A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.
"Lmao I don't even get compliments just get looked at because my bro tells me that I look to intimidating and angry but I swear that I'm a kind respectful individual just don't take my kindness as any sort of weakness"
@@christiantava442 Sometimes, not always, not necessarily most of the time either. I'd say Trump is consistently he loudest in the room, and his confidence knows no bounds lol
Working as a teacher, having good body language and tone to project confidence is super important. It can be the difference between a class that mocks you and one that respects you.
I'm here for that very reason. I'm a young teacher who just got her first real job. I'm going to be teaching at a school of 300 students, starting in February. I'm doing a lot of studying to prepare as I'd never had such a large scale experience with teaching.
Begin kinda strict & you can loosen up over time, but if you start too casual it becomes nearly impossible to regain the control of the room... Good luck it is a great thing to teach & shape the next generation & a couple more through the lives of the students you influence!
He's right. I've always loved studying the gestures and language of appealing characters and I come across as confident most of the times, to the point where people are surprised when I tell them I have anxieties and various inner struggles like we all do. It's not about feeling perfect, it's about knowing you deserve to be where you're at and accepting that you might feel uncomfortable at times.
Public speaking technique: _shrink_ your audience scale. Pick 3 people in different parts of the audience. Talk just towards them. Not necessarily directly at them, but look in their general area, gliding back and forth between them. It's much easier to talk to 3 people than, 10, 100, 1000 or greater. It will bring down your anxiety and raise your confidence.
@@psychobillynumbnuts1 Don't talk directly to the three people you pick. Pick the space _between them_ and the person beside them to "talk to". To the audience, it appears that you're talking to someone, but you're just talking to empty space. That way, you aren't looking directly into anyone's eyes and won't get self-conscious or nervous. Later, as you get more confident in your speaking abilities, you can start looking at people if you feel comfortable.
I became more confident when I accepted the idea that I have no control over other peoples thinking and realizing that it is not worth my time and energy to worry about. The things that people say, whether it is about you or anything else, says more about themselves. When someone speaks they showcase and represent themselves for everyone to hear and see. How you respond or choose to say will also say a lot about you, more than the person you are saying it to or about.
True. People spend too much time on people convincing someone of something when they don't care about you. Its a waste of energy. You soon realize those type of people and its best to move on.
Finally a video that does not just focus on posture, intonation, gestures, etc but emphasises the importance of KNOWING the subject you're talking about.
@@jarenong no, more like 50-50, True self confidence comes your perception of yourself. If you base it on something that is not eternal and innate, or something temporary like money, looks, aesthetics. People who know their abilities generate wealth are confident not those who somehow got rich, it's a delusion or cockiness not self confidence, you really need to have ablities and skills to back your self confidence not looks.
A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.
@@nigmonster the guy talking is a white man. Marginalized ppl aren’t always in a position where they have everything they need and can walk away when people disagree with them like if a disabled person is not getting accommodations at university or POC are in a position of being affected by systematic racism. They need to convey but also convince. Being able to agree to disagree is a luxury sometimes.
Pingu Nootson@ Thats not good wtf lol, by saying that you can excuse a lot of your own behavior, that is not "good confidence". This is something a spiteful person would say when they sit and dwell on negative experiences. Check yourself.
Thank you for this great video. My key takeaways are: 1. Show that you are in command and in control. For example, make eye contacts with others. Talk to convey your message instead of convincing others by saying the same thing in different ways or over-explaining yourself. Take your time to say it and answer the questions. Do not show any quick motion like you are in a hurry. Sit comfortably and own the space 2. Ask yourself how you want to be perceived and what should you do to make it happen. Imitate someone who you think is confident 2. You can build and nurture your confidence. Practice. Practice. Practice
I like #1. Show that you are in command and in control. Convey don’t convince and over explain. Do not show any quick motion like you are in a hurry. Sit comfortably and own your space.
need me this after our years of quarantine so i can have a humanlike posture as opposed to the semi-pterodactyl stance i've developed as a result of solitude
Also knowing that other people's judgement and harsh comments are a result of their own fear (for survival on the most general sense) and not an objective reflection of you
Truth. Martial arts and boxing can help with this. If you can square off to someone and hold your own, the average person out there doesn't seem very scary.
I think "fake it till you make it" is really important when it comes to confidence. You need to practice it in order for it to start coming naturally. Appearing confident, even when you don't feel confident, I believe, can prevent confrontation or becoming a victim (in some circumstances).
As a performer, I can vouch for this! First you have to learn how to LOOK confident onstage, and then with time and experience, you gradually develop true confidence.
There’s a good book describing this called, “The Confident Gap,” you can’t be confident in something you’re not regularly doing it. Just like you can’t be confident in a certain subject since you don’t regularly practice it. Whereas an expert will be supremely confident since that’s his life.
I'd say yes it's a mix of all of those, meaning it would depends on how well you eventually carry yourself. I can improve, and have confidence in myself in many areas, but I will no doubtly have social anxiety all my life. There are some things that you really can't hide though, that points a giant arrow at others that you are different or not "normal"...so some people will be be more targeted no matter what they do...but I still think it's a good idea to learn these things and one can always improve for sure!
my notes: 1. use cadence 2. confidence is about being comfortable but controlled 3. broad graceful smooth movements (less abrupt reactive movements) 4. convey NOT convince (say it once) 5. spaces force people to anticipate what you’re saying next 6. typical “soldier posture” doesn’t equal confidence (comfort) 7. decisiveness is imperative 8. “the person in charge controls time” no need to speed up for anyone or anything 9. self grooming (self soothing) behaviors look less confident (bc why are you soothing urself rn if you’re confident) 10. if you’re scared, own it (say it) instead of trying to not be “found out” (literally worsens social anxiety) 11. rehearse performance so it’s not sudden/new/scary when you first do it (more control) 12. gain full confidence (breathe, etc) before facing the crowd 13. PEOPLE ARENT BORN CONFIDENT 14. KNOW your info/skills have something to be proud of and have the info to anchor and ground yourself in (so you won’t be unsure or face imposter syndrome) 15. look around and make eye contact (keep eyes at about eye level)
There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. People are comfortable around confident people but they inwardly despise arrogance. Be confident!
You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body… every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟
Then you weren't confident enough (or at least more than the teacher). I've answered questions so confidently before that I made them doubt their actual correct answer. Being right is half the battle. Convincing others is the other.
Well dude dont blame the teacher, I dee hentai in your profile picture so I assume you watch pornography frequently and just know it kills your confidence and self esteem
Confidently answer back "Thank you professor, you just taught me a lot about the kind of teacher you are: the one who kicks down those students who need your help the most."
As a woman, choosing makeup, hair and outfits appropriately hugely impacts my confidence. When I’m at my lowest, I can’t even make an eye contact, but at my best, my spine straightens up itself.
I disagree. Children are not born confident and today's children are not raised to be confident. The "Me" generation. The participation trophy generation. They have no coping skills, and melt down at the slightest disappointment.
- Feeling comfortable and looking around the room indicates confidence. - Confidence is demonstrated through posture, gestures, and eye contact. - Confidence can be quiet and commanding, like Jane Goodall or Colin Powell. - Confidence is also about controlling time and speaking at your own pace. - Modeling high-status individuals and their behaviors can help build confidence. - The way we speak, including cadence and pauses, affects how confident we appear. - Confidence is not just about posture but also about conveying information
Confidence in the way one walks is actually very admirable and attractive. One of my classmates always carries herself with certainty and elegance, so natural and smooth, no awkwardness or hesitation in her gestures. It speaks a lot about her well balanced personality and ability to socialise in different environments. Quite impressive in my opinion:)
It's so beautiful how you described her. Your observational skills are astute and keen. It was so vivid in my mind what you described. You're a great story teller :)
How nice of you to put it this way. Some might take that confidence repulsive and others would desire that caliber ruined. Impressed by the way you see the world around you.
One key to developing confidence, is getting to a point in your life that you don’t care what others think of you. Not in arrogance, but you realize that no man is to be the judge and jury of how you feel about yourself.
Confidence and con man "misleader" in Babylon, DC., there must be a connection between these two words. Brandon pretends to be "confident" when any high school student with open eyes can see that Brandon is a seeming "con man" grifter in cheap aviator sunglasses. As Shakespeare said, ".. a man (Brandon???) can smile and smile and still be a villain."
I love coming across confident people, dismantling their internal mental pillars of power, destroying their physical resources of power and then systematically crushing their psychological construct, so that they are left with the same mental outcomes of Justin Longs character out of the body horror movie Tusk. I then go to church on Sunday and help out on the charity stall.
A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.
I was born confident and as a little girl I was constantly scolded for being too bold or outspoken. Now I own it again and found joy in life like when I was true to myself.
I was harshly disciplined for being a powerful and confident child. It’s taken me 50 years and the death of my disciplinary mother passing before I felt free to be me again.
@@luweezla it's taken me many years to out learn the limits others tried to impose on me, which I finally understood was merely their beliefs, fears and insecurities. It never had anything to do with me but abuse and social conditioning tries to tell you it does. I'm fully there, the pandemic helped me free myself and the free fun inner child that just went silence but was always waiting for me. I'm so pleased others like you are freeing yourselves, we're becoming a wild bunch ❤️. Stay blessed.
The key to confidence is having everything you need. You don’t have to pander to anyone or be concerned with anyone’s opinion. Successful people move differently. Watch closely.
I'd add that prior to the "having", comes the "getting". When you set goals and achieve them, it builds confidence. It's not so much the having as the knowing that you can achieve. The having is just evidence of the belief.
@@adiem1653 Yes and there is a lot that every person can do to make themselves look attractive, e.g. good posture, clean and neat appearance, well-fitting clothing, a confident walk, etc. All those things add to our confidence, even if we are not the most beautiful person naturally.
Honestly I feel like confidence comes naturally when you care about something so much that you are no longer sensitive to how people see you and how you appear in front of others. Like Jane Goodall or Colin Powell - I'm a person that has a mission that's important to me, plus huge experience and knowledge that built me, and I'm proud, and what the world thinks is not my concern.
Yes, this makes sense. Rather insecurity (the opposite of confidence) is being unsure and uncomfortable with where you are and feeling like you don't belong there. When you want to be there and feel like you belong there you are more confident.
1:33-Less Confident we are less Eye contact we make and we are reluctant to look around 3:33- 4:18-4:47 4:55- 5:38- 7:33-Cadence 10:56-Smooth Movements convey more confident 11:54- 12:12-
To anybody reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind may clarity replace confusion. And may peace and calmness fill your life. ❤🌟
I think that it all boils down to this one thing he said at the end: Know your material. REALLY know it. When you're very good at something-anything- and you know it, you're confident in showing someone, talking about it or presenting it to a room of people. Know your stuff.
This man is arrogant lol he keeps comparing himself to the people around him, checking his gestures and trying to teach himself to do better. Really don’t like him.
my mother thought me a lot about body language, she just figured it out being a Volleyball Trainer. about public speaking, she said: stand there a sec, then start with a quiet tone, people instinctively try to hear and will pay more attention, then a joke. i used to be confident, then had panic attacks and anxiety attacks.. while my job was to meet new people and be confident, funny and all. i would go to the toilet before, and stand in a cubicle with legs apart, hands of hips, chest up, slow stomach breathing. so confident body language practice to get your body to feel powerful. it helped soooo much!
To anybody reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind may clarity replace confusion. And may peace and calmness fill your life. ❤🌟
I remember my communications class back when I was in college, and I was horrible at public speaking. It wasn't until I learned the art of the pause and mastering my cadence that I truly began to gain the confidence to speak with a purpose and it changed my life.
I know that this is a serious comment written by an actual person but the appeal looks funnily similar to the bot comments related to criptoe (knowingly writing wrong spelling so it doesn’t alert the bots) under some related videos. TH-cam really need to do something for these bots
confidence can look a billion different ways. really comes down to being comfortable with yourself and having confidence in your whole self mentally and physically, not just mimicking the actions of someone with confidence.
The most awkward behaving people sometimes can be commanding and interesting. While what the video says does apply to a broad category of confident people, those aren't the only characteristics of confidence.
A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.
@@soumayabnz3249 Never ever do that , when you fake it , you're not being yourself or true to yourself, the issue need to be fixed deep within the roots Eg:- changes in perspective.
Confidence is really relaxation, and being relaxed in a given situation. Keep in mind how some people who appear confident, can be hucksters and liars and also think they're better than everyone else. Don't automatically believe, confident people always tell the truth. If you want to see the master of body language and personal confidence, watch the old reruns of Perry Mason
Thank you for writing this. I struggle to understand the point of confidence if it is to be used to hoodwink others to cover one's own inanity or incompetence. But confidence should be for one's own sake and not for others as you mentioned.
A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.
I agree. People who are comfortable with themselves make others feel comfortable. I don’t believe in this learned confidence it’s just fake. Saying an actor displays confidence could just mean they are good at acting out confidence.
Confidence is not thinking about yourself too much, other than occasionally considering the person you're becoming. Thinking about how happy you are with yourself is a stunting proposition.
Confidence is not a show, because it does not depend on other people’s opinions. So many people fake confidence, but it’s soon exposed as a flimsy facade. True confidence is earned in battles of discomfort, which results in the ability to deal with any situation that’s within your capabilities.
I think it starts with .. being comfortable in your own skin with yourself. I try to treat everyone like they are a family member. Being honest to the point first .. eye contact with a smile. Speaking clearly and with the right tone for the right situations. It's so many things it would take all day explaining it. Everyone recognizes who is and who isn't. Try mirror the ones you have came across. Like he has said video yourself and try it in the mirror. He is right..
The presenter here delivers his knowledge succinctly. He IS the example of what he is teaching. Thank you for a concise, no extraneous lesson. It is has been immensely helpful.
For someone usually timid, anxious and can’t keep eye contact when speaking to someone, this video has taught me that confidence is more about knowledge with whatever you speak about, that it is not so much about forced external confidence (posture, facial expression, tone). You don’t even have to try too hard. I truly wish this video was created and came across it during my formative years. I lacked confidence when I was in elementary and high school, and unfortunately, in college too. I would have been a confident student then and would have performed better.
Would it help you to imagine the quantum world and that what you see as a person is nothing more than a neatly distributed association of molecules that at the very minute scale actually has a lot of empty spaces in there? Definitely better than that old idea of imagine the room empty.
"confidence is more about knowledge with whatever you speak about, that it is not so much about forced external confidence (posture, facial expression, tone). You don’t even have to try too hard.". You've got the essential idea!
To anybody reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind may clarity replace confusion. And may peace and calmness fill your life. ❤🌟
Same here. For me, my mind is already far in the next bits of the statement (esp if it's an interesting story im saying) and my mouth is trying to keep up, so my words trip. True story.
I feel most confident In public when I feel I look my best. Sometimes we cannot control the way we look so do YOUR best and feel comfortable in YOUR skin. Also when you have a good team of people around you (i.e friends) it’s a lot easier to feel mor comfortable, more CONFIDENT.
A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.
A good way to be confident is to simply know wth you are talking about. If you are insecure in the subject matter, then it will convey to your speech and demeanour.
There’s something almost soothing about Mr. Navarro’s easy way of sharing his knowledge with us. I felt empowered in that little time. He should teach a Master Class.
The thing is.. why it's hard for some people is because you are telling them how to copy people who are confident. Whereas, ask the confident people, they aren't copying nobody. Being confident is not about doing this or that. It's about the process a person has to go through in order to become totally comfortable with himself and the surroundings.
I remember in audio meetings at some point I was dozzing off and people were asking me a question so I made an excuse about the mic being off or whatnot and I felt not very sharp. Later I saw the same thing happen to someone else and he was just like "sorry I wasn't listening could you repeat the question?". He didn't feel like he needed an excuse for not being able to answer straight away. And people just did as he said, and that was it. And I thought "yeah that's how you should handle those situations" so now I do the same. But not everything is copied/learned. I remember asking myself "why was I sitting like that (one arm behind the back of the chair)? I usually don't do that. It felt good. Yeah I was confident and relaxed. So I guess that pose indicates confidence."
i always let people know that giving a speech or presentation is nothing more than informatiion sharing or teaching others what u know. it makes me feel useful n gets me into that "cant wait to educate others" mood so nothing to fear
I think the best place to start is the posture, it’s simple and you don’t even have to speak if talking is hard. I had been thinking about my posture more over the last 2-3 months and it’s really started to show. I went to a wedding and a friend I had known over half my life but hadn’t seen in maybe 4 months asked if I got taller or if I changed something about my appearance (other than the suit of course). I’ve always walked with a quick pace, but I’ve noticed more eyes have been following me as I walk around the office too since I straightened up. I don’t puff out my chest, roll my shoulders back, etc., I just stand upright and it feels better on my back
This is happening to me too. I mean, not exactly like you but I’ve become very aware of my posture and I’m determined to improve it because I find it has all to do with my insecurities and lack of confidence.
The Upright posture trainer is worth the cost - it has quickly helped my posture, awareness and even mindfulness bc it ‘jolts’ me into the present moment…😂 ✨👌🏻
People tell me I seem confident all the time, I got no clue why, maybe I just accidentally stumbled upon the right movements subconsciously, and I am pretty respectful of people so that helps I think
That's amazing. I don't think I've ever been told that in my entire life. I literally can't think of a single instance. I can think of many many times when I was told that I need more confidence though :/ I try so hard to develop confidence but it's so difficult when you have social anxiety.
I have ADHD so usually it's hard for me to focus on talks, speeches and so on. But when someone is really good at speaking and confident about what they're saying, I tend to pay more and even full attention. I paid full attention to this video and even remember what I learned after watching only once. This is my 2nd time here! Just to make sure I don't forget :)
0:58 One: Traits of confident people - Posture, the way we present, how we look, where our chin is, where the eyes are looking and gazing - Our gestures are loose but smoother 3:12 Two: Modeling confidence People that look around are more confident. More experienced, knowledgeable Have command of themselves If you're in charge, you're in charge of time
I struggle with crowds as most do. I found that personal confidence happens when you know the subject like the back of your hand prior to stepping out. When someone that repeats themselves and/or uses a number of filler words (um, uh, etc) I question myself on whether or not that individual knows what they are talking about. Enjoyed the video 😊
So because someone says “uh”, they are inferior? What a crappy mindset and judgment that we have these days. “Be prideful and full of yourself” is what I see and it creates more selfishness than anything.
Facts. It’s also a mindset thing. If u respect yourself to the fullest that energy shines outward on other people, u get a different hand dealt with in life👊🏻
I had an epiphany after having to do some presentations and being very nervous about it. When I mentioned it to my supervisor afterwards, she was surprised, she and others told me they couldn't tell that I was nervous. Body language is everything. Learn to move in a confident manner and you will come across as confident. Then others will respond positively to you and it will make you actually more confident. There's a positive feedback loop here.
You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body… every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟
As a very shy, introverted, jittery person who recently became a professor, I'm gonna do everything I can to be more confident. Wish me luck you guys 🥴 Edit: thank you everyone 😘 I'm much better than before. I used to sweat so much because I was very nervous. Now, I barely sweat. Here are some things that really helped me and hopefully might help you too: 1. Be very thoroughly prepared 2. Do not dissociate. Focus on the present and what's happening 3. Breathe 4. If you're still nervous in front a class, ask them a question and that will give you a few seconds to recon 5. Be punctual and the students will respect you more and in turn, that will make you more confident.
i have been asked all my life how am i so confident. i told them in the past and i tell them still... "i am not confident... i just don't doubt myself". there IS a difference. if i fail i learn. it is that simple. i am not always right... i am not always wrong but i am always advancing. 'confidence' is for those that wish to lie to themselves. you came into this life alone and you will leave this life alone so why worry about how others perceive you? it all lies in how you perceive yourself. start by not lying to yourself and know that even if you fail you succeed. "experience is what you get when you don't get what you want" cheers and may God bless
Convey don't convince is the best advice ever. Truly powerful stuff. I like how you admitted that you still get nervous, it's only human and only when we are scared can we be brave. :D
Confidence and con man "misleader" in Babylon, DC., there must be a connection between these two words. Brandon pretends to be "confident" when any high school student with open eyes can see that Brandon is a seeming "con man" grifter in cheap aviator sunglasses. As Shakespeare said, ".. a man (Brandon???) can smile and smile and still be a villain."
To anybody reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind may clarity replace confusion. And may peace and calmness fill your life. ❤🌟
A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.
@@erenb.2806 Tell me something I don't know - TH-cam is most filled with 'I have social anxiety' comments. Also, _"you might be hiding something under the facade of confidence"?_ I'm just telling the truth, dude... I don't see why you'd say this... You trying to bring me down?
There are 2 things , one being genuinely confident inside , and second how one shows to outside world their confidence thru body language . Personal opinion fake confidence or presenting to show something you are not will eventually reveal itself . Try first be confident on the inside then show it off . TIP - improve your knowledge or skill needed to show the confidence .
What do you mean “fake confidence “ 😂😂😂. Courage - like my “Thalaivar said “ is how well one learns to hide fear. So it’s all an act to start with my friend 😊
I will watch this video every morning to put it deeply in my head. This is some life changing information. The statement “People are not born confident…” alone just gave me so much confidence.
watching videoagain does not make good. to make something special you have to believe special. confidence mean body language but some people though getting nude is confidence.
I don’t think it’s all about confidence. It’s partially how they convince themselves they are accepted and loved by others. Or they are convinced to be careless about other people think.
yeah of course, it's about charisma too. if someone creepy is confident that's just scary, but if someone has charisma (usually good looks, perhaps nice voice, high status, etc.) they'll be perceived way better
You don't need to convince yourself when you know you are indeed accepted by others. You also don't need to not care about what others think. You can care but be unaffected.
I tell my kids, you can’t force it. It will come. Confidence comes with experiences and I also believe it is innate. I live by this: if you have it, flaunt it. If you don’t have it, fake it. Either way, OWN IT.
You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body… every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟
Bottom line is, if you are not confident, you can't show people that you are. But if you are confident enough to act as one, people will buy your fake confidence.
@@nadia4985 but don’t you have to have confidence to act confident? Like you might not be confident at one thing like lets say public speaking, but you compensate that by ‘acting’ confident. You still need to be confident enough so you can act it.
If you’re not confident, your confidence will likely show off as arrogance to disguise it. But if you are confident, your confidence will speak for itself and people will feel it.
This was such an eye opener.The hand gestures indicating where the man went...it's amazing how subtle changes in body language can convey you in a completely different light!
You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body… every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟
Confidence is given to you by your parents through lots of love, good nurturing and positive feedback. Without good parenting you will be fighting to gain confidence for the rest of your life. FACTS!!
To avoid uptalk as an Aussie is extremely hard as that is just our accent. Yet there is no lack of “confident” Australians. That’s the only thing I can pick wrong with this video.
Another thing I would say is that uptalk is typically used by women, which just didn't really sit right with me that it's bad or unprofessional to use- simply because it's a female associated trait (whether or not people realise but this is definitely why)
Aussie F1 driver Daniel Ricciardo uptalks a lot, yet he drinks out of a shoe in public every time he gets a podium. If that's not confidence, I don't know what is.
@@niamhbrown7050 I’ve always viewed it more as a sassy trait rather than feminine. Kind of like how tattoos can be seen as a sign of “machismo” rather than masculine.
«Uptalk» sounds like how we Norwegians talk naturally and politely. We have a different and more varied melody to our language that I know can throw English speakers off. So a confident manner of speaking also depends on your language and your audience’s background.
I've heard it and I think that's just a natural part of the Norwegian language. I once watched a Norwegian TV show and was really surprised when I noticed this feature of the language as I'd never seen anything like that before in other languages. Each will have their own very interesting and unique quirks. The uptalk isn't intrinsic to the English language, but rather an individual feature of some people's speech which is why he can talk about it like that when referring to English speakers.
@@Ouchiness why? Uptalk frames everything the speaker says as a question and signals that they are unsure of either themselves or the subject matter, I’m not trying to be rude I’m genuinely curious bc i have a tendency to uptalk, and find it to be a rather disagreeable tendency
I find the great thing about body language and how it makes life easier is that if you project or use your body language in a way that LOOKS confident, you also FEEL confident. Body language is therefore one of the most effective ways to overcome social anxiety, especially on the spot.
The best thing you can do, is to know who you are as a person. Before, I had also anxiety walking into a room or a bar, but now I know myself and I don't try to be anybody else, it gives me the "I don't care what people may think about me" confidence, non of the situations I may find my self, or some opinions can change me who I am and this way I'm very relaxed
I'm a way, I feel If acted the way in th video I would actually seem less confident. It doesn't feel authentic. I just want to be myself and be accepted for that even if it isn't seen as confident or cool.
TH-cam really said “here u need this sis” Had an oral exam today and even though it went well I almost started crying before going in bc of how nervous I was
I was a master of it in school. Whenever my teacher asks the class a question...I used to give the most confident gaze and the question never came towards me😂
It's part of life. And it's a life-long thing. I do recall learning bits and pieces of those in school. Confidence is something internal, too. Some of it can be taught, but some of it cannot. I hope you keep growing in confidence. You deserve to be confident.
I always look into the eyes of the person I’m talking to and smile. It’s so interesting to see how people react. Alternatively, when people do the same thing to me it’s a little uncomfortable. We’re all susceptible to manipulation whichever form it takes.
Preparation and knowing your topic back and forth certainly helps me with my confidence when im conducting seminars and trainings. Knowing that I can answer every question (expected and unexpected ones) really makes me comfortable. Preparation and planning is the key. You don't wing a great public speaking act. Unless your super talented.
You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body… every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟
Me too - body language ROCKS! Body language is what makes communication ability so stellar - it's what's missing in phone calls, to another degree in anything written. Sometimes I think that we must communicate in pheromones too...something yet unmeasured.
@@mistyculous9644 Try finding a body analysis video of a politician. The expert will dissect what is true and what is a lie and say why they think that ...FASCINATING! Also check out Paul Ekman. He is an expert in micro-expressions and was the go-to guy for the show "LIE TO ME", one of my favorites, which can also be found on TH-cam. He can be found in bookstores, too!!! 🤣
Honestly, I believe that to be confident means that I should be smart mentally, emotionally, and also academically. I mean when a confident person speaks, the first thing that pops up in my mind is "wow, this person is definitely clever". Basically, what l'm saying is that confidence is accompanied by many other things so one has to have certain behavior to show for it.
A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.
Keep it up!
"Lmao I don't even get compliments just get looked at because my bro tells me that I look to intimidating and angry but I swear that I'm a kind respectful individual just don't take my kindness as any sort of weakness"
She were being sarcastic
@@crustydinglecherry3451 Oh yeah be the cynical person you are and doubt everything anyone says pathetic
@@Ash-of1yl yea right !
"confidence can be very quiet" - finally someone said it, thank you!
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confidence is quiet, the loudest in the room is the weakest
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Sometimes, not always, not necessarily most of the time either. I'd say Trump is consistently he loudest in the room, and his confidence knows no bounds lol
Yes, it can be quiet. But it really isn't usually. Quiet confidence is infinitely less annoying.
@@christiantava442 it can be quiet, it can also be loud.
Working as a teacher, having good body language and tone to project confidence is super important. It can be the difference between a class that mocks you and one that respects you.
I'm here for that very reason. I'm a young teacher who just got her first real job. I'm going to be teaching at a school of 300 students, starting in February. I'm doing a lot of studying to prepare as I'd never had such a large scale experience with teaching.
@bubbles bunny thank you for such a nice message! I'm sure it will 🤞🏼
@ARC Commander CT-420 🤡
Begin kinda strict & you can loosen up over time, but if you start too casual it becomes nearly impossible to regain the control of the room... Good luck it is a great thing to teach & shape the next generation & a couple more through the lives of the students you influence!
@ARC Commander CT-420 😧
He's right. I've always loved studying the gestures and language of appealing characters and I come across as confident most of the times, to the point where people are surprised when I tell them I have anxieties and various inner struggles like we all do. It's not about feeling perfect, it's about knowing you deserve to be where you're at and accepting that you might feel uncomfortable at times.
Can u tell some particular things that u do, please?
It's all meaningless nonsense really, some people Will always be miserable And hate u no matter how positive and confident u Are
@@Carltonwanks I miserably hate you bro🤧
@@bhavii eat some lovely beefburgers Gandhi, after that have beef curry,then cry
@@Carltonwanks i love beef bro, lil boy really spoke all the 'Indian' he knew tho💀 goofy ah people
I cant wait to use this for all the public speaking and confrontation I won't be doing!
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Just put full length mirrors in every room of your house.
Love this!
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So true
Public speaking technique: _shrink_ your audience scale. Pick 3 people in different parts of the audience. Talk just towards them. Not necessarily directly at them, but look in their general area, gliding back and forth between them. It's much easier to talk to 3 people than, 10, 100, 1000 or greater. It will bring down your anxiety and raise your confidence.
I get nervous just to talk to three people 😭
@@psychobillynumbnuts1 Don't talk directly to the three people you pick. Pick the space _between them_ and the person beside them to "talk to". To the audience, it appears that you're talking to someone, but you're just talking to empty space. That way, you aren't looking directly into anyone's eyes and won't get self-conscious or nervous. Later, as you get more confident in your speaking abilities, you can start looking at people if you feel comfortable.
Well put.
Good pointers👍🏼
Thank you for the same
Thank you!!!
Raise your confidence with tricks.. I don't think that's how you develop yourself.
Confidence comes when you have a deep knowing that you are of value and worthy to be on this earth and worthy of respect and being listened to.
💯 bro
or when you see you are nothing like everyone other
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how should you respond if someone doesnt treat you with the value and respect you think you deserve? Genuine question
@@lamelo3998 you gotta be distance and make less eye contact to make the person feel that he's not interested in me,period
I became more confident when I accepted the idea that I have no control over other peoples thinking and realizing that it is not worth my time and energy to worry about. The things that people say, whether it is about you or anything else, says more about themselves. When someone speaks they showcase and represent themselves for everyone to hear and see. How you respond or choose to say will also say a lot about you, more than the person you are saying it to or about.
Well said.
True. People spend too much time on people convincing someone of something when they don't care about you. Its a waste of energy. You soon realize those type of people and its best to move on.
I am a positive person in life, but I don’t have the confidence to face some things and I dont ☹️have complete confidence
I am a teacher and as much as I love my job working with inner-city highschool children I have come to a similar conclusion.
Exactly. It is not my business what others think of me.
Finally a video that does not just focus on posture, intonation, gestures, etc but emphasises the importance of KNOWING the subject you're talking about.
Arguably the most important factor in attaining self confidence
Being rich, tall and good looking helps too
@@jarenong no, more like 50-50, True self confidence comes your perception of yourself. If you base it on something that is not eternal and innate, or something temporary like money, looks, aesthetics. People who know their abilities generate wealth are confident not those who somehow got rich, it's a delusion or cockiness not self confidence, you really need to have ablities and skills to back your self confidence not looks.
A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.
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"I'm here to convey , I'm not here to convince". That's the spirit , man..
I need this miracle in my life.
Only a white man can have that attitude.
Preparing for an interview tomorrow. I keep repeating myself every time I practice 😬
@@Ouchiness what do white men have to do with anything in the comment??
@@nigmonster the guy talking is a white man. Marginalized ppl aren’t always in a position where they have everything they need and can walk away when people disagree with them like if a disabled person is not getting accommodations at university or POC are in a position of being affected by systematic racism. They need to convey but also convince. Being able to agree to disagree is a luxury sometimes.
@@Ouchiness aren't those niche scenarios? Most people don't have problems like that. Also why are u so angry?
Confidence isn’t “I know they’ll like me”, it’s “I’m okay if they don’t”.
It's also,
"...........There were other people here????"
@@inorite4553 that’s ignorance
I'll move "okay" over to IDGAF
Also if you expect confidence your weak
Pingu Nootson@ Thats not good wtf lol, by saying that you can excuse a lot of your own behavior, that is not "good confidence".
This is something a spiteful person would say when they sit and dwell on negative experiences.
Check yourself.
Thank you for this great video. My key takeaways are:
1. Show that you are in command and in control. For example, make eye contacts with others. Talk to convey your message instead of convincing others by saying the same thing in different ways or over-explaining yourself. Take your time to say it and answer the questions. Do not show any quick motion like you are in a hurry. Sit comfortably and own the space
2. Ask yourself how you want to be perceived and what should you do to make it happen. Imitate someone who you think is confident
2. You can build and nurture your confidence. Practice. Practice. Practice
I like #1. Show that you are in command and in control. Convey don’t convince and over explain. Do not show any quick motion like you are in a hurry. Sit comfortably and own your space.
need me this after our years of quarantine so i can have a humanlike posture as opposed to the semi-pterodactyl stance i've developed as a result of solitude
Yuck. 🦖
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Same 😢
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@@vincehenriquez680 Try learning what a joke is
Not being intimidated by others can make you confident. No matter what your status in life is, we're all just humans.
Also knowing that other people's judgement and harsh comments are a result of their own fear (for survival on the most general sense) and not an objective reflection of you
@Mtra.der Word
precisely! I couldn't agree more!!
Truth. Martial arts and boxing can help with this. If you can square off to someone and hold your own, the average person out there doesn't seem very scary.
@@yummypasta92 spot on .
“a confident person takes their time to leave or enter a room”
Me: arrives at school 50 minutes late to show my confidence
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Lmao 💀
Now you may get kicked out school with confidence.
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Ayy possibly true, as you enter, you will get the entire class attention.
1:00 traits of confident people
3:10 modeling confidence
4:48 behaviors
5:39 intonation
7:33 cadence
9:26 nonverbals
11:32 public speaking
13:10 conclusion
Thank you for the timestamp.
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I think "fake it till you make it" is really important when it comes to confidence. You need to practice it in order for it to start coming naturally. Appearing confident, even when you don't feel confident, I believe, can prevent confrontation or becoming a victim (in some circumstances).
As a performer, I can vouch for this! First you have to learn how to LOOK confident onstage, and then with time and experience, you gradually develop true confidence.
mf using that to post only fans content
There’s a good book describing this called, “The Confident Gap,” you can’t be confident in something you’re not regularly doing it. Just like you can’t be confident in a certain subject since you don’t regularly practice it. Whereas an expert will be supremely confident since that’s his life.
I'd say yes it's a mix of all of those, meaning it would depends on how well you eventually carry yourself. I can improve, and have confidence in myself in many areas, but I will no doubtly have social anxiety all my life. There are some things that you really can't hide though, that points a giant arrow at others that you are different or not "normal"...so some people will be be more targeted no matter what they do...but I still think it's a good idea to learn these things and one can always improve for sure!
As a member of a minority group, I can confirm this!
My social anxiety levels already went through the roof.
**Goes to bed with confidence**
*Sleeps with confidence"
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@@ausafkhan7757 emojigayyy
@@Frosxz *Dreams with confidence*
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my notes:
1. use cadence
2. confidence is about being comfortable but controlled
3. broad graceful smooth movements (less abrupt reactive movements)
4. convey NOT convince (say it once)
5. spaces force people to anticipate what you’re saying next
6. typical “soldier posture” doesn’t equal confidence (comfort)
7. decisiveness is imperative
8. “the person in charge controls time” no need to speed up for anyone or anything
9. self grooming (self soothing) behaviors look less confident (bc why are you soothing urself rn if you’re confident)
10. if you’re scared, own it (say it) instead of trying to not be “found out” (literally worsens social anxiety)
11. rehearse performance so it’s not sudden/new/scary when you first do it (more control)
12. gain full confidence (breathe, etc) before facing the crowd
13. PEOPLE ARENT BORN CONFIDENT
14. KNOW your info/skills have something to be proud of and have the info to anchor and ground yourself in (so you won’t be unsure or face imposter syndrome)
15. look around and make eye contact (keep eyes at about eye level)
Ty ❤️
I have to use myself 😍
Hey! I didnt understand the 9 note, he says about it in the video? (I finished rn the video, but maybe I didn't saw it)
Many thanks for the numbered list! I love when others do this and try to do so myself if someone else hasn't already. A true hero.
I definitely have #8 down 😂
There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. People are comfortable around confident people but they inwardly despise arrogance. Be confident!
You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body…
every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟
Arrogance is simply insecurity in disguise
Knowing that 2.7 million people just learned how to say “no” correctly is amazing
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That works only for police officers though
I have just realized that the only reason I know how to say “no” properly is because I have a dog 🤭
No🖖
3.2 million now
Teacher: You should be confident
Student: *Confidently answers the wrong answer*
Teacher: **Humiliates the student**
Student: - 9000Confidence
"There are no dumb questions"
The next kid immediately asks dumb question n gets unnecessary feedback
Then you weren't confident enough (or at least more than the teacher). I've answered questions so confidently before that I made them doubt their actual correct answer. Being right is half the battle. Convincing others is the other.
“Confidentially” or “confidently?”
Well dude dont blame the teacher, I dee hentai in your profile picture so I assume you watch pornography frequently and just know it kills your confidence and self esteem
Confidently answer back "Thank you professor, you just taught me a lot about the kind of teacher you are: the one who kicks down those students who need your help the most."
As a woman, choosing makeup, hair and outfits appropriately hugely impacts my confidence. When I’m at my lowest, I can’t even make an eye contact, but at my best, my spine straightens up itself.
well I can relate.
True
too bad it's a facade we can see through ^_^
Do you want a medal?
I think that's superficial confident
Teaching your kids how to properly say “No” isn’t talked about enough. Thanks for mentioning it.
"I am here to convey. Not to convince" felt so powerful.
Like when we ask for a leave of absence.
I do this now and my stress in speaking is much lowered .. and people react better towards me .. 😀😀
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I know exactly what you meant brother 😉 ✌ Happy New Year 1444
Alaho akbaar ! Boom !
Children are born confident, they lose it due to whatever their environment nurtures. I agree with everything else... Nice talk!
children are also born self-centered and narcissistic, coincidence? i think not
That's not called confidence 🤦♂️ children are born ignorant and naive.
Learn what is confidence first before making wild assumptions...
I disagree. Children are not born confident and today's children are not raised to be confident. The "Me" generation. The participation trophy generation. They have no coping skills, and melt down at the slightest disappointment.
Hmmmm... nice inputs, I see everyone's viewpoints clearly. Thank you all for sharing💗😇🙏🏾
@@tuomasseppanen1651 I see, I understand your point. Thanks for sharing🙏🏾
Being humble but with confidence is what we should have. Not being narcissistic like the society nowadays.
👍👍👍👍👍👍. So true
Absolutely
Can you elaborate? What do you mean by being narcissistic like in society nowadays?
@@QuestionsIAskMyself What is to be elaborated here? We live in a society in which we love ourselves too much and do not think of others.
@@QuestionsIAskMyself kanye west
- Feeling comfortable and looking around the room indicates confidence.
- Confidence is demonstrated through posture, gestures, and eye contact.
- Confidence can be quiet and commanding, like Jane Goodall or Colin Powell.
- Confidence is also about controlling time and speaking at your own pace.
- Modeling high-status individuals and their behaviors can help build confidence.
- The way we speak, including cadence and pauses, affects how confident we appear.
- Confidence is not just about posture but also about conveying information
Confidence in the way one walks is actually very admirable and attractive. One of my classmates always carries herself with certainty and elegance, so natural and smooth, no awkwardness or hesitation in her gestures. It speaks a lot about her well balanced personality and ability to socialise in different environments. Quite impressive in my opinion:)
It's so beautiful how you described her. Your observational skills are astute and keen. It was so vivid in my mind what you described. You're a great story teller :)
I agree ^
How nice of you to put it this way. Some might take that confidence repulsive and others would desire that caliber ruined. Impressed by the way you see the world around you.
So eloquently outlined.
You should tell her that, she'd probably love it
One key to developing confidence, is getting to a point in your life that you don’t care what others think of you. Not in arrogance, but you realize that no man is to be the judge and jury of how you feel about yourself.
How do we feel that way I’m constantly worrying about it it is ruining my life
Confidence and con man "misleader" in Babylon, DC., there must be a connection between these two words. Brandon pretends to be "confident" when any high school student with open eyes can see that Brandon is a seeming "con man" grifter in cheap aviator sunglasses. As Shakespeare said, ".. a man (Brandon???) can smile and smile and still be a villain."
You're not wrong but that's called aging. Practicing gets you there faster and saves you years or decades of being people's doormat
I love coming across confident people, dismantling their internal mental pillars of power, destroying their physical resources of power and then systematically crushing their psychological construct, so that they are left with the same mental outcomes of Justin Longs character out of the body horror movie Tusk.
I then go to church on Sunday and help out on the charity stall.
@@RPAS1234 ...ah! Sadistic! Narcissistic!💣💥💣💥💣💥💣💥💥💥💥💥💥Boom! There it is!!!!!!
This man talks so much sense has helped me a lot with my own feelings of inferiority.
true
False
@@MrMate8869 for me it's true xd
Don’t say that you shouldn’t feel inferior it’s weird because I think I’m better than everyone maybe just try to think you are better than everyone
A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.
I was born confident and as a little girl I was constantly scolded for being too bold or outspoken. Now I own it again and found joy in life like when I was true to myself.
🙏🏻🧸
You’re confusing confidence of entitlement.
nope you're just plain rude and lack awareness.
I was harshly disciplined for being a powerful and confident child. It’s taken me 50 years and the death of my disciplinary mother passing before I felt free to be me again.
@@luweezla it's taken me many years to out learn the limits others tried to impose on me, which I finally understood was merely their beliefs, fears and insecurities. It never had anything to do with me but abuse and social conditioning tries to tell you it does. I'm fully there, the pandemic helped me free myself and the free fun inner child that just went silence but was always waiting for me. I'm so pleased others like you are freeing yourselves, we're becoming a wild bunch ❤️. Stay blessed.
The key to confidence is having everything you need. You don’t have to pander to anyone or be concerned with anyone’s opinion. Successful people move differently. Watch closely.
I'd add that prior to the "having", comes the "getting". When you set goals and achieve them, it builds confidence. It's not so much the having as the knowing that you can achieve. The having is just evidence of the belief.
Yep agree with the original comment - born with 'good looks' almost immediately gives you confidence and an added ability to get success!
@@adiem1653 Yes and there is a lot that every person can do to make themselves look attractive, e.g. good posture, clean and neat appearance, well-fitting clothing, a confident walk, etc. All those things add to our confidence, even if we are not the most beautiful person naturally.
Honestly I feel like confidence comes naturally when you care about something so much that you are no longer sensitive to how people see you and how you appear in front of others. Like Jane Goodall or Colin Powell - I'm a person that has a mission that's important to me, plus huge experience and knowledge that built me, and I'm proud, and what the world thinks is not my concern.
wow based
@@Bassistsoon indeed acided
Well said
Amen!
Yes, this makes sense. Rather insecurity (the opposite of confidence) is being unsure and uncomfortable with where you are and feeling like you don't belong there. When you want to be there and feel like you belong there you are more confident.
1:33-Less Confident we are less Eye contact we make and we are reluctant to look around
3:33-
4:18-4:47
4:55-
5:38-
7:33-Cadence
10:56-Smooth Movements convey more confident
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12:12-
Thx for this
To anybody reading this,
I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better.
May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind may clarity replace confusion.
And may peace and calmness fill your life. ❤🌟
I think that it all boils down to this one thing he said at the end: Know your material. REALLY know it. When you're very good at something-anything- and you know it, you're confident in showing someone, talking about it or presenting it to a room of people. Know your stuff.
ye just don't confuse confidence with arrogance when you are more knowledgeable than others
an arrogant man thinks he’s better than others
a confident man doesn’t compare himself to anyone
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This man is arrogant lol he keeps comparing himself to the people around him, checking his gestures and trying to teach himself to do better. Really don’t like him.
An insecure person thinks they're better than everyone
Yes! And the same happens with women ❤️
I'm a confident man
Cate Blanchett is indeed a very good example. She has this quiet confidence, she's articulated but not loud, so when she speaks everyone listens.
She's the queen
And being gorgeous helps her a lot too
And yet she’s Australian, the most avid users of uptalk 😂
NO,NO,NO, END NO!
The king is gone, but he’s not forgotten. This is the story of Johnny Rotten.
my mother thought me a lot about body language, she just figured it out being a Volleyball Trainer. about public speaking, she said: stand there a sec, then start with a quiet tone, people instinctively try to hear and will pay more attention, then a joke.
i used to be confident, then had panic attacks and anxiety attacks.. while my job was to meet new people and be confident, funny and all. i would go to the toilet before, and stand in a cubicle with legs apart, hands of hips, chest up, slow stomach breathing. so confident body language practice to get your body to feel powerful. it helped soooo much!
That reminds of grey's anatomy, that's what Amelia Shepard would do before a surgery
Thought or taught?
To anybody reading this,
I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better.
May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind may clarity replace confusion.
And may peace and calmness fill your life. ❤🌟
I remember my communications class back when I was in college, and I was horrible at public speaking. It wasn't until I learned the art of the pause and mastering my cadence that I truly began to gain the confidence to speak with a purpose and it changed my life.
Tell me more!! 👀
can you tell me more about your major and why you have to do public speaking?
I know that this is a serious comment written by an actual person but the appeal looks funnily similar to the bot comments related to criptoe (knowingly writing wrong spelling so it doesn’t alert the bots) under some related videos. TH-cam really need to do something for these bots
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confidence can look a billion different ways. really comes down to being comfortable with yourself and having confidence in your whole self mentally and physically, not just mimicking the actions of someone with confidence.
100%
The most awkward behaving people sometimes can be commanding and interesting. While what the video says does apply to a broad category of confident people, those aren't the only characteristics of confidence.
fake it til you make it
A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.
@@soumayabnz3249 Never ever do that , when you fake it , you're not being yourself or true to yourself, the issue need to be fixed deep within the roots
Eg:- changes in perspective.
Confidence is really relaxation, and being relaxed in a given situation. Keep in mind how some people who appear confident, can be hucksters and liars and also think they're better than everyone else. Don't automatically believe, confident people always tell the truth. If you want to see the master of body language and personal confidence, watch the old reruns of Perry Mason
This right here I agree with.
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Thank you for writing this. I struggle to understand the point of confidence if it is to be used to hoodwink others to cover one's own inanity or incompetence. But confidence should be for one's own sake and not for others as you mentioned.
Seems we've learned that truth especially in the past 5 years. It's exhausting.
A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.
Confidence is being beautiful on the inside and being a truly kind person. Your body language and waving to the people is just a Display!! Boom 💥
To me confidence means being happy with who you are. Having that inner peace with the person you are.
I agree. People who are comfortable with themselves make others feel comfortable. I don’t believe in this learned confidence it’s just fake. Saying an actor displays confidence could just mean they are good at acting out confidence.
Confidence is not thinking about yourself too much, other than occasionally considering the person you're becoming. Thinking about how happy you are with yourself is a stunting proposition.
@@swampgumpharpy7977 Well now you're just turning happiness into an equation.
May all you wishes come true. God bless 💫🙏🙏
That's self-esteem, much more important and powerful than "looking" and "acting" confident
Confidence is not a show, because it does not depend on other people’s opinions. So many people fake confidence, but it’s soon exposed as a flimsy facade. True confidence is earned in battles of discomfort, which results in the ability to deal with any situation that’s within your capabilities.
"Fake it til you make it"
Beautifully said.
Timeline📝
0:58 Traits of Confidence
3:11 Model
4:48 Behaviors
5:38 Intonation
7:34 Cadence
9:27 Nonverbals
11:34 Public Speaking
13:11 Conclusion
Thanks!!
Thank u 😊
Thank you!
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thank you
I think it starts with .. being comfortable in your own skin with yourself. I try to treat everyone like they are a family member. Being honest to the point first .. eye contact with a smile. Speaking clearly and with the right tone for the right situations. It's so many things it would take all day explaining it. Everyone recognizes who is and who isn't. Try mirror the ones you have came across. Like he has said video yourself and try it in the mirror. He is right..
The presenter here delivers his knowledge succinctly. He IS the example of what he is teaching. Thank you for a concise, no extraneous lesson. It is has been immensely helpful.
May all you wishes come true. God bless 💫🙏🙏
Exactly
When you know who you are, confidence becomes natural.
For someone usually timid, anxious and can’t keep eye contact when speaking to someone, this video has taught me that confidence is more about knowledge with whatever you speak about, that it is not so much about forced external confidence (posture, facial expression, tone). You don’t even have to try too hard.
I truly wish this video was created and came across it during my formative years. I lacked confidence when I was in elementary and high school, and unfortunately, in college too. I would have been a confident student then and would have performed better.
Would it help you to imagine the quantum world and that what you see as a person is nothing more than a neatly distributed association of molecules that at the very minute scale actually has a lot of empty spaces in there? Definitely better than that old idea of imagine the room empty.
@@ishtarcephei5054 that's the autismo extremeo solution
"confidence is more about knowledge with whatever you speak about, that it is not so much about forced external confidence (posture, facial expression, tone). You don’t even have to try too hard.". You've got the essential idea!
You can have knowledge even be scholarly and it doesn’t confer confidence although it should. Lots of other issues around conveying confidence.
If you are in San Francisco I recommend Omar Kudsi at CCSF and Sfsu!
Thank you for breaking this down.
Many other TH-camrs explains what to do but so few of them can actually explain and demonstrate what is confidence.
To anybody reading this,
I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better.
May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind may clarity replace confusion.
And may peace and calmness fill your life. ❤🌟
Amen!!
The cadence part got to me. I talk so fast I trip myself repeatedly.
me too 😓😢
Well....
You didn't know.
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Now you do.
Me tooo.
Same here. For me, my mind is already far in the next bits of the statement (esp if it's an interesting story im saying) and my mouth is trying to keep up, so my words trip. True story.
Yup, my brain goes so fast my mouth can never keep up 🤣🤣🤣
I feel most confident In public when I feel I look my best. Sometimes we cannot control the way we look so do YOUR best and feel comfortable in YOUR skin. Also when you have a good team of people around you (i.e friends) it’s a lot easier to feel mor comfortable, more CONFIDENT.
SAME. which is why I continue to put on my lipstick when I go out even though I wear a mask all the time lolol
People should be smart enough to understand and listen to you you can't be confident amongst idiots you can only be irritated
@@PiyaChoudhari But he said, "explain ones, and then whatever..."
A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.
I feel like I just paid for a master class, wow
You should read his books, or listen to them, they go into so much more depth. You'd love them, he teaches you A LOT.
@@kakarotwolf thank you so much
but 'chu didn't!
Weird...I saw the video for free.
Yeah a whole course in 14 mins
A former FBI Agent T-posing for 14 minutes and 16 seconds isn't something I expected to see today. Truly inspirational.
What?
Read his books, they’re excellent.
@@therealhellkitty5388 what's name? Thanks
@@monroehehe what every body is saying
The dictionary of body language
A good way to be confident is to simply know wth you are talking about. If you are insecure in the subject matter, then it will convey to your speech and demeanour.
Not necessarily true, i sale enough bullcrap to know if you confidence enough you can talk about anything.
I'm pretty sure the best bullshitters are the most confident people you'll ever meet.
@@MsSphinx91 because they are experts in speech, not the subject they are talking about. That gives them the confidence.
Confidence should not be equated to arrogance.
Shyness should not be equated to humility. 🙂
There’s something almost soothing about Mr. Navarro’s easy way of sharing his knowledge with us. I felt empowered in that little time. He should teach a Master Class.
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they got us with the taylor thumbnail ✊🏼
They sure did
True lol
Yepp
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Lol yes
The thing is.. why it's hard for some people is because you are telling them how to copy people who are confident. Whereas, ask the confident people, they aren't copying nobody. Being confident is not about doing this or that. It's about the process a person has to go through in order to become totally comfortable with himself and the surroundings.
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He's showing us, not instructing us to copy.
I remember in audio meetings at some point I was dozzing off and people were asking me a question so I made an excuse about the mic being off or whatnot and I felt not very sharp.
Later I saw the same thing happen to someone else and he was just like "sorry I wasn't listening could you repeat the question?". He didn't feel like he needed an excuse for not being able to answer straight away. And people just did as he said, and that was it. And I thought "yeah that's how you should handle those situations" so now I do the same.
But not everything is copied/learned. I remember asking myself "why was I sitting like that (one arm behind the back of the chair)? I usually don't do that. It felt good. Yeah I was confident and relaxed. So I guess that pose indicates confidence."
i always let people know that giving a speech or presentation is nothing more than informatiion sharing or teaching others what u know. it makes me feel useful n gets me into that "cant wait to educate others" mood so nothing to fear
I think the best place to start is the posture, it’s simple and you don’t even have to speak if talking is hard. I had been thinking about my posture more over the last 2-3 months and it’s really started to show. I went to a wedding and a friend I had known over half my life but hadn’t seen in maybe 4 months asked if I got taller or if I changed something about my appearance (other than the suit of course). I’ve always walked with a quick pace, but I’ve noticed more eyes have been following me as I walk around the office too since I straightened up. I don’t puff out my chest, roll my shoulders back, etc., I just stand upright and it feels better on my back
This is happening to me too. I mean, not exactly like you but I’ve become very aware of my posture and I’m determined to improve it because I find it has all to do with my insecurities and lack of confidence.
true. Yoga helped me with that, I recommend it!
Wow man I will try that
Indeed. Yoga has helped me to keep my back straighter, also has improved my mindset to care less about others think about me
The Upright posture trainer is worth the cost - it has quickly helped my posture, awareness and even mindfulness bc it ‘jolts’ me into the present moment…😂 ✨👌🏻
This guy is pretty good, seems very confident about this subject
He’s an ex FBI agent.
People tell me I seem confident all the time, I got no clue why, maybe I just accidentally stumbled upon the right movements subconsciously, and I am pretty respectful of people so that helps I think
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No, it means you’re actually CONFIDENT.
Its not some magical skill like its made to seem in these types of videos.
That's amazing. I don't think I've ever been told that in my entire life. I literally can't think of a single instance. I can think of many many times when I was told that I need more confidence though :/ I try so hard to develop confidence but it's so difficult when you have social anxiety.
Confidence is projected when you have genuine self-esteem.
I have ADHD so usually it's hard for me to focus on talks, speeches and so on. But when someone is really good at speaking and confident about what they're saying, I tend to pay more and even full attention. I paid full attention to this video and even remember what I learned after watching only once. This is my 2nd time here! Just to make sure I don't forget :)
Why you ADHD???? 🤣🤣🤣
Sameee
@@jamiainaga5853 it's not funny :\
how do you know you have ADHD ?
@@michalblasko8740 Visit your local psychologist
0:58 One: Traits of confident people
- Posture, the way we present, how we look, where our chin is, where the eyes are looking and gazing
- Our gestures are loose but smoother
3:12 Two: Modeling confidence
People that look around are more confident. More experienced, knowledgeable
Have command of themselves
If you're in charge, you're in charge of time
I struggle with crowds as most do. I found that personal confidence happens when you know the subject like the back of your hand prior to stepping out.
When someone that repeats themselves and/or uses a number of filler words (um, uh, etc) I question myself on whether or not that individual knows what they are talking about.
Enjoyed the video 😊
So because someone says “uh”, they are inferior? What a crappy mindset and judgment that we have these days. “Be prideful and full of yourself” is what I see and it creates more selfishness than anything.
@@SolidPain6624 i see both sides to this, but theres no denying that a lot of ums and ahs in a speech does not portray confidence or passion
Facts. It’s also a mindset thing. If u respect yourself to the fullest that energy shines outward on other people, u get a different hand dealt with in life👊🏻
I had an epiphany after having to do some presentations and being very nervous about it. When I mentioned it to my supervisor afterwards, she was surprised, she and others told me they couldn't tell that I was nervous. Body language is everything. Learn to move in a confident manner and you will come across as confident. Then others will respond positively to you and it will make you actually more confident. There's a positive feedback loop here.
You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body…
every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟
As a very shy, introverted, jittery person who recently became a professor, I'm gonna do everything I can to be more confident. Wish me luck you guys 🥴
Edit: thank you everyone 😘 I'm much better than before. I used to sweat so much because I was very nervous. Now, I barely sweat. Here are some things that really helped me and hopefully might help you too: 1. Be very thoroughly prepared 2. Do not dissociate. Focus on the present and what's happening 3. Breathe 4. If you're still nervous in front a class, ask them a question and that will give you a few seconds to recon 5. Be punctual and the students will respect you more and in turn, that will make you more confident.
You got this!! Keep us updated
You got this !
Good luck ! :)
Good luck to you! :)
best of luck!
i have been asked all my life how am i so confident. i told them in the past and i tell them still... "i am not confident... i just don't doubt myself". there IS a difference. if i fail i learn. it is that simple. i am not always right... i am not always wrong but i am always advancing. 'confidence' is for those that wish to lie to themselves. you came into this life alone and you will leave this life alone so why worry about how others perceive you? it all lies in how you perceive yourself. start by not lying to yourself and know that even if you fail you succeed. "experience is what you get when you don't get what you want" cheers and may God bless
Convey don't convince is the best advice ever. Truly powerful stuff. I like how you admitted that you still get nervous, it's only human and only when we are scared can we be brave. :D
Confidence and con man "misleader" in Babylon, DC., there must be a connection between these two words. Brandon pretends to be "confident" when any high school student with open eyes can see that Brandon is a seeming "con man" grifter in cheap aviator sunglasses. As Shakespeare said, ".. a man (Brandon???) can smile and smile and still be a villain."
To anybody reading this,
I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better.
May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind may clarity replace confusion.
And may peace and calmness fill your life. ❤🌟
@@Breathingmind1thank you 🥹❤️
This was greatly needed. Feels like since COVID first struck I’ve forgotten how to interact with people in public
A woman complimented me saying she loves the I walk into a room, and that she loves the confidence I radiate. Probably one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten.
confident = comfortable and happy to be in the situation with honesty and humble😁
Confidence can be faked and is faked honestly.
@@erenb.2806 What do you mean by that? Confidence is a real feeling. I wake up and suddenly I feel like the queen of the world.
@@loonyspangles8173 that's not a reality for most people around you, also you might be hiding smth under the facade of confidence.
Love this
@@erenb.2806 Tell me something I don't know - TH-cam is most filled with 'I have social anxiety' comments. Also, _"you might be hiding something under the facade of confidence"?_ I'm just telling the truth, dude... I don't see why you'd say this... You trying to bring me down?
Real confidence is all about not letting others words ruin our inner peace....
There are 2 things , one being genuinely confident inside , and second how one shows to outside world their confidence thru body language . Personal opinion fake confidence or presenting to show something you are not will eventually reveal itself . Try first be confident on the inside then show it off . TIP - improve your knowledge or skill needed to show the confidence .
What do you mean “fake confidence “ 😂😂😂. Courage - like my “Thalaivar said “ is how well one learns to hide fear. So it’s all an act to start with my friend 😊
I will watch this video every morning to put it deeply in my head. This is some life changing information.
The statement “People are not born confident…” alone just gave me so much confidence.
@Random Hajile
Whatever you may think this is a really helpful video for those that need a boost in self confidence.
Very encouraging 🎉👍
watching videoagain does not make good. to make something special you have to believe special. confidence mean body language but some people though getting nude is confidence.
I don’t think it’s all about confidence. It’s partially how they convince themselves they are accepted and loved by others. Or they are convinced to be careless about other people think.
yeah of course, it's about charisma too. if someone creepy is confident that's just scary, but if someone has charisma (usually good looks, perhaps nice voice, high status, etc.) they'll be perceived way better
A friend told me to imagine the audience as just a bunch of carrots and cabbages when doing public speaking, helps with anxiety
You just explained confidence.
Brilliantly said
You don't need to convince yourself when you know you are indeed accepted by others.
You also don't need to not care about what others think. You can care but be unaffected.
I tell my kids, you can’t force it. It will come. Confidence comes with experiences and I also believe it is innate.
I live by this: if you have it, flaunt it. If you don’t have it, fake it. Either way, OWN IT.
You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body…
every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟
I am not here to convince I am here to convey! That line got me and really resonated with me. Thank you this is an excellent video.
Bottom line is, if you are not confident, you can't show people that you are.
But if you are confident enough to act as one, people will buy your fake confidence.
Theres a reason why the phrase "fake it till you make it" exists
No, I won't. In a matter of fact I would respect more sincere authentic person who is nervous than someone who is faking something. Anything.
@@nadia4985 but don’t you have to have confidence to act confident? Like you might not be confident at one thing like lets say public speaking, but you compensate that by ‘acting’ confident. You still need to be confident enough so you can act it.
@@oRizho Who do you view as confident? Copy them and that same energy will transfer to you temporarily and eventually permanently.
If you’re not confident, your confidence will likely show off as arrogance to disguise it.
But if you are confident, your confidence will speak for itself and people will feel it.
This was such an eye opener.The hand gestures indicating where the man went...it's amazing how subtle changes in body language can convey you in a completely different light!
You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body…
every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟
Introduction 00:25
1. Traits of confident people 1:00
2. Modelling Confidence 3:11
3. Behaviours 4:49
4. Intonation 5:39
5. Cadence 7:34
6. Non Verbals 9:25
7. Public Speaking 11:33
@Last. Conclusion 13:11
Thank you!
What an incredible teacher! I’ve learned more in this video then I’ve learned in all the time I’ve surfed the internet. Amazing!
Confidence is given to you by your parents through lots of love, good nurturing and positive feedback. Without good parenting you will be fighting to gain confidence for the rest of your life. FACTS!!
Wow!! So true!
To avoid uptalk as an Aussie is extremely hard as that is just our accent. Yet there is no lack of “confident” Australians. That’s the only thing I can pick wrong with this video.
Another thing I would say is that uptalk is typically used by women, which just didn't really sit right with me that it's bad or unprofessional to use- simply because it's a female associated trait (whether or not people realise but this is definitely why)
Aussie F1 driver Daniel Ricciardo uptalks a lot, yet he drinks out of a shoe in public every time he gets a podium. If that's not confidence, I don't know what is.
@@me-zb7qm Ohhh
This is cool. I JUST thought about Dany Ric and then saw your reply.
@@niamhbrown7050 I’ve always viewed it more as a sassy trait rather than feminine. Kind of like how tattoos can be seen as a sign of “machismo” rather than masculine.
@@niamhbrown7050 Came to the comments to say this. I feel like I read about that dynamic years ago, was a little disappointed to see it repeated here.
«Uptalk» sounds like how we Norwegians talk naturally and politely. We have a different and more varied melody to our language that I know can throw English speakers off. So a confident manner of speaking also depends on your language and your audience’s background.
Many countries are like that. I think he must be just talking about America
I've heard it and I think that's just a natural part of the Norwegian language. I once watched a Norwegian TV show and was really surprised when I noticed this feature of the language as I'd never seen anything like that before in other languages. Each will have their own very interesting and unique quirks. The uptalk isn't intrinsic to the English language, but rather an individual feature of some people's speech which is why he can talk about it like that when referring to English speakers.
Yea makes me really angry when ppl start saying stupid things about uptalk, i love uptalk.
@@Ouchiness why? Uptalk frames everything the speaker says as a question and signals that they are unsure of either themselves or the subject matter, I’m not trying to be rude I’m genuinely curious bc i have a tendency to uptalk, and find it to be a rather disagreeable tendency
Australians are the first people that came to mind when he said that lol
This is honestly the most important video I've watched in the last 5 years
I find the great thing about body language and how it makes life easier is that if you project or use your body language in a way that LOOKS confident, you also FEEL confident. Body language is therefore one of the most effective ways to overcome social anxiety, especially on the spot.
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The best thing you can do, is to know who you are as a person. Before, I had also anxiety walking into a room or a bar, but now I know myself and I don't try to be anybody else, it gives me the "I don't care what people may think about me" confidence, non of the situations I may find my self, or some opinions can change me who I am and this way I'm very relaxed
I'm a way, I feel If acted the way in th video I would actually seem less confident. It doesn't feel authentic. I just want to be myself and be accepted for that even if it isn't seen as confident or cool.
TH-cam really said “here u need this sis”
Had an oral exam today and even though it went well I almost started crying before going in bc of how nervous I was
I was a master of it in school. Whenever my teacher asks the class a question...I used to give the most confident gaze and the question never came towards me😂
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I wish my parents taught me about confidence. I wish self love was taught in schools. 💛
It is… Sunday school 🙂
@@pleiadesluciernaga8877 No.
True, however it is never too late to teach ourselves. His examples about emulating other successful people we admire is very helpful.
Life goes on. Don’t stay there
It's part of life. And it's a life-long thing. I do recall learning bits and pieces of those in school. Confidence is something internal, too. Some of it can be taught, but some of it cannot. I hope you keep growing in confidence. You deserve to be confident.
As a body language expert myself, I say categorically, This is the GRAND MASTER!
As a pizza maker, I agree.
As a pizza eater, I agree.
As a pizza digester, I agree.
As pizza, SOMEBODY HELP ME!
As a pizza topping, I fear for my life.
I always look into the eyes of the person I’m talking to and smile. It’s so interesting to see how people react.
Alternatively, when people do the same thing to me it’s a little uncomfortable.
We’re all susceptible to manipulation whichever form it takes.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
Saying something once and doesn't need to convince people, so strong! Thank you this is so helpful!
Preparation and knowing your topic back and forth certainly helps me with my confidence when im conducting seminars and trainings. Knowing that I can answer every question (expected and unexpected ones) really makes me comfortable. Preparation and planning is the key. You don't wing a great public speaking act. Unless your super talented.
You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body…
every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟
I love the study of Body Language. It helps when a person is saying one thing but their body is conveying another. Thank you so much for these videos!
Me too - body language ROCKS!
Body language is what makes communication ability so stellar - it's what's missing in phone calls, to another degree in anything written. Sometimes I think that we must communicate in pheromones too...something yet unmeasured.
@@mistyculous9644 Try finding a body analysis video of a politician. The expert will dissect what is true and what is a lie and say why they think that ...FASCINATING!
Also check out Paul Ekman. He is an expert in micro-expressions and was the go-to guy for the show "LIE TO ME", one of my favorites, which can also be found on TH-cam.
He can be found in bookstores, too!!! 🤣
Honestly, I believe that to be confident means that I should be smart mentally, emotionally, and also academically. I mean when a confident person speaks, the first thing that pops up in my mind is "wow, this person is definitely clever". Basically, what l'm saying is that confidence is accompanied by many other things so one has to have certain behavior to show for it.