Why Rebound Relationships Will Always Fail | Do They Really Love The Rebound
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 ต.ค. 2024
- In today's video, Nick will discuss why rebound relationships will always fail and if your ex really love the rebound.
The thought of an ex being in rebound relationships is torture for the dumpee, but the rebound relationship will almost certainly always fail.
Take a walk with Nick in this video and find out what rebound relationships will always fail
If you would like personalised advice and coaching regarding your breakup situation, email me at TheLoveFix20@gmail.com to arrange an appointment.
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The sad fact is that there are people who would rather be in a rebound relationship and are sooo determined to make it work instead of taking time out to be alone and work on themselves.
Indeed, but that’s beyond your control. Focus on what you can control. You!
The fact that my ex has 4 mental illnesses makes the situation even worse.
Dude, 4 mental illnesses should make easier for you to move on, no? Your ex clearly not in the right place to do a relationship.
@@TheLoveFix-Nickcrazy pussy is the best pussy or so I heard
My ex said that she's in love with someone else, although it's been 4 months and we've been together for 10 years. She offered friendship and to stay in each other's life, which I rejected. But should I stay in contact, if her relationship does not work out?
I just got out of something I know it’s not smart to find a rebound cause I’m not fully healed, there’s no rush to find someone new right away, take your time to process, heal and grieve it’ll be worth it.
Hey Nick. Love your honest no BS views. My ex left with weak excuse after 12 years. Although she did not monkey branch she had a guy lined up. Instead of working through her fears or grief she executed her plan of the blueprint. The old Dutch saying is that you dont throw away your old shoes before you have new shoes. She cannot be alone and needs validation. She entered a relationship with a recently divorced person. One thing the dumper never allows is that the follow up relationship must not fail close to the previous relationship. So they will lovebomb and make sure above all else that the rebound do not fail. They will make sure the new supply stick. If it does not they are forced to face their fears.
Alan Krohn. My husband the same, after 34years. Long story.i am so sorry for your pain. Take care of yourself. 🕊️
@@jenniferyates8100 Thanks Jenni. The better days are getting more than the bad ones. I'm working hard at myself and learning so much. You hang tough. I always listen to the story of the Chinese farmer to remind myself about life. God bless
The fact that they fear the rebound relationship ending is what will manifest it’s inevitable demise. Karma is real and you attract what you fear.
My ex did exactly the same. Apparently waited for him for 6 years. When he got a divorce thats when she jumped ship thinkin he is better. Wrong! I was with her for 3 yeats. She broke NC this month on me... they got together officially this march and she already having second guess with him. But yea i know she gonna do all her power to make it work.
Loved this. Thank you. My ex and I went in a date on Thursday. He told me he loved me and that he always had. The following Tuesday, he entered into a “committed” relationship with another person. What the actual F?! We’ve been broken up for almost 10 months. I’ve been on one date. And I know I’m not ready. Working really hard to return to the badass self I once was.
That sounds really tough Sara. I’m sorry to hear that.
You’re totally fine if you stay single for a bit. Love yourself unconditionally. 😊
Nice one! Would it be possible that you tell us your rebound stories and how you felt as the rebounder/dumper and why it didn’t last? I’m sure many of us would appreciate it to get an even better understanding! 🍀❤️
I’ll add it my video request list. 😊
@@TheLoveFix-Nick That’s really sweet. Thank you :)
Hey man, I just want to say thank you for making this video. I'm going through what you explained as my ex found a relationship after 1 week of breaking up with me. And I am forced to work with this pain, but I believe I can become a better version of myself and one day be happier than ever. I appreciate it homie, much love.
I’m sorry to hear that buddy, and i appreciate you supporting the channel. I know the pain but it’s what we do with the pain that makes the man. Rebounding for me shows how low quality that person is, therefore why wait around for low quality people? Better quality out there, trust me. I hope you feel better man,
That just happened to me. Admittedly, I had been under a huge amount of stress & didn't give him what he needed for the past month, but I didn't expect to be dumped & replaced within a week. Especially since he's been telling me how much he has loved me for the past 2 years. How I'm the most important person in his life. I'm having a really hard time forgiving myself & letting him go.
I’m sorry to hear that. It sounds heartbreaking.
You’ve not been replaced. It’s how he has chosen to react to his pain. That’s not a replacement, it’s a band aid at best.
@@michaleneyanda7737 same , he literally wanting to marry me and planning to have place together and in a week he asked space and another week he kissed another girl and went into relationship with her and point out my insecurities as the cause of breakup and he added i lost him
I SO NEEDED YOU TODAY NICK, THIS is my 17 YR ANNIVERSARY WEEKEND EVEN THE WEATHER IS JUST LIKE THE DAY WE MARRIED. , THIS SUCKS BALLS. I'VE BEEN IN A THIRD PARTY FOR 8MOS. I FINALLY FILED FOR DIVORCE I GUESS THERE IS NO OTHER ALTERNATIVE, THANK YOU FOR ALLLLLL YOUR SPOT ON ADVICE IT KEEPS ME GOING .
I’m sorry William. I know it hurts man but I promise you’ll be okay. Use this time to heal and work on yourself.
This is great because you'e being honest with your own experiences.
I'll keep working on myself and let my emotions slowly exit out.
Self love is the way my man.
I'm in a bad situation, and this was great advice, but I laugth so hard when you said "f*ck ooooff" 😂 hahah thank you!
Sorry to hear that buddy. Rebounds never feel great when on the wrong side of it.
Get the popcorn 🍿 ready 😂
Thank you for your knowledge and advise. I have never thought of being in a rebound situation as you have described it. I have never been in a rebound relationship. My husband is. I have almost more understanding of the situation now. You explained it so well, that person's pain. Very good video 👍
Sorry to hear he is rebounding, but I’m glad you found the information useful 😊
Hey Nick. Thank you a million times for this video. My ex which is my 8 year old son mother. Cheated and monkey branched to her coworker January 10th. Moved into his small apartment in March and now pregnant. After a 10 year relationship we never fought or argued. She doesn't post him on social media. She cries alot, but says she's happy 😂. I know my ex is delusional Mazol Ilyayeva and pathological liar
I’m sorry to hear that and I hope you’re feeling better.
When you say you never argued, it’s a red flag because it means issues go unresolved.
Her response to the breakup is shitty but that behaviour was always within her.
Samething happened to me. I was dating my gf for 2 years and we got into a big fight and broke up. This happened in January and a week later she got pregnant by the rebound, who has 3 other kids and no car. She tried to get back with me in March. I can tell she's just with him because of the situation and she talks so much crap about him. I just ghosted her and moved on. Hopefully she's good. Thanks for sharing your story brother you're not alone. Stay strong
Rey, let her burn!
These videos are so authentic and realistic for me
I’m glad I can be of some help. 😊
Love this video ❤️❤️🙏 I listen to it daily. Married for 5 years.Working on my daily but I still need this reminder. Fucken Awesome 👌
Thank you Teresa. I hope you’re feeling better.
Nick, u have no idea how happy i am for finding u. U r god sent
Good advice as always Nick! We are the prize and we are enough!
This really helped me
My ex gf dumped me 3 months ago and rebounded with a guy 5 days after the break up and she’s been posting constantly how happy she is with the guy, no me sure it will fail soon
That sucks Juan. It must be very hurtful.
Try not to sit there wondering. Get up and take control of the things you can control and go live a great life my friend.
She’s not 1 in a million. She’s 1 OF a million. Plenty more out there.
You got an update ?
@@Kopite19877 where to begin… 😄
First, I blocked her, that other guy from all social media, changed my passwords and profile picture. I hesitated a lot, but in time I realized it was the right choice, since had I had peace and tranquility, and eventually stopped caring about her, that guy or her life.
Secondly, after going to therapy, joining support groups and talking to people in there (Reddit/discord), focusing on myself and retrying some old hobbies, my life got a lot better. I got a raise, had paid most of my debts, had traveled around the world, lost 12 kg/26.4 lb. By doing the right things (healthy things) a lot of great things and positivity has come to my life and I’ve achieved a great state of mind and peace.
Third, this experience has helped me grow and mature, I’m happy to say I’m way different from who I was a year before, I’m more secure in myself, I’m smarter in terms of choosing people, I’m better into identifying red and green flags. But more importantly, I’m better, I’m happier with myself, this chapter in my life taught me to never depend on someone to be happy, to never give more when it’s not reciprocated and to know when enough is enough. This experience is something that nobody wants but I think it’s something that eventually happen, just to help you grow and mature into a better person.
So I hope this counts as an update 😁
And an update about her…just heard a couple months ago that she and her toxic friends got fired/quit their job, and she’s trying to sell things online in order to make a living.
In the end, I. Don’t. Care. She chose that, well she chose wrong. F**k that b***c.
I like this video and hearing your voice is soothing and it soothes my anxiety.
Glad I could help 😊
Thanks for this one. Married to an DA for 5yrs Together for 9yrs I've been separated for 2yrs. We got back together after 10 but he left 10 months ago. Just found out 3 months ago that he's been in rebound relationship about 18 months now. It's hard but I'm finally get my shit together. I have a great job working with special Ed kids at school. Just started classes in the evening for my bachelor degree in psychology. I'm truly leveling up now. It still hard but I'm all about Me now.When I get down I listen to your video's daily. Thank you so much for caring about us WARRIORS!!!❤️🙏🙏
Good for you, Well done, 😊
You’re probably BPD. Every BPD girl I’ve ever met works with Special Ed kids. Weird pattern.
This is the best video of rebounds I've found. Thank you for the clarity and compassion that you put into it. It helps.
I appreciate that. Check out my playlist on rebounds. I cover them extensively. I hope you’re well.
I was the rebound and it hurts like hell. She kept bringing up her ex from the first day I saw her to the last day I saw her. The last day I saw her she said, "My baby daddy texted me and all he said was, (How are the kids?)" I looked at her and she saw the look on my face and she could tell that I was jealous and hurt. It's obvious she still misses her ex. She dated him for seven years and she left me after two months 💀 😭 😟
I am sorry to hear that buddy. I really hope this is a valuable lesson for you, so that you can screen better in the future. You’re going to be fine. It just takes a while.
First sign was the kids and the years of history, that’s a TON to try to compete with.
sweet heart. ouch. it hurts like that, so bad.
please consider promising yourself that if anyone ever enters into a relationship with you and uses you as a sounding board for their unresolved emotions and thoughts towards someone else, you direct them to therapy and get the hell on out of there.
when you run the red lights of such disrespectful behaviour, you end up in emotional wreckages at the intersection.
only stay for green light behaviours that reinforce the self respect you have for your self.
Why would you date her right after she just got out of a 7 year relationship?
Unless it’s just casual…. I can never find someone so quickly after a breakup worth dating so in result I’m always single for a long time. I don’t understand how people can find someone so fast worth dating…
They usually find someone they're familiar with- an old friend, co-worker, family friend or someone that hit on them in the past etc. They reach out start putting out "feelers" and they are strategic. They know who to message and what to say to get them onboard. A sob story about how they'll never find someone again (the subtext is obvious here) and this prompts the rebound to take the bait and they are off to the races. It is a trauma response for emotional survival. These people are terrified to be alone and base their whole self-worth on being in a relationship because that "proves" they're lovable and desirable (usually some abandonment issues too). These people are often divorced or serial monogamist who unless they get help, will repeat the death cycle over and over.
8:27 absolutely how i see it😂 it’s comedy how hard they try “The loml” one week after meeting that person is insanity
I really needed to hear this. My ex literally got on a dating app the next day and he was texting other women trying to be in a relationship. I am standing with the pain, feeling the feelings and I’m ready to work on myself and be the best version of my self without the baggage for the next person so I can have something genuine.
I’m sorry to hear that.
What does that tell you about him? He can’t be alone for 30 seconds without a woman to validate him.
Low quality. There’s better out there.
I hope you feel better. 😊
Subscribed, thanks for the video.
Thank you Jennilee.
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I went through this in 2020. My ex wife left me for someone else. Made a big show about it.
Fast forward three years, I have made great growth.
These include:
*Earning my BJJ Purple belt.
*Got a new full time job.
*Became self sufficient.
*Quit adult content, got onto seed retention.
*Quit drinking alcohol.
*Quit my reliance on pre workout/fat burners.
*Looking at joining the Police service.
Looking back now, it was a tough period. But now I see that all these positive changes, I wouldn’t have done all this if we were still together.
AMAZING. What stood in the way became the way. Well done.
@TheLoveFix-Nick haha the exact thing I was thinking. Ryan Holiday, the Obstacle is the Way reading his comment!
It’s a great book.
My ex was holding all his might to hold on to his rebound. She cheats on him but he turns a blind eyes so he won't face the reality that he made a wrong choice 😅
We all make our own hell. Wish him well with his.
He left me after five years. I got a text breakup. We had plans to move somewhere so he could go to school. We lived together. But anyway he just left, no closure. And just like maybe two months after that he apparently got into a new relationship. Idk how it happened but it looks like he met her at church where he moved. He’s never even went to church before as an adult. And she’s only 18 and just got out of high school! He’s 24. It hurts so much bc I got no answers and my texts don’t even get opened. I gave him space and all that did was allow him to move on. It really sucks. Apparently he isn’t even going to school at this time and isn’t working and it’s been 4.5 months since breakup. Just crazy. Don’t even know who he is anymore
I’m sorry to hear that and I hear you.
I would advise not to contact him and focus on you and your healing.
If a man is will to treat you like that, that’s a reflection of his low quality and self esteem.
The next day after splitting up my exgf was already seeing someone else that i recognized as one of her orbiters. Barely lasted 4 weeks before she came back to try get back with me and 7 months on she’s still trying
Wow, that’s crazy. I’d stay well away if I were you.
well fuck i hope i get that lucky
unless she fucks him then no thanks
@@lLuke.c good luck mate. Its been nearly 2 years and shes still chasing me. I bang her now and then and thats all i give her.
Cant believe my gf of 3 years monkey branc me. Im still so hurt and disbelief. She got with an older, uglier guy, with kids, going on a divorce. Why, why, why you left me and not fight for our relationship? I wasn't abusive or physically abusive at all! I was hard on her to get her stuff together like get a job cause she has 2 kids
Nie video ! I had a relationship of 5 YEARS with my EX and one week before our breakup, my EX started to exchange with a co-worker ! and IMMEDIATELY (The day after our breakaup) they went into a date and she seems to be so happy and tell her girl best friend that she thinks that this guy is her soulmate and its the right one. I'm very confused , did she really forget our 5 YEARS relationship with alllllll the memories (we had a very good times together) SO FAST ??? or she is just running away the pain of the breakup.
I ask her about this and she told me that she feels good now and that she has no feelings for me anymore. (And one month ago, she told me that she feels very good with me and that i'm the man of her life).
Bro I’m going through Exactly-the same thing. She tried to flirt with someone after 5 years of Bliss. You can Never keep a woman happy. They are ALL THE SAME. Think Of women as a Broadband internet connection. You’ll never get a Perfect Connection.
I’m sorry to hear that buddy. That sounds more like a monkey branch than a rebound, but the emotional principle is largely the same. They can’t handle being single so they outsource to someone new.
PrepOz. What worked in the first 5 years, won’t work in the second 5 years. It’s adapt or die my friend.
Noway, this girl is no good. Jog her on.
Welcome to the mind of an immature woman. Where your feelings don’t matter and accountability? Yea don’t hold your breath.
I gave this video 14 views, also other rebounds videos. Makes me more stable
I appreciate it. 😊
I hope it can help push you forward.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick it does. Do not expect her to come back, outgrow the ex and take popcorn to watch them crash
Hey, things didn't go well for 2 months before the breakup and we had a lot of fights. She blocked me a few times then unblocked me, then she went on a trip and there she met a guy. And she makeout with him, both are dating now.
We were in a relationship for 2 years. So do you think she will come back. She said to her best friends she always keeps blushing while thinking of taking about him.
To comfort u ::::
After my 2 years relationship broke, I jumped into a rebound with a kind, caring, handsome guy. During the relationship I felt that I am his rebound too! The relationship didn't work because of two main reasons; we didn't know each other at all , we just started the relationship to see what happens, And I myself, never could believe my feelings for him!!! despite the fact that his appearance was like the one whom I always dreamed of!!!!! And he was also kind and caring. I broke up with him. Now I know him better( because since then, im working on myself and Im analysing the situation and studying)
& I miss him so much, but he has jumped into a new rebound!!!
Sounds like you are the problem and projecting.
Me and my ex was together 3 years. She blocked me the first week of our separation. She got in a rebound relationship 2 months after me. She reached out to tell me she was in a rebound. 4 months in she's in a second rebound relationship. She still left me blocked. After 2 weeks of her not contacting me. I decided I know my value. I'm not a back up plan. If she wants to contact me again she will have to find a way round the block
Good man 💪💪💪
Thank you. I've had 3 dates but the most important thing. Is to make sure you fully heal emotionally and find the happiness in yourself. Going on dates has taught me about my value and she's not difficult to replace. My ex did get jealous about me dating. At the same time, she chose not to apologise. Your video is a great inspiration 👏 🙌
This is an update because I blocked my ex on WhatsApp. She unblocked me on Facebook and phoned me. I'm going back into no contact and I've unblocked her on WhatsApp
I broke up with her on an argument. Came back 4 days later to apologise and fix things up but she tell me that she’s dating someone else . After 3 fckn years wit me
I’m sorry to hear man.
She’s shown you exactly who she is. Believe her!
Feel better!
I was the rebound. We broke up and amended several times, then we ended up married. After only 1 year he divorced me. It was painful, but a powerful lesson. Not gonna hear anything from someone who doesn't really love me!
I hope you’re feeling better. 🫂
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thank you! I'll come stronger!
Thank you Nick!
My pleasure, I hope you’re well.
I'm the dumper and going thru the pain. I broke up with her because her needyness I broke up with her because her neediness scared me and I didn't feel like I could trust her because when we've had a break she would contact other men. So after I year and a couple months, I broke it off and a week later she was talking to another guy and invested, I know this because three weeks after I broke up with her I regretted it and tried to contact her, and she let me know so I'm having to step through the fire and man it fucking hurts
I’m sorry to hear that man and i hope you’re feeling better. It’s not your job to fix her and never was. On the flip side you must as yourself why you chose such a woman. That is a reflection of you.
Why are you crying wolf when you broke up and took breaks?
It’s this simple. They could work. Could be great, could last the distance. Immediately after. As my ex says, just a different energy. But mine was different too before she got me to give up my boundaries
I don’t think anyone can get you to give up your boundaries buddy. That’s on you ultimately.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick when a child becomes involved and the pressure of love me choose me take me or someone else will, while still sorting out other life issues. It was abusive lovebombing at time. I get that I am the one who should have the mental strength and awareness sense of self to walk away. And stay away. But I’m not that strong and yes, that’s exactly where I need to be strong
I hear you and it sounds heartbreaking. It’s less about strength and more about loving yourself more than you love anyone else. How someone treats you is a reflection of them. How you allow yourself to be treated is a reflection of you.
My husband left me 5 weeks ago after 25 years of marriage, he is renting a house 1 hour away from me, with 1 year lease. He said that he has not loved me for 10 years. 2 weeks ago my husband told me that he is already dating someone (his friend fixed him up), and that he is never coming back. Is this a rebound relationship?
I’m sorry to hear that, that is really heartbreaking. Rebounds aren’t about time, but more about where someone is emotionally. People don’t stick around for 10 years for they don’t love someone, so i would think he is maybe exaggerating that part. As for dating someone new, he finds himself alone after 25 years so it’s a good possibility it is a rebound.
They're definitely each others rebounds, my ex (2.8 yr relationship, the dumper) knew her 14 years ago when they nearly dated back then and lost contact, and a month after our breakup calls her up to meet up (a week after still talking to me on the phone and saying he cares about me). next week they meet up and he tells her he loves her day one and are officially bf/gf, ON MY BIRTHDAY lmao. now saying they're soulmates, he's so happy, he's never felt this way and so sure before with anyone else blah blah blah. 10 day old relationship lol. after rebound chick dated him for a week 14 years ago, she went on to marry a stand-in version of him for 8 years, and is lying to my ex now saying it was only 6 years and she hasn't been with anyone else (she has), so its like she's trying to recapture her failed marriage and her childhood. oh I'm just waiting for something delicious to happen, like he get's her pregnant which he always expressed to me he did not want children because he is too selfish to take care of a baby, and she definitely wants a ring and baby after a fruitless marriage. 🤭
Great content! 👍
I just have one question:
You said that you also had a rebound, did you regret it in the end, that you did this to your ex or wanted her back?
Thank you! 😊
I regretted that i did it to myself because i didn’t heal in the right way. Did i regret doing that to my ex? I didn’t do anything to my ex apart from not being with them anymore. A rebound is not reflection of the dumpee, it’s a reflection of the person rebounding. The person rebounding is doing harm to themselves in most cases.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Great answer thank you! Respect that you realized this sooner than later, some people never do 👍😊
To grow we must first look at the darkest parts of ourselves and give that part unconditional love. How we deal with loss and trauma is a reflection of our inner fortitude and self worth. Rebounding is not the way to heal.
@@TheLoveFix-Nickmaybe the rebounder is not interested in healing (so they think) but their fear of being alone is more important than their emotions. My ex always joked saying when things didn’t go well that “he had a pill for that” so there you go. As you said it’s a reflection of them not the one being dumped.
Fear of being alone is a powerful motivator. The essence of our programming compels us not to be alone.
make a video on 1.5-2 months extensive relationship breakups
Why? My contact is general and covers that already.
Thank you for this buddy thank you very much 👍
My ex monkey branched. He wanted to "see where it goes" with the new person. She was aided by her family to help her with an issue. My fearful avoidant ex was chosen, and as a people pleaser cannot say "no". We were together four years in a mostly food relationship. His plan was to date her and be friends with me. Nope. I walked away. N C for me.
mostly "good" relationship
What about he cheated on me and I saw them together then I broke up. He begged me bag over a week but I wasn’t respond. He went to my friends house to asked her to call me because I blocked him and I don’t answer the unknown numbers. After he tried for 8 days, he posted himself and new girl that he cheated with on profile. What’s that mean?
It means he is a cheater and you shouldn’t give such a man your time and attention.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Ty so much
I hope you feel better. 😊
@@TheLoveFix-Nick yes slightly better every day! Same time he posted himself and his new girl, makes me felt pity for them.
What if the rebound is who they were cheating on you with? he got her pregnant within 3 months and now they're engaged to be married. Will that fail as well?
It’s not a question if it will fail or not. That’s a question of “why am I still invested in such a mess?”
Stay well away from this. Focus on you heal.
Thanks for sharing! Can you please do a video about cheater who marry his mistress, l mean when a partner leaves his wife for the other woman . Does a relationship that starts from cheating last ? Thanks 💓
Ouch. I am sorry to hear that. I think that particular situation is a little beyond the scope of what i talk about. Marriage, mistress, cheating, that’s a heavy discussion. What i will say, is the recovery process is the same. Focus on you, your self love, your self validation and know that there is better out there. Do the work, coaching and therapy on yourself. It i will take time but you’ll get there.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thanks for your advice !
0:16 my ex married her monkey branch rebound. My current ex will probably do the same thing
As savage this will sound buddy, I say it with compassion.
If the same thing keeps happening to you, what’s the common denominator?
It’s you.
Therefore, it is you that must change what you’re doing.
I hope you feel better.
@@TheLoveFix-Nicknot true
My ex wife rebounded while we were going through a tough time. She cheated on me with a guy last December, and at the same time, with our 22F babysitter/daycare worker. They started a relationship, I filed, and moved out. The GF moved in right away and is now living in my old home with my 2 kids. Talk about a quick rebound. More like a monkey branch to a rebound.
That’s rough man! I hope you’re doing okay.
What if my ex, as i have recently come to find out rebounded with her toxic ex from before me?
Did that make me the rebound, even when we got together, she she broke up with him 2 years before?
Without knowing where she is or was emotionally, it’s hard to say.
One thing is for sure. She’s outsourcing validation because she doesn’t know how to validate herself.
But Jez, I must ask.
How do you have this information?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick she sent me a message on WhatsApp last weekend, letting me know, because she didn't want me to find out from someone else. She also admitted its why she'll felt we could never progress, as she still had feelings for him, while still admitting that he was toxic. I took the higher ground in replying and told her that I was surprised that she would make this decision, but ultimately told her that I hope it works out and she finds her 'team'. I thanked her for helping me understand heartbreak and bettering myself, not in those words exactly and that I was happy and moving forwards with my life. Told her I appreciated the final closure, without reacting with bitterness, and wished her the best.
I know she's only going to repeat this cycle with him, she even admitted "fool on on me if it fails" and to never feel like the feelings she had for me weren't genuine.
It's a tough one to take, because essentially it makes me feel like I was a worse option for her than someone who treated her so badly and cheated on her to top it off. I'm a good and loyal partner, I know that, and I also know that she is damaged to feel so much more comfortable in a dynamic that caused her the relationship trauma she always used to tell me about, and why she had so many trust issues and emotional walls.
Luckily I have connected with someone else, but trying to focus more on living in the present and just enjoying g this new person's company one day at a time. I feel like maybe this has created some walls in me, and I hope that I won't let my fear of people's past relationships with more emotional attachment to past partners effect me too much.
Sounds like she’s done you favour.
But consider this buddy. You’ve said you’ve connected with someone, but you’re still on a breakup channel seeking advice.
You could be rebounding too buddy.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick this is true, which is why I'm taking it very slowly, and this person is also very keen on taking things slow, and just focus on the present, we both agreed to not talk about labeling anything about the relationship until it feels natural. Which is what I'm doing, I'm putting alot of what I've learnt these past few months into practice, and staying optimistic. That message from my ex sealed the deal for me in the sense of closure and never wanting to go back tk her, as essentially what she's decided to do is a massive turn off for me, so she has crashed so far down from the pedestal I had her on.
You've been a great help through this, and I still watch your videos wether I've moved on or not and will continue to support your channel, as you advice is golden!
Also really appreciated the one on one session I had with you, it helped me alot!
Appreciate your continued support man, and I hope things with your new lady works out 😊
Thanks bro she tried calling but didn’t answer she in a new relationship I don’t get it so I’ve blocked her
I have a question so I've been with my ex for almost two years.. he cheated on me I found out. The girl wanted to jump me along with her friends for what... Over wood....the girl laughed at my pain I was SOOO in distraught. He got her pregnant two months after our breakup they now are together for 5 months it hurts that he continue to girl me and just simply don't care
I am sorry you hear you had to go through that. It sounds rough, but i am not sure what your question is.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick my question is do you think Its a rebound?
It’s a possibility, but even if it is, my stance on people rebounding is to let them burn and never let them come back.
@The Love Fix found out my husband of 27 years met someone and moved in with her within 6 months of me finding out about her.....I know he has doubts as he told me so...we are still married I wanted to work through out rocky patch, but he said he wanted to be with this lady who presented herself "and so he went along with it as you" his words...im guessing he will monkey branch to another woman if this rebound does not work.
Divorce him. He doesn’t deserve your loyalty.
What if she broke up because I cheated and rebounded 2 weeks later? Is there hope she'll come back?
You cheated buddy. What do you expect? If she were my client, I would advise her to never go back where her trust was violated.
My advice is to take your L and work on why you needed to cheat rather than be loyal and work on the relationship.
Me and my ex fiancé broke up exactly 3 months ago today after struggling together after we had our daughter at the start of this year. It’s been a long couple of months especially for me I had to move away from them both because she asked me for space and time. In that time I’ve been focused on self improvement and figuring out how to be a good father. I found out today that she decided to get into a relationship with her ex before me. It sucks and it hurts more than anything but I know it’s the decision she’s made. While I don’t see it lasting for a lot of reasons mainly the reasons they broke up and the things he still does I know that for the time being I can’t worry about it. I’m just hoping that in the future we’ll be able to work things out and until that day comes I’m committed to continuing to work on myself and becoming the best father I can be for my little princess.
Wow. That’s shit buddy. So sorry to hear that. Getting back with the ex before you says a lot about her.
Stay stoic buddy. You’re doing fine.
Ok but you were a rebound bro. You probably didn't know that and you know what nick says, they always failed.
My husband passed away 1 year ago and after 6 months i went out dancing by myself and this guy started dancing with me and gave me hes phone number after i told him i was a widow and he said if i needed anything to call him. Well i waited one day and called him and we made a Date to go out to eat at the same place we met dancing.
Well we had a good time and went out again and i made the mistake and had sex with him .
He told me he broke his golden rule to not have sex with any girl ,that God was number one.
So then he told me he was married twice and divorced twice. That he was an asshole, that I should find someone else.
But he treats me like a Queen and yes he is annoying at times ,but im just as annoying. So its been a year now and even though he tells me hes a loser and that im on a rebound ,and need to find someone better than him .
It breaks my heart to hear him say that. But why does he tell me im an Angel and he loves me , why say that to me if he thinks im on a rebound.
Im so confused, because i love him now and why say those words if he wants out.
My heart is in it ,am i wrong. We haven't had sex since that second date ,and its been a year now .
Am i wrong to keep this going on , he tells me im in his heart now ,what should i do now ?
It takes 2 to tango
She left us 6 months ago and after 9 years and since, she got married to him, he beats her there always arguing he’s very insecure, she’s tried to come back and says she wishes I cared about her we wouldn’t be here lol sitting back with my popcorn
That sucks man but well done for holding your boundaries.
What if she rebound from me and rebound to another person?
A rebound is a rebound. Nothing has changed in this context.
She belongs to the streets....I knew someone like that. Broke up with her guy after 2 years during which they broke up 10 times. She hooked up with an ex for a week, after that with another guy for 3 weeks, 3 months after that with me for about a month (rollercoaster), immediately went back to "She hooked up with an ex" yep the same guy...two weeks it didnt work out. 3 months later in another relationship with an orbiter....Something is not right here...
I love your videos man. Almost certain you’re not a Christian, but God bless anyway.
Thank you buddy. I’m not religious but I’m open minded. I hope you’re feeling better.
🙏🏻💓
And P.S. I am in No Contact and he's been contracting me every week...❓
What has been saying?
So my girlfriend broke up with me one 4 weeks ago and 4 days ago she started talking to a guy and posting about him being better. Do you think she may just trying to make me jealous and if so should I just ignore it and go back into no contact, bc all I did was ignore it and ask for my hoodies back without making any comment towards it, do you believe this was right or should I deal with it in a different way
Sorry about the breakup. I think No contact and blocking her on social media is the way to go. Focus on being best version of yourself, I would start hitting the gym and work towards career/school.
That sucks David and I know that must be hugely frustrating and hurtful.
Here’s the thing man. Let’s assume she is in fact trying to make you jealous by being with someone else, that’s hardly the traits of a highly quality woman.
So no my friend, do not give her any oxygen and focus on your healing and recovery.
I hope you feel better.
And for the love that of all that is pure! STAY OFF SOCIAL MEDIA!!!!
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thank you tons I realize now that I wasn’t focused on myself during or after that relationship and that was unhealthy no contact and being on my own for a while would honestly be the best decision for me rn
It’s a hard lesson to learn buddy. Trust me, I’ve totally been there.
But even in relationships, we still have to remain focussed on ourselves to maintain what attracted your partner in the first place.
@@frankleonard8674 yes honestly yes
Whys the rebound always a downgrade as well 😂
A downgrade according to whom? 🤔
Please can you help me. My ex fiancée got involved in a rebound adulterous 3rd party affair while we were still together. It's 2 years and 3 months and he's still with the bitch. Is it still a "Rebound Relationship" ❓ Thanks
I’m sorry to that Cheri. If you were still together when this happened, that’s more cheating and monkey branching than a rebound. If
Have you been to therapy?
Also, don’t blame the woman he got with, this is on him.
Is 6 months after a relationship a rebound I was with my ex 8 years and we communicated for the first 3 months she was hot and cold but ghosted me 3 months in
Yes and no. It depends on her emotional state. Is she over your relationship, or is the rebounding simply plugging the hole where you used to be.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I don’t know we don’t communicate but I know this new relationship is moving fast. She’s doing all kinds of stuff out of the ordinary
Of course we can only theorise but for me buddy I wouldn’t waste my time on someone who rebounded. I’d never take that woman back.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick oh I’m not I just want my day. Where she wants to crawl back and I can tell her to go kick a can
What will that achieve my friend?
your closing moniker is real. I am enough
You are indeed
For man it’s easy to find someone new when you have commitments to offer 😂
Commitments to offer? I don’t understand
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I mean if a man want someone new and they are serious about that it pretty easy as most of girls are always interested in long term while in women side it’s easier to find something for fun as most of the man willing to do it. Just my opinion and that’s happened with my ex who found someone else after break up like 3 weeks.
I’d say it’s the other way round. It’s much easier for women to move on, and have significantly higher number options than men.
Thoughts about my situations order of events?...My wife of 5 years walked out last Aug (2021), moved into her own place and got involved with someone she met through work around November (2021)...3 months after leaving. Then she moved herself and our 3 year old daughter in with him and his 10 year old son into their "bran new nice apartment" in January of this year...So just 2 months (allegedly) after being involved. All of this BEFORE she even filed for divorce. He interestingly divorced his wife of 15 years around the same time she left me...And apparently because his wife was unfaithful....The irony and hypocrisy. Our divorce was finalized in May of this year (2022) and they got married within a day or two after our divorce was finalized...Possibly even the same day...They both act like they're the best thing since sliced bread for each other. I'm curious if this is a rebound or if it's something legitimate that will last. They were MARRIED after only 6 months...Immediately off the heels of a previous marriage (both of them). Their relationship seems to be strong and healthy, which is so weird to me. How does that happen?!
I’m sorry to hear this Zach.
There’s a lot to unpack.
People leave relationships because they lose emotional attraction.
Is this a rebound? Possibly.
Is it a monkey branch? I.E. she had this guy lined up before ending the relationship. It’s possible.
The amount of time is largely irrelevant. It’s where your ex is/was emotionally that determines a rebound.
It’s possible she checked out of your relationship well before the breakup.
But here’s the brutal truth man. She’s gone through a divorce with you. She’s given you the answer. Everything else outside of that isn’t that relevant.
Focus on you, your healing and being the best dad you can be.
What if this was a gift? What if this leads you to someone even better?
Stop focussing their relationship and focus on you.
Does this apply to a narcissist?
I’ll ask you this. If your ex is a narcissist why would you want it to work on them, over leaving them in the past?
Hi I'm from India sir please RPL me
What if my relationship is awsm from 11 month n suddenly her parents fix her marriage with somebody who looks like uncle n he don't have time for her.. but she married to him today 13 march what can I do now
Sorry to hear that buddy. Unless she comes away from her parents decisions and thinks for herself, there is nothing you can do my friend. I am sorry i cannot give you better news.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick how i treat her sir I'm avoiding her showing my happiness n also in no contact i just want to saw her cry for me n regrt to losing me atleast 😔
Why? Why do you wish pain on someone else just because you’re hurting?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick yes a lot she putting dp with her husband to hurt me more 😔
Don’t wish pain or revenge on her buddy. It’s not with your time or energy. Invest that time and energy into yourself so you can heal.
I hope you feel better.
I am happily taken by somebody else. But my ex's new partner has followed me on social media. The partner followed me on tiktok. My ex blocked me tho on tiktok but his partner followed me. So now I'm friends with this new partner on tiktok he just views my tiktok. But he doesn't message me or anything this partner. It's a guy actually that's why I'm saying he. My ex turned out to be bi gay or something I thought my ex was straight when he dated me. That's what he told me. But ya now his new partner is following me. I'm not sure if he knows im the ex of his boyfriend. But My ex emotionaly abused me and has hurt me telling me he's into kids saying he's a pefile
If you’re happily taken, why then are you still viewing breakup content?
Why are you friends with his new partner?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick he followed me first and my ex still harassing me in a way
@@TheLoveFix-Nick and obviously he to choose to follow me. I don't think he even know I'm the ex of his boyfriend tbh. Or else he would of asked me by now asking if I know his boyfriend and asking if I'm the ex
Fair enough. I wish you well 😊
@@TheLoveFix-Nick well idk what to tell him I'm not sure if it's best for me to tell him that he hurt me
As the dumper of a 3 year relationship, she got a new man in 2 months. Might sound like a prick, but the man is very under her league and he got lucky and picked up a vulnerable girl that needed attention really fast. Hurts to see her needing to be validated in this superficial way instead of growing (I know shes an immature wreck, one of the reasons I broke up with her even tough I still loved her). So still loving her and seeing her flaunt this new guy all over social media is bullshit, I dont follow her anymore. But oh well, shes 23 she makes her own choices and as you said in a previous video: "fuck her" (not really, in a figurative sense).
No loving ex-partner deserves to see a person he cared about rebound because being alone was too scary for her. Didn't even make out with a girl when I had the chance because I knew my ex was still in hurt. Well I'm glad I'm free from that woman, and I'm sure she isn't working on her other problems and choose to ignore them instead. Thank you for your videos, they always help get my thoughts in order.
I hope you feel better buddy. Keep working on you so you can attract better women in the future.
Sounds like my ex too I’m praying for her rn I really do still love and care about her
@@treysalmon640 prayer is the only way to beat the feelings bud, best of luck
@@datboi6066 honestly man she will return when the time is right I know it
@@treysalmon640 well i dont want mine even if she returns, a breakup really showed her true colors
After been together 5 years lost a baby she’s in a new relationship 7 months after is that considered a rebound or has she fully moved on ?
Without more context bud, it’s hard to know. It depends if she has truly dealt with your breakup, or if she is looking for a new rescuer. Only she would know the answer to that. My point is, at this point what does it matter? What are you currently doing to heal and recover?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick just focused on myself and the gym and job but I definitely didn’t expect her to jump into a relationship after 7months it may seem a long time but after a 5year relationship it’s not that long right ?
It’s all relative buddy. Trying to apply logic to emotion and feelings is a battle you’ll lose 10 times out of 10.
What is a short time to you might be a long time for someone else.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick is an affair considered a rebound?
Ron Jones, was your ex still with you when the affair occurred?
My ex dumped me and monkey branched after 16 years. We know each other for over 20 years. Our relationship was really gr8. No violence, no toxicity, no drama. Just for past 3 years I never completely lost myself because of work, and she left abandoned which I get. Now I know she already has moved with new dude to different country and as far as I know he is in process of divorce with his ex, but already engaged with my ex.
She already introduced this new loosed to her family.
I just don't get how you can go straight to new relationship like past years with someone means shit for you.
I can't imagine myself to go for any relationship for long time now. I have been on the date with some other chicks, and I even had kissing episode with one of them (she wanted more but refused), and I felt like shit even few days after. I don't feel the same when kissing other person than her. I don't even feel same when hugging them. When I was kissing my ex I always had these "butterflies" in my stomach. Same with hugging.
I don't know how they can do all these things with new person and don't feel anything from the past. Especially that she was saying I was the best kisser and I knew when to kiss and how to touch her.
I know emotions are not rational, but this shit is crazy.
Ok but what makes it a rebound?? How do I know the difference between a rebound and just my ex genuinely moving on?
Let me put it another way.
Why does that matter. End result is the same, no?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick well no. Because if it’s not a rebound and she genuinely just moved on then that means no contact won’t work and she won’t reach out to me again. But if this IS in fact a rebound then chances are I’ll hear from her at some point. I’ve never been able to figure out if my ex’s are rebounding or just moving on.
Buddy you’re missing the point.
No contact is to get you back, not your ex.
The end result is the same. You get you back!
Actions never lie and words don’t mean shit. Their actions tell you everything you need to know.
My wife monkeybranched to another relationship after 9 years of marriage and 16 years together.
She did it semi-respectfully by telling me as soon as she started developing feelings for the man and before it went too far.
She divorced me before she went to the next level.
We are still in good relations 6 months into the whole ordeal and we sometimes still see each other and have a drink together.
Both of us have never had a better friend than each other.
She's adamant that that's where she had the most problems with us. Too much friendship, too little passion. We've had sex once a week and it wasn't anything to write home about. It was nice and I liked it. When she wouldn't have an orgasm, I'd finish the job manually.
I truly love her very much and didn't mind that I was married to my best friend. In my opinion, that's what the marriage should be.
I still love her and still wear my wedding ring.
I am aware it would probably be a really bad idea to get back together, if it even comes to that which I highly doubt.
I don't hope or expect it but you can never say never, especially given the situation we are in.
Whatever happens, I hope that she's happy, as if she's not then it would mean that all of this pain was in vain.
I really want that for her.
If you ever happen to run into this comment, know that I love you with all my heart, my little 🐞🐣🐭.
🤢
This goes for monkey branching as well?
In a way yes.
But I think monkey branching I guess in away is emotional cheating, because they allowed themselves to connect with someone new, whilst still in a relationship.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick i tought the same, either way i miss the relationship, but i dont want my ex back, for i have realized how toxic everything was.
Of course man. It’s okay to miss something, but also wanting better for yourself.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick i kight be in a rebound whit your videos tho, i stopoed watching them for a month, cuz i started to feel better, and now a wave came for almost 2 weeks, asoon as i started watching again my anxiety quited down, as well as intrusive toughts
You’ll be fine buddy. Take your time and use this time to care for yourself.
Who cares let them go , good riddens ..
It would seem you care by the fact you’re listening to break up content. 🤷♂️
@@TheLoveFix-Nick nice try , I’m on here telling people to have some self f respect and self worth for themselves …
@@TheLoveFix-Nick nice try … I’m trying to tell people to have self respect and self worth for themselves …
I’m already doing that buddy.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick well instead of replying with a condescending attitude , work on yourself , be better In every conceivable way …you reflect what you are ..I believe in you , you hold everything to become great , now do it …
~80+% of Women....Monkey Branch!!!
I’d like to see the peer reviewed meta analysis that supports that theory, my friend.
My ex broke it off with me and immediately started dating someone else (perhaps a monkey branch) about three months ago. I never begged or pleaded and when she said it was over I told her to reach out if she ever changes her mind. I stayed strong through NC while she was dating the new guy and trying to make it clear on social media that “they’re in love”.
Fast forward to almost 4 weeks ago, I decided it had been enough time of healing and I was open to go date again. I went out on a date to a bar with a pretty girl and during this date my ex’s old coworkers came in and saw me with new girl. A couple days later, my ex’s best friend texts me telling me that my ex wanted a piece of furniture which she had left at our old apartment (theres no way this was a coincidence. Word must have gotten back to my ex that I was seen with another girl). I told my ex’s best friend to tell my ex to reach out herself so we can coordinate the pick up for her furniture that she so obviously didn’t care about the last 90 days of NC.
My ex reached out and asked for the furniture back. I told her of course she could have it back. From there there was no more convo initiated on how or when it would be picked up. 7 hours later around midnight she texts me again apologizing for everything she put me through and that she had been wanting to reach out for quite some time but was afraid because she thought I hated her. I told her of course I don’t hate her and to let bygones be bygones. Here is some of the text exchange:
Me: I know you are sorry. Just don’t do it to the next partner that will care for you as I did
Ex: Of course. I would never. I don’t know if you heard, but I’m in a new relationship and we did talk about you today. I don’t know if that makes you feel weird or… I’m just doing the best I can to be on good terms with every person that I know.
Me: Good to hear! I’m happy for you.
Ex: You are?
Me: Of course, I just want you to be happy whether it is with me, or without me
Ex: That’s how I feel towards you too. There’s been times where I’ve wanted to update you. Don’t take it the wrong way… truly I just felt there was too much turmoil. And there was a reason when I left, I said I wanted to keep you as a friend.
Me: Eh yeah it hurt but at the end of the day I know my worth, what I have to offer, my vision, and I love myself so nothing can shake me off my core too badly
Ex: I know you do have a lot to offer and to someone who will really appreciate it. I talked to my new person about you. He said if we ever run into you, he would be up for getting lunch because I told him our dynamic. My point is, I just felt like you would never want anything to do with me and I don’t think that is the way I’m wired.
Me: Like I said, no bad blood here
Ex: Ok good. If you don’t mind me asking, what have you been up to?
Me: I basically told her some achievements I’ve acquired since the breakup. What I believe she was really seeking to know was if I was seeing someone new.
Ex: That’s great! I’m so happy for you!
Me: Thanks!
Ex: No problem
End of convo
What would yall make of this situation? How did I handle it? I firmly believe me being seen on the date was enough incentive for her to reach out. If the reach out was truly just to say sorry about everything she put me through then why would she start talking about her new boyfriend? If she was that happy in her new relationship would she be reaching out to an ex in general? Whatever the case is, I’m going back in NC and my gut tells me this won’t be the last time I hear from her. Thoughts??
I noticed last Saturday she went on Facebook was stalking me, looking through old chat logs between us. Whatever the case may be, I’m at peace with the breakup and really do just wish her the best
I think you handled it pretty well buddy.
I would’ve personally stopped the conversation after the “good to hear, I’m happy for you”
Everything past that felt like she was trying to get you to validate her decisions.
Leave the socials alone man, will just drive you crazy.
Keep up the great self work.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thank you for leaving your input. Love your videos man.
If she reaches out again I’ll make sure to cut the convo short. I deleted her off all socials right when the breakup occurred which has made it tremendously easier to move on
I hope it works out for you buddy.
Stay on centre and love the shit out of yourself
@@TheShady380 I have a ex that broke up with me too. He's with a new partner. But his new partner followed me on social media on my tikok. My ex blocked me but his new partner followed me.. and every time I see my ex in public he just gives me a dirty look. he just sits there staring at me but doesn't even apologize for what he did to me. But his new partner followed me first on social media. but he doesn't message me or say hi to me he just views my tiktok. But I am happily taken by somebody else and I posted my video saying I love my boyfriend. My ex did view my account. Just feels like my ex talks about me with a partner.
You handled the situation so good & so mature ! Continue with no contact ! I love how you wished her the best & didn’t allow the pain to make you bitter ! Keep continuing to know your worth & achieve more achievements for yourself ! She made her decision so let her burn with her rebound !!! Better is coming for you !! & I think she knows that as well .
I really need help so me and my ex started havign issues she stopping comign to see me but she'd ring message daily she met me a few times done intimacy kissed cuddled, she said she misses me and its hard but its not right for what she wants i had a feeling there was another guy and I was right of who it was hes now in the picture, they out on dates, yet she's watcbign my stuff? We dont talk at all iv stuck to no contact for about a month iv realised shes keeping this all a secret on instagram and not liking anything of his on other media forms, im wondering where this leaves me, as she doesnt seem happy to me, iv also heard this guys abit of a player 🤦♂️🚫 shes not blocked me btw
Brutal advice here buddy, it leaves you exactly where she left you. It’s down to you how long you stay there.
I am sorry this happened to you but don’t be the go to person for the person you can’t go to.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick so there's no hope no??
How do you define hope buddy?