Apology Languages
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The five apology languages are:
1. Expressing regret
2. Genuinely repenting
3. Making restitution
4. Requesting Forgiveness
5. Accepting responsibility
How do you like someone to say sorry to you?
How do you say sorry?
How do you apologize?
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Endscreen Music by Jared Brady "Lost Myself"
Do Shan and Jared just get prettier and more in love every video or is it just me?
issa fact at this point.
Nah it aint just you!!
“It’s freakin water yo” the Toronto shordy jumped out😂
Why is this the first time in my life that I am hearing the term apology language??! This has just changed my life looool! I just placed a preorder of the book, I'm excited and here for it!
Dellyyyyyyyyyy my sweet gyal thank you a million this is so damn kind
@@shanboody I appreciate your content so much, and continue to support because I believe in your work. Its important for women. Its important for everyone. 🖤
Shan BOODY This is Random But you and hubby are a beautiful mixed couple Rarely see this Dynamic and it’s refreshing 💕
the guy who wrote the 5 love languages has a book on it and I totally recommend if you want more details and stories of couples
UPDATE: SCAM. She never emails the Turn-on Trigger quiz. This is just a game of her desire to get more attention after her website makes you subscribe. My friend said she did it two years ago and was never sent the quiz either. The other quizzes are on national sites and are real. Don't waste your time subscribing to someone fake
I always say, I don't want an apology, I want acknowledgement. Apologizing doesn't always translate, acknowledgment of the situation and what happened ALWAYS helps
This is really clear amber
Ya whoever is scrolling thorugh the comments I hope you have a phenomenal day. Get ya bread and all the crumbs too. Stack and act broke Ladies and Gents :) 😤🤟🏾
Owolabby Azeez Thanks! & Wishing you the same!💕
Thank you and same to you also !! Have a awesome week !
"Stack and act broke" 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I really needed that, thank you and I wish you a better day than yesterday...but hopefully a greater tomorrow 🥰
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Was that opening scene real? Because if it wasn’t, then that acting was A1! 👌🏾
I got the answer at the end, so A1 is the final answer!
kivigray0423 no it wasn’t
But it’s ok cause I love them
They probably had the argument before and reenacted it
The argument was so authentic to their personalities lol
I thought the acting in the beginning was so good I actually thought you included a clip of a real fight..
And this topic was so interesting!
My apology language is definitely the repentance one. As soon as I hear my partner say “I’m sorry, I’ll make a conscious effort to not do this next time” I instantly feel better
Yay! It took a few tries but we got there
And Blanca I love how clear you made your needs
Blanca Nieves Art bruh I got scared cause I ain’t never seen Jared like kinda pissed before hahaha
@@shanboody I thought it was a real fight too. I was like wowww Shan really out here sharing all parts of her relationship exposing the good bad and the ugly foreal 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Idk why she isn’t in the millions don’t get it! We need to help push her brand guys!!
When the wig got snatched 😂 I can’t take them 🤣
love this because it applies to any relationship whether its romantic or otherwise
very true
You are a heaven sent. You’re like a life coach throwing a manual on how to communicate with my partner effectively.
I'm shook from that wig scene 😂 I thought your hair was naturally big this whole time
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She used to have long curly hair, I guess she cut it.
i knew i was extensions, but i wasn't expecting that... I spit out my drink!
My dad and I argued about something I failed to do. I brought up an unrelated matter in defense. After watching this video, I can see where I went wrong
Andrew this is why I do TH-cam so cool
Literally was in an argument with my husband when I watched this video. THANK YOU!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Yo this was spot on! Thank you for this. I communicate well, but never considered someone's apology language.
I hope my future husband watches your videos
Am here🤷♂️😅😂
My last argument was with my manager. I got upset when he started passive aggressively criticizing me and my coworkers to a took some shots back at him. That wasn't the first time he did that so I was fed up.
Last argument was to this narcissist that I was dating. He was trying to provoke my anxiety and I called him out on it and we never spoke again lol
Wow!! I didn't know that there were apology languages. It makes so much more sense now
My last argument was with my mother, about passion in a relationship. To her passion is jealousy, violence, and screaming at one another, and I thought she had gone mad😆
These are so helpful not only for self-knowledge but a bonding tool for both in a relationship. Brilliant for putting it all in one place.
Clicked so fast. I loveeeeee your videos, you have no idea how much they have shaped the type of person I am❤️
this video deserves a thousand million likes and shares, shannnnn GIRLLLLLL you just validated what I've been trying to get my partner to understand FOR YEARSSSSSSSS. im about to send her a break up email and attach this video as a resource for her to watch and take notes. you came through with the come through
Well this is getting me to preorder. After 4 years in this thing I finally softened to loving and grateful and the change in him is whoa. What I do know is every argument has added to the wall because I don't feel heard plus I'm often chastised, so boom, baby, ya got me here.
Thanks, Shan.
Last argument was about how he's has been treating me! He's distant and claiming hes busy never have time for me. Always making promises but never pull through when I need him. Ever since this relationship all I do is cry. I want to walk away but then I feel like I'm giving up on him when he shows me he doesnt care at all!!!
Going to purchase the book
Been working through the workbook and after each quiz I'm like OH that's why it didnt work out with this person. Lol, you're doing God's work Shan, thank you 💖
My last *literally yesterday * argument with my partner was that he didn't ask for the time off necessary to go to a concert to one of my favorite artists, I had bought tickets for back in February, concert is June 5th. Since we are long distance, things have to be planed out long in advance, but his family vacation that's almost 2 weeks later took priority.
THE WIG SUITS SHAN SO.MUCH,, I NEVER EVEN REALISED IT WAS FAKE ONG
I love ur content. The applogy language is something everyone should understand. Thanks for helping. My husband and I's disagreements are normally due to language and cultural barriers but listening is a prerequisite to understanding
I agree apology languages are important because conflict is inevitable!!!
Finally someone that understands 😩
I always wondered why I felt like saying sorry is just not enough but I could never put my finger on it. My boyfriend told me many times that I should just accept an apology and move on so I did but always hold on to the pain.. now after your video it makes so much sense
Our last argument was about me not wanting to get busy because I didn't feel comfortable. Comfortable to me means feeling clean and I didn't know he was coming home so I had been lazing around in my pajamas all day with my hair looking wild and breath smelling like garlic since I had just had pasta. He took it personally and took some shots. I was attempting to be understanding until he said something out of line and I snapped back.
He apologized this morning though. Haha.
Timing on this was perfect! Last argument was about setting work boundaries and fully unplugging when taking time off from work. We work in the same profession so we definitely understand the work demands and environment. We do have pretty great communication but there’s always room to grow!
The wig!!!! The wig cracked me all the way up!!!! 🤭🤭
I preordered your book! You’ve helped me through some truly tough times..
Daniiiii youn sweet sweet ting thank you
YOU DESERVE SO MUCH MORE CLOUT. YOUR CONTENT IS SO FRUITFUL!! LOVE YOU SHAN 🥰
Another banger 🔥 Love ur vids Shan
When your hair came off, I died 😭✌🏾
This was fantastic. I just ended a relationship because we kept having conflicts over the fact that he was making excuses not to support me or make any sufficient efforts and it might have helped somewhat if we had both tried to understand this. Given my situation, I would definitely say that my apology language is making restitution because to me, an apology means that you're not gonna do something again. Definitelyyyy agree that your partner needs to feel resolved. He would give out to me for 'circular arguments' but, the reason I continued to address something is because I felt dismissed and I needed him to actually understand why it was bothering me and actually feel heard. Great video! Reminded me a bit of studying dispute resolution in my law degree.
I needed this ! I'm the same way take ownership before we move on.
Last argument: I didn't tell him something first before I told someone else , so I deflected and told him he didn't care anyways...to shut the conversation down because I already knew where it was headed and in the moment I didn't want to be bothered with his feelings because I feel like hasn't been considering mine lately
Ugh I've missed your videos, and that opening scene had me so worried lol
My last argument was about me feeling as though I wasn’t getting much of his time & attention. He explained to me that he was busy and fitting me in his schedule when he can, & I had to explain to him that I feel as though the interest isn’t mutual
I love how down your husband is to get involved in your videos and be silly and get outside his comfort zone :)
Strangle me with one of Jared's curls.
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Shan, I gotta say I'm sorry. I use to think a lot of your advice was, well let's just say, it wasn't what I was expecting, but this advice right here is EXCELLENT !!
I didn’t know about this. Thank you very much. I’m trying to build a healthy relationship and those kinds of videos are helpful.
Jared’s hair is goals🤩
Ooooooh love this new song by Jared at the end! Also this video is so interesting. I never thought about what my apology language is but I definitely think it’s accepting responsibility for me. I’m gonna take the quiz asap
Our last argument was between my husband and I and it was about me losing my phone at the fair 🤷🏽♀️
I had no idea y'all were acting in the opening. And the amount of effort going in to this book is really impressive.
This is what I always seek from my partner when he's done something, he does feel responsible takes it way too far to an extent I never said, implied or wanted...instead he gets angry at himself and starts self-loathing, spiralling downwards in his head. I never end up feeling satisfied or understood from a real apology but terrified and so upset by his response to stressful things. When he sees what wrong he did, and I ask why he did what he did or point out what made me feel a certain way, and just want to hear he understands how it made me feel and to tell me he will not do it again or try not to, he instead focuses on feeling guilty as if I'm speaking to just tell him off and not a discussion. It's like he punishes himself. When he gets very overwhelmed he scratches his face and scalp hard that it leaves red marks, pulls at his hair, punches his face and in the most recent episode his arm was even shaking... I end up crying and pushing aside whatever it was we were talking about and my own feelings to calm him down. I'm not saying that this reaction doesn't show he's not sorry and at that point that doesn't become my concern till again after. His inability to cope with anxiety stress and guilt is super unhealthy and makes me feel as though I will never have a satisfied understanding or apology from a argument or even just a serious discussion. I am aware some partners hurt themselves as a means of control but this is not the same, I think this might be an issue related to his childhood in which his dad and grandad raised him and were cold and harsh (in traditional Asian culture it's normal to hit your kids but they also would verbally make him feel like shit). In the recent episode (it's not often) he kept on repeating something softly it sounded something like "don't hit me or don't hate me"...I really don't know accurately what it was he said (I have never hit him), but this is making me feel that it is Psychlogical and he needs to see the GP. Sorry for this long comment...
His issues sound bigger than you. Definitely professional help worthy
You’re doing so well Shan! I really respect your work. Thank you for this👌🏽
I figured out that when I fuck up, people respond more when I thank them first and then apologize. Like if I'm late I'll start with thank you for waiting or thank you for being patient, I'm sorry I'm late. So with the first part I already try to genuinely aknowledge what they had to because of me do or how I hurt them.
Your content is so valuable. 👌
I really love you put Jared’s music in your videos
I love that he’s down for it! I love that he edits my videos and is down to be in em. Proud that we can work together to push both of our individual goals together
Very informative video. Acting skills on point.🙂
Last argument was with a friend/co-worker who got flirty and in my personal space when I was going through a hard time. He asked me some super personal questions just as I was leaving. A couple of months later I was going to ask him out and found out he just decided on an arranged marriage. I told him I didn't appreciate a one sided conversation when I was busy and hurting from some other stuff, and then find out there was a deadline I wasn't informed on.
We just got into an agreement about a janga block with a note on it saying kick em out..... I had a house warming party and a couple of co works threw me one. I was gifted janga blocks and a vase for them to go into, once everyone wrote a nice quote or warm words etc. This one in particular caught his eye... "kick em out" bc b4 the house warming party that morning we had a hugh argument that neither of us remember.. fast forward to the party, he walked in from work and didnt speak to anyone.. whole everyone were writing down there " warm welcoming " they found it was rude that he didn't speak so they thought upon themselves to right that on a janga block.
So me and him argued about that. I apologize to him, he just didnt understand if I knew they put it in why keep the block there..
My last argument was actually today. Today makes it 1 year & 8 months and it means everything to me because this is my first long term relationship. We haven’t really spend this day like that this past year because we both have busy life’s. However, I do text or call him to express my love for him and reflected together as a relationship. Today argument I was bother at the fact he didn’t text or call me to express his love or wanted to reflect this past month. And I take full ownership because my emotions did take over the argument. What I mean by that is that every time he trying to speak I would over talk him and I realized at that moment that it wasn’t going no where in the argument. Honestly, in any disagreement that I have in my relationship I’m the one that accept responsibility. Cause I know I take something small and turn them into bigger arguments. When it wasn’t evening like that from the beginning, it just a lack of misunderstanding.
MY LAST ARGUMENT was with my ex because he wants the hoodies back that he got for me but I want to keep them!! Because I like them and even if I decided to get rid of them, I would sell them to make money. We’ll see what happens .
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!!!! SHANNON I LOVE YOU!!!!! JARED I LOVE YOU TOO!!!! I love watching your relationship 😍 You both truly inspire me and put sooo much into perspective for me regarding my own personal relationships. NEVER STOP CREATING CONTENT I will always be a supporter ❤️❤️
Holy shit where has this info been my whole life this could have saved me several years of pain. Thank you!
The last argument, I asked him to share when he was hanging out with his female friends. Ended the relationship.
My last argument with my man was when he didn't like the way I asked him to come downstairs and I was bothered because I did what he does/we do to each other all the time. P.s I need this workbook and ... when he snatched your wig 🤣 another great video
My last fight was about a girl he used to have feelings for, they used to be very close friends and a year ago he followed her on Instagram. From that day they talk, they catch up and till this day he still has her on social media. After many attempts for a whole year he still has not done anything about it. He says his happy to stop talking and meeting up with her but still wants to have her on insta to see how she is in life.
Last argument was about me wanting a friendship before jumping into a relationship ... heck to the NO will I be giving up my custom body and soul out for free, shooot it ain’t on clearance and I will not settle...
Last argument: the same argument we’ve been having. Helping with the baby. My boyfriend and I have an almost 10 month old and my boyfriend feels like it’s my parents, his mom, and my responsibility to take care of her. He doesn’t say it but that’s what his actions show. We’re still fighting about it now and I just don’t think there will be a break through.
My last argument with bae was about communication and prioritizing me in that. I don’t feel important being the last person he speaks to every night. I’d rather be the first.
Wow! The coincidence of this video! I was just having this discussion with my best friend because I felt like I didn't know what to do when I have been apologizing to my partner, but she still felt like I wasn't genuine. I was totally confused, until I talked about it to my bff and realized, my partner's apology language is direct and she likes when I apologize for my wrong doings in detail and reassure her it won't happen again. While mine is, apologize , how can we not make the same mistake twice and let's work on fixing the issue while eating a pizza ! lol
Last argument was actually about feeling emotional distance from a person.
I think you have to accept that sometimes you won't get an apology as annoying as it is. Otherwise you won't let go of anger and you'll do yourself harm.
It is good for others to apologise though.
My last arguement was about how I popped the tire on the car....he says I don't treat the car right..i don't drive carefully..and it cost $$$..i learn soul lessons from You Shan
Your videos inspire me to become a better person and be conscious of ways I can improve my relationships with others every day. Very informative and motivating. Thank you!
If it was not your fault, you can apologize in responsibility. Responsibility in that case it self care for your own right.
Loved the intro!
This channel is honestly clutch, thanks Shannon!
Jared's hair out here just growing! I wanna know what his curly hair routine is, cause it's flourishing
This man’s hairRRR 😍😍😍
Last argument was about how I talk.. without diplomacy sometimes.. hey what can I say, I'm an Aquarius.. but I'm working on it
I loved the workbook, I learned so much about myself.
I love you Shan and I love the way your mind works. Just watching you create and develop has been an incredible journey.
Imaniiiiiiiii I feel so seen and loved thank u for this comment
@@shanboody No problem Shan. Nothing makes me happier than watching others win. Much love to you, keep shining. ❤❤😊😊
Someone already brought it up so I don't want to take any credit but I absolutely agree and would love for you to do an in depth review of the Striking Vipers episode of black mirror season 3
I love how mainstream media is picking apart attraction and sexuality and I feel like your take is needed! 🙌🏾🙏🏾
I just loooveeee your content so much Shan. Keep shining your light. Thank you for being so great at what you do!!!
I need to make my husband subscribe to you ♥️ we both need the amazing Shan knowledge 😆
My last relationship argument was about why I was I did not display emotions so easily and why I had not been so affectionate.
My last argument was about me addressing him recently going back to his past behaviors of being irresponsible. And then him getting upset and being like I don’t believe in him and saying that I am somehow doubting him and the way I overall went about getting my point across was uncalled for. I felt like I was preventing him from reverting back to his old ways but he felt like I was being mean to him.
Didnt know i neeeded this video. Plus, loved when you let us see your wig fall off 😂 love you
Last argument was about keeping secrets.
My last argument was with my mom. The lady at the drive through potbelly was rude to us and said we should get out of line if our order was wrong. We ordered 60 dollars worth of food. My mom yelled at the lady and she gave us our missing bag of chips. I know the girl was rude. To me, it wasn’t worth yelling over a bag of chips or missing food. She said she was standing up for herself. I thought in the long term, telling does no good and the worker doesn’t really care. I would have pulled forward but my mom said to wait
*yelling
Is it weird that I was literally in an argument before I watched this video. I looooooooove Shan
My best friend and I argued about my feeling left out of her creative projects. It's created a rift that's really bleh. She thinks I'm being totally selfish and not considering her.
This was so informative and relative to allll of my personal relationships. Shan, thank you sistah! ♥️
My last argument was about how I kept interrupting dude when he was talking. We compromised and he promised not to speak in monologues so I dont feel the need to interrupt. He goes on forever sometimes and I cant get a word in edge wise.
I just realized you’re in the first 5 minutes of mean girls and you look directly at the camera. I had to rewind because I couldn’t believe it haha
Your stuff is so well produced... *Loved that background music - generic TH-cam track?* Plus Jerrod's stuff also damned good in the close.
SHANNONNN! Do you watch Black Mirror? Can you talk about the 1st episode of this year's season (Striking Vipers)? I think you'll like it!
I love your videos and am so excited for your book (even though I'm not single for the first time in 8 years - must be from watching this channel 😉), but this one in particular made me realize how much I'd love to hear your go on an episode of Nicole Byer's podcast "Why Won't You Date Me." I feel like that episode would be aaaamazing!
My last argument with my boyfriend was about returning items to Amazon and whether we did it right, haha. We were both tired.
Our last argument was about me shutting down when i get frustrated...she feels shut out when it happens
The last argument I had with my partner was over the fact that they hadn't come to see me in over 2 weeks.
So proud of you shan. Way to go. Will definately check out the work book
very interesting. i have to talk about this with my boyfriend. great inspiration, shan! thanks
My last argument was with my fiance because countless times I've told him how to wash the mop and Everytime he never listens so when I go to wash the floors it's always in a different place and rarely ever clean. I was so fed up I just called him and started screaming over a mop because the built up frustration was just too much. Made me feel like he thought his way was better but it always ended up affecting me and not him. Very frustrating!