The Scariest Thing About Love

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    The scariest thing I've learned about love is that someone's love for you can make you love and like yourself more. What frightens me is that in the past, misdirected love has done the opposite for me.
    This is something I'm working on as I grow. Above all else am grateful to be growing and learning while partnered with an awesome person!
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  • @shanboody
    @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1287

    I low key dislike that this video has no true educational component to it so here it is: if there is ONE trait you should look for in a person - studies show that trait is agreeableness. Meaning someone who is pleasant and easy to get along with. Check out this article on one of my FAV books nypost.com/2014/02/02/for-real-long-lasting-love-the-no-1-trait-to-seek-is-niceness-expert/

    • @kageryujujitsu9712
      @kageryujujitsu9712 6 ปีที่แล้ว +55

      Shan BOODY its rare that people now a day express true unadulterated and unbiased love. This is refreshing to see especially on a platform as big as yours it goes to show that they are still real people out there. Peace and blessings

    • @nyzinfam0us1
      @nyzinfam0us1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Shan, as a man I completely disagree, to say that there is no educational component; it is for the individual on the receiving end themselves to come to that conclusion. The fact of the matter is there is much to learn from this video.
      This video you made shows a sense of awakening that perhaps people tend to disregard on a daily basis. You’re showing and putting out to the world of what a genuine love could be especially to those that might lack it.
      Your awakened senses, your ability to make yourself transparent to the whole world SHOWS, how the balance of someone else can bring harmony and tranquility into ones restless life.
      Keep doing what you’re doing, love and live as honest as possible. You’re healing and spreading those traits to others including myself. I can say that I’ve learn much from you and am thankful to have you as a healer on this planet.
      -Manny

    • @deepalin2481
      @deepalin2481 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Shan BOODY you're eyes are a deep passionate green beautiful Shannon 😭💛😍🍏💚

    • @tulahonkala2246
      @tulahonkala2246 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      This has so much value. I wish you could feel my heart after this video

    • @ChenaiDavid
      @ChenaiDavid 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      There is a lesson to be learned in everything! I loved the Steve Jobs quote and the way you applied it ❤️

  • @NaturallyLit
    @NaturallyLit 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2527

    The scariest part about love is being apologetically and unapologetically you and hoping the person will love you through it.

    • @NaturallyLit
      @NaturallyLit 6 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      What Not To Do At a Stoplight this is such a true statement. If someone laughs at your pain (relationship/friendship), they gotta go! There’s not time for that. I wouldn’t date a man that isn’t able to be vulnerable, empathetic and compassionate. Those characteristics are vital for understanding the human experience. We see what deflection, projection and repression has done to us.

    • @AlayziaWade
      @AlayziaWade 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well said ❤️

    • @shanickahayden2109
      @shanickahayden2109 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Naturally Lit but they never really do

    • @Princesmilez
      @Princesmilez 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      I like it :) makes perfect sense

    • @Rosazuly7
      @Rosazuly7 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hardest shit ever....

  • @DBerryyyy
    @DBerryyyy 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1684

    “A good love makes you love yourself more” that’s so real. This was beautiful.

    • @majorcurlyhead9376
      @majorcurlyhead9376 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Man if this isnt the truth

    • @amandamarie69
      @amandamarie69 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Hella bars on that one, thanks for the reminder Shan. That's how it's supposed to be

  • @phoenixharris20
    @phoenixharris20 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Nearly 3 years later, they're married, they have a baby/family, and they seem happy. So heartwarming.

  • @bigandsadnegus3710
    @bigandsadnegus3710 4 ปีที่แล้ว +401

    the scariest thing about love is loving the wrong person

    • @hojoshua8425
      @hojoshua8425 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      What if just if I told you the scariest thing the person who loving you right person in your entire (ppl called it love of your life) but you fail to actually love him or to receive love from him or her ie not loving yourself because you didn't even accept you yourself to begin with that person. Would you say that even scarier basically you're your worst self in turn rejecting yourself even to begin with. And didn't even gave yourself a chance to felt love, in the very end you found there's a void that person who love you to death take us away but instead of that you decided to let go-some ppl even killed themselves for tragic reason. Don't you think the other person you with have to put up and hold the burden that he or she didn't even have to do. And that person is self-sabotage himself and they waiting for their death and you hope for the slightly hope in the future of not losing them.
      There isn't much to be afraid of loving the wrong person but losing yourself is the best way break you into broke pieces. I'll just let you have the thought about that one huh :)

    • @bigandsadnegus3710
      @bigandsadnegus3710 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@hojoshua8425 Yeah that is what i want to say you love another person before loving yourself because many people say "i love you more than myself" what if they change right...you will hate yourself twice more .. and that's why they said be the right person first in order to find the right one..

    • @diamandab35
      @diamandab35 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      walla

    • @bigandsadnegus3710
      @bigandsadnegus3710 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@diamandab35 im your 250th subscriberr

    • @br00klynnative58
      @br00klynnative58 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Does he have a job?

  • @chocolatesuite19
    @chocolatesuite19 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1349

    Your eyes are just crazy green. Like you're so beautiful.

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      Thank you thank you!

    • @chocolatesuite19
      @chocolatesuite19 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Shan BOODY of course love 😙😙😙

  • @sexplanations
    @sexplanations 6 ปีที่แล้ว +146

    Shan, this video has the truest form of education: your experience. You modeling your love and vulnerability and empathy is a very special lesson and one of my favorites. It gives the rest of permission to do the same. Thank you!

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Ahhhh all hail the queen thank you Lindsey

    • @lakeshiajones5799
      @lakeshiajones5799 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@shanboody Esta Bien

  • @TheOnyxNightshade
    @TheOnyxNightshade 6 ปีที่แล้ว +743

    I WANT to feel this way about someone someday. I'm scared that it will never happen, and I'm worried that I'm too broken to let it happen. I'm a work in progress, and I'm trying SO hard to work through the pain and I'm losing that fight.
    For everyone who has love in their lives: please cherish it. You have a gift that some of us may never have.

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +142

      You are not broken!!! Finding a good partner takes time and work for some *ahem raises hand. I’m 32 and just getting it right after 10 years of studying this!!!!

    • @TheOnyxNightshade
      @TheOnyxNightshade 6 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Shan BOODY thanks for the encouragement Shannon. Means a lot that you took the time to respond.

    • @angelicastarina1066
      @angelicastarina1066 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      You’ve got this hun😊😊😄 id say learn using youtube on how to help yourself grow and heal💕 one great video is “my philosophy for a happy life” by Sam Berns on TedxTalks. Hope you find your strength soon✊🏽 (saying youtube helps bc it helped me)

    • @sophiab5260
      @sophiab5260 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Woah.. can relate

    • @saye3902
      @saye3902 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      You and me both girl. It’s like you read my mind. But I haven’t given up the fight, and neither should you. ❤️

  • @EnyaFarina
    @EnyaFarina 6 ปีที่แล้ว +502

    You made me cry so hard, Shannon. I'm very young, 25 years old. I've been in love with the same man for 7 years now. We grew up together, we became adults together, we learned how to love from each other's love. We even separated for a year and a half because I needed to go away (to Europe for school) and he has always been SO supportive of me. Even after all of these years, all the ups and downs, I love him more and more every day. And I am also so grateful and feel so lucky to have him. He is my best friend, my lover and now also my husband. We too have an open relationship, and are very happy in it. Because we get to love each other and also experience life as young adults and individuals. Thank you for inspiring me so much. I've been following you for years now and I always cry when you do. I love you! Just wanted to share a bit of my life with you. See you soon

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      This love story 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽✅❤️❤️❤️😫

    • @addicted183
      @addicted183 6 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      I'm 25 and I've never been in a relationship. I'm using this time for self-development and getting to know myself, my wants and needs but your story and this video inspire me to never give up on love.

    • @EnyaFarina
      @EnyaFarina 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I was very, very lucky to find my "soul mate" (or rather the person I CHOSE as my soul mate) when I was very young. I know I'm the exception. Don't give up. Some day someone worth it will come by!

    • @teishamisunderstood339
      @teishamisunderstood339 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      When you say open relationship what do you mean 💭🤔

    • @kyaaaaaaa____
      @kyaaaaaaa____ 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m Genuinely curious to how your open relationship works! Please tell us ^.^

  • @stephanieg2887
    @stephanieg2887 6 ปีที่แล้ว +299

    If i didnt cry, did i really watch a ShanBoody video? Girl your videos are so genuine and full of passion and knowledge and wisdom

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Lol I like this riddle

  • @tiffanypough9096
    @tiffanypough9096 6 ปีที่แล้ว +140

    How in gods green earth can you look so good crying!?! I’m over here snotty nosed and red faced lol but I appreciate your vulnerability and strength, by far the greatest woman I look up to

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      So so sweet thank you! Happy Valentines

    • @tiffanypough9096
      @tiffanypough9096 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Shan BOODY you have no idea how much it means to me that you even said anything too me😭😭 you just made my Valentine’s Day soooo much better

  • @lilyclarke1403
    @lilyclarke1403 6 ปีที่แล้ว +129

    Everything is temporary but love. Love outlives us all ❤️

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Excellent point

    • @Dorrii
      @Dorrii 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oooo so simple, yet profound 💛

  • @alysiaxra3
    @alysiaxra3 6 ปีที่แล้ว +271

    Just wanted to say that in my opinion I thought this was one of your best videos. The section where you spoke about trying to convince yourself that you’re “too mean” and incapable of finding someone that will accept you was something that I struggled with. I really appreciate the vulnerability in this video and how personable you are. I know you don’t like this video lol but I think you should keep it. 😊❤️

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Thank you! I like it but couldn’t really figure out the point of it but reading the comments has been awesome so there’s that!

  • @emulatemetheuniverse.3670
    @emulatemetheuniverse.3670 6 ปีที่แล้ว +194

    I've never cared for colored eyes but my God your green eyes are hypnotizingly (if u will) gorgeous and electric. Like they literally come with a light switch. Beautiful!

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      I should cry in videos more often it makes them way brighter

    • @WhatEver-mv6qi
      @WhatEver-mv6qi 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@RomanZolanski123 I guess non-brown

  • @LovingSoul61
    @LovingSoul61 6 ปีที่แล้ว +333

    Your vulnerability is so beautiful. I am grateful that you so often give me the opportunity to be happy FOR YOU. It’s so healing and comforting to see this kind of happiness and love in the world.

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Look at the name you chose for your YOuTube wow it’s so true YOU are a loving soul!!!

    • @moniqueagnew6423
      @moniqueagnew6423 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      LovingSoul61 PRAISE GOD REPENT HELL IS HOT READ YOUR BIBLE AND PRAY FOR THE WAGES OF SIN IS DEATH.JESUS LOVES YOU GOD IS MERCIFUL IT IS BETTER TO MARRY THAN TO BURN.NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE LADIES AND GENTLEMEN GOD IS ARE FIRST LOVE LETS GET BACK TO BEING THE BRIDE OF JESUS.THE BEST LOVE IS THE LOVE THAT JESUS CHRIST SHOWED US ON THE CROSS JESUS BLOOD PAYED FOR ARE SINS SO THAT WE CAN. FACE LIFE IN PURITY AND HOLINESS LIKE ARE FATHER GOD YAWHEY PLEASE RESPECT AND HONOR GOD WAKEUP WOMEN WE ARE NOT LIVING FOR JESUS.MY PEOPLE PARISH FOR LACK OF KNOWLEDGE.PLEASE MEN LEARN YOUR GOD AND YOUR BIBLE CHANGE YOUR HEART TOWARDS GOD AND ONLY DATE AND MARRY A GOD FEARING WOMAN.PLEASE STOP IMPREGNATING UNHOLY WOMEN TEACH BY EXAMPLE WE ARE MADE IN GODS IMAGE LETS HAVE INTEGRITY AND BE VIRTUOUS WOMEN AND MEN OF GOD.IT IS GOD WHO LEADS US TO ARE MARRIAGE PARTNERS WHEN A MAN FINDS A WIFE HE FINDS A GOOD THING HALLELUJAH.BLESSINGS PEACE WE CARRY ARE FUTURE IN ARE WOUNDS PLEASE LETS ALL LEARN TO RESPECT ARE SELVES AND EACHOTHER WE ARE KINGDOM FAMILY.PLEASE MORE HOLY SACRED MARRIAGES LETS STOP FORNICATION PROMOTE GODS LOVE NOT HATE. LETS PRACTICE SELF CONTROL AND GOOD HOLY MORELS THE CHILDREN NEED BETTER EXAMPLES IN THEY ARE ARE FUTURE LETS TEACH THEM HOLINESS AND THE BIBLE SHOULD BE LIVED OUT.GO SPREAD THE GOOD NEWS ABOUT GOD NO BLAMING ONLY ACCOUNTABILITY.HALLELUJAH GLORY BE TO GOD THANK YOU JESUS REPENT PEOLE HELL IS ETERNAL WE REEP WHAT WE SOW LOOK LISTEN LEARN.THE devil IS A REAL LIAR AND THIEF PLEASE LEARN TO FORGIVE YOURSELF AND AND ALL OTHERS.JESUS BLOOD COVERS ARE SHAME AND SINFUL NATURE AND BEHAVOUIR.THERE IS NO CONDEMNATION FOR THISE WHO LOVE THE LORD PLEASE RENEW YOUR MIND DAILY LETS MAKE ARE COMMUNITIES SAFE AND SECURE AND STOP RAPING AND PEALIGING EACH OTHER NO MEANS NO ME TOO. HALLELUJAH GLORY. BE TO GOD.AMEN

  • @navpreetbanga
    @navpreetbanga 6 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Thank you, for just sitting there, and choosing to be so authentic. You made me feel like I am not alone with my emotions. I love you.

  • @xiuwenfriend
    @xiuwenfriend 6 ปีที่แล้ว +491

    Now we all need a 'Jared' 😭😭😭

    • @ebonix33
      @ebonix33 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      xiuwenfriend fool its an open relationship. ..thats means their fukkin other people

    • @xiuwenfriend
      @xiuwenfriend 6 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      ebonix33 you don't know my relationship preference, also why can't I appreciate genuine and honest people 💁🏻

    • @slimbellybella
      @slimbellybella 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Yeah y’all can keep the “Jared” I’d rather be single than in an open relationship even if he’s the “sweetest guy”

    • @TaelurAlexis
      @TaelurAlexis 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@slimbellybella jesus christ separate the qualities of Jared from THEIR relationship dynamic. You guys are so immature it's insane

    • @ulquiorra3104
      @ulquiorra3104 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@ebonix33 lol called her a fool. 😄😄😄😆😆👍🤣

  • @JordyBordy
    @JordyBordy 6 ปีที่แล้ว +232

    Rarely comment. But I absolutely LOVE your vulnerability/transparency in this.
    I hope to be as secure with my feelings like you when I grow up (i’m 23 but you catch my drift lol) 💕

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Hey girl hey

  • @Rose-gv9ff
    @Rose-gv9ff 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    He’s your twin flame. That’s why you’re both learning from each other and you can see yourself in him. That love will never die bc your the same soul.

  • @dancequeen46davis
    @dancequeen46davis 6 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I’m single af on this Valentine’s Day, but I’m so filled with love and happiness and I am happy that you are too.
    Happy Valentines Day Everyone!! ❤️

  • @TransformwithTayani
    @TransformwithTayani 6 ปีที่แล้ว +120

    Choked up seeing this video because how you feel about Jared is how I feel about my spouse. I couldn’t be more happy today to have the right person by my side.

    • @janedoe2299
      @janedoe2299 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Life Of TReshae thats beautiful...thanks

  • @MultiChristyk
    @MultiChristyk 6 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Shes so in love I love it...
    honestly... There's this guy that makes me feel like this... and I'm not even ready... seeing this video is her having accepted love, which is something I've been pushing out... It's crazy how the universe times things, and hes soo patient, and so... just increadible even when i havent accepted we be together yet... I so much appreciate him.. urg
    You're in a great place with a great person xoxo

  • @itsjustme2557
    @itsjustme2557 6 ปีที่แล้ว +368

    Omg this was so sincere and loving....I got so emotional seeing you get like that😭😭😭

  • @orangesodabliss
    @orangesodabliss 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The scariest thing about “love” is losing yourself in another person and feeling like you can’t live without them. That shit HURTS

  • @StephanieFloresSmall
    @StephanieFloresSmall 6 ปีที่แล้ว +182

    Wow. This was so real. There are so many times I’ve felt like this, and it brings me so much joy (& hope) to see you’ve found love & the partner that suits your needs. 😊 happy Valentine’s Day Shannon! Ps. I disagree that there was no educational component to this video because it actually taught me a lot. ❤️

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Happy v day Steph

  • @ChristinaMaWe
    @ChristinaMaWe 6 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    Dammit Shannon you really convey your feelings and emotions so beautifully and move me. EVERY TIME. Making me cry because all I ever wanted was to be loved by someone the way I love them, and it seems like you found it, even if he doesn't say it like you, he makes you feel your BEST SELF and that is beautiful.

  • @thechxshirecat
    @thechxshirecat 6 ปีที่แล้ว +563

    You look so pretty in this video!!! 😍❤️❤️

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      You flirt oxo thank you

  • @panasheg833
    @panasheg833 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    “A good love, makes you love yourself more”
    *Cue water works* this is the most accurate and beautiful statement I’ve heard in years! Thank you Shan

  • @LiaLia-fu1di
    @LiaLia-fu1di 6 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Nooo never think it’s the workers job to put stuff back, workin in retail that is so annoying we have a lot of other responsibilities, it makes our job harder when customers leave things wherever, opened and just a mess

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for this

  • @roselove6315
    @roselove6315 6 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Omg. Each time she started to cry I felt it and wanted to cry with her. You can just see how much love she has for him and how important he is to her. Gosh. Love is so beautiful!! Love and be loved!! Happy Valentine’s Day everyone and if you have no one to share the day with share it with yourself! ❣️ treat your self.

  • @rezzo_6fn659
    @rezzo_6fn659 6 ปีที่แล้ว +340

    Girl, I thought I was going to see snot come out like that lady in Fences, lol. Glad you found the right one. Y’all be safe.

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Immediate flashback to seeing Fences on the biggest screen ever and the snot being larger than my entire body

    • @rezzo_6fn659
      @rezzo_6fn659 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Shan BOODY 😂😂😂😂😂

    • @leeclementine4735
      @leeclementine4735 6 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      You mean Viola Davis? I'm crine. Snot always coming out her nose when she cry. Like girl how you do that? You magical XD

    • @DistressedAndImpressed
      @DistressedAndImpressed 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Nigga, Viola Davis??? 😂💀

    • @chanely
      @chanely 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Viola Davis is the GOAT

  • @stephanieg2887
    @stephanieg2887 6 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    I need a love like this.

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey Steph 👋🏽👋🏽

    • @stephanieg2887
      @stephanieg2887 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Shan BOODY Shan!! Omg i see you responding to my comments often and, first of all, thanks makes me feel popular💁🏽‍♀️ And second, you are so inspiring, keep doing what you’re doing because it’s amazing✨

  • @patricewilcox
    @patricewilcox 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Being loved is such an amazing feeling. When you're loved in the way that fulfills, surprises, scares and excites you, it's a beautiful thing, but when it exceeds what you thought your capacity to give or receive love was, it's magical! Congrats on finding that feeling, Shan. Not wishing this, but even if it turns out that it's temporary, it still happened.

  • @EmpoweredByMs.K
    @EmpoweredByMs.K 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Being the empath that I am, I'm literally here hysterically crying because I am so content to see that you have found a love so right, fulfilling, pure and inspiring. Your vulnerability in this video really touched my heart Shan, thanks so much for sharing sis.

  • @dejagabrielle6254
    @dejagabrielle6254 6 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    I remember that video from 2 years ago. I cried with you . I'm soo happy for you Shan 💓💓💓

  • @taviaaaa
    @taviaaaa 6 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    This video is so sweet. & yes girl a good love helps you love yourself!!! There’s several little things I do that I know would annoy most ppl but my man doesn’t mind at all + he washes my natural hair which has made wash days much more pleasant 🤣 I’m forever grateful for him. I wish you & Jared the best 💕

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Omg yessss that’s the dream! Happy for your love thank you for sharing

  • @missjaygh
    @missjaygh 6 ปีที่แล้ว +353

    Side note: I wonder how Jared felt after seeing this. It must've warned his heart ☺️

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      I actually don’t know if he’s watched it!! He hears it all the time though as u can tell I’m very expressive about my feelings lol

    • @missjaygh
      @missjaygh 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Shan BOODY lol it's such a good trait!! I'm sure he'll be really happy to see this ☺️💛

    • @avocado184nhs82
      @avocado184nhs82 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      what? theyre still together lol

  • @lindayang3188
    @lindayang3188 6 ปีที่แล้ว +101

    I just left a toxic relationship that went on for almost 2 years. It's been off and on, and he was always super possessive, can't manage his time, and immature. I've lost many friends, trust, and hope because of him. But he was one of my bests. He taught me that I wasn't as perfect as I thought I was. He was sweet when we werent mad at eachother. I just wanted to be free. I miss him dearly, but I know it's for the best. Can you talk about toxic relationships? I don't know what love is anymore. I feel like my heart had turned off. And I just don't know what to do.

    • @KaliKali-hv9bt
      @KaliKali-hv9bt 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      iiMissus me too

    • @asiarichardson6129
      @asiarichardson6129 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      iiMissus i felt this so much

    • @megshush
      @megshush 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yup same here

    • @juanvillegas8455
      @juanvillegas8455 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      iiMissus This sounds similar to my past relationship

    • @karanfilyi4723
      @karanfilyi4723 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I feel you, i‘m in a toxic relationship and i‘m too weak to breaking up with him. Its feelin like i‘m trapped in a hole

  • @mianotmyaaaa
    @mianotmyaaaa 6 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Wow! I love your passionate emotional videos and how you are so observant of the consequences that come from some of your experiences and as well as the benefits and the take away of it!
    I love the quote “a good love makes you love yourself more.” I love it, I love it. It makes me cry too; because when someone loves you to the point where you are so comfortable and content, it makes you want to learn things about yourself you never truly know!

  • @Sailorneptun99
    @Sailorneptun99 6 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    I remember your vid two years ago and it was so painful to watch (i cried riverssssss ngl) and its so amazing to see you this happy and content with your love life again. I wish you two the best

  • @melaniemurphyofficial
    @melaniemurphyofficial 6 ปีที่แล้ว +231

    I love this so sooo much xxx

  • @tillyrere
    @tillyrere 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I thought I was the only one who thinks I’m too mean. I always pray to God to help me be better. And my boyfriend is so selfless with me. The other day he did the simplest thing, ( we have the same water bottle) my top was broken and his isn’t. When he was leaving my house he gave me his bottle top and told me to give him my broken one. I know it’s simple but it really warmed my heart❤️
    love you shannon, you make me feel human ❤️❤️

  • @brianastanley94
    @brianastanley94 6 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    This video did so much for me... I literally cried during and 5 minutes after it ended. thank you so much for sharing your purest feelings. It's inspirational and amazing

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      👋🏽🌹

  • @Srklover17
    @Srklover17 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Rewatching this now that you guys are married with a baby on the way. This is beautiful. Your love for each other is inspiring

  • @TROYCETV
    @TROYCETV 6 ปีที่แล้ว +299

    300k 👀 congrats sis 👏

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Ayyy thank you! I feel sour grapes that i day didn’t accomplish it in dec how I wanted but still grateful

    • @Angel-yh3iq
      @Angel-yh3iq 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I love you troyce!!!!😍💋

  • @dmrivera8301
    @dmrivera8301 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nothing more beautiful than being able to stand in your own truth so breathlessly. Because no one can judge or tell you that you are wrong since it comes from your inner you. AWESOME. Very raw video. THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS ! Happy Valentine's day !!

  • @rosabscura
    @rosabscura 6 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Ive been in my relationship for about 2 years now and you perfectly explained my feelings. Thankyou for sharing this. Happy valentines day ❤️

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      That’s so encouraging to hear congrats

  • @msditto
    @msditto 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    “A good love makes you love yourself more.” Wow. I love that! 👏🏽

  • @ElaishaJade
    @ElaishaJade 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    It's incredible that you have this emotional space in your relationship. While you spent so much time complimenting him, you've brought so much wisdom to your relationship too. You were a viable vessel for I'm to pour his love into. I WANTED TO CRY THE WHOLE TIME THANKS FOR THAT 😭😭😭

  • @scorpiodread75
    @scorpiodread75 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I totally relate. I won't even say the word "love" to anyone but my dad and kids. On another note, you're GORGEOUS

  • @newash101
    @newash101 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Shannon I’ve been watching you for over 2 or 3 years. I love the knowledge you provide about love. You’ve taught me to strive to love myself and not to settle for less in the person I want to be with. When I meet that man that is supposed to be there I hope I can experience all those great feelings. I’m a hopeless romantic but I know his out there. Thank you for sharing something so precious with us.

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yessss lifting you and this UP

  • @eVaniwithaV
    @eVaniwithaV 6 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I know you were talking about Jared at the end but I needed to hear those words of encouragement as well.

  • @thatisoriginal0k
    @thatisoriginal0k 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    ugh this is so beautiful. I just broke up with someone who I thought was going to be special to me, but ended up being just another dude. This made me realize I deserve someone so much better and brings out the best in me. Thank you Shan :'-)

  • @kellyflemm733
    @kellyflemm733 6 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    You should make a video on your families opinions or reactions to your current relationship style♥️
    It would be interesting to see different perspectives !

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      surprisingly I don't really have an answer to this. My family instantly got it and so did his...I know his dad had some questions but once we explained it never came up again

  • @KiarandKimi
    @KiarandKimi 6 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    Please make more talk-y videos like this

  • @hobbyphotographystudio
    @hobbyphotographystudio 6 ปีที่แล้ว +109

    This was beautiful.

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You are beautiful

  • @SymphaniSoto
    @SymphaniSoto 6 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Damnit Shannon! Thank you for making me cry! I love this so much!

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I was literally and unrelated watching your videos today!! Hey wonderful

  • @alyailithyia
    @alyailithyia 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your video hits close to home. My partner is the only one who can look at me in a baggy tshirt or in granny panties and with no makeup on/messy hair and call me perfect. He's the only one who has seen me as *me*, as in the girl who is vulnerable and scared of commitment and overly critical of herself. He accepts me on the inside but also on the outside whether I am dolled up or not. Sometimes I ask myself if I warrant this kind of acceptance and unconditional love... he makes me feel whole again. I realize neither one of us are perfect but we help each other improve. I'm more patient now and he is more attentive and works on his own self improvement.

  • @BelleForever97
    @BelleForever97 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Right now I feel like super shitty because there is someone I always wanted to be a part of my life and we even had plans to do Valentine’s Day plans and it feels like he’s pushing me away. He doesn’t talk to me much or want to hang and it really hurts but this video reminded me there may be someone better for me down the road somewhere

  • @Engiekm
    @Engiekm 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    WHO ELSE IS RE-WATCHING SHAN'S VIDEOS AND HERE 2020?! Shan says in this video "two years from now...." Shan who would've known that 2 years from now you and Jared would be moving in the house you want with a new baby on the way and married!!!!! WHAT?! I am so so incredibly proud of the two of you!

  • @1man2manynotes
    @1man2manynotes 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love the writer in you. It’s so fascinating to watch you find a way to quantify(wrong word?) love with words. And it’s inspiring that his love for you can be inspiring for us b/c of your line of work.

  • @Ali-in6it
    @Ali-in6it 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I cried watching this bc my boyfriend is exactly that, makes me see the side of me i didnt even know was there, makes me feel like i actually matter and jus loves me for everything I am and exactly who i am ughhhh, im so luckyy and happy i waited 20years of my life to wait for the right person who puts effort every single day even tho we're doing long distance and barely see each other ..i can feel his love from miles away

  • @reboundingfromnarcissistic5386
    @reboundingfromnarcissistic5386 6 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    This is beautiful! You have blossomed so much with him

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I’m glad you see this too!!

  • @Dianadraws
    @Dianadraws 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You ripped open a box that you hadn’t bought and then dumped it near the door ? I’d be horrified too !! 😳

  • @monkeys2305
    @monkeys2305 6 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Wow. I hope to experience feeling this way about somebody someday. The video i never thought i needed, thank you.

  • @reeceholland2796
    @reeceholland2796 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The reality is most of us get burned and heartbroken once. I have and it’s been almost 3 years and there are still moment where it still gets on my nerves that it didn’t work, but I know the next one will be better because of the experience I have had

  • @aateena
    @aateena 6 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    My hubby can be an ass but also incredibly sweet and considerate. Your story about the Target incident reminds me of my hubby. He makes me put items back into aisle I got them from and he also hates when I stand too close to people in public. Lol Happy Valentine’s Day!

  • @Smileyshanice
    @Smileyshanice 6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This video is beautiful and hits hard. I'm 26 years old and for some reason this holiday is hitting me hard this year. Normally I'd be at home with my dad and he'd buy me chocolates. But I currently I live abroad for work. So it's a bit weird to not see him. I am interested in someone but of course they don't know. But it's because he's the first guy outside of my family to just think I'm beautiful. He's not black like me, but he like's my natural hair and is amazed by it. I wish I could tell him...but I don't think it's the right decision unfortunately. So take the time and appreciate Jared and the relationship you guys have. Even if it doesn't last forever, you'll treasure the memories. Happy Valentine's Day Shan💜

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I can see that being hard but glad uve left the nest to find yourself. Keep experimenting and tell him only if/ when u think it’s right

  • @trueoptimist1258
    @trueoptimist1258 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’ve been married 18 years and you are expressing allot of the feelings I had when I “knew” it was real. Hold on girl 🙌🏾💫💫💫😀 it only gets better with the real ones ❤️❤️❤️❤️💫💫💫💫💫💯💯💯💯

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Wow how inspiring! Congratulations

  • @MsHolbert18
    @MsHolbert18 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    These are my favorite types of videos from you, Shannon. So raw.

  • @kaseyestella7564
    @kaseyestella7564 6 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Jared needs to give her some re-assurance of her worth, a big 5 min hug and a million kisses

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      I’m so reassured in my life all around it’s a living dream. At this point I’m spilling over with love and I owe that a lot to you all oxo

    • @kaseyestella7564
      @kaseyestella7564 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Shan BOODY I love you beautiful

  • @kortsls
    @kortsls 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    One of the greatest things that you can have is someone you realize just makes your better than you ever thought you could be.

  • @jessicab7794
    @jessicab7794 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I really needed to see this video, like a dire need. First and foremost, congratulations to you and your partner! You seem like you are at peace and I believe that that is how true love should be, it should bring you peace and it is obvious that you have found that with Jared! Second, I have been chasing and entertaining broken people for so long that I believe I can't be attracted to good people. Seeing this video has given me so much hope and I will try to change these beliefs that are keeping me stuck and miserable and chasing broken people. True love will always prevail!

  • @LuxeLex444
    @LuxeLex444 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m so in love with this video. Your openness and sincerity is...refreshing. He’s lucky. You’re lucky. Both DESERVING people.

  • @adianetmartin7023
    @adianetmartin7023 6 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    You’re such a beautiful and such a kind human being❤️

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Getting better at it day by day!

    • @adianetmartin7023
      @adianetmartin7023 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Shan BOODY I hope one day I could find someone that makes me feel this way

  • @lissadorval
    @lissadorval 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    So happy people like you exist. People that have heart and smart enough to say you don't have it figured out and question; and cool enough to cry, reflect and keep living and growing. Lmao I swear when you cry in a video I'm like "oh girl, here we go" and by the end I'm tearing. Killing us softly.

  • @adomqadree5891
    @adomqadree5891 6 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    I work in a store jarred the real mvp I have a few customers like him and there my favorite s I try give them free stuff just for not being a jerk I got enough work to do lol

  • @shaeashley8589
    @shaeashley8589 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Shannon in these moments you make me so happy. This is why I vibe with you & want nothing but to see you elevate. No other TH-camr can hit me at my core like you do. Your video made me think of my significant other & how we work together in our element. Anyways not trying to take over the comment section, but I really appreciate you & I am so thankful that you are a part of my life through TH-cam, Facebook & so many of your other platforms. Continue to radiate positivity & rain negativity (because lets be honest our systems need a cleanse from time to time).

  • @tenshi6071
    @tenshi6071 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This was so real and beautiful. I cried when you cried. I hope I find my special someone one day too. Happy Valentines Day Shannon.

  • @unorthodox82
    @unorthodox82 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    i love how he can be his normal nice genuine self and u accept it and not put him in the friendzone to just tell him about dudes that do u wrong in the process of u finding urself. that's so cool that reminiscing about ur past together brings u to tears of joy. i needed someone like that back in college. hey he has someone beautiful in u ms boodram and i'm very happy for him. one for the good guys. oh yeah

  • @deergreentea2847
    @deergreentea2847 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    i’m so sad. im 21 and never been in love. i don’t go out cuz i don’t like it and now i’m afraid i’ll never find anyone :(

  • @sincerelyCOLE
    @sincerelyCOLE 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    The scariest thing about love to me is literally giving someone the power to break your heart but TRUSTING them not to. Love can truly be equivalent to playing with fire. Beautiful video❤️

  • @athenafreed
    @athenafreed 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This was so powerful. I felt this video, FELT it all the way down to my bones. I can’t wait to find a love this strong and pure. This video made me so optimistic and hopeful for my journey with love. Thank you so much for sharing your truth with the world (as always) ❤️

  • @jamalwillabus6470
    @jamalwillabus6470 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    This woman knows all of my emotions and it feels good that other people feel how I feel with complexity and passion to their love stories. I love you and everything that makes you happy and whole. On my journey to finding true love. I will continue to stay positive because of people like you shan! thank you

  • @ChezzaOuttaNowhere
    @ChezzaOuttaNowhere 6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Happy V-Day/Lupercalia to you two! I love 💘 and so happy you two have found the most progressive kind of love. Its so accepting and a full experience and that is beautiful! To another year and beyond! I send you love!

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Love you Chezza!!!!!

  • @evelinedelgado904
    @evelinedelgado904 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is very pure and beautiful. I’m glad you found such an amazing person in you’re life. I think the scariest thing in love is feeling this same exact way you are feeling and the one day that person is gone.

  • @maemaejojo
    @maemaejojo 6 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Shannon this was so damn raw, I can't thank you enough for always being so brave and vulnerable on your channel. TH-cam needs more people like you who are honest and real. This held so much value to where I'm at in my life, thank you

  • @nataleighb13
    @nataleighb13 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    The life coach we don't deserve. Not all hero's wear capes. You're a light, girl. ox

  • @JjBianca
    @JjBianca 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    It's crazy sometimes to see myself in your videos. I know deeply what are you talking about and all those feelings.
    I'm so happy for you to be in a good place and to discover such beautiful feelings. Enjoy Shan😊

  • @soumayahassan5040
    @soumayahassan5040 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Shan i love your personality and your intelligence and your teachings. I recently broke up with the man I thought I would get married to 3 years ago. I was in love with him and got just tired of the fighting with him, him not owning up to nothing, childishness after fights. I love him so much but I love me more to walk away! I think this year I got the strengths to walk away. I just wanted to be loved but I think what I learned is to love myself.

  • @AminaMarie
    @AminaMarie 6 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    So incredibly articulate and soulful ♥️ Thank you for sharing and spreading love as always!

  • @Savannah-xx3zk
    @Savannah-xx3zk 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hello from a monogamous viewer. I share your feeling of happiness and gratefulness to my boyfriend of 5 years. So many people have told us that we would not last being high school sweethearts. It has not always been easy but we are going hella strong. No one can take that from us. Thank you for showing others what true love looks like no matter what status or “label” people chose to live.

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lol “hello from a monogamous viewer” I would assume that’s most people, right?

  • @KimVentura96
    @KimVentura96 6 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    Your eyes oh my god
    😍

  • @blo2102
    @blo2102 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    People that are around you aomtimes will bring the best out of you and also the worst . It seems that Jared saw that in you and brang out your own self love which is so pure and special. I am so happy for you and for you to share your time with

  • @ThisIsMiaB
    @ThisIsMiaB 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow this is such a beautiful video and a true testimony of your love for him. I know that when I think about my boyfriend and how amazing he is, I often cry because he’s such a beautiful soul.
    This is pure love and its really beautiful to watch.

  • @nonyeivonna1184
    @nonyeivonna1184 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I come back to this video so often for the past 2 years. This video makes so much sense for me and my relationship of 5 years.

  • @Nickyvette381
    @Nickyvette381 6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Thank you ♥️ the part near the end. Connecting the dots is really hard.

  • @sagiliciouslooshish4991
    @sagiliciouslooshish4991 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    You deserve so much better. A man who loves you unconditionally. A man who can take care of you, your heart, mind, body and soul... Your eyes have so much sadness in them. Your so beautiful and worth it. :)

  • @RaeJeana
    @RaeJeana 6 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    Happy Valentine’s Day, Shan. Thank you for sharing as always, beautiful soul.

  • @FluorescentRebel
    @FluorescentRebel 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    When you explained the target story and the rope story and said "I think it's beautiful that you're like that.." I felt it in my heart. I do those things too but my past lovers scorned me or didn't appreciate it. I got to a point where I stopped because they convinced me that those actions were stupid. Thanking you for loving those aspects in Jared.