Biggest roadblock here is that local psychologists and psychiatrists won't test for adult adhd. They used to, but..... so now you have to leave the city and hope that the psychologist (NOT psychiatrist) you find will test for it so that you can get an official diagnosis.
At 59 years old,I am now finally facing this bastard of a disorder that had been a life long friend from childhood on. In the 80s I was vaguely diagnosed with Asburgers which I have learned to get along with. The ADHD is something I've never alowed myself to believe because of everything Ive been told my whole life. I come from an insanely intelegent and high producing family. My problems were all in my head and I simply wad lazy and un motivated. My life has shown thats bullshit. Now,I am scared to 'succumb' to the idea that the missing piece of my brain is not my fault and can be corrected. Asbugers has only meds which dampen certain more disagreable effects. Which I prefer to cope with . Im tired. And really scared. Ive been looking into maybe getting an advocate to kinda hold my hand a bit through this. A request unbelievable hard for me. I dream of a period of my life where acting on my will and talent is exiting and challanging. Not overwhelmingly, baffalingly hard and confusing. At this point, all my coping mechs. of the past dont seem to hold out and Im nearly paralized by indecision and inability to enact a plan. But one way or another, Im sorting this out now, or theres just not much to look forward to
It took me 3 years from finding out I have ADHD to getting diagnosed, because my psychiatrist at the time just said I don't have ADHD. He had no arguments and the discussion ended with "an adult ADHD diagnose is too much efford".
I was diagnosed and treated for anxiety for years before getting the proper adhd diagnosis. My anxiety never got better with treatment because it was a symptom of untreated adhd. I didn't know my constant overlapping thoughts that I couldn't catch hold of were adhd and not the racing thoughts of anxiety. And medical professionals aren't trained any better to notice the things I was describing to psychiatrists and therapists for years were textbook symptoms of inattentive adhd. It's so frustrating.
I live in Texas, stimulants and opiods down here carry SUCH a stigma. It's woven into the "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" mentality. My pcp referred me to a psychiatrist. She is the only one within a 100 mile radius that accepts my insurance, so there is no option of a 2nd opinion. But, she keeps insisting that my symptoms are all just from depression and will not entertain the thought of stimulants. I DO have anxiety and depression. But I feel a huge factor in that, is from untreated ADHD. But if I push at ALL to fight for myself, I'll be red listed as pill seeking. And I currently 100% HAVE to have my anxiety meds. So I can't just quit this doctor. I feel like a failure as an adult and moreso as a mother. The hard part is knowing exactly what I need; but said doctor will not hear of it. And all those online psych places are crazyyyyyy expensive. It's no one's fault other than my own that my life's circumstances have prevented me from affording better treatment. But it doesn't mean I don't deserve just basic human compassion and ALL I want to do is better myself. The tool to do that is medication, as I've tried alllllllllll the alternative medicines and natural "hacks". It's frustrating when life is just passing me by while I'm trying so desperately to crawl out of this hole so I can have a more productive and happy life, and I 100% deserve that. But sadly it's not going to happen anytime soon until I'm in a better position. There's no answer for this aside from better mecical training and understanding, I just want other mothers who are going through this to know you're not alone ❤
it's been my experience too.. I feel they reject the ADHD diagnosis because they think you just want stimulants. they will try every single anti depressant, even anti psychotics that have tons of side effects and just make adhd worse.
I love the little video clips on TH-cam by people with adhd that teach you things about adhd or give life hacks. Maybe you can try those for now. Hope they help
I've gotten along despite extreme hardships. With insurance kicking in soon with the new employer I'll attempt to get another diagnosis and help with treatment. But no guarantees, I'm extremely hesitant.
I've been told by my parents that they think I have ADHD but I really don't know, thanks for this video Mike, it's interesting. Another silly thing that I'm worried about is the stigma around neurodiverse stuff at the moment, mostly from things like TikTok. I've seen these videos on there like '5 signs you might have ADHD!' and stuff and it's literally the most vague stuff that could be applied to anyone, but maybe I'm being too judgmental idk. I just don't want to contribute to that sort of thing, it's not really just a fun or quirky thing to have is it, it can be quite debilitating. I'm also transgender and I feel like I have enough on my plate with that without going through another medical diagnosis process, I'm just not sure what to do right now, but I really want to function like a normal person and ADHD would explain my life but I also think that surely it would've been noticed when I was younger? Sorry if that's a dumb thing to say, I know some people get diagnosed as teens and even adults, sorry for the rambling comment
Yes unfortunately TikTok info is pretty vague and not very helpful. I hear where you are coming from in being apprehensive to sit in front of another health professional. If Trans, definitely seek out a trans affirming doctor or therapist. But when ready I encourage you to seek out care since ADHD on its own is such a treatable disorder and the right care can completely change your life. That all starts with a diagnosis. Good luck and thanks for the comment!
woah I have many road blocks, first my family then my age, the society and most importantly I don't think there is a psychiatrist in my area whose specialised in ADHD. The language barrier is also blocking me from getting help. It's just that I am more comfortable speaking my mother language than English.
It is virtually impossible to get an adhd diagnosis in France if you can't afford to go to the private sector. This is partially due to the overall state of french psychiatry and scepticism or lack of awareness of adhd in France but also due to the insanely heavy bureaucracy of the public sector.
Yes, some symptoms improve or remit, but all neurodevelopmental disorders affect a person from birth until death. Success lies with your ability to manage symptoms so that you still have control over your life.
Imagine getting a second opinion when already getting a first opinion takes like 1-3 years of waiting for an appointment in germany 😂 Unless you got a well paying job and can spend around 600€ out of your own pocket 😆 I couldn't bring them up, I landed on the welfare landfill after multiple failed attempts at getting educated and thus getting severely indebted.
Biggest roadblock here is that local psychologists and psychiatrists won't test for adult adhd. They used to, but..... so now you have to leave the city and hope that the psychologist (NOT psychiatrist) you find will test for it so that you can get an official diagnosis.
The bit you're missing here is the fact that the depression, anxiety, OCD and trauma are (in people with ADHD), caused by the ADHD and it's symptoms.
At 59 years old,I am now finally facing this bastard of a disorder that had been a life long friend from childhood on.
In the 80s I was vaguely diagnosed with Asburgers which I have learned to get along with. The ADHD is something I've never alowed myself to believe because of everything Ive been told my whole life.
I come from an insanely intelegent and high producing family. My problems were all in my head and I simply wad lazy and un motivated.
My life has shown thats bullshit.
Now,I am scared to 'succumb' to the idea that the missing piece of my brain is not my fault and can be corrected. Asbugers has only meds which dampen certain more disagreable effects. Which I prefer to cope with .
Im tired. And really scared.
Ive been looking into maybe getting an advocate to kinda hold my hand a bit through this.
A request unbelievable hard for me.
I dream of a period of my life where acting on my will and talent is exiting and challanging. Not overwhelmingly, baffalingly hard and confusing. At this point, all my coping mechs. of the past dont seem to hold out and Im nearly paralized by indecision and inability to enact a plan.
But one way or another, Im sorting this out now, or theres just not much to look forward to
It took me 3 years from finding out I have ADHD to getting diagnosed, because my psychiatrist at the time just said I don't have ADHD.
He had no arguments and the discussion ended with "an adult ADHD diagnose is too much efford".
I was diagnosed and treated for anxiety for years before getting the proper adhd diagnosis. My anxiety never got better with treatment because it was a symptom of untreated adhd. I didn't know my constant overlapping thoughts that I couldn't catch hold of were adhd and not the racing thoughts of anxiety. And medical professionals aren't trained any better to notice the things I was describing to psychiatrists and therapists for years were textbook symptoms of inattentive adhd. It's so frustrating.
I live in Texas, stimulants and opiods down here carry SUCH a stigma. It's woven into the "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" mentality.
My pcp referred me to a psychiatrist. She is the only one within a 100 mile radius that accepts my insurance, so there is no option of a 2nd opinion. But, she keeps insisting that my symptoms are all just from depression and will not entertain the thought of stimulants.
I DO have anxiety and depression. But I feel a huge factor in that, is from untreated ADHD. But if I push at ALL to fight for myself, I'll be red listed as pill seeking. And I currently 100% HAVE to have my anxiety meds. So I can't just quit this doctor.
I feel like a failure as an adult and moreso as a mother. The hard part is knowing exactly what I need; but said doctor will not hear of it.
And all those online psych places are crazyyyyyy expensive.
It's no one's fault other than my own that my life's circumstances have prevented me from affording better treatment. But it doesn't mean I don't deserve just basic human compassion and ALL I want to do is better myself. The tool to do that is medication, as I've tried alllllllllll the alternative medicines and natural "hacks".
It's frustrating when life is just passing me by while I'm trying so desperately to crawl out of this hole so I can have a more productive and happy life, and I 100% deserve that. But sadly it's not going to happen anytime soon until I'm in a better position.
There's no answer for this aside from better mecical training and understanding, I just want other mothers who are going through this to know you're not alone ❤
it's been my experience too.. I feel they reject the ADHD diagnosis because they think you just want stimulants. they will try every single anti depressant, even anti psychotics that have tons of side effects and just make adhd worse.
I love the little video clips on TH-cam by people with adhd that teach you things about adhd or give life hacks. Maybe you can try those for now. Hope they help
Thanks for this informative video!
I've gotten along despite extreme hardships. With insurance kicking in soon with the new employer I'll attempt to get another diagnosis and help with treatment. But no guarantees, I'm extremely hesitant.
I've been told by my parents that they think I have ADHD but I really don't know, thanks for this video Mike, it's interesting. Another silly thing that I'm worried about is the stigma around neurodiverse stuff at the moment, mostly from things like TikTok. I've seen these videos on there like '5 signs you might have ADHD!' and stuff and it's literally the most vague stuff that could be applied to anyone, but maybe I'm being too judgmental idk. I just don't want to contribute to that sort of thing, it's not really just a fun or quirky thing to have is it, it can be quite debilitating. I'm also transgender and I feel like I have enough on my plate with that without going through another medical diagnosis process, I'm just not sure what to do right now, but I really want to function like a normal person and ADHD would explain my life but I also think that surely it would've been noticed when I was younger? Sorry if that's a dumb thing to say, I know some people get diagnosed as teens and even adults, sorry for the rambling comment
Yes unfortunately TikTok info is pretty vague and not very helpful. I hear where you are coming from in being apprehensive to sit in front of another health professional. If Trans, definitely seek out a trans affirming doctor or therapist. But when ready I encourage you to seek out care since ADHD on its own is such a treatable disorder and the right care can completely change your life. That all starts with a diagnosis. Good luck and thanks for the comment!
@@MikeFeldmeierMD Thank you for replying Mike, and thanks again for these videos :)
woah I have many road blocks, first my family then my age, the society and most importantly I don't think there is a psychiatrist in my area whose specialised in ADHD. The language barrier is also blocking me from getting help. It's just that I am more comfortable speaking my mother language than English.
Its definitely worth it to try to get a diagnosis even with the barriers, because you'll get some help at the end of the day. Good luck!
It is virtually impossible to get an adhd diagnosis in France if you can't afford to go to the private sector.
This is partially due to the overall state of french psychiatry and scepticism or lack of awareness of adhd in France but also due to the insanely heavy bureaucracy of the public sector.
I am pretty sure I have adhd and this video was very hard to pay attention to, I had to skip a lot bc I just want the answersss
Appreciate you stopping by
If I was diagnosed as a kid, does that still count?
Yes, some symptoms improve or remit, but all neurodevelopmental disorders affect a person from birth until death. Success lies with your ability to manage symptoms so that you still have control over your life.
Same here...
Imagine getting a second opinion when already getting a first opinion takes like 1-3 years of waiting for an appointment in germany 😂
Unless you got a well paying job and can spend around 600€ out of your own pocket 😆
I couldn't bring them up, I landed on the welfare landfill after multiple failed attempts at getting educated and thus getting severely indebted.
Find a psychiatrist who specializes in adhd
𝓅𝓇𝑜𝓂𝑜𝓈𝓂 😢