My Husband Left Me When I Was 9 Months Pregnant!

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  • @larcm3
    @larcm3 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2018

    I have 3 kids with my wife. I would rather die than abandon them. They are my everything

    • @Jay-om8gr
      @Jay-om8gr 5 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      G Ks unless she cheated on you or something. You don’t know the whole story. She’s clearly gonna make a one sided claim. He’s a monster and she’s a complete victim, I wanna hear what he has to say

    • @moniquek5097
      @moniquek5097 5 ปีที่แล้ว +174

      Shad there’s literally no excuse for abandoning your children. Leaving a woman is one thing but leaving your children is sad. He’s a sorry excuse of a man. Sad how a lot of men can abandon there children like it’s nothing.

    • @Jay-om8gr
      @Jay-om8gr 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Monique Lovexxx Monique Lovexxx I said in my post about the video that this is likely a one sided claim. She’s painting him out to be a monster. How do you know that she’s being completely truthful without hearing his side of the story? Plus my reply to this guy was strictly about his wife not his kids as you notice I use the word “she” not “they.” It’s also sad that when a man doesn’t want a woman she and the courts also assume that he doesn’t want his children.

    • @babygee.02.01
      @babygee.02.01 5 ปีที่แล้ว +61

      @@Jay-om8gr men like you are really pathetic. You want to be the head but refuse to take any accountability for your actions, always looking to blame someone else.

    • @Jay-om8gr
      @Jay-om8gr 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Baby G accountability??? How can you say that when you don’t know the entire situation. Again, I said I need to hear from him before casting aspersions. Go ahead and jump the gun on a one sided claim. Enjoy

  • @johnnybravo1041
    @johnnybravo1041 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4054

    The judge is gonna tear this guy to shreds

    • @johnnybravo1041
      @johnnybravo1041 6 ปีที่แล้ว +291

      Mr Big Time no she doesn't because the court always favors the mother. Always

    • @debrawilliams7983
      @debrawilliams7983 6 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Johnny Bravo OH is no Community State! He's toast!

    • @dawnt5587
      @dawnt5587 6 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Not in Illinois. It's a no fault state.

    • @noncustody
      @noncustody 6 ปีที่แล้ว +112

      He's going to pay at least 3k in child support a month, especially since she's not working.

    • @harrisonwintergreen1147
      @harrisonwintergreen1147 6 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      ...unless the 3rd baby belongs to another man

  • @les4570
    @les4570 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2328

    I feel like you can almost hear the woman become more relieved as the call goes on. Especially when he kept telling her "you're in control", I think that made her feel better about things.

    • @joecoolioness6399
      @joecoolioness6399 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I though jebus was in control? Looks like 2 men let this woman down

    • @flufftronable
      @flufftronable 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Nicole Oliver agreed.he is a decent man

    • @marisamelchiorre7120
      @marisamelchiorre7120 5 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      @Ry Mo Wrong. She birthed children who the man also had a part in creating and she stays home to care for them. She is also educated and still works from home part-time. It sucks to be a man making bad decisions and having to pay for them.

    • @lananhnguyen7415
      @lananhnguyen7415 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Sometimes God acts in the most unexpected way. The key is not to lose hope. Noah waited many years for the flood to over and so did many of other Bible characters and us. I agree that sometimes it feels like there’s no way out. But I believe that God will intervene with perfect timing as long as we have hope in Him. I know a woman who experienced something very familiar to this lady, but she was able to through all that by God’s graces, and after all she was able to grow spiritually and eventually able to forgive her husband. You might not agree with what I said above, but that’s okay. I used to asked questions like why did God allow bad things to happen and struggle to understand how people are still at peace after all what they went through. I honestly can’t imagine doing that without God.
      Anyway, I just want to share that God has never failed to abandon anyone who hope for His coming although sometimes it’s temped to feel so. I wish you peace, love, and happiness in your life.

    • @thewildcardperson
      @thewildcardperson 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@lananhnguyen7415 no that's called life and it's time to grow up we don't live in the dark ages anymore God doesn't exsist and I can prove it

  • @alishamichelle166
    @alishamichelle166 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1475

    As soon as she said "I am a believer, so I know he holds my future, but I'm afraid" I literally burst into tears. There's so much power in admitting that you're afraid.

    • @antoniobradley962
      @antoniobradley962 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      All things Teacher Edition Fear Not

    • @iamcleaver6854
      @iamcleaver6854 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Believe in Christ or nor, he is not going to give you money.

    • @bensimmons6149
      @bensimmons6149 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      God ain’t real

    • @tirkdiamond
      @tirkdiamond 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      To be honest, though, if you know someone has your back, you don't get scared.

    • @captkerosene
      @captkerosene 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Probably the reason for the divorce. Living with someone who insists on you sharing their beliefs will drive you away. Then you get blamed for leaving. Religion was one of the things that caused my parents to divorce.

  • @mj7728
    @mj7728 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3468

    To divorce your wife at the point when she will deliver your third child is unconscionable.

    • @AymanSuleiman
      @AymanSuleiman 5 ปีที่แล้ว +93

      Maybe it's not his

    • @tvclips6523
      @tvclips6523 5 ปีที่แล้ว +470

      Other dead beat dads will defend his actions and make excuses, I guarantee it

    • @EllieofAzeroth
      @EllieofAzeroth 5 ปีที่แล้ว +289

      To be gone the day she gets home from the hospital after delivering that child is even more revolting

    • @PC4USE1
      @PC4USE1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +127

      He is a real gem of a man.I hope he gets everything he deserves-which is nothing.

    • @TWLogik
      @TWLogik 5 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      This didn't go Rocky overnight. This is probably why she got pregnant. She thought it would make him stay. It was probably Rocky when they bought the house too.

  • @anitavaughn1968
    @anitavaughn1968 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1024

    Hang in there momma... My youngest was 3 months old when my ex-husband left. I was a stay at home mom too. God love you... He will never leave you.

    • @amberladd8961
      @amberladd8961 5 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      I'm right there right now

    • @joecoolioness6399
      @joecoolioness6399 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Why wouldn't god just have found her a better man to begin with? This is no surprise to god, it's his plan.

    • @mayagriffin2826
      @mayagriffin2826 5 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Joe Coolioness Lol that’s not how that works. It’s called free will.

    • @peacemaker2551
      @peacemaker2551 5 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Same here, my baby was 3 months old when I got the divorce papers, and he wants spousal and child support... well needless to say things did not got his way in court... all is good

    • @ajc7175
      @ajc7175 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@joecoolioness6399 um... because marriage and finding a person to marry is a CHOICE. She chose him and he chose her... God has nothing to do with that. what kind of illogical question is this lol...

  • @Taylor-kf3ny
    @Taylor-kf3ny 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3841

    You guys are talking about “there’s two sides to every story” like the man doesn’t have multiple kids, a pregnant wife, a gambling addiction and no savings. His side doesn’t matter at this point he’s failed his family and there’s no excuse tor that.

    • @carltonhenry7671
      @carltonhenry7671 6 ปีที่แล้ว +167

      Whitney nooooo it does! This is why public opinion is so toxic! U already condemned the man without a fair trial. Im not saying hes right but u should ALWAYS hear the full story before making a decision !

    • @lisastevens2431
      @lisastevens2431 6 ปีที่แล้ว +330

      Whitney Absolutely! I can't believe the "two sides to every story" bs. He shouldn't have made THREE kids with her if he was going to leave. And the gambling is a dealbreaker!

    • @carltonhenry7671
      @carltonhenry7671 6 ปีที่แล้ว +55

      Lisa Stevens FYI a gambling addiction just doesnt come outta know where! It hard for me to believe she didnt suspect anything within at 3 yr period of knowing him. Im assuming she let things slide under the rug because hes the breadwinner thus not a dealbreaker for her right? So yea there is always two side to a story and never let ur emotions sway u from the fact of both sides. For all we know they could be both idiots!

    • @lytonya1533
      @lytonya1533 6 ปีที่แล้ว +154

      You are exactly right!! It doesn’t matter what his side is. His left this woman in a bind. She literally doesn’t know what to do.

    • @tpamel
      @tpamel 6 ปีที่แล้ว +80

      Carlton Henry sure yet he did her dirty, & I doubt anything he has to say can justify that. And had she known about the gambling debt earlier on, what do you suggest she do? What does her knowing or not knowing has to do with the manner in which HE ended the marriage? Are you saying the gambling debt is her fault for not knowing? You sound like someone who would spend as he pleases & the woman can tell you nothing. No really, what side does she have in his gambling debt unless she gambled too - which she didn't. She's the victim here on the gambling issue - imagine how scary it would be for her to be blindsided by her bank account being seized or the police knocking on her door with a lien.

  • @carmenstgermain8557
    @carmenstgermain8557 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1552

    I predict in 5 years her life will be WAY better than had that man stayed married to her. It's hard. She will be fine

    • @Sashenka979
      @Sashenka979 4 ปีที่แล้ว +87

      My husband left me when my twins were 3 month old. I thank god everyday that he left because I met a wonderful men and so happy now

    • @christine2952
      @christine2952 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Amen! This is soooo true!!!!

    • @ij1376
      @ij1376 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @Bestgirl If a simp was a good father and husband, sure lol

    • @kokoskokso
      @kokoskokso 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Not much of a loss of this loser!

    • @sumterblackchamberofcommer7218
      @sumterblackchamberofcommer7218 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Your a good man

  • @lytonya1533
    @lytonya1533 6 ปีที่แล้ว +668

    Dave gave her the best advice!! It’s all about the kids and what they deserve. Forget his side and her side.

    • @ranip7644
      @ranip7644 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Forget his side, but it's not all about the kids. It's about her to. She married an awful person who left her with kids.

    • @paulstilwell764
      @paulstilwell764 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Judge will take him to the cleaners...good to see shell be ok...hope he gets help though gambling is a disease..

  • @Ghost-my1tr
    @Ghost-my1tr 5 ปีที่แล้ว +894

    I can't imagine ever letting my wife go through this. She is too beautiful of a soul.

    • @SpicyLobsta
      @SpicyLobsta 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Jonathan --- The night is dark and somber when the mind comprehends that souls are fluid. That allegiances shift like the rolling tide in the game of vows.

    • @saladpotato724
      @saladpotato724 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      TT

    • @bebetigre1252
      @bebetigre1252 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      they all do

    • @cillianclarke8987
      @cillianclarke8987 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Get off the drugs my guy

    • @RedWolfenstein
      @RedWolfenstein 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Not everyone has the same wife. It could be she was abusive psychopath pregnant or not.

  • @debrawilliams7983
    @debrawilliams7983 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3032

    This is why Women need their own money

    • @Simply.Homicide
      @Simply.Homicide 6 ปีที่แล้ว +81

      Debra Williams amen

    • @bobbiclinger7500
      @bobbiclinger7500 6 ปีที่แล้ว +280

      Yes! Being a stay at home mom or wife without her own way to have and make money is risky business!

    • @harrisonwintergreen1147
      @harrisonwintergreen1147 6 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      This is why women need to avoid putting all the burden and responsibility on men. She thought her job was to pressure hubby into a $105k salary.

    • @bobbiclinger7500
      @bobbiclinger7500 6 ปีที่แล้ว +262

      Where did anyone say she was pressuring him into a higher salary? Didn't she say she works from home? I must be missing something. He has a gambling problem and left the marriage.

    • @Zoot_of_Anthrax
      @Zoot_of_Anthrax 6 ปีที่แล้ว +112

      My ex has lived with his parents for the last 10.5yrs and barely made min wage (despite degree) and now is unemployed. I make 6 figures. SO glad I’m not in a situation where I depend on his piddly support for my kids.

  • @ValuableFather
    @ValuableFather 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2075

    As a man who just had a second child with my wife, I couldn’t even imagine being that big of a POS.

    • @eclipsez0r
      @eclipsez0r 6 ปีที่แล้ว +57

      Let us know how that works out in 10 years

    • @Ivy285
      @Ivy285 6 ปีที่แล้ว +249

      eclipseNF Just stop talking.

    • @blawlor100
      @blawlor100 6 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Nathan Manns Unfortunately, they are everywhere...

    • @MsSmashone
      @MsSmashone 6 ปีที่แล้ว +66

      If he's a good man he probably found a good woman so I'd say in 10, 20 years he will be just fine.

    • @Latomian
      @Latomian 6 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      Abu Mansaray Divorce rate is falling. People are making smarter partner decisions.

  • @AngelaLopez-gm7tz
    @AngelaLopez-gm7tz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +281

    Omg. My daughter got married in 2019 and just had a 4 months baby and her husband left her. He took everything and left her with $30 dollars in the account. This is devastated. My daughter just graduated as a civil engineer but just started her job. Praying for her

    • @adeoyeakim4038
      @adeoyeakim4038 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate

    • @adeoyeakim4038
      @adeoyeakim4038 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay

    • @adeoyeakim4038
      @adeoyeakim4038 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Whtsaap him"**

    • @adeoyeakim4038
      @adeoyeakim4038 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      +2348140799323⏩⏩⏭⏭

    • @AngelaLopez-gm7tz
      @AngelaLopez-gm7tz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Red Roses it is. Thanks so much 🙏

  • @rustyscrapper
    @rustyscrapper 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2795

    "If I was your daughter what would you do Dave?" Dave stares off blankly for a second and does a mental inventory of his weapons safe. "I am getting low gun oil and I need to get some hollow point bullets" Dave daydreams for a while then snaps back to reality. "Um....uh....make sure you get a good lawyer" he replies.

    • @nathasimmy432
      @nathasimmy432 6 ปีที่แล้ว +98

      Best comment by far!!! Hahahahaaaa

    • @inyeekaribi4913
      @inyeekaribi4913 6 ปีที่แล้ว +99

      This comment is even funnier due to the fact that he actually admitted to being a "gun guy" in one of his other videos :D

    • @elcheekoful
      @elcheekoful 6 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      XD, Oh my gosh best comment ever about dave ramsey dude. Yes he has admitted he has a gun collection for no reason other than liking guns.

    • @Goddessvibesco
      @Goddessvibesco 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      😄😄

    • @jacobpatterson9440
      @jacobpatterson9440 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      😂

  • @TheToadChild
    @TheToadChild 6 ปีที่แล้ว +724

    Told his wife he was tithing to the church and was paying gambling debts instead, yeah in the long run it will be good that you let this one go.

    • @SpicyLobsta
      @SpicyLobsta 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I Should Know This --- Tithing is worse. At least gambling debt is trying to win it back 🤣

    • @zacheray
      @zacheray 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      God is going to step in on that one

    • @georgewagner7787
      @georgewagner7787 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      God pays you back! Atlantic city doesn't.

    • @lydiapetra1211
      @lydiapetra1211 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@georgewagner7787 so very true! Thanks

    • @luisfernando5998
      @luisfernando5998 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Bet she getting stranger D from the church

  • @robbycarr1905
    @robbycarr1905 5 ปีที่แล้ว +229

    This is the video that made me really like Dave Ramsey as a person and not just as a financial advisor. The way he was able to help this woman and calm her down was great

  • @sitizenkanemusic
    @sitizenkanemusic 3 ปีที่แล้ว +134

    My wife knows my activities and knows where I am 100% of the time. And vice versa. The more honest you are, the better for the marriage.

    • @luisfernando5998
      @luisfernando5998 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      When’s the divorce ?

    • @northstar2621
      @northstar2621 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​Sick mind cannot imagine being healthy​@@luisfernando5998

    • @clinetime2022
      @clinetime2022 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Hubs and I do the same gives a general rundown of the plans and updates if things change

  • @janebaker4912
    @janebaker4912 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2564

    There's another women. Men don't leave to go be single.

    • @gmogottago7746
      @gmogottago7746 6 ปีที่แล้ว +191

      Bingo!

    • @deathrowtodisneyworld5030
      @deathrowtodisneyworld5030 6 ปีที่แล้ว +153

      Yep, they always have another port for any storm.

    • @ricoconti3141
      @ricoconti3141 6 ปีที่แล้ว +211

      If the woman is insane they do.

    • @edifymytemple
      @edifymytemple 5 ปีที่แล้ว +102

      @Shake hir my hubby's coworker did exactly this. His wife was a fool for taking him back. He only came back because he found out that the grass wasn't greener on the other side.

    • @helenahooley2076
      @helenahooley2076 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      @LifeBidder not really 'smart' if they were dumb enough to get married first.

  • @mickyunit
    @mickyunit 6 ปีที่แล้ว +640

    Hahahaha. ..I love how Dave said "goooood" about the her car lease, in his name & the new car he just got in his name 🤣🤣🤣.

    • @MiamiPush2theLimit
      @MiamiPush2theLimit 6 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      mickyunit yea that was hilarious.

    • @Smileyyy21
      @Smileyyy21 6 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Lol I cant. Let him have the shiny stuff. The worst is yet to come.

    • @mikenelson8377
      @mikenelson8377 6 ปีที่แล้ว +61

      Right?? All these financial decisions he’s made, the judge will look at it and may be like, “Since you can afford these shiny new toys, you will have no problem with paying HALF of your income to your three kids. Case dismissed. Next!”

    • @ztaco9477
      @ztaco9477 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Smileyyy21 wrong if he is smart he will start a side company put it in a s Corp and pay a third party that will pay you. Break them off a few bucks for their troubles and live like a king pay minimums to support and get it to where she is begging you to take kids from her custody.

    • @dowskivisionmagicaloracle8593
      @dowskivisionmagicaloracle8593 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Really? Why? Man-hating feminist divorce courts who take lying scunts at their word are nothing to cherish.

  • @Inesnes1
    @Inesnes1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +285

    GOD BLESS YOU DAVE FOR BEING SUCH A GOOD PERSON LIFTING THIS WOMAN UP & ENCOURAGING HER

  • @hankfuchs8405
    @hankfuchs8405 4 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    Dave made her feel better in a five minute phone call than a year of counseling could do

  • @minimalisticmom7242
    @minimalisticmom7242 4 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    My husband and I have two boys that will be three and two next month. I am also due with our third boy next month as well. He just left us. He took the car, ran our account into debt. Im a stay at home mom.
    I needed this video. Thank you❤

    • @rebeccacribbs4868
      @rebeccacribbs4868 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      You are in my thoughts. My husband and I were together for over 15 years (high school sweethearts), 9 years married. We have a 2 1/2 year old boy and I am expecting our second child. When I was 19 weeks pregnant he left me for his mistress. Lawyer up. Document everything. Get a temporary hearing done ASAP to protect you and your children until the final hearing. Lots of states do not allow divorce while the wife is pregnant. Get all his financial documents in order. Even though there can be debt that's consider martial debt if you can prove it is on gambling, drinking, and partying, etc that debt can be put on him. I am a stay at home mom too. Please feel free to reach out to me if you need someone to talk to.

    • @jenniferl8967
      @jenniferl8967 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      So sorry :( I know I don’t know you but you can always message me if you need someone to talk to.... going through something similar rn :’(

    • @freeinghumanitynow
      @freeinghumanitynow 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Bummer. A lot of men leave around the second or third child. That's why it's important that stay at home moms have an education to fall back on. Sign up for online courses if need be. Lord knows there are a zillion online certification and degree programs.

  • @katrinaumana2127
    @katrinaumana2127 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1213

    Wow😲! This is why woman who are stay at home moms should have a degree, trade, or something to fall back on in case your husband leaves.

    • @candy5760
      @candy5760 6 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      Katrina Umana she said she has a degree

    • @supersqueak
      @supersqueak 6 ปีที่แล้ว +105

      There are a lot of people calling into this show with a lot of student loan debt for degrees they didn't use though.

    • @FreedomNurse
      @FreedomNurse 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Exactly.

    • @youdontneedtoknow9980
      @youdontneedtoknow9980 6 ปีที่แล้ว +123

      Katrina Umana even with degrees stay at home moms have a hard time getting back into their field..

    • @omarbagent9829
      @omarbagent9829 6 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      @@supersqueak the point is she has it already completed and can fall back on it if she wants.

  • @tanjalentzy1337
    @tanjalentzy1337 6 ปีที่แล้ว +307

    How is this caller now? I wish her all the luck in the world.

    • @ztaco9477
      @ztaco9477 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Tanja Lentzy how is the husband now I wish him all the luck in the world

    • @babygee.02.01
      @babygee.02.01 5 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      @zadose men like this are real losers.

    • @Xsilif
      @Xsilif 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @Z Taco he probably left her for another woman. Men don’t just get up and leave like that for no reason- especially when he’s pushing a divorce like that (the other woman is pushing him to do it). Also abandoning her when she just gave birth to their 3rd child is very low.

    • @bettywith2girls
      @bettywith2girls 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      How is she now...probably a lot happier.

    • @isay207
      @isay207 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Ladies be careful when choosing a father for your children

  • @Motivated_Motivation
    @Motivated_Motivation 6 ปีที่แล้ว +748

    This is a very sad story. At the beginning of the call, she mentioned having a faith. Hope she gets connected to a church where she and her kids can receive support during this season of her life.

    • @americanpatriot8426
      @americanpatriot8426 6 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      90 Seconds Of Motivation yeah brainwashing helps a lot

    • @wakememckinney7126
      @wakememckinney7126 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      “Im a believer in Christ”

    • @lynnv8501
      @lynnv8501 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      'Rots of Ruck' as Scooby Do would say. I single-mommed it for 15 years after my 1st ex left me when our baby was 3 months old, and my 2nd husband I left after he came out of the closet as a bisexual transgender who wanted an open marriage. Over the course of 15 years I received from the church 3 bags of groceries and $2000 total. I'm not complaining per se, but saying that the church 'family' doesn't have the 'vision' to REALLY help the single mom. They may sound sincere but are unreliable. They'll pat you on the head, give you a line like 'don't worry this will pass' and hope you go away. Single moms are marginalized both inside and outside the church. How did I make it? I worked as many jobs as possible just to make ends meet, only one of the fathers paid child support of $190/month (he is self employed and hid his earnings really well), and I gave my kids every ounce of my time when I was around. I burned the candle at both ends, works and did little sleeping, and now suffer w/ autoimmune disorders (more than 1 of them). I did the best I could under the circumstances. It was not easy to say the least.

    • @yeti13c
      @yeti13c 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Cl ju

    • @thanksbrother7972
      @thanksbrother7972 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Its too bad all religions are embarrassing fairytales that take your money and sell you a false sense of immortality

  • @Jessica_Bennett
    @Jessica_Bennett 6 ปีที่แล้ว +630

    At the end of a storm comes a rainbow. I hope this caller comes into the studio for a debt free scream once she's made it thru her storm.

    • @lynnv8501
      @lynnv8501 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Could take 19 years.... She needs help and to be responsible herself.

    • @TheToadChild
      @TheToadChild 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hope so too, it's going to take her a moment to recover though.

    • @wendymcbridemarinecorpscom8811
      @wendymcbridemarinecorpscom8811 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Lord, I hope so. Nothing would make me more proud or happy!! ☺️🙏

    • @bethanyroberts4744
      @bethanyroberts4744 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Watching this brave lady do her debt free scream in the lobby would be Great!!! Regardless of any flood, she will swim and not sink!

    • @elainenilsson5472
      @elainenilsson5472 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      YES

  • @madisonandthefarm
    @madisonandthefarm 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    If you are a stay at home parent, work from home…make money…save lots of money. My husband wanted a divorce and I was a stay at home mom, accounts were in his name, he locked all accounts…I had nothing on my side. All for another woman outside of the marriage. I had to move home with my parents with our daughter, start life over. She went to day care I worked as a teacher. I didn’t make much money then but it was enough. Fast forward 10 years later, I have a very successful executive career, my daughter is 13. I bought a beautiful house, car, we are healthy, God really helped a lot. Don’t stay home and earn zero money, make money, I promise you won’t ever regret this.

  • @Yishy22
    @Yishy22 5 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    I love how he turned the situation for her to make her feel that she has power, even though she couldn't see that feeling so weak. But I'm sure she felt empowered after that

  • @Ebizzill
    @Ebizzill 6 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    i love daves "get him for all he's got" savage approach. i LOVE IT!

    • @Eaglejake
      @Eaglejake 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes, he is very fair. "Take her for all she's got".....words never said by Dave.

    • @Ebizzill
      @Ebizzill 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Eaglejake Very fair. I dont think there have been stay at home men who depend solely on the woman that have called in. 🤷‍♀️

  • @btaylortv
    @btaylortv 6 ปีที่แล้ว +346

    It's crazy how people are so ready to bash single mothers. Men really. They always say "get married and you wouldn't have been a single mother" this story is a perfect example that marriage does not guarantee you won't be a single mother, it lessons the chances, but it's not a guarantee.
    The man, he definitely sounds like he has another woman. Men usually cheat on women when they are pregnant because the vulnerability. He will have his karma. Trust me, they always do!

    • @DianddraD
      @DianddraD 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      btaylor tv if women kept their legs closed until after marriage there would be a LOT less single moms in the world.

    • @chocolatecuban
      @chocolatecuban 6 ปีที่แล้ว +123

      @@DianddraD If men kept their pants zipped, there wouldn't be so many single moms as well. It takes two.

    • @DianddraD
      @DianddraD 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@chocolatecuban sure.

    • @NoName-sp5dp
      @NoName-sp5dp 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @magiesqstood saying most women. Women arent even giving birth as much as they used to. You're living in delusion land

    • @NoName-sp5dp
      @NoName-sp5dp 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@DianddraD men impregnated 20 women in the same year. Its scientifically not possible to blame women only when we can get pregnant again until the baby is born. You understand?

  • @jimelliott6200
    @jimelliott6200 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    She needs a good divorce lawyer immediately.

  • @psychedelichippie9759
    @psychedelichippie9759 6 ปีที่แล้ว +161

    I feel for this woman and I love the advice Dave gave her.

  • @selinarocha1173
    @selinarocha1173 6 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Dave did so well encouraging her with some good father advice.

  • @deekayvixen
    @deekayvixen 6 ปีที่แล้ว +476

    Wow, great time to decide to end a marriage. What an awesome guy.
    Once the dust settles and she figures out her next steps, she will realize just how toxic this man was.
    Good advice Dave. This woman needs to feel empowered. She DOES have the upper hand in all of this.

    • @johnnybravo1041
      @johnnybravo1041 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Dorota K you literally have never met this guy before, for all you know, she is just lying. Maybe you should reserve judgement

    • @deekayvixen
      @deekayvixen 6 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      Johnny Bravo Why are you so offended? Are you the husband?

    • @johnnybravo1041
      @johnnybravo1041 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Dorota K actually the opposite, I just find it irratating that people are so quick to hate someone they've never even met before. Its childish

    • @mrsaoallen1707
      @mrsaoallen1707 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Bc women are crazy case closed hunny bunch! Sometimes its best to be apart for the sake of the kids. Every situation is different. Poor kids tho

    • @debrawilliams7983
      @debrawilliams7983 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Dorota K What a "piece of work"!

  • @deandravr
    @deandravr 4 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    Her husband clearly hasn't thought this thru!🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @Heistruelove
    @Heistruelove 5 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    I would like to hear an update on this lady’s life now. I was in pretty much the same situation eight years ago. I am remarried now, and my husband and I together have six children. He is a godly man and has spiritually led our family very well. Believe me, it is definitely the next chapter and it’s a very good chapter. Praise the Lord!

    • @karlita6420
      @karlita6420 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I’m currently going through a separation and this relives me so much

    • @lydiapetra1211
      @lydiapetra1211 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      To God be all glory!!! So happy for you 🙏❤️

  • @xtinaj7450
    @xtinaj7450 5 ปีที่แล้ว +168

    When ever they want to get divorced "quick" ,there is another persom

    • @catheybelcher4975
      @catheybelcher4975 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Bingo! My thoughts too.

    • @EmilyGloeggler7984
      @EmilyGloeggler7984 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      not always.

    • @pogonarugeorge3504
      @pogonarugeorge3504 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Maybe she cheated? Why presume the worst about the husband when you only have the wife point of view? Something happened and I am sure she knows it. If she does not want to say it, it is quite possible that she did something as well.

    • @queenbutterfly4888
      @queenbutterfly4888 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@pogonarugeorge3504 he has another woman

    • @meghan8020
      @meghan8020 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@pogonarugeorge3504bro, when? She just gave birth 😮 tf?

  • @Amberrr_0080
    @Amberrr_0080 6 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    This may be one of the BEST vids yet. Very encouraging. Dave is AWESOME.

  • @NB-ky5ol
    @NB-ky5ol 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    As a single mother when I hear these stories it makes me so happy to be single and not reliant on a man to take care of me. I know a good marriage is possible but I've been witness to too many men doing this to their wives and it just terrifies me to ever put myself in that situation. I pray that woman gets on her feet and is able to take care of her children without running to another man to take care of her.

  • @buildinglifeconfidence2516
    @buildinglifeconfidence2516 6 ปีที่แล้ว +444

    While there's always two sides, but this is why you can't depend on people. I've heard this story many times from stay at home moms many with minimal to no skills. You must secure your own future because he can stop loving you in an instant and then you are left scrambling. Please be mindful! Wishing her the best...

    • @bambambam1234ful
      @bambambam1234ful 6 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Buildinglifeconfidence right she probably cheated on him while at home and he found out. No man would just up and leave with 2 kids and one on the way. I don’t feel sorry for her until I hear both sides

    • @T.a.s.h.o.n.n.a
      @T.a.s.h.o.n.n.a 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Buildinglifeconfidence
      I agree!

    • @tpamel
      @tpamel 6 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      John D Gates plus if she's pregnant & someone cheated, it's more likely that he cheated on her while she was pregnant. If she cheated & that's not his kid, then right now he's not playing it smart. He wouldn't have moved out & still put money in an account that she can access if she did him dirty - tell tale sign. Plus he would've ran to court asap to take his first 2 kids &/or order a paternity test instead of trying to pressure her & manipulate on the low.

    • @granitemoss1451
      @granitemoss1451 6 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Keith Roye, Assuming she's being honest about the gambling addiction, I think THATS the answer to this puzzle. He'd rather gamble than get help and be a part of his own family he created. The addiction trumps the family, as it sadly often does with addicts.

    • @dianeg.1771
      @dianeg.1771 6 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Keith Roye II actually it happens more often then you think. You’ve never heard of a single mom raising her kids on her own before? What planet are you from?

  • @abab9622
    @abab9622 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Omg this woman is strong. I couldn’t get that all out without crying an ocean. God bless her and her family. I hope she’s okay.

  • @crowtservo
    @crowtservo 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Same thing happened to my mother in-law. She was 9 months pregnant with my wife and my FiL left her for another woman. I have nothing but respect for my MiL and her second husband, who was more of a dad to my wife than her real dad ever was. My FiL had to work two jobs to keep up with child support. The day my wife turned 18, he quit his second job. It all worked out, my MiL is debt free and has a stable financial life. My FiL is a financial mess.

  • @danielkoontz6732
    @danielkoontz6732 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Oh man, my step dad divorced my mom on her birthday. Youngest was 6 at the time. Not to mention my mom and dad divorced when my younger brother was 2. Ever since my mom's second divorce, she never remarried or dated anyone. My mom managed all 5 of us just fine, at least as far as I could tell. I mean, I had xbox live (unneeded nice stuff) and we all went to a private christian school growing up. She did amazing with what she had. No degree. HS only. Sales job. She made it happen. I love my mom!

    • @mck2021
      @mck2021 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Your mum is a winner!!

    • @anonymousanonymous7208
      @anonymousanonymous7208 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That’s sad 😢….

    • @clinetime2022
      @clinetime2022 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Sounds like my step mom one great sales woman made 10k one month selling cars

  • @tpamel
    @tpamel 6 ปีที่แล้ว +291

    - *Get a good divorce attorney.*
    - House appraisal.
    - Sell the house & reinvest the loot in a college savings or stocks or downpayment for another house
    - Pocket every gain, Give him all debt
    - If there's another woman in his picture: make sure the divorce order secures his assets for the kids for when he dies, that way the order takes precedent over him starting a new family.

    • @MiamiPush2theLimit
      @MiamiPush2theLimit 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      tpamel that’s right.

    • @debrawilliams7983
      @debrawilliams7983 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      tpamel College! She gotta feed them first!

    • @tpamel
      @tpamel 6 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Debra Williams yes, but I think she should feed her kids via her earnings from a job rather than spend the loot.
      I personally would:
      - set that money in a trust fund for each kids for them to get half at age 25, & the other half at age 30.
      - have kids can pay for their own college education. It wouldn't hurt to save some money (I would use part of the child support & alimony payments) into a stock/mutual fund & let it sit until the child is college ready. No to me putting my name on a student loan.
      - Get a 1-2 bedroom apartment & rebuild. Mind you, this lady has to plan to afford the mortgage, utiities, insurance, & repairs on her own in case he decides to be a deadbeat. Gambling problem = definitely not waging my room & board on him being reliable, had that been me. I would get a 1 bedroom apartment, put my kids in the bedroom & me in the living room + a DIY privacy curtain (I don't need to entertain), then save and find a better paying job so I can afford a better accomodation. Or just get a 2 bedroom & the kids just have to share a room - mind you, the newborn will be next to me for the first almost 2 years anyways. The kids will be okay with less space.

    • @Meira750
      @Meira750 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Isn't most debt acquired during the marriage the responsibility of both, even if she didn't know? I have heard that it is in some states.

    • @mikejackson7881
      @mikejackson7881 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Meira750 the debt ratio would have to be proven as her using a ton of money on nails hair etc as her being a stay at home mom....but she is also bringing in 6000....but she would get child support for being the built in babysitter and losing out on full time income....

  • @jenica1388
    @jenica1388 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    My heart goes out to this woman. I hope her life is going well.

  • @beccadawson8206
    @beccadawson8206 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    My mum had to walk out with me as a very young child with nothing but our clothes, an old car and a couple of kitchen bits. With a young child she retrained, opened a new business, bought and paid for the premises and built her own home over the following years. I am so proud of her. This lady will do well. She and her children will be her priority from now and forever.

  • @vee9043
    @vee9043 6 ปีที่แล้ว +184

    Poor wife. To put all of her trust and vulnerability in her husband only to have him abandon her and their children. She gave him life's most precious gifts and he walked out. *HE* asked her to marry *HIM*. That comes with responsibility. Any husband that walks out on his commitment to his wife and the children he made needs to pay immensely (child support, alimony, family keeps home, etc.).

    • @SamuraiAtlas
      @SamuraiAtlas 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Vee what if the women cheated or did the same it goes both ways mate the women is also committing to a relationship I’m not saying this case was wrong but some leave there wife’s because they’ve cheated the broke the promise

    • @babygee.02.01
      @babygee.02.01 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      @@SamuraiAtlas what does that have to do with him abandoning his children? Stop being so pathetic.

    • @EmilyGloeggler7984
      @EmilyGloeggler7984 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It goes both ways.

  • @mdooms76
    @mdooms76 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Being a stay at home mom is the worst mistake any woman can make. You should always have YOUR OWN income and financial security outside of a husband. Kids are a huge financial trap. You have to budget in kids these days like anything else. This woman is in a dangerous situation. Where there are gamblers there are loan sharks. Out of anger and desperation, he could try to kill her once he gets hit with huge child support and alimony payments!!!.

    • @samanthaquant7411
      @samanthaquant7411 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      100% not true. Children absolutely need their mother to be fully available to them in the first three years. I’m all for a woman having a back up plan but DO NOT disincentivize women staying home out of fear when women absolutely need to put those first three years of their childrens lives first. That is what a good man is for. If you don’t believe me, spend even a modicum of time looking into attachment theory and read Being There about the importance of the first three years of a child’s development and the absolute devastation daycare is causing to the last three generations who have been pushed to rhetoric like your uninformed comment.

  • @Ale502703
    @Ale502703 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    My mom was a stay-at-home mom until i was 7. My parents separated and my dad left her at a rented home and never spoke again. Now that im 26, my mom tells me that women should marry someone who would allow them to stay at home. I dont believe in that because i’ve been financially independent for years and i cannot think of myself depending on my husband because im scared of what could happen

    • @virginiadodgen2787
      @virginiadodgen2787 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Even after being abandoned? Wow.

    • @JP2GiannaT
      @JP2GiannaT 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Staying home with her kids is honestly probably something she wishes she could have done, and that's why she wants it for you. I doubt she's thinking about it from a financial viewpoint.

  • @RosaX305
    @RosaX305 6 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    This broke my heart. I was left and I didn't have any kids. I can't imagine this being me with three kids! This is horrible. I could hear her voice breaking. I hope everything works out for her and her children.

  • @MiamiPush2theLimit
    @MiamiPush2theLimit 6 ปีที่แล้ว +344

    Women must always have a Plan B. You can’t just be a stay at home mom. You are setting yourself up for a disaster.

    • @debrawilliams7983
      @debrawilliams7983 6 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      MiamiPush2theLimit I agree with you 100%!

    • @NiaCole09
      @NiaCole09 6 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      I agree. Unfortunately, you can never set yourself up to depend on someone else 100 percent esspecially when you have kids. This situation is one of many that could of happened to her. What if he suddenly became disabled and couldnt work or worse died. Both would leave her in the same boat I could never willingly submit to. Unfortunately this is going to be a hard lesson. No thank you. I can learn from my own and others mistakes. I feel for her, i just cant imagine.

    • @rebeccashields9626
      @rebeccashields9626 6 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      Yes! Even if you end up a stay at home mom get an education & career first.

    • @NoName-sp5dp
      @NoName-sp5dp 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      She shouldve save up his money. Idk why neither of them have savings where is the 105k going to? The side chick?!

    • @BarbaraNemoDory
      @BarbaraNemoDory 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Yeah it's the plan b pill.

  • @wendymcbridemarinecorpscom8811
    @wendymcbridemarinecorpscom8811 6 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    I am so happy about Mr. Ramsey's advice for this lady. I almost hope she doesn't ever take him back and they don't work it out! Lord, forgive me for thinking that thought?! I just know what his gambling debt and leaving her 9 months pregnant that there's probably another lady involved. Lord Bless her. I'm praying for her. 🙏✝️☺️

  • @texasgina
    @texasgina 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    My mom taught me to be independent and I taught my daughters the same thing. Taught them to work hard and never depend on a man. If you’re a stay at home mom and your husband leaves or dies or becomes disabled you have to have an income and you have to know how to take care of yourself and your family

  • @Healthnut1909
    @Healthnut1909 5 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    She married a narcissist. This is so common. I went thru this as well. These men have addictions, cheat, lie, deceive and he was tired of keeping the mask on. A man that can walk out on his family has no moral compass. I hope that judge can see it too. Sometimes these manipulators can schmooze their way into looking innocent and her crazy.

    • @nena3694
      @nena3694 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You are 100% right.

    • @luisfernando5998
      @luisfernando5998 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      But did u save urself before marriage ? Used goods will be viewed by men as used goods

    • @northstar2621
      @northstar2621 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@luisfernando5998 Idiot

  • @dianeg.1771
    @dianeg.1771 6 ปีที่แล้ว +312

    When men think they are about to have a blissful time after divorce then reality sets in and then realize they can’t do anything because they have no money 😂🤣👏🏼

    • @SpicyLobsta
      @SpicyLobsta 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Diane C. --- Take notes men. Don’t marry and push for abortion. Creatures like this will evolve from the shell of the woman you once knew...don’t gamble on your ability to shoulder the burden of gender roles. The time is ripe to claim your own living and reclaim your agency. Don’t sign legal contracts that condemn assets in deference to emotions and vows.

    • @serenityalreadykno2639
      @serenityalreadykno2639 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Diane C. Shouldn’t take pride in saying that, nor should you take pride in ruining a mans life just because the relationship didn’t work out.

    • @serenityalreadykno2639
      @serenityalreadykno2639 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@regs1917 you probably a female. She clearly is saying to take all his money so he has no means to live a decent life. You don't need to fork out bank to pay for child support; specially if its 50/50.

    • @luvtheLordJesus
      @luvtheLordJesus 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@serenityalreadykno2639 He ruined her life by leaving her with three children! Who wants to be a single parent when they grow up?

    • @serenityalreadykno2639
      @serenityalreadykno2639 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@luvtheLordJesus don't lay down with a scumbag then, if yall females chose wisely you could avoid a lot of hardships.

  • @papataiga1
    @papataiga1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Just saw Dave for the first time on TH-cam today - what sound, hope giving advice for this poor woman. Awesome Dave, you just earned yourself another new subscriber from way down under in Australia.

  • @classicrocklover5615
    @classicrocklover5615 5 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    Rule 1: When he lied about the gambling addiction, when he abandoned his family, he became Public Enemy #1.
    Rule 2: you need a shark of a lawyer.
    Rule 3: No forgiveness of this man until the kids are grown and on their own. This deceptive snake will try his best to gaslight her, blame her for everything, try to go back to her when he learns of the child support and alimony payments. Be a rock and stand firm.

    • @ztaco9477
      @ztaco9477 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Classic rock Lover I feel so sorry for you love

    • @virginiadodgen2787
      @virginiadodgen2787 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Amen

  • @ominous450
    @ominous450 6 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    I used a Ohio child support calculator. For 3 children, with the guy making $105K and the woman making $6000 a year, the guy will have to pay the woman at least $2000 a month in child support.

    • @antoniobradley962
      @antoniobradley962 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      ominous450 I would order 60% percent of his income.

    • @echofoxtrotwhiskey1595
      @echofoxtrotwhiskey1595 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      B Tone That’s insane and against most, if not all, state laws.

    • @2legit2Kwit
      @2legit2Kwit 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Gooooood.

    • @ztaco9477
      @ztaco9477 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      B Tone that’s why you aren’t in power thank god!

    • @jtworldwidetravels
      @jtworldwidetravels 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Has to be more, mine is 1700 for one kid!!

  • @elainenilsson5472
    @elainenilsson5472 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Dave is the only one who addresses her fear and anger. Good job, Dave.

  • @priyak87
    @priyak87 6 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Would love to hear a “where are they now” - how is AJ doing now about 9 months-1year after this call?

  • @Smileyyy21
    @Smileyyy21 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Omg i love it. She needed to hear this. I hope she watches this video to understand shes dealing with a narcissist. Dave gave her great advice. I hope she holds off on working full time so she can get the ultimate benefits from her husband.

    • @ztaco9477
      @ztaco9477 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Smileyyy21 I feel so sorry for you and your kind just such sad human beings . Stay on welfare and broke while taking him to cleaners bad vendictive behavior I’m guessing ur a lover of Christ

  • @IsaidwhatIsaid-k4t
    @IsaidwhatIsaid-k4t 5 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I feel for her. My situation is similar to hers. My fiance of 5 years walked out when I was 3 months pregnant and I'm due in a month. My ex developed a addiction as well. It's not easy being a single mom also going through pregnancy. I wish the best for her and her children 🙌

  • @Noseqquiero
    @Noseqquiero 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    My mom walked out on her marriage when I was in middle school and took all away from my dad while abusing the legal system so she could abuse us the kids.
    Dave isn’t kidding when he says the court will absolutely favor her!

  • @juliedewyer1366
    @juliedewyer1366 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I'm so glad he has such a good fathers heart and took time to invest in her at this moment. She needs someone in her side right now and was reaching out, thank God for men like Dave who step in when they are needed.

  • @lulustoovintage4710
    @lulustoovintage4710 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Glad you gave her some strong words of encouragement, well said!

  • @Radmxray
    @Radmxray 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    At least this woman said she has to go back to work. She knows she has to do her part to help her kids. She's in a tough spot. She will do fine in the end.

  • @aida_amore
    @aida_amore 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    My heart goes out to this lady. I hope that everything worked out for her. 🙏✨

  • @dawna4185
    @dawna4185 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    and this is why i will always be independent, self sufficient and by myself!! freedom and joy everyday!!!!

  • @dpurplepalm
    @dpurplepalm 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I'm in tears....God please help her and those babies.
    That side woman is getting a real 💎

  • @vinceslapchopper
    @vinceslapchopper 5 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Dave: is the car to his name?
    A.J.: yes
    Dave: Gooooooooood.

    • @mck2021
      @mck2021 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Lol!

  • @unnamedchannel1237
    @unnamedchannel1237 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    This is why I chose never to have kids. Been with my GF for 20 years but looking around the community I could see how people go off the rails so easily in life.

    • @Calebmikesell
      @Calebmikesell 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Uhhh

    • @jimroscovius
      @jimroscovius 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Why aren't you married? The kids have nothing to do with this issue. The guy is a Class A loser!!

    • @sobeliever1638
      @sobeliever1638 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      That is an odd reason to not have kids. How often does this scenario really happen? You planning on being like this?

  • @patriciachicco9763
    @patriciachicco9763 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I’m a stay at home mom. I got fired three years ago while pregnant with my first child. I’m Pregnant with our second. My husband works full time. Living with his widowed mom. I want to work from home. And no degree. Scared to go back to work and school since it’s been a while. But I want to help my husband out. How do I find a legit work from home job?? At least part time to get started. This phone call made me really sad for her. I hope her life gets better.

    • @mabelw7
      @mabelw7 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      do u have any skillls to begin with? can u do lyft on side? theres also tutoring jobs? u can make youtube videos? make websites/editing/ interpreter/writing? or just study something clip coupons.. everything will take time to ramp up. good luck lemme know what u find

  • @HTXGal
    @HTXGal 6 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    Sad story. Time for her to lawyer up!

  • @melissa5844
    @melissa5844 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    This way my mom always told me and my sisters to make our own 💵 and be independent because a man can leave you any moment. The only man that I can trust is my father. My father is one of a kind he raised three girls on his own after my parent's Separator my mom was still part of our lives too but the one that stays with us was our father. Not all fathers man up and stay with their kids.

    • @vilecrocodile9171
      @vilecrocodile9171 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's not bad advice but it's not good advice either. You should be able to find someone you can love, trust and rely on in life otherwise what's the point. It's true about your father being trustworthy which is why ideally he should choose your husband for you or at least screen your suitors. This is what used to happen in civilized society.

  • @mohnjayer
    @mohnjayer 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I’d love to hear an update on this. Dave gave great advice and I hope she followed it all.

  • @cherielaukka9710
    @cherielaukka9710 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    A.J. YOU GO, GIRL!! I hope the judge hangs him financially. MAJOR STAND STRONG GIRL. Your children deserve it.

  • @5339kimH
    @5339kimH 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    It happened to me my ex left me with three small children. I had no job stay at home mom. But GOD provided!. I went back to school got two degrees my kids are now grown and the ex is still paying back child support to this day. You will come out victorious and better off and your kids are going to bless you:)

  • @bobbiclinger7500
    @bobbiclinger7500 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I hope this episode reaches all the stay at home moms and wives out there, so they have time to make a plan just in case.

  • @FancyRPGCanada
    @FancyRPGCanada 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I just LOOOOVE how understanding and strong Dave is with women like this who have been hurt.

  • @violetrose25
    @violetrose25 6 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    Ok, more women need to understand their financial situation even if their stay-at- home mothers. That's more of a reason why you should know what money comes in and out of your home, and what your home or apt is worth. Unfortunately, a marriage license means nothing to an immoral individual. And even if you have a great marriage, emergencies happen and you should be aware so that you can help protect your home, your spouse, and your kids . I wish her and anyone else in this situation all the best.

    • @horacevu
      @horacevu 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @JamievsJamie nice try. You're so adorable with the guessing. Want a cookie child?

    • @joecoolioness6399
      @joecoolioness6399 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@horacevu go back under your bridge. Don't speak for anyone else, you clearly are not too bright.

  • @marlezng9382
    @marlezng9382 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My husband is doing the same now. I’m 8 months pregnant with our 5th baby. He asked for this baby so many times just to do this. He is choosing to not work, claims “he mentally can’t work”. He won’t get ANYTHING for the baby. Car seat, stroller, diapers.. nothing. So this advice is appreciated.

  • @nikkilea5632
    @nikkilea5632 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This happened to me.. I wasn't married though! My "relationship" with my sons father was always abusive more mentally. I stayed home with our son for ten yrs so he could better his income, he cheated, brought other woman into the home to run me out. He also changed jobs from 150k or more a year to a 40k so he didn't have to pay much in support.
    I wish there was more attention brought to these kinds of situations. I have no problem working, but it is a huge shock to your system while going through a situation as this. My focus was on keeping my son as stable as possible, he was used to me always being there to his world being ripped apart.
    I went into debt after having to get a lawyer and trying to stay afloat.
    Prayers to everyone

  • @ranip7644
    @ranip7644 5 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    This is why I'm scared to get married.

    • @antoniobradley962
      @antoniobradley962 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Rani P Fear not

    • @ferz2014
      @ferz2014 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      ikr

    • @user-yr3uj6go8i
      @user-yr3uj6go8i 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Marriage is one of the biggest traps ever anyways. Don't do it.

    • @andrewmattox1233
      @andrewmattox1233 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@user-yr3uj6go8i, Only for the person who is the "bread-winner". For the dependent, they get Free Stuff while they are marriage, and they get more Free Stuff from divorce court.

    • @user-yr3uj6go8i
      @user-yr3uj6go8i 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@andrewmattox1233 True.

  • @ij1376
    @ij1376 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    The level of shame this divorcing husband has brought on himself...

  • @whibraen2750
    @whibraen2750 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Is the car in his name ? "GOOOOOOOOOOOOoooooooooooooood" Haha

  • @angelaterrazas928
    @angelaterrazas928 4 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Oh, man. I sure would like an update on ths women.

  • @itsvicious6116
    @itsvicious6116 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This lady should be good to go. Aside from the hurt feelings witch sucks, she will be ok. Stay strong and "we the people" can help

  • @kylia2009
    @kylia2009 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I think the biggest problem she will have is finding the strength to stand up for herself and kids... Dave reminded her of her power. Now she needs to come up with a recovery plan

  • @home4life505
    @home4life505 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This divorce will hurt her. She will struggle for years. But one day, this too shall pass

  • @foolishcreations2259
    @foolishcreations2259 6 ปีที่แล้ว +124

    Who’s name is on the car fleece? His name.. GOOOOD

    • @2legit2Kwit
      @2legit2Kwit 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      FoolishGaming hehe

    • @BlueBird_V
      @BlueBird_V 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Love it.

    • @Ak47777-l
      @Ak47777-l 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Toolbag. GOOOOOOODDDDD 🤦‍♂️

    • @malvolio01
      @malvolio01 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Whose

  • @henleyl8102
    @henleyl8102 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    That judge should award that woman 150% of his income for being such a scumbag.

  • @terri4340
    @terri4340 6 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Goes to show you , you never know people....

  • @lightinthedark1594
    @lightinthedark1594 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I'd love to have an update . I pray she is thriving

  • @justmarialing
    @justmarialing 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wish I'd had this kind of support/advice when I went through this 10 years ago. What a Godsend!

  • @EllieofAzeroth
    @EllieofAzeroth 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love this call because she seriously needed to hear that she was in the position of power with this craptastic situation

  • @MissCandy350
    @MissCandy350 6 ปีที่แล้ว +161

    Women need to think twice about being a stay at home mom. You need some income of your own. And I hate to say this, but marriage is not a right to have kid after kid in an unstable environment. People better realize that there are no guarantees.

    • @jacquelinemilowski3444
      @jacquelinemilowski3444 6 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      Miss Candy you are right. Unfortunately, you just can't trust husbands to stick around these days.

    • @lytonya1533
      @lytonya1533 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Very true!!

    • @MagnoilaQueen
      @MagnoilaQueen 6 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Not true for all, I was a stay at home for 9 years and it was best decision for my CHILDREN at the time. We are divorce now but my children are older and I don’t have to pay much for child care while I build my career. I’m so grateful I was able to attend school events, games, travel, and be involved. My ex missed everything.

    • @kristybasham4746
      @kristybasham4746 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Both my husband and I had a long talk and it's more financially responsible for us for me to be a stay at home mom while our girls are little than for me to work and send my paycheck to a daycare. Once they are in school, I'm going back to work even if it's part time.

    • @pamperedgurl
      @pamperedgurl 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Good point, but there is another side. Sometimes its cheaper to have one parent stay home. Look at the price of daycare these days. I know in my last relationship. Dude told me that if we get married than I would have to stay home. So there is also pressure from families.
      But the point is there is no guarantee in life so we cant say what women should or shouldn't do based on the actions of some special jerks.

  • @jacobwiebe1460
    @jacobwiebe1460 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    The worst decision any married man can make is leaving his wife under any circumstances. This dude left her at the worst possible time and the judge will have a field day with him.
    I don’t particularly like how family law is set up in any given western country but in this case the court can’t hit this excuse of a man hard enough.

    • @SpicyLobsta
      @SpicyLobsta 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Jacob Wiebe --- Correct he is critically lacking strategy here. If he wanted to make moves he should have begun to sequester and hide assets into offshore accounts (cayman/Bermuda/hongkong ). Then begin to incite erratic behavior in his woman while controlling his own and documenting her reactions. Turn the children against her slowly but surely. Continue to earn but push for non salaried performance compensation that you continue to move out in order to minimize you salary cap. Then drop the hammer suddenly when you have cleaned every corner and tied every knot. She would not have the time to react and enact a defense. You can find this advice in Sun Tzu’s “The Art of Divorce” chapter 2 page 30.

    • @fatimateresa19
      @fatimateresa19 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Turn the children against her ??
      What a psycho

    • @lydiapetra1211
      @lydiapetra1211 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@SpicyLobsta WOW.... You are evil!!!

    • @briskettacos
      @briskettacos 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@SpicyLobstaWomen in bad relationships - remember that men like this exist. He just shared the playbook. Act accordingly.

  • @abdirizakahmed2375
    @abdirizakahmed2375 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you Dave for saving this young girl life

  • @islandgirl5382
    @islandgirl5382 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Greetings Mr. Ramsey,
    I really enjoy your approach to every caller! You don't judge people for their situations , but have sympathy and empathy for others! You give sound, logical advice and most of all strategies to assist people in their predicaments!! GOD Bless You!!!!!!

  • @amandacrown7307
    @amandacrown7307 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Would be nice to do a follow up on this story.. she is in such a vulnerable position the moment..and since it's not her doing.. would be wonderful to hear a very good outcome for this lady and her family.. she can do it .. btw the children will love her for doing her very best in a bad situation.