Get John Gray's complimentary relationship course here: www.marsvenus.com/ & FREE 10 Secrets About Men (Every Woman Needs To Know) HERE: whatrealmenwant.com/
Yeeeeessssss!! I just got out of a sales job & was completely burned out. Went to another sales job & the ONLY reason I’m surviving and motivated there is because I switched to my feminine energy. I’m getting help from the men there and it’s filled me up and reenergized me!
That's so interesting about how a woman needing to move from her overly masculine to her feminine would pair well with a man needing to move from being overly feminine to getting back to being more masculine. I like the way you described that.
I 100% agree. I’ve been a super independent woman for 20 years. After 2 husband’s who were completely dependent on me and in whom I finally lost interest after years of not getting any manly support from them, I’m finally at the stage where I wand to become a vulnerable woman dependent on a strong, successful man. I hope, I will finally have find this man. Then, I will quit my job and become totally dependent on my Man, and support him emotionally.
Why would you want to be totally dependent on a man? Why should the man be the only provider? I am an independent, strong woman, too, and I want to keep it that way. In my marriage we are both working and helping each other. My husband loves an independent, strong woman. You have just not found the right man yet.
That's not all men, its because these men were the same. I use the word self sufficient..someone suggested I never use the word independent. A True partnership both can work yet they both contribute to an equal partnership. Though dating ask them what their meaning is / and what it looks like to them / in a relationship ?/ or commitment ? Find out if you share the same in both/ on same page / to proceed to know them better. See if you share the same values ..lifestle..compatibility and view how they live. If there is enough there spend 100 hrs together with them with family friends in hobbies interests../to be able determine if you can blend lifestyles..? Dig deep with radical honesty before the dating fun begins. You may determine to recess not to date them /from answers given to your hard questions . This filters out who you want to date or know more giving your time or not!..
I have learned soooo much today watching these videos. I feel like I’ve found the Holy Grail! I see where my responses to my husband have been less than favorable. I see him in a completely different light. Thank you Michelle for doing these educational videos and thank you Dr Gray for sharing your knowledge and viewpoint from a man. So incredibly enlightening and powerful for me and women like me. I’ve struggled with understanding men for such a long time. This is priceless!!❤️
Most women are now leading the men and creating relationships that leave women very frustrated. I heard a lady on a show say… I want the old Staley romance man to look after me .. but I want to be independent, proving for myself and not needing a man. Like John said his dad provided for his family and in return his wife rewarded him .. nothing like some old School way of doing things ♥️
Such helpful insights. From now on I will refrain from asking a guy lots of questions and start talking more myself. I also learned the value of speaking my appreciation to a man. Thank you, John Gray, for this valuable information. You are the best!
@@Lulu-kt6gr i think he explained it pretty good. if you talk more you open up for him to get into you and not vice versa. Opening up is feminine and entering is masculine. If you dont talk he has to open up and its against the male side. On the other hand you try to enter him wich is not feminine. The other way round it makes much more sense. The women opens up for the man to get it. Easy as that. Also keep in mind if the man needs to talk all the time because you dont talk he feels you are not interested.
Great video #Michelle...John Gray says, "Don't let the man talk...women should talk More." But if we are dating, how do we get to know the man, if they don't talk. I enjoy when men are chatty and good conversationalists.
Great question. This confused me as well. Men are drawn to women who use Feminine energy and use Feminine Energy Communications, so this question confused me too.
I love this, especially the explanation of why we sometimes attract the wrong type of men- because we didn't have role models for men who could be trusted. Thanks for taking the time to give such detailed advice, John. And great questions, Michelle!
I divorced 1999, not of my own choosing. Finally after 22 years I got the courage to date again. And John Gray’s advice is making my new relationship magical!
I had the same problem, my father was not a good role model so for this reason i have been attracting the wrong guy. But starting today 10 april 2022 I will do my best to recover and choose the best guy😌
The description of highly successful woman's superior emotion, lack of needs, is so true. Hard to find man to fit, to respect, in the traditional way. Love isnt everything, but if it is right, that's good luck.
This reminds me of the book- How to Win Friends and Influence People. In the book the author talks about Rule Number One: Don't Criticize Condemn, or Complain. When you do you'll only force the other person to defend their ego; this will make them shut down and not be open to what you have to say.
When trying to get his attention in a playful way, he gets mad and feels that I am been controlling or he feels bothered...so confusing when I just thought I was acting in a loving way. Still married to this guy, and his strong character has made me feel rejected and resentful. 😐
I've been independent & in my masculine energy for ages. It wasn't until my 70-pound air conditioner broke, and I could not carry it to the curb that I began a process of weakening into my feminine. But I still tried to fight that. I had asked the building super to please carry it out, but he would not. It wasn't part of his job so I had to stare at that air conditioner on my floor for months. I even tried to dismantle it with a screw driver so I could carry it out piece by piece, but the screws were stripped. I began to weep. I then wept for other situations where I couldn't come to my own rescue. I finally felt the need for a man's help.
Yeah I agree with the doctor and also I'm sure that it makes a man feel like he won't have as much to offer a woman if he's not financially somehow more secure than she is
yeah i agree by 100% with you . never thought about this deeply but ou are absolutely true . also my best friend eve was recently definitely true that most of the men as they're bad in bed should use natural enhancers which are for both genders and they can take it with their darlings
I so appreciate all of this. Have recently read beyond Mars and Venus. Amazing. All that said… I feel so many white male coaches (yes I said it ) are overlooking women being in survival due to a patriarchy that enables and entitles men. A society that still does not value feminine traits…as many are not quantifiable. Just look at the news. Men are hurting and violence is rampant. I also coach and work with women. Many of these paradigms play on women’s codependency/wounds so we will try harder. I understand masculine and feminine very well and until men can honor/value and embody their inner feminine…they will continue to project their misogyny on the outer feminine. I respect both of you immensely and wanted to share the ego consciousness that most of the collective (especially men) are still in does not invite or encourage men to cherish women.
This is an awesome interview...there is so much takeaways from his knowledge and wisdom that I could use to better understand myself and people. Absolutely wonderful..and I also love his sense of humor..😂..it really made my day..😂 thank you
This was really helpful to watch. Some of us have been independent for too long that we don't know how to need others. "You can only him if you need him" resonated
I've learned so much from Dr Gray in just the few weeks which has helped me so much with my internal dialog as well as with the most important male friend in my life. I will continue to listen Dr Gray because he's an amazingly insightful relationship expert.
Michelle and John, thank you for sharing this wonderful information! I’ve pretty much done “everything wrong” and with this information , I’ll be a better partner next time. ❤️
Mr. John Gray, I just LOVE, LOVE, LOVE listening to you. Just came across you on TH-cam and I am so-so happy that I did. Thank you for your Time and sharing your Gift.
Thank you for your great advice. You make me think in a different way. You opened my eyes. You make so much sense. Now I have a better sense of understanding a man.
Thank you so much Michelle, I so enjoy your Vlogs with John very much, you are so sweet an genuine, I have watched a few of your videos with John, I enjoy your interactions with each other. My grateful thanks to you both, Blessings to you both on your wonderful humanitarian journey of beautiful relationships. You are so right John an I do it always for myself an that is my 'being responsible for my own happiness.... I choose to be happy... I feel happy when I am with you because I feel safe, I feel secure, I feel like I have come home, I feel safe,my divine male is not responsible for my happiness I am happy because I feel....... 💜
I've always been attracted to the wrong man. I truly appreciate your advice. I'm trying to understand how to date men, that I'm not attracted to. If I cringe when I'm with someone, even though he's a nice guy, I can't continue to see him...please help understand this...?
Dont date anyone youre not attracted to! Its going to end up bad for him bc he has false hopes, and bad for you bc of disappointment regret etc. Pls dont do this anymore i did it and never ever again
michelle, your channel is a goldmine of valuable information. thank you so so so so much for putting all this content out for free, for inviting these true experts and letting them share their findings. there are so many self proclaimed gurus who push their dating courses, but they're all repackaging the same messages taught here. e.g. i recently discovered mina irfan, and love her content and energy. but found out that she takes all the teachings from actual researchers and repackages them as her own. one of them is alison armstrong, who you've had on your channel.
John Gray is one of the sweetest man. He is a true giver. I love listening to him and he is fun to listen to. But I must also give credit to this lovely lady MMJ. Such good dialogues!
but no beer belly, good job, good status, hard yet soft, knows when you want to be lead and when you want to be independent, does the house work, empowers you, takes care of your needs but never makes any demands regarding his, especially sexual.
I have a question for you I have been dating this man for 5 weeks I'm interested in him. But he talks too much and I don't have the energy to interject to redirect which has been mentioned by Dr Gray because he doesn't shut up please let me know if there's anything I can do other than having to consistently interject it would exhaust me thank you Victoria
I didn't think I would Listening to the woman's side of the perspective but I really enjoyed listening to you and your questions to doctor gray and you're perspective on things. What I also would like to know is. What do you use on your skin? Your complexion looks beautiful.
How about listening and see what you can do to calm down? The man probably says that because he cares about you. So follow his idea instead of talking back. Pretty simple.
I really like alot of what John is saying, and he's really got alot of wisdom and knowledge . However, although I can see how the positive reinforcement would work at times, I would personally resent the fact that it might mean I as the woman would be the one stuffing down my emotions all of the time, while my husband gets to be slaphappy, irresponsible and inconsiderate, yet then get to feel happy from the high of feeling rewarded too. That doesn't seem balanced to me. Perhaps the woman should practice being both being authentic and also at other times do just positive reinforcement. I would want a man to have enough character to do what's right regardless of how he feels (at least a reasonable amount of time) because I wouldn't respect him otherwise. I also wouldn't feel truly loved if the only reason he was with me was that I never complained. I mean, what would be the point of getting affection & love from him if I didn't feel he love the real me? I wouldn't respect a man who's thinking skills only go as high as a trained dog so to speak. I do understand we as women can get in the habit of being too emotional and negative if our needs aren't met, so I believe John's advice about positive reinforcement is very valuable in this way, maybe just not all the time.
I have listened to your videos and I learned a lot from it. However, I’m still struggling. I seem to have trouble getting close with others because the lack of trust. I tend to attract people who are not willing to put efforts into me. That’s probably because of the way I interact with them? I’ve always wanted to be cherished cared for , yet I’m also afraid of being one. (Probably kind of like do I deserve to be treated that way?)I often feel depressed whenever I see some women being cherished by their partners. It’s like, I will never have that moment. I’d be appreciated for anyone who could give me some advice. Thank you :(
I am a 54yrs old. I am agree with John Gray's comments. Women needs love but trust is also important and at this age man has to be successful and provider i.e. equal or stronger than a woman. My question is what about a man who is sexually weak. How love can be possible?
Good for you, Pony Haly for watching this. If you watch it again with a pen and notebook, you will hear the exact answers to your questions. Its a long road but it is worth doing the work on yourself. You are worth it!! Good luck!!
I have a boyfriend and we've been together for almost 2 years. What confuses me is the advice to not let the man talk more than you. Is this only in the beginning of the relationship or is it supposed to be that way always? My boyfriend likes to talk so, I'm not sure if that lowers his testosterone. 🤔
More at the beginning of the relationship but this is true later on as well. If you let him talk more at the beginning of the relationship it shows you are more interested in him than he is in you. Men should be talking more with their male friends, not with you. I made this mistake and it set up the whole relationship wrong.
@@juliettailor1616 Its the exact opposite, if you dont talk he feels like you are not interested. Less engagement means less interest. If you are interested then you should voice that. If you talk more than him he feels secure about himself and ofc. the interaction with you wich leads to more masculine behaviour.
But what about the men who aren't interested in providing things you need? I accepted him even though he didn't do anything he promised for months, year after year, but work and watch tv. When you're optimistic but feel totally defeated because he won't do even 15 minutes of weeding the grass for 6 months, what can you do? He goes to work, like I do, but the house is falling to pieces. Though he says he'll take care of various things, it just doesn't happen. It's only gotten worse over 6 years. Lots of positive encouragement and patience has left my soul crushed. What's the solution to that? Is this a man with high estrogen?
I found that my husband may have had an issue when I was making a lot more than him. We did better when I was making less. Once I graduated and started making a lot of money he started to act different. We are still together. I went PT when the baby was born and it’s been better again, I plan on going Ft when baby gets old enough but I wonder how he will feel.
All of this makes so much sense! Yet what to do with a ‘desperate’/needy man. My man always whines that we do not spend enough time together. I do focus on what he provides and praise him. He is always needing and wanting more from me. He is making me happy but it doesn’t feel enough for him. Honestly his neediness and passive aggression is repelling
So do you Not have more time for him? Some men Look Forward coming home to BE with their mate ~ leaving the rest of life outside, and appreciating, loving, honoring, and relaxing with the Forever One who is sharing their nest with them. My dad was that very man.
ladys most guys just want a women that is easy to get on with and adds something to his life.. that means somebody to be with and do things with and has warm feeling toward him and has respect for him .and women want the same..so there you go ladies look for a man you can respect and can respect you ..icing on the cake is common interest's that over lap by about 50 percent and you have it made.all the rest of the psychoanalysis is just crap ..if your normal and happy you just get on ..if you have to think about it youve got the wrong guy
I can't force myself to like a man to attempt this process?! Of course if they like you they are going to pursue! But you still can't force yourself to like someone you don't! Very confusing
Thanks for explaining this.estrogen/progesterone/testosterone..for older women exactly my questions if im low in estrogen been alone a long time having higher testosterone how can i get there..into feeling i need. A man. Just ordered beyond mars venus..about this subject..i had a holistic Practitioner balance my chokras years ago amazingl..between my femine/ masculine balance..
Having a man love you can be a bit of a chore. I don't feel lonely and I enjoy what I do does that mean I'm in denial? Seriously I'm older and sometimes I sabotage a relationship because I just don't want it. I'm happy doing what I do and a man wants me to be there for him, I don't want too.
I lated dated good guys who were interested in pleasing me what a difference. In fact they asked me what i liked..and planned it j was happily surprised..i did tell other men i dont do football go with ur friends .i wss speciific on what would make me happy..abd he refused to listen..i let him go!
Thank you..🎉i agree the masculine needs to feel needed by the woman for him not to leave..i think verbally appreciating him...i understand the flight/ fight cortisol..causing.the woman..to using an imperfect time versus all the things he shows by effort..is it possible if cortisol levels are high in women causing this to happen increasing bp levels to rise..i noticed during covid my level of anxiety increased and were high.. ? I'm back to dance classes .I ballroom dance some women in the beginning do lead especially when they are teachers it becomes worse..I was teacher..I later danced ballet..when I focus with a beginner man I always dance at his level .j never out dance him. I learned through out my years with the help of a couple men dancers who taught me how to properly follow the lead ..I can't have a weak lead I need a good lead..but the women need to use enough resistance with the man leading..for the dance to have great momentum in moves with accurate timing /..control took many years to perfect.so I can relate to what your saying comparing this to relationship control and yes women have a degree..being conscious/ aware ..can help both men and women .just like we say it takes two to tango..on a dance floor ~
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I agree ordered the book..I really need tools in this to make these necessary skills to change my relationship..
Yeeeeessssss!! I just got out of a sales job & was completely burned out. Went to another sales job & the ONLY reason I’m surviving and motivated there is because I switched to my feminine energy. I’m getting help from the men there and it’s filled me up and reenergized me!
That's so interesting about how a woman needing to move from her overly masculine to her feminine would pair well with a man needing to move from being overly feminine to getting back to being more masculine. I like the way you described that.
Makes so much sense! 🤯
and this is why modern day interactions and relationships are being suppressed...welcome feminism..
I 100% agree. I’ve been a super independent woman for 20 years. After 2 husband’s who were completely dependent on me and in whom I finally lost interest after years of not getting any manly support from them, I’m finally at the stage where I wand to become a vulnerable woman dependent on a strong, successful man. I hope, I will finally have find this man. Then, I will quit my job and become totally dependent on my Man, and support him emotionally.
Why would you want to be totally dependent on a man? Why should the man be the only provider? I am an independent, strong woman, too, and I want to keep it that way. In my marriage we are both working and helping each other. My husband loves an independent, strong woman. You have just not found the right man yet.
I admire for your comment and greetings from Egypt 🇪🇬 Iam Ibrahim 39 years old
Imagine a man saying "I am super independent". Sounds so entitled and arrogant.
@@Man.Well93 wow what a great point 😮
That's not all men, its because these men were the same. I use the word self sufficient..someone suggested I never use the word independent. A True partnership both can work yet they both contribute to an equal partnership. Though dating ask them what their meaning is / and what it looks like to them / in a relationship ?/ or commitment ? Find out if you share the same in both/ on same page / to proceed to know them better. See if you share the same values ..lifestle..compatibility and view how they live. If there is enough there spend 100 hrs together with them with family friends in hobbies interests../to be able determine if you can blend lifestyles..? Dig deep with radical honesty before the dating fun begins.
You may determine to recess not to date them /from answers given to your hard questions . This filters out who you want to date or know more giving your time or not!..
I have learned soooo much today watching these videos. I feel like I’ve found the Holy Grail! I see where my responses to my husband have been less than favorable. I see him in a completely different light. Thank you Michelle for doing these educational videos and thank you Dr Gray for sharing your knowledge and viewpoint from a man. So incredibly enlightening and powerful for me and women like me. I’ve struggled with understanding men for such a long time. This is priceless!!❤️
It’s so true!! Dr. John is a genius and these videos have changed my life!!!
I agree! My marriage is so much happier now that I understand what makes my husband (and I!) tick!
Most women are now leading the men and creating relationships that leave women very frustrated. I heard a lady on a show say… I want the old Staley romance man to look after me .. but I want to be independent, proving for myself and not needing a man. Like John said his dad provided for his family and in return his wife rewarded him .. nothing like some old School way of doing things ♥️
I need to watch this 100 times so I can get it all. This is THAT GOOD!!! I needed new material & this is blowing me away, thank you!
Such helpful insights. From now on I will refrain from asking a guy lots of questions and start talking more myself. I also learned the value of speaking my appreciation to a man.
Thank you, John Gray, for this valuable information. You are the best!
And yet I always thought men like to talk about themselves to impress you ! I’m sure I’ve heard him say that too. This is confusing me.
@@Lulu-kt6gr i think he explained it pretty good. if you talk more you open up for him to get into you and not vice versa. Opening up is feminine and entering is masculine. If you dont talk he has to open up and its against the male side. On the other hand you try to enter him wich is not feminine. The other way round it makes much more sense. The women opens up for the man to get it. Easy as that. Also keep in mind if the man needs to talk all the time because you dont talk he feels you are not interested.
Great video #Michelle...John Gray says, "Don't let the man talk...women should talk More." But if we are dating, how do we get to know the man, if they don't talk. I enjoy when men are chatty and good conversationalists.
Great question. This confused me as well. Men are drawn to women who use Feminine energy and use Feminine Energy Communications, so this question confused me too.
Absolutely. I want to learn about who I'm getting to know.
I totally agree. I like to let the man talk, you learn so much about who he ACTUALLY is. I never feel like men are listening to me anyways 😂.
22:00 appreciation without punishment; disapproval, crimisicism, withholding sex and positive emotions 24:00 32:00 if you need him, he needs you.
I love this, especially the explanation of why we sometimes attract the wrong type of men- because we didn't have role models for men who could be trusted. Thanks for taking the time to give such detailed advice, John. And great questions, Michelle!
I divorced 1999, not of my own choosing. Finally after 22 years I got the courage to date again. And John Gray’s advice is making my new relationship magical!
Yes when you trust in your divine masculine your man will show up to the degree that you trust the divine. It all starts in your imagination.
I had the same problem, my father was not a good role model so for this reason i have been attracting the wrong guy. But starting today 10 april 2022 I will do my best to recover and choose the best guy😌
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He needs to do a video on getting past the second honeymoon stage of dating. Most don't make it past that
The description of highly successful woman's superior emotion, lack of needs, is so true. Hard to find man to fit, to respect, in the traditional way. Love isnt everything, but if it is right, that's good luck.
I can’t thank you enough for your videos with Dr Johan Gray. They are a treasure ❤
This reminds me of the book- How to Win Friends and Influence People. In the book the author talks about Rule Number One: Don't Criticize Condemn, or Complain. When you do you'll only force the other person to defend their ego; this will make them shut down and not be open to what you have to say.
i love this, this puts my mind at peace and ease for some reason.
When trying to get his attention in a playful way, he gets mad and feels that I am been controlling or he feels bothered...so confusing when I just thought I was acting in a loving way. Still married to this guy, and his strong character has made me feel rejected and resentful. 😐
Girl call it quits. Life is too short. He pushes you away, he might be getting it from somewhere else. I would say, stay up to date with STD testing.
I've been independent & in my masculine energy for ages. It wasn't until my 70-pound air conditioner broke, and I could not carry it to the curb that I began a process of weakening into my feminine. But I still tried to fight that. I had asked the building super to please carry it out, but he would not. It wasn't part of his job so I had to stare at that air conditioner on my floor for months. I even tried to dismantle it with a screw driver so I could carry it out piece by piece, but the screws were stripped. I began to weep. I then wept for other situations where I couldn't come to my own rescue. I finally felt the need for a man's help.
It's called a dolly
@@doreenlane2370 It wouldn't have worked. Air conditioner was too heavy to even lift onto a dolly.
THIS is what men are to women: Tools. Not humans.
@@Man.Well93Projection. Its the other way round. Men want wife appliances.
Yeah I agree with the doctor and also I'm sure that it makes a man feel like he won't have as much to offer a woman if he's not financially somehow more secure than she is
Dr. Gray, you are looking SO healthy. It makes me so happy to see you looking SO healthy. Thanks for the great content Michelle :)
yeah i agree by 100% with you . never thought about this deeply but ou are absolutely true . also my best friend eve was recently definitely true that most of the men as they're bad in bed should use natural enhancers which are for both genders and they can take it with their darlings
that's pretty clever, that has to be said. actually i can't say i have never tried these natural drops spanish fly :-) yeah great results w my guy
maybe they are "bad in bed" because their women suck, or rather: dont :D
I so appreciate all of this. Have recently read beyond Mars and Venus. Amazing. All that said… I feel so many white male coaches (yes I said it ) are overlooking women being in survival due to a patriarchy that enables and entitles men. A society that still does not value feminine traits…as many are not quantifiable. Just look at the news. Men are hurting and violence is rampant. I also coach and work with women. Many of these paradigms play on women’s codependency/wounds so we will try harder. I understand masculine and feminine very well and until men can honor/value and embody their inner feminine…they will continue to project their misogyny on the outer feminine. I respect both of you immensely and wanted to share the ego consciousness that most of the collective (especially men) are still in does not invite or encourage men to cherish women.
I love the awareness I am getting from listening to this Gentleman. Thank you
This is an awesome interview...there is so much takeaways from his knowledge and wisdom that I could use to better understand myself and people. Absolutely wonderful..and I also love his sense of humor..😂..it really made my day..😂 thank you
Love from right man is what I need.
All your information is so helpful! 80 percent of my happiness!
This was really helpful to watch.
Some of us have been independent for too long that we don't know how to need others.
"You can only him if you need him" resonated
Thank you both for thus wonderful message. I plan to get Dr. Johns Two books. You are making me a better woman.. thank you
OMG MY MIND IS BLOWN.....
I love this video. Thank you Michelle & John.
Genius!!! So simple. Why don't we know this?! LOL. Love this content! So needed.
I've learned so much from Dr Gray in just the few weeks which has helped me so much with my internal dialog as well as with the most important male friend in my life. I will continue to listen Dr Gray because he's an amazingly insightful relationship expert.
Michelle and John, thank you for sharing this wonderful information! I’ve pretty much done “everything wrong” and with this information , I’ll be a better partner next time. ❤️
You have an amazing smile and I agree with you,you should to be the love and peace
Mr. John Gray, I just LOVE, LOVE, LOVE listening to you. Just came across you on TH-cam and I am so-so happy that I did. Thank you for your Time and sharing your Gift.
Thank you John Gray for this important helpful information. 💕
Wo !
I have listened to many of your presentations, but this is by far the very very best one. Thank you for sharing your knowledge to us all.
Thank you for your great advice. You make me think in a different way. You opened my eyes. You make so much sense. Now I have a better sense of understanding a man.
Thank you so much Michelle, I so enjoy your Vlogs with John very much, you are so sweet an genuine, I have watched a few of your videos with John, I enjoy your interactions with each other. My grateful thanks to you both, Blessings to you both on your wonderful humanitarian journey of beautiful relationships.
You are so right John an I do it always for myself an that is my 'being responsible for my own happiness.... I choose to be happy... I feel happy when I am with you because I feel safe, I feel secure, I feel like I have come home, I feel safe,my divine male is not responsible for my happiness I am happy because I feel....... 💜
I've always been attracted to the wrong man. I truly appreciate your advice.
I'm trying to understand how to date men, that I'm not attracted to. If I cringe when I'm with someone, even though he's a nice guy, I can't continue to see him...please help understand this...?
Dont date anyone youre not attracted to! Its going to end up bad for him bc he has false hopes, and bad for you bc of disappointment regret etc. Pls dont do this anymore i did it and never ever again
You both are just so sweet and genuine together! I have learned so much!
I need this so much. You both are great. Please, if you read this Michelle, can you tell John I love him for this beautiful sharing.,🧡
You’ve beautiful voice Michelle. God bless you.
michelle, your channel is a goldmine of valuable information. thank you so so so so much for putting all this content out for free, for inviting these true experts and letting them share their findings. there are so many self proclaimed gurus who push their dating courses, but they're all repackaging the same messages taught here.
e.g. i recently discovered mina irfan, and love her content and energy. but found out that she takes all the teachings from actual researchers and repackages them as her own. one of them is alison armstrong, who you've had on your channel.
John Gray is one of the sweetest man. He is a true giver. I love listening to him and he is fun to listen to. But I must also give credit to this lovely lady MMJ. Such good dialogues!
Great interview!
This is very powerful!
I ordered ur book about this excited to learn this..
So good, so good, so good!!!
I hang onto the belief that their are people that are not so wrapped up in their ego that they understand that their are OTHER people.
gosh John Gray is just awesome. love him so much
I just love listening to you. I just wish more people did. By that I mean the rest of the world😉♥️
That's so sweet! Thanks for watching the channel and for your kind words too! :-)
@@MichelleMarchantJohnson hi Michelle. How do I post to you a personal question/request for a future podcast. Thank you so much
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All women want is LOYAL , KIND ,COMPASSIONATE , TRUSTWORTHY MEN !
but no beer belly, good job, good status, hard yet soft, knows when you want to be lead and when you want to be independent, does the house work, empowers you, takes care of your needs but never makes any demands regarding his, especially sexual.
@@Man.Well93 …..females don’t want / need to be lead . No real man is entitled to sexual wants . Have a great day.
Learning so muchl!
Alot to take in.
Thank you for sharing all this wonderful knowledge
Feel like I have entered a whole new world!
Michelle you are my favorite TH-cam channel. I absolutely love and appreciate all your hard work and content. Thank you!!
Wow, thank you Emily! I appreciate you watching the channel and your kind words too!
This was a fantastic interview! Seriously so much packed into one session. Thank you for sharing this & keeping it up! ❤️❤️❤️
Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching Kendra!
Learning a lot. Thank you so much.
My heart is close!
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Love this talk! Thank you so much! I can agree with what he says at around 8:00!
I needed this message. Will be teaching the things I learned to children
❤Wow thank you so much for your great support ❤
Thank you very much for your great explanations and advice
This is another point of view I never knew
Amazing work. Thank you!!!
I have a question for you I have been dating this man for 5 weeks I'm interested in him. But he talks too much and I don't have the energy to interject to redirect which has been mentioned by Dr Gray because he doesn't shut up please let me know if there's anything I can do other than having to consistently interject it would exhaust me thank you Victoria
Very good. I didn't know these things to this extent.
I didn't think I would Listening to the woman's side of the perspective but I really enjoyed listening to you and your questions to doctor gray and you're perspective on things. What I also would like to know is. What do you use on your skin? Your complexion looks beautiful.
Glad you enjoyed it! Thank you for watching Karol!
Love it Thank you so much ❤️🙏
It’s true that I get really annoyed if I’m upset about something and a man tells me to “relax”.. what to say in that situation?
The proper response is “Make that happen or shut up.”
@@annesmith9181 wow great answer thanks
@@annesmith9181 That's disrespectful. Two wrongs don't make a right.
I would ignore that or I would look at my behavior to see if I am, indeed, overreacting.
How about listening and see what you can do to calm down? The man probably says that because he cares about you. So follow his idea instead of talking back. Pretty simple.
I really like alot of what John is saying, and he's really got alot of wisdom and knowledge . However, although I can see how the positive reinforcement would work at times, I would personally resent the fact that it might mean I as the woman would be the one stuffing down my emotions all of the time, while my husband gets to be slaphappy, irresponsible and inconsiderate, yet then get to feel happy from the high of feeling rewarded too. That doesn't seem balanced to me. Perhaps the woman should practice being both being authentic and also at other times do just positive reinforcement. I would want a man to have enough character to do what's right regardless of how he feels (at least a reasonable amount of time) because I wouldn't respect him otherwise. I also wouldn't feel truly loved if the only reason he was with me was that I never complained. I mean, what would be the point of getting affection & love from him if I didn't feel he love the real me? I wouldn't respect a man who's thinking skills only go as high as a trained dog so to speak.
I do understand we as women can get in the habit of being too emotional and negative if our needs aren't met, so I believe John's advice about positive reinforcement is very valuable in this way, maybe just not all the time.
I have listened to your videos and I learned a lot from it. However, I’m still struggling. I seem to have trouble getting close with others because the lack of trust. I tend to attract people who are not willing to put efforts into me. That’s probably because of the way I interact with them? I’ve always wanted to be cherished cared for , yet I’m also afraid of being one. (Probably kind of like do I deserve to be treated that way?)I often feel depressed whenever I see some women being cherished by their partners. It’s like, I will never have that moment. I’d be appreciated for anyone who could give me some advice. Thank you :(
You can check out R.C blakes channel , theres alot of good content there
I am a 54yrs old. I am agree with John Gray's comments. Women needs love but trust is also important and at this age man has to be successful and provider i.e. equal or stronger than a woman.
My question is what about a man who is sexually weak. How love can be possible?
work on improving your self talk and use affirmations for what you want. Check out Louise L. Hay for some helpful affirmations.
Good for you, Pony Haly for watching this. If you watch it again with a pen and notebook, you will hear the exact answers to your questions. Its a long road but it is worth doing the work on yourself. You are worth it!! Good luck!!
Check out Neville Goddard on TH-cam. Reprogram your subconscious mind and attract what you desire
John you are worth your weight in gold !!
I have a boyfriend and we've been together for almost 2 years. What confuses me is the advice to not let the man talk more than you.
Is this only in the beginning of the relationship or is it supposed to be that way always?
My boyfriend likes to talk so, I'm not sure if that lowers his testosterone. 🤔
Exactly
More at the beginning of the relationship but this is true later on as well. If you let him talk more at the beginning of the relationship it shows you are more interested in him than he is in you. Men should be talking more with their male friends, not with you. I made this mistake and it set up the whole relationship wrong.
@@juliettailor1616 Its the exact opposite, if you dont talk he feels like you are not interested. Less engagement means less interest. If you are interested then you should voice that. If you talk more than him he feels secure about himself and ofc. the interaction with you wich leads to more masculine behaviour.
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John, I thought I knew everything. Thank you.
Making notes the whole time. Thank u
Thank you for sharing this is so perfect for my journey back to femininity xo
Why isn't it good for the woman to be sexually attracted to her partner (at least in the beginning)? Please explain this further!
Yh, I don’t agree with that point! Sorry not sorry, I have to be attracted to the guy to want to be with him
Thx Mr John
2021 🙂
14:00 is my history. Trying to change this through therapy and EMDR.
It's really helpful thank you
I hear you on the cold shoulder. I do because I feel I am not heard/understood.
This is so fascinating. So you can affect the levels of estrogen and testosterone on yourself and the opposite sex by how you regard yourself & them?
But what about the men who aren't interested in providing things you need? I accepted him even though he didn't do anything he promised for months, year after year, but work and watch tv. When you're optimistic but feel totally defeated because he won't do even 15 minutes of weeding the grass for 6 months, what can you do? He goes to work, like I do, but the house is falling to pieces. Though he says he'll take care of various things, it just doesn't happen. It's only gotten worse over 6 years. Lots of positive encouragement and patience has left my soul crushed. What's the solution to that? Is this a man with high estrogen?
I wish someone would answer your great question.
I found that my husband may have had an issue when I was making a lot more than him. We did better when I was making less. Once I graduated and started making a lot of money he started to act different. We are still together. I went PT when the baby was born and it’s been better again, I plan on going Ft when baby gets old enough but I wonder how he will feel.
Sending love & light.
Is he willing to pay for 2 retirement funds?
This is much needed
All of this makes so much sense!
Yet what to do with a ‘desperate’/needy man.
My man always whines that we do not spend enough time together.
I do focus on what he provides and praise him.
He is always needing and wanting more from me.
He is making me happy but it doesn’t feel enough for him.
Honestly his neediness and passive aggression is repelling
So do you Not have more time for him? Some men Look Forward coming home to BE with their mate ~ leaving the rest of life outside, and appreciating, loving, honoring, and relaxing with the Forever One who is sharing their nest with them. My dad was that very man.
ladys most guys just want a women that is easy to get on with and adds something to his life.. that means somebody to be with and do things with and has warm feeling toward him and has respect for him .and women want the same..so there you go ladies look for a man you can respect and can respect you ..icing on the cake is common interest's that over lap by about 50 percent and you have it made.all the rest of the psychoanalysis is just crap ..if your normal and happy you just get on ..if you have to think about it youve got the wrong guy
That's a pretty good summary, esp your last sentence.
I can't force myself to like a man to attempt this process?! Of course if they like you they are going to pursue! But you still can't force yourself to like someone you don't! Very confusing
How do I raise my estrogen? I'm learning to be more feminine but I think I struggle with being hyper independent
I am learning so much
This guy is Amazing
Very happy men
Thank you so much
Thanks for explaining this.estrogen/progesterone/testosterone..for older women exactly my questions if im low in estrogen been alone a long time having higher testosterone how can i get there..into feeling i need. A man. Just ordered beyond mars venus..about this subject..i had a holistic Practitioner balance my chokras years ago amazingl..between my femine/ masculine balance..
Having a man love you can be a bit of a chore. I don't feel lonely and I enjoy what I do does that mean I'm in denial? Seriously I'm older and sometimes I sabotage a relationship because I just don't want it. I'm happy doing what I do and a man wants me to be there for him, I don't want too.
If you don’t want it don’t have it. Yes, because you don’t want it you will sabotage.
it's called egotism and narcissism honey, most women have it.
@@Man.Well93More projection. It's just honesty. Better than being drained by a man you don't actually want to be with.
That's fair enough, but why are you "forcing" yourself into these relationships? Self acceptance is a great thing.
Best video!
So beautiful and helpful
I lated dated good guys who were interested in pleasing me what a difference. In fact they asked me what i liked..and planned it j was happily surprised..i did tell other men i dont do football go with ur friends .i wss speciific on what would make me happy..abd he refused to listen..i let him go!
Thank you..🎉i agree the masculine needs to feel needed by the woman for him not to leave..i think verbally appreciating him...i understand the flight/ fight cortisol..causing.the woman..to using an imperfect time versus all the things he shows by effort..is it possible if cortisol levels are high in women causing this to happen increasing bp levels to rise..i noticed during covid my level of anxiety increased and were high..
? I'm back to dance classes .I ballroom dance some women in the beginning do lead especially when they are teachers it becomes worse..I was teacher..I later danced ballet..when I focus with a beginner man I always dance at his level .j never out dance him. I learned through out my years with the help of a couple men dancers who taught me how to properly follow the lead ..I can't have a weak lead I need a good lead..but the women need to use enough resistance with the man leading..for the dance to have great momentum in moves with accurate timing /..control took many years to perfect.so I can relate to what your saying comparing this to relationship control and yes women have a degree..being conscious/ aware ..can help both men and women .just like we say it takes two to tango..on a dance floor ~
Great subject..I appreciate how you explained this excellent..thank you~
What if you give him 2 3 options on restaurants..events. year after year and every time he will not pick one of them..and takes where he wants to go?
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