Thank you for this and may God bless you more! :) 1. Secure with herself because her identity is in Christ. 2. A respectful Christian woman. 3. Outward beauty expressed through modesty rooted in her character. 4. An emotionally predictable woman. 5. An inviting Christian woman. 6. A woman who has a genuine relationship with God rooted in truth.
Feel like I’ll meet Jesus before I meet my husband. 1) Church-All married 2) Online-All weirdos 3) Bible Study-All women 4) Work- All secular 5) Youth Group-Too young ...... and on and on we go....
Christina..if your only in church looking for a relationship your there for all THE WRONG reasons ..I met my husband in my Sunday School class...we've been happily married 23 years..
Is the youth group really too young though? Are you writing off Godly men potentially because they're a little younger or do you actually mean they're minors
@@vivaeuropa i mean I have a friend who was married last year she is 4 years younger they met, married and now have a beautiful baby girl over the course of 13 months. so young people may work not saying it's for everyone though.
I like that point about a woman being immodest. For me, if a woman is immodest, I'll have trouble not lusting after her. And,for that very reason, I won't seek any further relationship. I simply don't want to be around her because she causes me to lust and that is against God's will.
Mary Swenson Better things come to those who wait. Wait on the LORD. And if not , maybe the Lord wants you to himself. It is much better to be single than to be with the Wrong Person ,For Sure.
Susan Carter lol I've been waiting awhile and ya I think waiting on God is great advice. I was just expressing that I'm ready for committed relationship I promise I'm in no hurry lol I'm going at like a snail pace. I'm good at single I just miss being committed to someone.
Mary Swenson I know what you mean, my friend has been single for 7 years now and is waiting on the Lord to send her the RIGHT man for her, but I know at times it can be a little lonely, you hang on sister, wait on the Lords choice for you. Talk to the Lord and sing praises to him when you feel loneliness, it helps. I wish you the best. 👍🏽😊❤️
Susan Carter well I've only been single a few yrs and I'm a single mom of two but I'm sure God will show me in the life circumstances I experience who I should spend my time with right now I have 5 jobs and 2 children I'm like a single Joanna Gaines no rush to find a man just waiting on God to find a man of God for me
GREAT reasons and I certainly agree. Also, what's extremely attractive to me is a woman using her gifts! My Lord, a woman using her gift, regardless of what it is, is an absolutely beautiful characteristic. That's not to say she's fully in her calling, but she's flowing in what God has placed in her. I could sit around her all day and not say a word but just marvel at what she does. So to my dear sisters in the faith, use your gift, whether it's in the church, arts and crafts, music, business, leadership, etc.
You are so right about the Christian man being turned off by an immodest woman. Seductive dress in a woman does not bring respect for the woman, quite the opposite.
This week God showed me who is the lady He has for me. And the thing that attracted me to her was to see how she really loves God. She's a single mother and I'm already visualizing being a husband and a father at once when we get married. It's really exciting. I always wanted to be a dad.
Thank you for teaching regarding modesty. Women and even especially Christian Women have forsaken dressing modestly and respectfully even when attending Church!!
Well, now I See what is attractive about the girl I like. I couldn't discribe it, but now I know what I like about her character and her spiritual side as well. Thanks Mark
This is extremely well worded and explained! Thank you brother for your understanding and sharing this in a very clear way! So important christian brothers and sisters.
Thank u . Am African and respect for men is a major issue . you just spoke like an African we Fear God a lot we run away from immorality. I kept my self as a celibate and God has bless me with a Good man a pastor .
Beth T it’s a generalization? Just like white people often generalize other races when there’s (numerous) glaringly obvious evidence toward the contrary.
wow wow wow i bless the lord for you sister, i too i am 100 percent keeping my self pure for my future husband although i find challenges with friends who are men and others who think i am desperate coz they haven't seen me with anyone. I am moving my 27th day but still believe God with pure waiting and i wish its a husband.
This is such good teaching! There’s been a lack of this kind of teaching in the church and in families, especially here in Norway where we don’t really even have a real dating culture. People just try the best they can. I wish I had heard this teaching 15-20 years ago! Thanks:)
Thank you so much. You are very good teacher. You make each point very clear. I have to have faith for a christain partner. There arent many around where I live and even more difficult to find someone who love God as much as I do. But still have hope that one day God will bring us together.
Adam Hosier No, i dont live in the U.S. I live in North of Thailand. We have 2-3 months of summer, long rainny season and four months of cool weather. The heat is not that bad after you used to it and you can enjoy many outdoor activities during summer and we have dilicious tropical fruits too. Have you ever visited Thailand? I lived in Texas during my college years.
Shelah Vong No, I've never been. I wish I could afford to travel. Not many Christian women left between New York and Chang Mai it seems. :) A you tuber I watch lives there. Beautiful country and people seem nice there. Texas is too hot ;) I kind of like the rain though.
Adam Hosier If you hear from a man that s there arent many christian women left here then it seems like both christian men and women here and there feel the same way.
Maybe I over looked it, but I didn’t hear you mentioned physical beauty. Those 6 qualities, I totally agree with and they are a must but one thing about any or most men is no matter what she looks like he desires an attractive woman. I’ve read it all in the scriptures with Abraham, Isaac, Jacob and more. I do believe inner beauty can not be over looked at all and it’s responsible for a eternal strong relationship but just remember in most cases the first thing you’re going to notice about anyone is there appearance...
I agree and I disagree with one thought he had. My ex husband was so infatuated with his ex gf physical appearance, she cheated on him with his boss and best friend and still took her back (we were friends for 18 years) then when we got married she came into his life and he was so infatuated with her appearance it helped (though there were many other things) destroy out marriage. He couldn't give her up bc of her looks and was and has been very vocal about it. So a lot of men can be treated horribly and still find that women beyond attractive.
Honestly, I kindve wish this wasn’t a thing for me. Why did God make men visual? It’s not like I couldn’t have gotten married. My ex was desperate to be married, but deep down I found her ugly. I still find her ugly even though she’s been with another man for over a year (he’s ugly too). I am afraid I will never find a woman who is deeply attractive to me on all levels. Part of me wants to just settle, but the other part knows it’s a living hell to do so. Walk wisely, my brothers. If you don’t find a girl attractive at first, there’s a good chance you never will. It’s better to be single and lonely than married and lonely. And for my sisters out there: don’t fret if a guy isn’t into you. There are plenty of other men who will be. Go with Christ’s peace, my friends.
I asked for the Lord to give me confirmation while watching this and he sure did. Thank you for your obedience to God's will! Boy it's hard sometimes waiting for the best and ordained but this too shall pass. Lord you work all things for the good of those who love you and are called according to your will. We love you and may we be joyful in our wait. No one can complete us like you can! May these young women of faith know that sometimes our heavenly father just wants to spend time with us first! We love you. Your plans are always better than ours! Your timing is always perfect! In Jesus name, Amen!
Spot on, Mark! No. 1 in particular is probably the single most attractive trait in a Christian woman. Ladies, you are coheirs to the Kingdom with Christ (Rom 8:17 for the full verse)! This is not only beauty, it is strength. Even better is that this can never be taken away. 'She laughs at the days to come' as it says in Proverbs 31:25. Know who it is that holds your future and smile because of it. God bless!
I enjoyed the video! I found an additional verse that could shed more light on point three; 1st Peter 3:4 "Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight"
These are good points! 1. My identity is only growing more in Christ 2. I am pretty sure I'm respectful, or try to be at least 3. I currently dress modest, but that will be something for me to keep an eye out for in the future 4. I am pretty predictable most times lol! 5. I'd say I'm inviting 6. My relationship with God is genuine and not fake like how it was two years ago Looks like I have all of the qualities! Now I just need to stay humble. Thanks Mark for more clarification!
Thank you Mark! I I'm in the dating ring since June. Dated some and I decided not to compromise on my Christian believes and purity as a christian- even though get upset when someone ghosts me or discontinue after some dates. But I was encouraged after listening to one of your videos that God was protecting me. I am celebate for the past 16 years after the dissolution of my marriage. Since God's promises are upon me, waiting for my 'Kingdom- husband'. Your videos are very encouraging because at my age group, dating in a cut-throat world because many men are looking how financially settled a woman is. I am submitting myself to God.Thanks again.
Thanks for sharing. I’m inspired by your example since I need to have higher standards for my sexual purity. If you can survive all the rejection because of Gods protective standards so can I! I believe I will sleep much better knowing I am living out gods will for my life than trying to compromise around the edges. May God give you the desires of your heart!!
I am a widow for more than 3 years, and I feel that Christian men are afraid of me. My husband passed away with brain cancer. I cared for him up to the end of his life. I haven't dated no one since my husband died. I am ready to date again, but the brothers and sisters in Church call me "the young widow" I don't know if that can effect on a man dating me?
lisapulino First, I'm so sorry for your loss. You were what God wanted for your husband. How precious to have taken care of him. An honor to be able to say, " till death do us part" the enemy would have you think that was a negative. No matter what the ppl say...if God has someone for you, nothing anyone could say would stop it! Rest in knowing, Jesus knows the desires of your heart. What doors He opens no man can shut. What doors He shuts no man can open. The scripture says a man who finds a wife, finds a good thing. Proverbs 18:22 Rest in that, knowing you don't have to do a thing. God will work His perfect plan! GBY
lisapulino maybe. I’d address it nicely with them. Also it takes one year for per three years you were with your husband to become ready for another person.
Please my brothers and sisters if you could find a minute to say a little prayer for me. I’m at peace with my singleness but satan keeps attacking me everyday saying things like “you’ll never find the one” “no man can ever love you” “you don’t have the love factor” (whatever that even means) and these attacks keep getting stronger by the day threatening to drive me crazy. Please say a word of prayer for me. Thank you and God bless.
Jesus never married any woman so that you can get married and Jeremiah 29:11says that God has good plans for us...your soul mate is on the way 👌 💯 🙏 and psalms 109 say WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT I THE LORD WILL MAKE IT HAPPEN 🙏
This is actually very encouraging. There is a guy who is very interested in me and we're doing our best to put our trust in God and see where God leads us.
5:15 man, what he saying is so true... Like obviously a woman can wear whatever she wants, she can wear "sexy" dresses if she wants but she shouldn't expect the right Godly man to be attracted to her, because we are trying to please God more than pleasing humans, so woman shouldn't think they can get a godly man the Worldy seductive way....amen broo
Thank you for the video. Men need to look on the heart first of a Godly Woman and then her outer appearance because all that glitters is not gold. I know that there has to be chemistry, some attraction but that is not first or foremost. Sadly, that is what a lot of men see and desire. Good Godly Women come in all shapes and sizes. Look beyond the physical. Look for the Spiritual first and go on the leading of the Spirit of Abba Yah and you will get a Proverbs 31 Woman. You both will be blessed.
c g ur right but the bible ses to take care of the body u are given so that is a thing with me but u will get what u are so sorry but if u are fat u will grow in a fat women or man if u are not clean u will be given a Un clean man or women if u in sharp love the lord more then any thing then that is what u will get etc but I'm the type of man that thinks that there is no such thing as love in this day an age I mean that is it least that is were Im at to day was not like that tester day or ever but I've just given up I'm just focusing on my life like I have for 5 years now but with out caring about a wife God will bring her to me wen it's meant to be if it is but I hope u have a blessed night in Jesus name amen
tyler Schaale Your comment was a perfect example of the mentality of some men. You spoke of the PHYSICALITY of the woman and NOT HER HEART. What you seemed to be saying is "fat" women cannot be attractive or Godly. Someone " unclean" cannot be Godly. You missed the whole jist of my point. Abba Yah looks at the heart and what is inside, not the physical aspect of a person, as in this case, I was speaking of women. A lot of men only look at her physical appearance overlooking what may be a woman with a heart for Yahweh EVEN though she may not be as attractive as a model. I pray that you and some men will go back into your Bibles and read what Yahweh says about how a man is to treat a women attractive or not. Be blessed.
c g I did not say that lison to what I'm saying ok I sed u will get what u are glutny is a thing so if u take that demon u will not reseve the best and yes u should not be fat God is agents it look in ur bible ok sorry but I must tell u this cuz it's my job as a fallower ok God u most no ur rong in what ur saying fat ppl should not be ur doing something rong if u are fat just saying but if u are fat u can get a husband or wife yes and will get what u are sorry have to let u no cuz God tells me to worn my brother's and sisters of this and wen they are saying or doing rong k God bless and have a nice day in Jesus name amen
Really liked this topic There were enough areas discussed to give me a better understanding of what to do and do as I wait for my future husband! Thanks for taking the time to do this. May God bless and protect you always in Christ!
Listen ladies, being inviting is so important because it is one of the biggest reasons I am single. Lotta girls like to complicate the get to know process. It’s all we do to know when you’re not interested in so we’re not gonna pursue something when you’re not allowing us to pursue.
Great video and job of breaking down these points. As some have said, (yes) there are indicators of what qualities in a Christian man are appealing, too-as another of this channel's videos walks through :) Theme for both (bottom line)? It's basic of commandments. Love God above all else.. with all your mind, heart, and strength.. and body (Romans 12). What's that look like for each? Litmus test: The fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-26). We see those present?... it's attractive in a potential partner. Problem is that the world culture has so engulfed us (to varying degrees) that we're consumed with the lusts or "deeds" of the flesh (Galatians 5:19-21). 2 Timothy 3:2-5 describes the carnality of even what Christians are told and pressured as "must haves" in a partner. Couple that with the Galatians passage, and it reads like this: "It's about you. What makes you happy. No rules, nobody can tell you differently. It's your life and whatever serves you best. If they're not about that, send em packing. You have no room for that nonsense in your life. You want someone who will treat you like a king or queen... who will gladly fulfill all of your desires; basically give you whatever you want, because you "deserve it." If they're "worth your time," they'd better be: absolutely fine-looking and dress with style, successful in their career and have a nice bank account (willing to regularly spend money on you), have a nice car and house, be into all of the things you're into, be well-liked and admired by others.. and good in bed-because you gotta try it out before ya buy it, right? Oh and always remember: "If they can't appreciate me on my worst days, then they don't deserve me on my best days," because Marilyn Monroe was/is the ultimate Christian values and dating role model, right?" See where this type of thinking leads? = broken hearts-ville AND... away from God. With this mindset, "self" has replaced God, so no human being will ever measure up. It's rooted in idolatry, which is why it'll always fail. God doesn't only tell us to avoid idolatry in all forms because He's "a jealous God" (which should be enough in itself)... but also because He knows that anything we make idols out of in our lives (even another person or ourselves)-will always break our hearts and leave us feeling empty inside; something He will never do, being able to fulfill us completely! :)
I appreciate your content. I am in a season where my focus is on God and His will for my life but, I do desire marriage to a Godly husband, at the right time. I am committed to doing things differently as, I have failed in the past.
Hey don't be discouraged at all. Keep being you and let your focus on God be strong. You didn't fail in your past no way, it's a leaning experience. So be proud of yourself for picking yourself up. God bless you abundantly 💯 I hope all is well with you.
I have failed to maintain my sexual purity in dating, but the resulting sleeplessness over my sin is causing me to take a strong stand against it and I am now ready to flee sexual temptation and end a relationship that is not Christ-centered.
duizhang I think they are just about the same. Almost , exactly the same. A Christian woman wants, would like, a man that Loves the Lord MORE than her cause he could help her grow and guide her IN the Lords way, the TRUTH and not the wrong way. This is a hard world we're in, and it's going to get harder before it gets better, and Christian women know that and want smart and strong men that know Gods ways are the best ways.
Humility is definitely up there on the list of traits, along with compassion. Can you imagine having to submit for the rest of your life to a callous, arrogant person? That right there is possibly a fate worse than death...
Also, emotional maturity. In the words of Pete Scazerro, "Is impossible to be spiritually mature if you're emotionally immature". I'm sure Christian men find this desirable in Christian women as well. Same for the first two traits I mentioned as well.
So many valid points!! Ty for putting this out. Am currently making a list of traits / desires for me personally that im seeking to find in a future wife. Ty for your input! Sincerely helped me make the list a lil longer lol. Am seeking the lord in all of this and am grateful for your input!! Carry on as u were and may his countance shine upon you! Amen.
Hi! I have been watching your videos and want to thankyou! I am single 30 year old christian woman, im struggling with #1.being secure , 2. Showing respect, 4. Being consistent and 5. Being inviting . I really want to be all those things , but honestly im human and flawed with may insecurities. Could you give us some practical advice on how to be inviting, it really is not easy being a girl and being vulnerable and getting ignored. It has happened to me all my life , so its hard to believe a christian man is honestly interested in pursuing me and i want God to heel this things, but honestly haven't figured out how...Thank you again!
My advice to u as another woman: .stop looking to get married focus on knowing yourself & accepting yourself. Being respectful of who? If u aren't married--- normal respect for any person is all that is needed to be respectful. I think you might be wanting it too much & have a quiet desperation. I've been there. Not judging. Pray that God will change you to be happy & content as a single. Pray in faith for a husband & marriage & for trusting the Lord. Ask God to make you into who He wants. He will do it sis. -💖Luv in Christ.
Michelle.Wiesner: you.can do.some things to improve your chances a) always be yourself b) seek feedback/advice.from close friends or family members. C) most importantly pray to God let him know how you feel and ask for his guidance.
Excuse me but is it not in error to claim that sexual attraction plays NO part in a man choosing a mate? He's looking for someone to make babies with. Yes these other qualities are very important, but you can't have an asexual marriage.
I’m a single Christian male almost 3 years in Christ and I agree with all these.. im waiting on My abba To send me to my beautiful queen 👑 when it’s time. Til then im on the wait til it’s my time
I’m a Christian man , I’d love to have a woman who loves gods word ! Athletic is a plus and always searching for fun and gods joy! A woman who takes care of herself .
Yes all of these are true. If I sense the girl is relying on me for self esteem and she isn't seeking a relationship with God or if she dosent open herself up for me to pursue I just stop pursuing all together instead of texting every once or 2 days I may only once or twice a week because if there are other guys she chose over me I'm not going to compete knowing I give my all to prove from the beginning
These "evangelical feminists" will have much more trouble finding husbands. I don't understand how the gentlemanly act of pulling a chair out or opening a door for a woman is demeaning. That's stupid.
It's attractive because when it is done in Christ Jesus 🙏❤️ it shows love, honor, and respect to God first then towards himself and that person he seems to pursue
Ah, I’d like to say women and men receive love in similar ways. Women also crave being respected, and too often men don’t see that as an important thing to give us.
@@mogenerosity1750 women like to be respected and not belittled aswell, that is her point, and being a woman what she is saying is true. Women can see love in a similar way
God said surrender your Heart not your garments.. And a wife knows her Husband when she him and present her way in the right and Godly way.. When a Man is strong in Christ he would know that their no Good thing that the Lord would with hold from those who walk uprighly meaning everything would be good in Mind Body& Soul.. Where is your Belief?
I always pray for a great Christian woman who has never been married,never had children,white like me,I mean great as in praying for me alot,reading the Word together,going to church together,treating people well,putting up with me,understanding my quirks,would want to be with me whether I am doing well or not,now I was just talking about the kind of woman I am praying for,what I bring to the table is another topic!!!
Men are supposed to be captive of every thought the Bible says but for men who are struggling it is bad for a sister to wear things that make a brother stumble.
I am a light and love spiritual woman not Christian but am falling in love with a beautiful Christian man who is very respectful a real southern gentleman who follows the words of Jesus. We are so opposite but so much the same and are drawn to eachother by our spirituality.
It always starts with being intentional. It won't happen by accident. We all have to be humble to see our flaws, repent, and seek to live different as we rely on Christ. The more we try the better we will become. We will fail often but in the process we will keep growing.
Hello Mark, thank God for ur life, I, m learning a lot from u, I would appreciate it much if u could discuss about a widow who hav kids, and have a desire to remarried again,. I, m a beleiver of christ, n I'm 45 y old now, thank u
Thank you for this and may God bless you more! :)
1. Secure with herself because her identity is in Christ.
2. A respectful Christian woman.
3. Outward beauty expressed through modesty rooted in her character.
4. An emotionally predictable woman.
5. An inviting Christian woman.
6. A woman who has a genuine relationship with God rooted in truth.
God bless you too!
Thank you for the summary
Thank you for the summay!
Amen..
instaBlaster.
1. Secure with herself.
2. Respectful
3. Modesty
4. Emotionally predictable/ men like patterns.
5. Inviting
6. Genuine relationship with God.
I for one like to meet a girl whose humble and lowly and doesn't brag or worry about her achievements and accomplishments in life.
Modesty IS SOO attractive!
I know right ✅ 😩 😫
Dear future husband, I’m praying for u..Keep focusing on God’s work 🙏🏾
Feel like I’ll meet Jesus before I meet my husband.
1) Church-All married
2) Online-All weirdos
3) Bible Study-All women
4) Work- All secular
5) Youth Group-Too young
...... and on and on we go....
Christina..if your only in church looking for a relationship your there for all THE WRONG reasons ..I met my husband in my Sunday School class...we've been happily married 23 years..
@@mariankeller5852 she’s just using it as an example . It is very hard to find the right person but God timing is perece to so continue to glorify Him
Just let go and let God bring the right person.
Is the youth group really too young though? Are you writing off Godly men potentially because they're a little younger or do you actually mean they're minors
@@vivaeuropa i mean I have a friend who was married last year she is 4 years younger they met, married and now have a beautiful baby girl over the course of 13 months. so young people may work not saying it's for everyone though.
I always admired Joseph in the bible. May God help the singles to wait on the Lord for the one He has for us. God bless you all
Sure
So do i!
I like that point about a woman being immodest. For me, if a woman is immodest, I'll have trouble not lusting after her. And,for that very reason, I won't seek any further relationship. I simply don't want to be around her because she causes me to lust and that is against God's will.
John C put that on a bumper so young ladies can see it!
Ok. I have all these qualities. Where is my husband?
Mary Swenson Better things come to those who wait. Wait on the LORD. And if not , maybe the Lord wants you to himself. It is much better to be single than to be with the Wrong Person ,For Sure.
Susan Carter lol I've been waiting awhile and ya I think waiting on God is great advice. I was just expressing that I'm ready for committed relationship I promise I'm in no hurry lol I'm going at like a snail pace. I'm good at single I just miss being committed to someone.
Mary Swenson I know what you mean, my friend has been single for 7 years now and is waiting on the Lord to send her the RIGHT man for her, but I know at times it can be a little lonely, you hang on sister, wait on the Lords choice for you. Talk to the Lord and sing praises to him when you feel loneliness, it helps. I wish you the best. 👍🏽😊❤️
Susan Carter well I've only been single a few yrs and I'm a single mom of two but I'm sure God will show me in the life circumstances I experience who I should spend my time with right now I have 5 jobs and 2 children I'm like a single Joanna Gaines no rush to find a man just waiting on God to find a man of God for me
Mary Swenson He is coming!!
Great points! No games or mixed signals💘
Amen :)
I think playing games is such a waste of time
GREAT reasons and I certainly agree. Also, what's extremely attractive to me is a woman using her gifts! My Lord, a woman using her gift, regardless of what it is, is an absolutely beautiful characteristic. That's not to say she's fully in her calling, but she's flowing in what God has placed in her. I could sit around her all day and not say a word but just marvel at what she does. So to my dear sisters in the faith, use your gift, whether it's in the church, arts and crafts, music, business, leadership, etc.
🙌🙌🙌💯🔥
You are so right about the Christian man being turned off by an immodest woman. Seductive dress in a woman does not bring respect for the woman, quite the opposite.
It makes a girl look immature or needy in my opinion.
Very unattractive. Sadly, some churches are becoming like this. Both Men and women. A lot of culture has influenced people in the church
This week God showed me who is the lady He has for me. And the thing that attracted me to her was to see how she really loves God.
She's a single mother and I'm already visualizing being a husband and a father at once when we get married. It's really exciting. I always wanted to be a dad.
Do you know about yer past relationship?
Did you pursue her?
Awesome!! Any update?
Thank you for teaching regarding modesty. Women and even especially Christian Women have forsaken dressing modestly and respectfully even when attending Church!!
Oh it's bad. Some guys are bad for this too, but especially on social media, it's like many do it for attention
I need to work on an inviting presence
Patricia Nguyen me too
I feel like he was talking directly to me I need to keep making changes God bless you 💕
Patience and time....
Well, now I See what is attractive about the girl I like. I couldn't discribe it, but now I know what I like about her character and her spiritual side as well.
Thanks Mark
My pleasure brother :)
That's very cool. Shalom.
This is extremely well worded and explained! Thank you brother for your understanding and sharing this in a very clear way! So important christian brothers and sisters.
I'm waiting for my husband that God has for me
Amen
Thank u . Am African and respect for men is a major issue . you just spoke like an African we Fear God a lot we run away from immorality. I kept my self as a celibate and God has bless me with a Good man a pastor .
Beth T it’s a generalization? Just like white people often generalize other races when there’s (numerous) glaringly obvious evidence toward the contrary.
wow wow wow i bless the lord for you sister, i too i am 100 percent keeping my self pure for my future husband although i find challenges with friends who are men and others who think i am desperate coz they haven't seen me with anyone. I am moving my 27th day but still believe God with pure waiting and i wish its a husband.
This is perfect for our generation!!!!
Our generation is so lost, especially in this category. I admire your optimism.
This is such good teaching! There’s been a lack of this kind of teaching in the church and in families, especially here in Norway where we don’t really even have a real dating culture. People just try the best they can. I wish I had heard this teaching 15-20 years ago! Thanks:)
Number three is 100 percent true. I find a woman who is modest a thousand times more attractive.
This is excellent. I am sharing with an online Christian singles group. God bless you.
Awesome, I'm so glad you found this helpful!
Hi, I'd like to belong to one. Is there an age range?
I want to be one of you, how can I jion 🇰🇪❤️🙏
This man here is preaching facts! I can say this as a man myself.
Thank you so much. You are very good teacher. You make each point very clear. I have to have faith for a christain partner. There arent many around where I live and even more difficult to find someone who love God as much as I do. But still have hope that one day God will bring us together.
Amen, God is able and all powerful :)
Shelah Vong do you live in the U.S.? I don't think I could take that Thailand heat. :) I prefer cooler climate.
Adam Hosier No, i dont live in the U.S. I live in North of Thailand. We have 2-3 months of summer, long rainny season and four months of cool weather. The heat is not that bad after you used to it and you can enjoy many outdoor activities during summer and we have dilicious tropical fruits too. Have you ever visited Thailand? I lived in Texas during my college years.
Shelah Vong No, I've never been. I wish I could afford to travel. Not many Christian women left between New York and Chang Mai it seems. :) A you tuber I watch lives there. Beautiful country and people seem nice there. Texas is too hot ;) I kind of like the rain though.
Adam Hosier If you hear from a man that s there arent many christian women left here then it seems like both christian men and women here and there feel the same way.
Wow…so well said. Thank you for elaborating on these items so specifically. Very helpful and encouraging!
Wow this used to me but I have grown so much in Christ. I know that I’ll meet the right one soon.
God is good!
Maybe I over looked it, but I didn’t hear you mentioned physical beauty. Those 6 qualities, I totally agree with and they are a must but one thing about any or most men is no matter what she looks like he desires an attractive woman. I’ve read it all in the scriptures with Abraham, Isaac, Jacob and more. I do believe inner beauty can not be over looked at all and it’s responsible for a eternal strong relationship but just remember in most cases the first thing you’re going to notice about anyone is there appearance...
I agree and I disagree with one thought he had. My ex husband was so infatuated with his ex gf physical appearance, she cheated on him with his boss and best friend and still took her back (we were friends for 18 years) then when we got married she came into his life and he was so infatuated with her appearance it helped (though there were many other things) destroy out marriage. He couldn't give her up bc of her looks and was and has been very vocal about it. So a lot of men can be treated horribly and still find that women beyond attractive.
April Dipo if that’s you in the picture then his ex had to be a total knock out because you’re pretty attractive yourself...
Yep, first step will always be physical attraction.
Honestly, I kindve wish this wasn’t a thing for me. Why did God make men visual? It’s not like I couldn’t have gotten married. My ex was desperate to be married, but deep down I found her ugly. I still find her ugly even though she’s been with another man for over a year (he’s ugly too). I am afraid I will never find a woman who is deeply attractive to me on all levels. Part of me wants to just settle, but the other part knows it’s a living hell to do so. Walk wisely, my brothers. If you don’t find a girl attractive at first, there’s a good chance you never will. It’s better to be single and lonely than married and lonely.
And for my sisters out there: don’t fret if a guy isn’t into you. There are plenty of other men who will be.
Go with Christ’s peace, my friends.
I asked for the Lord to give me confirmation while watching this and he sure did. Thank you for your obedience to God's will! Boy it's hard sometimes waiting for the best and ordained but this too shall pass. Lord you work all things for the good of those who love you and are called according to your will. We love you and may we be joyful in our wait. No one can complete us like you can! May these young women of faith know that sometimes our heavenly father just wants to spend time with us first! We love you. Your plans are always better than ours! Your timing is always perfect! In Jesus name, Amen!
Spot on, Mark! No. 1 in particular is probably the single most attractive trait in a Christian woman. Ladies, you are coheirs to the Kingdom with Christ (Rom 8:17 for the full verse)!
This is not only beauty, it is strength. Even better is that this can never be taken away. 'She laughs at the days to come' as it says in Proverbs 31:25. Know who it is that holds your future and smile because of it. God bless!
I enjoyed the video! I found an additional verse that could shed more light on point three; 1st Peter 3:4 "Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight"
2:30 Women like to be respected too.. 🤔 ( #respect is a two way thing)
This video is about guys.
I'll take these advices when I am ready..
Excellent info... listening again...Thank you! 💖💖
So glad it was helpful Trish
These are good points!
1. My identity is only growing more in Christ
2. I am pretty sure I'm respectful, or try to be at least
3. I currently dress modest, but that will be something for me to keep an eye out for in the future
4. I am pretty predictable most times lol!
5. I'd say I'm inviting
6. My relationship with God is genuine and not fake like how it was two years ago
Looks like I have all of the qualities! Now I just need to stay humble. Thanks Mark for more clarification!
Wow so much wisdom and truth💯
Thank you Mark! I I'm in the dating ring since June. Dated some and I decided not to compromise on my Christian believes and purity as a christian- even though get upset when someone ghosts me or discontinue after some dates. But I was encouraged after listening to one of your videos that God was protecting me. I am celebate for the past 16 years after the dissolution of my marriage. Since God's promises are upon me, waiting for my 'Kingdom- husband'. Your videos are very encouraging because at my age group, dating in a cut-throat world because many men are looking how financially settled a woman is. I am submitting myself to God.Thanks again.
Thanks for sharing. I’m inspired by your example since I need to have higher standards for my sexual purity. If you can survive all the rejection because of Gods protective standards so can I! I believe I will sleep much better knowing I am living out gods will for my life than trying to compromise around the edges. May God give you the desires of your heart!!
Amen! On all 6 points...well said!
I am a widow for more than 3 years, and I feel that Christian men are afraid of me. My husband passed away with brain cancer. I cared for him up to the end of his life. I haven't dated no one since my husband died. I am ready to date again, but the brothers and sisters in Church call me "the young widow" I don't know if that can effect on a man dating me?
lisapulino First, I'm so sorry for your loss. You were what God wanted for your husband. How precious to have taken care of him. An honor to be able to say, " till death do us part" the enemy would have you think that was a negative. No matter what the ppl say...if God has someone for you, nothing anyone could say would stop it! Rest in knowing, Jesus knows the desires of your heart. What doors He opens no man can shut. What doors He shuts no man can open. The scripture says a man who finds a wife, finds a good thing. Proverbs 18:22 Rest in that, knowing you don't have to do a thing. God will work His perfect plan! GBY
A good man will find you. You wouldn’t want a man afraid of other people’s labels or judgements anyway
bless you Sister. The Lord is with you.
lisapulino maybe. I’d address it nicely with them. Also it takes one year for per three years you were with your husband to become ready for another person.
Please my brothers and sisters if you could find a minute to say a little prayer for me. I’m at peace with my singleness but satan keeps attacking me everyday saying things like “you’ll never find the one” “no man can ever love you” “you don’t have the love factor” (whatever that even means) and these attacks keep getting stronger by the day threatening to drive me crazy. Please say a word of prayer for me. Thank you and God bless.
I'll pray for you...the same happens to me too
Happens to me also… praying for you 🙏🏽
Isaiah 53
Jesus never married any woman so that you can get married and Jeremiah 29:11says that God has good plans for us...your soul mate is on the way 👌 💯 🙏 and psalms 109 say WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT I THE LORD WILL MAKE IT HAPPEN 🙏
This is actually very encouraging. There is a guy who is very interested in me and we're doing our best to put our trust in God and see where God leads us.
5:15 man, what he saying is so true... Like obviously a woman can wear whatever she wants, she can wear "sexy" dresses if she wants but she shouldn't expect the right Godly man to be attracted to her, because we are trying to please God more than pleasing humans, so woman shouldn't think they can get a godly man the Worldy seductive way....amen broo
Thank you for the video. Men need to look on the heart first of a Godly Woman and then her outer appearance because all that glitters is not gold. I know that there has to be chemistry, some attraction but that is not first or foremost. Sadly, that is what a lot of men see and desire. Good Godly Women come in all shapes and sizes. Look beyond the physical. Look for the Spiritual first and go on the leading of the Spirit of Abba Yah and you will get a Proverbs 31 Woman. You both will be blessed.
Proverbs 31 is a great guide
c g ur right but the bible ses to take care of the body u are given so that is a thing with me but u will get what u are so sorry but if u are fat u will grow in a fat women or man if u are not clean u will be given a Un clean man or women if u in sharp love the lord more then any thing then that is what u will get etc but I'm the type of man that thinks that there is no such thing as love in this day an age I mean that is it least that is were Im at to day was not like that tester day or ever but I've just given up I'm just focusing on my life like I have for 5 years now but with out caring about a wife God will bring her to me wen it's meant to be if it is but I hope u have a blessed night in Jesus name amen
c g lol I'm sorry I spelled a lot rong in that my bad hope u understand just read it over just let me no if u can not understand something 😊
tyler Schaale Your comment was a perfect example of the mentality of some men. You spoke of the PHYSICALITY of the woman and NOT HER HEART. What you seemed to be saying is "fat" women cannot be attractive or Godly. Someone " unclean" cannot be Godly. You missed the whole jist of my point. Abba Yah looks at the heart and what is inside, not the physical aspect of a person, as in this case, I was speaking of women. A lot of men only look at her physical appearance overlooking what may be a woman with a heart for Yahweh EVEN though she may not be as attractive as a model. I pray that you and some men will go back into your Bibles and read what Yahweh says about how a man is to treat a women attractive or not. Be blessed.
c g I did not say that lison to what I'm saying ok I sed u will get what u are glutny is a thing so if u take that demon u will not reseve the best and yes u should not be fat God is agents it look in ur bible ok sorry but I must tell u this cuz it's my job as a fallower ok God u most no ur rong in what ur saying fat ppl should not be ur doing something rong if u are fat just saying but if u are fat u can get a husband or wife yes and will get what u are sorry have to let u no cuz God tells me to worn my brother's and sisters of this and wen they are saying or doing rong k God bless and have a nice day in Jesus name amen
Thank you for this excellent teaching brother Mark 👍👍👍. God bless you brother 🕊🙏❣.
God bless you too!
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
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Really liked this topic
There were enough areas discussed to give me a better understanding of what to do and do as I wait for my future husband!
Thanks for taking the time to do this.
May God bless and protect you always in Christ!
Listen ladies, being inviting is so important because it is one of the biggest reasons I am single. Lotta girls like to complicate the get to know process. It’s all we do to know when you’re not interested in so we’re not gonna pursue something when you’re not allowing us to pursue.
God bless!
Wow great video and I learning about this and hope that I can understand it more
God bless!
Great video and job of breaking down these points. As some have said, (yes) there are indicators of what qualities in a Christian man are appealing, too-as another of this channel's videos walks through :) Theme for both (bottom line)? It's basic of commandments. Love God above all else.. with all your mind, heart, and strength.. and body (Romans 12). What's that look like for each? Litmus test: The fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-26). We see those present?... it's attractive in a potential partner.
Problem is that the world culture has so engulfed us (to varying degrees) that we're consumed with the lusts or "deeds" of the flesh (Galatians 5:19-21). 2 Timothy 3:2-5 describes the carnality of even what Christians are told and pressured as "must haves" in a partner.
Couple that with the Galatians passage, and it reads like this: "It's about you. What makes you happy. No rules, nobody can tell you differently. It's your life and whatever serves you best. If they're not about that, send em packing. You have no room for that nonsense in your life. You want someone who will treat you like a king or queen... who will gladly fulfill all of your desires; basically give you whatever you want, because you "deserve it." If they're "worth your time," they'd better be: absolutely fine-looking and dress with style, successful in their career and have a nice bank account (willing to regularly spend money on you), have a nice car and house, be into all of the things you're into, be well-liked and admired by others.. and good in bed-because you gotta try it out before ya buy it, right? Oh and always remember: "If they can't appreciate me on my worst days, then they don't deserve me on my best days," because Marilyn Monroe was/is the ultimate Christian values and dating role model, right?"
See where this type of thinking leads? = broken hearts-ville AND... away from God. With this mindset, "self" has replaced God, so no human being will ever measure up. It's rooted in idolatry, which is why it'll always fail. God doesn't only tell us to avoid idolatry in all forms because He's "a jealous God" (which should be enough in itself)... but also because He knows that anything we make idols out of in our lives (even another person or ourselves)-will always break our hearts and leave us feeling empty inside; something He will never do, being able to fulfill us completely! :)
I appreciate your content. I am in a season where my focus is on God and His will for my life but, I do desire marriage to a Godly husband, at the right time. I am committed to doing things differently as, I have failed in the past.
Hey don't be discouraged at all. Keep being you and let your focus on God be strong. You didn't fail in your past no way, it's a leaning experience. So be proud of yourself for picking yourself up. God bless you abundantly 💯 I hope all is well with you.
I have failed to maintain my sexual purity in dating, but the resulting sleeplessness over my sin is causing me to take a strong stand against it and I am now ready to flee sexual temptation and end a relationship that is not Christ-centered.
Waiting for "Traits Christian women find attractive in men" ☺
duizhang I think they are just about the same. Almost , exactly the same. A Christian woman wants, would like, a man that Loves the Lord MORE than her cause he could help her grow and guide her IN the Lords way, the TRUTH and not the wrong way. This is a hard world we're in, and it's going to get harder before it gets better, and Christian women know that and want smart and strong men that know Gods ways are the best ways.
Humility is definitely up there on the list of traits, along with compassion. Can you imagine having to submit for the rest of your life to a callous, arrogant person? That right there is possibly a fate worse than death...
Also, emotional maturity. In the words of Pete Scazerro, "Is impossible to be spiritually mature if you're emotionally immature". I'm sure Christian men find this desirable in Christian women as well. Same for the first two traits I mentioned as well.
Compassion and understanding, honesty, so no lies, like one little lie is enough for a woman to start to panic😅
R Tr Yes!! Integrity is key! Let your yes be yes, and your no be no!
Thank you for these videos. I hope to find a guy who loves Jesus just as much as I do to marry in the next year!
God bless as you follow the Lord!
As a Christian man, I can attest to all these points. Lol :)
Why didn't I know that 30yrs ago. I need to go back in time
God bless!
Nice Video.Thankyou for the information. god bless
My pleasure, God bless you too :)
I think it’s pretty reasonable! Thanks for sharing that well appreciate.
So many valid points!! Ty for putting this out. Am currently making a list of traits / desires for me personally that im seeking to find in a future wife. Ty for your input! Sincerely helped me make the list a lil longer lol. Am seeking the lord in all of this and am grateful for your input!! Carry on as u were and may his countance shine upon you! Amen.
Valid points! Need to work on myself a bit :)
I love you and what you stand for.. Keep doing what God wants u to do
I like it. Standing by…
I know that i do this because this basically exactly what I look for in a Christian woman
This is so good!! Thank you so much for this. You’re videos are so biblical - love that; Truth of the word. 🙏🏾
I am waiting for my christian women in my life.
Thank you for the content 🙏
Please send all the single women to Wisconsin!
godsofouija haha lol
I m not a christian.but luvdd this video .and I like manyyyy of your videos.. praiseworthy truly....👍👍👍👍👍
Hi! I have been watching your videos and want to thankyou! I am single 30 year old christian woman, im struggling with #1.being secure , 2. Showing respect, 4. Being consistent and 5. Being inviting . I really want to be all those things , but honestly im human and flawed with may insecurities. Could you give us some practical advice on how to be inviting, it really is not easy being a girl and being vulnerable and getting ignored. It has happened to me all my life , so its hard to believe a christian man is honestly interested in pursuing me and i want God to heel this things, but honestly haven't figured out how...Thank you again!
Michelle Wiesner be friendly. Be yourself, be positive. Be true.
Michelle Wiesner maybe change your style. Dress nice. Hairstyle; be funny but also respect your dignity.
ask The Lord to reveal to you who you are. Allow him to heal you and help know who you are.
My advice to u as another woman: .stop looking to get married focus on knowing yourself & accepting yourself. Being respectful of who? If u aren't married--- normal respect for any person is all that is needed to be respectful. I think you might be wanting it too much & have a quiet desperation. I've been there. Not judging.
Pray that God will change you to be happy & content as a single. Pray in faith for a husband & marriage & for trusting the Lord.
Ask God to make you into who He wants. He will do it sis.
-💖Luv in Christ.
Michelle.Wiesner: you.can do.some things to improve your chances a) always be yourself b) seek feedback/advice.from close friends or family members. C) most importantly pray to God let him know how you feel and ask for his guidance.
Very thoughtful and helpful list. Thanks Mark!
Thank you AGW for these wonderfull vedio.
My pleasure!
Excuse me but is it not in error to claim that sexual attraction plays NO part in a man choosing a mate? He's looking for someone to make babies with. Yes these other qualities are very important, but you can't have an asexual marriage.
This video never said attraction play no part . . . I talk about that here: th-cam.com/video/avZk45n0F6o/w-d-xo.html
Your Belief is in the Lord..
I feel a call from God marriage is what He is wanting me to do, that the Lord says it would be great for me.
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That was a beautiful message to me I fully understand
Love what you wrote. Where is my husband?
Excellent.
I’m a single Christian male almost 3 years in Christ and I agree with all these.. im waiting on My abba To send me to my beautiful queen 👑 when it’s time. Til then im on the wait til it’s my time
Oh my this is so right on the trolley!👍
Thanks for you're video, may God Bless You Man of God.
That was a quite brilliant video indeed god bless you again my bro
I’m a Christian man , I’d love to have a woman who loves gods word ! Athletic is a plus and always searching for fun and gods joy! A woman who takes care of herself .
Thank you! learned a few things🙏🏻
He's Christian and had good QUALITIES IN HIM
Good Job!!!
Yes all of these are true. If I sense the girl is relying on me for self esteem and she isn't seeking a relationship with God or if she dosent open herself up for me to pursue I just stop pursuing all together instead of texting every once or 2 days I may only once or twice a week because if there are other guys she chose over me I'm not going to compete knowing I give my all to prove from the beginning
These "evangelical feminists" will have much more trouble finding husbands. I don't understand how the gentlemanly act of pulling a chair out or opening a door for a woman is demeaning. That's stupid.
It's attractive because when it is done in Christ Jesus 🙏❤️ it shows love, honor, and respect to God first then towards himself and that person he seems to pursue
The “Evangelical feminists” are the reason why men avoid women in churches these days, not worth the risk. These women ruin it for the special ladies.
Thanks Mike...
Nice blog
So good :) !
God bless!
Thank you! Your teachings are very clear and so helpful. 🙂
Amen! This is good 😊
Ah, I’d like to say women and men receive love in similar ways. Women also crave being respected, and too often men don’t see that as an important thing to give us.
Not true, men do not see love same way as women
@@mogenerosity1750 women like to be respected and not belittled aswell, that is her point, and being a woman what she is saying is true. Women can see love in a similar way
God said surrender your Heart not your garments.. And a wife knows her Husband when she him and present her way in the right and Godly way.. When a Man is strong in Christ he would know that their no Good thing that the Lord would with hold from those who walk uprighly meaning everything would be good in Mind Body& Soul.. Where is your Belief?
Good stuff!
I always pray for a great Christian woman who has never been married,never had children,white like me,I mean great as in praying for me alot,reading the Word together,going to church together,treating people well,putting up with me,understanding my quirks,would want to be with me whether I am doing well or not,now I was just talking about the kind of woman I am praying for,what I bring to the table is another topic!!!
It seems harder and harder to find such men these days
May your lord bless you in your desires for a Christian man
@@philipwordley3006 Amen, thanks. You too as well!
What type of Christian man?
@@Paul_Sullivan Men with similar traits
Men are supposed to be captive of every thought the Bible says but for men who are struggling it is bad for a sister to wear things that make a brother stumble.
I am a light and love spiritual woman not Christian but am falling in love with a beautiful Christian man who is very respectful a real southern gentleman who follows the words of Jesus. We are so opposite but so much the same and are drawn to eachother by our spirituality.
Well said :)
Thanks :) God bless!
I love this video. How does a woman get the qualities of this video?
It always starts with being intentional. It won't happen by accident. We all have to be humble to see our flaws, repent, and seek to live different as we rely on Christ. The more we try the better we will become. We will fail often but in the process we will keep growing.
Prayer
Read the bible, know Gods word.
Be hidden in his word!
Grow up. Mature in Christ and be a responsible human being.
loving god as much as I do.
Hello Mark, thank God for ur life, I, m learning a lot from u, I would appreciate it much if u could discuss about a widow who hav kids, and have a desire to remarried again,. I, m a beleiver of christ, n I'm 45 y old now, thank u