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I wish I didn’t have ADHD. It is hard for me to understand why I cannot just stop the behaviors. I have inattentive/ impulse issues. My family doesn’t believe in mental illness/disorders, so I was seen as misbehaved and had no meds until adulthood. Thank you for sharing these videos. It makes me feel better to know that I am not alone in my struggles. ❤️
I don’t know you or your family, so it’s not my place to judge. It is not an option to “not believe” in these things in today’s society so I hope that you can help them to learn to accept you as well as develop a more compassionate view of others.
You've just described my entire life! I am a paradox, I am weirdly analytic and spend a lot of time "thinking things through" (not really like other people do though) but am also weirdly impulsive (inwardly not outwardly). So people don't see my random, intense, and often very short-lived fixations... And by short-lived I mean, literally, they can last days sometimes... (but even if they last a year or more I still get bored of them eventually and by that point I have spent a shit-tonne of money).
I'm 57 and only just figured out a couple of months ago what was wrong with me. My whole life so far has been a catalogue of failed projects, relationships, jobs. I start out full of enthusiasm but very soon, sometimes days I lose interest and can't find a way forward so I drop it and move on to the next thing that excites me. And the whole thing starts over. I started doing research and when I came across adhd the penny dropped. I have a consultation booked for next month with a psychiatrist and hopefully will get some answers.
I’m definitely the combined type. I feel like I hit the cold at the end of the rainbow, lol by finding this channel and just knowing there are so many other like-minded people help me to feel less alone
When you say inwardly impulsive, do you mean super private about your fixations? Because my fixations and impulsivity I keep super private and am super embarrassed about sharing.
I've actually just discovered that I have ADHD, my 30 year old daughter just got diagnosed, she looked at me and said 'Mum, you definitely have it'. I started to research AND OMG SHE'S RIGHT!! I'm 60! My entire life I could never understand why I couldn't accomplish simple things that everyone else seems to find so easy, I've always known I was intelligent, but so much shame, very little healthy self esteem. I've always been the 'flake'. It explains everything!! You just described me perfectly. Thank you for taking the time. ☮❤🙋♀️🇨🇦
Congratulation, hope it helps you. I wish my dad would react the way you do. I've been trying to open his mind about this but so far he's in denial, physiological denial I think, his mind just doesn't grasp enough time to connect the dots. It's like his mind only cares about the next 24 hours.
How did you go about getting diagnosed? After about 4 years of suspicion, I’m pretty convinced that me and my daughter have inattentive ADHD and / or dyslexia. I’m currently going through the motions to try and get my daughter assessed through school, but just wondering the best way to get myself assessed. There doesn’t seem to be any local private centres. Is it as simple as going to my GP? I’m a bit worried that I won’t be taken seriously
Stuart, please contact Anthony Padilla as soon as possible!! He wants to make a video shedding light on ADHD and you would be the perfect spokesperson and guest on his show!!
Hey Stuart, keep it up! When I bought an expensive PC to start editing videos for TH-cam, my partner asked me if it was another one of my impulse purchases, and she said 'how long will this one last'. Well, 70 million views later, it's my full time job! I still struggle with motivation, and your videos really help! I hope you'll keep posting, I think you have a great opportunity.
its the worst if you have ADHD without being naturally analytic.... doing mindless things is a problem that everyone has a little bit but midless + ADHD is basically a ticking time bomb
I prefer it when the content of your videos is genuine and not forced. It feels much more relatable when you share your own struggles with ADHD and how you personally manage real life issues we all have faced in some way or another. Thanks for posting, and hope you have a happy new year!
As someone with Inattentive ADHD, I can really relate. But I disagree with your view of the money you spent on video. I think spending on your side business is an investment. You are investing in your passion and your fulfillment. That is the most valuable investment you can make and will make you far happier overall than any house.
No I actually feel the same way - it was indeed an investment in my future, but my point was that I deferred my goal due to a fixation. Either way I'll get there in the end! :)
I agree. Maybe budget differently for it. But my first thought was, "that wasn't wasted." That would be like me buying a new sewing machine. Maybe the timing and finances were impulsive, but it would be an investment. And isn't deferring our goals always going to be a matter of readjusting our priorities? Had that decision ruined your credit, our squandered a down payment on a house you already picked out, that would be different. But during the six months of saving again you now are better able to do your video work. So a realignment of goals.
@@ADHDMastery I have spent a load of money on gear for streaming / content creation because I am passionate about it and have made nothing so far. I am glad that you have at least put your spending to better use than I have so far. but seriously its okay to spend money on things you care about as long as you're not digging yourself into a hole of debt. Good luck with your mortgage application and keep doing your best!
@@ADHDMastery hey man I live in America and have severe add(inattentive) and it has cause problems in every aspect of my life , would love to do an interview with you , I was gonna reach out to you but didn’t see any emails or contact info, so If u get his please reply , thanks
I chuckled when you said "just focussed on..." and then listed a load of things. If I focus on my physical health and food then nothing else gets done. If I focus on taking care of my home then I forget to eat and do laundry. If I hyperfocus on hobbies then things go downhill very fast.
I see myself in every single one of your videos. I haven't been officially diagnosed with ADHD yet, but your videos have pushed me to go get evaluated. Thank you for uploading these.
Thats not always as easy as it sounds. Took me 2 years to get my diagnosis waiting for various appointments etc, hope its not as bad as that for you, because the meds could really help =)
@@TheTomco11 that's insane, I was diagnosed back in 2013ish, im sure with ppl paying more attention to mental health, the diagnoses have been going up. We def need more mental health professionals
This is so relatable! I spent over £2000 on a course last year as I became fixated on the possibility of being self-employed and impulsively signed up last minute for a fast track barbering course... fast forward to now, I have a distinction in barbering and no intention to progress with this... I get so fed up with my jumpy impulsive brain 🤦🏼♂️ fingers crossed I do better this year, best of luck to you too 🤞🏻
I feel you. I want to train as a counsellor, but though I've thought about doing it for years, I'm stupidly anxious that I will either lose interest in the course, or not know what to do with the degree etc if I do make the gargantuan effort to push through and finish.
Literally me rn. I really wanted to get a car a few months ago and I was close until financial emergencies came up. Then I switched to room renovation to help with adhd cluttering and poorer everything into books and learning. I am back to saving for a car rn and will get one in March. I’ve learned from this and I don’t splurge anymore, I’ve saved up 1k emergency fund and am currently on track. I find that it’s ok to spend money on passions and hobbies, just don’t go adhd crazy and keep track of ALL finances and where money’s going. It’s a hard grind but for us that’s how it is.
I’m not sure if I have ADHD, but I can relate to a lot of your experiences. My doctor thinks that I might have ADHD and asked me to explore it through different sources. Thank you for sharing. It is much appreciated.
Oh I’m so glad you’re still making videos! I totally relate to you and find your videos so helpful!!! I too am a creative person and tend to be very all or nothing.
One of your videos summed my life up in about 10 minutes and Ive been in emotional limbo. Ive since had my diagnosis and Ive realised why I behave like I do and why life has worked out like it has for me and its hard to take as I've also done a lot of damage. My partner bought me a book called ' the drummer and the great mountain' and Its completely changed my perspective. I work in health and social care, training care staff and understanding complex human behaviour is part of my role. The theory is that we are hunters in a society geared for farmers. Hyperfocus is the single track mind needed for the kill of dangerous prey, distractability is actually awareness of potential threat. Doesn't matter if its true. It still sounds good Anyway, thank you. Your spreading of awareness is a great thing and, it quite literally has changed my life. We need to embrace our challenges and our gifts. This is still an unexplored territory and it potential affects 15 percent of the population.
This is so me... I know exactly what you’re describing. Sometimes I love being able to hyper-focus... Other times I hate being like this... I’ll hyper-focus on tasks I chose and get carried away, not hyper-focusing on tasks I should or need to be doing. 🥴☹️
I get scammed more because i see something and i get so focused on that thing i just dive right in..i know exactly where your coming from...your on the right path!
Normally I am just a watcher and don't comment but felt that it was time to say hello and thank you so much for creating this channel. It has been a real comfort with acknowledging and accepting my own ADHD journey this year. For 2021 I am aiming to just avoid triggers more. Particularly relationships, stress and envy. Not to the point of not experiencing life but just enough that I stop self destructing! Here's to 2021 🤞xx
I'm analytical... & yet, can be impulsive, in a 'That's a great idea!' way... I have to be so mindful. I'm never truly going to be fab at that, but I'm much better than I was.
Thankful that my passions have been relatively cheap. Currently learning Swedish, which requires internet access, a notebook, and a pen, but I bought a few books as well.
I work in emergency medicine and used to be terrified that my 'quirks' would act up get somebody killed. When I learned about ADHD I realized I actually fixate on my patients. They were never in any danger and the only 'quirks' that act up are the good ones. Had a good cry over that.
you had no idea how reassuring this is to read. my concentration is horrible and I wanna be a doctor when I'm older. I've always been terrified that I'd get distracted and fuck up while performing on a patient. I'm glad you're helping people despite having struggles. thank you for existing
Thank you for sharing your experience, it really resonated with me. I always get SO PASSIONATE about new and exciting things, but I lose interest in sooo many of them. I'm trying to sit with the ideas and gauge whether or not they're something I'm ACTUALLY interested in, rather than going and buying a ton of things for every new hobby.
I'm diagnosed with behavior and mental health issues so this video helped give me more of an insight. It reminded me to take a step back, think, and reflect on actions before I do them. Thank you for making this video. I'm trying so hard right now, honestly struggling, to break bad habits. It's hard.
I can relate to your being into so many things. I am also working towards self employment. A fellow youtuber said what's the 1 thing that you can't live without doing. For me that was painting, so I am focused on that and treat my other passions as side hobbies. I think overall we improve and are more skilled in fewer topics than spreading ourselves so thin. We can't be experts on everything all at once. We also look more like an expert when we are more focused. I wish you the best in the new year!
I think I can safely say I’ve seen most of your videos and I never came across one with empty content. I’ve always walked away with a useful insight, handy tip or just plain motivation to try something I wouldn’t of thought of myself. Happy New Year!
05:54 Thanks for that. I just wrote something down and gonna continue to add things. Didn't even cross my mind before you said it. Also "quiet impulsivity" is a great way to phrase it. It's hard for me to explain to doctors and therapists what the interal struggles look like. I'm definitely gonna use your concept next time.
You’re channel has been so very helpful and has given me hope I’m a doctor myself working towards a career in mental health and have only recently been diagnosed I can say I’ve read up enough literature on this but the experience of peers is not something I could begin my treatment and plan without, your insights and the comment(community) have been very helpful Thank you :)
i love that in one video you sayd that you want a job to have more steady hours and safety, and in this video you say you want to be ur own bos... this is so... me... haha i still have not found the upside of adhd, i just brought trouble all my life. 34 right now and just found out like 1,5 years ago. its been hard and even tho i know, there has been little change in my behavior. exept that i know why i do the way i do. i just cant seem to stop it.
I love your self-awareness and your drive to improve yourself and your life. I’m sorry you got scammed :( I hate that we tend to be easily manipulated because we are emotionally driven and kind, But we also tend to learn very valuable lessons. Thank you again, so so much for sharing your experiences with ADHD and just being down to earth, honest and transparent. I am positive you have helped so many people because you have helped me tremendously. Especially the last five videos of yours that I’ve watched..I have taken notes like a crazy person lol because you are so knowledgeable. I am bound and determined to work through the things that hold me back in life and also learning to accept my eccentric self and my quirks and to love and appreciate myself more. And you are a catalyst, so thank you.
Yes indeed about being easily manipulated because we are emotion driven. I've learned to develop a tough outer shell, but yet still be compassionate and kind to the right people.
Yes, everyone gets a honeymoon phase where they’re super into each other but I feel like for me it goes into obsessive territory and once that focus stops I might want to do something hasty like break up
hyperfixation sucks but at the same time, it can be Incredibly interesting. like i haven't slept or eaten well for about two weeks because of my recent fixation, and my bank accojnt is e m p t y because of buying things related to it, but at the same time i love thinking about it 24/7 and the euphoric feeling talking about it to someone and showing it off is brilliant. your video explains this well and your example is very relatable, love it !! :)
@@bobgoldman4404 hehe i'm currently obsessively watching minecraft streamers and getting too interested in the plot, the merch is from the streamers lmao
The best part of the hyperfixation is the intense euphoria from it 😭 like I recently got hyperfixated on fuckin Cats the musical (1998 version) and obviously it's a weird thing to be hyperfixated on but nothing matches the rush of happiness I get from talking about it or seeing other people talk about it. Being in between hyperfixations... not as great. Especially the feeling of a hyperifxation slowly fading away.
@@finpin2622 yes! i hate when they fade away because it feels like part of your personality has died and all of the stuff you bought related to it becomes meaningless 😭 but it's definitely worth it for the pure adrenaline of talking about cats 😅
I am so glad this popped up in my recommended videos- my brain works like yours and it's a HUGE relief to hear someone else describe it! It's a bit weird to feel like you've been in my head LOL, but I really appreciate your candor, intelligent approach to the videos and your goals, and sharing your journey and advice.
I find it so funny and coincidental that your fixation has literally been my fixation for the past couple of weeks too. I've been watching financing videos like no other, as well as talking to mortgage brokers to buy a house myself. Kindred ADHD spirits I guess, lol!
Thanks for this reminder. I appreciate your honesty! I run a strict investing plan, and it works perfect! I have ADD, and i can relate to everything you are describing
I’m exactly the same!!! I’m have a creative mind as well and love to dabble in everything which obviously requires money. I’ve gotten much better about impulsivity, which just so happens at night...when I can’t sleep. I have been very, very successful with getting as far as the “cart” for a purchase and then waiting until morning. If I really want to pull the trigger once morning comes, I do. Most of the time, though, I reconsider. I’ve wanted to start a TH-cam channel, a podcast, open an Etsy store, you name it...but I KNOW myself and I know my passion for it will wane at some point. It’s very frustrating.
"I've paid to get my own ass kicked." I feel that statement so much. As somebody else said, not being a natural analytical thinker makes life tough. I've had to train myself to be as analytical as a lot people have, I'm sure... When I have someone say "you don't have problems, I think you're doing fine" it kills me. Cause they have no idea how nutso city it gets in my brain over the most ordinary things to them. I spot a "glittery thing" in the grocery store and be thinking about it the ENTIRE shopping trip and all the reasons I should NOT buy it. In the process, I forget things I'm supposed to pick up while breaking a sweat that I shouldn't be buying the glittery object. All they see is that I forgot a few things. "You're just forgetful, I'm like that, too" they say... Um, no. This ruins my life in so many facets of pain.
man, we are completely alike, inattentive ADD. Everything you have said in this video I can relate too, even the part about choosing what degree to pursue. You manage to put it so well into words
My hyperfocus is photography (no pun intended) I'm a fourth generation commercial photographer and sixth generation hobbiest photographer. Going on 20 years now.
I relate to this too much. I was also focused on saving for a house the past couple years. It took most of those 2 years to get my husband on board so there were many times where I wasn’t making any progress and I felt like giving up. I spent countless hours on researching personal finances and I even felt that I could be a financial coach for a living and so I started college to get a bachelors degree. Now I’m halfway through and I don’t know if I want to continue with college because I don’t know if that’s really what I want to do. I don’t want to just give up again because I’m tired of always giving up on things that I was once passionate about. But I don’t want to waste my time and energy on something that I may never have a use for. There are so many other things I want to do with my time right now. I have 2 toddlers that require most of my time so why should I let school take up the rest when it’s no longer for my passion right? Someone tell me I should stick with it because it will be useful no matter what path I take in the future. Or I may be a stay at home mom forever and never use my degree.
This resonates with me. In the process of getting an ADHD diagnosis and the more I watch your (and others) videos the more I realise how many of my decisions revolve around a fixation more than a true calling or actual want. It’s a nightmare to realise sometimes.
I've only recently got diagnosed with ADHD. before that I spent years thinking I was simply a screw up. Now that I know what it is, videos like this make me feel less alone and like I belong somewhere with other people who understand the similar struggles I go through, and ways to combat it. Only just discovered this channel half an hour ago and I love how you deliver your content.
I read up on investing, then hired a pro. HE never gets distracted or impulsive and I just have to make sure the money keeps flowing with auto pays to that account. As much as possible I just forget about it at that point. Twice a year check in at most otherwise I'll start hyper focusing. I started this at 25, and now in my 60's we're set up. Back in the day auto pay wasn't quite as easy as it is now, but I made the effort and set up my life that way. It's one time when object impermanence is useful! Once the money has been siphoned off, I don't miss it or think about it.
I have had issues with inattentiveness and hyper focus since childhood. Didn’t listen in school 80% of the time because it was too difficult. 20% I hyper focused and came across “ too smart out of nowhere” and was accused of cheating. Learned a bad self image and only freed myself by going abroad 20 years old. Learned to manage and improve self image. Learned to hide feelings and actions. I still have problems and learn about my self. Beeing 63 years old I still have aha moments when I do weird stuff and later connect the dots and see a pattern. Mostly it is issues with impulsivity. I have a son with similar issues. Supported him massively with extra tutors and build up his self confidence. He is the nicest person and will finish med school in 2 years. I have also been successful. But have suffered massively privately. Always the self doubt and guilt for no apparent reason. I would have loved to have a mom like myself. 😢 what benefit would I have from a diagnosis? Is there a treatment?
Hyperfocusing and the jumping from one thing to another had been the source of my creativity. It is indeed a blessing, despite the cons that come with it. I guess inattentive-impulsive combination, if managed effectively, can produce wonders! One thing about the spending binges, while we seem to tend to convince ourselves it is a form of self-reward which is important, I believe they stem from our "dopamine cravings". I noticed that I go into those binges not randomly, but particularly when feeling unhappy, and not in the general "instant gratification" that can be attended to by impulsive acts that don't usually involve heavy spending, or maybe no spending at all. The challenge is that while cognitively we realise we shouldn't do it and reflect on what's harmful, when in heat of the moment, all that reflection and rational/logical reasoning disappears and we just get carried away by the wave and we get back to our senses only after the fact. Probably the best root solution for this would be working on being fulfilled to say the least, if at all being happy is not achievable during certain periods (like any other human being). The key is to avoid being unhappy at all costs... Meds that offer dopamine management, like amphetamine salts, are also high on stimulation which has adverse side effects that puts a limit to the effective dose for a balanced result, and all the tea and other nootropic supplements may not be effective enough to replenish dopamine levels, so working on fulfillment in all possible ways becomes dire, from doing things we like, to sports, to dieting, supplements, meds, CBT-driven thought management, avoidance of toxic engagements, good sleep, affirmations, you name it. Thank you for posting the video!
I have the exact same adhd effects as you. I go through about 3-4 fixations a year. It can be great, but some fixations are very toxic to my personal relationships.
Hearing you makes me think you are a mind reader describing MY thoughts. I had my first intake therapy session a couple of days ago. thanks for uploading this. Keep at it. It does make a difference for people who are struggling to find out what is going on in their heads.
As an adult diagnosed with ASD and ADHD, life is all about decisions. Almost all anyone has to do is make the right decisions (no matter how painful they are). All the problems in my life are my fault. All the problems in your life are your fault. Look up David Goggins, he didnt have a learning disability, he had all of them.
If I save ahead I can never buy what I want (a campervan), always too early, not quite that, a bit too big, a bit too small, I'm not so sure, oh I don't really need it... But if I just jump in and buy it, then I become obsessive about paying it off (my house) and I am the most brilliant saver. For me the worse position is "in between", I get paralysed and can't make a decision any more. I'd say if you bought the video stuff instead of a house, it's done, so just embrace it, enjoy it, congratulate yourself for having chosen the right one or chose to make it the best one. ✌🙂
Oh, I did that with my car last year. Used almost all my tax return and work PTO payout, plus added around 200 bucks to each remaining payment. it added up to about 6000 dollars over 3 months. But I payed my car off two years early, which lifted a longterm financial burden off my back.
‘Know thyself’ - the old proverb says. I fixate as follows: I’ll start sorting a bunch of buttons into matching sets, or my collections of broken jewellery, or my make up drawer - for HOURS. Or any little things in the kitchen, etc etc. Or the screws and nails and bits and pieces in my tool cupboard. And it takes a hold of me , even when there are really important things to do, like leaving the house for work or a doctor’s appointment ! I fixate on sorting treasures ( well, things that are treasures to me ). Thanks for sharing all this. Real warning. One vital thing Im getting from your channel and two others -(Rick Green’s channel, and the channel of another young woman who has ADHD) - - is facing the truth of how I now need to put things in place to deal with how I AM. ( only recently diagnosed, after a lifetime of chaos). Thanks heaps mate.
I love the idea of keeping your goals or desired path visible to you as much as possible. :) Being more self-aware by doing daily reviews while keeping these goals in mind has also helped me a lot. By doing this, I can then pinpoint things that need improvement, and think of how I can adjust my environment to reduce distractions and triggers, establish healthier habits, etc. And because I'm doing it daily, I get to act more quickly, before things escalate and I lose too much money or put my job and relationships at risk. You can do this as if you were filling out a form or as guided journaling. I do it in my bullet journal. During the day, I'm writing down tasks, thoughts, ideas, distractions, topics I'd like to research more, etc., instead of acting on the spot and going down a rabbit hole. There's often that fear of forgetting something that makes you take action right away, and having things written down instead, as soon as they come up, helps to reduce that anxiety. Then, at the end of the day, I do the review and plan for the next day, marking which tasks are top priorities so that I don't have to think about that in the morning. I also prepare my living and work spaces for the next day, adjusting them as I see fit; and finally, I leave my bullet journal open on my desk, before going to bed. This has been one of the best realizations I've had in the past 1.5 years, so I hope it helps somebody else.
people afflicted with adhd seem to want to talk about themselves impulsively. Check how many comments either start with "I" or have a short buffer of words before talking about themselves. Just something to consider.
Your linking hyper-focus to a form of hyper-activity is so right! Linking the former to impulsiveness is even more clarifying! I feel when I'm in hyper-focus, a lot of the time is to escape what I really need or want to do, and it can take over behaviour, just like an addiction. For me, impulsive spending happens when "window shopping" and seeing an object I find too beautiful not have; luckily, I have been returning some of my shopping items when I get home and realize these objects are beautiful but I don't really need them. Making list on a white board sounds like a great way to externalize goals and priorities and make them evident as they are easily found in one's physical vision; if they are easily seen, they won't get drown so easily amongst all the distractions that activate the hyper-focus hyper-activity. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Your voice is really calming to listen too. Also, you have very much the same experience of ADHD as me. It's really comforting to listen to your videos. Thank you so much for sharing them.
Very similar story here, I got my masters degree as well and hyperfocus and fixated on it that I got straight A’s but everything else in my life was falling apart, thank you for this video it takes a lot of strength to open up like this
I am so glad that I am not too impulsive when it comes to my finances. I hope you can overcome this and although I can't personally afford to support you in that regard, you have my backing emotionally and I will be keeping an eye out for your videos as always!
I probably should have watched this video when it came up on my feed BEFORE I went out rushed to buy the Nintendo switch I’ve been impulsively wanting all day.... lol Thank you for creating content still and for talking about this! I never equated my fixations to quite hyperactivity but that’s exactly what they are. They are definitely one of the hardest things to explain to others too.
Wowwww dude! I relate sooo closely to literally every experience you shared in this video. About a year ago, I too, was saving up for a mortgage and ended up losing a lot of my savings to scattered interests and schemes to do better...but actually didn't. I've had a couple major career changes between then and now, but I keep falling. I suppose I'm learning what not to do. I don't regret it. What's done is done, but I sure do worry about what is to be. Great video and keep up the good work!
You made such a great point when you said that its important to just follow where you naturally feel inclined to go! It can become so easy to feel guilty when you've started one passion and then become bored and then go onto another, when this becomes a routine then we start beating ourselves up as though we've let ourselves down when really it's completely fine to stick our fingers into loads of different things as creative individuals. Societal pressues may play a big part in this especially, it makes us believe that we need to make something of ourselves if we are determined enough we must put our all into one specific thing, yadder yadder. Letting go in my path of life has felt so freeing, to just let go of the idea that I need to go in a particular direction and just trust in the path that feels right at any given time! Thanks for this.
Hi Adhd M. thanks for the upload glad to see you’re active - you still doing interviews because I’d be more than happy to get involved. Many thanks Stay blessed 👊
Do your vids however it work for you, that’s for sure. You’re great cause you are ‘real’. No fronts. Diagnosed at 42. All my life I have max 3 months focus on whatever and then it is gone to 0. My biggest problem. I have good work career I might say but all I earn I spend for next best thing. Living like there’s no tomorrow. In someways I enjoy it, can’t say it about my woman. I just bought massive amounts of Carrera 124 shit. Love it but I know that this passion will be over soon. Like it always have been. No matter how hard I want it to last.
I've had this recently. Discovered a band called Thumpasaurus and become obsessed. Got tickets to see them live at the weekend, bought merch at the show, then bought even more merch online afterwards. I'm supposed to be saving for a vacation. I can't listen to any other music right now other than them. Their music is incredibly energising though.
3:43 I often think about how amazing it would be to have a pause button for life. A button the I could push when I feel like I’m getting too excited and or anxious about something…or everything. So I could just sit and marinate in the moment before making a decision I may regret. Take your time. Quality is far more important than quantity. Those of us who stick around for new uploads are the ones who really need and appreciate them.
Great video. Yes! I was going to suggest ISA w lock in. The LISA are great for 1st time buyer in UK as you get 1k for each 4k you put away in them. AND if you take it out you lose that 1K and 6% of your original money. Plus you can only spend the money on mortgage or pension so holds you tight to your mortgage goal. Moneybox LISA app encourages you to add boosts too, so you can think takeaway or boost into ISA.
This is my biggest downfall. My impulsiveness. It’s like an adrenaline rush when I get the urge to get something and I get get it out of my head till I eventually get it. Then the regrets set it so I either return the item or live with my bad choices
Your videos are an inspiration to me. I get so many of the things you describe. I'm 38 years old and only just getting treatment this week. You've made a difference to many by your work, don't ever forget that
Before I knew I had ADHD I would always have these fixations and impulsions which led me to waste alot of money once I spent 400 on a test to become a Canadian citizen looking back I wish I gave myself more time to think about it. as always thanks for uploading :)
Yes! Oh boy oh boy. When a passion hits the finances take a hit. I think what’s helped me personally is that I was brought up with a saving mind-set and I’m a super hard worker when I need/want to make money. I have a strong spending impulsivity but I’m also really frugal lol If the spending goes towards the passions rather than random spending its preferable. Definitely having different accounts and a set amount to put away, is a simple way to keep in the black. I’m so relieved to be 50 and relatively settled on my passions. Thank you for sharing, and creating when it feels authentic is a true ADHD happy place.
Yep- I see exactly what you mean- I have done the SAME things over and over - WHY would I think that I know how to invest my money!? Why would I not remember the only REAL way is the HARD WAY - AND from now on- when I want to invest - I'm going to have to require myself to have experts tell me if I can or even should! Savings-' being locked away' is a GREAT way to make sure you don't spend it! Super smart! - Also YOU CAN SAVE a lot more : by being super savy with every purchase -& finding creative ways to shop for everything you buy - coupons, cash back card, etc. Good Luck! I appreciate your videos! Thank you!
You are really speaking about my life right now! Sometimes I get into things for several years until I know it like the back of my hand but better. I really enjoy it but it can be all consuming sometimes...I think that is ADHD 😅
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I wish I didn’t have ADHD. It is hard for me to understand why I cannot just stop the behaviors. I have inattentive/ impulse issues. My family doesn’t believe in mental illness/disorders, so I was seen as misbehaved and had no meds until adulthood. Thank you for sharing these videos. It makes me feel better to know that I am not alone in my struggles. ❤️
me too. i wasn’t diagnosed until I was 23 and it has been really hard. you’re not alone
Same here. Got diagnosed when I turned twenty last year, not on meds and hate that I behave like a sad adult baby
@@yegra Be kind to yourself. Try to look for the positives about the diagnosis, like how it makes you unique. Sending you both love
Sending you much love and validation 🙏 In this fight together
I don’t know you or your family, so it’s not my place to judge. It is not an option to “not believe” in these things in today’s society so I hope that you can help them to learn to accept you as well as develop a more compassionate view of others.
You've just described my entire life!
I am a paradox, I am weirdly analytic and spend a lot of time "thinking things through" (not really like other people do though) but am also weirdly impulsive (inwardly not outwardly). So people don't see my random, intense, and often very short-lived fixations... And by short-lived I mean, literally, they can last days sometimes... (but even if they last a year or more I still get bored of them eventually and by that point I have spent a shit-tonne of money).
Same here. :) We're definitely not alone in this! You may have the Combined type of ADHD, like me.
I'm 57 and only just figured out a couple of months ago what was wrong with me. My whole life so far has been a catalogue of failed projects, relationships, jobs. I start out full of enthusiasm but very soon, sometimes days I lose interest and can't find a way forward so I drop it and move on to the next thing that excites me. And the whole thing starts over. I started doing research and when I came across adhd the penny dropped. I have a consultation booked for next month with a psychiatrist and hopefully will get some answers.
Haha me too, but I now second-guess new interests - if it survives a month or two I can invest then
I’m definitely the combined type. I feel like I hit the cold at the end of the rainbow, lol by finding this channel and just knowing there are so many other like-minded people help me to feel less alone
When you say inwardly impulsive, do you mean super private about your fixations? Because my fixations and impulsivity I keep super private and am super embarrassed about sharing.
You look like the handsome default character in character customization
Jaysus... you're dead right 🤣
Omfg yes☠️😭
Adhd and pattern recognition lmfao
Yea hes a handsome dude
Haha :D He kind of reminds me of Kevin from the Backstreet Boys but this is so funny :D
I've actually just discovered that I have ADHD, my 30 year old daughter just got diagnosed, she looked at me and said 'Mum, you definitely have it'. I started to research AND OMG SHE'S RIGHT!! I'm 60! My entire life I could never understand why I couldn't accomplish simple things that everyone else seems to find so easy, I've always known I was intelligent, but so much shame, very little healthy self esteem. I've always been the 'flake'. It explains everything!! You just described me perfectly. Thank you for taking the time.
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Congratulation, hope it helps you. I wish my dad would react the way you do. I've been trying to open his mind about this but so far he's in denial, physiological denial I think, his mind just doesn't grasp enough time to connect the dots. It's like his mind only cares about the next 24 hours.
How did you go about getting diagnosed? After about 4 years of suspicion, I’m pretty convinced that me and my daughter have inattentive ADHD and / or dyslexia. I’m currently going through the motions to try and get my daughter assessed through school, but just wondering the best way to get myself assessed. There doesn’t seem to be any local private centres. Is it as simple as going to my GP? I’m a bit worried that I won’t be taken seriously
Stuart, please contact Anthony Padilla as soon as possible!! He wants to make a video shedding light on ADHD and you would be the perfect spokesperson and guest on his show!!
And Jessica from How To ADHD
Who is Anthony Padilla?
@@LM-uq9nv used to be in Smosh on TH-cam
@@LM-uq9nv TH-cam legend basically, stopped being as well known after Smosh
Hey Stuart, keep it up! When I bought an expensive PC to start editing videos for TH-cam, my partner asked me if it was another one of my impulse purchases, and she said 'how long will this one last'. Well, 70 million views later, it's my full time job! I still struggle with motivation, and your videos really help! I hope you'll keep posting, I think you have a great opportunity.
P.S if you ever need any help, get in touch!
Do you take anything for adhd?
Success is literally THE BEST REVENGE!
For me the worst feeling is between fixations
its the worst if you have ADHD without being naturally analytic.... doing mindless things is a problem that everyone has a little bit but midless + ADHD is basically a ticking time bomb
If you don’t mind me asking, what’s analytic?
@@que6013 oh sorry... I mean analytically
100 % true, analytic mind and good pre flop play have helped me alot
@@Stefanburakov tell moreover
@@Stefanburakov pre flop play =?
I prefer it when the content of your videos is genuine and not forced. It feels much more relatable when you share your own struggles with ADHD and how you personally manage real life issues we all have faced in some way or another. Thanks for posting, and hope you have a happy new year!
As someone with Inattentive ADHD, I can really relate. But I disagree with your view of the money you spent on video. I think spending on your side business is an investment. You are investing in your passion and your fulfillment. That is the most valuable investment you can make and will make you far happier overall than any house.
No I actually feel the same way - it was indeed an investment in my future, but my point was that I deferred my goal due to a fixation. Either way I'll get there in the end! :)
I agree. Maybe budget differently for it. But my first thought was, "that wasn't wasted." That would be like me buying a new sewing machine. Maybe the timing and finances were impulsive, but it would be an investment. And isn't deferring our goals always going to be a matter of readjusting our priorities? Had that decision ruined your credit, our squandered a down payment on a house you already picked out, that would be different. But during the six months of saving again you now are better able to do your video work. So a realignment of goals.
@@ADHDMastery I have spent a load of money on gear for streaming / content creation because I am passionate about it and have made nothing so far. I am glad that you have at least put your spending to better use than I have so far. but seriously its okay to spend money on things you care about as long as you're not digging yourself into a hole of debt. Good luck with your mortgage application and keep doing your best!
Agreed, not wasted money at all. You make excellent videos. I hope that you're able to earn money through your hobby.
@@ADHDMastery hey man I live in America and have severe add(inattentive) and it has cause problems in every aspect of my life , would love to do an interview with you , I was gonna reach out to you but didn’t see any emails or contact info, so If u get his please reply , thanks
Thank you for not putting music on in the background, firstly it helps the auto cc but also it helps us your adhd viewers pay attention!
I’m embarrassed but yeah the number of video jumps and splices grabbed my attention so I don’t think I could handle it with music
I chuckled when you said "just focussed on..." and then listed a load of things. If I focus on my physical health and food then nothing else gets done. If I focus on taking care of my home then I forget to eat and do laundry. If I hyperfocus on hobbies then things go downhill very fast.
I see myself in every single one of your videos. I haven't been officially diagnosed with ADHD yet, but your videos have pushed me to go get evaluated. Thank you for uploading these.
Thats not always as easy as it sounds. Took me 2 years to get my diagnosis waiting for various appointments etc, hope its not as bad as that for you, because the meds could really help =)
@@harold1981 really? don't think it took too long for me, but I got diagnosed through my school so who knows.
@@choummalys1860 current NHS waiting list is in the region of years
@@TheTomco11 that's insane, I was diagnosed back in 2013ish, im sure with ppl paying more attention to mental health, the diagnoses have been going up. We def need more mental health professionals
This is so relatable! I spent over £2000 on a course last year as I became fixated on the possibility of being self-employed and impulsively signed up last minute for a fast track barbering course... fast forward to now, I have a distinction in barbering and no intention to progress with this... I get so fed up with my jumpy impulsive brain 🤦🏼♂️ fingers crossed I do better this year, best of luck to you too 🤞🏻
I feel you. I want to train as a counsellor, but though I've thought about doing it for years, I'm stupidly anxious that I will either lose interest in the course, or not know what to do with the degree etc if I do make the gargantuan effort to push through and finish.
I nearly signed up to a course when I was on one, but never responded to the emails. Thank God.
Thinking about my addictive behavioral patterns and listening to this is so painful. Thank you for sharing ♥️
Literally me rn. I really wanted to get a car a few months ago and I was close until financial emergencies came up. Then I switched to room renovation to help with adhd cluttering and poorer everything into books and learning. I am back to saving for a car rn and will get one in March. I’ve learned from this and I don’t splurge anymore, I’ve saved up 1k emergency fund and am currently on track. I find that it’s ok to spend money on passions and hobbies, just don’t go adhd crazy and keep track of ALL finances and where money’s going. It’s a hard grind but for us that’s how it is.
Put your money into a CD, that way it is locked for several years if need be.
I’m not sure if I have ADHD, but I can relate to a lot of your experiences. My doctor thinks that I might have ADHD and asked me to explore it through different sources. Thank you for sharing. It is much appreciated.
Oh I’m so glad you’re still making videos! I totally relate to you and find your videos so helpful!!! I too am a creative person and tend to be very all or nothing.
Super helpful to have your insight as someone wit ADHD
One of your videos summed my life up in about 10 minutes and Ive been in emotional limbo. Ive since had my diagnosis and Ive realised why I behave like I do and why life has worked out like it has for me and its hard to take as I've also done a lot of damage. My partner bought me a book called ' the drummer and the great mountain' and Its completely changed my perspective. I work in health and social care, training care staff and understanding complex human behaviour is part of my role. The theory is that we are hunters in a society geared for farmers. Hyperfocus is the single track mind needed for the kill of dangerous prey, distractability is actually awareness of potential threat. Doesn't matter if its true. It still sounds good
Anyway, thank you. Your spreading of awareness is a great thing and, it quite literally has changed my life. We need to embrace our challenges and our gifts. This is still an unexplored territory and it potential affects 15 percent of the population.
thx u made me feel cool lmaoo
That sounds like an interesting book, and the theory makes sense, since we started out as hunters and nomads until relatively recently.
This is so me... I know exactly what you’re describing. Sometimes I love being able to hyper-focus... Other times I hate being like this... I’ll hyper-focus on tasks I chose and get carried away, not hyper-focusing on tasks I should or need to be doing. 🥴☹️
@Curtis Dumbledore Jackson I can totally relate. It is so me
@Curtis Dumbledore Jackson Great to hear.. I need to get medical help
I get scammed more because i see something and i get so focused on that thing i just dive right in..i know exactly where your coming from...your on the right path!
Normally I am just a watcher and don't comment but felt that it was time to say hello and thank you so much for creating this channel. It has been a real comfort with acknowledging and accepting my own ADHD journey this year. For 2021 I am aiming to just avoid triggers more. Particularly relationships, stress and envy. Not to the point of not experiencing life but just enough that I stop self destructing! Here's to 2021 🤞xx
Avoiding those 3 triggers as well!!
Good Luck to you ^-^ 🍀
I'm analytical... & yet, can be impulsive, in a 'That's a great idea!' way... I have to be so mindful. I'm never truly going to be fab at that, but I'm much better than I was.
Thankful that my passions have been relatively cheap. Currently learning Swedish, which requires internet access, a notebook, and a pen, but I bought a few books as well.
I work in emergency medicine and used to be terrified that my 'quirks' would act up get somebody killed.
When I learned about ADHD I realized I actually fixate on my patients. They were never in any danger and the only 'quirks' that act up are the good ones.
Had a good cry over that.
you had no idea how reassuring this is to read. my concentration is horrible and I wanna be a doctor when I'm older. I've always been terrified that I'd get distracted and fuck up while performing on a patient. I'm glad you're helping people despite having struggles. thank you for existing
Bro !! Great to hear a fellow Celt talk adult ADHD. Big love from Scotland 💙
Thank you for sharing your experience, it really resonated with me. I always get SO PASSIONATE about new and exciting things, but I lose interest in sooo many of them. I'm trying to sit with the ideas and gauge whether or not they're something I'm ACTUALLY interested in, rather than going and buying a ton of things for every new hobby.
I'm diagnosed with behavior and mental health issues so this video helped give me more of an insight.
It reminded me to take a step back, think, and reflect on actions before I do them.
Thank you for making this video. I'm trying so hard right now, honestly struggling, to break bad habits. It's hard.
Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing this on the internet. Appreciate this video immensely.
I can relate to your being into so many things. I am also working towards self employment. A fellow youtuber said what's the 1 thing that you can't live without doing. For me that was painting, so I am focused on that and treat my other passions as side hobbies. I think overall we improve and are more skilled in fewer topics than spreading ourselves so thin. We can't be experts on everything all at once. We also look more like an expert when we are more focused. I wish you the best in the new year!
I think I can safely say I’ve seen most of your videos and I never came across one with empty content. I’ve always walked away with a useful insight, handy tip or just plain motivation to try something I wouldn’t of thought of myself.
Happy New Year!
I meant I didn't want to end up producing empty content :) HNY!
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Thanks for that. I just wrote something down and gonna continue to add things. Didn't even cross my mind before you said it.
Also "quiet impulsivity" is a great way to phrase it. It's hard for me to explain to doctors and therapists what the interal struggles look like. I'm definitely gonna use your concept next time.
You’re channel has been so very helpful and has given me hope
I’m a doctor myself working towards a career in mental health and have only recently been diagnosed
I can say I’ve read up enough literature on this but the experience of peers is not something I could begin my treatment and plan without, your insights and the comment(community) have been very helpful
Thank you :)
I am 42 ADHD..Still undiagnosed I diagnose myself..thank you Stuart..
i love that in one video you sayd that you want a job to have more steady hours and safety, and in this video you say you want to be ur own bos... this is so... me... haha i still have not found the upside of adhd, i just brought trouble all my life. 34 right now and just found out like 1,5 years ago. its been hard and even tho i know, there has been little change in my behavior. exept that i know why i do the way i do. i just cant seem to stop it.
Been there! Thanks for your eloquent honesty
I love your self-awareness and your drive to improve yourself and your life. I’m sorry you got scammed :( I hate that we tend to be easily manipulated because we are emotionally driven and kind, But we also tend to learn very valuable lessons. Thank you again, so so much for sharing your experiences with ADHD and just being down to earth, honest and transparent. I am positive you have helped so many people because you have helped me tremendously. Especially the last five videos of yours that I’ve watched..I have taken notes like a crazy person lol because you are so knowledgeable. I am bound and determined to work through the things that hold me back in life and also learning to accept my eccentric self and my quirks and to love and appreciate myself more. And you are a catalyst, so thank you.
Yes indeed about being easily manipulated because we are emotion driven. I've learned to develop a tough outer shell, but yet still be compassionate and kind to the right people.
Anyone else hyperfocus on a new relationship? It can definitely backfire after a while unfortunately.
Yes, everyone gets a honeymoon phase where they’re super into each other but I feel like for me it goes into obsessive territory and once that focus stops I might want to do something hasty like break up
Your videos are so educational. Thanks for making these videos!!
Binged watched so much ADHD vids. Glad I found a new channel to binge watch LOL
hyperfixation sucks but at the same time, it can be Incredibly interesting. like i haven't slept or eaten well for about two weeks because of my recent fixation, and my bank accojnt is e m p t y because of buying things related to it, but at the same time i love thinking about it 24/7 and the euphoric feeling talking about it to someone and showing it off is brilliant. your video explains this well and your example is very relatable, love it !! :)
Would you mind telling what you are fixated at ?
@@bobgoldman4404 hehe i'm currently obsessively watching minecraft streamers and getting too interested in the plot, the merch is from the streamers lmao
The best part of the hyperfixation is the intense euphoria from it 😭 like I recently got hyperfixated on fuckin Cats the musical (1998 version) and obviously it's a weird thing to be hyperfixated on but nothing matches the rush of happiness I get from talking about it or seeing other people talk about it. Being in between hyperfixations... not as great. Especially the feeling of a hyperifxation slowly fading away.
@@finpin2622 yes! i hate when they fade away because it feels like part of your personality has died and all of the stuff you bought related to it becomes meaningless 😭 but it's definitely worth it for the pure adrenaline of talking about cats 😅
@@finpin2622 how do you know it's not a manic episode?
Cheers man, cheers.
Having my first talk with a psychiatrist in 20 days, and watching your videos gives inspiration.
Relatable man.
Cheers.
Still following you Rockstar. You do what makes you happy. We’ll be here waiting for your next best thing.
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I am so glad this popped up in my recommended videos- my brain works like yours and it's a HUGE relief to hear someone else describe it! It's a bit weird to feel like you've been in my head LOL, but I really appreciate your candor, intelligent approach to the videos and your goals, and sharing your journey and advice.
I find it so funny and coincidental that your fixation has literally been my fixation for the past couple of weeks too. I've been watching financing videos like no other, as well as talking to mortgage brokers to buy a house myself. Kindred ADHD spirits I guess, lol!
Oi oi! Missed ya face! Hope you've been keeping well, and wishing ya a positive start to the NY!
Same goes to this community! HNY
Thanks for this reminder. I appreciate your honesty! I run a strict investing plan, and it works perfect! I have ADD, and i can relate to everything you are describing
I’m exactly the same!!! I’m have a creative mind as well and love to dabble in everything which obviously requires money. I’ve gotten much better about impulsivity, which just so happens at night...when I can’t sleep. I have been very, very successful with getting as far as the “cart” for a purchase and then waiting until morning. If I really want to pull the trigger once morning comes, I do. Most of the time, though, I reconsider. I’ve wanted to start a TH-cam channel, a podcast, open an Etsy store, you name it...but I KNOW myself and I know my passion for it will wane at some point. It’s very frustrating.
I'd recommend mike winnet and coffeezilla. They go over all kinds of scams. Helped me avoid them
"I've paid to get my own ass kicked." I feel that statement so much. As somebody else said, not being a natural analytical thinker makes life tough. I've had to train myself to be as analytical as a lot people have, I'm sure... When I have someone say "you don't have problems, I think you're doing fine" it kills me. Cause they have no idea how nutso city it gets in my brain over the most ordinary things to them. I spot a "glittery thing" in the grocery store and be thinking about it the ENTIRE shopping trip and all the reasons I should NOT buy it. In the process, I forget things I'm supposed to pick up while breaking a sweat that I shouldn't be buying the glittery object. All they see is that I forgot a few things. "You're just forgetful, I'm like that, too" they say...
Um, no. This ruins my life in so many facets of pain.
man, we are completely alike, inattentive ADD. Everything you have said in this video I can relate too, even the part about choosing what degree to pursue. You manage to put it so well into words
I appreciate you being more discerning about making videos when you have something specific to say. More people should do that.
My hyperfocus is photography (no pun intended) I'm a fourth generation commercial photographer and sixth generation hobbiest photographer. Going on 20 years now.
I relate to this too much. I was also focused on saving for a house the past couple years. It took most of those 2 years to get my husband on board so there were many times where I wasn’t making any progress and I felt like giving up. I spent countless hours on researching personal finances and I even felt that I could be a financial coach for a living and so I started college to get a bachelors degree. Now I’m halfway through and I don’t know if I want to continue with college because I don’t know if that’s really what I want to do. I don’t want to just give up again because I’m tired of always giving up on things that I was once passionate about. But I don’t want to waste my time and energy on something that I may never have a use for. There are so many other things I want to do with my time right now. I have 2 toddlers that require most of my time so why should I let school take up the rest when it’s no longer for my passion right? Someone tell me I should stick with it because it will be useful no matter what path I take in the future. Or I may be a stay at home mom forever and never use my degree.
Hang in their man, the struggle is real! I relate and get informed by your videos...👍👍👍
This resonates with me. In the process of getting an ADHD diagnosis and the more I watch your (and others) videos the more I realise how many of my decisions revolve around a fixation more than a true calling or actual want. It’s a nightmare to realise sometimes.
I've only recently got diagnosed with ADHD. before that I spent years thinking I was simply a screw up. Now that I know what it is, videos like this make me feel less alone and like I belong somewhere with other people who understand the similar struggles I go through, and ways to combat it. Only just discovered this channel half an hour ago and I love how you deliver your content.
Same.
I read up on investing, then hired a pro. HE never gets distracted or impulsive and I just have to make sure the money keeps flowing with auto pays to that account. As much as possible I just forget about it at that point. Twice a year check in at most otherwise I'll start hyper focusing. I started this at 25, and now in my 60's we're set up. Back in the day auto pay wasn't quite as easy as it is now, but I made the effort and set up my life that way. It's one time when object impermanence is useful! Once the money has been siphoned off, I don't miss it or think about it.
I totally empathize with you as I have had to learn a lot of lessons through bad experiences, usually provoked by fixations and impulses.
You're on the right track 👍😁 keep learning from mistakes but try not to make them .i believe you'll be a success ❗😊🤔
I have had issues with inattentiveness and hyper focus since childhood. Didn’t listen in school 80% of the time because it was too difficult. 20% I hyper focused and came across “ too smart out of nowhere” and was accused of cheating. Learned a bad self image and only freed myself by going abroad 20 years old. Learned to manage and improve self image. Learned to hide feelings and actions. I still have problems and learn about my self. Beeing 63 years old I still have aha moments when I do weird stuff and later connect the dots and see a pattern. Mostly it is issues with impulsivity. I have a son with similar issues. Supported him massively with extra tutors and build up his self confidence. He is the nicest person and will finish med school in 2 years. I have also been successful. But have suffered massively privately. Always the self doubt and guilt for no apparent reason. I would have loved to have a mom like myself. 😢 what benefit would I have from a diagnosis? Is there a treatment?
Hyperfocusing and the jumping from one thing to another had been the source of my creativity. It is indeed a blessing, despite the cons that come with it. I guess inattentive-impulsive combination, if managed effectively, can produce wonders! One thing about the spending binges, while we seem to tend to convince ourselves it is a form of self-reward which is important, I believe they stem from our "dopamine cravings". I noticed that I go into those binges not randomly, but particularly when feeling unhappy, and not in the general "instant gratification" that can be attended to by impulsive acts that don't usually involve heavy spending, or maybe no spending at all. The challenge is that while cognitively we realise we shouldn't do it and reflect on what's harmful, when in heat of the moment, all that reflection and rational/logical reasoning disappears and we just get carried away by the wave and we get back to our senses only after the fact. Probably the best root solution for this would be working on being fulfilled to say the least, if at all being happy is not achievable during certain periods (like any other human being). The key is to avoid being unhappy at all costs... Meds that offer dopamine management, like amphetamine salts, are also high on stimulation which has adverse side effects that puts a limit to the effective dose for a balanced result, and all the tea and other nootropic supplements may not be effective enough to replenish dopamine levels, so working on fulfillment in all possible ways becomes dire, from doing things we like, to sports, to dieting, supplements, meds, CBT-driven thought management, avoidance of toxic engagements, good sleep, affirmations, you name it. Thank you for posting the video!
Fantastic explanation
I have the exact same adhd effects as you. I go through about 3-4 fixations a year. It can be great, but some fixations are very toxic to my personal relationships.
You have a gift dude. Keep spreading the knowledge.
I like these quick uploads
I just want to say I love your videos. I'm also more quietly inattentive than hyperactive.
Hearing you makes me think you are a mind reader describing MY thoughts. I had my first intake therapy session a couple of days ago. thanks for uploading this. Keep at it. It does make a difference for people who are struggling to find out what is going on in their heads.
Thank you for talking about this. Hope you're doing well these days brother
As an adult diagnosed with ASD and ADHD, life is all about decisions. Almost all anyone has to do is make the right decisions (no matter how painful they are). All the problems in my life are my fault. All the problems in your life are your fault. Look up David Goggins, he didnt have a learning disability, he had all of them.
If I save ahead I can never buy what I want (a campervan), always too early, not quite that, a bit too big, a bit too small, I'm not so sure, oh I don't really need it... But if I just jump in and buy it, then I become obsessive about paying it off (my house) and I am the most brilliant saver. For me the worse position is "in between", I get paralysed and can't make a decision any more.
I'd say if you bought the video stuff instead of a house, it's done, so just embrace it, enjoy it, congratulate yourself for having chosen the right one or chose to make it the best one. ✌🙂
Oh, I did that with my car last year. Used almost all my tax return and work PTO payout, plus added around 200 bucks to each remaining payment. it added up to about 6000 dollars over 3 months. But I payed my car off two years early, which lifted a longterm financial burden off my back.
‘Know thyself’ - the old proverb says. I fixate as follows: I’ll start sorting a bunch of buttons into matching sets, or my collections of broken jewellery, or my make up drawer - for HOURS. Or any little things in the kitchen, etc etc. Or the screws and nails and bits and pieces in my tool cupboard. And it takes a hold of me , even when there are really important things to do, like leaving the house for work or a doctor’s appointment ! I fixate on sorting treasures ( well, things that are treasures to me ). Thanks for sharing all this. Real warning. One vital thing Im getting from your channel and two others -(Rick Green’s channel, and the channel of another young woman who has ADHD) - - is facing the truth of how I now need to put things in place to deal with how I AM. ( only recently diagnosed, after a lifetime of chaos). Thanks heaps mate.
Insta-subscribed. Hearing these things from someone who has ADHD too just makes it so much more easy to listen.
I love the idea of keeping your goals or desired path visible to you as much as possible. :) Being more self-aware by doing daily reviews while keeping these goals in mind has also helped me a lot. By doing this, I can then pinpoint things that need improvement, and think of how I can adjust my environment to reduce distractions and triggers, establish healthier habits, etc. And because I'm doing it daily, I get to act more quickly, before things escalate and I lose too much money or put my job and relationships at risk.
You can do this as if you were filling out a form or as guided journaling. I do it in my bullet journal. During the day, I'm writing down tasks, thoughts, ideas, distractions, topics I'd like to research more, etc., instead of acting on the spot and going down a rabbit hole. There's often that fear of forgetting something that makes you take action right away, and having things written down instead, as soon as they come up, helps to reduce that anxiety. Then, at the end of the day, I do the review and plan for the next day, marking which tasks are top priorities so that I don't have to think about that in the morning. I also prepare my living and work spaces for the next day, adjusting them as I see fit; and finally, I leave my bullet journal open on my desk, before going to bed.
This has been one of the best realizations I've had in the past 1.5 years, so I hope it helps somebody else.
people afflicted with adhd seem to want to talk about themselves impulsively. Check how many comments either start with "I" or have a short buffer of words before talking about themselves. Just something to consider.
Your linking hyper-focus to a form of hyper-activity is so right! Linking the former to impulsiveness is even more clarifying! I feel when I'm in hyper-focus, a lot of the time is to escape what I really need or want to do, and it can take over behaviour, just like an addiction. For me, impulsive spending happens when "window shopping" and seeing an object I find too beautiful not have; luckily, I have been returning some of my shopping items when I get home and realize these objects are beautiful but I don't really need them.
Making list on a white board sounds like a great way to externalize goals and priorities and make them evident as they are easily found in one's physical vision; if they are easily seen, they won't get drown so easily amongst all the distractions that activate the hyper-focus hyper-activity. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Your voice is really calming to listen too. Also, you have very much the same experience of ADHD as me. It's really comforting to listen to your videos. Thank you so much for sharing them.
Very similar story here, I got my masters degree as well and hyperfocus and fixated on it that I got straight A’s but everything else in my life was falling apart, thank you for this video it takes a lot of strength to open up like this
I am so glad that I am not too impulsive when it comes to my finances. I hope you can overcome this and although I can't personally afford to support you in that regard, you have my backing emotionally and I will be keeping an eye out for your videos as always!
I probably should have watched this video when it came up on my feed BEFORE I went out rushed to buy the Nintendo switch I’ve been impulsively wanting all day.... lol
Thank you for creating content still and for talking about this! I never equated my fixations to quite hyperactivity but that’s exactly what they are. They are definitely one of the hardest things to explain to others too.
Wowwww dude! I relate sooo closely to literally every experience you shared in this video.
About a year ago, I too, was saving up for a mortgage and ended up losing a lot of my savings to scattered interests and schemes to do better...but actually didn't. I've had a couple major career changes between then and now, but I keep falling. I suppose I'm learning what not to do. I don't regret it. What's done is done, but I sure do worry about what is to be.
Great video and keep up the good work!
You made such a great point when you said that its important to just follow where you naturally feel inclined to go! It can become so easy to feel guilty when you've started one passion and then become bored and then go onto another, when this becomes a routine then we start beating ourselves up as though we've let ourselves down when really it's completely fine to stick our fingers into loads of different things as creative individuals. Societal pressues may play a big part in this especially, it makes us believe that we need to make something of ourselves if we are determined enough we must put our all into one specific thing, yadder yadder. Letting go in my path of life has felt so freeing, to just let go of the idea that I need to go in a particular direction and just trust in the path that feels right at any given time! Thanks for this.
Hi Adhd M. thanks for the upload glad to see you’re active - you still doing interviews because I’d be more than happy to get involved. Many thanks
Stay blessed 👊
Great video! Thank you for sharing and being candid with your struggles. Looking forward to more.
Do your vids however it work for you, that’s for sure. You’re great cause you are ‘real’. No fronts. Diagnosed at 42. All my life I have max 3 months focus on whatever and then it is gone to 0. My biggest problem. I have good work career I might say but all I earn I spend for next best thing. Living like there’s no tomorrow. In someways I enjoy it, can’t say it about my woman. I just bought massive amounts of Carrera 124 shit. Love it but I know that this passion will be over soon. Like it always have been.
No matter how hard I want it to last.
I've had this recently. Discovered a band called Thumpasaurus and become obsessed. Got tickets to see them live at the weekend, bought merch at the show, then bought even more merch online afterwards. I'm supposed to be saving for a vacation. I can't listen to any other music right now other than them. Their music is incredibly energising though.
3:43 I often think about how amazing it would be to have a pause button for life. A button the I could push when I feel like I’m getting too excited and or anxious about something…or everything. So I could just sit and marinate in the moment before making a decision I may regret. Take your time. Quality is far more important than quantity. Those of us who stick around for new uploads are the ones who really need and appreciate them.
Great video. Yes! I was going to suggest ISA w lock in. The LISA are great for 1st time buyer in UK as you get 1k for each 4k you put away in them. AND if you take it out you lose that 1K and 6% of your original money. Plus you can only spend the money on mortgage or pension so holds you tight to your mortgage goal. Moneybox LISA app encourages you to add boosts too, so you can think takeaway or boost into ISA.
YAY what a treat to see you again! ^-^
I really like your balanced way of looking at your fixations in this!
Hi Stuart, I just discovered your channel and wowe, I recognize myself in so much of what you are sharing. Thank you. 😊
This is my biggest downfall. My impulsiveness. It’s like an adrenaline rush when I get the urge to get something and I get get it out of my head till I eventually get it. Then the regrets set it so I either return the item or live with my bad choices
Your videos are an inspiration to me. I get so many of the things you describe. I'm 38 years old and only just getting treatment this week. You've made a difference to many by your work, don't ever forget that
I watch this video every single day. It keeps my day structured and keeps me on my course. Stay awesome Stuart.
Thanks for sharing your story on this, I feel your pain brother
Before I knew I had ADHD I would always have these fixations and impulsions which led me to waste alot of money once I spent 400 on a test to become a Canadian citizen looking back I wish I gave myself more time to think about it. as always thanks for uploading :)
Yes! Oh boy oh boy. When a passion hits the finances take a hit.
I think what’s helped me personally is that I was brought up with a saving mind-set and I’m a super hard worker when I need/want to make money. I have a strong spending impulsivity but I’m also really frugal lol If the spending goes towards the passions rather than random spending its preferable.
Definitely having different accounts and a set amount to put away, is a simple way to keep in the black.
I’m so relieved to be 50 and relatively settled on my passions. Thank you for sharing, and creating when it feels authentic is a true ADHD happy place.
This content helps me to understand my adhd afflictions so I for sure appreciate it
Spacing out because his voice is soothing and rewinding a couple times. Story of my life 🥲
Yep- I see exactly what you mean- I have done the SAME things over and over - WHY would I think that I know how to invest my money!? Why would I not remember the only REAL way is the HARD WAY - AND from now on- when I want to invest - I'm going to have to require myself to have experts tell me if I can or even should!
Savings-' being locked away' is a GREAT way to make sure you don't spend it! Super smart!
- Also YOU CAN SAVE a lot more : by being super savy with every purchase -& finding creative ways to shop for everything you buy - coupons, cash back card, etc.
Good Luck! I appreciate your videos! Thank you!
This is helpful. This is me. I'm not embarrassed any more
You are really speaking about my life right now! Sometimes I get into things for several years until I know it like the back of my hand but better. I really enjoy it but it can be all consuming sometimes...I think that is ADHD 😅