Secrets About Men (Women Need To Know)-Dr. John Gray

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  • John Gray of MarsVenus fame Shares Secrets About Men Every Woman Needs To Know (For Women Dating Over 40, Dating Over 50, Dating Over 60) John Gray of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus Fame helps single women understand men and have love, passion and intimacy with a man.
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  • @jefftan8024
    @jefftan8024 3 ปีที่แล้ว +186

    I'm a man here spending 1h 18m to watch entire video for women. What John said is 100% absolutely right about men. For women, learn the info and ideas he shared by heart and apply them to your men. I'll get my gf to watch this video. Thumbs upped and subbed!

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Thank you for watching and for your comments too! Much appreciated!

    • @ladyesha
      @ladyesha 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Love hearing this coming from a man! Its been a journey for me to be vulnerable, chill out a little and be feminine and not always in miss-independant-I-can-do-it-all mode
      And I kept complaining why men are intimidated. All this time it was me blocking the whole damn energy lol

    • @legdaytacos62
      @legdaytacos62 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      We need more men like you. We all need to educate ourselves on healthy relationships.

    • @YogawithAliBeale
      @YogawithAliBeale 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I often times listen to talk for men to help understand them. I think it's great you're here. It will help improve your relationship.

    • @vytran9894
      @vytran9894 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      R’f

  • @imwatching2960
    @imwatching2960 4 ปีที่แล้ว +91

    Honestly this is one of the best interviews with John Gray I have found so far. Thank you so much!

  • @marie4629
    @marie4629 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I had a past experience with a man that several times told me that I was needy. He made me feel uncomfortable and I concluded that I had no right to my needs. Now, I am hearing here is ok to have needs and express it. That makes me cry.
    On the other hand, I had an emotional absent father that never expressed love or gave kisses to me. Perhaps, 10 times in my whole life I approached him and kissed him. But never, the other way around.
    I was 44, when I heard my father told me "I adore you", he told me so after I told him "te quiero", the next day I was leaving to Spain, he was 88 and suffering from Alzheimer.
    I had to wait for so long. That "I adore you" made me very happy that day. Dad was exclusively an excellent provider.

    • @consistentbass
      @consistentbass 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Querida Maritza,
      thank you for sharing. My wife had a similar experience growing up. She leaned towards me for that emotional safety. However, seeing that she had some emotional issues and also some immaturity issues I purposefully distanced myself in order to help her mature and teach her to be more self reliant and independent in hopes to build her confidence. However, in hindsight, because I eventually I was consistently unavailable emotionally, she became distant and the development of that "love" feeling or connection in her consistently wore down until she eventually separated herself from me emotionally and then physically. She later explained she does not need me because I do not provide anything of value to her. She did express she loved me as a friend but no longer as a husband.
      I regret not being more compassionate and emotionally available when she seemed to be "needy." I honestly believed she was trying to be manipulative by expressing emotions that did not seemed logical with the realityof the circumstances. However, I later learned that a woman's emotions are her reality, and despite the differences in perspective she NEEDS to be validated to feel safe.
      I wish I had expressed my love and how much I cared and appreciated her in a way that she understood and could receive it effectively.
      Learning to communicate with the opposite sex and meet each each others needs is so important for any kind of relationship.
      I hope I can learn and grow from my experience and someone else can learn from my mistakes.
      Blessings.

    • @marie4629
      @marie4629 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@consistentbass ❤🙏I am already learning from you. Wishing you a great weekend.

  • @CharmedUnicorn
    @CharmedUnicorn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    It’s crazy. What I’m getting is that you have to ACTUALLY not need men but you have to FIND ways for them to feel needed and present these opportunities to men. Wow.

  • @Silvianamo
    @Silvianamo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    It's so refreshing to hear a conversation where man are men and women are women.
    Thank you.b

  • @joliemiranda5685
    @joliemiranda5685 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    When John speaks, the world listens! Thank you so much John for your untiring effort in sharing your wisdom, thank you so very much Michelle for bringing him on You have such a sweet nature yourself Michelle! God bless you both! 🙏💖

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow, thank you Jolie! Thanks for watching and for your kind comments too!

  • @mushizzle4399
    @mushizzle4399 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Thank you! I had three dads. One absent, one present but alcoholic so absent and the third murdered her and stole my inheritance so this is the best being able to hear a man who embodies everything a man should be and I’m super grateful to you. Not so much to the murderer that everyone has zero to say about it. Even the police. ***Hugs*** 🥳💚

    • @camom474
      @camom474 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Do you think father in the home is important?
      My husband and I both grew up mom not dad.
      Dad not present. Both of us agreed for sake of future children to have both parents, No D-word.
      35 years ago we met, truly it was love 1st sight.
      9 years to figure us out before we married.
      8 years until finally starting family. Babies @ 40
      26 years married with 3 kids ages 12 - 18yrs.
      We are ending our marriage after 10 yrs of bad.
      This video info is painfully realistic how could prevent the years of pain and unhappiness .

  • @youtimeful
    @youtimeful 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    What a great interview! I have been squarely on my male side for over 20 years. I finally I realized I wanted to open myself to love. It has been a process and listening to interviews like are so helpful. It is a process to bring back my female side and to find balance since I do have a job that requires that requires a lot of independence. Looking forward to watching your other videos.

  • @globegalmiami820
    @globegalmiami820 4 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I so appreciate this information shared at an intellectual level rather than via the quick "tips and tricks" approach used by so many other dating coaches and relationship experts. I will remember the 80/20 rule! I will say, however, that it often feels like most of the burden of developing and maintaining a healthy relationship falls on the shoulders of the woman while the man just gets to be "a man'". Seems like women must do most of the intentional work.

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Thanks for watching. The great thing is that we as women get more of our needs met when we know how to invite the best in a man, so I see it as a win win! :-)

    • @patriciagss2024
      @patriciagss2024 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      They are discovering that lots of "warriors" and "hunters" were, in fact, women. I'm rational, my boyfriend"s more sensitive.

    • @margaretahogberg6869
      @margaretahogberg6869 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@MichelleMarchantJohnson u

  • @Jessica-tz3wb
    @Jessica-tz3wb 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    John touches so many crucial points here to better understand man/woman.

  • @DaretoDream814
    @DaretoDream814 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    It's a beautiful thing whenever someone adds to my happiness. I believe that when we expect another to be our happiness we relinquish way to much of our own POWER.
    Thank you for sharing your knowledge on this topic.

  • @marilynmartinezperez9028
    @marilynmartinezperez9028 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Yes John, you are so right! You two complement so well with your explanations... Thank you so much for your time and generosity sharing all your wisdom open to everybody... I love your books and they have helped me a lot understanding myself and men... Blessings for both of you... You are amazing😊🙏🤗

  • @pennyast7096
    @pennyast7096 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    This is very true. I learned and grew as a person, a woman so much from this interview. Thank you so much!

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You're so welcome Penny! Thanks for watching and for your comments too!

  • @devonlovemusic
    @devonlovemusic 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    John literally explained my entire life to me especially with recieving flowers example.

  • @katherine6029
    @katherine6029 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Best tip, how to "train" a man @ 24:34 - use positive reinforcement!

  • @lisamclaren4588
    @lisamclaren4588 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Yes! Very informational! I'm grateful! You two have great personalities and cover a large areas. I'll watch every chance I get! Thank you two so much! Lisa

  • @jewel6612
    @jewel6612 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I learned so many things from this interview. Thank you, Michelle and Mr. Gray!👍🏻💗😁

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks so much for watching and for your comments too June!

  • @katrinabuccieri9307
    @katrinabuccieri9307 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Jg is such a genius! & Michelle is beautiful! Love, love ,love these videos !

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much!! We appreciate you watching and your comment too!

  • @sweetangel4761
    @sweetangel4761 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Amazing ❤️❤️❤️ Michelle you are such a sincere person! You make me feel trust you. Your tone of voice. Thank you 🙏🏻

  • @robynmichelle6182
    @robynmichelle6182 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    John Grey has made a huge impact on my total life, and living more authenticly in my life as a woman in my 50s, and starting out, maintaining, and growing in a relationship with a really good guy. I'll keep listening. Thanks Michelle, for getting John on and answering questions!

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks so much for watching and for your comment too! Glad you are enjoying the interviews with John!

  • @junebrezgis1652
    @junebrezgis1652 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is the best video I have watched. I have learned so much

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching and for your comments too June!

  • @yvonne1602
    @yvonne1602 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I agree with John, Michelle is a great, kind interviewer and really brings out the best in John Gray. Thank you for this 🙏

  • @donnamontanarella2403
    @donnamontanarella2403 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is a very thought provoking and insightful video. This has really increased my understanding and has made me eager to learn more. I am glad I found this video! I enjoyed Dr Gray very much. He explains things very well and is easy for me to listen to.

  • @lynncarter4964
    @lynncarter4964 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    It's unfortunate that men don't know their relationship is extremely important to them until it's gone. And I find that men don't deal with the loss as well as women do. I guess because they don't know how to process the emotions of loss.

  • @rendaw79
    @rendaw79 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have been independent for so long that while these things all make sense, it is gonna be a learning experience to get back to this point. It is hard for me to lean on other people, especially men. But I know it will all be worth it. I have just recently started seeing a new man, I will work on these things. Thanks!

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You're not alone! Many women feel this way! Good luck to you Lorenda and thank you so much for watching!

  • @corrinesmith876
    @corrinesmith876 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have enjoyed all that I have heard today . Learned a lot . Thanks for having John on . 😊

  • @galexynotprovided9945
    @galexynotprovided9945 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Thank you for this content. I highly appreciate you.

  • @chadwickdavis1749
    @chadwickdavis1749 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    You are correct mr Grey, men don’t care about how much women make or their status, as a man told me once... if a woman cooks more and wears less then she will keep him forever

  • @ipsitasen9569
    @ipsitasen9569 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    That was so amazing...so many new things I got to learn from this video❤❤...I will try to apply them in my relationships including friendships. I never knew how I was part of the problems.

  • @jenniferspisak
    @jenniferspisak 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This was so informative and enjoyable to watch! The intro was a little long but well worth the wait 💞👍🏼

  • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
    @MichelleMarchantJohnson  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Get John Gray's complimentary relationship course here: www.marsvenus.com/
    & FREE 10 Secrets About Men (Every Woman Needs To Know) HERE: whatrealmenwant.com/

  • @johannalacson3363
    @johannalacson3363 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    John, I really like this vedio. I'm so grateful to you for sharing it with all of us. More power to you!

  • @embel20
    @embel20 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love this!!! Super insightful!! ❤

  • @lizweibrecht331
    @lizweibrecht331 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Thank you Michelle, I love John (and you too)! Great tips and explanations on relationships. I especially like the male perspective, it was great to hear how to help with "training" and being excited to set your guy up for success.

  • @lenkaslintakova3536
    @lenkaslintakova3536 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    What a great, informative video. Such a great help on my way to happiness x

  • @prettyyu315
    @prettyyu315 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    precious! thank you John and Michelle! i will subscribe and take the course

  • @vanessacarroll2468
    @vanessacarroll2468 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Oh my goodness...yes! I’ve been attracted to the wrong men time after time and all most repelled by the “nice” guy. It wasn’t until Dr Gray mentioned childhood wounds can cause this that I realized the truth. My Dad was unfortunately a violent alcoholic and my parents had a terrible relationship towards the end. It all makes sense now, thank you 🙏

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      thanks for watching and for sharing your comments too Vanessa!

    • @Alphacentauri819
      @Alphacentauri819 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Do you know your attachment style? I would guess fearful avoidant..as the childhood you mention leads to that attachment style.
      I’m healing from that. I had different dynamics, but definitely early childhood chaos and uncertainty.
      The Personal Development School is life changing! She has a TH-cam channel too, and I’ve experienced more healing and hope, through finding out things about myself, and how to heal!
      We develop core wounds, through subconscious programming, conditioning, that happens..and as a result we take those narratives on. We tend to have negative internal dialogues that reflect those core wounds. We often attract people who reaffirm, and reflect, those core wounds back. Until we do the deep work, we often miss it.
      What feels “familiar” we often mistake for chemistry, or it feeling right. Often it’s only our nervous system lighting up, saying in essence, “I recognize that” “I know that”...and erroneously thinks that’s what we want.
      When we aren’t taught any different, we don’t know how to get the love, cherishing we deeply want...we go back to what we think we deserve. Often it’s very subconscious.
      You can learn to reparent yourself. It sounds weird, but it’s a legit concept :)
      I’m working on it, and healing.
      I wish you healing, peace, joy, and connectedness to yourself and others 💫💛

  • @Caroll_kerner
    @Caroll_kerner 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is so valuable. Thank you xx

  • @gabrielamartinyuk9894
    @gabrielamartinyuk9894 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Being independent means I don’t depend on a man to feel worth it. I don’t know why women brag that they don’t need a man. They’re lying. We need one another in a way that God intended us to need each other when he created us.

    • @Alphacentauri819
      @Alphacentauri819 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      He explained why women say they don’t need a man. It’s because of hurt, being profoundly let down, being betrayed by men, when they needed them.
      Many who have been cheated on, left with the children, and had to do school, work, make all the finances work..had to learn to NOT need a man. It’s out of that deep wounding, survival, that a woman determines that.
      It’s similar to many men who say they are going their own way & don’t want or need women...like MGTOW... they deeply want it...but it’s like what John said here, the Aesop’s fable about the Fox, trying to get the grapes, he couldn’t get them, so proclaimed “I didn’t want them anyways”
      It’s because of deep disappointment and the pain a person is trying to avoid, that they deny things.
      Attachment theory goes into it more.
      I feel deep compassion for people in hay space.
      Remember, we judge that which we fear or don’t understand.

  • @danilaroche1156
    @danilaroche1156 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    We are not animals. The Bible says we are created in God's image. Love you John! Love you Michelle!

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I agree Dani and I think John really meant we have some similar instincts as animals, even though that is not quite how he said it! :-)

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@MichelleMarchantJohnson Thank you. Your content has certainly helped me. I'm over 50 and used to be ignorant about men. Now... I may be getting married to a fantastic man. Pray for our marriage! Love you!

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@danilaroche1156 That is wonderful news to hear! I pray things will go beautifully for you! Thanks for watching and for your kind words too! xo

  • @aries7176
    @aries7176 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Is it OK to be there for a man (doing, rather than receiving) if he is in an emotional crisis?

  • @naviifra2374
    @naviifra2374 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Its interesting about finding a guy that you are not sexually attracted to. It makes so much sense.

  • @Sara-pw1dx
    @Sara-pw1dx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    John, you hit something right on the head for me. A man who talks too much and won't listen, but ignores a women, I find very irritating and can't stand being around. An old friend married such a man, and I can't visit them.

  • @beej86
    @beej86 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I really enjoyed this interview with John Gray! John is right too Michelle. You have a great interview style. Thank you for this content!

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks so much for watching and for your kind words too! I'm glad you enjoyed it!

  • @milagrodominguez1408
    @milagrodominguez1408 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks. Michelle and John Gray. For this important tips. About understand better men.

  • @gailcampbell9585
    @gailcampbell9585 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I Love You John Gray! You are soooooo Smart... Thank you♥️

  • @jangrabofsky9035
    @jangrabofsky9035 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    A lot of wonderful insight! Thank you two very much

  • @outbackgypsy7140
    @outbackgypsy7140 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You're still a Gem. Love it

  • @LAUREL5784
    @LAUREL5784 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It's a LOVE FEST with stellar learning!! THANK YOU Michelle and John!

  • @BeccaL2016
    @BeccaL2016 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I wish parents and school would teach people these

  • @shaktiliaom
    @shaktiliaom 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great interview and insights! Thank you!!!

  • @jeanwilliamson9662
    @jeanwilliamson9662 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank yoou Michelle. Thank you Dr John. This is so good! So grateful for the teaching.

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Glad you enjoyed it! thanks for watching and for leaving a comment too Jean!

  • @charlottenrgaard7942
    @charlottenrgaard7942 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    So what does a woman do if she does not have support and safety in her life that makes her feel all that female energy to put out?

  • @bambie1386
    @bambie1386 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you John, this is excellent. Michelle you always look so beautiful.

  • @ALMAENCASA
    @ALMAENCASA 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The best 9 years of meditation and self observation ..ever invested .
    Wow
    Wish all did that!
    Probably we women would just need 3😆

  • @t_law1163
    @t_law1163 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So pretty much do women have to do all the work to change. Are there any videos where me get some advice on how to relate to women? Or is just make more money and then the women do all the psychological work?

  • @daisycardona2910
    @daisycardona2910 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi, thank you for your expert findings.

  • @TrueSugar
    @TrueSugar 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The wisdom in these videos

  • @elizsanz3972
    @elizsanz3972 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    wheren are those men with the skills that know how to love us?

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      John has entire books and a body of work to teach men, but this channel is for women. Thanks for watching Eliz!

  • @corichang
    @corichang 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much, John. Your TH-cam videos blow my mind! May Gods/Universe bless you 😇🥰🙏

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for watching and for your comments too Cori!

    • @corichang
      @corichang 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@MichelleMarchantJohnson Thank you for collaborating with Dr Gray to bring forth these empowering teachings to us all. May Gods bring you and your family safety, health and happiness😇🙏🥳

  • @graceijeomageorge7250
    @graceijeomageorge7250 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    There's this man that I believe is a great guy and God sent, he has encouraged me soooo much in my career, but the issue here is I have not met him physically. As for being nice and good, he is really a husband material. But I don't know him, and I've not seen him in person. I on the other side does not know how to express my gratitude to someone whom I've not met in person.

    • @habesha2021
      @habesha2021 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Show and speak your appreciation for it. And also acknowledge your appreciation for anything you else even if it's off the topic...it's the same vibration and it will be revealed to you. Check out Abraham Hicks.

    • @habesha2021
      @habesha2021 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    • @Alphacentauri819
      @Alphacentauri819 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Verbally!!
      I appreciate verbal gratitude above all else.
      What is your love language? What is theirs?
      Do they want a relationship?

  • @TheMonicagal
    @TheMonicagal 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is a fantastic and thorough interview!💓

  • @kam.kam.
    @kam.kam. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I saw the thumbnail like... this is not John Gray.. so I clicked thinking maybe he’s in the live video... took me a minute to catch my sense. 🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @Stella-ro8oz
    @Stella-ro8oz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You mean to tell me I will either never be sexually turned on by a partner or never truly loved? (I’m the kind with the issue of being attracted to the kinds that don’t love me/aren’t available)

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      That's not my interpretation of what John said. He just means if you have a pattern of overemphasizing chemistry you have to be careful because chemistry does not necessarily indicate compatibility.

    • @Alphacentauri819
      @Alphacentauri819 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      If we are attracted to people who don’t love us, aren’t available... that gives us important information about how we treat ourselves and that we have deep core wounds that need healing.
      I too attracted mostly dismissive avoidant men (and also in friendships).
      I’m a healing fearful avoidant. This was revolutionary to me. Identifying the “why” and how to change it has changed my life.
      When we have trauma or neglect in childhood, our nervous systems are “trained”...they light up when we see something familiar, healthy or not.
      The Personal Development School TH-cam channel helped me more than any other therapist!
      I have a long ways to go, but am reprogramming my subconscious patterns, and changing my narratives...feeling more empowered than before.
      Not ready to date, at all. I’m just healing relationship to my self.
      Two books that might help too are ‘Come as you are’ and ‘Having Sex, wanting intimacy: why women settle for one sided relationships’. They also changed my life, views.
      I wish you well 💫

  • @viciousscorpio22
    @viciousscorpio22 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I love the advice John gives

  • @Kmahersh01
    @Kmahersh01 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What do I do if I’m not a big talker, I’m a better listener? Sometimes I just don’t have much to say. Will this always cause men to lose attraction to me and put me in the friend zone?

  • @mafegalve620
    @mafegalve620 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hello there, this is great! How to be when your boyfriend is going through a rough patch ( Covid drama , loss of job, family and health issues )..how can I make him feel like a man again?

    • @mafegalve620
      @mafegalve620 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Dan bacon?

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Let him know you believe in him and his ability to work things out, be happy yourself and give him positive feedback to encourage the positive things he does. Men have a need to feel competent. Thanks for watching and take care.

  • @laurahardman8069
    @laurahardman8069 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ❤️ so helpful! Thank you!

  • @hoiliswu6070
    @hoiliswu6070 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much love advice

  • @victoriashorey1655
    @victoriashorey1655 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    What should I do if he complains I’m too needy? He says he loves me, he says and acts like he’s sexually attracted. I’m quite feminine and comfortable allowing him to provide and do things for me because it does make me feel loved, but now he complains I’m needy, too emotional, and now he’s angry because he’s overworked.

    • @carieyounginsurance
      @carieyounginsurance 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Go take a trip- put space between you - this is not attractive to a man- give him the space to be a man with the boys..go dancing with your girls! Do feminine things

    • @Alphacentauri819
      @Alphacentauri819 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Look into attachment styles. Dismissive avoidant people label needs as “needy” often. Has to do with when they were children, their needs were often dismissed, ignored. What we didn’t receive, we don’t give (or at least not well, at all).
      The Personal Development School has great info on attachment styles and relationships.
      Hope you can find the validation, acceptance and love for yourself...and then you’ll attract others who will reflect that back.
      Blessings 💫

  • @nicageye1819
    @nicageye1819 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for this video

  • @CoolKidOx
    @CoolKidOx ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Find ways to make men feel needed

  • @hoiliswu6070
    @hoiliswu6070 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Men and women strong deeper language love together with the everlasting love

  • @DELIVERANCE-TODAY
    @DELIVERANCE-TODAY 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Actually, if my love language is not 'gifts,' bringing me flowers will do nothing for me, high estrogen or not.

    • @legdaytacos62
      @legdaytacos62 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It was just an example of doing something sweet for your partner.
      My main love language is WOA and my last act of service but I will still be able to appreciate it

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks for watching. Bringing flowers was just an example and many women are moved into the feminine by the beauty and the smell of flowers even if receiving gifts is not their love language.

    • @Miswhitness0520
      @Miswhitness0520 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So you’re saying you wouldn’t appreciate flowers from your man? Lame...

  • @h.a.nicola-heather-anne1426
    @h.a.nicola-heather-anne1426 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I hung on every word 👌🏾👏🏾 thank you both SO MUCH

  • @tiffanywoods4759
    @tiffanywoods4759 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you, John.

  • @hoiliswu6070
    @hoiliswu6070 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for sharing yes Women all the rime positive mind

  • @clairefoxall2313
    @clairefoxall2313 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This was amazing 🙏 thank you so much for all this info John & Michelle 😁

  • @lizibarra794
    @lizibarra794 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    What a gift is to learn this about relationships 🤗🌸🙏🏻🌺

  • @MadinaVadache
    @MadinaVadache 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Fantastic info thank you for helping the world to be better place ❤️

  • @nassimesalame1267
    @nassimesalame1267 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I like your books so much but as doctor myself can’t watch such long videos while it is really interesting to see😒(no time in break) can we have some shorter formats?! Thanks

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      There are many, many shorter clips on my channel Nassime. Some people like the full interview and then we also do clips. Take care!

  • @carulys
    @carulys 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    So much wisdom 🤍🙏🏼

  • @dianasurlee673
    @dianasurlee673 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Curious, does anyone know if you need to read the original book before reading the newer Beyond? Just wondering where to start, this is all very fascinating. Thanks!

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Hi Diana and thanks for watching! Reading the original book would be a great place to start and I would suggest you read that first. Take care!

  • @graceijeomageorge7250
    @graceijeomageorge7250 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    When can a woman know she is in a relationship with a man? Is it when they meet face to face? Or is it when the relationship is in a ghost stage? I really would like to know. In other words how can a woman be involved deeply and truthfully in an invisible relationship?

    • @jenniezhang4383
      @jenniezhang4383 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      just ask

    • @Shineldove
      @Shineldove 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      When he asks you to be his girlfriend or tells you he wants you to be his girlfriend

    • @dellchica2373
      @dellchica2373 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      He proposes

    • @Alphacentauri819
      @Alphacentauri819 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      An “invisible relationship” isn’t a relationship,
      Too often women will assume a relationship exists, where one doesn’t.
      You have to ask. State your needs, boundaries, clearly and empowered. Either he can respond, or not! If it matches what you’re looking for, fine...if not, move on.
      Communication is imperative in relationships. If you don’t even have that door accessed...there’s no way anything else can happen.

  • @cj7girl280
    @cj7girl280 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    How and when do I say I'm a traditional Catholic woman and it's important to me to wait for sex until marriage...

    • @JM-yf5rt
      @JM-yf5rt 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I am a traditional woman of faith, too, and am waiting for marriage, too. Here is to keeping hope alive that God will give us the right man who respects this standard and if he has it also for his own life; that is even better. 🙏🙏🙏

    • @cj7girl280
      @cj7girl280 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@JM-yf5rt Amen my sister in Christ! 🙏🙏🙏

  • @jamesjacobs3675
    @jamesjacobs3675 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    JG needs to fix his hair. I loved the Mars Venus chapter “The Quickie.” It kept us together!

    • @jamesjacobs3675
      @jamesjacobs3675 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      So many women don’t understand that sexual accessibility equals sexual relationship balance.

    • @lilyinthevalley8107
      @lilyinthevalley8107 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Didn't know sex is that important to men tbh

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Glad his book helped you James. Thanks for watching.

    • @Alphacentauri819
      @Alphacentauri819 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jamesjacobs3675 too many men don’t realize that emotional intelligence, and availability...= greater interest (and pleasure) in sex for a woman.

    • @Alphacentauri819
      @Alphacentauri819 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jamesjacobs3675 maybe ‘come as you are’ would be a great next book. The best book on female sexuality (and the men who have read it, said they had no idea...minds blown), I’ve read...and I’ve been in medicine for decades.

  • @TinaShay
    @TinaShay 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    He has a Facebook Live? Woohoo!

  • @gangadevi1559
    @gangadevi1559 ปีที่แล้ว

    It's sad that when I feel my vulnerability and put my needs across nicely and my needs gets pushed away often times. I mean Im just asking to spend some quality time together . ..how to trust men if these have always been the kind of men ive dated in my past... Still im asking and giving them plenty of opportunities to make me happy .. but im fed up and feel shitty. Yes i feel lonely but there comes a point when it feels like better to be alone than to have my worth trampled upon.

  • @morganalexis6147
    @morganalexis6147 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Omg so strange lately I've been so depleted in my relationships and I've felt ashamed of having need or presenting them or needing help at all. It's put me into a space that I don't like at all, and I feel not like a woman. I've met someone and I've wanted him to close the gap so desperately 1.)Because what I see from him moves me very much, but 2.) I know I'm at my best being taken care of by a man and I know my levels will balance as well receiving his love for a long time. I feel I'm going back and forth inside from wanting to manipulate and also sort of giving up on him too! He moves slow. I know he sees me valuable bc of this. But I have such a need for a man in my life right now! In real ways. My body is changing, it's becoming less soft, my thoughts are getting awful about myself, I'm sick often, my hair falls out a lot from stress and lack of perceived love. I don't know how to present myself to him in the real possibility that he'll come close the gap a bit more. I'm at my best surrounded by love and protected by it

  • @abart2056
    @abart2056 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have a question about a married man pursuing a single woman. I have been recently approached by an old boyfriend who was becoming abusive 40 years ago! He has now found me and wants to have an affair and I've done nothing to encourage it. You say if you don't trust a man he'll leave and this dude won't. Why do some men always seem to "want and pursue" someone that doesn't want, need or even like them not to mention, he's married!

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks for watching Annette. From my perspective, the more important question than why a man would do this is for you to ask yourself what is right and best for you to do in this situation. You then make your decisions based on what is wise for you rather than based on what he is doing. Thanks for watching and good luck too.

    • @Alphacentauri819
      @Alphacentauri819 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wounding. They are wounded, unhealthy. A man has to get the message as well.
      Have you been forthright about your boundaries... iex , something like, “you are married, I don’t want to be with you.”
      “You were abusive, it’s not safe to be with you”
      “Leave me alone” .
      Then block him.
      You allow other, or you don’t. Most of the time.
      If you’ve given confusing feedback, a man doesn’t get the message.
      Own your message, advocate for you. Demand better for yourself.
      If you had childhood trauma or neglect, that’s a huge factor. Attachment theory explains this. You can heal.

  • @cathyandresiak1975
    @cathyandresiak1975 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I know very many women who have low estrogen, menopause, and they are sensitive and loving, i dont know about this whole estrogen thing!!

    • @rondag3569
      @rondag3569 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You must not have heard him say it's natural for older women to have less estrogen, but they still have enough to experience normal health loving emotions

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Our hormones can cause all kinds of crazy tricks on us yet John does say women in menopause, etc. can still have loving relationships. Thanks for watching Cathy!

  • @sahim1507
    @sahim1507 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Merci beaucoup à vous 2 pour ces conseils inestimables et tellement utiles. Je vais mettre toit cela en pratique et je ne doute pas d'impact que ces conseils sur ma relation de couple et avec les autres en général. Thanks from Belgium

  • @restore91
    @restore91 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you

  • @jeanettekniebusch9812
    @jeanettekniebusch9812 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My husband wouldnt do that hed be like why didnt you do it anrily shout and if reallybunlikely if he does amything he will do it in anger.

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      That sounds painful Jeannette. I hope things improve in your relationship. Thanks for watching.

    • @Alphacentauri819
      @Alphacentauri819 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sounds very toxic and unloving.
      I hope you can speak with a therapist who can help you.
      The Personal Development School is a great channel and Therapy in a Nutshell, for the meanwhile.
      You deserve kindness, love and acceptance...starting with relationship to self.

  • @coricori7428
    @coricori7428 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    all others say dont need him why they say do self love

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for watching and for your comment too Cori! Self love if definitely important!

  • @sweetangel4761
    @sweetangel4761 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What was some of the things he shared to increase estrogen?

    • @MichelleMarchantJohnson
      @MichelleMarchantJohnson  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      John's books go in great detail on this. There is also info on his website too!

  • @EnlivenWellness
    @EnlivenWellness ปีที่แล้ว

    I must be an oddity as a woman. ADIDAS 😂

  • @melanieholstra4397
    @melanieholstra4397 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    So when trust is broken should you just leave? I didn't trust my husband based on his actions. What then?

    • @Alphacentauri819
      @Alphacentauri819 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Maybe The Personal Development School can help?
      She has a TH-cam channel. I found out my attachment style and why I attracted the people I do.
      It helps with communication, and SO much more. It’s changed my life.
      At least you’ll have tools to state your needs and boundaries, advocate for yourself.
      Also, there are other great resources for betrayed spouses. That topic specifically.
      I hope you experience healing and peace

  • @sweetangel4761
    @sweetangel4761 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    He shares with his heart !