’t there, now that doesn’t mean he played the girl he told her he just wasn’t ready for anything to let her down gently, but do you see what he said “he wasn’t ready” to be polite, but really she just wasn’t fully that person for him, i do like getting he’s perspective on things because I see it first hand from him how men are and what they do if they’re really into you seriously,if I called him now he’d come not just for our kids but for me platonically, he’s witnessed me be in a new relationship before and yes it hurt him of course but he said he’d rather see me happy even if not with him because I have always been a good person in his life regardless of anything else, some say we had true love I say we had and will always have companionship and that lasts way long after the love truss me❤️
He's nailed it completely. Trust your instincts and don't go for addiction trust if something doesn't feel right. Something seems off I walk away I've gotten rid a few no good men that would be no good. I'm thinking with my head and testing my waters to see if something feels right
OMG! I've grown so much 🤩😂😂 Recently some guy I met first time started to talk to me about kids and how nice our kids would look, etc. I stopped him there: why are you talking to me about kids?? And my question wasn't said in a hopeful way. He smiled like a caught little boy: because girls love to talk about this. Right, well I don't!😃 Then another one who kept telling me how non-committal he was, in the middle of an adventurous drive (yes, I am sort of non-committal myself, I can keep it fun with little emotional involvement) said: these houses are so nice, we should buy a house together and move here. Eyebrow raised...by me. Dude, you're incapable of the slightest reliability, why are you talking to me about a house together? Few years ago I would have been so happy to hear the prospect of buying a house with a guy I liked. Now I either ignore or confront for fun.
Dating definitely is difficult so many men seem nice or pretend to be nice and then they begin to show their true color as time progresses and then that's when you realize your probably in the wrong relationship. I wish men came with warning labels that would probably save a lot of woman and there hearts from being broken.
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“I’d much rather you sit In the dark and cry for a month or two rather than go where some of these guys will drag you”💯 FACTS SPOKEN.
😮 YES!
I'm on day 2 🤷🏽♀️
You beat me to it lol but same sis !!!
@@undercraft6371 I am happy for you sis
@@denisetheur5641 Thank you🙏🏽
Ladies, your intuition will be your life’s GPS in every way imaginable. I would have saved myself so much heartache had I listened to it. Learn to have a strong relationship with your intuition. You likely have all the answers within.
You're telling the truth 💯💯❤️❤️
PREACH!!
Honestly, trust your gut, ALWAYS.
If something feels off it probably is
Fr I was talking to this guy I went to high school with and he’s my age 23 and he was in the process of getting a divorce but I feel like he was still with his wife so I broke it off. And today I saw him post a status on fb about her saying he will always be their for their daughter and that they may go their ups and downs and yah duh yah duh ya duh
@@julianacheriza1575 so are they together or was he just saying he will be there for the child
Also we have to understand that in so many of the cases of rejection from toxic ppl...you weren’t rejected, you were instead repelled. It’s a blessing in disguise.
Sometimes "rejection is protection"... from the hell they would have put you through.
Wow 😍
Amen!
Some men can be such good actors and play "the perfect guy" so well makes you never want to trust anyone
Make them wait! Their crazy side and true intentions will be revealed. They can't keep up the charade for so long. I don't know why it is so hard just to have good/honorable intentions towards the person you are dating. And DON'T IGNORE RED FLAGS!!!
My ex could’ve won an Academy award based on the acting he did. I was actually stunned.
@@Justbrowsing2023 see what l mean 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾with technology it's alot more easier to play games and get away with it. Like I said before married men are slick at playing the single bachelor. So it's not the side chicks fault, because she alot times is the victim too for not knowing he was married too IJS. The more complicated is to date the more l don't want it.... SMDH
yep everything they say is a lie
Yup
Ladies, keep your head high and your standards higher!
And let me add, keep your legs closed........until he's proven to care for you and have financially invested in you enough to take him seriously.
THANK YOU!!
You got that right
Good advice
Men will sit back and rest on you like lazy boy chairs if you let them. Protect your heart before you give it away. Yes, God is Good and he will protect you.
I agree 👍🏼
Agreed, just blocked one lazy boy for no actions to back up his words.
AMEN! THE LORD ALWAYS PROTECTS ME, EVEN WHEN THE DEVIL IS SCHEMING!
cindee D Never give your heart away. Stay on your toes.
*DO NOT I REPEAT, DO NOT IGNORE RED FLAGS!!*
Wow! Rejection is God's protection. Thank you.
KEV SAID, "Stop giving away love in the absence of evidence that it will be reciprocated." Whew Chile the TEEEEAAAAA.
😂😂😂
Wow this is powerful!
Sex is not love
Girls, I married one of these charmer, great words, compliments, flattery. Brother of a family I knew well. Well, the words with minimal actions continued into marriage. You give and give but you "can't work your way into a good relationship." Bottom line, the more you give, the more they'll take. It's barely reciprocated. They'll turn on the charm and make promises they never intend to keep. Then you'll be discarded...me, 7 years into marriage. Two years of dating which had more than enough signs and red flags. Do not ignore. It doesn't change! It may hide for awhile but it always comes back. Love yourself and your dignity more than any man. Pay attention, observe. Don't get swept up.
Wow smh!
Wow I’m so sorry you went through this! I’m currently going through a divorce after being married for 8years. My husband told me that he never loved me and he never wanted to have kids so that’s why the sex eventually stopped. He said he never was the married type. I was so heartbroken but I stopped feeling pity for myself and said why would I care for someone who wasted my time? He didn’t love me so why should I give him any remorse. You can’t force anyone to be with you. And when people show you who they truly are believe them!
@Asia Coleman Yes, marry the cute nerds with lots of character and follow through
@@alwaysalanna329 Simple Texas here...I'm sorry, with children is even worse! But you'll come out on top, I can already tell. Tricia
@@alwaysalanna329 you go girl!💪🏾💪🏾 I don’t know you and I’m freakin proud of you! The fact that he went on to do something he never wanted like Barry and have kids is HIS fault. I’m glad you piled yourself out of feeling horrible and the sooner he’s out-the sooner you actually can actually find real love or even spend time by yourself heck, it’s the ultimate freedom. Blessings to you and the kids sis y’all gone be alright period!
I was dating this guy for a week.., I spotted red flags early and dipped! First I noticed I had to push him to take me on dates... seems like he only wanted to stay in the house.. second kept touching me inappropriately and pushing sex.., 3rd he seemed passive aggressive.., always ignoring my text when I didn’t give him the responses he liked.. after a week or two..I cut him off. I hate dating these days. It seems like no one ( men) wants true love. Just sex and options. I think I’ll stay single forever...
Really sounds familiar
Look for sheraseven1 channel .sje teaches how men dont love.instead get their money 💰
I literally just went through this at first I questioned myself because I enjoyed spending time with him and it was cool ass company but I started thinking okay why isn't he making much effort he made me feel like it was because of covid and everything limited it we did go on one date and then it just stopped he got comfortable with simply coming to my home watching TV chilling and of course the thought of sex I cut the sex off and when I did he started saying maybe I'm not feeling him and we don't have a connection but I cut the sex off because I told him we need to go out more when he didn't want to do that he simply said maybe he's not ready for a relationship and he left
Yep
The guys that would be celibate with you, yall don't wanna date them tho lol
I swear this was posted at perfect timing I prayed for guidance this morning and this is my answer
Be strong
Cheering for your happiness..
Thank u everyone
Same I left my relationship yesterday I'm so glad I did I bought into the fantasy I was sold x so glad you saw this video too x
I swear this was the video I needed today
A complete simple conversation … not to be underestimated. This … in a supportive, human world… would be required listening for all. Thank you. Wash, rinse, repeat.
WOW "When a person´s words matches our fantasies, we are more likely to believe everything without cause" this is a very true statement and an important lesson ladies ! Love it
Sometimes those men want that kind of things, but not with you...truth hurts
Agh no sis, then it's the man that is a problem. If he wants a relationship but not with me, he must go wherever he deems worthy and leave me in peace.
“I would much rather you sit in the dark and cry for a month or two. Then go somewhere the guys will drag you” YESSSSSSS
#2 was scary true for me, hit too close to home..” I’d rather you sit in the dark and cry for a month or two then go where these guys will drag you.. straight to hell.” Chile... the truth!! He saved me by rejecting and blocking me😔
1. Trust what was done and not what was spoken...
*MEET IN PUBLIC! DO NOT TELL HIM WHERE YOU LIVE! MEET IN PUBLIC! DO NOT TELL HIM WHERE YOU LIVE! MEET IN PUBLIC! DO NOT TELL HIM WHERE YOU LIVE!* Also, as some ladies have said, MAKE HIM WAIT! It's a shame it has to be this way, but there are real predators out there just looking to take advantage of women. :/
In relationships especially, actions are more powerful than words because they show effort. The effort you put into any relationship through the consistent actions you take will be heard by the other person as a message of “I love and care about you”.
You can say: “I love you” to another person but what is more important is follow through. If I say “I love you” but my actions don’t correlate - I don’t consistently show my love through actions of love (which can look many different ways) - the message “I love you” won’t necessarily translate.
It’s important to both verbally express and physically express how you feel about others through consistent actions.
Loving actions get translated as love. For instance, if I bake my son chocolate chip cookies he feels cared for and loved. If I ask my husband how his day was he feels love. These actions are important for lasting satisfaction in all relationships.
True but everyone's "love language" is not the same.
Thank you for putting it into words.
So true. I was dating a guy and he would only text me during work hours. Nothing after work or on weekends. First red flag, he only wanted to text. Never a call. I asked him why wasn't he available on the weekends &he got defensive and stated we were just friends. Smh
2022 is going to be so sucker-free, I can feel it. Thank you Jesus!
The beauty is that Jesus isn’t restricted by time and can get rid of the suckers this second!
True about jesus and omg yes 2022 my year
This is why I go by a guy's actions and not their words. My man shows me he cares by his actions and that is why I believe he is genuine.
Dont beleive a mans actions either. Some bastards will tell u that they dont want a relationship but will treat u like his girlfriend jus to squeeze the juice outta u as long as he can.
@@piak78 well if they tell you, they don’t wanna relationship that’s when you leave them. The problem is maybe you should have listened to what he tells you instead of trying to give people advice when you have missed the mark.
After a relationship of 14 years with a narcist i left him and when healed dated 1 guy for 2 months found out he did all you said in this video and i broke it off while i was still madly in love with him. Due to your and tonys videos i got so much wiser so again thanks for learning me how to not get my heart broken again 💚
@@nonyabidness5454 I've known him for a year before we dated for 2 months. I'm totally fine mind ya own. Sounds like you dating strangers might look in to that girl,that ain't healthy or safe
Key: Trust the evidence not your fantasy guy and walk away to protect your heart.
Even actions can unfortunately mean nothing depending on who it is! I was just dating a man who put in all the necessary actions (he wasn't much of a sweet talker at all) but he still ghosted me even though we were perfectly fine the day before. He put in all the effort and consistency you'd dream of. I learned from this that it is important to wait for a few months before feeling confident that it's going somewhere. A person's true colors come out after sometime.
So true
Gem My ex husband ghosted me in the marriage. Men cannot ever be fully trusted. You have to know at all times that he might leave.
@@toscadonna I am so sorry, that is awful!! I'm learning how important it is to constantly improve myself so I'll always be happy having myself no matter what
@@toscadonna people change not just men but women too. Sometimes people grow apart. Be glad he’s gone. You can do better
Gem, sounds like he got sex and bailed. Closed legs = protection. If they ghost without obtaining sex, it’s disappointing but it hurts much less.
You're a Woman's Guardian Coach Angel 🕊️🧘🏻♀️🌺
He really is
Love him
You hav no idea
@@nokwandajobe1021 exactly
Kev you’re speaking in such an intelligent respectful way here. I am impressed with your mastery of words and the absence of obscenities. This adds credibility to the content and shows that you respect your listeners. Thank you.
Me too! I can't these coaches who talk like people/women are common and not cultured and educated.
I wish I had known this two months ago! I met a man that claimed to be God-fearing and was looking for a wife. We did Bible study together, I met his family, and all he talked about was us getting married. We both agreed to be celibate and never had sex thankfully. I felt closer to him than I had with anyone before.Then he started treating me coldly and out of the blue says that he just wanted to enjoy the dating phase. He goes ghost on me and then says that he just wants to date. That he doesn’t have a timeline for getting married. That was pretty much the end of us because I couldn’t believe he would lie to me like that. Especially in the name of God SMH
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You dodged a bullet, mans rejection is God's protection 🙏🏽
This guy I met said it was love at first sight and had named our future kids already only to find out he had a fiancé.Since then I don't believe what a man says.Thank God I am Celibate.
Had 2 guys recently try to say they wanted a relationship but their actions didn't align. I didn't give them anything (no sex; no money; and very little of my time) dueces
I actually burst into tears while the video was playing the other day. It really hit home.
Me too☹️ but we’ll be better for it💖
I just like how blunt and direct you are, no sugar coating like some relationship coaches do.
Guilty of all of this a year ago. I knew he was bread crumbing me but I didn’t trust my intuition to walk away sooner. Felt like you were talking to me personally in this video. I feel so used and embarrassed. Thank you for telling it straight up and no sugar coating. I learned many lessons from you. Next player ( hopefully not) won’t stand a chance!! ❤️
Kev, your videos give me so much mental and emotional support - I don’t think I’d be able to get through dating in this day and age without them. 🙏🏽 thank you.
Thank you for watching 😁
“Trust issues with yourself” 😦😯 laaaaawwwwwd!‼️‼️‼️thanks Kev 👍🏼 that hit home fa sho
Don't believe ANYTHING they say. Watch what they do!
Thank you Kev, this is absolutely spot on. I experienced this myself. Some men really do say everything they know you want to hear, just to try and manipulate you and get something from you! It’s a shame some people go to this level. Sadly not everyone has genuine intentions…
If you didn't have a daddy, or brothers, or male family members to teach you these things, this is your daddy. I mean yr guy lol 🤣🤦🏿♀️
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God Bless this man...I feel like he is the big brother I never had
How do u always give exactly the right advice at exactly the right time?? I'm freaked out.
He said that. I took me a long time. To realize it was a blessing when he left. I thought if I kept changing myself to make him happy. It could work. I didn't want to give up on us. Thank you Kev for explaining this simply.
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This is the TRUEST video and Best video I have ever seen for Dating guidance! Spot on!!!! 💯👏👏👏🎁🥇🏆🏆🏆
Kev that was spot on❤️. I’m 50, a widow for almost 4 years. After a year of grieving, I dated a man. I am a wife, but this wonderful man has somehow been able to string me along for ...coming up on three years. He showers me with love and attention 7 days a week. But... it kinda feels like a part time job to me. I love your perspective and this video hit home. Like hard. Why in the duck do we as women watch these videos instead of following our gut? The powers of seduction and empty promises is powerful, however, at some point that “Small, still voice” will Drive you mad. It’s time to let go and trust God.
A guy was leaving me on read, I did the same to him and he went passive aggressive lmao
They hate to get a taste of their own medicine. They need to stop doing stupid stuff if they don't want it done to them in return.
@@dnw75 thank you! Goin thru same BS right now smh
Leave him alone. He shouldn't respond PA if he did the same to you. He sounds like a narcissist.
@@BluDrop5 you're absolutely right! I was about to consider letting him in and he sent a picture of him with no message attached, no good morning, just a picture of him hahaha I left him on read again, definitely a narcissist.
@@eaiboba6852 Lol sending you his picture like that he's a narcissist they're always grandiose about their appearance you should def be RUNNING from that
I love this guys attitude♥️
Honestly Thank you... You are amazing. I wish I had paid attention to all those red flags instead of ignoring them..
As always wise advice
This is me...and thank you..
I was too forgiving my it cost me my mental health up to this point ....
Can't get out because we share a child together....
Saddens my heart but she's my blessings in every way...
I had to listen to this like 4x...definitely needed it at this time because of what I am going through. GREAT ADVICE, thank you!!
Manuela Sherry, what everyone wants, honest and true love, not to be faked out, lied to, and then when you start falling, to be completely ghosted out of the blue.
@Manuela Sherry, thank you but I’m not in a relationship for about 9 months now, I’m just actively dating. I recently was ghosted by a man I was dating for two months who did all the things to me in this video and I fell for it. He basically love bombed me and the ghosted me. Told me all the things I wanted to hear, planned future things with me, called and texted me everyday, saw each other many times, then bam out of the blue stopped talking to me and blew our plans off and I haven’t heard from him since. Looking back I definitely see there were many red flags I ignored. But I’m okay now, back out there dating new men and I’m just a little bit more cautious and knowledgeable of what to look for this next time around. Thank you though!
"Hear his words, listen to his actions" My takeaway.
WoW, truth bomb 💣
You have to learn how to control the pacing of a relationship.
You have to know it’s about control of you
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Thanks Kev. I allowed this to resonate in my spirit because as a woman, you are ready to give your all to a man, that you don't know can even be trusted or if he wants you for you and not what you can offer. Thanks again for your help and encouragement.
Kev.. you are so awesome... God has surely blessed you with all his love and guidance. I appreciate all you do...listening to this video brought tears to my eyes, I can honestly say that love makes the most intelligent ppl turn into fools but I know better and I am doing better. I came out stronger than I imagined. Thank you for coaching my broken heart back to life. Sending you blessings.
You seem like a best friend I would really be blessed to have in a parallel universe.
It’s funny that you said that cause my male best friend reminds me of him and they look alike! The only difference is my best friend is short lol
Yep, he found another victim
Thank you soooooooooo much!! I needed to hear these words. CONFIRMATION!!
I started date this guy off a date web sites and he told me he love me from the first time we meet. And he would take care of me and he did just that . we were together for five years u tell he die this Year i was so hurt when. He was a bless in my life. Too say this God can bring good. Man in to your life
Scoundrel. Love it 😂 that word isn't used enough. Flex that vocab Kev it's so fantastic!
Scallywag lol
What you said about trust was a wake up call. I ignored a lot of signs for guys to stay in my life. I let things happen, I didn’t trust my own intuition. Man, looking back I’m so upset at myself. Lesson learned, never again!
You’re so intelligent when it comes to true love . I know what love can do to some ppl lol. It sure does make them run in circles
Wow, this is powerful and so truth. Thanks soooo much.
Wisdom! By far, one of your BEST videos.
Hit the nail on the head when you said we can’t trust ourselves. My biggest problem.
Please listen to Kev ladies, he knows his stuff!
BOY YOU ARE ON FIRE!!!! THANK GOD FOR YOU!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
If you feel a Guy's inner emptiness and understand this is why he's all insecure and sucking all goodness he can talk him to get from you, please run.
BPD-like behaviors mostly make your heart, rationality and life strength go downhill 🤦♀️😬😢
Protect your self from such negativistic neurotic-dysphoric people with "splitting" tendencies. Protect yourself as well from Intimacy-fearful "backpeddling" guys stepping back from Intimacy that they actually want but are too paralyzed to stick to it and succeed with you. Or the blame-shifting projections, infatuation-searching idealizing-prone guys who can only be all about love drug and only about their emotional security first and their subconsciousness roller coaster anomality.
Take care.
Dont dare to take any irrational condemning of you too Personality. Not before you truly see any foundation of your mistake or your lesson about some social psychology you didnt know and you learned this way.
I literally like the video before I watch it.....bc you’re THAT GOOD! 🙏🤣💕🙌🏼
This came right on time!
Omg.....you are so right about everything you have said here.
Wow you were right on time with this video. You definitely drop some knowledge on me today. Whew this message was definitely for me because I am currently going through this situation as I type this comment. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and wisdom❤
Why are you so smart about these things it’s so scary
Kev Hick,
I SOOOOOO wish I'd had your guidance 40 years ago!
Could've saved myself much heart ache and heart break from the insane dysfunctional dance you so eloquently call out, illustrate and expose through your videos.
I'm so grateful for your pointed honesty and "no bullshit" bottom line.
Feeling awakened and empowered.
Thank you! 🙏
Kev last week I BETRAYED MY FANTASY!!! Lord I needed this video…
I started dating this guy and only met him in person 2 times before COVID happened and he got stuck in his home country for 8 months. We talked everyday and kept a long distance relationship. I saw small things I didn’t like, but overall he seemed like a good person. Also, we were never intimate up until this point. He sent me flowers every 2 weeks with sweet notes. He was so sweet to me on the phone and through text. Once he came back and we spent the weekend together, he did a complete 180. He seemed cold and condescending. I knew he was a little cocky, but I hadn’t seen it this intense from him before. We got into an argument & the whole time he just gas lighted me. For ex I told him while he’s working all day on the computer I’d love for him to come give me a kiss or grab my hand walking by. He said I was completely selfish asking for a kiss knowing how busy he is. He broke it off with me the same weekend we reunited. He said I was too sensitive even though I’ve told him many times about my childhood and my anxiety. He would tell me we can get through it and he wants to be with me. He told me he loved me. I thought 8 months was enough to know him; It wasn’t. I will never do long distance with a stranger again. I feel like I never knew him and I felt used. It hurt really badly because I never saw it coming. We both counted down the days until we would be able to see each other. And in one weekend our relationship fell apart. I think he just liked the chase. But who the hell chases for 8 months who’s not serious about you?! I guess it’s easy to wait from another continent, there’s no choice. But I know I will move on. Learn the lesson and keep going.
Just know he has a girl/wife in his home country. That's what it is. I don't know his nationality but most African men are usually married or engaged prior to relocating. Most are also short tempered and not romantic. The kiss thing may have offended him.
Wow very scary i am in an ldr with somone i barely know he too is all kinds of prfect and sometimes it scares me that things will change when we finally see...i have this thing in my heart which tells me i should not trust him but so far he keeps convincing me that he only wants me etc that i should not be bothered ....i must try to not fall in love too deeply before my heart gets broken
Thank you. That was truthful, sweet and kind and I needed to hear this.
💯👍🏾👍🏾 Facts. I don't have Instagram. I'll link up hopefully, with a friend that does. We all appreciate everything you do for us thanks so much!
Im really grateful for your videos and words of encouragement! I’m currently going through a divorce after being married for 8years. My husband told me that he never loved me and he never wanted to have kids so that’s why the sex eventually stopped. He said he never was the married type. I was so heartbroken but I stopped feeling pity for myself and said why would I care for someone who wasted my time? He didn’t love me so why should I give him any remorse. You can’t force anyone to be with you. And when people show you who they truly are believe them!
Did you ever enjoy having intimate relations with your ex-husband?
Got called cold many times for letting go completely because I know exactly what I want, because I read only actions. I feel so much better after watching this.
This video gave me chills. Being able to walk away from a fantasy whether it be of a romantic relationship or a friendship WILL save your soul. Listen to Kev...
Boy you PREACHIN!!!!! Lord you not LYIN!!!! 🙏🏽 The realist advice you ever GAVE Kev!
This needs 1 million views. Thanks Kevin.
Wow.. M so lucky to hear this from you brother.. Thank you for those words.. I see myself in some of the things you just said.. Iv just learnt to let go... Thank you👍🇿🇦
You are such a wise man, your wife is one of a lucky lady. Love to her and you!!
God bless you 🙏🏽✨you really opened my eyes today Thankyou and remember to my fellow ladies you are so special don’t let anyone wether it be a friendship/ relationship or even your own family make you feel less than the Queen you are !
"if I'm a scoundrel"
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So much wisdom that save my life here. Thanks.
Thank you for this real talk! :) It really helps a loot!
Well said Kev, well said!!! 👏 👌 👍 🙌 😌
It’s true though my kids dad still loves me till this day we’re not together but very good friends I will always have a place in my heart for him together or not vice versa. so basically the other day he told me he met a woman (I’m also not a jealous baby mum either 😂) I was actually very happy for him he deserves love again he really does, but he said to me he liked the girl but not in that way I asked him what way he meant? he said to me “not in the way I liked you when I layed eyes on you”he said she was a nice girl and pretty in the face but something just wasn’t there, now that doesn’t mean he played the girl he told her he just wasn’t ready for anything to let her down gently, but do you see what he said “he wasn’t ready” to be polite, but really she just wasn’t fully that person for him, i do like getting he’s perspective on things because I see it first hand from him how men are and what they do if they’re really into you seriously,if I called him now he’d come not just for our kids but for me platonically, he’s witnessed me be in a new relationship before and yes it hurt him of course but he said he’d rather see me happy even if not with him because I have always been a good person in his life regardless of anything else, some say we had true love I say we had and will always have companionship and that lasts way long after the love truss me❤️
He's nailed it completely. Trust your instincts and don't go for addiction trust if something doesn't feel right. Something seems off I walk away I've gotten rid a few no good men that would be no good. I'm thinking with my head and testing my waters to see if something feels right
DON'T FALL IN LOVE WITH POTENTIAL.
Under Rule # 2:
"Most women don't betray their fantasy; their fantasy must betray them....".
Did Kev Hick speak that 100?? Yes, the f he did. Boof!
OMG! I've grown so much 🤩😂😂 Recently some guy I met first time started to talk to me about kids and how nice our kids would look, etc. I stopped him there: why are you talking to me about kids?? And my question wasn't said in a hopeful way. He smiled like a caught little boy: because girls love to talk about this. Right, well I don't!😃 Then another one who kept telling me how non-committal he was, in the middle of an adventurous drive (yes, I am sort of non-committal myself, I can keep it fun with little emotional involvement) said: these houses are so nice, we should buy a house together and move here. Eyebrow raised...by me. Dude, you're incapable of the slightest reliability, why are you talking to me about a house together? Few years ago I would have been so happy to hear the prospect of buying a house with a guy I liked. Now I either ignore or confront for fun.
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Wish I knew this about a year ago. My first and only relationship so far was like this, but now I know better
❤❤ DEFINITELY LET GOD GUIDE everything. You are worth it.
More awesome insights, thank you Kev.
Dating definitely is difficult so many men seem nice or pretend to be nice and then they begin to show their true color as time progresses and then that's when you realize your probably in the wrong relationship. I wish men came with warning labels that would probably save a lot of woman and there hearts from being broken.
oh thank you for this, especialy the "self confidence part", so true