That’s true. I never rlly thought abt it that way but I’m glad I saw this comment cus I feel better now. My ex is avoidant and emotionally unavailable and she took no time to heal or process our breakup. She got with her new guy a month later and sped things up quickly… we texted 2 weeks ago and it became rlly obvious that she’s still bothered and upset abt what happened between us… she even admitted that she still wonders if we would’ve worked out 🤷♂️
I went into No Contact because of these videos, and it's the first I've ever heard of it. Honestly, the first month was a living Hell, emotionally. Staying strong is tough, as the emotions ebb and flow like waves. The waves do get smaller though. After about 50 days after monkey-branching into a rebound, she texted me and tried to pin the breakup on me. I was brief and polite, but made it clear that this was her doing, and it's not my mess to clean up. I told her I hope she was well, and the ball was in her court. I haven't heard from her since. I didn't feel relief, but something better: I was grabbing control of my own emotional state. I had direction again. I didn't feel powerless. Now, as opposed to when the breakup was fresh, my head has started to see the forest from the trees. It doesn't matter if her rebound fails. If it does, I'm in a much different space than ' Gosh, I reaaallly wish she'd come back to me". I don't know what the future holds, but I know this: I am prepared for the worst now. She doesn't have that power over me. I can't thank you enough for these videos, Nick. I thought I was missing my ex, but I didn't realize the thing I was missing...was myself. I guess I'd been gone so long I didn't even realize it. At first, your videos hit me as 'tough love'. Now, they hit me completely differently, as if I just needed to come around and see it from a perspective where my judgement wasn't clouded by obsessing over my ex. What. A. Difference. If you're reading this and you're freshly dumped: Watch the videos. Re-watch them. Stay in no contact. I used to believe the 'win/win" line was a load of BS to soften the blow of getting dumped, and it's truly not. It's because your focus is in the wrong place. Get yourself back. Like, REALLY find the person you were before. You're number one, and you come first. It takes time while you're hurting to remember that. Trust me though : In time? You will. Be patient with yourself. It's coming. Don't believe me? Scroll through the comments. Thanks again, Nick. Your videos have really saved my sanity, my self-respect, and my dignity. I look forward to more, and if you're ever in Arizona, beer's on me.
Great progress buddy. I’m glad you’re find your way back to you. The fact she contacted you after 50 days just to blame you says it all. Thank your for kind words and for supporting the channel. Keep going. 😊
@@Resin311 Sure! It's been a little over a year. As I said back then, my emotions were coming and going in waves. They still do, but it's not as extreme and I can kind of tell when they're coming. For example, a significant date or holiday will approach, and I've been through it once already so I know what to expect. DId she contact me? Yes. After 10 months, on my birthday, like clockwork. My situation may be different than some others, but she knew full well that she was the one who did me wrong. Unlike a lot of 'get your ex back' advice, I wasn't cheerful when she contacted me. I went blank, honestly. I had kind of given up after 10 months anyways, as all the 'signature advice' from these so called dating coaches seemed to not add up. Best I could muster was a 'Thank you" over Facebook, and haven't heard anything since. She knows how badly she hurt me, and it's up to her to apologize and/or do the work to reconcile with me. I don't think she will, as she doesn't have the personality type to be brave or swallow her pride. The last year has been...strange. As my previous message started off, I made all the knee-jerk reactions and mistakes. I did hurt the most I ever have been , emotionally. I didn't know how to cope. So, to fend off calling her and trying to change her mind, I watched all these videos over and over.and over. I could barely function, as I think I'm a pretty smart dude who couldn't comprehend how the hell I'd ended up in this situation. I didn't personally buy into the ' better yourself to get your ex back' mantra, but I desperately needed a distraction to get my sanity back. So, I started learning to DJ. And with that, I made new friends. I cried my eyes out a few times over the last year but after awhile... I started to realize what real friends would do for you ( or me). When a relationship ends with betrayal, it's almost like that person dies and takes a piece of you with them. They're not your friend anymore. Maybe it's different for amicable splits, but with betrayal? No. It took me a LONG time to figure out that I had molded myself into what this other person had wanted me to be, and suddenly it wasn't enough. I had forgotten what self-respect really looked like, and it's been a slow rebuilding process. I've watched a lot of psychotherapy videos, dating videos, and human nature videos. My best advice to anyone going through this is this : Like it or not, you've forgotten what made you strong. What made you special. Sure, you know it's there. And you don't have to bring it out to make others happy. You have to make yourself happy, and put yourself first. It's not cocky or egotistical, because if your ex won't take care of you, who will? I know it's a tough pill to swallow. Nick says it much more gently than I do, but you can't force someone to love you, no matter if you learn an impressive juggling act or get rock hard abs. Be. Happy. And while it might take awhile to find out how to do that, know that it is possible. Sure, the scars will always be there to remind you. But that's all they are. You're still breathing. Don't waste time worrying if someone else is worrying about you. If they are, they'll let you know. And if they do, remember that your self respect will help you make the right decision, not the easy decision. Cheers!
@joelvinson appreciate the well thought out update. I was in a 7 year relationship. I had 3 kids and she had 3 kids. We were a blended family for 7 years. She was dating the other dude 3 days after break up and had him move in next week. She told her kids not to contact me Even though they all do secretly to tell me they love me most nights. 3 weeks into the breakup so far.
Wish them the best and let go ! Don’t look for the rebound to fail or any of that . Let them go and know you can do better ! And it’s definitely important to block them on social media bc they will purposely post shit just to hurt you or make it seem like they’re so happy !! Nick is right go back to living life making new memories meeting new people focusing on you healing and evolving ! The world is bigger then your “ ex “
I saw my ex for the first time in a couple weeks. She was gonna drop of some of my stuff but she didn’t wanna see me then like 10 minutes out she said are you gonna help bring this stuff in (i wasn’t I was far) but I went back to help and we talked a little bit. She got emotional a little bit but I was great. I told her I was doing really good (I truly am) and I’m in a much better place. I told her what she was doing wasn’t healthy (monkey branching) and she said she had already stopped talking to the other guy. She said she would come see me next week or soon. I’m sure her seeing me moving on and being successful without her really effected her. We hugged a couple time and she went on her way. I’m doing no contact for a while until she reaches out to me. #1 tip be confident in yourself and focus on yourself. I wasn’t very sure if she would ever come back to me and after just one interaction I already feel so much better. Either she will want to come back soon or I’ll already be streets ahead and won’t even care.
@@lewistaylor3267 you shouldn’t put any attention on her or her life. Work on yourself, improve yourself and be confident in yourself. When you don’t care about those things and only care about yourself the rest falls into place. You will attract better people, better women. If your still set on getting her back just focus on yourself and when your far superior than the last time she saw you she will notice. But don’t make anything about her. Keep moving forward and if you don’t look back you won’t even see her.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I didn't mean it like in comparison I just meant it as I wish my situation was easier where she did contact me and we could sort out a few problems that lead us to braking up but she was clearly monkey branching and decided to leave me for the other lad.. just feel like there's no answers to my questions from her because she ghosting me.. just wish it was easier and not like this
What always comforted me was the thought that most relationships, rebound or not, fail 😂 I mean what’s the chance of a relationship lasting till both are dead? I guess 1%. So they will break up one day…maybe in months maybe in years, but eventually they surely will. Sad but true.
The chances of success significantly improves when we do the work on ourselves. All the while we keep getting with people to plug giant emotional wounds within ourselves, it was doomed to fail.
That’s so true, especially if one or both of them didn’t heal from their past and didn’t process their emotions or the breakup. That’s exactly what my ex did… she has a habit of being avoidant and emotionally unavailable and she jumped into a new relationship a month after we ended. We were texting a few weeks ago and it was so obvious that she’s still upset abt our relationship and she even admitted that she’s just been shutting it all out and still wonders if we would’ve worked out.
On one hand, I find solace in knowing it won’t work out and that she’s not over us, but it also hurts to know that the person I love more than anything is refusing to grow and heal.
In my opinion the majority of ppl who use rebound for healing are emotionally unaviable ppl, who can be narcissist sociopats and pshichopats or they just have some type of personality disorder. It is better to make some conclusion about the relationship and ask for professional help for healing.
I always watch this video when I feel lost, so that I can get back on track. Thank you so much Nick. Your no bs advice is honestly the best out there. ❤️✨
I used to think that. I'm getting to the place where I don't care if the car crashes or not. I just wanna be a better version of myself and focus on myself. I wish her the best, everyone deserves to be happy. She did hurt me beyond words and I did hurt her too. We were wound mates. You can't be in a healthy relationship when you're in an unhealthy place yourself.
@@chafaq Honestly, I don't care anymore. It's been a year since the breakup and I would say that I'm thankful for what happened and I'm more bless now. I'll say I wanna thank him for leaving because he set me free. I can sincerely say that right now. God bless
I loved this one, my mind has been in overdrive thinking of them together, he cheated with this one before we ended but won’t admit it. But I still think it’s a rebound. You give amazing advice. Helped me so much.
I’m working on the next piece of content. It takes time and people asking for me for one to one breakup coaching as got very busy. I’ll will post it as soon as i can.
My ex rebounded with someone she knew on social media a few weeks after our 6 years relationship. She told me herself that she is doing this to find herself back with this person who can give her the attention that she wants. They are in a long distance relationship for 5 months now and will be meeting face to face in Jan next year as my ex has booked a trip back to her hometown and will be meeting then for the first time… wish them well :)
Dang dude you know alittle to much about what's going on with her, don't concern yourself about her, get out and explore your woman that's waiting on you
Talk about outsourcing. 12 Years down the tube. Just got a "its not going to work between us". She did it in such a cold matter of fact. This after she trapped me into fight to use as an excuse. Shortly afterwards I heard that she was already preparing for new guy. This new guy recenly divorced or in the process. Emotionally she left long time ago but never showed it. She also seem to be unable to be alone or work through feelings. Our relationship left me drained and emotionally fatigued. I blamed myself only to realise fuck that. They are both bringing their own pain to the new relationship. I think she might be dismissive avoident. I just started working on myself. She is ice cold and now the new rebound is receiving her full attention. I gues she's addicted to the idea of love and the Honeymoon phase. Love is not supposed to be brittle but rather face it she found it easier to move on.
Sorry to hear that buddy. It’s a savage pain indeed. I would suggest not seeing it as 12 years down the drain, rather it reached a conclusion and taught you exactly the lesson you needed to learn.
Bro, I really prescient work you are doing! I came here by mistake, and I am thrilled I did. It's tough, but your videos give me a lot of hope and motivation to move on. Hopefully, one day, I will get out of this shit and laugh at how silly I was thinking about the person who is not evolving and just moving from one relationship to another without time for any auto reflections. After your videos, I can see some patterns in her behaviour. It's hard after seven years of a relationship when the person who you loved the most is in a rebound 1 week after you broke up, but I see the light. I am progressing, going on therapy, trying to be a better version of myself. She is making the same mistakes from the past, stuck in the same place. My brain is telling me that it's a good thing we broke up, but my heart still is attached to the illusion of the person I wanted her to be. I fought for 1 year to go to therapy, but she didn't feel a need to do so. Now I know it is because she is not able to admit to her mistakes. She is not able to put work into creating healthy relationships. She is selfish and focused only on her needs. Wish you all the best!
Dude are you me? 8yr relationship for me, I managed to get her go to therpy 2x close before our break up, 2 weeks after she jumped into a rebound and two weeks later decided to move with him to another country and got engaged to him and suddendly looks like she changed everything about herself that bothered me, but her core behavior is the same - avoid, escape, make herself feel better, not be alone for a moment..
My ex is with a rebound for I think 2 months or more. We broke up 3 months ago. His rebound lost her last boyfriend to heart disease 7 months ago!! My ex and she have been in a friends group for about two years so they know each other. They are both therapists!!!! You’d think they’d know better🤷♀️🤷♀️. This video has helped me a lot today❣️❣️they have only done fun things. No real life stuff so it’s been all fun. I’ve got my popcorn ready!!
Good video, she celebrated 1st monthsary while we broke up 1 week ago 😂😂😂😂, keeps hurting me, our memories still seems new, i'm in a tough situation of my life, but i can do this 😊
Break up 1 year ago. She’s been with the rebound since then…..did they look happy? No. Yet they are still together because my ex can’t be alone. I’m moving on. And seriously as you said: DONT ever take it personal. My ex is with a woman who is really unattractive and they don’t fit at all. Let them burn and go get yourself a so much better person.
My ex (33 y/o) monkey branched after being together for 5 1/2 years. The woman he left me for is married and non-monogamous (I think polyamorous), and he says that non-monogamy is the lifestyle that he wants now! That just one person is never going to be all the things he needs. They have been together for 7 months, but they're still just calling eachother "friends"..like it's a friends with benefits situation. But from what it looked like to me, they're acting just like a couple, but without a label on it. He hasn't taken any accountability for anything, and has blamed me for everything. Said some very cruel things to me and made me feel like garbage about myself. He's only ever been in monogamous relationships, and we were eachother's first long-term relationship and first loves. It all just hurts so much, like he punched me in the face and stomped on my heart while I was down, over and over again. I don't even know what to think about this situation. Just trying to move forward and better myself, but I think about him (and him with her, unfortunately) every day still. What the heck should I think about this? Do you classify this as a rebound? It's such a unique situation I feel like
Hey nick, thanks for these videos. They are helping a lot. But my ex is in new relationship. I can't seem to control my anxiety and I started to have anxiety attacks. How do I get past this?
Yeah, I’ve been there buddy. Sometimes, we just need to let it happen. It has to come out. You could try some meditation, high intensity exercise, or my book on breakup recovery might help. Breaking Up with Your Breakup: a counterintuitive remedy for heartbreak amzn.eu/d/0MNANRG
He's right about them failing and not healing. I ended up becoming friends with her rebound. He said he felt as if she was attempting to make him as a carbon copy of me. He was saying she always talked about who I was fucking. She said it didn't bother her and he informed her she talked about it too much. I would send the text messages and he could see she wasn't over me. He believes he and the other person was there to help her and give her attention while I was the main prize. I leveled up. I changed careers and I took a 22k pay increase. My ex is miserable and I'm extremely happy.
My ex broke up with me, ghosted me and eventually blocked, literally on the next day I found her with another man through social medias, they are now happy together in her words and they go for marriage, crazy world we live in...
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I am on self-improvement and try to focus on myself, but I feel so betrayed and blindfolded that I did not see her behavior in the relationship. I hope one day things will change and she will see what she did but I will be healed and moved on...
@@xylophoneize what hurts the most is that everything you tried them to better they litterly do it with the next person …. Like i always told my ex stop blocking me when your mad leant To communicate pls monkey branched and her last text was “ we agreed to no wasting time “ in my head I’m like that’s what I begged for 6 years …… I’m not even jelouse at the monkey branch or none I just feel so damn betrayed like if I only knew …she had the audacity to monkey branch like that and do me so dirty I would have walked away a long ass time ago before getting attached
I've been avoiding my exes emails that rub it in he has a new gf. I sent them to spam but I'm tempted to read them. I'm trying to take yoyr advice. I believe it's best. I know you're right. But ugh it's hard. Lol
We broke up a year ago after 2 years, she had a bf 3 weeks later who she got to know as a “friend” at the end of the relationship. i’ve been told many times by friends and people in common what a downgrade she made but I’m just doing my thing living as I wish, still year later now they’re together but the thing is every now and then she’s looking for my attention checking up on me and then blocks me again and the cycle keeps going I’m so confused…
I believe me ex is rebounding. I saw a travel bag of hers. And it contained a sexy outfit I bought her when we were together. It’s clear. Heartless heartless person. She’s getting baby sitters for our kids every single week. Evil in my eyes. I pray she doesn’t meet someone as good as me. Like you just said, I want to see the CAR CRaSH
That’s rough man and I’m sorry. It’s only evil because it doesn’t align with your preferred outcome. I know how savage the pain is, but people do what they want to do my friend, so may as well focus on healing and finding someone better. It’s going to be okay.
Thanks nick your podcast best I know it’s reflection on him I already know that he has no self control or self worth his dating someone that’s so ugly anyone that showed interest I’m focusing on my career gym and travelling when I’m ready I’ll date again
My ex husband that cheated on me moved on with the affair partner and they’re together for more than 6 months now. He just told me that he’s not happy and guilt-ridden and he still love me. But he also told me that he’s in love with her…..what is this supposed to mean??? I’m just confused, please explain this situation to where I can understand. We’ve been separated for 10 mos, divorced for almost 6 mos. He’s been asking for forgiveness too. Please explain. Thank you
We have known each other of 8 months &We broke up in Jan after 6 months of relationship which was very committed. He had to bcoz he had to concentrate on his career and I was a distraction as per him. He has past traumas he didn’t deal with but he loved me. He said he never met anyone who was so emotionally fulfilling to him. I was an extremely caring & nurturing gf. He started crying while leaving and couldn’t get over me till Mar. now all of a sudden he is in love with an extremely beautiful girl from different country. That too met online. He is like head over heels for her. Is that love? & I am still processing the grief. Is that rebound?
My ex dumped me for this guy and just after 1.5 months is crying and lost coz the new relationship has turned sour while ours lasted for over 11 years. This is what happens when one runs to pick a fancy stone and doesn't realise that they dropped a diamond in the process. I frel bad for her but she earned it herself despite my warning at the time of breakup that don't get into a rebound. Take your time and then commit to the guy but ladies and logic don't go together sadly ......
Is it possible for them to have multiple rebounds? It has been 6 months since our 3 year relationship ended. He has had 2 flings, and he’s now “official” with the second one. He came back to breadcrumb me after the first rebound ended. He thinks he’s “healed” but he’s not been alone this whole time. Additionally, the new girl lives in another country, but they visit each other.
Either way, the end result is the same. As brutal as that sounds, it’s your prompt to work on your healing, and not focus so much on someone who would be in a new relationship so quickly. I hope you feel better and I’m sorry you’re going through such a tough time. 🙁
this works even if he was the one that broke up with me?? he made a playlist on spotify with some girl and he put a picture that i sent him before and we used to laugh at it together (some dumb meme) and he put songs that he would tell me reminded him of me so i know he is obviosly thinking about me but he is so immature about it and i know he pissed off at me so is he doing that to get back at me also his reason for breaking up with me was because i was on the phone with a gay dude but him and that girl were kinda already friends before :(
A rebound is an emotional state of mind, regardless of you are the dumper or dumpee. The course of action is the same. Let them burn and focus on yourself.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick it’s wild how many people are not secure within themselves. you’re doing a good work my guy, thank you for the time and consideration you put into this. Through your videos and a few other TH-camrs, I’m grateful that I maintained my character and dignity through my whole ordeal because like you said she is definitely going down with the ship lol.
My ex left 9 months ago for a old "friend". She was waiting for our relationship to get stressfull and used her chance to flirt with him. Well they are a couple now...a sexless couple which see each other once a months..sounds dreamy. He told me she is so much like me...if you want someone like me you could have stayed with me. We have been together for 7 years and have a child. Im interested how they will end. I hope it will be painful for both.😂
@@TheLoveFix-Nick she is his old friend. i think she just did not find someone in all these years so she had to steal from somene....i just heard about it from a mutual friend of us.
I have no idea Kyle. All you can do is focus on the present moment. What happened yesterday happened and what happens today is what will happen. One has nothing to do with the other. Focus on you and the present moment my friend.
Not sure if i take her back... most than likely i am. I hope her rebound dont work out. In all her relationships, they never worked... including with me obviously.
If you take her back after she rebounded, you’re teaching her that she can do whatever she wants to you, and you’ll be okay with it. That doesn’t have a future my friend.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick no brother is not ok what she did. It literally broke me in half but IF she does ever come back (i doubt it) we gonna have to work things out and ill set boundaries. I dont she is tho.. im trying to better myself but understand is tough brother
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thanks for the feedback brother but we both know she aint coming back lol . Barely 2 months she officially with the monkey brancher. So he was well aware of me being with her. So i dunno whats gonna happened. Theres another girl that really likes me and im not sure what to do. She'll be a rebound right?
Necessary? No. What exactly are your struggling with ? If you more in depth support come join the private facebook group 😊 facebook.com/groups/369216338064474/?ref=share_group_link
@@TheLoveFix-Nick he treated me so well for the years we were together. It just turned bad literally the day after the split. I’ve never seen such a 180 difference in a person. It’s been 5 months and I’m trying everyday to recover but it’s so super difficult. It takes up so much of my brain capacity sadly. I created a good life for him in the city we moved to… he has a whole new group of friends on top of his new girlfriend… I doubt he’s even thinking of all the good we did for each other. 😢 I know she’s weak… and I always wanted to help her out as a friend. She didn’t want my help and only wanted his. I regret not talking to her when he and I were together before it was too late. I hope in time they get payback.
That’s rough, and I’m sorry to hear that It’s okay to be where you are and to feel it. The trick is to not stay there for too long. He was but one chapter in your book. You’re the author and you can write new chapters. 😊
@@TheLoveFix-Nick mine is a ten year long distance. First five years we met a bit. Later years on and off. Last year we were close. He himself took to another level , video calls and all, This year Feb he ghosted me. Blocked me everywhere for a small tiff. People think long distances are weird and nothing. But it takes extreme efforts to keep up long distances. In two months post breakup i came to know he's in another relationship. My heart broke into pieces. Few months later he keeps her I'd as as bio for his private Instagram. Emotional relationships are harder than physical ones and I'm going through alot.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick we were in a relationship long distance ten years. First few years we met. Later we didnt and it was on and off. I still loved him but he started to lose interest in me. Last year he started moving closely with me again,video calls and all, this year Feb he ghosted me off, blocked me Everywhere with a small tiff. Two months later i came to know he's into another relationship. I was broken. People think long distances are nothing but I feel emotional relationships are way harder than physical ones. The pain is bigger. Now that his relationship is real and not long distance like ours , can it still be called monkey branch/ rebound?
My ex got into a rebound bum . She was stalking me with the car but idkw . She just took him to present to her family and going in a trip exactly where we was when she presented me 1st time with her parents. She s posting him on facebook and the bum got on public just his profile and cover pics. But now he has a photo with her on public . I swear i am 85-90% she told him to do it just to show to everyone he loves her lol. Her sister and parents doesn’t have him as a friend on social media. All the pics when they are together she done the pics and she is faking the smile i can know it . . I am really sure she is trying to keep me in the mud but my indifference is more powerfull . Any advice please?
Advice? This will be brutal. Stop wasting time on what your ex is doing, disappear, focus 100% on you and let your ex think happy happy thoughts forever.
My ex rebounded after 2yrs of relationship, she just got into a new relationship like within a week from our breakup ,the guy was helping her just to get her n now she's into him and when i say i'll leave them alone, she says like i miss u, im guilty, blah blah .. I dunno wht to do.
That sucks man. I’m sorry to hear that. You establish boundaries with her. Tell her to only contact if she wants to reconcile, but personally I’d never take back someone who rebounded on me.
4 year relationship, she detached before dumping through text, and new relationship within a month.. is it still a rebound? She actually worked on herself like gym and starting college again, and it hurts to know she won’t be back. The guys not dumb either, he knows she’s a dime and that she’s fresh out of our relationship and will do everything to keep her plus she doesn’t like being alone so they’re gonna stay for a long time imo :/ moving on feels so hard 5 months in now contact now.
Edwin it seems you’re making a lot of assumptions here buddy. On what evidence do you base this? Given what I said in this video regarding what a rebound is, what do you think it is with your ex?
Good for you, I wish you well. I’m curious however. If you’re so sure of yourself, why are you listening to rebound content? And why do you feel the need to comment on a public forum about it?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Good point, but I don't believe rebounds have a 99.9% failure rate. Especially if the rebound is high status with game... Since the ex keeps simping and posting on social media he's digging himself into a deeper hole. Some people just need to dust themselves and move on, things ended for a reason, better to just accept it. Build yourself into a high status man and find another woman that respects you. There's an abundance of women why keep simping for girl who disrespected you and left you for another man?
I agree high status and game can go a long way. Getting someone is easy. Keeping them is another story. Fact is, people change and nothing lasts forever. The second we think “they’ll never leave me” is when they leave.
@@jmmacalalag she will do the same shit with you, if shes still not doing it right now... You sound so insecure to her ex. That boy hit that girl first. 🤣 How is dicc taste? Putting your tongue on her mouth when you know it was busy
As the "rebound" I was definitely much better than my ex's baby mama. Our relationship was far from toxic like theirs was. Just because we are the next relationship, doesn't mean we deserve to have people root against us. This is pretty much saying you desire for the other person to be hurt, even if we provide a healthy secure positive relationship 🤔
@@TheLoveFix-Nick tip 1. You called the rebound "low hanging fruit" therefore reducing their humanity. That's another human being with real feelings. Its very dissmissive. Tip 5 - "relax and watch the car crash" and you also refer to the rebound as "animals" Hurt people, hurt people. Taking revelry in watching another person get hurt is promoting toxicity. Is the goal of cheering on someone else's heartbreak just because you dated the same person going to encourage self growth? It comes off very insecure: "well im sad, so im going to get popcorn and a tasty treat because i waiting to watch someone else be sad"
Response to tip 1. Calling a spade a spade isn’t reducing someone else’s humanity. It’s calling out the actions of the person rebounding. Facts don’t care about feelings. Im calling the facts of a rebound. The facts are, most times it is low hanging fruit as In it’s a bad match and bad decision. It’s nothing to do with the humanity of the target of the rebound. Response to your second point. You’re projecting your interpretation of my words back to me. I’m not responsible for your interpretations. Human beings are mammals which is an animal. Again, I’ve not said anything factually untrue. Im not promoting Toxicity and if you’re taking tip 5 literally, you obviously do not understand the message. The message is to wish your ex well with what is normally a sub optimal way to deal with a break up. 9 times out of 10, the target of the rebound is not as substitute as the previous partner. If you honestly believe that I’m telling people to go out and buy popcorn and to watch a train wreck, I fear that you don’t understand humour and satire. The message is, to not worry about your ex, to not be concerned what they are doing. Getting the popcorn is a metaphor. Everyone should be too busy working themselves to be concerned about their ex.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick sounds like you were really hurt before by your ex rebounding. I am sorry for that and hope you healing. Based on your own words it does come off as you are villainizing the rebound. "Intent vs impact" just because it may not have been your intent, doesn't mean thats not the impact of your statements. Hope you find peace. 🙏🏾
@@rhonnieminnie nah I can’t lie your point is the wrong mindset to go about this. That’s my opinion. There’s a reason why rebounds don’t work. Most of them end and that’s a proven fact anyway, the way you feel doesn’t matter lol
I'm in a very depressed state what if you guys were together for 2 years had a baby she's got kids of her own from a previous marriage and it was abusive but I was her first love and she was my first love and I messed the relationship up to pieces and now she's with a new guy after we broke up a couple weeks ago do you really think that this rebound would last coming into a relationship with a newborn and other kids from a previous marriage she's blocked me on all accounts and she tells me that he's everything I'm not or she's just trying to make me mad can somebody please answer I'm really going through the ringer here
Hi, my gf and I broke up one month ago. I did no contact but at the end of no contact, she unfollowed me on instagram but doesn’t block me on social media. She even doesn’t deleted from snapchat and on the contrary, she suddenly puts her location visible to me on snapchat. during these weeks she has not contacted me anymore. Why is she unfollowing me on instagram after 3.5 weeks?
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Guys listen. EVEN IF they’re the ‘perfect match’ that doesn’t mean they’ll last. Two incomplete people can’t complete each other.
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That’s true. I never rlly thought abt it that way but I’m glad I saw this comment cus I feel better now. My ex is avoidant and emotionally unavailable and she took no time to heal or process our breakup. She got with her new guy a month later and sped things up quickly… we texted 2 weeks ago and it became rlly obvious that she’s still bothered and upset abt what happened between us… she even admitted that she still wonders if we would’ve worked out 🤷♂️
@@Jakuboooooooooo bro use no contact this is the best thing you can do
Love yourself, sleep well, eat well, move on ... life is beautiful!!!
I went into No Contact because of these videos, and it's the first I've ever heard of it. Honestly, the first month was a living Hell, emotionally. Staying strong is tough, as the emotions ebb and flow like waves. The waves do get smaller though. After about 50 days after monkey-branching into a rebound, she texted me and tried to pin the breakup on me. I was brief and polite, but made it clear that this was her doing, and it's not my mess to clean up. I told her I hope she was well, and the ball was in her court. I haven't heard from her since. I didn't feel relief, but something better: I was grabbing control of my own emotional state. I had direction again. I didn't feel powerless.
Now, as opposed to when the breakup was fresh, my head has started to see the forest from the trees. It doesn't matter if her rebound fails. If it does, I'm in a much different space than ' Gosh, I reaaallly wish she'd come back to me". I don't know what the future holds, but I know this: I am prepared for the worst now. She doesn't have that power over me. I can't thank you enough for these videos, Nick. I thought I was missing my ex, but I didn't realize the thing I was missing...was myself. I guess I'd been gone so long I didn't even realize it. At first, your videos hit me as 'tough love'. Now, they hit me completely differently, as if I just needed to come around and see it from a perspective where my judgement wasn't clouded by obsessing over my ex. What. A. Difference.
If you're reading this and you're freshly dumped: Watch the videos. Re-watch them. Stay in no contact. I used to believe the 'win/win" line was a load of BS to soften the blow of getting dumped, and it's truly not. It's because your focus is in the wrong place. Get yourself back. Like, REALLY find the person you were before. You're number one, and you come first. It takes time while you're hurting to remember that. Trust me though : In time? You will. Be patient with yourself. It's coming. Don't believe me? Scroll through the comments.
Thanks again, Nick. Your videos have really saved my sanity, my self-respect, and my dignity. I look forward to more, and if you're ever in Arizona, beer's on me.
Great progress buddy. I’m glad you’re find your way back to you.
The fact she contacted you after 50 days just to blame you says it all.
Thank your for kind words and for supporting the channel.
Keep going. 😊
Thank you
Can we get an update?
@@Resin311 Sure! It's been a little over a year. As I said back then, my emotions were coming and going in waves. They still do, but it's not as extreme and I can kind of tell when they're coming. For example, a significant date or holiday will approach, and I've been through it once already so I know what to expect.
DId she contact me? Yes. After 10 months, on my birthday, like clockwork. My situation may be different than some others, but she knew full well that she was the one who did me wrong. Unlike a lot of 'get your ex back' advice, I wasn't cheerful when she contacted me. I went blank, honestly. I had kind of given up after 10 months anyways, as all the 'signature advice' from these so called dating coaches seemed to not add up. Best I could muster was a 'Thank you" over Facebook, and haven't heard anything since. She knows how badly she hurt me, and it's up to her to apologize and/or do the work to reconcile with me. I don't think she will, as she doesn't have the personality type to be brave or swallow her pride.
The last year has been...strange. As my previous message started off, I made all the knee-jerk reactions and mistakes. I did hurt the most I ever have been , emotionally. I didn't know how to cope. So, to fend off calling her and trying to change her mind, I watched all these videos over and over.and over. I could barely function, as I think I'm a pretty smart dude who couldn't comprehend how the hell I'd ended up in this situation.
I didn't personally buy into the ' better yourself to get your ex back' mantra, but I desperately needed a distraction to get my sanity back. So, I started learning to DJ. And with that, I made new friends. I cried my eyes out a few times over the last year but after awhile... I started to realize what real friends would do for you ( or me). When a relationship ends with betrayal, it's almost like that person dies and takes a piece of you with them. They're not your friend anymore. Maybe it's different for amicable splits, but with betrayal? No.
It took me a LONG time to figure out that I had molded myself into what this other person had wanted me to be, and suddenly it wasn't enough. I had forgotten what self-respect really looked like, and it's been a slow rebuilding process. I've watched a lot of psychotherapy videos, dating videos, and human nature videos. My best advice to anyone going through this is this : Like it or not, you've forgotten what made you strong. What made you special. Sure, you know it's there. And you don't have to bring it out to make others happy. You have to make yourself happy, and put yourself first. It's not cocky or egotistical, because if your ex won't take care of you, who will? I know it's a tough pill to swallow. Nick says it much more gently than I do, but you can't force someone to love you, no matter if you learn an impressive juggling act or get rock hard abs. Be. Happy. And while it might take awhile to find out how to do that, know that it is possible. Sure, the scars will always be there to remind you. But that's all they are. You're still breathing. Don't waste time worrying if someone else is worrying about you. If they are, they'll let you know. And if they do, remember that your self respect will help you make the right decision, not the easy decision. Cheers!
@joelvinson appreciate the well thought out update. I was in a 7 year relationship. I had 3 kids and she had 3 kids. We were a blended family for 7 years. She was dating the other dude 3 days after break up and had him move in next week. She told her kids not to contact me Even though they all do secretly to tell me they love me most nights. 3 weeks into the breakup so far.
Wish them the best and let go ! Don’t look for the rebound to fail or any of that . Let them go and know you can do better ! And it’s definitely important to block them on social media bc they will purposely post shit just to hurt you or make it seem like they’re so happy !! Nick is right go back to living life making new memories meeting new people focusing on you healing and evolving ! The world is bigger then your “ ex “
I saw my ex for the first time in a couple weeks. She was gonna drop of some of my stuff but she didn’t wanna see me then like 10 minutes out she said are you gonna help bring this stuff in (i wasn’t I was far) but I went back to help and we talked a little bit. She got emotional a little bit but I was great. I told her I was doing really good (I truly am) and I’m in a much better place. I told her what she was doing wasn’t healthy (monkey branching) and she said she had already stopped talking to the other guy. She said she would come see me next week or soon. I’m sure her seeing me moving on and being successful without her really effected her. We hugged a couple time and she went on her way. I’m doing no contact for a while until she reaches out to me. #1 tip be confident in yourself and focus on yourself. I wasn’t very sure if she would ever come back to me and after just one interaction I already feel so much better. Either she will want to come back soon or I’ll already be streets ahead and won’t even care.
Wish my situation was this easy.. 3 months no contact and heard nothing because she's with the guy she left me for
@@lewistaylor3267 you shouldn’t put any attention on her or her life. Work on yourself, improve yourself and be confident in yourself. When you don’t care about those things and only care about yourself the rest falls into place. You will attract better people, better women. If your still set on getting her back just focus on yourself and when your far superior than the last time she saw you she will notice. But don’t make anything about her. Keep moving forward and if you don’t look back you won’t even see her.
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Lewis, his situation isn’t easy, he simply responded appropriately. His ex got emotional and he was like thanks, but no thanks.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I didn't mean it like in comparison I just meant it as I wish my situation was easier where she did contact me and we could sort out a few problems that lead us to braking up but she was clearly monkey branching and decided to leave me for the other lad.. just feel like there's no answers to my questions from her because she ghosting me.. just wish it was easier and not like this
I have listened to so much break up coaches and this is the only one that helps. This guy gets it to me straight and I love it. Just subscribed.
Thanks for your kind words, I happy it can help. 😊
What always comforted me was the thought that most relationships, rebound or not, fail 😂 I mean what’s the chance of a relationship lasting till both are dead? I guess 1%. So they will break up one day…maybe in months maybe in years, but eventually they surely will. Sad but true.
The chances of success significantly improves when we do the work on ourselves.
All the while we keep getting with people to plug giant emotional wounds within ourselves, it was doomed to fail.
That’s so true, especially if one or both of them didn’t heal from their past and didn’t process their emotions or the breakup. That’s exactly what my ex did… she has a habit of being avoidant and emotionally unavailable and she jumped into a new relationship a month after we ended. We were texting a few weeks ago and it was so obvious that she’s still upset abt our relationship and she even admitted that she’s just been shutting it all out and still wonders if we would’ve worked out.
On one hand, I find solace in knowing it won’t work out and that she’s not over us, but it also hurts to know that the person I love more than anything is refusing to grow and heal.
In my opinion the majority of ppl who use rebound for healing are emotionally unaviable ppl, who can be narcissist sociopats and pshichopats or they just have some type of personality disorder. It is better to make some conclusion about the relationship and ask for professional help for healing.
Broad statement. Most people aren’t narcissists.
I always watch this video when I feel lost, so that I can get back on track. Thank you so much Nick. Your no bs advice is honestly the best out there. ❤️✨
I appreciate, thank you. I am glad the channel can be of help. I hope you’re feeling better today.
Thank you so much for this video. I love what you said "sit back and watch the car crash. Bravo!👏👏👏👏
My pleasure. I’m glad it can help you 😊
I used to think that. I'm getting to the place where I don't care if the car crashes or not. I just wanna be a better version of myself and focus on myself. I wish her the best, everyone deserves to be happy. She did hurt me beyond words and I did hurt her too. We were wound mates. You can't be in a healthy relationship when you're in an unhealthy place yourself.
@@chafaq Honestly, I don't care anymore. It's been a year since the breakup and I would say that I'm thankful for what happened and I'm more bless now. I'll say I wanna thank him for leaving because he set me free. I can sincerely say that right now. God bless
I loved this one, my mind has been in overdrive thinking of them together, he cheated with this one before we ended but won’t admit it. But I still think it’s a rebound. You give amazing advice. Helped me so much.
Sorry to hear that, it sounds very painful. However, i am glad you’re starting to move on and realising there is better out there.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I check every day for a new one from you to help me through.
I’m working on the next piece of content. It takes time and people asking for me for one to one breakup coaching as got very busy. I’ll will post it as soon as i can.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Of course, no problem. Thank you
Just uploaded 😊
My ex rebounded with someone she knew on social media a few weeks after our 6 years relationship. She told me herself that she is doing this to find herself back with this person who can give her the attention that she wants. They are in a long distance relationship for 5 months now and will be meeting face to face in Jan next year as my ex has booked a trip back to her hometown and will be meeting then for the first time… wish them well :)
Indeed, wish them well 😊
Car crash waiting to happen.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I find your channel the most truthful and worthwhile on getting stronger again in relationships. Keep it up Nick! Love your work ❤️
Aww thank you. I’m happy it’s of some help to you.
Dang dude you know alittle to much about what's going on with her, don't concern yourself about her, get out and explore your woman that's waiting on you
Warming up my popcorn 🍿
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Talk about outsourcing. 12 Years down the tube. Just got a "its not going to work between us". She did it in such a cold matter of fact. This after she trapped me into fight to use as an excuse. Shortly afterwards I heard that she was already preparing for new guy. This new guy recenly divorced or in the process. Emotionally she left long time ago but never showed it. She also seem to be unable to be alone or work through feelings. Our relationship left me drained and emotionally fatigued. I blamed myself only to realise fuck that. They are both bringing their own pain to the new relationship. I think she might be dismissive avoident. I just started working on myself. She is ice cold and now the new rebound is receiving her full attention. I gues she's addicted to the idea of love and the Honeymoon phase. Love is not supposed to be brittle but rather face it she found it easier to move on.
Sorry to hear that buddy. It’s a savage pain indeed.
I would suggest not seeing it as 12 years down the drain, rather it reached a conclusion and taught you exactly the lesson you needed to learn.
Its a pity that lessons don't come cheap these days. Keep up the good work.
Indeed, but it lead you to a better you and far higher quality women, because you raised your own value.
Bro, I really prescient work you are doing! I came here by mistake, and I am thrilled I did. It's tough, but your videos give me a lot of hope and motivation to move on. Hopefully, one day, I will get out of this shit and laugh at how silly I was thinking about the person who is not evolving and just moving from one relationship to another without time for any auto reflections. After your videos, I can see some patterns in her behaviour.
It's hard after seven years of a relationship when the person who you loved the most is in a rebound 1 week after you broke up, but I see the light. I am progressing, going on therapy, trying to be a better version of myself. She is making the same mistakes from the past, stuck in the same place. My brain is telling me that it's a good thing we broke up, but my heart still is attached to the illusion of the person I wanted her to be.
I fought for 1 year to go to therapy, but she didn't feel a need to do so. Now I know it is because she is not able to admit to her mistakes. She is not able to put work into creating healthy relationships. She is selfish and focused only on her needs.
Wish you all the best!
A happy mistake my friend.
I’m glad you’re taking to love yourself. Stay strong 😊
Dude are you me? 8yr relationship for me, I managed to get her go to therpy 2x close before our break up, 2 weeks after she jumped into a rebound and two weeks later decided to move with him to another country and got engaged to him and suddendly looks like she changed everything about herself that bothered me, but her core behavior is the same - avoid, escape, make herself feel better, not be alone for a moment..
My ex is with a rebound for I think 2 months or more. We broke up 3 months ago. His rebound lost her last boyfriend to heart disease 7 months ago!! My ex and she have been in a friends group for about two years so they know each other. They are both therapists!!!! You’d think they’d know better🤷♀️🤷♀️. This video has helped me a lot today❣️❣️they have only done fun things. No real life stuff so it’s been all fun. I’ve got my popcorn ready!!
Mine too.
Good video, she celebrated 1st monthsary while we broke up 1 week ago 😂😂😂😂, keeps hurting me, our memories still seems new, i'm in a tough situation of my life, but i can do this 😊
I’m sorry to hear that. I hope you’re feeling a little better today. Forward is forward, no matter how slowly.
Break up 1 year ago. She’s been with the rebound since then…..did they look happy? No. Yet they are still together because my ex can’t be alone. I’m moving on.
And seriously as you said: DONT ever take it personal. My ex is with a woman who is really unattractive and they don’t fit at all. Let them burn and go get yourself a so much better person.
My ex (33 y/o) monkey branched after being together for 5 1/2 years. The woman he left me for is married and non-monogamous (I think polyamorous), and he says that non-monogamy is the lifestyle that he wants now! That just one person is never going to be all the things he needs. They have been together for 7 months, but they're still just calling eachother "friends"..like it's a friends with benefits situation. But from what it looked like to me, they're acting just like a couple, but without a label on it.
He hasn't taken any accountability for anything, and has blamed me for everything. Said some very cruel things to me and made me feel like garbage about myself. He's only ever been in monogamous relationships, and we were eachother's first long-term relationship and first loves. It all just hurts so much, like he punched me in the face and stomped on my heart while I was down, over and over again. I don't even know what to think about this situation.
Just trying to move forward and better myself, but I think about him (and him with her, unfortunately) every day still.
What the heck should I think about this? Do you classify this as a rebound? It's such a unique situation I feel like
I don’t think asking if this is a rebound is the right question.
The question is, do I want such a man, and did he do me a favour by leaving?
Hey there! Im glad that you are giving away acual good information unlike the shitty ones out there!! Hope your channel grows quickly!! Thanks.
Appreciate, thank you. I hope you’re well.
Hey nick, thanks for these videos. They are helping a lot. But my ex is in new relationship. I can't seem to control my anxiety and I started to have anxiety attacks. How do I get past this?
Yeah, I’ve been there buddy.
Sometimes, we just need to let it happen. It has to come out.
You could try some meditation, high intensity exercise, or my book on breakup recovery might help.
Breaking Up with Your Breakup: a counterintuitive remedy for heartbreak amzn.eu/d/0MNANRG
He's right about them failing and not healing. I ended up becoming friends with her rebound. He said he felt as if she was attempting to make him as a carbon copy of me. He was saying she always talked about who I was fucking. She said it didn't bother her and he informed her she talked about it too much.
I would send the text messages and he could see she wasn't over me. He believes he and the other person was there to help her and give her attention while I was the main prize.
I leveled up. I changed careers and I took a 22k pay increase. My ex is miserable and I'm extremely happy.
Needed to hear this
I hope you’re feeling better.
Thanks bro I needed this
Thank you very much, you are tne best break up coach!
Awww thanks. The best at brutal honesty maybe 😊
My ex broke up with me, ghosted me and eventually blocked, literally on the next day I found her with another man through social medias, they are now happy together in her words and they go for marriage, crazy world we live in...
That’s savage buddy.
I’m sorry to hear that.
This behaviour was always within her, so it’s not a reflection of you.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I am on self-improvement and try to focus on myself, but I feel so betrayed and blindfolded that I did not see her behavior in the relationship. I hope one day things will change and she will see what she did but I will be healed and moved on...
@@xylophoneize what hurts the most is that everything you tried them to better they litterly do it with the next person …. Like i always told my ex stop blocking me when your mad leant
To communicate pls monkey branched and her last text was “ we agreed to no wasting time “ in my head I’m like that’s what I begged for 6 years …… I’m not even jelouse at the monkey branch or none I just feel so damn betrayed like if I only knew …she had the audacity to monkey branch like that and do me so dirty I would have walked away a long ass time ago before getting attached
@@imissme8313 She is for the streets brah, stay strong. 😊
I've been avoiding my exes emails that rub it in he has a new gf. I sent them to spam but I'm tempted to read them. I'm trying to take yoyr advice. I believe it's best. I know you're right. But ugh it's hard. Lol
What’s harder, ignoring an email or rubbing salt in the wound? Choose wisely. 😊
This is perfect advice ✔️
Thanks buddy, I hope you’re well.
We broke up a year ago after 2 years, she had a bf 3 weeks later who she got to know as a “friend” at the end of the relationship.
i’ve been told many times by friends and people in common what a downgrade she made but I’m just doing my thing living as I wish, still year later now they’re together but the thing is every now and then she’s looking for my attention checking up on me and then blocks me again and the cycle keeps going I’m so confused…
hoe is t afgelopen bro
I believe me ex is rebounding. I saw a travel bag of hers. And it contained a sexy outfit I bought her when we were together. It’s clear. Heartless heartless person. She’s getting baby sitters for our kids every single week. Evil in my eyes. I pray she doesn’t meet someone as good as me. Like you just said, I want to see the CAR CRaSH
That’s rough man and I’m sorry.
It’s only evil because it doesn’t align with your preferred outcome.
I know how savage the pain is, but people do what they want to do my friend, so may as well focus on healing and finding someone better.
It’s going to be okay.
What happened, did it crash?
@@roseamey370 crashed miserably. Regret came pouring in. Realised pretty quickly the grass wasn’t greener! I was shocked at how quick that happened.
Thanks nick your podcast best I know it’s reflection on him I already know that he has no self control or self worth his dating someone that’s so ugly anyone that showed interest I’m focusing on my career gym and travelling when I’m ready I’ll date again
I’m glad to see you’re harnessing your pain for good things. 😊
My ex husband that cheated on me moved on with the affair partner and they’re together for more than 6 months now. He just told me that he’s not happy and guilt-ridden and he still love me. But he also told me that he’s in love with her…..what is this supposed to mean??? I’m just confused, please explain this situation to where I can understand. We’ve been separated for 10 mos, divorced for almost 6 mos. He’s been asking for forgiveness too. Please explain. Thank you
I’m sorry to hear that.
Let me ask you this.
Forget about his words for a moment. What is the truth of his actions?
We have known each other of 8 months &We broke up in Jan after 6 months of relationship which was very committed. He had to bcoz he had to concentrate on his career and I was a distraction as per him. He has past traumas he didn’t deal with but he loved me. He said he never met anyone who was so emotionally fulfilling to him. I was an extremely caring & nurturing gf. He started crying while leaving and couldn’t get over me till Mar. now all of a sudden he is in love with an extremely beautiful girl from different country. That too met online. He is like head over heels for her. Is that love? & I am still processing the grief. Is that rebound?
Already to your previous comment 😊
Thanks
My pleasure
My ex dumped me for this guy and just after 1.5 months is crying and lost coz the new relationship has turned sour while ours lasted for over 11 years. This is what happens when one runs to pick a fancy stone and doesn't realise that they dropped a diamond in the process. I frel bad for her but she earned it herself despite my warning at the time of breakup that don't get into a rebound. Take your time and then commit to the guy but ladies and logic don't go together sadly ......
Is it possible for them to have multiple rebounds? It has been 6 months since our 3 year relationship ended. He has had 2 flings, and he’s now “official” with the second one. He came back to breadcrumb me after the first rebound ended. He thinks he’s “healed” but he’s not been alone this whole time. Additionally, the new girl lives in another country, but they visit each other.
Yes it is.
A rebounds are about where they are emotionally, it’s not a measure of time.
I hope you’re feeling better.
What if they broke up to get into this rebound? How would we even know if it is a rebound?
That might be more of a monkey branch than a rebound. They secured the new person before ending your relationship.
@TheLoveFix-Nick ahh ...I mean there were 4 weeks in between, but it was still very fast.
Either way, the end result is the same. As brutal as that sounds, it’s your prompt to work on your healing, and not focus so much on someone who would be in a new relationship so quickly.
I hope you feel better and I’m sorry you’re going through such a tough time. 🙁
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thank you so much. Your videos help!!
My pleasure. Be kind to yourself.
this works even if he was the one that broke up with me?? he made a playlist on spotify with some girl and he put a picture that i sent him before and we used to laugh at it together (some dumb meme) and he put songs that he would tell me reminded him of me so i know he is obviosly thinking about me but he is so immature about it and i know he pissed off at me so is he doing that to get back at me
also his reason for breaking up with me was because i was on the phone with a gay dude but him and that girl were kinda already friends before :(
A rebound is an emotional state of mind, regardless of you are the dumper or dumpee. The course of action is the same. Let them burn and focus on yourself.
My ex left me and I’m pregnant he is in a rebound I don’t wish him no luck 😂
Makes sense❤
Dang! Getting asked about rebounds on a daily basis!😅
It’s the most common thing in my one to one session. Rebounds are at epidemic levels.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick it’s wild how many people are not secure within themselves. you’re doing a good work my guy, thank you for the time and consideration you put into this. Through your videos and a few other TH-camrs, I’m grateful that I maintained my character and dignity through my whole ordeal because like you said she is definitely going down with the ship lol.
Thanks buddy. 😊
I’m glad you’re doing well and found a stronger version of yourself.
I did take it personally I message him and we had a nasty messages then I blocked him in all my social media accounts
I hear, but i would point out that you owe it yourself, and you have the power to respond in a healthier way by not contacting him.
My ex left 9 months ago for a old "friend". She was waiting for our relationship to get stressfull and used her chance to flirt with him. Well they are a couple now...a sexless couple which see each other once a months..sounds dreamy.
He told me she is so much like me...if you want someone like me you could have stayed with me. We have been together for 7 years and have a child.
Im interested how they will end.
I hope it will be painful for both.😂
That’s horrible man. I’m sorry to hear that.
Why are you still talking with this “friend”?
Friends don’t do that to each other.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick she is his old friend. i think she just did not find someone in all these years so she had to steal from somene....i just heard about it from a mutual friend of us.
I hear you, but not your circus not your monkeys.
Me and my ex we finally spoke yesterday she reached out to me asking me how am I doing and what's going on in my life will she contact me again?
I have no idea Kyle. All you can do is focus on the present moment. What happened yesterday happened and what happens today is what will happen. One has nothing to do with the other.
Focus on you and the present moment my friend.
Not sure if i take her back... most than likely i am. I hope her rebound dont work out. In all her relationships, they never worked... including with me obviously.
If you take her back after she rebounded, you’re teaching her that she can do whatever she wants to you, and you’ll be okay with it. That doesn’t have a future my friend.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick no brother is not ok what she did. It literally broke me in half but IF she does ever come back (i doubt it) we gonna have to work things out and ill set boundaries. I dont she is tho.. im trying to better myself but understand is tough brother
Dude if you take her back, she’ll walk all over you again. I see it everyday with my one to clients.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thanks for the feedback brother but we both know she aint coming back lol . Barely 2 months she officially with the monkey brancher. So he was well aware of me being with her. So i dunno whats gonna happened.
Theres another girl that really likes me and im not sure what to do. She'll be a rebound right?
You’d be rebounding too bud.
Is it necessary to block a ex to move on? I'm doing no contact yet I'm still having trouble to move on from him? Any suggestions?
Necessary? No.
What exactly are your struggling with ?
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What if he monkey branched to a friend who had emotionally attached herself to him... and now they both have blocked me?
The end result is the same my friend.
You focus on healing your pain and let wounded animals be with wounded animals. I hope you feel better. 🫂
@@TheLoveFix-Nick he treated me so well for the years we were together. It just turned bad literally the day after the split. I’ve never seen such a 180 difference in a person. It’s been 5 months and I’m trying everyday to recover but it’s so super difficult. It takes up so much of my brain capacity sadly. I created a good life for him in the city we moved to… he has a whole new group of friends on top of his new girlfriend… I doubt he’s even thinking of all the good we did for each other. 😢
I know she’s weak… and I always wanted to help her out as a friend. She didn’t want my help and only wanted his. I regret not talking to her when he and I were together before it was too late. I hope in time they get payback.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick but thank you for your words :)
That’s rough, and I’m sorry to hear that
It’s okay to be where you are and to feel it. The trick is to not stay there for too long.
He was but one chapter in your book. You’re the author and you can write new chapters. 😊
Hi Coach
Am on a no contact since April and now I found out that my ex girlfriend is on the same dating site as me.what should I do?
Do nothing brother.
Focus on your and let your ex do whatever she’s gonna do.
You can only control what you do. Don’t waste that gift.
Thanks
Do rebound relationships last?
Typically not, but some do.
Just forget your ex, second chances suck. I got back like 3 times gess what she cheated in me another time and nos is with him gim
Is it considered a rebound relationship if it's 3 months after the break up?
A rebound is determined where they are emotionally. Time isn’t much of a factor. However, most rebounds occur between 0 to 3 months post breakup.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick what if they are already friends before?still called rebound?
Possibly, but it’s likely to be more of a monkey branch than a rebound.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick mine is a ten year long distance. First five years we met a bit. Later years on and off. Last year we were close. He himself took to another level , video calls and all, This year Feb he ghosted me. Blocked me everywhere for a small tiff. People think long distances are weird and nothing. But it takes extreme efforts to keep up long distances. In two months post breakup i came to know he's in another relationship. My heart broke into pieces. Few months later he keeps her I'd as as bio for his private Instagram. Emotional relationships are harder than physical ones and I'm going through alot.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick we were in a relationship long distance ten years. First few years we met. Later we didnt and it was on and off. I still loved him but he started to lose interest in me. Last year he started moving closely with me again,video calls and all, this year Feb he ghosted me off, blocked me Everywhere with a small tiff. Two months later i came to know he's into another relationship. I was broken. People think long distances are nothing but I feel emotional relationships are way harder than physical ones. The pain is bigger. Now that his relationship is real and not long distance like ours , can it still be called monkey branch/ rebound?
What if the rebound is an arranged marriage?
Your ex rebounded to an arranged marriage?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Yup
I’m not sure how one rebounds to something that was arranged?
How can it be a rebound if it was arranged?
Omg I love you. I got my popcorn and Im waiting on the car crash. That will be the best day
My ex got into a rebound bum . She was stalking me with the car but idkw . She just took him to present to her family and going in a trip exactly where we was when she presented me 1st time with her parents. She s posting him on facebook and the bum got on public just his profile and cover pics. But now he has a photo with her on public . I swear i am 85-90% she told him to do it just to show to everyone he loves her lol. Her sister and parents doesn’t have him as a friend on social media. All the pics when they are together she done the pics and she is faking the smile i can know it . . I am really sure she is trying to keep me in the mud but my indifference is more powerfull . Any advice please?
Advice? This will be brutal. Stop wasting time on what your ex is doing, disappear, focus 100% on you and let your ex think happy happy thoughts forever.
The rebound will sip my saliva .not in my ex..hahah🤮
My ex rebounded after 2yrs of relationship, she just got into a new relationship like within a week from our breakup ,the guy was helping her just to get her n now she's into him and when i say i'll leave them alone, she says like i miss u, im guilty, blah blah .. I dunno wht to do.
That sucks man. I’m sorry to hear that. You establish boundaries with her. Tell her to only contact if she wants to reconcile, but personally I’d never take back someone who rebounded on me.
4 year relationship, she detached before dumping through text, and new relationship within a month.. is it still a rebound?
She actually worked on herself like gym and starting college again, and it hurts to know she won’t be back. The guys not dumb either, he knows she’s a dime and that she’s fresh out of our relationship and will do everything to keep her plus she doesn’t like being alone so they’re gonna stay for a long time imo :/ moving on feels so hard 5 months in now contact now.
Edwin it seems you’re making a lot of assumptions here buddy. On what evidence do you base this?
Given what I said in this video regarding what a rebound is, what do you think it is with your ex?
Any update?
I'm the rebound, no way she gonna leave me to go back to the simp ex.
Good for you, I wish you well. I’m curious however. If you’re so sure of yourself, why are you listening to rebound content? And why do you feel the need to comment on a public forum about it?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Good point, but I don't believe rebounds have a 99.9% failure rate. Especially if the rebound is high status with game... Since the ex keeps simping and posting on social media he's digging himself into a deeper hole. Some people just need to dust themselves and move on, things ended for a reason, better to just accept it. Build yourself into a high status man and find another woman that respects you. There's an abundance of women why keep simping for girl who disrespected you and left you for another man?
I agree high status and game can go a long way. Getting someone is easy. Keeping them is another story.
Fact is, people change and nothing lasts forever.
The second we think “they’ll never leave me” is when they leave.
@@jmmacalalag she will do the same shit with you, if shes still not doing it right now... You sound so insecure to her ex. That boy hit that girl first. 🤣 How is dicc taste? Putting your tongue on her mouth when you know it was busy
@@jmmacalalagYou're the definition of clown
She cheated on Him Shell cheat on You smh
As the "rebound" I was definitely much better than my ex's baby mama. Our relationship was far from toxic like theirs was. Just because we are the next relationship, doesn't mean we deserve to have people root against us. This is pretty much saying you desire for the other person to be hurt, even if we provide a healthy secure positive relationship 🤔
I’m not sure what you mean. Could you rephrase please?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick tip 1. You called the rebound "low hanging fruit" therefore reducing their humanity. That's another human being with real feelings. Its very dissmissive.
Tip 5 - "relax and watch the car crash" and you also refer to the rebound as "animals"
Hurt people, hurt people. Taking revelry in watching another person get hurt is promoting toxicity. Is the goal of cheering on someone else's heartbreak just because you dated the same person going to encourage self growth? It comes off very insecure: "well im sad, so im going to get popcorn and a tasty treat because i waiting to watch someone else be sad"
Response to tip 1.
Calling a spade a spade isn’t reducing someone else’s humanity. It’s calling out the actions of the person rebounding. Facts don’t care about feelings. Im calling the facts of a rebound. The facts are, most times it is low hanging fruit as In it’s a bad match and bad decision. It’s nothing to do with the humanity of the target of the rebound.
Response to your second point. You’re projecting your interpretation of my words back to me. I’m not responsible for your interpretations.
Human beings are mammals which is an animal. Again, I’ve not said anything factually untrue.
Im not promoting Toxicity and if you’re taking tip 5 literally, you obviously do not understand the message. The message is to wish your ex well with what is normally a sub optimal way to deal with a break up. 9 times out of 10, the target of the rebound is not as substitute as the previous partner.
If you honestly believe that I’m telling people to go out and buy popcorn and to watch a train wreck, I fear that you don’t understand humour and satire.
The message is, to not worry about your ex, to not be concerned what they are doing. Getting the popcorn is a metaphor. Everyone should be too busy working themselves to be concerned about their ex.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick sounds like you were really hurt before by your ex rebounding. I am sorry for that and hope you healing. Based on your own words it does come off as you are villainizing the rebound. "Intent vs impact" just because it may not have been your intent, doesn't mean thats not the impact of your statements. Hope you find peace. 🙏🏾
@@rhonnieminnie nah I can’t lie your point is the wrong mindset to go about this. That’s my opinion. There’s a reason why rebounds don’t work. Most of them end and that’s a proven fact anyway, the way you feel doesn’t matter lol
I'm in a very depressed state what if you guys were together for 2 years had a baby she's got kids of her own from a previous marriage and it was abusive but I was her first love and she was my first love and I messed the relationship up to pieces and now she's with a new guy after we broke up a couple weeks ago do you really think that this rebound would last coming into a relationship with a newborn and other kids from a previous marriage she's blocked me on all accounts and she tells me that he's everything I'm not or she's just trying to make me mad can somebody please answer I'm really going through the ringer here
Hi, my gf and I broke up one month ago. I did no contact but at the end of no contact, she unfollowed me on instagram but doesn’t block me on social media. She even doesn’t deleted from snapchat and on the contrary, she suddenly puts her location visible to me on snapchat. during these weeks she has not contacted me anymore. Why is she unfollowing me on instagram after 3.5 weeks?
@Thijsf only she will no the answer to that buddy.
As Rehvex, no contact doesn’t end unless your ex reaches out.