Body language, the power is in the palm of your hands | Allan Pease | TEDxMacquarieUniversity

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    Allan Pease is an Honorary Professor of Psychology at ULIM International University, who researches and studies selling relationships and human communication. He teaches simple, field-tested skills and techniques that get results. And he delivers his message in a humorous way, which motivates people to want to use. Allan's own experience and record in the field of selling, motivating and training is equalled by few others. He is a born achiever, starting his career at the age of 10. Globally known as "Mr Body Language", his programs are used by businesses and governments to teach powerful relationship skills. His messages are relevant to any area of life that involves winning people over and getting them to like you, co-operate, follow you or say 'yes'.
    For more information on Allan Pease, click on the link below:
    / allanandbarbarapease
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  • @Pikopati
    @Pikopati 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4526

    This is a good talk.
    He talked 0% about himself and 100% about the subject.

    • @harisbbbbaaa
      @harisbbbbaaa 7 ปีที่แล้ว +64

      Pikopati covert dominance is much more powerful than overt

    • @taylorrandolph9996
      @taylorrandolph9996 6 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      I think that it is situational there are instances where being covert has the upper hand; however there is often a need to be obvious or to show the intention of being dominant.

    • @MinhNguyen-xu5yr
      @MinhNguyen-xu5yr 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      He is very popular, kid.

    • @ravindrakhutarkar6231
      @ravindrakhutarkar6231 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      cut.

    • @MK-nd2ij
      @MK-nd2ij 6 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      I was thinking the same, I just watched and I still don't know anything about him, even his name!

  • @linasuperdina994
    @linasuperdina994 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1409

    I looked at my teachers after this. and jfc it's so true. The teachers no one listens to are palms down, the strict ones are the finger pointers, the ones everyone likes and sit quiet and listen to are palms up. My world image is changed

    • @SivaramakrishnanSivakumar
      @SivaramakrishnanSivakumar 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +linasuperdina LOL yeah ....

    • @calebt5765
      @calebt5765 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      +linasuperdina If you found this information on body language fascinating.. there's much more out there, Check out this Facebook page that includes articles, video links, books, etc...vvv
      facebook.com/learnaboutbodylanguage/

    • @frostcrackle2374
      @frostcrackle2374 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +linasuperdina OMG YES NO WONDER I LOVED MY 9TH GRADE HISTORY TEACHER SO MUCH! SHE USED PALM UP!!

    • @demoswx68
      @demoswx68 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Daniel Kalinichenko so no one listened to her?

    • @canaldaleticia2057
      @canaldaleticia2057 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Daniel Kalinichenko i

  • @rotiwokeman
    @rotiwokeman 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1403

    I like how he ends his talk with something along the lines of "I just got you employed, promoted, and laid all at the same time."
    Edit: Sheesh. That's a bunch of likes.

    • @hsojtkd2419
      @hsojtkd2419 7 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      I love his face at the end ! 😂😂

    • @Cheesesalad
      @Cheesesalad 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      HAHA right

    • @floriansteens7746
      @floriansteens7746 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      BRO IM DEAD

    • @KevinWatzke
      @KevinWatzke 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      ikr? CX

    • @blsdava1
      @blsdava1 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Bradley Stone 👌🏽🤣

  • @hatemkhrouf8955
    @hatemkhrouf8955 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1109

    Simple yet very effective , I love learning stuff like this .

    • @TransformationalLeadership162
      @TransformationalLeadership162 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      agree

    • @roblikes8435
      @roblikes8435 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      +Korewakore Sorewasore Yes i know right it's awesome. I also agree.

    • @nefelibata4190
      @nefelibata4190 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      yeah and u are probably one of those people who are not born with resting bitch face so everything comes to u easy, no matter how hard I try some things I just never seem to get to where I want

    • @Timesplitter-qq5wr
      @Timesplitter-qq5wr 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Korewakore Sorewasore 0

    • @optionjewelries
      @optionjewelries 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Korewakore Sorewasore hi

  • @rodrigozamo
    @rodrigozamo 6 ปีที่แล้ว +380

    I'm a real estate agent. Today I was showing a property and I noticed I even walk around with my hands in my pockets. Every time I noticed it I took them out but had no idea what to do with them. Now I know. I practiced some of these hand gestures and even with the palms up I felt confident, friendly, likeable and my adrenaline level is out of the roof now. I want to go tomorrow and sell a house and close that deal!

  • @angelalopez7704
    @angelalopez7704 8 ปีที่แล้ว +632

    I actually tried this today with my difficult supervisor. I am a letter carrier and she NEVER wants to give me overtime, even though my route earns it. Tuesdays are ad days... I dread them because I know she will deny the overtime help. So today, when she came around to my case, I put my palms up and said in a question tone, "an hour?" she said OKAY!!!!!!! wth? I can't believe it worked!

    • @angelalopez7704
      @angelalopez7704 7 ปีที่แล้ว +131

      Just an update to say that I've continued using this method, and it's still working! In fact, I've taught some of my coworkers how to do it! And now THEY are getting results! Yay!

    • @mspixiedust100
      @mspixiedust100 7 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      +Angela Lopez wow, that's awesome

    • @angelalopez9570
      @angelalopez9570 7 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      Today i felt like learning more about body language, I'm starting a creative project and I asked to the universe for a sign. I ended watching the conference, and immediately I read your comment. My name is Angela Lopez Mena. I just laughed out so loud. For these messages that make life so wonderfull. Love + lighth.

    • @tmckinz9166
      @tmckinz9166 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      mspixiedust100

    • @Kiwinnit
      @Kiwinnit 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Awesome! :D

  • @taylor-sanchez
    @taylor-sanchez ปีที่แล้ว +10

    “Body language is an outward reflection of your emotional condition.” That makes so much sense.

  • @charles910
    @charles910 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2817

    OMG, I am a palms down person. No wonder I can't get my brother and sister to do anything. Next time I'll slap them with my palm up.

    • @iSugarHeart
      @iSugarHeart 8 ปีที่แล้ว +80

      charles910 Man ! You're a fast learner =DD

    • @SnakesRaven
      @SnakesRaven 8 ปีที่แล้ว +84

      charles910 lol. Be sure to strangle them with a confident grip too :D

    • @Alaina420ful
      @Alaina420ful 8 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      +charles910 Let me know if it has been working for you.

    • @silvahsurfah
      @silvahsurfah 8 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      +charles910 LOL

    • @calebt5765
      @calebt5765 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      +charles910 maybe this page will help with deeper information on body language as a whole. Verbal & Non-Verbal.
      facebook.com/learnaboutbodylanguage/

  • @Qopa
    @Qopa 9 ปีที่แล้ว +841

    10:21 that guy with the black shirt on the right is really having so much fun right now

    • @Prhyme22
      @Prhyme22 9 ปีที่แล้ว +121

      Dude, how did you notice that?
      Lol.
      I think he's dead.

    • @TeddyMadison
      @TeddyMadison 9 ปีที่แล้ว +161

      lol, he jumped out at me too. I mentally gave him a dialog "You will be the first to die when the Reich returns to power!:.

    • @davespark10
      @davespark10 9 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      Ohhhhh you said the guy in the black shirt... The whole time I was looking for a black guy... My mistake.... Lol

    • @leomajordomo100
      @leomajordomo100 9 ปีที่แล้ว +73

      Notice his hands too. He has them folded, which suggests he's closed off to what the lecturer is saying

    • @gingfreecss3467
      @gingfreecss3467 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      David Mendoza this happened to me too

  • @makemyday1477
    @makemyday1477 8 ปีที่แล้ว +887

    The Romans knew this years ago, that's why Italians talk with their hands.

    • @laviniagiovagnoni2456
      @laviniagiovagnoni2456 7 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      Chuck Pope I'm italian and it's true..we comunicate a lot with our body.

    • @hyperionseptimus87
      @hyperionseptimus87 7 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Puerto Ricans do it too. It's fucking annoying.

    • @lotariovergamota6984
      @lotariovergamota6984 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Cos you are an stiff anglo.

    • @SL-pg4dh
      @SL-pg4dh 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Nigerians too. Im Nigeria and we talk very demonstratively.

    • @thisismyname8627
      @thisismyname8627 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Sooooooo i can speak in Italian if i use over-excessive hand motions?

  • @itsnotthesamething
    @itsnotthesamething 8 ปีที่แล้ว +720

    I am extremely shy, so, after watching a video last night, about facing the person you are talking to head on, and looking them in the eye, I did so this evening, with a girl who would hardly talk to me before. I think it went well. I'm going to keep watching these kinds of videos, and I am going to put into practice, the things I learn. I am tired of feeling like the outsider, but I see that I was sending all the wrong messages, with my body language.

    • @jagoisvara8178
      @jagoisvara8178 8 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Good luck bro

    • @itsnotthesamething
      @itsnotthesamething 8 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      Jago īśvara Thanks, but I am a sis.

    • @maxharlan2565
      @maxharlan2565 8 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      +itsnotthesamething Check out the work of Alexander Lowen, his stuff will show you how to resolve emotional issues with body language!

    • @itsnotthesamething
      @itsnotthesamething 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      Collinge Communication Institute Thank you. I will do that.

    • @jagoisvara8178
      @jagoisvara8178 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      itsnotthesamething
      Hows it been going sis?

  • @GJKincses
    @GJKincses 6 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    Always remember " A great communicator is a person who can hear and see whether a person is listening or not- body language reinforces it - Thanks for sharing Alan and TEDX

  • @lahiridude
    @lahiridude 9 ปีที่แล้ว +207

    One of the most humorous and informative TED talks I've seen so far haha.. the example of the palms being up while directing people out of a burning building was hilarious

  • @markrowland1366
    @markrowland1366 6 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    Following this man for 30 years. I have been a top salesman changing major companies and influencing education, health practice, and sport in a number of countries. Follow him to achieve your goals.

    • @jimreily7538
      @jimreily7538 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      What companies? What do you sell Mark ?

    • @vladb420
      @vladb420 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      pyramid schemes, most likely

    • @domicioannioulpiano6845
      @domicioannioulpiano6845 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@vladb420 hhahahahhahs

  • @paulweston5665
    @paulweston5665 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Hands down my favourite Ted talk.

    • @ami5853
      @ami5853 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      hands up

  • @alexanderSnilsson
    @alexanderSnilsson 7 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Hey guys, the biggest key to improve body language - if you ask me - is to actually start and focus in on one thing at the time, play around with it and take notice of the reactions you get! I put up weekly challenges every week, and then do some vlogs about it during the weekdays when implement it. So this week i focused in on five of the most basic body language techniques, check it out and do the challenge as well! If you want to improve your body language that is:). Have a great day!

    • @laviniagiovagnoni984
      @laviniagiovagnoni984 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      thanks!:)

    • @mspixiedust100
      @mspixiedust100 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      what are the basic five?

    • @alexanderSnilsson
      @alexanderSnilsson 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Andy! I don't relly get your question - you mean they just flash their stomach to you?

    • @alexanderSnilsson
      @alexanderSnilsson 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      My man Andy, If that was a recurrent thing in my life, you can be sure that I would be asking the sam question as well! Have you've been doing anything particoular when this has happened - were you smiling, having deep eyecontact, walking on fishy streets with a lot of strange shit going on?

    • @mspixiedust100
      @mspixiedust100 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Andy Ripp LOL

  • @viamargarita
    @viamargarita 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I’m honoured to shake Allan Pease hands in this video and he exactly described my personality 🙌

  • @Sinan97082
    @Sinan97082 9 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    Hm ... after reading some Books about body language, I recognized this:
    In Turkey our elders always say "Watch your hands and arms" (Eline koluna sahip cik) or "Watch how you sit and stand up" (oturmana kalkmana dikkat et) ... In our region Bodylanguage is hard to fake, the people grow up with this they live it, their enviroment lives this.
    So all the sayings of my parents and other elders makes now sense to me, and it is interesting, that we in the western society need scientific explanation and have to learn these stuff again.
    Also interesting is, this thing calles P.U.A ... all this PUA stuff, if you read about and compare how people from southern countries behave, you recognize that they do it naturally...
    -.- So many things, that we have to learn by this way, instead of living it naturally... that shows how far we have gotten from our natural being. We should rethink how we live ...

    • @erko78
      @erko78 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same in Bosnia. My mother always tells me to sit up straight or stand up straight.

    • @gphilipc2031
      @gphilipc2031 9 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      In the US it's "Duck and Cover", "Stop, Drop, and Roll" or "Just Say No" and sometimes we say "Stick Around" or "I'll be Back". Other then that we have pretty much pitched decent manners, respect for elders and gestures of good will.

    • @stillyourlilgirl
      @stillyourlilgirl 9 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      In japan too and japan is a very polite country... From the language itself to the behavior to the point of being totally what we call 'fake' but to them it is still called being polite... It is considered very rude to point to a person... And i think gestures aren't merely just for the politeness too.

    • @Sinan97082
      @Sinan97082 9 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ***** Eating, sleeping, building social circles are most natural things that we inherit.
      Everything else is like you said... until, and thats what really matters you start to rethink your behaviour and begin to reflect.
      But of course no one is free of the influence that our enviroment brings with itself.

    • @matthewlaguerre
      @matthewlaguerre 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      nasil yatarsan oyle kalkarsin

  • @CosmopolitanFools
    @CosmopolitanFools 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Allan Pease is a master of inter-personal communication. He provides examples, gesturing & body language, facial expression, & ALSO scientific demographics & percentages, comparative studies & results - all supporting everything he is relating to the public. He uses the verbal dynamics of volume, pausing, emphasis of single words - modulating . . . he adhered to everything theme to theme.

  • @You3gs
    @You3gs 8 ปีที่แล้ว +275

    0:50 that guy in the front sitting all alone tho , his reaction Killed me xDDD

  • @bathtub_farter
    @bathtub_farter 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I landed a lucrative job using this. Thank you TED. This guy is legendary.

    • @walterblack8127
      @walterblack8127 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @husainshaikh What kind of job did you score, Husain?

  • @jimreily7538
    @jimreily7538 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    What this comes down to is, "If I contort my body in a certain way, I'll be able to change how other people feel and think about me".
    Which itself more succinctly put, is: I can influence how other people feel about me.
    So most people then, are intensely concerned with how other people feel about them, and don't realise a simple truth.
    What other people think about you, is not in your hands. Literally or figuratively. It is in theirs. And while body language, a smile, a positive tone of voice and so on conveys a certain impression, the reality is this.
    What you think about yourself is beyond everything else.
    If you don't like yourself, then you'll be forcing yourself to learn body language methods to get other people to like you, and if other people like you, then (so folks think) you will like yourself more.
    Why not just skip the entire "other people" step, and focus on learning to like yourself ?
    This whole body language thing is about reflecting to others, how you feel.
    If you feel good, comfortable, happy, unconcerned, confident, isn't that a better goal to try to achieve than, "if only I keep my palms facing upwards, more people will like me" ?
    Like yourself. Learn that skill.
    Or even better: accept that any emotional state is fleeting, and that nobody else can make you happy.
    DOING WHAT YOU WANT TO DO is way more important.
    Whatever barriers are in the way of you, right now, doing what you want to be doing, right now. Those are what you should focus on.

    • @kylemiller2414
      @kylemiller2414 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Dealing with people is a part of life. There are seven billion people on earth. Unavoidable. You don’t have to become insecure about it if you’re aware of why you’re doing it.

  • @opedromagico
    @opedromagico 8 ปีที่แล้ว +521

    I found this SO GREAT and still comments here are mostly bad stuff.
    Im glad I stopped reading comments before watching the talks!

    • @ahmetfg
      @ahmetfg 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      +Pedro Amaral because you are non-reader

    • @kimono7350
      @kimono7350 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      +ahmet f. gulsoy as you are A non-writer!

    • @drlouiscardinal752
      @drlouiscardinal752 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Not sure why you say most comments are negative, I see nothing but positive in first dozen.....no need to look further down

    • @xrxs1020
      @xrxs1020 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      ''as you are A non-writer!' Or is it non-thinker, given Pedro's point was sensible while f. gullsoy's was mean and silly.

    • @EdwardGFunk
      @EdwardGFunk 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      I miss your mom

  • @JonathanLoganPDX
    @JonathanLoganPDX 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I love Australians. Brilliantly delightful and smart people. Excellent training.

  • @walterblack8127
    @walterblack8127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is why I watch TED talks. Allan Pease is an excellent presenter whose body language is as engaging as his content. With just the right amount of humor (Now you can go into politics!) he presents information that everyone can understand, he teaches the audience how to implement his teaching, and he gives us motivation to follow his teaching by providing benefits personally, socially and even politically. The art of persuasion is just that, an art, so what this TED talk provides is thought provoking insights as to how we can be more likable, more confident and even more charismatic. This is an outstanding presentation.

  • @carsonsmithmotivation8333
    @carsonsmithmotivation8333 8 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    This is fantastic. I really enjoyed this speaker. I have a speech impediment and I have developed myself into a hand talker because I found it easier to communicate with people. I have done this for years and without knowing everything he said I do and is true. I am a manager in a sales organization and I am one of the top selling reps in the country, dispite my speech impediment and I always felt like my ability to use my hands during sales was a contributior to some of my success. Great video. Great speaker. This is something I will watch several times. Excellent job

    • @smoothcriminal28
      @smoothcriminal28 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      That is excellent man.

    • @elizabethvance2554
      @elizabethvance2554 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Carson Smith MOTIVATION

    • @walterblack8127
      @walterblack8127 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Carson, have you ever seen a video of yourself doing a sales presentation?

  • @curtisfoster4256
    @curtisfoster4256 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What did I just watch? The perfect speech? Masterful.

  • @HunterCrim4767
    @HunterCrim4767 8 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    A wealth of knowledge passed on in oral tradition through a new medium. TED is an amazing thing.

  • @laila.h.90
    @laila.h.90 9 ปีที่แล้ว +151

    If you are interested in understanding the body language I recommend reading his book "the definitive book of body language" I've read it and it is definitely one of my favorite books. Before reading his book I used to entirely rely on what the person in front of me is saying verbally now that I'm aware of the non verbal messages I have a better understanding of what really goes on the mind and shows as body signals, postures and gestures. Allen Pease is a real expert in this field.

    • @walterblack8127
      @walterblack8127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks for letting us know where to find more information SL

    • @DracKim
      @DracKim 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      can you send it to my whatsapp? whats your number?

    • @joudalazizi1946
      @joudalazizi1946 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ty for the info

    • @ThisKiwi03
      @ThisKiwi03 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      See i was so offended by that book.

    • @VerdantSeeker
      @VerdantSeeker ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ThisKiwi03 why offended

  • @hnk5105tab
    @hnk5105tab 10 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I love studying body language and how you can tell if someone is holding themselves naturally or forcing it. It can be easy to tell if someone has a basic knowledge of body language and is manipulating it.

  • @stormcorrosion176
    @stormcorrosion176 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Folks. Recognize that this is pure 'old school cool' gold. and credit to the fella first called up as the 'handshake helper'--handled it like a boss

  • @davidparamel8421
    @davidparamel8421 8 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Now that's a great example of how hand expressions are to be used while communicating in our day to day life. Allan rocks. I am going to start practising those from today onwards.

  • @mb4359
    @mb4359 9 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    He presented an excellent set of body language expressions which have been studied for a while now. He's right on. Body language is now recognized within a variety of areas including corporate institutions....The use of body language has been used for eons in almost every culture...

    • @jothain
      @jothain 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      michele braun Though I think he's misleading people talking solely about hands. Check out his cheerful act. Then take careful note of his face and hands immediately after asian guy leaves stage. Is the "illusion" broken? Those are the moments when even "professionals" like him are screwed and you can't quickly get rid of those.

  • @sewongaton
    @sewongaton 10 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This guy is awesome. I used these techniques already but now i am conscious about it. Way to Go

  • @jakegoedert5692
    @jakegoedert5692 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    this is one of my favorite ted talks, palms down

  • @optimusprime699
    @optimusprime699 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This guy, he's my favourite. He has a real business hustle about him, a bounce in his energy. Straight to the point and interesting to watch. Thanks!

  • @dennis.zinner
    @dennis.zinner 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    In my opinion one of the most capturing tedtalks so far!

  • @123rebelguy
    @123rebelguy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    He deserved standing ovation. Full of energy and explained almost everything on subject.

  • @hasanmehdiraza
    @hasanmehdiraza ปีที่แล้ว +1

    SIMPLE HAND SHAKE IS BEST GESTURE . I AM POSITIVE THINKER AN OPTIMIST . I CAN READ MIND AND FACES .
    BODY LANGUAGE IS A SUPERB BOOK .
    🙏

  • @girlbehindthereddoor
    @girlbehindthereddoor 9 ปีที่แล้ว +89

    This really is true. You can see so much in someone's palm and it indicates openness & honesty when you display your palms to others. The back of the hand indicates shyness, anxiousness or intimidation (especially when used with a finger point). It's crazy really that it has so much of an effect on the way you come across to others.

    • @user-tx9ys8cn6x
      @user-tx9ys8cn6x 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Just don't to that to someone from Greece ! :))

    • @EdwardGFunk
      @EdwardGFunk 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The back of my hand is used to keep discipline up in here

    • @KieserBeats
      @KieserBeats 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lol

  • @adielwilson8749
    @adielwilson8749 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This was one of the best and most straightforward TED Talks I've watched in a while. Amazing just amazing

  • @hakunamatata9767
    @hakunamatata9767 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Watching people handshaking in 2020 seems like an ancient culture.....

  • @inkwellflood8276
    @inkwellflood8276 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Awsome . Ive got to sell myself and art to people soon ,I'll use these techniques to be remembered . Thank you .

  • @syedkashif1806
    @syedkashif1806 8 ปีที่แล้ว +140

    This gave me instant results the very next day, and a phone number ;)

    • @cocoafreak7
      @cocoafreak7 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      nice ;)

    • @devangvagh9939
      @devangvagh9939 7 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      I think he might use the finger gesture. Domination! You know what I mean. :P

  • @werewolf74
    @werewolf74 10 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Not just a 'point' but the palm is hidden.... I am very good at READING body language and not a single day passes that I dont think about this stuff. Like when you walk by someone on the street, do they nod up? or down? both up? both down? But I like the idea of using that knowledge to modify my own mood and physiology. I like that a lot. I am currently working on making 'tools' for myself to deal with some of my age old psychological issues and this may be a key. Awesome input.

    • @johnaccolade5732
      @johnaccolade5732 10 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Yeah, when you pass people in the street, you can consciously decide what body language to use. If you nod up and smile it usually shows friendliness and high status. If you nod down and smile it is still friendly but it is also deferential and tends to be lower status. High / low status aren't good / bad, it just depends on who you're talking to and what you want to send out. If you want to send out power, dominance, importance and security in yourself, then the head nod up and smile is useful, whilst holding eye contact.
      If when you pass each other, you move out the way for them, it is polite but you are acknowledging that you're not dominant. If instead you keep going and they move out the way for you, it puts you in a dominant position. The person who hugs the wall also tends to be the person with the power, as opposed to the person near the curb or who walks into the street out the way for you.
      These are just basic generalisations. If these distinctions aren't useful then don't pick them up, but if they are useful then by all means use them to influence the way you feel about yourself and the kind of signals you are sending out into the world. A tip - DON'T think about how you're received if at all possible, think about what you want to send out. Yesterday I was thinking about my body language all day, but I was doing it from a frame of 'how are people seeing me', and I felt nervous and bad. All I needed to do was switch to a frame of 'how do I want to come across' (these really are two completely different things - one focuses on you and creating what you want, the other on others and what they want to see (you want to avoid this latter approach unless you want neurotic thoughts about how you're being perceived!!)) and I felt much better, whilst still changing my body language for the better. So think about how you want to feel and what you want to broadcast rather than what other people might be picking up. You'll feel more secure that way.
      By the way, it will feel a bit 'wrong' to change your physiology into postures you aren't usually in, because it's unusual for your body. It ONLY feels wrong because you have practised being in a less helpful physiology. Ignore this slight feeling of "this isn't quite right" and stick with it. Over time, you will change your physiology permanently or a lot more of the time than before, and the new physiology will feel right and the old one 'wrong'!
      As you are very good at READING body language, you have a very, very strong upper hand here. I tend not to be very visually observant so I think you are lucky to have that skill. That unconscious knowledge you have of body language (or maybe conscious too) is very useful in formatting your own physiology. You can definitely utilize this knowledge practically.

    • @alitehrani4231
      @alitehrani4231 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      John Accolade -،_ تد،فطر طیب د. مج ع ع چ بط:'(صد را خار،قدیم بغض سی به پ دطر
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  • @wolfferoni
    @wolfferoni 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    What an amazing talk. I've seen countless videos and advice about body language and power positions but nothing as simple yet effective as this.

    • @walterblack8127
      @walterblack8127 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      One thing I appreciated about Allan is that he didn't stand around at the end an expect applause. That's one thing I've noticed about the best TED speakers, they don't linger on stage expecting praise and glory, they present their message and exit as soon as they finish speaking.

  • @rabbyfozlay3331
    @rabbyfozlay3331 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Brilliant speaker. Not only did he build instant rapport with the audience. I felt he built rapport with me, through a computer. Amazing.

  • @tankhalffull
    @tankhalffull 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Interesting to see the number of people who did not stand up when shaking hands.., I learned many years ago, stand up (respect), firm (confidence), and look them in the eyes (connect).

  • @Brotyx
    @Brotyx 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is the stuff they should teach us at school!

  • @AbdulBasitkhawaja
    @AbdulBasitkhawaja 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great ... Highly motivated

  • @Skylardietsche
    @Skylardietsche 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    wow. People have taken candid photos of me while I speak, and my gestures are usually pointing or palms down. This is eye opening.

  • @hazzah5572
    @hazzah5572 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What a chad. No stories from his life. No fluff. Didn't even say his name. Legendary.

  • @agustinruiz8323
    @agustinruiz8323 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Estas si son ideas que valen la pena compartir. Gracias TEDex

  • @yousifhashim9077
    @yousifhashim9077 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Phenomenal topic, simple but yet so profound. I really needed this. Thank you Allan Pease.

  • @dcschool834
    @dcschool834 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this TED talk is absolute class

  • @biggusdikkus6985
    @biggusdikkus6985 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great talk! He actually didn't talk about himself but about the subject! Very rare!

  • @dandonovan5345
    @dandonovan5345 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you, I now know and understand this more fully, and yes it makes so much sense.....
    Met many professionals in my career, and remembering our first meeting and my feelings.
    The scene was often set within the first few minutes, the handshake was fundamental to my initial perceptions of a person.

  • @nh7226
    @nh7226 8 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Wow, isn't that fascinating how subconscious so much of the human brain is still? So amazing.

    • @Kiwinnit
      @Kiwinnit 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      and a lot of fun to learn about!

    • @MmeHyraelle
      @MmeHyraelle 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hm, yea, 90% of what you do is on auto-pilot. We're NPC's most of the time.

    • @MmeHyraelle
      @MmeHyraelle 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @timwins31 Then i'll have fun mindfucking you because neurology > you.

  • @Musician-Lee
    @Musician-Lee 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Allan Pease nails it, because he understands and can explain the body language we use unconsciously. People confuse this with political correctness. Even though people try to speak in a non-discriminatory way we still communicate unconsciously through body language. Allan is simply brilliant at explaining how we do this without meaning to and how we can avoid communicating the wrong message, or conflicting messages. He’s the best in the world at this, without a shadow of a doubt.

  • @vkeighmanabe2952
    @vkeighmanabe2952 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was an awesome talk. I love this man, he has such good energy attached to his talk, it was so nice to listen to. It just felt so nice

  • @audreyadams9498
    @audreyadams9498 10 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    wow! such great tips and knowledge....bravo

  • @sogal4christ
    @sogal4christ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Best ted talk I’ve seen in a while. I will use and share this

  • @nnataliered
    @nnataliered 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    body language is definitely the most important thing!

  • @Ana36287
    @Ana36287 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Brilliant.!!.He is clever and very smart

  • @kathleenloucks9012
    @kathleenloucks9012 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I LOVE this guy! Amazing isn't it...how a seemingly insignificant thing can make such a difference?! I super enjoyed learning this powerful tidbit of information about human nature.

  • @crouchingspinach
    @crouchingspinach 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    One of the best presenters I've seen on TED.

  • @muhammadumer7833
    @muhammadumer7833 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love TEDx talks

  • @aprilrochellebryant8451
    @aprilrochellebryant8451 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This right here is a true 💎 of knowledge that is hardly taught. A lil' bit of human psychology thrown in the mix of how you communicate with others. Pure awesomeness

  • @seizan88
    @seizan88 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Watching the first part during COVID felt real weird.....
    Great talk and demonstration! Thank you :)

  • @frankie555
    @frankie555 6 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Also notice what he does between 2.30 and 4.35. He pulls the guy's hand towards him into his own energy. This allows him to control the other guy continuously while he's holding his hand, until he guides the other guy off the stage by moving his hand that way.
    With subtle hand movements he's constantly leading the other guy.
    People who have ever practiced Aikido, will recognise this.

  • @khaibarkhanalmas
    @khaibarkhanalmas 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I freakin loved how he explained it, I could listen to him for hours and learn better then college lectures

  • @javierforbes215
    @javierforbes215 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Such a powerful speaker. I watched this video before i read his book and i am watching it again

  • @splashcat100
    @splashcat100 8 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Wish I'd learned this young...

  • @ReceivingLightweb
    @ReceivingLightweb 10 ปีที่แล้ว +124

    I purposely shake hands with a gentle hand because I don't enjoy when people are intimidated by me. This happens a lot. Ego is what i would say this video is all about. Many ego manics assume they are alpha males when they are far far from it.

    • @maxpayne930
      @maxpayne930 10 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      CORRECT.

    • @WearyWatcher
      @WearyWatcher 10 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Yeah I'm gentle. It's about equality or kindness. Someone squeezing my hand makes me think he has issues or wants a dick size contest with me. It's rude.

    • @dmoney1745
      @dmoney1745 10 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I agree. I do the same thing also

    • @jamie4390
      @jamie4390 9 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      It's not about intimidated people, its about giving across the appropriate message at the appropriate time. What I do find funny however, is that both you and dmoney have very dominate and 'aggressive' profile pictures, completely makes me think otherwise. Also read the 48 laws of power, you saying that others are alpha males, is in itself a power move to make you seem better than them. ;)

    • @peterahn8332
      @peterahn8332 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Jamie I find your comment very clever and insightful! I'll be sure to check out The 48 Laws of Power!

  • @pedronunes2857
    @pedronunes2857 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    He is incredible. I liked him. He has a lot of charisma.

  • @NHVisible
    @NHVisible 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    After watching this video for a few minutes I realized that He is Allan PEASE the writer of The defenitive book of body language in collaboration with his wife !
    Such a great book which walk trought all kinf of body signals !

  • @Astaraa
    @Astaraa 10 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    In Baguazhang (zhang=palm) kung fu, palm down is yang/masculine/projecting and palm up is yin/feminine/receptive... Palm up feels. Palm down expresses its will. We alter the world with our palm-side.
    Similarly we Receive a gift with our palm up, and Give a gift with palm down. And when we receive, we do so with our vulnerable side. Our palm is also the delicate side of our arm, receptive to whatever is offered. So the speaker is also opening up to receive. :)

  • @downbntout
    @downbntout 9 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This is amazing. It obviously made sense to me. I am so glad I learned this from this Allan Pease man. This is the solution to a recurrent problem I'm having at work. Good on ya, sir!

  • @irametal4901
    @irametal4901 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So excited to watch this!! I started reading his book a few days ago and while watching other TED talks this one was suggested! It was wonderful! he is to the point!

  • @Ltscoobydoo
    @Ltscoobydoo 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So awesome. Who knew something so simple could be so effective? He explained it in such a commonsense manner.Thank you Mr. Allan Pease/TedxTalks!

  • @BYGODYOUARESPECIAL1
    @BYGODYOUARESPECIAL1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    What a great presentation, a master of communication.

  • @wowman123ish
    @wowman123ish 8 ปีที่แล้ว +237

    So, basically, humans care more about a leader's body language than the actual content of their speech?

    • @JV-hn2zb
      @JV-hn2zb 8 ปีที่แล้ว +78

      Moh Murad It has always been like this for the majority of the sheeps.. uh I mean people.

    • @leerivera80
      @leerivera80 8 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      F a speech. Actions speak louder.

    • @blackcitadel37
      @blackcitadel37 8 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      +Moh Murad well, if not, they should. most of the communication is not what you say, but how you say and what is your body language when you say.

    • @rammstein413567
      @rammstein413567 8 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      +Moh Murad The thing is that the body language affects the content. If you have a speech and it makes a lot of sense, aka great content, but you seem unconfident or unsure about it then it makes it a lot less appealing. If someone gives a speech with mediocre content but a lot of confidence then you feel like maybe they could be onto something even if you don't quite see it. Of course humans should try ti willingly differentiate between the two to make the best decision but we first have to know how and what our subconscious decides things.

    • @jointhelodge7582
      @jointhelodge7582 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Jeffrey Vermeulen king9lodge

  • @paulfilipovich6127
    @paulfilipovich6127 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I LOVE THIS GUY. I’VE READ ALL HIS BOOKS

  • @elpina9657
    @elpina9657 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    NUNCA LO HABIA CONSIDERADO LA IMPORTANCIA DEL MOVIMIENTO DE LAS MANOS, GRANDE ESTE SEÑOR

  • @3DHistoryAdventures
    @3DHistoryAdventures 9 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    That was FANTASTIC. So insightful, and he was funny as hell too

  • @fabiograppasonno1495
    @fabiograppasonno1495 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It was very interesting and useful to learn well this body language's rules to use them in our day to day life. I once asked to a psychologist who went in my classroom(when I still went to secondary school) a short lesson right about it, and I was really happy about his explanation.

  • @vasilzhiliev6057
    @vasilzhiliev6057 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That smile at 6:27 was so pure I love this guy for some damn reason, enough to comment which is super rare for me

    • @walterblack8127
      @walterblack8127 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I was wondering if I was reading too much into that, but apparently not

  • @Mushroom321-
    @Mushroom321- 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Awesome positive energy! , other Ted talkers take notes.

  • @alyamoktar7477
    @alyamoktar7477 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thanx! I juz realised how powerful body lang can be!

  • @mikehoward5004
    @mikehoward5004 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Very charismatic speaker.

  • @blisswkc3344
    @blisswkc3344 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank y'all so much dearest 🌹
    Y'all such an inspiration 🥰
    Appreciate y'all from the bottom of my heart 💖
    Be Blissful Eternally 🙏👼🌈

  • @adrianajaegers
    @adrianajaegers 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    Muito legal! Adorei o palestrante! Obrigada pela tradução!

  • @holly_hacker
    @holly_hacker 9 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    Really interesting talk! I'm sure this will come in handy!

  • @MrTcuk
    @MrTcuk 10 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Mr. Burns: Eccellente Allan Pease Eccellente

  • @fadachipauline973
    @fadachipauline973 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love his confidence.

  • @sanikasarode
    @sanikasarode 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    He was so energetic and enthusiastic and the talk was so engaging!!

  • @MenageWorldEntertainment
    @MenageWorldEntertainment 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Very, very, very useful and practical tips. Kudos Prof!

  • @lt7341
    @lt7341 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Done watching 6 tedx vids at 2 am. I am genius

  • @drbobhatfield
    @drbobhatfield 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Very clear instructions on items about which I get questions. His discussion about handshakes, use of hands when making requests, and general position of hands showed insight as well as revealing some research. For those of us wanting to be intentional about these issues he has given us several things about which to think.

  • @xzqzxq4818
    @xzqzxq4818 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i love this person .. i felt good, listening to him, like i didnt, wait him to just cut the crap and wrap up .. didnt notice time .. palms down sir !! hail!!