Why Are People Treating Me So Badly? |
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 11 ก.ย. 2024
- It can be really discouraging reflecting on why others treat us poorly when we don’t deserve it. Just because they can't see your value doesn't mean it's not there. Never allow the actions of others to diminish your greatness!
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This is why I have social anxiety and self conscious, like I literally don’t like making new friends because I know they end up turning against and hate me later down the line 🤷♂️ like what’s the point of me making friends.
Friends are really overrated. Years ago, people valued friendships more, but society has become increasingly self centered and self absorbed, so quality people are few and far between. 😔
@@darquequeen especially if you live in california, you will meet toxic people
@@darquequeen It's not just friends, Love and relationships also seem more overrated and very rare..
wait me too they always seem to find a way to blame me 😂 or gang up against me like how does that make you feel
@@me-hk4ro like literally makes me feel like if I have to be an asshole just to be treated differently and if beginning nice is illegal
I hate people ❤passionately
Same
Same! Animals are so much better!! It’s crazy that animals have more kindness and compassion than humans do!
Me too. People can fuck off and leave me be.
i love this comment
Same here I talk less with people and do my own thing
Complete strangers say the most horrible things to me when I'm just existing and smiling. Workers treat me like crap, I get the worst customer service even though I'm patient and understanding... I'm done with people. Every time I go out it seems like someone has something to say. I've never had this sort of thing happen to me so much pre-2020. It's like the world has gone mad and everyone is so angry.
Don't let them bring you down to their low pathetic level, I'm proud of how brilliant you are compared to those trashy narcists, they are the devil in manipulation don't fall be strong i believe in you, decent brilliant person!! ❤
YES. Post-2020 America feels like the jungle. People say anything to anyone
I believe it's a spiritual battle
People are chasing pleasure so reason and understanding has gone out the window. Anyways. Idk if you belive in God, but you’re hardship and pain will be compensated for. You’re stronger than everyone for still being a good person and keep your smile. God bless.
I completely understand
I act exactly as I am treated. If I am treated well, I am happy and positive. People cannot stand when I am happy, because I wear my heart on my sleeve. They accuse me of being fake, and they teach me a lesson. Then, they act like victims when I turn to act miserable, because they treated me so horribly.
It is exhausting! I just wish I could go back to my positive, happy self. I miss that me!
This it
Same! Even when I'm honest with my friends like
Hey you're a little musty. I got an under arm detox if you want it
They say I'm being shady or making side shots.
How is it shady or a side shot if I said it directly?
Am I not supposed to say anything?
Guess what. They’re jealous. They accuse you of being fake because they can’t understand actual happiness. They want you to be cynical and miserable like them because that’s ‘authentic’ since that’s all they feel
It's a spiritual battle
OOOH, SAY IT AGAIN!
I am going through this
What does this mean?🥲
Yes! This the answer right here
Hmmm
But why we even have to show our value? We treat people well from top to bottom full stop. People should drop the titles and treat everyone with dignity and respect.We are all one!
Absolutely
Sadly we live in a highly conformist and judgmental culture, despite what people might say. Even a lot of people who really should know better fall into the trap
Only if people were mature like you they are bunch of narcissists who only think of them
Only if people were mature like you they are bunch of assholes
i cant take this anymore
Hope you’re still with us brother ❤I stg we can take it together man it’s just hard af
U got this
my supposed "friends" always got something to say even if I aint doing anything
I miss being nice. I don't even like speaking to anyone anymore. Kindness is for those that want to be mistreated. You have to be an asshole to survive in this world.
Amen to that my friend
Ik it’s a weird analogy but I agree. I thought about it today, I used to work 2 jobs and I’d always pay for my friends everywhere we went. Tell them to come over, pay for the arcade, pay for drinks, herb, drive around, whatever. I worked these 2 jobs so I could afford it.
I stopped working the 2nd job after I lost my dad. I couldn’t afford to do that stuff for my friends anymore, and I wasn’t “that guy”.
Eventually more and more stopped coming around. I thought, maybe it’s something I said? How I act? What’d I do wrong?
When a mother stops giving a baby milk, the baby cries. The baby is used to getting what they want, it’s used to having this handed to them.
I was the mother, my friends where the babies getting the milk.
Interesting analogy to it, except the baby doesn't rely on the mother's milk forever (but your point is spot on and valid). A lot of people are possibly narcissists nowadays - or worse. What they did was use you because of how generous you were to them for their own personal wicked gain - and did it behind your back too. Yet when time was up, they revealed their hand in your life. They were fake from the get go. AMD I am very sorry you went through that, but fake "friends" gotta go. They have NO place and ZERO value/standing in our lives.
Fr. Kinda scary how cynical people can be
i get picked on at school everyday and idk what to do. I pray in times like this to my Lord, hopefully things change.
I got picked on a lot as a teenager too. My grandma told me to ignore them but it's hard to do that. I still get bullied in my 30s and these people are up in age ranging from 30-50. The bullying never stops. The only thing to do is to outshine them, attribute their actions to them and not you, tell yourself how they think of you doesn't determine your value, and unfortunately - play the social status game. Dress more expensively, excel in all of your classes, graduate with honors, be smarter than them because they hate that😁, get a high paying job or career, and if you work with them, get in the position to fire them. 🤷🏾♀️ I realize as soon as I became a supervisor I was treated differently, and when they thought that I was a director at a different site, they had treated me with the utmost respect, but when they found out that I was in a regular position just as them, they disrespected me by not respecting my boundaries and speaking to me aggressively. Ordering me around instead of asking me to do whatever it was they needed for me to do
It'll never change unless you play the game. Be rich. Be successful. Be educated. Be in a higher position. Manager, business owner, Director, Surgeons- those types of positions.
People ONLY respect money and good looks. 🙄
I believe you will figure out WTD how to stop their abuse. How about asking a school counselor or someone you know that you respect for their advice. Bullies are looking for your reaction. They want to feel more powerful and so they try to take your power away .
Find a way to not give them what they are seeking from you
They are energy vampires and are seeking to steal your energy. Taking that smile & turning it into a frown. Ignore them or pretend to ignore them. Of course only someone who knows all the details will give you the Best direction. 🙏 for you. ❤
i treat people nice and don't get much in return, because i'd rather be nice to people and things not work out, than be mean to people and things not work out anyway. knowing i tried to be nice, i'm at peace with myself. whatever else is on others. i haven't met many who can appreciate and apply this, but hey
everyone treats me not good while im hanging on by a thread. mostly it’s me asking people if they’re okay & whenever i get out of my way to express my feelings they tell me to “get over it” or “just ignore it” it makes me feel not valued yk
Your surrounded by narcissists sadly... I didn't knew I was manipulated by them, I thought respect and kindness was common but for them it's not applicable as they are not decent humans but trash, and as my sister said surround yourself with positive people and avoid negative plp to not be consumed by it, your better off yourself we are all capable of greater things, so don't let toxicity dictate your life there is so much to live for. We are all human and we all deserve happiness and love as well and our own will to live ❤ be strong you can live a happy life too, you got this!!!
Most people are not inherently KIND. Seek out those people who treat you the way you treat others. May be a needle in tbe haystake yet we will find what we seek once we set our standards.
Chronic Illness will Shock the daylights out of you as the majority leave and you thought these were Good People as had friendships most of adult life. THE TRUTH is people do show themselves who they really are long before the illness, divorce, loss of money, prestige what ever it is.....the SIGNS are always there.
And i liked this message and thank you Cyrus.
Narcissits never see your value even when you leave them
Everyone stay away from narcists as described by the video misery brings no good, we are all pure hearts and god has a very special place for our generosity and it's our duty to outshine the bad, we all carry great potential and they are scared of us so they try to attack us, keep your head high!!! ❤ Lots of love and blessings for everyone. 💗🙏
I’m so sad that I can’t even truly escape my family and friends they all belittle me and hinder my growth very few family members aren’t toxic.😕
Call upon God and you will be saved. It is very sad that "family and friends" turn against us, when we go through hard times and they cause our demise and plan our downfall - but know this, it NEVER SUCCEEDS. THEY ALWAYS FAIL. They two faced and fake, we are genuine. Fake people cannot do what we real people can do. Ask God to reveal Himself to you and deliver you from their grasp. Ask Him to remove these people out of your life permanently. There will be moments where you will face hurt, but God loves you far more than any other human being. His love outshines everyone else's. Jesus will take great care of you, He did it for me. He will do the very same for you. And these people hate your generosity and authenticity. God bless you.
Typical narcissists 😂 you're better off than all of them, don't compare such a decent human next to trash it's really toxic for your mental health. You got this!! keep your head high you're more than you realize!!! ❤
Mahn everyone treats me like a goofy now I just don’t talk them maybe the world wil get better I’m tired of changing for people
They treat you bad cuz you allow it , I bet once you put your foot down they will back off
@@SylisDaGoldenPeachI put my foot down and they act like they never did anything, like they’re on some sort of divine mission to attack me, then get confused when I cut them off. There’s just something new in the water man, seriously, people different today
Yes don't settle for less but more, your worthy of everything... in fact, FUCK those pathetic gross narcists who have nothing but misery, keep smiling and be happy man life is short but your kindness has a place in the world's heart for many!! 🧡
@APsGTG exactly!!! Bullies will play the victim immediately when you stand up for yourself so there is no winning especially when they have other people on their side. It is best to leave that friend group or workplace. Stay real yall 🖖
Often ask myself this often I don't understand why I get treated like a doormat feel like I'm not good enough this stresses me out. I don't know what to do anymore. I get devalued so much and gaslighted so much it really makes me feel worthless even though I'm not worthless but that's the way I'm treated.
Sometimes it’s the kids who don’t understand the value of the parents, and the parents have to back off and leave the grown kid alone until the grown kid understands what the parents have done for them or there place in there life. Some of these kids now at days are very toxic and corrupted growing up with the whole world or idea of the world at there fingertips.
Sometimes it’s the other way though. It’s not toxic kids….. it’s toxic people
@@SQubaZteveKids are people too, especially if they grow up. Not all people are compatible or appreciate the things you do for them. Strict parents are often more respected than the nicest ones. Life isn't fair it's a lot about hierarchy. Kids have to be treated nice but this can also backfire.
If the kids are toxic, then we need to look at the source of their relationships with their family, for these are the first people everyone has to make contact with. Kids can be broken by “good” parents, usually through misunderstanding and a parents pride. The older generation will never be about to control the new kids, because the new kids are too smart for that now.
You give some really great analogies.
The thing is when I left my group at school right for maybw about 3-4 days, not a single person
gave a crap...
damn. This feels like me. I don't think I'm a saint by any means, but I let so much slide, I never get angry with people, if I do have an issue, I'm super careful about how I bring it up, always complimenting and encouraging. Everyone hates me. I don't know if it's because I've worked hard to be fit and have my own business. Or if it's me. I hate this, because I don't know how to be kinder or nicer. I'm always trying.
I have been saying THIS ALOT and Especially Lately. They Don't Value or High Value me! Answer to question I Have Been Asking!!!! Explain to them and they Still Don't get it or care. Must Separate! Must Separate! MUST SEPARATE!!!! They Don't High Value or Value me. Must Separate.
I am a disabled vet female with a mental illness, and my family and friends treat me bad. But they want me to give of myself. I have been treated like this for so long. I am planning to leave this city. My mom is able bodied and has used me up. She can go live with my sister, which she doesn't want to do. But I have given and I'm isolated and treated poorly. Thanks for this video.
showing love to a world that deserves hell was my problem
My whole life’s depressing. Getting tired.
This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning. Thank you
Wise words… so in the end some people are shallow
It happens because the person has no boundaries, or very poor boundaries.
It's the way the person looks
Great video bro. People are way to disrespectul now a days.
Thanks. Just a little feedback, Some of your videos will diagnose a condition but won't give the listeners active solutions to overcome the condition. This one actually does and I'm grateful for this.
I'm a damaged empath
He-man:
"Sometimes you just can't tell a person not to do something. They have to learn for themselves."
THIS HIT HARD IN THE MOST MOTIVATING SPECIAL WAY, THANK YOU❤ GOD BLESS!
Life can be a harsh training ground sometimes... our problems will increase until we fix them...🎉🎉
I don’t see being a good person a problem
I feel like I been hit with ugly hart soul face and thort im great person till last few yrs x
My family is treating me badly no one cares about me.
God does. YHWH Rapha= The LORD that heals you. Ask God to show you His love. Repent of your sins and trust in Jesus.
has anyone experienced this? my mom is a narcissist and she is treated SO WELL. everyone caters to her, cares about her problems and she has the most loyal , awesome friends. whereas i, im a decent, nice person who likes to help others and am treated like scum. what is it about narcissists that people love so much? their boundaries? confidence? this world is upside down........
This is what is called, for me "Evil".
So basically what you’re saying is they’re just spoiled brats they don’t really care about the feelings of Anyone and they just think they’re better than everyone and they might think they’re above the law
I partially agree and disagree with this. I feel like the part where they don't "truly" see my value is true. But it is worse that that. I, a long with probably many other people, tend to feel like the "shit magnet". I don't care if you ignore me completely. That is better than being the doormat, lackey, abuse-stooge.
I'm frickin tired of this crap. I'm getting to the point where if one more ignoramous starts disrespecting me; calling me stupid, demeaning pet names; bosses me around; dismisses and ignores what I say when I say it someone is going to need a proctologist to remove my shoe from their butt.
This is how pissed I am at this.
If my body language is sending off this vibe I don't know how to correct it or even see it.
But this dynamic has made me pissed for years.
it's because of the way you look. good looking people don't get treated badly
Lol. Very naive take. That isn’t true at all.
You calling me ugly??
@@EMVelez you can't be serious... not true "at all"?
Be real now.
Yea ok that's why 3 days in a row i had to deal with verbal abuse from strangers
I'm literally poc
So what you're saying is that it's ethically permissible to treat people poorly due to a lack of knowledge of a particular topic, subject or just in general?
💯💯
Thank you for this information. It has been really helpful.
Well articulated. Good common sense answer, I agree.
I want revenge at this point, I'm done man.
Great perspective!
I needed this.
Do you think that the external reality is a reflection of how we subconciously see ourselves?
Like... they mirror our subconcious beliefs?
May.Allah bless u brother
What happened to wouldn't hurt a fly,? Visit their own habits and how they treat people speaks to their nature something like to behave
Much appreciated homie
Love this advice.
Wow bro. Correct.
This so false! It’s good Vs evil! People hate confident people
Agree!
Yes, I agree
Think more... and do less...🥳🥳
Who is treating Who bad? What is being talked about?
Almost Everyone is treating Some people poorly
hell at my age you dont give a F...
People are so cruel selfish and just down right all for them self..
Even a person's family could care less anymore.
Somewhere people got away from GOD.
Love one another.
Thank you.
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