HOW TO FLIRT (No BS Beginner's Guide)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ก.ค. 2024
- Flirting is arguably the single most fundamental skill in all of game. But most guys are horribly bad at it. Which is why I created this video and this free download of some of my best flirting lines:
www.toddvdating.com/lines
to help.
Enjoy, and start flirting better today!
Hope you enjoy the video and learn a lot from it. Here is the link to some of my best lines, that I promised in the video: www.toddvdating.com/lines
is evaluation same as qualification?
Todd please make a video on Dr. Keith Jerome's research towards HSV cure. He is a phenomenal scientist who found a cure for herpes. It needs fda approval and donation. Please do you due diligence and look him up. Use your platform to raise awareness. Dating and STD awareness should go hand in hand.
@kwamenangissah6766 yes I believe so.
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It's a decision to be FUN, PLAYFUL, and LIGHT in your interactions. Love that foundational tip.
Truth
Since the video I’ve decided to tell myself before any convo I’m going into, that I’ll make my convos fun, playful, and light. It helps.
I don't know if I can agree with said statement. Not that I don't wan to -if anything I'd prefer to believe that- I'm just not a fun, playful guy. I try to be, I just happen to not have those qualities -even when I try-.
А как бы ты хотел чтобы отнеслись к твоей маме? Сестре? Дочери?
Так же?
@@d_rivadeneyrayou deffo do have those qualities, just believe in yourself and remember you are good enough. 😎👍🏾
As someone that started following Todd years ago, listen to whatever he says and you WILL get women. Follow everything he says even if you think it sounds silly. Since listening to him I’ve been able to get women easily and I’m getting married next week, just saying
Don't do it bruh
Congrats! That's awesome
Absolutely, I followed Todd's advice and reached high intermediate imo. I have a girlfriend now but I still love watching the content
After everything... you still get married? Why not having 4 chicks at the same time and just rotate them? If you get married you are stuck to 1 woman only... but your body your choice
@@ToddVDatingi watched your relationship manifesto 2 and a half years ago. Within a month I met the lovely woman I’m still dating to this day and we’ve had an awesome relationship. I hadn’t had a relationship last more than 3 months before her.
14 years of game and i still come back to todd's stuff. No information overload, 90% action 10% learning.
Flirting is SO much fun when the girl is loving it too.
And always flirt with a cheeky grin on your face!
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:30 🎉 Flirting is primarily about attitude, the decision to have a fun, light, and engaging conversation.
02:09 🔄 Flirting can be broken down into three key elements: premise, teasing, and the combination of both in flirting.
03:34 💬 Start with giving occasional compliments to add a man-to-woman aspect to your conversation.
05:11 🚀 Acting cocky can add a teasing vibe to your interactions, creating a back-and-forth dynamic.
06:21 📜 To begin, use canned teasing and flirting lines and work on the courage and timing of delivery.
08:45 🔄 Formats for flirting lines include push-pull, exaggeration, future adventure projection, mini cold reads, assigning playful nicknames, and callback humor.
12:47 🤩 Attitude and delivery are more crucial than the lines themselves when it comes to effective flirting. Start by adding a few teases or flirts to your conversations and gradually build your comfort with them.
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I am trying to learn all this in my forties and it is tuff guys. If your young and get this down early in life you will be way better off. I have gotten lucky a few times in my life and picked up a girlfriend without knowing how to flirt but as you can see I am here now trying to learn it. Don't be me! Thanks Todd for your videos!
Were you successful?
@@timbradshaw5481 Still a work in progress, I don't get a lot of practice. Going to try and join a tournament soon. Hoping to meet some new people.
Yo this was some genuinely good advice and everything I needed to hear. Thank You
Awesome guide, Todd. These lines are definitely GOLD 🙌🏻
Good to hear tips from an established expert in the field. Much of it is a mental game.
Thank you for your video. The examples you gave were most helpful, especially the "Steal My Lines" link.
This is a great video thx! I've watched most of your videos and they help me a lot
I can actually confirm that Todd reads our comments, despite not leaving a heart ❤️
Ya *had* ta say it ! 😂
Thank you so much, I've had a lot of success lately and much of it thanks to you.
Damn... I went to this for advice and realized that besides confidence and consistency i have a decent amount if it down... This is super helpful!
Ok finally somebody creating content on this subject matter that I'm actually picking up what hes putting down. Hes using a lot of terminology I've hearf in other videos, but I'm understanding the idea behind it. How and why not miss the what to do for these directions.
1. Flirting is an attitude - The first step in flirting is deciding that you are going to flirt, to be playful, to put in the effort, and to say things that you’d never say to a man.
2. Definitions to know. Premise - Anything that you’d say to a women that you wouldn’t say to a man. Tease - When you playfully give somebody a hard time. Flirting - When you combine premise and tease.
3. Most basic form of flattery is compliments. This is better than nothing, but you should progress beyond it.
4. A nice short hand for teasing is acting cocky. If she accepts your claims, then she accepts your high value. If she doesn’t, then you end up with a fun and interesting dynamic
5. Learn to use teasing and flirting lines. Initially you should steal lines and integrate it into your strategy. Then once you are confident enough, you’ll come up with your own lines organically
6. How to come up with your own teasing and flirting lines - Push-Pull a comment with a positive and a negative. Exaggerate your intent in a playful way. Mini-cold read - Playfully interpret something that you observed about the person. Future Scenario - Exaggerate what the two of you will do in the future.
Thanks Todd ! I followed this guide last night on a 1st date & it all worked so well that I ended up staying the night at her place ! Mind set, just like with eveything else is SO important
All hail to the master!
Heil Todd. 👋
Within first 60s I knew this will be one of your best videos.
Most basic to the point no bs information out there. I'm saving this to my phone and will send it to everyone asking me for dating advice.
Thank you Todd.
Love you Todd! I let all the ads play out for you my man.
This video right here maybe one of the best, when it comes to the way you should be with women. Women don’t want a boring conversation.
Much with flirting is in the eyes and body language- leading
I would say every guy with a bit confidence who fools around with his guys should know how it works.
Quick witted, no fear, use phantasy.
I've realized my power in conversation since i've watched flirt coaches. Before i always think girls are just friendly and laugh but now i get it that the first steps are already done.....
I've missed so much opportunities 😜
any other tips u got ? i think it’s my confidence that stops me w flirting
AMAZING!! So glad YOU made this!!
One easy way to establish premise very quickly is commenting on her nail polish. It is immediately man to woman and you can see her reaction about it and move a conversation from there. Girls dedicate time to painting their nails, and the color choices etc usually have a relatively interesting story about why she picked it out maybe she'll laugh and just say "it's the only color I had" and either way it is easy to direct the convo from there
Good one
She's gonna think I'm gay if I mention her nail polish.
Thanks Todd, another great video.
thanks man ur my favorite coach so far since you really explain things well and you say the whys and throw some good examples + situations, etc. Question: idk if u have a video, i wanna learn more about the relative value that you said on another video. one of my weaknesses is that i kinda know how to answer to shit tests (since i was kinda doing already and i saw your video about exaggeration and misinterpretation) but im insecure about absolute value because im pretty average in life (i have no title, kinda unstable/not balanced not very exiting life, no high discipline levels, idk common culture, im bad or below average in everything, etc) so idk much how to do playful vanter or cockyness like you said here and idk how to project relative value neither. 😅 idk if you have some content for that.
Thanks Todd, could not be more on time
great advice, as always! 💯🙌🏽
This is what i need i have high functioning autism and flirting and recognizing social signals is hard for me
Same
@@aggffdgubfff Damn 😔 I don't have autism but I sympathize with you guys. God bless you in your journey, you got this shit!
I’m trying to sign up for the steal my lines, but it keeps telling me an error occurred.
Change the URL to /steal-my-lines
Extremely high quality and to the point material . I think what is missing on the industry are Teasing online workshops. Doing infield is beneficial but is high time and money investment, and many times you only get few or even none quality interactions with woman. On the other hand only theoretical material (which the web is saturated) doesn't cut it . But what if you had an online coaching with 1-2 guys were you (Todd) bring 1-2 girls on the other side and you coach and mentor the interaction guiding them to be more playful , etc. all through web ? That way you can charge less , have to move around less with less idle time , can have more students per day and the guys can have some really good practice from the start.
Todd, I'm really curious. You have a substantial power and knowledge at your hands very few people living at this very moment possess. From all these years, it doesn't seem to me that you have used any unethical mainstream technique to squeeze as much value from your fame as possible. Why are you different from the rest? It baffles me to this day, that you still keep your integrity. That's a very hard thing to balance in this day of age. One day I will find a way to make sure you understand how much grateful I am for your content.
I like how he acknowledges that you can infact be friends with a girl you're into beforehand. So many guys are terrified of "the friendzone" but being friends with a girl is a grwat in with her as long as you're willing to put in the effort and not be a creep about it.
Todd you are my fav dating coach
Well, for me it is great to hear this, unfortunately Im stuck when I am really attracted to that person, I dont know you guys but I get on a date with one of these girls like once a year. What am I supposed to practice with? If the less attractive girls dont give me the same feeling its like practicing but kind of faking it too?
Could we use these techniques on the cold approach. I mean some girls just can not take the true meaning and feel imsecured
YOU ARE AWESOME MATE!!. ILL USE ALL YOUR TECHNIQUES ONCE I MOVE TO AMSTERDAM, HEHE!!. THANK YOU, YOU ARE COOL & BUENA ONDA, PERIOD.
I feel like a lot of this comes out of me naturally. I think it comes from when I was a kid, teenager, messing with friends, and watching comedy shows for years. It’s just naturally there.
Thing is though, I have the be comfortable and in the right state. A cocky or playful state, self amusing, etc…
if I’m in my head at all, not having fun, then it’s not there. It’s alot of free association and making fun of things around you.
Right, me too; but I seem to not want to shut it off and I go overboard with it like I am a comedian on stage for a length of time. Before I am done, everyone around me has been done too! I hope to control what seems to come natural and keep it to one maybe two punch lines, NO MORE!! 😂
I can be the life of the party, but I gotta leave the machine gun at home. ❤
YES, being comfortable is key.
The master has spoken.
Todd has a subtle style
Todd, it seems there is a problem at your website - I am unable to access your lines and would really like to.
Thanks for your videos, they are very enlightening!
Being out of a relationship I forgot how to flirt so how do I get back into the Game of flirting? Anyone help!!!
I can be cocky and funny when the situation presents itself but when I have to create that situation, when I have to come up with a line on the spot, I freeze. It's so annoying and I can't figure out how to break that barrier.
Love your video. Do u do workshops?
I’m a married man(new father) with autism and flirting has always felt impossible for me. I want to get better at it to rekindle the spark between my wife and I, this video really helps and I will keep at it.
Hi Todd I found the male version of😂 I'm newly divorced 55 and I've been a " flirt" since a teenager. More to compensate for the nervousness talking to guys I wanted to get to know as more than friends. At 55 newly divorced I've been doing my research on TH-cam found you immediately and have been watching your channel daily. I am taking notes , as I can adopt your strategy for me in my online dating pursuit of men ages 38-50❤ you also present the man I have to be watching out for you cheeky Devil in disguise 😉
love these
Hi Todd. I’m really curious to know if you have any advice for single middle aged men who suddenly find themselves new to the dating scene after 20>30 years. I’m thinking more mature women might not be so receptive to these moves. It’s a huge untapped group of men who have no clue about modern dating as it has changed so much from what they were accustomed to ?
Great intro, feels like I'm going to war! ❤🔥
This might be your best video ever I think. And I've watched a lot. One question tho, how to flirt in a country where you dont know the culture, dont speak fluently the langage, dont have a clear sense of the social etiquette ? Maybe the country is religious and it would have social repercussions to flirt ?
Go to where the other expats are and talk to them.
What do you think about ferguson craigs flirting on show?
Honest question (maybe only somewhat related to this). If you're on a date with a nice lady, who has options, the conversation is flowing, she's genuinely laughing at your jokes but she isn't giving you any shit tests is that a good or a bad sign? I'm thinking it can both say that she's really interested but also that she can't be bothered giving you any shit tests because she's not interested.
This shit is not just game this is sales and networking
I can’t enter the site/lines. Guess I’m too late right?
A true master 👍🏻
Todd loves the line "I don't know whether to fall in love with you or run away" or something to that degree. Is that correct Todd ?
Good video!
It revolutionized how I was viewed by women when I stopped using self-deprecating humor and starting replacing it with self-agrandizing humor.
Kind of like being cocky, but not taking it seriously and letting them be in on the joke. And more often than not, the girl will actually reinforce the positive thing I say about myself. And in a way, it often feels like she starts chasing me!
Example: I'll say "Oh you know, because I'm just so amazing," and give her a smile and a wink.
And she'll actually smile and say, "Oh, but you really *are* amazing! Don't play like you're not with me."
That would count as "cocky funny," wouldn't it? That's a term I've heard Todd use before. But whatever it is called, I do that too, and yeah it seems to work well for me with the girls I like to date. Basically anytime someone was nice to me, I will jokingly say it's because I'm "so handsome and sexy" etc. Some women will say like "omg you're so full of yourself," but it's always with a smile and laugh, they don't actually think you're being arrogant. Good vibes, good fun, and I get laid a lot, so it doesn't seem to be hurting me anyway.
@@masamangtao6417Yeah, it really shows that you have a good self-image (pretty much as close to being "confident" as one can get), but aren't going to be an arrogant prick. Combine that with a bit of teasing and fun nicknames, and girls can't get enough!
I remember one particular instance I did this and the girl was like "Your eyes are pretty nice but the rest of you.. nah". Lmao.
But yeah, thanks for the tip. Could probably use a bit more of that.
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Hey Todd! Can flirting like this work with, for example, your ex-girl, wanting to win her back? She said she left because she didn't feel passion for me anymore. Now I've convinced her to meet me and not sure how Ito create some sexual tension
the exaggeration example is also a role play and a we-frame
Premise - the premise of this entire video is a moot point because modern flirting is nothing more than a short term exploitation of a guy by a woman for attention and validation before she swipes right on the 6'3" millionaire and forgets you ever existed. A better ploy is the the British-ism, "be mean keep her keen" where at least you won't feel used and you'll help her check her overinflated ego.
God damn good video🎉
Loved ur video, but the link didn’t work
Good content, but jesus christ can we tone down the flashbang transitions? Legitimately reduces the quality of your work.
Hey Todd if you read this comment, thanks for always putting out such bangers you've helped me grow some confidence with speaking to women in a more flirtatious way. Big help, cheers
How do I find women 32-40 years old who don't want to have (more) kids or have older kids?
Tinder
Serious question. So you manage to get her to bed. Everyone has a good time. She's thinking maybe she's met the one, cuz you played your cards so well. Considering you have zero intention of dating seriously, what's next? As in what's your go-to method to make your exit without her feeling hurt and disappointed?
Crazy idea: have an honest conversation about your intentions and expectations?
@@soundboy89 exactly what I would do before sex, just curious what todds go to is considering he's clearly not into a relationship yet has tricked the girl into thinking she might have a chance with him
Love the video but the flashes were driving me nuts. Please remember you have a nerdy audience who is sensible to light.
Was looking to see if anyone else had pointed out how distracting and annoying the camera click transition sounds are! The information is gold but I kept tuning out because of it 😅
Title should be “HOW TO BE A RIZZ GOD”
I laughed my ass off and still am about the "You are trouble "!!! Just imaging someone doing that. Seriously though you need to qualify for sure because alot of the time thats exactly what im saying and i mean it and im trying to get out!!!!
Flirt: Compliments better then nothing. Dont go overboard. Tease = act cocky (frame you are better in games then her; you think your special) = creates emotional spikss. Steal lines from someone else as first. Teasing and flirting is mirroring what high value guy do. How to come up with own lines: push-pull compliment and sth more negative. Exaggerating - make it playfull and fun. For example:...we are both attravtive people. Should we marry of get drinks first?.. future adventure projection: thing we do together. Has to be exaggerated enough thaz you know you are kidding. Call back humor. Attitude matter and delivery is important.
What I learned:
Children are flirty and teasy naturally. Be like a child that wants to be playful. Be audacious, it helps to be bold; that's better than being boring.
Formats for flirting lines:
1. Push-pull
2. Exaggeration (saying something in a exaggerated way that clearly can't be taken seriously)
3. Mini cold read (playful interpretations)
4. Future adventure projection (crazy ridiculous story of what happens in the future, kind of like a combination of all of the previous 3)
Let these be a spice to your life. Know when to flirt or to not. The goal isn't to flirt 24/7.
question for you todd. i run across a lot of women who very quickly mention they have bf's or are married but then give off IOI's & flirt among other things and through my googling, it could be one of about five reasons. my question to you (or anyone if they wanna help) is, is it even worth putting in the effort then? i hear "i have a husband/bf" & i am instantaneously turned off. im late 30s, in the middle of my career & getting things & retirement set up & i cant fathom spending another .001 seconds on someone when i hear "i have a husband/bf" yet these interactions followed by cute poses, hair flips, smiles, etc quickly follow. i wouldnt mind a hook up here & there but it would take far too much effort for me to go from "i am taken" to something serious.
Man I learned so much from your videos elevated me to a level 2 years back I would not imagine I dated the quality and quantity of woman were absolutely unbelievable. Now I am dating a girl who is amazing because of her I am a good boy in Last 2 years
Todd, I hope you know what a positive impact you have on the world, think about it? How many men have taken your advice, made a woman happy by implementing what you teach, that then makes the man happy, confident and content because he got laid or at least put the work in and reaped a reward. I'm sure families have been spawned from interactions that ignited a flame due to your help, seriously man, you bring positivity into this world by helping men understand women, a lot of us are and have been so lost when it comes to women.
Thank you
YOU. ARE. TROUBLE.! 🤖🤖🤖
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Mark my words, I will go to a bootcamp within the next 2 years!
Pretty happy to have good aging genetics… very seldom people think i am over 35yo.
Recently invited two sisters to my birthdayparty. They thought it is my 30th birthday but it was actually my 39th 😂
Bring back F.A.M.E.
teasing = asume acuse imply in the other person situation
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2 minutes in and I’m already liking the advice. Idk how to get out of that logical frame. I’m always there now
Basically don't follow thru with anything u say or do, that's the essence of flirting. 😅😂
Attitude should probably be at #1
If you're here to "learn something", its cleary over.
These methods work I talked to a classy lady and had her asking me out and laughing and enjoying my company I was dressed in jeans and a T - Shirt 😂 she gave me the boyfriend shit test and I passed basically Todd is the best skies The limit basically.
Lost me at "tons of energy". All seriousness I've had great success with canned lines dropping them at the right time. My problem is when I get into a relationship I can not for the life of me come up with lines on my own and the "spark" fizzles everytime
Honestly I think my issue is just that I have sociopathic tendencies
05:30 Gold??
“Let me give you a guide, then link all the examples somewhere else.”
This dramatic music lol
White waffle is my favourite thing to wear when picking up chicks they love it
I just got what the “trouble” line actually means. For whatever reason it always felt too awkward to say because I don’t get it.,,, It actually makes a statement about having experience. One is essentially saying “I’ve been around the block before and know you will likely test me” and once that background is understood, the need to be humorous with that to convert value, makes more sense to me. And also the reason it’s a good one. But before I would have only been robotic with it had I said it.
It also makes sense because, if a girl is attractive, and gets a lot of “gentlemen callers”, she will have to test people more otherwise she ends up with morons
Anyways, great stuff, really nice to check out 💪🙏🏻
I have used some of these techniques, trouble is I never realised I was. I trapped a girls attention by proposing to her purely because she brought me a cup of tea. I didn't remember this because I was only playing, she told me about that years later.
hi, it's a pleasure to meet me.
you are the prettiest girl I have seen in at least the last 5 minutes.
Hello, I always like to say hi to the hottest girl in the bar. Can you help me say hi to that girl over there?
I just wanted to let you guys know I only approach the hottest girls in the room (said as if you’re referring to them.) I think they’re over there (point to another group).
Ummmm excuse me miss…my eyes are up here.
Girl: I have to go to the bathroom.
You: moving a little fast aren’t we? Couldn’t you buy me flowers first.
Other frames/projections : she has a sex addiction, wants to be taken home right now, etc…
'Work on the balls first...' great advice!
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