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I am an older woman and have had many experiences. Unfortunately was married twice. The first time I didn't know Christ as my Savior and I was very young and Clueless about what love was supposed to be. I have gained a lot of wisdom through the word of God about male female and marriage. And I must say that this teaching is one of the best I have ever heard🙏🏻
Amen. I like the fact that I am able to learn this. Unfortunately in the society we live in today, and from personal experience I was forced to be the provider and everything else because I experienced a man who did not have ambition or just want to control in an unhealthy way. I have asked my lord god to please help guide me to my ordained husband, a man. Not someone who becomes comfortable with the woman doing it all and they barely pull the end of his bargain. I am a mom and a career orientated woman but I lack one of the most important parts in my life; my companion. A real companion in Christ. I do not want a man that through his actions makes me get angry. I just want to be respected as I respect my future ordained husband. Unfortunately I dealt with a counterfeit and have learned immensely with God's grace. Mark, if there were more men as yourself the world would be a better place. Thank you
Unfortunately, i can see by what you have wrote... It's going to be awhile before God give you a companion. I pray that God will touch your heart. A wise woman build up her house but a foolish woman plucketh it down.... Proverbs Be Blessed!
I have been single for 22 years and I met a great man of God at work. I have not even dated anyone since my divorce. We have known each other for 2 years but just this year we have become really good friends, and we also go to church together. If there is someone out there, your paths will cross.
If you dealt with a counterfeit that’s on you unfortunately. Did you not screen for fruit? What is a career oriented woman if you have children. Do you not know that it’s the adulterous woman who spends much of her time away from the home? Think about what’s pleasing to the Lord and go and do that. If you don’t know, make it a priority to study the scriptures on how you should be living as a godly woman. “And behold, the woman meets him, dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart. She is loud and wayward; her feet do not stay at home;” Proverbs 7:10-11 ESV I can tell you if you desire a godly man you first need to become a godly woman. A truly godly man who really fears the Lord will not marry an ungodly woman who desires to spend her time away from the home once married.
Your story sounds about like mines but my exhusband worked and that was about it. He was immature in alot of areas. Come to find out I married young and he was a narcissist.
I mean, i absolutely agree that men should have close, good male friends. It is absolutely important. Iron sharpens iron. Everyone needs positive same sex role models.
Your teachings blow me away! Biblical Truth is so beautiful! Thank you for understanding God's Words and Principles so well and sharing your wisdom with us! You're a great steward in our Lord's Kingdom, Mark! God bless you and keep you and your family safe from the evil one!
I feel like I just got the father daughter talk that I never had. Thank You. I feel excited because it's like I have a new understanding of men and I understand where I went wrong in the past. I will take this class. One day soon. #Faith
Very necessary conversation. I hope to continuing seeing content like this. Our culture has done a lot of damage in confusing each sex about each other.
This hr I've listened & became humbled. The points u made of women, (the adverse points) describe me - mostly. Very humbling for me. Perhaps the reason I have failed relationships in my life. I've been praying for God to prepare me & the man for us to have a marriage that will glorify God. Very enlightening for me. Thank u Father for using Mark to open my eyes. 🙏 ~peace, love, harmony~
Thank you for this free lesson 🥹 it’s really validating and relaxing to hear all this. Because of my circumstances I’ve always felt the need to be able to prove that I *can* be a provider and fully independent blah blah before a man would want me but that’s not where my heart lies. My heart is with my home and my family, my pets! I love to care for and support my partner in all the ways that he requires and that is what brings me my second deepest joy next to pleasing our Heavenly Father. I love to work and contribute to the household and my community but it’s more of a need being met than actually following my purpose. This was all so nice to hear, and it makes me feel like a woman! A godly woman :) and excites me even more to meet the man that God has for me and will pursue me in the way God intends
This is a good video that conforms to how men function and think about things according to God's Word. Men should not be made to feel bad about desiring these things in a woman. Thanks Mark!
Really like the car and truck analogy, extremely helpful. Yes God made man and woman different. Such a good and biblical video. Many blessings to you Mark and everyone desiring a godly marriage.
Thank you Mark for sharing this, I appreciate you reviewing gender roles from a biblical perspective. Being an educated woman in leadership myself, I have previously focused on being the provider and finding my place in my career. In gaining a better understanding about God’s original intention for a man and woman in marriage, I am focusing more on how I can submit more to God’s structure for my place in the family 😊
Thank you for sharing this very helpful message. I had once a mature tell me that I wasn’t ready for marriage in response to how I spoke to him. At the time it was hard to hear that truth, but this message amplifies that very well. I’ve wondered why I struggle with relationships and what I need to change in my life. This content seems to address issues that are very important for me in learning all these qualities in my place as a woman. I don’t want another unhealthy relationship and end up feeling ruined in the end.
What you said towards the end of how men want to do things for a woman to make her happy is opposite of how my ex boyfriend was. He did things for me and expected me to repay him by doing the same things for him. I see he had a distorted view of how men are supposed to interact with their wives.
You're a great teacher, the way you present, share and break it down for better understanding has always been helpful 💙 thank you for sharing a free sneak peek to your courses.
This was awesome, so helpful! Thank you Mark, I know topics like this are hard to discuss without hurting anyone's feelings. But the truth is the truth!
Hi Mark, This was such a good video! You mentioned accepting a man for being a man. I would like to hear more on what that looks like as far as being supportive and realistic.
Thank you for sharing this! We are needing wisdom and God used you to enlighten us! Especially your boat analogy! Our emotions try to lead us. Thank you God that you are gracious to us!!! Especially when we fumble the ball. 🤪
I agree with all of what you said. One thing I have been observing all my life is that most men are attracted to women who have a similar level of intelligence and a level of education that is not far lower than their own.
Kudos to you for breaking this down in a way for people to have a clear understanding. I agree with everything you said. We need more people teaching this and especially to the young people. God Bless You 🙏🏽 Your ministry is so helpful and on point. 💯
Wow, some great insights, especially how women shouldn't expect men to be the same as them in their thinking etc, ie. remb that men are not women! And also about how women like men to make them happy, but a man doesn't necessarily need the same, he'd rather see the woman happy. Hard to get my head around!!!
Sounds like all the things God wants for His woman also. He wants to be the Hero and Provider, and the woman should recieve from Him, that's kinda romantic 💞
Thank you so much for making it plain that we must be the healthy version of ourselves. My gosh, i get so bombarded with all this "advice" that i shouldn't improve or lose bad habbits. They keep telling me that these bad parts of me are just who i am. Screw that! So thank you so much it's so refreshing
Mark, your videos are excellent! Thank you so much for your ministry. May our Lord continue to give you strength and wisdom, and bless you and your family.
You did a wonderful job explaining the true relationship dynamics between a man and a woman, how they operate effectively according to biblical principles. Thank you!
Very educational and inspiring. Thank you! 🙏😊 if only to know it all years earlier.. so many unnecessary words would not have been spoken. But the learning is always a blessing.. and better later than never. Thank you Mark! 🙏
Thank you, God, for such good biblical content from this God-fearing man, Mark. I pray that you would really bless him and his family with a double portion of your spirit in his ministry and his life in Jesus' name.
Couldn't have put it in any better way... thanks pastor Mark a lot of noteworthy points. Might need to come back to your video in the future to help counteract my feminist friends
All you have to do is read the Bible! It is not rocket science. The women of today don't want to submit and trust God for the results to work everything out for good!! I can say that because my blood use to boil too when I would hear that scripture verse. But anytime you go against what the Bible says, you are headed down a bad road! A road to the devil/destruction!
The verse you put up Matthew 22:37 through 40 that is perfect to counter argue with the Mormons. On these two commandments depend all the law and the prophets. Because the Mormons come up to me and there's a ton of like commandments that they've been ordinances that they've made up and I'm thinking you don't have to do all that you guys. And this verse really helps with that. Thank you
🌈💞🌻ThankYou Mark, for these truths you’ve spoken of from God’s Word. Blessings to You & your Family! “Praise be to God who gives us the Victory through our Lord Jesus Christ”!
Are we kidding? I do the extracurricular activities men do... I love achieving goals more than anything. Women are very goal oriented and tactical when it suits them. I can be more goal oriented than my male friends.
What you wrote here proves that you would want to be a man's competitor more than his companion. You shouldn't compare yourself with a man, it's not healthy and it's not feminine. Yes women can do most things men do that's why we are helpers but that's also vice versa. Let's appreciate men and not look down on them
The big thing that grabbed me is how men compartmentalize. Women are generally many things at once and more multi-tasking orientated. It's not a case of something being more important, it's just a different category. It explains more why guys cannot fathom that you get mad when their hobbies may eat into a date night. It's not done on purpose in my case but it doesn't occur to them? They aren't sitting around daydreaming about their partners. Ok. I think I get it! Men have compartments for their lives. Pushing into competition with what is important to him.
Proverbs Chapter 2 and Chapter 3. see 3:5-18 She is more precious than rubies: and all the things thou canst desire are not to be compared unto her.Length of days is in her right hand; and in her left hand riches and honour. Her ways are ways of pleasentness, and all her paths are peace. She is a tree of life to them that lay hold upon her; and happy is everyone that retaineth her. Proverbs 4:23 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. 4:6-13 Forsake her not, and she shall preserve thee; Love her, and she sahll keep thee. 7.Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding. 8 Exalt her, and she shall promote thee: she shall bring thee to honour, when thou dost embrace her. 9. She shall give to thine head an ornament of grace: a crown of glory shall she deliver to thee.10. Hear, O my son, and receive my sayings; and the years of thy life shall be many.
My ex once told me “ I will be at home dad and you work “ I was like “ wooow” definitely felt like I needed to be the provider . Then one time I told him I prefer to help in the house and you work more . He said “ no, I like to cook , clean “ I felt very unhappy. He made me believe that I needed to go back to school and be the provider . We are not together anymore, of course. And I didn’t want to have kids with him either for the same reason. When we were going out he would say “ you need to pay this time “ I told him , I make less than you “ I was working as a nanny at that time .
I proposed to my now fiancée a few weeks ago, and we plan on getting married in December. Is this good for pre-marital couples? My fiancee struggled in her up bringing as the enemy wrecked her house with narcissistic dad, so we've been pulling down the stronghold against the biblical view of women, respect submit, as she saw it abused by her father to her mother. So it's like bad words to her now. Just trying to get on the same page before marriage about desiring to be what the bible calls us to be in marriage I'm not asking her to be perfect by the wedding day but at least equally yoked in that regard for desire to be biblical. I don't have issues with my role and sacrificial love. I'm called to do, I even bring it up. We're trying to get her to a place where she actually brings it up with Joy. Instead I bring it up and it brings bad feelings. Thanks Mark, I've watched a lot of your stuff since I was born again last October and learning to court in a God honoring way you've been an amazing resource.
As a daughter of a narcissistic mother, I have only recently been realising just how much it has affected my entire life. (I'm a single woman in my early 40s btw for context). So it may take a long time for your fiancee to process various emotions etc. And of course it's different if it was her dad, but similar in ways. There are many great articles online, I honestly can't remb them lol, but all I did was type in stuff like 'daughters of narcissistic mothers' etc, just look up things using keywords. Even some non-Christian articles had interesting points. I've also spoken to a Christian counsellor. God bless.
Are you her first Christian relationship? As a new believer when I first read a women should submit to their husbands I was irked. But I realized it’s because I’ve only known worldly men who live in their flesh. I could never submit to those types of men because their actions are coming from their flesh. But a man of God submits to God. And the Bible says men should treat their wives as themselves. That allowed me to have trust, because worldly men are selfish. A women should never submit to someone selfish because they are only going to care about their needs being met and not hers. But a man of God will prioritize the women and think of her as his partner and listen to instruction from God and know he must protect her and love her the way God loves his bride. So restore faith in your fiancé that you are will not be like the world. That you are not partaking in the worldly ways of sin that causes pain and trauma. When a real man of God is in your life you know it because they don’t just read the scripture, they live the scripture.
@@PrettyIndependent1 Yeah we're each others first Christian relationship. I agree! I know she does too, still working on these things. It's just with her Father being a dictator over her mom cheating etc. And the fact we knew each in the world doesn't help. But we're in a pretty good place in this department God has brought us a long wau
I think premarital counseling is the best option for you two. You might resent her for not upholding her “role” while you are “successfully” in yours. She needs to see YOU Are Not her father. She should see you are the complete opposite of him and joyfully accept you as her leader. I understand where she is coming from and unless she is praying to the Holy Ghost… she will want you to accept her trauma and deal with it
Myself as well. It's not our fault about how we were taught as young adults. However, it's our fault if we don't seek to find the truth as adults! Like Jesus... He accepts us like we are. However, He doesn't want us to stay as we are. We are to grow in God daily! Be Blessed!!
God made both men and women to communicate....period. Or else why does a woman desire him to discuss plans and sittuations arising inside the home? Why does a man feel left out if a woman goes ahead of him to take on certain desisions that he was not aware of? So does the woman. The basic fundamental attributes were intended for the entire family...men, women, and children. This is unacceptable for us to say that men have excuses for not wanting to have good communication with his wife. Family unit can fail. Think about it... If Adam had spoken out in the beginning to Eve, re-enforcing God's command to them of not partaking of the forbidden fruit, the fall of humanity would never take place. He refraining to speak out contributed greatly to the fall. A christian husband should always remember that.
Ephesians 6:4 English Standard Version 4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Listening to you I just wonder, how does it work in online dating or in long distant relationships...? To me two people liking each other in a healthy way at the same time to the extend that they want to get married - it is just a full-blown miracle.
Helpful, realistic, & solid Biblical advice, Mark, thank you! Everything you've said is explained by your spiritual brother from another mother on the "Stefan Speaks" channel... I listen to both of you and am deeply grateful for your collective brotherly advice! 💪😎👍
Appreciate what you've said here. Not trying to take away from it at all, but is "Stefan Speaks" a biblical approach and viewpoint? I tend to think it's not.... it "sounds" good and sounds "spiritual".. but still sounds like "leaning on our own understanding" (at least the few videos I watched). Maybe I'm wrong, I don't know...but that's what comes to my mind from his videos..
Mark do you think it's okay for women to date for marriage if they don't have a job and may be struggling with income. I know many women who feel they aren't worthy of looking for a husband because of this. Honestly I'm curious to know because this keeps coming up
This is good but a women’s relationship to her work, her education, is also very important to many women . Women also find identity in their career and work. I would agree that if a woman is a mother, then her children should come first, and she should not neglect her role as a wife. I also think this point about men is not ubiquitous …. Plenty of men are slothful, unmotivated, and merely work for a paycheck. I don’t think working for a paycheck is a bad thing, it’s a means to an ends, and any work is honorable to God. But not everyone has a strong drive to achieve or need a career-driven purpose in life. In my personal experience, this was an issue where my spouse was either not capable or motivated to provide for us, but he also did not support me as a helpmate. It seemed like he felt threatened by my career and instead of appreciating that God gave him a wife that complements him in this area, he became bitter and destructive to my work. I don’t know if this is common or not, thoughts ?
35:11 Okay this had me projecting allot. Is a career & a God given kingdom assignment even the same? I don’t think so. The 2 don’t necessarily go together although it’s not bad for the man to have. OR maybe they do go together like Joseph being ruler over Egypt ☝🏽. Okay I get it now that’s for this correction 💯
It says in Ephesians 5:21 Submitting YOURSELVES One To Another in the Fear of God. Wives sumit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 25. Husbands love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleans it with the washing of water by the Word, 28. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 32. This is a great mystery: But I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33. Nevertheless let EVERYONE of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence (deep respect) her husband.
My problem is that I haven't had a MAN! Instead I have dated BOYS. Even older men seem to want to still be boys. What I mean by that is: I was talking to a guy for about 4 months. We're both Christian and love the Lord but he just wanted sex from me and no I didn't give it to him. If a guy just wants sex just say in the beginning, so I can leave them alone. Another thing is too I'm very intelligent and know what I want. When I get into a relationship I always try to treat the guy and respect but then all of a sudden the guy thinks I'm dumb or native and stupid so they try to take advantage of me. I always try to treat a guy like Jesus would and it back fires on me everytime. Unless It's the Lord's will I staying single. I thought by 30 I would be married will at least one baby. I would love to have a little boy and a little girl but that hasn't happened yet. It October I will be 31 years old. I haven't done everything right over the years and there are relationships I wish would have never happened! Things I wish I wouldn't have said or did but it must not have been to bad because just about all my ex's wanted me back. I also go by what the Lord wants and the Golden rule: Treat others the way you want to be treated.
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00:00 AGW University Info + Scholarship Info
00:57 Intro to Lesson 1 of the Course The Mind of a Man
02:45 Why There’s Confusion Between Men and Women
04:02 Why Do Men Want What They Want (Genesis 1-3)
10:52 Seven Things God Designed Men to Want in a Woman/Relationship
11:05 1. A Man Wants a Companion, Not a Competitor
16:02 2. A Man Wants a Woman Who Is Feminine in Her Relationship Roles, Not Masculine
23:00 3. A Man Wants a Woman Who Wants a Man, Not a Woman Who Wants a Feminine Friend
31:02 4. A Man Wants a Woman Who Compliments His Mission, Not Detracts from It
37:41 5. A Man Wants a Woman He Is Sexually Attracted to, Not Sexually Distant From
41:50 6. A Man Wants a Woman Who Will Be a Good Mother to His Children, Not a Provider for the Children
51:52 7. A Godly Man Wants a Happy Woman, Not a Mad Woman
57:01 AGW University Info + Scholarship
I just signed up! I'm excited to get started. God bless you Mark, for being such a godly man and helping Christian singles.
Love this teaching. Thank you!
Hi Mark, did you see my comment below? Would be great to get some of your thoughts on this 🙂
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I dont have that much money to enroll but i am learning from your videos😢
I am an older woman and have had many experiences. Unfortunately was married twice. The first time I didn't know Christ as my Savior and I was very young and Clueless about what love was supposed to be. I have gained a lot of wisdom through the word of God about male female and marriage. And I must say that this teaching is one of the best I have ever heard🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
As a guy, and a follower of Christ, I totally approve this message. Well done, Mark!
Amen. I like the fact that I am able to learn this. Unfortunately in the society we live in today, and from personal experience I was forced to be the provider and everything else because I experienced a man who did not have ambition or just want to control in an unhealthy way. I have asked my lord god to please help guide me to my ordained husband, a man. Not someone who becomes comfortable with the woman doing it all and they barely pull the end of his bargain. I am a mom and a career orientated woman but I lack one of the most important parts in my life; my companion. A real companion in Christ. I do not want a man that through his actions makes me get angry. I just want to be respected as I respect my future ordained husband. Unfortunately I dealt with a counterfeit and have learned immensely with God's grace. Mark, if there were more men as yourself the world would be a better place. Thank you
Unfortunately, i can see by what you have wrote... It's going to be awhile before God give you a companion. I pray that God will touch your heart. A wise woman build up her house but a foolish woman plucketh it down.... Proverbs Be Blessed!
🌈💞🌻ThankYou Mark,
for bringing out these truths from God’s Word! I Thank the Lord God for You
I have been single for 22 years and I met a great man of God at work. I have not even dated anyone since my divorce. We have known each other for 2 years but just this year we have become really good friends, and we also go to church together. If there is someone out there, your paths will cross.
If you dealt with a counterfeit that’s on you unfortunately. Did you not screen for fruit? What is a career oriented woman if you have children. Do you not know that it’s the adulterous woman who spends much of her time away from the home? Think about what’s pleasing to the Lord and go and do that. If you don’t know, make it a priority to study the scriptures on how you should be living as a godly woman.
“And behold, the woman meets him, dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart. She is loud and wayward; her feet do not stay at home;”
Proverbs 7:10-11 ESV
I can tell you if you desire a godly man you first need to become a godly woman. A truly godly man who really fears the Lord will not marry an ungodly woman who desires to spend her time away from the home once married.
Your story sounds about like mines but my exhusband worked and that was about it. He was immature in alot of areas. Come to find out I married young and he was a narcissist.
I mean, i absolutely agree that men should have close, good male friends. It is absolutely important. Iron sharpens iron. Everyone needs positive same sex role models.
Your teachings blow me away! Biblical Truth is so beautiful! Thank you for understanding God's Words and Principles so well and sharing your wisdom with us! You're a great steward in our Lord's Kingdom, Mark! God bless you and keep you and your family safe from the evil one!
I feel like I just got the father daughter talk that I never had. Thank You. I feel excited because it's like I have a new understanding of men and I understand where I went wrong in the past. I will take this class. One day soon. #Faith
I as well.
Nah fr, his channel is mad helpful.
Very necessary conversation. I hope to continuing seeing content like this. Our culture has done a lot of damage in confusing each sex about each other.
Mark, I Accept What You Are Saying. It's A Very Great Lesson You Are Teaching. Thank You. 😊
So glad it was useful! All glory to God!
This hr I've listened & became humbled. The points u made of women, (the adverse points) describe me - mostly. Very humbling for me. Perhaps the reason I have failed relationships in my life. I've been praying for God to prepare me & the man for us to have a marriage that will glorify God. Very enlightening for me. Thank u Father for using Mark to open my eyes. 🙏
~peace, love, harmony~
Thank you for this free lesson 🥹 it’s really validating and relaxing to hear all this. Because of my circumstances I’ve always felt the need to be able to prove that I *can* be a provider and fully independent blah blah before a man would want me but that’s not where my heart lies. My heart is with my home and my family, my pets! I love to care for and support my partner in all the ways that he requires and that is what brings me my second deepest joy next to pleasing our Heavenly Father. I love to work and contribute to the household and my community but it’s more of a need being met than actually following my purpose. This was all so nice to hear, and it makes me feel like a woman! A godly woman :) and excites me even more to meet the man that God has for me and will pursue me in the way God intends
This is a good video that conforms to how men function and think about things according to God's Word. Men should not be made to feel bad about desiring these things in a woman. Thanks Mark!
Really like the car and truck analogy, extremely helpful. Yes God made man and woman different. Such a good and biblical video. Many blessings to you Mark and everyone desiring a godly marriage.
So, if I have some effeminate traits, is that analogous to a Ford Ranger?
Thank you Mark for sharing this, I appreciate you reviewing gender roles from a biblical perspective. Being an educated woman in leadership myself, I have previously focused on being the provider and finding my place in my career. In gaining a better understanding about God’s original intention for a man and woman in marriage, I am focusing more on how I can submit more to God’s structure for my place in the family 😊
Leave to a guy to use trucks vs. cars for a relationship analogy! Love it!
Thank you for sharing this very helpful message. I had once a mature tell me that I wasn’t ready for marriage in response to how I spoke to him. At the time it was hard to hear that truth, but this message amplifies that very well.
I’ve wondered why I struggle with relationships and what I need to change in my life. This content seems to address issues that are very important for me in learning all these qualities in my place as a woman. I don’t want another unhealthy relationship and end up feeling ruined in the end.
Brother Mark. Thankyou bro great message. Will definitely help me in the future.👍🏾
What you said towards the end of how men want to do things for a woman to make her happy is opposite of how my ex boyfriend was. He did things for me and expected me to repay him by doing the same things for him. I see he had a distorted view of how men are supposed to interact with their wives.
That color looks great on you friend!!
You're a great teacher, the way you present, share and break it down for better understanding has always been helpful 💙 thank you for sharing a free sneak peek to your courses.
Wow I'm blessed with your teaching.❤
This was awesome, so helpful! Thank you Mark, I know topics like this are hard to discuss without hurting anyone's feelings. But the truth is the truth!
I’m waiting for my husband so thank you for this video. Very helpful and centered on the biblical view of marriage
This was the best video ever! I had so many aww moments finding out what guys want. It really touched my heart.
Sounds like a healthy relationship. God bless and save everybody who is reading this accordingly to his will, in Yeshuas mighty Name 🙌🏼
Hi Mark,
This was such a good video! You mentioned accepting a man for being a man. I would like to hear more on what that looks like as far as being supportive and realistic.
What a fabulous teacher you are Mark,thankyou for the great content!
So glad you are enjoying the content! All glory to God!
Amen!
Thank you for sharing this! We are needing wisdom and God used you to enlighten us! Especially your boat analogy! Our emotions try to lead us. Thank you God that you are gracious to us!!! Especially when we fumble the ball. 🤪
I agree with all of what you said. One thing I have been observing all my life is that most men are attracted to women who have a similar level of intelligence and a level of education that is not far lower than their own.
Yes because they will require a wife who can support their present role and future positions😊
This was really good! Thank you!
Kudos to you for breaking this down in a way for people to have a clear understanding. I agree with everything you said. We need more people teaching this and especially to the young people. God Bless You 🙏🏽 Your ministry is so helpful and on point. 💯
Thanks for taking the time to film and edit and upload this Mark!
Wow, some great insights, especially how women shouldn't expect men to be the same as them in their thinking etc, ie. remb that men are not women! And also about how women like men to make them happy, but a man doesn't necessarily need the same, he'd rather see the woman happy. Hard to get my head around!!!
Sounds like all the things God wants for His woman also. He wants to be the Hero and Provider, and the woman should recieve from Him, that's kinda romantic 💞
Thank you so much for making it plain that we must be the healthy version of ourselves. My gosh, i get so bombarded with all this "advice" that i shouldn't improve or lose bad habbits. They keep telling me that these bad parts of me are just who i am. Screw that!
So thank you so much it's so refreshing
Wow, I really like the fact you’re bringing out about Genesis 2&3. Very insightful!
Thank you!!! God bless you!!!!!
Mark, your videos are excellent! Thank you so much for your ministry. May our Lord continue to give you strength and wisdom, and bless you and your family.
This is very important information
You did a wonderful job explaining the true relationship dynamics between a man and a woman, how they operate effectively according to biblical principles. Thank you!
I really like this type of christian teaching.. very balanced and biblical! Thank you
YES!!! LOVE THIS IDEA AND CONTENT!!! THANK YOU FOR THE FREE COURSE AND CONTENT!!!! THIS IS AMAZING!!!
This is a blessing to me!! I saved it to be viewed later
This is soooo good. I appreciate it very much.
Amen brother. Mark I truly appreciate your wisdom. Thank you for always reverting back to scripture ❤
Thank you so much for sharing this video, it’s so helpful to understand what a man wants in a godly marriage!
Thank you so much!
Very educational and inspiring. Thank you! 🙏😊 if only to know it all years earlier.. so many unnecessary words would not have been spoken. But the learning is always a blessing.. and better later than never. Thank you Mark! 🙏
Wow, this video is so helpful. It deserves more views!!
Those who have ears will hear. Those who have eyes will see🎉
Thank you for explaining so plainly. God bless🌷
Thank you for this Mark 🙏🏾
Wow!!! Powerful message!! Sooo true! How you explain it is well said!
Thank you, God, for such good biblical content from this God-fearing man, Mark. I pray that you would really bless him and his family with a double portion of your spirit in his ministry and his life in Jesus' name.
👏👏👏👏👍👍👍 Thank you for explaining this obvious God truth about the differences between men and women.
so clarifying, thank you ❤
Amazing counsil and food to my soul! Thanks for defining these biblical traits and providing such detailed examples!!
This has diffinitly opened my eyes alittle more thank you!
Couldn't have put it in any better way... thanks pastor Mark a lot of noteworthy points. Might need to come back to your video in the future to help counteract my feminist friends
All you have to do is read the Bible! It is not rocket science. The women of today don't want to submit and trust God for the results to work everything out for good!! I can say that because my blood use to boil too when I would hear that scripture verse. But anytime you go against what the Bible says, you are headed down a bad road! A road to the devil/destruction!
Thanks for the biblical perspectives. I've been challenged and equipped to change my ways to act out of my true identity as a woman.
I'm so glad it was helpful Julia!
This was so concise & helpful🙏🏾 Thank you Mark your teaching gift is a true blessing❣️
Wow.. thank you so much.
This is 🔥
Great job Mark!
The verse you put up Matthew 22:37 through 40 that is perfect to counter argue with the Mormons. On these two commandments depend all the law and the prophets. Because the Mormons come up to me and there's a ton of like commandments that they've been ordinances that they've made up and I'm thinking you don't have to do all that you guys. And this verse really helps with that. Thank you
🌈💞🌻ThankYou Mark, for these truths you’ve spoken of from God’s Word. Blessings to You & your Family! “Praise be to God who gives us the Victory through our Lord Jesus Christ”!
Thank you sir for this content. I agree with what you said and loved how you broke down the points. It helps educate and be considerate of the man
This is one of the best videos! I like the background of new bookcases, as well as the attractive shirt, in particular its color.
Let's be cautious not to come across as a Jezebel. His wife dresses him nicely. She seems to be a great decorator as well. 😀
Good video
Point 3 IS VERY RELATABLE AND TIMELY🔥🔥🔥
Excellent video, thank you Mark! 🙏
Glad you liked it!
This was so helpful! Thank you for this and all of your post that help each of us from the standpoint of God's word!
Hi, your video is so meaningful and impacting. Especially in a Christian way, I would like to throw light to exodus 21:10 from the Bible. Thank you
Are we kidding? I do the extracurricular activities men do... I love achieving goals more than anything. Women are very goal oriented and tactical when it suits them. I can be more goal oriented than my male friends.
What you wrote here proves that you would want to be a man's competitor more than his companion.
You shouldn't compare yourself with a man, it's not healthy and it's not feminine.
Yes women can do most things men do that's why we are helpers but that's also vice versa. Let's appreciate men and not look down on them
The big thing that grabbed me is how men compartmentalize. Women are generally many things at once and more multi-tasking orientated. It's not a case of something being more important, it's just a different category. It explains more why guys cannot fathom that you get mad when their hobbies may eat into a date night. It's not done on purpose in my case but it doesn't occur to them? They aren't sitting around daydreaming about their partners. Ok. I think I get it! Men have compartments for their lives. Pushing into competition with what is important to him.
Proverbs Chapter 2 and Chapter 3. see 3:5-18 She is more precious than rubies: and all the things thou canst desire are not to be compared unto her.Length of days is in her right hand; and in her left hand riches and honour. Her ways are ways of pleasentness, and all her paths are peace. She is a tree of life to them that lay hold upon her; and happy is everyone that retaineth her. Proverbs 4:23 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. 4:6-13 Forsake her not, and she shall preserve thee; Love her, and she sahll keep thee. 7.Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding. 8 Exalt her, and she shall promote thee: she shall bring thee to honour, when thou dost embrace her. 9. She shall give to thine head an ornament of grace: a crown of glory shall she deliver to thee.10. Hear, O my son, and receive my sayings; and the years of thy life shall be many.
I really enjoyed this. Thank you!
My ex once told me “ I will be at home dad and you work “ I was like “ wooow” definitely felt like I needed to be the provider . Then one time I told him I prefer to help in the house and you work more . He said “ no, I like to cook , clean “
I felt very unhappy. He made me believe that I needed to go back to school and be the provider .
We are not together anymore, of course. And I didn’t want to have kids with him either for the same reason. When we were going out he would say “ you need to pay this time “ I told him , I make less than you “ I was working as a nanny at that time .
Preciated king folk! God bless.
The part about how animals embrace God’s design for them and how we constantly reject our design that’s why we are the way we are.
I proposed to my now fiancée a few weeks ago, and we plan on getting married in December. Is this good for pre-marital couples? My fiancee struggled in her up bringing as the enemy wrecked her house with narcissistic dad, so we've been pulling down the stronghold against the biblical view of women, respect submit, as she saw it abused by her father to her mother. So it's like bad words to her now. Just trying to get on the same page before marriage about desiring to be what the bible calls us to be in marriage I'm not asking her to be perfect by the wedding day but at least equally yoked in that regard for desire to be biblical. I don't have issues with my role and sacrificial love. I'm called to do, I even bring it up. We're trying to get her to a place where she actually brings it up with Joy. Instead I bring it up and it brings bad feelings.
Thanks Mark, I've watched a lot of your stuff since I was born again last October and learning to court in a God honoring way you've been an amazing resource.
As a daughter of a narcissistic mother, I have only recently been realising just how much it has affected my entire life. (I'm a single woman in my early 40s btw for context). So it may take a long time for your fiancee to process various emotions etc. And of course it's different if it was her dad, but similar in ways. There are many great articles online, I honestly can't remb them lol, but all I did was type in stuff like 'daughters of narcissistic mothers' etc, just look up things using keywords. Even some non-Christian articles had interesting points. I've also spoken to a Christian counsellor. God bless.
Are you her first Christian relationship? As a new believer when I first read a women should submit to their husbands I was irked. But I realized it’s because I’ve only known worldly men who live in their flesh. I could never submit to those types of men because their actions are coming from their flesh. But a man of God submits to God. And the Bible says men should treat their wives as themselves. That allowed me to have trust, because worldly men are selfish. A women should never submit to someone selfish because they are only going to care about their needs being met and not hers. But a man of God will prioritize the women and think of her as his partner and listen to instruction from God and know he must protect her and love her the way God loves his bride. So restore faith in your fiancé that you are will not be like the world. That you are not partaking in the worldly ways of sin that causes pain and trauma. When a real man of God is in your life you know it because they don’t just read the scripture, they live the scripture.
@@PrettyIndependent1 Yeah we're each others first Christian relationship. I agree! I know she does too, still working on these things. It's just with her Father being a dictator over her mom cheating etc. And the fact we knew each in the world doesn't help. But we're in a pretty good place in this department God has brought us a long wau
I think premarital counseling is the best option for you two. You might resent her for not upholding her “role” while you are “successfully” in yours. She needs to see YOU Are Not her father. She should see you are the complete opposite of him and joyfully accept you as her leader.
I understand where she is coming from and unless she is praying to the Holy Ghost… she will want you to accept her trauma and deal with it
You know..... I actually agree with all 7.
Now I know what’s wrong for me. I never had a family and I always feel on the outskirts of my siblings families. I understand what’s amiss now.
Amazing content. I made all the mistakes you listed thanks to my upbringing and the society.
Myself as well. It's not our fault about how we were taught as young adults. However, it's our fault if we don't seek to find the truth as adults! Like Jesus... He accepts us like we are. However, He doesn't want us to stay as we are. We are to grow in God daily! Be Blessed!!
Very insightful 👌🏾
God made both men and women to communicate....period. Or else why does a woman desire him to discuss plans and sittuations arising inside the home?
Why does a man feel left out if a woman goes ahead of him to take on certain desisions that he was not aware of?
So does the woman.
The basic fundamental attributes were intended for the entire family...men, women, and children.
This is unacceptable for us to say that men have excuses for not wanting to have good communication with his wife. Family unit can fail.
Think about it...
If Adam had spoken out in the beginning to Eve, re-enforcing God's command to them of not partaking of the forbidden fruit, the fall of humanity would never take place. He refraining to speak out contributed greatly to the fall.
A christian husband should always remember that.
I see your point. Agree 👍🏼
Great video
Thanks
Ephesians 6:4
English Standard Version
4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
My father loved to provoke his children, push their buttons and make them angry.
@@nancysprague6146same
Listening to you I just wonder, how does it work in online dating or in long distant relationships...? To me two people liking each other in a healthy way at the same time to the extend that they want to get married - it is just a full-blown miracle.
Helpful, realistic, & solid Biblical advice, Mark, thank you! Everything you've said is explained by your spiritual brother from another mother on the "Stefan Speaks" channel... I listen to both of you and am deeply grateful for your collective brotherly advice! 💪😎👍
Appreciate what you've said here. Not trying to take away from it at all, but is "Stefan Speaks" a biblical approach and viewpoint? I tend to think it's not.... it "sounds" good and sounds "spiritual".. but still sounds like "leaning on our own understanding" (at least the few videos I watched). Maybe I'm wrong, I don't know...but that's what comes to my mind from his videos..
@@db4419 No he is not a Pastor. Therefore his opinion is Biblically laced but not Biblically based! He does not read scriptures..etc
Thank You 🙏 God
Thank you 🙏
Unfortunately in Canada I've been met with non-stop men who want a woman to be a high status provider woman. They also want to be pursued. Godless.
💚🗨Thank The Lord! I Want To See What Both Men & Women Needs, Wants & Roles In Life❣☺ & Thank You Mark Ballenger❗😊
thanks
Mark do you think it's okay for women to date for marriage if they don't have a job and may be struggling with income. I know many women who feel they aren't worthy of looking for a husband because of this. Honestly I'm curious to know because this keeps coming up
I feel the same
You can still be the best you can without a job. Why not volunteer😊
This is good but a women’s relationship to her work, her education, is also very important to many women . Women also find identity in their career and work. I would agree that if a woman is a mother, then her children should come first, and she should not neglect her role as a wife. I also think this point about men is not ubiquitous …. Plenty of men are slothful, unmotivated, and merely work for a paycheck. I don’t think working for a paycheck is a bad thing, it’s a means to an ends, and any work is honorable to God. But not everyone has a strong drive to achieve or need a career-driven purpose in life. In my personal experience, this was an issue where my spouse was either not capable or motivated to provide for us, but he also did not support me as a helpmate. It seemed like he felt threatened by my career and instead of appreciating that God gave him a wife that complements him in this area, he became bitter and destructive to my work. I don’t know if this is common or not, thoughts ?
35:11 Okay this had me projecting allot. Is a career & a God given kingdom assignment even the same? I don’t think so. The 2 don’t necessarily go together although it’s not bad for the man to have.
OR maybe they do go together like Joseph being ruler over Egypt ☝🏽. Okay I get it now that’s for this correction 💯
It says in Ephesians 5:21 Submitting YOURSELVES One To Another in the Fear of God. Wives sumit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 25. Husbands love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleans it with the washing of water by the Word, 28. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 32. This is a great mystery: But I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33. Nevertheless let EVERYONE of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence (deep respect) her husband.
28:02 Don't miss out on what he CAN..
My problem is that I haven't had a MAN! Instead I have dated BOYS. Even older men seem to want to still be boys. What I mean by that is: I was talking to a guy for about 4 months. We're both Christian and love the Lord but he just wanted sex from me and no I didn't give it to him. If a guy just wants sex just say in the beginning, so I can leave them alone. Another thing is too I'm very intelligent and know what I want. When I get into a relationship I always try to treat the guy and respect but then all of a sudden the guy thinks I'm dumb or native and stupid so they try to take advantage of me. I always try to treat a guy like Jesus would and it back fires on me everytime. Unless It's the Lord's will I staying single. I thought by 30 I would be married will at least one baby. I would love to have a little boy and a little girl but that hasn't happened yet. It October I will be 31 years old. I haven't done everything right over the years and there are relationships I wish would have never happened! Things I wish I wouldn't have said or did but it must not have been to bad because just about all my ex's wanted me back. I also go by what the Lord wants and the Golden rule: Treat others the way you want to be treated.