@@snowxflaxess1181 I think you just need to live by the fact that “you cannot control it”, what can you do about it? It will consume you, get through your head but not do anything to change otherwise. Do you really want your energy to be wasted on such instead of focusing on things you can actually control?
@Deanna Newton I'm so sorry :( That's really hard. But I know there are people out there who really will appreciate you for who you are and love you no matter what! You just have to find them. Don't give up hope!
yoongi!! hi army and that quote is so true there will always be that one person that will judge you so the best way is to not care about it and just be you and do what makes yourself happy
Hey i want advice about how to stop overthinking about people's opinons or about a stupid thing you did,i feel like i'm gonna die from embarrasment and my anxiety is drastically increasing
“Accept that not everyone will like you.” This was a BIG one for me as I struggled to accept my flaws, but I eventually learned from people that I don’t need to prove anything to anyone. Now at almost 28, I don’t give a rat’s ass who doesn’t like me.
I wish I was like you, I want to not care whether people like me or not, it just sort of subconsciously happens :( I keep thinking about the stupid mistakes I did and how that person probably thinks I’m stupid now
@@Sillygoose434 They most probably didn't even notice and even if they did, It shouldn't bother you!! If something isn't in your control then no need to worry about it. I'm sure you're a wonderful person. Embarassing moments happen to all of us 😵
@@kayy2510 It might be, it's something I was told once. Just like: If you care about what other people think, you are literally giving control of your life over to other people. Everyone has a different agenda for who you should be and what you should do and how you should behave. You don't want to be pulled in a thousand different directions and you can't please everybody anyway so be who you are and people can leave if they don't like it.
1. You need to make it a rule to put your needs ahead of others. It sounds selfish but it's actually practical. If your needs aren't met, how can you help other people adequately? And it's only selfish if you ONLY take care of your own needs. You can always help people after you're in a good position to help, but not before then. Plus everyone else puts themselves first anyway, so everyone will understand. And don't give what you can't afford to give, including time. If you have to say no, don't feel bad about it. The best way is to say "Sorry, I can't do that because (reason here)." because people are more likely to accept it if you give a good reason. You can then rearrange for a time that's better for you if you want to, or not if you don't want to. 2. Understand that if you care about what people think, you are literally handing power of your life over to other people. Everyone has a different agenda for how you should behave and how you should be. You don't want to be pulled in a thousand different directions at once and you can't please everyone anyway. So stop caring and improve yourself if you can, but only if you want to. You can do this.
Summary: 1)Not everyone cares.1:07 2)Who do you want to be. 1:46 3) Accept your flaws. 2:29 4)Be selective about the things you care about. 3:19 5) Accept that not everyone will like you.3:54 6)Take on the challenges. 4:34
These words have helped me deal with my thoughts! 1) What others think of you is NONE of your business! 2) What others say about you says more about them, than you!
@@cynthialodermeier5291 stuff like this only applies to people living a safe privileged life. Prisoners will not agree. As most now are living privileged lives where survival is a guaranteed thing and stuck with survival instincts.
How to stop caring what other people think: 1. Realize nobody’s perfect 2. Focus on yourself 3. Imagine that everyone is just like you 4. Remember that everyone will pass away one day
Ha professional overthinker here. You know that feeling when you are like 'I'm so happy rn there's nothing that could ruin it' then your brain is like 'Um yeah that's nice but remember that one time you did that cringy thing? Everyone probably remembers that even though it was like 8 years ago' yeah
Omg yes! For me it’s this cringy thing I said and I kind of did it again with this boy and I thought he was flirting with me and I’m like chill chill and stuff even though he probs wasn’t even flirting with me😣 I haven’t had a bf yet (I personally don’t want to get into the trap of love then heartbreak it’s a waste of time and I’m still young but there is the pressure of my friends telling me who I’m I going to date and stuff it’s kind of annoying but it whatever lol) anyways this boy left me unread the last time we talked and omg ew it was just cringy. I don’t even want to go into to much details because I write too much lols.
In the literature on CPTSD, codependent victims of abuse often suffer from these kinds of emotional flashbacks that are connected to the internal critic. You could have a look at Pete Walker's book on complex PTSD, or visit Richard Grannon's channel.
Young people: cares what people thinks of them. Middle age people: Doesn’t care what people think of them. Old people: Realizes no one was ever thinking about them to begin with.
I’ve always been insecure because I care tooo much about other people’s opinions of me. I literally overthink so much when instances like people saying i laugh too much come, and end up feeling super dumb. But this video made me realize that I’m really just against my own mind and it’s stopping me from doing so many things I want to do.
One thing I learned on accepting myself is to not to hold wrongs against urself. Meaning when you look back at something embarrassing you did , instead of looking down on urself , don't hold that wrong against you. We're all human , we make mistakes
Actually im very shy in school... And becoz of it I can't talk to others .... And so I can't make friends.. Plz tell some ways in which I can make others my friend... Or what would you do if I say hey to you for the first time in school while you are talking to your friend...? Or how will I make you my friend if you were my classmate? ( These many help me I think)
@@lainiiwakura no problem 😉! The only thing that should be important to you is you . If your too shy ☺️ don’t worry 😉 because I am too . But just don’t loose yourself in that shyness because if you do than there is no way getting yourself back. You know what..... just go and see yourself in the mirror......Look really closely and see. You will find the real you that’s your real friend YOU yourself 😊. As far as making friends is concerned than just go to the person and introduce yourself not proudly, not shyly ( try to ) and when he or she reply’s with a good gesture than GO AHEAD, you made the first good move and on the other hand if he/she gives a bad gesture than leave them alone by ending the interaction with a smile. Try this with different people and there you go you will have someone being friends with you 😉. GOOD LUCK! Yeah and do let me know if it worked ( I mean you know if you want to ).
In my case, being adopted and not having an adult figure tell me that I am beautiful or reassurance that I should accept my inner & outer beauty. We all have special qualities. Thank you for these videos and I have been sharing them all over. Especially to those that cannot afford mental health care. My dad is a retired psychologist. So since I stepped foot on American soil, age 4, I've always seen a therapist.
the more you care what other people think of you, the more you value them and their words. dont give people who make negative remarks YOUR value. its valuable...
One of the best ways overcome first time anxiety is to think that the other person really just doesn't care about what you really do, but what your heart shows though your actions So as overused as it is Be you The better of you If you're proud, be proud of what you do If you're creative, show it If you're determined to do something Go heckin do it But above all else Act as you would want to see yourself in a year from now That when you look back on yourself being confident You will feel glad to have done so
@@anaj835 well kids are special cases arent they just relax and tell them that there's a better way of doing things (Plus lets be honest when you where a kid you didn't really judge adults)
Hey ! Whoever reads this I hope you gain more self-confidence in the beautiful, amazing, talented person you already are! I send much love your way and may you have a wonderful day !
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I'm currently 45. When I was in my 20s, I had crippling anxiety. I wasn't always this way...I do remember coming into the world a confident person, and having been surrounded solely by narcissists my entire life, they managed to eventually erode my defenses over the years. Fortunately for me, I've always had a good head on my shoulders, and have been able to counsel myself through EVERYTHING. One of the many upsides of being an INTJ. Though I brought myself to the understanding that I had anxiety because I'd been led to care what people thought of me, it still took some more years to work through the insecurities. Intellectual understanding is one thing, and convincing your body of a truth that's the opposite of what you've been conditioned to believe, is another. Start w/ the mind, and with persistence and diligence, the body will eventually follow. I've overcome my anxiety, and have grown comfortable in my skin. One of the things to look forward to as you grow older and wiser, as long as you're putting in the self-work. #1 in this list became one of my mantras to remind myself of how people likely weren't thinking about me, so by conditioning myself not to be egocentric (as society tends to teach us to be), I learned to stop magnifying my perceived flaws. One helpful tip is to remind yourself how SMALL & INSIGNIFICANT you are, to keep things in perspective. I mean this in a HEALTHY way, and how you do this is by examining the scope of your existence, next to nature. We're like tiny ants or microbes in the vast universe. Be in nature, or look at nature, and ask yourself how big your own concerns and anxieties are, in comparison. Puts everything in perspective, right?
I watched this before I sleep. Now after waking up I feel like 'I don't care if they think I am a bad person, I'm sure they will act nicely infront of me, after all I have some people who loves me" 😊
5:09 This tip is nice. Just today I had to visit a doctor and was having anxiety over how to express my symptoms clearly and what to say and what not to say and in what order. I am very bad at expressing myself and organizing my thoughts on the go. I wrote it down in my journal and then had a clear idea of what to say. I could express myself clearly and was very comfortable!
Earlier I used to feel so guilty after getting embarrassed in front of my class by getting scolded or giving a wrong ans😅 Now also sometimes I think abt it a lot..I try not to care about it but.. And I AM TRYING..thank you psych2go Sending u loads of love♥️
@@syalamontana2508 can relate🤣🤣 But I don't have crushes anymore...I stopped crushing on someone...coz I couldn't concentrate uk..on my studies It's better to not have a love life 🤣🤣 I'll better love myself
Here's a small summary! I've never done time-stamp summaries, so please forgive me if I do it strangely! 0:01 ~ Intro { Fixed for a Few Phone Users } 0:17 ~ Intro Part 2 ♡ 1:07 | 1. Not Everyone Cares 1:46 | 2. Who do you Want to be ? 2:28 | 3. Accept your Flaws♡♡ 3:19 | 4. Be Selective About the Things you Care About 3:55 | 5. Accept That not Everyone Will Like you 4:35 | 6. Take on the Challenges 6:00 | Outro ♡♡ Thank you Psycho2Go for making this video, and I hope whenever you see this comment, you will have the best day ever! I wish the same for everyone who just so happens to see this, too!
I love myself unconditionally ❤️🙏❤️ And I am grateful to truly know myself. What people think about me "is none of my business". Lol.. and I can care less what that might be. Self awareness is a blessing ❤️
I always think of what people said to me because I genuinely think what they said about me generally reflect myself, and I don't feel like making a bad impression in front of others and it could be quite stressing. This will help me a lot, thank you!
Oh... Well, mine keeps judging people behind their backs, and whenever we're walking around town together, she talks about some people we see, and always gets away with it, cuz we're talking in our first and native language, and I always worry that someone from our country will be just walking by, and know what we're talking about. And, like, I remember that throughout my entire life I've been so scared of what others might think of me, or making a mistake, and nowadays, I kind of suspect that it probably came from my mom judging other people and me... But nmv... I just wanted to tell someone about it...
My mom keeps making me try to be better than everyone else and I know she's trying to make me try my best, which I think isn't a bad thing, but when she gets angry at me when someone is better than me, even if we have high scores, I feel bad about myself and sometimes become competitive. I'm not necessarily mad at them being better than me because I try my best, but worried about my mom being mad at me.
Yeah, my mom keep complaining i'm being too skinny, my skin is being too dark I shouldn't be out in the sun for too long, staring at my face with a disgusting expression then start talking shit. Like, can you please let me live my life? I used to be quiet but now i said it to my mom that it's because your genetics my body is skinny and i have tan skin. If you hate my appearance that much, pay for my plastic surgery. And she just left. But I am not serious about it, I love my appearance even my acne scars❤ I tried so hard to be beautiful because of my mom, i'm obsessed to have light skin, i'm overeating, but now I don't want it anymore. I love myself thanks to BTS✨
@@syalamontana2508 I'm proud of you. And yeah BTS has helped and is still helping alot of us even if we're all poles apart and that's what I love about them. Than you for not giving up and for loving yourself. You're amazing 💜😊.
Honest, I'm always afraid of my parents. Whenever she walked behind me, my body shiver, and my heart beats faster. Ever since childhood, they have always been controlling my life without me realising it, and now I feel so locked and not free at all from my thoughts towards my parents. I kinda don't like the way that they see and react to things, but I hate myself more for not be able to speak up my mind and my heart to my parents. I hate myself for not liking them, and I hate myself for not being able to be a good child that they want. Sometimes, I just wish I can fasten time so that I can skip to the future and live by my own, without parents watching or controlling me.
When the popular kids at school bullied me for being a shy nerd it made me more of a shy nerd. I also found out that I was allowing their words to hurt me by apparently caring so much. So I figured that it was my fault that I was allowing their words to hurt me. That knocks my confidence and self respect big time
I was someone who always cared a lot about what others thought of me, and I always tried to take into consideration how a person might see my actions and choices whenever I interacted with them. I tried not to let on that I was, but I would think a great deal on my actions to self-reflect on if I could have offended someone or not, or acted out in a way I shouldn't have. To contrast, I had a best friend for many years who was the exact opposite to me. Their catch phrase was "I don't care" and they ended up saying it a lot. They weren't diagnosed as having anti-social behavior disorder, but a lot of their behavior could have been considered disruptive of social norms or social environments. They would act out boldly and loudly all the time and in contrast I was incredibly easily embarrassed and would shrink back at the idea of having so much focus and attention on myself. They were still my best friend, so I tried to forgive them for who they were, because I cared about them. Sometimes it was hard. I always got frustrated at when they said they didn't care, it was usually at a time when I would have felt guilt and shame and asked what I did wrong and tried to make up for it, if I tried to tell them what they did wrong it was, "I don't care", and I couldn't understand why they would be that way when it was hurting them and hurting the people around them. So many wrongs in the world are committed by people who don't care, and to me I ended up developing an attitude that it's better to prevent problems than to ask for forgiveness, contrary to that saying, "It's better to ask for forgiveness than permission", because I had decided I would rather be cautious than to hurt people and find out that I'd crossed a line and they would no longer forgive me for it. So, to me, not caring is not always a solution, so I agree with selective caring. I was both sensitive and insensitive at times because sometimes I wouldn't take things personally, sometimes you just have to let some things go if they're not directly damaging and can be avoided, but other times, other times if I saw something I considered to be a great injustice I would face it head on like a bull with it's horns laid low to charge. I was stubborn in that way, but it used to be something I was proud over. I enjoyed the idea of defending people from injustices and the idea of the injustices of the world would make me angry. So I did care, I tried to care, very much, and I may not have always been perfect about it, even when I got stubborn I could still be reasoned with. I just didn't like to give in to emotional manipulation and people trying to control me. Plenty of people would rather manipulate than own up to the consequences of their actions. It's inherently selfish.
Here's the summary- 1. Not everyone cares 2. Who do you wanna be? 3. Accept your flaws 4. Be selective of the things you care about 5. Expect that not everyone will like you 6. Take on the challenges
4:52 - Exactly word for word that's me! "I worry about ending up looking like a fool because of a mistake" and it's not delusional. I have in fact ended up looking like a fool many times and I take way more time to learn new things and I struggle with tasks that others find easy.
Actually im very shy in school... And becoz of it I can't talk to others .... And so I can't make friends.. Plz tell some ways in which I can make others my friend... Or what would you do if I say hey to you for the first time in school while you are talking to your friend...? Or how will I make you my friend if you were my classmate? ( These many help me I think)
A very important thing to remember is to accept feedback from other people (friends, family, or strangers!) always remember that you can either accept their advice or ignore it. I (evidently) have an unusually high self esteem from a young age and I’ve always made sure that I let others know I heard them and either chose or did choose to put that advice into action. If someone has a negative view of you or insults you, (especially if using a curse word!) confront them about it. If someone cussed me out, I make sure that they know what those curse words mean. (Look em up!) Always remember that you’re pretty awesome no matter what. Think highly of yourself and remember that you simply have to not care about what others think.
I definately see myself in this one! I was bullied very badly as a child and so had to teach myself not to show any reaction especially not fear. I became very good at this but it meant i could never relax and didn't deal with the trauma and pain that built up inside over a very long time. I built a very cynical and sarcastic defensive personality because of this and as an adult have been told i'm difficult to talk to. I care so much what other people think because i can't deal with all the criticism i had as a child. I find withdrawing from the world keeps me from having to try.
I've been struggling on trying to remember to not give a fudge of what will happen or what will not happen and just go with the journey you're on. I take meditation to calm myself down and I pray to God to give me the strength and the power to get to where I need to be. To college and Los Angeles to go after my dreams
Needed this today. Today my coworkers talked behind my back and someone who was involved in the conversation told me about it and the reason is because I was being nice and helping another employee they dislike. I went to my car during lunch break and cried because I'm always stuck with negative people ever since when I was young. But I came back from break and decided to go back to my usual real self which left them confused.
Wow I can't say enough about how important this content is. Throughout my family there have been a number of people with various mental health issues. All of them just amazing sincere people that just want to live their lives and they have great hearts but are misunderstood. I'm over 50 now and the best I can tell my kids, and the other young people in our family. is, I hope they can reach a point in their lives that they just don't give a s*** what people think. It is very liberating! I wish I had this information so many years ago. Another thing I've always said is 'Live and let live'! And certainly in this day and age this approach applies 'he who is without flaws, let him throw the first stone' 🤔 Thanks for what you do! 😊👍
A lot of the time it’s hard for me to keep this stuff in mind. I’m working on it though. We just have to continue consciously doing these things and we can get through it. Even if it’s not 100% of the time.
How to stop care what others think 1. Don’t put your identity into their opinions 2. Find your own personal passions/interests. 3. Accept that not everyone will like you 4. Be selective about what you choose to care about.
number 3 i honestly relate the most Everyone thinks of me as “the smart kid” if i get more than 3 answers wrong, my parents would lecture me on being irresponsible, i want to meet their expectations but sometimes i just can’t, and they would be so surprised on me getting A 90% or an 89%, But now since i know who i am and what my flaws are, i try to better them or accept them, i won’t be so bothered about what people think.
When you worry about what people think, you can’t take rejection, so when you think about it rejection isn’t really a bad thing because that’s just their opinion about you, you’ll know how to deal with it and plus it helps you to improve and not make the same mistake all over again.
Everyday I've been trying to go out for a run for three weeks now, and I never went because I'm really scared of passing by people, for some reason. I know I shouldn't care this much, but I just have this huge feeling that I'm not safe outside. And that if nobody validates me and says I'm allowed to go running, then I'm just not allowed to. I do try to change my thinking and like, push through my anxiety but it's such an overwhelming feeling that I just can't handle. That actually sucks lol, because I love being outside, especially in nature and near water. I'll.. try again tomorrow, I guess, with these points in mind. Thank you for this video♡
Same. My body will automatically freeze to do things that are not commonly done. I don't even overthink. My body and mind would just refuse to do it. I also feel awkward to run in a park if very few are running. I just implicitly feel weird to run when others are walking. Same was for wearing mask. When COVID had just arrived in our country(less than 100 cases nationally) and no one was wearing mask inside the class I felt extremely awkward to wear mask when others weren't. But now wearing mask is not awkward for me cause everyone wears it all the time outside their house. It's also prob due to the fact that I have a kind of trauma of being bullied in school for being the odd one out. Class mates used to take my cap and throw it around. Once I carried a bag with a big zip and was bullied for that. A girl even slapped me for that! I felt very ashamed. Both these stories are from when I was very little, in primary school. But experiences of those times shape us a lot. PS: Thank you very much for sharing your experience here. It was very brave. It helped me to relate and made me comfortable. Also isn't it easier to share anything anonymously on internet! Internet's the best thing!
Same here...then when you're passing by people it's like you don't even remember how to walk... anyway places near nature are the best! I'm actually really scared of going out for a run, but I've been trying to do it for some weeks too...I was almost giving up but you know what? I'm gonna try again, so hey, don't give up, I know you can do it!!! Something that helps me is to remember "people don't look at you do as much as you think they do" so try to breathe, and if you think it's too much, go home and try to relax, at least you will know that you did something nice that you've been trying to do for a long time!
Well i don't know if this would help but try taking cold showers, they're gonna make you hella scared, specially if you start with your chest and stomach but it will make you braver which will help through life in general, this might help solve your problem, again MIGHT
Alright, this is something I have to do, I have to pour my heart out here. I’ve been feeling a bit more sad than usual, and all of the videos on this channel have been lifting my spirits, I especially needed to go here today. Now, you all may find it cringey because I’m sharing something so private on the Internet, but this happened a little while ago and I’m still not having a good time. I learned a little while ago that my best friend just almost died, and got out of the hospital today. This really helped me get up, thank you, I’m still shaking as I’m writing this, (because I can’t fully calm down about the most important person in my life almost dying like that.) but it helps.
The best thing I did was to make my brain embrace the thought of defending myself if needed. Not to seek out confrontation but to be ready for it. I´m not fully there yet but way better!
My high school days: I had seizures and cared way too much what others thought and my mom always said “just do whatever makes YOU happy.” 5 years later: I’m seizure free and care much less what others think. But when my mom dislikes a choice I make she now says “people will think your crazy!” Lol.
I don’t care about what some random people would think about me. The only hard thing for me is that I care too much for people close to me, and I'm constantly afraid of bothering them. I don’t know how to find a balance between being truthful to yourself and caring for your loved one’s feelings.
I have a habit of overthinking things that should come naturally to me. I think that it helps to remind yourself of the things you can control and the things you can’t. All that you can do is your best.
Well it is quite extremely hard to try to be yourself when you are in situation where your own parents and family, the people that are so supposed to be supporting, protecting, loving, or giving you guidance are the people who are causing you nothing but pain. When you feel like everything is against you, when you feel helpless and have no choice but to give in to their demands, when you have absolutely so choice but to "deal with it". I am 18, broke with no job, my parents still make do there bidding and I am trying stay strong and find a way to leave. This is the story of my life. I know there are people who are in a way worse situation that I am in, but I hope that everyone who are struggling with something (even if it isn't as bad as others, it matters) they can't control can be rid of that situation, it isn't the end of the world, you have so much to live for, just be patient no matter how bad it gets. Love you all and I hope my words have helped in anyway! Stay strong! 💖 (Btw, I don't mind what pronouns you refer to me as. 😊)
Something inside tells me all the time that everyone is better than me, so I need their validation... I don´t know why I´m writing this, but hopefully I´m not the only one. I´m not even able to act like I´m a people pleaser, because that´s too selfish of me... ahhh!! lol
Trust me man your not the only one I feel the same it sucks but we have to remember that no one is perfect no matter how much someone may appear perfect we are all battling demons that no one knows about.
I scare myself into not being confident because I am sensitive and I often pay attention to other people and what they act or look like. Because I sometimes think a little harshly I constantly consider “what if they think about me like this too?” and it's just holding me in place, fretting over every little thing I do since I always need to evaluate others looks and attitude.
I used to have this problem when I was a child and teen. I cared too much. I thought helping my classmates out with whatever they needed was beneficial. Eventually, however, it got to the point where they started to take advantage of my good nature and only approached me when they wanted something from me, ranging from wanting to copy off my homework to making me buy things for them. I was too blind to notice that they only came to me when they needed something from me. I started to resent them and walked on eggshells around them. Sometimes the niceness that you show to others comes at the cost of your own happiness and well-being. Sometimes being nice gets to the point where others start to take advantage of your kindness and use your good nature against you.
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@@Psych2go Totally OK! Not only knowing the subject going behind the problems but also, giving advices make me feel warmer. Like the viedeo says: "There will be always people who likes it!" 😌😌😌
I constantly feel bad for myself because I say things that hurt others because I get mad at everyone because of my depression and then others criticize me... I kind of do this unconcious and when ppl begin to criticize me I isolste from everyone and cry because of the acts I do without knowing.
0:00 intro 1:08 1. Not everyone cares 1:45 2. Who do you want to be? 2:27 3. accept your flaws 3:18 4. Be slective about the things you care about 3:54 5. accept that not everyone will like you 4:34 6. Take on the challenges 5:09 one way to deal with anxieties about messing up 5:32 outro
this is so helpful. i used to think people didn’t really have an opinion on me/liked me until i heard a group of people talking about me. it hurt and i thought it through as best as i could but it’s still been on my mind since. this helped me to believe that it’s normal for people not to like me :)
I've always felt like i needed to avoid dressig the way i wanted to and keep certain interests a secret out of fear of being rejected by long time friends or even my parents. Its been a long, long journey but i think I'm finally making progress toward learning how stop caring now that I'm 21 and am starting to come to terms with my own mortality and what it means to make the most of life with what little youth we have. My internal obsession with acceptance and perfection became so unhealthy that i still catch old bad habits like apologizing for small mistakes or wanting to physically hurt myself over past humiliating memories rather than learn from them. Videos like these may not seem like much to some, but they're one of the few sources of support and motivation when you live out your golden years under other's expectations and finally want to break away and live for yourself.
I'm crying while watching this. Cause I've been noticing the opinion from others about me for a long time to the point that it makes me overwhelm and being negative about myself. Regret doing that.
Just had a mental breakdown bc my relatives were making fun of me and about things that I can't do as a girl and now I'm here, wish me luck guys. I wannabe mentally strong this year
This channel really know how to read my mind. Just a few minutes ago,I felt really insecure about my fat body and how others think about me especially my friends.I'm an overthinker person so I often overthink about what small things and gets anxiety too much.
Not to be creepy or weird, but I've always liked fat women. Not everybody isn't beautiful, but fat women are the most beautiful people in this entire world to me. I never understood why i liked fat women.
It’s hard to stop caring what others think when they always comment or ask about my life ... it’s not as easy to just change my surroundings either. The same fear of failure is what keeps me chained in the same place:(
There’s no way I made this comment 4 weeks ago I do not remember watching this vid 😳 but I have made progress! Don’t give up:) keep going you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I will admit I am feeling low rn but even the progress that I made is better than where I was last time. I wish I could go back in time to tell myself that it’s okay and I will be okay but I can’t, so this is the next best thing
I really could have needed that a few days ago. I am thankful for this video being out today, even if I am out of it. While all of those points are valid, I just wish to add other points: 1 - Lower you expectations It's not easy when you care too much about people, and you want to make first impressions, but while not everyone may not like you, not expecting them to not like you, or to like you can unburden yourself from having to feel anxious and work so hard to please people. 2 - Set manageable goals We all want to do something and be recognized for the work that we put in, but we often focus too much on the finish line and this can be a cause for stress. Breaking down those into small manageable goals can reduce stress, and also temper your expectations of what something should look like. Be kind to yourself! 3 - Know when to distance yourself from what is happening There will always be people who will feel like they have a say in what you do, and it can feel oppressive, which can cause you to care about what they said in ways that force you to look into yourself negatively. Knowing when to distance yourself from what is happening, and calmly assessing your own personal mental state is a good way can help with that. Most of the time, it is because THEY care too strongly that you end up taking their words to heart, so keep in mind that what's going on may have more to do with them than with you at times. 4 - Remember that not everything that you may read or hear from others is actually how it is meant to be read Have you ever read a comment, or someone else's words in the wrong way, and then, when you read it again another day, it sounds completely different and it makes you feel a bit silly for overreacting? That's a part of what's called Projection, and it has a huge part to play in every single one of our interactions. We are wired to interpret things that we dislike unconsciously, and to reject those interpretations by throwing them onto the others and reacting. It doesn't mean that you are a bad person for doing it, because everybody else is doing it. Ask questions. It never hurts to be more understanding, and it can open you to a perspective that you've not acknowledged before. All of these also have to do with what people say about you that can cause you to care about what they say. I hope it can help others.
My favorite thing about some of Psych2Go's videos is that they put you in a good mindset. Like, im just about to go to sleep, and now I can do it without worrying about anything because ive still got all this fresh in my head
"What do you want to do? You're the master of you. And isn't the thought enough to lift you off of the ground?" -- Steg from Steven Universe: The Movie
I really love this video, I wish it was here when I was in middle school. Maybe it was my fault for doing it, I really don't know, but I'm a very smiley person and I guess because it was like positivity was the only emotion I had; that's what everyone personified me as. Just, "The Preppy Girl who Helps People". It was sweet to be seen like that, of course! But, I didn't realize how much pressure that pit on me. If I showed any other emotion like fear, or sadness, the circle around me would look at me like I was a stranger. And if I didn't do something for one of my peers, they'd dangle "wow, I thought you were nice" over my head until I relented. This cycle literally carried out from 6th grade all the way to my Freshman year; and me pressuring myself to fit everyone's expectations was burning me out. I'm still working on it right now, not caring what people thinks or trying to people please. But somedays, I find myself back at square one.
I care enough on making a good impression but I will not go over board on making others like me. I will always be myself around people. If they like me, then they like me. Otherwise, I could care less if they don't like me. I am who I am, and I will not change for anyone.
Hello Pysch2Go I just wanted to say thank you!! I’ve learned more about anxiety and depression because of this channel and today I got put on medicine for it by my doctor. If it wasn’t for this I wouldn’t have known the warning signs and I wouldn’t have told my doctor about how I think I have mental health issues. Thank y’all!!!
You're very welcome! Thank you for your comment! I'm so happy to hear our videos has made a positive impact on your life. You got the help you needed from the doctor. It's important to talk to a professional about things we are going through. It's not easy, but once you do. You will feel so much better! Stay strong! - Cindy
I've been going through this stage for a very long time and it really hurts everytime I think of what people might think of me but now I learn that being me is something I love to do with my life
Thank you for making a video like this. It has really helped in how to not focus on what people will think of me, because for a long time, I have always worried on what people will think of how I dress or how i act or what i like and even how i do stuff. This was very helpful for me and I will make sure to use those tips. I love your channel a lot and I hope it grows big so that everyone can see it and make it help them in day to day life ❤️.
I usually don't comment on videos, but I just have to thank you in some way or form. I'm a very anxious person and I care what others think about me and I always overthing stupid stuff I said. When I get like that my temperature rises, and this video actually calmed me down. I hope everyone is having a lovely day btw 💜
My facebook nickname literally have the word "careless" in it as i am known among my friends that i pretty much don't care about what's going on around me or what others think of me. This led me to break free of traditional environment chakles and i was able to persue what i want and eventually get out of my country and work in a job that matches my passion. You can get an idea of what i do by checking my channel ( not really self promoting lol ) Now this doesn't mean i don't care about my loved ones like parents, family in general and friends. No! It's just that i don't let others opinion define me. Thank you guys for the awesome content !
@[·Vintxge Vibez·] I don't see what's wrong with it tbh. they're literally saying "hey I have a youtube channel come check it out if ya want" and if you don't want to... just ignore it. you're getting angry over basically nothing
I recently started to not care about what others think, nor having all eye on me and I noticed that i started to become more confident and "social". There is still a long journey i have to go through but you know, just a few small steps can drastically improve you.
Have you ever been told you care too much or don't care enough? 😞
0:41 ur animations are so cute 🥺
Hi, could you please do a video on cutting (or any self harm) alternatives :) I’m trying to quit and this would be a great help, thank you
To the early squad reading this, giving a huge shout-out to you. Love yourself
(I'm a small youtuber looking for help)
People say Idc at all.. that's true
Wassup
Stoicism rule: if you can’t control it, don’t let it bother you.
But how do you not let it bother you...
People can be so rude that it can EASILY get to your head
I try to live by this.
@@snowxflaxess1181 Yes, that happens to me all the time
@@snowxflaxess1181 I think you just need to live by the fact that “you cannot control it”, what can you do about it? It will consume you, get through your head but not do anything to change otherwise. Do you really want your energy to be wasted on such instead of focusing on things you can actually control?
“It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.” - Marcus Aurelius
Wow. This is so true and yet I've never thought of it this way... I love Marcus Aurelius quotes, the guy had some wisdom.
Such a wise guy. In fact, he's the ancestor of wise guys.
@Deanna Newton I'm so sorry :( That's really hard. But I know there are people out there who really will appreciate you for who you are and love you no matter what! You just have to find them. Don't give up hope!
That’s so true sadly
Woah my name is close to him my name is Marcus Achilles lol
"In the end, they'll still judge me, so why care anyways?"
-Min Yoongi
I'm a simple person: I see Min Yoongi - I klick thumbs up 🤣
Ohh army here too
@@Andraika90 lol just army things 😆💜
yoongi!! hi army and that quote is so true there will always be that one person that will judge you so the best way is to not care about it and just be you and do what makes yourself happy
I rlly respect, and admire Suga a lot. Hes rlly wise and he's been thru a lot, so his advice is always on point
A wise man once said, “If you hold yourself to a standard of perfection, you’ll always be a failure.”
But what is if prediction is a person in your class
@@snail.doodle9389 prediction or perfection..😑
True dat.
Hey i want advice about how to stop overthinking about people's opinons or about a stupid thing you did,i feel like i'm gonna die from embarrasment and my anxiety is drastically increasing
@@snail.doodle9389Also, been there, tried that, don't idolize or envy people, they're never as amazing or perfect as you think.
“Accept that not everyone will like you.”
This was a BIG one for me as I struggled to accept my flaws, but I eventually learned from people that I don’t need to prove anything to anyone. Now at almost 28, I don’t give a rat’s ass who doesn’t like me.
I wish I was like you, I want to not care whether people like me or not, it just sort of subconsciously happens :( I keep thinking about the stupid mistakes I did and how that person probably thinks I’m stupid now
Btw im 15
@@Sillygoose434 They most probably didn't even notice and even if they did, It shouldn't bother you!! If something isn't in your control then no need to worry about it. I'm sure you're a wonderful person. Embarassing moments happen to all of us 😵
@@AleeshaPMx thank you, that makes me feel better
Make sure you don t fall into complacency - otherwise that s great!
I take the attitude of "If they're not paying my bills, why should I care what they think?"
That's a good one! - Cindy
So true
It's similar for me. I always think "who has time to care that much about me, they have bills to pay"!
Is that from 'love your natural'?👀 Just asking
@@kayy2510 It might be, it's something I was told once.
Just like: If you care about what other people think, you are literally giving control of your life over to other people. Everyone has a different agenda for who you should be and what you should do and how you should behave. You don't want to be pulled in a thousand different directions and you can't please everybody anyway so be who you are and people can leave if they don't like it.
im such a people pleaser and ive always cared about what other people thought. I end up putting other peoples needs before mine and it SUCKS
I think you're such a beautiful person for doing that. Sometimes, we need to slow down to focus on ourselves first before others.
Same!😢💔
same
1. You need to make it a rule to put your needs ahead of others. It sounds selfish but it's actually practical. If your needs aren't met, how can you help other people adequately? And it's only selfish if you ONLY take care of your own needs. You can always help people after you're in a good position to help, but not before then. Plus everyone else puts themselves first anyway, so everyone will understand.
And don't give what you can't afford to give, including time. If you have to say no, don't feel bad about it. The best way is to say "Sorry, I can't do that because (reason here)." because people are more likely to accept it if you give a good reason. You can then rearrange for a time that's better for you if you want to, or not if you don't want to.
2. Understand that if you care about what people think, you are literally handing power of your life over to other people. Everyone has a different agenda for how you should behave and how you should be. You don't want to be pulled in a thousand different directions at once and you can't please everyone anyway. So stop caring and improve yourself if you can, but only if you want to.
You can do this.
Same thing . I have been there sis 🙁 !!
Summary:
1)Not everyone cares.1:07
2)Who do you want to be. 1:46
3) Accept your flaws. 2:29
4)Be selective about the things you care about. 3:19
5) Accept that not everyone will like you.3:54
6)Take on the challenges. 4:34
thank you so much!
Ty
THANK YOU, I find this helpful because I can serch what I need to know easier, thank you
thank you sm!!
4 is be selective about what you care about
These words have helped me deal with my thoughts!
1) What others think of you is NONE of your business!
2) What others say about you says more about them, than you!
Agreed!
Other people can't know everything about you, they form their own opinion based on little information. So yes it's about them, not you.
If you want to survive you have to care. I almost got killed for not caring what some one thought.
@@MindlessTube sounds like this situation was a really scary thing for you. I’m not referring to abusive issues….
@@cynthialodermeier5291 stuff like this only applies to people living a safe privileged life. Prisoners will not agree. As most now are living privileged lives where survival is a guaranteed thing and stuck with survival instincts.
I saw a post that said “Stop trying to make everyone like you. YOU don’t even like everyone” and that changed my life
How to stop caring what other people think:
1. Realize nobody’s perfect
2. Focus on yourself
3. Imagine that everyone is just like you
4. Remember that everyone will pass away one day
LOL 😆! DAMN!
Savage,
I like it XDDDD
and don't give a f***
Ur comment is so helpful that I've actually screenshot it!!!
THE LAST ONE LMFOOAOA
Ha professional overthinker here. You know that feeling when you are like 'I'm so happy rn there's nothing that could ruin it' then your brain is like 'Um yeah that's nice but remember that one time you did that cringy thing? Everyone probably remembers that even though it was like 8 years ago' yeah
Omg yes! For me it’s this cringy thing I said and I kind of did it again with this boy and I thought he was flirting with me and I’m like chill chill and stuff even though he probs wasn’t even flirting with me😣 I haven’t had a bf yet (I personally don’t want to get into the trap of love then heartbreak it’s a waste of time and I’m still young but there is the pressure of my friends telling me who I’m I going to date and stuff it’s kind of annoying but it whatever lol) anyways this boy left me unread the last time we talked and omg ew it was just cringy. I don’t even want to go into to much details because I write too much lols.
Mmmmmm when ever I try to sleep ಥ_ಥ
@@pelvis4165 every damn night man
In the literature on CPTSD, codependent victims of abuse often suffer from these kinds of emotional flashbacks that are connected to the internal critic. You could have a look at Pete Walker's book on complex PTSD, or visit Richard Grannon's channel.
@@ohno4192 ugh stay true ✊😔
Young people: cares what people thinks of them. Middle age people: Doesn’t care what people think of them. Old people: Realizes no one was ever thinking about them to begin with.
I...don't think that's a generational thing as it varies from person to person. Young or old.
@@NebulaIncandescence As a young person who doesn't care what people think of them, I can attest to your comment.
I only care about what others think of me only if it helps but those are the only opinions I care about
Hahaha. Very true
I'm young with old mind
I’ve always been insecure because I care tooo much about other people’s opinions of me. I literally overthink so much when instances like people saying i laugh too much come, and end up feeling super dumb. But this video made me realize that I’m really just against my own mind and it’s stopping me from doing so many things I want to do.
One thing I learned on accepting myself is to not to hold wrongs against urself. Meaning when you look back at something embarrassing you did , instead of looking down on urself , don't hold that wrong against you. We're all human , we make mistakes
When j make a mistake, I actually laugh it off like genuinely. I really needed this too, thanks Psych2Go
You're welcome! I hope this video is useful! Let us know if you learn anything new - Cindy
Does that help a lot, laughing it off out loud?
Another time traveler
Me to
How could you post this a week ago?!
“Caring about other people is useless most people don’t even know what they think about themselves”
Actually im very shy in school... And becoz of it I can't talk to others .... And so I can't make friends..
Plz tell some ways in which I can make others my friend...
Or what would you do if I say hey to you for the first time in school while you are talking to your friend...? Or how will I make you my friend if you were my classmate? ( These many help me I think)
@@lainiiwakura no problem 😉! The only thing that should be important to you is you . If your too shy ☺️ don’t worry 😉 because I am too . But just don’t loose yourself in that shyness because if you do than there is no way getting yourself back. You know what..... just go and see yourself in the mirror......Look really closely and see. You will find the real you that’s your real friend YOU yourself 😊. As far as making friends is concerned than just go to the person and introduce yourself not proudly, not shyly ( try to ) and when he or she reply’s with a good gesture than GO AHEAD, you made the first good move and on the other hand if he/she gives a bad gesture than leave them alone by ending the interaction with a smile. Try this with different people and there you go you will have someone being friends with you 😉. GOOD LUCK! Yeah and do let me know if it worked ( I mean you know if you want to ).
@@Wolf-lc8tt thank you very much!!!!!!!!!!☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️
@@lainiiwakura 🥰
In my case, being adopted and not having an adult figure tell me that I am beautiful or reassurance that I should accept my inner & outer beauty. We all have special qualities. Thank you for these videos and I have been sharing them all over. Especially to those that cannot afford mental health care. My dad is a retired psychologist. So since I stepped foot on American soil, age 4, I've always seen a therapist.
the more you care what other people think of you, the more you value them and their words. dont give people who make negative remarks YOUR value. its valuable...
One of the best ways overcome first time anxiety is to think that the other person really just doesn't care about what you really do, but what your heart shows though your actions
So as overused as it is
Be you
The better of you
If you're proud, be proud of what you do
If you're creative, show it
If you're determined to do something
Go heckin do it
But above all else
Act as you would want to see yourself in a year from now
That when you look back on yourself being confident
You will feel glad to have done so
❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for your AMAZING advice💛
@Tuesday's Taco same
Great advice doesn't work when you have that in kid that stares at you for every mistake you make.
@@anaj835 well kids are special cases arent they
just relax and tell them that there's a better way of doing things
(Plus lets be honest when you where a kid you didn't really judge adults)
Hey ! Whoever reads this I hope you gain more self-confidence in the beautiful, amazing, talented person you already are! I send much love your way and may you have a wonderful day !
Such a beautiful message, thanks for sharing! - Cindy
@@Psych2go Thank you Cindy! And thank you for sharing the beautiful message of this video
This is literally the channel that helps me get through certain situations
We have your back! Remember tough times are just temporary. It will pass. You got this! I hope this video helps you! We don't often post advice videos because it's quite subjective. However, let us know what you think. Should we do more advice videos? - Cindy
@@Psych2go yes you should definitely do more advice videos
@@Psych2go yes you Should! This is Amazing! I'm in Special ed and I can relate to These Videos!
~ Saturn
@@Psych2go yess you should!
Yep
I'm currently 45. When I was in my 20s, I had crippling anxiety. I wasn't always this way...I do remember coming into the world a confident person, and having been surrounded solely by narcissists my entire life, they managed to eventually erode my defenses over the years.
Fortunately for me, I've always had a good head on my shoulders, and have been able to counsel myself through EVERYTHING. One of the many upsides of being an INTJ. Though I brought myself to the understanding that I had anxiety because I'd been led to care what people thought of me, it still took some more years to work through the insecurities. Intellectual understanding is one thing, and convincing your body of a truth that's the opposite of what you've been conditioned to believe, is another.
Start w/ the mind, and with persistence and diligence, the body will eventually follow. I've overcome my anxiety, and have grown comfortable in my skin. One of the things to look forward to as you grow older and wiser, as long as you're putting in the self-work.
#1 in this list became one of my mantras to remind myself of how people likely weren't thinking about me, so by conditioning myself not to be egocentric (as society tends to teach us to be), I learned to stop magnifying my perceived flaws. One helpful tip is to remind yourself how SMALL & INSIGNIFICANT you are, to keep things in perspective. I mean this in a HEALTHY way, and how you do this is by examining the scope of your existence, next to nature. We're like tiny ants or microbes in the vast universe. Be in nature, or look at nature, and ask yourself how big your own concerns and anxieties are, in comparison. Puts everything in perspective, right?
👏👏i love your perspective
I watched this before I sleep. Now after waking up I feel like 'I don't care if they think I am a bad person, I'm sure they will act nicely infront of me, after all I have some people who loves me" 😊
5:09 This tip is nice. Just today I had to visit a doctor and was having anxiety over how to express my symptoms clearly and what to say and what not to say and in what order. I am very bad at expressing myself and organizing my thoughts on the go. I wrote it down in my journal and then had a clear idea of what to say. I could express myself clearly and was very comfortable!
Congrats!
Yea good for you!👍
Proud of you, buddy.❤
Thanks!
it’s like I wrote this comment myself. i’m the same way
Earlier I used to feel so guilty after getting embarrassed in front of my class by getting scolded or giving a wrong ans😅
Now also sometimes I think abt it a lot..I try not to care about it but..
And I AM TRYING..thank you psych2go
Sending u loads of love♥️
Omg!! This problem is with me also I always cry not because I have wrong answer but what others think like they will think I am dumb😳
@@shobabhat6847 don't think a lot about it..try to avoid it (says the one who can't do it herself😅, but I am trying!!)
Yea but isn't it depressing like everyone knows the answer and only I am there who doesn't know and everyone then judges me..😢
I can ignore my classmate but if your crush is in the same class as you, damn... It feels like i want to buried myself, i can't face him anymore🙈
@@syalamontana2508 can relate🤣🤣
But I don't have crushes anymore...I stopped crushing on someone...coz I couldn't concentrate uk..on my studies
It's better to not have a love life
🤣🤣
I'll better love myself
Here's a small summary!
I've never done time-stamp summaries, so please forgive me if I do it strangely!
0:01 ~ Intro { Fixed for a Few Phone Users }
0:17 ~ Intro Part 2 ♡
1:07 | 1. Not Everyone Cares
1:46 | 2. Who do you Want to be ?
2:28 | 3. Accept your Flaws♡♡
3:19 | 4. Be Selective About the Things you Care About
3:55 | 5. Accept That not Everyone Will Like you
4:35 | 6. Take on the Challenges
6:00 | Outro ♡♡
Thank you Psycho2Go for making this video, and I hope whenever you see this comment, you will have the best day ever! I wish the same for everyone who just so happens to see this, too!
How’d you do that so quick?
Your comment is two weeks old. Hows that possible if video is uploaded recently.
@@WinsomeShe I think there's an option for premium subscription to the channel. Early access to videos is a part of that.
Don't worry, your time stamps were accurate.
Yeah! How is that possible???
I’m not going to care about if someone finds this comment or not, this video helped me out a lot and I’m glad I came across this. Thank you
I love myself unconditionally ❤️🙏❤️ And I am grateful to truly know myself. What people think about me "is none of my business". Lol.. and I can care less what that might be. Self awareness is a blessing ❤️
I always think of what people said to me because I genuinely think what they said about me generally reflect myself, and I don't feel like making a bad impression in front of others and it could be quite stressing. This will help me a lot, thank you!
It's not me who care about other people's negative opinions(I care if I have to)but it's my mom
She kept forcing me to care about everything everyday
Oh...
Well, mine keeps judging people behind their backs, and whenever we're walking around town together, she talks about some people we see, and always gets away with it, cuz we're talking in our first and native language, and I always worry that someone from our country will be just walking by, and know what we're talking about. And, like, I remember that throughout my entire life I've been so scared of what others might think of me, or making a mistake, and nowadays, I kind of suspect that it probably came from my mom judging other people and me...
But nmv... I just wanted to tell someone about it...
My mom keeps making me try to be better than everyone else and I know she's trying to make me try my best, which I think isn't a bad thing, but when she gets angry at me when someone is better than me, even if we have high scores, I feel bad about myself and sometimes become competitive. I'm not necessarily mad at them being better than me because I try my best, but worried about my mom being mad at me.
Yeah, my mom keep complaining i'm being too skinny, my skin is being too dark I shouldn't be out in the sun for too long, staring at my face with a disgusting expression then start talking shit. Like, can you please let me live my life? I used to be quiet but now i said it to my mom that it's because your genetics my body is skinny and i have tan skin. If you hate my appearance that much, pay for my plastic surgery. And she just left. But I am not serious about it, I love my appearance even my acne scars❤ I tried so hard to be beautiful because of my mom, i'm obsessed to have light skin, i'm overeating, but now I don't want it anymore. I love myself thanks to BTS✨
@@syalamontana2508 I'm proud of you. And yeah BTS has helped and is still helping alot of us even if we're all poles apart and that's what I love about them. Than you for not giving up and for loving yourself. You're amazing 💜😊.
Honest, I'm always afraid of my parents. Whenever she walked behind me, my body shiver, and my heart beats faster. Ever since childhood, they have always been controlling my life without me realising it, and now I feel so locked and not free at all from my thoughts towards my parents. I kinda don't like the way that they see and react to things, but I hate myself more for not be able to speak up my mind and my heart to my parents. I hate myself for not liking them, and I hate myself for not being able to be a good child that they want. Sometimes, I just wish I can fasten time so that I can skip to the future and live by my own, without parents watching or controlling me.
When the popular kids at school bullied me for being a shy nerd it made me more of a shy nerd. I also found out that I was allowing their words to hurt me by apparently caring so much. So I figured that it was my fault that I was allowing their words to hurt me. That knocks my confidence and self respect big time
I was someone who always cared a lot about what others thought of me, and I always tried to take into consideration how a person might see my actions and choices whenever I interacted with them. I tried not to let on that I was, but I would think a great deal on my actions to self-reflect on if I could have offended someone or not, or acted out in a way I shouldn't have. To contrast, I had a best friend for many years who was the exact opposite to me. Their catch phrase was "I don't care" and they ended up saying it a lot. They weren't diagnosed as having anti-social behavior disorder, but a lot of their behavior could have been considered disruptive of social norms or social environments. They would act out boldly and loudly all the time and in contrast I was incredibly easily embarrassed and would shrink back at the idea of having so much focus and attention on myself. They were still my best friend, so I tried to forgive them for who they were, because I cared about them. Sometimes it was hard. I always got frustrated at when they said they didn't care, it was usually at a time when I would have felt guilt and shame and asked what I did wrong and tried to make up for it, if I tried to tell them what they did wrong it was, "I don't care", and I couldn't understand why they would be that way when it was hurting them and hurting the people around them. So many wrongs in the world are committed by people who don't care, and to me I ended up developing an attitude that it's better to prevent problems than to ask for forgiveness, contrary to that saying, "It's better to ask for forgiveness than permission", because I had decided I would rather be cautious than to hurt people and find out that I'd crossed a line and they would no longer forgive me for it. So, to me, not caring is not always a solution, so I agree with selective caring. I was both sensitive and insensitive at times because sometimes I wouldn't take things personally, sometimes you just have to let some things go if they're not directly damaging and can be avoided, but other times, other times if I saw something I considered to be a great injustice I would face it head on like a bull with it's horns laid low to charge. I was stubborn in that way, but it used to be something I was proud over. I enjoyed the idea of defending people from injustices and the idea of the injustices of the world would make me angry. So I did care, I tried to care, very much, and I may not have always been perfect about it, even when I got stubborn I could still be reasoned with. I just didn't like to give in to emotional manipulation and people trying to control me. Plenty of people would rather manipulate than own up to the consequences of their actions. It's inherently selfish.
same :/
Here's the summary-
1. Not everyone cares
2. Who do you wanna be?
3. Accept your flaws
4. Be selective of the things you care about
5. Expect that not everyone will like you
6. Take on the challenges
I'm in love with her voice... I swear I watch all her vids again and again just to hear her voice, it's so soothing
Thank you! Amanda has an amazing voice! We have uploaded some of her music cover on this channel. Feel free to give it a watch too! - Cindy
4:52 - Exactly word for word that's me! "I worry about ending up looking like a fool because of a mistake" and it's not delusional. I have in fact ended up looking like a fool many times and I take way more time to learn new things and I struggle with tasks that others find easy.
same here 🙋🏻♀️
That will never stop for me, i really cant stop closely inspecting what ppl say about me and it makes me think terribly about myself.
"People are too busy with their own life, they're not thinking about you"_ Ryan Holiday
Actually im very shy in school... And becoz of it I can't talk to others .... And so I can't make friends..
Plz tell some ways in which I can make others my friend...
Or what would you do if I say hey to you for the first time in school while you are talking to your friend...? Or how will I make you my friend if you were my classmate? ( These many help me I think)
@@lainiiwakura Simply just be yourself, and stop worrying too much
So selfish and conceited
@@Missmagazinebura this is for the people who think that everyone is watching every move they're making and start overthink about it.
I always felt angry and hurted by people's opinions, I always wanted to stop caring these things, ty
A very important thing to remember is to accept feedback from other people (friends, family, or strangers!) always remember that you can either accept their advice or ignore it. I (evidently) have an unusually high self esteem from a young age and I’ve always made sure that I let others know I heard them and either chose or did choose to put that advice into action. If someone has a negative view of you or insults you, (especially if using a curse word!) confront them about it. If someone cussed me out, I make sure that they know what those curse words mean. (Look em up!) Always remember that you’re pretty awesome no matter what. Think highly of yourself and remember that you simply have to not care about what others think.
I definately see myself in this one! I was bullied very badly as a child and so had to teach myself not to show any reaction especially not fear. I became very good at this but it meant i could never relax and didn't deal with the trauma and pain that built up inside over a very long time. I built a very cynical and sarcastic defensive personality because of this and as an adult have been told i'm difficult to talk to. I care so much what other people think because i can't deal with all the criticism i had as a child. I find withdrawing from the world keeps me from having to try.
I've been struggling on trying to remember to not give a fudge of what will happen or what will not happen and just go with the journey you're on. I take meditation to calm myself down and I pray to God to give me the strength and the power to get to where I need to be. To college and Los Angeles to go after my dreams
Needed this today. Today my coworkers talked behind my back and someone who was involved in the conversation told me about it and the reason is because I was being nice and helping another employee they dislike. I went to my car during lunch break and cried because I'm always stuck with negative people ever since when I was young. But I came back from break and decided to go back to my usual real self which left them confused.
Wow I can't say enough about how important this content is. Throughout my family there have been a number of people with various mental health issues. All of them just amazing sincere people that just want to live their lives and they have great hearts but are misunderstood. I'm over 50 now and the best I can tell my kids, and the other young people in our family. is, I hope they can reach a point in their lives that they just don't give a s*** what people think. It is very liberating! I wish I had this information so many years ago. Another thing I've always said is 'Live and let live'! And certainly in this day and age this approach applies 'he who is without flaws, let him throw the first stone' 🤔 Thanks for what you do! 😊👍
A lot of the time it’s hard for me to keep this stuff in mind. I’m working on it though. We just have to continue consciously doing these things and we can get through it. Even if it’s not 100% of the time.
It’s hard for me to let go of people hating me, I’m a people pleaser and i can’t even begin to wonder what it’s like to not care
I agree, I don't care if people hate me or not.
I know me too
How to stop care what others think
1. Don’t put your identity into their opinions
2. Find your own personal passions/interests.
3. Accept that not everyone will like you
4. Be selective about what you choose to care about.
And don’t care about because some people are meaner when I don’t care
number 3 i honestly relate the most
Everyone thinks of me as “the smart kid” if i get more than 3 answers wrong, my parents would lecture me on being irresponsible, i want to meet their expectations but sometimes i just can’t, and they would be so surprised on me getting A 90% or an 89%, But now since i know who i am and what my flaws are, i try to better them or accept them, i won’t be so bothered about what people think.
I gave up on what people think of me. Loving 🥰 yourself is more important than what others think.
When you worry about what people think, you can’t take rejection, so when you think about it rejection isn’t really a bad thing because that’s just their opinion about you, you’ll know how to deal with it and plus it helps you to improve and not make the same mistake all over again.
Everyday I've been trying to go out for a run for three weeks now, and I never went because I'm really scared of passing by people, for some reason. I know I shouldn't care this much, but I just have this huge feeling that I'm not safe outside. And that if nobody validates me and says I'm allowed to go running, then I'm just not allowed to. I do try to change my thinking and like, push through my anxiety but it's such an overwhelming feeling that I just can't handle.
That actually sucks lol, because I love being outside, especially in nature and near water. I'll.. try again tomorrow, I guess, with these points in mind. Thank you for this video♡
Same. My body will automatically freeze to do things that are not commonly done. I don't even overthink. My body and mind would just refuse to do it. I also feel awkward to run in a park if very few are running. I just implicitly feel weird to run when others are walking.
Same was for wearing mask. When COVID had just arrived in our country(less than 100 cases nationally) and no one was wearing mask inside the class I felt extremely awkward to wear mask when others weren't. But now wearing mask is not awkward for me cause everyone wears it all the time outside their house. It's also prob due to the fact that I have a kind of trauma of being bullied in school for being the odd one out. Class mates used to take my cap and throw it around. Once I carried a bag with a big zip and was bullied for that. A girl even slapped me for that! I felt very ashamed. Both these stories are from when I was very little, in primary school. But experiences of those times shape us a lot.
PS: Thank you very much for sharing your experience here. It was very brave. It helped me to relate and made me comfortable. Also isn't it easier to share anything anonymously on internet! Internet's the best thing!
Just do it.
Same here...then when you're passing by people it's like you don't even remember how to walk... anyway places near nature are the best! I'm actually really scared of going out for a run, but I've been trying to do it for some weeks too...I was almost giving up but you know what? I'm gonna try again, so hey, don't give up, I know you can do it!!! Something that helps me is to remember "people don't look at you do as much as you think they do" so try to breathe, and if you think it's too much, go home and try to relax, at least you will know that you did something nice that you've been trying to do for a long time!
You're doing the right thing! Try to get out of your comfort zone but not too much and your body will slowly change (this is my opinion haha)
Well i don't know if this would help but try taking cold showers, they're gonna make you hella scared, specially if you start with your chest and stomach but it will make you braver which will help through life in general, this might help solve your problem, again MIGHT
Alright, this is something I have to do, I have to pour my heart out here.
I’ve been feeling a bit more sad than usual, and all of the videos on this channel have been lifting my spirits, I especially needed to go here today.
Now, you all may find it cringey because I’m sharing something so private on the Internet, but this happened a little while ago and I’m still not having a good time.
I learned a little while ago that my best friend just almost died, and got out of the hospital today. This really helped me get up, thank you, I’m still shaking as I’m writing this, (because I can’t fully calm down about the most important person in my life almost dying like that.) but it helps.
The best thing I did was to make my brain embrace the thought of defending myself if needed. Not to seek out confrontation but to be ready for it. I´m not fully there yet but way better!
"The subtle art of not giving a f- not giving an f"
I love that so much lol
Have you read the book before? :)
SAME LMAO
I've been looking for new literature to read.
My high school days: I had seizures and cared way too much what others thought and my mom always said “just do whatever makes YOU happy.”
5 years later: I’m seizure free and care much less what others think. But when my mom dislikes a choice I make she now says “people will think your crazy!” Lol.
I have seizures Ashley. I told my mental health provider. That's the only person I told. I tried to tell my pcp. He said no that's no seizure.
I don’t care about what some random people would think about me. The only hard thing for me is that I care too much for people close to me, and I'm constantly afraid of bothering them. I don’t know how to find a balance between being truthful to yourself and caring for your loved one’s feelings.
I accidentally read "what owners think of you" and I thought this is a video for cats.
Lol 😆 😆 😆
lol
As if cats need help not caring
@@blainefiasco8225 true lol
what helped me is that most people are worried about themselves and how people see themselves instead of how they see you
I have a habit of overthinking things that should come naturally to me. I think that it helps to remind yourself of the things you can control and the things you can’t. All that you can do is your best.
Well it is quite extremely hard to try to be yourself when you are in situation where your own parents and family, the people that are so supposed to be supporting, protecting, loving, or giving you guidance are the people who are causing you nothing but pain.
When you feel like everything is against you, when you feel helpless and have no choice but to give in to their demands, when you have absolutely so choice but to "deal with it".
I am 18, broke with no job, my parents still make do there bidding and I am trying stay strong and find a way to leave.
This is the story of my life.
I know there are people who are in a way worse situation that I am in, but I hope that everyone who are struggling with something (even if it isn't as bad as others, it matters) they can't control can be rid of that situation, it isn't the end of the world, you have so much to live for, just be patient no matter how bad it gets.
Love you all and I hope my words have helped in anyway!
Stay strong! 💖
(Btw, I don't mind what pronouns you refer to me as. 😊)
Something inside tells me all the time that everyone is better than me, so I need their validation... I don´t know why I´m writing this, but hopefully I´m not the only one. I´m not even able to act like I´m a people pleaser, because that´s too selfish of me... ahhh!! lol
Trust me man your not the only one I feel the same it sucks but we have to remember that no one is perfect no matter how much someone may appear perfect we are all battling demons that no one knows about.
I scare myself into not being confident because I am sensitive and I often pay attention to other people and what they act or look like. Because I sometimes think a little harshly I constantly consider “what if they think about me like this too?” and it's just holding me in place, fretting over every little thing I do since I always need to evaluate others looks and attitude.
U was bought up with "what would the neighbours think" can't shake it sometimes I really needed this today thank you
I used to have this problem when I was a child and teen. I cared too much. I thought helping my classmates out with whatever they needed was beneficial. Eventually, however, it got to the point where they started to take advantage of my good nature and only approached me when they wanted something from me, ranging from wanting to copy off my homework to making me buy things for them. I was too blind to notice that they only came to me when they needed something from me. I started to resent them and walked on eggshells around them.
Sometimes the niceness that you show to others comes at the cost of your own happiness and well-being. Sometimes being nice gets to the point where others start to take advantage of your kindness and use your good nature against you.
This is literally the perfect time , and for me I ALWAYS think about someone's opinion about me . Thanks psych2go I love you guys
You're very welcome! We don't often post advice videos because it's quite subjective. However, let us know what you think. Should we do more advice videos? - Cindy
@@Psych2go, Yes! You should totally make more of these!
@@Psych2go Totally OK! Not only knowing the subject going behind the problems but also, giving advices make me feel warmer. Like the viedeo says: "There will be always people who likes it!"
😌😌😌
@@Psych2go mhm!
@@Psych2go yes definitely!
I constantly feel bad for myself because I say things that hurt others because I get mad at everyone because of my depression and then others criticize me... I kind of do this unconcious and when ppl begin to criticize me I isolste from everyone and cry because of the acts I do without knowing.
0:00 intro
1:08 1. Not everyone cares
1:45 2. Who do you want to be?
2:27 3. accept your flaws
3:18 4. Be slective about the things you care about
3:54 5. accept that not everyone will like you
4:34 6. Take on the challenges
5:09 one way to deal with anxieties about messing up
5:32 outro
Im not trying to be Mr. Grammarly of anything but you misspelled “intro”
Don’t attack me for this 😭
this is so helpful. i used to think people didn’t really have an opinion on me/liked me until i heard a group of people talking about me. it hurt and i thought it through as best as i could but it’s still been on my mind since. this helped me to believe that it’s normal for people not to like me :)
I hate it when it comes to anxiety why do I always worrying 🙄.
But I calm down whenever I watch this.
I've always felt like i needed to avoid dressig the way i wanted to and keep certain interests a secret out of fear of being rejected by long time friends or even my parents. Its been a long, long journey but i think I'm finally making progress toward learning how stop caring now that I'm 21 and am starting to come to terms with my own mortality and what it means to make the most of life with what little youth we have. My internal obsession with acceptance and perfection became so unhealthy that i still catch old bad habits like apologizing for small mistakes or wanting to physically hurt myself over past humiliating memories rather than learn from them. Videos like these may not seem like much to some, but they're one of the few sources of support and motivation when you live out your golden years under other's expectations and finally want to break away and live for yourself.
I just love how aesthetic the animation is
Thank you so much! Is this your favorite animation so far?
Hey, maybe I can stop caring how I look on Zoom classes now! (Unlikely... but worth a shot!)
I have real classes now
Oh gosh, that's so anxiety inducing! I'm constantly fixing the angle my head is at so I look the least stupid haha
Oh my god that's exactly my thoughts
Let us know if it works :)
How's it going now?
I'm crying while watching this. Cause I've been noticing the opinion from others about me for a long time to the point that it makes me overwhelm and being negative about myself. Regret doing that.
Just had a mental breakdown bc my relatives were making fun of me and about things that I can't do as a girl and now I'm here, wish me luck guys. I wannabe mentally strong this year
Thanks For The Video!
I Don't Really think that after this video I will stop caring about how others think of me but I will try 💕
Wait how is your comment 2 weeks ago
This channel really know how to read my mind.
Just a few minutes ago,I felt really insecure about my fat body and how others think about me especially my friends.I'm an overthinker person so I often overthink about what small things and gets anxiety too much.
Not to be creepy or weird, but I've always liked fat women. Not everybody isn't beautiful, but fat women are the most beautiful people in this entire world to me. I never understood why i liked fat women.
It’s hard to stop caring what others think when they always comment or ask about my life ... it’s not as easy to just change my surroundings either. The same fear of failure is what keeps me chained in the same place:(
There’s no way I made this comment 4 weeks ago I do not remember watching this vid 😳 but I have made progress! Don’t give up:) keep going you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I will admit I am feeling low rn but even the progress that I made is better than where I was last time. I wish I could go back in time to tell myself that it’s okay and I will be okay but I can’t, so this is the next best thing
I really could have needed that a few days ago.
I am thankful for this video being out today, even if I am out of it.
While all of those points are valid, I just wish to add other points:
1 - Lower you expectations
It's not easy when you care too much about people, and you want to make first impressions, but while not everyone may not like you, not expecting them to not like you, or to like you can unburden yourself from having to feel anxious and work so hard to please people.
2 - Set manageable goals
We all want to do something and be recognized for the work that we put in, but we often focus too much on the finish line and this can be a cause for stress. Breaking down those into small manageable goals can reduce stress, and also temper your expectations of what something should look like. Be kind to yourself!
3 - Know when to distance yourself from what is happening
There will always be people who will feel like they have a say in what you do, and it can feel oppressive, which can cause you to care about what they said in ways that force you to look into yourself negatively. Knowing when to distance yourself from what is happening, and calmly assessing your own personal mental state is a good way can help with that. Most of the time, it is because THEY care too strongly that you end up taking their words to heart, so keep in mind that what's going on may have more to do with them than with you at times.
4 - Remember that not everything that you may read or hear from others is actually how it is meant to be read
Have you ever read a comment, or someone else's words in the wrong way, and then, when you read it again another day, it sounds completely different and it makes you feel a bit silly for overreacting? That's a part of what's called Projection, and it has a huge part to play in every single one of our interactions. We are wired to interpret things that we dislike unconsciously, and to reject those interpretations by throwing them onto the others and reacting. It doesn't mean that you are a bad person for doing it, because everybody else is doing it. Ask questions. It never hurts to be more understanding, and it can open you to a perspective that you've not acknowledged before.
All of these also have to do with what people say about you that can cause you to care about what they say.
I hope it can help others.
My favorite thing about some of Psych2Go's videos is that they put you in a good mindset. Like, im just about to go to sleep, and now I can do it without worrying about anything because ive still got all this fresh in my head
"What do you want to do? You're the master of you. And isn't the thought enough to lift you off of the ground?"
-- Steg from Steven Universe: The Movie
I miss su
I really love this video, I wish it was here when I was in middle school. Maybe it was my fault for doing it, I really don't know, but I'm a very smiley person and I guess because it was like positivity was the only emotion I had; that's what everyone personified me as. Just, "The Preppy Girl who Helps People". It was sweet to be seen like that, of course! But, I didn't realize how much pressure that pit on me. If I showed any other emotion like fear, or sadness, the circle around me would look at me like I was a stranger. And if I didn't do something for one of my peers, they'd dangle "wow, I thought you were nice" over my head until I relented. This cycle literally carried out from 6th grade all the way to my Freshman year; and me pressuring myself to fit everyone's expectations was burning me out. I'm still working on it right now, not caring what people thinks or trying to people please. But somedays, I find myself back at square one.
2:15 .. What do you want: “ I just want to be happy “ .. 😢
Make the choice and decision to be happy right now, that's how you be happy.
"There WILL be people who will accept all of you. People who will be supportive, and kind. These are the people who deserve to walk with you"
:)
I care enough on making a good impression but I will not go over board on making others like me. I will always be myself around people. If they like me, then they like me. Otherwise, I could care less if they don't like me. I am who I am, and I will not change for anyone.
Hello Pysch2Go I just wanted to say thank you!! I’ve learned more about anxiety and depression because of this channel and today I got put on medicine for it by my doctor. If it wasn’t for this I wouldn’t have known the warning signs and I wouldn’t have told my doctor about how I think I have mental health issues. Thank y’all!!!
You're very welcome! Thank you for your comment! I'm so happy to hear our videos has made a positive impact on your life. You got the help you needed from the doctor. It's important to talk to a professional about things we are going through. It's not easy, but once you do. You will feel so much better! Stay strong! - Cindy
@@Psych2go Thank you so much!! ☺️💖
The animation is cuutee as alwayss❤️
Thank you! Naphia is the best. Will share your comment to her! - Cindy
@@Psych2go Yes she is😁!!!
PS: wow, I'm surprised and happy that you saw my comment...liked and replied..woww..lucky😁😁
"This is me" woo ooh woo ohh💖
don't let someone else's opinion of you become your reality -Les Brown
I've been going through this stage for a very long time and it really hurts everytime I think of what people might think of me but now I learn that being me is something I love to do with my life
I love that ! 🥰
Thank you for making a video like this. It has really helped in how to not focus on what people will think of me, because for a long time, I have always worried on what people will think of how I dress or how i act or what i like and even how i do stuff. This was very helpful for me and I will make sure to use those tips. I love your channel a lot and I hope it grows big so that everyone can see it and make it help them in day to day life ❤️.
I really needed this thank you so much..I'm trying to overcome my anxiety and depression and your videos helps me a lot❤️
You literally came at the right time thank you!
You're welcome! Let us know what you think about this video 💕 - Cindy
I usually don't comment on videos, but I just have to thank you in some way or form. I'm a very anxious person and I care what others think about me and I always overthing stupid stuff I said. When I get like that my temperature rises, and this video actually calmed me down. I hope everyone is having a lovely day btw 💜
Can we pause for a minute and admire the amazing drawings...
My facebook nickname literally have the word "careless" in it as i am known among my friends that i pretty much don't care about what's going on around me or what others think of me. This led me to break free of traditional environment chakles and i was able to persue what i want and eventually get out of my country and work in a job that matches my passion. You can get an idea of what i do by checking my channel ( not really self promoting lol )
Now this doesn't mean i don't care about my loved ones like parents, family in general and friends. No! It's just that i don't let others opinion define me.
Thank you guys for the awesome content !
Who else here had read 'The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a F*ck' . 😃
Not many here. But at least i have read the book
gave up half way through 🤣. I will continue it now that I have been reminded
Yesss!! That is a very good book to read! - Cindy
Is it a good book?? Should I buy it??
@@Itsbxbynas there's audiobook available on TH-cam if you want to check it out
To the early squad reading this, giving a huge shout-out to you. Love yourself
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You just got a sub !
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@@ameliaandwatson yw
@[·Vintxge Vibez·] I don't see what's wrong with it tbh. they're literally saying "hey I have a youtube channel come check it out if ya want" and if you don't want to... just ignore it. you're getting angry over basically nothing
I recently started to not care about what others think, nor having all eye on me and I noticed that i started to become more confident and "social".
There is still a long journey i have to go through but you know, just a few small steps can drastically improve you.
As a psych students and I admit that I always think about how other people think about me. It helps a lot. Thankss 🥰