Moms Who Have Lost Children Meet Children Who Have Lost Moms

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  • Three young adults who've lost their moms speak with three moms who have lost children in a conversation on grief and healing.
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    Therapy for Black Girls
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    Lantern - End of Life Planning
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    The Loveland Foundation
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    Roundup River Ranch camp for children with serious illnesses and their families
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  • @raymondrae9605
    @raymondrae9605 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4175

    “I lost my child, but you lost your childhood” that one is deep

    • @hermionepink96
      @hermionepink96 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      I feel that as a teen who lost my father

    • @hamzazaid2282
      @hamzazaid2282 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Marissa our yjxxwwwxwtr

    • @fluff5
      @fluff5 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      My mom would be very sad after i kill myself. But at least i won't be a dissapointment anymore

    • @raymondrae9605
      @raymondrae9605 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      kkk kidney you are as important as everyone else, keep that in mind.

    • @annyms5092
      @annyms5092 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      God bless, Jesus Christ loves you and died for you all

  • @hermionepink96
    @hermionepink96 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1928

    Please do this with "Dads who have lost their children and kids who have lost their Dads" I'll be on the show. This helped me feel not as alone in my grief and trauma

    • @olivia42760
      @olivia42760 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Me too!

    • @katarinag4973
      @katarinag4973 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      facts

    • @Inersect
      @Inersect 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Same here, I'm in for it to help with the grief that is still here

    • @robyncollip1116
      @robyncollip1116 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      same, im in

    • @kay9078
      @kay9078 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm in.

  • @saeriya
    @saeriya 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3111

    I could never imagine to live without my mom.. it makes me so sad oml may they all Rest In Peace now

    • @ramneekbala1856
      @ramneekbala1856 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      yeah and the title just scares me 💔

    • @meriem7515
      @meriem7515 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      May Allah keep your mother with you and always safe

    • @evitafab
      @evitafab 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      It truly sucks, lived that fear in 2019.
      Lost my Mom aka my best friend. It still hurts.

    • @malucos00
      @malucos00 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@evitafab same here, in january this year

    • @khadijasayyada3794
      @khadijasayyada3794 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Never i could never imagine my life BE THANKFUL EVERYONE .MOMS ARE THE BIGGEST BLESSING 💖❤

  • @monazirhossain6016
    @monazirhossain6016 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2567

    Right now my mom has covid 19. And i am so afraid that i am going to lose her.
    Plzz everyone pray for her

    • @topswimgirl99
      @topswimgirl99 4 ปีที่แล้ว +77

      I pray God will wrap you in His arms during these hard times. My dad also had covid and it was the hardest moment of my life but truly God has worked in these times for me and I will never forget that 💛 May He give you strength and peace because He loves us, turn to Him it is the best decision ever and I pray your mom gets through this battle

    • @jackos225
      @jackos225 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      I hope your mom gets better! Stay strong. Everything will be good very soon.

    • @annaanna3233
      @annaanna3233 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Everything will be ok, sending much love to you and your mom.

    • @mariahreed5102
      @mariahreed5102 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Praying that time doesn’t come

    • @parul2809
      @parul2809 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      May god help her have a speedy recovery. Stay strong, she'll get through.

  • @12YearLagavulin
    @12YearLagavulin 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1627

    This is important because there's this stigma that losing a parent doesn't affect people as badly as losing a child.

    • @h222ley
      @h222ley 4 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      fr & it's not true at all, pain is different for everyone & it cannot be measured

    • @blackcrown260
      @blackcrown260 4 ปีที่แล้ว +75

      I’m 6’3, 240, covered in tattoos, gauged ears, piercings, the works. Not what you’d consider emotional at first glance. Two years ago, I got a phone call on my way to work that my grandma had passed away. I bawled my eyes out for 8 hours thru my shift, as since she wasn’t considered immediate family, I wasnt allowed to leave work. Still, two years later, I still get teary eyed thinking about her. She essentially acted as my dad growing up. The things left unsaid, the last things i said to her.. It was and still is the hardest loss I’ve ever had.

    • @fredygalindo9495
      @fredygalindo9495 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      My dad and grandad died when I was 8 years Im 21 and I still cry my eyes out anytime I remember them also caused me a lot a lot of traumas

    • @emilysillett2724
      @emilysillett2724 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I know that my grandma lost a daughter but I lost my mom and to grow up without one is hard and just cause I was a child doesn’t make the pain any less worse

    • @JR-op8zk
      @JR-op8zk 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I couldn't image losing mom or my child. (I dont have a child btw)

  • @leahmoore6820
    @leahmoore6820 4 ปีที่แล้ว +761

    Please don't apologize for being emotional.

    • @csmith19788
      @csmith19788 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      It's so hard not to! I'm an emotional person and feel my emotions very strongly. I get choked up and cry often...and usually apologize. I'm working on it though. :)

    • @hamham1498
      @hamham1498 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      there's always that one person who's like "stop being such a snowflake" "stop being a crybaby" "lmao just stop crying what's so hard" and if they won't change, then I'll just change myself...

    • @shellshockedbros4458
      @shellshockedbros4458 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@hamham1498 Changing yourself means they win.
      Be competitive. Not for me, or anyone else.
      But for yourself.

  • @natechenry
    @natechenry 4 ปีที่แล้ว +942

    I guess buzzfeed decides when I have a cry session now. Damn you.

    • @compagordo9134
      @compagordo9134 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Exactly how I felt I lost my daughter 6 years ago now everything makes me bust out Ina cry session

    • @nektariak4212
      @nektariak4212 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Jesus Manjarrez I am so sorry for your loss. She is always with you. Keep you head up my friend. My heart is with you💙

  • @taylorlundquist2568
    @taylorlundquist2568 4 ปีที่แล้ว +507

    You should do one about people who have lost their siblings. I could use a talk with someone who also suffered through this.

    • @CocoaButter578
      @CocoaButter578 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I agree! I lost my brother 2 years ago. He was so young and was taken suddenly. Everyday for me, my sister and mother are always struggles. You’re not alone 🧡

    • @bellatonche4344
      @bellatonche4344 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Lost my big brother. Toughest thing going through life events he should have been there for. Or even turning older than he made it. It's good to know other people went through that loss by the internet when no one in your life gets it.

    • @episodestarr2385
      @episodestarr2385 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      i agreed i lost my brother to and i could use someone to talk to about it

    • @TaeNi95
      @TaeNi95 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Dm me on twitter (anyone else who lost their sibling can): (at)utube_junkie95
      I want to talk too. I lost my brother a long time ago.

    • @pianobysarochka728
      @pianobysarochka728 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@CocoaButter578 I also lost my little brother 2 years ago due to breathing problems.. sad flashbacks..

  • @angelarosario5671
    @angelarosario5671 4 ปีที่แล้ว +446

    i lost my mom 10 years ago and this video is making me feel less alone

    • @ChelseaLloyd_LoveIt
      @ChelseaLloyd_LoveIt 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      so glad angela!

    • @kakashiishot8819
      @kakashiishot8819 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Sending warm hugs your way!💖

    • @fatmaofoman
      @fatmaofoman 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same, i lost my mom 10 years ago, glad i feel less alone now

    • @sarah6246
      @sarah6246 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I lost mine 8 years ago, it feels nice to know that I’m not alone in how I feel

    • @kidcoretogami9395
      @kidcoretogami9395 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m so sorry for your loss -a fellow yuri on ice fan!

  • @DoctorMitnaul
    @DoctorMitnaul 4 ปีที่แล้ว +329

    Wow, thanks for highlighting this Buzzfeed. As a child and adolescent psychiatrist I recently made a video discussing why mothers are so important to the mental heath of their children.

    • @neighborsshop1707
      @neighborsshop1707 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      What a resource 👏🏾 Thanks for you work Dr. Mitnaul!

    • @scubasquad360
      @scubasquad360 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Much needed conversation!

    • @driftaway7204
      @driftaway7204 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ✊🏾

    • @ThePatriciadunn
      @ThePatriciadunn 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      So true - moms are so crucial to the mental health of their children

    • @brandonbernard393
      @brandonbernard393 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for this!

  • @SaharaColeman
    @SaharaColeman 4 ปีที่แล้ว +209

    The thumbnail almost made me break out into tears. I couldn’t live or breathe without my Mom. I’m always terrified for the day that she won’t be here anymore

    • @sophia-ce4dz
      @sophia-ce4dz 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      same :/

    • @anonymousperson1454
      @anonymousperson1454 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Me too. The thought kills me

    • @user-hx9cc1qh3h
      @user-hx9cc1qh3h 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same. My parents are everything to me. They're the people who inspire me to actually keep trying, even when my low self esteem attacks and I have depressive thoughts. "For them" I say, and continue fighting the life struggles :")

    • @GreenAndTheToe
      @GreenAndTheToe 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I feel the same way

    • @tedybar12345
      @tedybar12345 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I felt this same way I temper having moments of breaking out into tears thinking about it . Now she is gone and it’s a living nightmare . Thankful my daughter keeps me going everyday . What does not kill you makes you stronger

  • @Rocket2Me1
    @Rocket2Me1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +158

    I lost my mom very suddenly (car accident) when I was 8. I’m extremely lucky to have a stepmom that I love deeply and who stepped into my mother’s shoes perfectly. I like to think my mom sent my stepmom to take care of me and my dad. All said, when she said “I lost my child but you lost your childhood” cut very deep.

    • @halliesteiner632
      @halliesteiner632 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I’m very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story and I’m glad you and your family were able to heal ❤️

    • @pocketmouse96
      @pocketmouse96 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I completely understand. My mom passed from a car accident when I was 6. When I was 11 my dad met my amazing now ex-stepmom. She has helped me and my little sister so much, and still tries to take care of us. And even though she isn't married to my dad anymore she's still very active in my life, and my daughters' lives.

    • @treyjones5412
      @treyjones5412 ปีที่แล้ว

      I also lost my mom in a car accident, when I was 7

  • @strwbb
    @strwbb 4 ปีที่แล้ว +143

    to all the people without their moms, you are so loved and i know that your moms care so much about you. sending lots of love to yall! you all deserve the world🤍

  • @FingeringThings
    @FingeringThings 4 ปีที่แล้ว +152

    Ouch I don’t know how I’d live without my mom

    • @anaayyagari
      @anaayyagari 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same :'(

    • @i.heartjk
      @i.heartjk 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Same thing I said but she died last month

    • @breadloaf1975
      @breadloaf1975 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me too it would be the end of my life 🥺

    • @finnifinnfinnston
      @finnifinnfinnston 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I keep seeing your comments

    • @niharikanair6525
      @niharikanair6525 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I love my mom too

  • @bulletproof1519
    @bulletproof1519 4 ปีที่แล้ว +143

    This is really powerful. If there is ever a video about kids losing their dad's then I wish I could be there. I know how hard that can be

    • @bananccini
      @bananccini 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I wish my friend could be there 🥺 (you too.) he lost his father when we were 10. He didn’t come to school for months. When he did, he was very depressed. I felt really, really, really terrible and I wished I could do something. He is okay now but it’s a sensitive topic to talk about for him. His father was a good man. He would have loved to see him grow up. ❤️

    • @hermionepink96
      @hermionepink96 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same. I lost my Dad

  • @nadiananette6430
    @nadiananette6430 4 ปีที่แล้ว +157

    As a mother, who has a daughter... we are both still alive. But self harm is something I’ve struggled with my entire life. Videos like this open my eyes to how my actions could effect my daughter. Thank you. ❤️

    • @laraisokay
      @laraisokay 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Same, except I have 2 sons ❤️

    • @bellewells2099
      @bellewells2099 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      There is hope people need you here you are valuable

    • @nadiananette6430
      @nadiananette6430 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@bellewells2099 thank you. That is so kind of you to say.

    • @bellewells2099
      @bellewells2099 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@nadiananette6430 I'm glad that you seem to understand that progress is possible. 😊🌈☮️💪

    • @themoofylavender9322
      @themoofylavender9322 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Please take care of yourself for the sake of you and your daughter. I lost my mom and I am suffering ever since. The pain is sometimes unbearable so please take care of yourself

  • @youseifayon7612
    @youseifayon7612 4 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    I LOVE MY MOM 💕

  • @May04bwu
    @May04bwu 4 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    Shout out to my dad, who passed away 7 years ago. You were my best friend. I will never stop loving you

    • @tiffanylovett7229
      @tiffanylovett7229 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      People have ACTUALLY said that to you?!?! Wow, they mustn't have had a heart! I'm so sorry for your loss. I too lost my dad. I was 17. It's been 19 years and it still feels like yesterday. He was my step dad but the father who raised me (as my biological dad left when I was born and I didn't meet him until I was 31 years old...) and I can't imagine anybody saying that to me...

    • @outresru7751
      @outresru7751 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      may you be happy💖

    • @May04bwu
      @May04bwu 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tiffanylovett7229 I was 17 as well! Yeah, actually a few family members said this to me straight in my face. But I can often see my peers and friends think "oh it's not that big of a deal then" because they never had a strong relationship with their fathers (or other father figures). It's sad.

    • @TheHdubs
      @TheHdubs 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      i lost my dad when i was 14. our dads will never be " just a dad" he was my everything. i understand your pain and he was my best friend too. Miss him everyday :(

    • @outresru7751
      @outresru7751 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@TheHdubs my best friend lost her dad just a month ago...she was just 15 and he was just 42:( we all go through pain,please stay strong ❤️

  • @musfiratfaizanamira9634
    @musfiratfaizanamira9634 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    I cant imagine a life without my mom and my mom can't imagine a life without me. I don't know how they are doing without their child's and moms. May their soul rest in peace. Love you mom.

  • @anniecross4234
    @anniecross4234 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    "She took other people's grief and pain and made it her own."
    I really felt that

  • @Tina2tu
    @Tina2tu 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    My brother was murdered when I was younger. It still hurts after 13 years. I keep his memory alive by sharing the story of his life and the people he impacted. This is the most beautiful video I’ve ever seen. Thank you

  • @Lllovvly2186
    @Lllovvly2186 4 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    At the age of 27, I have lost both of my parents. Thank you for this video, it helped me realize that I’m still coping with the grief and probably will be for a long time & that’s okay.

  • @Shawna_Bonana
    @Shawna_Bonana 4 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    I lost my mom to cancer in 2013. This is such a wonderful video that represents the pain of so so many. Thank you, buzzfeed.

    • @christlen.8994
      @christlen.8994 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Me too. I miss her so much

  • @mandienewsom5260
    @mandienewsom5260 4 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    I am a mom who just lost my 7 year old this year because of a house gire and I just wanted to say thank you for this because it really has helped me to know im not alone

    • @vaniateresa5688
      @vaniateresa5688 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I'm so sorry for your loss. Stay strong! ❤️

    • @halliesteiner632
      @halliesteiner632 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I am so, so sorry for your loss! I’m glad this video helped you know you are not alone ❤️ Big virtual hug!

    • @outresru7751
      @outresru7751 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      aww, stay strong girl!!🥰🥺

    • @mandienewsom5260
      @mandienewsom5260 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      thanks everyone you are apart of healing that we all need

    • @laraisokay
      @laraisokay 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I have 7 and 8 year olds and cannot begin to fathom your pain. Enormous amounts of love your way.

  • @krissyaustin
    @krissyaustin 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    "If it takes you 1,000 years to heal, let it take you 1,000 years." Thank you. My mommy passed in 2017 and she was so young still. We still had so much to do together. I always feel like I need to feel okay because its been a while now. I'm still so angry all the time. I don't know how people can be so strong.

  • @3ashypotato322
    @3ashypotato322 4 ปีที่แล้ว +524

    A lot of people who have moms, congrats. My mom died while giving birth to me. I almost died. Now, I will never be the same not having a mom...

    • @hi-nq5mm
      @hi-nq5mm 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      im sorry.. sending virtual hugs🤗 we got you

    • @musfiratfaizanamira9634
      @musfiratfaizanamira9634 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Sorry but sending hug ( no covid). It was heartbreaking

    • @elliecristoff1428
      @elliecristoff1428 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      im sorry. sending virtual hugs.

    • @kittenmittons1968
      @kittenmittons1968 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Hugs baby, she is always with you!
      A mother's love is infinite❤

    • @nadiananette6430
      @nadiananette6430 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Your mama sacrificed her life. So you could have life. I can guarantee she is your guardian angel ❤️ look to the stars when you need her most.

  • @meghan5467
    @meghan5467 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    You never heal from loosing your mom, I certainly never have and it’s been 14 years. Now that I’m a mom myself, I could never imagine loosing a child. The bond between the two is the strongest on earth. Love to all ♥️

  • @holisticmaya
    @holisticmaya 4 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Liz and Nina 💜 Their conversation felt so natural, like they met in another life!

  • @sashal1493
    @sashal1493 4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    This was such a tragically beautiful idea for a video, this kind of simultaneously heart-breaking and heart-warming content always gets me...

  • @erinlee6437
    @erinlee6437 4 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    How could anyone dislike this video 🥺🥺 I could never ever imagine my life without my mom 💕

    • @tmmey2402
      @tmmey2402 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      If someone dislikes maybe it's because they also lost someone they love and couldn't handle it, idk

    • @Natalia-009
      @Natalia-009 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same. Just thinking of my mom not being here one day makes me sad 🥺😭

    • @erinlee6437
      @erinlee6437 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Natalia-009 it's always so heartbreaking to think about 😔 so let's cherish these moments guys :)))

    • @Natalia-009
      @Natalia-009 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@erinlee6437 that's so true! 🥰

    • @nxcyer
      @nxcyer 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I just wrote a whole paragraph about people disliking this. I dont understand tbh. 😕

  • @gabby7817
    @gabby7817 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    i lost my mom to cancer in 2010 so it's really good to hear others grieve and tell their stories

  • @ivymonique3525
    @ivymonique3525 4 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    So nervous to watch this just from the title...im so sorry and hurt for them 😔, i couldnt do without my mother.

  • @VictorGarcia-tk7qo
    @VictorGarcia-tk7qo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I just wanted to say that I love all of you! I hope you guys have a good day!

  • @nxcyer
    @nxcyer 4 ปีที่แล้ว +119

    TO THE PEOPLE THAT DISLIKED THIS VIDEO:
    I hope it was an accident. Bc, this video is so heart warming and so beautiful💯. I was gonna write something mean to tell you off about it, but I want to spread kindness. Bc maybe you were hurt today, or had something happen to you. I wish you well if so. But going around bringing others down just bc you had a bad day, or bad week doesnt help anyone. Honestly I'm saying this because this should be liked and shared by more people, to raise the algorithm. You never know, this video might make it into someone's feed while their scrolling through TH-cam and bring a smile to their face. All because you took the time out of your day to be positive and like or share. Instead of being self conceited and "in ya bag", to the point where you have to dislike someone's video just because. Sorry for the paragraph(?), but I just don't get how some people dislike a video that is so wholesome. In the video there was NOTHING said or done to offend anyone. Just my opinion though, I know how some people are, they just don't get it.🤷🏽‍♂️😕

    • @tiedyedowl8367
      @tiedyedowl8367 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      There are people who dislike channels and automatically downvote any video they see on it. It really doesn’t effect the algorithm much at all though, what counts is how many people watch the video, if they watch till the end, and if they click off within the first... I think it’s 5 seconds, maybe 10 seconds that’s what really hurts a video in the algorithm.

    • @nxcyer
      @nxcyer 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tiedyedowl8367 yeah true, I know there are some people that just don't care for some channels, I was actually gonna say sum abt that.

    • @sth5033
      @sth5033 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      i understand where you're coming from but no one has the responsibility to make someone else smile or to like a video just because it'll make the algorithm more likely to recommend it to other people. people can dislike it because of the production, the content, whatever. i personally enjoyed the video.

    • @nxcyer
      @nxcyer 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sth5033 yeah I really only said that at the time bc the video was just posted, n not even five minutes in it got dislikes. Honestly I think I was just being a bit sensitive at the time.🤷🏽‍♂️

  • @projectarcturus5775
    @projectarcturus5775 4 ปีที่แล้ว +612

    The dislikes are from all the people because they are crying so hard they clicked the wrong button

    • @Draukagrissah
      @Draukagrissah 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I clicked like at the start 'cause I knew I wouldn't be able to see 😭
      I lost my little brother, and my girlfriend lost her Mom and this hit us like a freight train

    • @jacobwhite208
      @jacobwhite208 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      nah we’re disliking bc they paired them up by race

    • @Draukagrissah
      @Draukagrissah 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@jacobwhite208 Um... no?

    • @ucantseemeverywell
      @ucantseemeverywell 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      pretty sure it's because buzzfeed is exploiting these people for views

    • @Toastybees
      @Toastybees 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      They're disliking because this is emotionally manipulative tripe. How much has buzzfeed donated to charities benefiting people affected by these losses? Oh, they're pocketing all the cash from this video?

  • @thenononsense5661
    @thenononsense5661 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Reminds me of how lucky I am, in the midst of this pandemic we need to know what our life values not just to us, but to everyone around us. I wanna thank everyone in this video for sharing their story, to be weak requires more strength.❤

  • @blainezagames4424
    @blainezagames4424 4 ปีที่แล้ว +292

    My mom died back in august so this is sorta hard to watch

    • @halliesteiner632
      @halliesteiner632 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I am so, so sorry for your loss!

    • @tana4283
      @tana4283 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I feel you. My mom died in March. I had to take breaks.

    • @cryspbacon
      @cryspbacon 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      sending you love. how are you feeling during quarantine? has it been hard?

    • @EmilyYebananapie
      @EmilyYebananapie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I hope you are feeling okay. Know you are loved by many ❤️

    • @jellyfish7900
      @jellyfish7900 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I’m so sorry for your loss my heart goes out to you. I lost my mom almost two years ago and the pain is always going to be there but life will get better again and you deserve to be happy, our moms would want that for us

  • @shaney215
    @shaney215 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    My best friend was emotionally adopted by my own mom since she never had a mother, her mother passed when he was a toddler and doesn’t remember her much. Throughout high school she got attached to my mom more and more so we both understood that it does take a village to raise a child. Now we are adults and she has her own little family but is still grateful to have the connection with my mom to this day. If I could share my mom with everyone who has a mother that’s passed I would she has all that love to give and she taught me also to give love to others also. I hope mothers and children who lost loved ones find peace and understanding as the time of healing continues.

  • @anonymousbribri
    @anonymousbribri 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    This is really helpful for me listening to other people who have been through one of life hardest pains too. My mother was murdered a little over 2 in a half years ago. The hardest thing I think anyone could ever go through is losing a loved one. Almost three years later, pain is still there, but learned to manage the pain, it means EVERYTHING. Here I am still alive, and everyone who is here despite pains in the world, it will grow us stronger! ❤️

    • @outresru7751
      @outresru7751 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Stay strong🥺🥺

    • @anonymousbribri
      @anonymousbribri 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@outresru7751 I will! thank you

  • @ayannadewberry3968
    @ayannadewberry3968 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    this video made me emotional. i lost my son at 23 weeks. he passed away in march. his due date would’ve been this upcoming tuesday. sending my love to anyone who lost a loved one ❤️

    • @anabellepascual197
      @anabellepascual197 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I hope you’re healing and feeling better emotionally these days. I can imagine the emotions and grief that you have been going through. Sending positive energy, hugs and prayers your way ♥️

  • @annabelmartin3432
    @annabelmartin3432 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    My grandma lost her son, Nigel in a car accident. The driver in the other car was fine but Nigel wasn’t he was rushed to hospital but sadly died on the way, and the worse thing is that he was on his way to visit my mum who was in labour with my sister. Never forget. Rest In Peace Nigel

  • @pie.x
    @pie.x 4 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    My mom is alive and well, but I haven’t seen her for more than 15 years since she lives far away from us. I know that it’s hard for the sons and daughters to lose their mothers as well as the mothers who lost their children, because I couldn’t imagine losing my own parents. My thoughts are with all of these lovely people and to the ones out there who still keep their head high and stayed strong for their loved ones that are still with them as well as honoring their dearly departed. May your hearts and minds be able to find lasting peace from the pains you’ve been feeling.

    • @yay4949
      @yay4949 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      visit your mother! you don't know how long they will live

  • @amyteza428
    @amyteza428 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    This video brought me into tears bc I did lost a friend from her sleep (cardiac arrest) and I always say this to myself “why did she leave too soon we were becoming so close”........ I still miss her :(

    • @halliesteiner632
      @halliesteiner632 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you love!

    • @amyteza428
      @amyteza428 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hallie Steiner thank you. It means a lot

    • @mayastewart1452
      @mayastewart1452 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@amyteza428 hey, i'm so so sorry for your loss :( i've never actually lost a human close to me and the fact that it will happen scares me so much. stay strong

  • @rashi21100
    @rashi21100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Grieving is very difficult time. It been 7 years my mom passed but still it feels fresh. This dark space is very dificult to get out of it.

    • @paraglokhande936
      @paraglokhande936 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same here, in my case almost 4 years but I remember literally every minute of that worst day of my life.

    • @halliesteiner632
      @halliesteiner632 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I am so sorry for both of your losses! Sending you love ❤️

  • @coolkid3844
    @coolkid3844 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I just want to give them all a massive hug for being so brave, love you guys!

  • @erenethomaidis3084
    @erenethomaidis3084 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    “Your grief doesn’t end in a week.” Wow, so true! I don’t think enough people understand this. It’s been a month since my grandma unexpectedly died and I’m still grieving. I’m still sad. Continual support and patience is needed.

  • @sunnyuzui6593
    @sunnyuzui6593 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I'm a minute in on this video and I'm tearing up already 😭😭😭😭

  • @angelynnmccrary7381
    @angelynnmccrary7381 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is beautiful, it takes a village to grieve and heal

  • @d3mi19
    @d3mi19 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    ❤ this made me cry. Since I've lost my mum at a young age.

  • @generalhenrystickmin
    @generalhenrystickmin 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Bruh y'all make me emotional.

  • @sydneypappas6457
    @sydneypappas6457 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m watching this while pregnant for the first time and I cannot imagine loosing a child. I’ve always felt comfort when being with others of grieving. Thank you for this video.

  • @claudiajulia4414
    @claudiajulia4414 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This video was so heartwarming! Although I sometimes have a difficult relationship with my mom, I could never live without her

  • @EN-mh6sr
    @EN-mh6sr 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You're all amazing for participating in this. Thank you❤

  • @slioness0078
    @slioness0078 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So beautiful and transparent. I know it wasn’t easy to talk about that, it’s greatly appreciated. My sincerest condolences

  • @bmoyal00
    @bmoyal00 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This was so beautiful. I love how they partnered people with similar life experiences or things in common

  • @ddavis4730
    @ddavis4730 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm so thankful to still have my mom, she had lung cancer about 10 years ago and as she lay in her hospital bed, they'd removed part of he lungs, I realized how I'd never lived in a world without her and how much I'd taken her for granted. The thought that I could lose her is too painful to fully imagine. I love her so much

  • @jackyo3327
    @jackyo3327 4 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    I’d love to see a version of this with people that lost a boyfriend and people that lost a gf. I lost a bf and I would totally be down to be a part of it.

    • @halliesteiner632
      @halliesteiner632 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I am so sorry for your loss! I work for Buzzfeed and think that’s another incredibly important topic, thank you for bringing it up 🙏

    • @aliciabrownlee273
      @aliciabrownlee273 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes I would love to see this

    • @chrissyprice7483
      @chrissyprice7483 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Totally, I lost a bf 8 years ago. I’ll never forget the pain of it. It’s just like death since they’re out of your life to never see or speak to again.

    • @sphinxpride3119
      @sphinxpride3119 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hallie Steiner what about people who have lost their best friends my bfs friend was shot by a cop I think it’d be a interesting topic. Very sad

  • @pinkpanda5696
    @pinkpanda5696 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is so powerful. I cried with them. Blessings on all of them. Stay strong as you navigate your life.

  • @austilopez888
    @austilopez888 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you! Watching this helped me have a better day. We lost our son in March and everyday has been a struggle. Hearing the words of the other mothers who’ve lost their children and the words of the children who lost their mothers put me at peace. Thank you!

  • @theodoro3188
    @theodoro3188 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My mom is only 65, she's not gonna get any younger anymore. I honestly hate myself for sometimes pushing her aside of things, just so I don't get embarrassed, it's all because she loves me and she can't always be there forever... Remember ppl, no matter what type of person your mother is, she will always love you, and miss you deep down

  • @bloocci
    @bloocci 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My mother became mentally unstable when I was 9 and I kept living with her for three years after my parents divorced, before she threw me out and then completely left. I've suppressed a lot of the things I had to deal with at home with a person who was mentally ill, and some memories still hurt. This video hit home and it's heartwarming to see that people from both ends of a different yet similar situation can be so understanding and open towards each other. ♡
    This video makes me feel a little less alone

  • @shawnlion8181
    @shawnlion8181 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I am going to be truthful. There are some videos I don't agree with on your channel. But this one, is very touching and heartfelt, guaranteed to help anyone through these very emotional and difficult times.

  • @ilhambks6646
    @ilhambks6646 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I lost my mom this year, february 2020, and i know exactly what and how they feel :( love u mom

    • @halliesteiner632
      @halliesteiner632 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I am so sorry for your loss ❤️

    • @ilhambks6646
      @ilhambks6646 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@halliesteiner632 thx you 😊

  • @kristinahenson5437
    @kristinahenson5437 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I thank god every day that I still have my mom. I lost my dad almost 2 years ago and it still hurts. I miss him every day. This video was hard to watch but helped me in alot of way. To all those whole have lost a loved one I send you love

  • @alyssawesler3926
    @alyssawesler3926 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    It really means alot to see something like this. I lost both my dad and more recently the love of my life. And I dont have much of a support system or know what is normal or healthy and this really made me feel more comfortable with my grief. Thank you.

  • @rebeccahallas9822
    @rebeccahallas9822 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is so sad, yet heartfelt at the same time...

  • @descipher
    @descipher 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This Video is a perfect example of how Human Nature Is. Just Realised that live is so short live it to the fullest. Appreciate the people and things that are important to you wether good or bad. I take this moment to thank all the people and things who made me what I am today.
    May all the Mother and Children Have Peace.❤️❤️❤️

  • @lislac
    @lislac 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have a few friends who've lost their parents at a very young age, one lost both of her parents. I just hope that they know they're not alone and wish I could always be there for them when they need a shoulder to cry on. This is a really heart-warming and somewhat comforting video, tysm for the poeple that participated I know it's hard talking about someone that meant your life. 💝

  • @peshpesh6023
    @peshpesh6023 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    so heartbreaking!! I wish ever beautiful soul in this video everlasting happiness despite their tragic lossses.

  • @bernadetterogers4006
    @bernadetterogers4006 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    these are so fresh :( I give them so much respect for talking about this while still grieving.

  • @h222ley
    @h222ley 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i lost my mom a few years ago & i still miss her, if you're reading this & your mom is around please go and give her a hug & tell her that you love her because you don't know what you have til it's gone& if she's not then just know that you are loved

  • @kaalakootabaws
    @kaalakootabaws 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    These people are so inspirational and so powerful.

  • @calamari7614
    @calamari7614 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Shoutout to my dad who passed away when I was 2. Hope to see you again in the future♥️

  • @amycaitlin4058
    @amycaitlin4058 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    May they all rest in love , keep all your heads high n stay happy 💜

  • @ISing2Monsters
    @ISing2Monsters 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I loved this so much ❤️❤️❤️could you possibly make another video like this but with moms and dads who lost infants of pregnancy loss . To maybe see how that type of loss effects the man and the woman

  • @conny7793
    @conny7793 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My Mom died back in 2014 so it really helps to listen to all of the stories.
    Thank you so much for this video!

  • @jasonjonathandavidpathripa7474
    @jasonjonathandavidpathripa7474 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    What a beautiful concept.!!❤️❤️

  • @baakojernigan7095
    @baakojernigan7095 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Watching this made something burst inside me. I sobbed for 10 minutes and realized how precious life is. how precious even MY life is... which is something I struggle to recognize far too often

  • @caribbeancurls1963
    @caribbeancurls1963 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I hope this offers comfort to those who have lost someone
    You are never truly a part from someone, when you are A PART of someone xx

  • @s_singh_
    @s_singh_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    What wonderful, resilient humans. My heart goes out to each one of you. God bless x

  • @PrettyWierdo
    @PrettyWierdo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My moms and I are going through a really rough patch in our relationship and watching this video has given me so much more perspective and a the opportunity to reach out and try to mend things

  • @OliviaAndHoover
    @OliviaAndHoover 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love that they are playing Rett Madison's music throughout this video. Especially shame is a river. That song makes me cry every time especially knowing that it was written about her mother after her passing.

  • @manogh5844
    @manogh5844 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Lovely video...... I lost mom April 2018 and this video helped a lot.... May their souls rest in peace ... I miss her and remember her each day

  • @yasminsantana9009
    @yasminsantana9009 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am sobbing??? My mom is my entire life I wouldnt be able to live without her! This people r truly strong and Im happy that they managed to feel better after that.

  • @garagemusic7819
    @garagemusic7819 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I am touched by this

  • @life_amidst_its_perils
    @life_amidst_its_perils 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I just want to give all these people a hug

  • @Hi_im_Lee_Know
    @Hi_im_Lee_Know 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This video braught me to tears and I don't cry a lot. The though of losing my mum scares me. She had cancer and she won, It's two years later now and she's doing good, I hope it stays that way. 💜💜💜
    For anyone who has lost someone close to them, I'm sorry for your loss. You'll be okay, yes you may struggle and you may cry but sometimes thinking of the good times you had is amazing. ❤️❤️❤️
    Thinking of my grandad brings a smile to my face, I wish I could of seen him a lot more than I did since he lived far away but i'm glad he's at peace now. 🧡🧡🧡

  • @butyoucancallmesam
    @butyoucancallmesam 4 ปีที่แล้ว +134

    The ambulance hit him? Did I hear that correctly?

    • @ab_mochi
      @ab_mochi 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      I know i was in shock too.

    • @recoil53
      @recoil53 4 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      There was a case in 2013 where a woman survived and airplane crash, but was hit by a responding ambulance. That finished her off.
      Footage now shows a firefighter in the ambulance telling the driver to watch out, there is a girl up ahead.
      And behind the scenes, the battalion chief said "sh!t happens".

    • @butyoucancallmesam
      @butyoucancallmesam 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@recoil53 No way!! That's awful!!

    • @thehorsesnamewasfriday8695
      @thehorsesnamewasfriday8695 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      recoil53 did they get punished

    • @recoil53
      @recoil53 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@thehorsesnamewasfriday8695 Not that I'm aware of.

  • @KestralWolfe
    @KestralWolfe 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I didn't know how much I needed this till I watched.

  • @xx___Bunny___xx
    @xx___Bunny___xx 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is both so sweet and sad at the same time. I cant imagine how I would feel if I lost my mom. My mom is my hero. While shes not always been a great mom, hell even sometimes shes was a horrible mom but to see how shes picked her self up after abuse, manipulation, heart break, and so many other things it makes me realize I can be strong too. My heart goes out to all those who have lost their mother but just remember, mothers are some of the strongest and hard working people we see. Your mother would want you to be strong and happy. Remember that no matter what you deserve to be happy!

  • @maalavikaganesh
    @maalavikaganesh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is so amazing. Everything that this video is.

  • @WinterCamryn
    @WinterCamryn 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love that this production included Rett's music, super beautiful and personal

  • @loofahsswanson559
    @loofahsswanson559 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This was beautiful

  • @adilfarraszaky4536
    @adilfarraszaky4536 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this video is hit me so hard. Yes, there's a lot of people that have a hard time after losing their beloved one. Sometimes it takes a few month, but sometimes takes a year or more. I hope every one could rise up in adversity of being losing of your beloved one.

  • @r2Gt06
    @r2Gt06 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Lots of love and hugs for every person in this video 💚💚💚

  • @TheLoSinclair
    @TheLoSinclair 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this video! I lost my dad 4 years ago and I really connected with all these stories❤️🙏

  • @mielynotcyrus
    @mielynotcyrus 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    The video started and I started crying I lost 2 of my siblings and seeing videos like this makes me cry soo much...I just hope and pray no one ever loses their mom, child or any loved ones.

  • @hope897
    @hope897 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I don’t see my mum for personal reasons but my dad is my rock. I don’t know what I’d do without him and seeing things like this make me realise how much I take for granted. I need these types of videos as they give me a wake up call. May these souls rest in peace and may their families find comfort in knowing their loved ones who have since passed managed to spread so much joy! Ps I Love you dad and I’ll be sure to tell you personally when I see u in the morning.

  • @aprilkuhl11
    @aprilkuhl11 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    this was beautiful to watch.

  • @janajanina13
    @janajanina13 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    The thing I love most about this video is that its so honest but still, it respects their privacy. You can feel that they must’ve spent hours and hours talking, sharing, letting everything out, really just connecting and most of it is just for the couples to keep. This really reminded me of my privilege and it’s gave me a lot of gratitude, still the most important thing about this project was that these people connected through it