Hey todd I got a quite problem that you can make a topic about . The problem Is i got the skills to talk about any single topic (sexual escalation .. man to woman conversation ..and not gettig friendzoned) ecxept the fact that we talk sexually about OUR OWN relationship !)
I have done All the wrong things and also ALL THE RIGHT things and still no results ..... I have done the right things that You've talked about in your videos even before I have started watching them even by instinct , trial and error and lately by organizing the good and taking away the bad and still no result .....! What's wrong then ?
I follow all of these tips (good logistics, sexual tension, etc) but the challenge is I can’t close on the first date. What holds girls back from having sex on the first date and how do I fix this? Recently when closing Ive had girls be like - “my place is too small” or “my place is a mess” or “my roommate is there”... (Note I still live at home with my parents so taking them back to mine isn’t an option)
I'm always dubious when I see someone making educational videos because I'm looking for a hidden agenda (a lot of "gurus" try to sell you on an idea), but the more I watch of Todd, the more he seems like the real deal. This is probably one of the best date videos of his that I've seen and he's just handing out all that info for us without looking for a gain
Best in game dating advice channel! I've definitely made the mistake of too much convo and not allowing enough sexual tension. Once a guy is comfy allowing the awkward silences for a minute or two, it's a GAME CHANGER.
This is real High Value, Todd, you're giving here. Not the "play moves", but just the meat, valuable experience digested into knowledge, shared with everybody. This inspires me to bring value myself across all areas of the life, not just dating. I salute you again and again.
I dont like the fact that we are always blaming men all the time when dates go wrong. I believe most guys will do well on a date but sometimes the girl is just boring, or you are just not compatible. Point blank and Clear
@@johnchao2422 not necessarily, it's balance, yes always work with what you could do better next time, but fully blaming yourself as a man if a date dont work out? Unrealistic
I’m 💯 skeptical on most things including Todd V… until I watched this video. I now truly have an appreciation for his ability to articulate those unspoken and case specific interactions that I’ve never heard or been able to put into words but I recognize them immediately in recollection. His simple and technical manner is great for understanding the why and how to implement. Kudos to this man’s intelligence in human behavior and interaction techniques, its is through the roof! I’m all in now Todd V. you got me
Broo, these bad dates and mistakes Todd always talks about are so real!! I've done some of those a lot of times. To be honest it makes his teaching way better than some phylosophy that doesn't even make sense.
@@KpopListener yes, i was a student of the game...was able to get numbers, had trouble getting a 2nd date after the 1st date...specifically korean girls
This advice is essentially sound, but even IF you do everything right, there can still be not enough chemistry.... Not necessarily anything the guy is doing wrong
If you got her number from cold approach, the chemistry is built long before the date. If you get her number from online dating, the interest is built through your texts and escalation skills there, then cemented on the date. As the man, it's your responsibility to create the chemistry. You don't just show up and say there's no chemistry. Unless you brought your A game and she was still just giving you one word answers, ultimately, it's your fault. You lead and she will follow. If she doesn't? Next.
@@SwordWieldingDuck It's too long to explain in a TH-cam comment. Go watch some videos. Basically, don't be boring (but don't be a clown), be provocative, and do what you want. Basically, be masculine.
My best first date was taking her to a local park for an acroyoga event, then to a dance event in the evening. She was already very attracted to me, but this also helped her get comfortable with close physical contact and trusting me.
@@tekiero Pick good date spots near you. Or perhaps it's time to move. Logistical challenges are among the hardest to overcome as there are no easy answers.
@@MrHav1k you wouldn't even consider meeting somewhere at the centre (near the girl's place) and then going to her place to bang? 🤔 Especially if it's easy for you to get to the centre
@@Stifmeister1 if it's near her place that's fine, but I find it's simpler to ask her to your place than the opposite. Girls can be wary of showing a stranger where they live If course you should do the same since you don't want crazy chicks knowing where you live either. Trust me there. Plenty of horror stories on that
Misinterpret or exagerate. "How many girls have you slept with?", A few hundred a year since I was 14 but im much more reserved now. Something along those lines
idk why but I've never had a problem inviting a girl to my place or me going to hers. The women I've dated have all been pretty cool and either say yes to me inviting them or they will actually invite me to their place them selves if we felt as though there was good chemistry between us. Just seems like she has to like you and nothing else can really get in the way
11:40 if she asks about previous girlfriends etc, ' always tell about it on a positive way, but also tell you grew out of eachother if that may be the case etc? it's a shit test, to see what if things go well on the date etc etc, she's trying to find out how it's gonna be if she continues to date you, and if you talk shit about ur exes , bad idea, or don't say nothing at all if she does not bring it up, also cinema dates are bad to, you barely know eachother and from a girls view, 'you sit there in the dark watching the movie' if you start being physical etc when she is not ready or shows it, bad idea. just have a quick drink at a cafe if yout both really like eachother etc, if things don't flow, you can always see and both agree we don't really match or have similar interests and you can ask for the check and both go your way again in life. also, let her to 80% of the talking, don't take all of your garbage out on the first date, be mysterieus, let he pull it out, but not to much, because if she knows everything already on the first date, why have a second date.? 'ALWAYS GO FOR THE KISS' IN THE DATE OR AT THE END OF THE DATE, if she shows she's wanting to or just go for it, if you don't do it on the 1st or 2nd date, she will just see you as weak and not wanting to hang out anmore, it's just friendzone vibe... woman who really like you it' makes things so easier to handle it to end up at home etc, watch at the date for sign for interest, alughs at you stupid jokes, she bring up or wants to keep talking, keeping eyecontact, play with her hair, touches you at your hand or feet in a playful way etc, 'pay attention men x)' '
This man is out here saving lives one at a time. I randomly found your channel and I have been getting the “no chemistry” response lately. But not anymore
I love the concept of leaving silence and creating a little awkwardness to get the girl to invest and increase attraction ... however in the modern age ...lots of girls will use that moment to look at their cell phones ...diffusing tension and distracting their focus ... how do you handle cell phone usage by girls on dates?
Be direct and say' hey, show is up here' and wave your hand in front of the screen. You should not tolerate going on a date with a girl and she is constantly on her phone.
Todd, i cant stress enough! your videos are so clear and straight to the point. I cant thank you enough for giving me the tools and power to make it happen, when i want, with the one i want. Thanks Todd!! Cheers from Uruguay.
In order to avoid the conversation trap in first dates, I've tried Tyrion's drinking game from Game of Thrones. Good ice breaker and can lead to escalation as well. Seems to work for me.
Everthing you said makes sense. When I think of my behavior in the past, there was no space for silence. And they enyojed so much and happily walk away. The few times I made it was when I didn't bother to talk, and I was almost catched by surpsise. The taekaway is to approach with minimum effort.
Live in Sweden where there is a law against any drinking at all and driving. So the first mistake with the cars would only happen for non drinkers, haha. However, getting the right location is good advice. Dating place which is engaging but not too absorbing of attention is good. My best ever date was in a museum with dim lights, not so many people inside but not totally empty either. Mega nice tension in there!
Todd, can you do a video on Baseline and Plotline? That little 20-second section intrigued me, but feels like it could be expanded... Also, this was one of your better videos in my opinion. Really some well-explained gold in here. Thanks!
Iron Rule of Tomassi # 2 NEVER, under pain of death, honestly or dishonestly reveal the number of women you’ve slept with or explain any detail of your sexual experiences with them to a current lover.
@@MastaInferno the rational male is a "red pill" book but goddamn it, it's one of the best if not the best book on game, that book teach more game, social Dynamics,seduction, masculinity Fuck it's like you feel the pimpin going in your veins while you read it
@@Ash_Wen-li I don't think "the red pill guys" got too far, instead I strongly believe that the female matrix and the beta ization has gotten too powerful And that combined with the women's natural hypergamy and the "female empowerment and feminism" That's has made guys to really get away from women, but is useless, women will always have a provider and a side alpha male so, I think is this society who has gone too far But in any case "get better not bitter" soooo No matter how horrible things are, just don't give a fa
@@renaldonelson970 the women are generally from tinder and older, like in their 30’s. Hmm well its usually something like Open>banter or boring convo starters>chemistry from convo starters (wow omg really etc) then do that for a day or 2>5 question game into more chemistry> soft close “we should hang out sometime” they say sure, then i say how about we split a bottle of wine on my romantic balcony> they object or say yes. If they say yes, the biggest hurdle is that they will usually say something like “yes but i dont have any time this week, lets do something next week, which is their dumbass way of buying time and making the texting go on longer. Not every girl that comes over ends up being a lay. Some dont, but thats ok because you didnt waste money on a date and because if nothing happened at your place you can be damn sure nothing would have sprung out of a coffee date. So yeah, basically banter>soft close>go direct>deal with objections>keep the fire lit for the next few days while the date to meet approaches. But be warned DO NOT get too much into sex talk. This will almost always make them flake as they are basically guaranteeing sex with someone they dont know and they will get cold feet at the last minute and make up an excuse. Just send some gifs/memes and keep the momentum going for the next few days until the meet. I also tend to sell my balcony or wine before making the suggestion. That way they are already primed to say yes. One thing to remember is that im a fairly decent looking guy (6-8) and most of the women this works on arent as good looking as me (5-7) the chicks that are 8’s and above dont usually agree to come straight over or they give lots of shit.
This was a great video - awesome insight. IMO: You're not locked into anything. Ever. If you feel it that strongly, chances are she's feeling it too. At Course #2: Me: "Hey, this meal is really good but you are so much more delicious. You wanna get out of here?" Her: "Okay!"
Not gonna lie, Ive asked those questions like "whats your body count?" and "what are you looking for?" to a girl. It hasnt really affected me all too much because my body count number is decent (not too high and not too low) and I ask what they are looking for because it helps me determine the speed i escalate. for instance if a woman wants only relationships, i wont try to hook up on the first time...I will take it slow and just vibe with them and get to know their personality. Ive also had sex a bunch of times in the car just from asking "do you wanna have sex?"
I remember having a girl at home to watch a movie. I put Mel Gibson's Passion of the Christ, we watched it like 2-3 times and I don't remember anything from the movie. I'm not sure if the girl even noticed what the movie was about.
Hey Todd, I have The Hustler on deck to read. But there is one book before it called A Feast of Blood. I just need a break from self help for a moment.
My plan is usually bring her to do something that I like, preferably on a weekend and even on daylight. Then make stupid jokes and just simply have fun. Leave her the choice to leave at any point and even make fun of that. Be chilled and not worry much about wether I kiss her or not. I'm small and a bit chubby and I have no problems. I think the worse problem men have is the over planning and the overthinking. Take it easy man... Learn from Arnold in one of his speeches: if you're tense you break, just relax.
@@jns08d If done properly, online dating works. As a beginner , I would recommend coldapproach. Cause even if you do online dating , you still need the coldapproach skill when you meet the girl.
@@harishot4953 The problem with online dating platforms seems to be that the frame is setup in a way that men are on bargain sale, because of how many options women have. We already place ourselves as being one among all the thirsty needy men, thereby setting ourselves up as being lower value just by being a man, no matter how well we make our profiles to be. Let's face it, an 8/10 man has an SMV equal o less than a 4-5/10 woman on those platforms. One would need pretty good social skills to overcome this, and to flip the script on a date (if it happens), so it doesn't seem like a very good idea for beginners. Even if we succeed to a degree by some fluke and it ends up being someone we like to have a longer term relationship with, it would be incredibly hard to sustain it given how the entire premise of the relationship was to begin with - that you were someone picked from a sea of options.
Logistics and the two car thing.... If I can't arrange somewhere near my place, I will schedule the date in the opposite direction from her place - or at least significantly closer to mine. Then I get her to drive to my place, leave her car, and go on the date in my car. Then she HAS to come back to my place... or very near... to pick up her own car.
15:07 create a little silence and sexual tension, so you can have a kiss towards the end of the date. Edit April 15 2023: 8:30 she’s coming on the date to meet you, so she took time out of your day to come see you outta everything else she could do so you don’t need to impress her. Come in with a hug and then treat her as if she was already a girlfriend and don’t feel the need to be talking to her on the walk to the table. And then she’ll game you and because you started from a more boring/awkward point, it can only go up from there. 14:50 make sure while you’re having a good conversation you are escalating and touching and teasing and take risks sexually. If you’re telling amazing stories, the whole time you’re not giving her room to jump in and chase you and commit so there won’t be sexual tension. 15:45 baseline, and plot lines which are emotional spikes, and the more “gamey“ moves. 16:05 first date, it matters more about sexual chemistry
I strongly disagree(not 6:42 forth on). The actual many experiences that I've: 1. Theater or small theaters, comedy shows are great to meet, set up dates or have sex from there. 2. It really doesn't matter the distance if the girl wants to have sex with you she will, even if you need to get a train(I managed to do that more than once) 3. Dates A. It's totally fine for the first date be casual, and it should be. Even if it's day. It doesn't matter if you take her for dinner and both agree but what does matters is you should do the least expensive possible, the least effort and the most casual possible. B. If possible go for public pub in the night between 19h-23h or 24h-03am, best logistics, don't spend the whole night there. C. First date it's just to meet, second or third her apartment, do not do things that actually a boyfriend/girlfriend would do, like go to cinema, valentine day's etc. D. Also do not do things that are actually too friendly like go to park or the beach for a lunch. I those in the first dates with no problem, however if she wants you sexually she'll direct you for another direction and say "beach again, no, let's go somewhere more intimate or a pub" or "lets go to my friend's house". So it doesn't matter just don't do it constantly. I say this because covid times, pubs are closed, but if it wasn't the case you should go especially in the night. E. It's better not have sex in the first night but it doesn't matter, it really depends on the girl, if she's looking for relationship she'll piss off or if she wants the same no problem. Whatsoever you'll want to thave sex first and relationship later if she demands. You've to show that you different, and without being a pig about it. 4. A.Sexual tension that's key. What he says about bit boring or serious. That's great. 5. Hug is very important, I don't remember the book I've read, but the impact on girl is real. I've read something about "girls need nurture[physiology] and now she's need to give back that hug somehow"....but I want to add that if she doesn't want is ok. Don't panic don't be creepy don't react...keep forward 6. Avoid talking about your previous girlfriends unless it was a great experience, if you talk just keep it short. 7. I'm totally against escalating and touching the girl, that's totally unnecessary, for years I though the same but actually it puts you down. You don't need to touch, she'll touch you anyways or hold your hand subtly if she wants to and you don't need to do anything else. By doing this I managed to bring many girls home, I've showed that they were not with a creepy guy and yes we kissed and have sex later on, you must be the natural you, not the creepy version of you. [so it also means that if you want to touch the girl and you don't do it you're being creepy as well---you only touch with a purpose, maybe the purpose was to extend the communication of both, like to make a surprise and scare her, to steal her drink or take her cigarret away, to notify by touching her shoulder] --touching is an extension of your communication Also if you think you must escalate it puts you down on a position where you become need and that something is missing. You gave her your power away. By any means you should touch if it's unnecessary remember that. NOW the other version of it, it's when her level of attraction is high, then you must touch her, kiss her and escalate towards sex. DO NOT THINK you will raise her level of attraction by touching her.
@@DavidVegaBurgos Is her interest, a lot of times depending on the girl she would lie that she wants a relationship but actually, they say that to not look dirty and because they want sex. That's trick, a woman will give you clues, if you're experienced enough she may look into your eyes deeply and give a sign of trust. If she gives that sign of trust still depends on you to reach the relationship. Girls tend to play very hard in the beginning by giving very little to almost no clues. The more you resist, and do not hide yourself (put on a mask) it will get you more close to her. Girls tend to play long term and avoid short all way possible. On the contrary, girls who want sex will play short, so as a test (a bad test) you can ask if she wants a relationship (if she makes a bad face or says "nah" with despite). But if she says "I'm not looking for someone" probably they are but they want things to happen naturally and not with a flirt/game mentality.
@@DavidVegaBurgos Another is that you cannot change their intentions if you want a relationship you want to play slow, if she says "let's go home" you say "I'm not the type of man who sleeps with a girl the first date". You set your boundaries. If she doesn't want she will instantly reject you. Vice-versa. I don't recommend trying to change their interests, just follow through and set your boundaries, but knowing that maybe jt will lead nowhere but you're ok with that.
I live with my mum and sis in a small house. Having sex with a date in there would be awkward cos everyone would hear it. I think I have to develop a gameplan to get lays in a hotel...?
Opening with a hug could be weird IMO. It’s pretty forward. I’ve hooked up on high tension dates but don’t open with a hug. I usually try to playfully touch during the opening though.
the other week i had a genius idea to take a girl to ice skating, it was my first time and hers. i thought about ice skating because it DESTORYS that touch barrier, we ended up holding hands afterwards but my mistake was not kissing her, i attempted twice and she gave me the hug, i shouldve been assertive and told her to kiss me. my mistake.
What she lives with a parents and live very far from the city center where date is gonna be. No good places around my area, so I go the center. Can't rent place at the center for every date I am going. How to escalate this?
so why not go with your car and if need go with her in her car to her place? I mean all you need to do is get an Uber from her to your car? 3rd advise is actually a good one even for your entire relation and potentially marriage if that is your goal. I put all your energy in to planing a lot of going out to places, hollydays whatever in the beginning and that is not sustainable. Never do your 100%,. Just do enough to keep her interested and never too much to reach a point you can't do it on long term. If your sustainability point is lower then her interest point it will never going to work, so don't even waste your money and time.
Amazing video! I think it would be a really good idea to talk about things to avoid after you have sex with the girl if you want to keep her around. Ironically for me is not hard to get the sex, but it's really hard to keep them interested, mostly with the 8s, 9s and 10s. I noticed that the reason is that when I want to keep them around it's really hard not to fall into the trap and give too much validation away too quickly. it's kind of a shit test in a way, since the girls after the sex will start treating you like a boyfriend, and they start asking for that emotional validation, but as soon as you play along, they lose interest extremely fast, and it's almost impossible to fix (actually this happen to me with the last 9 I slept with, never saw her again). So that's what I've noticed, and I think it could be a good idea to have your in depth opinion on this topic.
The stand-up comedy idea is also bad because the comedian will inevitably amog you by being funny and on top of the crowd so there’s no way you can look attractive and confident while she’s listening to someone with way more value than you
Have you been making these mistakes? Let me know about it below...
Is verbal game coming out soon? I really want to give you my money already.
Hey todd I got a quite problem that you can make a topic about .
The problem Is i got the skills to talk about any single topic (sexual escalation .. man to woman conversation ..and not gettig friendzoned) ecxept the fact that we talk sexually about OUR OWN relationship !)
I have done All the wrong things and also ALL THE RIGHT things and still no results ..... I have done the right things that You've talked about in your videos even before I have started watching them even by instinct , trial and error and lately by organizing the good and taking away the bad and still no result .....! What's wrong then ?
I follow all of these tips (good logistics, sexual tension, etc) but the challenge is I can’t close on the first date. What holds girls back from having sex on the first date and how do I fix this? Recently when closing Ive had girls be like - “my place is too small” or “my place is a mess” or “my roommate is there”... (Note I still live at home with my parents so taking them back to mine isn’t an option)
@Todd V dating Truly appreciative of your tips and advice.
“How many girls have you slept with?” - her
“One less than enough” - me
"How many girls have you slept with?"
"Today?"
@@mihalypapp3710 that's brilliant
@@mihalypapp3710 lmao
@@Willdostyles szevasz :)
Silky smooth answer.
So if I'm on a date and I bring her back to my place, we're watching Bee Movie. Got it.
Bee movie but every time it says the word "bee", you escalate.
@@JD2jr. and by the end of the movie, they would have been married, and bought a decent home for their 2 grown kids
As a bee movie enthusiast, I resent that
This is what trash horror and b action movies were made for
😂
dang now i have to cancel all my 5 course meals at comedy shows
Double negative always equals a positive, right?
No one cares!
I'm always dubious when I see someone making educational videos because I'm looking for a hidden agenda (a lot of "gurus" try to sell you on an idea), but the more I watch of Todd, the more he seems like the real deal. This is probably one of the best date videos of his that I've seen and he's just handing out all that info for us without looking for a gain
Best in game dating advice channel! I've definitely made the mistake of too much convo and not allowing enough sexual tension. Once a guy is comfy allowing the awkward silences for a minute or two, it's a GAME CHANGER.
Every girl who doesn't know what they're looking for at all, or where they're going in life:
So, what are you looking for?
That question means "i have no clue on how to make my life fufilling. So let me check yours to see if you can make my life fufilling for me"
Say: for a good time together
@@zaubaschnutemajestat7796 does it work?
@@fettaheker depends on the girl.
But i have never used it because i have never received that question.
@@zaubaschnutemajestat7796 lol
This is real High Value, Todd, you're giving here. Not the "play moves", but just the meat, valuable experience digested into knowledge, shared with everybody. This inspires me to bring value myself across all areas of the life, not just dating. I salute you again and again.
I’m so glad you started putting up notes it makes it easier to jot down and focus on
It's that web editor he offered a position for a while back. He could tone it down just a smidge but yes, I do like his videos better with it
I dont like the fact that we are always blaming men all the time when dates go wrong.
I believe most guys will do well on a date but sometimes the girl is just boring, or you are just not compatible. Point blank and Clear
Blaming the other party takes all the power out of your hands
@@johnchao2422 not necessarily, it's balance, yes always work with what you could do better next time, but fully blaming yourself as a man if a date dont work out? Unrealistic
@@Swiminator_08 yeah true. balance is everything
its true. most attractive girls are incredibly boring, because they've never needed to learn how to be interesting.
@@johnchao2422 I wish I had the power to make boring/dumb girls interesting. Would make life so much easier.
I’m 💯 skeptical on most things including Todd V… until I watched this video. I now truly have an appreciation for his ability to articulate those unspoken and case specific interactions that I’ve never heard or been able to put into words but I recognize them immediately in recollection. His simple and technical manner is great for understanding the why and how to implement.
Kudos to this man’s intelligence in human behavior and interaction techniques, its is through the roof! I’m all in now Todd V. you got me
Broo, these bad dates and mistakes Todd always talks about are so real!! I've done some of those a lot of times. To be honest it makes his teaching way better than some phylosophy that doesn't even make sense.
These words are GOLD, people...todd just helped me to identify my sticking points after 8 years, omg
Were you doing game all those 8 years?
@@KpopListener yes, i was a student of the game...was able to get numbers, had trouble getting a 2nd date after the 1st date...specifically korean girls
@@cerebrala69 Nice! I’m glad you identified your sticking points
@@cerebrala69 What was it specifically?
This advice is essentially sound, but even IF you do everything right, there can still be not enough chemistry.... Not necessarily anything the guy is doing wrong
If you got her number from cold approach, the chemistry is built long before the date. If you get her number from online dating, the interest is built through your texts and escalation skills there, then cemented on the date.
As the man, it's your responsibility to create the chemistry. You don't just show up and say there's no chemistry. Unless you brought your A game and she was still just giving you one word answers, ultimately, it's your fault.
You lead and she will follow. If she doesn't? Next.
@@themosthighvaluemaninthega9048 So, how to do that?
@@SwordWieldingDuck How to do what
@@themosthighvaluemaninthega9048 create chemistry.
@@SwordWieldingDuck It's too long to explain in a TH-cam comment. Go watch some videos. Basically, don't be boring (but don't be a clown), be provocative, and do what you want. Basically, be masculine.
My best first date was taking her to a local park for an acroyoga event, then to a dance event in the evening. She was already very attracted to me, but this also helped her get comfortable with close physical contact and trusting me.
Excellent info. Simply picking good logistics will do more for your case than anything else I believe.
what if I live at the edge of the city and she lives at the center?
@@tekiero Pick good date spots near you. Or perhaps it's time to move. Logistical challenges are among the hardest to overcome as there are no easy answers.
@@MrHav1k you wouldn't even consider meeting somewhere at the centre (near the girl's place) and then going to her place to bang? 🤔 Especially if it's easy for you to get to the centre
@@Stifmeister1 if it's near her place that's fine, but I find it's simpler to ask her to your place than the opposite. Girls can be wary of showing a stranger where they live
If course you should do the same since you don't want crazy chicks knowing where you live either. Trust me there. Plenty of horror stories on that
Guys how awkward it is to smash at an AIRBNB booked there and then via app if the date's going well.
Her: So what are you looking for?
Me: a delicious chicken sandwich
Those hard questions I started treating them as shit tests - using the respective ways of handling them - and I found that it works pretty well too.
Can u show a few examples?
Examples please!
Misinterpret or exagerate. "How many girls have you slept with?", A few hundred a year since I was 14 but im much more reserved now. Something along those lines
Bro the video quality is top notch. Love that you provide example. Please keep providing examples and demos
idk why but I've never had a problem inviting a girl to my place or me going to hers. The women I've dated have all been pretty cool and either say yes to me inviting them or they will actually invite me to their place them selves if we felt as though there was good chemistry between us. Just seems like she has to like you and nothing else can really get in the way
These are so fucking good. I love the fact you upload more often Todd, keep killing it gg!
11:40 if she asks about previous girlfriends etc, ' always tell about it on a positive way, but also tell you grew out of eachother if that may be the case etc? it's a shit test, to see what if things go well on the date etc etc, she's trying to find out how it's gonna be if she continues to date you, and if you talk shit about ur exes , bad idea, or don't say nothing at all if she does not bring it up, also cinema dates are bad to, you barely know eachother and from a girls view, 'you sit there in the dark watching the movie' if you start being physical etc when she is not ready or shows it, bad idea. just have a quick drink at a cafe if yout both really like eachother etc, if things don't flow, you can always see and both agree we don't really match or have similar interests and you can ask for the check and both go your way again in life. also, let her to 80% of the talking, don't take all of your garbage out on the first date, be mysterieus, let he pull it out, but not to much, because if she knows everything already on the first date, why have a second date.? 'ALWAYS GO FOR THE KISS' IN THE DATE OR AT THE END OF THE DATE, if she shows she's wanting to or just go for it, if you don't do it on the 1st or 2nd date, she will just see you as weak and not wanting to hang out anmore, it's just friendzone vibe... woman who really like you it' makes things so easier to handle it to end up at home etc, watch at the date for sign for interest, alughs at you stupid jokes, she bring up or wants to keep talking, keeping eyecontact, play with her hair, touches you at your hand or feet in a playful way etc, 'pay attention men x)' '
This man is out here saving lives one at a time. I randomly found your channel and I have been getting the “no chemistry” response lately. But not anymore
Todd you are awesome bro love you..! Stay safe..!
I love the concept of leaving silence and creating a little awkwardness to get the girl to invest and increase attraction ... however in the modern age ...lots of girls will use that moment to look at their cell phones ...diffusing tension and distracting their focus ... how do you handle cell phone usage by girls on dates?
Be direct and say' hey, show is up here' and wave your hand in front of the screen. You should not tolerate going on a date with a girl and she is constantly on her phone.
That should just be signal for you that you dont want her
Its a turn off
You call attention to her rude behavior in a playful way.
@port nut Yes,I agree
Maan, you really make game sound like science, with physics rules, chemical reactions, radioactivity... etc. Respect!
Todd, i cant stress enough! your videos are so clear and straight to the point.
I cant thank you enough for giving me the tools and power to make it happen, when i want, with the one i want.
Thanks Todd!!
Cheers from Uruguay.
Very high quality content in general!
Lots of helpful advice as per usual Todd, cheers mate. 👍
In order to avoid the conversation trap in first dates, I've tried Tyrion's drinking game from Game of Thrones. Good ice breaker and can lead to escalation as well. Seems to work for me.
Pro tip, I'm gonna use this
That's a good idea, I'm gonna try it !
Whars the tyrion drinking game?
Aha First Comment, great advice Todd love this channel. You been helping me make the right decision on a date for years
Everthing you said makes sense. When I think of my behavior in the past, there was no space for silence. And they enyojed so much and happily walk away. The few times I made it was when I didn't bother to talk, and I was almost catched by surpsise. The taekaway is to approach with minimum effort.
If you're in your late 20's and largely inexperienced, should you be honest about it if she asks?
No women despise any hint of weakness
@@Ban00 And your basis for thinking this is...?
Your best bet is to be vague. Because honesty is overrated with women but you don't want to lie.
@@PhantomLink16 do as you please then
@@Ban00 I asked you to articulate why you think the way you do, and you didn't articulate a response. Do you have a reason why you think that, or no?
Just for guys being in another culture. Here in Tokyo: DONT start the date with physical touching and try to refrain from it at all if possible.
Hi 🥰
Live in Sweden where there is a law against any drinking at all and driving. So the first mistake with the cars would only happen for non drinkers, haha. However, getting the right location is good advice.
Dating place which is engaging but not too absorbing of attention is good. My best ever date was in a museum with dim lights, not so many people inside but not totally empty either. Mega nice tension in there!
Totally agree. No gimmick in the world will help you if your nonverbals are not proper. Proper nonverbals are strong eyecontact for example.
Comedy show is the worst. Guaranteed to be heckled just think of Andrew Schultz shows
It's Schulz.
Todd, can you do a video on Baseline and Plotline? That little 20-second section intrigued me, but feels like it could be expanded... Also, this was one of your better videos in my opinion. Really some well-explained gold in here. Thanks!
I have never been this early! Was waiting for an upload
1:20 first world problem of living in LA. Can’t complain that much T
Haha. Didn't know Todd was a DTLA pioneer
Audio engineer on this video is the bomb. U have the best content too.
Iron Rule of Tomassi # 2
NEVER, under pain of death, honestly or dishonestly reveal the number of women you’ve slept with or explain any detail of your sexual experiences with them to a current lover.
Which book is this from?
@@MastaInferno the rational male is a "red pill" book but goddamn it, it's one of the best if not the best book on game, that book teach more game, social Dynamics,seduction, masculinity
Fuck it's like you feel the pimpin going in your veins while you read it
@@Trump-A-Bad-MF It's the "original" red pill book before people started to take things too far
@@Ash_Wen-li I don't think "the red pill guys" got too far, instead I strongly believe that the female matrix and the beta ization has gotten too powerful
And that combined with the women's natural hypergamy and the "female empowerment and feminism"
That's has made guys to really get away from women, but is useless, women will always have a provider and a side alpha male so, I think is this society who has gone too far
But in any case "get better not bitter" soooo
No matter how horrible things are, just don't give a fa
Wow, that video definitely must be in a before-the-date checklist. Amazing job, as always!
Todd these videos are beautifully made lately. Thumbs up
Todd, you're a legend
About #1 i just invite chicks over to my place to “get to know each other over wine on my romantic balcony” shit works well.
Wow that is direct. Where do you find the girls / what tricks do you use before get to that point
@@renaldonelson970 the women are generally from tinder and older, like in their 30’s.
Hmm well its usually something like
Open>banter or boring convo starters>chemistry from convo starters (wow omg really etc) then do that for a day or 2>5 question game into more chemistry> soft close “we should hang out sometime” they say sure, then i say how about we split a bottle of wine on my romantic balcony> they object or say yes.
If they say yes, the biggest hurdle is that they will usually say something like “yes but i dont have any time this week, lets do something next week, which is their dumbass way of buying time and making the texting go on longer. Not every girl that comes over ends up being a lay. Some dont, but thats ok because you didnt waste money on a date and because if nothing happened at your place you can be damn sure nothing would have sprung out of a coffee date.
So yeah, basically banter>soft close>go direct>deal with objections>keep the fire lit for the next few days while the date to meet approaches. But be warned DO NOT get too much into sex talk. This will almost always make them flake as they are basically guaranteeing sex with someone they dont know and they will get cold feet at the last minute and make up an excuse. Just send some gifs/memes and keep the momentum going for the next few days until the meet. I also tend to sell my balcony or wine before making the suggestion. That way they are already primed to say yes.
One thing to remember is that im a fairly decent looking guy (6-8) and most of the women this works on arent as good looking as me (5-7) the chicks that are 8’s and above dont usually agree to come straight over or they give lots of shit.
@@dimex3362 8s will come over if you're a rich 10 😂
Dude Playstation girls love to play and it leads to escalation, teasing, fun , not serious.
good stuff Todd
This was a great video - awesome insight.
IMO: You're not locked into anything. Ever. If you feel it that strongly, chances are she's feeling it too.
At Course #2:
Me: "Hey, this meal is really good but you are so much more delicious. You wanna get out of here?"
Her: "Okay!"
I feel like these girls need some coaching on dating also 😂
10:56 lol, at that moment you did sink in my eyes, whats the point saying it? hahaha
Absolutely amazing content. 👏
Not gonna lie, Ive asked those questions like "whats your body count?" and "what are you looking for?" to a girl. It hasnt really affected me all too much because my body count number is decent (not too high and not too low) and I ask what they are looking for because it helps me determine the speed i escalate. for instance if a woman wants only relationships, i wont try to hook up on the first time...I will take it slow and just vibe with them and get to know their personality. Ive also had sex a bunch of times in the car just from asking "do you wanna have sex?"
I remember having a girl at home to watch a movie. I put Mel Gibson's Passion of the Christ, we watched it like 2-3 times and I don't remember anything from the movie. I'm not sure if the girl even noticed what the movie was about.
Brilliant as always
This is the only good dating channel. Thank you Todd.
Hey Todd, I have The Hustler on deck to read. But there is one book before it called A Feast of Blood. I just need a break from self help for a moment.
My plan is usually bring her to do something that I like, preferably on a weekend and even on daylight. Then make stupid jokes and just simply have fun. Leave her the choice to leave at any point and even make fun of that. Be chilled and not worry much about wether I kiss her or not. I'm small and a bit chubby and I have no problems.
I think the worse problem men have is the over planning and the overthinking. Take it easy man... Learn from Arnold in one of his speeches: if you're tense you break, just relax.
what a godly man. eternal thankfull
I Love these new vids. They're rally engaging and put together well.
Neat YT Add. Fitting, it’s Valentines Day too
How are you guys meeting girls these days? I'm lost hahaha.
Coldapproach still works
Yea I'm transitioning more to cold approaches also, online dating is a shitshow lol
@@jns08d If done properly, online dating works. As a beginner , I would recommend coldapproach. Cause even if you do online dating , you still need the coldapproach skill when you meet the girl.
@@harishot4953 The problem with online dating platforms seems to be that the frame is setup in a way that men are on bargain sale, because of how many options women have. We already place ourselves as being one among all the thirsty needy men, thereby setting ourselves up as being lower value just by being a man, no matter how well we make our profiles to be. Let's face it, an 8/10 man has an SMV equal o less than a 4-5/10 woman on those platforms.
One would need pretty good social skills to overcome this, and to flip the script on a date (if it happens), so it doesn't seem like a very good idea for beginners. Even if we succeed to a degree by some fluke and it ends up being someone we like to have a longer term relationship with, it would be incredibly hard to sustain it given how the entire premise of the relationship was to begin with - that you were someone picked from a sea of options.
@@harishot4953 that's deep.
Good shit.
But, Todd definitely dyed the grey Streak in this hair!
Todd how's the spin handshake opener working in 2021? I'm gonna use that until I DIE!!!
60 percent of the time, it works every time.
Spin Handshake opener? Sounds interesting. Where can I find some info about it?
@@bistel1432 step 1: handshake
step 2: spin
LOL
OMG, Why is that intro music SO BALLER!?!?!
Verbal Game!
”And for that, watch the entire rest of my channel.” 😂👍
If I know I’m getting some it’s always a Bond movie. Romance scenes and loud action to drown out the sounds.
Logistics and the two car thing.... If I can't arrange somewhere near my place, I will schedule the date in the opposite direction from her place - or at least significantly closer to mine. Then I get her to drive to my place, leave her car, and go on the date in my car.
Then she HAS to come back to my place... or very near... to pick up her own car.
Aww number 5 always happens thanks for the tip
This is gold!
15:07 create a little silence and sexual tension, so you can have a kiss towards the end of the date. Edit April 15 2023: 8:30 she’s coming on the date to meet you, so she took time out of your day to come see you outta everything else she could do so you don’t need to impress her. Come in with a hug and then treat her as if she was already a girlfriend and don’t feel the need to be talking to her on the walk to the table. And then she’ll game you and because you started from a more boring/awkward point, it can only go up from there. 14:50 make sure while you’re having a good conversation you are escalating and touching and teasing and take risks sexually. If you’re telling amazing stories, the whole time you’re not giving her room to jump in and chase you and commit so there won’t be sexual tension. 15:45 baseline, and plot lines which are emotional spikes, and the more “gamey“ moves. 16:05 first date, it matters more about sexual chemistry
I strongly disagree(not 6:42 forth on). The actual many experiences that I've:
1. Theater or small theaters, comedy shows are great to meet, set up dates or have sex from there.
2. It really doesn't matter the distance if the girl wants to have sex with you she will, even if you need to get a train(I managed to do that more than once)
3. Dates
A. It's totally fine for the first date be casual, and it should be. Even if it's day. It doesn't matter if you take her for dinner and both agree but what does matters is you should do the least expensive possible, the least effort and the most casual possible.
B. If possible go for public pub in the night between 19h-23h or 24h-03am, best logistics, don't spend the whole night there.
C. First date it's just to meet, second or third her apartment, do not do things that actually a boyfriend/girlfriend would do, like go to cinema, valentine day's etc.
D. Also do not do things that are actually too friendly like go to park or the beach for a lunch. I those in the first dates with no problem, however if she wants you sexually she'll direct you for another direction and say "beach again, no, let's go somewhere more intimate or a pub" or "lets go to my friend's house". So it doesn't matter just don't do it constantly. I say this because covid times, pubs are closed, but if it wasn't the case you should go especially in the night.
E. It's better not have sex in the first night but it doesn't matter, it really depends on the girl, if she's looking for relationship she'll piss off or if she wants the same no problem.
Whatsoever you'll want to thave sex first and relationship later if she demands. You've to show that you different, and without being a pig about it.
4. A.Sexual tension that's key. What he says about bit boring or serious. That's great.
5. Hug is very important, I don't remember the book I've read, but the impact on girl is real. I've read something about "girls need nurture[physiology] and now she's need to give back that hug somehow"....but I want to add that if she doesn't want is ok. Don't panic don't be creepy don't react...keep forward
6. Avoid talking about your previous girlfriends unless it was a great experience, if you talk just keep it short.
7. I'm totally against escalating and touching the girl, that's totally unnecessary, for years I though the same but actually it puts you down. You don't need to touch, she'll touch you anyways or hold your hand subtly if she wants to and you don't need to do anything else.
By doing this I managed to bring many girls home, I've showed that they were not with a creepy guy and yes we kissed and have sex later on, you must be the natural you, not the creepy version of you.
[so it also means that if you want to touch the girl and you don't do it you're being creepy as well---you only touch with a purpose, maybe the purpose was to extend the communication of both, like to make a surprise and scare her, to steal her drink or take her cigarret away, to notify by touching her shoulder] --touching is an extension of your communication
Also if you think you must escalate it puts you down on a position where you become need and that something is missing. You gave her your power away.
By any means you should touch if it's unnecessary remember that.
NOW
the other version of it, it's when her level of attraction is high, then you must touch her, kiss her and escalate towards sex. DO NOT THINK you will raise her level of attraction by touching her.
@@DavidVegaBurgos Is her interest, a lot of times depending on the girl she would lie that she wants a relationship but actually, they say that to not look dirty and because they want sex.
That's trick, a woman will give you clues, if you're experienced enough she may look into your eyes deeply and give a sign of trust. If she gives that sign of trust still depends on you to reach the relationship. Girls tend to play very hard in the beginning by giving very little to almost no clues.
The more you resist, and do not hide yourself (put on a mask) it will get you more close to her. Girls tend to play long term and avoid short all way possible. On the contrary, girls who want sex will play short, so as a test (a bad test) you can ask if she wants a relationship (if she makes a bad face or says "nah" with despite). But if she says "I'm not looking for someone" probably they are but they want things to happen naturally and not with a flirt/game mentality.
@@DavidVegaBurgos Another is that you cannot change their intentions if you want a relationship you want to play slow, if she says "let's go home" you say "I'm not the type of man who sleeps with a girl the first date". You set your boundaries. If she doesn't want she will instantly reject you. Vice-versa. I don't recommend trying to change their interests, just follow through and set your boundaries, but knowing that maybe jt will lead nowhere but you're ok with that.
I agree with the touching part, it does make you seem desperate. If she wants to touch you'll get the hints
I was listening to a comic's podcast and he mentioned how there's times that a girl sitting in the crowd on a date would DM him after his set.
I live with my mum and sis in a small house. Having sex with a date in there would be awkward cos everyone would hear it.
I think I have to develop a gameplan to get lays in a hotel...?
How about getting a life and subsequently your own place?
Can u pull these (or some of these) off during a facetime date? And if yes which ones?
just don't let your facetime happen somewhere in the middle
@@dreamcore sorry dude could u elaborate more pls 😅?
No, you have to actually meet up in real life.
Opening with a hug could be weird IMO. It’s pretty forward. I’ve hooked up on high tension dates but don’t open with a hug. I usually try to playfully touch during the opening though.
the other week i had a genius idea to take a girl to ice skating, it was my first time and hers. i thought about ice skating because it DESTORYS that touch barrier, we ended up holding hands afterwards but my mistake was not kissing her, i attempted twice and she gave me the hug, i shouldve been assertive and told her to kiss me. my mistake.
you and lloyd the single guy have the best advice out there
Hi 🥰
Thanks for good advice on where to take a girl date for attention on each other.
Exceptional perspective
If she asks "How many girls did you sleep with" I give a non serious answer, like "2000", or "None, I'm a virgin" 😊. All this showing I'm joking.
True. You should never seriously give an answer to the question. She doesn't need to know. It's basically a shit-test.
Im goin with the "Im a virgin" and she will think im joking but its actually truth heh..
Struggling with number 5 HEAVILY
What do you find difficult about 'fun conversations that don't go anywhere'?
Correct me if I'm wrong but politics and religion are NOT good topics to create sexual tension.
You handle it by saying I have no expectations except to enjoy ourselves and see where things go it's a safe bet just saying
Omg this video gave me such a big aha moment!
Are you still located in LA, asking because I'm really considering taking your boot camp or master class
How come this guy doesn't have million subscriberd
This is elite
💯
Thank u 💜
What she lives with a parents and live very far from the city center where date is gonna be. No good places around my area, so I go the center. Can't rent place at the center for every date I am going. How to escalate this?
take a taxi, so there is only one car between the two of you
and places don't really have to that good, they're new to her
Have the date as close as possible to your house. Set the bar low for what is acceptable for the date location.
so why not go with your car and if need go with her in her car to her place? I mean all you need to do is get an Uber from her to your car?
3rd advise is actually a good one even for your entire relation and potentially marriage if that is your goal. I put all your energy in to planing a lot of going out to places, hollydays whatever in the beginning and that is not sustainable. Never do your 100%,. Just do enough to keep her interested and never too much to reach a point you can't do it on long term. If your sustainability point is lower then her interest point it will never going to work, so don't even waste your money and time.
Please make a video about lying and why you're against it
Amazing video! I think it would be a really good idea to talk about things to avoid after you have sex with the girl if you want to keep her around. Ironically for me is not hard to get the sex, but it's really hard to keep them interested, mostly with the 8s, 9s and 10s. I noticed that the reason is that when I want to keep them around it's really hard not to fall into the trap and give too much validation away too quickly. it's kind of a shit test in a way, since the girls after the sex will start treating you like a boyfriend, and they start asking for that emotional validation, but as soon as you play along, they lose interest extremely fast, and it's almost impossible to fix (actually this happen to me with the last 9 I slept with, never saw her again). So that's what I've noticed, and I think it could be a good idea to have your in depth opinion on this topic.
Yeah, so there are different plans depends on how you want to treat her after sex isn't it?
Either keep her as gf or keep on your adventures ;)
OG. Always good to see you bro.
Can you do another movie brake down? I always found those interesting.
Killer content!
Great video
What's your camera setup? It looks amazing for 1080p
The stand-up comedy idea is also bad because the comedian will inevitably amog you by being funny and on top of the crowd so there’s no way you can look attractive and confident while she’s listening to someone with way more value than you
Are you planning on doing any immersion programs in 2021 Todd?