202: truth about marrying a filipina
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if you stay in the Philippines, the hardest thing is dealing with there extended families, I prefer the Romeo and Juliet illusion relationship without all the family interruptions
That's simple. . Just give then the loans requested. .
@jason wilson
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Im a Filipina with no foriegn man, I personally dont allow family or extended family affect my personal relationship to boyfriend or for my future husband to be someday, they are distance and separate thats my rules to protect my relationship to my future man.
@A NEW TH-camR IS BORN I would like that but I don't know how
Sorry if its like that im filipino and its annoying to me lols but thats how it is its just in our culture whenever one family gets married all extended families welcome him or her its sometimes really annoying i know 🤣😂
You've only been married for 2 months....wait 10 years and get back to me.....they change. I am in the process of divorcing a filipina now....total transformation.
Great what you are doing is the best.
God bless you.
Oh just because it didn't work out in your mind, it gives you all the privilege to generally judged ALL filipinas. Just saying.
My filipina keeps getting better and better. Yes i lived there for 4 years and we were together for over a year before we got married
I went through a lot of what you have talked about 10 years ago. What help me she ask me if she could go back to school and she did. So after she finished school she got A job and makes her own money, build up her credit and has a very high credit score now . And the Extra income really helps.she is very Independent not stuck at the house all day.
A pinoy carrying her own basket
I certainly know all about their Tampo.
She needs your support right now, but eventually she will become independent....then Bye-bye Charlie.....I have about 100 times more experience than you.
Most of us go through "tampo" but only we just want to be heard and feel loved. Just sit down with us and talk about it, just be honest, sincere and endearing. Not all filipinas have it but I think some of us do. 😃
It is rare. I'm on my 3rd filipina wife, and she is just as mean, vicious, rude, negative as the other.
She admits she is that way to get what she wants and to motivate her family.
We all resent her.
If after 20 years she doesn't get that she is destructive by now she'll never be a better person.
All this about a filipina being good is a put on.
Out of the hearts abundance the mouth speaks. And filipina talk too much.
Thanks for being real...one of your best videos
In my experience Filipina’s get very angry about the smallest things. They have such a temper and it can be hard to deal with.
You sound broken but don’t let it get you down. Trust me, you’ll both be fine - I’ve been there. She’ll always come back, just remember that.
Yes, I just spent Month in the Philippines with my Filipina GF, three times I found my self in a the shit house and had no idea wth I did wrong. Man, Had me wondering wth I was doing. But, it smooths out soon enough.
@@Mr052309 the key words are, "In my experience" relax he is just stating his experience. I have experienced the same exact thing with the two Filipinas that I have spent extended time talking with. I just spent a month in the Philippines with My GF and yes she did get mad at what I considered small things. & to be honest it ruined the day & sometimes two days of my visit with her.
Brown Brown Sgr I think you have a reading comprehension problem. I nor Richard said the word all. It is only our experience we speak of. If either of us said the word all, I could understand your point. When you read something, read the entire thing and understand the context in which the words are used. Or just go along in life and read and interpret what you want things be and never mind what the words actually say.
Brown Sgr how is stating one’s experience judgmental? You can go through life finding what it is that makes you mad if that’s what your looking for. You seem very angry to me. I hope you find some peace in your life.
@@Mr052309 so now plural mean everyone, not just more than one?
Awesome insight video, thanks for sharing, lots of helpful tips. We just got word that my Fiance's K1 had been approved and issued!!! So many emotions now, excitement, anxious, and a little fear.
But I know God brought us together for a greater reason and I feel blessed to have her in my life!
You left out one major thing, they are great cooks! I love Filipino foods! I'm gonna get so fat!
Oh ya!! Been married to my Asawa for 18yrs and didnt even know about TAMPO!
I been getting my Filipina girlfriend to come to uk on visit visa for few weeks at a time so she gets used to it here, so when we do get married it’s not quite so much of a culture shock to her. But I know what you mean when you say it feels rushed coz like I said to her would you really just want to get married and not know too much about the country you will live in. Well we have to wait for those visits due to work/money etc but I think it’s a good thing not to just suddenly rush everything.
Thanks Mike...I'm working on k1 now . I hope my fiancee is able to find some filipino friends like Yna
Thank you for this video. It's helpful.
Thank you for your insight I found it very interesting thank you for sharing
Great video! I’m Pinay married to an American guy for 16yrs now and I can say that tampo is pretty common and the silent treatment can be dragging on for few days before, eventually as u 2 are more adjusted to yourselves, things will be much easier to deal with and sort little things out causing the tampo. As for a guy, bf, partner etc u counter tampo with “suyo”. Don’t quite describe it in english translation but what it is , is a way on guys side to reciprocate ur Wife/gf with TLC like sweet gesturings in return, they’ll come out of the mode right away.
Mike, a really revealing video. Thanks for being honest 👍
The K1 Visa is not 90-days to get to know each other. the assumption is that you already did that. the 90-days is strictly to plan and execute a wedding. People get that point wrong. you should not be applying for a K1 if you have not already spent time and done all the things to know each other.
I am married out of my culture. It is difficult but after 32 years we are good. Don’t give up if there is more then one person in the house you will disagree.
Mike, since our music came up, the cut by DR Hook (When Your In Love With a Beautiful Woman) came to mind (and Yna is gorgeous). Are you familiar with the song. I always got a kick out of the comical lyrics, but there is some truth in them.
Great video Mike. True, I'm still seeing guys talk about their GS's and waves like SHE is going to this and that for ME! Sad...Anyways Im happy that all is good with you two, looks like a great team! Salamat din Po!
I still get new references from Family Guy that I've seen several times...I can imagine a non-English speaker having a very hard time getting the references in those type of shows.
I really like you saying you get that she is the one that more adjusting to do. That does not discount your adjustment at all but its nice to see that you see it from her perspective. I appreciate you making this video.
I made the same comment from my personal account (John O'Neill) but my name doesnt show up for some reason so I made the same comments from my hobby channel.
well said sir..
I've seen many philippine vlogs and understand everything you said. At least Yna has a man that is understanding, patient and a great guy. Her English is fine hopefully she will become more outgoing as time goes by. Best of wishes guys...
dale box1 Understanding and patience are half the battle. Michael is doing well!
Great insight my man. You spoke nothing but the truth
I disagree the K1 visa is flawed. It is up to you to spend time with the girl in her country to see if you want to marry her. It's not up to US to provide that for you, it's up to you. Purpose of the visa is once you have decided to marry her then you apply for visa to bring her home. The visa is not for you to bring her home first, then decide if you want to marry her. If that were the case and they gave you 6 or 9 months at home before deciding if you want to marry that opens the door for many, many people to bring a girl here for a good length of time with no real intention of marring her, just a good time for the guy and girl and that is not the purpose of K1 visa. You can not just open that door, would not be good for the country as many of those girls would not return to Philippines or whatever country they come from. We'd be flooded with those type visa's request. I'd be all in myself. Your damn right as would many, many others.
I tend to agree with you here Mike Masters . I will visit my girlfriend many years in a row before I consider getting engaged. We need a lot of time together to make that decision. Ones we are both convinced we are good for each other, we will go after that 90 day Visa.
@@astrangerinastrangeland
Exactly , if it takes many years then it takes many years, that's the reality of it. If you can not go there for 3 or 4 months even longer that is on you not the US to help you find a wife.
Hi brian from the UK here, did you get married in the states or the Philippines ? i have subbed thanks for sharing
Is that the walking dead on your tv? I love that show!
I feel your pain! the first two years here for my wife were tough no friends no family and very homesick we got pregnant the first month she was here and she cried a lot on more then one occasion she ask me to then them home(step daughter) with a lot of patience and love and support from my big family we made it this far and have added two boys to the mix(5 & 1.8) so stay strong and just ride out the waves.
Took a couple of years for her to start getting american humor
Teaching her how to drive was another whole adventure in it self
I wish you luck and all the happiness that my Asawa has brought and continues to bring me
Dave Allison ty
Thanks for the advice I could use some more she and I have known each other two years but because of covid I'm going over to see her as soon as possible would appreciate any input you have on the Visa program and I like your guitar I played for 50 years and my fiance is 18 years younger than me also
Agree with everything you said! I’m also 54 and my filipina wife is 35. She is making the sacrifice coming here to new world and trying to adjust to the U.S. and to someone like me who has already been married and like you not as romantic as she would like. I feel bad for her in so many ways but I know her life has improved in some as well. I think our biggest issue is our communication gap we have. I think she misunderstands a lot of what I say, and that’s frustrating to me the most. She has worked abroad as nanny in Dubai and Hong Kong for 10 years so getting homesick is not an issue for us.We did the K1 and court house wedding but going back to Leyte to renew our vows in December in front of all her family. New subscriber by the way! God bless.
Kirby Logan so many similarities 👍
Very nice video. I'm confused why did it take two years for the K1 to be processed? I have filed three or four for friends and one for myself and it's taking an average of six to eight months.
Thanks for sharing. The Temper thing is not for me. So it is great you told us upfront!
I told my wife this about American. If you don't stand up for yourself you will be walked all over. I told her i will take care of issues in America and she will protect me when we are back in the Philippines.
My next video is about the profound sacrifices of the Filipina, so I definitely agree with you. I think my wife has had to make the biggest sacrifices, as I realize all the things she has left behind. The first two years are the most challenging. I think not handling some criticism well is also normal. You’re correct on the musical taste (I like enough music to enjoy hers too, which is good).
It’s great for you to think through this like you have Michael! Good video.
My Filipina wife likes a wide array of music, from classical, 40's, 50's, jazz, rock, R&B, blues, soul, pop, ballads, country, bluegrass, opera, gospel hymns as do I, so we have no issues. I'm 61 and she is 39, been married 11 wonderful years. Neither of us like punk rock, heavy metal, gangsta rap, or grunge. Thank goodness. LOL.
@@poiqweee Wow that's an eclectic taste in music! I was surprised by how much 70s music I heard in the Philippines. My wife was singing a Bee Gees song in one of our earlier skypes.
@@LoveBeyondTheSea Indeed eclectic. Thanks to both our parents and having played musical instruments when we were in elementary school and junior high. Yes, the 70's music is extremely popular in the Philippines. The younger Filipinos, especially in the larger cities are more and more gravitating toward westernized modern music trends such as rap, computer generated synthesizer music and the like. Along with a more modernized city culture, they are becoming less respectful toward each other and a larger economic gap between wealthy and poor. Middle class has grown, but their middle class is still the US's lower income level. I could tell you some interesting true stories over my past 32 years of visiting the Philippines and helping the poor, that would boggle your mind. Especially regarding the graft and corruption in business, government and politics.
clark henderson My family has always appreciated music too. My asawa has told me some things, I just hope it’s better in four years!
@@LoveBeyondTheSea Living in the Philippines is not that difficult. The main issues today are city air pollution and the ability for a foreigner to afford quality medical care and get to a decent hospital in time, in case of a medical emergency. I'm an US based surgeon and that is why I extend you this advice. My wife and I have recently befriended a sweet, honest single Filipina public school teacher who resides in Albuera, Leyte, an area that does not get much TH-cam coverage. If you would like go check out her TH-cam channel and show her some love. She will be covering a host of topics over time, since she teaches full time. It is honest quality information. Ask her questions you might have or a topic you may want her to film and cover. When she has time, although she is very busy, I think she will try to accommodate you. Although, I am now speaking for her, which I shouldn't do. Here's her channel's title as typed: Philippine Teacher's Province Life & Adventures
Hello Michael , well said your a great couple together :)
Great video. I have a Filipina GF in the Philippines I am going to see her in person for the first time in person in Dec.. We are doing the opposite of you, I will move to the Philippines
Update?
You're right on most of what you're saying but when it comes to arguing everybody's different
Well said.
Best Wishes to both of you!
Excellent description of a Filipina in USA.
Ty for sharing , I’m hoping one day it will be my turn
@@Y.Mikasa hahaha why?
I hope I can bring mine here too..., it's been 4 years now.... good luck to you both
My wife was a OFW before she came to America, so I think she understands a lot more then if this was her first time overseas. I think Filipina's are much more affectionate then most American women so it does take a little time to adjust too.
Regional difference to a degree in American men, may effect how smooth it may go in America with a Pinay. I see you as a pragmatic great guy (good looking, down to earth) raised in wholesome Michigan. LA & NYC guys who have been around seem to instinctively keep romanticism set on high with a Filipina beauty. Best, JP
Different cultures and beliefs are not a problem when two person love each other the respect is their,patience,listen to each other not the ego.A good communication when one is in bad mood maybe the one is calm down.
I see you watch The Walking Dead. What does Yna think about this show?
My filipina wife never used tampons on me........i mean tampo ; ) she said her mother raised her and her 3 sisters when they were girls to never ignore their husbands if they ever got married. Also taught them to always have a meal ready and never ever raise your voice to your spouse. Of course the same mutual respect is expected. I'm pretty sure if she tried tampo all i would have to do is drop my pants!.......and she would instantly start laughing uncontrollably. I mean make love to me of course : ). Great video though! Never new about the tampons.....i mean tampo
Yup, everything you observed is pretty typical I would think. I can be pretty obtuse though. When Lynn pulls tampo on me, I ignore it totally because it does not really bother me. Two things we had to agree to early on in the marriage was the amount of money going to the family, not just the parents,. Finally we settled on she buys food and sundries for the family and a part of her car payment, and I use my money for everything else as I please, including a walleye boat. The other thing was she wanted to put photographs of my great grandfather and g-g-grandfather in their civil war uniforms (Ohio) out in the garage (probably over 2 feet tall), and put some junk from Bed Bath & Beyond on the wall in their place. She still tries, but knows I have to die first. If you want to make Yna really happy, buy her an Air Supply CD. God I hate the love dirges everyone sings on TFC and I know for a fact that Filipinos have some of the best bands out there if TFC would let them run the show.
I bet you it was a life-size statue of the Pope it would stay in the living room..-::)
@@orgami100 You would be wrong! We have about a 2 foot tall statue of the Virgin Mary in a living room alcove with candles, a crucifix and flowers around it, and a large pic of Jesus in the dining room. See! We are not THAT predictable!
RIGHT ON MICHAEL! REACH OUT IF YOU EVER COME W/YNA TO VEGAS WHITE MALE W/FILIPINA (FROM MINDANAO AS WELL)
like # 11 salamat....
hi sir Mike,I'm new here,I'm filipina hopping someday I meet someone for me and we live happy family 😊
shes lucky to have you and vice versa. age sometimes does matters but I guess it's just a matter of complementing and supporting each other. it takes 2 to tango . as you live day by day you learn each others flaws but you learn to compromise and meet half . I know you make a good couple . there is no perfect couple but I agree with you . you learn from each other despite of the culture differences life is all about meeting halfway and learning everyday
You said that right'"it take 2 to tango"
However if one start dancing not right then it's obvious what's gonna happened,I'd say also we need to know who we drink with,if we drink with crazy person therefore it could have a various end.Take care.
Just learn to sing all the air supply songs!
Journey songs too.
@@threexfromwsg another Big one!
I agree with them having a temper. My last girlfriend we would argue a little bit and 15 minutes later I'm over it. But not her she would give me a hell over it for about 2 days.
@Sundari M. You learn not to argue because you're going to lose anyway lol.
Just keep quiet when we have our temper...just cook something she likes or give her something she likes..after that we're back to being sweet!..
@@robloxkid8811 You should be always sweet as a wife to your husband,not only if you get something,love should be unconditional,tampo is completely wrong and inacceptable borderline behaviour.
Not all Filipinos/Filipinas are all the same. Just like anywhere else in this world, there are bad and good and very good. There are not educated and educated. Its just depend on how and where you meet her. Some Filipinas are bad but there are also non Filipino men who wants to marry Pinay just to have a servant for free, treat her like disposable object. And worse, they can murder and bury easily if they want to.
Godbless you and Inna.
Just remember where you met this person.
She's doing the sacrificing? Come on Man
They are just the same when living in the Philippines,.....very tempermental women.
Mello89, You don't think the one that has picked up their life and moved to a strange land is making a huge sacrifice and adjustments?
@@astrangerinastrangeland They are all too willing. It's their dream/goal, just an investment. Do you think they would move to another impoverished country for love?
Mello89 Mello89 if he was to move there he would be the one making the major adjustments and he would be the stranger in a strange land.
She would of rather me move to the Philippines then her to move here. She moved here for me.
Hello,I like your honest descriptions about Pinay behaviour,I admire your patience with tampo,I was wondering if you expierenced tampo with your wife before you've got married or after,I wouldn't tolerate this borderline behaviour but everybody is different.Take care and thanks for sharing your life experience with woman from different culture.👍
I enjoy your videos. Before you married Yna, you mentioned that you had an issue with the idea of having to send money to Yna's family on a regular basis. Have you changed your mind regarding this financial issue? I had a Pilipino girlfriend and near the end of the relationship she began asking me to send money to her family in Mindinau . I was only seeing her on Sundays since she was living/working at her tita's house so it wasn't much of a relationship. Continue with the videos and have a nice marriage.
Glenn Hattori we sent her daughter some money for school supplies
I'm a Filipina and I don't send money to my family in the Philippines. They have to work because life here in the USA is difficult with lots of bills to pay.
@@buhayjumerika9388 Thank you. Please don't get offended by my question. I just want to learn. Have a nice day! :-)
@@glennhattori5464 I'm totally not offended. Actually it's really true that people from the Philippines are asking money not only the Filipina gf to her American guy. Now that I'm here in the USA, my family, friends and some relatives thought I have more than enough $. Lol. I couldn't blame them because that was also my way of thinking before. Lol. As for me, I tried to explain to them truthfully what really is the life here while encouraging them to do what the Americans do. Work and earn your money and never ask for it.
IT'S BEEN 2 YEARS NOW, WHAT'S UP TODAY?
Yes, any updates?
"Tampo" is a Filipina's way of saying that she is upset with you and wants you to say sorry. But in a different way. It is not the same as being angry. She just needs affection. It doesn't have to be about giving material things to snap her out of it. You have to do better than that. It requires some patient though. You just need to make her feel that you are sorry.
How can I say sorry for something which I have no idea for what,for me tampo is borderline immature behaviour which shouldn't have a place in the serious relarionship it's not kindergarden or mental institution only relationship.
I have learned how to handle Tampo. I wont tolerate it.
I think Yna will become happier if she started to work and earn some money. Btw, if you two will get divorce before 10 years of being married she will not get anything from you. And if you die, please God no, she couldn't also claim any benefits unless you write a will. It's your kids who can claim. I've heard this from a lot of Filipina. K1 visa is not flawed after all. But I think in the affidavit of Support, USCIS made sure that you are capable enough of supporting her needs within that 10 years. But everything will become better if she gets her work permit/ gc and is able to buy her own girlish needs and help you pay the bills. I'm saying this because I went through thesame process. I feel more dignified now that I'm working and my husband and I are investing into something for retirement. In 2 years, we were able to buy a property in the Philippines. You two should support each other. Goodluck to you guys.
Well said"support each other"not punished with tampo.
55 to 35...So if I'm 38 I should be able......to land an 18? I like your math.
You can certainly land an 18 year old, But, WHY THE HELL WOULD YOU WANT THAT? seriously, what ever could you have in common with someone so young? It's a plan for disaster in my eyes.
Go for a Filipina in their 20's-30's...more mature and understanding.
Im filipina but im not typical person of tampo bcos that attitude is immaturity.i think its depend how a person grow,beliefs..not all filipina also sending money to their family.it is depends in the family where she belong bcos their are family or parents here that they do not ask support in their children.it depends in the daughter if she wants to help or sending money to them.
I wish someday I will meet the one for me.i wish a happy family someday 😊
If I have to wear earbuds then I'm not going to listen so turn your volume up
Filipinas are extremely sensitive. Yet not very sensitive when talking about you.They do not seem to be able to handle much in the way of everyday pressures in the U.S.They very much need things to be simple and easy.
One thing I can tell you is they all have bad tempers, never met one that didn’t
Every woman is little different . I have been married once before. My philipina wife is more compatible to my personality. I like Tampo because gives both sides chance to collect there thoughts.
What is tampo?
How the philipina woman will not talk.when angry .
You lost me at "... no different than any other culture across the world..." but I will back you up 100% on the "Tampo" thingy.
How long before she can claim 1/2 of your assets in divorce ?
Do,do, do Da,da,da that's all I got to say I dunno know how long does it take for any wife to do that??
@@myfilipinoadventure7297 I learned from my other Filipina friends who have been here in the US for long that a Filipina should be married atleast 10 years to his American guy to acquire some benefits. That's why the Affidavit of Support wants to make sure that you will support your Filipina wife for 10 years, not forced her to work to pay half of the bills coz she will not get anything from you. Lol..
Thanks for the Tips hey I've been in a relationship with a Filipina for 2 and a half years myself we're currently waiting on her Anulment to process she currently lives and works in Dubai both of us have been single for several years and both have 2 grown sons I went to the Philippines last March for 2 weeks and met her and several members of her family and plan to return this coming March her anulment is due to process in March at which time we will be filing K1 upon my return to the US I'm an hour north of Grand Rapids and would love to meet up with you guys to chat any time any where Thanks again 😉
Also I'm 57 she's 46
I’m from Grand Rapid and married to a Filipina too
Joe Mor
Good luck with that annulment process going ahead on schedule. I would not make any plans based on that date.
2 years approve my wife was only 7 months? how come 2years huh?
we were together for 2 years, took 9 months for visa
@@myfilipinoadventure7297 ah okay yes
i cant travel there i have copd
Tampo is witchcraft lol
Witchraft is not enough said,it's a mental disorder called borderline.
your lucky to have found a good one as most of them are scammers that are only interested in your money
Thanks I'll break up with her now.
2 years??????????????????????????????????????????????????????
Filipina will have long tampo but if she's an American wife, there's no more tampo anymore. She'll file for divorce right away.
You have been played.
Yeah man I know about that stupid tampo my wife gave to me all the time that tampo stuff she moved out on me about 2yrs ago she changed when she got her green card and a job it was something stupid the reason she left me
I bet you she didn't give you a tampo before you've got married,they treat with tampo to provoke you leave her and punish you ,she used you to get a green card as well,tampo is borderline or mental behaviour.
You talk as if your wife is a stranger and everyone online knows you well