I wonder if this is the real reason why they aren't getting married. GF kid has a problem with the age thing but she's too afraid to tell him and uses the SSI benefits as the excuse
@@philliprogers2383 I think she is totally using excuses to avoid something. And if it's just to save a mild check, that's sad that she would prioritize that over him.
Let’s call it as it is. She doesn’t wanna marry you brother. I am the daughter of a deceased soldier and I def got my dads education benefits. And my mom was remarried for over a decade.
Every 7 years she gets another kid... 21 year old son... 14 year old daughter... 7 Year old son... 28 year old boyfriend... Err... nope, yep, that's right.
Financial security is most important first and foremost. Her need to have financial security is greater than the need to have a marriage document with new guy. Nothing wrong about that. She has children to put first
@@user_abcxyzz agree, she is putting her children's future, before her romance. I'd wait the 10 years and cross my fingers that everything works out. (assuming what she said to him is true)
@@senorpants5604 I don't know about other places but in california after 7 years of living together and you split up afterwards, you can claim spousal support if you were the non working spouse (ie homemaker)
She’s lying to him. The kids won’t lose their benefits. She doesn’t want to lose hers. And he doesn’t have step kids as they’re not married. She’s a roommate Run Dude
@@ceecee8757 Controlling? He's trying to take responsibility for entering her family. Calling her kids "your kids" is quite important even before marriage. Especially if you ever want to make a 7-year-old accept you as new father.
I've been with my SO for 12 years. We're not married, for health insurance reasons. I call his 2 sons my sons. I'm partially responsible for their upbringing. You got a problem with that?
SilenceSlayer224 If he was worth a dime in the first place he probably wouldn’t have gotten involved with a woman like this in the first place. Something tells me he he isnt very desirable. Either that or he has extremely low self esteem.
Plot twist: she's running from him! He's 28, she's 39. Wth does he have to offer when he makes $35k a year and she already makes $45 by herself? He sounds controlling and she's probably just making up an excuse to get rid of this guy. Not worth it.
CeeCee Nunya well its obvious something is severely wrong with him. What single man in his 20s worth his salt would pick a single mother of multiple kids who is almost 40?
yep. i think she doesnt want to lose benefits. not the kids. i think she just wants a boy toy. no commitment. 28, 39. he needs to get someone on same page and level.
@@meshleesimpsoncool or they just got bad information. The only truth is we have no idea who these people are or anything about them besides a brief conversation on the radio with minimal details. Nothing to justify such a snap polarized judgement of someone you know nothing about
She would lose her Dependency Indemnity Compensation (DIC) and social security. The kids would be eligible for educational benefits until they are 24 years of age.
@@user-kp6we9qw7i Yeah...not worth it. One can live with someone and love them and not get married...if it makes more sense to do so at that stage of life.
@@joelrodriguez3280 I'm fine with a deceased soldier program. I'm completely against a mooch manipulating the family structure to take benefits that aren't his. Are we to believe that Johny-come-lately's greatest concern getting money to adult children that aren't his?
This women barely seems different from any other ""welfare queens"" people like to criticize. I know her husband died and all but she seems like sure wants to live off taxpayers forever. The only thing I don't mind is her children getting college benefits. Even regular welfare has a end date eventually.
She doesn’t want to marry him. She can remarry and keep the benefits for the kids till 16 (the social security) and the kids will still get GI bill and chapter 35 title 33 benefits up till age 31 even if THEY get married!
@@kokoskokso Exactly. And he's earning maybe $35K and said he was $30K in debt too. She makes more than he does, and none of her kids are his. He wants her more than she wants him.
@@bettywith2girls yeah I think he's good as a boy toy, eye candy, something to lift up her confidence and mood but he's not a viable partner for her in real life. Unless she's fine with waiting for him to grow up and get to her level eventually and financing him until then. Which might be when he's 40 and she 50 and chances are he'll be gone for someone younger and prettier who can give him kids, now that he's all made thanks to her.
@@Jenniferde2007 you are correct in you're grammar (see what I did their....I mean they're..... er, there 😃). But Jeff Laura's point is also correct. Everyone gets a star today.
@@VolleyballAddict521 Nah you are right to cringe. That guy is a pathetic. He'll never have children of his own because he too busy looking after someone elses's children.
What about the kids of the parents whose resources are being taken from them against their will (tax payers) to provide the benefit? Do they deserve the benefit of the resources their parents earned with their work?
Robin Rubendunst the kids would not lose only the mom also when a service member dies there’s a lump sum they get I think it’s 100,000 when they die so she got that on top of the alimony she’s just not willing to lose her money
fsmoura I do not understand your question the kids lose nothing the only one that would lose is her the military also gave her a big cash settlement when he died to pay off debt and live for a while she’s only going to lose not the kids
@@ChevonneStaton right! However, if the surviving spouse has moved on, this new guy needs to step up to the plate!! That would be the honorable thing to do.
While you see it that way. I see it more as, "We want to make sure my girlfriend's late husband's sacrifice for this country keeps her and the children financially stable. Becuz my 35K a year income sure won't."
She knows that mess in her sleep. Plus she has kids from her previous relationship. Yeah, sorry buddy, a marriage to this marriage is not happening no time soon. Enjoy getting rocked to sleep at night, and stop desiring more than she is willing to give. Or you could just go find you a woman who too wants to be married.
Under 38 CFR 3.50, in order to qualify as a surviving spouse for Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) purposes, a person must be unmarried. Therefore, a surviving spouse who remarries is no longer eligible to receive VA benefits.
@@sophiasmith5949 I don't blame her either. It doesn't make any sense for her to lose all her spousal benefits in this instance. They can live together and be in love and not be married.
My mother in law would have lost his pension and medical benefits if she remarried. At 70, working on another income source was not option. And Tricare paid for every penny when she had cancer later on.
Not sure I understand, is it that he "can't" marry her because he's worried about the kids losing benefits, or she "won't" marry him because she'll lose the benefits? Honestly she has no reason to get married with those type of benefits, so it's possible she's just stringing him along as her younger "arm candy."
The sad reality is the widow earned what she's getting. Her husband died while in service, or even if he was retired, she (and he) still gave up a lot to serve the Country even as a spouse. I dont fault her for wanting to maintain her EARNED benefits.
Sir We Are About to Die -Military spouses have to put with a lot, and they have to give up a lot. Most times, they’re single mothers while they’re husbands deploy (and vice versa-a female Soldier, whose husband is the dependent).
I haven't been listening long, but am I wrong in assuming the runner-up states are California & Texas? Lol, I'm from one of those & I just have a gut feeling...
Dave has stated that sometimes they list a different city and state if a person is trying to hide their identity (like in a situation where the caller is being abused), so I guess Florida is the default, lol.
Let me play Devil's Advocate here. What if she does marry him but it didnt work out 2 years later. She lost the benefits by then and now has to scramble to find money to pay for the younger kid's college. Not worth it. Hate me all u want, but I am looking out for the kid's future. I doubt this guy's 35K a year income will cover their college.
This thinking is probably what the woman has engaged in except for the college money not being lost so not factoring in to her reasoning. Because why indeed should she give up guaranteed benefits to get married. Especially military widows' benefits after all she's been through with her family being in the military. And since she's been married before and knows that most marriages either end in divorce or don't work out and the spouses are miserable. To marry a guy who's 10 years younger, with all of her obligations, who also currently makes a lower than average salary. No, she just lied to dude to spare his feelings and keep him around. She might respect and enjoy him immensely. But for financial reasons has no intention of marrying him right now. Because it wouldn't make sense. Maybe she will reconsider if his earning capacity significantly increases. But why would he want to put his life on hold. Why would he shack up for years and also not have kids since this lady is almost too old now to have any more. No, if he can't quickly secure a much higher salary somehow, he's too young to get saddled with this situation and needs to move on. They're incompatible.
She must be rocking him real good to sleep. He sound too desperate for her. She was already married once. She could care less about marriage. She might enjoy your company but not enough to get her deceased husband’s benefits taken from herself.
Considering he probably makes less than what she's receiving in benefits, it doesn't make sense for them to marry. She is putting her children first. He has two options: increase your income so she feels comfortable giving up what she would lose in benefits, or wait until the kids are out of the house to marry (but you gotta discuss that in great detail and clarity).
i DONT blame her for not wanting to lose her social security check, her spouse gave the ultimate sacrifice for her and the kids, so she should not lose those to a marriage that will probably end in divorce. ...looks like your going to be boyfriend/girlfriend for LIFE... and nothing is wrong with that..
Ya I just wish she would let him know the truth. He's never going to be her husband, her husband died a hero and this guy is a little boy who doesn't even make 35k. He's just a boy toy.
It's Ya Girl, Jesus' Wife no i don’t expect. I’m only have kids with whomever I get married with. I’m only marrying someone that is responsible with money, comes from a good family ,and either has or working towards what she believes is created to do. So she will have her own money. I will have a house and car paid off for her when we get married. She will not need another man. If she does need help she will get if from her church or her family.
@@bigd3721 To each their own... Children still need male leadership in their lives, not just money... And mothers need to be available to actually raise their kids, not busy working...
Except if it doesn't work out and divorce follows the woman has given up security. So perhaps she does not want to marry.. She needs security for her kids and her spousal benefit provides that.
I think she doesn’t want to marry him that is why she keeps saying military benefits. She makes more money than him She is already well established ( age,kids, money, etc) She is not sure if she wants to marry 29yrs old man with 35k and she will lose her spousal benefits
She would not. The kids keep their college benefit. She would lose her Social Security, her IDE, and her health care. It's a losing proposition for her, as a widow, to remarry with those benefits. Tricare is a REALLY nice benefit for a widow.
28 and 39 this kid needs to run in the opposite direction. Why is he even talking about having kids with this woman if she is 39 and past child bearing age. These young men dont think at all.
Why would a 28yr old young man want to marry a much older woman with all those kids!? You probably want kids of your own and she’s probably done with having kids, plus she doesn’t want to lose her benefits. Walk away! I’d be devastated if that was my son.
Or you can just not sign a paper and keep receiving great benefits for your family. A signed paper and a ring doesn't mean you love each other any more than before.
Completely agree. If getting married is just going to hurt your family and add increased stress I don't see the need. Especially if it is going to make it harder to provide for the kids and get them an education.
They won't lose the college benifits, speak from experience as a child of a military widow. Can't remember about the medical, we were switched over to her husband's. And the children will still get commisarry benifits and such. My military ID was valid until I was 18, but my mom lost hers.
This guy *says* he makes 35 "in a good year", she makes 45, he's 30 in the hole. I'm a dude but she'd be crazy to marry him. Get a second job, find some way to bring that 35 closer to 70 or more and then maybe. Dave went too easy on him.
I honestly feels like a would be a stupid step for the girlfriend of this man to actually get married,her husband literally died for her to recieve those benefits and trough those benefits she has some kind of sucirety to make sure shes in a better financiel position to keep taking care of her kids, why risk all that just to marry someone who has no kids and no benefits to lose. 50 % of mariages end up in divorce anways . Is just not worth the risk for her.
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He is 28 and his step son is 21 😂; he is not his step son but his step brother
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He's 28 and his step kid is 21. Yikes!
Phillip Rogers he’s closer in age to the step kid than the girlfriend... insane
I wonder if this is the real reason why they aren't getting married. GF kid has a problem with the age thing but she's too afraid to tell him and uses the SSI benefits as the excuse
@@philliprogers2383 I think she is totally using excuses to avoid something. And if it's just to save a mild check, that's sad that she would prioritize that over him.
It’s like she’s sleeping with her son. Super awkward
@@justshady Who cares, shallow people do.
Let’s call it as it is. She doesn’t wanna marry you brother. I am the daughter of a deceased soldier and I def got my dads education benefits. And my mom was remarried for over a decade.
Sorry for your loss 🙏
I wouldn’t lose them benefits either lol,
Taylee Nicole
You called it, girl.
Widow here: SSI benefits on the Kids won't be affected by remarriage. I am remarried, my daughter will still get SSI till she turns 18.
I agree. My father was a navy man. My mother remarried and the military payed for my college.
I clicked so fast after reading this title. I thought he was trying to marry his cousin or sister.
FifthAmendment me too!
Same! I had to see what this was about!😂😂
I thought one of them was still legally married but getting a divorce.
Glad I’m not the only one who’s head goes there
@@DH-uw3us or that scenario
Every 7 years she gets another kid...
21 year old son...
14 year old daughter...
7 Year old son...
28 year old boyfriend...
Err... nope, yep, that's right.
Lol! 😄👏
The math checks out lol
Amanda Nicole 😂😂😂😂. U nailed it 😂😂😂
And? And it's 'has' another kid not 'gets'.
😂
She can legally remarry, shes choosing to keep receiving a check rather than marry you, when someone tells you who they are believe them.
Robert Smithers When a person shows you who they are the first time, believe them. Just saying
Financial security is most important first and foremost. Her need to have financial security is greater than the need to have a marriage document with new guy. Nothing wrong about that. She has children to put first
@@user_abcxyzz agree, she is putting her children's future, before her romance. I'd wait the 10 years and cross my fingers that everything works out. (assuming what she said to him is true)
@@senorpants5604 I don't know about other places but in california after 7 years of living together and you split up afterwards, you can claim spousal support if you were the non working spouse (ie homemaker)
Nice work Smithers.
“I’m not going to form my life around dodging regulations” could not have said that better.
She’s lying to him. The kids won’t lose their benefits. She doesn’t want to lose hers. And he doesn’t have step kids as they’re not married. She’s a roommate
Run Dude
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Roommate with benefits 😮
“They’re all my step children..” but they’re not... you’re not married to the lady lol
Exactly. People need to stop re-defining and re-categorizing things to ease their conscience. He needs some self-respect and confidence.
@nadiar.7788 lol what do you think these gender bender wierdos are doing. In 2023 you absolutely can. Haha
They’re not “step children” because they’re NOT married! 😒
Exactly!! He sounds controlling already! No wonder the 39 year old woman is finding an out. This guy is nuts or truly desperate. He needs to move on.
UR SO RIGHT SISTER !!
@@ceecee8757 Controlling? He's trying to take responsibility for entering her family. Calling her kids "your kids" is quite important even before marriage. Especially if you ever want to make a 7-year-old accept you as new father.
I've been with my SO for 12 years. We're not married, for health insurance reasons. I call his 2 sons my sons. I'm partially responsible for their upbringing. You got a problem with that?
What is SO ??
She values the military spousal benefits more than marrying you.
Facts 😂
Voilà 🤣
That's pretty sad..
@@TheRibofJESUS She is securing the bag. I got to respect it.
Then how much is her husbands death worth? When would you stop collecting money from the job that killed your spouse?
She's lying to you bub. Run, something is up and it's probably worse than you can imagine.
SilenceSlayer224 If he was worth a dime in the first place he probably wouldn’t have gotten involved with a woman like this in the first place. Something tells me he he isnt very desirable. Either that or he has extremely low self esteem.
Plot twist: she's running from him! He's 28, she's 39. Wth does he have to offer when he makes $35k a year and she already makes $45 by herself? He sounds controlling and she's probably just making up an excuse to get rid of this guy. Not worth it.
or Mommy issues!
CeeCee Nunya well its obvious something is severely wrong with him. What single man in his 20s worth his salt would pick a single mother of multiple kids who is almost 40?
L V When I was in my 30’s I still would not have got involved with a woman with several kids. Who wants to deal with that.
The former spouse will lose VA benefits, not the children!
Right. The veteran would have had to transfer the benefits while he was active duty. Look up chapter Ch.35 Va benefits.
yep. i think she doesnt want to lose benefits. not the kids. i think she just wants a boy toy. no commitment. 28, 39. he needs to get someone on same page and level.
I was going to say the same thing.
She's a widow.
@@meshleesimpsoncool or they just got bad information. The only truth is we have no idea who these people are or anything about them besides a brief conversation on the radio with minimal details. Nothing to justify such a snap polarized judgement of someone you know nothing about
She is using those things as excuses...she DOESN'T want to marry him. Parading around with her boy toy. It's all temporary for her. Poor Mitch
I understand her it happened to someone I know if she gets married she loses her money if they break up it's gone
She would lose her Dependency Indemnity Compensation (DIC) and social security. The kids would be eligible for educational benefits until they are 24 years of age.
She will also lose her health insurance
@@user-kp6we9qw7i Yeah...not worth it. One can live with someone and love them and not get married...if it makes more sense to do so at that stage of life.
How much is the first benefit? Thank you
Sounds like "I can't legally go back to work or they'll discontinue my welfare check!"
44fastgun she lost her spouse who died while in service to the nation, I don’t see that as a “welfare check”
@@joelrodriguez3280 I'm fine with a deceased soldier program. I'm completely against a mooch manipulating the family structure to take benefits that aren't his. Are we to believe that Johny-come-lately's greatest concern getting money to adult children that aren't his?
This women barely seems different from any other ""welfare queens"" people like to criticize. I know her husband died and all but she seems like sure wants to live off taxpayers forever. The only thing I don't mind is her children getting college benefits.
Even regular welfare has a end date eventually.
@@44fastgun she's not mooching. She has her own job making $45k. How's that for being a mooch?
@@ceecee8757 ....and that's why I never called her the mooch 😉
7, 14, 21, and a boyfriend at 28. This woman collected four children and kept em separated.
Stephen Hoppe look out for the 35 side piece 👀
Stephen Hoppe one kid every seven years the boyfriend better run or she is pregnant in a wink
So cute that he's already claiming her kids as his "stepchildren". Dude! Her son is only a few years younger than u! Is he going to call u "dad"?
That was crazy! I get it with the younger ones though, especially if they have been living together for a few years. They basically become your kids.
He better stop. Apparently, if you are publicly recognized as married, the same rules apply as if she had remarried.
@@ILoveRomances haha she'll get him to pay child support for kids that ain't his.
Wonder if she knows that
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She doesn’t want to marry him. She can remarry and keep the benefits for the kids till 16 (the social security) and the kids will still get GI bill and chapter 35 title 33 benefits up till age 31 even if THEY get married!
LifeOfDee they definitely do not get it until they are 31. They will get it until they are 26.
Arlene Augusta I’m 26 and i still get it 😂😂 go to the va website honey! Fully disabled and survives get it till 31
djhavok101 that’s why i said SHE don’t wanna marry him lol
This guy should man up and take care of the two kids he calls step kids already! Two is a breeze to take care of benefits or not.
@@alyssam8977 lol man up and take care of another man's seed
She is 10 years older and doesn’t think you are capable of being an adequate provider.
She’s 39. Do the math.
He's earning 35K on a good year. She's 39 with three kids.
@@kokoskokso Exactly. And he's earning maybe $35K and said he was $30K in debt too. She makes more than he does, and none of her kids are his. He wants her more than she wants him.
@@bettywith2girls yeah I think he's good as a boy toy, eye candy, something to lift up her confidence and mood but he's not a viable partner for her in real life. Unless she's fine with waiting for him to grow up and get to her level eventually and financing him until then. Which might be when he's 40 and she 50 and chances are he'll be gone for someone younger and prettier who can give him kids, now that he's all made thanks to her.
If the info that was sent to Dave is accurate, then it's clear that she doesn't want to marry him & he should move on.
Man, this guy needs a spiritual and relationship advisor. They'd both tell him to reconsider the relationship.
There's quite a few red flags popping up here.
Kid's would not loose benefits, she would loose a check!
I think you mean lose benefits and lose a check?
Jeff Laura Exactly
@@Jenniferde2007 you are correct in you're grammar (see what I did their....I mean they're..... er, there 😃). But Jeff Laura's point is also correct. Everyone gets a star today.
You are calling the wrong show if all you wanna do is shack up!! D. R ain't putting up with it!
“Our daughter” made me cringe a little. I couldn’t even focus on his financial situation. 😅
Exactly.
He's probably the only father she's ever known. He's doing the right thing by referring to her that way.
Eric Blair ok, if that is your assumption.
@@VolleyballAddict521 Nah you are right to cringe. That guy is a pathetic. He'll never have children of his own because he too busy looking after someone elses's children.
Yeah I agree. Kinda sweet on one hand but also sounds a little deluded too.
Of course you *_can_* legally marry. You just don't *_want_* to _let go off the dole._ Let's just call a duck a duck.
fsmoura those kids deserve that benefit.
What about the kids of the parents whose resources are being taken from them against their will (tax payers) to provide the benefit? Do they deserve the benefit of the resources their parents earned with their work?
Robin Rubendunst the kids would not lose only the mom also when a service member dies there’s a lump sum they get I think it’s 100,000 when they die so she got that on top of the alimony she’s just not willing to lose her money
fsmoura I do not understand your question the kids lose nothing the only one that would lose is her the military also gave her a big cash settlement when he died to pay off debt and live for a while she’s only going to lose not the kids
@@fsmoura tell that to welfare recipients not kids whose dad died while defending our country.
They are NOT your step kids...you're not married to her 🤣🤣
I mean if they have been living together and he has been raising the youngest child he's a step father in all the ways that matter.
You didn't get bad information, the Mitch is getting played. The girlfriend does not want to lose her goverment check and get a job.
Dependa 4 life
She already makes 45k.
Ikr
She’s a smart woman.
She works and make 45k a year
This father son dynamic should be made into a movie. How wild!
I’m guessing she is lying about that to him. Something’s up.
Oh man. This is actually a sad call. She is playing him so hard. He sounds smart and like a good guy...
Does your mommy know you are using the phone, young man?
Hahahaha 😂
You better cut it out you bully🤣🤣🤣
D. Aaron Wells 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Top comment! Hilarious!
My friend she got remarried and her son had full benefits to attend college, its the check she gets.
If he made a lot more money she would marry him
Why is that a bad thing for couples to want to keep as much income as possible?
I don’t think so.
True
you can legally marry her bro, she just wants to keep the taxpayer gravy train more than she wants to marry you
harrison wintergreen i don’t think the benefit for losing a spouse is a “gravy train”
@@lavendarj7318 exactly. She's not exactly a millionaire. She's just being smart about her choices.
@@ceecee8757 exactly! Why is everyone judging her?
m sparkle because she’s a pathetic dependa.
It wasn’t our business; that is until Mitchell & Dave shared it with us, lol
Soooooo the title should be “We won’t get married so we can get more $$$$ from the government”.
@@ChevonneStaton right! However, if the surviving spouse has moved on, this new guy needs to step up to the plate!! That would be the honorable thing to do.
While you see it that way. I see it more as, "We want to make sure my girlfriend's late husband's sacrifice for this country keeps her and the children financially stable. Becuz my 35K a year income sure won't."
I don’t think she takes him seriously enough .... poor thing
@@kingkong-ni4ho Exactly. She's actually pretty smart.
@@ChevonneStaton serving the country?
Yeah, that’s 100% not true. Remarrying does not eliminate those college benefits.
Hahaha dude I’ve been In this similar situation. Run for the hills bro. Run for the hills
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Rikki Granger what’s ur story
Ever occur to you that it may be her (his GF) who's running for the hills? She's letting him down easy.
In other words: how do I cheat the system
Get a life and marry someone ur own age . Men r losing their minds and spine in today’s world
Men always prefer women in their 20s. This story just doesn't make sense.
@@benjones621 Almost always. Never talk in absolutes man.
@@benjones621 Women in their 40's are for poor men.
@@carultch are men in their 40's.
Probably cant find one he can shack up with lol
Yeah I don’t think she wants to marry. I’m sure she knows the rules to the benefits
She knows that mess in her sleep. Plus she has kids from her previous relationship. Yeah, sorry buddy, a marriage to this marriage is not happening no time soon. Enjoy getting rocked to sleep at night, and stop desiring more than she is willing to give. Or you could just go find you a woman who too wants to be married.
Yeah you can "legally" marry your girlfriend.
ransom182 I thought: “it’s more financially inconvenient for us to be married” is closer to reality
Yeah I think he feels that they are married off paper, like that's the commitment he has
Pp popo
Can we please get an update on this caller?
Wow, the eldest child is 7 years younger than the caller, what a mess. Sir you should just leave whilst you have a chance
Under 38 CFR 3.50, in order to qualify as a surviving spouse for Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) purposes, a person must be unmarried. Therefore, a surviving spouse who remarries is no longer eligible to receive VA benefits.
step children? you are not married....
This guy sounds like a pushover. She's never going to marry him and risk losing her spousal benefits.
Not if he doesn't have that or more.. If that's the case I don't blame her.
@@sophiasmith5949 I don't blame her either. It doesn't make any sense for her to lose all her spousal benefits in this instance. They can live together and be in love and not be married.
If I was this dude, I’d be embarrassed to show myself around my family.
Is this the Jerry Springer Show?! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Run son !! 🏃
He's 28, she's 39. Run away FAST!!
She has more baggage than Samsonite
My mother in law would have lost his pension and medical benefits if she remarried. At 70, working on another income source was not option. And Tricare paid for every penny when she had cancer later on.
That's awful. So that she ended up spending the rest of her years alone?
He doesn't know what the word legally means.
It’s cuz he’s still a kid too…..with 3 “step-kids” as he says.
Nice job with the video editing. Appreciate the follow up at the end.
Not sure I understand, is it that he "can't" marry her because he's worried about the kids losing benefits, or she "won't" marry him because she'll lose the benefits? Honestly she has no reason to get married with those type of benefits, so it's possible she's just stringing him along as her younger "arm candy."
Or she's trying to let him down easy.
The situation sounds very cringy......
The sad reality is the widow earned what she's getting. Her husband died while in service, or even if he was retired, she (and he) still gave up a lot to serve the Country even as a spouse. I dont fault her for wanting to maintain her EARNED benefits.
HereIsWisdom 1318 did you serve?
But it’s there to be as the aid when you can’t provide for yourself. If she is married then her new husband provides for her. She looses not the kids
Sir We Are About to Die -Military spouses have to put with a lot, and they have to give up a lot. Most times, they’re single mothers while they’re husbands deploy (and vice versa-a female Soldier, whose husband is the dependent).
I swear most of the calls come from Florida lol.
Yea we have unfortunately 21 million people and growing fast.
I haven't been listening long, but am I wrong in assuming the runner-up states are California & Texas? Lol, I'm from one of those & I just have a gut feeling...
Dave has stated that sometimes they list a different city and state if a person is trying to hide their identity (like in a situation where the caller is being abused), so I guess Florida is the default, lol.
So are live PD episodes 🤣
Hahahaha! I just read your post and almost peed my pants. Sounds like Florida has some issues.
Pray for this man.
Let me play Devil's Advocate here. What if she does marry him but it didnt work out 2 years later. She lost the benefits by then and now has to scramble to find money to pay for the younger kid's college. Not worth it. Hate me all u want, but I am looking out for the kid's future. I doubt this guy's 35K a year income will cover their college.
king kong but they don’t lose their college benefits. She just loses her social security...
This thinking is probably what the woman has engaged in except for the college money not being lost so not factoring in to her reasoning.
Because why indeed should she give up guaranteed benefits to get married. Especially military widows' benefits after all she's been through with her family being in the military. And since she's been married before and knows that most marriages either end in divorce or don't work out and the spouses are miserable. To marry a guy who's 10 years younger, with all of her obligations, who also currently makes a lower than average salary.
No, she just lied to dude to spare his feelings and keep him around. She might respect and enjoy him immensely. But for financial reasons has no intention of marrying him right now. Because it wouldn't make sense.
Maybe she will reconsider if his earning capacity significantly increases. But why would he want to put his life on hold. Why would he shack up for years and also not have kids since this lady is almost too old now to have any more.
No, if he can't quickly secure a much higher salary somehow, he's too young to get saddled with this situation and needs to move on. They're incompatible.
With a single mother of 3. She is 9yrs older,,, RUN dude you fool.
11 years older
She must be rocking him real good to sleep. He sound too desperate for her. She was already married once. She could care less about marriage. She might enjoy your company but not enough to get her deceased husband’s benefits taken from herself.
DON'T GET MARRIED. just solved all your problems for the next 40 years.
Hahahahaha!!!
Considering he probably makes less than what she's receiving in benefits, it doesn't make sense for them to marry. She is putting her children first. He has two options: increase your income so she feels comfortable giving up what she would lose in benefits, or wait until the kids are out of the house to marry (but you gotta discuss that in great detail and clarity).
i DONT blame her for not wanting to lose her social security check, her spouse gave the ultimate sacrifice for her and the kids, so she should not lose those to a marriage that will probably end in divorce. ...looks like your going to be boyfriend/girlfriend for LIFE... and nothing is wrong with that..
This ^
Ya I just wish she would let him know the truth. He's never going to be her husband, her husband died a hero and this guy is a little boy who doesn't even make 35k. He's just a boy toy.
I’m 28 too. I’d prefer to be with someone that I could have my own kids
Exactly! I would never be interested in a woman who already has kids with another man -- deceased or not.
Right, totally agree with that but some guys don’t care I guess.
Quick question: If you died, do you expect another man to step up and care for your kids or what??
It's Ya Girl, Jesus' Wife no i don’t expect. I’m only have kids with whomever I get married with. I’m only marrying someone that is responsible with money, comes from a good family ,and either has or working towards what she believes is created to do. So she will have her own money. I will have a house and car paid off for her when we get married.
She will not need another man.
If she does need help she will get if from her church or her family.
@@bigd3721 To each their own...
Children still need male leadership in their lives, not just money... And mothers need to be available to actually raise their kids, not busy working...
Also, props to DR for admitting to not knowing, getting the proper information, then sharing it. 👍
He can legally marry here; he just doesn't want to give up the benefits.
I took it as they can get married in something like their church but they can't get a "legal" marriage that's recognized by the government.
She doesn't want to give up the benefits.
You gotta love my boy Dave.... dripping integrity!!!! If you listen to this man, you will be RICH!!!!
unless you are a military widow.
Had to be in Florida 🤔😂
EntusGaming my state stay wilding 😂😂
Always in Florida
Florida take this L
Except if it doesn't work out and divorce follows the woman has given up security. So perhaps she does not want to marry.. She needs security for her kids and her spousal benefit provides that.
She's not going to give up all the free money. Sit home and collect lots of free money.
This young man needs to run away from that woman, and that situation. Run away!
I think she doesn’t want to marry him that is why she keeps saying military benefits.
She makes more money than him
She is already well established ( age,kids, money, etc)
She is not sure if she wants to marry 29yrs old man with 35k and she will lose her spousal benefits
Alot of people don't reach high income still middle thirties and high incomes intbe 40s
By listening to Dave, I noticed so many Guys are having self esteems issues.
Oh yes
It goes hand-in-hand with financial issues
Probably because they are not real men yet. This caller is still a boy.
I think that when Homer Simpson said "lousy war widows" he was talking about this person.
If you having girl problems I feel bad for you son, I have 99 problems but a .... ain’t one lol
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I am just going to say it....I would stay unmarried. I think she is smart.
Agreed.
I agree too.
My advice is not to marry her. To me it makes no sense economically.
This is really egoistic and bad advise, to destroy the future of two children just so two boomers can have a document they belong to each other.....
28 isn’t a boomer.
Dave gave him terrible advice.. because he's Christian he's not encouraging slacking up.. this is why you don't ask everyone for advice..
She would still receive those benefits for her kids if remarried and not being honest with him and sounds like doesn't want to marry him
She would not. The kids keep their college benefit. She would lose her Social Security, her IDE, and her health care. It's a losing proposition for her, as a widow, to remarry with those benefits. Tricare is a REALLY nice benefit for a widow.
Like how Dave mutes him at like 3 and a half minutes in, but keeps talking to him for like 10 minutes after🤣
Dude wake up you can do better then old model with lots of baggage..
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If he could, he would.
The Cat Next Door no a lot just don’t know and believe fairytale nonsense
"WE would lose"
Buddy they aint your benefits lol
I was waiting for the caller to say they were cousins.
28 and 39 this kid needs to run in the opposite direction. Why is he even talking about having kids with this woman if she is 39 and past child bearing age. These young men dont think at all.
She could probably still have kids but she doesn’t want to 😅
Why would a 28yr old young man want to marry a much older woman with all those kids!? You probably want kids of your own and she’s probably done with having kids, plus she doesn’t want to lose her benefits. Walk away! I’d be devastated if that was my son.
Or you can just not sign a paper and keep receiving great benefits for your family.
A signed paper and a ring doesn't mean you love each other any more than before.
You are new to DR, right?
Completely agree. If getting married is just going to hurt your family and add increased stress I don't see the need. Especially if it is going to make it harder to provide for the kids and get them an education.
"Also, I'm wondering if she wants to marry you..." lol
A 28-year old single man wants to marry a 39-year old widow with kids?? Seriously???
Yes oooooo
Beta behavior is what it is
Yea its not practical.. he needs a young stable woman with no kids...
@@Austenfan177 Egzzzzactly. What a bunch of thugs.
They won't lose the college benifits, speak from experience as a child of a military widow. Can't remember about the medical, we were switched over to her husband's. And the children will still get commisarry benifits and such. My military ID was valid until I was 18, but my mom lost hers.
It is a complicated system, benefits for children stay if widowed , widows remarry most of spouses are lost.
He is 28 and she is 39, let that sink in
it's not that much to be honest, sometimes you can't tell people apart in that age range
@@Maurazio A guy who is 28 has better options than a girl who hit the wall 15 years ago and has 3 kids. He will never be in first place.
Pamela Chu him and his 21 year old stepson can play COD together 🤣
Some women with kids won't settle with men their age because they can't find one so they look elsewhere
@@IWH8023 sure the 3 kids are a different story and I agree with you, but you were just referring to age difference like it's something scandalous
dude run. dont marry single moms. Dave’s still living in the 50s. Tradition doesn’t work anymore, ESPECIALLY in this situation
This man is INSANE. A red pill man needs to get to him before it's too late!!!!
I really wonder where the crossover of FIRE and RP folks are
@@facelessman5362 hahahahaha
I think even the most man hating feminist would think this guy is making a bad decision. It’s THAT BAD.
Its too late
This guy *says* he makes 35 "in a good year", she makes 45, he's 30 in the hole. I'm a dude but she'd be crazy to marry him. Get a second job, find some way to bring that 35 closer to 70 or more and then maybe. Dave went too easy on him.
Sounds like a sense of security issue with her as it should be.
He's 28 and has the nerve to call a 21 year old his step-kid ? No their not.
Cringed so hard.
I couldn't find the words to describe what I was thinking, but you nailed it.
I honestly feels like a would be a stupid step for the girlfriend of this man to actually get married,her husband literally died for her to recieve those benefits and trough those benefits she has some kind of sucirety to make sure shes in a better financiel position to keep taking care of her kids, why risk all that just to marry someone who has no kids and no benefits to lose. 50 % of mariages end up in divorce anways . Is just not worth the risk for her.
I wouldn't throw away my benefits for a gamble on a younger man. And this is the 1st time I've disagreed with Dave's advice.