My Sincere Advice for Women | Junaid Akram
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I cannot stress this enough that financial freedom is our women's ultimate salvation.
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My nana was a “munshi” he made all of her daughters strong, one of my khala is commisioner, one retired as DO education my mother and other khala are also govt employees, and my mother on her own gave me life that I could’ve never imagined. KUDOS to my nana and all the strong women out there ❤️
Exactly the story here with us bro! My nana who lived a life on certain principles and values who is a retired educator from government believed in women empowerment and financial freedom. All eight of my aunts did higher studies from top Pakistani unis back in the 90s and today we the current generation have become global with our work to education and everything. The younger aunts are phds serving as full professors in unis while my mum is also a full professor at local uni! Junaid bahi talked so to the point that all other issues and itty bittes became irrelevant. Everyone should esp the girls go for financial freedom thats when they will escape the deja vu living at sakht husbands mercy!
Pura khandan hi choro ka ha
@@AbdullahKhan-fn3mw❤❤
@@AbdullahKhan-fn3mw itna parna nae ata Chota kerke bata na bhai. Bara important lag raga hai
I hope all your aunts found compatible men too.
Me and my husband decided everything beforehand. We decided the core principles of our relationship, the financial responsibilities and discussed individual dreams and aspirations. It is very helpful. Alhamdulillah
How did u?
@@bint-e-hawa7031 by talking to each other
That's the thing boy and girl ko before shaadi Saab decide krna chahiye
@@maahintahir7917 can we talk I mean I want to know how u did it
Thank you for this comment
I wish my family had more men in it like you. I've had to fight for independence every single step of the way. People made me feel crazy and 'called me "besharam" and "nafarmaan" for wanting to pursue higher education, working, living and being independent. I was told I should act like women "should" and accept our roles in life. I stuck to my instinct, and fought for my rights....but man, it would have been so much easier on my life if I had support.
So sad...bt why they have problem with higher education and being independent
You are a great person and you can still achieve good. Do Freelancing .... Higher education does groom you but our universities are not that good so you better learn skills and do Freelancing and become financially solvent like many.
Aunty ap is admi ke ghar hi chali jain apni deni keliye. Apnay shohar ko tou dena pasand nahi apko
@@anshumanjaiswal133 because its considered to be "immoral" to be independent. I agree, it's sad.
@@abdulmoeed8671 yeah fortunately I am not in Pakistak anymore.
This is so true! I am blessed with a father with the same mentality. He gave me an option to have a big fat wedding or use the same money to finish higher education abroad, get independent and later finance my wedding myself which I did. Trust me financial independence is the best thing that can happen to you! 💯💯💯
True.
Or else if your prince charming turns out to be a selfish bastard, he will literally take you to the point of begging for grocery and household expense, forget your own pocket money, eid shopping, etc.
@@fozyk1099 so true, I’ve seen so many women suffer mental or even physical abuse just to keep a roof over their head because they’re not financially stable enough to stand on their own feet and no one else will take a stand for them.
You are in us
Does age gap work in relationship?
@@minakhan
Confidence is everything. If your parents dont inculcate confidence in you, even if you're doctor, you cant do anything.
Hence, we see an overwhelming number of female doctors in Pakistan leaving practice after getting married. Many get into medical just because it increases their 'demand' during rishta search. They have no intention of practicing.
OH MY GOD THIS Was MUCH NEEDED! I already knew these things but for someone to reiterate and remind me is like a breadth of fresh air. It makes me feel like a normal person with normal thoughts and not someone who is made to feel alienated and less-than to think this way.
Breath*
I just opened this video Infront of my dad and after listening for 7 minutes he was like kia dekh rai ho ye . What you said in this video is my mother's everyday routine.. too good dude keep on going ✨
Esa hi hta hy yar maa bap interest hi nae lyty
Dad felt it.... Same main bhi abba k samne lagai hui 😂
Hahaha ya dad be scratching his head all that time cuz you made him uncomfortable towards the kind of social construction we part all part off!
You need to stand up for your mom. Like dude come on. Help her she your mom not a 20000 monthly maid. Stand for her. Make her happy
And i was thinking send this link to my dad
totally agree...i always used to think that why parents specially fathers don't let their daughters to be independent...they think it's against their male chauvinism..my father doesn't allow me to go outside...
i have done private graduate & somehow a diploma course from an international islamic institute in khi...
but as u said:roz choti maut marna...
i felt like kia faida aisi zindagi ka jiska maqsad srf khana bnana ho aur srf shadi ka intezar krte raho k koi ayega tab hamari life change hogi...
but thanks to Allah,during corona,i got offer from my neighbors to teach their kids Quran lesson...started from a kid & now i m teaching 6 students,Alhamdulillah...
i feel satisfied at night when i m on my bed that atleast i delivered something & did something that gives me happiness & satisfaction...
i m financially independent as well,Alhamdulillah...
i agree to each & every word of u...
Start teaching Quran online as well. You can post on expats fb group to get students as your English is good.
Good luck girl.
Never give up.
Bhai ye ganja waise to faltu ka gyan dega or dusro ko gali dene me sbse aage hoga lekin khud whi glti krta h ye eg
Ye pak chod ke london rehta h or pak me kmaya hua paisa ke tax whi deta h
Bhot bda chor h ye bhai jb iske upar shadi aayegi to ye aise krega isse bs logo ko gali dena or kosna aata h
@@namankhetwal2894
Chalo ji, jese hi kisi larki ko independent hote dekha nahi, andar ki insecurity jag gayi.
Junaid lakho main tax pay karta hai FBR ko. Ap se tu ziada hi karta ho ga. Aur bahar jane ya rehne main kia burayi hai? Pakistan ki economy chal hi overseas Pakistanio ke bheje hoye paiso se hai. Hamare PM aur governor state bank ne khud is bat ko accept aur appreciate kia hai.
@@fozyk1099 abe bhai tu to aise bolra jaise uska tax tu hi pay krke aata hoga .. Acha ye bta tuje khud dekha usse tax pay krte hue to kaise bola skta h tu or pakistani economy un pakistaniyo ki wajah se chlri h jo bhar job krke paisa kmate h fir pak me bhejte h iski tarah ni jo pak me kamao or london me kharcho
This is literally a Sadqa-e-Jaria. People of Pakistan need to give women their rights and importance they deserve. Any society is cripple without their women standig by their side shoulder to shoulder. Allah aap ko jaza de junaid bhai
Giving birth to children, raising them, feeding them, teaching them manners and discipline and moral values and also their school syllabus. A newborn baby needs atleast 5 years of a mother's 24HOURS attention and father's love and hugs. you are saying that on all of this, a woman should work and earn?? The husband salary will have no BARKAT if it's not spent on children and wife. That will ultimately be used on useless things and wasted. Allah likes women at home not outside. Shaytan remains with women till they out of their homes. Husband looks respectable when fulfils the needs of their children and wife. Women should get education but not to earn but to teach their children. And they can earn if they are free from all the responsibilities of children and children are grown up. Bcoz Allah loves when the children he has blessed to both parents, are loved and thoroughly looked after.
@@myrachannel Aap ki soch bilkul meri ammi wali hai. Ab wo zamana nahi raha Sir k jab akela mard ghar chala sakay, mehngai ka daur hai. 21 century hai, ab larkiyan samajhdar ho gai hain, apne peron pe khari hoti hain ab parh likh k apna kamati hain. Larki taleem bartan manjhnay k liye nahi apni taraki k lye hasil krti hai takay koi mard usy kamzor na ssamjhay. Achi tarbiat aur education dene k liye maa ka parha likha hona zaruri nahi. Meri an parh maa ne mujhe 5th class tak behtareen parhaya. Aur jahan tak baat shaitan ki hai tou shaitan aurat k sath nahi mard k sath laga hota hai jo us ko rape kr deta hai. Aurat ko rape bhi kya aur qasoor war bhi usy thehraya. Apni soch darust karay.
@@muhammaduzair2923 bhai ye log 1960 main hi rehte rahenge inko chor de
@@muhammaduzair2923 yaar go get some wisdom and understand human nature before becoming a professor in yt comments. what zamana. who influenced it and made the standard of home dynamics and work schedules in todays age? love how the West has made capitalism the standard for the whole world and we saw a gora man giving us something and took it as the gold standard.
smfh.
@@samiihaq i live in the US. AND ITS SCARY WHAT THESE NEW DYNAMICS ARE LEADING TO.
even western men are scared. yet everything happening in the west is the gold standard for ppl like u.
i wouldve rather lived in the 60s instead of today.
Well done! You are raising an issue that should be done 30/40 years ago. Please raise awareness about 1st cousin marriages & chances of child disabilities
Chances are very low and if someone is having an issue in the family then they should not marry in the family, it's as simple as that.
@@userYtf Well technically chances are too low to none. It happends when cousins marry for seven generations.
@@arslandlion why take the chance if one can avoid it? A disable child is misery for the poor child & parents for entire life.
@@userYtf to pakistan mein cases sbse zyda kyu hai wo bta do
Yarr ednan bhai woh baat Sae hai lekin cousin wali baat Sae nae hai mein after rubana se bohat muhabbat kerta huin. Pakistan ho ya Alabama.
Excellent advice. Alhamdulillah blessed to have parents who made me self sufficient
👍
Then can we talk Arooj
junaid bhai, seriously What you say is true, my sister was just divorced by her husband for no apparent reason, and she was completely devastated when she received the divorce papers. I pray to Allah to bestow her sabr. 😢
Mn shaadi karna chahta hu apko hamsheeera k sath 🙂
ALLAH sabar dy
Ever inquired what your sister had done wrong?
I am sorry to hear this my friend, wish her and the entire family a lot of strength
I am sorry to hear this my friend, wish her and the entire family a lot of strength
My sisters alhamdulillah are even more stable than me and I swear I have never filled any uni/college/school form in my life. Because I had huge 4 years gap in my education they were the ones who did it for me. And it was almost impossible for me to pick up school again after 4 years gap they were the ones who helped me every step of the way. Thanks so much Junaid bhai for thought provoking video.
:)
❤️❤️❤️❤️
Try to get bachelors from open university.
@@prabhattiwary6095 oh I am way past bachelors now alhamdulillah. I work with company in California and I really appreciate your suggestion it would've been really useful.
Bhai ye ganja waise to faltu ka gyan dega or dusro ko gali dene me sbse aage hoga lekin khud whi glti krta h ye eg
Ye pak chod ke london rehta h or pak me kmaya hua paisa ke tax whi deta h
Bhot bda chor h ye bhai jb iske upar shadi aayegi to ye aise krega isse bs logo ko gali dena or kosna aata h
100 percent on point.
Zabardast Episode Junaid Bhai!
Papa muje software engineering kra re the.. Beech me me ne socha muj se ni ho ga me chor ri hun.. Ek semester skip kra dia.. Mgr ab ahista ahista ehsas ho ra he.. Apna University poora kr k hi shadi krungi
Chalyn time pr realise ho gya.larki ka khd strong hna must hy
Good girl
Por n star best rhega
@@bharatkapoor4062 yes female star apki behen hu
Hit ho gha
@@bharatkapoor4062 wo to tmhari aurtain banti hn
Literally he said my heart out.
Couldn’t be any more on point 🙌🏻
I can't emphasis on this most important topic . You are a true gem junaid bahi . A women is only strong when she is financially independent. Keep doing good work like this . Jazakallah.
This is the ganjiswag we subscribed to. Welcome back Junaid!
This is what I'm going to show this to my future wife. I've saved this. ThankYou Junaid bhai
Also share with your sisters as well
Be so nice to ur future wife that u dont have to show this to her and she doesn’t have to work
Loved how you conveyed all of this. This is much needed❤️
Financial stability is actual power of a woman. No relation can be symbolised as her power. Financial independence is truly a blessing ⭐️.
I watched this video few months ago when I was unemployed and it hit me to the core. Now I am going to pursue a salaried PhD this fall. I hope it’ll help me with the wedding part as well.
Thank you for this video and your advice. 👍🏻
@@Evaisgalaxy It’s not unislamic. However, Pakistani culture is very misogynistic so men sell patriarchal version of Islam to subdue women.
Islam is flexible and beautiful.
Proud of you girl ❤
The expenses incurred by the wife are the responsibility of the husband. If a husband does not give money to his wife, then this is wrong in the society as well as in the islamic society. This is wrong to say that a woman should work and earn her living by working somewhere.
And in this way, a woman will continue to earn all her life and her husband will not give her expenses, so this is not right either, because this is also a sign of oppression. Husband's job was to give money to his wife, you should say that husband must fulfil the needs of his women ,if he does not then she has an option to marry a man who will pay for her expenses.
And on the other side there will be many such women who are illiterate and skill less, and unable to earn for many reasons because it is very difficult to find a job for a boy ,who has to become a earning hand for his family,so you should go for this option, which is to tell them that it is a man's job to bear the woman's expenses.
Bhai I used to respect you a lot already, but today you have won my heart. Every word you uttered is absolutely true. We are extremely proud to have a person like you in our country 👍❤️❤️❤️
Bilkul Bhai Amazing baatain ki hain dil se guzarti hain
Bhai I have one element of gesture from a man and I've learned from my father watching him all my life that when he used to get a salary he used to give it all to my dadi and when she passed away my father start giving his whole salary to my mother and always ask her to give him some daily expanses and never asked my mother for a hisaab kitaab, that's the best freedom for every housewife
Exactly.!.! Junaid Akram won’t address this point because then he will actually loose support from women
@@Kwm-519 yoo. Tf dude. People like you I’m paksitan are just walking L. Makes me sick. Like y’all on smoke.
@@Saifei757 lame comment - and I don’t live in Pakistan anymore and which is why from my international exposure i can speak from my experience
@@Kwm-519 He is not talking about those men okay. What's wrong with you guys? He said that not all men are like that but there is a very high percentage of men about whom he mentioned in this video. So please try to understand his point rather than commenting on every other post. Thanks
@@farwanqv once again - which is why I gave a better solution to deal with those men who exploit if you actually (for once) keep your feelings aside, step inside the real world and listen to a proper advice rather than Junaid Akram
Great topic. Thank you for spread awareness about this subject. May Allah guide us all.
specifically for financial dimension, you are right, but it might be oversimplification of marital issues. two person in a relationship where you have to share almost every sphere of your life is a complicated undertaking, other than financial issues.
Thank u sir, I m so glad that u raised such an important issues. I will not quit my financial independence after marriage for sure.
Haan Aqsa mein sahi keh raha hon kashif ko ghar jamai bana lo zingadi set ho jayi gi. App kam kerna Aur kashif barten manjay ga
@@Saifei757 chal bhai tu ne bol lya ab shat hoja..Aqsa ap sb choren shadi ka mood hai tou btayen.
@@saqibali6998 bhai uska kashif de check chal raha hai. Yar rooz rickshaw mein chorne jata hai aqsa ko
@@Saifei757 haha
Giving birth to children, raising them, feeding them, teaching them manners and discipline and moral values and also their school syllabus. A newborn baby needs atleast 5 years of a mother's 24HOURS attention and father's love and hugs. you are saying that on all of this, a woman should work and earn?? The husband salary will have no BARKAT if it's not spent on children and wife. That will ultimately be used on useless things and wasted. Allah likes women at home not outside. Shaytan remains with women till they out of their homes. Husband looks respectable when fulfils the needs of their children and wife. Women should get education but not to earn but to teach their children. And they can earn if they are free from all the responsibilities of children and children are grown up. Bcoz Allah loves when the children he has blessed to both parents, are loved and thoroughly looked after.
Soo happy that someone finally spoke about it and that freely and smartly I pray it implies
Thank you for spreading it.
Ufff is one of the best pieces of advice by Junaid Akram. Braaauuuu I am amazed to see it finally after a long time.
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO...I AM FROM TORONTO, I LEARNED THIS IN Y LIFE AND I WAS ALWAYS ON THIS TRACK THAT WOMAN SHOULD WORK AND HAVE THEIR OWN FINANCIAL FREEDOM. I NEVER STOPPED WORKING.I HAD DIVORCE THAT HELPED..ALL WOAMN SHOULD WATCH AND LISTEN THIS VIDEO...
Thank you so much. It was a much needed reminder an eye opener tbh. JazakAllah
I wish I had watched this video before marriage but still it gave me motivation to do something and I’ll definitely do something.
Aisi bat nahi krte.Allah se madad mangen or home based work kren
1. Marriage + Motherhood = The way you were created to live and be happy
2. Dependence on your father or husband brings peace and love that you can't get from dependence on an employer and anti-depressants.
3. Fornication destroys you.
4. Raising the next generation well is what defines your mark on the world.
Is your marriage hard to live with?
So What you have started
I wish every man in this nation have a soch like you . GOD BLESS YOU
Im doing a job and getting married soon.. before, i was thinking of leaving the job after marriage that there is no need of job after marriage.. but your video opened my eyes.. my job is my power.. in this home too, im supporting my father alhamdulillah.. nd i feel proud.. thank u so much for mentoring me.. Allah bless u💖💖
Sooooo true, its absolutely right. Financial independence can bring in blessings not only for yourself but for your entire family especially if you have kids.
Excellent! We need such videos to educate our younger generation. 👍
Finally someone said that.. I strongly agree with you.. Financial freedom is the key 🎉
Right but pk people won't wwnt this, narrow minded huty hy
Our society needs more content like this ❣
This is THE MOST influential video I have seen to date. Not only just bashing out at the system but also giving the practical solutions with proper genuine justification. Great work man👍
You are a positive soul!! Stay blessed and happy 😇
Great message as always💯
Appreciated!👏🏼
This was much needed.. totally appreciate you Junaid Akram! Kudos!
Keep doing the GREAT JOB!!
Bhai ye ganja waise to faltu ka gyan dega or dusro ko gali dene me sbse aage hoga lekin khud whi glti krta h ye eg
Ye pak chod ke london rehta h or pak me kmaya hua paisa ke tax whi deta h
Bhot bda chor h ye bhai jb iske upar shadi baayegi to ye aise krega isse bs logo ko gali dena or kosna aata h
Giving birth to children, raising them, feeding them, teaching them manners and discipline and moral values and also their school syllabus. A newborn baby needs atleast 5 years of a mother's 24HOURS attention and father's love and hugs. you are saying that on all of this, a woman should work and earn?? The husband salary will have no BARKAT if it's not spent on children and wife. That will ultimately be used on useless things and wasted. Allah likes women at home not outside. Shaytan remains with women till they out of their homes. Husband looks respectable when fulfils the needs of their children and wife. Women should get education but not to earn but to teach their children. And they can earn if they are free from all the responsibilities of children and children are grown up. Bcoz Allah loves when the children he has blessed to both parents, are loved and thoroughly looked after.
@@myrachannel lot of shit you have to flush from your head .. Guy you make me feel islam as men biased
This man Change my life , God bless you
Totally agree! Very important and sensitive issue that u have addressed very thoughtfully. May this guidance will save many lives and convert into happy marriages.This is really best sadqa e Jariyah.
I really appreciate this video. Education and financial freedom is really important for women especially prior to marriage.
Thank you for supporting women and giving such a great advice! Financial independence and financial management should be taught to all daughters, this is more necessary than learning how to cook
Financial independence in third world country like Pakistan is fools dream.... in order to become financial independent you have to have resources to count on..means either became super power and grab/ usurp all resources or dictate other small nations in possession of such resources by controlling their core leadership and political elites...we know,who in today’s world are doing such acts...one thing for sure it definitely isn’t Pakistan ...so be in your reality,and don’t pretend to be first world Zionist netizen by coining hipsters term like” financial independent for Pakistani women”coz in reality it is recipe for disaster for infra limited downtrodden economy of Pakistan...so sincere advise for all ladies knocking on door of adulthood...be a homemaker rather than career oriented broad coz it will put Pakistan in to irreversible shamble rather than a superpower (as it suggest fakely by copy/pasting a first world Zionist nation who do it for increasing its tax net)...
Then who will cook? Your are over exaggerating.
@@khalifa2080 cooking is a basic thing. EVERY HUMAN NEEDS TO LEARN IT. Period!
To understand the liberal secularist and feminist project in the Muslim world, one needs to revisit the British colonization of Egypt.
Everlyn Baring, better known as Lord Cromer, was the British Proconsul-General in occupied Egypt between 1877 and 1907. He wrote about his tenure in his book "Modern Egypt" (1916). Here are some conclusions from his book:
1. The West will not tolerate an Islamic government.
On page 565, he said that it would be "absurd" to assume that Europe would tolerate a "government based on purely Mohammedan principles and obsolete Oriental ideas."
2. Muslims must be forced to adopt the principles of Western civilization.
On page 538, he said that Egypt had to be "forced into imbibing the true spirit of Western civilization."
3. Westernization must be introduced under the guise of women's rights.
Lord Cromer says that the "position of women" in Muslim countries was a "fatal obstacle" in the introduction of colonial values. (page 539)
4. The West must educate a class of young secular Muslims to be the rulers.
Cromer's hope was that a Europeanized education system would cause an Egyptian to "lose his Islamism", cause him to "no longer believe that he is always in the presence of his Creator", and only hang onto "the least worthy portions of his nominal religion" for the sake of convenience. (page 230)
5. The West must reform Islam.
Cromer says that the goal should be to create "de-moslemized Moslems", where people are Muslims-by-name, but in actuality, are "agnostic". After all, Cromer says, "Islam cannot be reformed ... reformed Islam is Islam no longer." (pages 228-229)
6. The Muslim reformer would hate Muslim scholarship more than Europeans do.
The Westernized Muslim would consider the `alim to be a "social derelict", use him in matters of convenience, but otherwise disrespect him. On the other hand, a European Christian intellectual would at least look at the `alim with sympathy and respect, as a "representative of an ancient faith". (page 299-30)
7. Modernized Muslims will become Deists.
"It is conceivable that, as time goes on, the Moslems will develop a religion, possibly a pure Deism, which will not be altogether the Islamism of the past and of the present, and which will cast aside much of the teaching of Mohammed, but which will establish a moral code sufficient to hold society together by bonds other than those of unalloyed self-interest." (page 234)
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We can see therefore that Islamic reform started as a colonial project. A project that has been devilishly designed by European intellectuals to undermine the clerics, introduce secular humanist institutions, and gradually and inconspicuously lead Muslims away from the central tenets of their tradition. They knew that this reformed, liberal Muslim would not be a Muslim at all, but just a Europeanized invertebrate (i.e. a spineless being) who would maneuver the religion to his needs.
This seven-step process is exactly what is happening to Muslim youth in the West. They volunteer themselves to Western academia and pop culture, and are led away from a truly Islamic worldview and epistemology. And while they fool themselves into calling themselves "Muslim reformers", or "Muslim feminists", or "moderate Muslims", or "liberal Muslims", their puppet masters know that these are all contradictions in terms.
Times change, but right remains right, and wrong remains wrong.
The Truth
1. Marriage + Motherhood = The way you were created to live and be happy
2. Dependence on your father or husband brings peace and love that you can't get from dependence on an employer and anti-depressants.
3. Fornication destroys you.
4. Raising the next generation well is what defines your mark on the world.
1. Marriage + Motherhood = The way you were created to live and be happy
2. Dependence on your father or husband brings peace and love that you can't get from dependence on an employer and anti-depressants.
3. Fornication destroys you.
4. Raising the next generation well is what defines your mark on the world.
Sirf ap eik assay youtuber hain jo bilkul such tasveer dikhatay hain society ki.. apko buhut knowledge hai choti choti batain aur chezain hain that needs to be addressed in polite and funny manner..keep up the great effort u r doing..
That's so true Junaid bhai. My mindset had always been like this and after watching you I'm much more motivated.
It’s very disappointing to see that even in 2021, women are still living in “feelings based world” rather than reality based world and the guys like him (just for likes / followers) play with your feelings and you start believing them without researching whether he is an expert on this topic or not.
He is trying to give you a very temporary solution. If you follow JA’s advise, it will create issues in your life at a level which you can’t even imagine.
Yes get your degree, make sure you have a backup plan in case you get married to someone who doesn’t support you or become abusive.
However - give the primary responsibility of financial management to your husband otherwise he will become lazy. For everything, he will say “you have a degree or job etc why don’t you earn yourself”.
As this behaviour continues, your relationship will become weak in the longer run because you will eventually loose connection.
At the same time - also learn some self discipline and restraint that husband won’t be able to fulfill every wish. So sabr is important as well
Sharm Ani chahiye tmhy
Excuse me first of all it's my life so when u don't know the other side of a person's experience you should keep quiet. Everybody's mindset is different. You've been living on a ash on dad cash life but not me. I know what financial dependency feels like this is what I've been suffering since childhood that's why i prefer financial independence. So it's an individual choice what to do. And by the way how you know that my husband will go lazy and say these things to me ? Are you a najoomi? And what's this illogical concept that IF IN CASE YOUR HUSBAND DOESN'T SUPPORT AND HE IS ABUSIVE? Then only I should utilize my degree and work. Hazrat Khadija had been a business woman throughout her life even after marriage do you think that prophet PBUH didn't provided her enough? The problem with people like you is they can't see women's being financially independent. And I've been listening Junaid since he started I know he talks sense and the most important thing is I'm following my plans not others.
Excuse me first of all it's my life so when u don't know the other side of a person's experience you should keep quiet. Everybody's mindset is different. You've been living on a ash on dad cash life but not me. I know what financial dependency feels like this is what I've been suffering since childhood that's why i prefer financial independence. So it's an individual choice what to do. And by the way how you know that my husband will go lazy and say these things to me ? Are you a najoomi? And what's this illogical concept that IF IN CASE YOUR HUSBAND DOESN'T SUPPORT AND HE IS ABUSIVE? Then only I should utilize my degree and work. Hazrat Khadija had been a business woman throughout her life even after marriage do you think that prophet PBUH didn't provided her enough? The problem with people like you is they can't see women's being financially independent. And I've been listening Junaid since he started I know he talks sense and the most important thing is I'm following my plans not others.
@@Ibrarkhan-rf3qk Kash tmhre maa baap ko ajati tw aj tm jaise log duniya mein hi na aye hote
I would recommend married couple or to be married couple to please read these 2 books. They tell you all about relationship and how to carry your marriage life. These books are totally a blessing. I wish these type of books were compulsory to read before getting married. Must be many more like these but these 2 r must.
Junaid Sir please read these books and then convert that knowledge into your videos. It'll help a lot of people cuz very few people read books nowadays.
1. "Women's are from Venus , Men's are from Mars" by John Gray.
2. "How to get what you want and want what you have" by John Gray.
Insted of suggesting books, you just tell them to keep their parents away from their matters. Everything will go well automatically.
Best book to read holy quran and follow Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) teachings. unfortunately these days we don't follow all these and look for such books
@@_plastikman Allah who sent quran and prophet muhammad also gave us humans the intellect to search for information ourselves. Quran is a starting point, after that humans have to do their own research and flourish in life🙄
@@uwu-ku6ly Quran and Sunnah are a complete guide on how male and female need to live their lives.. this world would have been a much better place if people lived their lives according to Quran and Sunnah.. but no.. where men and women were made to be each other's partners and had different roles to play in order to build a sound family and society, they instead started to compete with eachother and ruined everything
@@waytoguidance Indeed quran is complete guide but as the world progressed, theres so many things we cant gget direct guidance from quran for that we have to do our own research in the light of quranic teachings.
Agreed to your opinions. However, working women in Pakistan go through more difficulties than hosewives as our Pakistani men don't help them in household. So these ladies have increased work (office + house)
No. You just grow up in a bad family
Its worth the trouble coz its way better than begging your selfish husband for groceries and household expenses every month.
Don't even think about your own pocket money, eid shopping, etc.
@@fozyk1099 damn who hurt you
@@Saifei757
Seen such examples in my family.
@@fozyk1099 move out bro. For good
Thank you Junaid bhai. Everyone needs to listen to this video.
Literally, you are correct! I totally agree with you.
My father having same view and i quit job when i convinced my first child due to medical issues and I again join software house remotely after two years at that time my second child ( daughter was two months old ) and still working from home ( remotely job IT job ) and MashahAllah husband is supporting now start ma sub ne shor machaya tha but my parents motivated me alot ( Allah Salamt rakhay parents ko ) aur when I done engineering my father motivated me alot to do job :) ( at that time my phopies like le assaan Keri kuri di tankhaaa ( salary ) khani ae wiyaaaa ker de ada ) my father never replied her but also never listened to her 😜
Nicely put forward Junaid. 👍🏻
Giving birth to children, raising them, feeding them, teaching them manners and discipline and moral values and also their school syllabus. A newborn baby needs atleast 5 years of a mother's 24HOURS attention and father's love and hugs. you are saying that on all of this, a woman should work and earn?? The husband salary will have no BARKAT if it's not spent on children and wife. That will ultimately be used on useless things and wasted. Allah likes women at home not outside. Shaytan remains with women till they out of their homes. Husband looks respectable when fulfils the needs of their children and wife. Women should get education but not to earn but to teach their children. And they can earn if they are free from all the responsibilities of children and children are grown up. Bcoz Allah loves when the children he has blessed to both parents, are loved and thoroughly looked after.
Orange Shot, I watch your content its so great and informative.
Orange shots family.
@@myrachannel dear buddy. I’m not saying that at all. But if required we should give women some space. That’s all I’m saying.
@@manomti7014 Thanks a lot my dear.
well said..👏its reality of our society..Allah sbke liye bhtreen kre..
Hats Off junaid... Literally bhai dil jeet liya, khush raho
Thank you so much Sir for your efforts. Allah bless you and your family and team.
Giving birth to children, raising them, feeding them, teaching them manners and discipline and moral values and also their school syllabus. A newborn baby needs atleast 5 years of a mother's 24HOURS attention and father's love and hugs. you are saying that on all of this, a woman should work and earn?? The husband salary will have no BARKAT if it's not spent on children and wife. That will ultimately be used on useless things and wasted. Allah likes women at home not outside. Shaytan remains with women till they out of their homes. Husband looks respectable when fulfils the needs of their children and wife. Women should get education but not to earn but to teach their children. And they can earn if they are free from all the responsibilities of children and children are grown up. Bcoz Allah loves when the children he has blessed to both parents, are loved and thoroughly looked after.
Superb man superb👏🏼. Our society needs more men like you.
Basic thing
We are blessed that in this era we have Junaid Akram kind of person who highlight and talk about these sensitive issue openly.. wish that every person must think root cause of our society for being so depressed and unhappy.. Thank you Sir 👍
Thank you SO much for this video! Financial freedom is vital for everyone irrespective of gender too, but especially women. Please never compromise on it
Shukriya Junaid Bhai mujhy iska intezar tha
great work junaid bhai... fan of ur content
Much needed these type of podcast, really appreciate your content. Amazing video 👍
Well said ! Thank you.
No word's to appreciate your advice great sir please upload like this video more
Thank You Junaid Bhai, I Needed To See This 💗
Thankyouuu junaid bhai. this was needed👍🏼
Much appreciated! 👏
Very true
You really depicted the true picture of our society
I also started earning from home one year ago and the situation is different from what it was before
100% agree junaid bhae. My mom is just suffering because she has no financial stability. She is dependent.
serious topic and very well explained, thank you
Thank you soo much for the Video!!
Love you Junaid Bhai
You are the only who used to talk on these issues and specially this issue is very important.
We are more into showoff instead of facing realities and do which really meaningful, Junaid bahi there is other side as well when woman become financial dependent than they starting think why have to care about their husband. So I think maturity level, patients and respect is only thing can take this relation through
True man. There are all types of women in the society, he is talking about a specific group. Financial independence na do toh chances are wives get oppressed, and agar dedo toh chances are the start oppressing and blackmailing the husband to leave with the children. Haven't we all heard of women who want to have children asap after marriage so that they could control the husband, imagine giving the financial freedom too to the same women, aag lagadey gee.
Women/Wives should be given financial power but should also be taught to be responsible with that power and use it to raise a good family and that is where the tarbiat comes.
Balance is the key to all the solve all the problems...for men & women both
@Junaid Akram thank you for sharing such content. These are extremely needed decisions.
I love how you just worded my thoughts I love that you are talking about it I really appreciate it
He exactly think like me .Girls need to be goal oriented as compare to ishq oriented.We need to pay our bills bcz this is known as real independence.Jb Allah pak ny independent born kiya we have to be independent in real meaning.💯
1. Marriage + Motherhood = The way you were created to live and be happy
2. Dependence on your father or husband brings peace and love that you can't get from dependence on an employer and anti-depressants.
3. Fornication destroys you.
4. Raising the next generation well is what defines your mark on the world.
Great job junaid bhai, love you. ❤
Excellent approach, very well said... Agreed 100%
Great video! All points were spot on. Thanks for your amazing work GangiSwag.
I usually don't comment on TH-cam videos but I have to take a moment here and appreciate you for this crucial and well-informative topic. Women's financial freedom impacts generations to come because it gives them the ability to take leadership in not just housework, but also in the finances. If you want happy relationships in society, you have got to give women the full right of managing financials. Don't EVER trade your career/education for temporary biased promises because marriage is not for living each day in suffering, rather, it is to live with mutual understanding. Both partners take equal and fore responsibility of their lives.
I am in India and I am clapping on all that you are saying!!
Very well said Junaid bhai
Bohat valid points diye hain apny
This must be discussed in families. To secure next gen future. may Allah bless you Ameen
You are a gem ❤️
May Allah bless you
Hats off to you sir ❤️
Reality based Content kamal ♥️
Very important topic and good advice....
Much needed topic
My wife is highly educated. I'm a businessman and we have accepted to live within our means and it's more than enough Alhamdulillah
I handle the financial side of things by handling my business and she handles the home making/chores etc
There is no competition between us couples, She asks me before making a decision I also consult her
Alhamdulillah for such an understanding wife life can't get better
MashAllah
No everyone is like you two.
Although it's difficult but the balance between a husband and wife's rights is still maintainable by strictly remaining within the Islamic Jurisprudence.
We are living in 21st century and it's contemporary requirement to educate our women. If they volunterily want to do a job, we shouldn't stop them, keeping in mind that Nan-Nafqa or household's expenses are totally the responsibility of husband. A husband ought to hand over the expenses of households to his wife at the start of every month.
If a wife is professionally qualified working lady, a husband shouldn't exploit this situation by sitting idle at home, feed on and run the households on his wife's income. If a wife happily contributes a portion of her income for the maintenance of the households well and good, but a husband can't force her to do so.
Parents should strictly do the evaluation of bride and bridegroom's personality, character and education and religious background before establishing a relationship.
AWESOME VIDEO.
THANKS JUNAID!as always ur the best.
Loved this video!!!! thankyou for saying all this loud!
Completely agree on this. Everything I am today is because my father believed that is daughters should be educated and financially free. I financially independent woman helps her parents and husband in so many ways.
Giving birth to children, raising them, feeding them, teaching them manners and discipline and moral values and also their school syllabus. A newborn baby needs atleast 5 years of a mother's 24HOURS attention and father's love and hugs. you are saying that on all of this, a woman should work and earn?? The husband salary will have no BARKAT if it's not spent on children and wife. That will ultimately be used on useless things and wasted. Allah likes women at home not outside. Shaytan remains with women till they out of their homes. Husband looks respectable when fulfils the needs of their children and wife. Women should get education but not to earn but to teach their children. And they can earn if they are free from all the responsibilities of children and children are grown up. Bcoz Allah loves when the children he has blessed to both parents, are loved and thoroughly looked after.
and her kids in probably zero ways
I hate over the top subcontinental weddings so much. You could literally use those lakhs or crores you just spent on this extravagance for your future. Go on a trip, invest it for your children's education, your business or give it to charity. Literally any option is better than feeding moti aunties who just come to complain and put taweez in the wedding gifts.
Ground realities! Very good talk😊
WELL SAID SIR! ALLAHUMMA BARIK!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I just became the father of a baby girl Alhamdulillah and I'm sure going to make her independant. Even my wife is working right now Alhamdulillah. Agree with you that girls should prepare themselves for the coming future that is now an easy time to survive.
Very well said junaid bhai this is the reality, or khush rehaty hai wo couple jo aik dosray pay dependent nhi hotay😊 or whoever disagree with this usko phir islam ki theek taleem nahi mili ya phir wo zindagi ka matlab abhi smjha hi nahi. (1500 saal pahlay walay mahool ki misaal daini hai to hath say mobile choro or janglo main lakriya kato jakar,TH-cam pay apka koi kaam nahi.
I agree with you, bro!!!
Can’t agree enough!