I think she wanted the marriage, expecting him to fulfill every one of her needs. She never learned how to be an independent adult. Probably a spoiled, rotten daddy’s girl they got everything she ever wanted.
I found Tamarra and Jeremy online. They’re still married, have 4 kids now, and she recently got a masters in special education. It looks like she has a job after getting her masters. I hope they healed!
exactly, if this was a guy being “ clingy” towards a girl, he would be a dictator or controlling. i think either man or woman acting this way would be psychotic
@mamatried925 Being clingy and being controlling are MAJORLY DIFFERENT and anybody who doesn't know that is a walking red flag. Men really don't get criticized for being clingy. They DO get criticized when they are being controlling. People who won't refer to things as what they actually are are not interested in truth though.
Yea she doesn't have a life outside of her partner. She needs to get a life of her own, hobbies and a job - and let him have a life. It's not normal to require this much interest from your partner.
And he is too feminine and not manly enough for her and extremely boyish and childish and that's why he allowed her to do all those things. She needs an alpha male not a feminine male he is not strong enough for her
I think he should have divorced her before he got rid of his horses. She's selfish and insecure. She shouldn't be surprised if he resents her and doesn't want to be around her.
Yup - it’s a mismatch but people hiding their true self is very, very common. They were both guilty of that to some degree. He had endless time while courting her. Two important statements: The only thing he mentioned about falling in love with her was that she was pretty. “It’s hard to be passionate with someone you’re fighting with.” Pay attention to that, ladies. That goes for all men! If you want his passion, give him peace.
Tamara is a control freak, he even looks at her for approval befor speaking.shes aftr a lapdog for a husband...its quite vomit inducing listning to her. Being jealous of his horses is disgusting. Divorce her.
These two have nothing in common. One is active, the other is sedentary. One has hobbies, the other expects to be entertained. One is bossy, one is passive-aggressive. One works hard, I do not know what the other does if anything.
Um no. Separation anxiety usually comes from something valid. She's literally just insufferable and knows that getting someone else to put up with her would be very difficult. That mess probably follows him when he goes out so he can't ever get a head start running away.
Lots of comments saying Tamarra is essentially a bad person but all I see is someone that has an unhealthy need to depend on someone else. She reminds me of my brother's dog that cried when my brother wasn't home, spent it's whole day waiting for my brother to come home, and got jealous when my brother was spending time with someone else. It's not that she's a bad person. She's just been living a very sheltered life and that has stunted her personal growth.
This couple should divorce. No biggie. Bad match. Happens all the time. Huge red flag: she told him to get rid of his pets (horses). Never, never, never.
As a woman, I agree. Couples need separate activities to be able to refresh themselves. My husband and I have been married 27 years. We are now retired. I encourage him to go do things outside of the house.
@@Machinu5 Talk about stereotyping. No, most women like the beauty of horses but not the money, land, time, vet and farrier and breeding bills, etc. The "horse girl" is known to be crazy and obsessive, and cowboys ain't no different beyond plumbing and wiring.
Is this chick for real????? She lucky he hasn't already bailed. Like what is she kidding . He needs to put his foot down and they both need to grow up. 😂
46 years married, and we only met 3 months before our wedding! He is the most wonderful man and a great father. Life is not always the perfect, but without him, it would be much harder!
That’s so wonderful to hear. I’m a youngster in comparison whos only been married for 15 years, but couples like you hand your husband is very inspiring. God bless you both❤
Hiya congrats, I met my husband at the end of November 1979, we got married March 8 1980, 44 years and counting.... there's no staying power now, throw away society.
OK, going to work is not your“personal “time because you have to get up at crazy hours and work for usually eight hours. It’s not like he is going out drinking with his friends or riding horses in his case he is working.
The first woman isn't clingy, she's controlling. If she were a man we'd probably call her abusive. She seems to have no job, no friends, and to do nothing except watch tv (maybe she cooks and cleans) and wait for hubby to come home. I'd be a lonely basket case too. But it's time for her to get a life, almost literally. Trying to give her grace, that maybe she's had some trauma that makes her live so abnormally, but she's got to come to terms with it whether they stay married or not
My boyfriend is a lead detective. Talk about long hours away from home. But I have a life. Yes I miss him but I stay busy. I'm retired but my life is full. He's talked about retiring early but he is passionate about his career. Don't do it for me. Do it cuz you are ready to. How is she so babyish at her age? Ick
She’s so selfish and immature and unlikable. I don’t know why he even married someone like that. She sucks at being married and isn’t grown up enough to be in any relationship. Toxic
My husband and I are the same way but we both see things the same way. We want to be together all of the time. We go to bed at the same time, we are best friends and we have the same interests. That’s the key, find someone with the same interests and life style. We’ve been together for over 30 years and look forward to the rest of our lives together.
We met, got engaged in four months, married a year later........33 years later...guess we are lucky. But we communicate very well, I don't mother him, he doesn't father me. We are equal.
Together 43 years. We each have our own hobbies and friends, but also love spending time together. We can talk, and joke, and also just be quiet together. He is my rock, and I am his. It takes both people putting the other first. 💥
The first lady, if the roles were reversed and it was a husband preventing his wife from leaving the house, socialising, making her give up her horses, going to school etc it would be domestic violence via coercive control.
Yes! Can you imagine the uproar had it been the other way round?! And I have to wonder, why does she not a have a job?! Is she busy scrubbing floors and windows? I think not...young, healthy, selfish and spoilt ! I would've like her parents take on this behaviour
He should take her camoing ,hiking , horse back riding etc...get her out of her comfort zone . Dr phil should tell her she has to do it and find more out of life
I just want to take a moment and put my husband on a pedastool here. We have been together for 14 years. Just had our 14th anniversary on July 4. While our state doesn't acknowledge common law. We do. This means he and I have been married 4 years. We recently hit a huge bump in the road this year. I had a second round of clots in my aorta and common illiac arteries. This caused me to lose the ability to walk. It was extremely painful. Like a bad cramp you can't work out. They were reable to restore blood flow to my legs and I woke up in the ICU. You would think the horror ends there right? Nope we just getting started Hon. A few weeks into recovery I had 2 cardiac events and while the doctor was looking at the latest event my right leg went ice cold out of nowhere. I already had sever reduced sensation in my legs but that icy cold feeling will forever haunt me. I knew exactly what happened and I slowly started to freak out. One CT scan later revealed the horror I already knew was there. A clot, this time in my femoral artery. They tried for 12 hours to restore blood flow and they failed. They presented me with 2 options. 1) I could do nothing and my leg would rot off and I could die from sepsis. Or 2) they take the leg and I live relearning all the basic functions. I chose the second one. I've been in and out of hospitals for about 6 months. I'm finally home and hopefully for good this time. My husband has been my rock through this whole thing. He is the best caregiver a woman could ask for. I am bed bound at the moment but I will walk again if I have anything to say about it. But my husband and I have grown VERY close through this. There isn't much else we could know.
She's asking how do they find a compromise where he spends time with her and has everything he wants to? The thing is is she spending time with him? She wants him to stay home and watch movies and be a homebody and he does that for her but does she offer to go horseback riding with him does she go on a hike with him? Sometimes marriage means doing things you don't necessarily want to do or aren't interested in but you do them to be there with your spouse because that's the thing they like to do or are interested in. Then a lot of the time people find that they end up looking forward to that thing because it means quality time with their spouse and they have a good time. As she's going now she's just going to end up getting fat and lazy. Then he'll really be resentful.
I think there is a huge double standard. If a husband was demanding all his wife’s time, not allowing her to connect with her friends or have any sort of social life, people would see it as a huge red flag. Isolating her, controlling her curfews… he would be made to look like an abuser. But just because she is bubbly blond girl, they just laugh it off. Run, dude!
This gal is codependent with severe abandonment issues. She reminds me of myself in my twenties, before I found recovery in AlAnon. I hope she gets help too.
My husband would never take my horse away. He knew how important getting a horse was for me and last year for my birthday we found a rescue horse for free. I had a talk with him because she was costing us a ton of money and asked if we should sell her and he said absolutely not, that he would never do that to me.
I think the woman in the first couple should become a flight attendant and broaden her horizons. She should not demand things from her husband, she needs to be way less available and not wait for him to get home.
When I had problems in my marriage I told my family Dr. who was my Dr. since my youth. He said this and I remembered it all 60 yrs of my marriage. Bottom line..learn to cope or get out!! My hubby was bipolar and did get on meds, when the good ones became available. That was a life and marriage saver!
Marriage is hard. It’s hard job and compromises all the way. Being this clingy will tear him and the marriage down. I see a lot of people say:” “Just get a divorce” like it’s not a big deal. I’m of the opinion you do what you can before you divorce. Marriage should ideally be the one time, of course if it can’t work and they just make each other unhappy, divorce is an option, but I understand they want to try therapy and help first. Bless them both. They probably married too fast and too young. Not everyone is ready for marriage this young.
I was like this when I was younger. I was very insecure. No one person can meet your needs. Years later my husband (we met in our 40s, both our second marriage) and we both have many different hobbies and we both have friends we spend time with apart. We also spend alone time apart. We did not consider marrying until we had been together for years and knew we were compatible. This is easy to do when you are secure with yourself and with your relationship. She needs to practice being comfortable spending time alone or with family/friends away from hubby. She can work this out. ❤❤❤
The fact that this guy was willing to give up everything for, it blows my mind. I don’t understand how you can give up your entire self just because you love someone.
I pray for the husband’s faith. He should’ve been honest. God has healed my husband and I or we wouldn’t be married. ❤. We’ve been married 29 years and have six beautiful kids( four are ❤🎉adult children)
Before I got married, I attended a lesson where I learned that 1. It's hard to know while you're dating what questions to ask and what to look for. It's like being a tourist in a town vs. being a homeowner. You see things differently once there's commitment. 2. The first year should be spent together, building the foundation for the marriage. Not to the extreme that Lady A wants, perhaps, but definitely making the effort to spend most of their free time together to begin with. In the case of the first couple, they apparently just went with the fantasy version of romance without asking any of the right questions and with building no healthy balance or boundaries, so now she doesn't know how to ask for affection, and he just wants to get away. No communication. Very sad.
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I think they are both immature . Every one focused on her but she intuitively knew on the honeymoon he had regrets , felt him pull back and that can make someone clingy and extra insecure. She said he gave her lots of attention before the marriage and everything changed after that . He needs a woman that rides horses and has a black belt. She needs an academic book reader that hikes. Good luck to them both.
Seriously, would you say that if it were a guy? Probably not! This may come as a surprise to your shallow brain, but sometimes people actually love each other for different reasons. I know, shocking that most people are t as shallow as you!
@ffgggkok I think they do though...she's a very skilled manipulator , he clearly has no idea who he married Fact she made him get rid of his horses, is all I need to know about her...he needs to run
I feel so sorry for the guy not allowed to do anything. His wife is ruining his life and he will grow to hate her in the future. All she cares about is herself. She is sitting there laughing at everything which tells that she just doesn't get it and she will never get it. What he want has no relevance, it's all about her. She need to get friends and some hobbies so he get some time to do things he likes to. She is suffocating him.
Together 20 tears and married 18. We have known each other for 30. We encourage each other to have time apart with friends. We accept we don’t agree on all activities. He likes to camp. Me? Nope. So I get a hotel near campsite to visit but usually go back home after a couple of days. I like shopping and museums when we travel. He puts in a bit of effort then finds a pub. He adores the beach, but I don’t. So we mutually love deep sea fishing and do that. We find happy mediums that work for us. It’s called compromise. We discussed it BEFORE we wed. Are there disagreements? Absolutely! Then we agree to disagree and motor on if it is something not life changing. We can vacation together and spend time apart without upsetting the other. We also agree wholeheartedly to not go to bed disgruntled. Works fir us. We are a couple with a complete life both with one another and solo. Makes and keeps us happy and not missing out.
They do not have to have things in common. They need to support and care about who the other person is. My husband is a country boy and I am a city girl. He loves seeing me thrive and I love seeing him do the things he loves to do. The wife needs to have a different perspective. The husband will love her more if she allows him to thrive with who he is and what he enjoys.
8 years married here! You need to know everything that is important and a deal breaker to you. You always will learn new things. Now, I learned that picking up the underwear on of the floor, is not important and it is more important to focus on other things. Also, communication:) and learn each other love languages, to make them feel loved and important. Finally, give yourself your own space! Tamara, you will saturate him.
My husband and I fight about good things. "You made me dinner last night, it's my turn to make it for you !", "Is there anything I can get you?" If I want the toilet seat down, I put it down. I suggest he hang with friends and go golfing when he wants. If we have angry words, we apologize quickly and are happy again soon. It's about selflessness.
It sounds like they got into a really bad cycle. It sounds like she was shocked that when they got married, that he started paying less attention to her, which caused her to get clingy and complain, which caused him to to pull away and resent her. They really need to both stop being selfish. He needs to forgive her and let go of his resentment and show her affection, and she needs to back off and give him space. He probably is really busy and needs to be more present in the relationship and she is clingy. I really don't think any of these people are bad, I think they just got into a bad cycle and need to just work it out.
I'd never ever get rid of my pets for anyone! Never!! Period!
Same. My boyfriend had to adapt
The same would never get rid of my cat
OMG I Love my dog so much
@@angela3196 Same here!!
Never marry a person who didn't love animals. Poor guy.
She made him quit college. She made him sell his horses. This woman is so insecure. Its quite sad.
Can you imagine the uproar if a man did this to woman? Curfew and bed time?! He'd probably be arrested for abuse
@@Gothiclovesick she's just a spoiled selfish brat
@janet5846 that's the damn truth
@@janet5846 sexist
@@travisreed4070 sexist
She really has no friends and expected him to fill all her needs.
Scary. She kinda scares me. Psychotic behavior.
She has no friends for a reason...she is so obnoxious and just unlikeable!
I think she wanted the marriage, expecting him to fulfill every one of her needs. She never learned how to be an independent adult. Probably a spoiled, rotten daddy’s girl they got everything she ever wanted.
Jeremy, RUN, RUN, RUN!! You married a child
People should have friendships and hobbies outside of their spouse. No person should meet all of your needs. She sounds codependent.
I think she is the very definition of codependent
How can she possibly love him and simultaneously strip him of everything he loves?
exactly!!
Bingo
How can he let her
Cuz she loves herself and her needs more. Pathetic.
@@nikkid4890 exactly that’s not love. You love someone you want them to be happy and you love what makes them, them!
I found Tamarra and Jeremy online. They’re still married, have 4 kids now, and she recently got a masters in special education. It looks like she has a job after getting her masters. I hope they healed!
Wow, she actually got a life and learned to do things on her own.
4!!! Americans multiply like mice
@@Doinko-u2zfr we need to chill
I'm in Australia and I have 6 kids 😬
@@Doinko-u2z that isn't typical, the birth rate is below replacement levels 😅
Why are they giggling? This is weird. She is throwing red flags all over the place. I hope the 1st guy got out of this marriage
I agree-she’s more than clingy! She’s controlling!
@@markieell2560 yes she is both
exactly, if this was a guy being “ clingy” towards a girl, he would be a dictator or controlling. i think either man or woman acting this way would be psychotic
They're laughing because it's uncomfortable 😅😅
@mamatried925 Being clingy and being controlling are MAJORLY DIFFERENT and anybody who doesn't know that is a walking red flag. Men really don't get criticized for being clingy. They DO get criticized when they are being controlling. People who won't refer to things as what they actually are are not interested in truth though.
Tamarra needs to get her life, 24/7 want husband, get a pet, hobby too, also a job
Also, two words: crazy eyes.
Yea she doesn't have a life outside of her partner. She needs to get a life of her own, hobbies and a job - and let him have a life. It's not normal to require this much interest from your partner.
Right, if she had a job, I'm sure a lot of these problems would exist. She's made her whole world and identity based on her relationship
She could be a flight attendant and travel.
@@user-vx9bn1wc5b NOOOO cause then she wouldn’t be able to see her hubby and control him 24/7
She's not clingy. . . . .she's selfish and narcissistic
And controlling!
And he is to feminine and childish
And he is too feminine and not manly enough for her and extremely boyish and childish and that's why he allowed her to do all those things. She needs an alpha male not a feminine male he is not strong enough for her
@@vlucidity maybe so. He certainly needs to stand up for himself. Not feminine but definitely childish and cowardly.
Guy thinks it is funny..he is embarrassment to men. In front of millions of viewers he looks like a joke
How could you get rid of your animals for someone? Ughh What a witch!
Strong no!
I think he should have divorced her before he got rid of his horses. She's selfish and insecure. She shouldn't be surprised if he resents her and doesn't want to be around her.
Absolutely 110 percent!!!!!
She's extremely childish
Selfish
He already is
@@sharondykes4338 he should have divorced her before he dropped out of school
She's selfish and controlling!!
HOW IN THE WORLD DID THESE TO EVEN DATE LET ALONE MARRY EACH OTHER OMG!!!!!! SHE'S BEYOND CLINGY & BEHAVES LIKE A BABY!!!
She’s clever enough to make herself the victim without him realizing till it’s too late.
Classic Manipulation at its finest!!! He is so hesitant to even speak without having to look at her first for approval.
she is a manipulative baby
Yup - it’s a mismatch but people hiding their true self is very, very common. They were both guilty of that to some degree. He had endless time while courting her.
Two important statements: The only thing he mentioned about falling in love with her was that she was pretty.
“It’s hard to be passionate with someone you’re fighting with.” Pay attention to that, ladies. That goes for all men! If you want his passion, give him peace.
Tamara is a control freak, he even looks at her for approval befor speaking.shes aftr a lapdog for a husband...its quite vomit inducing listning to her. Being jealous of his horses is disgusting. Divorce her.
These two have nothing in common. One is active, the other is sedentary. One has hobbies, the other expects to be entertained. One is bossy, one is passive-aggressive. One works hard, I do not know what the other does if anything.
She doesn’t do anything.
@@mssophiad03😂😂 yesss
I was going to write a comment like this , but I couldn’t put it any better myself.. l totally agree with you 100 %
she needs a J.O.B
This woman must get a few hobbies so they can each have alone time doing what they enjoy even if they don't do it together.
She needs hobbies, interests and friends.
And a job!
I think it's a little effed up of you to wish the company of THAT on anybody
Yep and she needs a Job 😁
She has weird separation anxiety 😬 I couldn’t imagine wanting to spend that much time in my house with someone 😂
More like anxious attachment
Um no. Separation anxiety usually comes from something valid. She's literally just insufferable and knows that getting someone else to put up with her would be very difficult. That mess probably follows him when he goes out so he can't ever get a head start running away.
I can’t believe she made him get rid of his horses I would never ever do that
That's not love
Lots of comments saying Tamarra is essentially a bad person but all I see is someone that has an unhealthy need to depend on someone else. She reminds me of my brother's dog that cried when my brother wasn't home, spent it's whole day waiting for my brother to come home, and got jealous when my brother was spending time with someone else. It's not that she's a bad person. She's just been living a very sheltered life and that has stunted her personal growth.
This couple should divorce. No biggie. Bad match. Happens all the time. Huge red flag: she told him to get rid of his pets (horses). Never, never, never.
She told him to get rid of his entire lifestyle.
As a woman, I agree. Couples need separate activities to be able to refresh themselves. My husband and I have been married 27 years. We are now retired. I encourage him to go do things outside of the house.
Don't most women love horses?
@@Machinu5 Talk about stereotyping. No, most women like the beauty of horses but not the money, land, time, vet and farrier and breeding bills, etc. The "horse girl" is known to be crazy and obsessive, and cowboys ain't no different beyond plumbing and wiring.
@@Undomaranelstereotyping? Seriously? That is ridiculous most humans i would think love horses so relax stop being so sensitive
Is this chick for real????? She lucky he hasn't already bailed. Like what is she kidding . He needs to put his foot down and they both need to grow up. 😂
Jeremyy doesn't want her. He needs to discover his true self. He is trying to follow societal norms.
Marriage shouldn’t be a prison sentence
That clingy chick is crazy . He didn’t know she was like this before marrying her
46 years married, and we only met 3 months before our wedding! He is the most wonderful man and a great father. Life is not always the perfect, but without him, it would be much harder!
That’s so wonderful to hear.
I’m a youngster in comparison whos only been married for 15 years, but couples like you hand your husband is very inspiring.
God bless you both❤
After having been married 25 yrs I will never marry ever again
Hiya congrats, I met my husband at the end of November 1979, we got married March 8 1980, 44 years and counting.... there's no staying power now, throw away society.
She needs to build her own life.
This bride is selfish....Leave the guy alone, Girlie.
She should get a job
Yeah she’s a freak
The clingy wife is not all there! She is definitely a narcissist! Poor guy! Married 43 yrs. and if you keep it up you'll be divorced ASAP!
Omg, I couldn’t even be her friend. Sir, run for the hills! I couldn’t tolerate this at all😩
OK, going to work is not your“personal “time because you have to get up at crazy hours and work for usually eight hours. It’s not like he is going out drinking with his friends or riding horses in his case he is working.
In hindsight we should of never married.
Very sad😢.
The first woman isn't clingy, she's controlling. If she were a man we'd probably call her abusive. She seems to have no job, no friends, and to do nothing except watch tv (maybe she cooks and cleans) and wait for hubby to come home. I'd be a lonely basket case too. But it's time for her to get a life, almost literally. Trying to give her grace, that maybe she's had some trauma that makes her live so abnormally, but she's got to come to terms with it whether they stay married or not
I'd call her abusive
My wife works 60 hours a week lol. And I never complain. This lady is so annoying
I bet you don't she is bringing in the money.
@@user-cy4vw1qj9m I own 2 businesses. Lmao. You tried it tho
My boyfriend is a lead detective. Talk about long hours away from home. But I have a life. Yes I miss him but I stay busy. I'm retired but my life is full. He's talked about retiring early but he is passionate about his career. Don't do it for me. Do it cuz you are ready to. How is she so babyish at her age? Ick
Wow how many hours do you work
@aliciacarstensen7904 you are a good supportive gf..
She’s so selfish and immature and unlikable. I don’t know why he even married someone like that. She sucks at being married and isn’t grown up enough to be in any relationship. Toxic
Maybe it's just me, but the way she says the word "clingy" is grounds for divorce 😂
Lol....I have a friend that says "hanGer" the same way! 😄
That’s how they say their g’s in parts of Texas. I have a friend who says it the same way
Did she ever think he works overtime to get away from her!!
My husband and I are the same way but we both see things the same way. We want to be together all of the time. We go to bed at the same time, we are best friends and we have the same interests. That’s the key, find someone with the same interests and life style. We’ve been together for over 30 years and look forward to the rest of our lives together.
We met, got engaged in four months, married a year later........33 years later...guess we are lucky. But we communicate very well, I don't mother him, he doesn't father me. We are equal.
The second couple, it's sad that all she wanted was to stay in the hotel on their honeymoon.
🤩 Lot of Bridegrooms would NOT have a problem with that!
There is no way I would have gotten rid of my horses! Get her out there and see how great they are, take a ride.
First dude: Run for the hills.
As fast as he can.
This guy did not take the lead in the marriage. He should have said no multiple times and put his foot down.
Together 43 years. We each have our own hobbies and friends, but also love spending time together. We can talk, and joke, and also just be quiet together. He is my rock, and I am his. It takes both people putting the other first. 💥
The first lady, if the roles were reversed and it was a husband preventing his wife from leaving the house, socialising, making her give up her horses, going to school etc it would be domestic violence via coercive control.
Yes! Can you imagine the uproar had it been the other way round?! And I have to wonder, why does she not a have a job?! Is she busy scrubbing floors and windows? I think not...young, healthy, selfish and spoilt ! I would've like her parents take on this behaviour
He should take her camoing ,hiking , horse back riding etc...get her out of her comfort zone . Dr phil should tell her she has to do it and find more out of life
I just want to take a moment and put my husband on a pedastool here. We have been together for 14 years. Just had our 14th anniversary on July 4. While our state doesn't acknowledge common law. We do. This means he and I have been married 4 years. We recently hit a huge bump in the road this year. I had a second round of clots in my aorta and common illiac arteries. This caused me to lose the ability to walk. It was extremely painful. Like a bad cramp you can't work out. They were reable to restore blood flow to my legs and I woke up in the ICU. You would think the horror ends there right? Nope we just getting started Hon. A few weeks into recovery I had 2 cardiac events and while the doctor was looking at the latest event my right leg went ice cold out of nowhere. I already had sever reduced sensation in my legs but that icy cold feeling will forever haunt me. I knew exactly what happened and I slowly started to freak out. One CT scan later revealed the horror I already knew was there. A clot, this time in my femoral artery. They tried for 12 hours to restore blood flow and they failed. They presented me with 2 options. 1) I could do nothing and my leg would rot off and I could die from sepsis. Or 2) they take the leg and I live relearning all the basic functions. I chose the second one. I've been in and out of hospitals for about 6 months. I'm finally home and hopefully for good this time. My husband has been my rock through this whole thing. He is the best caregiver a woman could ask for. I am bed bound at the moment but I will walk again if I have anything to say about it. But my husband and I have grown VERY close through this. There isn't much else we could know.
Aww what a great husband! I hope you recover and get to walking again soon!
Thanks for sharing ...
May God bless you with love healing and laughter
Thanks for sharing Hon
Thank God for this gift of a husband. 🙏🖐
Pedestal
She's asking how do they find a compromise where he spends time with her and has everything he wants to? The thing is is she spending time with him? She wants him to stay home and watch movies and be a homebody and he does that for her but does she offer to go horseback riding with him does she go on a hike with him? Sometimes marriage means doing things you don't necessarily want to do or aren't interested in but you do them to be there with your spouse because that's the thing they like to do or are interested in. Then a lot of the time people find that they end up looking forward to that thing because it means quality time with their spouse and they have a good time. As she's going now she's just going to end up getting fat and lazy. Then he'll really be resentful.
She also needs God to fill her emotional needs. A marriage can't fill it alone, nor can a job.
Not sure if it’s codependency because it’s on her end….but her neediness is off the chain. I know I wouldn’t be able to handle it…that’s too much.
I think there is a huge double standard. If a husband was demanding all his wife’s time, not allowing her to connect with her friends or have any sort of social life, people would see it as a huge red flag. Isolating her, controlling her curfews… he would be made to look like an abuser. But just because she is bubbly blond girl, they just laugh it off. Run, dude!
Agree completely
Great point. But this guy has as big a spine as jellyfish!
This gal is codependent with severe abandonment issues. She reminds me of myself in my twenties, before I found recovery in AlAnon. I hope she gets help too.
She Needs a JOB!!!
My husband would never take my horse away. He knew how important getting a horse was for me and last year for my birthday we found a rescue horse for free. I had a talk with him because she was costing us a ton of money and asked if we should sell her and he said absolutely not, that he would never do that to me.
She’s isolated him. That’s a red flag for abuse. There’s more ways to abuse someone without being physical
First has no life, she is a child and doesn’t want to be an adult!! She needs to get a job and learn to grow up!
You’ve got that right
He married a child
Married for all the wrong reasons...only want a wedding not a marriage..no wonder there is so much divorce😂
This girl needs to get a job and a hobby. She must have her own life outside his. She's too needy
I think the woman in the first couple should become a flight attendant and broaden her horizons. She should not demand things from her husband, she needs to be way less available and not wait for him to get home.
When I had problems in my marriage I told my family Dr. who was my Dr. since my youth. He said this and I remembered it all 60 yrs of my marriage. Bottom line..learn to cope or get out!! My hubby was bipolar and did get on meds, when the good ones became available. That was a life and marriage saver!
Marriage is hard. It’s hard job and compromises all the way. Being this clingy will tear him and the marriage down. I see a lot of people say:”
“Just get a divorce” like it’s not a big deal.
I’m of the opinion you do what you can before you divorce. Marriage should ideally be the one time, of course if it can’t work and they just make each other unhappy, divorce is an option, but I understand they want to try therapy and help first.
Bless them both. They probably married too fast and too young. Not everyone is ready for marriage this young.
She is smothering him. He'll be gone
@@alanaadams7440sadly I’m pretty sure you are right.
Don't have children!! Get a divorce!! Narc
The first lady needs a full time job.
She needs a network. Friends, job, hobbies ect…seems bored
I was like this when I was younger. I was very insecure. No one person can meet your needs. Years later my husband (we met in our 40s, both our second marriage) and we both have many different hobbies and we both have friends we spend time with apart. We also spend alone time apart. We did not consider marrying until we had been together for years and knew we were compatible. This is easy to do when you are secure with yourself and with your relationship. She needs to practice being comfortable spending time alone or with family/friends away from hubby. She can work this out.
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She has the wrong idea of what marriage should be. He will leave and that’s what she is trying to avoid.
No wonder he wants to leave
OMG, so absolutely stifling.
I've always said.."it's better to be miserably single, than miserably married"..😢
Living together is not the answer! You will try to impress and not be yourself?
Jeremy I would run!
To the wife, pray pray and pray, prayer moves mountains
The fact that this guy was willing to give up everything for, it blows my mind. I don’t understand how you can give up your entire self just because you love someone.
Any update on the couple? Did they stay together?
I doubt it!!!
Would be interesting to know. I wonder if she can even let go, she probably extremely insecure.
He's working to get away from you. His free time away. Sir, get you some backbone and put your foot down!!!
If your partner isn’t your best friend then don’t get married
I don't know much about horses, so I'm assuming here. But, wouldn't it feel like getting rid of a family member? I would feel resent as well.
I’ve been married for over thirty years. If my wife acted like that clinging vine it wouldn’t have lasted a year.
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Good point!
I pray for the husband’s faith. He should’ve been honest. God has healed my husband and I or we wouldn’t be married. ❤. We’ve been married 29 years and have six beautiful kids( four are ❤🎉adult children)
Before I got married, I attended a lesson where I learned that
1. It's hard to know while you're dating what questions to ask and what to look for. It's like being a tourist in a town vs. being a homeowner. You see things differently once there's commitment.
2. The first year should be spent together, building the foundation for the marriage. Not to the extreme that Lady A wants, perhaps, but definitely making the effort to spend most of their free time together to begin with.
In the case of the first couple, they apparently just went with the fantasy version of romance without asking any of the right questions and with building no healthy balance or boundaries, so now she doesn't know how to ask for affection, and he just wants to get away. No communication. Very sad.
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God Bless you Steve and I pray for relief for your pain..
@@patriciagrillo1843 he’s a known spammer on YT…I’ve lost count how many kids he has in urgent condition, or fake missing kids he begs for help on
@steveguti6452 Can I help in any way? I’ve also got chronic pain from a spinal cord injury, so I understand. I’ll pray!
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YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE BORN AGAIN IF YOU’RE A BELIEVER FROM THE START.
How did they meet and why did they even want to do a 2nd date?
I think they are both immature . Every one focused on her but she intuitively knew on the honeymoon he had regrets , felt him pull back and that can make someone clingy and extra insecure. She said he gave her lots of attention before the marriage and everything changed after that . He needs a woman that rides horses and has a black belt. She needs an academic book reader that hikes. Good luck to them both.
Dude…….leave her. She’s not that hot.
Well he says there’s some things he loves about her. I wonder what those are. There’s obviously more to women than looks.
Seriously, would you say that if it were a guy? Probably not! This may come as a surprise to your shallow brain, but sometimes people actually love each other for different reasons. I know, shocking that most people are t as shallow as you!
@@mssophiad03 fr, like people in the comments are acting like they know the her better than her husband.
@@ffgggkok she does seem crazy for sure though 🤣 my first thought was crazy eyes 👀
@ffgggkok I think they do though...she's a very skilled manipulator , he clearly has no idea who he married
Fact she made him get rid of his horses, is all I need to know about her...he needs to run
I feel so sorry for the guy not allowed to do anything. His wife is ruining his life and he will grow to hate her in the future. All she cares about is herself. She is sitting there laughing at everything which tells that she just doesn't get it and she will never get it. What he want has no relevance, it's all about her. She need to get friends and some hobbies so he get some time to do things he likes to. She is suffocating him.
Together 20 tears and married 18. We have known each other for 30.
We encourage each other to have time apart with friends. We accept we don’t agree on all activities. He likes to camp. Me? Nope. So I get a hotel near campsite to visit but usually go back home after a couple of days. I like shopping and museums when we travel. He puts in a bit of effort then finds a pub. He adores the beach, but I don’t. So we mutually love deep sea fishing and do that. We find happy mediums that work for us. It’s called compromise. We discussed it BEFORE we wed.
Are there disagreements? Absolutely! Then we agree to disagree and motor on if it is something not life changing. We can vacation together and spend time apart without upsetting the other. We also agree wholeheartedly to not go to bed disgruntled. Works fir us.
We are a couple with a complete life both with one another and solo. Makes and keeps us happy and not missing out.
She is basically smothering him.. she made him give up a job.. 😱
Checked out after giving up friends, horses, judo, hobbies and even choice of his bedtime 😅😅
Where do all these women find horse-men and why do they choose women that don’t want their lifestyle? It’s just not fair
They do not have to have things in common. They need to support and care about who the other person is. My husband is a country boy and I am a city girl. He loves seeing me thrive and I love seeing him do the things he loves to do. The wife needs to have a different perspective. The husband will love her more if she allows him to thrive with who he is and what he enjoys.
Guaranteed she thought of getting pregnant real FAST. Run mate RUN........FAST. She isn't normal.
I’d bet $1,000,000 that his family told him not to marry her and now it’s too late.
I love spending time with my wife but she is also my best friend !!! She is my ROCK !!
I always say who wants to be married, it’s difficult. If there wasn’t a wedding, most people wouldn’t be married…it’s not fun.
8 years married here! You need to know everything that is important and a deal breaker to you. You always will learn new things. Now, I learned that picking up the underwear on of the floor, is not important and it is more important to focus on other things.
Also, communication:) and learn each other love languages, to make them feel loved and important. Finally, give yourself your own space!
Tamara, you will saturate him.
The way he keeps looking nervously back & forth to her while answering questions is a huge red flag
My husband and I fight about good things. "You made me dinner last night, it's my turn to make it for you !", "Is there anything I can get you?"
If I want the toilet seat down, I put it down. I suggest he hang with friends and go golfing when he wants. If we have angry words, we apologize quickly and are happy again soon. It's about selflessness.
i’m glad everyone in the comments is as mad about him having to get rid of the horses as i am lol i would NEVER! they’d be gone before my horses
This woman doesn't have red flags, she IS a red flag.
Pick your BATTLES....and I would not have picked THOSE!!
Exactly (male or female) - if you are considering marriage, carefully and wisely pick your battles ... not battle-axes.
It sounds like they got into a really bad cycle. It sounds like she was shocked that when they got married, that he started paying less attention to her, which caused her to get clingy and complain, which caused him to to pull away and resent her. They really need to both stop being selfish. He needs to forgive her and let go of his resentment and show her affection, and she needs to back off and give him space. He probably is really busy and needs to be more present in the relationship and she is clingy. I really don't think any of these people are bad, I think they just got into a bad cycle and need to just work it out.
She didn’t make him give up anything he chose to do it. He could have told her no
Jeez how did they even get engaged in the first place
I would never marry anyone who doesn’t share my faith
No one wants to be with someone that is stuck up their butt 24/7