Glad you are back!!! 💪👏 I started working out, doing pilates, but as it was getting boring, I switched to calisthenics, as soon as I realized how it pushes you to challenge youself, and it always has a harder level to the skill you are trying to get better at.
Work with your ADHD! It can help to not try to focus on one single project - that's just not how our brains work - but try to stick to two or three projects that you can switch between when the first one starts to get boring. Just make sure you actually return to the previous project instead of another one. Also, I do the shopping cart thing too. Less so for projects - since I rarely get into cost-intensive hobbies - but just for other things that my impulsive butt WANTS.
Thank you so much. I am trying to understand my son (36). I so wish I knew these things when he was a child. I now understand him so much more to the point I have changed my reaction to how I deal with outcomes. He is delving into learning about himself and being open with those around him, that matter. I am so proud of him. However during this journey I then discovered I feel I am also ADHD to a degree. Not quite the same as my son, however many similarities. In my case it has helped me throughout life as I was always like an energy battery. Never running out of energy and being very successful In my career. Since my retirement things have changed somewhat. I am now experiencing many things my son does. I understand him so much more and myself. Things around us seem so much easier now as I learn about this subject ( still dealing with the guilt of not understanding what he was going through as a child. I can't turn the clock back but I am switched on now) . My last words would be...... be open about it, tell those around you what is going on in your head and the difficult times you are having. You may be surprised how others relate and understand you more. I can't tell you how much I appreciate your input. The whole world is mad except me and thee and even thee are are a little bit mad. So thankful to you. Wish you all well from Australia.
Omg I just discovered your channel and I’m so grateful for it 😭❤️ I always thinking about my abandoned projects but never realised that that’s just my adhd and not my inability to finish sth, now I can work on that better thank you
H E L P. Now that I understand from your video that I'm not insane, I just have ADHD, it takes away the enormous guilt feelings I have about not accomplishing the many things I know how to actually do. I keep a bunch of white dry erase boards near my desk to write down everything I want to remember and lists of what I want to accomplish asap. But I am addicted to learning totally new things and this makes the internet is my drug of choice to get me high and excited. Your video is Perfect! Perfect! Perfect! Give yourself an A+. You did a great job and I really really really needed the information Thank you. I just wish you had a "CURE" for adhd. Hay, if you come up with one "You'll get rich .... " Idea: Maybe we could start a club. I'll start a project and when I tire of it I could hand all my notes on it to another ADHD person to tackle and when they tired of it they could pass it on to another and so on and so on. When finished we could sit around and argue about how to split the money profits the finished idea brings. .... Just a thought, but I'm already tired of this idea and ready to think on something else. :) But I can laugh now at myself, thanks to your video. Hay I'm now normal .... a normal ADHD person now that I've found my tribe.
Wow, this video is so concisely made. I didn't even have problems paying attention throughout the entire time. Thank u so much for putting this out, I loved all the tips at the third part. 😊❤
Wow what a great video!!! Can't imagine the number of hours and effort you put into completing this!!!! Loveeee the illustrations and how you elaborated on the points & sections, it's definitely how I would envision to do it too except for the part I lack the actual skills to put together a video like this so kudos to you!!! XDD
yay welcome back!! this was so helpful + informative! ive learned to leave my online shopping carts for a few days as well, it saves me soooo much money!
Interesting and engaging video, and you have a really nice voice! My current project is quite nerdy in a way that I've been shamed for earlier in my life, so I'm not entirely comfortable sharing it online, but I will be rrying out those strategies.
@3:00 "hyper-focus" from another perspective is called "flow state" and it's a zone that's sought after. Everything is a matter of perspective and what we believe is our reality. If we believe "hyper focus" is a bad thing, well then it is. If we believe it's "flow state" and we strive to be in "the zone" or some might call it the "runners' high", well then that is our reality.
I searched “Why can’t I finish my woodworking projects?” and scrolled to this instead of just tapping the first video I saw. My mailbox came down in a storm almost a month ago. I have been working on a new one since then and putting in some serious hours-taking apart, rebuilding, changing the plan-and my excitement and creativity has transformed into terror and shame and self-deprecation, as well as quickly becoming a source of contention in my relationship (and rightly so; we need a damn mailbox out there, and I was adamant when I told him I would do it). But now, having watched your video, I feel this anonymous, genuine phantom shoulder squeeze of acknowledgment and empathetic support…I wouldn’t allow anyone near the project, so I prevented any compassion or constructive input from coming my way. So it took an internet stranger to make it across my rejection and criticism deterring moat. Now, I’m in my makeshift basement woodshop with a steady heart rate and a renewed sense of courage to move forward with a little more kindness and a lot more patience for myself. Thanks, cosmic internet friend. Thanks a heap. ❤
Honestly I always thought that woodworking is not a good fit for ADHD, as I had a father and one of my best friends(both ADHD) try to make a career of it and fail. Essentially they would spend 3 months working on a project that should be finished in 2 weeks, making it financially unviable in the long run. I feel like with woodworking perfectionism really gets out of control, as there is lots of things to "perfect". IDK, just my observation.
Aw this made me tear up. 🥲 Thanks so much for sharing and you're so very welcome for the content. I'm sorry you've felt so awful about yourself, but I'm proud of you for getting back to it! But also, just know that it's totally okay if you have to take a break again. ❤️
Thanks for this! I haven't completed a full video project in almost a year so I might take a step back and try these. The shopping cart tip has been my go to for years now, but Cyber Monday and lighting deals on Amazon are my weak point on impulse buying!
I’m 61 and realised only recently that I have ADHD and not Borderline Personality Disorder - which has never felt quite ‘right’ for me. I’ve had very, very many hobbies over the years and because I’ve had the cash, I’ve been able to go out and buy everything I wanted - and then some! Stacks of it in boxes stashed all over the house and in garden sheds! I’m now retired and my new hobby is saving money! Yay!! 😅 I’ve been doing the shopping cart thing for about a year - I stack it up, leave it and a few days later, hey presto, I don’t want it any more! It’s saving me so much money but, I get a rush from the process of choosing and planning. I’ve saved your video for my husband to see. He’s an Earth Angel - 38 years married to an undiagnosed ADHD brain and he’s still here! 😊 I call him my anchor; he has saved me from crashing onto the rocks SO many times, picked me up and given me time to dry off and set sail again. Fantastic video, Sydni, and I’m glad you came back. I for one will be watching and sharing your content. Best wishes from England 🏴
What’s a great video!! 🏆 Covered such important points, like hyperfocus and rejection sensitivity. Thank you for such an in-depth review. Amazing. ⭐️🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing! Another good mantra for battling perfectionism I’ve heard is: done is better than perfect. It helps keep things in perspective for me
I love your video. It explains s lot about how my mind works, but I grew up in a time where ADHD really was not quite a thing yet, and only recently I have begun to suspect that I may perhaps actually be one who has it..... I am nearly 60...! And I really stink at keeping my nose in the track. Another thing, which you didn't mentioned, is that often people come up with suggestions as to what needs to be done to e.g. the shed, the garden, the living room, and I, for one, immediately see this as if they had in fact told me that it is my responsibility, and I should get going at once,.... Which they don't! As you said - impulsivity!
I found this really helpful, I've got too many unfinished projects. The SMART idea needs looking at, ad do these tools you list at 9:07 . Hopefully I'll be able to, Finish more videos Build more bikes Write those songs Sew more clothes Repair the house Get a job application finished... Thank you 🙏
I'm new here & just subscribed & saved this video. I noticed that you responded to most of the comments left here & even followed up after that on some. Very impressive, kind & thoughtful of you. Not to mention the time it must have taken. I left a comment in rederence to one of your responses that I am adding here & hope perhaps you'll see it at some point. "I must be reading your response wrong. I thought I read that you would never be as good as others at this video "thing." Really?" Thank you for this well-crafted, helpful & encouraging video.
I started crochet projects intending to make blankets with granny squares, 9 squares in and im done as i realise the project was massive and didnt get enough wool! Ended up putting in a bag for a later date when i get more wool. 18 months later its still in the bag and in my way
Props to you Sydni, & thanks for your research and your processing and presentation of it. Worth a couple more views taking USABLE notes. SOOO much I recognized, so much that seemed plausible, & so much that seems worth a try -- iow, I'm enjoying a huge bolus of [dopamine Fizzies]. BTW, are you working on your guide/workbook/toolkit/how to? I'll be waiting!
Great video! As in the content - from where I sit I can see 3 unfinished hobbies! But also love HOW your video is done. I can't sit and listen to a video for longer than 5mins (no matter the content, bordom...that dopamine you amazingly explain!....kicks in) but the visuals in your video real help. Thanks so much to making your channel!
Great idea - having a shopping cart waiting period - I use this one myself. If I fill the cart late evening I put things like cookies or gransola in it. If I wait til the next morning, I take them off. Same for other goods.
I just made a comment on one of your other videos... About how I start projects and don't finish them. I had already watched this video but forgot about it. I like that you put the info in text on the screen so I could take a screenshot. It might be good to provide links in the description to certain things. For example, I didn't recognize some of the time management models. Now I need to look up what they are... So it would be good to have a recommended source. It seems my problem is not keeping proper track of what needs to be done, how to prioritize, and having to do too many things that can't be delegated or hired out. I know how to prioritize... But I don't have a process for when a new idea comes in to compare it to the old.. and stop myself from working on it until the old is done. I would be afraid I wouldn't remember what I wanted to do.
Hey Brenda, thanks for the feedback on how I can make things more accessible! I do have a free lexicon available. I just posted the link and more information about it on my community page. :) www.youtube.com/@WhatintheADHD/community
I have several hobbies and felt like you described me. I have projects that have been working on for over a year to complete especially one. But in fairness life has been lifeing
Thank you! What did you like about it? Honestly it's hard to find the motivation to make videos these days because I'll never be as good as other channels that do it so effortlessly. 😭 But knowing that people still come back to my videos and find them helpful is really, really good for me. So thanks ❤️
@@curious46 comparatively, I don't feel as talented. I know I shouldn't compare myself to other channels, but it's hard not to when success is based on views and subscribers. It's the main thing holding me back. 😭
Request: how does one manage perfectionism when there's an element of obsession involve? I will prioritize a project, but if it only fulfills 99% of my vision, I just can't let go of that last 1%. I get obsessed to the point of distraction in my everyday life and keep finding one last thing, usually something I have to buy, to try before allowing myself to let go of it. I call it "jerk storing" after the Seinfeld episode where George became obsessed with a comeback he though of too late.
I LOVE THAT YOU ASKED THIS!! This is such a perfect example of ADHD perfectionism & task paralysis-finishing a project is impossible because it’s not 100% exactly how we envision it. Even if it's done, our brains won’t let go until it’s “perfect,” so we keep looking for "one more thing." Some call this “one-more-thing-itis,” but I think "jerk storing" actually nails it better. (10/10 reference game, btw 🤣) Just like George stores his perfect comebacks, you hold onto the idea that buying one last thing will FINALLY finish the project and make it "perfect" Because of your comment, I've started thinking on video ideas for this because I know how common (and frustrating) this is… Let's just hope I don’t spend the next 3 months obsessing over every tiny detail before actually filming it. 😅😉
When I'm off my meds I have multiple projects and dreams that get placed on hold(all in different stages of completion). When my meds come in, I then hammer them out one by one. I hyper focus multiple things almost like a brains storming diagram. When my meds hit that fog goes away and I can focus on one task at a time
isn’t impulsivity the inability to think before taking action? and the tips is to reflect before we make the decision? ffs i’m so lost, wish i could save decisions for later use 😂
@@aonain09 impulsivity is reacting without thinking; not the INABILITY to think before acting. Impulsivity can be managed by becoming more aware of your own impulsive behaviors. Practicing that moment of reflection can help in the long term.
Which type of ADHD are you referring to in this video? Great to see you back. I watched your video about medication and thought I'd subscribe. I don't like this upload as its not relevant to me. I've never been a perfectionist. I prefer to do things at the last minute as I'm more successful that way. I think you've been misdiagnosed personally. I think you have a different disability. Hope that helps you as I'm unsubscribing. I've edited this to correct typos.
Not everyone with ADHD are the same and people with ADHD may relate to some traits but not others. No one will have every trait to the same frequency and severity as everyone else with ADHD
as someone officially diagnosed with inattentive-type adhd, this describes my behavior around projects down to the letter. maybe take a moment and realize that our symptoms present in different configurations and intensity based on environmental and biological factors. also this isn’t an airport - there’s no need to announce your departure. hope this helps.
Not everything needs to be relevant to you to be informative to you. My colleague and I both have inattentive ADHD and the manifestations of it are very different. There’s w describe me perfectly, but only half describe him. Different people manifest differently, and knowing and understanding that makes us better and more empathetic people.
I would never tell a creator I didn't like her video because I didn't think it was relevant to me. Especially when that creator specifically said she didn't post for literally years because of perfectionism. Every ADHD video is going to talk about symptoms that you don't personally experience. That does not mean it isn't relevant to you, or that it isn't a good video. You said you aren't a perfectionist. Your comment sure makes you sound like one. It seems you believe the video should only talk about things that apply directly to you. Waiting until the last minute to do something is a symptom of ADHD. You said you do things at the last minute because you do better that way. Maybe you do better because you have ADHD. (or maybe it is a coincidence.) I don't know how you can tell from this video that she has been misdiagnosed. All the symptoms she talks about are ADHD symptoms.
The 24 hour rule on the shopping cart is an awesome idea
Glad you are back!!! 💪👏
I started working out, doing pilates, but as it was getting boring, I switched to calisthenics, as soon as I realized how it pushes you to challenge youself, and it always has a harder level to the skill you are trying to get better at.
Work with your ADHD! It can help to not try to focus on one single project - that's just not how our brains work - but try to stick to two or three projects that you can switch between when the first one starts to get boring. Just make sure you actually return to the previous project instead of another one.
Also, I do the shopping cart thing too. Less so for projects - since I rarely get into cost-intensive hobbies - but just for other things that my impulsive butt WANTS.
This is the best video ever! I'm sharing this with my husband and daughter. Maybe they will understand me better.
I appreciate your enthusiasm!!! Makes the hard work worth it. 🥰 (Let me know how the sharing goes!)
Thank you so much. I am trying to understand my son (36). I so wish I knew these things when he was a child. I now understand him so much more to the point I have changed my reaction to how I deal with outcomes. He is delving into learning about himself and being open with those around him, that matter. I am so proud of him. However during this journey I then discovered I feel I am also ADHD to a degree. Not quite the same as my son, however many similarities. In my case it has helped me throughout life as I was always like an energy battery. Never running out of energy and being very successful In my career. Since my retirement things have changed somewhat. I am now experiencing many things my son does. I understand him so much more and myself. Things around us seem so much easier now as I learn about this subject ( still dealing with the guilt of not understanding what he was going through as a child. I can't turn the clock back but I am switched on now) . My last words would be...... be open about it, tell those around you what is going on in your head and the difficult times you are having. You may be surprised how others relate and understand you more. I can't tell you how much I appreciate your input. The whole world is mad except me and thee and even thee are are a little bit mad. So thankful to you. Wish you all well from Australia.
Omg I just discovered your channel and I’m so grateful for it 😭❤️ I always thinking about my abandoned projects but never realised that that’s just my adhd and not my inability to finish sth, now I can work on that better thank you
A round of 🎉 for your comeback. You were one of the first sources of info I came across before my diagnosis.
Thank you! Excited to be back! Also VERY happy for you on getting your diagnosis. It's amazing how much of a difference it makes!
I was diagnosed out of the blue. I never thought I had ADHD
Just what I needed today, as i have several home improvement projects i am struggling to finish before christmas.
You've got this!!
Answered many questions about myself! Thank you!
H E L P. Now that I understand from your video that I'm not insane, I just have ADHD, it takes away the enormous guilt feelings I have about not accomplishing the many things I know how to actually do. I keep a bunch of white dry erase boards near my desk to write down everything I want to remember and lists of what I want to accomplish asap. But I am addicted to learning totally new things and this makes the internet is my drug of choice to get me high and excited. Your video is Perfect! Perfect! Perfect! Give yourself an A+. You did a great job and I really really really needed the information Thank you. I just wish you had a "CURE" for adhd. Hay, if you come up with one "You'll get rich .... "
Idea: Maybe we could start a club. I'll start a project and when I tire of it I could hand all my notes on it to another ADHD person to tackle and when they tired of it they could pass it on to another and so on and so on. When finished we could sit around and argue about how to split the money profits the finished idea brings. .... Just a thought, but I'm already tired of this idea and ready to think on something else. :) But I can laugh now at myself, thanks to your video. Hay I'm now normal .... a normal ADHD person now that I've found my tribe.
Wow, this video is so concisely made. I didn't even have problems paying attention throughout the entire time. Thank u so much for putting this out, I loved all the tips at the third part. 😊❤
This is the BEST compliment anyone could give me! I work really hard to make sure my content is ADHD-friendly ☺️
I love this video,thank you for making it
Definitely needed this today. Thank you!
Here for accountability.❤
Awesome video and SPOT ON with my experience! Thank you so much...
Wow what a great video!!! Can't imagine the number of hours and effort you put into completing this!!!! Loveeee the illustrations and how you elaborated on the points & sections, it's definitely how I would envision to do it too except for the part I lack the actual skills to put together a video like this so kudos to you!!! XDD
yay welcome back!! this was so helpful + informative! ive learned to leave my online shopping carts for a few days as well, it saves me soooo much money!
Interesting and engaging video, and you have a really nice voice!
My current project is quite nerdy in a way that I've been shamed for earlier in my life, so I'm not entirely comfortable sharing it online, but I will be rrying out those strategies.
@3:00 "hyper-focus" from another perspective is called "flow state" and it's a zone that's sought after. Everything is a matter of perspective and what we believe is our reality. If we believe "hyper focus" is a bad thing, well then it is. If we believe it's "flow state" and we strive to be in "the zone" or some might call it the "runners' high", well then that is our reality.
Im glad i made it halfway
This was AWESOME!!! Thank you for the information and the video. So much of this hits home.
I am 71 and may have ADHD all my life. My daughter tested for it this past year. I am going to share this with her.
I searched “Why can’t I finish my woodworking projects?” and scrolled to this instead of just tapping the first video I saw.
My mailbox came down in a storm almost a month ago. I have been working on a new one since then and putting in some serious hours-taking apart, rebuilding, changing the plan-and my excitement and creativity has transformed into terror and shame and self-deprecation, as well as quickly becoming a source of contention in my relationship (and rightly so; we need a damn mailbox out there, and I was adamant when I told him I would do it).
But now, having watched your video, I feel this anonymous, genuine phantom shoulder squeeze of acknowledgment and empathetic support…I wouldn’t allow anyone near the project, so I prevented any compassion or constructive input from coming my way. So it took an internet stranger to make it across my rejection and criticism deterring moat.
Now, I’m in my makeshift basement woodshop with a steady heart rate and a renewed sense of courage to move forward with a little more kindness and a lot more patience for myself.
Thanks, cosmic internet friend. Thanks a heap. ❤
Honestly I always thought that woodworking is not a good fit for ADHD, as I had a father and one of my best friends(both ADHD) try to make a career of it and fail. Essentially they would spend 3 months working on a project that should be finished in 2 weeks, making it financially unviable in the long run. I feel like with woodworking perfectionism really gets out of control, as there is lots of things to "perfect". IDK, just my observation.
Aw this made me tear up. 🥲 Thanks so much for sharing and you're so very welcome for the content. I'm sorry you've felt so awful about yourself, but I'm proud of you for getting back to it! But also, just know that it's totally okay if you have to take a break again. ❤️
Nicely done. Thank you.
love it
Thanks for this! I haven't completed a full video project in almost a year so I might take a step back and try these. The shopping cart tip has been my go to for years now, but Cyber Monday and lighting deals on Amazon are my weak point on impulse buying!
Yes! It's so hard to pass up those lightning deals!! 😂
How's the video project coming along?
Among the very best videos on ADHD
I’m 61 and realised only recently that I have ADHD and not Borderline Personality Disorder - which has never felt quite ‘right’ for me. I’ve had very, very many hobbies over the years and because I’ve had the cash, I’ve been able to go out and buy everything I wanted - and then some! Stacks of it in boxes stashed all over the house and in garden sheds! I’m now retired and my new hobby is saving money! Yay!! 😅 I’ve been doing the shopping cart thing for about a year - I stack it up, leave it and a few days later, hey presto, I don’t want it any more! It’s saving me so much money but, I get a rush from the process of choosing and planning. I’ve saved your video for my husband to see. He’s an Earth Angel - 38 years married to an undiagnosed ADHD brain and he’s still here! 😊 I call him my anchor; he has saved me from crashing onto the rocks SO many times, picked me up and given me time to dry off and set sail again. Fantastic video, Sydni, and I’m glad you came back. I for one will be watching and sharing your content. Best wishes from England 🏴
This is the BEST ADHD video I've seen ( or any information regarding ADHD btw), 100% spot on.
Thank you for making this.
What’s a great video!! 🏆 Covered such important points, like hyperfocus and rejection sensitivity. Thank you for such an in-depth review. Amazing. ⭐️🙏🏼
Thank you for not quitting working on this, loved it :)
Thank you for sharing! Another good mantra for battling perfectionism I’ve heard is: done is better than perfect. It helps keep things in perspective for me
Writing the purpose for each project is golden! I really loved this video. Thank you for seeing it through to the finish line ❤
Very helpful! Thanks ☺️👍
Heres me taking notes then zoning out and getting distracted
This is the most helpful video I have come across about this topic. Thank you so much 😊
Currently in the struggle of having mutltipe projects 😅. Trying to prioritize animating though.. hopefully ill get atleast one done 😅
Sooooooooo, how's it going!!?? 👀
@@WhatintheADHD😭😭i got distracted with something else and started writing an entire story instead of animatin🤣🤣🤣 😭😭😭😭
Genuinely loved this. Thanks! Also, we kind of have the same hair.
Awesome!🎉
Thank you for taking the time and effort to share this information. I could have used this information decades ago.
I noticed you saved the solutions on an ADHD video for the end of the video. It was a struggle, but I managed to make it to the end.
The way you structured the video is amazing and super adhd friendly I actually paid attention the whole time
I love your video. It explains s lot about how my mind works, but I grew up in a time where ADHD really was not quite a thing yet, and only recently I have begun to suspect that I may perhaps actually be one who has it..... I am nearly 60...! And I really stink at keeping my nose in the track.
Another thing, which you didn't mentioned, is that often people come up with suggestions as to what needs to be done to e.g. the shed, the garden, the living room, and I, for one, immediately see this as if they had in fact told me that it is my responsibility, and I should get going at once,.... Which they don't! As you said - impulsivity!
I found this really helpful, I've got too many unfinished projects. The SMART idea needs looking at, ad do these tools you list at 9:07 .
Hopefully I'll be able to,
Finish more videos
Build more bikes
Write those songs
Sew more clothes
Repair the house
Get a job application finished...
Thank you 🙏
I'm new here & just subscribed & saved this video. I noticed that you responded to most of the comments left here & even followed up after that on some. Very impressive, kind & thoughtful of you. Not to mention the time it must have taken.
I left a comment in rederence to one of your responses that I am adding here & hope perhaps you'll see it at some point.
"I must be reading your response wrong. I thought I read that you would never be as good as others at this video "thing." Really?"
Thank you for this well-crafted, helpful & encouraging video.
Great video thank you!!!
I started crochet projects intending to make blankets with granny squares, 9 squares in and im done as i realise the project was massive and didnt get enough wool! Ended up putting in a bag for a later date when i get more wool. 18 months later its still in the bag and in my way
That was cool - lots of good ideas. AND it's always nice to know I'm not alone in switching hobbies. Thanks for all the great tips!
Omg! The quality and education in these videos are amazing! Wish I discovered you sooner!!
This is a really good video, thank you for finishing it!
Just wow....this resonated with me so much and without me realizing that I possibly have ADHD as an adult. Thank you for sharing!
Love your videos. Need more 😊
Thank you 🥲
Props to you Sydni, & thanks for your research and your processing and presentation of it. Worth a couple more views taking USABLE notes. SOOO much I recognized, so much that seemed plausible, & so much that seems worth a try -- iow, I'm enjoying a huge bolus of [dopamine Fizzies].
BTW, are you working on your guide/workbook/toolkit/how to? I'll be waiting!
Loved this video ❤ thank you
I have unfinished stories & comics that have been unfinished for years. I want to finish them.
Brilliant and help so much! Thanks
Thank you so much for putting this video out. Much needed in my case. I will mimic the leaving items in my “cart”.
Great video, thanks!
Thank you so much for this video！
Great info. thank you x
So helpful!
Great video! As in the content - from where I sit I can see 3 unfinished hobbies! But also love HOW your video is done. I can't sit and listen to a video for longer than 5mins (no matter the content, bordom...that dopamine you amazingly explain!....kicks in) but the visuals in your video real help. Thanks so much to making your channel!
Excellent content, form and delivery ! I just been diagnosed and a watched many many videos on the subject. Yours are my favorite. Keep going !
Wait, seriously!? Thank you so much. It means a lot when people say they want to see more! Gives me the push to plan more content. 🥲
Great idea - having a shopping cart waiting period - I use this one myself. If I fill the cart late evening I put things like cookies or gransola in it. If I wait til the next morning, I take them off. Same for other goods.
I just made a comment on one of your other videos... About how I start projects and don't finish them. I had already watched this video but forgot about it.
I like that you put the info in text on the screen so I could take a screenshot.
It might be good to provide links in the description to certain things. For example, I didn't recognize some of the time management models. Now I need to look up what they are... So it would be good to have a recommended source.
It seems my problem is not keeping proper track of what needs to be done, how to prioritize, and having to do too many things that can't be delegated or hired out.
I know how to prioritize... But I don't have a process for when a new idea comes in to compare it to the old.. and stop myself from working on it until the old is done. I would be afraid I wouldn't remember what I wanted to do.
Hey Brenda, thanks for the feedback on how I can make things more accessible!
I do have a free lexicon available. I just posted the link and more information about it on my community page. :)
www.youtube.com/@WhatintheADHD/community
Liked the video and subscribed the channel because this was legit helpful 🎉
I have several hobbies and felt like you described me. I have projects that have been working on for over a year to complete especially one. But in fairness life has been lifeing
AMAZING VIDEO
Loved your presentation. Thank you. Will you do a budgeting made easier or what your routines are. Thank you.
Can't do a budgeting video because I'm awful at it, but routines I can do!
Love that you use dyslexia font!
I’m glad you made this video. I needed it and now I’m subbed!
I lovvve how you summarized things at the end such nice organization of the presentation!
Thank you!
Great video!!! I struggle in all these areas. This really helps!!❤
This was excellent! Hope to see more, but understand if I don’t! 😊
Thank you! What did you like about it?
Honestly it's hard to find the motivation to make videos these days because I'll never be as good as other channels that do it so effortlessly. 😭 But knowing that people still come back to my videos and find them helpful is really, really good for me. So thanks ❤️
@WhatintheADHD
I must be reading your response wrong. I thought I read that you would never be as good as others at this video "thing." Really?
@@curious46 comparatively, I don't feel as talented. I know I shouldn't compare myself to other channels, but it's hard not to when success is based on views and subscribers. It's the main thing holding me back. 😭
I feel so validated and also educated by your videos
This means a lot to me. Thanks for taking the time to write this!!
So agree!!
Brilliant
Request: how does one manage perfectionism when there's an element of obsession involve? I will prioritize a project, but if it only fulfills 99% of my vision, I just can't let go of that last 1%. I get obsessed to the point of distraction in my everyday life and keep finding one last thing, usually something I have to buy, to try before allowing myself to let go of it. I call it "jerk storing" after the Seinfeld episode where George became obsessed with a comeback he though of too late.
I LOVE THAT YOU ASKED THIS!! This is such a perfect example of ADHD perfectionism & task paralysis-finishing a project is impossible because it’s not 100% exactly how we envision it. Even if it's done, our brains won’t let go until it’s “perfect,” so we keep looking for "one more thing."
Some call this “one-more-thing-itis,” but I think "jerk storing" actually nails it better. (10/10 reference game, btw 🤣) Just like George stores his perfect comebacks, you hold onto the idea that buying one last thing will FINALLY finish the project and make it "perfect"
Because of your comment, I've started thinking on video ideas for this because I know how common (and frustrating) this is… Let's just hope I don’t spend the next 3 months obsessing over every tiny detail before actually filming it. 😅😉
The irony is that I kinda did it again writing this comment too 😂
Thank You Sooo much!!!
When I'm off my meds I have multiple projects and dreams that get placed on hold(all in different stages of completion). When my meds come in, I then hammer them out one by one. I hyper focus multiple things almost like a brains storming diagram. When my meds hit that fog goes away and I can focus on one task at a time
Thank u
I think the most helpful take aways were waiting and thinking long term/endgame.
You made me craugh…that’s cry and laugh.
lol I'm going to start using this!
been thre read about bran for 12 hours straight
🙏🏻❤🙌🏻😁
Can you do a video on how to do research papers while adhd? Lol
Hmm. I could maybe turn this into a broader topic that would still be helpful for you... 🤔
isn’t impulsivity the inability to think before taking action? and the tips is to reflect before we make the decision? ffs i’m so lost, wish i could save decisions for later use 😂
@@aonain09 impulsivity is reacting without thinking; not the INABILITY to think before acting. Impulsivity can be managed by becoming more aware of your own impulsive behaviors. Practicing that moment of reflection can help in the long term.
@@WhatintheADHD okay, thanks for clarifying :)
Which type of ADHD are you referring to in this video?
Great to see you back. I watched your video about medication and thought I'd subscribe. I don't like this upload as its not relevant to me. I've never been a perfectionist. I prefer to do things at the last minute as I'm more successful that way. I think you've been misdiagnosed personally. I think you have a different disability. Hope that helps you as I'm unsubscribing. I've edited this to correct typos.
Not everyone with ADHD are the same and people with ADHD may relate to some traits but not others. No one will have every trait to the same frequency and severity as everyone else with ADHD
Dude shut up, come on. UGH.
as someone officially diagnosed with inattentive-type adhd, this describes my behavior around projects down to the letter. maybe take a moment and realize that our symptoms present in different configurations and intensity based on environmental and biological factors. also this isn’t an airport - there’s no need to announce your departure. hope this helps.
Not everything needs to be relevant to you to be informative to you. My colleague and I both have inattentive ADHD and the manifestations of it are very different. There’s w describe me perfectly, but only half describe him. Different people manifest differently, and knowing and understanding that makes us better and more empathetic people.
I would never tell a creator I didn't like her video because I didn't think it was relevant to me. Especially when that creator specifically said she didn't post for literally years because of perfectionism.
Every ADHD video is going to talk about symptoms that you don't personally experience. That does not mean it isn't relevant to you, or that it isn't a good video.
You said you aren't a perfectionist. Your comment sure makes you sound like one. It seems you believe the video should only talk about things that apply directly to you.
Waiting until the last minute to do something is a symptom of ADHD. You said you do things at the last minute because you do better that way. Maybe you do better because you have ADHD. (or maybe it is a coincidence.)
I don't know how you can tell from this video that she has been misdiagnosed. All the symptoms she talks about are ADHD symptoms.