I have an evaluation on Monday and I am terrified of not being validated or listen to or simply being misunderstood Update: I have combined type adhd Update November 21': I've been prescribed 2 non-stimulants (one of them Strattera) that helps me SO much with my short memory and focus!
@@shaynabeyer1890 i have inattentive adhd, social anxiety, and sensory issues. he almost diagnosed me with a combined adhd, but i didn’t meet all of the criteria
I have an evaluation in December; I'm terrified I'm going to be told I'm faking my symptoms, or that there's nothing wrong with me because I didn't present "typical" hyperactive ADHD behavior as a child. Your video made me a little more at ease kind of going into it with a little more information. I'm 25, and I almost feel like an imposter trying to get diagnosed so far into my adult life, especially because I've been able to "cope" my way through a lot of it, even though I've still really struggled. 11/28/21 UPDATE: I got the “availability” run around from the unit I initially had the appointment with, and found a different practice that had no problem getting me in within a week. I’ve been diagnosed with combined type ADHD and am starting Adderall; the difference is ridiculous and makes me want to cry with how happy I am. I can focus at work, and my soul crushing skin itching boredom is so minimal, I feel so calm. It’s like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Keep going, you all are valid ♥️
UPDATE: After months of appointments, etc, I do have a diagnosis of severe inattentive ADHD. I started on stimulants yesterday, but unfortunately haven't noticed any effects, good or bad. (It's a very small dosage, so there's still hope) Honestly, just knowing it's not just all in my head (well, I mean it is, but you know what I mean) was a huge boon. Even if nothing works for me medicine-wise, knowing I'm not just inherently a lazy loser is a godsend. I have my evaluation this Thursday. I’m 46. I was a smart kid in school, and have a lucrative job. But reading the symptoms… it’s disturbingly me. I’m telling the guy when I start that I’m worried I’ll “pass” this test like all the others. My biggest fear is that I don’t have ADHD and I’m just lazy and not living up to my potential because I’m a loser. But it’s worth it. I think. I hope. ;)
I’m 49, both of my sons have been diagnosed (one hyper, the other inattentive). I’m sure the doctor will say I’m an imposter because I have coped decently well so far. I was an honour roll student in school and, on the surface, I look like I’m able to get things done. My kids are convinced I’m ADHD and the more I look into it, the more I believe them. Spacey, distracted, interrupting conversation, my energy in social situations is either intense or non existent (which might be why I have very few friends and never get invited to anything).
I had an appointment with a psychiatrist 11/15/21. Before my appointment, I had to talk myself out of canceling it, because I was afraid of being told I was faking everything to get attention or help that I didn't need. Despite knowing I really did struggle with many things growing up socially and academically, especially with a supposed learning disability. Towards the end of the appointment, she told me straight up, "You have the classic ADHD symptoms from right out of the book. You're not faking it, the medical system and school system failed you." It was such a huge relief I ended up bursting into tears.I still have more tests to run, but its a relief to know that someone believes me. Stick it out, be honest with your feelings and tell the person evaluating you, and be honest in your test. It's scary, but you'll be happier for it after.
I wasn’t diagnosed until I was in my late 20s. I had never considered it, but my doctor was like “let me see something…” she had me answer a ton of questions and I was “off the charts” as she put it. If you think you could have it, there’s a good chance you do! Girls are good at masking and there’s so much more information about it now.
When I was 14, I went to a therapist to see if I had ADHD. I wasn’t asked a lot of questions. I took the Connor cpt test and passed (I’ve always been good at test) and right away my therapist told me I don’t have ADHD and told my mom that all I need is more chores around the house 🥴 I believed I didn’t have it and I was just lazy. 10 years later, still had trouble focusing and major depression disorder. When to a psychiatrist, explained my symptoms, she asked me a bunch of questions where I felt like she was reading me like a book and was diagnosed with ADHD Inattentive type. If I had been listened to when I was younger, I could have saved myself from a lot of break downs.
Same thing happened to me in 2017... I took tests for two hours and "aced" them (gifted kid burnout ADHDer anyone?) and wasn't asked any personal questions at all, just immediately told I'm fine. I'm glad you got heard.
I got lucky that when I went to therapy to address my academic anxiety in college my therapist encouraged me to get screened. Turns out, "My anxiety has to be at defcon 9 do do start anything" isn't the normal experience...
Hahaha I like the way you put it ElfGift! I concur...and may I speak from the voice of experience? It NEVER changes. Aged 52 I have studied courses throughout my working life and am about to start another tertiary level course. I know only one thing prior to commencing any course. The biggest, hardest, most time-consuming assignments will be conducted in a fit of sheer panic at the 11th hour.
On a completely anxiety unrelated note. DEFCON numbers severity are inverse to the magnitude. Also 5 is the highest (lowest alert) and 1 is the lowest (highest alert) level... Not trying to be THAT guy, but I thought it was worth putting out there lol.
My psychiatrist told me i might have adhd, but when i told my mom, she was like 'no ofcourse you dont its just an excuse to get you to worry and keep coming there'
Ugh yes.. I am 38 and I was just telling my registered nurse 65 year old mother I am getting evaluated for ADHD and she looked at me all confused and said, " oh stop.. you're just being hard on yourself". 😞
My mom is the same way even though I believe she clearly exhibits sign of ADHD as well. I believe a lot of people, especially those belonging to the older generations have a huge stigma against ADHD and take it as a personal insult if they or their kids have it. I clearly showed signs of autism or adhd as a kid and my parents never got it looked into further. It even took them a while to acknowledge my stuttering according to their friends.
@@MAledish to add, I think it's this: they probably had it too, so it's normal to them. They've BEEN lazy, forgetful, unfocused, etc... But they had no choice but to "grow out of it" because back then it didn't mean anything other than that they're lazy and forgetful. Their kids are struggling, but that's ok because they did, too. Everyone has a hard time growing up. So when we say we have a neurological condition, they think we are trying to avoid that growth. Except... ADHD often persists into adulthood without them realizing it. My mom is the matriarch--she's motivated and handles EVERYTHING. But! She's still forgetful, misplaces things, and always at least an hour late to everything, no matter how important. She never fully outgrew it, she just learned to cope enough to survive. One day, I was sobbing over missing a work meeting and beating myself up (at the time undiagnosed). She came to see what was wrong. I asked her how to be more like her, and she said... "I am strong because I had to be. If I wasn't strong, people would starve, I wouldn't be able to see my parents or siblings, I wouldn't be able to feed my children. If I needed to do something, I had no choice but to do it because no one else could. You are weak because you did not struggle like I have." And it's funny, she called me weak with so much sympathy and compassion, I felt better. I think she understood me and meant..."I know you're struggling. I have too. But my situation forced me to overcome it. I am both glad and sorry that you will have to struggle to find a different path." She may not believe depression or adhd are real, but she's familiar with the pain and suffering caused by them, and that's all I can ask for. That might be where a lot of older adults are at. Tldr: Parents probably also had ADHD and didn't know it, so they believe it's just a normal (painful) process of growing up. To claim a set of childish traits as a disorder is to avoid growing up. They understand the pain of ADHD, they just don't realize it's ADHD.
@@MAledish oh also they probably internalized all the shame and humiliation that comes with those disorders and all the "these are character flaws that can be fixed" messaging, so that's how they view the symptoms--as character flaws, immaturity, unwillingness to put in the work to fix ourselves, etc.
@@bekajean_2764 Thats frustrating thats literally my worst nightmare is seeming like im making a big deal and getting the " your just doing this, or ur just too worried".
You said it right, this was for people who always wondered if something was wrong with them, but were always scared that something was wrong with them..
I got diagnosed with ADHD years ago. I could remember several years ago after divorce with my husband which brought me into my disastrous journey on Alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
I'm so very happy for you, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Germany don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
My parents have never been understanding of the fact that there may be something wrong with me, and our relationship is pretty complicated. We're really close, but I haven't shared anything really personal with my mom since the end of elementary school. Every time I've tried to bring up my mental health to her, which is incredibly hard for me to begin with, she laughs at me and basically tells me I'm foolish for thinking so, and that "of course there's nothing wrong with you!" I told her a few months back that I was thinking about getting tested for ADHD, and she brushed it off like I was crazy. Long story short, I chose to get tested anyway because it's become a huge problem in my studies and personal life, and I've got an appointment at a private clinic this Thursday. Safe to say I haven't told my parents because I know for a fact that they wouldn't approve and that they'd get mad at me for "spending money on such a stupid thing". I'm pretty concerned they'll ask to speak to my parents in order to go through with a potential diagnosis, but I just know that even if I grew the balls to bring it up to my parents they'd get there and downplay every single symptom to make it seem like there was nothing wrong with me. I've basically hidden half my life from them, so half my struggles they aren't even aware of. Sorry for the essay, but I'm basically wondering if it's even possible to get a diagnosis without them talking to my family/friends? I know my behavior from school pretty well, and no one besides me really know how messed up my mental health has been ever since elementary school. I have a really hard time opening up to people, especially those close to me, and it hasn't gotten any easier now that I'm 23 and pretty messed up.
Same exact story here. I'm really nervous about my clinician asking about family observations because I'm not close with mine in that way. They were never really openly supportive of my mental health journey. I'm 20 and just figuring out for the first time in my life that I might have adhd. Very scary journey and my evaluation is this week. At least, at the end of it all I'll have a definitive answer on whether or not I do but the scary part is the not knowing.
I hope everything goes well. Just explain the situation. Maybe they'll speak to your teachers? Or use your school performance? I see a new psychiatrist on the 15th to be evaluated and I'm so nervous. I've been misdiagnosed so many times. I just want answers.
So in case anyone’s reading this and wondering the same thing, I did eventually tell my parents, and my psychologist did end up talking to my dad. He didn’t back up a single thing I had told my psychologist, and he was extremely dismissive of everything. We proceeded anyway, as I had explained to her in detail how complicated our relationship is and that they don’t really know anything about my mental health and haven’t since I was around 10 years old. So it wasn’t a surprise that they didn’t back me up, because I’ve been hiding everything from them, so they don’t actually know half the stuff I’ve told my psychologist. It’s been about 3 months since I first started testing and I was put on Ritalin about a week ago, but I’m honestly still not 100% sure as they haven’t told me straight up that I have it. We’re trying out different dosages right now and I’m being monitored pretty closely by a psychiatrist, so hopefully this whole process will be finalized soon!
I'm 62, I've had very little focus my whole life, so easily waylaid, and a hell, of a procrastinator, never did homework in my life, they threw scatterbrains like us on the short bus I quit as soon as I could, I'm just learning now, via the internet how much ADD has affected most everything in my life, it's crazy, I've spent the last few years trying to be mindful about the things that I need to pay attention to, I'm iffy at best Long before it's acronym it's diagnosis or it's pill they called us restless dreamers I'm a restless dreamer still
Brilliantly said Charlotte! Totally understand. We were failed in the school system. I grew up in Queensland Australia in the 1970's and 1980's and had exactly the same experience at school as yourself. Thank goodness we know now!
"For years, no, for decades, I struggled with things like depression and anxiety and organisation and social relationships, and never once did any of the clinicians or physicians I saw mention anything about the possibility of ADHD ... Some days, I just wish I could go back in tim and shout at so many people, Why did you miss this? Why didn't somebody tell me?" Wow. This perfectly articulates my experience. I was just diagnosed with adult ADHD at 32. Since at least 15, I struggled with at times debilitating depression, anxiety (generalised + social), hypervigilance and other issues. I tried countless counsellors, medications, and coping strategies - none helped, at least not much. And then I started gettign treated for ADHD. Without a doubt, treating my ADHD is by far the most effective treatment for depression and anxiety I have ever experienced - nothing even comes close. It's like ADHD was the root of a great vine slowly strangling me, and everything else just clipped an inch or two off of it. ADHD medication took it out at the root. Thank you, Jared, and to other ADHD TH-camrs like Jessica McCabe for doing more for my mental wellbeing than a legion of GPs. Your channels are foundational pillars of support for me, and very clearly for many others. You may not be able to reclaime the 'lost years' that us adult ADHD'ers so often mourn, but you are helping others make the most of the rest of the time that's given to them.
I can relate to so much of what you stated The Castle Hunter. At 62, thinking about the lost years can hurt, but I know doing that will expend energy I can instead use on creating the life I envision using my ever increasing ADHD knowledge repository. Yes!, THANK YOU to all ADHD youtubers sharing their experiences!
Same! I’m only 26 and I already feel like I can breathe, as I recently received adhd dx. I can remember being a teen and my grandfather telling me “hmm you’re always late. You never want to wake up… there’s something wrong.” By that point I was dx’d bipolar 1, gad and depression. Thank you for your comment. Makes me feel like I’m not alone. And good luck on your wellness. 🙏🏼👍🏼
I told my people that I think I have Dyscalculia, and they actually told me they'd give me a different ADHD test along with learning disabilities because of that! It's important to ask for that reason for sure, I'm so sorry you were subjected to maths.
@@LilMissFangirl I believe I may have this too. For years I knew something was up. Especially when I was younger and was in kindergarten or 1st grade who had trouble even doing the simplist of basic math (adding & subtracting).
I found you on TikTok! I went to my first psychology appointment this week and at the end my psychologist asked me if I had ever been diagnosed with ADHD. I said no. We scheduled another appointment for next week and of course I went home and researched ADHD. SO MANY THINGS MAKE SENSE NOW. I'm so eager to go back in and see her again in a few days.
"Some days i just wish I could go back in time and shout to so many people 'why did you miss this? Why didn't someone just tell me?!' But I can't. I can only work with what I've got now." THIS. I get so frustrated when I think of all the signs of my ADHD that went unnoticed by everyone: teachers, parents, hell even therapists. I'm just now beginning to come to terms with the fact that i can't change the past, and i can only really focus on improving things in my life. Thank you Jared, for putting the frustration into words.
I’m getting tested today in about 40 minutes and I’m so nervous. I came here looking for what to expect. Im so scared that I wont be able to describe my feelings well enough or being misunderstood. I still have a fear of oversharing things that have nothing to do with my symptoms. Edit: I finally got the results back! The test went really well and I was diagnosed with inattentive ADHD. I’m not taking any prescriptions currently, but I plan to in the future. I’ve been seeing a therapist that provides me materials to help me cope and work with my ADHD.
Yeah, my "diagnosis" sounded more like a suggestion and it did take 20 minutes or less. It didn't feel like the thorough evaluation I have heard so many of the TH-cam clinicians mention, but an after thought. When I asked later how to get a diagnosis, the counselor was surprised. "But I diagnosed you." The suggestion, however, was enough for me to do my own research. After a couple of equally confusing and unproductive sessions, I didn't go back to the counselor. Doing my own research has been far more productive.
you might have gotten a 'provisional diagnosis.' I got this through my college health program. It was enough for me to potentially get meds (i haven't been able to yet because i had to 'mood stablize' first with zoloft) but not enough for me to get services through the disability center. I'm still trying to get that official diagnosis like this video describes.
@@finchcarvingadiamond SAME! After taking a short test on their office computer and talking with the docs nurse for like 3 minutes, the doc walked in and told me I had ADHD, MDD, GAD and mild OCD tenancies. I was shocked to hear all those but really surprised about OCD because when I said I had to keep my purse and keys in a certain area, it was because I couldn't remember where to look otherwise. He put me on all kinds of crap which started to make my hair fall out, non stop menstrual bleeding, heart palpitations, and delayed baseline ecg readings. The follow-up appointment, I told his nurse practitioner about the new symptoms and how my gp said it could be related to SSRI's and she said "In my 40 years as a nurse practitioner, I have NEVER heard of antidepressants causing abnormal periods." She should have at least looked because there are documented cases. She then tells me she was doubling the dose! Then the doctor walks in and stands halfway in the door, tells me the meds are being upped and follow-up in 3 months. After having to see a cardiologist because I was feeling worse than ever when trying to stick with the meds, I ditched the SSRIs and him and got physiologically better. Vyvanse is the only thing I'm taking and I'm taking it sparingly because I don't know where to get genuine help otherwise.
Haha! I giggled at the "you can't get diagnosed in 20 minutes". That dude slapped that diagnosis on me in 7 minutes at my first ever appointment last year. Thanks for the great video! It was very uplifting :)
I'm terrified. I am getting tested in a couple weeks. I'm a broke college kid and these evaluations cost plenty but I know I need help. My fear is, what if I pay so much for this evaluation and ADHD isn't my problem? Also, doing my research that lead me to get tested I found I related to a large majority of the examples given. Also, my uncle, my dads brother, does have ADHD, and I've actually talked to him quite a bit about my troubles and he's shared his with me. And there hasn't been one thing either of us have explained that the other doesn't have. Honestly, talking to him really solidified my decision to get tested. But.... I'm still afraid I'm wasting my money. I keep looking back at common effects ADHD has like before and half the time I'm confident in having these troubles I read of and the other half the time I either find another explanation or doubt or am unsure if I do have this or that. When I look back at how I acted way back in elementary and middle school I see just about every symptom of ADHD. But with young adult me now (after I set my appointment to get tested) I'm not sure. But I am... AHHHH!!! Sorry for my long anxious ramble. But if when I get tested I don't have ADHD, what should I do? I have always had severe social anxiety, awful time management, awful general anxiety and horrible at keeping attention. As well as the rare ability to stay still. Even resting I'm moving something. Taping foot, twittling my fingers, nodding my head to nothing, countless things. I'm sorry for my long speech on my troubles. But what do I do if after spending all this money on this evaluation it isn't my trouble? What then? How do I find help for my hyper, anxious, socialy panicked, attentionless, troubles?
It's just like black jack. If you know you have an 11 double down. There is a chance you could be fucked. But the math is on your side. And in your case when you know from your uncle who has it, it's a hard sign to ignore. How did the test go?
I have had a very similar experience, even with my family members being diagnosed. How did the evaluation go? I just booked my appointment with a private psychiatrist after suffering from similar issues my whole life. Very nervous but holding onto hope. It took me months to finally book one after procrastinating it for so long.
I feel like a textbook case of “inattentive girl who fell through the cracks.” I’m in the middle of getting evaluated and have a cognition test on Monday that is giving me a lot of anxiety because it sounds interesting and what if I do well on it?! 😱
@@Mitashade Good luck! It's a nerve-racking and rather exhausting process, but worth it in the end even if it's just to get some answers. I recently finished my 2-month long assessment and got formally diagnosed as inattentive. Fortunately, the slew of cognitive tests they tortured me with were extremely not interesting and I did not do well at all and had nothing to fear. Ha! Hope they're as boring and frustrating for you as they were for me. :-)
@@HGrimes Yeah, psychs are pretty ass at this. The idea that someone with ADHD is supposed to set up and attend, on time, without cancelling or re-scheduling, two months worth of shit is ludicrous.
@@RvLeshrac Yeah, part of me was wondering if THAT'S secretly the test - if you don't make it to the end, you probably have adhd! The place I went to didn't even do appointment reminders...thank god I have a spouse to keep me on top of this shit.
Jared, this is GREAT!!! I really love your detailed explanation of the importance of ADHD evaluations AND your delivery of the message in such an engaging way!
Debi Jenkins Frankle LMFT - Awesome!! Thanks for watching...more to come! What kind of topics do you think you’d want to know more about as a clinician?
@@jareddefifeph.d.1828 Hello, my question is how do you find a good Dr for testing. I have been diagnosed as Bipolar and I have ask the Dr to listen to me but he said once I have that discussion that is what I am labeled as. He isn't the Dr who disagree me, I was in a bad place in my life at the time and that is how I got that label not going to say what I did but I am guessing you can guess. Thank you for your videos 💜
My psychologist and I firmly believe I have ADHD. I got tested in 2018 and "passed", so they told me I don't have it. The things they had me do weren't hard though. Click the mouse button when the screen flashes, rearrange some blocks on the table, recite some numbers in a certain order. My psychologist said I passed because it was likely my baseline, and I've been trying to learn how to cope and focus my entire life. So not only will the place that tested me not diagnose me, but my psychiatrist won't prescribe me anything without a confirmed test result, and also believes people are over-diagnosed with it when they don't really have it. It's all so frustrating because I'm just struggling to do basic tasks and function on a daily basis, and anyone who can prescribe me medication for it tells me "Oh it's just anxiety." Yes, I have anxiety. But I've been on at least 6 different anti-depressants, and none of them helping my ability to focus in any way. How can I just convince someone to help me?
Me opens my car with my keys, gets into car then can’t find keys. Searches cars for 15 mins for keys in the hot weather.... then finds key in front pocket of bag.
Man, as a PhD psychologist that also didn’t know I had it until several years after I finished graduating even though my dissertation was on Dx ADHD in college students, I gotta say you’re video and heartfelt speech is super validating. Grateful to have your energy in the field validating and expanding the knowledge of neurodivergence experiences to others😁❤️
I'm pretty shocked that my degree never mentioned the emotional dysregulation that goes alongside it, or really explained how or why ADHD occurs. On the one hand I feel I could teach that module better than the lecturer now I've intensely researched it, but on the other.... creating slides and having to organise my thoughts into a coherent manner? Unlikely!
I’m like 99% sure I have ADHD and I am well aware that you should not self diagnose yourself but when it feels like the puzzle pieces of my life are now fitting together after realising, it is really disheartening to bring it up to people and have them tell you that ‘you are too lazy to have ADHD’ and that you should not self diagnose yourself.
Nobody knows your body and mind better than yourself, as long as you're not lying to yourself and wanting to others about faking a diagnosis, then your doctor should definitely listen to you and not judge you and treat you accordingly because adult ADHD is literally debilitating if it's untreated for too long it leads to other issues like self-esteem issues and just general loss of interest in life that's how it hit me and to this day I am still untreated even though I was treated as a kid all the way through my high school career and I did extremely well in school as well as just life in general when I was on my adderall, but now of course we live in a world that all these medications that are their, they are able to be prescribed, cannot get prescribed anymore because of the DEA and all of this b******* about people abusing the medications it's like you can easily tell if someone is abusing their medications, it's obvious you can do blood work you can do all types of tests to see if somebody is abusing their medications because they can run out quick they can show many signs of abuse and that's when if they need to be cut off so be it, but if someone's doing better in life on the medication responsibly then there shouldn't be any issue with prescribing these medications to people that need them desperately❤
Once I began taking Vyvanse for my inattentive ADHD it felt like I finally was experiencing the real world, and I saw the beauty in everything. Before having my medication I would: CONSTANTLY forget things within the span of a minute, lose my train of thought, have a lack of drive to do things that I know I would enjoy, quickly lose interest in the things that I enjoy...and it made me strongly feel as if I was 1) a sociopath and 2) a complete moron... Initially when I started taking my medication it quickly began working, even at the first dose. Feeling and processing everything correctly and actually getting all of that mental feedback was overwhelming in a positive sense...I finally felt ALIVE. Can not express how truly grateful I am to live in a time where I dont have to suffer the curse of having a crippling mental disorder such as ADHD...and even writing this I'm nearly shedding tears.
I am so extremely confident that I have ADHD and that is my missing puzzle piece. I told some friends and my mom that I need their help holding me accountable to get evaluated etc. It’s so funny how the help we need is sometimes simply being reminded and “forced” to help ourselves.
Thanks for this Jared! I was diagnosed with ADHD earlier this year by my new psychiatrist. I am 52! From the age of 27 I have seen a psychiatrist I actually worked it out for myself a couple of years ago when watching Thomas E. Brown Phd. on TH-cam funnily enough. I had worked with children closely for all of my working life and had administered Ritalin to many children at school for years, never once suspecting I too had the same disorder.
I really clearly have ADHD with the inattentive presentation, but I'm doing Okish. I've gotten by without knowing for 40 years, but it's releiving to possibly have an explanation for why I have almost always felt strange and reacted strangely in some situations. Mostly, if I get a diagnosis, it will help my family. If my neices have it, they might get tested early. If my brother has it, it might be a clue for how to treat his alcoholism. It might be an explanation of why my dad was the was he was, but we will never know that for sure. I suspect both sides of my family have it, and if I get diagnosed, maybe others will have a clue that puts their personal puzzle together and find peace.
I wish I had an in person close relationship so I would have accountability. Its is so important to have someone help prevent the adhd person from doing impulsive things , socially unacceptable things, and keep them on time.
Recently had my doctor in two appointments outright state I can't have ADHD inattentive because I've never missed an appointment with her, and because I'm not getting in trouble at my work. It's like... great so because of the many coping strategies I work really hard to employ, partly because every report card I ever had called me lazy or needing to apply myself more, you've decided the tornado in my head isn't real. The best part is she then diagnosed me with major depressive disorder because I was having suicidal ideation after dealing with her crap. To which I was like... I told you I'd been diagnosed with that on my first visit! She seemed so proud of herself too, recognizing a psych disorder. Now after a month of just resigning myself to never see her again and stop seeking treatment I'm just getting a new GP.
I feel this so much and haven’t seen a gp in four years because of it. Mine told me yoga can help me focus my mind and eating more veggies (I love veggies and have always eaten them a lot) would help me feel better…. 😒
@@snelso55 Thankfully new GP is great, though I kinda think her is somewhere on the aspergers spectrum. Which I have no problem with, generally our visits are I tell him what my problem or or say I'm wondering if this could be effective and he sets up a referal or writes the note I need or whatever. (Recently had covid so he ran a few tests to make sure I'm recovering okay.) Ended up seeing an actual psychiatrist who gave me some of the self tests I'd already done and go figure he decided yeah I clearly had ADHD. He perscribed too high a dose though so I only take them sometimes but they really do help with executive function.
The thing that made me suspect I've had ADHD all these decades was the subject of "executive function". I have always had experiences when I couldn't make myself do something - even if it was something I like, enjoy, want to do. I just couldn't make myself start; I felt paralyzed. The only thing that could make me act was a state of emergency, or a deadline. I procrastinate until such a state is critical. In grammar school I was always in a state of high anxiety - a constant state of emergency - because the consequences of not doing things perfectly seemed dire. I was an A+ student, until I decided one day to stop doing the work. I barely made it out of high school, but the anxiety lessened. My request is that you discuss executive function.
Man I procrastinate so bad. In high school I never ditched or partied or did drugs until after highschool I was always in class but never paying attention failing all my classes cause I wouldn't do the classwork or homework but doing okay on tests I didn't graduate I had to go to continuation school and graduate a year later, also went to community college but failed almost every class cause I could not pay attention or just had no desire to go and also ended up going on academic probation and not even giving a damn alot of money wasted on books I never even opened and would always fail to drop the classes due to procrastination 10 years later I'm working a dead end job that bores me and I hate but literally can't get up and get out I have terrible anxiety and mild depression but I literally can't muster the interest strength willpower or anything to formulate a plan because I just don't have an interest in anything and here I am reading all the comments and rewinding this video 5 times to actually comprehend what he is saying. Also I have abused the heck outta alcohol because it calms my anxiety racing thoughts and just general uncomfortability for a little bit but then it comes back 10 times harder during the hangxiety attack I get the next day, I'm not dumb alotta people consider me rather articulate, well spoken, logical and intelligent but inside it's all a script of me understanding the proper behaviour and social cues of the world but I just have no desire to get anything done or finish anything I start, Im very introverted as well and spend alot of time with the thoughts in my mind, I recently bought a cello to learn but I could only play it for 2 mins at a time for the first week now it just sits there and I say damn I gotta practice but just end up trying to watch a movie and sitting in my living room on my phone.
I get tested in less than 2 weeks. I’m scared he won’t believe me, but I’m also incredibly angry at my previous physicians for never suggesting this as a thought until this recently. I have all diagnosis’ of bipolar disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, OCD, depression and I experience mania. I truly think I only have some sort of ADD and if I could just get that figured out I’d be happier and would experience so many less anxiety attacks. I’m 22 turning 23 in 2 months & I just wish I knew more about it when I started struggling at age 14…
I was “fortunate” enough to get diagnosed as a child. Only it was never treated as something I needed to work on or find ways to cope with. I was just told I had it, given medication for a while (which helped, and helps again now), and sent on my merry little way. It wasn’t until recently that I started realizing just how much it impacts my life. I’ve always just shrugged it off and ignored it, because I was taught it isn’t a big deal and just means I’m a little more easily distracted and prone to being hyper here and there. I’m almost 40 and I was diagnosed at 14. That’s a lot of wasted time that I could have been learning how to cope. A lot of trauma that could have, and should have been avoided.
I wasn't diagnosed at a young age, but as an older adult now, I can relate to the thought of wasted time. That sometimes makes me sad when I think back to missed opportunities in my personal and professional life. However, I then try to focus on my life ahead and how I can live the life I envision for myself using the knowledge about ADHD that I keep discovering. Wishing us all happy lives going forward.
I only have the concentration test available to me and I‘m also supposed to have teachers give statements. I‘m scared I won’t get diagnosed, because I feel like I have inattentive type and therefore don’t disturb classes or anything
I’m 24 years old and I was officially diagnosed with ADHD over a month ago. The last year has been really really really rough, and the process of adjustment it’s just getting started. But I’m grateful to finally have my diagnosis. I’ve been teaching this kid, who to me, it’s so obvious he has it too, like REALLY obvious. And I see myself in him, a lot. And my heart breaks for him because apparently I am the only one noticing it. To the rest, he’s only a new kid who have just had online classes before, and doesn’t really know how to behave. I really wish I’m wrong and he for real doesn’t have it, so he won’t struggle the way I did.
Thanks for this very informative content ...I'm 53 years young and started suspecting I had ADHD without even looking at research studies and online info until 3 years later ..I just felt like something was very wrong but would find a way to blow it off ...only when I started having serious anxiety about the road running out and all I had was this wrecked life for no good reason at all did I start really digging in deep and finding out that I had a severe case of ADHD...everything I read about the symptoms I could see were severe in myself except the fidgeting until I realized there was something I did chronically to the point of excess ...I have always chewed inside of my cheeks and lips to the point I have to keep chewing gum on me at all times because I could not stop ...I recently started the daunting challenge of jumping through the hoops which is very frustrating because I've wasted my whole life at this point ...I wish someone including myself had noticed these things 20 years ago
Have an evaluation on Tuesday and kind honestly kind of nervous. I don't know what I'd do if they say I don't have it since lack of focus and concentration for certain activities has been a huge problem of mine in my adult life. What's more is my parents haven't been the most supportive about me telling them this so I'm inclined to just stay quiet about the whole process.
When he mentioned time, my memories snapped into place. I have a TREMENDOUSLY huge problem with starting tasks I don't look forward to. Tis ranges anywhere from allowing the anxiety to block out the task, or bargaining with myself to start.
Wow this video is dated a year back yet explanation was done so well that I completely understood and also teared up.. More people should subscribe to this channel in my opinion. This man's gentle approach and simplification of his explanation of ADHD is of high quality. Thank you for your work sir. It is much-needed and much appreciated
Hi, I am almost 51 and I am pretty sure that I have ADHD. My son was diagnosed with combined ADHD and made me re-consider my anxiety issues and I realize now that I probably have the same diagnosis as he does. Best of luck to all of you !
I literally started this, zoned out during the intro, went of my phone to read this thing on reddit I hadn't finished reading and was snapped back by the soundtrack and "lists"
I'll be 55 in Aug and had the Conner and Pearson tests yesterday. I was so upset at some of my answers or comprehension trying to work through it I either cried or got verbally pissed at myself. Explaining it to my housemate today, I broke down crying, saying it made me feel stupid. I wasn't asked anything like my routine, procrastination, etc. I don't get my results until Aug 7 and am on edge, thinking I have a disability learning problem other than ADHD. Why should it take so long to get results back? I am convinced I have it and if they come back and say I don't, I feel like the system failed me once again. I just want to bawl.
I had an adhd assesment, though I have all of the symptoms of ADHD. But the guy who assessed me pretty much just asked me about all my trauma, and said I had PTSD not adhd. Like he barely even asked anything apart from my trauma lol.
37. Have a psychiatrist. Great one. After all these years I'm scared to bring up that I think I have add or adhd I don't know the difference. Anyway. Being so embarrassed I asked my friend for one of his medication. As soon as it hit this annoying fog I had left and I felt free. I didn't take anymore. I'm trying to work the courage to tell my psychiatrist. I have no idea why I'm so embarrassed about bringing this up to him. Thanks for this video. My psychiatrist knows me very well and I think her can help 100 percent 🙏
1:03 song I know as the goggle ad song and when I heard a low tone audio of that , I lost all focus on you and went to thinking how tf is an ad playing and went to go check if I had a vid playing in a background of something 😭
funny story, i used to be the person who enjoyed learning about mental medical conditions on the internet and then the ADHD symptoms and research hit a little close to home so i changed the research from a generalised standpoint to a personal interpretation
I've heard of ADHD before but i never really thought i could have it since i had the idea that it was just a hyperactivity thing and easily recognisable but I was so wrong I'm going to talk to my therapist about this as soon as possible Honestly I hope that's what's wrong with me just so i can finally have a reason behind most of my problems or an explanation to all this Thanks for the video ❤️
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Have had so many problems because of my bad memory and so many misunderstandings that stress me out and frustrate me. I hope that’s what’s wrong with me as well. Something to blame it on and justify.
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Watching this was interesting, I find it interesting to see the amount of people that have questioned if they were different. When I think back on it now it’s very obvious that I’m different. But it was never brought up to me, by my friends or family. With my family, we are all incredibly close and we actually suspect that a-few of my other family members have conditions of their own we never thought about. And I think it’s partly because of our family dynamic that we’ve never questioned why we act the way we do, it’s just how we are. I don’t remember what had me tumbling down the research train, I think it might have been an adhd tiktok compilation 🤔 But jeez, I remember my whole life suddenly made much more sense when I thought back on it.
OMG - wanting to go back in time and yell at people to see me is SO relatable. It took me 2 years to finally get evaluated - for the reasons you stated about getting started and continuing on something. My sister was diagnosed with ADHD when she was a kid, and my brother was diagnosed with autism when he was a kid. I was the "normal" child, because my symptoms didn't present in the same manner. School was a nightmare. I don't know why I was never tested when my siblings were. My mom and dad are exactly like me, so they thought I was normal, because they do the same things. I got my diagnosis last September at 41. I have inattentive ADHD - could be combined, because I was hyperactive as a kid, and can be as an adult - hypersensitivity to sound and touch, and autism. I had a strong feeling about the ADHD, but not the autism. Some of the assessment tests that involved memory made me feel so stupid. It felt like I was back in school and failing. My doctor kept reassuring me that it didn't mean I was an idiot. But during the exam process, I kept feeling like I failed all the tests thanks to decades of being made to feel like an idiot for not being able to reach a neurotypical standard. There are days where I still want to scream and cry for not being heard or understood. It explains why I feel the strong need to justify everything, and find proof to back up what I say happens. I know no one will believe me.
I think I have adhd and so I looked you this video. I’m trying so hard to focus and not drift to something else that I’m getting anxious and this guy taking forever to get to the point isn’t helping.
I’ve been struggling for a long time, and I’ve been tested once already. The doctor didn’t really give me a comprehensive assessment. She spent 20 minutes asking questions, didn’t care what I had to say about my experiences. I had to pay 800 dollars for her to say she doesn’t know but I did score highly and I should continue to treat my depression
Hello Jared, this was such a helpful video! Thank you! I suspect I have ADHD and I relate so much to every one of the problems you mentioned in the beginning. Well, I actually already had an evaluation recently and... What can I say? During the interview they asked me what kind of symptoms I have and at that very moment I forgot everything I had been wanting to say🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ I meant to elaborate more on my symptoms during the second appointment but the clinician didn't have time for that (the whole evaluation took 2 appointments in total). At the end they came to the conclusion that I didn't have ADHD but I felt completely misunderstood by the clinician. I guess I have to get another evaluation from a different person (and not forget to write down my symptoms before.🤦🏼♀️)
I've never been diagnosed and as a kid I didn't struggle much with my studies. I did have some issue remembering stuff but I was always good in maths and somewhat okay in other subjects. Cut to my college years, I strugged so much to focus on any of my course work that I ended up failing one of my papers. This shook me as I have never failed in any classes. My Masters rather went smoother than my Bachelors. Now I'm a fresher in the working phase, and I'm struggling more than I've ever had to! I can't focus on one thing, I am constantly stressed and tired at the same time. I can't sleep properly, it is taking me 3-4hours to read an agreement! I don't even know what I am doing at this point. I can't read, I can't write, I'm frustrated as hell and I desperately need a job but my body and mind doesn't permit it. My mom has been telling me to seek professional help for quite some time now, but I have been putting it off and I don't even know why. It just feels so overwhelming. Everything feels like that and I hardly feel any joy anymore. Also three of my only escapes has always been sleep, food and watching movies/series. But with all this stress I can hardly sleep. I've always loved food but have also been very picky about it, to the point where I would rather starve than have the food that I don't like. And I can't focus enough to watch anything anymore. I think it's time to get evaluated, isn't it? (As of today, I'm 26 now, I am unemployed even though it's been almost 2 years I finshed my education and it took me almost 30mins to write this comment :)
I brought up that I think I have adhd to my psychiatrist and he basically told me since im not a 12 year old disruptive boy I cant have adhd. Even better hes apparently the adhd specialist in my area 🙃
Do you know me? I still fall into denial mode now and again but my oldest son was diagnosed, me at age 50! MY angel of psychiatrist now retired was life saver! And I've finally found another after 5 years!!! I wish we had support for oldie'one's like me who feel that time has stood still so long it's hard but I'm surviving! Thank you so much for this as I feel so unintelligent compared to the majority of other people who are so smart, but I just discovered I can do art and nearly won first prize but that's amazing for me. 🙏
Thank you for your sharing your information about ADHD. It certainly helps in my continuing ADHD self discovery journey. As an older adult who never had access to information about ADHD in their youth, or even the knowledge of the acronym lol, gaining information in middle to late life stages helps me understand so much about myself and my life. Every time I watch one more TH-cam video I get another piece of the puzzle in place. Understanding that it's a real condition allowed me to bring it up with my physician and start a dialogue about treatment about 2 years ago. Perhaps now, I'd like to explore some formal testing too per your information. Although I know that parts of my ADHD are my Super Powers, there are other times I'm cursing it. I don't wish it on anyone, but thank you for affirming that I'm not alone and that others even like yourself are working through it too. Many thanks!
Recently it was suggested for me to get evaluated for ADHD. I have looked into it myself in the past and always been curios if I do have ADHD. It's common on both sides of my family and I haven't found a description or potential symptom that I don't have. I've wanted to be evaluated for a while but have had a lot of trouble finding someone near me. The closest I've found is about 300 miles away. I'm a college kid, 24, and having a very hard time lately and any help is great but I would absolutely love to know if I do infact have ADHD. I also found it's common on both my mothers and fathers sides of the family. I live in southern Oregon for school but also travel back and fourth to northern California where I'm from and where my family lives commonly. I'm hoping to find someone to at least evaluate me near here but haven't had the luck to find anyone yet. I'm not asking for a specific suggestion for my area, but maybe some tips to find someone who can evaluate me. Also, I searched the sights left in the description and like I said, no one seems to be within 300 miles of me either way. In Oregon or California... Any tips from anyone are appreciated. Thank you.
Serious question: Ive had had the same therapist for 8 years, she has diagnosed me with anxiety and depression which is fair, but Im like 95% sure I also have ADHD. After a lot of my own research and discussing with members of my inner circle and doing a lot of online tests, Im almost certain I have undiagnosed ADHD. However, after mentioning this to my therapist, she almost immediately disregarded it. At this point Im not sure what to do, as Id assume that someone who has diagnosed me in the past, and who has been seeing me for over 8 years, would know whether I have ADHD or not. I would atleast like a few tests done or the questions mentioned for evaluation, even if the answer is negative. I just need to know what else is going on as Im sure I havent been diagnosed properly - Id like to treat and learn coping mechanisms for any other mental illnesses I may have, as it is a daily issue. Does anyone have any advice on what to do moving forward? Thankyou in advance :)
Thank you for this informative video. I really appreciated how you showed vulnerability and compassion towards the end. We ADHD ers dont get much of that. 🌷
First of all thanks for the sound effects :) Second, I am an adult (23) who thinks I might have ADHD. Thing is you said I need someone who knows me well to accompany me. Well today I opened up for the first time to my very religious parents about the whole situation and the difficulty I've felt my entire life and the experiences I've had without saying ADHD (since am still unsure). They are the only ppl who could be counted as knowing me well, since I really have no friends, like non (really i have no friends). But they just responded me with a : more than looking for professional help, you should pray the situation away....🙄 So, the question is what can I do if I have no one to help as a third person reference??? Help•́ ‿ ,•̀
I recently thought that my boyfriend might have adhd after we talked about it briefly at university. When I talked about it with him and did some of these tests, I noticed that many of the named symtoms are what I've been struggling with for years, making my daily life extremly hard. Same with him but with other symptoms. Now I'm trying to get both of us evaluated, but it'll take some time
I know I have undiagnosed ADHD because my adult kids have told me I do. And, they’re right! I know I have it, too. I haven’t always known, but at 63 I really truly know it. I’m planning to get checked out about it soon. I have doctors names etc. but I will also look at your list. Thanks!
The best way to control is it is through food. Eat more vegetables and whole grains. Avoid processed foods and sugars. Our brains are firing on all cylinders to this gives it some more room. This gave me a huge boost over years... I am 27 now. Also try to exercise 1 hour per day.
The sound effects are the only thing snapping me back to focus for like 10 seconds
Same
Yes hahaha
samee lmao
Can you have adhd without attention problems???
Can you have cronic attention problems without having adhd?
Thanks
😂😂😂 same Prolly why he has them
I started reading the comments and forgot a video was playing so now I have to go back 4 minutes
Literally same
Happens to me all the time.
Me too. Got through 10 seconds. Btw I have adhd
Same
@@jmac_photo you just provided evidence that you might be dumb....
I have an evaluation on Monday and I am terrified of not being validated or listen to or simply being misunderstood
Update: I have combined type adhd
Update November 21': I've been prescribed 2 non-stimulants (one of them Strattera) that helps me SO much with my short memory and focus!
What did they ask during the evaluation?
I go today and those are also some of my worries.
Update?
@@victoriaraye1727 update?
@@shaynabeyer1890 i have inattentive adhd, social anxiety, and sensory issues. he almost diagnosed me with a combined adhd, but i didn’t meet all of the criteria
I have an evaluation in December; I'm terrified I'm going to be told I'm faking my symptoms, or that there's nothing wrong with me because I didn't present "typical" hyperactive ADHD behavior as a child. Your video made me a little more at ease kind of going into it with a little more information. I'm 25, and I almost feel like an imposter trying to get diagnosed so far into my adult life, especially because I've been able to "cope" my way through a lot of it, even though I've still really struggled.
11/28/21 UPDATE: I got the “availability” run around from the unit I initially had the appointment with, and found a different practice that had no problem getting me in within a week. I’ve been diagnosed with combined type ADHD and am starting Adderall; the difference is ridiculous and makes me want to cry with how happy I am. I can focus at work, and my soul crushing skin itching boredom is so minimal, I feel so calm. It’s like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Keep going, you all are valid ♥️
UPDATE: After months of appointments, etc, I do have a diagnosis of severe inattentive ADHD. I started on stimulants yesterday, but unfortunately haven't noticed any effects, good or bad. (It's a very small dosage, so there's still hope) Honestly, just knowing it's not just all in my head (well, I mean it is, but you know what I mean) was a huge boon. Even if nothing works for me medicine-wise, knowing I'm not just inherently a lazy loser is a godsend.
I have my evaluation this Thursday. I’m 46. I was a smart kid in school, and have a lucrative job. But reading the symptoms… it’s disturbingly me.
I’m telling the guy when I start that I’m worried I’ll “pass” this test like all the others. My biggest fear is that I don’t have ADHD and I’m just lazy and not living up to my potential because I’m a loser.
But it’s worth it. I think.
I hope. ;)
this is exactly how i feel, and i’m scared to ask bc i don’t wanted to be treated like i’m faking it because it took me so long to seek help
I’m 49, both of my sons have been diagnosed (one hyper, the other inattentive). I’m sure the doctor will say I’m an imposter because I have coped decently well so far. I was an honour roll student in school and, on the surface, I look like I’m able to get things done. My kids are convinced I’m ADHD and the more I look into it, the more I believe them. Spacey, distracted, interrupting conversation, my energy in social situations is either intense or non existent (which might be why I have very few friends and never get invited to anything).
I had an appointment with a psychiatrist 11/15/21. Before my appointment, I had to talk myself out of canceling it, because I was afraid of being told I was faking everything to get attention or help that I didn't need. Despite knowing I really did struggle with many things growing up socially and academically, especially with a supposed learning disability. Towards the end of the appointment, she told me straight up, "You have the classic ADHD symptoms from right out of the book. You're not faking it, the medical system and school system failed you." It was such a huge relief I ended up bursting into tears.I still have more tests to run, but its a relief to know that someone believes me. Stick it out, be honest with your feelings and tell the person evaluating you, and be honest in your test. It's scary, but you'll be happier for it after.
I wasn’t diagnosed until I was in my late 20s. I had never considered it, but my doctor was like “let me see something…” she had me answer a ton of questions and I was “off the charts” as she put it. If you think you could have it, there’s a good chance you do! Girls are good at masking and there’s so much more information about it now.
When I was 14, I went to a therapist to see if I had ADHD. I wasn’t asked a lot of questions. I took the Connor cpt test and passed (I’ve always been good at test) and right away my therapist told me I don’t have ADHD and told my mom that all I need is more chores around the house 🥴
I believed I didn’t have it and I was just lazy. 10 years later, still had trouble focusing and major depression disorder. When to a psychiatrist, explained my symptoms, she asked me a bunch of questions where I felt like she was reading me like a book and was diagnosed with ADHD Inattentive type. If I had been listened to when I was younger, I could have saved myself from a lot of break downs.
A CPT is never meant to be used in isolation to diagnose ADHD
Same thing happened to me in 2017... I took tests for two hours and "aced" them (gifted kid burnout ADHDer anyone?) and wasn't asked any personal questions at all, just immediately told I'm fine. I'm glad you got heard.
May i ask what symptoms you had?
I got lucky that when I went to therapy to address my academic anxiety in college my therapist encouraged me to get screened. Turns out, "My anxiety has to be at defcon 9 do do start anything" isn't the normal experience...
Hahaha I like the way you put it ElfGift! I concur...and may I speak from the voice of experience? It NEVER changes. Aged 52 I have studied courses throughout my working life and am about to start another tertiary level course. I know only one thing prior to commencing any course. The biggest, hardest, most time-consuming assignments will be conducted in a fit of sheer panic at the 11th hour.
Some part me thinks I’m anxious because life would be too boring without it.
agh this is so relatable like i need to be seriously panicking to actually do anything
@@mcacleanjackson9437 stop
On a completely anxiety unrelated note. DEFCON numbers severity are inverse to the magnitude. Also 5 is the highest (lowest alert) and 1 is the lowest (highest alert) level... Not trying to be THAT guy, but I thought it was worth putting out there lol.
My psychiatrist told me i might have adhd, but when i told my mom, she was like 'no ofcourse you dont its just an excuse to get you to worry and keep coming there'
Ugh yes.. I am 38 and I was just telling my registered nurse 65 year old mother I am getting evaluated for ADHD and she looked at me all confused and said, " oh stop.. you're just being hard on yourself". 😞
My mom is the same way even though I believe she clearly exhibits sign of ADHD as well. I believe a lot of people, especially those belonging to the older generations have a huge stigma against ADHD and take it as a personal insult if they or their kids have it. I clearly showed signs of autism or adhd as a kid and my parents never got it looked into further. It even took them a while to acknowledge my stuttering according to their friends.
@@MAledish to add, I think it's this: they probably had it too, so it's normal to them. They've BEEN lazy, forgetful, unfocused, etc... But they had no choice but to "grow out of it" because back then it didn't mean anything other than that they're lazy and forgetful. Their kids are struggling, but that's ok because they did, too. Everyone has a hard time growing up. So when we say we have a neurological condition, they think we are trying to avoid that growth. Except... ADHD often persists into adulthood without them realizing it. My mom is the matriarch--she's motivated and handles EVERYTHING. But! She's still forgetful, misplaces things, and always at least an hour late to everything, no matter how important. She never fully outgrew it, she just learned to cope enough to survive.
One day, I was sobbing over missing a work meeting and beating myself up (at the time undiagnosed). She came to see what was wrong. I asked her how to be more like her, and she said... "I am strong because I had to be. If I wasn't strong, people would starve, I wouldn't be able to see my parents or siblings, I wouldn't be able to feed my children. If I needed to do something, I had no choice but to do it because no one else could. You are weak because you did not struggle like I have." And it's funny, she called me weak with so much sympathy and compassion, I felt better. I think she understood me and meant..."I know you're struggling. I have too. But my situation forced me to overcome it. I am both glad and sorry that you will have to struggle to find a different path." She may not believe depression or adhd are real, but she's familiar with the pain and suffering caused by them, and that's all I can ask for. That might be where a lot of older adults are at.
Tldr: Parents probably also had ADHD and didn't know it, so they believe it's just a normal (painful) process of growing up. To claim a set of childish traits as a disorder is to avoid growing up. They understand the pain of ADHD, they just don't realize it's ADHD.
@@MAledish oh also they probably internalized all the shame and humiliation that comes with those disorders and all the "these are character flaws that can be fixed" messaging, so that's how they view the symptoms--as character flaws, immaturity, unwillingness to put in the work to fix ourselves, etc.
@@bekajean_2764 Thats frustrating thats literally my worst nightmare is seeming like im making a big deal and getting the " your just doing this, or ur just too worried".
You said it right, this was for people who always wondered if something was wrong with them, but were always scared that something was wrong with them..
I got diagnosed with ADHD years ago. I could remember several years ago after divorce with my husband which brought me into my disastrous journey on Alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
I'm so very happy for you, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Germany don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES very sure of Mr.medmushies
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
My parents have never been understanding of the fact that there may be something wrong with me, and our relationship is pretty complicated. We're really close, but I haven't shared anything really personal with my mom since the end of elementary school. Every time I've tried to bring up my mental health to her, which is incredibly hard for me to begin with, she laughs at me and basically tells me I'm foolish for thinking so, and that "of course there's nothing wrong with you!" I told her a few months back that I was thinking about getting tested for ADHD, and she brushed it off like I was crazy.
Long story short, I chose to get tested anyway because it's become a huge problem in my studies and personal life, and I've got an appointment at a private clinic this Thursday. Safe to say I haven't told my parents because I know for a fact that they wouldn't approve and that they'd get mad at me for "spending money on such a stupid thing". I'm pretty concerned they'll ask to speak to my parents in order to go through with a potential diagnosis, but I just know that even if I grew the balls to bring it up to my parents they'd get there and downplay every single symptom to make it seem like there was nothing wrong with me. I've basically hidden half my life from them, so half my struggles they aren't even aware of.
Sorry for the essay, but I'm basically wondering if it's even possible to get a diagnosis without them talking to my family/friends? I know my behavior from school pretty well, and no one besides me really know how messed up my mental health has been ever since elementary school. I have a really hard time opening up to people, especially those close to me, and it hasn't gotten any easier now that I'm 23 and pretty messed up.
Same exact story here. I'm really nervous about my clinician asking about family observations because I'm not close with mine in that way. They were never really openly supportive of my mental health journey. I'm 20 and just figuring out for the first time in my life that I might have adhd. Very scary journey and my evaluation is this week. At least, at the end of it all I'll have a definitive answer on whether or not I do but the scary part is the not knowing.
I hope everything goes well. Just explain the situation. Maybe they'll speak to your teachers? Or use your school performance? I see a new psychiatrist on the 15th to be evaluated and I'm so nervous. I've been misdiagnosed so many times. I just want answers.
So in case anyone’s reading this and wondering the same thing, I did eventually tell my parents, and my psychologist did end up talking to my dad. He didn’t back up a single thing I had told my psychologist, and he was extremely dismissive of everything. We proceeded anyway, as I had explained to her in detail how complicated our relationship is and that they don’t really know anything about my mental health and haven’t since I was around 10 years old. So it wasn’t a surprise that they didn’t back me up, because I’ve been hiding everything from them, so they don’t actually know half the stuff I’ve told my psychologist. It’s been about 3 months since I first started testing and I was put on Ritalin about a week ago, but I’m honestly still not 100% sure as they haven’t told me straight up that I have it. We’re trying out different dosages right now and I’m being monitored pretty closely by a psychiatrist, so hopefully this whole process will be finalized soon!
@@thildefredriksen1331 Good luck. Your feelings and experiences are valid, even if others tell you different.
They don't have to know. HIPPA makes sure all of your medical information is confidential unless you consent to it being disseminated.
I'm 62, I've had very little focus my whole life, so easily waylaid, and a hell, of a procrastinator, never did homework in my life, they threw scatterbrains like us on the short bus I quit as soon as I could, I'm just learning now, via the internet how much ADD has affected most everything in my life, it's crazy, I've spent the last few years trying to be mindful about the things that I need to pay attention to, I'm iffy at best
Long before it's acronym
it's diagnosis or it's pill
they called us restless dreamers
I'm a restless dreamer still
Brilliantly said Charlotte! Totally understand. We were failed in the school system. I grew up in Queensland Australia in the 1970's and 1980's and had exactly the same experience at school as yourself. Thank goodness we know now!
wow, I love that little poem. I do believe I'll be putting that in my bullet journal
Funny how people with ADHD/ADD are often good with poetry 👍
@@harwoods11 because we are very creative
God bless you. Glad you made it off the short bus.
"For years, no, for decades, I struggled with things like depression and anxiety and organisation and social relationships, and never once did any of the clinicians or physicians I saw mention anything about the possibility of ADHD ... Some days, I just wish I could go back in tim and shout at so many people, Why did you miss this? Why didn't somebody tell me?"
Wow. This perfectly articulates my experience. I was just diagnosed with adult ADHD at 32. Since at least 15, I struggled with at times debilitating depression, anxiety (generalised + social), hypervigilance and other issues. I tried countless counsellors, medications, and coping strategies - none helped, at least not much. And then I started gettign treated for ADHD. Without a doubt, treating my ADHD is by far the most effective treatment for depression and anxiety I have ever experienced - nothing even comes close. It's like ADHD was the root of a great vine slowly strangling me, and everything else just clipped an inch or two off of it. ADHD medication took it out at the root.
Thank you, Jared, and to other ADHD TH-camrs like Jessica McCabe for doing more for my mental wellbeing than a legion of GPs. Your channels are foundational pillars of support for me, and very clearly for many others. You may not be able to reclaime the 'lost years' that us adult ADHD'ers so often mourn, but you are helping others make the most of the rest of the time that's given to them.
I can relate to so much of what you stated The Castle Hunter. At 62, thinking about the lost years can hurt, but I know doing that will expend energy I can instead use on creating the life I envision using my ever increasing ADHD knowledge repository.
Yes!, THANK YOU to all ADHD youtubers sharing their experiences!
Same! I’m only 26 and I already feel like I can breathe, as I recently received adhd dx. I can remember being a teen and my grandfather telling me “hmm you’re always late. You never want to wake up… there’s something wrong.” By that point I was dx’d bipolar 1, gad and depression.
Thank you for your comment. Makes me feel like I’m not alone. And good luck on your wellness. 🙏🏼👍🏼
having adhd and struggling to watch the entire video instead of scrolling for hours on twitter
I put on 1.5 speed
“There’s no math involved”
A good chunk of mine was math 😭😭😭
I told my people that I think I have Dyscalculia, and they actually told me they'd give me a different ADHD test along with learning disabilities because of that! It's important to ask for that reason for sure, I'm so sorry you were subjected to maths.
@@LilMissFangirl I believe I may have this too. For years I knew something was up. Especially when I was younger and was in kindergarten or 1st grade who had trouble even doing the simplist of basic math (adding & subtracting).
:'(
Saaaaame! I was looking for this comment.
i had to do some word problems IN MY HEAD. i’m like is it rlly normal to be able to do this :(
I found you on TikTok! I went to my first psychology appointment this week and at the end my psychologist asked me if I had ever been diagnosed with ADHD. I said no. We scheduled another appointment for next week and of course I went home and researched ADHD. SO MANY THINGS MAKE SENSE NOW. I'm so eager to go back in and see her again in a few days.
What happened? Any updates?
Update?
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Mcaclean Jackson go away, man.
"Some days i just wish I could go back in time and shout to so many people 'why did you miss this? Why didn't someone just tell me?!' But I can't. I can only work with what I've got now."
THIS. I get so frustrated when I think of all the signs of my ADHD that went unnoticed by everyone: teachers, parents, hell even therapists. I'm just now beginning to come to terms with the fact that i can't change the past, and i can only really focus on improving things in my life.
Thank you Jared, for putting the frustration into words.
I’m getting tested today in about 40 minutes and I’m so nervous. I came here looking for what to expect. Im so scared that I wont be able to describe my feelings well enough or being misunderstood. I still have a fear of oversharing things that have nothing to do with my symptoms.
Edit: I finally got the results back! The test went really well and I was diagnosed with inattentive ADHD. I’m not taking any prescriptions currently, but I plan to in the future. I’ve been seeing a therapist that provides me materials to help me cope and work with my ADHD.
Yeah, my "diagnosis" sounded more like a suggestion and it did take 20 minutes or less. It didn't feel like the thorough evaluation I have heard so many of the TH-cam clinicians mention, but an after thought. When I asked later how to get a diagnosis, the counselor was surprised. "But I diagnosed you." The suggestion, however, was enough for me to do my own research. After a couple of equally confusing and unproductive sessions, I didn't go back to the counselor. Doing my own research has been far more productive.
you might have gotten a 'provisional diagnosis.' I got this through my college health program. It was enough for me to potentially get meds (i haven't been able to yet because i had to 'mood stablize' first with zoloft) but not enough for me to get services through the disability center. I'm still trying to get that official diagnosis like this video describes.
I got one too. It took literally 20 mins with a psychiatrist just so she could get me on new meds
i get what you mean but self diagnosing can and most probably will make your judgement biased
@@finchcarvingadiamond SAME! After taking a short test on their office computer and talking with the docs nurse for like 3 minutes, the doc walked in and told me I had ADHD, MDD, GAD and mild OCD tenancies. I was shocked to hear all those but really surprised about OCD because when I said I had to keep my purse and keys in a certain area, it was because I couldn't remember where to look otherwise. He put me on all kinds of crap which started to make my hair fall out, non stop menstrual bleeding, heart palpitations, and delayed baseline ecg readings.
The follow-up appointment, I told his nurse practitioner about the new symptoms and how my gp said it could be related to SSRI's and she said "In my 40 years as a nurse practitioner, I have NEVER heard of antidepressants causing abnormal periods." She should have at least looked because there are documented cases. She then tells me she was doubling the dose! Then the doctor walks in and stands halfway in the door, tells me the meds are being upped and follow-up in 3 months.
After having to see a cardiologist because I was feeling worse than ever when trying to stick with the meds, I ditched the SSRIs and him and got physiologically better. Vyvanse is the only thing I'm taking and I'm taking it sparingly because I don't know where to get genuine help otherwise.
Haha! I giggled at the "you can't get diagnosed in 20 minutes". That dude slapped that diagnosis on me in 7 minutes at my first ever appointment last year. Thanks for the great video! It was very uplifting :)
I'm terrified. I am getting tested in a couple weeks. I'm a broke college kid and these evaluations cost plenty but I know I need help. My fear is, what if I pay so much for this evaluation and ADHD isn't my problem?
Also, doing my research that lead me to get tested I found I related to a large majority of the examples given. Also, my uncle, my dads brother, does have ADHD, and I've actually talked to him quite a bit about my troubles and he's shared his with me. And there hasn't been one thing either of us have explained that the other doesn't have. Honestly, talking to him really solidified my decision to get tested.
But....
I'm still afraid I'm wasting my money. I keep looking back at common effects ADHD has like before and half the time I'm confident in having these troubles I read of and the other half the time I either find another explanation or doubt or am unsure if I do have this or that.
When I look back at how I acted way back in elementary and middle school I see just about every symptom of ADHD. But with young adult me now (after I set my appointment to get tested) I'm not sure. But I am... AHHHH!!!
Sorry for my long anxious ramble. But if when I get tested I don't have ADHD, what should I do? I have always had severe social anxiety, awful time management, awful general anxiety and horrible at keeping attention. As well as the rare ability to stay still. Even resting I'm moving something. Taping foot, twittling my fingers, nodding my head to nothing, countless things.
I'm sorry for my long speech on my troubles. But what do I do if after spending all this money on this evaluation it isn't my trouble? What then? How do I find help for my hyper, anxious, socialy panicked, attentionless, troubles?
It's just like black jack. If you know you have an 11 double down. There is a chance you could be fucked. But the math is on your side. And in your case when you know from your uncle who has it, it's a hard sign to ignore. How did the test go?
I have had a very similar experience, even with my family members being diagnosed. How did the evaluation go? I just booked my appointment with a private psychiatrist after suffering from similar issues my whole life. Very nervous but holding onto hope. It took me months to finally book one after procrastinating it for so long.
I feel like a textbook case of “inattentive girl who fell through the cracks.” I’m in the middle of getting evaluated and have a cognition test on Monday that is giving me a lot of anxiety because it sounds interesting and what if I do well on it?! 😱
Literally my biggest fear about my upcoming referral. “I always test well. I love taking tests. What if i do too well on the tests??”
@@Mitashade Good luck! It's a nerve-racking and rather exhausting process, but worth it in the end even if it's just to get some answers. I recently finished my 2-month long assessment and got formally diagnosed as inattentive. Fortunately, the slew of cognitive tests they tortured me with were extremely not interesting and I did not do well at all and had nothing to fear. Ha! Hope they're as boring and frustrating for you as they were for me. :-)
@@HGrimes Haha thanks. I’m in the process of booking an assessment now. 🤪😫
@@HGrimes Yeah, psychs are pretty ass at this. The idea that someone with ADHD is supposed to set up and attend, on time, without cancelling or re-scheduling, two months worth of shit is ludicrous.
@@RvLeshrac Yeah, part of me was wondering if THAT'S secretly the test - if you don't make it to the end, you probably have adhd! The place I went to didn't even do appointment reminders...thank god I have a spouse to keep me on top of this shit.
Jared, this is GREAT!!! I really love your detailed explanation of the importance of ADHD evaluations AND your delivery of the message in such an engaging way!
Debi Jenkins Frankle LMFT - Awesome!! Thanks for watching...more to come! What kind of topics do you think you’d want to know more about as a clinician?
@@jareddefifeph.d.1828 Hello, my question is how do you find a good Dr for testing. I have been diagnosed as Bipolar and I have ask the Dr to listen to me but he said once I have that discussion that is what I am labeled as. He isn't the Dr who disagree me, I was in a bad place in my life at the time and that is how I got that label not going to say what I did but I am guessing you can guess. Thank you for your videos 💜
@@jareddefifeph.d.1828 Hey Jared, you just made a Vid about ADHD 10 min long. 🤣
My psychologist and I firmly believe I have ADHD. I got tested in 2018 and "passed", so they told me I don't have it. The things they had me do weren't hard though. Click the mouse button when the screen flashes, rearrange some blocks on the table, recite some numbers in a certain order. My psychologist said I passed because it was likely my baseline, and I've been trying to learn how to cope and focus my entire life. So not only will the place that tested me not diagnose me, but my psychiatrist won't prescribe me anything without a confirmed test result, and also believes people are over-diagnosed with it when they don't really have it. It's all so frustrating because I'm just struggling to do basic tasks and function on a daily basis, and anyone who can prescribe me medication for it tells me "Oh it's just anxiety." Yes, I have anxiety. But I've been on at least 6 different anti-depressants, and none of them helping my ability to focus in any way. How can I just convince someone to help me?
I’m sorry! I hope you find a new place that will test you!
Maybe you're highly intelligent so you passed the test?
I feel your pain. I've been on 30+ antidepressants and in therapy for 50 years. I know it's ADHD and fn my doctors are useless.
Me opens my car with my keys, gets into car then can’t find keys. Searches cars for 15 mins for keys in the hot weather.... then finds key in front pocket of bag.
Oh I relate
😂😂😂😂 yesss
I can't tell you how many times I've found my keys IN THE IGNITION. Turned the car off, forgot to take the keys with me.
yes just yesterday i forgot where i put my phone...and it was not in my car though i looked like 3 x
You spoke to me on a different level I cried on how accurate your examples were every single one
The moment the audio unsynced for the video, i missed the next 6 minutes due to being lost in thought about putting the video together.
Man, as a PhD psychologist that also didn’t know I had it until several years after I finished graduating even though my dissertation was on Dx ADHD in college students, I gotta say you’re video and heartfelt speech is super validating. Grateful to have your energy in the field validating and expanding the knowledge of neurodivergence experiences to others😁❤️
I'm pretty shocked that my degree never mentioned the emotional dysregulation that goes alongside it, or really explained how or why ADHD occurs. On the one hand I feel I could teach that module better than the lecturer now I've intensely researched it, but on the other.... creating slides and having to organise my thoughts into a coherent manner? Unlikely!
I’m like 99% sure I have ADHD and I am well aware that you should not self diagnose yourself but when it feels like the puzzle pieces of my life are now fitting together after realising, it is really disheartening to bring it up to people and have them tell you that ‘you are too lazy to have ADHD’ and that you should not self diagnose yourself.
Nobody knows your body and mind better than yourself, as long as you're not lying to yourself and wanting to others about faking a diagnosis, then your doctor should definitely listen to you and not judge you and treat you accordingly because adult ADHD is literally debilitating if it's untreated for too long it leads to other issues like self-esteem issues and just general loss of interest in life that's how it hit me and to this day I am still untreated even though I was treated as a kid all the way through my high school career and I did extremely well in school as well as just life in general when I was on my adderall, but now of course we live in a world that all these medications that are their, they are able to be prescribed, cannot get prescribed anymore because of the DEA and all of this b******* about people abusing the medications it's like you can easily tell if someone is abusing their medications, it's obvious you can do blood work you can do all types of tests to see if somebody is abusing their medications because they can run out quick they can show many signs of abuse and that's when if they need to be cut off so be it, but if someone's doing better in life on the medication responsibly then there shouldn't be any issue with prescribing these medications to people that need them desperately❤
Once I began taking Vyvanse for my inattentive ADHD it felt like I finally was experiencing the real world, and I saw the beauty in everything. Before having my medication I would: CONSTANTLY forget things within the span of a minute, lose my train of thought, have a lack of drive to do things that I know I would enjoy, quickly lose interest in the things that I enjoy...and it made me strongly feel as if I was 1) a sociopath and 2) a complete moron... Initially when I started taking my medication it quickly began working, even at the first dose. Feeling and processing everything correctly and actually getting all of that mental feedback was overwhelming in a positive sense...I finally felt ALIVE. Can not express how truly grateful I am to live in a time where I dont have to suffer the curse of having a crippling mental disorder such as ADHD...and even writing this I'm nearly shedding tears.
I am so extremely confident that I have ADHD and that is my missing puzzle piece. I told some friends and my mom that I need their help holding me accountable to get evaluated etc. It’s so funny how the help we need is sometimes simply being reminded and “forced” to help ourselves.
I started watching this video 4 hours ago, sent it to 5 people before even finishing it just now. ADHD? Goodness.
Thanks for this Jared! I was diagnosed with ADHD earlier this year by my new psychiatrist. I am 52! From the age of 27 I have seen a psychiatrist I actually worked it out for myself a couple of years ago when watching Thomas E. Brown Phd. on TH-cam funnily enough. I had worked with children closely for all of my working life and had administered Ritalin to many children at school for years, never once suspecting I too had the same disorder.
Thanks Dr. DeFife!!! 24 years of age and just now i realize ive been struggling with this for a longgg time, most of my college years.
Also, i'm a chronic pathological procrastinator
I really clearly have ADHD with the inattentive presentation, but I'm doing Okish. I've gotten by without knowing for 40 years, but it's releiving to possibly have an explanation for why I have almost always felt strange and reacted strangely in some situations.
Mostly, if I get a diagnosis, it will help my family. If my neices have it, they might get tested early. If my brother has it, it might be a clue for how to treat his alcoholism. It might be an explanation of why my dad was the was he was, but we will never know that for sure. I suspect both sides of my family have it, and if I get diagnosed, maybe others will have a clue that puts their personal puzzle together and find peace.
I wish I had an in person close relationship so I would have accountability. Its is so important to have someone help prevent the adhd person from doing impulsive things , socially unacceptable things, and keep them on time.
Who else had to rewind like 5 times because they lost focus??
i literally don’t even remember anything i just watched
AHhhh same
My brain: he had a face but that’s all I will retain.
That time when you had to replay it a few times to actually get it in your head
Same, I was spaced out practically this whole video
Recently had my doctor in two appointments outright state I can't have ADHD inattentive because I've never missed an appointment with her, and because I'm not getting in trouble at my work. It's like... great so because of the many coping strategies I work really hard to employ, partly because every report card I ever had called me lazy or needing to apply myself more, you've decided the tornado in my head isn't real. The best part is she then diagnosed me with major depressive disorder because I was having suicidal ideation after dealing with her crap. To which I was like... I told you I'd been diagnosed with that on my first visit! She seemed so proud of herself too, recognizing a psych disorder.
Now after a month of just resigning myself to never see her again and stop seeking treatment I'm just getting a new GP.
I hope you find a great GP. That's great that after unpleased one you are looking for a better doctor. Take care :)
I feel this so much and haven’t seen a gp in four years because of it. Mine told me yoga can help me focus my mind and eating more veggies (I love veggies and have always eaten them a lot) would help me feel better…. 😒
@@snelso55 Thankfully new GP is great, though I kinda think her is somewhere on the aspergers spectrum. Which I have no problem with, generally our visits are I tell him what my problem or or say I'm wondering if this could be effective and he sets up a referal or writes the note I need or whatever. (Recently had covid so he ran a few tests to make sure I'm recovering okay.)
Ended up seeing an actual psychiatrist who gave me some of the self tests I'd already done and go figure he decided yeah I clearly had ADHD. He perscribed too high a dose though so I only take them sometimes but they really do help with executive function.
I have a general testing today and I've been horrifically nervous about it, I appreciate these videos so much and its calming me down about it.
how’d it go?
^^
Update?
yes say anything to us. I'm waiting for it too
The minute this video started I got distracted by the comments and had to rewind is that a sign
could you make a video about rejection sensitive dysphoria?
its commonly associated with adhd
and its a topic i think people should hear about
The thing that made me suspect I've had ADHD all these decades was the subject of "executive function". I have always had experiences when I couldn't make myself do something - even if it was something I like, enjoy, want to do. I just couldn't make myself start; I felt paralyzed. The only thing that could make me act was a state of emergency, or a deadline. I procrastinate until such a state is critical. In grammar school I was always in a state of high anxiety - a constant state of emergency - because the consequences of not doing things perfectly seemed dire. I was an A+ student, until I decided one day to stop doing the work. I barely made it out of high school, but the anxiety lessened. My request is that you discuss executive function.
Man I procrastinate so bad. In high school I never ditched or partied or did drugs until after highschool I was always in class but never paying attention failing all my classes cause I wouldn't do the classwork or homework but doing okay on tests I didn't graduate I had to go to continuation school and graduate a year later, also went to community college but failed almost every class cause I could not pay attention or just had no desire to go and also ended up going on academic probation and not even giving a damn alot of money wasted on books I never even opened and would always fail to drop the classes due to procrastination 10 years later I'm working a dead end job that bores me and I hate but literally can't get up and get out I have terrible anxiety and mild depression but I literally can't muster the interest strength willpower or anything to formulate a plan because I just don't have an interest in anything and here I am reading all the comments and rewinding this video 5 times to actually comprehend what he is saying. Also I have abused the heck outta alcohol because it calms my anxiety racing thoughts and just general uncomfortability for a little bit but then it comes back 10 times harder during the hangxiety attack I get the next day, I'm not dumb alotta people consider me rather articulate, well spoken, logical and intelligent but inside it's all a script of me understanding the proper behaviour and social cues of the world but I just have no desire to get anything done or finish anything I start, Im very introverted as well and spend alot of time with the thoughts in my mind, I recently bought a cello to learn but I could only play it for 2 mins at a time for the first week now it just sits there and I say damn I gotta practice but just end up trying to watch a movie and sitting in my living room on my phone.
I cried reading your comment. I need to learn more about executive function. If ever there was a bullseye for this old lady, that is it. Thank you!
I get tested in less than 2 weeks. I’m scared he won’t believe me, but I’m also incredibly angry at my previous physicians for never suggesting this as a thought until this recently. I have all diagnosis’ of bipolar disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, OCD, depression and I experience mania. I truly think I only have some sort of ADD and if I could just get that figured out I’d be happier and would experience so many less anxiety attacks. I’m 22 turning 23 in 2 months & I just wish I knew more about it when I started struggling at age 14…
If I watched this and had to rewind different parts like 10x because I wasn't paying attention... iiiiiis that a sign I probably have ADHD? 😂
I'm watching video for the second time
meeee
@@bmerrell41085 I can not get thru it
As soon as i clicked on the vid i instinctively went to the comment section so ur not alone😂
Kinda normal .-.
I was “fortunate” enough to get diagnosed as a child. Only it was never treated as something I needed to work on or find ways to cope with. I was just told I had it, given medication for a while (which helped, and helps again now), and sent on my merry little way. It wasn’t until recently that I started realizing just how much it impacts my life. I’ve always just shrugged it off and ignored it, because I was taught it isn’t a big deal and just means I’m a little more easily distracted and prone to being hyper here and there. I’m almost 40 and I was diagnosed at 14. That’s a lot of wasted time that I could have been learning how to cope. A lot of trauma that could have, and should have been avoided.
I wasn't diagnosed at a young age, but as an older adult now, I can relate to the thought of wasted time. That sometimes makes me sad when I think back to missed opportunities in my personal and professional life.
However, I then try to focus on my life ahead and how I can live the life I envision for myself using the knowledge about ADHD that I keep discovering. Wishing us all happy lives going forward.
I only have the concentration test available to me and I‘m also supposed to have teachers give statements. I‘m scared I won’t get diagnosed, because I feel like I have inattentive type and therefore don’t disturb classes or anything
I’m 24 years old and I was officially diagnosed with ADHD over a month ago. The last year has been really really really rough, and the process of adjustment it’s just getting started. But I’m grateful to finally have my diagnosis.
I’ve been teaching this kid, who to me, it’s so obvious he has it too, like REALLY obvious. And I see myself in him, a lot. And my heart breaks for him because apparently I am the only one noticing it. To the rest, he’s only a new kid who have just had online classes before, and doesn’t really know how to behave. I really wish I’m wrong and he for real doesn’t have it, so he won’t struggle the way I did.
Thanks for this very informative content ...I'm 53 years young and started suspecting I had ADHD without even looking at research studies and online info until 3 years later ..I just felt like something was very wrong but would find a way to blow it off ...only when I started having serious anxiety about the road running out and all I had was this wrecked life for no good reason at all did I start really digging in deep and finding out that I had a severe case of ADHD...everything I read about the symptoms I could see were severe in myself except the fidgeting until I realized there was something I did chronically to the point of excess ...I have always chewed inside of my cheeks and lips to the point I have to keep chewing gum on me at all times because I could not stop ...I recently started the daunting challenge of jumping through the hoops which is very frustrating because I've wasted my whole life at this point ...I wish someone including myself had noticed these things 20 years ago
I’m always either chewing or doodling in order to pay attention. It takes effort sometimes extreme effort to pay attention to people talking.
The fact that you haven't posted a new video for over a year is the ultimate proof of your ADHD :)))
Have an evaluation on Tuesday and kind honestly kind of nervous. I don't know what I'd do if they say I don't have it since lack of focus and concentration for certain activities has been a huge problem of mine in my adult life. What's more is my parents haven't been the most supportive about me telling them this so I'm inclined to just stay quiet about the whole process.
When he mentioned time, my memories snapped into place. I have a TREMENDOUSLY huge problem with starting tasks I don't look forward to. Tis ranges anywhere from allowing the anxiety to block out the task, or bargaining with myself to start.
my recommended really said ✨this you✨ LMAOO
Wow this video is dated a year back yet explanation was done so well that I completely understood and also teared up.. More people should subscribe to this channel in my opinion. This man's gentle approach and simplification of his explanation of ADHD is of high quality. Thank you for your work sir. It is much-needed and much appreciated
How do I get evaluated? Like where do I go or call something
Hi,
I am almost 51 and I am pretty sure that I have ADHD. My son was diagnosed with combined ADHD and made me re-consider my anxiety issues and I realize now that I probably have the same diagnosis as he does. Best of luck to all of you !
Who else lost focus....
Your comments just popped up and I had to rewind 20 seconds.
I literally started this, zoned out during the intro, went of my phone to read this thing on reddit I hadn't finished reading and was snapped back by the soundtrack and "lists"
The way you ended your video broke my heart. I identified with your personal experience. Thank you very much for sharing it
I'd appreciate your comment
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I think the fact that I only lasted like 4 minutes is kinda telling...
same -__-
I'll be 55 in Aug and had the Conner and Pearson tests yesterday. I was so upset at some of my answers or comprehension trying to work through it I either cried or got verbally pissed at myself. Explaining it to my housemate today, I broke down crying, saying it made me feel stupid. I wasn't asked anything like my routine, procrastination, etc. I don't get my results until Aug 7 and am on edge, thinking I have a disability learning problem other than ADHD. Why should it take so long to get results back? I am convinced I have it and if they come back and say I don't, I feel like the system failed me once again. I just want to bawl.
I had an adhd assesment, though I have all of the symptoms of ADHD. But the guy who assessed me pretty much just asked me about all my trauma, and said I had PTSD not adhd.
Like he barely even asked anything apart from my trauma lol.
37. Have a psychiatrist. Great one. After all these years I'm scared to bring up that I think I have add or adhd I don't know the difference. Anyway. Being so embarrassed I asked my friend for one of his medication. As soon as it hit this annoying fog I had left and I felt free. I didn't take anymore. I'm trying to work the courage to tell my psychiatrist. I have no idea why I'm so embarrassed about bringing this up to him. Thanks for this video. My psychiatrist knows me very well and I think her can help 100 percent 🙏
Him,“ unless you just generally like looking up medical conditions on the internet-“
Me: you have described my one and only interest in life
1:03 song I know as the goggle ad song and when I heard a low tone audio of that , I lost all focus on you and went to thinking how tf is an ad playing and went to go check if I had a vid playing in a background of something 😭
Thank so much for posting this! Hope you are staying well!
funny story, i used to be the person who enjoyed learning about mental medical conditions on the internet and then the ADHD symptoms and research hit a little close to home so i changed the research from a generalised standpoint to a personal interpretation
I've heard of ADHD before but i never really thought i could have it since i had the idea that it was just a hyperactivity thing and easily recognisable but I was so wrong
I'm going to talk to my therapist about this as soon as possible
Honestly I hope that's what's wrong with me just so i can finally have a reason behind most of my problems or an explanation to all this
Thanks for the video ❤️
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Have had so many problems because of my bad memory and so many misunderstandings that stress me out and frustrate me. I hope that’s what’s wrong with me as well. Something to blame it on and justify.
Can't thank you enough for your support. cheers!
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Watching this was interesting, I find it interesting to see the amount of people that have questioned if they were different. When I think back on it now it’s very obvious that I’m different. But it was never brought up to me, by my friends or family.
With my family, we are all incredibly close and we actually suspect that a-few of my other family members have conditions of their own we never thought about. And I think it’s partly because of our family dynamic that we’ve never questioned why we act the way we do, it’s just how we are.
I don’t remember what had me tumbling down the research train, I think it might have been an adhd tiktok compilation 🤔
But jeez, I remember my whole life suddenly made much more sense when I thought back on it.
OMG - wanting to go back in time and yell at people to see me is SO relatable. It took me 2 years to finally get evaluated - for the reasons you stated about getting started and continuing on something. My sister was diagnosed with ADHD when she was a kid, and my brother was diagnosed with autism when he was a kid. I was the "normal" child, because my symptoms didn't present in the same manner. School was a nightmare. I don't know why I was never tested when my siblings were. My mom and dad are exactly like me, so they thought I was normal, because they do the same things.
I got my diagnosis last September at 41. I have inattentive ADHD - could be combined, because I was hyperactive as a kid, and can be as an adult - hypersensitivity to sound and touch, and autism. I had a strong feeling about the ADHD, but not the autism. Some of the assessment tests that involved memory made me feel so stupid. It felt like I was back in school and failing. My doctor kept reassuring me that it didn't mean I was an idiot. But during the exam process, I kept feeling like I failed all the tests thanks to decades of being made to feel like an idiot for not being able to reach a neurotypical standard.
There are days where I still want to scream and cry for not being heard or understood. It explains why I feel the strong need to justify everything, and find proof to back up what I say happens. I know no one will believe me.
Same story but mines getting worse and worse resulting in not attending school:)
I think I have adhd and so I looked you this video. I’m trying so hard to focus and not drift to something else that I’m getting anxious and this guy taking forever to get to the point isn’t helping.
I’ve been struggling for a long time, and I’ve been tested once already. The doctor didn’t really give me a comprehensive assessment. She spent 20 minutes asking questions, didn’t care what I had to say about my experiences. I had to pay 800 dollars for her to say she doesn’t know but I did score highly and I should continue to treat my depression
Hello Jared, this was such a helpful video! Thank you! I suspect I have ADHD and I relate so much to every one of the problems you mentioned in the beginning. Well, I actually already had an evaluation recently and... What can I say? During the interview they asked me what kind of symptoms I have and at that very moment I forgot everything I had been wanting to say🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ I meant to elaborate more on my symptoms during the second appointment but the clinician didn't have time for that (the whole evaluation took 2 appointments in total). At the end they came to the conclusion that I didn't have ADHD but I felt completely misunderstood by the clinician. I guess I have to get another evaluation from a different person (and not forget to write down my symptoms before.🤦🏼♀️)
I've never been diagnosed and as a kid I didn't struggle much with my studies. I did have some issue remembering stuff but I was always good in maths and somewhat okay in other subjects. Cut to my college years, I strugged so much to focus on any of my course work that I ended up failing one of my papers. This shook me as I have never failed in any classes. My Masters rather went smoother than my Bachelors. Now I'm a fresher in the working phase, and I'm struggling more than I've ever had to! I can't focus on one thing, I am constantly stressed and tired at the same time. I can't sleep properly, it is taking me 3-4hours to read an agreement! I don't even know what I am doing at this point. I can't read, I can't write, I'm frustrated as hell and I desperately need a job but my body and mind doesn't permit it. My mom has been telling me to seek professional help for quite some time now, but I have been putting it off and I don't even know why. It just feels so overwhelming. Everything feels like that and I hardly feel any joy anymore. Also three of my only escapes has always been sleep, food and watching movies/series. But with all this stress I can hardly sleep. I've always loved food but have also been very picky about it, to the point where I would rather starve than have the food that I don't like. And I can't focus enough to watch anything anymore.
I think it's time to get evaluated, isn't it?
(As of today, I'm 26 now, I am unemployed even though it's been almost 2 years I finshed my education and it took me almost 30mins to write this comment :)
I brought up that I think I have adhd to my psychiatrist and he basically told me since im not a 12 year old disruptive boy I cant have adhd. Even better hes apparently the adhd specialist in my area 🙃
Do you know me? I still fall into denial mode now and again but my oldest son was diagnosed, me at age 50! MY angel of psychiatrist now retired was life saver! And I've finally found another after 5 years!!! I wish we had support for oldie'one's like me who feel that time has stood still so long it's hard but I'm surviving! Thank you so much for this as I feel so unintelligent compared to the majority of other people who are so smart, but I just discovered I can do art and nearly won first prize but that's amazing for me. 🙏
I had to rewatch this whole video because i zoned out lmao
Thank you for your sharing your information about ADHD. It certainly helps in my continuing ADHD self discovery journey.
As an older adult who never had access to information about ADHD in their youth, or even the knowledge of the acronym lol, gaining information in middle to late life stages helps me understand so much about myself and my life. Every time I watch one more TH-cam video I get another piece of the puzzle in place.
Understanding that it's a real condition allowed me to bring it up with my physician and start a dialogue about treatment about 2 years ago. Perhaps now, I'd like to explore some formal testing too per your information.
Although I know that parts of my ADHD are my Super Powers, there are other times I'm cursing it. I don't wish it on anyone, but thank you for affirming that I'm not alone and that others even like yourself are working through it too. Many thanks!
Recently it was suggested for me to get evaluated for ADHD. I have looked into it myself in the past and always been curios if I do have ADHD. It's common on both sides of my family and I haven't found a description or potential symptom that I don't have.
I've wanted to be evaluated for a while but have had a lot of trouble finding someone near me. The closest I've found is about 300 miles away.
I'm a college kid, 24, and having a very hard time lately and any help is great but I would absolutely love to know if I do infact have ADHD. I also found it's common on both my mothers and fathers sides of the family.
I live in southern Oregon for school but also travel back and fourth to northern California where I'm from and where my family lives commonly. I'm hoping to find someone to at least evaluate me near here but haven't had the luck to find anyone yet.
I'm not asking for a specific suggestion for my area, but maybe some tips to find someone who can evaluate me.
Also, I searched the sights left in the description and like I said, no one seems to be within 300 miles of me either way. In Oregon or California...
Any tips from anyone are appreciated. Thank you.
Where you able to find someone to evaluate you yet? I hope all is well 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I have an appointment for a diagnosis tomorrow (Feb. 13 2024) and this video helps me know what to expect, thanks :D
Serious question: Ive had had the same therapist for 8 years, she has diagnosed me with anxiety and depression which is fair, but Im like 95% sure I also have ADHD. After a lot of my own research and discussing with members of my inner circle and doing a lot of online tests, Im almost certain I have undiagnosed ADHD. However, after mentioning this to my therapist, she almost immediately disregarded it. At this point Im not sure what to do, as Id assume that someone who has diagnosed me in the past, and who has been seeing me for over 8 years, would know whether I have ADHD or not. I would atleast like a few tests done or the questions mentioned for evaluation, even if the answer is negative. I just need to know what else is going on as Im sure I havent been diagnosed properly - Id like to treat and learn coping mechanisms for any other mental illnesses I may have, as it is a daily issue. Does anyone have any advice on what to do moving forward? Thankyou in advance :)
Change therapist!... or at least try to get screened elsewhere! :)
I'm on a 4 month long wait list in order to book a appointment to get evaluated
Omg he said pull up a fidget cube i'm literally holding one lol
Thank you for your absolutely generously compassionate and thoughtful explanation of getting tested for this
I have an ADHD test soon cus my school thinks I have it and so do I wish me luck besties :)))
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Thank you for this informative video. I really appreciated how you showed vulnerability and compassion towards the end. We ADHD ers dont get much of that. 🌷
First of all thanks for the sound effects :)
Second, I am an adult (23) who thinks I might have ADHD. Thing is you said I need someone who knows me well to accompany me. Well today I opened up for the first time to my very religious parents about the whole situation and the difficulty I've felt my entire life and the experiences I've had without saying ADHD (since am still unsure). They are the only ppl who could be counted as knowing me well, since I really have no friends, like non (really i have no friends).
But they just responded me with a : more than looking for professional help, you should pray the situation away....🙄
So, the question is what can I do if I have no one to help as a third person reference??? Help•́ ‿ ,•̀
Try seeing an online doc. It’s more affordable than going in person
I recently thought that my boyfriend might have adhd after we talked about it briefly at university. When I talked about it with him and did some of these tests, I noticed that many of the named symtoms are what I've been struggling with for years, making my daily life extremly hard. Same with him but with other symptoms. Now I'm trying to get both of us evaluated, but it'll take some time
The intro : me I feel attacked😂😅
I'm being evaluated as an adult next week after struggling my whole life and I'm so scared I'm in tears rn. 😔
Does anyone have any information on the Qb test? I have one scheduled, but I don't know what it is and everything I can find is in medical jargon.
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I know I have undiagnosed ADHD because my adult kids have told me I do. And, they’re right! I know I have it, too. I haven’t always known, but at 63 I really truly know it. I’m planning to get checked out about it soon. I have doctors names etc. but I will also look at your list. Thanks!
The best way to control is it is through food. Eat more vegetables and whole grains. Avoid processed foods and sugars. Our brains are firing on all cylinders to this gives it some more room. This gave me a huge boost over years... I am 27 now. Also try to exercise 1 hour per day.
Quality protein is also extremely important
It was about 2 years into our doctor-patient relationship with my current GP that she suggested I get screened. Really glad she suggested it.
Put the velocity on 1.5x if you're getting distracted, it helps me a lot ;)
the intro 😭 i'm both,, been told to look into adhd but watching abt medical conditions while i play something is fun
Hey I have that baby groot in my room too haha
I have an adhd testing appointment in an hour so im super nervous, so wish me luck! Its nerve wracking but this video is helping my nerves
Pov:you get distracted in the comment section 😐
Bruh