AND IT'S EVEN WORSE WHEN THEY USE THE FACT THAT YOU ARE FIDGETING AS PROOF YOU ARE NOT PAYING ATTENTION AND THEN THEY MAKE YOU BE STILL BUT IT TAKES EVERYTHING YOU HAVE TO BE STILL SO FUCK BEING ABLE TO HEAR OR UNDERSTAND ANYTHING ANYONE IS TELLING YOU NOW.
ya for real like we have a thing called hyper foucs and its where we can fouces good for like 30 mins to 2 hours on smothing we like so no if i did art allready than i can focus on your stupid voice go on and on ab math!!!!!
I know right!! I’m good at art, I draw everyday, I plan on going to an art college and yet I still find it hard to finish my project that involve. Art means the world to me, and I can’t even focus on that!!
It's the most frustrating thing when people say I'm not trying... it's not like i can give 100% focus on something because there's more than one thing in the world.
@@celavetex right. i know how u feel, having adhd is a nightmare , especially when trying to explain how hard it is to focus on certain things and such. trying to explain you ARE trying hard, its just very complicated to stay focussed but still getting the same interruptions of ur parents saying “but you arent trying hard enough” sucks. im sorry you have to go through that man :( good luck bro.
My mother saying I do anything for get out of my anxiety I got out and I'm to much better right now, she was so fake, all the money she bring was from sugar daddies and also telling my sisters and me we don't have empathy for her...just c:
Yeah. To me its like im thinking of something else insted of what's around me, and when the teacher is talking all I hear is muffled talking. And then right after I don't remember anything that just happened. BTW I don't have ADHD but I still zone out.
ADHD sucks man, for me the worst moments are when I'm walking and my brain just goes "hmm who created God?" And started thinking about random crap and I'd go "wait a minute where am i? " or "wait I'm not supposed to go this way!", these happens a lot to me. Or that time when your parents ask you to but something like "buy A, B, and C" and you completely forgot about C and your parents will start yelling at you.
Yup but learned how to control it so I only zone out sometimes while doing inportant tasks,it get Easter after a while its just a process. But to be honest sometimes I wish someone around me understood me at all.the only one who truly gets how hard I work is God cuase without him I'd be inane and in a mental hospital with a nervous breakdown.🐞
I hate it when it happens and I'm having a really deep conversation with someone and I keep getting distracted and in afraid they think im not interested
ikr, sometimes i dont even know if the day is the same or a different day alot and it happens alot where it feels like its been two seperate days when its just been the same or something /srs
@@nopenope3468 You can definitely learn ways to cope and add a healthy amount of structure to your life but for a lot of people, meds are really necessary for them to begin working on other ways of treatment. it often makes adhd much more manageable when you take meds that give your brain the right amount of dopamine so you can better regulate your attention and emotions. talk to your mom because if meds are what works best for you there shouldn’t be a level of shame around that.💕💕
@@nopenope3468 Brooke D is right. Our parents like to think they always know what’s best for us in order to raise us the best they can. They have to be super confident in order to do so. I am here to say that sometimes they do not always know what’s best for you. In some cases it truly makes sense to ask for help. No shame in that. Wish I could have learned that at a much younger age. I can definitely relate to you. Hope this helps :D
it's not my fault I only remember things I hyper focus on. "how come you can remember all that stuff about those tv shows but not when I tell you something. you dont wanna listen to me!?!?"
anyone else forget that the mom asked him to get milk edit: can we all just take a moment here to realise that the video is 6 mins long.... ..it took us 6 mins to forget about one piece of information.. do with that what you will.
Worst thing about ADHD is not only the less concentration and focus, but the fact, that you sometimes don't even notice it, but the others do and scold you for it. As someone who has ADHD I almost cried during this video.
Been undiagnosed for 17 years, getting to talk to someone AFTER I'm almost graduated high school. I hate trying to talk to anyone and trying to clean is hard. Im constantly reminded that i don't do things. I really hope there's something I can look forward to (Edit my friend was manipulative as hell and really worsened my symptoms)
@@vixymix101 i mean i have mild to severe adhd and if you yelled at me enough i could focus i think idrk to be honest thats just a hypothesis but if you yelled at a paralyzed person they could still never move
@@rylierylierylie yeah that's called manipulation-- and it doesn't last very long and leaves you with a very upsetting feeling. It doesn't actually work, it's just making someone upset.
I had a 3-5 month stretch where I couldn’t get out of bed in the morning like I physically couldn’t because of executive disfunction and my mom would just lecture and yell at me from the door frame for 30 minutes until I got so upset my need to get away overpowered my executive disfunction
"I'm trying !" "No, no you're not." That one hit hard. It's so hard for me to remember things and register when someone is talking to me, and I really do try.
I have the same thing, i can remember like things that you learn at school in general normally by a combination of two problems i may have, but not anything else. I can forget something i am doing or just did easily, and because of my probable ADHD/ aphantasia combination (aphantasia disabling people to remember things with one or more of the five senses ; and me having it "total" i guess) it would be less obvious because it would cancel a few effects; i got in trouble for it a few times now, and starting to think more and more about diagnostising when i can :/ Have a nice day !
same, my mom says she thinks I might have adhd(I think so too) but constantly puts me down when I say I'm tryin and displayin symptoms of adhd instead of tryin to make it easier for me especially bc we cant get a diagnosis bc we dont have the money
God, the ringing is so true. If there’s no sounds, my brain fills in the gaps and makes sounds. It’ll either be chatter, something that happened earlier, or the ringing.
Haha yeah, whenever I'm in the shower (or even when I'm not) my brain likes to trick me into thinking someone is knocking on the front door, and sometimes it'll just straight up play my ringtone and so I always think my phone is ringing
I remember few years back after my wife died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES sure of mycologist Pedroshrooms. Mushrooms literally got me off my feet and turned my whole life around. I am currently a housing manager for a recovery program. I wouldn't have been able to do that shit without psilocybin.
I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
As much as I hate to admit it. The video made me cry, then I started thinking if sending it to my parents, then having an internal conversation with myself about why I should and then why I shouldn't, then I started hearing ringing, birds chirping, cars going by, doors slamming and so many things. 😐
Yea. Exactly. This video is actually scaring me with the accuracy. The jumbled clips repeated in the video to showcase the main character’s distractions actually started popping up in my own head and distracting me from the video.
@@kpro_1188 yeah my boyfriend has ADHD & I’m doing my best to look into what it’s like for him. It’s difficult and this video makes me want to cry. I would hate to be the one to be saying all that stuff to him like they are in this video.
The whole “I’m trying” and “you’re not” part made me cry because this is how my parents are with me. I just wish they’d be patient with me, give me a break, and stop getting angry at me for the way I am. 😢
Sometimes in the middle of conversation it will happen and I try to get back to reality and it’s tough, it almost feels like I become an actor in my own life to feel normal
YES!!!! that’s the perfect way to show it but for me it gets all fuzzy and I get this numbing?? Feeling it kinda feels like how it was shown when the mom was talking to her son
What many neurotypical people also don't understand is that the fidgeting actually helps us focus. So if they tell you to "just sit still" they're actually making it more difficult to concentrate
EXACTLY. I draw a lot even if its just a bunch of doodles all over the page, cause it helps me to pay attention on what the teacher is saying. especially if its a theoretical kind of class. she's always telling us to put our pens down and pay attention and im like...... i just dont say anything cause everytime i forget to tell her, and dont wanna say it in front of the class lol
People with ADHD usually tend to do something they enjoy for a very long time because they need something to make them work physically and mentally. It helps them not fidget for a while.
I love my older sister dearly, she was like a second mother to me. Even at a pretty young age, I was aware she was “different” but I didn’t care, I loved her and we had fun and that’s what mattered. I try my best to make her comfortable, but she always seems to happy when we hang out so I don’t think I need to do much to help her, as our friendship is enough :) I still try to understand her, so that we can be the supportive figure in eachothers lives, that we never really got. I appreciate this short film? a lot! It brings awareness.
My mom was talking to me yesterday about it (gonna maybe get diagnosed soon) and I was trying to explain cuz it felt like she didn’t believe me and when I went back to my room guess who was fighting tears over what in hindsight was something small I tell her that it’s hard for me to get myself in motion for a lot of stuff. Homework, my hobbies, anything. She’s like “well a pill won’t help” like mother it’s designed to help what do you mean it won’t help Edit: forgot to add she’s understanding and kind about it at least which is more than some people get sadly
Idk if i have adhd, i will get a check up next week. But what his mom says is so relatable to me, my mom always say i'm not taking things serious, and she would always say i'm just being dramatic
I get called stupid a lot by my friends as a joke because of my grades and I said “I have ADD, I struggle to concentrate, you know that” and I got really sad because I just wanna be able to concentrate and to stop daydreaming all the time and to feel normal and they just told me “i have ADHD, it’s not that hard” It kind of hurt me because they got through the same thing but they still told me it’s not an excuse. Like, y’all know I can’t control it, what do you expect. You know what I mean? Sorry if me venting is kind of stupid 😞
I am watching this and I am terrified about this. my cousin got ADHD and he is losing all sort of things and has social problems. Sometimes he is just sad because he says that he tries, but he beliefs that people dont understand him.
this is so accurate. especially the way having like 5 thoughts at once is portrayed with squares on the screen. everything runs through your head so fast that it all feels muted and foggy
I hate when People without ADHD especially parents and teachers tell me I’m not trying or I need to focus or i need to Focus on them or I should stop fiddling around like I’m doing it on purpose like I’m not it just helps me concentrate I can be fiddling with something and listen to you at the same time
My mother,my father,me,my brother,uncle,cousin,grandma all have ADD or ADHD so I never really heard from my family that I’m “lazy” or “no you’re not”, “try to concentrate”. I was diagnosed to a very young age (less then 5 year old”
- forgetfulness - easily distracted - constant daydreaming - mind stuck on a catchy tune - fidgeting/restlessness - poor sense of time - anxiety - constantly awake at night deep in thoughts, replaying stressful episodes yeah this is me, this sums up my life perfectly
As someone with adhd/add this is the general idea of it. Difficultly focusing and remembering, Repetitive thoughts, zoning out. Ringing isn’t really accurate though. This was good.
Nothing hurts more than being told wake up earlier, or make a schedule, or everyone is a little ADHD, or come-on it's an excuse to sell kids pills, or if you can put your mind to that, why not focus on me?. We live a life of constant abuse, and yet we are punished for being us. The issue isn't about understanding, it's about they type of learning you get. We are a different type, you can't expect a dog to climb a tree even if you yell at it.
Exactly. I've been struggling with ADHD alot last year i Faild a class and had to redo exams. It's sad how i get to be seen lazy at studying but very hyperactive like a "monkey". I get such a very short memory, very short span of focusing, and Its difficult for me to go to bed early.. And sometimes i don't get to understand stuff and it's pretty hard to let someone who don't understand understand. Its really sad how WE go through alot and be taken wrong. Whoever has ADHD and Autism, depression, bipolar, PTSD, DID whatsoever, im sorry if yall been taken wrong before.
Thats kinda how it is, you can remember things from a long time ago but not what you did yesterday or a couple minutes ago Well thats how it is for me Also sorry for bad wording- I just can't think of another way to say it, and I know its not what adhd
Does anyone else have to do like 2 other things while they’re doing something so they can pay better attention to the one thing? I hope that was understandable lol
The thing about me is that my mom doesn't let me have gum and some of the times I listen but TBH I think she gave up ok so feel me if this is with any other people with Adhd cuz I used to have 12 diffrint prescription in 2 or 3 years idk I make no sense lol
Bir the Mothbat “why are you just looking out the window like that” “She sees demons!” “You need to focus and stop looking at your paper like that” “Do I need to send you out the classroom?”
I have never been able to explain how my brain can have multiple noises playing in short loops on repeat to the point where I start crying because I wish it would just *stop* for a minute. This video captures it perfectly.
For me it overlaps with some memories like im going to get milk and then i remember that one time where like i threw a tomato at someone and accidentally bought a tomato instead. Mind my poor explaining lol
Man that sucks. I thought I had ADHD but fortunately, I was wrong. I don't have problems focusing on the moment but "Earlier events replaying in the mind" haunts me especially the embarrassing ones always replay in my mind whenever I try to sleep.
That last part when u cant sleep cause of every distraction that bother you at the end of the day and ur bother by it causing you to suffer from insomnia dam...this is just too accurate...
It used to be such a problem for me especially since I open a restaurant early in the mornings, now I take those Z-Quill vitamins and I'm out in like 30 minutes
The blurs, the time skips, spacing out during lectures, playing with things constantly, the mental pain while trying to concentrate in a conversation, the whole thing before sleep.. It's just perfect, thank you so much
@@FloridaAnting YESSS so true, One thing I realized at some point is that I have no sense of time whatsoever!! as I am still a student, I would be studying and take "5min Break" and come back to find out 1h has passed the best solution I found for this is to set a time for any task and have a Count Down running Infront of you and train yourself to keep looking at it. it creates a sense of urgency and usually lets me finish things quickly. If you remember that you have to set the timer but slack and dont do it or procrastinate or think you don't need it this time.. RIP! you just waisted your whole day
@Saif Khouri omg!! same!!! i have a difficult time of focusing in things im doing and tend to forget things and space out alot! i also have a stuttering issue too im dealing with and some learning issues
Dude this summed up my whole life everyday. My parent always get mad and say I’m not trying hard enough and they get really really mad when I zone off. I have the exact same thing we’re I zone off and next thing you know when I get back to reality it feels like I’m falling and the sounds of the teacher in the background are not in the background anymore but rather what are the loudest sounds now.
I have ADHD and this seemed too real, it almost made me feel emotional. God it pisses me off when I forget something so simple and I get yelled at for it. And then, the depression kicks, and you just feel stupid and worthless. People just don’t understand what it’s like having ADHD.
That interaction with the mom is the literal reason ive got social trauma that i cant seem to shake. That "no youre not" dispite literally doing everything imaginable to get it together because you want nothing more than to hear "youre doing a good job". And then being told all that effort was wasted because theyre still disapointed in you. Enough to make you just not care to try at all, if it was only that easy not to.
HELP THE SCENES AND IMAGES REPEATING IN YOUR HEAD,,,, I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT'S SO ANNOYINGLY RELATABLE ??? sometimes i daydream about something (for example, skating) and my brain goes on autopilot and then there's a scene where i fall off the skateboard, i WILL keep on repeating that even though i don't want to, it doesn't go away even when i want to progress the "story" in the daydream (by not falling off) it will always keep failing and that FRUSTRATES ME to no end
THIS HAPPENS TO ME TOO like if i make up a scenario where im in a mall i keep imagining myself like jumping down an escalator or from somewhere high n it keeps repeating even though i dont want it to happen ????? idk if that makes sense
“I’m trying” “No, you’re not” Even after watching this on a few separate occasions at this point, that line just makes me break down crying, and the ringing and echoing straight up hurt. The inside of my mind is so very loud, and the echos never stop, no matter how hard I try.
The part where the teacher asks him to focus and it plays over multiple times hit me hard at how accurate that was. You don’t have things play over audibly and visually like the video but that moment of embarrassment plays over and over in your head. Other times when someone is giving you step by step instructions, I play the first step over and over in my head so I won’t forget it, meanwhile I’m not paying attention to the subsequent steps.
Yeah, this is relatable to me too. I replay moments of interactions over and over in my head after they happen, especially if they were negative. It’s horrible.
I don't have adhd, but I do have social anxiety, and that part was relatable. I conciously replay interactions in my head all the time, negative and positive, in part to confirm them. Positive interactions I think about for validation like "that went smoothly, good job! or "that was a fun time, now how can we get that more often?" Most of the time I'm replaying negative interactions to review and rationalize them, make sure I have a legit reason to worry about them. Asking myself "will this impact my reputation? Do they think I'm weird? Am I in trouble?" And the answer is usually either "eh, they'll forget about it, they probably didn't even notice" or "oh god I'm fucked." In fact I replay _every_ interaction, firstly assessing whether it's pos or neg. Might have something to do with my ocd as well.
This is me. I concentrate so hard on the first instruction, knowing how forgetful I am, that I miss the rest. Not good when I do jujitsu as detailed instructions are given. I am good for the first bit or last bit of move. The middle is vague.
I replay situations so many times in my head...usually situations that stress me or make me feel bad...like if someone is rude to me, or someone hurts my feelings, etc....it gives me the worst anxiety, the worst headaches, my jaw clinches, etc
I don’t have ADHD- my brother has. I feel like a lot of times me and my family are too impatient with him. Watching this video actually made me realize a lot that I did wrongly within a short time. I’m researching so I can learn how his mind works so I can be a good sister. Thank you for teaching me, at least just a little bit, how it feels
Hey, that's awesome that you're finding ways to correct your behavior around ppl with ADHD! My older brother really set off what's called RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) (very common in people with ADHD) when we were younger by constantly picking on me, what I looked like, how sensitive I was, and how he made fun of my fixations. Nobody really knows about RSD, so be sure to look it up as well, as ADHD tends to make us emotionally sensitive because of our learning disabilities and how people perceive us due to them...I think WebMD has a great article on it.
I have ADHD and personally I don't think you should go "easier" on people with ADHD. It only serves to hurt us later on. Mental handicap or not we have to learn to adapt. Everyone in life is served a challenge, and there are no shortcuts. Treat us like everyone else and we will learn to overcome
@@rhys4303 i would argue otherwise; that i would have completely fallen behind and failed numerous classes if i wasn't given the proper accommodations (testing alone in a room, private tutoring, etc.) - and because of these accommodations, i succeeded immensely in places where i could've fallen hard, especially in college! better grades = better mental health as well. i was miserable when i was unaccommodated and failing.
@@rhys4303 but! that being said, i don't see accommodations as "special treatment" or anything and i certainly never wanted to be treated like a child. i desperately wanted to be just like my peers! so much so that it contributed to my depression. but if we're to be treated "like everyone else" - does that mean we aren't to be medicated, too? something to consider
YEAAHHH GO MOM!!!! U are a vary kind person for trying to understand and take of ur son. Things can be very difficult for people with ADHD, like me and others, and the only way people can help is if they try to understand. The more people learn, the more they can help.
the chances of him getting depressed and overthinking are pretty high so look for that. give him small tasks so he could get some dopamine dose fixed.and dont make him feel like he is different in a negative way and let him do most of the things his way . if he is missing out on the classes tell him to take pre recorded lectures so he coild rewind if he zones out. and best of luck 🤞 and if you need any help feel free to reach out i would be more than happy to help cuz I've been there when no one tried to understand me and tbh its quite frustrating. peace out ✌️
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporessss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
This is actually one of the closest representations of what it's like to have ADHD done through editing, I hope people can start to be more understanding with it
I heard it was different from person to person but honestly speaking, everything here felt accurately portrayed to me. Every stimuli goes in all at once and it becomes hard to focus at one thing, and even if you managed to focus, your mind immediately hops to another thing. But for some reason, doing what you love and enjoy makes you hyperfixate on it and you suddenly get the focus of a magnifying glass... Like WTF brain?! Where'd you get all of this focus all of the sudden?
ADHD is not even real. It just means we’re not robots and we’re a bit self centered in things we feel are more important to our lively hood then MAKING SURE I BRJNG THE MILK FOR YOUR ROBOTICLY SCHEDULED TEA TIME IM OVER IT ADHD ISNT THE LROBLEM THE WORLD IS
@@cohibarico bud, as someone with diagnosed adhd, adhd is definitely a massive part of the problem. it exists, and it isnt us being "a bit self centered in things we feel are more important" or more entertaining. there are definitely some societal issues in our day to day lives, but ifs incredibly invalidating and hard to hear people say that adhd "doesnt exist" or isnt a problem. (also sorry if you were joking or something, im bad at social cues, especially in text. i think i got what you were saying though)
When she kept telling him to stop fidgeting, I really felt ANGER for a moment. The most frustrating thing in the world is being forced to stay still, as if that helps with focusing. Neurotypical people would never understand, I don't think.
I always thought it was ironic they have such a problem with fidgeting and stims. Like, bitch, how about *you* look at *me* and stop focusing on my hands aye? People just have zero self-awareness sometimes.
They used to tell me that too. Like I can't pay attention unless some other part of my body is distracted by doing something else. That's why I have a fidget cube
I feel like nobody ever brings up how stuff goes blurry or out of focus sometimes too, and thought that was separate from my adhd. Its a little bit relieving to know others go through the same experience as me
Omg!!! I didnt even think to put the 2 together. I have ADHD and tell people sometimes when i try to read everything just goes blurry and out of focus. I thought that happends to everyone.
Oh lord. I was ALWAYS being told what I was & wasn't thinking/doing/feeling. I was so sick of being gaslit all the time!!! The big one for me was "You CAN, you just don't WANT to." Like no bitch can't means can't. I did my absolute best and it didn't work, if that's not good enough, then ?????????
the repeating words is so true. I've got diagnosed with ADHD sone time ago but I knew I had it for a few years now. I keep repeating words over and over in my head. I don't even know why. I'm glad I have meds now
For everybody wondering. This is a metaphorical pov, we don't literally see and hear and see things over and over again. Its just showing how we think. edit: stop just replying with stuff like “i have adhd and i do do this” please just read what ive said carefully. because so many people are just misunderstanding what im trying to say.
Really? I guess everybody's different. I tend to to that though it could be from my Panic Disorder, although I'm 98% sure it's from my ADHD. I replay things over and over in my head. I dont know why, I think I just zero in on the wrong thing and pick it a part. That or when someones talking their words mash together and I'm too busy trying to replay and figure out what they said to listen in present time.
ADHD is different person to person. Sometimes, this metaphorically happens and sometimes I just zone out and my mind has thoughts that pass by at the speed of light and I don't have time to realize what I'm thinking before it's gone and I've moved on to another flicker of a thought and that cycle continues til I tune back into reality.
Do you ever just read a book and start thinking about other things but you’re still reading at the same time ? Edit: I don’t have adhd, just thought this was something relatable
Then you keep reading but don’t remember but you want to read that paragraph again but you’re already read it so you don’t want to then you close the book.
I wish some parents didn't blame their kids for what they did wrong because it's not their fault they have ADHD. My sister has ADHD and ODD so things are hard for her sometimes.
@@greatwavefan397 bro, that happens to me when I'm driving. I'll just be on the road and then think to myself, "I know where I am but how did i get here again? did i do every turn correctly??" (don't worry, I am a great driver and have yet to get into an accident)
Honestly brought tears to my eyes... especially the part where he is laying in bed and the chatter won’t stop in his head People don’t seem to understand how truly difficult it is to live with adhd and sometimes it becomes quite overwhelming Being told to focus to stop to listen or when our senses are overloaded and we snap and suddenly we seem crazy Ugh
my sister tends to do things that always overwhelm me a lot and make my brain get all scrambled and same with my family, then they get all pissy when i get upset by it. i also always forget to do simple stuff, even when i keep trying to remind myself in my head and i literally say that it’s part of having add and my dad just calls me lazy 😐
Listening to thunderstorm/fireplace/rain on window tracks and trying to create a special place in my head has reallyyyy helped me with sleeping, it takes some practice but I have all kind of cool “places” that I sleep in. I’ve been a pirate recently 😌
I just realised that I have been yelled at my entire life over something I can't even control, all the awful times in class, dirty looks from other children in school who couldn't understand me, all the horrible fights and stuff happening at home with my parents, it didn't hit me until now how much I had to go through as a child with ADHD.
Oh yeah, I feel this big time. I realize now that my frustrations in school where I struggled to read something and understand what it meant, or the ability to understand math formulas, plus the shame I felt as one of the “top students” failing to understand a certain subject in school and feeling the judgemental states of those around me… if I had known sooner it would have been so much easier
@@michelleperez2687 same, a lot of people around me don't like me because they think I ignore them on purpose, I just zone out and reply "mhm" and I don't mean to, it just happens. I had a good friend once in college and if she noticed I said "mhm" a lot, she did the cutest thing because she knew I have adhd, she touched my shoulder, got my attention, smiled at me and said "hey, are you zoning out again? I'm trying to tell you something silly" and just smiled at me, I cried because she understood ❤️
Hey if anyone in the reply can relate to this and has happen to you at times just so you know keep being strong at something you cant control and others who gaslight you
The part where he plays music while walking to school, I felt that on a different level. I always listen to music and even when in school I keep it on repeat in my mind. Music is like candy for me, and most others with ADHD. Im not sure if I do have ADHD but, stuff like this really makes me think I do.
i thought all people have music going on in their head 70% of their day tho i definitley cant say i have ADHD because i only relate to like three things from this video
Sometimes remembering and replaying a good song I listened to can largely help me calm myself And sometimes I remember the most annoying parts of a song, replay them (which is hard to stop), I get lost and annoyed. Strange how this goes both ways ._.
@@Amoongus I have sentences in my head and I repeat them.Sometimes but rarely other people hear it.I had a phrase that kept repeating itself in my head: "Silly mother fu***ers with the arms in the air"I kept repeating it for an afternoon. My aunt asks "what's so funny?"I said out loud what I was thinking the whole time. She was shocked and irritated (but I know that not only ADHD people but also autistic people and other people sometimes have it)I love listening to music on my walk to calm down or take stock of the world.I very rarely go out
There are two types of ADHD. The first type, what people pay most attention to and put stereotypes for ADHD on, is the hyperactive one. That basically means they have a hard time sitting still, and it's a little more physical than mental. The second type is innattentive. This is what I believe is mostly seen in this video. It's more mental than physical. Please, anyone, correct me if I'm wrong! :D
@@-thunderstar-6414 it's a bit more complex than that. It's true, there are the mostly inattentive and mostly hyperactive type but for most people with ADHD it's combined. They are both inattentive and hyperactive. It's different for everybody. I'm more on the inattentive side but that doesn't mean that I won't sometimes fidget or do other "hyper" things. Also inattentive isn't the best way to describe it; the video actually captures that nicely. It's difficulty regulating attention. Attention is still there, not necessarily on the thing you want your attention to be on. Having to focus on something which isn't of interest can sometimes literally be impossible. Fidgeting often helps but it's a life-long journey to figure out strategies that help, and something which helped yesterday might not work today.
As 17 yr/o with ADHD (and also autism), I can relate having my mind thinking occasionally selective hearing, and getting distracted and zoned out so much often, and then it made me lost or didn't catch what someone is saying. And jesus, I did not expected how scary and cruel this is, and especially the way how what I'm hearing, kinda darker than what I've realized in my experience with that disability at the end of the video after seeing and hearing all those struggles with people who don't understand our disabilities.
"Im trying" "No. No you're not" this part hurts. because it's so true that nobody else can see how hard you're trying so they don't believe you are. it hurts when you try your very best but people only seem to notice your shortcomings.
I have to use my best frenemy maladaptive daydreaming which came with my life long subscription of ADHD to get myself to sleep which ends up being another chore figuring out a daydream that gets me so submerged in it that I don't even realize i'm dozing off
It's so infuriating to be lying there in my bed thinking constantly about everything I can remember for hours, without being able to make it stop, before finally falling asleep because my body can't stay awake any longer
2:02 Happens to me every time someone's calling me out, my mind literally puts the first sentence on a loop out of a bizarre mix of Astonishment and frustration
yes! I kind of just thought it was a me thing, I didn't realize it was a symptom of my ADHD. the worst thing is when someone says "you need to listen" because then I get so worried about listening and I start wondering what they need to tell me. And by the time I'm coming back to the conversation they've finished their sentence.
@@decembervyne6541 when that happens to me I just make it seem intentional and say "What did you say? I didn't listen, I was thinking of something else" and the stupid thing here is that I have to say that three more times or until I'm able to get what they're saying. The only perk of doing that is you can be a bit more confident when making someone repeat themselves. ngl kinda disrespectful especially if it's someone you're not close to but welp nothing i can do about it
Same, and also sometimes when I’m going to sleep at night my mind just keeps replaying it in slow motion and in black and white. Does this happen to anyone else?
For the first time, I don’t feel like the only person who struggles with this. The mother saying “your not trying” the blurring of vision, the being unable to sleep because things just repeating in your head. All of it.
You're not the only one. My parents and teachers told me the same thing, and I tried as hard as I could, but then as an adult I realized - it is futile. You have to re-organize your lifestyle to fit your brain. ADHD had an evolutionary advantage when we were hunter-gatherers, when your unpredictable behavior meant no one would mess around with you, as they could not know how you would react. But now in sedentary societies, it has lost that edge.
For me it was watching the leaves rustle and the car go past over and over again. As a kid I used to read every sign I could see in every possible way, especially speed signs, e.g seventy, then seven zero. To know I'm truly not the only one who lives like this, makes me incredibly comfortable. :)
I thought I was the only one who had things repeat themselves in my mind like words, sentences or like event that is like a video in my mind playing over and over again! Now I don’t feel like such a freak anymore. I genuinely thought I was crazy or loosing my mind. I’ve never heard anyone mention it before
That is the most common thing we will hear growing up and it causes us to think we are not trying that we are failures. Sad that just a little bit of support how much we can accomplish yet even when our families and friends know how much it benefits our everyday lives they will only bring up the failures and never build you up. The hardest part is knowing there is something off in our brains and not having any control over it.
I heard this the most from my dad, who also had really bad adhd, which is likely why I do. I think he saw so much of himself in me, and he felt like a failure in life because he never did well in school despite being very intelligent. He didn't want me ending up like him and so was hard on me but way harder on himself. I wish he could have realized that neither he nor I could help it, and maybe he could have forgiven himself.
@@Yes_this_is_my_cat When I say I "had it since I was 6" I meant I was DIAGNOSED when I was 6. just for your ✨clarification✨ . Nobody likes a know it all my guy. Go touch grass
This is extremely accurate, I myself have both autism and ADHD and the spacing out is spot on, repeated phrased from when people were upset with me (which doesnt help when depression is in the mix) and just this whole experience, very accurate to the real thing very well done!
“Your not trying” “Your so lazy” “Can’t you remember one thing?” “Why are you so lazy?” “You have stupid excuses” “I hate you” “Why are you so disappointing?” “Just pay attention” “Well it’s not my fault you can’t listen” “JUST LISTEN.” I hate it when my mom says these things.
That's verbal and emotional abuse. And ableist language. Unfortunately a lot of parenting is not good parenting especially with that kind of language and it's disappointing that most see that as acceptable behaviour or the or typical thing to do when it's not the right way to handle things.
The beep seems to me to be auditory processing disorder. I struggle with it. It’s back ground noise but it over takes everything and it’s all you can focus on.
@@DanniellePatrick yeah and my family dont believe me and when i decided to bring it up again they blamed the earphones like no if it was the earphones i wouldn't have said anything about it when i was 4,5 or 6 you just didn't believe me until know and your blaming it on something i didn't have when i was younger cause you want a reason to blame me for wearing earphones that help me focus
I thought it was the physical representation for fatigue and headaches. I have those when I argue with my mother. whenever we fight or she obliges me to do something, the first thing I need o do when I get home is close my eyes/sleep for 20/15 mins and she ong though I was lazy and it was due to anemia. the same happens to me when I do chores and she assumed it was lazyness + rebellion combined.
The dry-clean cuts throughout the day were the hardest part to relate to because of how big of a truth they are, you just don't remember 70% of your day, your week or you life
Yeah :( I know some people who remember the smallest details. And I just can’t remember a majority of things that happened during my day :( or conversations I had literally an hour or two ago.
Ugh I had a disabilities counselor who would ask me about what I did during the weekends because she wanted me to schedule time to study and I told her "I can't remember" and she gave me a reaction like "there is something seriously wrong with you, wtf are you doing?". I was isolated from friends and family because I was away at college so I sort of retreated into my ADHD no brain fantasy world. It felt like things were really complicated for me and the counselor didn't understand and was treating me like some lazy weirdo who liked to stare at walls all day.
This is so on point. When someone tells me to focus I just keep telling myself to focus over and over again then realizing that I’m not focusing because all I can think about is to try and keep focusing.
I have a feeling I have adhd, not diagnosed but the part with the car going by, darting your head in its direction and thinking about that split second for the next 10 minutes for is surreal
The sooner you see a doctor/ someone that specializes in ADHD the better. I got diagnosed at 17 and my life would have changed for the better if I got help earlier. Even if you think you might not have it but see symptoms, see someone anyway!
@@alexitanguay Right now I'm perscribed adderall and I'm seeing a therapist that specializes in ADHD. I'm also on anti depressants (lexapro) and they're okay, I think I need to switch medications but I'm still trying to figure it out, but my mood and routine is so much more structured with the adderall. Its just the tolerance that sucks :(
@@fireesol I think I have some symptoms of ADHD, like the fidgeting, struggling to focus unless I’m doing something else, repeating thoughts, etc., but where I live is very religous, and whenever things like this happen the first thing people tell me is ‘to just pray’. Mental illnesses, disorders, etc. aren’t understood where I live, hell some people think it’s a curse from the devil, so I can’t get diagnosed by a professional. Really hoping that when I get older I can go somewhere to check properly because it’s honestly driving me insane and no one seems to know what to do other than praying, which doesn’t help at all
@@Ar-yp6nh I'm so sorry, that's awful because you can't help what you're feeling and when you're not "normal" people think you're cursed by the devil or something. I hope you can seek help soon, it can take a toll on your mental health having people around you deny what you think and feel. You know yourself best 👏
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The second I realize that I’m actually focusing I can’t focus anymore
I'm not sure whether I have ADHD or not but this...this happens with me a LOT.
True 😂😂
I didn't even watch the video, I got distracted on reading the comments it even took me awhile just to type my comment bcoz I forgot about it lol xD
Think this happens to everyone
Omggg sqme
I hate when people say “try” and I say “I am” and they say “no you’re not” LIKE LINDA HOW TF DO YOU KNOW
Teacher said I wasn't trying
If anybody says im not trying HOLD MY ORANGE JUICE IM GONNA BEAT A HOE
My BFF always tell me to try and that I just need to have the discipline and I’m like BRO I’m FUCKING TRYING
My mom will always tell me don't try just do and I get so confused like WTF AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?!
AND IT'S EVEN WORSE WHEN THEY USE THE FACT THAT YOU ARE FIDGETING AS PROOF YOU ARE NOT PAYING ATTENTION AND THEN THEY MAKE YOU BE STILL BUT IT TAKES EVERYTHING YOU HAVE TO BE STILL SO FUCK BEING ABLE TO HEAR OR UNDERSTAND ANYTHING ANYONE IS TELLING YOU NOW.
"If you can focus on art you can focus right now."
no, i actually can't, Lauren.
ya for real like we have a thing called hyper foucs and its where we can fouces good for like 30 mins to 2 hours on smothing we like so no if i did art allready than i can focus on your stupid voice go on and on ab math!!!!!
I know right!! I’m good at art, I draw everyday, I plan on going to an art college and yet I still find it hard to finish my project that involve. Art means the world to me, and I can’t even focus on that!!
I have hemmerhoids
@@YourPetSnake "Actually Meghan, I cant sit anywhere."
PLEASE I HAVE A KID IN MY CLASS WHO SAYS THIS WHEN SHES TRYING TO TALK AND IM HYPERFOCUS
It's such a hell way to live. You're always falling behind even though you're always working harder than anyone else JUST to function.
And most people don't recognise it for even believe you if you tell them.
I have adhd and ocd and other stuff like that @@lachlanmacarthur8992
Yeah, I have ADHD and anxiety. Luckily, I cured it and now much better that I cured and I take medication for it and I feel much better. 😅
@@OwenA-wb5jithe medication doesn't cure you.
It merely staves off the chais temporarily.
atleast having a life. if you were autistic instead of with adhd, you'd have no life.
Girl: Is literally talking on the phone in class
Teacher: That tall kid saying nothing is getting on my nerves
I kind of relate to this man in that sense (also I have adhd so of course it’s relatable.
Simps ofc
@@grass5697 when the teacher simping 😔
Your eyes seem to bit off - center on what im trying to draw on whiteboard , you seem SUS! EXPELLED
@Zak Everitt They are just goofing around.
god the part where he gets frustrated after his mom says hes not trying....... kinda felt that a lil too much........ ouch :(
It's the most frustrating thing when people say I'm not trying... it's not like i can give 100% focus on something because there's more than one thing in the world.
Sums up my parents and my childhood right there.
I have ADHD myself and this is something at least someone says everyday,Its not too much if you Expirience it Everyday,But it makes me Mad
I'm 10
@@celavetex right. i know how u feel, having adhd is a nightmare , especially when trying to explain how hard it is to focus on certain things and such. trying to explain you ARE trying hard, its just very complicated to stay focussed but still getting the same interruptions of ur parents saying “but you arent trying hard enough” sucks. im sorry you have to go through that man :( good luck bro.
My mother saying I do anything for get out of my anxiety I got out and I'm to much better right now, she was so fake, all the money she bring was from sugar daddies and also telling my sisters and me we don't have empathy for her...just c:
you know when you just zone out and then be like ”wait wtf happend”
Yeah. To me its like im thinking of something else insted of what's around me, and when the teacher is talking all I hear is muffled talking. And then right after I don't remember anything that just happened.
BTW I don't have ADHD but I still zone out.
ADHD sucks man, for me the worst moments are when I'm walking and my brain just goes "hmm who created God?" And started thinking about random crap and I'd go "wait a minute where am i? " or "wait I'm not supposed to go this way!", these happens a lot to me. Or that time when your parents ask you to but something like "buy A, B, and C" and you completely forgot about C and your parents will start yelling at you.
Riff Mcdude yeah same
Yup but learned how to control it so I only zone out sometimes while doing inportant tasks,it get Easter after a while its just a process. But to be honest sometimes I wish someone around me understood me at all.the only one who truly gets how hard I work is God cuase without him I'd be inane and in a mental hospital with a nervous breakdown.🐞
I hate it when it happens and I'm having a really deep conversation with someone and I keep getting distracted and in afraid they think im not interested
4:39. As someone who has ADHD, the most relatable moment in this video is this. Laying bed with nothing, but your thoughts replaying over and over
realllll
Isn't that normal...
@@pov115 Not for some. Many of my friends who do not have ADHD say they fall asleep within 10 minutes just like that
The scary part is the cuts in time. My life has flown by and continues to fly by. Days feel like minutes unless im bored or off my meds.
I agree I don't like it it makes me sad
I have adhd and you are right but i dont take meds my mom thinks its for the dest i lern how to handle it lol
ikr, sometimes i dont even know if the day is the same or a different day alot
and it happens alot where it feels like its been two seperate days when its just been the same or something /srs
@@nopenope3468 You can definitely learn ways to cope and add a healthy amount of structure to your life but for a lot of people, meds are really necessary for them to begin working on other ways of treatment. it often makes adhd much more manageable when you take meds that give your brain the right amount of dopamine so you can better regulate your attention and emotions. talk to your mom because if meds are what works best for you there shouldn’t be a level of shame around that.💕💕
@@nopenope3468 Brooke D is right. Our parents like to think they always know what’s best for us in order to raise us the best they can. They have to be super confident in order to do so. I am here to say that sometimes they do not always know what’s best for you. In some cases it truly makes sense to ask for help. No shame in that. Wish I could have learned that at a much younger age.
I can definitely relate to you. Hope this helps :D
ugh i was always told i had “selective hearing” when i forgot things like grabbing the milk
Same here
I get told that all the time, I be like “I forgot!” Like it doesn’t matter anymore bc they are used to it.
i fucking HATE when people say that to me
YES
it's not my fault I only remember things I hyper focus on. "how come you can remember all that stuff about those tv shows but not when I tell you something. you dont wanna listen to me!?!?"
anyone else forget that the mom asked him to get milk
edit: can we all just take a moment here to realise that the video is 6 mins long....
..it took us 6 mins to forget about one piece of information..
do with that what you will.
Wait she actually did??????? -replays it- omFG SHE DID
😂oh shit!
you call me out like this, in my home, on this day of all days??
DONT CALL ME OUT 😳😳
Wait she asked him to get milk? Lmfao..
Worst thing about ADHD is not only the less concentration and focus, but the fact, that you sometimes don't even notice it, but the others do and scold you for it. As someone who has ADHD I almost cried during this video.
Happens to me alot and it sucks ass
Been undiagnosed for 17 years, getting to talk to someone AFTER I'm almost graduated high school. I hate trying to talk to anyone and trying to clean is hard. Im constantly reminded that i don't do things. I really hope there's something I can look forward to
(Edit my friend was manipulative as hell and really worsened my symptoms)
I cried too watching this. This hurts and people never understand.
Omg yes
@@RikiToshisamee
Telling someone with ADHD to "just focus" is like telling someone who is paralyzed to "just move"
OOF felt that XD
i guess i mean thats an extreme comparison but yeah
@@rylierylierylie it's the same thing tho
@@vixymix101 i mean i have mild to severe adhd and if you yelled at me enough i could focus i think idrk to be honest thats just a hypothesis but if you yelled at a paralyzed person they could still never move
@@rylierylierylie yeah that's called manipulation-- and it doesn't last very long and leaves you with a very upsetting feeling. It doesn't actually work, it's just making someone upset.
*Teacher gets mad at kid not focusing when there is a girl sitting 5 feet away talking on her phone*
not only that but if the kid has adhd it would be hard to focus so like
I have adhd and i have to hear that same bullshit every day
I would’ve told the teacher off for that tbh 🤷♀️
Same , *unable to focus*
Teacher: pay attention
Other kid: drawing and playing games on lap top
Teacher: *says nothing*
silly goose ive literally had that happen to me except he was right next to me. some teachers pick favorites
I understand this is a serious video, however I'm enjoying being tall
XD me! As a 5'2 guy right here!
it's scary
ikr
Fr. I'm like 5'6. This dude made me feel 6'5 in the video. Got nervous seeing the top of a door.
5'3 lol I was so excited to see everything
1:15 WTF IVE BEEN HAVING THIS THE WHOLE TIME I KEEP MEMORIZING THINGS THAT ARE SECONDS AGO😭 I THOUGHT I WAS GOING INSANE
@ i dont got any money for it😢
is this not normal? damn
"Im trying!"
"No, no you aren't."
bruh wtf does that hit me so hard
my mom says it to me all the time, I think she forgets how it affects me mentally and physically. but yeah it does hit you hard bro
I had a 3-5 month stretch where I couldn’t get out of bed in the morning like I physically couldn’t because of executive disfunction and my mom would just lecture and yell at me from the door frame for 30 minutes until I got so upset my need to get away overpowered my executive disfunction
heard that in middle school all the time
Yup my mother says stuff like that to me all the time
@@RoyRoy1006 my mother and father both have adhd so i dont have to experience this thankfully
"I'm trying !"
"No, no you're not."
That one hit hard. It's so hard for me to remember things and register when someone is talking to me, and I really do try.
I have the same thing, i can remember like things that you learn at school in general normally by a combination of two problems i may have, but not anything else.
I can forget something i am doing or just did easily, and because of my probable ADHD/ aphantasia combination (aphantasia disabling people to remember things with one or more of the five senses ; and me having it "total" i guess) it would be less obvious because it would cancel a few effects; i got in trouble for it a few times now, and starting to think more and more about diagnostising when i can :/
Have a nice day !
same, my mom says she thinks I might have adhd(I think so too) but constantly puts me down when I say I'm tryin and displayin symptoms of adhd instead of tryin to make it easier for me especially bc we cant get a diagnosis bc we dont have the money
I deal with it everyday 😐
@@Astr0_Man You dont have ADHD, EVERYONE DOESNT HAVE ADHD. STOP SELF DIAGNOSING
@@Astr0_Man cure show mom...tell her to do this to u...over in a few minutes..if she does it well...th-cam.com/video/jtNkoWzXD14/w-d-xo.html
God, the ringing is so true. If there’s no sounds, my brain fills in the gaps and makes sounds. It’ll either be chatter, something that happened earlier, or the ringing.
I'm so glad I have music 24/7 instead of the ringing. I feel bad for people who struggle with that.
Its worse when ur home alone cuz then u start hearing doors closing🙃
@@xrockangelx same here
edit: i’ve been paying more attention and my ears do ring lmao
@@sneakyturtle2346 that's scary
Haha yeah, whenever I'm in the shower (or even when I'm not) my brain likes to trick me into thinking someone is knocking on the front door, and sometimes it'll just straight up play my ringtone and so I always think my phone is ringing
I remember few years back after my wife died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES sure of mycologist Pedroshrooms. Mushrooms literally got me off my feet and turned my whole life around. I am currently a housing manager for a recovery program. I wouldn't have been able to do that shit without psilocybin.
I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Where do I reach this dude? If possible can I find him on Google
- I'm trying!
- No, you're not!
I was about to cry at this moment.
Same
Same
Same
Same
I cant with my adhd i hate it
the irony of adhd is barely being able to watch this video because your mind already needs to do something else
As much as I hate to admit it. The video made me cry, then I started thinking if sending it to my parents, then having an internal conversation with myself about why I should and then why I shouldn't, then I started hearing ringing, birds chirping, cars going by, doors slamming and so many things. 😐
Within the time watching this I’ve thought of 8 videos I’ve watched when I was younger.
Yesssssssssss
Ikr
Yea. Exactly. This video is actually scaring me with the accuracy. The jumbled clips repeated in the video to showcase the main character’s distractions actually started popping up in my own head and distracting me from the video.
god the “stop fidgeting and listen to me!” “it’s not hard, you’re just not trying hard enough” PAIN
MY STEPMOM SAYS THIS!!
People haut don't realize that we are trying as hard as we can and it sometimes can be mentally and emotionally draining
EVERY FUCKING DAY
@@kpro_1188 yeah my boyfriend has ADHD & I’m doing my best to look into what it’s like for him. It’s difficult and this video makes me want to cry. I would hate to be the one to be saying all that stuff to him like they are in this video.
@@loversick3377 Awe 🥺 that's sweet, I know he'll be really happy with you 💜
The whole “I’m trying” and “you’re not” part made me cry because this is how my parents are with me. I just wish they’d be patient with me, give me a break, and stop getting angry at me for the way I am. 😢
THE THING WITH THE EYES WHEN THEY GO OUT OF FOCUS AND UR BRAIN TUNES OUT
Sometimes in the middle of conversation it will happen and I try to get back to reality and it’s tough, it almost feels like I become an actor in my own life to feel normal
YES!!!! that’s the perfect way to show it but for me it gets all fuzzy and I get this numbing?? Feeling it kinda feels like how it was shown when the mom was talking to her son
DAYDREAMING
Yeah although i don't have ADHD it still happens
@@angel.w.a.y222 YESS
What many neurotypical people also don't understand is that the fidgeting actually helps us focus. So if they tell you to "just sit still" they're actually making it more difficult to concentrate
true
EXACTLY. I draw a lot even if its just a bunch of doodles all over the page, cause it helps me to pay attention on what the teacher is saying. especially if its a theoretical kind of class. she's always telling us to put our pens down and pay attention and im like......
i just dont say anything cause everytime i forget to tell her, and dont wanna say it in front of the class lol
@@TheRadioactiveBanana32 that's the same Banana picture in my pfp
Me too
Sad part is that the opposite is true for them, what allows you to focus makes THEM lose focus. It feels like there's no compromise to be made
disclaimer: ADHD does not make your hooping skills dirt nasty
This is underrated-
That's debatable
man :(
People with ADHD usually tend to do something they enjoy for a very long time because they need something to make them work physically and mentally. It helps them not fidget for a while.
with my adhd i actually suck at sports because i lose focus/get dizzy about all the things im thinking about and trying to exert physical energy.
I love my older sister dearly, she was like a second mother to me. Even at a pretty young age, I was aware she was “different” but I didn’t care, I loved her and we had fun and that’s what mattered. I try my best to make her comfortable, but she always seems to happy when we hang out so I don’t think I need to do much to help her, as our friendship is enough :)
I still try to understand her, so that we can be the supportive figure in eachothers lives, that we never really got. I appreciate this short film? a lot! It brings awareness.
"Just try"
"I am"
"No you're not"
OMG TYSM LITERALLY MY MOM SAYS THIS EVERY DAY
My mom was talking to me yesterday about it (gonna maybe get diagnosed soon) and I was trying to explain cuz it felt like she didn’t believe me and when I went back to my room guess who was fighting tears over what in hindsight was something small
I tell her that it’s hard for me to get myself in motion for a lot of stuff. Homework, my hobbies, anything. She’s like “well a pill won’t help” like mother it’s designed to help what do you mean it won’t help
Edit: forgot to add she’s understanding and kind about it at least which is more than some people get sadly
@@SketchUT DON'T TAKE THE MEDICINE!!! IT WILL COMPLETELY CHANGE YOUR PERSONALITY MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE A GHOST AND CAUSE LIFE LONG SIDE EFFECTS
@@Ethan20543 If I get diagnosed and IF I get medication prescribed I’m going to take it as long as I’m told :P
Idk if i have adhd, i will get a check up next week.
But what his mom says is so relatable to me, my mom always say i'm not taking things serious, and she would always say i'm just being dramatic
I hate getting yelled at for forgetting. At the end of the day it is my fault but at the same time I can’t help it. It’s so frustrating
not really your fault
This is me everyday, and my parents also do that!!
Man I relate, I try so hard to study sometimes but I just cant focus
Same. I don't have adhd though. Just a crappy memory.
@@thisismyaltyaccount5727 me too..
"You dont have ADHD your just lazy"
"ADHD isnt an excuse"
thats what i hear from people....
XxAlaynaxX fr
I’ve been called Lazy because of ADHD so many times that eventually I just give up on trying to convince them I’m not.
I hate when peoole say "your useing it as an excuse"
I get called stupid a lot by my friends as a joke because of my grades and I said “I have ADD, I struggle to concentrate, you know that” and I got really sad because I just wanna be able to concentrate and to stop daydreaming all the time and to feel normal and they just told me “i have ADHD, it’s not that hard” It kind of hurt me because they got through the same thing but they still told me it’s not an excuse. Like, y’all know I can’t control it, what do you expect. You know what I mean? Sorry if me venting is kind of stupid 😞
@@shara1034 literally
I am watching this and I am terrified about this. my cousin got ADHD and he is losing all sort of things and has social problems. Sometimes he is just sad because he says that he tries, but he beliefs that people dont understand him.
“just stop fiddling and listen to me”
that honestly almost made me cry omgg
I HATE it when people say that to me
do u have adhd?
Ryan St. John yeah
Alondra Rojas i respect you also cried i have adhd and i here that all the time i sucks🙏
I'm so happy to find people to relate too 💕
this is so accurate. especially the way having like 5 thoughts at once is portrayed with squares on the screen. everything runs through your head so fast that it all feels muted and foggy
Right?! Ugh
Yess
when i’m trying to concentrate sitting still all i can think about is moving
When i am sitting: i can understand the words, but my mind can’t focus on their debate.
Does your brain ever turn on ‘sleep mode’ when you’re doing something and you rarely blink without perceiving reality
I hate when People without ADHD especially parents and teachers tell me I’m not trying or I need to focus or i need to Focus on them or I should stop fiddling around like I’m doing it on purpose like I’m not it just helps me concentrate I can be fiddling with something and listen to you at the same time
I TELL THAT TO PEOPLE ALL THE TIME
They will never understand us 😔
Teachers piss me off the most
I have moslty the hyperactive part of adhd the fiddling a lot... teachers get mad over me fidgeting with stuff all the tyme
i have adhd and unfortunately i'm dyslexic too so i didn't understand shit about what i just read
My mother,my father,me,my brother,uncle,cousin,grandma all have ADD or ADHD so I never really heard from my family that I’m “lazy” or “no you’re not”, “try to concentrate”. I was diagnosed to a very young age (less then 5 year old”
- forgetfulness
- easily distracted
- constant daydreaming
- mind stuck on a catchy tune
- fidgeting/restlessness
- poor sense of time
- anxiety
- constantly awake at night deep in thoughts, replaying stressful episodes
yeah this is me, this sums up my life perfectly
@@theangstygayhouse i have adhd and this was accurate asf but is asd like this too or are there any differences?
I don’t have adhd but this applies to me sometimes in my daily life I’m austic though I can’t spell 😓 autistic
I have ADD and this sums up my life perfectly
@@theangstygayhousei have to deal with both ASD and ADHD😢
Yes
As a person with adhd, watching this is like having it twice.
Edit: it also brings unpleasant memories of my parents calling me lazy, stupid, or deaf.
Honestly
Same
OMG IT REALLY IS!! I feel this so much
Actually tho!!
Facts
Anybody else have the “if you can focus for the next half hour” stuck in their head?
Nah I forgot the teacher even said that till the end of the video, where they replayed the sounds
yes
I wonder what the teacher said after that ._,
Kinda wanna know lmao
I like your username
i've got the tree leaves rustling
As someone with adhd/add this is the general idea of it.
Difficultly focusing and remembering, Repetitive thoughts, zoning out. Ringing isn’t really accurate though. This was good.
its apperantly a thing that some people do have. everything's a spectrum after all
@@da_copreee9929 nah they jusy schizo
As a person with ADHD It hits hard. Especially when you're scolded so much for not focusing or remembering or forgetting or being too hyperactive
I have ADHD and I agree 100%
I actually looked down and teared up when the teacher fussed...
It's a war against the neurotypicals.
Nothing hurts more than being told wake up earlier, or make a schedule, or everyone is a little ADHD, or come-on it's an excuse to sell kids pills, or if you can put your mind to that, why not focus on me?. We live a life of constant abuse, and yet we are punished for being us. The issue isn't about understanding, it's about they type of learning you get. We are a different type, you can't expect a dog to climb a tree even if you yell at it.
Exactly. I've been struggling with ADHD alot last year i Faild a class and had to redo exams. It's sad how i get to be seen lazy at studying but very hyperactive like a "monkey". I get such a very short memory, very short span of focusing, and Its difficult for me to go to bed early.. And sometimes i don't get to understand stuff and it's pretty hard to let someone who don't understand understand.
Its really sad how WE go through alot and be taken wrong. Whoever has ADHD and Autism, depression, bipolar, PTSD, DID whatsoever, im sorry if yall been taken wrong before.
Untrue. I have adhd and I don't have the height of a door
ikr? So unrealistic xd
@@MarchSomething kazuichi wtf are you doing here-
lmaooo I'm 5'2 and that's the same thing I throught
@@MarchSomething what are you doing here aren't you supposed to be with Sonia Nevermind
@@himikoyonaga3065 Nah she went for Hamster Man
It's weird I have been diagnosed with adhd and can never remember anything someone just told me but I remember thing from months and years ago
I have the same problem. I was diagnosed with adhd at a very young age and I’m now 17.
Yeah my short term memory is terrible too
Thats kinda how it is, you can remember things from a long time ago but not what you did yesterday or a couple minutes ago
Well thats how it is for me
Also sorry for bad wording- I just can't think of another way to say it, and I know its not what adhd
I REMEMBER DOING MY MATH HOMEWORK FROM WHEN I WAS 5 FUCKING YEARS OLD BUT I CANT REMEMBER MY CHORES FOR THE DAY
That’s because we have great long term memory, but terrible short term memory
This is unbelievably the most accurate video of adhd I’ve ever seen in a lifetime.
i’m tired of adhd being written off as “my little focus issue” by people. thank you for making this
Thank you, anime profile person. I am willing to ignore your profile.
@super kiwi castle run it’s actually a disorder, not a disease. and i would have to disagree with you on that one. adhd isn’t very fun.
@super kiwi castle run are you trying to troll or what?
@super kiwi castle run are u 7?
@AleisterCrowley2 sup
SINCE IM NOT REALLY PAYING ATTENTION TO THE VIDEO, DID YOU SEE HIS BASKETBALL SKILLS LIKE DAMN HE ON A MICHAEL JORDAN LEVEL
DUDE I KNOW RIGHT
I WAS LITERALLY LIKE DAAAAAMN OKAY SHIT
YEH I WAS SHOOK
TRUEEE
A day in the life of Michael Jordan's white son
i swear, when people tell me to focus, i just get really angry and frustrated because they don't understand how all the odds are stacked against me
Does anyone else have to do like 2 other things while they’re doing something so they can pay better attention to the one thing? I hope that was understandable lol
MEEEEEEEE!!! while reading this comment I was playing with a smarties wrapper and watching the video!!!
I have to draw or else I’ll never be able to fully listen and understand something
@@alexfinechi2497 same!
The thing about me is that my mom doesn't let me have gum and some of the times I listen but TBH I think she gave up ok so feel me if this is with any other people with Adhd cuz I used to have 12 diffrint prescription in 2 or 3 years idk I make no sense lol
Yes. I read and walk at the same time. I also like to walk and pray the rosary at the same time.
" need a hearing aid? "
" this isn't the first time you've forgotten"
" something interesting there?"
All too familiar...
Exactly the same 😂
Bir the Mothbat
“why are you just looking out the window like that”
“She sees demons!”
“You need to focus and stop looking at your paper like that”
“Do I need to send you out the classroom?”
I have 2020 hearing and cant hear shit
“Why are you staring at the wall?”
“What’s with the bouncing leg?”
And the all too familiar “I gave you one job, one.” You know where it’s going
I wish a hearing aid would help tbh😭 i just feel bad or i only understand what someones said when convos basically over
The “you’re not trying” cuts like a knife other favorites include
“you’re just making excuses”
and “if you actually cared it wouldn’t be so hard”
God ive herd those phrases so many time
Or “you’re just being lazy.”
Why Is This Relatable…
@@TheNebulaeCollective came here to say this one! I was called lazy forever by my parents.
Yes... true :(
I have never been able to explain how my brain can have multiple noises playing in short loops on repeat to the point where I start crying because I wish it would just *stop* for a minute. This video captures it perfectly.
+ music playing in the background in your head
@Dangmanchillitsjustatroll Yeah, I know exactly what you mean. It can be very tiring at times.
@@ihwa1243 that happens to me all the time. 😭
it’s so bad when i hear a noise that makes me twitch and it keeps replaying in my head and i keep twitching
@@Nina-dk1sb Especially when you want to fall asleep and your mind picks the most upbeat songs to play
i felt it when his mom said “all i asked was to get milk” i have a bad habit of remembering certain things, & remembering right after .. it’s bad 😭
Me too!
Me too..
For me it overlaps with some memories like im going to get milk and then i remember that one time where like i threw a tomato at someone and accidentally bought a tomato instead. Mind my poor explaining lol
When that teacher repeated the same sentence again and again that hit me hard
Man that sucks. I thought I had ADHD but fortunately, I was wrong. I don't have problems focusing on the moment but "Earlier events replaying in the mind" haunts me especially the embarrassing ones always replay in my mind whenever I try to sleep.
That last part when u cant sleep cause of every distraction that bother you at the end of the day and ur bother by it causing you to suffer from insomnia dam...this is just too accurate...
TwT to true
True. I couldn't fucking sleep bc I kept daydreaming and I just felt restless.
I haven't slept till 2 3 or 4 the last few days
It used to be such a problem for me especially since I open a restaurant early in the mornings, now I take those Z-Quill vitamins and I'm out in like 30 minutes
it's so hard to sleep from my adhd, I take medicine to sleep but at the end of the day it just comes down to my adhd
The blurs, the time skips, spacing out during lectures, playing with things constantly, the mental pain while trying to concentrate in a conversation, the whole thing before sleep..
It's just perfect, thank you so much
I sometimes watch my phone, and then I forget that it is 3:30 AM
@@FloridaAnting YESSS
so true, One thing I realized at some point is that I have no sense of time whatsoever!!
as I am still a student, I would be studying and take "5min Break" and come back to find out 1h has passed
the best solution I found for this is to set a time for any task and have a Count Down running Infront of you and train yourself to keep looking at it. it creates a sense of urgency and usually lets me finish things quickly. If you remember that you have to set the timer but slack and dont do it or procrastinate or think you don't need it this time.. RIP! you just waisted your whole day
@Saif Khouri omg!! same!!! i have a difficult time of focusing in things im doing and tend to forget things and space out alot! i also have a stuttering issue too im dealing with and some learning issues
Shoots there are times where I’m driving and I don’t remember the last 10 mins of driving
Dude this summed up my whole life everyday. My parent always get mad and say I’m not trying hard enough and they get really really mad when I zone off. I have the exact same thing we’re I zone off and next thing you know when I get back to reality it feels like I’m falling and the sounds of the teacher in the background are not in the background anymore but rather what are the loudest sounds now.
I have ADHD and this seemed too real, it almost made me feel emotional. God it pisses me off when I forget something so simple and I get yelled at for it. And then, the depression kicks, and you just feel stupid and worthless. People just don’t understand what it’s like having ADHD.
That is true, This all happens to me
Same bro I feel u
dat do wer tru
This is definitely the most accurate video of adhd I've ever seen. I literally felt it. Well shit. I live it. lol
I feel u
That interaction with the mom is the literal reason ive got social trauma that i cant seem to shake. That "no youre not" dispite literally doing everything imaginable to get it together because you want nothing more than to hear "youre doing a good job". And then being told all that effort was wasted because theyre still disapointed in you. Enough to make you just not care to try at all, if it was only that easy not to.
HELP THE SCENES AND IMAGES REPEATING IN YOUR HEAD,,,, I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT'S SO ANNOYINGLY RELATABLE ???
sometimes i daydream about something (for example, skating) and my brain goes on autopilot and then there's a scene where i fall off the skateboard, i WILL keep on repeating that even though i don't want to, it doesn't go away even when i want to progress the "story" in the daydream (by not falling off) it will always keep failing and that FRUSTRATES ME to no end
oh my god i didnt even realize i struggled with that till i read this.... fuck..
OMG YES
YOU JUST CAN'T FINISH THE SCENE CAUSE SOMETHING WILL ALWAYS GO WRONG
same :/
THIS HAPPENS TO ME TOO like if i make up a scenario where im in a mall i keep imagining myself like jumping down an escalator or from somewhere high n it keeps repeating even though i dont want it to happen ????? idk if that makes sense
@@anaya1524 YES YES YES EXACTLY
“I’m trying”
“No, you’re not”
Even after watching this on a few separate occasions at this point, that line just makes me break down crying, and the ringing and echoing straight up hurt. The inside of my mind is so very loud, and the echos never stop, no matter how hard I try.
THAT LINE BREAKS
@@petephelp971 my Brother in Christ I’ve been on meds for 13 years…..
@@petephelp971 I don't get why people are starving in Africa. It's 2022 they need to just eat some food.
relate
@@premiumquinn I know right like go to the supermarket duh
The part where the teacher asks him to focus and it plays over multiple times hit me hard at how accurate that was. You don’t have things play over audibly and visually like the video but that moment of embarrassment plays over and over in your head. Other times when someone is giving you step by step instructions, I play the first step over and over in my head so I won’t forget it, meanwhile I’m not paying attention to the subsequent steps.
Yeah, this is relatable to me too. I replay moments of interactions over and over in my head after they happen, especially if they were negative. It’s horrible.
I don't have adhd, but I do have social anxiety, and that part was relatable. I conciously replay interactions in my head all the time, negative and positive, in part to confirm them. Positive interactions I think about for validation like "that went smoothly, good job! or "that was a fun time, now how can we get that more often?" Most of the time I'm replaying negative interactions to review and rationalize them, make sure I have a legit reason to worry about them. Asking myself "will this impact my reputation? Do they think I'm weird? Am I in trouble?" And the answer is usually either "eh, they'll forget about it, they probably didn't even notice" or "oh god I'm fucked."
In fact I replay _every_ interaction, firstly assessing whether it's pos or neg.
Might have something to do with my ocd as well.
This is me. I concentrate so hard on the first instruction, knowing how forgetful I am, that I miss the rest. Not good when I do jujitsu as detailed instructions are given. I am good for the first bit or last bit of move. The middle is vague.
@@extrapathos for me its a mix of social anxiety and adhd
I replay situations so many times in my head...usually situations that stress me or make me feel bad...like if someone is rude to me, or someone hurts my feelings, etc....it gives me the worst anxiety, the worst headaches, my jaw clinches, etc
Forgetting the milk scene was probably the most relatable thing I have ever seen
I don’t have ADHD- my brother has. I feel like a lot of times me and my family are too impatient with him. Watching this video actually made me realize a lot that I did wrongly within a short time. I’m researching so I can learn how his mind works so I can be a good sister.
Thank you for teaching me, at least just a little bit, how it feels
Hey, that's awesome that you're finding ways to correct your behavior around ppl with ADHD! My older brother really set off what's called RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) (very common in people with ADHD) when we were younger by constantly picking on me, what I looked like, how sensitive I was, and how he made fun of my fixations. Nobody really knows about RSD, so be sure to look it up as well, as ADHD tends to make us emotionally sensitive because of our learning disabilities and how people perceive us due to them...I think WebMD has a great article on it.
I have ADHD and personally I don't think you should go "easier" on people with ADHD. It only serves to hurt us later on. Mental handicap or not we have to learn to adapt. Everyone in life is served a challenge, and there are no shortcuts. Treat us like everyone else and we will learn to overcome
@@rhys4303 i would argue otherwise; that i would have completely fallen behind and failed numerous classes if i wasn't given the proper accommodations (testing alone in a room, private tutoring, etc.) - and because of these accommodations, i succeeded immensely in places where i could've fallen hard, especially in college! better grades = better mental health as well. i was miserable when i was unaccommodated and failing.
@@rhys4303 but! that being said, i don't see accommodations as "special treatment" or anything and i certainly never wanted to be treated like a child. i desperately wanted to be just like my peers! so much so that it contributed to my depression. but if we're to be treated "like everyone else" - does that mean we aren't to be medicated, too? something to consider
@@birdie8006 Thank you for sharing your experience, I’ll search it up!
Thank you for making this film. It has given me a better understanding of what my son faces on a daily basis.
Me too. Poor kid. The more I study it the more I realize I have it, likely most of my life.
I wish my parents would try to understand, thank you for taking the time for your son. He may not show it but it means the world
YEAAHHH GO MOM!!!! U are a vary kind person for trying to understand and take of ur son. Things can be very difficult for people with ADHD, like me and others, and the only way people can help is if they try to understand. The more people learn, the more they can help.
the chances of him getting depressed and overthinking are pretty high so look for that. give him small tasks so he could get some dopamine dose fixed.and dont make him feel like he is different in a negative way and let him do most of the things his way . if he is missing out on the classes tell him to take pre recorded lectures so he coild rewind if he zones out. and best of luck 🤞 and if you need any help feel free to reach out i would be more than happy to help cuz I've been there when no one tried to understand me and tbh its quite frustrating. peace out ✌️
ADHD can also come with other things like depression and anxiety. So if you notice anything make sure that you check up on him ^v^
I could be trying with 100% effort to pay attention to a teacher talking and retain zero information it’s so frustrating
Yes,
To be honest I just give up and do the papers I want and let my brain take in what it will
Yes it's a paradox but i remember better when i'm doing something else like doodling at the same time. I have a VERY efficient auditive memory.
I found out during school that the ONLY way I can retain is by taking notes. Because my hand is writing so it helps me remember. That's how I survived
Same
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporessss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporessss
This is actually one of the closest representations of what it's like to have ADHD done through editing, I hope people can start to be more understanding with it
this is the closest representation of wth is going on n and i thought either i was the only one or this just was smth everyone else had
I heard it was different from person to person but honestly speaking, everything here felt accurately portrayed to me.
Every stimuli goes in all at once and it becomes hard to focus at one thing, and even if you managed to focus, your mind immediately hops to another thing. But for some reason, doing what you love and enjoy makes you hyperfixate on it and you suddenly get the focus of a magnifying glass... Like WTF brain?! Where'd you get all of this focus all of the sudden?
“It’s not like I’m doing it on purpose” That hit me hard. I can’t tell you how many times I have said that in my life.
-I'm trying
=no you're not!
this hurts man it HURTS SO MUCH!
Show your mom this video..it's a cure...it works real fast..th-cam.com/video/jtNkoWzXD14/w-d-xo.html
ADHD is not even real. It just means we’re not robots and we’re a bit self centered in things we feel are more important to our lively hood then MAKING SURE I BRJNG THE MILK FOR YOUR ROBOTICLY SCHEDULED TEA TIME IM OVER IT ADHD ISNT THE LROBLEM THE WORLD IS
@@cohibarico bud, as someone with diagnosed adhd, adhd is definitely a massive part of the problem. it exists, and it isnt us being "a bit self centered in things we feel are more important" or more entertaining. there are definitely some societal issues in our day to day lives, but ifs incredibly invalidating and hard to hear people say that adhd "doesnt exist" or isnt a problem. (also sorry if you were joking or something, im bad at social cues, especially in text. i think i got what you were saying though)
You and me both
This is the most accurate ADHD day in the life i have ever seen ever
When she kept telling him to stop fidgeting, I really felt ANGER for a moment. The most frustrating thing in the world is being forced to stay still, as if that helps with focusing. Neurotypical people would never understand, I don't think.
Elmo is always moving😋
E x a c t l y !
I always thought it was ironic they have such a problem with fidgeting and stims. Like, bitch, how about *you* look at *me* and stop focusing on my hands aye?
People just have zero self-awareness sometimes.
same here, i got so mad watching that
They used to tell me that too. Like I can't pay attention unless some other part of my body is distracted by doing something else. That's why I have a fidget cube
I feel like nobody ever brings up how stuff goes blurry or out of focus sometimes too, and thought that was separate from my adhd. Its a little bit relieving to know others go through the same experience as me
people with adhd are three times more likely to have a vision issue called convergence insufficiency! and it's totally treatable with some help!
was taking a test and for literally 5 minutes i sat there staring at it while blanking out thinking of the most random things possible :(
Aww. I'm so sorry you guys go through it :(
Omg!!! I didnt even think to put the 2 together. I have ADHD and tell people sometimes when i try to read everything just goes blurry and out of focus. I thought that happends to everyone.
I can make things go blurry easily ... Hmmm
4:23
“I’m trying”
“No,no you’re not”
That shit hit me hard
"No you're not".... Easy to say by people without that Problem.
Oh lord. I was ALWAYS being told what I was & wasn't thinking/doing/feeling. I was so sick of being gaslit all the time!!! The big one for me was "You CAN, you just don't WANT to." Like no bitch can't means can't. I did my absolute best and it didn't work, if that's not good enough, then ?????????
Or the classic “that’s not an excuse”
the repeating words is so true. I've got diagnosed with ADHD sone time ago but I knew I had it for a few years now. I keep repeating words over and over in my head. I don't even know why. I'm glad I have meds now
For everybody wondering. This is a metaphorical pov, we don't literally see and hear and see things over and over again. Its just showing how we think.
edit: stop just replying with stuff like “i have adhd and i do do this” please just read what ive said carefully. because so many people are just misunderstanding what im trying to say.
Really? I guess everybody's different.
I tend to to that though it could be from my Panic Disorder, although I'm 98% sure it's from my ADHD. I replay things over and over in my head. I dont know why, I think I just zero in on the wrong thing and pick it a part. That or when someones talking their words mash together and I'm too busy trying to replay and figure out what they said to listen in present time.
@@アキラステラー yea he is saying we don't literally see and hear stuff like the video
i try not to but i constantly replay things that have just happened and i can’t stop it! it makes me unable to just focus like a normal kid
ADHD is different person to person. Sometimes, this metaphorically happens and sometimes I just zone out and my mind has thoughts that pass by at the speed of light and I don't have time to realize what I'm thinking before it's gone and I've moved on to another flicker of a thought and that cycle continues til I tune back into reality.
clangon speak for yourself 💁🏻♂️
Do you ever just read a book and start thinking about other things but you’re still reading at the same time ?
Edit: I don’t have adhd, just thought this was something relatable
Once O read a norwegian book because I'm from Norway I was thinking about arrowverse and mcu stuff while reading!
cam0bam then u gotta keep re-reading it cuz even tho u read the page it like didn’t go in
This is why I haven‘t never readen a book in my life
Then you keep reading but don’t remember but you want to read that paragraph again but you’re already read it so you don’t want to then you close the book.
@@jackhennessy1645 And then you have a feeling of deja vu while re reading the whole page, but you don't remember so you have to re read it anyways
I wish some parents didn't blame their kids for what they did wrong because it's not their fault they have ADHD. My sister has ADHD and ODD so things are hard for her sometimes.
u mean ADD?
@@mikko5384 odd is oppositional defiant disorder it’s a real thing
@@kirby584 ahh i didnt know
when the professor said "if you can focus " it repeated in head 100 times n just after that its repeated in the video too oh man this so real
IF YOU CAN FOCUS FOR THE NEXT HALF HOUR🗣️🗣️🔥🔥
Idk why but my brain made a catchy remix of that XD
For me, My ADHD can be summarized as...
“Shit, what was I doing?”
“Oh that’s right”
My mind sometimes randomly goes blank when I'm about to do something. I ask myself "Where am I?" and usually regain focus in a few seconds.
@@greatwavefan397 bro, that happens to me when I'm driving. I'll just be on the road and then think to myself, "I know where I am but how did i get here again? did i do every turn correctly??" (don't worry, I am a great driver and have yet to get into an accident)
Same, my mind goes blank and then I wonder, "why am I here again?"
@@t04st3d_cr4mb that's just normal for all people
@@runic6452 nah but that happens to me way too often, I know I have ADHD, got checked with a doctor, and boom. I have it :P
Honestly brought tears to my eyes... especially the part where he is laying in bed and the chatter won’t stop in his head
People don’t seem to understand how truly difficult it is to live with adhd and sometimes it becomes quite overwhelming
Being told to focus to stop to listen or when our senses are overloaded and we snap and suddenly we seem crazy
Ugh
Same I'm really having a hard time because of this especially in the new normal
my sister tends to do things that always overwhelm me a lot and make my brain get all scrambled and same with my family, then they get all pissy when i get upset by it. i also always forget to do simple stuff, even when i keep trying to remind myself in my head and i literally say that it’s part of having add and my dad just calls me lazy 😐
Same it's like tell a blind person to "just see"
Listening to thunderstorm/fireplace/rain on window tracks and trying to create a special place in my head has reallyyyy helped me with sleeping, it takes some practice but I have all kind of cool “places” that I sleep in. I’ve been a pirate recently 😌
What got to me was the part where the people don't think you care and ask you to pay attention
Damn the lying awake in bed running through all your memories and thoughts really got me. I do that every night. Idk what I would do without ASMR.
Same thing as you but crying my self to sleep is the best thing I can do
ASMR made me feel loved.
SAMEEEEE
Lo fi bro
Same thing as you asmr is what’s keeping me get at least 3 hours of sleep
This is such a good simulation that I forgot about the milk until the mom mentioned it too!
I just realised that I have been yelled at my entire life over something I can't even control, all the awful times in class, dirty looks from other children in school who couldn't understand me, all the horrible fights and stuff happening at home with my parents, it didn't hit me until now how much I had to go through as a child with ADHD.
Same it was hard
Oh yeah, I feel this big time. I realize now that my frustrations in school where I struggled to read something and understand what it meant, or the ability to understand math formulas, plus the shame I felt as one of the “top students” failing to understand a certain subject in school and feeling the judgemental states of those around me… if I had known sooner it would have been so much easier
@@michelleperez2687 same, a lot of people around me don't like me because they think I ignore them on purpose, I just zone out and reply "mhm" and I don't mean to, it just happens. I had a good friend once in college and if she noticed I said "mhm" a lot, she did the cutest thing because she knew I have adhd, she touched my shoulder, got my attention, smiled at me and said "hey, are you zoning out again? I'm trying to tell you something silly" and just smiled at me, I cried because she understood ❤️
@@skarneer5272 I hope you are doing better now, as I got older a lot of things got easier 👍
Hey if anyone in the reply can relate to this and has happen to you at times just so you know keep being strong at something you cant control and others who gaslight you
The part where he plays music while walking to school, I felt that on a different level. I always listen to music and even when in school I keep it on repeat in my mind.
Music is like candy for me, and most others with ADHD.
Im not sure if I do have ADHD but, stuff like this really makes me think I do.
i thought all people have music going on in their head 70% of their day tho i definitley cant say i have ADHD because i only relate to like three things from this video
i think it's same for me and it sucks when i have undiagnosed mental issues
Sometimes remembering and replaying a good song I listened to can largely help me calm myself
And sometimes I remember the most annoying parts of a song, replay them (which is hard to stop), I get lost and annoyed. Strange how this goes both ways ._.
yeah, everyone has adhd when they like music...
@@Amoongus I have sentences in my head and I repeat them.Sometimes but rarely other people hear it.I had a phrase that kept repeating itself in my head: "Silly mother fu***ers with the arms in the air"I kept repeating it for an afternoon. My aunt asks "what's so funny?"I said out loud what I was thinking the whole time. She was shocked and irritated (but I know that not only ADHD people but also autistic people and other people sometimes have it)I love listening to music on my walk to calm down or take stock of the world.I very rarely go out
I thought ADHD just means you're hyperactive but this really helped in understanding what it really means and how to act towards people with it.
The ppl in the comments are undisciplined pussies adhd is great you should love it
Yea um I have it so it's hyperactive is the first part but the second is the inability to focus without practice
Same very true and people get mad when I ask them a second time
There are two types of ADHD. The first type, what people pay most attention to and put stereotypes for ADHD on, is the hyperactive one. That basically means they have a hard time sitting still, and it's a little more physical than mental. The second type is innattentive. This is what I believe is mostly seen in this video. It's more mental than physical. Please, anyone, correct me if I'm wrong! :D
@@-thunderstar-6414 it's a bit more complex than that. It's true, there are the mostly inattentive and mostly hyperactive type but for most people with ADHD it's combined. They are both inattentive and hyperactive. It's different for everybody. I'm more on the inattentive side but that doesn't mean that I won't sometimes fidget or do other "hyper" things.
Also inattentive isn't the best way to describe it; the video actually captures that nicely. It's difficulty regulating attention. Attention is still there, not necessarily on the thing you want your attention to be on. Having to focus on something which isn't of interest can sometimes literally be impossible. Fidgeting often helps but it's a life-long journey to figure out strategies that help, and something which helped yesterday might not work today.
As 17 yr/o with ADHD (and also autism), I can relate having my mind thinking occasionally selective hearing, and getting distracted and zoned out so much often, and then it made me lost or didn't catch what someone is saying. And jesus, I did not expected how scary and cruel this is, and especially the way how what I'm hearing, kinda darker than what I've realized in my experience with that disability at the end of the video after seeing and hearing all those struggles with people who don't understand our disabilities.
"Im trying"
"No. No you're not"
this part hurts. because it's so true that nobody else can see how hard you're trying so they don't believe you are. it hurts when you try your very best but people only seem to notice your shortcomings.
Lauren please calm down that’s my father... people say I’m careless but I try so hard to not be and I forget so much but I try my hardest...
I felt that. ._.
My stepdad
that's me, i'm all like "i'm trying" but no one believes
i read this at the exact same time of the video
"Never get a rest" made me tear up.
Yes. Not even while sleeping.
Crazy ...
I have to use my best frenemy maladaptive daydreaming which came with my life long subscription of ADHD to get myself to sleep
which ends up being another chore figuring out a daydream that gets me so submerged in it that I don't even realize i'm dozing off
It was so true-
💚Jesus lived the life we couldn't live and died the death we deserve. Repent of your sins and trust in Him💙.
It's so infuriating to be lying there in my bed thinking constantly about everything I can remember for hours, without being able to make it stop, before finally falling asleep because my body can't stay awake any longer
2:02 Happens to me every time someone's calling me out, my mind literally puts the first sentence on a loop out of a bizarre mix of Astonishment and frustration
same im like wait are they talking to me what a person
yes! I kind of just thought it was a me thing, I didn't realize it was a symptom of my ADHD. the worst thing is when someone says "you need to listen" because then I get so worried about listening and I start wondering what they need to tell me. And by the time I'm coming back to the conversation they've finished their sentence.
@@decembervyne6541 when that happens to me I just make it seem intentional and say "What did you say? I didn't listen, I was thinking of something else" and the stupid thing here is that I have to say that three more times or until I'm able to get what they're saying. The only perk of doing that is you can be a bit more confident when making someone repeat themselves. ngl kinda disrespectful especially if it's someone you're not close to but welp nothing i can do about it
Same, and also sometimes when I’m going to sleep at night my mind just keeps replaying it in slow motion and in black and white. Does this happen to anyone else?
@@jeremyblasabas7616 same i say "what did you say? i wasn't listening/i got distracted."
"Stop fidgeting and listen to me!" I am fidgeting SO THAT I can listen to you
For the first time, I don’t feel like the only person who struggles with this. The mother saying “your not trying” the blurring of vision, the being unable to sleep because things just repeating in your head. All of it.
For me there is just that moment where you stare into the eternal abyss for 5-7 minutes.
You're not the only one. My parents and teachers told me the same thing, and I tried as hard as I could, but then as an adult I realized - it is futile. You have to re-organize your lifestyle to fit your brain. ADHD had an evolutionary advantage when we were hunter-gatherers, when your unpredictable behavior meant no one would mess around with you, as they could not know how you would react. But now in sedentary societies, it has lost that edge.
For me it was watching the leaves rustle and the car go past over and over again. As a kid I used to read every sign I could see in every possible way, especially speed signs, e.g seventy, then seven zero. To know I'm truly not the only one who lives like this, makes me incredibly comfortable. :)
I thought I was the only one who had things repeat themselves in my mind like words, sentences or like event that is like a video in my mind playing over and over again! Now I don’t feel like such a freak anymore. I genuinely thought I was crazy or loosing my mind. I’ve never heard anyone mention it before
I have adhd and the repeating part was sooooo accurate. It takes me a while to go to sleep because of it
“I’m trying”
“No you’re not”
That one hit home
😔
That is the most common thing we will hear growing up and it causes us to think we are not trying that we are failures. Sad that just a little bit of support how much we can accomplish yet even when our families and friends know how much it benefits our everyday lives they will only bring up the failures and never build you up. The hardest part is knowing there is something off in our brains and not having any control over it.
I heard this the most from my dad, who also had really bad adhd, which is likely why I do. I think he saw so much of himself in me, and he felt like a failure in life because he never did well in school despite being very intelligent. He didn't want me ending up like him and so was hard on me but way harder on himself. I wish he could have realized that neither he nor I could help it, and maybe he could have forgiven himself.
Same. But I usually say "I can't help it"
I agree- it’s really tough. I was only diagnosed with adhd 1 yr ago, and times before that was extremely hard. (Still is hard tho)
as someone who has had ADHD since I was 6. I cannot relate to how good your shot is in basketball.
Imagine having an iota of coordination
he's tall as fuck, that's why
@@Yes_this_is_my_cat When I say I "had it since I was 6" I meant I was DIAGNOSED when I was 6. just for your ✨clarification✨
. Nobody likes a know it all my guy. Go touch grass
I can’t shoot for shit but I do have the amazing ability to realize I’m a failure every time I break something
@@socialistsiut5788 Thought that was a me thing, feeling like I break everything.
This is extremely accurate, I myself have both autism and ADHD and the spacing out is spot on, repeated phrased from when people were upset with me (which doesnt help when depression is in the mix) and just this whole experience, very accurate to the real thing very well done!
double debuff
“Your not trying”
“Your so lazy”
“Can’t you remember one thing?”
“Why are you so lazy?”
“You have stupid excuses”
“I hate you”
“Why are you so disappointing?”
“Just pay attention”
“Well it’s not my fault you can’t listen”
“JUST LISTEN.”
I hate it when my mom says these things.
Don't forget the "No, you just don't care"
That's verbal and emotional abuse.
And ableist language.
Unfortunately a lot of parenting is not good parenting especially with that kind of language and it's disappointing that most see that as acceptable behaviour or the or typical thing to do when it's not the right way to handle things.
I deal with this everyday 😐
:,(((((((
@@ninadoesstuff7884 that one hurts :'((
When the video blurs and the beep starts, it means he’s zoning out or he’s struggling rn. I have ADHD.
The beep seems to me to be auditory processing disorder. I struggle with it. It’s back ground noise but it over takes everything and it’s all you can focus on.
Dannielle Simpson That is correct. Happens to me all the time.
@@DanniellePatrick yeah and my family dont believe me and when i decided to bring it up again they blamed the earphones like no if it was the earphones i wouldn't have said anything about it when i was 4,5 or 6 you just didn't believe me until know and your blaming it on something i didn't have when i was younger cause you want a reason to blame me for wearing earphones that help me focus
That’s how I feel cause when I’m in class and my teacher is teaching I doze off
I thought it was the physical representation for fatigue and headaches. I have those when I argue with my mother. whenever we fight or she obliges me to do something, the first thing I need o do when I get home is close my eyes/sleep for 20/15 mins and she ong though I was lazy and it was due to anemia. the same happens to me when I do chores and she assumed it was lazyness + rebellion combined.
The dry-clean cuts throughout the day were the hardest part to relate to because of how big of a truth they are, you just don't remember 70% of your day, your week or you life
So that's not normal?
Yeah :( I know some people who remember the smallest details. And I just can’t remember a majority of things that happened during my day :( or conversations I had literally an hour or two ago.
Ugh I had a disabilities counselor who would ask me about what I did during the weekends because she wanted me to schedule time to study and I told her "I can't remember" and she gave me a reaction like "there is something seriously wrong with you, wtf are you doing?". I was isolated from friends and family because I was away at college so I sort of retreated into my ADHD no brain fantasy world. It felt like things were really complicated for me and the counselor didn't understand and was treating me like some lazy weirdo who liked to stare at walls all day.
Now that you're mentioning that, I just realized I really don't remember almost anything I did today
@@EdPF right and sometimes I can't remember when certain things happened on what days and it's annoying
This is so on point. When someone tells me to focus I just keep telling myself to focus over and over again then realizing that I’m not focusing because all I can think about is to try and keep focusing.
I have a feeling I have adhd, not diagnosed but the part with the car going by, darting your head in its direction and thinking about that split second for the next 10 minutes for is surreal
The sooner you see a doctor/ someone that specializes in ADHD the better. I got diagnosed at 17 and my life would have changed for the better if I got help earlier. Even if you think you might not have it but see symptoms, see someone anyway!
@@fireesol what is your treatment like now?
@@alexitanguay Right now I'm perscribed adderall and I'm seeing a therapist that specializes in ADHD. I'm also on anti depressants (lexapro) and they're okay, I think I need to switch medications but I'm still trying to figure it out, but my mood and routine is so much more structured with the adderall. Its just the tolerance that sucks :(
@@fireesol I think I have some symptoms of ADHD, like the fidgeting, struggling to focus unless I’m doing something else, repeating thoughts, etc., but where I live is very religous, and whenever things like this happen the first thing people tell me is ‘to just pray’. Mental illnesses, disorders, etc. aren’t understood where I live, hell some people think it’s a curse from the devil, so I can’t get diagnosed by a professional. Really hoping that when I get older I can go somewhere to check properly because it’s honestly driving me insane and no one seems to know what to do other than praying, which doesn’t help at all
@@Ar-yp6nh I'm so sorry, that's awful because you can't help what you're feeling and when you're not "normal" people think you're cursed by the devil or something. I hope you can seek help soon, it can take a toll on your mental health having people around you deny what you think and feel. You know yourself best 👏
Me having Adhd watchig this
My brain: double adhd
I felt the exact same way just now.
ADHD 2.0
ADHD^2
I felt this lol
100% felt this lmao