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I disagree completely it is neither one nor the other. It's not about being scared stiff or being completely ignorant in bliss. It's a balance between the two that gives you a better understanding on life and survival.
“If you fear something, you’re controlled by that thing.” This sentence changed my life truthfully. It got trapped in my head and always pops up when my anxiety creeps up on me. It helped me take back my power and show up even if I’m scared. Very relieving and quite exciting.
@@crazypato3752 Great question. From personal experience and from observing others, if you fear something esp intensely it’s cuz: •you have some sort of insecurity such as feeling inferior to it •trauma such as trying to protect yourself (like from a heartbreak) •unmet needs (reassurance, confirmation which can be caused by trauma) •control, trying to control everything and outcomes that’s why when you let go, you’ll realize how much less you fear cuz you’re kinda like whatever. As you work through those wounds, figure out why you fear it and begin to heal, they’ll fade. Remember those fears are thoughts (nothingness), they’re not real; even if they’ve happened, there’s the possibility of things getting better so even if you had a bad day, it can still get better it doesn’t have to stay that way. If you still worry, acknowledge the possibility of it never happening and Just like how the worst case is possible, so is the best, try to be open/lean into the best. Don’t try to obsessively control the fear (such as by panicking and being like “no, I shouldn’t be think that, stop!!!); see it from this perspective, an annoying little sibling trying to protect you from any possible harm outside by blocking the door. acknowledge it, it’s just trying to protect you even if it causes more harm than good, but also acknowledge that it’s causing more harm (by holding you back from joy, your potential, etc.) and that the best case scenario is more than possible. Like “thanks kid for protecting me, but you gotta trust me on this that I’ll be fine. In fact all these great possibilities can happen like getting that desired result faster than expected which can lead to this and that cool experience.” Get the gist? I still struggle sometimes but going back to wisdom/realizations like these helps ease everything. Hope this helps🖤
Pain is unavoidable, but we can avoid suffering, because the suffering is a product of our own mind not from outside. Buddha says ‘You can’t avoid the first arrow (pain), but can avoid the second arrow (suffering). If we believe there’s always a way to overcome suffering - fear of suffering can be eliminated. Fear of pain still remains anyway, it is somewhat necessary actually.
Can you elaborate i cant really understand what you mean by saying that if we believe there's a ways to overcome suffering then fear of suffering can be eliminated
Suffering - Physical or Mental pain a person is feeling. If suffering also includes physical pain then you cannot avoid suffering if you get hit by an arrow. But I get the concept when they talk about mental pain.
“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.” Frank Herbert- Dune
Fear is a human emotion, it is a warning sign, we can not get stuck in fear. How do we process? This method uses dialog, other methods use imagination and questions.
I've always been telling myself: "If I can't control negative things, why should I bother thinking about them now?" Think about things you can control and things that will surely happen.
But then you'd have to do the same about positive things. Excepting weather good or bad, -whatever happens for you is still not in your control. Life is just a journey and you are a passenger experiencing it.
@@youssefbouzidi could be a way of fearing the unknown but that's not how I'm examining it. My point is simple...it doesn't matter, things are going to happen to us with our without our permission, consent, awareness. That's part of being alive and accepting that reality as it is moment by moment can liberate us from the hope trap and fear . Fearing the unknown is pointless because everything is unknown. We only have expectations of the unexperienced events of our future. As humans we have a tendency to invest in the outcome instead of the action that results in the outcome. That could be considered the expectation known to us as hope. We should abandon hope and invest in the actions that we take in the present instead of casting wishes into the unknown...because there is no such thing as fate.
fr. 😂🤣 Like he still didn't mention why we shouldn't be afraid of fate itself. It's like riding a ride u can't get off, and essentially have no power or say in riding in.
I was going through a mental breakdown yesterday. I mostly consider myself a mentally strong person, I can’t explain how perfect your posts’ timing was. It helped me realize that fear doesn’t have to control me, and the whole thing about a tyrant being behind the sword hits home, I don’t wanna be controlled by fear. Thank you for the presentation! And for taking the time to make this content, you literally changed my life!
@@beakamon Indeed. I read that we all have breakdowns but most people are able to function as normal after the event. I don't know if this is true though
As a fellow lover of wisdom, your channel is severely underrated! The concepts you explore on this channel would truly help heal the world and lead one to greater success in all aspects of life.
@@navinb6507 followers is an alright sign, but views is more important. He really is underrated. His videos ought to be getting like 1 million per video in my opinion.
@@grapeshott it’s the views that matter more. It’s obvious that people don’t value Philosophy as much. As a philosophy student I know this. Regardless, like I said, he is not getting his deserved views.
I got few takeaways from this 1- Be in the mindset of "come what may, I can handle it" 2-Why has a problem come to you? because only you can handle it. The next time your mind worries you with fear of the future, tell it "If it comes to me, I can very well handle it" No pain, trouble, problem or challenge is thrown at you which you cannot handle or manage.
@no name a slightl adaptation in zen is that what ever happens is not there because you can handle it. Rather you have nothing to handle. The pain exist, but if we do not try to push away from it, we embrace it. The fear and suffering end as we accept them.
“Pain is necessary and bearable.” So POWERFUL. This statement explains everything. Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Once we truly understand this, we can be free. My takeaway- that the goal is not to try to avoid pain, rather try to embrace it and learn from it… if we can manage to do this, all suffering will dissolve. Thank you for sharing this enlightening content. 🙏🏼
For years I have lived in fear. A crippling fear of loosing control, specially of myself. A fear of loosing everything that felt important to me like my reputation, my desired accomplishments or even my loved ones. But with time I have discovered that importance and fear off loss is an illusion of the mind that is trying to control everything, because of past negative experience. Is like the mind is always trying to prepare you for the worst outcome, so it projects you in negative scenarios or makes you remember past events that made you feel in a certain way, so you become obsess on finding the solution to your negative emotions ironically bringing those emotions back to you because you are not letting go of them. you don't trust source energy, you deny a higher power that can restore you, just like when you get a cut in you skin that heals with time you are not letting time heal you, instead you are going against the flow of time that can only manifest as now. you need to let go of the energy that you are holding in your body so what you want can be manifested. But the mind. The mind is tricky. it creates tension. not that tension is all bad tension can be exciting if used wisely by applying focused and constructive thinking but there most be a balanced, between the being and the doing of things. If the mind were to be a magician, fear of loosing control is its greatest illusion yet, because there is no control in trying but in letting go, that is were true control lives. just like this words that flow through me and around me. like a winded spirit that have just escaped the prison of resistance, this are words of time. Why? why have I waited son long for this freedom? perhaps. perhaps it is time what determines everything. for this I go just like the wind of this words and leave with the burning question till i meet again with myself in the future. _ Noelkinz
As a guy who came from a harsh Family, i catch the pain than running away from it, because of that i learned how to be fearless of everything and more able to understand other people's perspective openly
"I will not follow fear within the world. Humanity is governed by waves of fear that draw people here and there, waves of fear that dominate their actions, their thinking, their conclusions, their beliefs and their assumptions. Do not follow the waves of fear that move across the world. Allow yourself to observe the world from this point of stillness and certainty. In this way, you will be able to contribute to the world and not be its victim only. You are here to give, not to judge, and in stillness you are without judgment upon the world. Recognize, then, the waves of fear, but do not let them touch you, for in Knowledge they cannot touch you because Knowledge is beyond all fear." (Steps to Knowledge, Marshall Vian Summers)
Everything we go through is temporary so is our human body. This is why fear or desire shouldn't be given importance if we want to conquer our own fate but be friends with it instead ✨
Thank you for this video. In keeping with Buddha’s teaching, I would say that your conclusion makes sense to me in this way: 1) The first noble truth , also called the truth of suffering, which is life/existence is suffering because all things are impermanent, isn’t exactly the same as pain being necessary per se, but one can interpret this as “if one exists then one necessarily has to experience pain and dissatisfaction” 2) the third noble truth, aka the truth of the cessation of suffering, says that there is an end to pain and dissatisfaction, so in a way, all pain is ultimately bearable because there is an end to it; we gain wisdom about our relationship with suffering, and how we can let go and gain freedom from it, then ultimately fear will not dominate us...but easier said than done! 😊🙏
@@rickyspanish4792 So there are four noble truths, with the second one being the truth of the origin/cause of suffering (dukkha). The origin/cause of suffering is craving, this is what binds you to things that are impermanent, therefore unsatisfactory and painful when you lose the things you crave/enjoy. The fourth noble truth is the truth of the way leading to the cessation of suffering, which is as follows: 1) Right View: Knowing that everything is impermanent, unsatisfactory, and not-self or “not-soul”, meaning that we have no internal essence…we are made up of elements and states of mind that are always changing, fading away, and ceasing. 2) Right Intention: non-greed, non-hatred, non-harm 3) Right Speech: no lying, malicious speech, harsh speech, etc. 4) Right Action: for lay-people it means not killing, not stealing, not engaging in sexual misconduct, no false speech (again), and no engaging with intoxicants 5) Right Livelihood: not selling weapons, or stealing, or selling intoxicants/drugs, or trafficking people, slaughtering animals, and more. 6) Right Effort: effort to prevent and get rid of unwholesome mental states; effort to generate and maintain wholesome mental states (like kindness and joy) 7) Right Mindfulness: establishing proper mindfulness/awareness of the body, feelings, mind, and principles/habits of thinking 8) Right Samadhi/Concentration: achieving proficiency in meditative states that lead to joy, pleasure, bliss, and equanimity Let me know if you have any questions! 🙏
@@courage146 Thanks so much for your elaborate answers. What touches me most is (1) Right view. Because I struggle with these notions a lot. Somehow I constantly feel incomplete, like there is something I need to 'make sense of' but I can never do it. It feels relieving for me that this isn't something that's wrong with me. But that it is more of a 'property of this reality'. Maybe I can now learn to accept it more as such instead of fighting it. Thanks
@@rickyspanish4792 it’s my pleasure 🙏 The more we learn about unsatisfactoriness, the more we are able to let go…and that’s how the mind gravitates to peace ✌️😊 right view is the beginning and end of this path. Always keep that in mind! And keep going on your journey! You’ll find joy and bliss ☀️❤️
6:37 - This is the heart of the video. For all else, you can learn, understand, and accept. For these "...two things that have to be true to eliminate [this] fear", you must have faith. If you cannot accept these as fundamental to existence, the entire framework fails. If you seek fundamental truth uncoupled from faith... so do I.
so deep. i am just speechless how it hit my mind at the end that it is necessary and bearable and the way it is said that my mind accepted and understood and convinced !
Its not bad to have fear, its natural, bad is your fear that controls you and clouds your mind, heart and soul, listen in your fear, accept it, understand it and then overcome it -Golden
So basically, fear will always give you pain, however, by letting yourself bear that pain, you gain knowledge, the more you learn, the more you can avoid suffering, thus attaining freedom. Fear blinds us from taking action and staying in our comfort zone. It’s an illusion that stagnates our growth.
This is the best lesson if my entire life. I wish I heard this long time back. Monks like these makes your life easy and better. I'm so grateful for this sermon. 🙏
I agree to an extent. Fear is there to prevent pain or death. Irrational fear is not good for you. However if you see a bear, or a man with a gun or anything life threatening/potentially painful, fear alerts your entire system to be prepared. You can feel fear and still choose to be brave and calm and focused.
I don't think you can choose, you might think now thinking about the subject, but living it is different. One of the effects of fear is to optimize for fast decision making as opposed to good decision making. You don't have time to contemplate in front of a bear.
It’s important to consider that fear is not just in the mind- it’s in the body. Humans are hard-wired with specific parts of the brain and endocrine system to produce fear as a survival tool. When the brain perceives a threat, it triggers a hormone response- essentially drugging you with hormones that make instant, energetic reactions possible. This is the reason a 70 year old woman can lift a car off of a baby. This is how people are able to run for their lives. Perhaps attachment to the idea of life is a problem. We are hard-wired to survive, but we are also emotionally attached to the idea. Considering the body’s determination to survive, fear is very useful if you’re living in constantly in situations that are immediately dangerous to your physical body. Unfortunately, our brains do a poor job of differentiating between immediate physical threat and prolonged emotional threat. Fear causes suffering when one encounters prolonged emotional fear. Fear in those situations can best be reduced to the intensity of a phone notification. It’s your body telling you your perception has encountered threat. I believe you can negotiate with fear. That you can use the body’s natural expression of fear best by making decisions about its intensity. Think of your fear as an internal person. Their job is to ring an alarm bell when they perceive threat, then dump the adrenaline cocktail if they consider it a threat to survival. You can negotiate what qualifies as a threat. You can show your fear when it is useful and when it is reaching past its usefulness, causing suffering. It also pays to mention that having experienced fear creates connection by developing the ability to experience compassion for others who suffer from it. I think fear and anger are as biologically unavoidable as having blood or a liver. I think when we try to amputate parts of ourselves, we become less healthy. Perhaps an approach of acceptance, boundaries, and negotiation would cause less suffering. Please feel free to argue this point, as I’m exploring and would appreciate others’ perspectives.
At 5:26 this thing that we are free to choose actions but not results is also beautifully explained in Shrimad Bhagwat Geeta.... That enhances this understanding to a deeper level🌸 🌟Lord Krishna says- कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन । मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भुर्मा ते संगोऽस्त्वकर्मणि ॥ You have a right to perform your prescribed karma/duty, but you are not entitled to the fruits of action. Never consider yourself to be the cause of the results of your activities, and never be attached to not doing your karma/duty. - Bhagavad Gita, Chapter II, Verse 47 I hope it gives you a new perspective to ponder or contemplate and gives you a better understanding 🙌🏻 Also if you wanna enhance your understanding of karma further you can read the whole chapter 2 & 3. And try to learn from a authentic source...👍🏻 Have a beautiful day 🌻😇 Hare Krishna 🙏🏻
Inevitable isn’t necessary; but processing is. Sometimes things haunt us when we can’t accept they happened, denied in our brains. I have that. It’s made me ashamed of myself at the most fundamental level of even existing. Inflicting pain on yourself won’t make you stronger, it’s just a product of ironically, escaping what was unacceptable. If anything, it makes you all the more hurt and more sensitive. Think of it this way; when you don’t treat your pipes well, you clog them, they fill up and then they cause leakages and they’re infested with toxicity. That’s just like your emotions which you keep pressing down. They’ll show themselves in ugly ways and people will leave you because you can’t accept yourself. Having a sense of self, confidence, stability, requires a lot of gratefulness and humility. Instead of a crazy high expectation of yourself which just fuels your hatred for all that you are. It’s like.. you can’t accept you aren’t perfect, it bothers you too much do you just keeping pushing and breaking and you don’t grow; you regress. For whatever you may have. To be without a hair of shame is really the pinnacle; to think we were all children, and forgot. People who can take criticism and can handle their emotions with discipline are people who are healthy at the core. Happy, fulfilled and confident people.
I be absolutely love these videos, they offer such clarity. The hardest battle is the battle of mind, learning more about the mind is key to winning. Thanks again.
Recently, I've been meditating on this as well. Or, more like, was forced to do so by Fate. And what I've understood is that you have to be willing to let go of life in order to be free from fear. In other words, you cannot be clinging to life, to survival, and ever be free.
I am watching this crying because this one video has answers to so many things I am struggling with. you did not talk about any of my problems but you still solved them.
This is one of the best short videos on the essence of the teachings of the Buddha that I have ever seen. My only quibble is in the choice of the word “fate”. Most modern Buddhists would agree with that choice. But there are no arahants in the world today. At the time of the Buddha, there were many. Where did they go? IMHO, the choice to kneel to the God of “fate” killed them all. Remember, the Buddha was a warrior who sought to put an end to old age, sickness and death. Those who kneel to the God of fate, cover their eyes to that truth. They seek an easier path to victory. A man who desires to put an end to old age, sickness and death indeed seeks “understanding” above all else. He, indeed, seeks to take risks, experience pain, and use that pain to increase his understanding. However, such men are driven to seek balance between (1) the desire to expand one’s understanding by making moves into the unknown and (2) the desire to avoid making moves which are so risky that they may lead to victory of the very foe he is seeking to conquer: old age, sickness and death. The word “fate” has a tone of “surrender” which is too reminiscent of the corruption which eradicated the arahants for my tastes. Warriors do not “surrender”. They fight with the intention to win. “viriya” is missing in modern Buddhism.
The dialogue idea which you present in your videos is just brillant, it feels like I am talking to the buddha. Once again thankyou for such an amazing video. Keep up the good work dude✌
I just want to let you know that you gave me wisdom for life, you saved me from a really rough patch, and changed my whole perspective of who I am and how I perceive life. I will forever be thankful for your channel!!! Thank you!
In recent years, fear has always been in the back of my mind. Totally agree that fear will prevent you from learning knowledge. My take from this is that it would be better to eliminate fear and see the world for what it is. If I fear something it better be a real danger instead of a shadow. Sometime it's not that scary once you have a better look of it. Doubt and uncertainty creates fear
if you guys are critical-minded enough, you will see that most of the arguments in this video are equivocal. Fear is instinctive and healthy, what matters is how you react to it .
This is absolutely profound! I deeply resonate with your interpretation. I’m definitely going to watch this a few more times so I can fully capture the message! Thank you!
Fear exists when you attatch to outcome. You hope it will go one way, and are fearful it will go another way. Therefore you remove fear, by removing attachment to the outcome. This is a great video on how to do that process. Great video as always!
I think that those two assumptions about pain do not hold true: 1) pain isn't always necessary; 2) pain isn't always bearable. But at the same time, fear indeed limits your ability to learn because you are fixed on the sources of fear. I find it more reasonable to feel fear in dangerous situations and got out of it when it is over to learn from experience.
Exactly! Fate is a fickle bitch that rewards the cruel and punishes the innocent for the hell of it. Human progress is often made by looking at "fate" square in the eye and finding new and more creative methods of telling her "no." It's my "fate" to be a dirt poor peasant and starve? It's my child's "fate" to die a painful death in infancy from disease? If we believed that, we;'d still be in the Dark Ages! If all is in the hands of fate, then why bother with acts of charity and mercy when she's just going to do whatever the hell she pleases? Fate is like the casino house - always wins in the end, but there's no reason to trust her when she proves to be so damn cruel and unreliable.
Necessity of pain can't really be determined. What we humans say about it is according to our own perception. Same goes for if one can bear it. Earlier with not much medical knowledge, people used to have surgeries without anesthesia and all. Nowadays people are thinking about finding a way to have painless pregnancies. Also maybe pain in some cases in necessary for death, if we consider death a fact. People are getting weaker for sure.
I agree, that's a fact. But the video is talking about attitude. If you constantly fear your compulsion and check every minute if you can do it? Then a objective attitude is necessary
I would say that I agree that not all pain is bearable. I have often felt and experienced unbearable pain. But I have come to realize that if you experienced unbearable pain, and are still alive, you exist, and continue to exist, then the pain is bearable. You may think that it is unbearable, but that is just what you think. Unless you die from the pain itself, that is the only pain that would truly be unbearable.
The two things said on this video that when fate gives pain its only when it is necessary and bearable is absolutely true. Being a Muslim myself my mother has always preached me that Allah Tala gives only that much of pain which His creation that is us, can bear, which consequently gives the strength to bear the pain. :)
Yes i agree, some of the early christians went into the areana with lions, rather than just say what the tyrant wanted them say, people take that submission as weak & not fighting, but actualky its brave & in the case of danniel fearless, courage, strength is love & love is always internal (& eternal), but choice is always within too, peace,x
On the other side of it Fear is very important and useful. If someone doesn't feel fear they should go to a doctor because they don't have healthy responses. Although a misunderstood and misused fear is bad, fear is never the enemy if you want an enemy look in the mirror
FINALLY something I disagree with you on! "understanding protects you, not fear" neglects that the vast majority of the world we interact with is made up of what we do not understand. And the vast majority of our psyche is made up of base visceral reactions that we can't consciously rationalise. An infant doesn't understand that a spider is venomous, but is scared by its sheer form. The child crawls away or cries out for a parent, and so is protected by fear. People throughout history didn't understand bacteria and disease, but the fear of God's reprimand kept them practicing hygeine and and abstaining from eating treif. People never understood DNA sequencing but their visceral disgust and fear of disobeying God stopped them from practicing incest, protecting their offspring. Philosophy can wank it's way to the edge of the universe, but darwinism is to philosophy what a brick wall is to a kindergartener with a tricycle
First - necessary for what? Second - how can one accept that pain is "necessary" for anything/anyone if she/he also needs to accept that regardless of how they react to it or which conclusions they make, the fate can always bring more pain? In this context I would rather describe it as "unavoidable", something which is just there as one of the defining materials in life. The good news - based on this logic, pleasure should be just as fundamental and unavoidable. Regardless, thank you for the video and your thought-provoking take on this question.
I barely comment on TH-cam videos, i but i have to say that this video completely changed my life if you take the time and study it. Thanks a ton for making it free.
Life is uncertain, that's a fact that we need to face, and I like the idea of this video as it shows us just how everything is a part of nature. One cannot reject nature for he then rejects himself. I also think life is preparation, and the person who focuses on becoming the best person possible and looks for the lessons in his suffering will surpass any fear. Thank you, Much love from a growing TH-camr
Only 4 minutes in, and this is my favourite video from this channel. I recently started getting anxious about my exams, and all that did was make things worse. I will conquer my fear of future failure!
This is so BEAUTIFUL! it made me cry in a beautiful way. I am deep breathing and enjoying many of the videos you have posted. Thank you so very much for making these videos. I do appreciate it so much!
Thanks for that contract with fear. As always that pain is bearable. Because I am going to learn why that hurt me and within that understanding, I am managing myself free from guilt, shame, or anger toward it. Which gives me a free mind without the burdens I had within my fear of fate. But sometimes it takes a long time to understand why you are fearing so much in life. Then take all kinds of preoccupied measures to overcome it within an understanding and without the easy way around it to just ignore it. It's hard not all get explained and done the correct way towards each other. We show less empathy towards that person because he always distrusts the situation at hand in its fear. Well, it got something to do with nerve endings and counter-reaction in the part we had no fate because someone already gave us a reason to fear them. Maybe an aggressive outcome of someone getting too agitated in life and with one word wrong the sword was mightier than the pen. Which can leave people in fear as well by the tyrant's hand no one is saved. I guess we have to overcome that and sometimes it is better to say sorry and put the blame on yourself. If you have become that tyrant at hand. I know from long past experience I always train myself till every inch of my body is burning and burdened. If some joker comes around and pushes it a little too far. He might get a blow in the face as well. That isn't really nice of me but it is normal if you are overburdened in taking too much shit on your plate. Then you are easily agitated in life and that can make you a tyrant as well for some folks who don't take life too seriously as I tend to do. People can lie and just make a fool out of you and me. I know it ain't exactly right to act as I did. But when are you gonna learn to let it be instead of provoking me in getting my nasty appearance out? Exactly the cat and mice game again. Wait till I get my mallet and knock you on the head. Let me see how much you like it then clown. People should know their limits cause that is exactly how far the fear would go and how to understand the why behind it all. Because of one stupid little joke in your eyes but I wasn't really into it to be treated badly. So shall we call it even then I withdraw my sword and change it with a cup of coffee or some nice presents? To soften the blow in some understandable conversation without being hardened in the mind again. Cause all things tend to get much worse than it is. In some ways, silence speaks for itself if you didn't like the way you had been treated. But then again people tend to forget or go on with something else if they fear the outrage of someone. Fear shows us our limitations and understanding shows us how to overcome the things in fear as we are willing to change our fate toward it. It's a cycle of life in knowing ourselves and what provokes us to fear's contract. Try to overcome yourself within reason and understanding otherwise ask for help or get some clues on how to overcome that fear of yourself.
To live in peace ,we must have inner peace . To have inner peace , we must have a clear conscience . When our conscience is clear and our mind at peace , we bring peace and bliss to those around us .
I was taking notes on this and a thought came across my mind, could this also be said as experience is knowledge? fear holds you back from doing things and but once youe experience said thing, you have the knowledge of what happens, therefore you no longer fear what could happen
yes you basically get desensitized through experience and knowledge. electricity kills. but an electrician through knowledge and experience (a few zaps maybe) learns the nature of electricity, and learns skills to handle it safely
Lessen pain by learning laws of how things in the universe behave. Understand and believe all pain is necessary and bearable. -interpretation of bhudda
There's a reason why people fear. It protect themselves. Fear means you love yourself. And I agree with the part where we must control the fear. Without fear, we would be dead already
@@Thank-u-so-much-for-everything Fear is a form of love, the subject of love doesn't really matter. Finite love has to have a subject. Whether to fear or not, changes only the subject of the love, because you prefer a different subject, because you love that other subject more :) Another form of love.
2 years ago, I posted a comment completely disputing this video and disagreeing with it. and "debunking" it. Now, after 2 years of the universe forcefully pushing me and dragging me into situations where I've had to confront all of my worst fears, I can come back and say that everything in this video is right. It was all projections. I can now see the value in all of the suffering I've endured. We have to know who we are, to know who we are not. Know yourself fully, and you will know no fear. 💖
I'm a Christian now but I was once a Buddhist and got to the point in my masters training where I could use meditation to perceive another dimension to contact and interact with spirit guides and learn from them, one of them claiming to be Set the Egyptian god of the desert, not to mention when I first met him he greeted me by trying to punch me and he in fact kicked my ass. Eventually my human master taught me to fight off demonic spirits by making them come to us and confronting them in a meditative state. In one confrontation a shining light saved me from full possession I believed it was my will overcoming the demon and I thought well these guys must be the good guys I mean were fighting evil right? and light is protecting me and I'm being told I can become a god this must be the truth I will become a god for god so I can be there for him like he has us. One night I'm watching TH-cam and I come across a video about a guy who said he was in an illuminati family and he wanted out or something and he said the Egypt god of death Anubis tired to kill him but Jesus Christ intervened and the man survived and became a Christian. I wasn't sure if it was true or not but it gave me a question, am I sure these beings and my master teaching me are really my allies I thought maybe Set would try and kill me if I decided to leave, his personality definitely didn't convince me he wouldn't. I continued researching and finding more things about it and I got less and less trusting worried in my mind that Set knew my change of heart I was terrified. I had become an enemy but I had nothing left in my life except the training and I once said if this training is a lie id end my own life. at night I cried once and prayed to every last god of the religions I knew and begged them to save me from this evil, I was desperate. Couple days later I was meditating in a park trying to center myself, and that's when it happened I heard a voice somehow say "I am the Christ Jesus, the one teaching you is a liar and those guides are demon just as you suspect, leave them accept my blood on the cross and I will protect you from them." I accepted on the spot. he then told me to head home and that about halfway home you will come across something on the ground that you have great interest in. and I am in a wheelchair mind you so he explained to me someone will be there to pick it up for me. I went home and halfway there I find a Doctor Who playing card, which I still have to this day. to my surprise I looked up and see someone walking towards me and I asked them to hand me the card and they did just as Christ told me. realizing the truth I was angry at my guide and my master they lied to me for years. that same night I meditated to confront Set myself and I attacked him and he nearly had me and that was when the golden armor of god formed on my body and then Set struggle to fight me at all he stood in front of me and looked over my shoulder with the look of horror and ran away. I turned to see Jesus standing there my mind was unable to see his face similar to the pillar of smoke Moses mentioned expect my mind had a modern take on it and just saw it burled out like on TV. Jesus has darker skin and his hair is shorter. and then I was a Christian and realized that time the light saved me from that demon wasn't me it was Jesus Christ he was there in secret the whole time. after a while of praying and research I found out what I was dealing with was a kundalini spirit it basically made me addicted to its teaching by giving me a dopamine hit it was like getting high it gave me visions so it drove me to trust it but Jesus broke me free from the lie so I follow him and believe in the blood of Christ. Buddha himself wants you to do the same they lied to him too don't be deceived by the Kundalini snakes they are deceivers. Proverbs 9:10 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.
I've been taking a course in Existentialism and History of Buddhism this semester, it's such a coincidence that you're touching on Nietzsche, Dostoyevsky, and now Buddha. I don't know if you've come across it, but you might wanna take a look at no-self and the Heart Sutra. Love your videos!
@@pessimistkai5569 I don't think it consists of the qualities of Buddhism in terms of studies of existentialism and general spirituality. It is an Abrahamic religion and is concerned with theocentric interests, as well as religiocentrism to a certain point. A closer association to this topic in my opinion is the obvious 'Hinduism' or possibly Taoism
Fate is an act of consequence. While still inevitable, consequences can be managed for better outcomes. Blindly accepting Fate to become clear of fear is an unreasonable quality of life consideration. We can accept our fears with a purpose to manage those inevitable fates/consequences with the wisdom of knowledge to navigate it, not just blindly accept it as a whole.
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Thanks for sharing!
Hey, are you planning to publish your knowledge comprehensively in a book?
Can you do about not self.This is about ideal from Buddha
I disagree completely it is neither one nor the other. It's not about being scared stiff or being completely ignorant in bliss. It's a balance between the two that gives you a better understanding on life and survival.
How do I learn/understand the contract by which faith is acting?
It is not just fear that the Buddha conquered, it is his _susceptibility to any kind of future fear_ - he was completely free indeed
There was no inflation back in the day.
@@da2068 you could learn a thing or 2 from the fabled meeting between Alexander the great and Diogenes.
@@TheDandyMann I did. Thank you.
@@da2068 Plus Fiat currencies.
@Redwan Ahmad That he wasn't "forced" by his emotional reflexes (Tanha) to react
“If you fear something, you’re controlled by that thing.” This sentence changed my life truthfully. It got trapped in my head and always pops up when my anxiety creeps up on me. It helped me take back my power and show up even if I’m scared. Very relieving and quite exciting.
jordan peterson is a pitfull person
Strong message and realization. I have had the same one recently, that I have the power to control my fear, pain and ultimately suffering.
How can we learn to not have fear ?
@@crazypato3752 Great question. From personal experience and from observing others, if you fear something esp intensely it’s cuz: •you have some sort of insecurity such as feeling inferior to it •trauma such as trying to protect yourself (like from a heartbreak)
•unmet needs (reassurance, confirmation which can be caused by trauma)
•control, trying to control everything and outcomes that’s why when you let go, you’ll realize how much less you fear cuz you’re kinda like whatever.
As you work through those wounds, figure out why you fear it and begin to heal, they’ll fade. Remember those fears are thoughts (nothingness), they’re not real; even if they’ve happened, there’s the possibility of things getting better so even if you had a bad day, it can still get better it doesn’t have to stay that way. If you still worry, acknowledge the possibility of it never happening and Just like how the worst case is possible, so is the best, try to be open/lean into the best. Don’t try to obsessively control the fear (such as by panicking and being like “no, I shouldn’t be think that, stop!!!); see it from this perspective, an annoying little sibling trying to protect you from any possible harm outside by blocking the door. acknowledge it, it’s just trying to protect you even if it causes more harm than good, but also acknowledge that it’s causing more harm (by holding you back from joy, your potential, etc.) and that the best case scenario is more than possible. Like “thanks kid for protecting me, but you gotta trust me on this that I’ll be fine. In fact all these great possibilities can happen like getting that desired result faster than expected which can lead to this and that cool experience.” Get the gist?
I still struggle sometimes but going back to wisdom/realizations like these helps ease everything. Hope this helps🖤
Everyday I face my fears… I don’t want to do it but I know if not me then who, if not now, when.
Pain is unavoidable, but we can avoid suffering, because the suffering is a product of our own mind not from outside. Buddha says ‘You can’t avoid the first arrow (pain), but can avoid the second arrow (suffering). If we believe there’s always a way to overcome suffering - fear of suffering can be eliminated. Fear of pain still remains anyway, it is somewhat necessary actually.
preach brother
Spot on!
Can you elaborate i cant really understand what you mean by saying that if we believe there's a ways to overcome suffering then fear of suffering can be eliminated
Suffering - Physical or Mental pain a person is feeling. If suffering also includes physical pain then you cannot avoid suffering if you get hit by an arrow. But I get the concept when they talk about mental pain.
This reminds me of the quote "Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.” Frank Herbert- Dune
Fear is a human emotion, it is a warning sign, we can not get stuck in fear. How do we process? This method uses dialog, other methods use imagination and questions.
I love that movie also an amazing quote by that movie :
Life is not a problem to solve, it’s a reality to experience.
Exactly what I thought of when I saw the title of the video
@@elpresente4596THAT'S RIGHT..... AND IT'S A HUMAN THING WE ALL EXPERIENCE THAT.... EVEN MYSELF I HAVE THE SAME THING.....
Fear is not evil. It shows weakness and once u know your weakness u can become stronger 💪
I've always been telling myself: "If I can't control negative things, why should I bother thinking about them now?"
Think about things you can control and things that will surely happen.
Just release control
But then you'd have to do the same about positive things. Excepting weather good or bad, -whatever happens for you is still not in your control. Life is just a journey and you are a passenger experiencing it.
Surely happen?
Here's what I understood: "Sh*t happens, and you're gonna be okay :)"
Thanks, super helpful!
Or you may not be okay but shit will happen anyway and you have no idea how things will shake out no matter how hard you try.
@@youssefbouzidi could be a way of fearing the unknown but that's not how I'm examining it. My point is simple...it doesn't matter, things are going to happen to us with our without our permission, consent, awareness. That's part of being alive and accepting that reality as it is moment by moment can liberate us from the hope trap and fear . Fearing the unknown is pointless because everything is unknown. We only have expectations of the unexperienced events of our future. As humans we have a tendency to invest in the outcome instead of the action that results in the outcome. That could be considered the expectation known to us as hope. We should abandon hope and invest in the actions that we take in the present instead of casting wishes into the unknown...because there is no such thing as fate.
Shit happens you will be ok or you won't
fr. 😂🤣 Like he still didn't mention why we shouldn't be afraid of fate itself. It's like riding a ride u can't get off, and essentially have no power or say in riding in.
I guess Buddha's just saying:"Take ur blows like a champ 😤 and don't be a fucking Pussy. Shit will happen. Walk it off.." 🏆😂🤣💀🤦
I was going through a mental breakdown yesterday. I mostly consider myself a mentally strong person, I can’t explain how perfect your posts’ timing was. It helped me realize that fear doesn’t have to control me, and the whole thing about a tyrant being behind the sword hits home, I don’t wanna be controlled by fear. Thank you for the presentation! And for taking the time to make this content, you literally changed my life!
Stay courageous, we can do this!
That's wonderful!
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I had one a couple days ago too!!
@@beakamon Indeed. I read that we all have breakdowns but most people are able to function as normal after the event. I don't know if this is true though
As a fellow lover of wisdom, your channel is severely underrated! The concepts you explore on this channel would truly help heal the world and lead one to greater success in all aspects of life.
1.2 mil followers :-)
@@navinb6507 followers is an alright sign, but views is more important. He really is underrated. His videos ought to be getting like 1 million per video in my opinion.
1.2 million. How many do you expect for a philosophy channel? It will take some time to be 2M
@@grapeshott it’s the views that matter more. It’s obvious that people don’t value Philosophy as much. As a philosophy student I know this. Regardless, like I said, he is not getting his deserved views.
I get paid to smoke weed on my TH-cam channel 😎..
I got few takeaways from this
1- Be in the mindset of "come what may, I can handle it"
2-Why has a problem come to you? because only you can handle it.
The next time your mind worries you with fear of the future, tell it "If it comes to me, I can very well handle it"
No pain, trouble, problem or challenge is thrown at you which you cannot handle or manage.
@no name a slightl adaptation in zen is that what ever happens is not there because you can handle it. Rather you have nothing to handle. The pain exist, but if we do not try to push away from it, we embrace it. The fear and suffering end as we accept them.
“Pain is necessary and bearable.” So POWERFUL. This statement explains everything. Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Once we truly understand this, we can be free. My takeaway- that the goal is not to try to avoid pain, rather try to embrace it and learn from it… if we can manage to do this, all suffering will dissolve.
Thank you for sharing this enlightening content. 🙏🏼
For years I have lived in fear.
A crippling fear of loosing control, specially of myself. A fear of loosing everything that felt important to me like my reputation, my desired accomplishments or even my loved ones. But with time I have discovered that importance and fear off loss is an illusion of the mind that is trying to control everything, because of past negative experience.
Is like the mind is always trying to prepare you for the worst outcome, so it projects you in negative scenarios or makes you remember past events that made you feel in a certain way, so you become obsess on finding the solution to your negative emotions ironically bringing those emotions back to you because you are not letting go of them.
you don't trust source energy, you deny a higher power that can restore you, just like when you get a cut in you skin that heals with time you are not letting time heal you, instead you are going against the flow of time that can only manifest as now. you need to let go of the energy that you are holding in your body so what you want can be manifested.
But the mind. The mind is tricky. it creates tension. not that tension is all bad tension can be exciting if used wisely by applying focused and constructive thinking but there most be a balanced, between the being and the doing of things.
If the mind were to be a magician, fear of loosing control is its greatest illusion yet, because there is no control in trying but in letting go, that is were true control lives.
just like this words that flow through me and around me. like a winded spirit that have just escaped the prison of resistance, this are words of time.
Why? why have I waited son long for this freedom? perhaps. perhaps it is time what determines everything. for this I go just like the wind of this words and leave with the burning question till i meet again with myself in the future. _ Noelkinz
Wow. Pain is necessary and bearable. And I can accept that. I feel so much freedom in that inner standing and realization
"There is no fear in love, perfect love drives out fear. Fear has to do with punishment, he who fears has not been made perfect in love."
As a guy who came from a harsh Family, i catch the pain than running away from it, because of that i learned how to be fearless of everything and more able to understand other people's perspective openly
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"I will not follow fear within the world. Humanity is governed by waves of fear that draw people here and there, waves of fear that dominate their actions, their thinking, their conclusions, their beliefs and their assumptions. Do not follow the waves of fear that move across the world. Allow yourself to observe the world from this point of stillness and certainty. In this way, you will be able to contribute to the world and not be its victim only. You are here to give, not to judge, and in stillness you are without judgment upon the world. Recognize, then, the waves of fear, but do not let them touch you, for in Knowledge they cannot touch you because Knowledge is beyond all fear." (Steps to Knowledge, Marshall Vian Summers)
Wow! Interesting read. Thank you
He actually conquered every emotion
“Anger, hatred, fear are destructive emotions that destroy inner peace”.
Everything we go through is temporary so is our human body. This is why fear or desire shouldn't be given importance if we want to conquer our own fate but be friends with it instead ✨
"I'm gonna explore that idea through a dialog" TRIGGEREDDDDDDDDD
How beautiful. I really think your perspective is very freeing.
Thank you for this video. In keeping with Buddha’s teaching, I would say that your conclusion makes sense to me in this way:
1) The first noble truth , also called the truth of suffering, which is life/existence is suffering because all things are impermanent, isn’t exactly the same as pain being necessary per se, but one can interpret this as “if one exists then one necessarily has to experience pain and dissatisfaction”
2) the third noble truth, aka the truth of the cessation of suffering, says that there is an end to pain and dissatisfaction, so in a way, all pain is ultimately bearable because there is an end to it; we gain wisdom about our relationship with suffering, and how we can let go and gain freedom from it, then ultimately fear will not dominate us...but easier said than done! 😊🙏
Look into islam
This makes me curious as to the second noble truth? And are there also more after 3?
@@rickyspanish4792 So there are four noble truths, with the second one being the truth of the origin/cause of suffering (dukkha). The origin/cause of suffering is craving, this is what binds you to things that are impermanent, therefore unsatisfactory and painful when you lose the things you crave/enjoy. The fourth noble truth is the truth of the way leading to the cessation of suffering, which is as follows:
1) Right View: Knowing that everything is impermanent, unsatisfactory, and not-self or “not-soul”, meaning that we have no internal essence…we are made up of elements and states of mind that are always changing, fading away, and ceasing.
2) Right Intention: non-greed, non-hatred, non-harm
3) Right Speech: no lying, malicious speech, harsh speech, etc.
4) Right Action: for lay-people it means not killing, not stealing, not engaging in sexual misconduct, no false speech (again), and no engaging with intoxicants
5) Right Livelihood: not selling weapons, or stealing, or selling intoxicants/drugs, or trafficking people, slaughtering animals, and more.
6) Right Effort: effort to prevent and get rid of unwholesome mental states; effort to generate and maintain wholesome mental states (like kindness and joy)
7) Right Mindfulness: establishing proper mindfulness/awareness of the body, feelings, mind, and principles/habits of thinking
8) Right Samadhi/Concentration: achieving proficiency in meditative states that lead to joy, pleasure, bliss, and equanimity
Let me know if you have any questions! 🙏
@@courage146 Thanks so much for your elaborate answers. What touches me most is (1) Right view. Because I struggle with these notions a lot. Somehow I constantly feel incomplete, like there is something I need to 'make sense of' but I can never do it. It feels relieving for me that this isn't something that's wrong with me. But that it is more of a 'property of this reality'. Maybe I can now learn to accept it more as such instead of fighting it. Thanks
@@rickyspanish4792 it’s my pleasure 🙏 The more we learn about unsatisfactoriness, the more we are able to let go…and that’s how the mind gravitates to peace ✌️😊 right view is the beginning and end of this path. Always keep that in mind! And keep going on your journey! You’ll find joy and bliss ☀️❤️
6:37 - This is the heart of the video. For all else, you can learn, understand, and accept. For these "...two things that have to be true to eliminate [this] fear", you must have faith. If you cannot accept these as fundamental to existence, the entire framework fails. If you seek fundamental truth uncoupled from faith... so do I.
so deep. i am just speechless how it hit my mind at the end that it is necessary and bearable and the way it is said that my mind accepted and understood and convinced !
Best video I watched on TH-cam until now.
I have overcome alot of fears by repetitive fear scenarios.
At first it looks true, but when it repeats, I can see the illusion of fear.
Amazing explanation on the topic of fear! Using intellectual understanding to eliminate fear from the mind. Excellent work!
Beautifully made! The narration was impeccable and cent percent syllogistic
Its not bad to have fear, its natural, bad is your fear that controls you and clouds your mind, heart and soul, listen in your fear, accept it, understand it and then overcome it
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So basically, fear will always give you pain, however, by letting yourself bear that pain, you gain knowledge, the more you learn, the more you can avoid suffering, thus attaining freedom. Fear blinds us from taking action and staying in our comfort zone. It’s an illusion that stagnates our growth.
OMG!!! Amazing!
I thought the learning of the terms of the contract of Fate was referring to making unpredictable predictable.
This is the best lesson if my entire life. I wish I heard this long time back. Monks like these makes your life easy and better. I'm so grateful for this sermon. 🙏
Fate is GOD, Our Teacher, guiding us to evolve into greatness - through choices we can make. What a wonderful opportunity! So much thankful! Love!
i found it in my religion, ikhtiar(efforts), tawakal(acceptance and let fate decided), god never give pain of fate that you cant bear
I agree to an extent. Fear is there to prevent pain or death. Irrational fear is not good for you. However if you see a bear, or a man with a gun or anything life threatening/potentially painful, fear alerts your entire system to be prepared. You can feel fear and still choose to be brave and calm and focused.
I don't think you can choose, you might think now thinking about the subject, but living it is different. One of the effects of fear is to optimize for fast decision making as opposed to good decision making. You don't have time to contemplate in front of a bear.
It’s important to consider that fear is not just in the mind- it’s in the body. Humans are hard-wired with specific parts of the brain and endocrine system to produce fear as a survival tool.
When the brain perceives a threat, it triggers a hormone response- essentially drugging you with hormones that make instant, energetic reactions possible. This is the reason a 70 year old woman can lift a car off of a baby. This is how people are able to run for their lives.
Perhaps attachment to the idea of life is a problem. We are hard-wired to survive, but we are also emotionally attached to the idea.
Considering the body’s determination to survive, fear is very useful if you’re living in constantly in situations that are immediately dangerous to your physical body.
Unfortunately, our brains do a poor job of differentiating between immediate physical threat and prolonged emotional threat. Fear causes suffering when one encounters prolonged emotional fear.
Fear in those situations can best be reduced to the intensity of a phone notification. It’s your body telling you your perception has encountered threat.
I believe you can negotiate with fear. That you can use the body’s natural expression of fear best by making decisions about its intensity. Think of your fear as an internal person. Their job is to ring an alarm bell when they perceive threat, then dump the adrenaline cocktail if they consider it a threat to survival. You can negotiate what qualifies as a threat. You can show your fear when it is useful and when it is reaching past its usefulness, causing suffering.
It also pays to mention that having experienced fear creates connection by developing the ability to experience compassion for others who suffer from it.
I think fear and anger are as biologically unavoidable as having blood or a liver. I think when we try to amputate parts of ourselves, we become less healthy. Perhaps an approach of acceptance, boundaries, and negotiation would cause less suffering.
Please feel free to argue this point, as I’m exploring and would appreciate others’ perspectives.
At 5:26 this thing that we are free to choose actions but not results is also beautifully explained in Shrimad Bhagwat Geeta....
That enhances this understanding to a deeper level🌸
🌟Lord Krishna says-
कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन । मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भुर्मा ते संगोऽस्त्वकर्मणि ॥
You have a right to perform your prescribed karma/duty, but you are not entitled to the fruits of action. Never consider yourself to be the cause of the results of your activities, and never be attached to not doing your karma/duty. - Bhagavad Gita, Chapter II, Verse 47
I hope it gives you a new perspective to ponder or contemplate and gives you a better understanding 🙌🏻
Also if you wanna enhance your understanding of karma further you can read the whole chapter 2 & 3.
And try to learn from a authentic source...👍🏻
Have a beautiful day 🌻😇
Hare Krishna 🙏🏻
Genius!!! Bravo!!!
Inevitable isn’t necessary; but processing is. Sometimes things haunt us when we can’t accept they happened, denied in our brains. I have that. It’s made me ashamed of myself at the most fundamental level of even existing. Inflicting pain on yourself won’t make you stronger, it’s just a product of ironically, escaping what was unacceptable. If anything, it makes you all the more hurt and more sensitive. Think of it this way; when you don’t treat your pipes well, you clog them, they fill up and then they cause leakages and they’re infested with toxicity. That’s just like your emotions which you keep pressing down. They’ll show themselves in ugly ways and people will leave you because you can’t accept yourself. Having a sense of self, confidence, stability, requires a lot of gratefulness and humility. Instead of a crazy high expectation of yourself which just fuels your hatred for all that you are. It’s like.. you can’t accept you aren’t perfect, it bothers you too much do you just keeping pushing and breaking and you don’t grow; you regress. For whatever you may have. To be without a hair of shame is really the pinnacle; to think we were all children, and forgot. People who can take criticism and can handle their emotions with discipline are people who are healthy at the core. Happy, fulfilled and confident people.
I be absolutely love these videos, they offer such clarity. The hardest battle is the battle of mind, learning more about the mind is key to winning. Thanks again.
Recently, I've been meditating on this as well. Or, more like, was forced to do so by Fate. And what I've understood is that you have to be willing to let go of life in order to be free from fear. In other words, you cannot be clinging to life, to survival, and ever be free.
Thanks for the information
THIS VIDEO SAVED MY LIFE, THANK YOU 💕👑
Maybe the best channel on TH-cam ever . The ideas the presentation and everything is amazing and I am sure I am gonna watch it many times.
I am watching this crying because this one video has answers to so many things I am struggling with. you did not talk about any of my problems but you still solved them.
This is one of the best short videos on the essence of the teachings of the Buddha that I have ever seen.
My only quibble is in the choice of the word “fate”.
Most modern Buddhists would agree with that choice.
But there are no arahants in the world today.
At the time of the Buddha, there were many.
Where did they go?
IMHO, the choice to kneel to the God of “fate” killed them all.
Remember, the Buddha was a warrior who sought to put an end to old age, sickness and death.
Those who kneel to the God of fate, cover their eyes to that truth.
They seek an easier path to victory.
A man who desires to put an end to old age, sickness and death indeed seeks “understanding” above all else.
He, indeed, seeks to take risks, experience pain, and use that pain to increase his understanding.
However, such men are driven to seek balance between
(1) the desire to expand one’s understanding by making moves into the unknown
and
(2) the desire to avoid making moves which are so risky that they may lead to victory of the very foe he is seeking to conquer: old age, sickness and death.
The word “fate” has a tone of “surrender” which is too reminiscent of the corruption which eradicated the arahants for my tastes.
Warriors do not “surrender”. They fight with the intention to win.
“viriya” is missing in modern Buddhism.
The dialogue idea which you present in your videos is just brillant, it feels like I am talking to the buddha. Once again thankyou for such an amazing video.
Keep up the good work dude✌
Have been dealing with chronic pain for some years, that was a very good video to watch.. thanks
Wow!! I LOVE this! So fascinating! I recently read the dart discourse. I wanna read more Buddha now.
I just want to let you know that you gave me wisdom for life, you saved me from a really rough patch, and changed my whole perspective of who I am and how I perceive life. I will forever be thankful for your channel!!! Thank you!
In recent years, fear has always been in the back of my mind. Totally agree that fear will prevent you from learning knowledge. My take from this is that it would be better to eliminate fear and see the world for what it is. If I fear something it better be a real danger instead of a shadow. Sometime it's not that scary once you have a better look of it. Doubt and uncertainty creates fear
This is timeless, 1000 years from now someone will watch this and feel the same
No TH-cam 1000 years from now lol
I've watched millions of videos, this is one of the best. Thank you 🙏🏻
if you guys are critical-minded enough, you will see that most of the arguments in this video are equivocal. Fear is instinctive and healthy, what matters is how you react to it
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Thats...what the video communicates at the very end my friend, it's how we see fear and our will to act above it. Namaskram
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Healthy is understanding, not fear.
Say that you didn't listen to the video without saying that you didn't listen to the video
@@youssefbouzidi not healthy
"with all due respect...that sounds dumb" floored me
This is absolutely profound! I deeply resonate with your interpretation. I’m definitely going to watch this a few more times so I can fully capture the message! Thank you!
maam, you pretty asl
Look into Islam too. Same messagw
These conversations are what I have with my inner self.. oh my god..
I watch fight club last night. And i can't tell how grateful i am to discover it only after i learned about philosophy.
Cheers fam. This got rid of alot of anxiety. God bless
Fear exists when you attatch to outcome.
You hope it will go one way, and are fearful it will go another way.
Therefore you remove fear, by removing attachment to the outcome.
This is a great video on how to do that process. Great video as always!
Key word here is “hope.” This is why you should not hope for things to happen, rather instead work and make things happen. Practice eliminates fear.
This message is truly blessed, I'm very grateful for it.
Thank you for making me AWARE of my fear....now it's my time to be brave enough to NOT to ACT in the mode of fear
As long as we fear something,we're controlled by that thing👏👏👏
I think that those two assumptions about pain do not hold true: 1) pain isn't always necessary; 2) pain isn't always bearable. But at the same time, fear indeed limits your ability to learn because you are fixed on the sources of fear. I find it more reasonable to feel fear in dangerous situations and got out of it when it is over to learn from experience.
Exactly! Fate is a fickle bitch that rewards the cruel and punishes the innocent for the hell of it. Human progress is often made by looking at "fate" square in the eye and finding new and more creative methods of telling her "no." It's my "fate" to be a dirt poor peasant and starve? It's my child's "fate" to die a painful death in infancy from disease? If we believed that, we;'d still be in the Dark Ages! If all is in the hands of fate, then why bother with acts of charity and mercy when she's just going to do whatever the hell she pleases? Fate is like the casino house - always wins in the end, but there's no reason to trust her when she proves to be so damn cruel and unreliable.
Understanding
Necessity of pain can't really be determined. What we humans say about it is according to our own perception. Same goes for if one can bear it. Earlier with not much medical knowledge, people used to have surgeries without anesthesia and all. Nowadays people are thinking about finding a way to have painless pregnancies. Also maybe pain in some cases in necessary for death, if we consider death a fact. People are getting weaker for sure.
I agree, that's a fact. But the video is talking about attitude. If you constantly fear your compulsion and check every minute if you can do it? Then a objective attitude is necessary
I would say that I agree that not all pain is bearable. I have often felt and experienced unbearable pain. But I have come to realize that if you experienced unbearable pain, and are still alive, you exist, and continue to exist, then the pain is bearable. You may think that it is unbearable, but that is just what you think. Unless you die from the pain itself, that is the only pain that would truly be unbearable.
Up to 1:11 sums it all up, really great video.
The two things said on this video that when fate gives pain its only when it is necessary and bearable is absolutely true. Being a Muslim myself my mother has always preached me that Allah Tala gives only that much of pain which His creation that is us, can bear, which consequently gives the strength to bear the pain. :)
Sugarcoated shit
mashallah . knowing the truth will give us inner peace even through hard times
Yes i agree, some of the early christians went into the areana with lions, rather than just say what the tyrant wanted them say, people take that submission as weak & not fighting, but actualky its brave & in the case of danniel fearless, courage, strength is love & love is always internal (& eternal), but choice is always within too, peace,x
Afraid of your hijab I see
The pain that we receive is necessary 🤯
What a dialectic effort to reach a critical and of course a reasonable conclusion! Totally lit ✨ 🇧🇩
This feels just as valuable of a lesson as anything I’ve ever been given from Judeo Christian religion. This is power.
On the other side of it Fear is very important and useful. If someone doesn't feel fear they should go to a doctor because they don't have healthy responses. Although a misunderstood and misused fear is bad, fear is never the enemy if you want an enemy look in the mirror
I mean if you understand stuff than you dont need fear sometimes fear may just freeze your body
FINALLY something I disagree with you on!
"understanding protects you, not fear" neglects that the vast majority of the world we interact with is made up of what we do not understand. And the vast majority of our psyche is made up of base visceral reactions that we can't consciously rationalise.
An infant doesn't understand that a spider is venomous, but is scared by its sheer form. The child crawls away or cries out for a parent, and so is protected by fear.
People throughout history didn't understand bacteria and disease, but the fear of God's reprimand kept them practicing hygeine and and abstaining from eating treif.
People never understood DNA sequencing but their visceral disgust and fear of disobeying God stopped them from practicing incest, protecting their offspring.
Philosophy can wank it's way to the edge of the universe, but darwinism is to philosophy what a brick wall is to a kindergartener with a tricycle
First - necessary for what? Second - how can one accept that pain is "necessary" for anything/anyone if she/he also needs to accept that regardless of how they react to it or which conclusions they make, the fate can always bring more pain? In this context I would rather describe it as "unavoidable", something which is just there as one of the defining materials in life. The good news - based on this logic, pleasure should be just as fundamental and unavoidable.
Regardless, thank you for the video and your thought-provoking take on this question.
I barely comment on TH-cam videos, i but i have to say that this video completely changed my life if you take the time and study it. Thanks a ton for making it free.
"Perfect love casts out all fear." ~holy bible~
whenever i feel fear i always watch this video because this video is just perfect
Life is uncertain, that's a fact that we need to face, and I like the idea of this video as it shows us just how everything is a part of nature. One cannot reject nature for he then rejects himself.
I also think life is preparation, and the person who focuses on becoming the best person possible and looks for the lessons in his suffering will surpass any fear.
Thank you,
Much love from a growing TH-camr
Thank you for this 🙏🏻 been living in fear for 3 years now due to physical symptoms. This is a wonderful lesson🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Only 4 minutes in, and this is my favourite video from this channel. I recently started getting anxious about my exams, and all that did was make things worse. I will conquer my fear of future failure!
Thank you for this amazing explanation 👏
Honestly, It is what it is. Enlightening Episode 🙌🏽
This is so BEAUTIFUL! it made me cry in a beautiful way. I am deep breathing and enjoying many of the videos you have posted. Thank you so very much for making these videos. I do appreciate it so much!
Thanks for that contract with fear. As always that pain is bearable. Because I am going to learn why that hurt me and within that understanding, I am managing myself free from guilt, shame, or anger toward it. Which gives me a free mind without the burdens I had within my fear of fate. But sometimes it takes a long time to understand why you are fearing so much in life. Then take all kinds of preoccupied measures to overcome it within an understanding and without the easy way around it to just ignore it. It's hard not all get explained and done the correct way towards each other. We show less empathy towards that person because he always distrusts the situation at hand in its fear. Well, it got something to do with nerve endings and counter-reaction in the part we had no fate because someone already gave us a reason to fear them. Maybe an aggressive outcome of someone getting too agitated in life and with one word wrong the sword was mightier than the pen. Which can leave people in fear as well by the tyrant's hand no one is saved. I guess we have to overcome that and sometimes it is better to say sorry and put the blame on yourself. If you have become that tyrant at hand. I know from long past experience I always train myself till every inch of my body is burning and burdened. If some joker comes around and pushes it a little too far. He might get a blow in the face as well. That isn't really nice of me but it is normal if you are overburdened in taking too much shit on your plate. Then you are easily agitated in life and that can make you a tyrant as well for some folks who don't take life too seriously as I tend to do. People can lie and just make a fool out of you and me. I know it ain't exactly right to act as I did. But when are you gonna learn to let it be instead of provoking me in getting my nasty appearance out? Exactly the cat and mice game again. Wait till I get my mallet and knock you on the head. Let me see how much you like it then clown.
People should know their limits cause that is exactly how far the fear would go and how to understand the why behind it all.
Because of one stupid little joke in your eyes but I wasn't really into it to be treated badly.
So shall we call it even then I withdraw my sword and change it with a cup of coffee or some nice presents? To soften the blow in some understandable conversation without being hardened in the mind again. Cause all things tend to get much worse than it is. In some ways, silence speaks for itself if you didn't like the way you had been treated. But then again people tend to forget or go on with something else if they fear the outrage of someone. Fear shows us our limitations and understanding shows us how to overcome the things in fear as we are willing to change our fate toward it. It's a cycle of life in knowing ourselves and what provokes us to fear's contract. Try to overcome yourself within reason and understanding otherwise ask for help or get some clues on how to overcome that fear of yourself.
To live in peace ,we must have inner peace .
To have inner peace , we must have a clear conscience .
When our conscience is clear and our mind at peace , we bring peace and bliss to those around us .
This video, and Einzelganger's "Don't Suffer More Than Needed" go together really well.
I was taking notes on this and a thought came across my mind, could this also be said as experience is knowledge? fear holds you back from doing things and but once youe experience said thing, you have the knowledge of what happens, therefore you no longer fear what could happen
yes you basically get desensitized through experience and knowledge. electricity kills. but an electrician through knowledge and experience (a few zaps maybe) learns the nature of electricity, and learns skills to handle it safely
Learning is to suffer and suffering is learning, we can avoid learning or suffering but in death.
“Either you run the day or the day runs you.”
- Jim Rohn
That’s absolutely the best explanation for fear and how to overcome it ! Thank you 🙏🏻
Lessen pain by learning laws of how things in the universe behave.
Understand and believe all pain is necessary and bearable.
-interpretation of bhudda
"Everything you seek, is on the other side of fear"
You are 100% right! 🤘
There's a reason why people fear. It protect themselves. Fear means you love yourself. And I agree with the part where we must control the fear. Without fear, we would be dead already
Fear means you love your own ego and not loving your own true self
Protect from what ? An idea?
@@Thank-u-so-much-for-everything Fear is a form of love, the subject of love doesn't really matter. Finite love has to have a subject. Whether to fear or not, changes only the subject of the love, because you prefer a different subject, because you love that other subject more :) Another form of love.
2 years ago, I posted a comment completely disputing this video and disagreeing with it. and "debunking" it.
Now, after 2 years of the universe forcefully pushing me and dragging me into situations where I've had to confront all of my worst fears, I can come back and say that everything in this video is right. It was all projections.
I can now see the value in all of the suffering I've endured.
We have to know who we are, to know who we are not.
Know yourself fully, and you will know no fear.
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amaizng to know!
I'm a Christian now but I was once a Buddhist and got to the point in my masters training where I could use meditation to perceive another dimension to contact and interact with spirit guides and learn from them, one of them claiming to be Set the Egyptian god of the desert, not to mention when I first met him he greeted me by trying to punch me and he in fact kicked my ass. Eventually my human master taught me to fight off demonic spirits by making them come to us and confronting them in a meditative state. In one confrontation a shining light saved me from full possession I believed it was my will overcoming the demon and I thought well these guys must be the good guys I mean were fighting evil right? and light is protecting me and I'm being told I can become a god this must be the truth I will become a god for god so I can be there for him like he has us. One night I'm watching TH-cam and I come across a video about a guy who said he was in an illuminati family and he wanted out or something and he said the Egypt god of death Anubis tired to kill him but Jesus Christ intervened and the man survived and became a Christian. I wasn't sure if it was true or not but it gave me a question, am I sure these beings and my master teaching me are really my allies I thought maybe Set would try and kill me if I decided to leave, his personality definitely didn't convince me he wouldn't. I continued researching and finding more things about it and I got less and less trusting worried in my mind that Set knew my change of heart I was terrified. I had become an enemy but I had nothing left in my life except the training and I once said if this training is a lie id end my own life. at night I cried once and prayed to every last god of the religions I knew and begged them to save me from this evil, I was desperate. Couple days later I was meditating in a park trying to center myself, and that's when it happened I heard a voice somehow say "I am the Christ Jesus, the one teaching you is a liar and those guides are demon just as you suspect, leave them accept my blood on the cross and I will protect you from them." I accepted on the spot. he then told me to head home and that about halfway home you will come across something on the ground that you have great interest in. and I am in a wheelchair mind you so he explained to me someone will be there to pick it up for me. I went home and halfway there I find a Doctor Who playing card, which I still have to this day. to my surprise I looked up and see someone walking towards me and I asked them to hand me the card and they did just as Christ told me. realizing the truth I was angry at my guide and my master they lied to me for years. that same night I meditated to confront Set myself and I attacked him and he nearly had me and that was when the golden armor of god formed on my body and then Set struggle to fight me at all he stood in front of me and looked over my shoulder with the look of horror and ran away. I turned to see Jesus standing there my mind was unable to see his face similar to the pillar of smoke Moses mentioned expect my mind had a modern take on it and just saw it burled out like on TV. Jesus has darker skin and his hair is shorter. and then I was a Christian and realized that time the light saved me from that demon wasn't me it was Jesus Christ he was there in secret the whole time. after a while of praying and research I found out what I was dealing with was a kundalini spirit it basically made me addicted to its teaching by giving me a dopamine hit it was like getting high it gave me visions so it drove me to trust it but Jesus broke me free from the lie so I follow him and believe in the blood of Christ. Buddha himself wants you to do the same they lied to him too don't be deceived by the Kundalini snakes they are deceivers. Proverbs 9:10 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.
Good dialogue 👍🏼
I must not fear. Fear si the mind killer
Dune!
" everything explained " is a TH-cam channel giving the definitive answers on these topics. Glad i found it
I've been taking a course in Existentialism and History of Buddhism this semester, it's such a coincidence that you're touching on Nietzsche, Dostoyevsky, and now Buddha. I don't know if you've come across it, but you might wanna take a look at no-self and the Heart Sutra. Love your videos!
Take a look at Islam too
Take a deep dive into Søren Keirkegaard specifically his work "purity of heart is to will one thing"
@@pessimistkai5569 I don't think it consists of the qualities of Buddhism in terms of studies of existentialism and general spirituality. It is an Abrahamic religion and is concerned with theocentric interests, as well as religiocentrism to a certain point. A closer association to this topic in my opinion is the obvious 'Hinduism' or possibly Taoism
Tmrw is my interview, this popped up on my feed, Now i am less anxious, as i was.
Take this as a sign , to progress without fear.
SubhanAllah ♥️
Fate is an act of consequence. While still inevitable, consequences can be managed for better outcomes. Blindly accepting Fate to become clear of fear is an unreasonable quality of life consideration. We can accept our fears with a purpose to manage those inevitable fates/consequences with the wisdom of knowledge to navigate it, not just blindly accept it as a whole.
*"All men die but not all men really live."* ~William Wallace.